The Fog AFTER I Lost My Husband
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- čas přidán 3. 06. 2023
- Good God where do I start? I lost him June 1st, 2021
Life IS worth living if you appreciate the little things and REMEMBER that your late spouse or loved one wouldn’t want you to be miserable. No one does! You have to work on your mental health for YOU and no one else. But always remember that you can make things better if you’re willing to put it in the work. You’re worth it. If you have any more questions let me know in my Tik Tok DM’s OR email me at Jojonico1992@gmail.com
Reaching out is sometimes the one thing you need to feel something again. Sharing with strangers is always awesome in my eyes! Trauma dumping is my specialty🫠🤗
I lost my wife of 40 years in March of 2022. I still look for her sometimes when I walk into a room.
My prayers are with you ❤
@@jessielozano2207
Thankyou.
God bless you sir.
I'm so sorry.
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Five years ago I lost my bride of 68 years--now almost 95 and realizing I will never get over this awful loss.
You will soon be reunited in hades.
There is no silver lining - even the wonderful memories hurt ... it's all about companionship.
Wow 68 and 95 yrs. I'd give you a huge hug if I could.
@@Bonzi_Buddyreally?!?
Amazing resilience .. thank you
Met my "little matchstick girl" when she was 8 and I was 10.
We became friends, grew to love each other dearly.
12 years later our daughter got killed and a month later I lost my friend, my wife, my reason for living, to suicide.
That was in 1977.
To this day I still miss them - shed a tear sometimes - sob sometimes.
This happened when I was 22 - I'm now 70...
At a point the "good memories" start becoming more frequent than the "bad memories" and it is then not so hard to cope.
But it is still hard.
You can and you will get to that stage however it will not be smooth sailing, rather a little less dark and stormy.
The "sunshine days" come along more often and you "visit" in those moments before sleep and after waking up.
You *WILL* survive.
In my case, a good many years later I met another friend and grew to love her too.
We were married for 30 very happy years.
Now I have 2 sets of "good memories".
Sorry about your losses! You're a much stronger person than I. Thanks for sharing.
So sorry to hear this you made it through those dark days! God bless you my friend... Like I say to many lost in my life "Till we meet again" it's so hard even thinking about death...
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I'm so, so sorry for your loss, brother. 😢 You're going to have quite the welcoming committee when you leave this world. ❤
This 57 year old man needed to hear this. Looking down through the comments, has brought it to my attention that i am not alone either. Even though for the past 23 years my life was put on hold. Thank you and thanks to all of the comments section for helping me see that it just may be time to rejoin life again.
Can I come to u to help u in your daily life work
I was widowed at 32, suddenly and traumaticly. Now I'm 51, I survived too. You will never get over it, you just learn to live with it. Time helps... lots and lots of time.
I have lost a brother two sisters and one sister in law in 2.5 years than my wife died in June of this year we were married 36 years she was my best friend and soul mate the better half of me the only way to really get over it is to take your own life but what is that going to solve hurt the ones you love be a firm believer in God and pray like crazy.
How did your husband die I would like to tell you that it gets better/easier but I'd be telling a lie 😢
Hey Sweetie, my 25 year old son died almost 7 years ago. All that you have shared in this video applies to me too and I know your story will help someone. Take care and bless you.
Yes, that’s how it is
Only God helps trough time .
I’m a bereavement counselor: Your grief is unique and it’s not pompous to say how unique your experience is…it is completely yours. You are amazing!
So very true, both things. My sister-in-law couldn't grasp this and shamed me for struggling after my wife died, always comparing her grief to mine as though they were the same. It's validating to hear this.
You people are 'new' on the scene, most old people are more resilient, l have suffered much grief but never been offered or sought help. I am 'alive', l am full of 'vigour' l have a will to live forever, my grief is with me daily, because.....................l want it to be. It reminds me of my survival to be the best at what l do, it also reminds me of being a bad person to others that l should not have been but also the good that l have done and am still doing. Without alcohol or drugs too.
@@chrisclarke7828 Well, have a cookie.
I lost my son 13 years ago when he was killed in a man at the age of 20, things are better now but sometimes I stoll fall apart.
Want to hear something seriously F_ed up? When my cat died, i was inconsolable, just grief stricken and in shock, it was like a bad dream. i quit my job and layed around the house for two years. When my mom died i was relieved. I still cry when i think about my cat.
Lost my wife and baby in 1992, you never get over the grief. You learn to exist with it.
In Sept of 84 I lost my wife of 2.5 years to cancer I was 27 she was 28. I still have those moments of walking into a room and looking for her or hearing her voice and I am often thinking of her ❤
I unexpectedly lost my wife Chris almost 7 years this coming Christmas to a massive pulmonary embolism...she was 41 and hadn't been sick. The " fog" you're talking about I never expected and still don't understand. There are still huge chunks of my memory that I don't have..
As I said, it's been almost 7 years and I'm still working through the grief. Some days are better than others and some aren't.. On the tough days like birthdays, holidays and essentially, on what would be our anniversary, I stay to myself.
I pray for all of those that are
" unexpectedly widowed " because we are thrust into something that we don't want and don't have a choice. Life used to be great, now, it is what it is.
God bless all of you.
Well said... didn't expect it and certainly didn't want it. Having to face so many scattered emotions and try to plan for a future that wasn't anywhere near what I had anticipated. Even the word "Widow" sounds so strange, I have to correct myself on forms from checking "married". You'd think that since death is a part of life, it would be easier to navigate this new path.
@@debrahenderson2049 I'm so sorry for your loss. When Im asked my marital status, I say I'm a widower. I write it in on forms. It stings having to realize it's real and not a nightmare that I'll wake up from.
Praying for you and the rest of us.
Well, Folks. I am from Canada 55 years of age and still have lots of life left within me. I know what it means to lose someone you had for over 20 years. My wife crossed over to the overside at age 47. Yes, I am looking for a lovable lady who meets my vibes and I meet hers. No rush. I love u
May the Lord Jesus Christ grow your comfort and strength.
Grief-Induced Lobotomy.
I coined a name for it. I went through it when I lost my mom and dad within 6 months of each other.
This 64 year old guy in Georgia somehow needed this, and right now. You’ve put my feet back on the ground and my heart in my throat. I feel human, again. You’re brave to share your story. Thank you. I wish the very best for you.
God bless you, may you be comforted and encouraged from a Georgia girl. Sorry for your loss.
I discovered your channel today by chance because I'm a farmer in France (thanks to the CZcams algorithm). While browsing through your videos I discovered this one.
I'm deeply touched by your story "The Fog AFTER I Lost My Husband" and I'd like to express all my compassion and support for your ordeal. Your strength and courage in sharing this experience are a source of inspiration and comfort to many.
The kittens really help as you tell your story. As a pastor for over 30 years, I’ve seen many folks go through grief. Every one is different. Look forward to hearing more from you. Thank you for what you are doing!
Well said Pastor. I lost my wife at 39. I had been through other family deaths but as I told people "There is no playbook" when it comes to grief. Everyone deals with it differently and the worst thing people can do is tell someone how they should be or act when grieving, especially for a spouse.
The worst time of life is when the one you make memories with becomes a memory.😢
I lost my wife 10 years ago. It was very sudden and unexpected. I can't even sleep in the bedroom without her. It is such a hole in my life. When someone is so perfect, there is nothing you can do to fill that space. I feel for you. I have many hobbies and things to keep me busy, if I don't keep busy, my mind goes back to what I lost.
I’m sorry, man. I cannot imagine this loss.
So true
Dear Sir, May God wrap His loving arms around you and hold you close. ❤
I lost my son to suicide and my wife to cancer inside 4 years. It's so difficult. But it will get better. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I'd go insane. I admire your strength and wish you so much comfort going forward....
Heartfelt blessings to you. God bless 💐
I'm so sorry,
God bless you.
Keep strong!!
@@PS-qn4oz So grateful!
Hi, just found your video. Just lost my beautiful wife a month ago. Sore back in August, scan in September, pancreatic cancer, gone in January. Numb . We built the house together, put in raspberries, blueberries, a garden on our 12 acres. Met her when she was 20 years old. A beautiful spirit And soul. Peace and love, Jack in western Ma.
Jojo I found you about 3 months ago - I want you to know I’ve made it through the last 3 months solely because of you- most people have no clue how bad it’s been - but you do - thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
I lost my wife 9 years ago. It was her second battle with breast cancer. We have 3 kids. It was on the first day of high school for our daughter. She was 39. I'm still not over it. This video is encouraging and gives me a lot of hope. Thank you for sharing.
how do you get over losing a spouse?
@@timb4569 At this point in time I don't think can. All our kids are adults now. I keep her alive in our kids minds in positive ways. We remember the good times and the laughter. I take one day at I time. I miss her daily. If you've lost someone I am very sorry.
I am sorry that your wife died. It has to be such a weird feeling. Death is so hard to wrap your mind around. I lost my dad in Dec 2016 due to cancer and then my bother died in Nov 2020 from a heart attack. I am still having a hard time. I feel really lost without them. I guess talking with others and learning to grief will help. My thoughts go out to you and your kids. Take care and God bless you!
Did she lose the baby because I've never seen one in any of these videos
@timb4569 I lost both my parents, mom at 23 and my dad at 29. You definitely look at things at lot differently than other people do after the loss of a loved one.
One bright spring day I kissed my wife goodbye, and two hours later she was dead. Nothing can prepare you for the shock. I commend the courage it took for you to post this video.
This is such a surprise to me. You are always so confident, strong and capable of doing so much in your videos. Sorry for your loss, but your husband is looking down on you and is soooooo proud. Stay strong!
My condolences to you. I lost my wife of 12 years to kidney failure May 19, 2023. I can relate as to how you are feeling, I miss my wife dearly. I am labeled as a disabled vet with PTSD along with being diagnosed with Parkinson I am being taken care of by the VA for my symptoms/diagnosis
even though I feel like I am constantly
in the FOG as you say, there are moments to where I have my good day along with the bad days, but as I was taught in the Marine Corps to NEVER give up, I pray to God to help me through these tough times and I shall rejoice when I am finally called to come home. God Bless You and help you to overcome your hardships, to be strong and to NEVER give up, for we not know what is yet to come into our lives by the Blessing of God.
I lost my wife of 19 years in July of this year, 2023. It was just like you said, a total shock and a nightmare. I was numb and a zombie. Had to plan a funeral on the quick time. It was so brutal knowing I would never ever see her again. I still cry today. I still talk to her and just today for a split second I thought she was gone to the store and was coming back. I'm really struggling. I miss her so bad. 😢
After watching my friend go into a hole and never really get out of it after his wife passed away, years on still: grieve as you need, do reach out to your friends. 😊
Thank you for the reply. You are so correct about friends and family. It's all I have. They're great❤
@@Scoobasteve88 Great you have a support system! They will be there for you. I hope you can grieve, recover and live your life. 🙌🏼
@@TheBeingReal❤
sorry for your loss mate, same thing for me, think I had a cry everyday for 6 months , 3 years on I'm slowly learning to live with it but know life has changed forever. Miss her everyday, as you say for a while you think they'll be home soon but it slowly dawns they won't be. I wish I had an answer but I haven't got back to normal since. Sometimes I get a strong smell of her perfume in the house just for a second so it makes me think shes still here in spirit. All the best , plenty of us understand how you feel.
You are a sweet soul! Terribly sorry for your loss… I was 25 when my beautiful wife and 14 month daughter were ripped from this earth to Heaven. I rebuilt a new life, never forgetting where I have been. A lot of lessons along the way. I love your vlog and now I know part of the back story. God Bless you on your journey!
Oh TY
For ur comment
I feel so alone commenting but I always try to becuz we re so unique
I was 25, he was 25
We had 2 littles & a baby
(Baby died less than 20 yrs later)
So hard to find truly young widowed/widowered ppl
It’s a devastation
My life never got better (happened in 1990) but everyone else’s does lol Glad for u!
I am so very sorry for your loss
Thank you for the genuine and thoughtful video. All good and healthy advise . As a 15 year old, I suddenly lost my hero, a father suddenly . I has taken me 55 years to rebuild a destiny and life in addition to thinking what else I might have become as an occupation . Your contribution was worth watching and a reminder that we’re all just a step away from healing life’s lessons of loss in this long journey !
You put tears in my eyes! I’m so very sorry for your loss! Nobody deserves that! You are such an amazing , gorgeous and strong woman! God bless you and give you the strength you need ❤❤
Miss JoJo, you are such a precious and wholesome lady. What a wonderful example you are . Love ya and God bless you !
Hello from Tennessee. On 9/7/23, I lost my wife of 43 years to dementia and Alzheimer’s. God bless you for finding the strength to share your story. I’m sure your words will be very helpful to many.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm East Tennessee.
My wife and I have been facilitating a grief group for the last 8 years or so. She is a phd. psychologist and I hold a master’s degree in counseling. I tell you these things to reference my remarks.
In this video, you have shown that you have worked through many of the stages of grief and that you understand them.
You will be performing a great service to young widows and widowers when you post the video about your grief journey experiences.
They need to know they are not alone in what they think and feel.
It will be a difficult video to make and I hope it will be pathway for understanding for you as well.
I’m 37, my wife of a decade was diagnosed with cancer during the pandemic, she passed away a couple of years ago leaving me to raise my 3 young kids alone. The fog you mention is real, I can’t remember much from that time, my guess is it’s a defence mechanism to the extreme stress. People will never understand what it feels like to lose your partner and love of your life until it happens, and it hasn’t gotten “easier” just different. The best way I can describe what it felt like was as if you were pulled into another world through a portal against your will, it’s surreal. I’m not sure how I stumbled on your video but i’m now a subscriber. Thanks for sharing your story.
Держись, друг. Я из России, но поддерживаю тебя. Крепись, пусть у твоих детей будет всё хорошо.
I lost my wife 7 years ago yesterday to a heart attack. Literally the worst day of my life. I was 29 years old at the time. You never get over it, you learn to create those mechanisms to cope with it and each week and month you develop a new normal. Takes a lot of trial and error but you will find something that works for you. Much love to those who are no longer with us, even more love and respect to the widows and widowers here learning to live life again. ❤️🙏🏻🕊️
I lost my wife at 40 to a year long battle with cancer. Different in that I knew over time her condition was terminal. The shock for you had to so awful. Trust the Lord. Pastor told us we would be going thru a molt like chickens. So true!
My sympathy to you Jojo on the sad passing of your beloved husband, hope he's watching over you, may he Rest in Peace 🙏❤️
I've lost my whole family and mostly in a short time as a young man. Some I had to witness directly. Been dealing with something "that", among other things did to me for a long long time. You are great. I'm glad you are with plants and animals! I am not a widow, however your energy and words are of great value to me. I thank you sincerely.
Sorry for your loss! I can totally relate to what you are going thru! I lost my wife of 44 years due to cancer, and it's been a year now, and having a rough time, it's something you're never prepared for, and some advice to who ever is watching or reading comments, please don't take anyone or anything for granted, because it can be ripped away from you in a heartbeat!!! This is a loss that I know in my heart I will never get over! She was my life, my everything and my life will never be complete again! I feel like a stranger in my own house! I'm not the same person anymore,but I'm hoping God will get me thru this and I will see my wife again someday! Be strong and God Bless You!!!!!
So sorry for your loss. I lost my wife of nearly 42 years in July of 2021. She fought brain cancer for 27 months. Even though you know what’s inevitably coming you are not prepared for the actual event. I hope you find peace. I sure haven’t.
I completely understand your “my everything” connection with your wife Gary. Same. Twice. It’s coming up on three years this Christmas. My wife (and life) suffered unspeakable pain from an incredibly rare blood disease that caused horrific wounds all over her body. Because of Covid, I had the responsibility of treating her wounds and pain at home, as a nurse was allowed to come only once or twice a week. The grief of her loss and the trauma I suffer because of the pain I had to cause her to endure is very hard to describe.
Three times in my life, a loss has made me feel as if I was dead inside and would never ever be able to recover. Learning I could survive the first loss, truly helped me to stay alive during the deepest despair of losing my beautiful wife of twenty years. It has taken two years to “breathe again”, and I still have trauma issues, but I am actually LIVING again Gary. It’s what I call my third period of life! I never believed it would happen, but I hope and fully believe you too will begin to live again. Allow as much time as it takes to grieve. Don’t hide from the pain. Learn to love yourself and know that you deserve to love and be loved again, in whatever form that takes. Trust in the power of time, and the absolute importance of your existence. Best wishes to you on your journey.
@@addy8511 Thanks!!!
I have not been here for a long time on this channel. Unfortunately, I don't speak languages. I don't even dare to tell you what and how I saw this channel until now. In fact, I have seen a cheerful, beautiful, busy rural worker lady here. I came here now because a gardening photo caught my attention🌱. And I'm using google translate 💡📚 while I'm reading the sad comments.😢😢😢..I don't know what it's about, but now I know.😔😢 ... I don't know who the lady lost, but I'm very sorry..... ...........And also what you wrote.. I can't find words........ It's so sad what happened to you! !!!! May your wife rest in peace! I hope you will meet him somewhere up there. I wish you peace in your heart. Greetings from Hungary, Paul
@@marcius7308 Thanks!!!
Your cats sensed your sadness and surrounded you. So sweet.😘
Let me tell you something, you are not only an inspiration to others who have had to experience the incredible pain that you've had to go through, but also to us who have not had to deal with a situation like yours. What you do so incredibly well is remind all of us that we really need to cherish every minute with your loved ones because like you said, in a flash your life can change so dramatically. Thank you for reminding all of us that love is special and should be cherished every minute of every day.
I lost my young niece in 2018. 1 month later my sister, then my mother in 2020. I recently lost my best friend in this world. I can’t describe the pain, the brokenness, the waves of overwhelming grief. I try to stay busy, I can barely breathe, let alone eat or sleep. I feel like a huge part of me died with them. I pray all the time for strength to just make it through the day. When the sun goes down and darkness settles in its the absolute worst. God bless you all. Time marches on.
Today marks the 6th year anniversary of my girlfriend Cyndi going home to be with the Lord. She battled cancer for over 2 years. She was so precious to me. Her mother and I still miss her so very much. However as believers in Christ we have a hope have a hope that soon we will be with her and other christain believers again. Praying for you and grateful for you for sharing your experience with people.
10 months ago I lost my wife of almost 45 years. There is no one who can understand the gut wrenching pain, the sorrow, or the heavy loss except someone else who has experienced the same. God bless you dear lady. My heart and prayers go out to you and anyone who might hear your story that we may all find some comfort and healing. ❤
Sending my sincerest condolences to you brother. I've gone through this myself and understand what you are going through. From my own experience, I say don't be afraid to talk about it. You will never lose the memories of your wife but as time goes on you will smile when thinking about the good times instead of cry. I wish you peace.
Love and prayers to you. I have no words.
Yes there is bud. 37 years for me.
😢💔
GOD BLESS YOU. ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry for your loss! Just so you know you have all of us followers of your channel! I know I'd help you out as much as I can! Stay strong!
Ma'am I am So glad i found your Channel. I have been talking to my wife about this at some point in our lives! She actually watched it instead of getting mad at me for trying to tell her about it.
Your Amazing And Strong Thank you for sharing your story Now My Wife Of 30 years is willing to talk more about it! My Wife Is My True Soulmate Thank you For Helping Her With Your Channel and Story
So sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my wife at age 32. She was a diabetic with onset kidney failure and heart disease. I got up for work one morning and found her on the kitchen floor. She was gone…a heart attack.
You have to work through your grief, and take as long as you need. Try to stay busy, eat right and most important move forward. I can tell you are a strong woman. You got this! Take care ❤
Hello from Nebraska. Sorry for your loss. Talking through certain situations as you are doing can be very good therapy. There are a lot of us out here that are really good listeners and can't wait to hear your story as you decide to present it. You are in our thoughts and prayers, and we look forward to more content from you, however you decide to approach it.
I just wanted to say I’m sorry for you and the others here having to deal with something that is, in my eyes, the worst event that could happen aside from losing a child. Your words of encouragement for those experiencing the same grief is remarkable and I’m so glad that you’re on your next journey with a great guy and enjoying the joys of life. And I have to say, the music and the kittens in the background just added to the great quality of this video 😊
You are beautiful and authentic
In a way that I can’t even explain,
I am so emotional watching this
Video, your strength is undeniable
I know exactly how you feel about losing your husband. I lost my wife after being together for 60years, I still talk to her each night before I go to sleep and again in the morning when I awake there is a LOT more to the story but I just want to say hang in there and keep your faith in God, that is what has seen me through, we were married and in love for 60 years for me and about 59 years 11 months for my wife,I am truly sorry for your loss
God be with you brother.
I'm sorry for your loss .I lost the love of my life two years ago she was 24 ,she came home sat down she fell asleep in the recliner a hour later she woke up holding her head and crying so hard saying her head hurt I got up went over I checked for fever ,was holding her told her I'm warming up the truck Taking you to hospital took two steps. I heard a loud noise I turned around her body slammed hard back into the chair I went over pulled her into my arms she passed right there in my arms brain aneurysm the worst time of my life for a year out of no where I'd fall apart at work on my way to work middle of the night she had been abused threw out on the streets no friends bust trying to be her friend was impossible didn't trust know one, then one day it was pouring down rain she asked if she could dry off so I gave her change of cloths threw her stuff in dryer we talked I told her I missed her company that she could stay as long as she wanted I slept on couch gave her my room she would come and go people picked on her then she started cooking cleaning she said I wish I had a home so I could do things I told her you do have a home right here is your home I you want it to be then a year later she asked to cut my hair trim my beard never did it before she didn't finish then couple days later she came asked if she cold finish she was doing a awesome job next thing I know in one swoop she took off half .my mustache one eye brow and a swipe out the side of my head and ran out the door lol so I left it like that she seen me around and everything was just the way she left it she came back apologized asked if she could fix it I said heck no well,she talked me into it she did we both got a good laugh ,and she was so excited how good of a job she did the next thing I know she said she was in love with me and had been for about a year we hit it off everything was amazing then tragedy struck she left me behind its been two and a half years year later I went to doctor they told me I had cancer then it went to my throat soon I will be joining her I can't wait to go be with her and pick up where we left off God bless you Jojo your amazing woman so sad you had to go threw that at such a young age your a beautiful soul a beautiful person I wish you the best of everything life has to offer hard to believe life went that way and to see you smile and charming ways and your smile one couldn't tell you went threw so much we love you you brighten my miserable days and make me smile you and her are so much the same it blows me away so you kinda take her place for now I can't eat they say it takes ten days to pass from starvation ,well I'm way beyond that going to work this morning I got light headed had to pull over the lights were dimming fast I thought this is it so I pulled over so I wouldn't pass out driving and kill innocent people but still here
Saw your gardening thumbnail and clicked on it because I’m into gardening on a small Kansas farm. Then I see you’re going through the same thing our daughter is. Lost our son-in-law, daughter’s husband and kids father about two years ago. Everything you said is what she is going through. I’ll see if I can have her listen to it from someone else’s perspective. She’s still having a tough time with it. Thanks.
JoJo, my hear goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss. We are all your friends on this channel. We are blessed to hear you and see your life unfold. God Bless!! Love from Texas!
Every loss of loved ones are unique. Some common things, but yet unique. I had the same experience myself though when thinking I was arrogant, but was met by understanding from family and friends. From my own experience, all my heart to you. Watching you on your farm gives me hope that there are more of your kind out there with a huge warm heart and life wisdom. A great warm and thankful hug from me ❤
So sorry for your loss. I had the worst nightmare imaginable for a dad when I lost my 21 year old son earlier this year. I am just starting to emerge from the abyss and darkness. You’re absolutely right - you need to focus on making new memories, eat what you like, go to places that bring you joy. Do the little things. You still get triggers but they become less devastating over time
So sorry about your son! Take care of yourself, my friend.
Know that you're beautiful awesome amazing smart looking ❤️❤️❤️❤️ young's delightful lady's!!We out here's come toos feels like you're part of our owns families!!!🙏🙏🙏👍👍❤️🎇🎇🎇 In parts you're video s on s the farms so sorry for your loss darlins , as there's struggle s ,as the memory s chin ups ohh chaps press forwards take holds of the helms onces agains ;;.
I am so incredibly sorry.
To lose a son, a child... my heart grieves for you. Tears are never enough, but those tears, love, and compassion are offered.
@@i.h.1446 thank you so much to you and others who offered their compassion.
You said there were not a lot of youtube videos from young widowers but now there is one that offers hope. YOURS! You are amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us!
I smiled and cried at the same watching this video. I cried for your grief but I smile from the joy and strength that you bring to life.
I've been up now for 4 hours since I came home from work watching your videos! Can't stop!
You are stronger than you know. Fifteen years ago my husband and father of my three girls died after a short illness. To say the world cracks open and you fall into the abyss, does not do the occurrence justice. Simply earth-shattering.
I would love to hear this journey. I lost my husband in February and we literally had a three way text between him, myself and my daughter one hour before he died. It was a sudden heart attack in which he died instantly, and my two daughters and family members were all devastated. My brain was like at a stand still but now slowly I’m coming out of it. Thank you for sharing… it does help to hear from others who have experienced this type of loss and grief.
I had a text convo at work with my daughter just couple hrs before she died also
Very suddenly
Not found for several hrs either
Noooooooo she’s not dead! She’s can’t be!!! I was JUST talking to her
AND
About to come get her to spend the day as we had planned!!! I was getting ready to leave to get her!
Every stinkin thing in my life HAS to be devastating 🧐
Thanks for sharing, Sweetie. My mom always said she was like a leaf fluttering in the wind. For me, losing my dad as a young teenager reminds me of when I was water skiing. I had kicked off one ski and no one swam out and brought in that ski, so as I was coming in I ran over it, it knocked off my rudder and I just slid one way and another until I wiped out. Sometimes I feel like that's how I have lived my life ever since.
You are absolutely correct. The mind must govern. We are our mind even more than our emotions but we too often dwell there. I don't "feel" like doing such and such. I'm so sorry for your loss JoJo. May God bless you and keep you.
You’re absolutely amazing Jo Jo, it can’t be easy talking about your loss….but talking to others about him even strangers is therapy.
I admire what you’ve done so far.. life goes on even if it hurts at times.
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You’re a strong, wise woman, and I appreciate you doing your best to help others through your grief. I lost my brother suddenly to a stroke about a year ago and it took me to a very dark place for a while.
I don't know your situation, but I pray our Lord will give you the peace and comfort only He can provide. And that He will strengthen you day by day.
I can't fathom how traumatic it was for a young person to loose a partner. I know losing a mother at 13 was terrible, but you just can't compare the two.You are resilient and will be such an advocate for others that are in a similar situation. I am in my 60's and so grateful a thankful that you will be there for them. Stay strong! I am a fan, Bravo!
Im sorry this happened to you. My wife passed away a year and a half ago very suddenly as well, I was widowed at the age of 40, i know your pain. Just like you I am doing my best to live. I have our kids who have been key in me keeping my sanity. Thank you for sharing your story.
I lost my 14-year-old daughter Suddenly 8 years ago. She was my life, and we were very close. I miss her dearly. It took me many years to be at peace. One piece of advice I have is to be kind to yourself.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
I can so relate to your pain. I lost my wife of 27 years in 2012 just before Christmas. She was everything to me. All I needed was her. She was just 48 and suffered a major stroke. I felt lost without her by my side. I will admit, the grief never goes away, it just get easier to deal with in time. I miss her every day. God bless you.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insights on grief. A friend recommended your channel to me. I lost my boyfriend suddenly 18 months ago. Losing a romantic love is definitely a different grief experience and process after forming such a strong and beautiful bond with a Beloved. I look forward to hearing more of your story and being inspired by your resiliency. Thanks again.
You seem like such a genuine person. I pray you find your strength in our gracious Lord! I am sure your grief can be overwhelming at times. Trust in Him, and He will comfort you!
You are an inspiration to come on here and tell us folks what you have gone through. I am so sorry for your loss! I'll be praying for you. I look forward to more of your content.
I am so sorry for the loss you have suffered. You and many others are in my prayers.
I subbed because i am an errant, i find comfort in the fact that i am not alone, i am no longer a participant in the collective society of this world, but am a spiritual being that can overcome the tribulation of self pity by tapping into an inner power that God gave me that i had not used before, it's called faith, i enjoy your success, happy newyear thanks for sharing .....
You are an incredible young woman! I've been healed from a lifetime of torments but nothing so devastating. There is a way, you're right on the track. I hope if you were angry with God, you've realized there's a plan beyond your wildest dreams as you heal.
Lost my younger brother suddenly. Nothing worst for me in my very long life. Mom and dad and old relatives and a couple of friends in war and long sickness all at risk or expected. But my thoughts of my brother can still bring tears. Each precious relationship has its own grief, but the sudden death of a loved one seems to be so different. Thanks for your openness Jojo. Peace to you
I just stumbled upon your channel and immediately subscribed once I saw this one--the first in which I learned of your loss. We lost our oldest son at age 39 to sudden and unexpected heart failure in January 2023 and have now refocused our lives on helping our daughter in law and their kids, 10 and 7, move forward with their lives. We're suburban city dwellers and fortunately our son's family lives in our own neighborhood which allows us to take over some of the routine running the kids around to baseball practice, gymnastics, etc while still living our own lives as recent retirees. Things are getting better--slowly, but all signs are that the kids and our daughter in law are sorting it all out in a healthy way. It's very helpful to get feeling that now, two years in for you, things can continue to improve.
Looking forward to seeing how harvest goes for you!
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Your a very strong and kind hearted beautiful woman, to survive through this pain.
Wow! How wonderful of you for sharing this. My heart breaks for your loss and I have so much respect for what you portray. Thank you for taking the time to share your experience.
Please continue doing these. I feel bereavement is one of the last taboos in our society. One grieving soul in the middle of the night hearing you is so very important. I grieve the loss of my son 10 years ago every single day and pray for his wife and children. We all look to connect with someone. God bless you and those cute kitties!
My wife passed in June of 2018. I have always referred to the first 6 months or so after that as my 'frozen' time. I heard that grief doesn't ever go away, you just eventually find a place to put it. I'm still looking for that place, but even tho I still think about her everyday, it isn't nearly as disabling as it was. Sorry for your loss.
Love watching your videos, lost my son in a car crash 10 years ago. Suffer every day but get up every morning and work daylight till midnight. Anxiety is the worst and it hits you like a truck just out of the blue. Never seemed counciling just held on to Gods promise and knowing he never gives you more than you can handle. You’re such an inspiration to many of us grieving over a loved one. Holidays and birthdays aren’t what we planned anymore. It’s not gifts and cakes it’s decorations and flowers. God Bless
Very nice to listen too. I know in my life, the whole world burning right in front of you, and the heart especially starts to change, like dying somewhat; one's values get tested. Now I'm mending, and got a redemption transpiring.
My wife died 3 years ago last week. No family came, friends didn't know what to say. So I went through it alone. But I understand fully the "fog" you are talking about. I will still have people come up and say "How are you, I haven't seen you since the funeral" and I'm thinking "I can't even remember the funeral". Everything you say makes such sense.
First off, God bless you and your entire family. NOW, laughter is great medicine. Those two cats were kicking each others butt around the 4:30 mark !
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I am so sorry for your loss. Your videos of farming bring light to my days.
OMG, you found the best way to talk about a such a sad situation, tiny kittens playing in the background. It just seems so much easier to digest seeing those sweet babies enjoying life.
So sorry for your loss. I lost my wife in a plane crash. That was in 1989. And I still have dreams of her and think of her.
Share your story only when you are ready, others may be able to find aid from your story however each of us must work through our grief/loss our way....yes, being the eldest of four children who lost our dad at a young age, far, far, far, far from closest family in a new environment I have witnessed/lining this daily. Great job building a new start while honoring your loss!!!!
Well said, I haven't looked to see if you posted a long version but the idea that you have a new life that is unrecognizable and something you would never have expected is right. It's good to share your experience, it helps all of us who have suffered similar loss.
youre story is unique. everyones own loss is unique. every situation is different. but its only how you hold yourself up...do what you enjoy, fine your inner happiness. youre a smart woman. ive been down this road, props to you making the video!
I feel your loss, lost my brother of 55 years to cancer two years ago. The loss was hard. He was my best friend. Think of him often. Really miss him. But can feel his spirit around me. Continue to keep on doing. Glad you found Zac, and you have family support. You will be able to handle this loss. You are strong and very talented and smart. The animals help in couping with the loss by making us laugh and smile and that is good for us. Gardening is also therapeutic for the mind. Thanks for sharing your story. I think my sister in law may find this helpful.
Sorry for your loss. You seem to be doing what is needed and talking about this. Prayers for comfort.
Even if that one widow is you, it is worth it. You are awesome. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this. I know all of that, but I still am grieving . I lost my wife in September , 2009. I was left with 2 daughters, 9 and 4 . I have spent the last 15 yrs raising them. I am now working on myself and wanting to get back out there and find someone. I am tired of being alone. You are right about it being easier to share and " trauma dump" to strangers. I can say stuff that I would never admit to anyone else. I just stumbled on your channel and saw this post. Thanks for sharing.
Glad to hear you're working your way through your situation. It's not easy by any means. But country folk are generally great people that want to help if they can. Your life is just as important as mine. I was at a point similar to yours and now with kids and grandkids, I'm glad I didn't pull that trigger so to speak... lots of folks rooting and praying for you and will try to help if they can. Farm life isn't easy but looks like you're learning. Now go kick butt!
I'm sorry to heat about your loss.
YOU are STRONG, & MOVING FORWARD! We are PROUD OF YOU!
Excellent! Well said, and glad you said it. I'm sorry you lost him, but glad you have family support. BTW, love all your videos, especially with that wonderful smile.
Big Hugs from Texas, and wishing you the best going forward.
Thank you Soooooo much Jojo, for sharing this very useful and insightful talk. Don’t know why I need to hear your words, but they help me. Thank you.
My heart goes out to you dealing with your loss and its nature and timing. These things are never good. My father died when I was 11 years old, back in 1971and I had to deal with it myself, 1 day off school and an uncle telling me I was now the man of the house! Yet, we carry on and forge ahead to a new future even now all these years later. I very much enjoy your videos and your refreshing approach to life and what you do. Take solace from the past, never forget, but look to the future. Regards, Stephen.
It’s great that you are sharing your story to help others that might find themselves in your position. BUT it was adorable how the kittens and cats were playing in the background as if to say, “Life is good!” May God be with you in your journey!
What loving compassion you have, grief is hard,been there.
YOULL ALWAYS REMEMBER .THE WONDERFUL LIFE YOU HAD TOGETHER .❤🙏🇺🇸💪💪💪
Lost my wife threw divorce 11 years ago. I Still dream about her. It is a painful loss.
I’m happy you have a family for support. I lost my wife of 36 years and I had to do the funeral by myself. Due to the pandemic, I opted to eliminate the viewing and church services. I didn’t want anyone else contracting Covid and having that final memory in their mind of my wife that they got sick. So, it was a very short simple process. Wish I could have done more, but for the moment it was all I needed to do. I still don’t accept her leaving me especially in that manner. It was not her time to go by any means. I refused therapy sessions because I needed to sort things out for myself. People were trying to give me advice for something that they totally didn’t understand and how I felt. No one truly knows the what goes on in another person’s heart. Three years later I am surviving but still grieving. My mind is slowly erasing the negatives and pushing forward the positive memories that put me in a happy place. In all, what got me through was going to work everyday. The best therapy in the world. It gave me a purpose and something to look forward to each day. I was to retire shortly after she passed away but I continue to work. It is what keeps me sane and alive. Of course my life has diverged to a different path after she left me. My lifestyle has changed to accommodate only me now. Grief is a new lifelong partner. You walk quietly side by side with it towards the setting sun.
Sorry for your loss,may he rest in peace and may God be with you
I have not experienced loss like you, and many commenters here. Thank you for communicating how fragile we all are. More people need to hear it.