Let’s Talk About Grief | Death Anniversary
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- First off, you guys have been a huge part of my trauma, loss, and grief journey if you want to believe that or not. Being this open to judgement to total strangers on the internet does something for me that I cannot explain. The past couple days have been ROUGH and I plan to do a little self care if I can. Thank yall for listening and letting me talk about all of this. Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough to realize that sharing how Kale passed will be healing too. All in good timing I guess. I appreciate y’all, thanks for making my comment sections so heart warming and REAL, And don’t be afraid to trauma dump down there I’ll accept it with open arms❤️
R.I.P. Kale; love you, miss you, and I hope you’re proud of me.
He's so very lucky to have had a lovely, smart and sincere woman like you in his life. Most men don't find that nowadays. You have my utmost respect.
My son shot himself through the mouth 5 days ago so I know what it’s like to grieve. He was 52 and had everything, family, loving sister, father, mother, and friends. Very nice home, excellent high paying satisfying caring for others professional. He was a nurse anesthetist.
Yes it’s a stressful job, yes he had highs and lows in his life, and yes he let this all go away in a millisecond. God I loved him so.
Omg Fred! I am so so sorry! My heart and prayers goes out to you and your family. 🙏❤️💜
Sorry for your loss!
@@billnict1 thank you Bill. Have my sons 22, 18 year olds, his former wife, and his older sister for support. God willing well all get through this calamity.
@@paison318 thank you. His former wife, 18 and 22 year olds, and his older sister are all leaning on each other. God help us all.
@@fredwilliams6843 🙏🙏🙏💜
Lost my wife at the age of 33 unexpectedly and quickly as well. We have 3 small kids that I have to raise on my own. It never gets easier, just different but different isn’t always bad. Thanks for sharing.
I am so sorry for you. Hopefully your wife did not suffer. I have a feeling she is watching over you and your kids. Just pray someday you will all be together.
Wow I am so sorry for your loss!! That has to be so hard raising 3 kids without their mom!! I hope you have support from family and friends!! Stay strong!!
I lost 15 family and friends between December 2018 and April 2020. In this group was my wife of 22 years and both of my siblings. I experience the box & ball at the most random times. A song, a food, s smell, even on the road while taking trips. I've learned on God and our 2 children. I'm what most consider a guys guy and the glue to my circle. I allow the tears to flow when it hits and embrace the memories. 🙏❤️🙏
Praying for you, dear Sir. 🙏 😢❤
37 years now that I lost my wife after six months of marriage. I have become secluded, and stay within myself. God is the best and only Healer in which you must give yourself to.
Siento mucho tu pérdida. Mucha fuerza ❤
Thank you
Iv done the same after I lost my dad & brother 4 days apart. I’m trying to get out of the house but I like being alone now.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Hopefully, God can help you out of your seclusion as well for more healing. 🙏 ❤
I just lost my identical twin brother and feel your pain. Jesus has been my rock to get through this.
Man, I am SO VERY SORRY for your loss. The bond between twins is extremely strong and something very few ppl can understand. I’m not a twin myself, but I’ve known a few in my life. They finish each other’s sentences! I wish that there was something that I could say to ease your pain but I know that there isn’t. All I can do is wish you peace and healing. My heart goes out to you. ❤ Be strong.
I am truly sorry for your loss. I, too, have lost close relatives snd dear friends, but never once considered keeping the grief alive for years by sharing it publicly years later on CZcams.
I know you’re pain I too I lost my identical, twin brother at the age of 15. I’m glad you found comfort in the lord he will always help.
Mi spiace,un abbraccio grande.forza e coraggio ❤
Having identical twin sons, I shudder with the thought of the extreme grief that would bring for them or myself, it would leave a mark on the soul, prayers for you and your brother
My wife and I were married for 46 years when she passed away five years ago. When something triggers my grief button I concentrate on the good memories we shared. This pushes the grief away. Havee found that as time passes the triggers get less frequent and easier to get over. You are on the right track with your pets and bringing involved with farming. The sunsets are great and helps staying grounded. The next sunrise is proof that the days get better. Keep up the the efforts you are using to get better. ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊
God bless you I'm gonna start praying for you The Lord has a purpose for you
This man here^^^^^ knows whereof he speaks.
Ciao JoJo nel tuo caso gli animali fanno miracoli x attenuare il dolore, loro si affezionano incondizionatamente e ricambiano 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶
Jordan, I know how you must feel. I lost my wife almost 5 years ago. She was my soulmate and my helper here on the farm. We had been married two weeks short of 50 years. I miss her every day! I enjoyed your video and your ability to keep it together. I think it’s a nice tribute to wear that same dress and sit in that swing that Kales parents got for you as a remembrance. You are a sweet gal and Zach and you work very well together. Blessings to the both of you!
12 years since my little daughter died. 1 im sorry for your loss 2 thanks posting and being you. Im a dude and a combat vet, but i identify with you a lot and i love your channel. I also grew up on a farm. Doesnt hurt that your gorgeous. I would never share like this, but i really appreciate that you do. Grief is a journey. It evolves and ebbs and flows. Its the same for us all but also different for us all. You and your channel do fellow grievers a world of good.
Your dog is the perfect spirit animal. "Don't worry mom, no matter how sad you are, I will continue bringing you this ball."
Thank you for sharing your experience! Please don’t hesitate to share your very much loved .
I knew Kale. We worked together when he lived in the Texas panhandle doing automation. He was a gem, I have a flag he gave me hanging on my wall. Also I have a work bench he built in my garage. He was a good guy and hearing about his death hit me hard. I would like to visit with you about things he told me about his time in Detroit.
June 1, 2022, 3:14 AM, double homicide, suicide both of my best friends' parents, dead, alongside a potential step-father, his father behind the trigger, 9 bullets total, I didn't see, I was told she was completely unrecognizable
5 kids, 5, 7, 14, 16, and 18, orphaned. Just to protect one man's fragile ego. I've never been able to push it off or forget any one detail, I still remember every little detail 2 years later
It's never been any easier than that day
Maybe I cry less
But I still do
It won't go away
I don't see it ever doing so
@@zaccotter8276this is terrible. :( I am sorry.
I grew up with this girl who had two younger siblings. We were involved in the same homeschool co-op. I slept over at her home multiple times, both with groups of other children for birthday parties, and on my own. A couple of years after losing touch, we found out in the news that her father had stalked his wife and children, who fled to another state trying to escape him, and shot their mother outside her place of work. He then found an alley and ended his own life. He had been sexually abusing all of the children since they were very small and the mother knew, but was also being abused. She tried desperately to seek help in her last 2 years but domestic violence ended her life.
I remember red flags. I remember the game of hide and seek we all played with the lights out. I remember being brought into his office by him and being shown Twisted Sister music videos. I remember my friends four year old sister shaving her legs alone in the bathroom. I remember the couple of times she slept over at my home, her begging to stay. So many signs that I didn't understand and my own parents didn't catch on to. She was a wonderful lady who deserved the world, and so do her kids. Thankfully, they are alive. I think about them often.
I am approaching the 6th anniversay of my wife Sharon's passing. A spark of her life still burns in my heart. They are never completely gone. A small spark of Cale's life and love will stay with you forever.
I have found 'new' love again. My 'now' wife Linda is/was also a widow. We share so many similar eperience (emotions).
With time, you will find that the more love you give away [to your 'now' husband and others], the more love you will 'have' to give away.
The more love you give away, the smaller the pangs of grief will become.
I hope you will learn [as I have] to savour those moments of grief. ❤
Your wife is right there with you bro.....get in nature by some running water. Get in your zone and I promise you will feel her powerful connection come through.
It is so strange how this video was among the list presented as I scrolled down. I desperately needed this video now. My wife died this morning. I was her primary caregiver for almost seven years and married to her for over 49 years. Even though I’ve known this day was coming, the loss is almost unbearable. I’m fighting the want of giving in. The room she was in when she died actually echoed when I spoke to her after her death. It had never done that before. The room knew she had left it empty. I feel empty.
Oh my God! 😮 I am praying for you, dear Sir. 🙏 ❤
So sorry for your loss, im sure she would want you to keep going. I know from experience, caregiving can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Give yourself time to recover and move on to your new normal. Best of luck, Sir
Praying for healing for you. May God lift you up.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my soulmate 4 years ago and I know that heartache your going through. In the past 4 years I also lost my 7 year old son, my sister in law, my mother, 3 brothers, my grandmother and the last one that I lost was my twin brother who was healthy and died suddenly on June 14th,2024 who had a heart attack. I have added you to my daily prayers list. The pain never leaves you but you learn how to cope with the grief and you learn how to go on with life without your partner. It's a new way of living. Praying for you and your family during this time.
Jojo, I have a story as well… when you lose a spouse you are forced into a place that is expected to be a tribute to them and the remainder of your life is to hold them up in dedication! It’s a pain and pressure that can break you, but you make it thru! The person you lost was connected to family and friends, you’re left to handle your grief and future as the one who lost their love! No one seems to really understand, but they try to offer support with a smile in admiration that you’ve handled yourself so well! You know that any day can turn into sadness and also have the ability to recall so many happy memories!
I lost my wife in 2015 to an aggressive bout of cancer. She was amazing, I miss her, I wish every day that she could see her two incredible kids out on their own!
But my loss is different from others in my circle, our friends and family. The love I have for her has never wavered but I am moving on, my loss has opened my eyes to the many people and experiences that continue to shape my life! Tomorrow is never as bad as expected, there are far more grand moments to mark as memorable! Enjoy those moments and embrace the past as you create a new life, I have and I love every day, because of her! She was my greatest teacher!
Only 29 when it happened and I can tell you were deeply,deeply in love with this person. My heart breaks for you during these times of grief but soon the distractions will come back and you’ll be enjoying your time on the farm! Someone who lost as hard as you have, must give themselves the time to grieve in their own way! I love all of your videos, your good times, as well as your grieving process! God bless you and healing prayers to you! ❤😮
I lost my wife 6 years ago next month. We would have been married 40 years last month. I have heard the analogy of the box before this. It is perfect as the constant pain does subside but when the ball unexpectedly hits the pain button it is real and you just need to roll with it. Never be ashamed of your emotions as they are there to help you heal. When you love someone deeply, I don't think the pain will ever completely leave your being. Thank you for sharing your journey. May you be blessed in your life.
JoJo... I am so very sorry for your loss and grief. My 27 year old baby girl died in an unexpected, violent way on Memorial Day 2017. Your ball in a box analogy is perfect. Thank you for sharing. ❤❤️
Jordan
It's been 16& a half years since I lost my wife.
I am so proud of you and I do understand how you feel and how you can have good and bad days.
Please know that a lot of people love 💖 you for the person you are.
John (Adelaide, South Australia 🦘)❤❤❤❤
Que bom termos amigos que enviam me sagens animadoras para Jojo.
Saudações de Belém - Estado da Paraiba, Nordeste do Brasil
Thank you for this video!! I am a new subscriber watching grief videos because I lost my mom 5 years ago and I still get sharp grieving pain when I think of her sometimes. I love how you describe grief, my pain ball is getting smaller but I still get flashes of memories that send me down a spiral of emotion and it is so hard. I am 37 with two younger sisters and two daughters and I wanted my mom to see my kids grow up so it has been really hard. I want to pick up the phone and call her for advice and it hurts realizing that I can't. Anyway I am so glad you have family and friends to support you and you are not alone!! 💕
if i may speak from an opposite side of grief : near absence . 64yr now , i was 10 when my father started cancer treatments , but id didnt know that . just that he was away . the last year and a half i never saw him . my mother hada literal feud with him as he died , and i was the pawn . when news came , so much was hidden , my aunt and family were not sure what to say , so my cousin Debboe just came to the barn and told me .... stunned but had no basis for grief . as the story unfolded over the next decade , i still had little to react from . total grief took decades ; too keep the story short . the "grieving" is actually how we place the loss , no , that life in our memories , so we dont forget . my aunts death hit me more than my owwn father ; i knew her far more . i was about 45 .
my lesson is , take your time , without dwelling . they are your memories , and dont separate them from Zak too long . as i gather m he was friend before and husband now . a great perspective to draw on and shoulder to cry on when words fail . you situation is unique with Zak & i think a blessing . payers kid . ❤
yep.
Gratitude for the uplifting content, your unwavering dedication doesn't go unnoticed.
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It ain't much, it's barely a cup of coffee but it says hey I'm with you. July 5th will be the 5th anniversary of my wifes passing. I miss the hell out of her. It's a nightmare that never ends. Cherish those memories cause that's where they live. Stay strong, i appreciate you
Hang on to the good memories, take them with you and let them see more good times.
🌹Grief from losing a loved one never completely goes away, we learn how to cope with it. Lost our 17yr old son in 1991 and I still break down and cry once in a while when the memories come back. The loss and pain just get easier to handle.
Thanks for sharing such a difficult subject, I lost one of my closest family members recently and it's something everyone has to deal with and one of the hardest things in life.
I wish you all the happiness and healing possible and have enjoyed your videos 👍🙂🙏
At 70 years of age I have come to realize that time does really heal all wounds. You have a way to go, it's early yet.
I lost my first love at 17.
I learned that, for me, grief came in huge waves, one right after the other.
With time those waves got a bit smaller and further apart.
Its been 51 years now and I still have tears but I am also usually smiling remembering…..everything.
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Grief is a manifestation of love. He will be available for you, always. What you tells us shows he loved and still loves you equally much. He will defenitely help you on your way.
I know grief, but in a different way since it wasn't a spouse. 19 months later and I still suffer giving me a hard time moving on.
Thanks for sharing. It doesn't help knowing you're hurt, but it helps somehow anyway!
First of all it's a beautiful dress and a awesome swing,if Kale took a part in who you are as a woman and the wonderful woman you have become then Amen unto him,sorry for your loss Jordan,you are loved and respected by many,including the True one above,you are one of a kind Jordan in a beautiful way,you are a beautiful example of a wonderful woman,he is very proud I assure you, ✌ ❤ 😊 🙏!
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Oh yeah, this dress is awesome 😋👍
any idea how she lost her husband? 😢
I lost 9 children the oldest was 10 all the way down to newborn. I lost all of them at the same time unexpectedly as well and honestly it feels like it gets harder the more time goes on not easier, but everyone handles pain differently! May God be with us all and may we see our loved ones again! And may he keep our loved ones in his arms❤❤❤
OMG Jo, I had no idea. I only recently discovered your channel, purely by chance, but it's such a fun and uplifting few minutes when I see you puttering about the farm doing everyday chores, dunking in the tank or playing with the animals, always with that big, beautiful smile.
I often wondered whether you were a solo farmer or whether you were married or if it was your parents' farm or what the situation was. I was sure that if I watched long enough, I'd learn all the details but I never expected this to be one of them.
I'm so sorry for your loss and your grief and your pain. You bring such joy and sunshine into our lives with your little snippets of farm life, I wish there was something we could do to take some of that pain away from you.
I wish you peace and strength and comfort. God bless!
I’m very sorry that you have to go through grief, and I’m sorry for your great loss. I really appreciate your videos about your grief and how you deal with it. When I have gone through grief I tried all I could to get help, and I found some. If videos like yours were available back then they would have been so helpful! It’s been 20 years since my son was killed. It’s been 10 years since my wife left me for a rich man. The grief still continues but it becomes less often, and more joys in life move in. Take care of yourself, Jordan! You are a very good person! Honestly, you seem like a sister to me. ❤
Having grief from a sudden death in my family life but for a different reason completely, your video helped me to understand not only what you were going through but helped me identify what I am going through as well. For me it gets better every week, but I still miss my little man more than anything. You have surrounded yourself with everything that can help you get your mental state back to happiness without trying to find a way of leaving your pain behind you. I think that is perfect. Just keep doing what you are doing, you are an amazing and strong woman and endless happiness is only around the corner. Soon, only the great memories will outweigh the bad ones, and you will be able to talk about him with anyone with a smile and a laugh, and no thoughts of loss and grief. Sadness is a totally different thing. Your videos also help many people like yourself out there, so please, keep doing what you are doing, and sharing your little successes, and it gives so many more people hope that they need.
Hey Jojo, omg girl you are so blessed! Having 650,000 people to chat with about everything is such a wonderful support. You are doing the right thing analyzing the science behind grief to help overcome it. The dress is beautiful(and you in it!) with it being a part of a wonderful time in your life. I keep a football jersey of my best friend and wear it on his birthday as a tribute and reminder of the friendship we had. The emotions well up, but focus on the good things you shared! Know that our Creator has a plan for your life and reasons why everything happens & some things we will never understand while here on earth. Stay healthy, stay safe & always BeBlessed🎶🌅☯️✝️🌄♥️
Thank you so much! I wasn’t searching for wise words for my friend who is suffering from a similar deep loss but then you popped up in my feed and I’m so happy you did. Your words and actions are perfect! Love and respect!
Thank you for sharing your experience and suggestions. Both are helpful to me. I lost my wife of 54 years in February 2023. I cry everyday. Getting out and doing things is critical and also social interaction. I was a very social person until we moved to the present location about 18 months before she passed. Then we both had health problems that limited our interaction with friends and family that were now too fae away to visit.
The day we buried her I sat at home alone waiting for visitors. None came, that left a hole in my emotions.
Be Well and thanks for your postings.
I know that feeling all too well. I couldn’t understand why my “friends “ wouldn’t come by. I had eight short visits in 6 years. Several times one would call and tell me they drove past my town on I-10 going somewhere on a vacation. I think they want to say that thing that makes it all better, but just can’t think of it, so don’t know to just stop and visit or include you somehow in their life. Your shared life.
My fiancé was struck by lightning ⚡️ and I went through so much grief!! It takes forever sometimes. He would want you to be happy again and move on❤ with life and you will see him again!! But for now you’re doing great hang in there!! You’re an amazing strong woman and you give so much love to everything you’re around!!🙏🏻🌹🩷
OMG my wife was hit by lightning years ago in front of our then toddler son and she survived. It killed the mule she was feeding. I'm so sorry about your loved one.
My goodness Jojo, this is amazing. You are doing the right thing here, you are talking about it and I can see you have processed a lot and are well on your way. It's so wonderful you still have a close relationship with Kale's parents. That is a bond that lasts a lifetime. It might be good to hear from Zach how he is processing this, I have a feeling that affects YOU as well and makes this more complicated. I don't see how you can avoid not being concerned for him when that ball hits your pain button.
The only way to overcome grief and loss is to face it, but doing so makes you feel the pain. You HAVE to feel the pain, way too many of us self-medicate in one form or another (for Jojo it was shopping), to NOT feel the pain. Listen to Chris Stapleton's song 'Whisky and You' and you'll find the source of your newfound addiction, I think many find their beginnings there when dealing with the pain of loss. I speak from experience. When your parents pretend your sister never existed and never helped a young boy process that grief, he spends an entire lifetime seeking anything that will dull the pain so I didn't have to face it. Hell, I didn't even know it was an issue, she never existed.
This is the best thing you could ever do Jojo, it is VERY brave to put it out in the public like this. It's like you are asking the world to hold you accountable. I just love you Jojo, such an amazing woman. I know we don't see your hard times, BUT, we DO see a LOT of good times! Besides, you have more kitties to love on now. And you bring them in a basket! You make my heart happy Jojo, thank you for being you.
Heartfelt appreciation for your recent upload-your commitment to quality content is truly inspiring.
Want to say I am sorry for your loss. They say time heals but sometimes it feels like it takes forever. I'm battling depression right now. I've been dealing with this for long time. I watch your videos to shine some light in my life. Thank-you so much.
JoJo, I would first like to say I'm very proud of you for being brave enough to share your grieving process with us. Secondly, my heart goes out to you! I feel I can emphasize with you completely, and even share your grief with you, as I'm still dealing with the sudden death of my second wife, 2 months shy of our third anniversary, and with the death of my mom. With Mom, it wasn't sudden, but watching her gradually going downhill for a year before she finally did pass was very agonizing. My mom died March 23, 1999, at the age of 73.....my late wife, Jeannie, died on July 10, 2010, at the fairly young age of 47, right about a year after she suffered a medically unexplainable, debilitating stroke which put her in a wheelchair. Thank you for sharing the "ball in a box" analogy regarding grief, as now I'm able to understand why I can go for days, maybe weeks not doing too badly, before suddenly, BAM! It stabs me right in the heart. That pain button is very acute! I can still recall, as if it were just a few minutes ago, watching mom as she took her last few breaths of life. I can still recall just as vividly, coming back home from baling a small amount of hay for a neighbor while at my part time job working for a neighboring farmer, which I've now done 21 years and finding her dead, as she had fallen forward out of her wheelchair. Helping with his farming operation since 2003 has been my purpose in life.
Any way, know that my heart is with you, as are my thoughts and prayers. As time goes on, even after 25 years as it has been with mom, my sister and I have learned that the ball does hit that pain button less and less, but it still packs quite a wallop when it does. She and I have both accepted the fact that while we never will completely be "over" losing her, over time it has gotten a little easier, as that ball does keep getting smaller and smaller. Thank you for being brave enough to share your grief with us, and again thank you for explaining the "ball in a box" analogy. It certainly does make sense. I want you to know I'm not trying to downplay your own grief by sharing my story with you. I'm hoping you realize I only shared that with you so you could see I honestly am able to completely emphasize with you regarding your own grief over losing Kale so unexpectedly and causing you to become a widow at way too young of an age. I honestly cannot imagine what if was like, but am quite sure it had to be extremely devastating. It is so great you have found such a kind, devoted and very loving man to be able to share these times with you, to comfort you and simply hold you tightly in his loving arms at times. Obviously, he never will replace Kale, but at least can help fill that terrible void that suddenly came into your life. I hope you don't mind my asking you this, but did Kale fall victim to a sudden devastating illness or tragic accident??
Take care, may God bless you as you continue dealing with your grief and may He wrap His loving arms around you a little tighter when that ball hits the pain button!! Again, my heart is with you my dear!! ❤❤❤❤
I've just recently caught your videos and enjoy seeing you smile through doing chores, something in it brings a smile to me. This one really struck home as I didn't know you had also lost a spouse, so grateful your journey is open with us, thank you for sharing this.
I’ve been through a lot of loss in my life so I know and understand the journey you’re on.
Grieving is the process by which we learn to accept and eventually live with loss. It’s a process that you cannot go around or skip over. The only way to deal with it is to go through it. It’s healthy, it’s normal, and it’s different for everyone. During this time you’ll experience what are known as “grief spurts”. These are moments when you’ll find yourself crying or expressing your loss in some way that you’re unable to control. As time goes by these moments will be farther and farther apart until they eventually disappear altogether. Kind of like a thunderstorm.
I’ve found that the best way to deal with grief this is to set aside time each day to feel and express your grief in any way you want. Cry, yell, throw things whatever it is that gives you release and relief, just do it. And when your grief time is over get back to your life. It also helps to have a place to do this that is private and that only you know about and use. Trust me, this works. But whatever you do don’t avoid it, face it, lean into it and give it its own outlet for expression. You’ll heal someday, I promise you will. ❤️
I’m just gonna have to say that I understand some of the pain that you feel when I have lost two very close family members in less than a month apart!! It’s hard for me as well and it’s only been 5 months now. Time and staying busy with your life helps a little bit!!! And I was one of those who subscribed when you were under the 1000 mark. Carry on with your journey!
I enjoy watching your videos - you provide a ton of comic relief for the day!! Keep smiling and doing what you do-anyone who didn’t know your loss would never guess it from the joy of life you put out there!! Smart and gorgeous-you will always be a hit!!
I feel for you. My mom died 7yrs ago this week. She died on Memorial Day, and I found her on Thursday that week. Parkinson's contributed to her untimely death. Grief is very personal and there is no "one way" for everyone to navigate through it. My heart goes out to you!
I love it that you are willing to be so vulnerable with all of us on here. I'm going to show my wife the ball in the box because she lost her Momma a year ago this past January and it's been hell for her. Thank you again and I'm truly sorry about Kale and you having to live through all of that.
You’re a beautiful soul and I appreciate you courage and honesty. You are young but wise and you insight is invaluable. Everyone’s grief journey is unique but many similarities. I love to follow you and appreciate what you offer. Be safe and have a blessed life 🙏💕
I lost my mom in August 2019 from Pancreatic Cancer... unlike you, it was not sudden, but rather watched her slowly die from that horrible disease... The family opted to keep her with us in the house right till the end... It truly was a blessing to see her handle her day to day challenges, with a faith that was unbreakable... She is at peace, in a wonderful place, and I will see her again...
I still miss her every day, so I understand your grief... My prayer is that you will experience God's peace in your life...
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You are one of the most beautiful , strong, educated and sensitive ladies that I have had the opportunity to watch and listen to and my wife and I are so sorry about the loss of your husband. Talking is a big part of healing.
I would think that Kale would be very proud of you, and supportive of what your doing and how your living life, I hope you journey thru grief in a way that in time brings about a form of healing that frees you to live more for your life now, and somehow the pain is not so overwhelming for you. You will never forget Kale, and it will always hurt, but I hope that in time, the memories of good times bring you great joy.
Loosing the love of your life can't be replaced i lost my wife to breast cancer eleven years ago, and had to watch her slowly over three years fall from from life. For me grief is a search for answers that you'll never find and questions i can't answer. When i first came across your channel without knowing about your husband i could see pain in your eyes. Its a terrible road but it does get better im now a religious man by any means but i talk to god every day. Keep smiling. Australia
I often think of the stages of grief and the fact that it's like those little equalizer lights on a stereo that go up and down. Generally . . . . . . . one goes from shock, to denial, to sadness, then negotiation, sometimes anger and then, eventually, some sort of acceptance. Sometimes, just being aware of the fact that an emotion is one of those things then helps to make one understand at least a little bit more about why they are experience those particular emotions at any given time. I wish you continued strength and courage.
Thank you for sharing your time with us even with this tragic time that happened. Animals seem to surround themselves with you, they know you're hurting to even if you don't show it. My best friend on down days was a healer cross collie dog called Mandy, she would sense things were wrong and come sit and paw my leg for attention to calm me. She randomly adopted us when she didn't like her owners 2 miles away and kept running here. They just said you might as well keep her if she wants to be there anyway. Sadly my best animal friend died of sudden heart failure after a couple years with us, I miss that dog 14 years later. Some things never go away totally but never give up, you've met somebody else very special that's taking on your challenge as well to be with you. Thats not easy to do either in some circumstances, I know a nice girl just like yourself, who tragically had an at fault traffic accident and her husband and 2 of 3 kids didn't make it. She's dating a guy that could of been me if I could of dealt with her mental health problems. she deals with them every day since that tragic day. Not being there for her on bad days with my time changing by a random work call to be away, wasn't going to work for her or me to support her on the dark days . Take care.
Thank you for sharing your deepest innermost thoughts and grief. I can hopefully say, we all learn how to deal with situations through your loss and your journey. You are loved JoJo!
Thank you for sharing! My grief is not from someone passing but it felt like it was. Your analogies and sharing of your grief, I believe helps so many in so many different ways! Anyway Thank you again, and God bless. Your recommendation of getting outside is a blessing in itself. Now, I just need to find my way back to sharing life as you do
My Dad died in 1977. I was 11. My Mom never got past the anger stage. And it ate her up. Surviving grief is the ultimate victory, and that is, I feel, what our loved ones would want. I do find, that over time, the pain eases and the memories of that person fill your heart and mind with peace and love. Let that feeling flow and the pain goes away.
Time is a human construct, and memory has no basis in time. That is why a memory is as vivid as the original event... it is not clouded by the fog of time, it is now again. Leverage that. You may find solace in the memories.❤
grief... I cried a river of tears. I saw that I had to cross that river one day to get to my life that was on the other side. I had gathered so many heavy stones of grief that I had carried with me. I put those stones in the river and crossed on them. I was afraid that I would have to cross other rivers of tears and I chose large stones to carry for that fear. they became too heavy and I set them down. knowing that there are stones at every river of tears, mine and others and I did not need to carry these from this river to the next. perhaps they would be there for the next grieving person to cross on. many years have passed. my grief is still there, like a stone set in the fork of a young tree in a fence row, the stone never goes away but the tree grows around it towards the sun. only those who know what to look for can see that the stone is there deep within me. when an old person dies, only one life dies, their past. when a young person dies two lives die. their past and their future. my sorrow has given me strength in that ever since that loss, it has been damned hard to scare me. well, I have talked longer than I had intended, thank you for sharing your story. I might understand. George.
I appreciate what you are doing, or at least what I see you doing. I see you providing support and knowledge for those who are grieving and educating those of us who have not gone through what you have. My wife and I have been running grief groups for 10 years. We have learned so much from our participants; people just like you who have lost a spouse or another loved one. The ball in the box is a great analogy.
Jo Jo. Beautiful dress. Celebrate life and memories.Never ever doubt yourself. Love your videos. Blessings to you always.
I'm so sorry hun for your loss. Please know that you are loved beyond measure. You're also helping others with their grief and sorrow (me 🙋♀️) and that's kind, compassionate and so unselfish of you. It makes us all feel less alone too. You're an Earth Angel, truly. Thank you 🙏🏻 Sending you infinite love and healing ❤️🩹
Appreciate your sharing your grief ma'am, it is damn important. Over the course of the last 13 years I've lost my 3 boys, my mother, and ended up divorced. Your analogy about the grief ball says it all. Used to be I couldn't even be around someone else's son because it would hit like a sledgehammer. Over time it's got easier. Keep on keeping on ma'am.
Thanks for sharing, Jordan. Just know that we, your dedicated followers, are out here praying and rooting for you. You’re doing fantastic, although it may not seem like it at times. You are sincere, grounded, caring, REAL, loving, and giving. Cale was blessed to have you during his short life. You gave him his best years, I hope you know that.
Well done! Thank you for sharing, I lost someone a long time ago, all I had was a grief animal. At the time had no idea that was the case, but now seeing how people use them all that time I spent with that animal makes so much sense. Crying with animals is so healing. Keep up, keeping up!
I feel you, I understand, but can never say I know how you feel. Everyone deals with grief differently.
You are refreshing to listen to if I can describe it that way. I've lost my soul mate 13 years ago. And yes that pain button is just as painful. Dealing with depression is a daily challenge to conquer.
Keep up the positive, your words, smiles and laughter are healing.
Thank you for being you, I'm sure he's proud of you. 🤗
Thank you for sharing your journey JoJo. You're indescribably lovely and I absolutely love your videos. I share these with my mother who deals with grief and struggles with it constantly, so you're making a difference.
P.S. you have an amazing life on the farm. I Love that you're a city girl that fell in love with the country life.
Lost dad, mom and sister in the last 4 years. I feel the confusion pain loss and hollow BUT we will survive. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being who you are😢❤😊 please be happy! You deserve it.
Sending you peace and a hug ! You are so strong !! ❤❤ Thank you for your openness , sharing your grief ❤
Not sure why but your video came up on my feed and I wanted to say thank you and I appreciate what you are doing. I am still having a hard time grieving (comes and goes) after almost 7 years. It nice to not feel so alone 🙏🏽✝️
May God continue to heal and comfort you, JoJo. Grief is a very complex thing to process and to have to go through. It never may truly go away, but just gets easier to cope with over time. I am so sorry for your loss of your husband and you have my most sincere condolences. I will uplift you in thought and prayer. And in case no one had told you lately, I'm so proud of you and you are stronger than you think you are. Keep moving forward...you are doing a wonderful job! Much love from me to you. ❤
Finding a balance between acknowleging your grieve and being thankful beyond thankful for Zach who is awesome! You have been blessed twice over. I lost my wife at 40 with 4 kids after a year of cancer. I also was blessed with a wonderful friend, love and lover. Its been hard to make a role that honors both partners. I never imagined that I would lose Marie yet my blessings from and with Sandy are. God bless and keep!!
He is so proud of you JoJo! Sharing your story, feelings, honesty, activities and your smile with us makes the world a better place! He most certainly approves knowing how many people you help every day JUST BY BEING YOU!
Grief is what led me to your channel, and I’ve commented before, so I won’t tell my story again. Just like we mean the world to you, you mean the world to all of us, Thank you I! It was 6 years before I started feeling like i could take care of myself. Next month will be 8 years, it’s getting easier, but I’m sure it’ll never stop. Unfortunately; I’m now grieving a second loss…it’s been pretty tough…
Keep doing what you are doing young lady! You inspire us with your fortitude, your honesty & your will to overcome! Sharing your life, your feelings & especially your grit inspires us all to keep on truckin' through life's challenges AND reminding us to take joy in the little, simple, beautiful things! 🐱 🐶 🐾 🌷🌞
Hi Jojo, Im so sorry for your loss. It can't be easy, Thankfully you have a loving family around you, keeping an eye and supporting you. We are all here supporting you.
You are doing what exactly what you need too to heal, all the elements you have surrounding you aid in your healing and growth. Eventually you won't suffer as much and will be able to talk about Kale without sadness. Zack is a God send too, because he supports you ❤😊
I am quite sure that in some way, he is proud of you.
Your 668 thousand subscribers are certainly proud of you.
You are amazing in terms of your farming exploits, your cold water immersion, your social media and most importantly all of the people you are helping by sharing this stuff.
Thank you.
My grief journey is wildly different than yours. My task these days is to address my very identity. Some day if you want I'll tell you about it. Over a period of months, huge hunk of my life were lost.
You are spectacular in many ways. Thank you for sharing your life. You have been so much more substantial than mere entertainment.
I lost my wife this past Christmas Eve. After we were married I don’t know where the time went. 33 years….it was a blur. Now the clock ticks and I watch the seconds go by….
You are special, so saddened for your loss. So inspired by your carrying on, you are strong!
I know that in time, more good years and blessings are coming into your life. All while honoring your good husband's memory. His life ended way to early. But, he was blessed to spend a part of it with you!
I found this to be an amazing post. The discussion of the impacts of life and death on a person are very insightful. I really liked the expressions of new life with the kittens hanging out during your recording. Please know you are loved by many subscribers that you don't know, but know you from your work.
Losing someone you love, hurts like hell. It's good to grieve. Honouring him is commendable. Take advantage of your support group. We're behind you😊 those critters feel you as well, you're loved❤ live life be strong. You'll see him again🤗
Your totally inspiring and love watching your Channel and I was totally blow away when watched say your man had passed way he would love you even more he is always around you he is your angel thank you for sharing your grief with us all we love your honesty and know your not alone all 650.000 of us with you every day ❤️
This is something that my heart goes out to everyone who has lost a love one the difference between grief & depression are hard to tell the difference sometimes both my Parents passed away about 3 years ago & I still experienced extreme grief which also can be classified as depression & I understand this is part of life as I’ve heard many times but honestly that doesn’t matter. I’ve always been a very strong person needing pretty much no help in life but what I’ve experienced & still are I wouldn’t wish on anyone. It’s intresting when I see people who lost love ones & maybe they don’t show it but seem to be not as affected by it & sometimes I think maybe it’s these people I need to talk to but in the end everyone is different so ya just gotta get through best you can. Sorry for your loss & I do understand the grief.
Thank you for sharing. You certainly are a strong person. Distraction is huge you sure have that handled as well. Hang in there, I’m sending prayers for inner peace your way.
May God bless you and give you the strength to overcome your bad days. You're a good person Jojo, and it's good to do what you're doing now and reach out and talk to people about this. No matter what nobody can take your memories .
Someone once mentioned how sorry they were that my grand father was gone... I simply told them that he wasn't gone he lived on in my heart. I think it's when they move on from occupying your mind to being in your heart that it hurts less. But, all the little things that trigger memories of those we lost should really be celebrated because it's those moments that allow them to live on. God speed, Jordan on this crazy ride called life! Continue to smile and cherish the moments and memories of your late love, no one expects or wants you you to forget any of them.
Speechless. The loss of loved ones is tough. As a stranger i can only offer my condolences on your loss. Nothing i can say will make it better but know that you are not alone.
Sending you my prayers Jojo:) The finding the purpose is so true in dealing with grief. You are beautiful and strong. Feice and brave! Don't give up! You got this! His spirit is there with you. He is watching over you. Just know that. Find comfort in that. I'm so proud of.you!
I think that 😊you are such a strong and amazing woman and I am proud of you for not letting life's most sorrowful moments get you down. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and I pray that you will continue to stay strong and keep pushing yourself forward to having a long and wonderful life filled with joy and happiness that is beyond your hopes and dreams. May God continue to bless you and watch over you always.
I am.widower for now 14 years ! And i still miss my sweet wife!!! And i 'm.waiting for death, to.rejoin her as quickly as possible! I can't wait more!!! I am 70 years old! God Bless you all!!! Denis from.France...
First thanks for sharing. I've never heard the ball in the box grief process. I'm coming up on 8 years of my wife's passing. And that ball is hitting that pain button. God has been so good to me over the years and the wonderful times and memories I have of her are very precious. 2 years of dating and almost 54 years of marriage. I will keep you in prayer as you continue your grief process.
After I was faced with the end of my life as I knew it, the grief n pain was overwhelming. No one it seems really can relate even if they have been through something similar. What I learned in that journey was my Thinking was keeping me in that prison. When there seems to be no answer for why this happened my perception was able to see things differantly( after intense suffering I had what they call an Awaking). I learned nothing ever happened to me they way I thought it did.
I saw everything that has happened( more than 1 tragedy) built me into who I am everything seems to have happened for me. For my growth emotionally n spirtualy. When that perception hit me I watched my past, present n possible future change from what I had once believed to be, to a whole new understanding of my life. It was really mind blowing to feel the things I once believed in no longer were true n didnt effect me emotionly like it once did. A huge weight I felt was lifted off of my heart. That one realization changed my life n the way I lived it. I found myself drawn to spirituality in ways I had never considered. The biggest thing I learned was about the thing we call ego, what it is n how it works in our life and why we even have it. Now it all makes more sense. I wish u many blessing on your healing journey and continued success on your channel. Sharing your life with your community n bringing joy them ❤
I think grief is one of those human emotions that once experienced stays with us till the end of days. It's needed so we remember the things that were truly important.
Glad to listen to you. Happy that you made this video. I understand a lot of the emotions you feel. Thanks for sharing. Love this about you. Bless your heart.
I have lost a few friends over the last few years. They were people that I grew up with? kindergarten forward. It’s terrible helpless feeling. Your strength is an inspiration and for my friends spouse you comments help me better understand their new journey and life. Glad you touched base. Very helpful
Thank you so much. I lost my wife last year after being together for 30 years, You have helped me through the pain. Keep up your work watching your vedioes always makes my day❤
Pure peace, love, comfort and happiness to you darlin...I wish you nothing but the best that life can POSSIBLY offer.
Hi Jo Jo i lost my late wife to cancer 24 years ago and not a day go,s by when i dont think of her stay strong sweet lady the pain of lost will get a bit easyer take care ❤
You have a great you tube channel .I want to let you know that every time we watch your Channel.
Your smile, your personality just lifts us up. So sorry for your loss.
Ray ,Barbara, in of course our baby.
Baby is a mix between a Jack Russell and a Whippet. We prayed for 8 months for a dog I could train to be my service dog.
Our Church had a picnic for our youth.
At that picnic some one had dropped off this cute puppy . We named Baby.
Pray to GOD. He listens to you.
Wish you the best in everything you do…
I lost my wife March 24 2021 she had health issues and we had other issues with each other but her health began to go downhill quickly, i sent her to the hospital in a ambulance and they told me that she had stopped breathing they got her breathing again but it was too late she went into a coma and never recovered . It was hard for me to watch her the last day take her breath in front of you. Thank you Jojo for your kind words of encouragement watching you is therapy for me for going on with my life. 😊You have a wonderful personality. It’s beenThree years since she passed away and certain songs now bring me to tears because of her love of the songs and now she is gone forever. Again Thank You For Being You 😊❤my heart goes out to you also for your loss.