@@mask938 they probably do, the parent prolly wouldnt really threaten to turn contacts against OP if they didnt have a phone, would prolly word it differently like "I'll turn everyone you know against you!"
An 18 year old who leaves home is not a "runaway" and you can't charge someone with harboring them. I'm pretty sure harboring a runaway isn't even a thing, at least not without a huge investigation which would expose the parent's behavior.
Harbouring a runaway is not a crime, and neither is running away (especially after the age of 18). If the parents are taking the kid's money & forcing them to stay after they hit 18, that's a whole list of criminal charges (not least of which are fraud, embezzlement, child abuse, and arguably illegal imprisonment).
Harboring a runaway is only a crime if you're harboring a runaway CRIMINAL. If OP's parents called the police on his gf's parents from harboring him, they would be the one in trouble, not the gf's parents
*egg donor and egg donor's spouse. They don't deserve the title of parents. They've never bothered to even actually be parents, to op or the children they pushed onto op. I hope op gets out and that cps takes the other children away from those abusers bc clearly when op is gone they won't take care of those kids or if they try they'll abandon them bc "it's too hard."
OP should try to be emancipated from the family and be considered an adult and seek damages in addition to what he's owed. Hopefully he kept some records of the time he spent "raising" the parent's kids.
I wonder if he can divorce his parents. I think that is a thing still I've heard about it before anyways but if he's about to be 18 then I guess it doesn't really matter.
I wouldn't be surprised if those parents end up dead. Not that I want to see anyone dead, but they are definitely reaping what they've sown with their abuse.
Also false imprisonment, it’s when someone is locked in their home or someone else’s home for an extended period of time. If there was any violence or malice intent put on the victim, the sentence can also count as torture. An example of this would be taking someone hostage either in their own damn house or your own, using something to physically and mentally harm them when they did something you didn’t like. There is actually one case of false imprisonment along with torture. It was the Turpin family, these parents David and Louse basically didn’t give two shits about their children and basically neglected all of them. There was feces everywhere in the house, moldy and rotten food, some of these parent’s own children were even chained up to their beds. Officers thought all of the victims were minors due to all of them extremely underweight but in fact there were a lot of adults were still living at thebyindb
I wonder who called Child Protective Services on the basis of child abandonment. I can say the parents abandoned the children with me without pay, without means of getting them to a hospital in case of emergency, and being unreachable.
Whenever a karen realises they are losing an argument they'll immediately change the subject or just completely ignore whatever argument they were presented with
Typical delusional animals of any creed don’t see reason, they will do whatever they can for their delusions to be made manifest. They can’t just take the easy way out and see reason, admit they were wrong and calm down, they have to make it an explosive thing and cause chaos for everyone involved, because God forbid they put down their egos for two seconds…
@@BloodThirstyAvengers Then when she says "Don't blow up our country" or something, I would've retorted with "Your entitled attitude is so huge, you can be Tsar Bomba x100!"
I hope OP from the 3rd story manages to get out and get help for his younger siblings because his younger sibling is definitely going to be put in the same position he was and chances are they'll have him on lockdown so they can make sure he doesn't get away like OP did.
The most OP could do is reach to child protective services to let them know, but if he has said sibling to take care for, things will be even harder. Maybe later, if or when he has the means. And that is if his parents don't say he abducted them.
@@Tantejay Even scammers can't trick some systems. If there's a requirement that needs to be met then that's the end of the line if you don't have that requirement.
@@Grunthor17 There is no system which cannot be exploited. I would bet you any amount you care to name that I could switch tabs over to google and find parents who have done exactly this (taken out credit in their children's names and trashed their credit rating). Try it yourself. The googling, not the credit fraud.
Story 3: start recording what they do gather as much proof as you can, and then call cps and see if you can sue them for every penny they stole from you.
For the third story: even if she had ADHD (and the hyperactive presentation is rarer than the inattentive presentation in girls), it's not an excuse for this kind of bad behaviour.
I mean, as a very hyperactive, unmedicated girl with ADHD who's dad and brother are also diagnosed with ADHD, It definitely can result in extreme hyperactivity in girls. I constantly tap my feet, twirl my hair, grind my teeth and crack my knuckles and I have issues with volume control, but compared to my brother I've been called out for doing so way more frequently especially when I was younger, likely because of my gender. I've been told by crotchety teachers and lunch supervisors to "sit still and be quiet" when loud, neurotypical boys my age were excused as "boys being boys". I do agree that it's no excuse for bad behavior and that there are gender differences that aren't social when it comes to ADHD, but just because it's less common in girls doesn't mean it doesn't ever present seriously.
@@Ali-With-An-I indeed, I'm sorry for seemingly implying that. Just because it's rare (or at least rarer than in boys) doesn't mean that the hyperactive presentation doesn't exist in girls. And it's important to have testimonies from hyperactive girls as well, so thank you very much for that 😁
@Ali I have ADHD too, but I only Crack my knuckles and gave issues with volume control. I'm also noise sensitive, which is why I easily get headaches. When I was in Secondary School, whenever the teacher left the classroom, EVERY SINGLE OF MY PEERS started talking ridiculously loud, while I kept my mouth shut. It was often tempting to run up to the blackboard, write "SHUT UP!" in all caps and run back to my seat, that's how loud the others were
@@Ali-With-An-I I have adhd as well I usually just tap something because I'm nervous or I move my knee but other than that I sometimes can't control the volume of my voice sometimes so ye it's crazy
3rd story: this goes beyond just leaving. He needs to call CPS after he leaves. His parents aren't going to stop and just treat the next sibling in line the same way. Those kids and op needs help.
13:26 use red icing and mix in some Tabasco sauce into the icing. And after he takes it and freaks out, you could say, that he never asked what the flavor was and that you were experimenting OP.
Or a chocolate cake laced with jalapenos with chocolate/wasabi icing. I saw a video elsewhere where somebody used that to get back at a food thief. That's a combo where you're really gonna feel the burn...
OP should get help from his family and take the “Parents” to court, for willingly abandoning their kids WITH a minor, neglect and using the kids’ money to support the kids for THEMSELVES! What they’re doing IS ABUSE! Mental abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, manipulation, guilt tripping, lying and just treating OP like a slave, even ADMITTING that they NEEDED OP instead of letting him go get a job, even THREATENING to have him ARRESTED OR SENT TO A PSHYCE WARD! What a couple of entitled, narcissistic @$$holes! I HOPE the family takes the parents to court AND WINS! I hope that the kids, especially OP and his brother cuts and disowns those Parents and leaves THEM alone in their final years, payback for leaving THEIR KIDS ALONE!
The first story with the Aunt, I love how OP just wrote “EA” as the aunt and my mind just came into sense and in my head i just said “EA Sports, My aunt is racist.” Like the EA Sports meme
Story #3 -- Needs to abandon the family, they're an adult and the parents are stealing money. Should try and get legal aide, a lawyer who can get back pay and ruin them, while also calling CPS and having the children removed.
OP. Stand up for yourself. And in fact, tell your parents that you're leaving and TRY anything and you'll do everything YOU can to have them arrested I.E. call CPS. Tell the whole family the story, etc.
Parents who think they own their kids are the exact reason why I think people should be told and, if necessary, legally made to parent their children a certain way.
I keep asking the same question…Why am I limited to 3 dogs while “the breeder” across the street can have a new kid with every new boyfriend? I think she has 6 kids now. My dogs go to school, are well behaved & listen to me. I only have 2 because I know the third dog makes things complicated. I’m no genius & don’t have kids, but I’m sure 6 unruly children cause more noise/chaos than 2 or 3 of my dogs.
I wouldn't recommend that because no one thinks the same way. And how a kid is raised tends to be based on the parents experiences. If you have a woman who was sexually assault as a teenager or kid. Their are multiple ways they would respond to that...some may Make their daughter go to an all girl school so she never encourages men, some tell their kid about it so they can teach their kid what to look for so and warnings so it doesn't happen to them, some may sadly just....kill their sons or attack them because "all men are evil" now in their eyes and so on. The second option wpuld be the sane thing to do. But people will do the other things too. And There would also be no way to implement such laws without the cops litterally having the right to enter your home warrent or not. And more prejudice ones to just arrest you for no reason....but OPs parents deserve to be slapped and I side with op. I have a strong feeling this is how OP's parents raised them because that's how they where raised and don't see anything wrong with it. Given that's STILL wrong but yeah💀
Wanting what you have no right to gives you less than what you were given. I once read a fairytale about a wife who kept wanting more than the hovel she lived in. First a cottage, then a castle, then to be a king, an emperor, the Pope, and then when she wanted to control the planets, she lost everything and had to stay in the hovel.
Story 3: One of the worst kinds of parents are the ones who just toss all of their parenting responsibilities to the oldest child and not care at all about how the child feels. You wanna lose connections with your children? That's how.
I was the partentified child of my family. I practically raised my many siblings, myself, and really even my actual (biological) parents. That is one of the many reasons that I have been no contact with them for more than 12 years - parentification is virtually always part of a larger pattern of abuse. Now that the COVID restrictions are starting to ease in my area, I might finally get the '10-year NC' anniversary party that I was not able to have due to the shutdowns*. -- *I agree with the reasoning behind the shutdowns and followed them more than asked of us, and will continue to follow the protocols in my area. But, like so many others, I am looking forward to the milestone party that I was not able to have at the time.
Regarding the 1st story... I never understood racism, a racist will take a die hard stand on their beliefs no matter how stupid/untrue it'll be. Racism makes you stupid.
Story 1: I always find it weird when someone is described as a devout Christian but then they are living and having a child with their boyfriend. Like isn't one huge rift between Christians and everyone else that they believe in abstinence before marriage???
Seriously its a tell tale sign that someone is Christian so they can be an asshole if they can’t even get the basics of their religion correct. I seriously believe that most of them have never touched a bible.
@@spiderace7994 Problem is, the more fundamental sects(which are gaining popularity) heavily disagree with that, and usually pick a point in the biblical calendar where only one group remained loyal to YHWH while the others followed false interpretations that smear on His name and are actually following the Devil. Antisemite Christians in particular see Jews as the enemy because they “killed our Lord, Jesus” and are awaiting the Antichrist instead. Just recently I got into a long debate with a seemingly nondenominational Christian who despite not being racist, heavily disagreed that the God he believed in was the same as by other monotheists and that once the others saw the truth, they would convert to his doctrine. You’d expect this with those born and bred with communal religion(like the Bible Belt) as they have no perspective of anything else, but a lot of these folks are now recent converts. This has been a frequent thing, unfortunately. Wouldn’t be surprised if that gets echoed in these comments very soon
@@spiderace7994 they don't actually share the same God. But don't take my word for it, look up the name of Allah and the name of the Christian God. They believe very similar things about their respective God but it's not the same one. Also, Islam does not have a trinity. They have a similar concept, but their holy spirit is the archangel gabriel. Not god at all
@@ADTillion any Muslim or Christian I've ever asked has said that they do not support the same God as the other. People outside of those religions however, believe they are the same God because of the antitheist movement that says if you worship one God you worship the same God as everybody else
Story 4: op next time fill one half of your birthday cake with chocolate and the other with chilli paste let him take that into work and if he complains just say "huh must have gone bad hope you didn't share it with anyone else" or something
I wouldn't be surprised if OP laced the rest of the cake with laxatives, if OP knew that the father would never listen to leave the rest of the cake alone. That would serve him right.
I have ADHD, it's kinda hurtful for the mom to say the youngest daughter has ADHD because she behaves badly as if it's a valid excuse to be a shitty person.
"Parentification". Don't say RS didn't teach you anything kids. I was today years old when I learned the name for the abuse my sibling received... As the younger sibling, I hate that my mom had to put us through this. Because of her ignorance, my sib and I have a lot of shit that's wrong with us and a lot of shit that's ruining our relationship...
As a Christian I just want to say we don't claim hateful people like the aunt in the first story. We are loving caring and welcoming to all groups regaurdless of race religion gender etc. Edit: I meant that that they aren't really one of us because if they were they wouldn't act that way.
As a Christian, we need to start claiming these people and putting our foot down about this behavior and condemn in real time. People like this sully Christianity.
No True Scotsman. The problem with non-exclusive organisations is that you don't get to declare someone as unaffiliated nor speak for other members of that group unless you have a certain level of hierarchical status.
@@snoworveins1212 my partners mom has been in a series of abusive relationships in which the guy abused my partner and their mom. The most recent guy steals all their moms money for cigarettes and alcohol leaving their youngest sibling with very little to eat. And through all of this their mom tends to think that she didnt do anything wrong even though she's neglectful and hoards animals. And this is the vague version of events too.
What? I have diagnosed Asperger's and I get treated like trash by my parents in that department! They basically say I should just clench my teeth and act as normal as I can while I can't be normal due to Asperger's! They say I'm being rude by acting distant at gatherings/when greeting family. I'm sorry but that's just how my character is! I'm not insulting you, so I don't get why you feel insulted dad! If I don't greet my relatives with a full on show it doesn't mean that I'm not happy to see them or that I don't love them. I'm just not wired like that. I'm not wired to be happy and cheery all the time. Sometimes I am for the stupidest things but usually I'm not in the relationship department. And they fail to see that. I also believe firmly I have ADHD since being a kid (because of reoccurring patterns in my behaviour) and all I've heard my parents say is to try and fix it myself. I would feel a ton more comfortable if I had an explanation to my weird being. And I've been trying to make my therapist go in that direction. Of course I don't want to go and ask her if I have this or that because it's not my businnes. But anyway. These parents are literal garbage. Because most people fail to recognize mental health issues and instead they capitalize on it. I wish I could say it's my Asperger's doing things but mom would say it's not a valid excuse. And that nobody cares or nobody would want a worker like me blaming herself over her syndrome. The problem is it does go that way. When you're wired to behave a certain way there's really no other explanations for why you do things. But I also believe you need to take full accountability for your actions too. So I agree with op on that one.
I have PTSD so I seem insulting to people at times when I'm anxious or triggered and I can't even tell I'm being rude. Not the same root cause, but I feel your pain.
Those survivor checks are solely for the child and are for a certain amount of years. The parents are literally stealing those checks from their own kid. Totally illegal.
I know what op from story 3 is going through, being forced to take care of my siblings. When I fought back for my treatment I would be threaten with police, mental wards, being blocked off from the world, etc, etc. I am 17, I'll be 18 in a few months and I am leaving when I turn 18.
The 3rd story reminds me of this one story where this one lady stole her adult daughter's car and thought "I AM YOUR MOTHER" was a solid defense. What a nut.
I usually don’t tell this story because it’s extremely hard and extreme. But basically, I knew someone who was about my age maybe slightly older, and a while ago, and around the time they were 15, maybe 16? they m-rdered their mother because of all the abuse/parentification/general toxicity. She threatened to do some extremely awful things to them, and they finally snapped. They got a kitchen kn*fe, the rest is history. They went to juvenile detention, and idk where they are now but yea this is one of those things that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forget. Idk if it was on the news, it probably was. I don’t really want to look it up to find out at this point tbh. Brisbane Australia around 2016-2017, maybe 2015 but probably not that early. But yea, it’s pretty scary that this person was so happy and bubbly, I hate to imagine what could’ve been going on after she went home every day. Be kind to your kids y’all
Story 1-true Christians DO NOT behave or feel the way the aunt does True Christians show patience and understanding and love. Being a jerk does NOT incite others to listen or want to be around you
I’m not a Christian but feel horrible when Christians act like this. I know they make other Christians look bad. Karens come in all colors, flavors & religions.
Regardless, Rslash doesn't have a right to preach Islamic ideology on his channel. Ella existed before Muhammad as an Arabian god with zero connection to Jews or Christians. There is no jewer Christian of Muhammad's time who considered Ella to be the same God as they worshiped. This idiot is literally preaching Muslim ideology on his channel. Christians and Jews do not worship the desert moon god, who by Muhammad's own words was the best at deception. (Ie the god of lies.)
No True Scotsman. The problem with non-exclusive organisations is that you don't get to declare someone as unaffiliated nor speak for other members of that group unless you have a certain level of hierarchical status. [Copied from another comment of mine.]
One thing I recommend for the kid with the overbearing/ abusive parents is to try to find a friend or family member willing to help them get a none driver's license... But not sure if they are able to make that happen...
That first story angers me so much like, the hypocrisy omg Jesus really said "whatsoever ye would that men should to you, do ye even so to them for this is the law and the prophets" and then hung out with "sinners" like they were his friends and christians went 'oh so that means I should scream at everyone i don't agree with ok got it' like huh????
The last story about the apple juice, when the Karen said you’re wasting my time, I would have come back with: and you’re wasting oxygen, but here we are.
You know sometimes I joke about when I have kids they’ll be my slaves, but holy shit. I always just meant they’d have chores and like maybe grab me stuff sometimes. Also as a side note to what Rslash said about kids watching kids, it’s not child abuse, doing it 45 hours a week is child abuse.
A friend of mine actually has a pretty similar story to the third OP. Her mom died when she was younger, and her dad has forced her to basically raise her siblings. She's now in her early 20's and has fought tooth and nail just to be able to get a job, which is actually where she met (she worked with me for a little bit). Now she's working, but she's still been denied from getting a license, a car, or trying to move out. One key difference is that her dad never remarried. I've been over to her house, and they don't have a driveway, basically no furniture, running water is questionable, and there's even a big hole in one of the walls. I honestly don't understand how she can live like that.
"Welcome to r/entitledparents. Where a Karen gets racist." Do you have the slightest idea how little that narrows it down? Edit: Also, I don't think the second story was an entitled parent. I think it was just someone who was confused.
As a youngest sibling, I'm very grateful for my older sister who looked after me until I was old enough to stay home by myself. However, my mom always made sure I respected my sister and made sure my sister was rewarded with either money or privileges as payment for her time. To all older siblings who had to watch over your younger siblings, I hope your siblings know how great you are ❤
The way I see it is that the same God came down to help another civilization entirely, think of it like three great visits if you will, one for Judaism, one for Christianity, and one last visit for Islam. Who’s to say that the Abrahamic God can’t do that? Just a thought
They all believe in the same god. Judaism was the original religion that started the Abrahamic belief until people began to disagree with each other on different parts of the bible. Eventually, different groups separated from judaism, took the bible with them, and created the denominations for christianity and islam. They're all literally follow the same god, except just made some edits to the bible to fit their viewpoint.
@RamenBomber - that's essentially what the LDS church believe too, just that their religion was the most recent (and thus most accurate) visitation from god. Too bad that god only ever shows himself to the prophets for their respective religions, and not everyone, so we can tell what that god actually wants from humanity instead of having to take someone at their word.
Read the update for story 3. While OP got out, they did not completely cut out their parents and are still willing to assist with babysitting and giving half their SS check to their mom. It's bittersweet in that they are working to distance themselves but still feel obligated to enable/help their parents terrible decisions. They need to completely remove themselves or I fear they'll get sucked back in and never truly leave.
@rSlash - my mom could have done some of this "parentification" line for line. I was 14 when she first threatened to institutionalize me. I was sleeping maybe 3-4 hours a night and through some of my school day because... it was safer than home, at least. And I had less work. I've worked since I was maybe 8-9. You CAN leave at 18. I was out at 17 for being *so bold* that I was the first female to graduate high school (with a real diploma! Not a GED!) But she still refused to sign college FAFSA papers because I would leave and not pay her bills and babysit all the time. I never learned how to drive until some years later, so I couldn't escape. No buses in this part of town. So... you CAN leave at 18 in the US... but no college would take me as an Independent student. None. I didn't even have the same address as her. Nope! Can't go to college without the FAFSA, can't complete the FAFSA as an independent until you "age out" (in your 20s), join the military (get blown up for maybe a chance at school! fun!) or get married (this is how I almost married an abuser who promised to help me get a degree...) SO YES TECHNICALLY, you can leave at 18. You will likely not go to college... immediately. Your parents may still try to claim you as their dependent (file for tax fraud if they do that.) Get a job. Get therapy. Not the classic image of someone who holds your hand and tells you "that's sad!" but like, REAL therapy. A good therapist lets you vent anger and also challenges destructive thoughts and gives you a potential set of coping skills and life skills. Your county may have an income-based program that no one talks about. Look up "boundary experts" like Nedra Tawwab, since therapists often give advice + resources for FREE on instagram. Your library has books to download or read for FREE for a library card. You can probably source some online, too, and take notes about what you think + your reactions. Best of luck, if anyone who identifies with that segment ever reads this.
The third story hit really close to home for me. When my mom died I lived with cousins who got survivor benefits from the state. Those checks ended when I graduated high school and I got kicked out as soon as the money dried up. After 6 years of taking care of their kids, they were old enough to take care of themselves more and the older kid had started to take care of the other two as well. So they threw me out like used up garbage. It could have ended up really bad, but a friend's parents let me stay with them for two weeks. I was already enrolled in Jobcorps just was waiting on my date and bus ticket, since I was homeless I got expedited in. This story came out a while ago but I feel like I want to warn OP that I feel like the parents are putting OP in a terrible position and might decide he isn't worth keeping around when the money stops especially now that the older kid has started to be parentified as well.
The first story makes me see red!!! The aunt is not a real Christian, she’s just so rude and sounds like a horrible person! I was raised Baptist but I have pagan, atheist, leftist friends! Hell, one of my dearest friends is Muslim and I love her like a sister!! We both bless each other in our own way and pray for each other!
Speaking as another Christian: do not No True Scotsman bad Christians. We need to take accountability for the behavior of our siblings in Christ because they sure as hell won't.
@@Starhawke_Gaming I can guess why. Ever notice how many of the crazy ones hate the left side? Chances are they hate us because we don't want a religion based government, but the founders didn't either.
@@marjoriejohnston4905 - IKR? Many politically left people are Christian. Heck, President Biden is a devout Catholic. Faith can do strange things to people's thought process. 😆
7:07 he hey HEY Karen, (not op) no no. We don’t do that. Please don’t put say your hellspawn has ADHD until she properly gets diagnosed. We with ADHD are more complex than you think. If the kid has adhd, then someone else most likely has it too. It’s also genetic. Or the kid had some head damage. But regardless, you can’t blame every misbehavior on adhd. We struggle with a lot of things. Op you’re good and you gotta push back against your mom “Karen”. Also she’s gaslighting you. Please move in with other family or friends. PLEASE get out of that hellhole. It’s favoritism and child slavery and neglect... it’s a lot of things
For real! I was eating lunch and just hit play on rSlash and as soon as he said "look at my nipple" I had to pause and go look to see if I heard what I thought I had heard
Story 3 Mom in this story reminds me of my father and how he essentially began turning me into a mini-parent for my siblings when I was 8 years old simply because I was the eldest child. OP needs to use any legal means to get away from their mom.
I'm Christian and during my 10th grade year, we learned about Christianity, Judaism, and Islam. We were taught that all 3 shared the same God. I told someone at my church this and she had said that the God Christians believe in and the God Muslims believed in were different.
@@midknight3350 - This is the ONLY way Muslims and Christians are in the same pool. If you study what Islam teaches about the nature of God as compared to what Judaism and Christianity teach about the nature of God, IT IS NOT THE SAME. Indeed, what divides Judaism from Christianity is that Judaism does not accept that Jesus is the Son of God or "God incarnate." Muslims only regard Jesus as a prophet, but he can't be accepted as the Son of God. So, again, it isn't the same.
@@qdllc - I'm just sitting here with popcorn watching this discussion... What does it look like from the outside? Like children arguing about which of their imaginary friends is the strongest. 🤣🤣🤣
I just love it how atheist always prove how intolerant and hateful they are. While trying to prove they are better than everyone else. As you stand on the bones of the hundreds of millions of people killed in the name of atheist governments.
@@melodyharpole8272 really? Reglion has killed just as many if not more let's not forget the crusades and the holocaust for that matter check yourself. They weren't even saying they were better they literally just said that it's crazy that some religious people can't play well with others
@@deezvidz218 not since religious atheism has come out. In the time frame of religious atheism, atheism has killed a lot more than all other religions combined. We're literally looking at hundreds of millions of people killed in the name of atheist governments. These aren't governments that simply agreed to not to have religion. They were ideologically and religiously atheist. Where people weren't allowed to have any belief system beyond the belief that there is no God.
Here's the thing, man. People will always hate other people, especially if they aren't in the same group. I'm also atheist, but I understand the importance of religion in people's lives. It's one thing to be atheist or theist, it's another to be an annoyance and shove it in people's faces.
@@deezvidz218 I think that if you add up the numbers, what's actually killed the most people is private enterprise by paywalling medical care and food. Or we could look at Colonialism and how it lead to the death of roughly one billion people in India over the course of 100 years. (That's just India, it's also racked up really big numbers in other places) All in all, I think at the root of all of this is the concept of authoritarianism. One group feels superior to another and hurts them by abusing power they have over them. Religion is a good excuse, but its far from the only one.
Its shocking that I used to live the same story as the third story. I had to find a therapist on my own, and they helped me take my life insurance money and leave. My family cant find me anymore, but I often have dreams where they brought me back. Its rough, but if I can do it then so can OP. You're more equipped to live without them than you'll ever realize.
(Note to r/slash: If you wanna read this on your channel, you have my full permission lol my life has quite a lot of juicy stories that I am a complete open book about and it might help someone else who is in a similar situation that I was in 💖) I lived with a family that had the mom’s sister living there too with her husband and kids so there were over 12 of us living in a house and a trailer in the backyard. This was my sophomore and junior year of high school. They were verbally and mentally abusive and I was forced to watch 10 kids ranging from infant to 8th grade all by myself. Bathe the young ones, help them all with homework, feed them, do the girls’ hair before bed and even in the morning for school. I did all this while trying to take care of myself and go to school. I didn’t have any schooling from 4th to freshman year so I ended up doing the last 5 months of what would’ve been my freshman year in 8th grade just to prep me. That being said, I have a hard time with math especially. I would go to school completely exhausted, listen to the teachers as much as I could, then I would have to go back home and take care of everyone, teach myself the homework then do the homework which I never was able to get done with the little time I had. I was a single mom basically (minus the paying bills but they held that over my head) to 10 kids as a 16 year old. They ended up kicking me out because they gave me the ultimatum of getting my ged, quitting school a year early (Or what would’ve been when I should’ve graduated due to the 5 months thing) and getting job or finishing my last year naturally and get kicked out. I chose to not be under their thumb so I left and moved back in with my parents whom I hadn’t lived with since freshman year because they couldn’t afford to take care of us kids. (two grown up and me and my other sister lived with her friend’s family my freshman year, her senior year) Living with my parents again had their own problems, one I could write another post over but my mom did care and love me so that was nice. I’ve been house hopping/homeless/home insecure since 2011 and I have encountered a lot of entitled parents who took advantage of my situation to bully me. I now am diagnosed with depression, anxiety, adhd and PTSD and i’m still working through it all. I’m back with my mom and we are both at my aunt’s house (her sister) and while it’s not a permanent thing, it’s the best living situation I’ve had in a long time. And I get to live with someone (my mom) who honestly loves me without condition in a world where my existence was only worth something if I could be exploited. I don’t plan on ever having kids because I have been a mom enough to more than just those 10 kids. That family alone shaped my life and caused so much trauma. Moral of the story: Parents, even if they aren’t your own can be entitled. There is nothing you can do to stop that. However, always know that your worth is not determined by how useful you are to other people. I am still working through that and actively trying to rewire my brain from all the abuse but know that you are worth it and you deserve more than just the bare minimum.
I have an ADHD Diagnosis, and I work one full time and one part time job where I work a combined 50+ hours weakly. If your raised right and are taught the right tools, ADHD isn't a huge problem.
Side note for children whose parents keep their legal documents from them; it is possible to get copies reissued to you in the case they were lost or stolen. Social security is harder than the birth certificate, but it's still possible. That being said, if OPs parents are this unhinged, then he needs to be on the lookout for them stealing his idenitity and opening credit cards or taking out loans in his name.
@Lauren - Birth certificate can be extremely hard to get a new copy of depending on which state you were born in. I was born in Hawaii, and when I needed a new copy of my Birth Certificate, it took them NINE MONTHS to send me a new one.
OP 3: record EVERYTHING. The way they talk to you, they way they treat your siblings, their dismissals, their threats. Record their assets, the property, the expensive items. Turn it all into a nice document of their neglect and hate. When you do escape, send it to CPS and your entire extended family. You siblings deserve better. You deserve better. Your parents are monsters, let them endure the consequences of their deeds.
OP in the birthday cake story should make a cake, but spike it with SUPER hot peppers or laxatives, then wait until the “co worker” takes it before saying “Hope you enjoy that cake, I made it EXTRA SPECIAL.”
Man, the babysitting thing. Sure, there was a sleugh of other bullshit, but i didnt even have the state of mind to handle a month and a half of unpaid child care labor.
ok but the line 'He's being prepped to be the next 'me'" is literally. so sad like. i feel that. my parents consistently over my years warned me of 'becoming my big sister' (She's DISABLED and ABUSED) and now that i'm also disabled and not good at much my parents warn my siblings about not 'being like me' and it Hurts really bad. Learning that ur parents stop liking u after a certain point I literally feel for them so much; I can't leave as easy as they could, but my parents literally did the same thing (forcing US to raise THEIR KIDS, i was literally 12 helping my big sister care for our newborn sister bc mom never wanted to, my big sis raised us more then my parents ever did)
Dear OP who’s parents used ADHD as an excuse. I was just laying in my room listening to your story and as soon as I heard your parents use ADHD as an excuse for the reason your youngest sibling acts up I sat straight up. My parents say the same thing to me at least once a month regarding my younger sibling. I was raised to be the “perfect child” and learned to make my bed every morning at 5 years old and to do this and do that but now my brother is 16 years old, still doesn’t know how to make his bed, steals things, lies, does horribly in school, all because “he has ADHD”. I have been telling her for years ADHD isn’t an excuse for everything, you just don’t want to parent. So lovely OP just know you are not alone. I see you, I hear you, and I feel your pain.
Fourth story: I think the solution is when the excuse for a father is whining about the work that someone else is doing (why is *he* finding it stressful when he's not even doing it? The heck is wrong with that guy?), is to go over to him and talk to him as if he was a literal baby: soft high-pitched voice, baby talk and all. "Whazzah mazzah? Whazzah mazzah? You seepy? You need a nappy? You want you bubbah?" If you've been around parents with literal infants, you know the kind of talk I mean.
3rd story... That was my father and stepmother. I was working, in school and when I wasn't doing either of those things they'd hand me my baby brother then leave and not come home for hours. When I had days off I was woken up at 7am handed my baby brother and I wouldn't see my parents until damn near midnight. (Side note they left me to babysit so they could go bar hopping. They came home drunk every single time).... They also expected me to use my work paycheck to pay for my baby brothers things like diapers, clothes, toys. I was also expected to pay for house repairs. One year I also had to buy all the christmas decorations. Eventually my stepmother threw me out because she found out I was talking to my birth mother. It took her 3 days to ask where the hell I was and if I was coming home. Me, honestly baffled because she seemed to forget she threw me out. I have not spoken to either of them in nealry 5 years now.
Oh, man… that kid with the narcissistic parents… that’s basically my husband. He lost his mom at around the age of 3, lived with an abusive step-mom for nearly 10 years, then watched a messy and violent divorce when his father decided to marry his ex-wife’s hairdresser. They minimized both his wants and needs, blamed him for things (she claimed she got pregnant because my husband had poked holes in their condoms with a pin), made him run errands and babysit… he even had the cops show up to arrest him at 16 for not paying a ticket on expired registration for his dad’s car, even though he’d been running errands at the time and his dad had promised to take care of it. One long parade of neglect, blame, and putting their wants first. And they’re one of those “we don’t bring up drama around the family, now gather around for a group photo” types of families. And then guilt trips if you don’t visit and promises of “I’ll send you some money for your birthday” (my husband always told him not to) which never arrived. It’s all about getting what they want but never being expected to feel guilty about it. Zero ownership but he was still expected to play good son. At 18, he applied to college but there was a blow up before that because he wanted to move out to attend. So he just up and left, went to stay with his brother hours away and finally ended up in California with his aunt, where’s he’s worked his way up to IT Director in a large corporation, without a degree. He finally fully cut off contact with family just five years ago, maybe, when he had yet another empty, generic phone conversation with his dad and he said he’d send money for his birthday. After being asked not to. And it didn’t come. The years of lies, from promises to attend campouts or choir recitals right up to the inevitable birthday money, he just finally said, screw it. And he just doesn’t answer anymore. Doesn’t even listen to voicemails at this point. And something in me says we shouldn’t cut off family cold; we should just keep a barrier for the ones who hurt us, set boundaries. But I also don’t blame him.
Third story, I feel for that when I was 12, and my sister had a kid with 16, for my nephew, my mother basically wanted me to be his mother. I decided that I didn't want to do that when I was 16, then she kicked me out. I got out of school and went to live with my bf, and I'm still feeling the consequences here with 27. My mother told me to come back when I was like 18, but I had to take care of my nephew, I had no where to go so I did, when I was 25 I started uni, and my mother told my nephew would move out, but he didnt, and he never lets me sleep, I can't study well bc he shouts all day while playing fortnite... And yesterday my mother told me she wants me out in december and that she did this all on purpose because I need to suffer for not wanting to "help" with my nephew. My life is ruined, I have no where to go, a lot of failed subjects in uni that I can't pay for redo, and jobs are super hard to find in my country because of covid. Ugh sometimes I think my only way out is being dead, because it seems I was only alive to take care of that boy until he is 18, which is next year.
If you’re 18, call the police and tell them that you’re safe and chose to leave on your own. You can also ask that they do not disclose your location to anyone who asks. That way if someone reports you as a runaway or missing, the police will have you saying that you’re safe and don’t want anyone knowing where you are on file.
Someone needs to call CPS on the 3rd story's parents. Like yesterday. If OP leaves, the next oldest is gonna be trapped like he was. Those kids need help.
Bacon-Wrapped Jalapeño Chicken. Ingredients: 2 boneless skinless chicken breasts 4-6 strips of naturally hardwood smoked bacon 1 jalapeño 2 eggs Butter for cooking Salt and pepper to taste Instructions: Preparation: Preheat your oven to 375°F (190°C). Clean the chicken breasts and pat them dry. Slice the jalapeño in half lengthwise, and remove the seeds and membranes. If you want it spicier, you can leave some seeds in. Egg Wash: Crack the two eggs into a bowl and beat them until well mixed. Assemble: Place a jalapeño half (or a smaller slice if it's a big jalapeño) on top of each chicken breast. Carefully wrap each chicken breast with bacon strips. Depending on the size of the chicken breasts, you might need 2-3 strips per breast. The bacon not only adds flavor but helps keep the chicken moist. Cooking: In a large oven-safe skillet or frying pan, melt the butter over medium-high heat. When the butter is hot and foamy, add the bacon-wrapped chicken breasts. Cook until the bacon is golden brown on one side, then turn to cook the other side. After both sides are browned, transfer the skillet or pan to the preheated oven. Bake for about 20-25 minutes, or until the chicken is fully cooked (it should have an internal temperature of 165°F or 74°C). Serve: Remove from the oven and let it rest for a couple of minutes. Serve hot with your favorite side dishes. This dish offers a delightful combination of flavors: the spicy kick of the jalapeño, the savory bacon, and the juicy chicken. Enjoy!
To the cake-maker; make a terrible cake, take one slice and bury it in the backyard. Let father take the bad cake to share with his friends. The trauma and embarrassment might deter him from trying that again. If this fails, get yourself a mini fridge and keep your cakes locked in your room
Third story. Call CPS. Cant be worse than it is right now for either OP or the siblings
CPS would probably save the poor kids.
@@DryPaperHammerBro Why else is it called CPS?
That’s assuming OP even has a phone.
@@mask938 they probably do, the parent prolly wouldnt really threaten to turn contacts against OP if they didnt have a phone, would prolly word it differently like "I'll turn everyone you know against you!"
@@quotetry8998 it stands for child protection services
An 18 year old who leaves home is not a "runaway" and you can't charge someone with harboring them. I'm pretty sure harboring a runaway isn't even a thing, at least not without a huge investigation which would expose the parent's behavior.
Harbouring a runaway is not a crime, and neither is running away (especially after the age of 18). If the parents are taking the kid's money & forcing them to stay after they hit 18, that's a whole list of criminal charges (not least of which are fraud, embezzlement, child abuse, and arguably illegal imprisonment).
Although you’re 100% correct, if an 18 year old doesn’t know this, they’re still able to be manipulated.
@@epsilon-eleven Yep.
@@DarkbutNotsinister Also, it could be trouble enough that they keep calling the police on OP's girlfriend's family
Harboring a runaway is only a crime if you're harboring a runaway CRIMINAL. If OP's parents called the police on his gf's parents from harboring him, they would be the one in trouble, not the gf's parents
To OP who had to pretty much raise their siblings, I would see about going to a lawyer to get that money back from your parents.
Ikr?? That's financial abuse on top of parentification. Op said they have family aware of it. I hope they go to those family members to get help.
*egg donor and egg donor's spouse.
They don't deserve the title of parents. They've never bothered to even actually be parents, to op or the children they pushed onto op. I hope op gets out and that cps takes the other children away from those abusers bc clearly when op is gone they won't take care of those kids or if they try they'll abandon them bc "it's too hard."
OP should try to be emancipated from the family and be considered an adult and seek damages in addition to what he's owed. Hopefully he kept some records of the time he spent "raising" the parent's kids.
Exactly. The parents are committing fraud and stealing from OP, along with the rest of the abuse. Call the police, OP.
I wonder if he can divorce his parents. I think that is a thing still I've heard about it before anyways but if he's about to be 18 then I guess it doesn't really matter.
If you're preventing an 18 year old from leaving your house, there's a word for that. Kidnapping.
I wouldn't be surprised if those parents end up dead. Not that I want to see anyone dead, but they are definitely reaping what they've sown with their abuse.
Also false imprisonment, it’s when someone is locked in their home or someone else’s home for an extended period of time.
If there was any violence or malice intent put on the victim, the sentence can also count as torture.
An example of this would be taking someone hostage either in their own damn house or your own, using something to physically and mentally harm them when they did something you didn’t like.
There is actually one case of false imprisonment along with torture. It was the Turpin family, these parents David and Louse basically didn’t give two shits about their children and basically neglected all of them. There was feces everywhere in the house, moldy and rotten food, some of these parent’s own children were even chained up to their beds. Officers thought all of the victims were minors due to all of them extremely underweight but in fact there were a lot of adults were still living at thebyindb
I wonder who called Child Protective Services on the basis of child abandonment. I can say the parents abandoned the children with me without pay, without means of getting them to a hospital in case of emergency, and being unreachable.
Not kidnapping. False imprisonment...
Kidnapping is when you take a kid FROM thier home
I believe the legal term is "unlawful detainment". OP can call the police and ask for help.
Whenever a karen realises they are losing an argument they'll immediately change the subject or just completely ignore whatever argument they were presented with
Typical delusional animals of any creed don’t see reason, they will do whatever they can for their delusions to be made manifest. They can’t just take the easy way out and see reason, admit they were wrong and calm down, they have to make it an explosive thing and cause chaos for everyone involved, because God forbid they put down their egos for two seconds…
Yeah. Their mental gymnastics are always astounding
They just try to find another reason to make YOU look like the butthole.
Or yell "Disrespect!"
Or, if they'll religious: "You'll go to hell!"
This is how my mum " wins" arguments.
Aunt: "But she isn't even faaaaamily!!"
OP: "And neither are you and your BF."
**Shots fired**
Aunt: We're related via our religion.
Me: You said it yourself, there's other Muslims here.
Aunt: *surprised Pikachu face*
@@BloodThirstyAvengers Then when she says "Don't blow up our country" or something, I would've retorted with "Your entitled attitude is so huge, you can be Tsar Bomba x100!"
Aunt had a child with a man she wasn’t married to and she is going to debate religion??
Also if you wanna get tecnical they're still backing the same god (Cuz abrahamic faiths and all that) just with differing views of him.
I hope OP from the 3rd story manages to get out and get help for his younger siblings because his younger sibling is definitely going to be put in the same position he was and chances are they'll have him on lockdown so they can make sure he doesn't get away like OP did.
I honestly feel so bad for OP and his younger sibling, it's so unfair, and I hope they will manage to sort things out and get out of that family.
Check out the story on the Turpin kids. It was on 20/20. But I'm sure it's on Hulu.
OP has no obligation to those kids. They only have obligation to save themself.
The most OP could do is reach to child protective services to let them know, but if he has said sibling to take care for, things will be even harder. Maybe later, if or when he has the means. And that is if his parents don't say he abducted them.
OP posted an update approx 16 days ago
The babysitter story: I hold any bet the parents already took out loans in his name, trashing his credit to force him to stey home
I wouldn't doubt it
Not possible without an ID, bank account, and in most areas at least 2 years worth of work history. Plus he's a minor still I think?
@@Grunthor17 The parents are scam artists. If there is a way they would.
@@Tantejay Even scammers can't trick some systems. If there's a requirement that needs to be met then that's the end of the line if you don't have that requirement.
@@Grunthor17 There is no system which cannot be exploited. I would bet you any amount you care to name that I could switch tabs over to google and find parents who have done exactly this (taken out credit in their children's names and trashed their credit rating). Try it yourself.
The googling, not the credit fraud.
Story 3: start recording what they do gather as much proof as you can, and then call cps and see if you can sue them for every penny they stole from you.
For the third story: even if she had ADHD (and the hyperactive presentation is rarer than the inattentive presentation in girls), it's not an excuse for this kind of bad behaviour.
I mean, as a very hyperactive, unmedicated girl with ADHD who's dad and brother are also diagnosed with ADHD, It definitely can result in extreme hyperactivity in girls. I constantly tap my feet, twirl my hair, grind my teeth and crack my knuckles and I have issues with volume control, but compared to my brother I've been called out for doing so way more frequently especially when I was younger, likely because of my gender. I've been told by crotchety teachers and lunch supervisors to "sit still and be quiet" when loud, neurotypical boys my age were excused as "boys being boys". I do agree that it's no excuse for bad behavior and that there are gender differences that aren't social when it comes to ADHD, but just because it's less common in girls doesn't mean it doesn't ever present seriously.
@@Ali-With-An-I indeed, I'm sorry for seemingly implying that.
Just because it's rare (or at least rarer than in boys) doesn't mean that the hyperactive presentation doesn't exist in girls.
And it's important to have testimonies from hyperactive girls as well, so thank you very much for that 😁
@Ali I have ADHD too, but I only Crack my knuckles and gave issues with volume control. I'm also noise sensitive, which is why I easily get headaches. When I was in Secondary School, whenever the teacher left the classroom, EVERY SINGLE OF MY PEERS started talking ridiculously loud, while I kept my mouth shut. It was often tempting to run up to the blackboard, write "SHUT UP!" in all caps and run back to my seat, that's how loud the others were
@@Ali-With-An-I I have adhd as well I usually just tap something because I'm nervous or I move my knee but other than that I sometimes can't control the volume of my voice sometimes so ye it's crazy
Shoot, even if the kid has adhd, the parents still need to actually parent. There's ways to support adhd kids properly and we do need discipline.
3rd story: this goes beyond just leaving. He needs to call CPS after he leaves. His parents aren't going to stop and just treat the next sibling in line the same way. Those kids and op needs help.
13:26 use red icing and mix in some Tabasco sauce into the icing. And after he takes it and freaks out, you could say, that he never asked what the flavor was and that you were experimenting OP.
Or a chocolate cake laced with jalapenos with chocolate/wasabi icing. I saw a video elsewhere where somebody used that to get back at a food thief. That's a combo where you're really gonna feel the burn...
Just use cyanide.
I'd mix some California reaper hot sauce in the cake batter and frosting for good measure lol 😈 🌶️
@@oiltoast3723 that escalated quickly
3rd story, Parentification at it's finest, or in this case, lowest
OP is absolutely being abused by his mother and stepfather!
OP should get help from his family and take the “Parents” to court, for willingly abandoning their kids WITH a minor, neglect and using the kids’ money to support the kids for THEMSELVES!
What they’re doing IS ABUSE! Mental abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, manipulation, guilt tripping, lying and just treating OP like a slave, even ADMITTING that they NEEDED OP instead of letting him go get a job, even THREATENING to have him ARRESTED OR SENT TO A PSHYCE WARD!
What a couple of entitled, narcissistic @$$holes!
I HOPE the family takes the parents to court AND WINS!
I hope that the kids, especially OP and his brother cuts and disowns those Parents and leaves THEM alone in their final years, payback for leaving THEIR KIDS ALONE!
The first story with the Aunt, I love how OP just wrote “EA” as the aunt and my mind just came into sense and in my head i just said “EA Sports, My aunt is racist.” Like the EA Sports meme
Story #3 -- Needs to abandon the family, they're an adult and the parents are stealing money. Should try and get legal aide, a lawyer who can get back pay and ruin them, while also calling CPS and having the children removed.
OP. Stand up for yourself. And in fact, tell your parents that you're leaving and TRY anything and you'll do everything YOU can to have them arrested I.E. call CPS. Tell the whole family the story, etc.
Yes. Also, report the fraud to the IRS.
Parents who think they own their kids are the exact reason why I think people should be told and, if necessary, legally made to parent their children a certain way.
I keep asking the same question…Why am I limited to 3 dogs while “the breeder” across the street can have a new kid with every new boyfriend?
I think she has 6 kids now. My dogs go to school, are well behaved & listen to me. I only have 2 because I know the third dog makes things complicated. I’m no genius & don’t have kids, but I’m sure 6 unruly children cause more noise/chaos than 2 or 3 of my dogs.
For clarification, I'm 100% on OP's side. Parentification is wrong.
@@blair2743 Agreed.
I wouldn't recommend that because no one thinks the same way. And how a kid is raised tends to be based on the parents experiences. If you have a woman who was sexually assault as a teenager or kid. Their are multiple ways they would respond to that...some may Make their daughter go to an all girl school so she never encourages men, some tell their kid about it so they can teach their kid what to look for so and warnings so it doesn't happen to them, some may sadly just....kill their sons or attack them because "all men are evil" now in their eyes and so on. The second option wpuld be the sane thing to do. But people will do the other things too. And There would also be no way to implement such laws without the cops litterally having the right to enter your home warrent or not. And more prejudice ones to just arrest you for no reason....but OPs parents deserve to be slapped and I side with op. I have a strong feeling this is how OP's parents raised them because that's how they where raised and don't see anything wrong with it. Given that's STILL wrong but yeah💀
@@KomaedasOneTrueHope I believe people their should be a test to allow people to be parents trust me half the population would fail
That last one was borderline malicious compliance. "We're offering you one juice. If you don't want ONE juice, Then you get 0 juice, bye lady!"
Wanting what you have no right to gives you less than what you were given. I once read a fairytale about a wife who kept wanting more than the hovel she lived in. First a cottage, then a castle, then to be a king, an emperor, the Pope, and then when she wanted to control the planets, she lost everything and had to stay in the hovel.
Story 3: One of the worst kinds of parents are the ones who just toss all of their parenting responsibilities to the oldest child and not care at all about how the child feels.
You wanna lose connections with your children? That's how.
It’s literally child abandonment. The way they pulled op out of school? I’m disgusted
It's also a good way to get arrested.
Parentification is punishable by law
Gee, thanks! I've been struggling on the "Lose Child Connection" speedrun category for a while now. These tips will certainly assist!
I was the partentified child of my family. I practically raised my many siblings, myself, and really even my actual (biological) parents.
That is one of the many reasons that I have been no contact with them for more than 12 years - parentification is virtually always part of a larger pattern of abuse. Now that the COVID restrictions are starting to ease in my area, I might finally get the '10-year NC' anniversary party that I was not able to have due to the shutdowns*.
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*I agree with the reasoning behind the shutdowns and followed them more than asked of us, and will continue to follow the protocols in my area. But, like so many others, I am looking forward to the milestone party that I was not able to have at the time.
The aunt's boyfriend in the first story is a saint for dealing with that every single day.
Or he's just as bad as aunt for continuing to stay with her even through her bigotry. He wasn't even mad, just resigned.
@@gilded_lady Ya. He’s prob staying for the kid tho. Great Christian, being rude to thy neighbor and judging people when only God can judge.
I wonder why he’s still with her when she clearly hates him
No, he's insane for willingly dealing with that everyday
@@ahstiasummers5583
She clearly hates him? Where'd you get that impression?
3rd story: if op ends up on the news for skinning his parents alive............... I wouldn’t blame him one bit.
Regarding the 1st story... I never understood racism, a racist will take a die hard stand on their beliefs no matter how stupid/untrue it'll be. Racism makes you stupid.
Story 1: I always find it weird when someone is described as a devout Christian but then they are living and having a child with their boyfriend. Like isn't one huge rift between Christians and everyone else that they believe in abstinence before marriage???
The most jarring part is her not knowing her own belifs. Literally Christians, Jewish and Muslims share the same Abraham God.
Seriously its a tell tale sign that someone is Christian so they can be an asshole if they can’t even get the basics of their religion correct. I seriously believe that most of them have never touched a bible.
@@spiderace7994 Problem is, the more fundamental sects(which are gaining popularity) heavily disagree with that, and usually pick a point in the biblical calendar where only one group remained loyal to YHWH while the others followed false interpretations that smear on His name and are actually following the Devil. Antisemite Christians in particular see Jews as the enemy because they “killed our Lord, Jesus” and are awaiting the Antichrist instead.
Just recently I got into a long debate with a seemingly nondenominational Christian who despite not being racist, heavily disagreed that the God he believed in was the same as by other monotheists and that once the others saw the truth, they would convert to his doctrine.
You’d expect this with those born and bred with communal religion(like the Bible Belt) as they have no perspective of anything else, but a lot of these folks are now recent converts. This has been a frequent thing, unfortunately. Wouldn’t be surprised if that gets echoed in these comments very soon
@@spiderace7994 they don't actually share the same God. But don't take my word for it, look up the name of Allah and the name of the Christian God. They believe very similar things about their respective God but it's not the same one. Also, Islam does not have a trinity. They have a similar concept, but their holy spirit is the archangel gabriel. Not god at all
@@ADTillion any Muslim or Christian I've ever asked has said that they do not support the same God as the other. People outside of those religions however, believe they are the same God because of the antitheist movement that says if you worship one God you worship the same God as everybody else
Story 4: op next time fill one half of your birthday cake with chocolate and the other with chilli paste let him take that into work and if he complains just say "huh must have gone bad hope you didn't share it with anyone else" or something
I wouldn't be surprised if OP laced the rest of the cake with laxatives, if OP knew that the father would never listen to leave the rest of the cake alone. That would serve him right.
Or nice Carolina Reaper decors in the cake.
I have ADHD, it's kinda hurtful for the mom to say the youngest daughter has ADHD because she behaves badly as if it's a valid excuse to be a shitty person.
Story 5: "Would you like one?"
"I want them both!"
"That's not an answer. See ya!"
That was a satisfying end
that last story is literally a lesson i was taught as a child: either share or you get nothing
"Parentification". Don't say RS didn't teach you anything kids. I was today years old when I learned the name for the abuse my sibling received... As the younger sibling, I hate that my mom had to put us through this. Because of her ignorance, my sib and I have a lot of shit that's wrong with us and a lot of shit that's ruining our relationship...
As a Christian I just want to say we don't claim hateful people like the aunt in the first story. We are loving caring and welcoming to all groups regaurdless of race religion gender etc.
Edit: I meant that that they aren't really one of us because if they were they wouldn't act that way.
The aunt was most likely Catholic, not Christian.
As a Christian, we need to start claiming these people and putting our foot down about this behavior and condemn in real time. People like this sully Christianity.
@@avashnea She was prolly Evangelical.
@@avashnea Catholicism is Christianity.
No True Scotsman.
The problem with non-exclusive organisations is that you don't get to declare someone as unaffiliated nor speak for other members of that group unless you have a certain level of hierarchical status.
Parents using the older kids as live in baby sitters for a large amount of kids makes me sick, especially if the parents are always partying.
I love entitled parents stories. They make me feel vindicated on behalf of my SO who has terrible parents
Are you able to elaborate? I understand if you can't I'm mostly just curious.
@@snoworveins1212 my partners mom has been in a series of abusive relationships in which the guy abused my partner and their mom. The most recent guy steals all their moms money for cigarettes and alcohol leaving their youngest sibling with very little to eat. And through all of this their mom tends to think that she didnt do anything wrong even though she's neglectful and hoards animals. And this is the vague version of events too.
They make me appreciate my parents even more. Sure they made mistakes but never like these people.
What? I have diagnosed Asperger's and I get treated like trash by my parents in that department! They basically say I should just clench my teeth and act as normal as I can while I can't be normal due to Asperger's! They say I'm being rude by acting distant at gatherings/when greeting family. I'm sorry but that's just how my character is! I'm not insulting you, so I don't get why you feel insulted dad! If I don't greet my relatives with a full on show it doesn't mean that I'm not happy to see them or that I don't love them. I'm just not wired like that. I'm not wired to be happy and cheery all the time. Sometimes I am for the stupidest things but usually I'm not in the relationship department. And they fail to see that. I also believe firmly I have ADHD since being a kid (because of reoccurring patterns in my behaviour) and all I've heard my parents say is to try and fix it myself. I would feel a ton more comfortable if I had an explanation to my weird being. And I've been trying to make my therapist go in that direction. Of course I don't want to go and ask her if I have this or that because it's not my businnes. But anyway. These parents are literal garbage. Because most people fail to recognize mental health issues and instead they capitalize on it. I wish I could say it's my Asperger's doing things but mom would say it's not a valid excuse. And that nobody cares or nobody would want a worker like me blaming herself over her syndrome. The problem is it does go that way. When you're wired to behave a certain way there's really no other explanations for why you do things. But I also believe you need to take full accountability for your actions too. So I agree with op on that one.
I have been told I am rude too by my mother. I totally understand how you feel. I am also on the spectrum.
I have PTSD so I seem insulting to people at times when I'm anxious or triggered and I can't even tell I'm being rude. Not the same root cause, but I feel your pain.
Those survivor checks are solely for the child and are for a certain amount of years. The parents are literally stealing those checks from their own kid. Totally illegal.
I know what op from story 3 is going through, being forced to take care of my siblings. When I fought back for my treatment I would be threaten with police, mental wards, being blocked off from the world, etc, etc. I am 17, I'll be 18 in a few months and I am leaving when I turn 18.
How are you doing now?
The 3rd story reminds me of this one story where this one lady stole her adult daughter's car and thought "I AM YOUR MOTHER" was a solid defense. What a nut.
I usually don’t tell this story because it’s extremely hard and extreme. But basically, I knew someone who was about my age maybe slightly older, and a while ago, and around the time they were 15, maybe 16? they m-rdered their mother because of all the abuse/parentification/general toxicity. She threatened to do some extremely awful things to them, and they finally snapped. They got a kitchen kn*fe, the rest is history. They went to juvenile detention, and idk where they are now but yea this is one of those things that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forget. Idk if it was on the news, it probably was. I don’t really want to look it up to find out at this point tbh. Brisbane Australia around 2016-2017, maybe 2015 but probably not that early. But yea, it’s pretty scary that this person was so happy and bubbly, I hate to imagine what could’ve been going on after she went home every day. Be kind to your kids y’all
Story 1-true Christians DO NOT behave or feel the way the aunt does True Christians show patience and understanding and love. Being a jerk does NOT incite others to listen or want to be around you
Ain't that the truth. Professing Christians like her give the rest of us a bad name.
Exactly.
I’m not a Christian but feel horrible when Christians act like this. I know they make other Christians look bad. Karens come in all colors, flavors & religions.
Regardless, Rslash doesn't have a right to preach Islamic ideology on his channel. Ella existed before Muhammad as an Arabian god with zero connection to Jews or Christians. There is no jewer Christian of Muhammad's time who considered Ella to be the same God as they worshiped. This idiot is literally preaching Muslim ideology on his channel. Christians and Jews do not worship the desert moon god, who by Muhammad's own words was the best at deception. (Ie the god of lies.)
No True Scotsman.
The problem with non-exclusive organisations is that you don't get to declare someone as unaffiliated nor speak for other members of that group unless you have a certain level of hierarchical status.
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One thing I recommend for the kid with the overbearing/ abusive parents is to try to find a friend or family member willing to help them get a none driver's license... But not sure if they are able to make that happen...
That first story angers me so much like, the hypocrisy omg
Jesus really said "whatsoever ye would that men should to you, do ye even so to them for this is the law and the prophets" and then hung out with "sinners" like they were his friends and christians went 'oh so that means I should scream at everyone i don't agree with ok got it' like huh????
Story 3. Find a mandated reporter (easy to find them)and tell this story. Boom CPS comes in and takes the children. It would be best for them
"r/entitledparents, where a Karen gets racist."
"This just in, gravity makes things fall."
The last story about the apple juice, when the Karen said you’re wasting my time, I would have come back with: and you’re wasting oxygen, but here we are.
You know sometimes I joke about when I have kids they’ll be my slaves, but holy shit. I always just meant they’d have chores and like maybe grab me stuff sometimes. Also as a side note to what Rslash said about kids watching kids, it’s not child abuse, doing it 45 hours a week is child abuse.
A friend of mine actually has a pretty similar story to the third OP. Her mom died when she was younger, and her dad has forced her to basically raise her siblings. She's now in her early 20's and has fought tooth and nail just to be able to get a job, which is actually where she met (she worked with me for a little bit). Now she's working, but she's still been denied from getting a license, a car, or trying to move out. One key difference is that her dad never remarried. I've been over to her house, and they don't have a driveway, basically no furniture, running water is questionable, and there's even a big hole in one of the walls. I honestly don't understand how she can live like that.
"Welcome to r/entitledparents. Where a Karen gets racist."
Do you have the slightest idea how little that narrows it down?
Edit: Also, I don't think the second story was an entitled parent. I think it was just someone who was confused.
As a youngest sibling, I'm very grateful for my older sister who looked after me until I was old enough to stay home by myself. However, my mom always made sure I respected my sister and made sure my sister was rewarded with either money or privileges as payment for her time. To all older siblings who had to watch over your younger siblings, I hope your siblings know how great you are ❤
The way I see it is that the same God came down to help another civilization entirely, think of it like three great visits if you will, one for Judaism, one for Christianity, and one last visit for Islam.
Who’s to say that the Abrahamic God can’t do that? Just a thought
Well, Christianity started as just another denomination of Judaism.
They all believe in the same god. Judaism was the original religion that started the Abrahamic belief until people began to disagree with each other on different parts of the bible. Eventually, different groups separated from judaism, took the bible with them, and created the denominations for christianity and islam. They're all literally follow the same god, except just made some edits to the bible to fit their viewpoint.
@RamenBomber - that's essentially what the LDS church believe too, just that their religion was the most recent (and thus most accurate) visitation from god.
Too bad that god only ever shows himself to the prophets for their respective religions, and not everyone, so we can tell what that god actually wants from humanity instead of having to take someone at their word.
For the dad who keeps stealing cakes, just decorate them with a nice "Fuck you, Dad!" We'll see how long the theft continues.
And lace it with laxatives if he insists on stealing the cake while ignoring the message.
title story: 3 letters, simple as that. CPS. Those kids are better off to foster care anyway.
Read the update for story 3. While OP got out, they did not completely cut out their parents and are still willing to assist with babysitting and giving half their SS check to their mom. It's bittersweet in that they are working to distance themselves but still feel obligated to enable/help their parents terrible decisions. They need to completely remove themselves or I fear they'll get sucked back in and never truly leave.
@rSlash - my mom could have done some of this "parentification" line for line. I was 14 when she first threatened to institutionalize me. I was sleeping maybe 3-4 hours a night and through some of my school day because... it was safer than home, at least. And I had less work. I've worked since I was maybe 8-9. You CAN leave at 18. I was out at 17 for being *so bold* that I was the first female to graduate high school (with a real diploma! Not a GED!) But she still refused to sign college FAFSA papers because I would leave and not pay her bills and babysit all the time. I never learned how to drive until some years later, so I couldn't escape. No buses in this part of town.
So... you CAN leave at 18 in the US... but no college would take me as an Independent student. None. I didn't even have the same address as her. Nope! Can't go to college without the FAFSA, can't complete the FAFSA as an independent until you "age out" (in your 20s), join the military (get blown up for maybe a chance at school! fun!) or get married (this is how I almost married an abuser who promised to help me get a degree...) SO YES TECHNICALLY, you can leave at 18. You will likely not go to college... immediately. Your parents may still try to claim you as their dependent (file for tax fraud if they do that.) Get a job. Get therapy. Not the classic image of someone who holds your hand and tells you "that's sad!" but like, REAL therapy. A good therapist lets you vent anger and also challenges destructive thoughts and gives you a potential set of coping skills and life skills. Your county may have an income-based program that no one talks about. Look up "boundary experts" like Nedra Tawwab, since therapists often give advice + resources for FREE on instagram. Your library has books to download or read for FREE for a library card. You can probably source some online, too, and take notes about what you think + your reactions.
Best of luck, if anyone who identifies with that segment ever reads this.
The third story hit really close to home for me. When my mom died I lived with cousins who got survivor benefits from the state. Those checks ended when I graduated high school and I got kicked out as soon as the money dried up. After 6 years of taking care of their kids, they were old enough to take care of themselves more and the older kid had started to take care of the other two as well. So they threw me out like used up garbage. It could have ended up really bad, but a friend's parents let me stay with them for two weeks. I was already enrolled in Jobcorps just was waiting on my date and bus ticket, since I was homeless I got expedited in.
This story came out a while ago but I feel like I want to warn OP that I feel like the parents are putting OP in a terrible position and might decide he isn't worth keeping around when the money stops especially now that the older kid has started to be parentified as well.
The first story makes me see red!!! The aunt is not a real Christian, she’s just so rude and sounds like a horrible person!
I was raised Baptist but I have pagan, atheist, leftist friends!
Hell, one of my dearest friends is Muslim and I love her like a sister!! We both bless each other in our own way and pray for each other!
@Belle - not sure why you included political affiliation when talking about religion...
Speaking as another Christian: do not No True Scotsman bad Christians. We need to take accountability for the behavior of our siblings in Christ because they sure as hell won't.
@@Starhawke_Gaming Because many Baptist denominations are strictly right-wing, and often enforce that in their congregations.
@@Starhawke_Gaming I can guess why. Ever notice how many of the crazy ones hate the left side? Chances are they hate us because we don't want a religion based government, but the founders didn't either.
@@marjoriejohnston4905 - IKR? Many politically left people are Christian. Heck, President Biden is a devout Catholic.
Faith can do strange things to people's thought process.
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Entitled Lady: "Give me the apple juice because I want them!"
Me: "Give me your wallet because I want it! No? Then eat dog doots, lady." *walks away*
7:07 he hey HEY Karen, (not op) no no. We don’t do that. Please don’t put say your hellspawn has ADHD until she properly gets diagnosed. We with ADHD are more complex than you think. If the kid has adhd, then someone else most likely has it too. It’s also genetic. Or the kid had some head damage. But regardless, you can’t blame every misbehavior on adhd. We struggle with a lot of things. Op you’re good and you gotta push back against your mom “Karen”. Also she’s gaslighting you. Please move in with other family or friends. PLEASE get out of that hellhole. It’s favoritism and child slavery and neglect... it’s a lot of things
What they also don't realize about Christmas....
90% of what we practice, comes from Pagan traditions! Especially the Pagan Tradition of Yule!
“Our next Reddit post is from LookAtMyNipple.”
W h a t
People have weird usernames. Some that he’s read made me do a double take. I’ve got adhd so I focus in on unusual words lol
For real! I was eating lunch and just hit play on rSlash and as soon as he said "look at my nipple" I had to pause and go look to see if I heard what I thought I had heard
I love when people post serious things from stupid usernames LOL
Tumblr was full of that shit but Reddit is a goldmine of its own right too
rslash reading usernames is part of the reason he's king
The irony that he has a Muslim dad and girlfriend. Aren't Muslims like the opposite of free the nipple feminists?
About the Christmas part, jokes on you we don’t have to break the bank every December.
I bet that woman has problems with Jews for the same reason.
@@epsilon-eleven Chanukah aka 8 days of gifts
They don’t have to listen to annoying Christmas songs on repeat either.
@@audreym3908 At least you’re not breaking the bank for one solitary day.
@@mask938 *flashback from working retail*
Op from the third story is moving, I googled the story. They said they're going to message again when they have time.
Ok dude you are awesome at basically taking someone else's story and sharing them and also making the Karen's sound so accurate
Story 3
Mom in this story reminds me of my father and how he essentially began turning me into a mini-parent for my siblings when I was 8 years old simply because I was the eldest child. OP needs to use any legal means to get away from their mom.
Super, i kept refreshing the page gotta get the rSlash dose😅
Same😂
OP in the third story needs to call CPS like yesterday
I'm Christian and during my 10th grade year, we learned about Christianity, Judaism, and Islam. We were taught that all 3 shared the same God. I told someone at my church this and she had said that the God Christians believe in and the God Muslims believed in were different.
That's because certain Pharisees who call themselves Christian believe weird conspiracy theories and fairytales over facts.
I am not sure about that, but at the very least the patriarch Abraham of those 3 religions are the same.
@@midknight3350 - This is the ONLY way Muslims and Christians are in the same pool. If you study what Islam teaches about the nature of God as compared to what Judaism and Christianity teach about the nature of God, IT IS NOT THE SAME. Indeed, what divides Judaism from Christianity is that Judaism does not accept that Jesus is the Son of God or "God incarnate." Muslims only regard Jesus as a prophet, but he can't be accepted as the Son of God. So, again, it isn't the same.
@@qdllc passionate much? And yes, I agree with all that.
@@qdllc - I'm just sitting here with popcorn watching this discussion...
What does it look like from the outside?
Like children arguing about which of their imaginary friends is the strongest.
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To op from the parentification story, call child protective services get the police and lawyers involved don’t let them control you with guilt
A religious person hating other religious people is so weird to me.. my imaginary friends are better than your imaginary friends
I just love it how atheist always prove how intolerant and hateful they are. While trying to prove they are better than everyone else. As you stand on the bones of the hundreds of millions of people killed in the name of atheist governments.
@@melodyharpole8272 really? Reglion has killed just as many if not more let's not forget the crusades and the holocaust for that matter check yourself. They weren't even saying they were better they literally just said that it's crazy that some religious people can't play well with others
@@deezvidz218 not since religious atheism has come out. In the time frame of religious atheism, atheism has killed a lot more than all other religions combined. We're literally looking at hundreds of millions of people killed in the name of atheist governments. These aren't governments that simply agreed to not to have religion. They were ideologically and religiously atheist. Where people weren't allowed to have any belief system beyond the belief that there is no God.
Here's the thing, man. People will always hate other people, especially if they aren't in the same group. I'm also atheist, but I understand the importance of religion in people's lives. It's one thing to be atheist or theist, it's another to be an annoyance and shove it in people's faces.
@@deezvidz218
I think that if you add up the numbers, what's actually killed the most people is private enterprise by paywalling medical care and food.
Or we could look at Colonialism and how it lead to the death of roughly one billion people in India over the course of 100 years. (That's just India, it's also racked up really big numbers in other places)
All in all, I think at the root of all of this is the concept of authoritarianism.
One group feels superior to another and hurts them by abusing power they have over them. Religion is a good excuse, but its far from the only one.
Its shocking that I used to live the same story as the third story. I had to find a therapist on my own, and they helped me take my life insurance money and leave. My family cant find me anymore, but I often have dreams where they brought me back. Its rough, but if I can do it then so can OP. You're more equipped to live without them than you'll ever realize.
I do want to point out for Rslash’s sake, the Christian God and Muslim God are very different Gods.
13:06 bake a cake randomly and put laxatives in it he will never steal your cake again
His coworkers don't deserve laxatives. If you're gonna punish a food thief that shares with blissfully unaware friends, be tame about it
@@lazyryan3766 nah if he shares then it will ruin his reputation and he will be even more cautious about taking food that isn’t his
Hungover from St Patricks day so this video is a great hangover cure lol
(Note to r/slash: If you wanna read this on your channel, you have my full permission lol my life has quite a lot of juicy stories that I am a complete open book about and it might help someone else who is in a similar situation that I was in 💖)
I lived with a family that had the mom’s sister living there too with her husband and kids so there were over 12 of us living in a house and a trailer in the backyard. This was my sophomore and junior year of high school. They were verbally and mentally abusive and I was forced to watch 10 kids ranging from infant to 8th grade all by myself. Bathe the young ones, help them all with homework, feed them, do the girls’ hair before bed and even in the morning for school. I did all this while trying to take care of myself and go to school. I didn’t have any schooling from 4th to freshman year so I ended up doing the last 5 months of what would’ve been my freshman year in 8th grade just to prep me. That being said, I have a hard time with math especially. I would go to school completely exhausted, listen to the teachers as much as I could, then I would have to go back home and take care of everyone, teach myself the homework then do the homework which I never was able to get done with the little time I had. I was a single mom basically (minus the paying bills but they held that over my head) to 10 kids as a 16 year old. They ended up kicking me out because they gave me the ultimatum of getting my ged, quitting school a year early (Or what would’ve been when I should’ve graduated due to the 5 months thing) and getting job or finishing my last year naturally and get kicked out. I chose to not be under their thumb so I left and moved back in with my parents whom I hadn’t lived with since freshman year because they couldn’t afford to take care of us kids. (two grown up and me and my other sister lived with her friend’s family my freshman year, her senior year) Living with my parents again had their own problems, one I could write another post over but my mom did care and love me so that was nice. I’ve been house hopping/homeless/home insecure since 2011 and I have encountered a lot of entitled parents who took advantage of my situation to bully me. I now am diagnosed with depression, anxiety, adhd and PTSD and i’m still working through it all. I’m back with my mom and we are both at my aunt’s house (her sister) and while it’s not a permanent thing, it’s the best living situation I’ve had in a long time. And I get to live with someone (my mom) who honestly loves me without condition in a world where my existence was only worth something if I could be exploited. I don’t plan on ever having kids because I have been a mom enough to more than just those 10 kids. That family alone shaped my life and caused so much trauma.
Moral of the story: Parents, even if they aren’t your own can be entitled. There is nothing you can do to stop that. However, always know that your worth is not determined by how useful you are to other people. I am still working through that and actively trying to rewire my brain from all the abuse but know that you are worth it and you deserve more than just the bare minimum.
Sounds like the parents could afford to the house they just don't want to give up spending their own pay on luxuries
I have an ADHD Diagnosis, and I work one full time and one part time job where I work a combined 50+ hours weakly. If your raised right and are taught the right tools, ADHD isn't a huge problem.
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Story 4 call CPS when your parents are gone
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Side note for children whose parents keep their legal documents from them; it is possible to get copies reissued to you in the case they were lost or stolen. Social security is harder than the birth certificate, but it's still possible. That being said, if OPs parents are this unhinged, then he needs to be on the lookout for them stealing his idenitity and opening credit cards or taking out loans in his name.
@Lauren - Birth certificate can be extremely hard to get a new copy of depending on which state you were born in.
I was born in Hawaii, and when I needed a new copy of my Birth Certificate, it took them NINE MONTHS to send me a new one.
Not first
😞😑If you were first, you’d be at the bottom. So it’s a good thing you’re further up
OP 3: record EVERYTHING. The way they talk to you, they way they treat your siblings, their dismissals, their threats.
Record their assets, the property, the expensive items.
Turn it all into a nice document of their neglect and hate.
When you do escape, send it to CPS and your entire extended family.
You siblings deserve better. You deserve better.
Your parents are monsters, let them endure the consequences of their deeds.
imagine taking religions seriously nowadays.
OP in the birthday cake story should make a cake, but spike it with SUPER hot peppers or laxatives, then wait until the “co worker” takes it before saying “Hope you enjoy that cake, I made it EXTRA SPECIAL.”
UWU
Man, the babysitting thing. Sure, there was a sleugh of other bullshit, but i didnt even have the state of mind to handle a month and a half of unpaid child care labor.
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The “Apple Juice Karen” story is so ridiculous. Yelled at over Apple juice. APPPLE JUICE of all things. There are some nutty people in this world.
Not the same god, sorry.
ok but the line 'He's being prepped to be the next 'me'" is literally. so sad like. i feel that. my parents consistently over my years warned me of 'becoming my big sister' (She's DISABLED and ABUSED) and now that i'm also disabled and not good at much my parents warn my siblings about not 'being like me' and it Hurts really bad. Learning that ur parents stop liking u after a certain point
I literally feel for them so much; I can't leave as easy as they could, but my parents literally did the same thing (forcing US to raise THEIR KIDS, i was literally 12 helping my big sister care for our newborn sister bc mom never wanted to, my big sis raised us more then my parents ever did)
Dear OP who’s parents used ADHD as an excuse. I was just laying in my room listening to your story and as soon as I heard your parents use ADHD as an excuse for the reason your youngest sibling acts up I sat straight up. My parents say the same thing to me at least once a month regarding my younger sibling. I was raised to be the “perfect child” and learned to make my bed every morning at 5 years old and to do this and do that but now my brother is 16 years old, still doesn’t know how to make his bed, steals things, lies, does horribly in school, all because “he has ADHD”. I have been telling her for years ADHD isn’t an excuse for everything, you just don’t want to parent. So lovely OP just know you are not alone. I see you, I hear you, and I feel your pain.
Fourth story: I think the solution is when the excuse for a father is whining about the work that someone else is doing (why is *he* finding it stressful when he's not even doing it? The heck is wrong with that guy?), is to go over to him and talk to him as if he was a literal baby: soft high-pitched voice, baby talk and all. "Whazzah mazzah? Whazzah mazzah? You seepy? You need a nappy? You want you bubbah?" If you've been around parents with literal infants, you know the kind of talk I mean.
3rd story... That was my father and stepmother. I was working, in school and when I wasn't doing either of those things they'd hand me my baby brother then leave and not come home for hours. When I had days off I was woken up at 7am handed my baby brother and I wouldn't see my parents until damn near midnight. (Side note they left me to babysit so they could go bar hopping. They came home drunk every single time).... They also expected me to use my work paycheck to pay for my baby brothers things like diapers, clothes, toys. I was also expected to pay for house repairs. One year I also had to buy all the christmas decorations. Eventually my stepmother threw me out because she found out I was talking to my birth mother. It took her 3 days to ask where the hell I was and if I was coming home. Me, honestly baffled because she seemed to forget she threw me out. I have not spoken to either of them in nealry 5 years now.
Oh, man… that kid with the narcissistic parents… that’s basically my husband. He lost his mom at around the age of 3, lived with an abusive step-mom for nearly 10 years, then watched a messy and violent divorce when his father decided to marry his ex-wife’s hairdresser. They minimized both his wants and needs, blamed him for things (she claimed she got pregnant because my husband had poked holes in their condoms with a pin), made him run errands and babysit… he even had the cops show up to arrest him at 16 for not paying a ticket on expired registration for his dad’s car, even though he’d been running errands at the time and his dad had promised to take care of it. One long parade of neglect, blame, and putting their wants first. And they’re one of those “we don’t bring up drama around the family, now gather around for a group photo” types of families. And then guilt trips if you don’t visit and promises of “I’ll send you some money for your birthday” (my husband always told him not to) which never arrived. It’s all about getting what they want but never being expected to feel guilty about it. Zero ownership but he was still expected to play good son.
At 18, he applied to college but there was a blow up before that because he wanted to move out to attend. So he just up and left, went to stay with his brother hours away and finally ended up in California with his aunt, where’s he’s worked his way up to IT Director in a large corporation, without a degree. He finally fully cut off contact with family just five years ago, maybe, when he had yet another empty, generic phone conversation with his dad and he said he’d send money for his birthday. After being asked not to. And it didn’t come. The years of lies, from promises to attend campouts or choir recitals right up to the inevitable birthday money, he just finally said, screw it. And he just doesn’t answer anymore. Doesn’t even listen to voicemails at this point. And something in me says we shouldn’t cut off family cold; we should just keep a barrier for the ones who hurt us, set boundaries. But I also don’t blame him.
Third story, I feel for that when I was 12, and my sister had a kid with 16, for my nephew, my mother basically wanted me to be his mother. I decided that I didn't want to do that when I was 16, then she kicked me out. I got out of school and went to live with my bf, and I'm still feeling the consequences here with 27. My mother told me to come back when I was like 18, but I had to take care of my nephew, I had no where to go so I did, when I was 25 I started uni, and my mother told my nephew would move out, but he didnt, and he never lets me sleep, I can't study well bc he shouts all day while playing fortnite... And yesterday my mother told me she wants me out in december and that she did this all on purpose because I need to suffer for not wanting to "help" with my nephew.
My life is ruined, I have no where to go, a lot of failed subjects in uni that I can't pay for redo, and jobs are super hard to find in my country because of covid.
Ugh sometimes I think my only way out is being dead, because it seems I was only alive to take care of that boy until he is 18, which is next year.
If you’re 18, call the police and tell them that you’re safe and chose to leave on your own. You can also ask that they do not disclose your location to anyone who asks. That way if someone reports you as a runaway or missing, the police will have you saying that you’re safe and don’t want anyone knowing where you are on file.
Someone needs to call CPS on the 3rd story's parents. Like yesterday. If OP leaves, the next oldest is gonna be trapped like he was. Those kids need help.
8:00 I hope OP calls social services about his parents pulling him out of school and dumping his siblings on him 24/7.
Bacon-Wrapped Jalapeño Chicken.
Ingredients:
2 boneless skinless chicken breasts
4-6 strips of naturally hardwood smoked bacon
1 jalapeño
2 eggs
Butter for cooking
Salt and pepper to taste
Instructions:
Preparation:
Preheat your oven to 375°F (190°C).
Clean the chicken breasts and pat them dry.
Slice the jalapeño in half lengthwise, and remove the seeds and membranes. If you want it spicier, you can leave some seeds in.
Egg Wash:
Crack the two eggs into a bowl and beat them until well mixed.
Assemble:
Place a jalapeño half (or a smaller slice if it's a big jalapeño) on top of each chicken breast.
Carefully wrap each chicken breast with bacon strips. Depending on the size of the chicken breasts, you might need 2-3 strips per breast. The bacon not only adds flavor but helps keep the chicken moist.
Cooking:
In a large oven-safe skillet or frying pan, melt the butter over medium-high heat. When the butter is hot and foamy, add the bacon-wrapped chicken breasts. Cook until the bacon is golden brown on one side, then turn to cook the other side.
After both sides are browned, transfer the skillet or pan to the preheated oven.
Bake for about 20-25 minutes, or until the chicken is fully cooked (it should have an internal temperature of 165°F or 74°C).
Serve:
Remove from the oven and let it rest for a couple of minutes.
Serve hot with your favorite side dishes.
This dish offers a delightful combination of flavors: the spicy kick of the jalapeño, the savory bacon, and the juicy chicken. Enjoy!
The OP in the 3rd story should call CPS
"Welcome to r/Entitledparents, where a Karen gets racist". Sounds like an ordinary Thursday to me.
To the cake-maker; make a terrible cake, take one slice and bury it in the backyard. Let father take the bad cake to share with his friends. The trauma and embarrassment might deter him from trying that again. If this fails, get yourself a mini fridge and keep your cakes locked in your room