Kudos to you for taking the effort and time to educate yourself to be able to understand and help your daughter better. I wish you and your daughter all the best
same. didn't know about the bleaching until it came up randomly in a conversation with some friends. and it was a male friend that mentioned it because he loves knowledge in its many forms.
I just learned about it now through this video! And will turn 32 in about a month! I never worried about it luckily. But now I at least know it is totally normal! Or in case it wouldn’t have been normal, I knew to go to my doctor about it. Same goes for other things we learn here from MDJ! And not only is there need for better sexual health education in the US. I am from the Netherlands! Didn’t know this either. And never learned about things like spotting (for example) either. Most of these things I just have conversations with female friends and sometimes they know it when I don’t, or the other way around. If we both don’t know it, we look it up, or ask other female friends! At least I’m glad to have MDJ around over here! Like just now with this video I learned about the bleaching thing! So if a friend asks me this, I know the answer ☺️. Grateful for MDJ! 🙌
I grew up in Juneau, Alaska, and I literally had ONE MONTH (of once a week, one hour classes) in middle school, and they didn't teach us anything but about STDs.
@@Keeperoffyre I love that your male friend likes to learn about many things, even things like this! So many men feel disgusted by the topic of menstruation, or just things vagina’s do!
I thought I was weird for having discolored underwear... Growing up, my mom used to say that I didn’t wash up properly that’s why my underwear got in such state... Years later I’m finding this video and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one and that it’s normal and healthy ☺️ Thank you so much for this video!! 💜
My grandmother was a nurse. She didn't use this term, but she taught me about the vagina being self-cleaning. She said, "You take care of the outside. The inside will take care of itself." Much love to Grandma, born in 1910.
@@cimbaerly She was. That side of my family is Quaker going way back, and it showed in who she was: very interested in social justice, anti war, progressive, open minded. She was also amazing when I came out to her, and would actually ask how my girlfriend was doing.
Don’t be afraid I make my husband of ten years watch stuff like this cuz we now have a daughter. And be honest guys just don’t know that they should know this stuff
As a single mom of a son I fully understand Because i wish there was a tutorial on how to teach your son to pee standing lmao Edit: thanks for all the help I just wanted to add here that i was talking about outside I'm glad he sits on the toilet lol
@@calycalyps0 I have a dad and my brother always peed sitting down xD he doesn't have to aim and that way and it doesn't sound like a freaking waterfall.
My own mother SHAMED me for the regular discharge I had outside of my period. It IS something that is totally normal, but because its not something she personally experienced, she told me I was dirty. If I had heard this information at 11 and not at 30 when I finally had the courage to talk to an OBGYN about it life would have been very different
I have asked a few friends how on earth they can go without wearing panties under a dress or something. They don't have discharge. Imagine an average woman sitting down in a dress without panties. Might have a moist spot on the back when ya stand up. Also, wearing jeans with no panties would only work for someone without loose lips. 😊 Oww for the rest of women.
@@Theintrovertednow If she doesn't experience it (the amount varies greatly), and, as was common for her generation, these things were not talked about, she may well be ignorant about it. Still could have made an effort to find out instead of shaming out of ignorance, though.
I was just telling my grandmother about the discharge and she was telling me it was not normal because she used to be a woman's health expert in the 70s through 90s. I tried telling her about what Mama Doctor Jones and she didn't believed her and wanted to give her a piece of her mind. My dad had told me to take what my grandmother says with a grain of salt.
Yes but honestly they need to educate everyone about menstration and what's normal. I'm trans so experiance it but it always shock me how little cis men know about afab anatomy.
Yes! I learned nothing about my body in the ONE health class I had in elementary school. Never again did I have a health class. So I am still learning what is normal and what isn't. When I first got my period I thought I was dying! So....yeah education should be a thing.
Note to parents: please warn your child that brown blood/discharge can be normal with their cycle! I completely forgot that part and when it happened to my daughter she was worried. Learn from my mistakes!
Yeah the first time I had it happen I was in college and so my mom wasn't around to ask and I was scared. Definitely something to remember to tell your daughter when she's young!
Also that you could skip a period without being pregnant. I was 14 and had an absolute breakdown cause I hadn’t had a period in 3 months. Between stress and thyroid issues that weren’t diagnosed until I was 24, now I know that it’s normal for my body 😅 Now I’m on the pill so thankfully I have a consistent cycle
@@mandymagnolia1966 I did remember to cover that before they got there. My oldest did have that happen in the beginning but it seems to have regulated now. They both have tracking apps!
@@mandymagnolia1966 oh no that is so sad. Poor 14 year old you. this happened to me also but I was a lot older. I didn't get my period till I was 16 or 17 (I can't remember) and mine like to show up for 3 months and then be gone for 3 months. This continued until I was 18 and I finally went on birth control and then it was normal from there on out. Except for now 15 years later it decides to not show up at all so I'm back to the same spot but whatever
@@UlexiteTVStoneLexite God I was a mess 🤣 I was sobbing to my mother and she just looked at me and asked if I had had sex. When I said no she laughed and said “you’re not pregnant, you can skip your period”
This is BLEACHING!!? I thought they were stains that just never came out. I was like "yeah, kinda nasty, but I'm not about to throw out my perfectly good underwear for this"
My grandmother and I never discussed my body. I am blind, completely so. She was very, uh, not kind. When I got my period for the first time. She literally made me wear diapers. So learning that I'm not a dirty sl*t for having vaginal discharge is a huge relief. I thought it meant I had some kind of disease or something. Thank you.
Didn't think menstruation would be considered that when I had my first period my grandma explained it's a sign I'm growing up and becoming a woman that it will happen a few days a month till I'm between 45 to 50 and I hope your doing better now days
Oh dear, I am so sorry you were treated that way. I hope you can heal and be comfortable with your awesome body. I hope you have kinder people around now.
They really need to be talking about this in school. It's important to learn about this at a young age. It would help a lot of people and could save girls from quite a few awkward conversations.
Honestly I think it is the parents responsibility. I just wish my mother had told me about periods. I was 11 and at school when I started bleeding and was scared. I thought I had hurt myself. Thankfully a lady teacher came into the girls bathroom and explained what was happening and helped me out. I was clueless thanks to my mother not being much of a mother and preparing me for it.
@@matchabug9204 no it's not school is where you learn they can learn there if they want parents to teach them then why send kids to school at all so they can learn shit they won't even use like geography school is supposed to prepare children for adult life education wise all parents are supposed to do is teach morals
Happy to see dads with daughters commenting here. Nice to see men interested to learn about female body to understand what women face on daily basis. Kudos to all conscious dads out there!
I remember getting freaked out when my underwear starting getting lighter from vaginal bleaching. Then I had my first girlfriend and was told by my dentist. "Always brush your teeth after being orally intimate with a woman because the acid can break down your enamel". Thank you dentist for the awkward but informative talk.
I did not know this. Good to know. That was a dentist dedicated to oral health. You can't get your enamel back once it's lost, so as awkward as that conversation must have been, kudos to the dentist.
I just want to take time to say think you for all that you do… I am a disabled soldier with multiple military sexual assaults. Ur videos really helped me understand myself better and gave me the ability to learn in a space I feel safe. Many rape victims really struggle going to the gyno… I really appreciate your videos more then you know. You help me so much as an adult. I didn’t have the best parents growing up and talking about my body was forbidden in a sense. I’m happy I found your channel. ❤❤❤ Education is key for so many successful things especially women’s health. 🇺🇸
I was trafficked. Just know you're not alone. It does get better. There will always be bad days, but over time you will have more and more good days. I recommend EMDR and Tapping therapy. EMDR let's you process things in the background without even having to say a word by using the same eye movements used in rem sleep and Tapping helps reframe thought processes so that you feel safer doing things that are hard or that trigger you. It helped me a lot. I hope it helps you too. I wish you the best of luck on your healing journey.
My mother gave me hell for the bleached undies. One day she tried to shame me for it in front of my best friend's mom. And she was like "... that's normal tho" my mom argued that it wasn't. And I should be ashamed, Thankfully you friend's mom, for making me feel normal. And thank you Dr Jones, for confirming that.
It's only due to Tiktok that I learnt about the underwear bleaching thing. I've spent 20 years thinking I was the only person this happened to. Thanks to Gen Z for talking about it.
Yeah, I learned that it wasn't just me in my early twenties from CZcams. I told it to my mom who is a highly educated woman and she actually didn't know. It's crazy.
@@cocosiren2859 I'm not a white woman, though. It's a some women problem. I actually looked it up once, a few years ago, whether there are racial differences in acidity, and according to one study I found, black women have a slightly less acidic vagina than white women, which is great for the underwear, but not necessarily for health.
Same. I used to call it acid crotch 😂 My male gynecologist didn’t know anything about it when I asked about it I’m my teens or early 20s. I’m guessing women just didn’t talk about it much back then.
It's sad that girls aren't hearing this from their moms and or doctor's. Schools don't even wanna teach the basics and u wanna trust them to teach female biology...nope, schools will teach that once u identify as something, everyone else has to go on with that delusion to not hurt feelings and other nonsense.
To all the men coming here out of interest: you're chads and A+ dating material. I know my friend has a boyfriend who, when we talking about the period in biology class, listened intently to a degree that it was kinda odd. When I asked him about it, he said: "My girlffriend goes throigh this every single month. What kinda boyfriend would I be if I didn't know about something she expierences every month." Be like that guy. 🙏🏻🥺
Picked up feminine products on many occasions for my wife. Was never an embarrassment for me. Also had three daughters . Seen pretty much all of the process. No biggie, just a little part of life.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
Glad you mentioned that “really heavy” bleeding with clots isn’t normal. I feel like “light and “heavy” are totally subjective terms based on one’s own typical period, which could be affected by a chronic condition. At 30, I went to my GYN complaining of “fairly heavy bleeding” that was starting to affect me at work. She didn’t respond until I specified that I had started AND finished a value-pack of super-plus tampons in the space of one cycle. Most women don’t know how much they are supposed to bleed or know when to seek help unless there is a marked change.
That's also another reason why I like to use a menstrual cup, many of them include a small scale on the side, about how much one cup or half of one should be. If you track that, you can give your doctor an estimate about how much you are actually bleeding
TO ALL THE DADS HERE::: Just wanted to say you are all amazing! You are doing more for your daughters than my mother ever did for me. As a girl that had to figure everything out on my own, I can tell you your daughters will definitely appreciate it 💜
And thanks to the moms who actually put an effort into figuring this out for our daughters. The parents who actually care are who are the real heroes here ❤ and the doctors that teach them 😊
I'm in the same boat as you. My mom didn't prepare me at all for puberty -- I was just free-flowing my first 2 periods and it took another family member intervening for me to get a pack of pads and learn how to use them. Happy to see all these dads here doing right for their kids, I hope it makes for more healthy and trusting families out there!
SAME! Ive been carrying for my mid 70s mother who devoted incontinence after breaking her femur.. anyway- I've had to drop everything I'm doing in my own family's life to bring my mom continence pads bc she doesn't give me a heads up. I recently realized how frustrating it is that I'm taking much better care of her than she'd ever done for me. When I was a young teenager, I started my period and told her, she brought back a bag of pads from the store, tossed them to me on the couch, and that was the extent of menstruation care or information I ever received from her. Being ashamed and embarrassed to buy my own, I always used toilet paper, for YEARS. So when I drop everything when she crabily tells me in her guilt giving way, she's using washclothes to supplement her briefs, I finally had a chance to let her know how well she cared for me back then. (and guess who gets to wash those washcloths, yay.....) Sorry if I sound bitter, she was a pretty terrible mother to me, though my little brother was the prince 🙄... Jeez, thanks for the cheap therapy over here 😅. This lady is awesome! I love how 'matter of fact' this all is to her. It's how it should be. I never want my daughter to be ashamed of her bodily functions, and hope she'll even have a sense of pride as the lovely young lady she will be. Lord knows many of us need all the help we can get! 💖💖💖
@@hi-kt8jj I just figured that if it wasn't coming off in the washing machine, then it probably wouldn't come off in any other situation either and let it be. But it did cause me some stress like "oh no do I need to buy a different detergent or use warmer water"
same here!! I thought I was doing laundry bad/ wrong or my machines werent working. Also, I used to get HEAVY discharge where after washing it, the undies are still stiff from it...is this normal? it wouldnt come out until after 2 washes, then maybe come out. I think it just destroys the fabric
I’m so glad you added in the part about NOT bleaching. I have always had bleached underwear and known it was normal, but the last few years it stopped and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me 😂 I asked my gyno and he looked at me like I had 3 heads.
Yes, me too. I've never had bleached underwear, so I wasn't aware it was a thing. I was getting a little worried when I heard about it in this video and realised I don't have it. I'm happy she added that extra bit to say it's also fine if you don't have it.
As a father with young daughters, I appreciate these videos a lot. My hope is that if they see that I'm comfortable (and knowledgeable) enough about these matters, then maybe they'll find that I can be approachable enough to discuss it with me, and not be embarrassed.
Suggest this channel, and I bet your girls will be like ,,,DADDD LOL IT WILL DEFINE OPEN UP THE COMMUNICATION LINES ,IVE ALWAYS TOLD BOTH OF MY CHEST, THEY CAN COME TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING, THAT MAY BE BOTHERSOME THEM OR IF THEY HAD A QUICK ABOUT SOMETHING ,I HAVE A GIRL AND BOY IN THERE 30S NOW BUT I WANTED THEM TO KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT ,ILL ALWAYS BE HERE TO JUSY LISTEN AND GIVE ADVISE IF THEY EVER NEEDED OR WANTED ANY ...
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
When I was a teenager my dad told me it was because my underwear wasn't washed properly and it felt weird because it was always just my underwear that had the bleaching. My sister's never had it. Then one day years later once I was an adult, I asked my Obgyn and she explained it. I just wish I knew from the beginning.
During postpartum, my discharge bleached all my underwear. It had never done that before so it was a bit alarming. But it stopped after about a year. Pregnancy changes the body in so many ways, many of which I had never heard of, nor was prepared for. Your channel helped me realize how normal many of those things were.
Hey they can be embarrassing especially if you are with a boyfriend cause they dont understand but I knew it was normal all along cause most of the ladies I know theirs are like that
Idk how to explain this to my sister, sometimes I would forget to pick my undies out of the sun so my sister would pick it up and ask me why its so dirty, I would tell her it isn't dirty I've cleaned it thoroughly with the detergent, but she wouldnt get it. She doesn't get it cuz her undies are absolutely clean, no stains at all which confuses me a lot, and for the same reason I am too shy to explain it to her
A single dad with a teenage daughter who wanted to say thank you greatly for your videos. I've taught her since a young age never to be embarrassed or afraid to talk to me about anything. If I didn't know I'd find out, hence where you come in! Today she's not shy about talking to me about anything.
Thank you for being interested in your daughter's life, its hard to have these conversations but you knowing whats happening with het does help tremendously
My gods thank you please tell men this! My hubs insists that it’s not normal to have black panties get bleached and thinks I need to go to the dr I keep telling him that it’s normal but mansplaining is a very real thing.
As a 13 year old female this was really helpful we never talked about female body’s and Virginia’s in school and only male body’s, so this was really helpful thx 😊
damn they only taught about the male parts? your school prob sucks, theres females too 🙄 glad youre able to learn now from videos, i feel bad for ppl wanting to know this stuff before the internet and could have access to this education
Legit my mother would always go on at me during puberty for my bleached undies, she was convinced I was peeing my pants and I was like no I swear it just happens. Thanks for the shame mum geez
my mom knew that it was discharge, but she always called it nasty and dirty, she always told me to put on a daily pad every day and change my panties regularly so i wouldnt get infections because of the discharge, i still dont know if the discharges can cause infections but i put on daily pads everyday because i dont like my panties getting bleached out :(
@@ilchu8167 the discharge can not cause infections, but it can be a *symptom* of an infection. Discharge is normal. You should only be worried if it suddenly changes and looks like cottage cheese, is green, or smells very bad.
As a single dad with two sons never thought i would find myself watching anything like this. But i can say i learned more way more than i ever imagined and feel empowered to answer any of their questions.
Well done sir! Imagine if one of your sons ends up in a similar situation as you....but with daughters. Or worse, their future wife doesn't know. By you teaching them proper biology now (no matter how gross they may find it) it sets the foundation for the future. Example? My uncles grew up in an area where the woman was expected to do the cooking and cleaning, and the man worked. A man cooking a full dinner by himself was unheard of. My grandma ignored that and taught all of her boys the traditionally feminine chores, and Grandpa taught the girls traditionally masculine activities; every single one of them grew up to be well rounded individuals, despite the neighborhood gossip. Fast forward X number of years, and the second oldest boy got married. Unbeknownst to him, she had no idea how to cook anything that didn't come pre-prepared. If she couldn't cook it, she just got takeout. New couples are often on tight budgets, so to keep them from starving, he wound up cooking the meals and teaching her in the process. Fast forward even more years, and now all of his kids have been taught the same set of skills he learned, and then some. He was the one to teach the girls about periods, and drive them to their first GYN appointments. He was the one to teach the boys to sew. The oldest is now living by himself, and calls home for social reasons, not panicked emergencies because his shirt popped a button or he can't cook anything besides ramen. Over half of my cousins (I'm the oldest of 28 grandkids) are pretty confident in their survival/homemaking skills...all because two people ignored the social norms and taught their children what they needed to know, and most of those children did the same. People, teach your kids non-traditional skills. Guys, it's not gay to know how to mend a hole in your shirt (or even sew it from scratch). Gals, learn to swap a flat tire and check your fluids. No, you won't be considered 'un-feminine' for it. If you already know how to do this kind of stuff, teach your friends. There's a time and a place to allow the opposite gender to swoop in and save the day, but in an emergency when there isn't someone who can around to do so, you'll wish you had learned. Educate yourself on biology on both sides so that you know what is normal, and when someone is giving you false information. Let's promote intelligence and independence rather than looking good on social media. The world would be so much better for it.
Being the son of a nurse has always had me curious to know more about how our bodies operate. Pair that with my natural curiosity and ADHD, I search out random bits of knowledge to keep my mind learning everyday. I'm always worried someone will come by and see what I am watching and think I'm a pervert 🤣 This stuff needs to be taught in schools, especially here in the states. It's important for everyone to know how their's and others' bodies function.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!
omg, I wish I had resources like this back in my day. Back when I was a kid in middle/high school I received a pretty bare bones sex-education, and turned to the internet for help answering the questions I had. Some of my earliest understandings of sexual anatomy is exclusively from Wikipedia and porn. CZcams was still in it's infancy back then and didn't have awesome educational content like this. I'm glad to have progressed past the dark ages of not knowing how to get to this kind information, but I still mourn for the younger version of myself that the adults in my life didn't see as deserving of a comprehensive sex-education.
This is something that schools need to show cause I’m 15 and I have alway thought that this stuff was not normal and I felt uncomfortable but now that I have seen this I feel better knowing it’s normal, and a lot of other females don’t even know it’s normal and feel uncomfortable. Thank you for sharing this
@@marytc2714 I’m questioning my sexuality. I thought I was a lesbian, but I’m into some men as well. I’d say I’m pansexual. I just love the lesbian flag.
I felt very uncomfortable with that stuff all my teenage years as well... and there were sooooo many irrelevant details I was complexed about, now I cringe just thinking about how much I was focusing on that hahaha! I wish I had such a resource at that time!
Someone tell whoever is responsible for the educational programs in schools to substitute all the useless stuff we learn in our early years with these videos. Let's normalize talking about our bodies. And most importantly, let's normalize talking about the male and female sex organs.
@@defenderoffreespeechand2a794 neither did we; we took the ovarian cycle and reproduction but we never took sex organs in detail. A shame, really. This channel is a blessing.
As a retired midwife and Gynaecology nurse who specialised in women's health studies, I am deliggted to ' fall upon' this channel, educating women about the normal properties of their vagina. It still amazes me that in 2021 people continue to find the subject, even the anatomical names a taboo. Good work.
Yes! Omg I wish I had access to something like this channel waaaayyyyy back (think late 70’s) when I was entering puberty. I swear my mom, the nuns at school and even friends moms made it seem so secretive. My aunt was a nurse and answered a lot of questions but she passed away when I was about 14.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!
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Have to say, definitely could have used this video ages ago, no idea why a majority of this stuff isn't taught in sex ed. I'm 23 and for a good portion of my life after puberty, I was shamed by my own mother for having weird coloration in my underwear. I thought there was something wrong with me because I never heard my sister getting talked to like that. It wasn't until after I left at 21 and moved in with a friend, also a woman, that I wondered if it was normal. I would do both of our laundry if she was working long shifts, and I noticed the same coloration. I didn't even know what discharge was until last year. I'm an adult, married, and hoping to have kids soon, and still don't know everything about my own body. Thank goodness this channel exists!
My mom never spoke about anything to me..not even sex..all she would say was.." you better not come home pregnant!"...i kind of knew about sex ..thanks to health class in 8th grade. I waited till marriage and Now i have 3 boys and i will teach them all i can about both female and male reproduction. Thankyou❤️
Exactly the same happened with me, except she didn’t say “don’t get pregnant”... I knew nothing about my period when I got it. I got it and thought I was dying! Very straight to the point, no explanations, nothing. Shortly after that, she bought a set of books that explained everything. But, when I saw them I was afraid to read them, bc I thought I would get in trouble. I explained all the sex education to both mine children, boy & girl. I must have done a descent job, she met me on the sidewalk when I returned from town & said “ I think I got my period” I said ok, let’s go and change . She said , nope, already took care of it. So I did something right, lol .👻🍍👿
My mom was the exact same and would never tell me what sex was or even what a tampon was when I’d see them advertising them on tv, she literally wouldn’t tell me anything, I think I learned what everything was from my friends here and there. But because of that I now don’t really know how I am supposed to educate my daughters about this stuff when it’s time because I never had an example from experience of how to go about that talk☹️
@@kellyalves756 "I’m just astounded at my lack of curiosity. I had no reason to not believe it was a problem..." Incredibly relatable take of the day, right there. For better or worse, sometimes I just default to "Well, okay. I accept this. This is normal ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯"
You know, that is such a sensible way of thinking about it. If one bodily fluid (sweat) can change the colour of fabric, why not another. Huh. Well done.
As a woman, it's nice to know the WHY behind things instead of just being told "it's normal" I always wondered about the bleaching ... and even sometimes compared the smells to bleach at some times on cycle and my mom / sister would kinda just look at me like I had a 3rd eye out my forehead... but doc said "it's normal" .... now I know WHY it's normal. Thanks.
ok, not trying to be gross but just really curious... your discharge smells like bleach? Could be a lot worse. And your partners would think you really cleaned up for them!
"although about 50% of the population is in possession of a vagina" You're a literal queen, we the trans, gender fluid, questioning, and non-binary thank you 🥺💕💕
I'm a woman of a certain age who's actually finished with periods and everything that goes with them, but I'm still learning stuff from this channel.. thank you.
We seriously need to thank that girl and others who made that tik Tok, because of which we are able to talk about it today and not feel bad about our bodies
I was shamed for my underwear not being perfectly “clean” and “unblemished”. I thought that there was something incredibly wrong with me because no matter how hard I tried I just couldn’t get my dark underwear to stay dark. 😔😔😔
I thought there was something wrong with me because my period blood was always brown! Like 100% of the time for 30 years! I did have a GYN who told me I have an exceptionally long cervix for someone my height! Chemistry!
Im 13, and have always been physically “matured”. My mom explained to me that discharge was normal, but I’ve been having bleaching discharge since I was about 7 or 8, and never told my mom because I thought i thought there was something wrong with me. Only now do I realize other people experience the exact same thing, and that it’s fine.
Oh, I noticed my first discharge when I was 10 and I was soo self-conscious and insecure about that. Especially because I have a lot of discharge, so it made me feel confused. And since that day I use dailies and I still remember time when I didn't have discharges
I was just saying this to myself and I’m 32. I grew up thinking it’s abnormal because no one talks about it and they always made it sound like nothing is suppose to be in your underwear. It wasn’t until my late teens, early 20s that I realized it’s normal. Good that you’re learning this early on.
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The other thing that nobody ever talks about is how discharge happens as young as like 7 years old. I started getting discharge at around that age and I would stuff my underwear with tissue which led to many yeast infections and uncomfortable days at school.
Also nobody talks about the discharge you get when you’re ovulating, you know when it is like egg white. I used to think something was wrong with me for that but it’s completely normal also!!
I'm 25 and I always thought something was wrong with me because of my "bleached undies". You have helped me so much with this! I'm so glad I found this video! I use to excessively clean myself because I thought I was dirty or something. Literally everyone should watch your videos! Thank you so much!
This woman's approach is magnificent! As a teacher, I wish there were so many more people out there happy to discuss our 'icky bits' in such a fun, forthright manner that doesn't insult our intelligence.
Huh. So that explains why literally every single pair of underwear I own has spots in it that are lighter. Yes, even my light colored ones. Every single pair.
@@thepunisherplayz it could also just be the discharge staining. I’ve never thought of it as bleaching, and my undies look nothing like that girls. I just get spot stains from discharge and obviously blood
@@BladeX11883 bruh for real!! Fruit of the loom 8 packs are where it’s at. If you can find your preferred style, there’s no reason to buy expensive underwear again! I used to think of them as child and “granny” panties but now I only keep a small collection of “fancy” undies.
I’m a dude and I also experience the “is this strange” stuff. Was 18 when my pee came out with a split stream and it freaked me tf out, fortunately found out that was normal
@@kayleighbrown459 probably because a bit of semen or mucus has exuded out of the penis after intercourse or maybe just sexual arousal, and then it's dried on the outside, across the opening. It can be very annoying when you're trying to point the stream at the right place at a urinal or toilet, and the urine suddenly comes out sideways or in two streams for a split second. Worse, it's never the same twice, lol.
When I was in high school, we did have to do a mandatory health class, but they never went over something like this. They taught the organs of both male and female and moved on. I didn't know why any of these things happen (because they do to me) and was embarrassed. Thank you for helping with teaching.
YES !! this is exactly what my “sex ed” lesson consisted of! like they forgot the whole part of sex, then just moved on. however they did teach us about periods (to an extent, literally only the basic “blood comes from here to prepare for baby, etc etc) but they didn’t teach the boys. the boys learned about condoms, which, yea, great, but both of these things are things that everyone needs to know. to sum it up, the education system sucks when it comes to sex education, and it left me confused and scared with many questions unanswered as a little girl with no female role model close in my life.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!
@@tarshagraham7099 Yes. Just how acidic are our vaginas?? And should we responsibly allow someone else to put their body parts into them? (I'm saying yes, but have to play the devil's advocate.) lol
Omg the first time I had a blood clot when I went to the bathroom I thought i was dying!My mom (who is a nurse) quickly reassured me that it was normal but we need to educate young girls about this kinda stuff to avoid unnecessary stress and anxiety. Thanks so much for putting out good educational content! 💜
After you have a baby, they tell you that it’s normal to have blood clots the size of a *LIME* for couple weeks after. Since then, period clots are like no big deal. 😆
My daughter is 11 and I’ve been talking to her about getting her period since she was 9. I’m just very matter of fact about it. I explained everything to her because she was developing and I knew it would happen fairly early. I also know she is terrified of blood and I didn’t want her to freak out about it. She got her first one in March and because I’ve talked to her, she didn’t get upset. She was able to come to me without embarrassment. I did that because when I was growing up, it was like a taboo subject and I felt gross and embarrassed. No girl should have to feel this way about a completely normal body function.
@@charlottesmom I hear you girlfriend! I was toughing menopause out until I eventually passed what looked like it could have been half my liver...figured time to buck up and see the GYN. I was 58 and still having periods...needless to say I was famous at the office that day. They did a d&c, and that solved everything. I was kicking myself for not going sooner....what a relief!
@@queenbunnyfoofoo6112 , Ugh!! So glad you got it taken care of, that must have been a heck of a scare! Menopause sure was a heck of a ride, I went through it early-ish (54 now and completely done) it was luckily fairly issue free.
All the dad's on here thanking her warms my heart. My dad has always been fine with me talking about my periods, cramps etc and him not blinking an eye when I get him to go get my liners/pads etc. It's great to see dads wanting to learn more especially from a credible source! He'd even looked at the tissue that I passed just to make sure I was ok my mom was positive it was from endometriosis but we wanted to be sure and that's what it was(he's a EMT and is in medicine too that's why I went to him) .
For all the ladies...did y’all hate when you were in class and you were on your period and when you stood up it felt like a gush of blood came out? Just me? Lol 😂 I hated that in middle school! Thank goodness I discovered tampons!
@@wartanabadanooh7157 Nah they're easy and once theyre in, you dont feel them as much as a pad imo. Many people just wear them to bed or on high activity days. Whenever you think you'll be moving/rolling around for long periods. You can swim with them in too
@@wartanabadanooh7157 I once got traumatized by them, but not for the reason you might think. I put the damn thing in wrong and it was NOT a great size for me. Ouch. Just make sure you relax and get the right fit, then you’ll be just fine.
Even though I may not be a woman, I have learned a lot from this video and I’m sure that this knowledge would be very beneficial to pursue a career in the medical field(particularly family medicine). Thank you, MDJ, huge fan btw!
I love how she explains everything simply, but also makes it known that she knows the medical terms. I also love how I don't feel uncomfortable listening to this, because she says it all in such a natural way, that most people in real life wouldn't
I just realized a couple years ago that the clitoris is a big organ with legs stretching back into the body. Medical science typically doesn't give a crap about women's bodies. And I also didn't realize that my undies were bleached because of the acidity of my vaginal fluids.
I don't have periods anymore since I'm over 70, however...I wish I knew this when I was younger so I wouldn't have to go through all the anxiety that I suffered from not knowing. Thank you for all the information and clarity in this sensitive subject.
Hello Maggie i hope my comments didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comments tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comments section but i feel you deserve this compliment. If you don't mind can we be friends? God bless and thank you.
Husband and I didn't live together until the night after we were married. Early on, I was doing my night stretch/ handstands routine. Afterwards, I queefed, and I had to explain what that was. He was like, "Vaginas can fart?!" Not exactly, but close enough
You may be amused to know that in Australia, where 'fanny' is not your bottom, but your vagina, a queef is sometimes referred to as a fanny fart. It may not be a widespread term, but I've heard it from a few different places.
I’m just gonna be straight to the point: health class is pointless. As someone who had vaginal discharge at 11 I started crying thinking I was hurt and messed up. So I searched it up, I love how that was so much more helpful then my classes or family.
Atleast nowadays girls can google stuff. At my young age that kind of information was hard to find. No need to look things up from encyclopedias anymore 😆
Oof, I feel ya. Despite only having discharges a few years after the blood sacrifices started, it was still a nightmare and shock when mine also started at 11. I mean, I didn't even look like a proper middle school girl yet, how tf was I gonna cope with the ability to get pregnant.
Nobody had educated me when, months before my 11th birthday, I came home from swimming and saw blood in my swimsuit. I was terrified. Called my mother at work and said I thought I was sick. I'll never forget the fear. Education needs to start very early for those that mature earlier than others.
67 years old and this is the first time I ever heard about bleaching of underwear as it never happened to me. This video was very informative. Thank you.
It's such a relief to know that I'm not a disgusting human being for having a bleached underwear, omg. I really thought I'm doing something wrong but was too embarrassed to even check xD thank you
I am a man and even for me it was a relief to know this! WOW!! I spent so so so many years wondering why those things happened to my then wife and I was so so so embarrassed to talk about it... WOW
I worked in a clothes shop and a lady tried to return some knickers as they’d bleached and she tried to say the fabric/dye was faulty. I tried to tell her (discretely) that it was because discharge is acidic and she looked at me like I had 3 heads. Glad I am now vindicated!
I literally thought I was the only one who had bleached spots in my underwear. I felt so uncomfortable growing up, it really made me feel like this isn't normal.
MDJ, I feel like you should create your own sex ed curriculum and allow schools to use your videos! You definitely offer what every middle school girl needs to hear! 💛
The school board in my city just ruled this video too inappropriate for a sex Ed/health class. I’m so disappointed. There is nothing in this video that 13+ year olds shouldn’t see. It’s so educational and honestly, the school system really makes people with vaginas very confused about what should or shouldn’t be happening. I wish I had this in health class, yet they choose to leave people confused. Sure you can say it’s the parents job to educate, but there are a large portions of parents who either are too awkward/conservative, are also unsure about things, or have been fed misinformation by society. I’m so glad you make these videos, but it’s just so irritating to see adults and school boards willingly shoot down scientific, important info that could really be helpful to so many. Sorry for my rant lol
Thinking about the sad time my religion textbook said discharge was a symptom of gonorhhea.. I was kinda concerned I had that even though I was a virgin(still am at 14) This was the only time it mentioned discharge MISINFORMATION DISSINFORMATION Of the textbook 🐯🧸
Omg one of my chores as a child/teen was doing the washing and I was always confused why my mother's underwear was stained/bleached. I feel really bad now asking my mum why all her underwear was ruined, and she kept saying it was bleach... And I only put two and two together now. I think that vagina education is something that never gets taught to boys/men and I feel like understanding the vagina is important to everyone.
I'm helping my boyfriends sister learn about her body since she doesn't have anyone else who can teach her and this channel really helps with her more difficult questions that I don't know. Thanks and keep up the good work! #vaginapositivity
That's nice that she has another female to talk to. The only people in my family I feel comfortable talking to about my lady parts are my mom and my Grandma Patty.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
THANK YOU FOR THE BROWN PERIOD THING!!!!!! I've had dark period blood since middle school and I had no idea what was going on. I have a Mirena IUD and no longer get my periods so I don't really worry about it anymore but I definitely thought something was up with the equipment up there. THANK YOU MDJ!!!
Thank you for talking about the brown blood! My friends and I have always whispered about it, wondering what was going on. I’ve asked every OB/GYN I’ve had, and none of them explained it and only one ever said “It’s normal.”
This is so normal, and most of us didn’t know about it. 🙄 BUT, if you don’t like that your undies are discoloured maybe try panty liners, or something like that.. that can help preserve the undies 😂
@@blackcatbitch a vagina tie-dye!!!! Going to remember that! Such a cool way to think of it! We can tie-dye our undies without needing any materials! Women are incredible!! 😎
Honestly that has made me feel so much better. I always thought that it was just me and it wasn't normal. I even started wearing pantyliners ALL the time to prevent it
Thank you for talking about this, I’ve been having so many questions about discharge and my body for most of my teenage years and this completely soothed all of my worries. Talks like these need to be normalized, with families and partners!
I wish my mom would have heard this but sadly, she passed away. She always made me feel so guilty for having all the things you just mentioned are normal. I think the education system fails to fully educate on this topic and people are too embarrassed to ask.
@@johnseeker9520 Even though youre saying it in a mean way... She definitely was a great and loving mother!! It wasnt her fault. Everything sexuality was taboo in her generation and even before that. It wasnt like it is today you need to understand that.
I understand! My mom is a smart lady, and a caring mom, but she was never given the opportunity to get educated about her body. Unfortunately, she handed down many of the same painful fears and misinformation about our bodies that she inherited from her mother and grandmother. I grew up thinking nearly everything about our bodies is something shameful to hide/correct- from body hair to sweating, and from going to the toilet to having dry skin and skin blemishes. She "corrected" the way I walked, focused heavily on not being overweight, and told me that one of the most embarrassing things is to be seen naked. I'm doing some learning/unlearning and she is doing a little as well. They didn't have the access that I do - to information (like these videos!), research, healthcare, product choices, etc. and the culture didn't allow for talking about it. I'm glad that I can take all that she taught me about the importance of education and caring for others, and do better for the next generation.
I was 26 when I found out that morning woods happen to everyone. I thought there was something wrong with me mechanically. Then I discovered a few years later about the bleaching underwear with my girlfriend, and it happens all the time. Why doesn't society write these unwritten rules somewhere and force everyone to read it at least once?
@@rickabodcrane2062 So true. Also, I am not insulting any religion but they be writing fat books on heaven and hell while ignoring basic issues on Earth.
@Luke Reproductive organs and their functionalities fall under science. Not every parent is educated to know a lot of things. Science is taught in schools -- not when your parents are busy working two jobs to make ends meet. Are you one of those religious zealous who doesn't want kids to get educated about their own bodies?
My dad is a British Urogynaecologist and I’m a student nurse, these topics are literally conversations had over dinner 😂😂. So this just made me laugh a lot! It baffles me the lack of knowledge the general public actually have about normal functions of our reproductive organs! Great videos, lots of love from England 🇬🇧❤️
I love your channel so much because it not only teaches me about my own body and how to properly take care of it, but it makes me feel better about myself and all of the odd things my vagina does that make me feel bad. Like the “bleaching the underwear” point, I’ve been insecure about that and worried that in the future I would be judged for that happening even though it’s normal and I’m surely not CHOOSING for it to happen. I’ve been wearing this brand new pair of underwear for a DAY and it’s already like that, it’s impressive honestly.
As a 27y/o woman who doesn’t go to the doctor nearly as much as she should, I’m happy to have found your channel! Great information, especially for those who don’t have access to it .
@@Ben-Carr ah so you're a transphobe 😏😏 please read some scientific articles and educate yourself because sex ≠ gender. Gender is socially prescribed. trans people exist and we've existed for centuries all in dozens of cultures. men can definitely have vaginas
@@Ben-Carr really just sounds like you came to this channel to invalidate people and make them have a bad day/feel bad about themselves for literally no reason. But ok, bigot
Bruh I've never had bleaching, all my black underwear looks like the day I got them 😂 Instead, my light underwear turns yellow. Turns out it's just oxidized discharge but its still kinda embarrassing cause it looks like my underwear is always dirty.
Yes! The yellowed white underwear freaked me out too. I noticed it when I was pregnant. I asked my OB about it and she said that it's normal especially in pregnancy when your ph changes.
Yup this is why I avoid white underwear. I always thought discharge was not normal, so when it got on white underwear , and then made yellowish stains it was embarrassing. I used to sometimes get bleaching on my black or other colored underwear, but really only if the panties were too tight /small in the crotch causing them to kinda go in between the labia.
I love all the supportive dads in the comments that are here to educate themselves about women's health so that they can be helpful and approachable for their daughters ❤️ you're doing great my guys
“Please don’t put any douches inside...” what if you don’t know they are a douche when you start dating?
A+ joke 🤣🤣
Thanks for the snort-laugh
Hahahahaha
ROTFL!!!
I am dying laughing hahahahahah omg
Just want to say thank you. I'm a single dad with a daughter. Your channel has helped so much.
Kudos to you for taking the effort and time to educate yourself to be able to understand and help your daughter better. I wish you and your daughter all the best
Amazing! There really need to be more dads like you who take the initiative to learn for your children.
@@wetsockfullofhotmeat thank you
@@Ryssa9548 thank you
god bless you, youre amazing!! your daughter will appreciate this
I only learned about the bleaching thing a couple months ago and I'm THIRTY THREE. We seriously need better sexual health education in the US.
same. didn't know about the bleaching until it came up randomly in a conversation with some friends. and it was a male friend that mentioned it because he loves knowledge in its many forms.
I just learned about it now through this video! And will turn 32 in about a month! I never worried about it luckily. But now I at least know it is totally normal! Or in case it wouldn’t have been normal, I knew to go to my doctor about it. Same goes for other things we learn here from MDJ!
And not only is there need for better sexual health education in the US. I am from the Netherlands! Didn’t know this either. And never learned about things like spotting (for example) either. Most of these things I just have conversations with female friends and sometimes they know it when I don’t, or the other way around. If we both don’t know it, we look it up, or ask other female friends! At least I’m glad to have MDJ around over here! Like just now with this video I learned about the bleaching thing! So if a friend asks me this, I know the answer ☺️. Grateful for MDJ! 🙌
I grew up in Juneau, Alaska, and I literally had ONE MONTH (of once a week, one hour classes) in middle school, and they didn't teach us anything but about STDs.
@@Melon_Cloud same here. Except I'm 32 in July.
@@Keeperoffyre I love that your male friend likes to learn about many things, even things like this! So many men feel disgusted by the topic of menstruation, or just things vagina’s do!
I thought I was weird for having discolored underwear...
Growing up, my mom used to say that I didn’t wash up properly that’s why my underwear got in such state...
Years later I’m finding this video and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one and that it’s normal and healthy ☺️
Thank you so much for this video!! 💜
I always thought the discoloring was from the washing machine.
My grandma too, and she’s a nurse!
@@Amber9572 oh my god that’s unbelievable! Kind of worrisome too. Show her this.
Show your mum this, maybe she needs to know there’s not something wrong with your hygiene, but her education.
@@llddausame I thought it was the washing machine ❤
My grandmother was a nurse. She didn't use this term, but she taught me about the vagina being self-cleaning. She said, "You take care of the outside. The inside will take care of itself." Much love to Grandma, born in 1910.
Aw, she must have been a great woman uwu
Perfect way to explain it! 👍
@@cimbaerly She was. That side of my family is Quaker going way back, and it showed in who she was: very interested in social justice, anti war, progressive, open minded. She was also amazing when I came out to her, and would actually ask how my girlfriend was doing.
@@tiff2106 I agree.
My Grandmother told me the same thing. Taught everything from Tampons to Condoms (Ya sex stuff was mortifying) lolo
I am over 30 years old and this is the first time I've ever heard someone actually talk about the discoloration of underwear...ty
Almost 33. Always wondered why my undies bleached out in the crotch too.
I thought there was something wrong with my vagina when I found my underwear was bleached only in the crotch!! Good to know.
SAME!
Damn, same here!
Turning 40 and this happens to me. First time hearing about it too.
Dad of a 16 yr old daughter and a husband of 20 years this was so helpful. And answered alot of questions I was afraid to ask .
Don’t be afraid I make my husband of ten years watch stuff like this cuz we now have a daughter. And be honest guys just don’t know that they should know this stuff
As a single mom of a son
I fully understand
Because i wish there was a tutorial on how to teach your son to pee standing lmao
Edit: thanks for all the help
I just wanted to add here that i was talking about outside
I'm glad he sits on the toilet lol
Never be afraid to ask, just ask outright in a respectful way.
@@calycalyps0 I have a dad and my brother always peed sitting down xD he doesn't have to aim and that way and it doesn't sound like a freaking waterfall.
@@jayxfrost8987 yeah like at home no problem but outside lol
My own mother SHAMED me for the regular discharge I had outside of my period. It IS something that is totally normal, but because its not something she personally experienced, she told me I was dirty. If I had heard this information at 11 and not at 30 when I finally had the courage to talk to an OBGYN about it life would have been very different
I'd think as a woman your mom would of known its normal any woman should it's totally normal and hope your doing okay now
I have asked a few friends how on earth they can go without wearing panties under a dress or something. They don't have discharge. Imagine an average woman sitting down in a dress without panties. Might have a moist spot on the back when ya stand up. Also, wearing jeans with no panties would only work for someone without loose lips. 😊 Oww for the rest of women.
@@Theintrovertednow If she doesn't experience it (the amount varies greatly), and, as was common for her generation, these things were not talked about, she may well be ignorant about it. Still could have made an effort to find out instead of shaming out of ignorance, though.
Yea my grandmother does the same thing
I was just telling my grandmother about the discharge and she was telling me it was not normal because she used to be a woman's health expert in the 70s through 90s. I tried telling her about what Mama Doctor Jones and she didn't believed her and wanted to give her a piece of her mind. My dad had told me to take what my grandmother says with a grain of salt.
they need to show these videos at school to educate girls on there bodies and whats normal
Yes but honestly they need to educate everyone about menstration and what's normal. I'm trans so experiance it but it always shock me how little cis men know about afab anatomy.
Everyone, as a man I find most men don't know how my body works
I agree
Yes! I learned nothing about my body in the ONE health class I had in elementary school. Never again did I have a health class. So I am still learning what is normal and what isn't. When I first got my period I thought I was dying! So....yeah education should be a thing.
Honestly, it would be less effort and more effective for sex ed if they did
Note to parents: please warn your child that brown blood/discharge can be normal with their cycle! I completely forgot that part and when it happened to my daughter she was worried. Learn from my mistakes!
Yeah the first time I had it happen I was in college and so my mom wasn't around to ask and I was scared. Definitely something to remember to tell your daughter when she's young!
Also that you could skip a period without being pregnant. I was 14 and had an absolute breakdown cause I hadn’t had a period in 3 months. Between stress and thyroid issues that weren’t diagnosed until I was 24, now I know that it’s normal for my body 😅 Now I’m on the pill so thankfully I have a consistent cycle
@@mandymagnolia1966 I did remember to cover that before they got there. My oldest did have that happen in the beginning but it seems to have regulated now. They both have tracking apps!
@@mandymagnolia1966 oh no that is so sad. Poor 14 year old you. this happened to me also but I was a lot older. I didn't get my period till I was 16 or 17 (I can't remember) and mine like to show up for 3 months and then be gone for 3 months. This continued until I was 18 and I finally went on birth control and then it was normal from there on out. Except for now 15 years later it decides to not show up at all so I'm back to the same spot but whatever
@@UlexiteTVStoneLexite God I was a mess 🤣 I was sobbing to my mother and she just looked at me and asked if I had had sex. When I said no she laughed and said “you’re not pregnant, you can skip your period”
This is BLEACHING!!? I thought they were stains that just never came out. I was like "yeah, kinda nasty, but I'm not about to throw out my perfectly good underwear for this"
Right?! I thought the same thing 😂👀 the more you know, lol
Aha that's what I thought!
I thought I was nasty too 😭😭😭 apparently I'm not.... I'm just normal 🤦🏽♀️
Since I hit my early 30s, I've been having to wear pantiliners. Great way to spare your undies from long-term damage!
Omg same
My grandmother and I never discussed my body. I am blind, completely so. She was very, uh, not kind. When I got my period for the first time. She literally made me wear diapers. So learning that I'm not a dirty sl*t for having vaginal discharge is a huge relief. I thought it meant I had some kind of disease or something. Thank you.
That´s sad that she made you do that. I hope you are better now.
Didn't think menstruation would be considered that when I had my first period my grandma explained it's a sign I'm growing up and becoming a woman that it will happen a few days a month till I'm between 45 to 50 and I hope your doing better now days
Oh dear, I am so sorry you were treated that way. I hope you can heal and be comfortable with your awesome body. I hope you have kinder people around now.
Apparently us women are just “dirty sl*ts” now for having a vagina alr damn
Why having viginal bleeding is dirty slut??. These type of people just want to control women on another level🤦🏻♀️
They really need to be talking about this in school. It's important to learn about this at a young age. It would help a lot of people and could save girls from quite a few awkward conversations.
Honestly I think it is the parents responsibility. I just wish my mother had told me about periods. I was 11 and at school when I started bleeding and was scared. I thought I had hurt myself. Thankfully a lady teacher came into the girls bathroom and explained what was happening and helped me out. I was clueless thanks to my mother not being much of a mother and preparing me for it.
@@mothermayi7832 it's not a mother's job to teach about periods they have sex ed for that
@@traviswilson1719 it is
They have talked about this at my school
@@matchabug9204 no it's not school is where you learn they can learn there if they want parents to teach them then why send kids to school at all so they can learn shit they won't even use like geography school is supposed to prepare children for adult life education wise all parents are supposed to do is teach morals
Happy to see dads with daughters commenting here. Nice to see men interested to learn about female body to understand what women face on daily basis. Kudos to all conscious dads out there!
Now we need women to learn about the male body to understand what men face on a daily basis.
@@honoriscausaband We don’t know everything yk.
@@patriotretiree903 lol as if there was something to know about. like what, how uncomfortable is to walk with that wiggling thing?
Lol....Oh really I.xtasy??? We know what that’s all about....Poor daughters
@@septleaves8521 go ahead. Enlighten me. What is it about?
I remember getting freaked out when my underwear starting getting lighter from vaginal bleaching. Then I had my first girlfriend and was told by my dentist. "Always brush your teeth after being orally intimate with a woman because the acid can break down your enamel".
Thank you dentist for the awkward but informative talk.
@@GM-jv9jz Sounds rather delightful to me
Your dentist was a prince.
@@GM-jv9jz Grow up
What a stellar dentist! I never knew that either!
I did not know this. Good to know. That was a dentist dedicated to oral health. You can't get your enamel back once it's lost, so as awkward as that conversation must have been, kudos to the dentist.
I just want to take time to say think you for all that you do… I am a disabled soldier with multiple military sexual assaults. Ur videos really helped me understand myself better and gave me the ability to learn in a space I feel safe. Many rape victims really struggle going to the gyno… I really appreciate your videos more then you know. You help me so much as an adult. I didn’t have the best parents growing up and talking about my body was forbidden in a sense. I’m happy I found your channel. ❤❤❤
Education is key for so many successful things especially women’s health. 🇺🇸
I was trafficked. Just know you're not alone. It does get better. There will always be bad days, but over time you will have more and more good days. I recommend EMDR and Tapping therapy. EMDR let's you process things in the background without even having to say a word by using the same eye movements used in rem sleep and Tapping helps reframe thought processes so that you feel safer doing things that are hard or that trigger you. It helped me a lot. I hope it helps you too. I wish you the best of luck on your healing journey.
My mother gave me hell for the bleached undies. One day she tried to shame me for it in front of my best friend's mom. And she was like "... that's normal tho" my mom argued that it wasn't. And I should be ashamed, Thankfully you friend's mom, for making me feel normal. And thank you Dr Jones, for confirming that.
That's dumb? No offense...
But why would she even waste her energy for something so little and normal
Sounds like your mom and my mom were the same person. Ugh..
That's it. I'm your mom now. You've been adopted 😂
That's awful! Surely she must of known how mortified you'd be!
That sucks. If she really thought it was abnormal, she should have been taking you to the doctor to figure out the problem, not shaming you.
It's only due to Tiktok that I learnt about the underwear bleaching thing. I've spent 20 years thinking I was the only person this happened to. Thanks to Gen Z for talking about it.
Yeah, I learned that it wasn't just me in my early twenties from CZcams. I told it to my mom who is a highly educated woman and she actually didn't know. It's crazy.
Jeeez I bled 30 years but only wore undeware with a washable pad i prefer long skirts with out panties
@@Anna133199 it doesn't happen To me. Maybe it's a wwm problem. I don't know
@@cocosiren2859 I'm not a white woman, though. It's a some women problem. I actually looked it up once, a few years ago, whether there are racial differences in acidity, and according to one study I found, black women have a slightly less acidic vagina than white women, which is great for the underwear, but not necessarily for health.
Same. I used to call it acid crotch 😂
My male gynecologist didn’t know anything about it when I asked about it I’m my teens or early 20s. I’m guessing women just didn’t talk about it much back then.
it’s really disappointing that they never teach girls this in school. you just answered so many of my questions!
they ought to teach the boys too. well informed men make better partners.
It's sad that girls aren't hearing this from their moms and or doctor's. Schools don't even wanna teach the basics and u wanna trust them to teach female biology...nope, schools will teach that once u identify as something, everyone else has to go on with that delusion to not hurt feelings and other nonsense.
Because it's disgusting. Just like pregnancy.
@@mr.b.9890 so you were transported here from another planet?
@@mr.b.9890 ok virgin
To all the men coming here out of interest: you're chads and A+ dating material.
I know my friend has a boyfriend who, when we talking about the period in biology class, listened intently to a degree that it was kinda odd. When I asked him about it, he said: "My girlffriend goes throigh this every single month. What kinda boyfriend would I be if I didn't know about something she expierences every month." Be like that guy. 🙏🏻🥺
This comment and that story are both awesome.
WTF, I can't believe that I orally stimulated a professional lady's externals in Tijuana, Mexico! Ohhh yuk ! And then told my wife about it!
Not me wanting to die every time I pass a blood clot and feel like I gave birth to a jellyfish-
I think I love you 😘
Hilarious 😆
😂😂😂😂 facts!!!
Karen nooooo 😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Who else avoids coughin or sneezing while on their periods coz of the blood that feels as though it has messed you up already when it flows?.
It sucks because pads don't soak blood that fast. But holding in a sneeze sucks even more, you can rupture your lungs.
I just try to go to the bathroom after I sneeze or cough to let it out and clean up if a clot comes up
I use tampons so I don't experience that.
@@khonkhosilelihle7414 really think of switching to tampons. Are they better than pads, especially in terms of absorption?
@@toastarkat 😃😃ikr
Picked up feminine products on many occasions for my wife. Was never an embarrassment for me. Also had three daughters . Seen pretty much all of the process. No biggie, just a little part of life.
You’re a king 👑
You are amazing
You're an awesome dude! You shouldn't be afraid to pick up feminine products for your wife.
They are grateful to have you around.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
Glad you mentioned that “really heavy” bleeding with clots isn’t normal. I feel like “light and “heavy” are totally subjective terms based on one’s own typical period, which could be affected by a chronic condition. At 30, I went to my GYN complaining of “fairly heavy bleeding” that was starting to affect me at work. She didn’t respond until I specified that I had started AND finished a value-pack of super-plus tampons in the space of one cycle. Most women don’t know how much they are supposed to bleed or know when to seek help unless there is a marked change.
That's also another reason why I like to use a menstrual cup, many of them include a small scale on the side, about how much one cup or half of one should be. If you track that, you can give your doctor an estimate about how much you are actually bleeding
Oh man, I thought big clots were supposed to be normal. My obgyn when I had one told me to suck it up.
@@ulhi7564exactly, that's why I want to buy this too
@@ulhi7564but it's sounds uncomfortable
TO ALL THE DADS HERE:::
Just wanted to say you are all amazing! You are doing more for your daughters than my mother ever did for me. As a girl that had to figure everything out on my own, I can tell you your daughters will definitely appreciate it 💜
Yes... I appreciate my dad for being there for me, and now I am 51, I intend to be there for him.
And thanks to the moms who actually put an effort into figuring this out for our daughters. The parents who actually care are who are the real heroes here ❤ and the doctors that teach them 😊
I'm in the same boat as you. My mom didn't prepare me at all for puberty -- I was just free-flowing my first 2 periods and it took another family member intervening for me to get a pack of pads and learn how to use them.
Happy to see all these dads here doing right for their kids, I hope it makes for more healthy and trusting families out there!
SAME! Ive been carrying for my mid 70s mother who devoted incontinence after breaking her femur.. anyway- I've had to drop everything I'm doing in my own family's life to bring my mom continence pads bc she doesn't give me a heads up. I recently realized how frustrating it is that I'm taking much better care of her than she'd ever done for me. When I was a young teenager, I started my period and told her, she brought back a bag of pads from the store, tossed them to me on the couch, and that was the extent of menstruation care or information I ever received from her. Being ashamed and embarrassed to buy my own, I always used toilet paper, for YEARS. So when I drop everything when she crabily tells me in her guilt giving way, she's using washclothes to supplement her briefs, I finally had a chance to let her know how well she cared for me back then. (and guess who gets to wash those washcloths, yay.....) Sorry if I sound bitter, she was a pretty terrible mother to me, though my little brother was the prince 🙄... Jeez, thanks for the cheap therapy over here 😅.
This lady is awesome! I love how 'matter of fact' this all is to her. It's how it should be. I never want my daughter to be ashamed of her bodily functions, and hope she'll even have a sense of pride as the lovely young lady she will be. Lord knows many of us need all the help we can get! 💖💖💖
Please stop praising the dad's we get it! Jeeze
What the hell, I just always thought that the underwear wasn't becoming completely clean in the washing machine
Education man
same! and i'd spend so much time trying to hand wash them in my bathtub or put extra cleaners in my washing machine
@@hi-kt8jj I just figured that if it wasn't coming off in the washing machine, then it probably wouldn't come off in any other situation either and let it be. But it did cause me some stress like "oh no do I need to buy a different detergent or use warmer water"
Same!!!
I thought the same thing too.
same here!! I thought I was doing laundry bad/ wrong or my machines werent working.
Also, I used to get HEAVY discharge where after washing it, the undies are still stiff from it...is this normal? it wouldnt come out until after 2 washes, then maybe come out.
I think it just destroys the fabric
I am 12 and this has helped me understand my body a little more... thank you
I’m so glad you little ladies have content like this to refer to. It’s a beautiful thing. Blessings to you, Young Queen❤️
@@TheyHATEmishee thanks so much!! you are so kind
Same!
same
Ay I'm a year younger and yeh
I’m so glad you added in the part about NOT bleaching. I have always had bleached underwear and known it was normal, but the last few years it stopped and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me 😂 I asked my gyno and he looked at me like I had 3 heads.
Yes, me too. I've never had bleached underwear, so I wasn't aware it was a thing. I was getting a little worried when I heard about it in this video and realised I don't have it. I'm happy she added that extra bit to say it's also fine if you don't have it.
I’ve never seen or heard of this before
I had the bleaching when I was young, but now I am premenopausal and it has stopped. So maybe she has something to do with it also.
Same, I used to have bleached underwear all the time, till I was about 21. Then it stopped. It probably has something to do with hormones,
As a father with young daughters, I appreciate these videos a lot. My hope is that if they see that I'm comfortable (and knowledgeable) enough about these matters, then maybe they'll find that I can be approachable enough to discuss it with me, and not be embarrassed.
Good job most fathers just let the mother handle that
Suggest this channel, and I bet your girls will be like ,,,DADDD LOL IT WILL DEFINE OPEN UP THE COMMUNICATION LINES ,IVE ALWAYS TOLD BOTH OF MY CHEST, THEY CAN COME TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING, THAT MAY BE BOTHERSOME THEM OR IF THEY HAD A QUICK ABOUT SOMETHING ,I HAVE A GIRL AND BOY IN THERE 30S NOW BUT I WANTED THEM TO KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT ,ILL ALWAYS BE HERE TO JUSY LISTEN AND GIVE ADVISE IF THEY EVER NEEDED OR WANTED ANY ...
As a father to a daughter, that's exactly what I thought after watching the video. 😊👍
wow- a lot of girls wouldn't be broken, do drugs, take risks with their bodies if they had a dad like you! Fantastic! Just fantastic!
Yes they most definately will. Bless you and best wishes to you and your daughters.
Open conversation about the female body in a medical way should be normalized. This is so helpful
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
When I was a teenager my dad told me it was because my underwear wasn't washed properly and it felt weird because it was always just my underwear that had the bleaching. My sister's never had it. Then one day years later once I was an adult, I asked my Obgyn and she explained it. I just wish I knew from the beginning.
Atleast it was your dad that said that. For me, it was my mom!
My sis also told me same thing, oof I clean everyday but still it was there than video quite help me
During postpartum, my discharge bleached all my underwear. It had never done that before so it was a bit alarming. But it stopped after about a year. Pregnancy changes the body in so many ways, many of which I had never heard of, nor was prepared for. Your channel helped me realize how normal many of those things were.
I'm so happy to hear a real doctor say that it's normal and okay that none of my black underwear is black in the crotch anymore
The validation is definitely a relief!
hdghu same😭
Hey they can be embarrassing especially if you are with a boyfriend cause they dont understand but I knew it was normal all along cause most of the ladies I know theirs are like that
Idk how to explain this to my sister, sometimes I would forget to pick my undies out of the sun so my sister would pick it up and ask me why its so dirty, I would tell her it isn't dirty I've cleaned it thoroughly with the detergent, but she wouldnt get it. She doesn't get it cuz her undies are absolutely clean, no stains at all which confuses me a lot, and for the same reason I am too shy to explain it to her
@@tshidimatshidiso3285 if a boyfriend doesn't understand that - even after I explained it to him - and makes me feel embarrassed for it.... OUUUUUT
A single dad with a teenage daughter who wanted to say thank you greatly for your videos. I've taught her since a young age never to be embarrassed or afraid to talk to me about anything. If I didn't know I'd find out, hence where you come in! Today she's not shy about talking to me about anything.
Good job you are a great dad
Epic dad moment
So proud! If I’m having a girl I hope my husband is the same way!
Thank you for being interested in your daughter's life, its hard to have these conversations but you knowing whats happening with het does help tremendously
💗👏👏👏
My gods thank you please tell men this! My hubs insists that it’s not normal to have black panties get bleached and thinks I need to go to the dr I keep telling him that it’s normal but mansplaining is a very real thing.
Just show him this video lol
Have you considered making him sit in the corner?
I’d ask him why he’s inspecting the crotch of my underwear lol.
@@raimeyewens7518 right??? 😶
@@raimeyewens7518 I'm amused, but honestly, maybe he notices when underwear's coming off, being put on, or when doing laundry ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯
As a 13 year old female this was really helpful we never talked about female body’s and Virginia’s in school and only male body’s, so this was really helpful thx 😊
Autocorrect did you dirty 😔
Have you learned how to make a noun plural yet? I would think they would teach that by age 13.
damn they only taught about the male parts? your school prob sucks, theres females too 🙄 glad youre able to learn now from videos, i feel bad for ppl wanting to know this stuff before the internet and could have access to this education
@@deflepprocks1
No reason to be rude about it. As long as you can understand someone, that's all that matters.
Legit my mother would always go on at me during puberty for my bleached undies, she was convinced I was peeing my pants and I was like no I swear it just happens. Thanks for the shame mum geez
I thought i was actually pissing myself for a month BUT NO IT WAS JUST MY VAGINAL BEING AN ABSOLUTE SHITHEAD
my mom knew that it was discharge, but she always called it nasty and dirty, she always told me to put on a daily pad every day and change my panties regularly so i wouldnt get infections because of the discharge, i still dont know if the discharges can cause infections but i put on daily pads everyday because i dont like my panties getting bleached out :(
OMG, same! either that, or she there was something wrong, that I should get checked out or maybe I wasn't changing my underwear daily
I get you! I learned as I grew. My mom would not even talk about periods because it was super shameful and had to be kept private.
@@ilchu8167 the discharge can not cause infections, but it can be a *symptom* of an infection. Discharge is normal. You should only be worried if it suddenly changes and looks like cottage cheese, is green, or smells very bad.
"Yeah so discoloration in your underwear is normal"
I deadass just thought i sucked at doing laundry???
Bruh I thought my coochie was toxic 😂😂
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@@beepbeep6201 thank you so much
As a single dad with two sons never thought i would find myself watching anything like this. But i can say i learned more way more than i ever imagined and feel empowered to answer any of their questions.
We need more Dads like you who are willing to learn and share knowledge that can help their sons become better men!
Well done sir! Imagine if one of your sons ends up in a similar situation as you....but with daughters. Or worse, their future wife doesn't know. By you teaching them proper biology now (no matter how gross they may find it) it sets the foundation for the future.
Example? My uncles grew up in an area where the woman was expected to do the cooking and cleaning, and the man worked. A man cooking a full dinner by himself was unheard of. My grandma ignored that and taught all of her boys the traditionally feminine chores, and Grandpa taught the girls traditionally masculine activities; every single one of them grew up to be well rounded individuals, despite the neighborhood gossip. Fast forward X number of years, and the second oldest boy got married. Unbeknownst to him, she had no idea how to cook anything that didn't come pre-prepared. If she couldn't cook it, she just got takeout. New couples are often on tight budgets, so to keep them from starving, he wound up cooking the meals and teaching her in the process. Fast forward even more years, and now all of his kids have been taught the same set of skills he learned, and then some. He was the one to teach the girls about periods, and drive them to their first GYN appointments. He was the one to teach the boys to sew. The oldest is now living by himself, and calls home for social reasons, not panicked emergencies because his shirt popped a button or he can't cook anything besides ramen. Over half of my cousins (I'm the oldest of 28 grandkids) are pretty confident in their survival/homemaking skills...all because two people ignored the social norms and taught their children what they needed to know, and most of those children did the same.
People, teach your kids non-traditional skills. Guys, it's not gay to know how to mend a hole in your shirt (or even sew it from scratch). Gals, learn to swap a flat tire and check your fluids. No, you won't be considered 'un-feminine' for it. If you already know how to do this kind of stuff, teach your friends. There's a time and a place to allow the opposite gender to swoop in and save the day, but in an emergency when there isn't someone who can around to do so, you'll wish you had learned. Educate yourself on biology on both sides so that you know what is normal, and when someone is giving you false information. Let's promote intelligence and independence rather than looking good on social media. The world would be so much better for it.
You have my respect, sir.
Great to hear daddy 😘
I really appreciate this comment.. men should know what goes on too ..
Being the son of a nurse has always had me curious to know more about how our bodies operate. Pair that with my natural curiosity and ADHD, I search out random bits of knowledge to keep my mind learning everyday.
I'm always worried someone will come by and see what I am watching and think I'm a pervert 🤣
This stuff needs to be taught in schools, especially here in the states. It's important for everyone to know how their's and others' bodies function.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!
I'm glad you watch these videos. I wish more people who don't have a vagina would be interested in how vaginas actually work!
omg, I wish I had resources like this back in my day. Back when I was a kid in middle/high school I received a pretty bare bones sex-education, and turned to the internet for help answering the questions I had. Some of my earliest understandings of sexual anatomy is exclusively from Wikipedia and porn. CZcams was still in it's infancy back then and didn't have awesome educational content like this. I'm glad to have progressed past the dark ages of not knowing how to get to this kind information, but I still mourn for the younger version of myself that the adults in my life didn't see as deserving of a comprehensive sex-education.
Dude. I’ve heard of men that think women can hold in their blood like holding in urine. That’s embarrassing.
This is something that schools need to show cause I’m 15 and I have alway thought that this stuff was not normal and I felt uncomfortable but now that I have seen this I feel better knowing it’s normal, and a lot of other females don’t even know it’s normal and feel uncomfortable. Thank you for sharing this
I’m 17 and some of the stuff I was taught in Health class wasn’t true at all.
Are you bi? I’m a lesbian just asking btw
@@marytc2714 I’m questioning my sexuality. I thought I was a lesbian, but I’m into some men as well. I’d say I’m pansexual. I just love the lesbian flag.
@@marytc2714 yes I am bi
I felt very uncomfortable with that stuff all my teenage years as well... and there were sooooo many irrelevant details I was complexed about, now I cringe just thinking about how much I was focusing on that hahaha! I wish I had such a resource at that time!
Someone tell whoever is responsible for the educational programs in schools to substitute all the useless stuff we learn in our early years with these videos. Let's normalize talking about our bodies. And most importantly, let's normalize talking about the male and female sex organs.
We never had this in biology, anatomy or physiology in either HS or college. I just found this today.
@@defenderoffreespeechand2a794 neither did we; we took the ovarian cycle and reproduction but we never took sex organs in detail. A shame, really. This channel is a blessing.
Preach!
As a retired midwife and Gynaecology nurse who specialised in women's health studies, I am deliggted to ' fall upon' this channel, educating women about the normal properties of their vagina. It still amazes me that in 2021 people continue to find the subject, even the anatomical names a taboo.
Good work.
Yes! Omg I wish I had access to something like this channel waaaayyyyy back (think late 70’s) when I was entering puberty. I swear my mom, the nuns at school and even friends moms made it seem so secretive. My aunt was a nurse and answered a lot of questions but she passed away when I was about 14.
Yes! My mom never spoke to me about women’s issues. It was taboo for her growing up and so it was taboo for her to talk to me about these things.
Yes it's F up that still in 2021 there are a lot of taboo and misinformation.
I'm afraid it won't ever stop.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!
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Have to say, definitely could have used this video ages ago, no idea why a majority of this stuff isn't taught in sex ed. I'm 23 and for a good portion of my life after puberty, I was shamed by my own mother for having weird coloration in my underwear. I thought there was something wrong with me because I never heard my sister getting talked to like that. It wasn't until after I left at 21 and moved in with a friend, also a woman, that I wondered if it was normal. I would do both of our laundry if she was working long shifts, and I noticed the same coloration. I didn't even know what discharge was until last year. I'm an adult, married, and hoping to have kids soon, and still don't know everything about my own body. Thank goodness this channel exists!
My mom never spoke about anything to me..not even sex..all she would say was.." you better not come home pregnant!"...i kind of knew about sex ..thanks to health class in 8th grade. I waited till marriage and Now i have 3 boys and i will teach them all i can about both female and male reproduction. Thankyou❤️
Very important 😊🌹
Exactly the same happened with me, except she didn’t say “don’t get pregnant”... I knew nothing about my period when I got it. I got it and thought I was dying! Very straight to the point, no explanations, nothing. Shortly after that, she bought a set of books that explained everything. But, when I saw them I was afraid to read them, bc I thought I would get in trouble. I explained all the sex education to both mine children, boy & girl. I must have done a descent job, she met me on the sidewalk when I returned from town & said “ I think I got my period” I said ok, let’s go and change . She said , nope, already took care of it. So I did something right, lol .👻🍍👿
sadly, my class wasn't taught about sex. all the teachers did was give the girls pads.
@CutiePie 林檎 Its honestly not hard to learn on your own, if you’re into that stuff you’ll learn it really quickly.
My mom was the exact same and would never tell me what sex was or even what a tampon was when I’d see them advertising them on tv, she literally wouldn’t tell me anything, I think I learned what everything was from my friends here and there. But because of that I now don’t really know how I am supposed to educate my daughters about this stuff when it’s time because I never had an example from experience of how to go about that talk☹️
It never occurred to me to worry about the bleached undies. I just figured the dye was crappy. I mean, sweat stains stuff, too. 🤷🏽♀️
Not judging, btw, I’m just astounded at my lack of curiosity. I had no reason to not believe it was a problem...
I just thought my hubby was putting bleach in the laundry.
@@kellyalves756 "I’m just astounded at my lack of curiosity. I had no reason to not believe it was a problem..."
Incredibly relatable take of the day, right there.
For better or worse, sometimes I just default to "Well, okay. I accept this. This is normal ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯"
Common sense
You know, that is such a sensible way of thinking about it. If one bodily fluid (sweat) can change the colour of fabric, why not another. Huh. Well done.
As a woman, it's nice to know the WHY behind things instead of just being told "it's normal"
I always wondered about the bleaching ... and even sometimes compared the smells to bleach at some times on cycle and my mom / sister would kinda just look at me like I had a 3rd eye out my forehead... but doc said "it's normal"
.... now I know WHY it's normal. Thanks.
ok, not trying to be gross but just really curious... your discharge smells like bleach? Could be a lot worse. And your partners would think you really cleaned up for them!
"although about 50% of the population is in possession of a vagina"
You're a literal queen, we the trans, gender fluid, questioning, and non-binary thank you 🥺💕💕
as a guy with one, yeah ^_^
-your local trans male
@@chl3rine143 "bruh same, and you're super passing like my golly how"
-a fellow blue pink and white brother
As a fellow trans man, bless.
@@brandie-kaybryan1642 Be polite
yes yes yes
I'm a woman of a certain age who's actually finished with periods and everything that goes with them, but I'm still learning stuff from this channel.. thank you.
Same here. It’s still good information to know!
I was just about to add the same! 🙂
Me too
Me too
Ditto
We seriously need to thank that girl and others who made that tik Tok, because of which we are able to talk about it today and not feel bad about our bodies
@Tim Garmany you could've told me what problem do you have with my comment instead of saying something which doesn't make sense
@Tim Garmany Sounds like you're mad, male
@Tim Garmany Careful you don’t cut yourself on all that edge, Timmy.
I love how she talks about it with so much confidence and with no awkward feelings at all
I was shamed for my underwear not being perfectly “clean” and “unblemished”. I thought that there was something incredibly wrong with me because no matter how hard I tried I just couldn’t get my dark underwear to stay dark. 😔😔😔
I actually didn't understand it
We're all in this together..
Same my mum thought I'm not cleaning it nice enough and i thought maybe I'm over doing it🙄
@@rashianand7534 same
I thought there was something wrong with me because my period blood was always brown! Like 100% of the time for 30 years! I did have a GYN who told me I have an exceptionally long cervix for someone my height! Chemistry!
Im 13, and have always been physically “matured”. My mom explained to me that discharge was normal, but I’ve been having bleaching discharge since I was about 7 or 8, and never told my mom because I thought i thought there was something wrong with me. Only now do I realize other people experience the exact same thing, and that it’s fine.
Oh, I noticed my first discharge when I was 10 and I was soo self-conscious and insecure about that. Especially because I have a lot of discharge, so it made me feel confused. And since that day I use dailies and I still remember time when I didn't have discharges
I was just saying this to myself and I’m 32. I grew up thinking it’s abnormal because no one talks about it and they always made it sound like nothing is suppose to be in your underwear. It wasn’t until my late teens, early 20s that I realized it’s normal. Good that you’re learning this early on.
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The other thing that nobody ever talks about is how discharge happens as young as like 7 years old. I started getting discharge at around that age and I would stuff my underwear with tissue which led to many yeast infections and uncomfortable days at school.
Also nobody talks about the discharge you get when you’re ovulating, you know when it is like egg white. I used to think something was wrong with me for that but it’s completely normal also!!
I'm 25 and I always thought something was wrong with me because of my "bleached undies". You have helped me so much with this! I'm so glad I found this video! I use to excessively clean myself because I thought I was dirty or something. Literally everyone should watch your videos! Thank you so much!
Hello 👋 how are you doing
I know right? I thought I was just gross.
I have them too
You are a LIFESAVER. You've given me more information about my own body than either the school system OR my parents ever have.
i love how this doctor talks about this topic in a way that doesn’t make me uncomfortable (cuz dysphoria and stuff) and i appreciate that a LOT
She's excellent at it!
ok but this was weird to watch but very informative and i totally get the dysphoria
I have dysphoria too :) this helped a lot
yeah same !
yeah same
This woman's approach is magnificent! As a teacher, I wish there were so many more people out there happy to discuss our 'icky bits' in such a fun, forthright manner that doesn't insult our intelligence.
Yes I agree she is very concise 😊
Icky bits are dicks hahaha
Huh. So that explains why literally every single pair of underwear I own has spots in it that are lighter. Yes, even my light colored ones. Every single pair.
Ikr, its so annoying though. Nice pairs of underwear get ruined lol
@@thepunisherplayz yeah that's why I quite getting nice underwear, it also saves some money and is more comfy
@@thepunisherplayz it could also just be the discharge staining. I’ve never thought of it as bleaching, and my undies look nothing like that girls. I just get spot stains from discharge and obviously blood
@@kurlykaitlyn I think youre right that its discharge staining. How do I get rid of constant discharge now is my real question lol
@@BladeX11883 bruh for real!! Fruit of the loom 8 packs are where it’s at. If you can find your preferred style, there’s no reason to buy expensive underwear again! I used to think of them as child and “granny” panties but now I only keep a small collection of “fancy” undies.
I’m a dude and I also experience the “is this strange” stuff. Was 18 when my pee came out with a split stream and it freaked me tf out, fortunately found out that was normal
Oh....curious. How does that happen?
@@kayleighbrown459 probably because a bit of semen or mucus has exuded out of the penis after intercourse or maybe just sexual arousal, and then it's dried on the outside, across the opening. It can be very annoying when you're trying to point the stream at the right place at a urinal or toilet, and the urine suddenly comes out sideways or in two streams for a split second. Worse, it's never the same twice, lol.
When I was in high school, we did have to do a mandatory health class, but they never went over something like this. They taught the organs of both male and female and moved on. I didn't know why any of these things happen (because they do to me) and was embarrassed. Thank you for helping with teaching.
YES !! this is exactly what my “sex ed” lesson consisted of! like they forgot the whole part of sex, then just moved on. however they did teach us about periods (to an extent, literally only the basic “blood comes from here to prepare for baby, etc etc) but they didn’t teach the boys. the boys learned about condoms, which, yea, great, but both of these things are things that everyone needs to know. to sum it up, the education system sucks when it comes to sex education, and it left me confused and scared with many questions unanswered as a little girl with no female role model close in my life.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!
Oh my school teach the females how to put a. A period had on but God I was sick so I didn't get to see anything on the video
I’m almost 50 and that was the first time I heard about the bleaching. I always wondered how that happened
63 and I just heard!
I am 50 and I wear white underwear and panty liners so I had no idea that happens.
51 and never knew - does anyone else also get small holes in their underpants where the discharge occurs?
@@tarshagraham7099 Yes. Just how acidic are our vaginas?? And should we responsibly allow someone else to put their body parts into them? (I'm saying yes, but have to play the devil's advocate.) lol
56 and just discovered it!
Omg the first time I had a blood clot when I went to the bathroom I thought i was dying!My mom (who is a nurse) quickly reassured me that it was normal but we need to educate young girls about this kinda stuff to avoid unnecessary stress and anxiety. Thanks so much for putting out good educational content! 💜
After you have a baby, they tell you that it’s normal to have blood clots the size of a *LIME* for couple weeks after. Since then, period clots are like no big deal. 😆
My daughter is 11 and I’ve been talking to her about getting her period since she was 9. I’m just very matter of fact about it. I explained everything to her because she was developing and I knew it would happen fairly early. I also know she is terrified of blood and I didn’t want her to freak out about it. She got her first one in March and because I’ve talked to her, she didn’t get upset. She was able to come to me without embarrassment. I did that because when I was growing up, it was like a taboo subject and I felt gross and embarrassed. No girl should have to feel this way about a completely normal body function.
When I was going through menopause I had some very heavy periods with golf ball sized blood clots....ah happy times!😩
@@charlottesmom I hear you girlfriend! I was toughing menopause out until I eventually passed what looked like it could have been half my liver...figured time to buck up and see the GYN. I was 58 and still having periods...needless to say I was famous at the office that day. They did a d&c, and that solved everything. I was kicking myself for not going sooner....what a relief!
@@queenbunnyfoofoo6112 , Ugh!! So glad you got it taken care of, that must have been a heck of a scare! Menopause sure was a heck of a ride, I went through it early-ish (54 now and completely done) it was luckily fairly issue free.
All the dad's on here thanking her warms my heart. My dad has always been fine with me talking about my periods, cramps etc and him not blinking an eye when I get him to go get my liners/pads etc. It's great to see dads wanting to learn more especially from a credible source! He'd even looked at the tissue that I passed just to make sure I was ok my mom was positive it was from endometriosis but we wanted to be sure and that's what it was(he's a EMT and is in medicine too that's why I went to him) .
For all the ladies...did y’all hate when you were in class and you were on your period and when you stood up it felt like a gush of blood came out? Just me? Lol 😂 I hated that in middle school! Thank goodness I discovered tampons!
Tampons scare me, I haven't tried them but they just seem so terrifying and hard to use 😳
@@wartanabadanooh7157 Nah they're easy and once theyre in, you dont feel them as much as a pad imo. Many people just wear them to bed or on high activity days. Whenever you think you'll be moving/rolling around for long periods. You can swim with them in too
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@@wartanabadanooh7157 I once got traumatized by them, but not for the reason you might think. I put the damn thing in wrong and it was NOT a great size for me. Ouch. Just make sure you relax and get the right fit, then you’ll be just fine.
@@heatherfoster7823 Sleeping with a Tampon In makes me nervous, can’t have them in for *too* long.
Thank God someone spoke about bleached underwear!!!! Like I searched the answer to it everywhere but was not satisfied.
I thought it was only me
I always thought that underwear would just do that because it was getting old or something.
At first I thought it wasn't normal that it was an infection or something lol
@@roselahuerita ya same here. It's sad that all these things are not talked about openly
Even though I may not be a woman, I have learned a lot from this video and I’m sure that this knowledge would be very beneficial to pursue a career in the medical field(particularly family medicine). Thank you, MDJ, huge fan btw!
I love how she explains everything simply, but also makes it known that she knows the medical terms. I also love how I don't feel uncomfortable listening to this, because she says it all in such a natural way, that most people in real life wouldn't
Mdj! Breaking taboos about women's anatomy through education! We love you MDJ!
Yes. She should teach Health Class.
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The fact that I did not know most of the things really has me thinking about the lack of education in schools about stuff like this.
I'm 56 and never knew it was vaginal bleaching. Thank you.
I'm 62 and I'm just hearing this !
Yall old
@@donutdummies Yes ...the longer you live the older you get. You're suprised people live 56 or 62 years?
I just realized a couple years ago that the clitoris is a big organ with legs stretching back into the body. Medical science typically doesn't give a crap about women's bodies. And I also didn't realize that my undies were bleached because of the acidity of my vaginal fluids.
@@donutdummies and why is this an issue? You, whatever age you are, will also get old. No escaping that.
I don't have periods anymore since I'm over 70, however...I wish I knew this when I was younger so I wouldn't have to go through all the anxiety that I suffered from not knowing. Thank you for all the information and clarity in this sensitive subject.
Hello Maggie i hope my comments didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comments tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comments section but i feel you deserve this compliment. If you don't mind can we be friends? God bless and thank you.
Husband and I didn't live together until the night after we were married. Early on, I was doing my night stretch/ handstands routine. Afterwards, I queefed, and I had to explain what that was. He was like, "Vaginas can fart?!" Not exactly, but close enough
You may be amused to know that in Australia, where 'fanny' is not your bottom, but your vagina, a queef is sometimes referred to as a fanny fart. It may not be a widespread term, but I've heard it from a few different places.
@@sarahs4655 ....it’s a fanny fart in the UK also.
@@TheShmoo123 I wondered if it might be, since we use fanny the same way.
@@sarahs4655 omg im amused by that. Fanny fart is a great term hahahaha
@@sarahs4655 not sure how I already knew this one but I did and I'm American.
I’m just gonna be straight to the point: health class is pointless. As someone who had vaginal discharge at 11 I started crying thinking I was hurt and messed up. So I searched it up, I love how that was so much more helpful then my classes or family.
Atleast nowadays girls can google stuff. At my young age that kind of information was hard to find. No need to look things up from encyclopedias anymore 😆
Same I thought my period was not normal and that I was unhealthy. Health classes in school need to step it up!!
Oof, I feel ya. Despite only having discharges a few years after the blood sacrifices started, it was still a nightmare and shock when mine also started at 11. I mean, I didn't even look like a proper middle school girl yet, how tf was I gonna cope with the ability to get pregnant.
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Nobody had educated me when, months before my 11th birthday, I came home from swimming and saw blood in my swimsuit. I was terrified. Called my mother at work and said I thought I was sick. I'll never forget the fear. Education needs to start very early for those that mature earlier than others.
67 years old and this is the first time I ever heard about bleaching of underwear as it never happened to me. This video was very informative. Thank you.
@Your Over There - no she’s explaining women’s biology - you are getting confused with the board game ‘mousetrap’.
Depends on your undies. Doesn’t affect white ones.
Damn it always happens with me..
As a 16 year old female, this was very helpful. I learned more in this video than what I learned in school. Thank you!
It's such a relief to know that I'm not a disgusting human being for having a bleached underwear, omg. I really thought I'm doing something wrong but was too embarrassed to even check xD thank you
Same XD
I am a man and even for me it was a relief to know this! WOW!! I spent so so so many years wondering why those things happened to my then wife and I was so so so embarrassed to talk about it... WOW
Its so embarrassing.
@@joannajamerson35 So much!
@@jaimemartinez8971 props to you for being mature and taking time to learn about it👏👏👏
MDJ: "despite the immaturity of middle school boys..."
Me, a 37 year old woman: hahahah she said queef
Whether they are from the front or the butt, farts will always be funny.
I’m in my 50s and still laughed.
It’s never not funny!
This 45yo man cackled, too.
Right there with you!
😂😂😂
I worked in a clothes shop and a lady tried to return some knickers as they’d bleached and she tried to say the fabric/dye was faulty. I tried to tell her (discretely) that it was because discharge is acidic and she looked at me like I had 3 heads. Glad I am now vindicated!
the dad’s in the comment section are so wholesome and nice :(
I literally thought I was the only one who had bleached spots in my underwear. I felt so uncomfortable growing up, it really made me feel like this isn't normal.
You're not the only one you thought that .. I would always think I had a sickness or an infection when I was younger
I'm a grown woman and still find queefs hilarious
It's a farting vag. How is that not hilarious?
Farts are fucking hilarious 🤣
I was dating a guy and would laugh when I had a queef during intercourse. He hated it because he thought I was laughing at him.
The queef episode on South Park is hilarious. Treat yourself.
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The queef sisters marry Terence and Philip. Farty marriage bliss.
MDJ, I feel like you should create your own sex ed curriculum and allow schools to use your videos! You definitely offer what every middle school girl needs to hear! 💛
Great idea!
Heck yea!
I cannot Like this comment enough
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Hell, yeah, from a guy from across the pond. The USA need better sex ed.
What with all "the abstinence only" BS being thrown around...
Absolutely! I'd petition our schools systems to use them! Educational, relatable, compassionate - THAT'S what every young woman needs
The school board in my city just ruled this video too inappropriate for a sex Ed/health class. I’m so disappointed. There is nothing in this video that 13+ year olds shouldn’t see. It’s so educational and honestly, the school system really makes people with vaginas very confused about what should or shouldn’t be happening. I wish I had this in health class, yet they choose to leave people confused. Sure you can say it’s the parents job to educate, but there are a large portions of parents who either are too awkward/conservative, are also unsure about things, or have been fed misinformation by society. I’m so glad you make these videos, but it’s just so irritating to see adults and school boards willingly shoot down scientific, important info that could really be helpful to so many. Sorry for my rant lol
Rant justified...😞
Thinking about the sad time my religion textbook said discharge was a symptom of gonorhhea..
I was kinda concerned I had that even though I was a virgin(still am at 14)
This was the only time it mentioned discharge
MISINFORMATION
DISSINFORMATION
Of the textbook
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Omg one of my chores as a child/teen was doing the washing and I was always confused why my mother's underwear was stained/bleached. I feel really bad now asking my mum why all her underwear was ruined, and she kept saying it was bleach... And I only put two and two together now. I think that vagina education is something that never gets taught to boys/men and I feel like understanding the vagina is important to everyone.
Good point
I think it'd be worse to ask a guy about brown stains
And it makes me sad that she felt like she couldn't or shouldn't explain to you what was going on. OR, maybe she just didn't know either. 🤔
I'm helping my boyfriends sister learn about her body since she doesn't have anyone else who can teach her and this channel really helps with her more difficult questions that I don't know. Thanks and keep up the good work! #vaginapositivity
Good for you helping her!
You're a great sibling and she's lucky to have you! 🍀💚
That's nice that she has another female to talk to. The only people in my family I feel comfortable talking to about my lady parts are my mom and my Grandma Patty.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on CZcams for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
#ppksemtabu
THANK YOU FOR THE BROWN PERIOD THING!!!!!!
I've had dark period blood since middle school and I had no idea what was going on. I have a Mirena IUD and no longer get my periods so I don't really worry about it anymore but I definitely thought something was up with the equipment up there.
THANK YOU MDJ!!!
It should not be brown the whole time though.
Thank you for talking about the brown blood! My friends and I have always whispered about it, wondering what was going on. I’ve asked every OB/GYN I’ve had, and none of them explained it and only one ever said “It’s normal.”
My mom used to call it "A self cleaning oven" 🤣🌷
😂😂😂
Ovens a weird word
@@angieroman6723 there's a bun in the oven?
Cuz it’s “hot”??? 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
@@lululisalu4396 no stranger than macaroni in a pot 🤣😭🤣
Omg this is why my undies are bleached in the crotch!
Literally always confused me
@@blackcatbitch I just thought about it minutes, literal minutes ago, after hanging the washing out to dry
This is so normal, and most of us didn’t know about it. 🙄 BUT, if you don’t like that your undies are discoloured maybe try panty liners, or something like that.. that can help preserve the undies 😂
@@purplexninjamom and now you know! It's so cool, it's like vagina tie dye, not going to be annoyed about my bleached undies anymore haha
@@blackcatbitch a vagina tie-dye!!!! Going to remember that! Such a cool way to think of it! We can tie-dye our undies without needing any materials! Women are incredible!! 😎
Awwww......she showed her undies on national social media! She has a special place in my 28 years old heart.
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Ikr shes brave
Honestly that has made me feel so much better. I always thought that it was just me and it wasn't normal. I even started wearing pantyliners ALL the time to prevent it
Thank you for talking about this, I’ve been having so many questions about discharge and my body for most of my teenage years and this completely soothed all of my worries. Talks like these need to be normalized, with families and partners!
I wish my mom would have heard this but sadly, she passed away. She always made me feel so guilty for having all the things you just mentioned are normal. I think the education system fails to fully educate on this topic and people are too embarrassed to ask.
What a GREAT mom you had
@@johnseeker9520 Even though youre saying it in a mean way... She definitely was a great and loving mother!! It wasnt her fault. Everything sexuality was taboo in her generation and even before that. It wasnt like it is today you need to understand that.
@@marylu2216 you are probably right. Sorry for being mean
@@johnseeker9520 Thank you
I understand! My mom is a smart lady, and a caring mom, but she was never given the opportunity to get educated about her body. Unfortunately, she handed down many of the same painful fears and misinformation about our bodies that she inherited from her mother and grandmother.
I grew up thinking nearly everything about our bodies is something shameful to hide/correct- from body hair to sweating, and from going to the toilet to having dry skin and skin blemishes. She "corrected" the way I walked, focused heavily on not being overweight, and told me that one of the most embarrassing things is to be seen naked. I'm doing some learning/unlearning and she is doing a little as well.
They didn't have the access that I do - to information (like these videos!), research, healthcare, product choices, etc. and the culture didn't allow for talking about it. I'm glad that I can take all that she taught me about the importance of education and caring for others, and do better for the next generation.
I was 26 when I found out that morning woods happen to everyone. I thought there was something wrong with me mechanically. Then I discovered a few years later about the bleaching underwear with my girlfriend, and it happens all the time. Why doesn't society write these unwritten rules somewhere and force everyone to read it at least once?
Because society would rather berate people for ignorance than teach them the right way/thing.
@@rickabodcrane2062 So true.
Also, I am not insulting any religion but they be writing fat books on heaven and hell while ignoring basic issues on Earth.
@Luke I get what ur saying, but not everybody was lucky enough to have good parents to teach them, so it’s good that videos like this exist🙂
@Luke Reproductive organs and their functionalities fall under science. Not every parent is educated to know a lot of things. Science is taught in schools -- not when your parents are busy working two jobs to make ends meet. Are you one of those religious zealous who doesn't want kids to get educated about their own bodies?
@Luke it IS the fault of society if it shames the people for wanting to know the truth, and discourages knowledge from being taught and passed on.
My dad is a British Urogynaecologist and I’m a student nurse, these topics are literally conversations had over dinner 😂😂. So this just made me laugh a lot! It baffles me the lack of knowledge the general public actually have about normal functions of our reproductive organs! Great videos, lots of love from England 🇬🇧❤️
I love your channel so much because it not only teaches me about my own body and how to properly take care of it, but it makes me feel better about myself and all of the odd things my vagina does that make me feel bad. Like the “bleaching the underwear” point, I’ve been insecure about that and worried that in the future I would be judged for that happening even though it’s normal and I’m surely not CHOOSING for it to happen. I’ve been wearing this brand new pair of underwear for a DAY and it’s already like that, it’s impressive honestly.
As a 27y/o woman who doesn’t go to the doctor nearly as much as she should, I’m happy to have found your channel! Great information, especially for those who don’t have access to it .
I love the fact that you don’t say “women” in place for “people with a vagina” it’s super validating for me because I’m a trans guy :)
Same.
Same! Aye yo trans guy gang 😎
@@Ben-Carr um...weird point to make? Everyone here understands where vaginas come from. Not everyone with a vagina identifies as a woman....
@@Ben-Carr ah so you're a transphobe 😏😏 please read some scientific articles and educate yourself because sex ≠ gender. Gender is socially prescribed. trans people exist and we've existed for centuries all in dozens of cultures. men can definitely have vaginas
@@Ben-Carr really just sounds like you came to this channel to invalidate people and make them have a bad day/feel bad about themselves for literally no reason. But ok, bigot
Bruh I've never had bleaching, all my black underwear looks like the day I got them 😂 Instead, my light underwear turns yellow. Turns out it's just oxidized discharge but its still kinda embarrassing cause it looks like my underwear is always dirty.
Yes! The yellowed white underwear freaked me out too. I noticed it when I was pregnant. I asked my OB about it and she said that it's normal especially in pregnancy when your ph changes.
Stain remover works pretty decently for that if you miss when your undies used to look pristine like I do haha
Yup this is why I avoid white underwear. I always thought discharge was not normal, so when it got on white underwear , and then made yellowish stains it was embarrassing. I used to sometimes get bleaching on my black or other colored underwear, but really only if the panties were too tight /small in the crotch causing them to kinda go in between the labia.
And I have bleached dark underwear AND yellow light underwear... So that is Jackpot, I guess!
@@user-fq3tv2fv6g yeah, both here too.
I'm 43 years old and this would have been super helpful to me as a teen. Thank you for making this video!
I love all the supportive dads in the comments that are here to educate themselves about women's health so that they can be helpful and approachable for their daughters ❤️ you're doing great my guys