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Have you ever been ghosted? Share your story so we can all feel less alone haha xx
A girl ghosted me once for just proposing to her and she said not now
😂😂my best friend ghosted by a girl but now i'm with him . He is so amazing , how someone can ghost a person like him
I LUV U...!
Been there, done that, got the t shirt! 😅
This is why whenever someone wants to be In relationship with me I never fully trust them
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
Ignoring one's gut feeling when it comes to dating is the greatest mistake that most people make when blinded by hormones and chemicals.
Exacto nos llevamos por emociones
chemicals (English! The most inconsistent and nonsensical language on the planet, when it comes to spelling and pronunciation ! )
"blinded by hormones and chemicals" i like it🤣😁😂
turu
i knew there were crazy people out there, but ghosting lana is a whole new level
no one is safe :')
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.
Jiddu Krishnamurti
@@LanaBlakely You are humorous about it :)
stop simping
@@Miha-cl3cc I gladly invite you to touch some grass and hang out with women.
Maybe then, you could start thinking that a disconnected comment isn’t a desperate person pleasing another, but simply an interaction.
I hate when friends ghost you as well. They leave and act like you never existed or you never meant anything to them in the first place 😢
For real
me too! I actually told one of my friends "please, if you want to stop seeing me, just tell me that!! Tell me why, be cruel if you have to. Just don't leave without a word, because that sucks!". And they did just that! Months later they reached me like nothing happened "hey, how are you doing?". Block. I am done with that.
@@biljam972 just the perfect act
Facts hurts more in a way
True. That's when you think if you really have friends.. Hurts
Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
This is a scam post, don't buy into this
I was ghosted and abandoned too many times, and they always try to reach back several months later, casually like "how are you?" like nothing happened. I never replied. But I realized, love or relationship is not worth being hurt that many times and that much. I am now on my own, alone, and now people hate me because I take care of stray cats, because this is who I am now. But, unless they arrest me, or harm the cats, I can live with hate from few strangers. Better to be alone than with someone who will betray and hurt you.
yep i feel this. why add the additional layer of stress and hurt when life is already stressful 😅
Ya usually I ignore them, or tell them thanks for the friendship we had but no longer interested anymore, sorry.
Living the dream!
Fun fact: God loves you and is always with you, so you are never truly alone
Why do people hate you, I don't understand??
Most ghosters actually re-appear out of the blue and then ghost you once again (called "zombieing": coming back to life)
As an expert in this (lol), BLOCK the hell out of your life because if they had the nerve to ghost you in the first place, they would do it again, trust me.
Be a bit selfish, in a positive way, by prioritizing your emotional wellbeing
Lmao I do that too 😭 but for different reasons
What do you think, why do people message you again?
@@Mel-pi2ns They're basically toxic if not crazy. They want you to obsess and lose your mind over them so they feel validation.
They usually are narcissistic or at least selfish people who ran out of supply elsewhere after they ditch you so they come back in hope for more supply. I’m very much, you either do right by me or you are permanently cut out. Harsh but I’m not enabling selfishness in others, i deserve loyalty and to have people who don’t betray me
@@Mel-pi2ns Maybe because they see you as a "backup plan", or they're mentally ill and need to see you obsess over them for the sake of validation. Most ghosters are crazy or suffered from trauma.
In my situation, it has no relation with being boring, we were doing AMAZING
This was so healing to hear. “Even the smartest people can fall victim to emotions.” More story times plzzz ❤
The smartest people are somtimes the lonliest
The irony is that he turned his back on you, but in so doing revealed character flaws in himself. If affect did you a favor.
Lana - we will never ghost your uploads. That is a promise!
Yes
Can I join please
😂
@@criminozs hey
@@BrianSpires hey you
You’re not alone! I’ve been stood up on a planned date to a fancy restaurant. To save myself the embarrassment I called the restaurant to check when the reservation was made and if he was there and turns out it was for a late time, he wasn’t replying to messages or call, and he wasn’t even at the restaurant. I cried in my car and took myself out instead. My lesson learned: only go on a date with someone if they’re actually consistent.
Sorry to hear. Start slow with no cost dates. Make him dinner and let him return the favour, picking you up.
@@davedsilva that’s actually a great idea thanks
Would be interesting to explore ghosting in friendship. I've ghosted and have been ghosted by friends in the past and what I've found is that it's a bit more complex to have a breakup conversation with people you no longer want to be friends with. So, ghosting often seems like the easier action to take.
We get ghost (either friendship or couple) because we make mistake from their perspective/ something that we don't realise. They feel very disappointment reach to very enough. I can say i'm victim also perpetrator
I think this is a new generation thing. I think breaking up with your friends is very immature. Friendships ebb and flow, and people come in and out of your life. It’s really not that serious. The problem is people now view friendships the same way they view romantic relationships, so when the friendship isn’t as fulfilling anymore, people want to “break up” like how they would a romantic partner. To me, that’s a terrible idea, because why burn bridges with people you may encounter later in life? It just seems very extreme and unnecessary. The best thing to do is take a step back from the friendship and create other ones. Friendship is not mutually exclusive and there are no rules saying you have to cut off one friend to create another. But I fear this new movement of “protecting my peace” is unfortunately causing people to destroy relationships and potential communities, all because they have an all or nothing, black and white view of platonic human relationships.
I had a friend “break up” with me and I was shocked by how dramatic it all was lol. Like girl, why are you breaking up with me? Am I your man? Lol it was very unnecessary in my opinion, and unfortunately I don’t ever see a future of us being friends again or even acquaintances. It sucks because we still could have been cool from a distance, but she completely closed the door of reconciliation. She has since emailed me wishing me a happy holiday, but like, the damage is done. I will never be friends again with someone who thinks they need to get rid of me in order to “move on” with their lives. That’s fair, but life is long, so if you decide you’re ok with now having me in your life, understand that I’m no longer interested.
Friendships shouldn’t be this dramatic. People who “break up” with their friends lack emotional intelligence in my opinion and don’t understand the value of relationship management. Burning bridges with people is not the right way to go through life. Just my opinion.
@@SS-cu8se You changed my view, I think I agree with you, the best thing is to take a step back and make other friends that you want, but if the person wants to talk to you, you talk to them normally, just don't show so much desire to talk, stay away. talk to her, the friendship naturally remains ''distant'', there's no need to ghost, that is to say disappear, or stop responding, this is cruel and also dramatic like ending a friendship relationship, the best thing is to simply let the friendship disappear the way she comes, and in the future, if the friendship is true, you will have a good chance of even having that person as your everyday friend again, great. I will follow this path.
@@RafaelRickiGranzotto yay! Glad you see things differently. I really hope this “friendship breakup” trend goes away. It just adds to the loneliness epidemic and destroys communities. Research shows that weak ties are still valuable. No need to make enemies because you don’t know how to just move on with your life without a dramatic fallout. Happy you changed your view!
I think we all have been ghosted at times. Great story, Lana! Not sure why anyone would ghost you. Keep being your awesome self!
I love how open she is omg this makes me feel HUMAN 💖
She’s being open talking about it to CZcams not to her family members or her actual friends in real life.Again this doesn’t surprise me because of how she met the guy which is online because women make their presence more felt online than I. Person.If a man was in a relationship with her he would be waiting until the last day on earth for him to know all of this she just coming on the internet spilling out to thousands of strangers with no problem 🤔.I find this weird and quite frankly I don’t understand why women do this she needs her dad in her life this is who she needs to be sitting down talking about this to not making a video on CZcams talking about something that u thought was a relationship just because they went out on dates isn’t that just dating 🤔🤣I’m not understanding I don’t get our generation at all like seriously yall are ridiculous.My little cousins that are girls that’s between the ages of 12-19 years old got more sense then this I mean my god man.
@@jamalgreen3056 I don't know, but maybe we leave it up to her to make decisions for her own life & you worry about yours.
@@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving I know she made her decisions that’s why she’s still single.Im not worried about her if she puts out a video talking about her personal life she needs to expect to get judged and assessed by someone this should be common sense but what make sense never make sense to anyone in our generation anymore I can see that.As I was reading most of the comments on this video most of u don’t state your own point of view about anything u just agree and shut up and I’m not doing that😌.This is why these young women in our generation need there fathers in there lives because the people that raised them did a terrible freaking job my god I mean this is ridiculous she made an entire video discussing her personal life.Out of all the people she is related to in her life including friends she decides to go to CZcams first to tell a bunch of strangers about this im sorry but this is a red flag I run away from women like this.
@@jamalgreen3056 "Personal life" girl bye what
@@jamalgreen3056 Man, Jamal, you're doing some undercover studies on some throw away account. You're not ready to speak up for the current generation just yet imo and you need to do some more studying.
On the other side of things, LIFE BE LIKE OPEN AIR FREE SPEECH, but from a place of intellectual thinking some of us still need to learn. The trees really do heal. Dark rooms make you cramped up sometimes. She speaks from more of this healing aspect, I'd say. It's not all about HER and HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS, but it's about HER WHOLE INTERNET COMMUNITY which is based all over the globe why She speaks. Hope.
“We all suffer from a lack of judgment from time to time”
That felt like tons of comfort…I can relate to the confusion of knowing yourself as a logical well grounded human…then suddenly comes that mistake that no one would believe you went through…not even yourself..but I believe some things are destined to be and happen regardless of how much control we got..
I've realized over the years that some guys will lead you on or continue seeing someone because they're chasing romantic experiences and the feelings that comes with it, not because they're genuinely interested in who the other person is or in a long term relationship, its sad.
That's true. They only think about their own pleasure. We can diagnosed them as being "Selfish".
I wish dating was more natural but there's too many factors that make it feel SO shallow nowadays.😭
(dating apps being unpleasant, people not going out as much because of work or other reasons, people being afraid of settling, and social media making us be delusional relationship expectations)
Yes please share more of your stories! Love the honesty and openness :)
The exact same situation happened to me last year . And in fact, the biggest blunder I did , Is the fact they when he came back months later, I actually answered, to his random “hey” . As I was afraid that he left, I was just accepting his fruitless excuses . Not a single time did he apologize. But I was actually glad he came back . Few months after, he ghosted me again. And I realized I was just being played with. It left me trust issues, I can’t trust someone fully since then . Furthermore I refuse to get attached again . I am genuinely afraid that people do that again . Ghosting experiences gave me several issues and I refuse to get attached to people again
That's cruel. I want to forget her. But after resisting for 14 days. I contacted her, coz everything felt numb. She never directly said if she loved me or not. But after ghosting me for 1 month. She said she has a boyfriend. So, i stumble back again.
Literally, I have no words. All I want to mention that this is the situation where I was going through just 1year ago. And the most surprising part is that all your said words are literally the same I was also thinking and speaking , the same goes thereafter and thereafter. Truly incredible ! Hats off for the truth.
Oh Lana, I am so sorry you went through this. I too have been there and now I realize, our worth is much more than that and so it doesn’t feel painful. You deserve the best ❤
A few years ago I was ghosted by someone I cared very deeply for. It was horrible. It took me a long time to get over and even trust new people that came into my life since then too...
I am so glad you shared such a personal story with us. It shows that being ghosted has nothing to do with you as a person but more with the person that ghosted you.
And I think in the end you can be happy not going on further dates wirh him bc you don‘t want to be together with a person that leaves someone without any explanation anyway.
I think it is very important learning that I’ve also made in my 20s that you have this gut feeling that you can always trust on. So don‘t lie to yourself, this will safe you a lot of tears
Im in this exact era of my life since one year now.
tonight I was supposed to see for the first time a man Ive been talking to for 10 mounths ... and he stood me up and ghosted me, im still on delivered ... for the 3rd time ... and its my birthday. happy 24th, yay !!
Ive never been a relationship with anyone, bc my whole life I have always been hyperindependant, focusing on myself and didnt care AT ALL of men unless I knew for sure that he will be the man of my life. but last year I turned 23 and I started being afraid of missing out on my youth, so I started talking to a lot of men on dating apps (ew). Ive met 2 men that tramatized me and it completely ruined me and how I see relationships now. Not recognizing yourself is the WORST for someone like me who built her entire life around being my most honnest self, I also having a psychology licence, etc. I could NEVER have suspected that the thing I was going to lose control of was men, NEVER. being fully aware that you are glowing down is awful. I just wanna be me again.
I am really extremely sorry this happened to you. the guy you were talking to for 10 months - was it on a dating app? Was he in another country or something?
yes girl definitely continue making these types of videos! it felt very soothing and peaceful to watch (despite the topic being about something not so lighthearted)
So accurate for me. Often times, you want to jump to conclusions why the other person might have ghosted you - especially when it happens a lot.
I had it happen with nearly all of my childhood friends but in real life. People change and that is fine, but it is just brutal in its own way. Thinking how you used to be good friends with them to suddenly get ignored even if u try to reach out to them. Like smiling and waving your hand to another person in anticipation to then moving it down because there is no reciprocation but a cold response.
I have learned to accept how people might interact in a lot of different ways with oneself - positive or negative. Otherwise, you will just lose yourself in the storm and get blown away.
When I want to cut a tie with someone, I will let them know it beforehand when my decision is already made (f.e. when the other person repetitively creates issues despite having mentioned it already) to not leave them in the dark. Even so, the involved people responded very allergic/toxic when I told them about my reasons. At least it helped me sort them out to find the people that I confidently can bring joy towards in life and vice versa.
Meditating and bounding to my religion helped me a lot through it. Thank you for your story. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
Thanks for sharing your story. Many guys create fake arguments instead of ghosting. So few people are honest in dating, it’s very sad
In my first long term relationship, I was 'breakup ghosted'. 2.5 years together with her wanting future marriage. Seemingly good for months prior and then she suddenly initiated a fight when I told her I wasn't comfortable with her spending her entire birthday with a guy friend who flew across the country to see her instead of spending it together with me.
She hung up on me during our last conversation and her final words were "We're over. Bye". I was angry at her and so I just let it go, thinking she would apologize and we would get back together. Days turned to weeks, and after a month and a half I couldn't take it anymore and reached out. I told her I loved her and wanted to work on things... she did not. We had a great connection and I treated her well.
It's been 2 years and I have not yet found someone who I loved as much as her. Be careful who you give your heart to. Have more self respect than I did staying with someone who didn't want to put in effort, don't tolerate disrespect, and please pay attention to red flags early on. She did not end up dating that birthday guy as far as I know, and is now in another relationship mooching off another poor kind soul.
So sorry for what you went through. I agree people don't pay enough attention to red flags. Disrespect is not something that will just magically disappear, and we need to take it into account and not close are eyes in denial. I wish you luck and hope you find someone lovely!
@@kateginger Thank you! I have grown so much since that relationship, although I'm still healing from what happened. I like to believe that it ended for a reason and helped prepare me for the future person I'm meant to be with.
I hope you already have a special someone or if you're still looking that you meet them soon :)
Sorry to hear man, I'd imagine she was already moved on just didn't tell you until she has disconnected and it was easier for her.
Thanks a lot for sharing your story! A similar thing also happened to me and now hearing it from someone else, I can see clearly that this person wasn't worth my while.
I like these kinda sit-back simple videos where you choose a topic and talk about it
Appreciate it if you do it more often lana ❤
You are so naive and wonderful. I love the way he perceives the events that happen to him and reflects them to us. I'm your follower from another country, that's why there are typos. Sorry. You can always stay like this, you can reach different shapes, but you will be very special. I love your energy.
I don't whether anyone noticed that not only the storytelling and the story itself is so relatable and interesting but I adore how you started playing with different background souds and effects in this video. Marvelous job!
I love that you noticed this haha thank you!
Love your way of narrating and storytelling! for sure we need more!
Aaah yes the link., the sense of deep respect for her, my eyes slowly dancing on her when I met her. I knew she was so special. I was a fool for not telling her back then. Now she's with a 32yo half Spanish half Italian man who is not gonna marry her. He just doesn't want a stable relationship. I would marry her in a heartbeat my god..I hope to not meet her again, otherwise I'm gonna fall again in that horrible black hole of love.
Thank you for sharing this.
Such ghosting personalitites are everywhere and their motivations are still unclear to me. I was 19 when I experienced a similar thing. I still don't really know how to feel about that - should I despise this peroson, shoud I pity them, should I forgive them... Really confusing. But you're right, the closure is not coming from anywhere, you just have to live with that and learn how to avoid such situations and maybe learn to value yourself more than anything.
generally a guy youre into?
@@JackInABeanstalk98 it can be a girl as well
@@samakaeva with a woman you most likely creeped her out
I agree, genuine love feels calm and comfortable. Lust, adventure and excitement have more of the "butterflies" feeling. I think love can grow out of something that started as "butterflies" over a long period of time though.
We all go through things like this when we're younger and should give ourselves grace for our thought processes at the time. That's how we learn. We also need to forgive the other person since they are capable of making the same mistake as we did at the time.
Thanks for sharing! Recently went through something similar (altho I am experienced, so IK what to do), so this was validating. Also, I love the calm tone of your vids… or IG that’s just your nature in general :)
No one should judge you for being ghosted, I think we've all experienced ghosting at least once, whether romantically or professionally. Generally speaking, people ghost because they're afraid to say where they really stand, so it's up to us in such cases to take a step back and move on from these kinds of situations without feeling sorry for the other person. Love your content Lana, thank you for sharing your story with us 💞
Thank you for having the courage in your compassion to make yourself vulnerable about this. If someone as valuable and worthy as you can be ghosted it can happen to anyone. What it shows is that it's not about you when you're ghosted, but about them and perhaps their lack of courage and compassion.
Ghosting is such a weird behavior... they get off on knowing you're completely confused, a week after I was ghosted I caught him with his real girlfriend and he started freaking out saying "I was delusional, nothing ever happened" i was just asking what happened i wasnt even mad but he was 😂 then he started showing up to my house every day to try to talk it over! I KNOW he wouldnt have done that if I hadn't caught him. I never answered the door and I always wonder what he would have said. It's all about pride and ego to most men, sadly
I don’t have time to watch the vid but I’ve been ghosted many times aswell and I feel your pain and it is his loss he doesn’t deserve someone as amazing as you.
We definitely need more story times 💖
I feel less alone after watching this😭
Ghosting a person isn’t right. If you feel that a relationship isn’t working out you need to tell the other person.
lol that is not how chads work. That is why women who only chase chads in the end say all men are bad and become toxic with a misandry mindset because they only chase chads, while the other 95% of men are ignored. Betting one of that 95% ignored had the one they were looking for, but people are vain theses days and ignorance is bliss. Infact This man she is waffling on about is who she compares everyman to. She wants that feeling (instant connection) she had with him with a personality of all the men she ignores. Big difference between lust and love.
I love to listen to you !! 💞
And keep the stories coming !! 😊
This is good format.
We would like to watch more videos like this!! ❤
I like what you said about the warm hug vs the butterflies
going through a similar situation right now, this video really helped me, thank you ❤
This is such a beautiful channel overall.. absolutely love her!! I learn and relate so much from you Lana.. big hugs❤❤❤
We definitely need more of these short laid back and straight up real videos🎉
Thank you for sharing. I lost someone who I loved more than anything in 2019. She lived near Stockholm. The relationship ended with no closure.
Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable! I would love to hear more about how you handled this situation and eventually got closure by yourself😊
great idea
Lana, this is a beautiful video. Very well done. Thank you for sharing your story. I agree with what you say about butterflies...it's not necessarily good to have them...really depends on the situation.
Have experienced this few times, this fucking hurts. Sending you infinite solidarity, compassion and healing.
It's important to always take a step back and reflect on exactly what you value and want and to see that person for who they really are without being blinded by emotions. Learn from your mistakes and take accountability, no one is perfect.
.....or you know just keep chasing the same person type repeatedly and keep expecting different results.
i went through something similar but also different. i learned a lot about attachment theory which helped get me out of the intense mental distress. i think you also have a video about being okay being alone too. in learning about attachment theory i found that how i socialize is probably rooted a lot in how i relate to m parents and how they relate to each other, which is to say, pretty dysfunctionally. and it's not something that can be easily changed if at all. hence, the being alone. i think the prospects of mutuality and partnership have been so anemic that i go to that to find some kind of peace. i may just not be able to pick up social cues that you have to pick up, or maybe i don't have the social skills to access partners who are more of a prospect for mutuality. the peace i found was that everyone is probably struggling, including that guy who stopped contact with you. i would guess he was interested and he didn't know how to handle his feelings and left. and i think that's what my partner did when she sensed the same. but anyway, who knows. distressing stuff, but part of life i guess. thanks for the video
I love this kind of story time ❤ pls do make more thank u ahead
Thank you so much Lana for making this video. I'm young and pretty naive so this was very helpful. Much love to you💕
I'm so sorry you went through that, it's the worst feeling in the world, to be ignored. You truly dodged a bullet. Cowards. That's all they are. People have been ghosted for centuries, there's just a new term for it now.
It doesn't matter how old or wise you get - you can still allow yourself, almost knowingly, to get hurt - and ghosted. I'm twice your age & I started seeing one of my veterinarians almost a year ago...I'm a professional pet sitter, 25 yr biz owner. I had just previously broke up with my long-distance Canadian fiance - I live in Phoenix Arizona. We were together 5 yrs and friends for 12 yrs before dating. Neither one of us wanted or were prepared to leave our countries for the other, so we broke up. I waited what I thought was a sufficient amount of time to start dating again, 3 months. But, it wasn't long enough. I was still very vulnerable. I allowed myself to prematurely get into something new, with my vet, whom I'd known as a patient (my dogs...he put one of them to rest for me, so I was very emotionally attached starting with that before even dating) for a few yrs prior to dating. As you can see there's a pattern of friends first...thinking this somehow protects you, nope. Long story short, after 2 months of dating what I thought was exclusive I decided to have "the talk" - hey, my gay hairdresser said "girl, it's time to address the elephant in the room!" Good enough for me! So we went to dinner, had my sexiest dress on, my hair just blown out...got compliments all night. But after asking where things stand we were over within 2 days. Too much pressure I guess. The thing is, it's better to ask in the beginning even if you know you probably won't receive the answer you want. Isn't that better than looking back a year later and have spent all that time getting attached to someone who's attachment style is different than yours, Avoidant? I knew going into it, like you, that we probably weren't going to be forever, even though he checked all my boxes and it was the best sex in my life! Our little voice, higher self, will always tell us everything we need to know up front. It's up to us to listen. He immediately took a job in the worst part of Louisiana working with rehabilitating and retiring Apes that spent their whole life being experimented in labs. 😢So, I'm happy he's living his dream. I wasn't about to invest in another long-distance relationship. Do I have regrets? Not one. Everything really does happen for a reason.
P.s We both felt butterflies the entire time we dated. I kept thinking they would eventually go away. I would say to him "Maybe it's not actually a good thing we feel anxious when we're with each other...". He would reply "Oh no, I know myself & it's a very good thing." Really? No, not really.
The thing that makes us intrigued about her video it’s not because she is pretty, but the fact that she is very well spoken and able to pronounce every words with meaning behind them.
Lana; I've been reluctant to watch this. Today it's playing because I was listening to a "Ted talk". I'd like to mention I am this American guy you don't even know. I'm not looking for a relationship due to my financial situation, maybe even religious but I'm agnostic knowing I'm not Christian, afraid I might be confused with atheist if I don't mention agnosticism. I greatly value our relationship as not even friends. Thank you so much for being.
Story time Lana is best Lana!
Thanks for sharing your experience. It's valuable not only for girls but also for boys, as it offers insights on how to navigate relationships and commit to the person they're dating.
I always enjoy your videos, and this is probably the first comment I've written on your channel!
I was in a relationship for 5 months and then my ex broke up with me and blocked me everywhere. Afterwards I never had the opportunity to talk to her anymore, not even to ask her how she is doing. The fact that I couldn't talk to her anymore and I never knew why probably hurt more than the breakup itself
Lana your voice is very soothing 😌💖🤌🏻💕
I usually never comment on videos, but i just wanted to say that i think it's so brave of you to share this story with the internet. Love how you share such a vulnerable event and your insights. And if people are going to judge you for something like that, it says a lot more about them than about you. It's human to make mistakes and especially in your twenties. Thank you for making me feel less alone! Would love to see more videos like this from you ❤
Another Chad story from the streets.
Omg!!!! the red flags you described are the exact behavior of the person that ghosted me. Anyway I ended up hunting him down through a fake number and got my closure and am glad that it didn't work out.
what did you find out after you hunted him down?
I love the storytimes!
Oh wow, I just realized that I was ghosted once. It's weird to give a definition for that moment but I think that was it, he stopped texting and didn't reach out anymore, he already wasn't much of a text person but he was on-line from time to time. Maybe after all we only shared common interests and then we drifted apart, starting with his choice 🍃
The harsh truth from the little signs sounds like a typical young Chad playing you along as part of his roster of girls.
Ladies, if your dad is not involved to screen out the young Chads, you are setting yourself up to be ghosted, especially if you put out before his declaration to the world of a committed relationship.
Please do more storytimes!❤
I loved to see your openess! More storietimes for the next videos :)
Hi Lana, I'm a big fan of your podcast. When will the S2 come out?
Unfortunately, all young girls fall for red flags, no matter how emotionally intelligent they are.
I had a very similar situation(ship), though I was not ghosted, but "broken up with". From my side I definitely let several signs slip through the cracks. But I was very honest with that person about my intentions. He first said he was looking for the same thing, and then ten dates after it turned out that he was not ready for a relationship because "becoming a boyfriend is too much commitment". There were some things that I think could be attributed to his age (he was younger than me), but some other things were truly wild. And it took me here and a half months to get over it (the entire thing lasted only one and a half months). I think this also shows how damaging these situationships truly are. But I am happy that I am over it finally, and I did learn a ton from it. Never repeating those mistakes ever again!
online friend did this to me, she doesn’t answer my texts on any of my socials yet she snaps me every single day. i wish i was strong enough to completely cut it off, unfriend her on snap but theres still that glimmer of hope in me that makes me believe we might become the best friends we were,
once again.
💗💗🌸🌸Stay blessed ! I can't believe someone can ghost a beautiful person like you 🤍🤍
Sorry that happened to you. Good tips and indications to look out for.
Hey you are a great storyteller, loved your skills in conveying your experience straight
Even if you try to have conversations about the future, sometimes your partner will not be honest because they know if they do they will lose you. There is no real solution for ghosting, my suggestion is protecting yourself emotionally so that the ghosting event does not impact you as much as it normally would, anyways don't ghost people.. Be honest with your intentions, if its not for you then let it go.. because sometimes you might hurt someone without reason at all and trust me eventually karma will pay you back.
Yes! More story times! 🙌🏻
I'm so sorry this happened to you...unfortuantely even family and friends do that and it's on them, they are the issue, not you.
Your voice is soothing and peaceful.
I ghosted one person before and to this day live with the guilt. Looking back I see that my emotional immaturity made me do it. Never again.
Did you ever go back and apologize?
Go back and Apologize now! It's proper manners you will be lucky if they are still alive to hear your apology.
@@apartment353 yeah I did, he was kind enough to hear me out and to this day we continue to support each other
@@jfj876 i did calm down
LOL, dude. It isn't that big of a deal. The worst thing you could do now is contact them again. They most likely moved on and would not want to engage with you again and that's fine. Meet other people, there's literally billions of people.
Very honest ❤ thank you for putting up 😊😊😊
this is 2 months late, but i wanted to say - 1) i could never dream of judging lovely miss lana, and am instead so happy to connect with someone on the endearing naivety of youth, 2) thank you for sharing this story time, i know it is a deeply personal experience so we are honored to hear it. 3) i would LOVE more laid back “hang out” videos like this; i watched while painting my nails and felt like i was laughing & chatting with a girlfriend
k but the first thought I had before even getting to the end of the video was: who in their right mind would be SO shortsighted to ghost Lana??! 🥴 I really appreciate you making this video. It's really interesting to hear your reflections on this relationship a few years later and see your growth since then 💕
Some dude who most likely just wanted her for the physical. He was probably handsome, tall, etc and had a bit of an ego, probably had an abundance of girls, and thought he could pick another up. Sad but possible.
Painful indeed.Keeep going upwards and onwards. Brush it aside and meditate a bit in the morning, inhale and exhale deeply.God bless you
I just want to mention that if a guy really wants you in his life, he'll tell you about the people he communicates with. Whether it's work, family, old friends, acquaintances... when I've been in a relationship, I have always tried to be open about things/people/experiences. If I want her in my life, she has to know my life. And I want to know hers, so that I can be in it.
why are people making it so difficult for each other i don't get that just talk just say '' i'm sorry, i don't think this is gonna work out, i don't feel the attraction'' it's not that hard, yeah it's gonna hurt, but ghosting is disgusting idc what your mentality is just say it.
I don't know. . . on the one hand, ghosting is often an indication of a lack of social skills. . . but in the other hand, there are people you can't reason with when you have concerns you need to bring up, so I could see walking away quietly instead of wasting energy and getting into an argument. Sometimes it's safer to ghost than to put your life at risk, at least in the U.S.
Personally, if I even had the sense that someone was cheating on me, I'd rather ghost than put up with more disrespect like being told "you're so insecure and controlling".
can they at least leave a text that they are leaving and then start the ghosting?
@@aditisaini556it ain’t ghosting if you leave a note before doing it.
Keep your head up G ! ❤
I'm still at the beginning of this video I don't know why but I can sense a difference in your energy you're usually so calm this time I feel you're more expressive
she's just more confident recently i think. she's more animated in general now
@@serengeti4027 exactly 💯
Ahh Lana.. how I remember I was ghosted.. always ashamed of it.. but suddenly feel ok to see you, hear you and how to shared your exp. Thank you Lana, I have such an earge to meet you now.
Why are you ashamed? Ghosting has nothing to do with you, but everything with the one who ghosts.
Lana, you're saying so many times that "judge me"type of words.But I don't see there's anything to judge.So many people go through this type of things due to the butterflies and confusion.and being young it also plays a role I think.But I really love how you shared your experience.It is a nice video to have on CZcams.And really I love it.And I like it and I'm not even judging you even slightly.I know myself very well,that you know people who are going to be understanding and non judgemental would admired your this video.I just thought to write to you..No..you don't have to say that so many times.. We're who love you, we aren't judging you about your experience.
This has to be the first video on CZcams i have seen after 1min its been uploaded. And good content by the way.
thanks !!
Thank you.The signs are very helpful! :)
loved it. learned something every time from your videos. keeping up. be yourself and authentic.
I would also add, when you’re asking them who they are texting or getting texts from… watch their facial expressions as this tells you so much about them