Thankyou for putting this video up. My son is a chronic school refuser. He has special needs and was bullied for a number of years before I realised that the problem was being ignored. I can take a lot of advise from the video and translate it to suit my teen.
I think seven hours and change, five days a week is really too much for little kids. It is just absolute torture getting my kid there every day, just agonizing. And it gets worse and worse.
solution, home schooling from computer, 24 hour classes kids can choose the time they want to attend before a deadline, this eliminates so many problems and saves tax payers in money, no transportation needed, no school needs to be built, teachers work from home
Its been 1 year that my daughter hasnt been to school..am now being sent a fine..have tried everything to get her in and the school have also tried everything but she still refuses due to school anxiety. I cant homeschool as i am a single parent and need to fo to work. Getting her tested for autism 3 year wait and she is with cahms for 2 years but still on waiting list for 1-1 counselling sessions. Really stuck ready to have a breakdown 😢
This just started with us with my middle schooler and it started with my oldest daughter when she started middle school to then it quit when she started high school but the younger one is doing it now in middle she cries and it’s so hard to get her to walk in
My youngest child has been like this since day one, even at kindergarten. He is now year 7 and complains about going to school almost daily. It is difficult to get him to go to bed on time so he’s usually up too late, then hard get up and ready. I have to do everything for him to get him & the older two there on time. He gets sick without fail in the last week of the school term & gets a chronic cough & ends up having the last few days before school holidays off. It happens so often that I wonder if he can actually make himself sick just by thinking about it. The thought of the holidays being just around the corner doesn’t seem to motivate or excite him - he just complains about going even more. He has trouble making friends but I think a lot is his ‘poor me’ depressed attitude. I have tried to get him to do things like learn to ride a bike, skateboard, play guitar, piano, also swimming and gymnastics - but he has no drive or interest. He hurt himself during gym (free running) and had such a meltdown and refused to go anymore. He complains about practicing. Then he complains about being depressed, having a bad day and not having friends. And right on queue - just got a text from school saying can I pick him up because he’s not well. I feel as though I need to chaperone his every waking second to get him to do what he is supposed to. He has no internal self discipline or drive. He is of normal intelligence and probably even quite bright but it is all driving me insane that he just has zero self motivation to help himself. The only thing he likes is computer games. Surprise bloody surprise.
It's gonna be really difficult for many to try to learn something that's not related to their interests and it grows the more the person gets lost. Try to build off the things he's already interested in; are the things you mentioned things he actually really enjoys or just his own way to escape everything. Figured out what he's eager to learn on his own usually people will base what they're obsessed with and want to learn off of pivotal moments in their life.
Thats impossible because school is worse than hell so we just dont want this much injury cries and our pets to miss us and crying school stands for seven crappy hours of our lives
If a child refuses to go to school or refuses to work then they have refused. Children have rights!!! 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, just to learn draining knowledge, half of wich not being useful anyways. taught in a boring monotonous way. It is not right. Homework is another thing, so here is an example: I go to bed early and get up at 6 o-clock to go to your schools. I wear the uniform you want me to and i do the work for at least 4 hours. After all that i go home and want to relax or do a hobby or something but no, i have to do more work at home too. The amount of times I have told teachers i do not want to do the work and they have just shrugged it off is enough times to really wind anybody up. Everybody at school has/had a cruel, horrible teacher who dishes out detentions left right and centre. The excuses some teachers have is pathetic. The school system is finally out of date and it is about time people do something about it. Revolt. Refuse. Prove your rights.
Your parents aren't going to take care of you forever. You do not have rights to make your own choices until you are 18 and move out of your parent's home. What kind of job are you going to get without an education? The future is technology. You can either be part of it or a bum on the street. Enjoy homelessness.
I’m a mother with 3 kids and I couldn’t agree more!!!! It’s draining!!!! If they made it a little simpler like the kids not having to get up at 6-630 and making school last 7 friggen hours!!! And then sending home the homework u hope they’ll do because if not THEY CHOOSE that my child has to stay back a grade and then it’s bad for their mental status because now they feel stupid and all their friends r going off to the next grade or high school. It’s too much!!! Im glad ppl feel the same way!!
I love it you don’t a change every kid have to go too school if you don’t your parents or who ever taking care of you in going bro jail even if you are going bullying sick lol😊
Is this a generational thing? Our parents set the expectation for our behaviors, bedtimes and going to school, etc. We just did it, came home, did our homework, had dinner together. We wanted to do it because it was our job, just as our parents had their jobs. There are 24 hours in a day, plenty for a child to do everything they need to do. Maybe they need to put their phones and tablets away to avoid distraction. The kids are running the show, not the adults. It doesn't bode well for kids hooked in their devices.
Answer to the title: Do it like my parents did, " Drag there ass to school, or their ass is grass" ;) Who is a millennial who was raised like the 80's?
Nothing a Swift kick square in the ass won’t fix . A real motivational tool. Kids should go to school 6 days a week ten hours a day to build up their weak constitution. They won’t have to be worried about being bored or anything 😁 Have a nice day. Lightweights 🥺
I lost it when she said “I can’t do this anymore “! 😢 I’ve said those words too many times!
Making an anxious child attend school when he or she refuses to go is a recipe for further psychological problems now and
later in life.
I think the days of compulsory education need to be ended!
She’s describing children with asd and adhd. Children with sensory overload and pda will struggle 5 days a week.
Thankyou for putting this video up. My son is a chronic school refuser. He has special needs and was bullied for a number of years before I realised that the problem was being ignored. I can take a lot of advise from the video and translate it to suit my teen.
the sad truth is the public schools are living in the past, everything now is obsolete.
My son is a Junior in high school and I am still dealing with this. My husband is no help.
Doesn't help, just identifies it, but then what?!
I hate how people have limited understanding of this problem. I only wish my parents had had this video when I was younger. Thank you :)
5 days a week is too much for young children..
UnitedWeStand 777 And 5th Grader’s
Yeah 5 days sucks.
Exactly
I think seven hours and change, five days a week is really too much for little kids. It is just absolute torture getting my kid there every day, just agonizing. And it gets worse and worse.
Flexi school.
solution, home schooling from computer, 24 hour classes kids can choose the time they want to attend before a deadline, this eliminates so many problems and saves tax payers in money, no transportation needed, no school needs to be built, teachers work from home
cptk3rk my kids don’t like sitting in front computer for hours
Guess I'm weird then
The abusers would love this.
No help to abuse children.
But what about the parents that have to go out to work and can't stay in all day to look after the children?
Its been 1 year that my daughter hasnt been to school..am now being sent a fine..have tried everything to get her in and the school have also tried everything but she still refuses due to school anxiety. I cant homeschool as i am a single parent and need to fo to work. Getting her tested for autism 3 year wait and she is with cahms for 2 years but still on waiting list for 1-1 counselling sessions. Really stuck ready to have a breakdown 😢
Excellent video!
This just started with us with my middle schooler and it started with my oldest daughter when she started middle school to then it quit when she started high school but the younger one is doing it now in middle she cries and it’s so hard to get her to walk in
Same. 11yrar old want’s to skip because 15 yr old is refusing entirely to go
@@jeanettelapierre7824 I ended up having to do the online if they will do computer online I would suggest that 💕
That sucks.
My youngest child has been like this since day one, even at kindergarten. He is now year 7 and complains about going to school almost daily. It is difficult to get him to go to bed on time so he’s usually up too late, then hard get up and ready. I have to do everything for him to get him & the older two there on time. He gets sick without fail in the last week of the school term & gets a chronic cough & ends up having the last few days before school holidays off. It happens so often that I wonder if he can actually make himself sick just by thinking about it. The thought of the holidays being just around the corner doesn’t seem to motivate or excite him - he just complains about going even more. He has trouble making friends but I think a lot is his ‘poor me’ depressed attitude. I have tried to get him to do things like learn to ride a bike, skateboard, play guitar, piano, also swimming and gymnastics - but he has no drive or interest. He hurt himself during gym (free running) and had such a meltdown and refused to go anymore. He complains about practicing. Then he complains about being depressed, having a bad day and not having friends. And right on queue - just got a text from school saying can I pick him up because he’s not well. I feel as though I need to chaperone his every waking second to get him to do what he is supposed to. He has no internal self discipline or drive.
He is of normal intelligence and probably even quite bright but it is all driving me insane that he just has zero self motivation to help himself. The only thing he likes is computer games. Surprise bloody surprise.
It's gonna be really difficult for many to try to learn something that's not related to their interests and it grows the more the person gets lost. Try to build off the things he's already interested in; are the things you mentioned things he actually really enjoys or just his own way to escape everything. Figured out what he's eager to learn on his own usually people will base what they're obsessed with and want to learn off of pivotal moments in their life.
Pow ! Pow! Pow !
Tuned right in the reality of things. 💯👍🏽
I have to watch this because my parents don’t take responsibilities
Living it... 🙄
Is there a handbook for this
Where is the form to take to counselors?
Thank You
Thats impossible because school is worse than hell so we just dont want this much injury cries and our pets to miss us and crying school stands for seven crappy hours of our lives
My son is feeling suicidal I’ve the matter
If a child refuses to go to school or refuses to work then they have refused. Children have rights!!! 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, just to learn draining knowledge, half of wich not being useful anyways. taught in a boring monotonous way. It is not right. Homework is another thing, so here is an example: I go to bed early and get up at 6 o-clock to go to your schools. I wear the uniform you want me to and i do the work for at least 4 hours. After all that i go home and want to relax or do a hobby or something but no, i have to do more work at home too. The amount of times I have told teachers i do not want to do the work and they have just shrugged it off is enough times to really wind anybody up. Everybody at school has/had a cruel, horrible teacher who dishes out detentions left right and centre. The excuses some teachers have is pathetic. The school system is finally out of date and it is about time people do something about it. Revolt. Refuse. Prove your rights.
@@JohnnyNiteTrain Andrew Tate
Bro if your whining now your in for a rude awakening when real life slaps you in the face. Man up!
Your parents aren't going to take care of you forever. You do not have rights to make your own choices until you are 18 and move out of your parent's home. What kind of job are you going to get without an education? The future is technology. You can either be part of it or a bum on the street. Enjoy homelessness.
I'm Sorry I'm 2 years late to this but I agree tbh I'm in year 7 and it's really draining :/
I’m a mother with 3 kids and I couldn’t agree more!!!! It’s draining!!!! If they made it a little simpler like the kids not having to get up at 6-630 and making school last 7 friggen hours!!! And then sending home the homework u hope they’ll do because if not THEY CHOOSE that my child has to stay back a grade and then it’s bad for their mental status because now they feel stupid and all their friends r going off to the next grade or high school. It’s too much!!! Im glad ppl feel the same way!!
I love it you don’t a change every kid have to go too school if you don’t your parents or who ever taking care of you in going bro jail even if you are going bullying sick lol😊
That's fucked up this need to stop teacher don't care about the kids they care about getting paid wake up
Omg please get ahold of me I need your help ASAP
lol let me know if anything said works on a teen, good luck!
Is this a generational thing? Our parents set the expectation for our behaviors, bedtimes and going to school, etc. We just did it, came home, did our homework, had dinner together. We wanted to do it because it was our job, just as our parents had their jobs. There are 24 hours in a day, plenty for a child to do everything they need to do. Maybe they need to put their phones and tablets away to avoid distraction. The kids are running the show, not the adults. It doesn't bode well for kids hooked in their devices.
It was hard to listen to her when she says OK every other sentence
What happens if your kid doesn't go to school in june?
oleirishdragon your parents will go to jail
Anna Mills I thought it would be possible to avoid that if you avoid school in june without permission.
Answer to the title: Do it like my parents did, " Drag there ass to school, or their ass is grass" ;) Who is a millennial who was raised like the 80's?
Parenthoods doesn't sound like much fun.
She's the kind of person who could lock a child in a basement and not feel guilty about it.
Obviously alot of commentors on this video were school refusers. Alot of these comments are moronic.
Bit of a 🔔 end aren't you...
What a demented evil woman.
Nothing a Swift kick square in the ass won’t fix .
A real motivational tool.
Kids should go to school 6 days a week ten hours a day to build up their weak constitution.
They won’t have to be worried about being bored or anything 😁
Have a nice day.
Lightweights 🥺
Have fun with the pow pow when you wake up and realize your teenager is beating you.
Terrible advice.
That just makes them fear you and school more and will really encourage them not to pursue higher education and to distance themselves from you.