309 Hours of Driving Lessons - Learning to Drive with an Anxiety Disorder
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- čas přidán 5. 06. 2024
- Alexandra's experience of learning to drive whilst dealing with an anxiety disorder. Taking 309 hours and nearly 4 years certainly required motivation along the way. Find out what was challenging and the source of the what seemed like endless determination and motivation.
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00:00 Intro
00:30 Questions and answers
00:38 How long did it take?
01:36 How do you feel?
02:16 Two biggest challenges?
03:47 How did you overcome the challenges?
05:00 How could an instructor help?
06:06 Reaction of friends and family?
08:15 Where did you get your motivation?
09:25 Why did you agree to the video?
10:55 Would automatic help?
13:35 Are you a safe driver?
14:08 Any accidents?
15:20 Anything you would like to say?
18:01 Outro
Very brave of Alexandra to participate in this video! Massive respect
TheFullswordslord.
The instructor agreed to only do the interview on the expressed condition that she would not try to drive the car (and he threw the car key down the drain to make sure).
Yeah, huge deal sharing this with us and incredibly helpful! Very grateful for her sharing her story!
The fact that Alexandra did many lessons and even when people doubted her she still pushed herself past the anxiety enough to carry on. She didn't give up and had perseverance...What a solider!! She is such a role model to other who feel this way when driving including myself and now seeing such an amazing example like Alexandra having the confidence to now drive is helping so many other people. Thank you so much Alexandra for making this video, your are such an inspiration. I hope eventually I pass too.
My story is more worst than her I took 9 years, changed 5 instructors and spent around 4-5 grand on lessons, and finally pass my test 11.12.2021
You did it though! Congratulations!
@@ConquerDriving thanks you ❤️
Well done I have mental health bi-polar. And struggle with the test day itself. And confidence issues. With driving instructor had lots of different driving instructors. And god knows how many hours of learning. But determined to pass. Last test I failed right at the end on a reverse manovere around a car. Legs were shaking as doing it as knew I'd pass if done it. Gutted I failed but will try again. Good luck to everyone. With mental health.
Congratulations and you’re not alone
Well done, inspirational that you never gave up.
Even though I don't have an anxiety disorder, I can relate to much of what Alexandra has said. I was quite an anxious driver and so I switched from manual to automatic and the difference was night and day. I felt soo much more at ease whilst driving and it made me excited to hop into the driving seat and learn to drive. Huge amount of respect for Alexandra for persevering and succeeding.
I'm currently contemplating buying a second vehicle with a manual transmission. I have time to learn to drive it (actually I've driven a stick shift 4 years ago for a week), but I have to decide if the transmission will be a deal breaker for this vehicle, which also has a camper that I want.
Did the same, feel so comfortable in an auto
Yeap. I'm currently learning, have been for the last year, give or take a couple months. On the first month I could tell the transmission was going to be a big, big problem. I couldn't convince my dad that it was hard because it's been second nature for him for decades, he doesn't even remember his beginner days. Sadly I can't afford to simply get an automatic car, as they're relatively rare where I live and we're dirt poor (the "car" I drive is actually a van from the early 90s that we got for cheap because it had been left to rot in tall grass for years). On top of that I have a pretty bad case of generalized anxiety disorder. So I've just been soldiering on. Tonight for the first time ever I felt very relaxed driving my mom home. I still have plenty left to learn like parallel parking or highway norms, but I'm making progress. I doubt it'll take me 4 years, but given the circumstances, I wouldn't feel inadequate if it did. Life isn't fair, what can ya do.
Me too!! Alexandria talking about confidence was very validating because I struggle with self confidence in driving too (even in an automatic!). But I enjoy driving far more in an automatic now :)
Right there with you! I have anxiety disorder and it was only through an automatic that I could learn to drive. Actually just waiting on buying my first manual as I go through this awesome channel's videos on clutch control after falling in love with driving.
This is me right now. Im 30 and I have just passed my theory & having lessons weekly and confidence is a huge issue for me, I have anxiety leading up to the lesson every single week, and when its over I literally go for a nap and its a huge weight off my shoulder… until the next week 😭
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to take away some of the pressure, don't worry about driving badly it's fine and normal when learning. Just try to enjoy the process. Much easier said than done though.
I always need a cuppa and to unwind after my lessons too xxx
I'm exactly the same! My practical test is coming up and I need to practice, but I dread every single lesson. Also, I'm driving my own car with family as the lessons were too nerve-wracking, it would literally ruin my week just worrying about it.
i am the same, i get exhausted every week because i spend half of it anxious for my lesson and it just took my energy. so i asked my instructor if i could do lessons every fortnight, this helps me have at least 1 week respite from the anxiety, i also have my own car which i do use at least once a week even if a brief trip somewhere local with my fiancee to help me. that way i dont get too rusty behind the wheel. i still have the anxiety before my lessons but thats cause i feel like its more performance anxiety, trying to prove myself. i want the lessons and practical over with so that i can have my life back again and not feel like ive lost half my life in the swirl of anxiety.. i tried having lessons on a weekday but i ended up worse off when im working as i get really anxious, plus when i finish im just going to be stuck in rush hour traffic anyway. so i have to sacrifice time on my weekend instead.
I noticed that too, I'd be knackered after a lesson even though I was only driving a car, it's great when it's over though.
As an instructor I find the job satisfaction from helping people like Alexandra very rewarding.
Thank you for this . I have my test very soon and have been learning for nearly two years . Thank you for being an inspiration ❤
Never be put off. It doesn't matter how long it takes or how many tests you take, when you pass you've achieved the same standard as everyone else and you've earned your stripes.
She reflects exactly what i felt during my lessons and how i still feel after i've passed. A lot of people when they pass are straight onto the motorway and driving to the fullest. People like me who have driven for over 2 years now have only been on the motorway about 4 times and each time was because i had no other choice and each time was only one junction in duration.
It takes time for some of us like she said, to just gain confidence in ourselves first. My first time driving on my own was to work and back which was only 10 minutes away, i was shitting bricks. Now 2 years later i can say i've driven 85 miles to the coast and back. A huge milestone. I hope mores to come.
Thanks for the video i'm just glad i'm not alone with this anxiety crap.
A motorway is just a glorified dual carriageway. Nothing at all to worry about :)
i find motorway driving much easier then in town
I have just recently passed and you have described what I feel perfectly
@@nicole_gemmell You'll get there 🙂, me now a further 2 years after my original comment i can say i've been on the motorway more times and for longer journeys. Not really a fan of the motorway but i'm not too bothered by it now. I'm proud of myself for the confidence i've gained since i passed in 2019. You will too.
Great topic... totally relatable. I have an anxiety disorder and age(39 at the start now 44)...it's going on 5 years on & off . Hopefully 2022 will be my year. Merci Alexandra
You’ve got this ❤️❤️❤️
You can do it! I passed my test after 3 years, 2 times failed. I am 64
Sending you confidence xxx
That Woman
Let me know which days you go on the roads and I will stay at home on those days!
@@redblade8160 are you a troll my advice stay of the roads completly your a dangerour to others
I hope this young lady reads this - you superstar. Well done for passing with anxiety. You should be very proud of yourself.
I'm so inspired by this lady, so glad that she achieved her goal. I'm 49 and just starting to learn, I'm determined (also suffer with anxiety and lack of confidence) to overcome fears and challenges.
I'm 47 and have a lesson booked this week! Also have anxiety but yes I'm also wanting to overcome my fears and drive. I don't want to be afraid anymore
I think I had about the same amount of hours of lessons because of my anxiety (I'm 24 with learning difficulties that affect my driving.) I never thought I'd pass - I passed my test 2nd time this year. I chose automatic, because it let me focus more on the road. I'd have panic attacks before every lesson, nearly quit, and hated driving. Now I've been driving for a few months and I'm doing things I'd never thought I'd do, like motorway driving for example. I promise you, you can do it. If you want more lessons, have them. If you want automatic, do it. Change your instructor if you like - I went through about 4 until I was comfortable, which is so important. Whatever gets you behind the wheel, it's your journey. Thank you for this channel, it really helped me!
Going for an automatic definitely seems like a smart choice if you're an anxious person as there is SOO much less to focus on when learning and stalling can really get even calm, level-headed people quite flustered, surprised more people don't take the obvious route like you did and make things a lil easier on themselves
@@BrewTimeRS Everyone was telling me to not do automatic because manual means you can drive both, and I know a lot of people feel pressured by this statement to not go automatic, and push themselves to major discomfort by this remark. But I'm glad I did it my way!
@@BrewTimeRS Because automatic lessons, cars, and insurance are more expensive.
@@Black.Sabbath all factual points, but not everyone prioritises budget, so the discrepancy is still surprising to me
Same here i started learning to drive 12 years ago. I practiced for a year then stopped as i wasnt progressing at all. My instructor even bumped me off on another instructor. After 9 years i plucked the courage to start my lessons again . 3 years learning and 2 failed tests with very long covid lockdown gaps in between i persevered . I was going to give up when my mum passed away in August as i got depression but my instructor booked me a test. I was a nervous wreck shaking so much on the day.i couldnt believe it when the examiner told me id passed. It was an emotional roller coaster all the way through and i never thought i would pass. Anxiety is a mental fight between mind and body which drains you.
It's great to hear you persevered and passed. That takes strength.
Amazing achievement
For someone who has driving anxiety like myself, you are a true inspiration!!
Same I’m 30 & definitely want to overcome my fear of driving but I want to learn cause I wanna be able to get around on my own w/out having to rely on anyone & I wanna be able to take my kids wherever they wanna go
ive had many panic attacks while driving but over the past few months my confidence has really grown. it’s crazy that i used to panic driving 20mph and last week my driving instructor took me on the motor way for the first time and i did really well :)
Once you pass, all of that stress, time and money spent learning will be overshadowed by the happiness and relief of passing. You just have to keep going and it will eventually pay off.
I think that's quite true.
Well done Alexandra! Huge respect to you. At the ripe old age of 46 I began to learn to drive after years of feeling overly anxious about it. the only way is up folks! Go your own pace, remember why you wanted to do this. You've got this!
I had the wonderful privilege of learning to drive with Rich. He's such a great guy who not only has a fantastic grasp of driving, but also a range of excellent of teaching skills.
I had troubles learning, and I was very supported through the process. :)
I think I can guess who you are from your user name - different but similar to your real name. I hope you're well and still enjoying driving.
Having a patient driving instructor that encourages and believes in you makes a difference. I had a couple that raised their voice and got annoyed with me. I lacked confidence for a long time time and the pressure to pass was a lot. I drove on and off for years and ended up wasting lots of money. During lockdown I bought a car and family members helped me to build my confidence. I focused on just being comfortable and driving to ease the pressure off the test. I could drive but it was the nerves so trying to relax and remember you’re in control helps. I then did both - family lessons and professional and found a new instructor I finally passed with only 17 days left on my theory! I couldn’t drive on dual carriageways without worrying or doing more than 40mphs but now it’s a breeze. You can do this! Driving is not a sprint it’s a marathon. The more you do lessons and learn the better you are on the road
I’m 4 minutes into this vid and feel quite emotional. I also have anxiety and it’s affecting my driving, I’ve done a lot of hours now but this video makes me have faith and know that I will get there in the end, also seeing that it’s not just me really helps, a very well done to her for perseverance and thankyou for making this video
It’s the night before my third test and I’ve been learning for 2 years now, I’m so so anxious but this has made me feel a bit better and less alone in this problem, thank you!
I hope it went well.
I relate quite a bit to this! I started learning to drive in 2018 with a manual car and it was *stressing* me out. My father and brothers tried teaching me but I was always nervous and would get physically sick just thinking about driving.
Last month I decided enough was enough and booked lessons with an automatic vehicle. I only did 7 hours and my instructor told me to book my drivers test and I passed! I decided to drive a car that didn't stress me out unnecessarily and it helped me sooooo much.
Learning to be kind to yourself and patient really helps when dealing with anxiety in driving
Congratulations on passing!
This really helped calm my nerves. Unfortunately, my entire family has engraved into my head that manual is the only car ill be learning in so i had no other choice. I have an incredibly hard time conceptualizing the clutch and doing 4 different things in a 3 second span so what ends up happening is my mind blanks, I forget what to do and have a mini anxiety attack on the road, which never ends well (no crash but alot of embarrassment/humiliation ). The second i see another car im already in panic mode and even my mums concerned about the anxiety I get the day before a lesson. I honestly think if I was allowed to just have an auto license, I would be much happier, but that wont happen for a while🥲. I remind myself that even if it takes longer, it'll be the right amount of time that I personally need and that I'll get there one day😖 This video and specifically your channel helps me alot so thank you so much for that!
It's important to learn what you want to learn. As for too much to do at once, try to learn to control the car slowly in a quiet area without traffic. Then try to accept when you're learning to improve your skill on the road you will slow traffic down. It's perfectly normal when learning.
She’s such a sweetheart. Thank you so much for sharing! It took me more time to learn than my friends and family and I finally passed my driving license this year. Looking back, I’m happy I took the time that I needed. I took the test 3 times and i was anxious, stressed and shaky during my first test but it got better and better with practice and experience. Just keep going, you’ll get there!
Yup 👍 that’s going to be me , definitely anxious, stressed and shaky.
@@lavonnealexander6936 All the best!
Huge huge love and respect to Alexandra ❤ I have GAD, ADHD and other mental health disorders that severely impact my confidence and overall cognition and her experience and perspective matches completely to what I and others are going through. Patience, determination and love are definitely the way to get the confidence back to be able to drive safely and smoothly - and how long you take to do something shouldn't matter as long as you can do it right and confidently. I have my first test booked for January, and I hope to pass!
Good luck in January!
Good luck!! You can do it!
I suffered with a generalized anxiety and panic disorder(s) - despite all my mates turning 17 then going in the driving seat, i wouldn't even approach it. I was actually more frightened of the social interaction (which was always the greatest point of my anxiety) - than the driving, but the driving didn't help. 2 CBT "courses" and 6 months of pills later, and i'm not perfect but i'm much better, test is two days and I'm just about breaking a sweat now..... my point is though, if my condition was more serious or wouldn't reduce the way it did, i don't know if i could've done it, let alone talk about it pubicly like this. I have huge respect for you sticking at it and sharing your experiences!
Good luck with your test!
I’m 25 and honestly never thought I’d learn to drive and was happy with the thought of using public transport for the rest of my life but the pandemic really showed me how inconvenient simple things are when you don’t have a license so I finally bit the bullet and began lessons last June (I was so nervous, anxious, felt ill before my lessons) and it took me 47ish hours with no private practice but I managed to pass this March on my first try! I completely relate to how nerve wracking it can be
That's a good time to learn to drive in if you were anxious. You did well. Congratulations on passing!
Thanks for speaking out Alexandra, I've been learning since May, had about 60 hours, test booked in march. I used to literally shake and sweat so much and as soon as one thing went wrong I'd just go all panicky and couldn't think clearly, it's gotten a lot better and I can control the nerves better now so hoping by March I'll be ready, it's nice to hear I'm not alone and well done for not giving up and so glad your hard work and determination paid off xxx
Good luck in March!! Sounds like you’ve come a long way xxx You can do this!
Good luck 🤞
In Australia we have to do a minimum of 120 hours as a Learner before we can take our test. So to put a different spin on it, you learned faster than every Australian. 😜
Don't let the hours bother you - the result is the same in the end! I hope you passed and got your confidence now.
What a lovely lady Alexandria is, she should be extremely proud of herself. I too suffer with anxiety disorder which prevented me from driving for 10 years after passing my test. A year ago I decided to get on the road, I had refresher lessons and got my first car in October 2020. It's been a long road for me and I needed to get medication from the Dr which helped me cope with the panic attacks. I can now pretty much drive anywhere and I can get in the car with no issues. Anyone who is anxious about driving, there is light at the end of the tunnel ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience with us Alexandra! This is very encouraging for us anxious learners ♥️
She is incredibly energetic, conversation - active and charismatic as well that I would love to see her “anxiety”
She is a very articulate and intelligent person. She doesn't appear anxious on camera so maybe that's a talent of hers. I think I'm more anxious on camera than she is 😂
It was great listening to Alexandra, but a lot of ppl don’t have the money to do over 300 hours of lessons. I do believe confidence is a key thing with driving and believing in yourself. Plus listening to the instructor, watching self help videos, if you keep at it, all will sink in. A instructor can’t snap someone out of having anxiety but maybe doing some meditation and calming videos before driving may help. I’m not knocking Alexandra’s story, it’s great that she passed, congratulations. But it’s unrealistic for most who wouldn’t be able to afford 300 hours of driving.. in my opinion.
So glad this video landed on my feed. I had a shocking lesson yesterday and thinking of giving up. This has changed my mind 😀
Today I'm going to have a good cry watching this and reading all the comments. Thank you so much Richard for making this.
Im 51 with severe driving anxiety. Been doing lessons since 2019. I have failed 3 times and and my confidence is at an all time low. I feel like giving up but know I cant as I have invested so much time and money in this. Its nice to find this video and know I am not alone.
Siouxsie Sleuth dont give up. Am 59 and did a start stop since i was 22 four times each decade and now am in Holland moved from UK in 2001..
This time am now going for automatic 30/03 trusting that this is the last lap. Conquer driving is helping and this interview is an absolute God send🙏🏽🫶🏽
@@ajdarc880 Thank you so much! I am currently having hypnotherapy which is really helping. I am wishing you so much luck!!! x
@@siouxsiesleuth3589 thank you
Please don’t give up! You will pass one day and trust me - best feeling EVER!
I just recently learned how to drive as well and I'm already 34! It's never about being early or late to learn something, what's important is that you learned them because you wanted to. Just like how Alexandra had pointed out. So to every drivers in this content, always stay safe on the road everyone! Thank you for sharing this video!
I suffer with anxiety but I had a fab instructor who built my confidence and I started driving in June 2021 and passed in November 2021. I can relate at the same time but I had a bit more confidence to jump into it where I was out of my depth but I had full trust in my instructor!
This is me. I am 38 years old and now learning to drive. I am taking it one step at a time. It is comforting to know I am not alone.
How did it go, did you pass your test?
I needed this today, I suffer with anxiety and the last two lessons I've hit a mental block. My instructor is fabulous and knows when to push and not push my limits. I just need to not put pressure on myself 😊
Thumbs up for the brave lady who shared her incredible experience!
Well done Alexandra, congrats to you driving out on your own after you’ve passed! Well done to both Richard & Alexandra for keeping at it and getting what you both wanted a test pass. 🚙👍🏼👏🏻
Well done Alexandra!!❤️
My story is the opposite….I passed my test first time with 0 fault, but my anxiety developed after when I started to drive alone…it took 2 years to start enjoy driving and accept that I am not a bad driver and capable of making good decisions at the right time.
All what I can say is please do not feel any shame and take your time!
Wow this is one of your best videos. Alexandra is so honest and true to herself in this video. It reminded me and friends who struggled to drive due to self doubt and anxiety. You were a good instructor being so patient with her!!
This is a very moving story. Congratulations Alexandra, I have a lot of admiration for your grit and determination - if I was your friend/mother I would be very, very proud of you. Disclosure - I have diagnoses of CPTSD and CEN, anxiety is a big problem for me and has hampered me so much in life (I'm learning at 60). Your experience (alongside the other videos in this series) is really encouraging and valuable for a lot of people I'm sure. Thank you for having the courage to share it.
I am currently learning to drive with Social anxiety, I know exactly how she feels, but personally I found that trying to do precise movements under the 'scrutiny' of my instructor on quiet roads, such as the simple things, as practising speed and turning at junction's and so on, the early stuff. To be more anxiety feeding and causes me make mistakes, then actually driving on roads with other motorists. Once i was on those, the anxiety melted away as i was driving, because i had to pay attention to the road rather then the nagging feeling of being watched. That isn't to say I don't make small mistakes however, nobody is perfect.
I really appreciate this as someone with anxiety. I had 2 different instructors because i wasn’t comfortable with my first one. Done way more lessons than i have heard of anyone else doing and failed my test the first time, which really knocked me. I didn’t want to do it at all again but i did and im so grateful i passed, I probably wouldn’t have done it a 3rd time as i just hated the stress so much and i really struggled being in a car with a stranger. Thanks for making this video, i passed last week and watched as much of you as i could to refresh before my test and it really helped keeping me calm and making me feel more confident. Thanks for being a great guy and doing this video and being patient and kind 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
That's so great to hear. Congratulations on passing!
Taking my exam for the 4th time tomorrow… I’m so stressed out, it feels like I’ll never pass. I put learning to drive off for a long time because of anxiety too… You’re so brave Alexandra!! Thanks for sharing
EDIT: I PASSED THE 5TH TIME!!!
Good luck!
Good luck tomorrow!
@@SyedaTasnia thank you!!!
@@ConquerDriving thank you so much!! Your videos helped me a lot by the way
Hey, its okay, dont worry, I struggle with anxiety too and I promise driving gets easier. Best of luck tomorrow :D
well done alexandra for participating in this video, its so brave and selfless of you!! and a huge congrats to powering through all that time & despite the bumps in the road (haha) you passed and thats amazing! youve proven to everyone that you can do it so WELL DONE! i also have an anxiety disorder, im currently doing lessons and at first i was the same i was like oh my god i cant do this but im surprising myself with how much im picking up, you’re so right its all about the confidence within yourself and the determination. thanks so much for this video👏❤️
Wow what an incredible woman! So proud of you and the achievements it is so beyond inspirational for us who have anxiety disorders too thank you Richard x
Thank you so much for your videos! I will continue learning with each one. I passed on my second try today with 2 minors, my first attempt ended very quickly as I was just so nervous with the pressure of the covid backlog and my theory test expiration date approaching. Had to go for 4 ‘tests’ in total as 2 were cancelled on the day and the anxiety for days/weeks before each one was awful. Overall, it took me around 3 years to pass due to many factors like lack of money, no friends or family available to practice with, having to switch instructors at short notice, and of course, lockdown after lockdown. These videos kept my driving knowledge up and have helped me to gain confidence with my driving despite it all. To anyone else struggling to get their license, take it easy on yourself, there’s so many obstacles at the moment and it might feel nearly impossible but just keep going. You will get there, best of luck!
Thank you for sharing your experience Alexandra! I have my test coming up in a couple months and I am not the most confident driver, but your story is really motivating me! Hopefully I will get my confidence soon!
Fantastic video as always. I have been learning all year and I'm an anxious person.
Eventually, I realised my instructor was not right for me. He was very nice, but he ALWAYS made me drive at the speed limit, and always made me go faster, and pushed me way to hard.
I changed instructor, who was calmer, let me do things at my own pace (and made me realise I don't have to go really fucking fast) and already I have had some of the best lessons ever and have become so much more confident! I booked my driving test in a few months. It makes a WORLD of difference!!!
What my anxiety thing in driving is when I am manuevering for parking because I am driving slow, its hard to read if my tires are straight if you dont have power steering, so I struggle when I see my vehicle weaves on side when I want to move/reverse forward.
Its easy to re straight your tires while driving because you have at least decent speed
In my case my instructor is okay however I get nervous and I have this gut feeling that makes me uncomfortable before any driving lesson. It started off okay but now every time he teaches something new he expects me to know how to do it so every time I screw up, he rises his voice. I make mistakes and everytime he makes me more and more uncomfortable. For me it’s important to do things several times before I finally get them so I don’t think this instructor is my right match. I’ve almost had 20 hours driving and I was thinking of finding another instructor. It’s so hard to find one though so it’s like I have to stick with him or I’ll just practice with my mom
@@lousdinovembre I was basically in the same situation! I'd feel sick with nervousness before my lessons, but now I've switched to this other instructor I look forward to them! It's really like night and day.
Have a look around on Facebook if you can. I found her because of recommendations and a high pass rate.
I hope you can find someone better! He shouldn't rise his voice at you 😭
Such a good idea to post a video like this. Thankyou . I’ve avoided learning to drive for years and have just gone back to it. I decided to learn in an automatic this time round, to take out the stress of gears ( that was a big thing for me) I’m 4 lessons in now and I’m actually enjoying it. I still get extremely anxious at times and so it’s harder for me to take in information. I am learning and enjoying it though overall.
This Channel has really opened my eyes to how common it is to struggle when learning to drive.
Thank you so much Alexandra for making this video and congrats on not giving up. This is surely helping a lot of people, myself included
“If you’re out of your depth, go somewhere a bit more shallow” really good tip!
o my days your a credit to people who struggle, im sooo happy these videos have been uploaded. THANK YOU ❤
I’m so appreciative of this video! Thank you for doing this :)
I have generalised anxiety disorder too. Your vids come at the perfect time
Thanks for sharing this video at the right time for me I have lost count in the amount of hours I've learned to drive so far . I also suffer really bad anxiety disorder myself this is a big help to me a combination of your videos and my current instructor have helped massively with my 3rd test looming I need to try and keep my head so too speak also fair play to Alexandra for sharing her story that is quite a brave thing to do
Alexandra is truly inspiring! I've had my 37th driving lesson yesterday, and as usual lately it went horribly. In addition to lessons with my instructor, I drive almost every day under the supervision of my father, and when I do I feel like I'm doing pretty alright. I follow the speed limitations, I can park, get the car back in the garage in reverse, make a U-turn, etc. But whenever I drive with my driving instructor, it goes horribly: I get so nervous I don't notice half the signs, I drive either too fast or too slow, I brake too much, and as a result my driving instructor points out every time I do wrong (which is normal), but she does so in an increasingly frustrated and annoyed manner, and snaps at me when I get either annoyed or depressed as a result. She called me "a pain in the *ss" yesterday and I ended up not uttering a word for the rest of the lesson. I was even more taken aback considering we had been chatting and laughing just a few minutes prior. I know I'm an anxious wreck (driving is terrifying to me, no matter how much or often I drive) and I've always been better at theory than practice, but it's very disheartening to feel like after all this time I'm still no good at driving. It's like I'm not making any progress anymore. I don't even know if I really am being a "pain in the *ss" like she said or if she's the one making me too anxious to drive properly... Anyway, sounds like I'm gonna need about 300 hours as well
Aw just don't give any ear to any negative comment.All you need is positivity and positive affirmations, built up that by listening to positive affirmations, i am sure you will make it.All the best!
@@Ashimaaroma Thank you!
Try and stay positive, it's a bit far for an instructor to call you that. I can understand as a joke if you have good rapport but not otherwise.
If you still need the lessons then find a different instructor, there are lovely understanding instructors out there. I changed instructors several times and most people do. You have to feel really comfortable with your instructor. I found it nerve wracking being a car with someone who was technically watching my every move, once I knew how to drive I just drove with family and took my test in my own car
I have had instructor who used c word f word and swearing all sort. Also the one who said he will say everytime I make mistake fail words just because I didn't listen to him and went to driving test but failed I just wanted to know how does it feels he also refuse to let me use his car to test so I used my own and managed to test full 45mins with I only failed because I went on red box with bicycle 🥲 and stalled on the hill on independent driving. I was so glad I went for a test. I've done almost full scored on theory test both times that's the most easy part but driving with short temper instructors is horrifying....so just practicing with my own car now. Good luck 🤞
🙏 Huge thanks to Alex. I can't thank him enough. I cleared my manual driving test on a second attempt in Dubai. His videos are incredibly educational, the best out there for international driving license! I'll continue learning to avoid fines, penalties in order to drive safe and better!
Awesome video, well done to Alexandra for persevering and passing! Also well done to the both of you for making this video, everyone's different, everyone learns at different speeds and talking about the affect of certain disorders will help lots of people.
As a patient suffering from depression, anxiety and probably some trace of ADHD, hopefully I can say I have passed the driving test in 13 days. Glad Alexandra shared her story to somebody like me.
well done!!
Huge respect to Alex for not giving up. I’m sure perseverance will pay off eventually. Best wishes and Merry Christmas from Denmark.
Amazing video for an anxious driver like myself. I am restarting my lessons within the next few months. This channel is what has given me the confidence and determination to try again
Alexandra, you are truly amazing, and thank you for sharing your experience with everyone, it's helped me tremendously xx
Thanks both for making this video. I’ve put off driving for twenty five or so years due to anxiety (I failed my second test in 1996 and it crippled my mental health), got my third test in April. I feel totally different and had to learn to drive again (cars have changed sooo much!). Third time lucky?! Let’s see 🙌
I wish you the best of luck learning.
Brave to talk about it and very much appreciated. Congrats on passing!
Thank you for this video! Love and Big Thank you to Alexandra and Richard.
Amazing video! Thank you very much! I've been more than one year with lessons, I also have anxiety, and what I find more challenging is the social pressure of not learning quick enough , even though I rationally know that this is not important or the aim, the aim is achieving the goal, doesn't matter when. Thank you again x
I have an anxiety disorder and have just started learning. This is a perfect video for me, thank you!
Well done Alexandra for sticking with it and knowing yourself so well. I think you've more confidence as you think as you demonstrate that you had a clear idea that this would be a long haul for you and were OK in the face of detractors.
Brilliant video ❤️
Alexandra, you are an amazing human being. You NEVER gave up no matter how hard it got. Thank you so much for telling your story. Feels like I'm alone and I know I'm not. You are a star and so deserving of your license. I have so much more admiration for someone who tried and tried no matter how hard it got, than someone who takes 20 lessons and passes first time. I don't have an anxiety disorder in general, but I do when it comes to learning to drive.
A huge huge thanks to both of you for this one! This video was my NEED of the hour 💯
Thank you so much for this video.
Like Alexandra, I too have an anxiety disorder and it’s kicked in today whilst doing my lesson. Was in floods of tears saying the exact same things. But after hearing this I will absolutely 100% be taking everything on board and trying to not put too much pressure on myself. Thank you!
I'm happy to hear the video helps.
I love this video and I adore how honest and authetic Alexandra is. I am also a nervous driver even though I've had my licence for quite some time. This video is so encouraging and has definitely made me feel that I am not alone.
I like her attitude, thanks for the video and her generosity!
I have a huge respect to this girl who managed to overcome her anxiety and pass the test. I know its not easy especially if there are some people around who discouraged you and she proved them wrong. Good job Alexandria. Anyway, thank you so much for this wonderful video and to all your videos that i’ve watched for the past few weeks before my test last Monday 20/12/2021 and luckily that i’ve passed 1st time with just 1 minor. Now i’m part of those who passed but still watched this kind of video about driving. Thank you once again. Cheers.☺️
Thank you for watching and thank you for supporting Alexandra, congratulations on passing.
wow thank u so much for this well done to alexndra for opening up, your channel is by far my fav and i feel the same anxious when im learning my car is an suv and im learning in the busiest city in my country just gotta keep on keepin on
After 32 years without driving,after I leave the Police in Brazil, I start the school driving in Italy last August,,,,when I was in Uk, I learned one think,, NEVER GIVE UP , big RESPECT for your determination.
Nerves got the better of me on my first test in a manual after 40 hours with a rubbish instructor I'm going to try an automatic test next time found a new lovely instructor who really does want to help can't wait for my next three lessons in Jan one tip I can give is take it at your own pace don't book your test until you feel ready ☺️ thanks for everything x
I've watched quite a few hours of your videos now and you are a really good teacher - very calm, understanding and reassuring. I hope to get someone like you when I start my lessons. Thank you for taking the time to upload this useful information to CZcams :)
Thank you Alexandra for sharing your experiences.
Great video thanks for sharing your story Alexandra!
Although I wouldn't day I suffer with an anxiety disorder as such, I understand how crippling it can be especially with self confidence. Takes guts to overcome the critical voices in your own mind, you should be so proud and im sure this video will give so many others the confidence that they can do it to ☺️
This is an amazing video I developed driving anxiety some years ago watching your videos from the early ones through to now gave me the confidence to drive again I still have nerves but amazingly the muscle memory kicked in and it was like I hadn’t had six years not driving so thank you to you Richard and your wonderful ex pupil who is so brave and should be rightly proud of herself she is amazing 👍👏
I have an anxiety disorder as well. Would just like to say a late well done to Alexandra, for learning and also doing this video!
So happy for her, I have driving anxiety too and hopefully I pass some time soon cos she has given me hope that it can be done 👏🏾👏🏾
Great to hear you share so brave. Its taking me a long time too, I thought it was just me, I struggle a lot too so I feel you. Your instructor is fantastic so understanding and that's just what you need. You've proof that anything is possible, well done. I agree with a lot of things your saying too.
I've got my test coming up. I'm determined to pass after failing but I've got so much anxiety around it and this video has given me so much more confidence. Thank you for doing this 💕
Well done Alexandra for not giving up. It doesn't match how long it took you. You did it in the end. It must have been a big boost to your confidence when you passed. 👍
Thanks so much for sharing your experience Alexandra, I've just started learning aged 3, after years of being too anxious to even start. So inspiring to see someone who overcome anxiety and passed in their own time. I feel like no matter how long it takes I will be able to do it in the end after watching this. Loved this video, thank you!!
Keep trying and confidence will gradually appear. You may want to check your age as in the comment you said aged 3. I'm guessing a few more years might be more accurate. 😂
@@ConquerDriving hahaha oops!! I meant 31 but pretty much driving like a 3 year old at the moment!
This video literally brought me to tears, so motivating and helpful! Thank you 😊 ❤️
Thank you for your story. It helps me. I am a learner again because I need to learn to drive with an automatic transmission now and with my left foot. I think I need my time too, anxiety has grown.
This is exactly what i needed, thank you so much Alexandria for sharing your experience :)
Love this video so much. The part about giving yourself time is the best. Seriously, helped me a lot to know there are other people like me.
Brilliant video! Thank you both so much! Like Alexandra, I also have anxiety around driving AND an inner determination to pass! I find I have to fight my own negative inner voice the most.
Well done Alex what a brave lass keep up the momentum with the rest of ur life mate keep pushing and challenging yourself! Xx
what a nice video. Thanks Alexandra!
Well done Alexandra for passing and enjoying your driving thereafter. Also thank you for sharing your thoughts on your learning journey so far.👍👏😘❤
This really touched me man, I've had so much worry and stress on lessons and my tests