The single most effective thing that helped me accept my own true self is… Your videos and joining Epic Life bootcamps ❤ Thank you Wenzes, I hope you know the good work your doing
It's not new, but what has always been consistent is the fact that I like & embrace who I am. I look at myself honestly and change what is in my control. I know why I believe what I believe and am not so married to ideas that I sacrifice self at the altar of ego.
I'm an INTJ and I have this problem also. I also find that I keep attracting the wrong people. I think a simple solution is to avoid holding myself back and letting people filter out naturally.
@@GigaChad_169 Truth. It's taken some major crises in my life to finally see the light. I've always attracted people who only care about what I can "do for" or "give to" them. Now that I'm in need these same folks have either guilt-tripped me or ghosted me. I'm stepping back now to take care of myself, and I can't afford to care about who's upset about it.
I was just thinking about this today, about how I need to get comfortable with others' discomfort around me. If you're reserved, smart, strong, self-respecting, calm, self-assured, put together etc, people will be uncomfortable. Let them. You don't have to act meek or dumb yourself down to make them feel better.
I'm so fucked... I lost so much time doing that... I've been playing the stupid part so long just to make people feel better, that I don't know how to behave around people anymore, I don't know how to get back from that
It's been freeing to simply accept myself just the way I am. The more I am myself, the more the universe is giving me. It's been rewarding. I feel like new doors are being opened for me. The sky's opened up, shiny raws of sunshine are shining down on me 😊
I have been abused all my life but when I got enough nerve to set boundaries and stick with them, that has helped me get over the abuse cycle. I don't allow abuse either.
What has helped the most - is self-awareness - and our community here has been a big part of that. When I began to be conscious of who I am - I then could proceed to accept things that would not change and improve the aspects of me I could change. And one more thing that I love that Wenzes teaches - She tells us to not focus too much on improving on our weaknesses but to lean into and grow our strengths. I can't thank her enough for this!
Everything isn't amazing once infjs accept and understand who they are but we are no longer tortured knowing we are different. There is a comfort in accepting ourselves though. But fellow infjs...try to give yourselves and others a break...😌
Thank you so much. Your channel is life changing. I'm surrounded by lots and lots of narcissistic and stupid people. Trust me i always try to see thd best in people, but i always ended thinking "f people'. And right now I'm very exhausted, demotivated, pessimistic and God knows what else. But your channel helps, gives me hope and makes me understand why i feel certain things. Thank you. (Not to be mean, I'm just expressing myself around my fellow INFJs).
Thanks a lot. You said what everyone of us should tell himself. Now that I'm chasing my dreams 10000 miles away from the sick environment I was in I do see my potential and focus on myself. Put so much wasted energy and empathy on draining relationships and now I understand that loving oneself and caring for oneself is not selfishness, it's essential to our welfare, wealth and health. Here I am praising myself for my courage, dedication, empathy, faith, faithfulness, love and genuine care I gave to some people and many of them didn't deserve it, but still I thank myself for being myself.
I’ll answer to this comment because a lot of people around, before I knew about narcissism, we’re giving me a tough time and calling me selfish. If I were a narcissist, that be valid, but I’m lucky obviously with my life. But not so lucky about caring so much about people who were actually sick. Rubs off on you. Anyhow lucky enough in life. Anyhow like it or not those relationship ended. I can’t quite follow everything said in the video….. staying on top of the progress I made. The one thing I did was project the best onto other’s. This was before knowing about narcissism. I probably still will but not outside what they have to live with because it’s all automatic. Being grateful is rarely a problem. I’m getting tired. I’m on the stage of living life without fear and ego… like maybe not to that extreme but knowing narcissism really helps with like a second set of backbone. I couldn’t think of anything else to say. We have truth and now insight to more truth. It’s like winning half the battle in life. Like in another video explains we hold so much space for others that they don’t even wear a mask… sort of speak and probably think we’re just like them. My way was just respecting others but in the end, I had to say something. So I did, I made fun of the person making no sense in bullying me and I was talking to my other friend about it and yell it because my friend was ten feet away. I wouldn’t change anything from back then because my friends were trying to make a decision on me off of her and she was the only one bullying the whole way through.. Sorry so long, trying to relate to and the video at same time. All my. Best regards and best with your fresh start.
I love you so much you don’t understand what you did for me❤️all this time I felt alone, but to find out I have kindred spirits who are just like me makes me feel so whole
I stopped socializing and unconsciously replaced it with watching tv, When I quit tv and media- I became truly bored and uncomfortable.thats when things really started happening ,as you say in this video. I-accepted” my amazing nature” I began to feel amazing , at ease, creative, successful and energetic! Most of all so at peace with myself and my life, everything you say is spot on! Thank you for all your videos I am INFJ to the very core and you hit the core of the matter every single time !❤️💜❤️💙❤️
Discovering i am an INFJ was a huge breakthrough for me, finally getting closure on many things and accept me as i am, understanding that society in general is of no interest to me. Digging further while doing my shadow work using meditation, active imagination and journaling lead me to also discover and accept my darker side and i realized i am what they call a dark empath, This enhanced portrait is like a new toy for me and honestly, i simultanously want to lower the pressure i am unawaringly putting upon others, while on the other end i enjoy the idea of "militarizing" my dark gifts to really smash people who do bad things to weaker ones.
Once you realize that these are gifts from God, then you can realize how much you are loved by Him. We have had to endure abuse, torment and being kicked to the curb for being different. The heart of a true empath is pure light. It is a demonic spirit that will come against us. If you are a believer in Jesus, then you will remember He said that we would be hated because of Him. We are meant to do amazing things, and I suspect that these are the times in which we may be doing them. God bless
The way that I look at it is that God was with you during the abuse and torment and formed you in that "crucible." You still may not have known what He formed you into as you continued to go through more abuse and torment. Eventually, He "opened your eyes" and you started to learn how to live.
@@tibo5828 Yes, this is very accurate. I am not the same person that I used to be. Thank God. I have gone from a door mat to a warrior for The Lord. It has been an amazing journey and hope that what ever time I have left here, I am able to help others. May The Lord richly bless you.
This is what I needed to hear today! One of my best attributes is being a genuinely kind, caring, empathic person - and feel hurt when those close to me cannot or don't want to give back in-kind. I feel used and unappreciated. Then, when I set a boundary or ask for what I need, sometimes I sense tension - and that makes me feel resentful! It feels like the only reason some people want to be around me is because I'm a giving person (thoughtful, good listener, kind) and if I set a boundary they might think: "Well! I thought you were nice! Now I have to consider YOUR needs?"
Me too, this is the story of my life and now I have withdrawn mostly from socialising because I can’t help giving (my nature) and most people take advantage of my generosity (human nature). I feel disappointed by most peoples lack of emotional generosity. That’s the value system difference, they have little heart to share because most people are tied up with the capitalist system and stuck in achievement focus. The competitive energy drains me.
@@beyondher I feel you! Most people are pretty self-centered - even if they're "nice." Most people would rather talk than listen and that is pretty draining. They lack emotional generosity because they don't "see" the needs of others
I love your content and your style of communicating. You are really helping so many people, myself included. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I loved this video- so much valuable info in a short period of time- amazing,
How to discover that you are different can be the biggest struggle that you can have in your life. I feel lucky because i didn't have to do all of the struggle as you INFJ go through even if i might be more rare of the personality sort. We all have to go through "To be or not to be" the Hamlet version. Stop complaining and do something, embrase the Sigma in you and you need to be cofortable with solitude. No matter how much you try in a different way solitude is the best, we strife in the lonely peaceful place where our mind can become much stronger and regain lots of strength. Accepting that you are that Sigma person can be the hardest part and at the same time most rewarding. Breath in through your nose and left the air come out through your mouth. We are the silent zen warriors who are the lone wolfs in this world, the most remarkacble creatures and we have to embrase that. Use that strength and don't ever doubt on your solitude.
Hallelujah 🙌🏻 So much truth in this video. I had to learn how to go from being an Empath INFJ to Sigma INFJ and I’ll tell you..when I figured out these truths, I was more productive in my own life than I have been in the past 25 years. I always thought I would win some over, help them achieve their dreams and earn their validation but it never happened. I was helping so many people who didn’t want my help and wasted so much time, energy and love. I believed in treating others as I wanted to be treated but truth be told, I was pushed away. Even Jesus says to dust your feet, find your tribe and bless them with goodness. Not everyone is going to be your tribe and that’s okay. When you evolve into a sigma you will find your people! And there is so much goodness you can give them and they will love you for it. Stay the course fellow INFJs. 🙏🏻
As an INFJ I used to find it irritating when I knew someone was trying to profile/analyze me rather than genuinely trying to get to know me. Their end goal was to manipulate me. The only way to combat these types of narcissists is to study them while they think they're studying you. It's a bit like watching paint dry, but one has to have a hobby, right?😂
I’ve fully accepted my infj personality and adhd diagnosis where I have to really focus on saving my energy and being a mom and wife and keeping a house clean is enough I socialize with my mom and sister at the gym and it’s enough I don’t force friendships. I used to sing at church but those leaders were narcs and it was horrible because I gave people another chance but there’s narcs everywhere.
Yep. In studying narcissism and narcissistic abuse, I found that I was / am an INFJ. The "abuse" formed my nature which resulted in being INFJ. I was able to embrace this nature by knowing what shaped it in the first place. It took years!
Mostly my outlook on life has always been "I have no control over others, no matter how hard I want them to be a certain way or do certain things, It would never happen unless it comes from themselves." Which generally rings true for everyone. But, I had this conversation with a friend, twas something deep about love and death. And when I explained my view on this certain topic, he'd labeled my view to be a bit of defeatist, which I took no offense at all. In fact, I can somewhat agree with it as it may sound like that, but he missed my point that I do believe that THAT is the way of the world. The one simple truth that no matter how hard we try, unless it was something extremely radical, nothing much will change. Still hurts when things don't go the way I hoped, but yeah.. that's just the way it is I suppose.
I’m still WAY SUPER turbulent, so maybe this question is coming from an excessively emotional standpoint but I gotta ask: Successful/Assertive INFJ’s, when you finally got to a point that felt good enough or like at least life was finally working WITH you instead of against you, did you feel too arrogant? Like oh look what I made! Look how self-made I am?
That was so helpful, thank you! After another bruising weekend of talking with my gf and feeling rubbish about being the person who needs time to recharge and can’t keep fighting for my right to be myself much longer, this was truly healing. 🙏😊🙏
All this is so true. I struggled with codependency for decades. Every relationship I had, romantic or just friendship, turned into me being the doormat. I would swim an ocean for people who wouldn't jump a puddle for me. I started to realize in my 50's that all those things people disliked me for, were my superpowers. What they saw as sour to me was sweet. Now, I am following my dark and fertile nature 100% of the time. In the summer I will be performing in a fetish show. I have all kinds of opportunities presenting themselves . I have that vampire intensity that absorbs what is stuck and turns it into a doorway of alternative perception. Ironically it's been very healing for others too, who tell me I inspired them to live more freely. Iconoclastic progress is underway both inside and out!
I usually never comment on CZcams but this video was very refreshing to see and I can relate to what you are saying and also recognise that I am being in the pain zone. I have recently put my foot down and I have taken my first footsteps into the “taking care of myself path”. A little scary but I have also seen glimpses of what’s to come, feeling the freedom and noticing my inner voice is starting to quiet down, hopefully agreeing with my path ;) Being a creative person I am looking forward to the things to come but also to learn from the whole process. Thank you!
It was good to listen to this, because it's basically what I'm doing now, but it's listed out in a more systematic way. It will be handy to look at the list and realize that it's being done right. My big challenge was realizing that I did have to do things my own way as opposed to somebody else's, as it is what I was given to work with. I probably made as many mistakes as when trying to do it before, but at least at this point they were my own mistakes and I could correct them in a more proactive way. I like your emphasis on taking action. There are some helpful audios on my EFT app that support what you share here perfectly.
As an INFJ (from Germany), I am highly introspective, and I've also wrote a lot of things about, as they say "God and the world", focusing on interhuman relationships, society at large, psychological and philosophical aspects of these things, and one of the hardest and harshest aphorisms I've created is: "The absolute majority of lifes considered fulfilled, are actually wasted!". I still mean this and stand by that with every inch of my soul. Why? Because most people do not even know themselves, so how can they possibly live a fulfilled life, other than what they think is fulfilled without knowing who they are, and therefore being oblivious and flatout ignorant about their very nature? So, to know who and what you are, what your worth is, is the quintessential necessity and core basis of the mere chance of creating, and living a fulfilled life. I life what I say, therefore I am happy, because it is in total sync with who and what I am!
Hi. I am an INFJ according to a test. Thanks for the free facts. I'll try to buy your material. I was on a list of people to be trained to be a U.S. Navy Seal, back in 2005, long ago, but I was set up to be killed by Vympel and Putin. I got beat worse than a police supervisor said she had ever seen. A deal was made to allow me surgery and to flee, but i got in more trouble with others who wanted to beat me. I left Tacoma in 2019. I was possibly in jail, a hospital, or even in the military for years between 2012 and 2019. I live in Reno, Nevada as a refugee with money spent to save my life. Poisoning of me by police and city buses was in progess when bribes were paid. Norway can nuke Reno, Seattle,or Tacoma and Eugene. Thats horrible but those around me say that they hurt me too bad and for too long. Im just hazed hour after hour, but happy when I find a safe area. Im not sure that i wont be beaten a lot again if I move. I am closer to the reality I want but a lot of people have been killed around me and some were family members. I think this is being called a mob hit and IRA torture. Someone burned out nearly all the Afghan opium and some cocaine crops. This is good.
This INFJ was taught to ignore the limitations related to speech and hearing because it was seen as a perceived weakness to others. All this really did was define a wall in all the other areas. Often teachers would say "You're not allowed to learn that right now because it's too advanced." This is the same as saying "you can't do anything". It didn't matter if it was better, or simply different.
would you say it is healthy to he kind to others matter what. not because i care what they think about me but because it is the right thing to do. if they dont like it then move on without resentment, jnowing i did my best and am continously improving for my own sake
When you keep doing your best for someone that neither values nor appreciates it, then, of course, it's unhealthy. You haven't got all the time & energy in the world, you know? *◇Check Step No.4 in this video◇*
Love your content, Wenzes. And a big “yes” 🙌 to focusing on yourself. I found that when I started to prioritize my time and energy to activities that I wanted to do, and make myself less available to others and being less flexible with my boundaries that I am now treated with more respect. It’s important for everyone, but especially highly sensitive and empathic folks to remember that we teach others how to treat us. If we want to be a priority to others, then we first must make ourselves a priority. Those who won’t, will fall away; it hurts but in the end it is for the best. This lets you know who is a good investment of our time and energy.
I don’t care what problem they have with me. I don’t wonder why people can’t keep to themselves and have to be loud. Why do they obsess over why I’m so quiet. If don’t have something to say I stay quiet. I’m not much for small talk. So I’m accused of being snobbish or Narcissistic. I’m just quite not secretive. Alone not lonely
I think if infj get over needing validation ( or most types) like all the time over and over etc…..people will comfort around them. I th8nk to stay aware of others needs and do what we do best …..in moderation…..listening and caring we will comfort be fine…..and no such thing as enough for some people…..so find something else other than people or even critters to validate you and work on not even caring about validation.
Try being an INFJ who is also a trans woman. It’s a party of agony. I have literally cut myself off from people because I am too open and everyone freaks out. So I say nothing now. Except obviously this post.
THESE 5 THINGS HAPPEN WHEN THE INFJ FINALLY ACCEPTS THEIR MINDBLOWING NATURE 1:35 STEP #1 Pain 5:12 STEP #2 Healing 7:30 STEP #3 You have to look at your life 9:06 STEP #4 You start projecting positive energy into your own life 12:36 STEP #5 You start taking action towards making your reality get closer to your vision
it's hard because most people don't understand me and then the only part that hurts is that even though I just want to be pointed out, my friend still has to sacrifice me for the sake of him, is it because he knows that can I understand him? Or is it because that's my role, to catch other people's mistakes?
I cant tell jokes....too inappropriate.....not adult enough....grow up.....not suppose to have needs and if i ask its certainly not appropriate....need affection. NOTHINGS APPROPRIATE WJEN OT COMES TO US. FUCK IT!
I feel i have more and more problems with the lack of objectivity in your reasonings (i feel you come out a bit too much/strong as an typical "ummerrican").#memyselfandi
What has helped you to embrace more of your true nature as an INFJ?
The single most effective thing that helped me accept my own true self is… Your videos and joining Epic Life bootcamps ❤ Thank you Wenzes, I hope you know the good work your doing
Writing.
It's not new, but what has always been consistent is the fact that I like & embrace who I am. I look at myself honestly and change what is in my control. I know why I believe what I believe and am not so married to ideas that I sacrifice self at the altar of ego.
this is a good answer! @@jessmason2112 If we were in bootcamp you'd have to switch seats cause I'd be copying off your paper lol
Abuse, contempt, and jealous sabotage committed against me. Decided to work alone for now on.
Now that I fully understand me, I don’t require others to.
*ikr*
This
This..
oooooh i dig that😤 and at the same time youre gonna project the understanding and compassion you show yourself on to others🙏🏽
😮thank you 🙏🏼
I'm not holding myself back for anyone else's comfort anymore.
Yes!
I'm an INTJ and I have this problem also. I also find that I keep attracting the wrong people. I think a simple solution is to avoid holding myself back and letting people filter out naturally.
@@GigaChad_169 we accept the treatment we think we deserve. Put yourself first. Discover what happens from there, or do not.
@@GigaChad_169 Truth. It's taken some major crises in my life to finally see the light. I've always attracted people who only care about what I can "do for" or "give to" them. Now that I'm in need these same folks have either guilt-tripped me or ghosted me. I'm stepping back now to take care of myself, and I can't afford to care about who's upset about it.
@@drunkensquirrel7545same got ghosted
As an INFJ, I'm done being nice and giving everyone their moment in the sun.
Me too
I was just thinking about this today, about how I need to get comfortable with others' discomfort around me. If you're reserved, smart, strong, self-respecting, calm, self-assured, put together etc, people will be uncomfortable. Let them. You don't have to act meek or dumb yourself down to make them feel better.
I'm so fucked... I lost so much time doing that... I've been playing the stupid part so long just to make people feel better, that I don't know how to behave around people anymore, I don't know how to get back from that
@@galez5018 Same
@@galez5018 Me too.
It's been freeing to simply accept myself just the way I am. The more I am myself, the more the universe is giving me. It's been rewarding. I feel like new doors are being opened for me. The sky's opened up, shiny raws of sunshine are shining down on me 😊
I have been abused all my life but when I got enough nerve to set boundaries and stick with them, that has helped me get over the abuse cycle. I don't allow abuse either.
What has helped the most - is self-awareness - and our community here has been a big part of that. When I began to be conscious of who I am - I then could proceed to accept things that would not change and improve the aspects of me I could change. And one more thing that I love that Wenzes teaches - She tells us to not focus too much on improving on our weaknesses but to lean into and grow our strengths. I can't thank her enough for this!
My biggest wish is that I could have known all this 40 or 50 years ago.
Everything isn't amazing once infjs accept and understand who they are but we are no longer tortured knowing we are different. There is a comfort in accepting ourselves though.
But fellow infjs...try to give yourselves and others a break...😌
Thank you so much. Your channel is life changing. I'm surrounded by lots and lots of narcissistic and stupid people. Trust me i always try to see thd best in people, but i always ended thinking "f people'. And right now I'm very exhausted, demotivated, pessimistic and God knows what else. But your channel helps, gives me hope and makes me understand why i feel certain things. Thank you. (Not to be mean, I'm just expressing myself around my fellow INFJs).
Thanks a lot. You said what everyone of us should tell himself. Now that I'm chasing my dreams 10000 miles away from the sick environment I was in I do see my potential and focus on myself. Put so much wasted energy and empathy on draining relationships and now I understand that loving oneself and caring for oneself is not selfishness, it's essential to our welfare, wealth and health. Here I am praising myself for my courage, dedication, empathy, faith, faithfulness, love and genuine care I gave to some people and many of them didn't deserve it, but still I thank myself for being myself.
I’ll answer to this comment because a lot of people around, before I knew about narcissism, we’re giving me a tough time and calling me selfish.
If I were a narcissist, that be valid, but I’m lucky obviously with my life.
But not so lucky about caring so much about people who were actually sick. Rubs off on you. Anyhow lucky enough in life.
Anyhow like it or not those relationship ended.
I can’t quite follow everything said in the video….. staying on top of the progress I made.
The one thing I did was project the best onto other’s. This was before knowing about narcissism. I probably still will but not outside what they have to live with because it’s all automatic.
Being grateful is rarely a problem.
I’m getting tired. I’m on the stage of living life without fear and ego… like maybe not to that extreme but knowing narcissism really helps with like a second set of backbone. I couldn’t think of anything else to say. We have truth and now insight to more truth.
It’s like winning half the battle in life.
Like in another video explains we hold so much space for others that they don’t even wear a mask… sort of speak and probably think we’re just like them.
My way was just respecting others but in the end, I had to say something. So I did, I made fun of the person making no sense in bullying me and I was talking to my other friend about it and yell it because my friend was ten feet away.
I wouldn’t change anything from back then because my friends were trying to make a decision on me off of her and she was the only one bullying the whole way through..
Sorry so long, trying to relate to and the video at same time.
All my. Best regards and best with your fresh start.
@@jennifergraham5615 I see we do relate so much. Thanks. Wish you best of luck, health and wealth.
Yey!!!!! I’ll probably be listening to the song “dreams can come through “ while enjoying my new beginnings at least in the start.
Thank you:)
I love you so much you don’t understand what you did for me❤️all this time I felt alone, but to find out I have kindred spirits who are just like me makes me feel so whole
You HAVE kindred spirits for SURE!
Don't feel alone in this...we will never meet but TRUST your not alone with your energy 😊
Same here ✊
I stopped socializing and unconsciously replaced it with watching tv, When I quit tv and media- I became truly bored and uncomfortable.thats when things really started happening ,as you say in this video. I-accepted” my amazing nature” I began to feel amazing , at ease, creative, successful and energetic! Most of all so at peace with myself and my life, everything you say is spot on! Thank you for all your videos I am INFJ to the very core and you hit the core of the matter every single time !❤️💜❤️💙❤️
I wish I had heard this years ago. Better late than never. Thank you!
Discovering i am an INFJ was a huge breakthrough for me, finally getting closure on many things and accept me as i am, understanding that society in general is of no interest to me. Digging further while doing my shadow work using meditation, active imagination and journaling lead me to also discover and accept my darker side and i realized i am what they call a dark empath, This enhanced portrait is like a new toy for me and honestly, i simultanously want to lower the pressure i am unawaringly putting upon others, while on the other end i enjoy the idea of "militarizing" my dark gifts to really smash people who do bad things to weaker ones.
Once you realize that these are gifts from God, then you can realize how much you are loved by Him. We have had to endure abuse, torment and being kicked to the curb for being different. The heart of a true empath is pure light. It is a demonic spirit that will come against us. If you are a believer in Jesus, then you will remember He said that we would be hated because of Him. We are meant to do amazing things, and I suspect that these are the times in which we may be doing them. God bless
💓🕊🙏🫂
The way that I look at it is that God was with you during the abuse and torment and formed you in that "crucible." You still may not have known what He formed you into as you continued to go through more abuse and torment. Eventually, He "opened your eyes" and you started to learn how to live.
@@tibo5828 Yes, this is very accurate. I am not the same person that I used to be. Thank God. I have gone from a door mat to a warrior for The Lord. It has been an amazing journey and hope that what ever time I have left here, I am able to help others. May The Lord richly bless you.
I've always felt like I'm special and that God has an important purpose for me!!
This is what I needed to hear today! One of my best attributes is being a genuinely kind, caring, empathic person - and feel hurt when those close to me cannot or don't want to give back in-kind. I feel used and unappreciated. Then, when I set a boundary or ask for what I need, sometimes I sense tension - and that makes me feel resentful! It feels like the only reason some people want to be around me is because I'm a giving person (thoughtful, good listener, kind) and if I set a boundary they might think: "Well! I thought you were nice! Now I have to consider YOUR needs?"
Sounds like I wrote this because I also went to this.
Me too, this is the story of my life and now I have withdrawn mostly from socialising because I can’t help giving (my nature) and most people take advantage of my generosity (human nature). I feel disappointed by most peoples lack of emotional generosity. That’s the value system difference, they have little heart to share because most people are tied up with the capitalist system and stuck in achievement focus. The competitive energy drains me.
@@beyondher I feel you! Most people are pretty self-centered - even if they're "nice." Most people would rather talk than listen and that is pretty draining. They lack emotional generosity because they don't "see" the needs of others
Very sharp, clear and concise
Looking for those kindred spirits! They only seem to be online.
I love your content and your style of communicating. You are really helping so many people, myself included. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I loved this video- so much valuable info in a short period of time- amazing,
How to discover that you are different can be the biggest struggle that you can have in your life. I feel lucky because i didn't have to do all of the struggle as you INFJ go through even if i might be more rare of the personality sort. We all have to go through "To be or not to be" the Hamlet version. Stop complaining and do something, embrase the Sigma in you and you need to be cofortable with solitude. No matter how much you try in a different way solitude is the best, we strife in the lonely peaceful place where our mind can become much stronger and regain lots of strength. Accepting that you are that Sigma person can be the hardest part and at the same time most rewarding. Breath in through your nose and left the air come out through your mouth. We are the silent zen warriors who are the lone wolfs in this world, the most remarkacble creatures and we have to embrase that. Use that strength and don't ever doubt on your solitude.
Hallelujah 🙌🏻 So much truth in this video. I had to learn how to go from being an Empath INFJ to Sigma INFJ and I’ll tell you..when I figured out these truths, I was more productive in my own life than I have been in the past 25 years. I always thought I would win some over, help them achieve their dreams and earn their validation but it never happened. I was helping so many people who didn’t want my help and wasted so much time, energy and love. I believed in treating others as I wanted to be treated but truth be told, I was pushed away. Even Jesus says to dust your feet, find your tribe and bless them with goodness. Not everyone is going to be your tribe and that’s okay. When you evolve into a sigma you will find your people! And there is so much goodness you can give them and they will love you for it. Stay the course fellow INFJs. 🙏🏻
As an INFJ I used to find it irritating when I knew someone was trying to profile/analyze me rather than genuinely trying to get to know me.
Their end goal was to manipulate me.
The only way to combat these types of narcissists is to study them while they think they're studying you. It's a bit like watching paint dry, but one has to have a hobby, right?😂
I’ve fully accepted my infj personality and adhd diagnosis where I have to really focus on saving my energy and being a mom and wife and keeping a house clean is enough I socialize with my mom and sister at the gym and it’s enough I don’t force friendships. I used to sing at church but those leaders were narcs and it was horrible because I gave people another chance but there’s narcs everywhere.
Yep. In studying narcissism and narcissistic abuse, I found that I was / am an INFJ. The "abuse" formed my nature which resulted in being INFJ. I was able to embrace this nature by knowing what shaped it in the first place. It took years!
This is mind blowing! Thank you! I could relate to everything you said. Hardest part is taking action.
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Wether infj or not, thinking I am made me feel better and ok with being my difficult weird self.
INFJs are highly vibrational and that make ys act wierd because we feel energies easily.
I needed to this...I have struggled for years until I discovered my personality type INFJ- this was a true break through for me...LIFE CHANGING!!
All of your videos have helped me tremendously, I think this one is going to help me the most.
Mostly my outlook on life has always been "I have no control over others, no matter how hard I want them to be a certain way or do certain things, It would never happen unless it comes from themselves." Which generally rings true for everyone. But, I had this conversation with a friend, twas something deep about love and death. And when I explained my view on this certain topic, he'd labeled my view to be a bit of defeatist, which I took no offense at all. In fact, I can somewhat agree with it as it may sound like that, but he missed my point that I do believe that THAT is the way of the world. The one simple truth that no matter how hard we try, unless it was something extremely radical, nothing much will change.
Still hurts when things don't go the way I hoped, but yeah.. that's just the way it is I suppose.
It's draining....I just want to except me and I am and I will
I’m still WAY SUPER turbulent, so maybe this question is coming from an excessively emotional standpoint but I gotta ask: Successful/Assertive INFJ’s, when you finally got to a point that felt good enough or like at least life was finally working WITH you instead of against you, did you feel too arrogant? Like oh look what I made! Look how self-made I am?
Your answer is given under Step 4 in this video.
This is a question I often ask myself. Sometimes it comes off pretentious to others and I am like huh
Wenzes is crazy beautiful… Just saying
That was so helpful, thank you!
After another bruising weekend of talking with my gf and feeling rubbish about being the person who needs time to recharge and can’t keep fighting for my right to be myself much longer, this was truly healing.
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❤ thanks Wenzes love your videos
All this is so true. I struggled with codependency for decades. Every relationship I had, romantic or just friendship, turned into me being the doormat. I would swim an ocean for people who wouldn't jump a puddle for me.
I started to realize in my 50's that all those things people disliked me for, were my superpowers. What they saw as sour to me was sweet.
Now, I am following my dark and fertile nature 100% of the time. In the summer I will be performing in a fetish show. I have all kinds of opportunities presenting themselves . I have that vampire intensity that absorbs what is stuck and turns it into a doorway of alternative perception. Ironically it's been very healing for others too, who tell me I inspired them to live more freely. Iconoclastic progress is underway both inside and out!
I don't know what infj is but you are talking for me and who I am. Mind-blowing nature? Sounds like me. Thanks honey. You are amazingly helpful.
Thanks wenzes.
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Thank you, Wenzes!
I’m almost a 50/50 split between T and A. Like 51%T, 49%A.
I usually never comment on CZcams but this video was very refreshing to see and I can relate to what you are saying and also recognise that I am being in the pain zone. I have recently put my foot down and I have taken my first footsteps into the “taking care of myself path”. A little scary but I have also seen glimpses of what’s to come, feeling the freedom and noticing my inner voice is starting to quiet down, hopefully agreeing with my path ;) Being a creative person I am looking forward to the things to come but also to learn from the whole process. Thank you!
It was good to listen to this, because it's basically what I'm doing now, but it's listed out in a more systematic way. It will be handy to look at the list and realize that it's being done right.
My big challenge was realizing that I did have to do things my own way as opposed to somebody else's, as it is what I was given to work with. I probably made as many mistakes as when trying to do it before, but at least at this point they were my own mistakes and I could correct them in a more proactive way.
I like your emphasis on taking action. There are some helpful audios on my EFT app that support what you share here perfectly.
Very useful! Thanks ❤❤
Absolutely brilliant fascinating
Love it.
Thank you for your contribution to my life.
Sending love blessings and respect..xx
this was so helpful and reassuring at the same time. thank you 💛💛
I have done alot of personality tests and it flips between ENFJ and INFJ depending on my mood..Cancer men have it tough
As an INFJ (from Germany), I am highly introspective, and I've also wrote a lot of things about, as they say "God and the world", focusing on interhuman relationships, society at large, psychological and philosophical aspects of these things, and one of the hardest and harshest aphorisms I've created is: "The absolute majority of lifes considered fulfilled, are actually wasted!". I still mean this and stand by that with every inch of my soul. Why? Because most people do not even know themselves, so how can they possibly live a fulfilled life, other than what they think is fulfilled without knowing who they are, and therefore being oblivious and flatout ignorant about their very nature? So, to know who and what you are, what your worth is, is the quintessential necessity and core basis of the mere chance of creating, and living a fulfilled life. I life what I say, therefore I am happy, because it is in total sync with who and what I am!
Amazing video!
Thank you for creating this channel ⭐
Exactly there.... Such pain.... ❤
It helps me to know that nobody will understand me as much as myself, so how could I be surprised when they don’t understand a part of me?
Not bad...nice timing.
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Hi. I am an INFJ according to a test. Thanks for the free facts. I'll try to buy your material. I was on a list of people to be trained to be a U.S. Navy Seal, back in 2005, long ago, but I was set up to be killed by Vympel and Putin. I got beat worse than a police supervisor said she had ever seen. A deal was made to allow me surgery and to flee, but i got in more trouble with others who wanted to beat me. I left Tacoma in 2019. I was possibly in jail, a hospital, or even in the military for years between 2012 and 2019. I live in Reno, Nevada as a refugee with money spent to save my life. Poisoning of me by police and city buses was in progess when bribes were paid. Norway can nuke Reno, Seattle,or Tacoma and Eugene. Thats horrible but those around me say that they hurt me too bad and for too long. Im just hazed hour after hour, but happy when I find a safe area. Im not sure that i wont be beaten a lot again if I move. I am closer to the reality I want but a lot of people have been killed around me and some were family members. I think this is being called a mob hit and IRA torture. Someone burned out nearly all the Afghan opium and some cocaine crops. This is good.
This INFJ was taught to ignore the limitations related to speech and hearing because it was seen as a perceived weakness to others. All this really did was define a wall in all the other areas. Often teachers would say "You're not allowed to learn that right now because it's too advanced." This is the same as saying "you can't do anything". It didn't matter if it was better, or simply different.
would you say it is healthy to he kind to others matter what. not because i care what they think about me but because it is the right thing to do. if they dont like it then move on without resentment, jnowing i did my best and am continously improving for my own sake
Thats not enough if you're constantly with certain people at work for example. Then you have to say No and disappoint people
true, but you can still be polite.@@djhardcorehengst6356
When you keep doing your best for someone that neither values nor appreciates it, then, of course, it's unhealthy.
You haven't got all the time & energy in the world, you know?
*◇Check Step No.4 in this video◇*
Love your content, Wenzes. And a big “yes” 🙌 to focusing on yourself. I found that when I started to prioritize my time and energy to activities that I wanted to do, and make myself less available to others and being less flexible with my boundaries that I am now treated with more respect.
It’s important for everyone, but especially highly sensitive and empathic folks to remember that we teach others how to treat us.
If we want to be a priority to others, then we first must make ourselves a priority.
Those who won’t, will fall away; it hurts but in the end it is for the best. This lets you know who is a good investment of our time and energy.
thank you!
Thank you.
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ENTP here, they say we are a perfect match, I'm looking for a husband
...it looks like any of the 16 personalities have room to be part of the " INFJs" club
I don’t care what problem they have with me. I don’t wonder why people can’t keep to themselves and have to be loud. Why do they obsess over why I’m so quiet. If don’t have something to say I stay quiet. I’m not much for small talk. So I’m accused of being snobbish or Narcissistic. I’m just quite not secretive. Alone not lonely
I think if infj get over needing validation ( or most types) like all the time over and over etc…..people will comfort around them. I th8nk to stay aware of others needs and do what we do best …..in moderation…..listening and caring we will comfort be fine…..and no such thing as enough for some people…..so find something else other than people or even critters to validate you and work on not even caring about validation.
Try being an INFJ who is also a trans woman. It’s a party of agony. I have literally cut myself off from people because I am too open and everyone freaks out. So I say nothing now. Except obviously this post.
THESE 5 THINGS HAPPEN WHEN THE INFJ FINALLY ACCEPTS THEIR MINDBLOWING NATURE
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STEP #1
Pain
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STEP #2
Healing
7:30
STEP #3
You have to look
at your life
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STEP #4
You start projecting
positive energy
into your
own life
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STEP #5
You start taking
action towards making
your reality get
closer to your
vision
Looking for a video that defines and describes INFJ, instead of INFJ and another topic… any recommendations ? Thanks
it's hard because most people don't understand me and then the only part that hurts is that even though I just want to be pointed out, my friend still has to sacrifice me for the sake of him, is it because he knows that can I understand him? Or is it because that's my role, to catch other people's mistakes?
well, some of us are 'adults' at least , sometimes you can't fix stupid.
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I hate being INFJ😞
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You are not talking about Infj. You are talking about borderline disorder
Im nice bc i know my true personality is quite negative lol
Jesus Christ of Nazareth gave me His personality..
Why do you wanna play naughty?
I cant tell jokes....too inappropriate.....not adult enough....grow up.....not suppose to have needs and if i ask its certainly not appropriate....need affection. NOTHINGS APPROPRIATE WJEN OT COMES TO US. FUCK IT!
I feel i have more and more problems with the lack of objectivity in your reasonings (i feel you come out a bit too much/strong as an typical "ummerrican").#memyselfandi
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