I'm an INFP and this is all I do. I can't stay focused and put things off until the last minute, and in that last minute I tell myself there's no point in doing it anymore because it's not going to change the outcome, and then the loop repeats.
Are u me? Im an INFP in high school and i always feel like utter shit. I get Cs and below but mostly Ds in math. A's in english and Art. Its so hard for me to do anything and all i can think about is how happy ill be once i can do what i want to do. Get a little house, live in relative isolation with cats and paint to put bread on the table. My closest friend recently emotionally abused me and ive been eating conpletely alone at lunch for a month. I have breakdowns every other night and im so pissed off at the world. Im pissed off at the education system; for it yelling in mt face that im stupid and worthless when i know my actual potential. I dont participate in class, i despise group work, and my anger has exceeded its state and been transformed into complete indifference and emotional detachment. I cant do online school because i would become so immensely behind they would kick me out. Teachers dont care anymore, so theres really not a point in trying.
+Erin Stander I have the same problems with online schooling, I typed my intro and haven't done anything since then, and that was 8 weeks ago :/ In highschool I would take the honors classes but get D's and C's in them because I liked the idea of being in them but never did the work :/
I had the same problems during the courses I took. I would procrastinate a lot during schedules then would end up feeling mighty frustrated towards the deadline. I did pass through looking back I feel I could of pushed myself a bit more. A major problem for me and structured education is that I often found it difficult to keep on target of everything what was expected of me....and don't even get me started on presentations! :P
This isn't an issue with all INFPs I believe. I study relatively easy. The only time it's hard for me to focus is when I'm depressed. I can do nothing when depressed... literally. If it helps, deceive yourself into believing that what you are studying is interesting. Turn what you are studying into a story you're interested in. It helps with memory greatly. There's various methods of how to study if you're distracted. Try to merge your distraction into your studies. It's obviously boring at first, but you will get out of it.
It's funny you said that about making what you are studying interesting. I'm a huge fan of Harry Potter series, and other fantasy stories. So when I study, I read out loud (as though there is an audience) and imagine the subject is part of a grand fantasy story. Tends to help me a lot. lol I'm an INFP as well. Distraction is painful. :(
It makes me angry as well man...when you know how important something is, yet, you allow yourself to procrastinate until it's too late...then even then, you deem it worthless to even finish the task at hand. Practice though...practice on mitigating your INFP weaknesses....or if you're able to do so, turn those "weaknesses" into a positive attribute instead. Either way, we only do things that we feel passionate for anyways. If you really are tired of procrastinating and feeling unfocused on a task you don't feel passionate or care about, find conviction for that task. it kinda almost always works. If you somehow make that task touch your inner emotions and intuition, you'll notice you will be on task more often than when you're not attached to it in some of "deep" or "intimate" way. ...and yes, I know calculus or economics isn't our favorite slice of pie but if you're able to hack it and somehow find a deeper connection to it, you'll see that you'll be more excited and determined to learn about it some more. It helps me a lot. And believe me, being an INFP and thriving in business is a daunting and even overwhelming task...but it's definitely doable and knowing oneself is one of the best things one can do if you want to be happy, great and succeed more often.
I'm an INFP and can relate. I somehow got through my BA with a 2.5. I think you have a lot going for you: you have the nerve to show your face in public, you are transparent, you draw empathy, you're very likable, you're not arrogant, you speak well, you reach out to others to find answers (cooperative). I'm 51 now. I think as you go on you'll become better at knowing how long you can procrastinate and when it's time to get down to business. Actually, procrastinating, you can be more efficient with your time as when fear and a deadline looms, you'll work like crazy to get it done and you'll be so focused. Just give yourself some buffer and you'll be fine. You're a smart guy. Keep your curiosity and desire to learn about whatever, you'll grow... the future will be better as you learn to compensate/adjust. In my masters work, made 4.0 I think because i grew a lot. You will too. God bless!
Being an INFP can be a struggle. I am currently feeling the same way right now. 2nd semester of college and I struggle to feel motivated to finish assignments on time, or to even study. I guess what i want to say is that I am glad that i found a video so relatable. Thanks man for sharing your emotions and for making fellow infps feel less, alone.
You are not alone, I feel and behave exactly the same as you. I wish society catered more for the INFP type to better help us fit in with education and career environments.
I really hated to go to school. Cause I was forced to learn subject I don't like/enjoy. And I think I procrastinated a lot. And I failed in few subjects. And I used to daydream a lot. And no one appreciate what I do so I don't let them know. And recently I learned that what you love the most can be snatched away in matter of seconds so I never leave anything out in open anymore
I noticed this video was posted a little while back and first thing, I really hope your motivation has improve and your doing better! I'm going through the same exact thing, I used to always be such a great student because I was truly interested in the subject and material but I've been going through a serious lack of motivation for the past year, academically, which is always super frustrating. It's interesting how you point out you have issues being in the moment because I have the same issue but for me it stems from a place of being in the moment too much, and I'm happy in the moment and then all of a sudden I realize I have a test the next day that I haven't prepared for at all and that just leads to dealing with failure which I feel like all of INFPs do not do well. Being able to be in the moment is very important but be weary to not be in the moment too much because it will just put you in the same place, maybe your happier in the same place but isn't conducive to achieving your goals. Best of luck!
I loved and love school : collage and uni. I found the best thing was i could be around people, share my thoughts, learn to think, but never have to really talk to anyone (i did have some friends in school). my study time is 50% study and 50& entertaining my thoughts about other things... this is slow going but the only way i can do it. I have a note book for studies and one for other thoughts. I also study in public so i cant go rumage around at home. by the way i have 2 degrees and working on my thesis. and I am an INFP 100%.
I'm so glad I came across this video. Youre speaking the story of my life right now... its so intense that im actually debating withdrawing for a semester to try and i guess "reform" myself to tackle it again. So overwhelming
I totally relate! The struggle is real! Society is performance based, which can impact the self-esteems. INFP personality types are highly intelligent and capable, but often under perform based on conventional standards..
I am going through the exact same thing right now with finals and I just get so caught up with everything and upset and just thoroughly uneasy and not content.I find it almost impossible to do hours of homework and studying over things that do not interest and benefit me. Its gotten to the point where I feel so hopeless because I know I am capable of great things and ideas and complicated thoughts are always on my mind but I feel incredibly bound and limited and judged by school and grades. I do not know what to do for I'm afraid that if I fail in school I will not be able to accomplish what I want and need to in life
"When in the future can I do it?" Yes. I totally get this. I guess I would say that it helps to have acquaintances who are T and J types, and get them to tell you to stop procrastinating. I have a friend who is E _TJ, and he continually tells me that I should do certain things way before they're due. It is kind of annoying at times, and he gets inside my bubble, but having him around helps me a little. But as for myself, I just now completed a whole lot of things last-minute, so I guess I don't have much room to talk or give advice.
I relate with this. I would recommend finding a way in your mind, a route, that makes the things in school interesting. The route is there, just find it.
Get rid of all distractions, isolate your self and leave your schedule cleared. And find an emotional connection to your goal, to keep you grounded. I have the same problem!
Wow you are literally me. I'm an INFP and I can't ever focus on the present and I literally can't get anything over a C in my classes except English and Art which I get A's in every time. Ever since I was a kid. I'm also a bit bad at focusing especially when I'm depressed and I put everything to the last minute. And then I just don't see the point of doing it so I don't. And the cycle continues. I disagree with so many things in the American education system. We're not robots. We're people with emotions an different beliefs and different energy levels and just oh my god why don't they get that. Oops I'm ranting. Anyways, I also don't talk at school. I'm being serious. Ever since kindergarten everyone thought I was mute. But I'm really not I just have anxiety and I'm an introvert and I'm terrified of being judged or bullied. This is probably because I have a really emotionally and physically abusive father and he's told me my entire life that I'm a piece of shit that doesn't amount to anything. And I'm way too sensitive so that cut deep and I believed it and tried to hide from the world. I never thought I was good enough. I starved my self until I was a stick and cut and tried to take my life. But now that he's gone I'm realizing more and more that its okay to be unique and maybe school and society in general isn't cut out for me. And that's ok. Once I realized that I finally embraced myself and dyed my hair pastel lavender! I still get depressed a lot but I'm in a better place now. I think I should just try to make an effort and then when I'm older go and do my own thing and be happy because that's what life is about. This is way too long and I don't know where I'm going with this so I'm just going to stop here. Also I subscribed! I like you.
I'm not sure if you're sick or on the verge of crying...but watching this made me want to give you the biggest bro hug. :/ I'm in the same situation with college.. No direction, no motivation, no support from society, and plenty of regret. I wish you luck, as I know it utterly blows. Sincerely, a mutual INFP
its crazy that you suggested this to me when you did, as i was about a week or so into just beginning seriously attempting meditation as a way to make such progress. I can't say I remember yet to do it with great frequency, but I've certainly begun to learn things about myself and I think make progress against obsessive thoughts. so thanks for the encouragement!
chyeaahh first :) I barely made it through my last year of school, I wish I had something good for ya... all I can recommend is lots of good music, going hiking every now and then, and finding a fun quirky coffee shop to switch up your studying location. Those all seemed to help me maintain some tiny sense of sanity lol.
I feel the same way, i still haven't found a way to fix it. Being an infp sometimes suck, although i love it most of the time. That being said i should be studying but i have a feeling that won't be the case ....
I feel the saaaammmeee way. I'm not sure if this will help or not, but what o tend to do when I'm procrastinating is I just force myself to do it. If I'm thinking "maybe I can start this nwxt week..." I just immediately say "No! You start NOW!" it works mostly for me. If not that, yiu can try to place a punishment for yiurself (or a reward) if you do/don't do your work, i.e."if I don't finish this I can't have that cotton candy I wanted ti eat" etc. Good luck! P.s. your adorably attractive ♥
I got fairly good grades and had a few friends, but I always felt as though I was not working hard enough, not concentrating enough and daydreaming too much when most other kids were just doing as they were told.
I had the same problems. I started a daily meditation practice and after 2 years my concentration had become razor sharp. I was "tuning out" of the present moment to avoid feeling because I was afraid of awareness. I am now at peace with myself and I know what I want to do with my life; I want to help others to learn to accept themselves as they are. I was not defective in any way; I was just unaware of the unconscious part of my personality.
Man, I relate to this so much... I'm an infp and I've been going through the exact same thing. I'm doing terribly in school and no matter how hard I try and how much I want it, I can't pull it out of me to do better. I can't self-motivate at all. I wonder why I'm even here.
hugs :/ i feel the same way. I think our Ne function runs so fast and so random that organizing is really difficult! there are books for right brain/creative organization... might help. I feel like everything goes too quickly for INFPs and i feel like i have to sacrifice parts of myself that i really enjoy that most, the depth in me, because of trapping standards in which we are suppose to work with. idk
SO👏🏼TRUE👏🏼 I can relate to you so much as I'm also an INFP! I'm in high school rn and whenever I have assignments that I know I need to get done, I strive for good grades yet I would still procrastinate to the very limit like the morning before it's due (it's so bad).. It's very frustrating because I KNOW I shouldn't procrastinate and I want to succeed yet I still do it which I sometimes ends up getting bad grades because I didn't put much time and effort into the assignment. At the end I regret and hate myself for procrastinating. This is basically my high school cycle which I'm trying to stop because woah next semester will get a hella lot stressful lol
I'm right there with you. I haven't finished a book in years, be it for school or pleasure, because it's just such a frustratingly cyclical endeavor. I wind up reading the same sentence 5, 10 times over, then think to myself "this isn't progress" and I give up. I still get fine grades, but that might be thanks to grade inflation more than it is to my hard work. Then again, I might also be selling myself short, as usual. :/
I can totally relate to this, deadlines are what made me put off my studies. I just cant handle them and I also tend to procastinate until the las minute due to lack of concentration...and just like you I feel like giving up but I'm encouraging you not to.I'm sorry I don't really have advice but I wish you much luck and hope you 'll get through this.
I actually looked into Vipassana retreats a year or so ago too. Always have been very interested in Buddhist teachings. For now though I think the internet, books, and most of all self-exploration is my route of choice.
I totally relate to you! I can't seem to stay focused on any subject for more than a few minutes at a time. I instead end up daydreaming, or after I think I've done enough work I'll "reward" myself by playing online for two hours (very bad). If you ever discover a solution I would be grateful for a video how you do it! (:
i found out that when you get to this situations ,find some SJ to learn with . maybe it's because I'm not that introverted but i found out that learning with someone who has the capability to learn is very helpful ..
Hey Ryan. I've dealed with the same problem all my life. I've never been a brilliant student, had my highs and lows, but I've just never been able to put my whole self into school. I always spend a lot of time by myself I guess, I mean thinking, mind wandering, you know... For a few years Now Ive been studying at University and I tend to find myself in the situation you describe in this video. I have no special tip for this. I guess that getting over my superprocrastination is something im
Sounds exactly like me. When I first read that INFP's are more in the future than in the present, I guess I kind of assumed they spend a lot of time thinking far ahead into the future. From what you've said though, I realize I do the same stuff with homework. I'll put it in the future, tell myself I'll do it later, and never get down to business. I do that with a lot of stuff.
I feel now that school was almost completely the opposite of my true self. Years later I finally find out , thanks to MBTI that the school experience was always going to feel wrong to me. Part of me believes that my time there was wasted and perhaps I should have been allowed to do my own thing at home in order to find out what I was really naturally suited to doing like Art for example!
Not sure if I should sad or happy to know this, I feels the same, if my deadlines are so close I procrastinated and drawing something, the more tense the more I like to draw, I want to laugh myself but also cry 😂
I feel the same fucking way! I just came through this video and the funny thing about that is that I also have a test tomorrow and I haven't studied shit. These days I'm also struggling with myself and trying to find a way how to change from a really messy/distracted/unpunctual person to a really organized and down to earth one. Seems impossible! I'm also INFP. Thanks for sharing though, good to know I'm not alone :D
Yeah, but I think the pressure of having to get to work on time everyday and not make any mistake in your job is probably bigger than going to school. I did well in high school because my parents nagged me out of bed every day. After entering college, things started to slip, and the more work I have to do, the more petrified and flakey I become.
This is so me! However, if this is you too please test your working memory. Poor working memory will cause these things too and you can do something about it.
(part two:) im slowly learning by trying to improve myself and seeking my goals. I try noticias to think about aaaall the task I have to do. I think to myself: dont think, just do (which im aware its pretty hard). I dont always succeed but Im getting better. Sorry for my english btw.. Greetings from another infp all the way from Spain
ENTP here. I think Ne is almost phobic of focusing on one strain of thought and is instead constantly aware of everything. Ti can sometimes counteract this, but I'm pretty damned ADD as well, focus is not in the NP nature!
i find INPs to be the most ''get your shit together'' types. I am INTP and i can't take school seriously either. i feel like this whole ''Te Society Robot Rules'' has no point whatshowever, it's ridiculous. Bcause people are not robots and we should not be forced to be all the same, the same things over and over again
thanks for your thoughts. I have been diagnosed with add; I'm pretty sure they did specify it as not adhd, but, I'm not really sure if that means anything other than I'm not naturally "hyperactive". anywho, maybe I *should* talk to an advisor or someone. the doctors just gave me pills :/
it's totally fine if you call me hush! That's a good perspective. Have you ever considered studying psychology? I'm thinking about starting it this year, but because I'm already in college I have to take one only psychology class. I think It'll be good for this "understanding myself" you're talking about. I read you study film, I considered that a lot of times, specially script writing. It seems to me like we are similar infps. If you ever come to Spain I could try to suggest cool places!
thanks for the comment hushpuppy. is it okay if i call you hush? it seems we're going about this problem in rather similar ways. just finding out what i really want to get out of my education and working towards understanding myself more as a person, rather than constantly worrying about things that mean little to me, like grades, has undone at least a fair amount of the stress for me. i've got one more year to go though, so we'll see how i fare :P greetings, I hope to see Spain someday soon!
I relate to everything you say here. I feel as an INFP I struggle to find motivation to do something which doesnt interest me/inspire me. ive just had a channel, my first video is pretty much just an introduction about myself, as well as trying to explain difficulties INFPs have with finding love. If you have time, check it out and let me know if you can relate to anything I say. cheers, Shaun
You know i used to be dilligent.Like really.I don't know what happened to me.I think i'm getting lazier.I don't really know what my type was before this.But right now i am infp.Do you think it's possible.. just maybe we're just creating this whole thing just to make ourselves feel better ? I meant i did a great job.Why can't i do it right now? Honestly i've been procrastinating lately.I can't even do my own hobbies.My favourite thing to do.I feel like wasting time and a bit sad. I've been wasting it on internet.I just wished i didn't .But i felt sad. I usually was okay with everything.Why now i became like this.I really want to tell my dreams are.But i'm way too sacred to tell my parents.They would say it's bad or this is all just my assumptions.I felt like i shouldn't tell them.It pains me i feel like my dreams would never be real.But i still surf this stupid internet..I just wished i could tell them.But the other thing i just didn't want to burden them.What if my univeristy will cost more? I have brothers and sister.They need money too.If i continued on my daily dream that may never come true,shouldn't i just take the jobs that less making me happy but it's worth for everyone? I just can't seem to let it go. 😔
I have a 13 year old male INFP. As his mother (also INFP!), i do feel I have a good handle on understanding his overall temperament. Nonetheless I'd like some perspective from another INFP male on what you'd think about tips and pointers on how to raise an INFP male. have any thoughts?
Are you better at short iterations of deadlines? We INFP daydreamers need structure in that short time window that we're in the present. For me its GTD, it allows me to quickly see what needs to be done before I'm off to dreamland again. I think of what I gain if I complete a task on time and what I'd lose if I didn't. I also use procrastination as a filter: when I procrastinate, I drop the commitment. I hope to find what I really care about. Hope you still did well on your test!
I relate with this. I would recommend finding a way in your mind, a route, that makes the things in school interesting. The route is there, just find it.
I'm an INFP and this is all I do. I can't stay focused and put things off until the last minute, and in that last minute I tell myself there's no point in doing it anymore because it's not going to change the outcome, and then the loop repeats.
I completely relate :\
I actually had no idea that other INFPs also had these troubles in school. This is very comforting to a sophomore in high school.
I have the same problem. I'm like a master procrastinater.
Are u me? Im an INFP in high school and i always feel like utter shit. I get Cs and below but mostly Ds in math. A's in english and Art. Its so hard for me to do anything and all i can think about is how happy ill be once i can do what i want to do. Get a little house, live in relative isolation with cats and paint to put bread on the table. My closest friend recently emotionally abused me and ive been eating conpletely alone at lunch for a month. I have breakdowns every other night and im so pissed off at the world. Im pissed off at the education system; for it yelling in mt face that im stupid and worthless when i know my actual potential. I dont participate in class, i despise group work, and my anger has exceeded its state and been transformed into complete indifference and emotional detachment. I cant do online school because i would become so immensely behind they would kick me out. Teachers dont care anymore, so theres really not a point in trying.
+Erin Stander I have the same problems with online schooling, I typed my intro and haven't done anything since then, and that was 8 weeks ago :/ In highschool I would take the honors classes but get D's and C's in them because I liked the idea of being in them but never did the work :/
I really don’t know if I have never read a more relatable body of text. My goodness. 🤦🏿♂️
I had the same problems during the courses I took. I would procrastinate a lot during schedules then would end up feeling mighty frustrated towards the deadline. I did pass through looking back I feel I could of pushed myself a bit more. A major problem for me and structured education is that I often found it difficult to keep on target of everything what was expected of me....and don't even get me started on presentations! :P
This isn't an issue with all INFPs I believe. I study relatively easy. The only time it's hard for me to focus is when I'm depressed. I can do nothing when depressed... literally.
If it helps, deceive yourself into believing that what you are studying is interesting. Turn what you are studying into a story you're interested in. It helps with memory greatly. There's various methods of how to study if you're distracted. Try to merge your distraction into your studies. It's obviously boring at first, but you will get out of it.
It's funny you said that about making what you are studying interesting.
I'm a huge fan of Harry Potter series, and other fantasy stories.
So when I study, I read out loud (as though there is an audience) and imagine the subject is part of a grand fantasy story. Tends to help me a lot. lol
I'm an INFP as well. Distraction is painful. :(
It makes me angry as well man...when you know how important something is, yet, you allow yourself to procrastinate until it's too late...then even then, you deem it worthless to even finish the task at hand.
Practice though...practice on mitigating your INFP weaknesses....or if you're able to do so, turn those "weaknesses" into a positive attribute instead. Either way, we only do things that we feel passionate for anyways.
If you really are tired of procrastinating and feeling unfocused on a task you don't feel passionate or care about, find conviction for that task. it kinda almost always works. If you somehow make that task touch your inner emotions and intuition, you'll notice you will be on task more often than when you're not attached to it in some of "deep" or "intimate" way.
...and yes, I know calculus or economics isn't our favorite slice of pie but if you're able to hack it and somehow find a deeper connection to it, you'll see that you'll be more excited and determined to learn about it some more. It helps me a lot. And believe me, being an INFP and thriving in business is a daunting and even overwhelming task...but it's definitely doable and knowing oneself is one of the best things one can do if you want to be happy, great and succeed more often.
I'm an INFP and can relate. I somehow got through my BA with a 2.5. I think you have a lot going for you: you have the nerve to show your face in public, you are transparent, you draw empathy, you're very likable, you're not arrogant, you speak well, you reach out to others to find answers (cooperative). I'm 51 now. I think as you go on you'll become better at knowing how long you can procrastinate and when it's time to get down to business. Actually, procrastinating, you can be more efficient with your time as when fear and a deadline looms, you'll work like crazy to get it done and you'll be so focused. Just give yourself some buffer and you'll be fine. You're a smart guy. Keep your curiosity and desire to learn about whatever, you'll grow... the future will be better as you learn to compensate/adjust. In my masters work, made 4.0 I think because i grew a lot. You will too. God bless!
Being an INFP can be a struggle. I am currently feeling the same way right now. 2nd semester of college and I struggle to feel motivated to finish assignments on time, or to even study. I guess what i want to say is that I am glad that i found a video so relatable. Thanks man for sharing your emotions and for making fellow infps feel less, alone.
You are not alone, I feel and behave exactly the same as you. I wish society catered more for the INFP type to better help us fit in with education and career environments.
I really hated to go to school. Cause I was forced to learn subject I don't like/enjoy. And I think I procrastinated a lot. And I failed in few subjects. And I used to daydream a lot. And no one appreciate what I do so I don't let them know. And recently I learned that what you love the most can be snatched away in matter of seconds so I never leave anything out in open anymore
I understand man, I just saw this today, but resonates with my everyday.
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Thanks Clay! Keep on keepin on :)
I noticed this video was posted a little while back and first thing, I really hope your motivation has improve and your doing better! I'm going through the same exact thing, I used to always be such a great student because I was truly interested in the subject and material but I've been going through a serious lack of motivation for the past year, academically, which is always super frustrating. It's interesting how you point out you have issues being in the moment because I have the same issue but for me it stems from a place of being in the moment too much, and I'm happy in the moment and then all of a sudden I realize I have a test the next day that I haven't prepared for at all and that just leads to dealing with failure which I feel like all of INFPs do not do well. Being able to be in the moment is very important but be weary to not be in the moment too much because it will just put you in the same place, maybe your happier in the same place but isn't conducive to achieving your goals. Best of luck!
I loved and love school : collage and uni. I found the best thing was i could be around people, share my thoughts, learn to think, but never have to really talk to anyone (i did have some friends in school).
my study time is 50% study and 50& entertaining my thoughts about other things... this is slow going but the only way i can do it. I have a note book for studies and one for other thoughts. I also study in public so i cant go rumage around at home.
by the way i have 2 degrees and working on my thesis. and I am an INFP 100%.
I'm so glad I came across this video. Youre speaking the story of my life right now... its so intense that im actually debating withdrawing for a semester to try and i guess "reform" myself to tackle it again. So overwhelming
I totally relate! The struggle is real! Society is performance based, which can impact the self-esteems. INFP personality types are highly intelligent and capable, but often under perform based on conventional standards..
Youve worded my feelings on education spot on... Ive never been able to study, I can hardly concentrate in class either.
I can relate so much...
me to..
I am going through the exact same thing right now with finals and I just get so caught up with everything and upset and just thoroughly uneasy and not content.I find it almost impossible to do hours of homework and studying over things that do not interest and benefit me. Its gotten to the point where I feel so hopeless because I know I am capable of great things and ideas and complicated thoughts are always on my mind but I feel incredibly bound and limited and judged by school and grades. I do not know what to do for I'm afraid that if I fail in school I will not be able to accomplish what I want and need to in life
"When in the future can I do it?" Yes. I totally get this.
I guess I would say that it helps to have acquaintances who are T and J types, and get them to tell you to stop procrastinating.
I have a friend who is E _TJ, and he continually tells me that I should do certain things way before they're due. It is kind of annoying at times, and he gets inside my bubble, but having him around helps me a little.
But as for myself, I just now completed a whole lot of things last-minute, so I guess I don't have much room to talk or give advice.
I relate with this. I would recommend finding a way in your mind, a route, that makes the things in school interesting. The route is there, just find it.
I wish I could give you a huge hug
awww you seemed so sweet ^_^ Big hugs
As an INFP myself, that smile in the end just felt so satisfying.
I love learning/studying...but I just need the motivation. I also need to overcome my procrastination issue...
BTW good luck :\
Get rid of all distractions, isolate your self and leave your schedule cleared. And find an emotional connection to your goal, to keep you grounded. I have the same problem!
Definitely! I started school AGAIN this semester but with a good friend. I have high hopes in this present moment LOL
Wow you are literally me. I'm an INFP and I can't ever focus on the present and I literally can't get anything over a C in my classes except English and Art which I get A's in every time. Ever since I was a kid. I'm also a bit bad at focusing especially when I'm depressed and I put everything to the last minute. And then I just don't see the point of doing it so I don't. And the cycle continues. I disagree with so many things in the American education system. We're not robots. We're people with emotions an different beliefs and different energy levels and just oh my god why don't they get that. Oops I'm ranting. Anyways, I also don't talk at school. I'm being serious. Ever since kindergarten everyone thought I was mute. But I'm really not I just have anxiety and I'm an introvert and I'm terrified of being judged or bullied. This is probably because I have a really emotionally and physically abusive father and he's told me my entire life that I'm a piece of shit that doesn't amount to anything. And I'm way too sensitive so that cut deep and I believed it and tried to hide from the world. I never thought I was good enough. I starved my self until I was a stick and cut and tried to take my life. But now that he's gone I'm realizing more and more that its okay to be unique and maybe school and society in general isn't cut out for me. And that's ok. Once I realized that I finally embraced myself and dyed my hair pastel lavender! I still get depressed a lot but I'm in a better place now. I think I should just try to make an effort and then when I'm older go and do my own thing and be happy because that's what life is about. This is way too long and I don't know where I'm going with this so I'm just going to stop here. Also I subscribed! I like you.
I'm not sure if you're sick or on the verge of crying...but watching this made me want to give you the biggest bro hug. :/ I'm in the same situation with college.. No direction, no motivation, no support from society, and plenty of regret. I wish you luck, as I know it utterly blows.
Sincerely, a mutual INFP
its crazy that you suggested this to me when you did, as i was about a week or so into just beginning seriously attempting meditation as a way to make such progress. I can't say I remember yet to do it with great frequency, but I've certainly begun to learn things about myself and I think make progress against obsessive thoughts. so thanks for the encouragement!
chyeaahh first :) I barely made it through my last year of school, I wish I had something good for ya... all I can recommend is lots of good music, going hiking every now and then, and finding a fun quirky coffee shop to switch up your studying location. Those all seemed to help me maintain some tiny sense of sanity lol.
I feel the same way, i still haven't found a way to fix it. Being an infp sometimes suck, although i love it most of the time. That being said i should be studying but i have a feeling that won't be the case ....
I feel the saaaammmeee way. I'm not sure if this will help or not, but what o tend to do when I'm procrastinating is I just force myself to do it. If I'm thinking "maybe I can start this nwxt week..." I just immediately say "No! You start NOW!" it works mostly for me. If not that, yiu can try to place a punishment for yiurself (or a reward) if you do/don't do your work, i.e."if I don't finish this I can't have that cotton candy I wanted ti eat" etc. Good luck! P.s. your adorably attractive ♥
I got fairly good grades and had a few friends, but I always felt as though I was not working hard enough, not concentrating enough and daydreaming too much when most other kids were just doing as they were told.
I had the same problems. I started a daily meditation practice and after 2 years my concentration had become razor sharp. I was "tuning out" of the present moment to avoid feeling because I was afraid of awareness. I am now at peace with myself and I know what I want to do with my life; I want to help others to learn to accept themselves as they are. I was not defective in any way; I was just unaware of the unconscious part of my personality.
Man, I relate to this so much... I'm an infp and I've been going through the exact same thing. I'm doing terribly in school and no matter how hard I try and how much I want it, I can't pull it out of me to do better. I can't self-motivate at all. I wonder why I'm even here.
It really seems like I'm looking at a male version of myself.... same exact words I tell myself everyday
hugs :/ i feel the same way. I think our Ne function runs so fast and so random that organizing is really difficult! there are books for right brain/creative organization... might help. I feel like everything goes too quickly for INFPs and i feel like i have to sacrifice parts of myself that i really enjoy that most, the depth in me, because of trapping standards in which we are suppose to work with. idk
SO👏🏼TRUE👏🏼 I can relate to you so much as I'm also an INFP! I'm in high school rn and whenever I have assignments that I know I need to get done, I strive for good grades yet I would still procrastinate to the very limit like the morning before it's due (it's so bad).. It's very frustrating because I KNOW I shouldn't procrastinate and I want to succeed yet I still do it which I sometimes ends up getting bad grades because I didn't put much time and effort into the assignment. At the end I regret and hate myself for procrastinating. This is basically my high school cycle which I'm trying to stop because woah next semester will get a hella lot stressful lol
I'm right there with you. I haven't finished a book in years, be it for school or pleasure, because it's just such a frustratingly cyclical endeavor. I wind up reading the same sentence 5, 10 times over, then think to myself "this isn't progress" and I give up. I still get fine grades, but that might be thanks to grade inflation more than it is to my hard work. Then again, I might also be selling myself short, as usual. :/
I can totally relate to this, deadlines are what made me put off my studies. I just cant handle them and I also tend to procastinate until the las minute due to lack of concentration...and just like you I feel like giving up but I'm encouraging you not to.I'm sorry I don't really have advice but I wish you much luck and hope you 'll get through this.
I actually looked into Vipassana retreats a year or so ago too. Always have been very interested in Buddhist teachings. For now though I think the internet, books, and most of all self-exploration is my route of choice.
you sound like you're living the life i'm aspiring to :)
I can relate to every single aspect of this video. 1:56 - 2:17 really spoke to me, I've been saying that same thing over and over.....
I totally relate to you! I can't seem to stay focused on any subject for more than a few minutes at a time. I instead end up daydreaming, or after I think I've done enough work I'll "reward" myself by playing online for two hours (very bad). If you ever discover a solution I would be grateful for a video how you do it! (:
OMG! This is something I really do struggle with!
I literally feel EXACTLY the same way, lol.
i found out that when you get to this situations ,find some SJ to learn with .
maybe it's because I'm not that introverted but i found out that learning with someone who has the capability to learn is very helpful ..
Hey Ryan. I've dealed with the same problem all my life. I've never been a brilliant student, had my highs and lows, but I've just never been able to put my whole self into school. I always spend a lot of time by myself I guess, I mean thinking, mind wandering, you know... For a few years Now Ive been studying at University and I tend to find myself in the situation you describe in this video. I have no special tip for this. I guess that getting over my superprocrastination is something im
100%, and I'm having the same problem...
I feel this so closely..... Hope you're doing better.. I'm trying :/
Sounds exactly like me. When I first read that INFP's are more in the future than in the present, I guess I kind of assumed they spend a lot of time thinking far ahead into the future. From what you've said though, I realize I do the same stuff with homework. I'll put it in the future, tell myself I'll do it later, and never get down to business. I do that with a lot of stuff.
You seem depressed, Ryan. I hope you've gotten better. I can relate but I know that my motivation plummets when i'm depressed.
I feel now that school was almost completely the opposite of my true self. Years later I finally find out , thanks to MBTI that the school experience was always going to feel wrong to me. Part of me believes that my time there was wasted and perhaps I should have been allowed to do my own thing at home in order to find out what I was really naturally suited to doing like Art for example!
Not sure if I should sad or happy to know this, I feels the same, if my deadlines are so close I procrastinated and drawing something, the more tense the more I like to draw, I want to laugh myself but also cry 😂
I feel the same fucking way! I just came through this video and the funny thing about that is that I also have a test tomorrow and I haven't studied shit. These days I'm also struggling with myself and trying to find a way how to change from a really messy/distracted/unpunctual person to a really organized and down to earth one. Seems impossible! I'm also INFP. Thanks for sharing though, good to know I'm not alone :D
Yeah, but I think the pressure of having to get to work on time everyday and not make any mistake in your job is probably bigger than going to school. I did well in high school because my parents nagged me out of bed every day. After entering college, things started to slip, and the more work I have to do, the more petrified and flakey I become.
This is so me! However, if this is you too please test your working memory. Poor working memory will cause these things too and you can do something about it.
I can so relate to this as of now.
As a fellow INFP I relate very much to this, despite the fact that the video is over 5 years old.
I feel the same way...
(part two:) im slowly learning by trying to improve myself and seeking my goals. I try noticias to think about aaaall the task I have to do. I think to myself: dont think, just do (which im aware its pretty hard). I dont always succeed but Im getting better. Sorry for my english btw.. Greetings from another infp all the way from Spain
same
couldn't find your video! :o
I have the same problem and i am still dealing with it
I have this problem too :p
ENTP here. I think Ne is almost phobic of focusing on one strain of thought and is instead constantly aware of everything. Ti can sometimes counteract this, but I'm pretty damned ADD as well, focus is not in the NP nature!
i find INPs to be the most ''get your shit together'' types. I am INTP and i can't take school seriously either.
i feel like this whole ''Te Society Robot Rules'' has no point whatshowever, it's ridiculous.
Bcause people are not robots and we should not be forced to be all the same, the same things over and over again
thanks for your thoughts. I have been diagnosed with add; I'm pretty sure they did specify it as not adhd, but, I'm not really sure if that means anything other than I'm not naturally "hyperactive". anywho, maybe I *should* talk to an advisor or someone. the doctors just gave me pills :/
it's totally fine if you call me hush! That's a good perspective. Have you ever considered studying psychology? I'm thinking about starting it this year, but because I'm already in college I have to take one only psychology class. I think It'll be good for this "understanding myself" you're talking about. I read you study film, I considered that a lot of times, specially script writing. It seems to me like we are similar infps.
If you ever come to Spain I could try to suggest cool places!
thanks for the comment hushpuppy. is it okay if i call you hush? it seems we're going about this problem in rather similar ways. just finding out what i really want to get out of my education and working towards understanding myself more as a person, rather than constantly worrying about things that mean little to me, like grades, has undone at least a fair amount of the stress for me. i've got one more year to go though, so we'll see how i fare :P
greetings, I hope to see Spain someday soon!
I relate to everything you say here. I feel as an INFP I struggle to find motivation to do something which doesnt interest me/inspire me. ive just had a channel, my first video is pretty much just an introduction about myself, as well as trying to explain difficulties INFPs have with finding love. If you have time, check it out and let me know if you can relate to anything I say. cheers, Shaun
at the time of this video, tons of art history, so lots. and lots. of memorization and facts :c
but i also study film !
You know i used to be dilligent.Like really.I don't know what happened to me.I think i'm getting lazier.I don't really know what my type was before this.But right now i am infp.Do you think it's possible.. just maybe we're just creating this whole thing just to make ourselves feel better ? I meant i did a great job.Why can't i do it right now? Honestly i've been procrastinating lately.I can't even do my own hobbies.My favourite thing to do.I feel like wasting time and a bit sad. I've been wasting it on internet.I just wished i didn't .But i felt sad. I usually was okay with everything.Why now i became like this.I really want to tell my dreams are.But i'm way too sacred to tell my parents.They would say it's bad or this is all just my assumptions.I felt like i shouldn't tell them.It pains me i feel like my dreams would never be real.But i still surf this stupid internet..I just wished i could tell them.But the other thing i just didn't want to burden them.What if my univeristy will cost more? I have brothers and sister.They need money too.If i continued on my daily dream that may never come true,shouldn't i just take the jobs that less making me happy but it's worth for everyone? I just can't seem to let it go. 😔
This is a good video. However, I think being clean shaven is best!
I have a 13 year old male INFP. As his mother (also INFP!), i do feel I have a good handle on understanding his overall temperament. Nonetheless I'd like some perspective from another INFP male on what you'd think about tips and pointers on how to raise an INFP male. have any thoughts?
this is me
Are you better at short iterations of deadlines?
We INFP daydreamers need structure in that short time window that we're in the present. For me its GTD, it allows me to quickly see what needs to be done before I'm off to dreamland again. I think of what I gain if I complete a task on time and what I'd lose if I didn't. I also use procrastination as a filter: when I procrastinate, I drop the commitment. I hope to find what I really care about.
Hope you still did well on your test!
😭 this is me
I'm an INFP with ADHD lol
May I ask what you are studying?
Is eeyore an infp?
lovelle spice : Luv Eeyore:)
It might be ADHD guys...
I relate with this. I would recommend finding a way in your mind, a route, that makes the things in school interesting. The route is there, just find it.