Gionna Belton Any advice on coming out to my parents? I’m really scared only because I don’t know if my parents (and siblings) will accept me :/ (I haven’t come out to anyone yet)
Happy Pride Month Everyone! Thanks for listening to my rant. Let's talk more about bisexuality - what have your experiences being bi or dating someone bi in the LGBT community been like?
First of all thank you for your courage. I wish we all could love who we want without being judged or categorized. I also tend to think being bi is the norm (meaning that everyone is bi to some extent with various degrees whether they act on it or not), although I don't personally identify as such. But you're right, bisexuals are the target of all communities. It once was the more acceptable way to come out, now it's become the most openly prejudiced community. In any case, you're still the most inspirational lesbian couple I've ever seen.
Alexis and Lilian I am a lesbian, and sadly, my experience dating bisexual women has been atrocious. Obviously, not all bisexual women would behave the way my exes do, but due to that trauma I prefer to date other lesbians.
Alexis and Lilian I’ve never actually dated a bi woman ( I’m les) but I did date a pan woman, and she was great, but honestly I didn’t care about her sexuality, she was and still is perfect the way she is. I loved her for her not for her sexuality
You are a bicon!! Thankyou for making this video, i feel like both straight and gay people have a prejudice against us and think we're not real and this video could help change their minds! ly xxx
My split is about 90/10, preferring women. I also use the term queer because I don’t fully identify with the term lesbian because I could potentially fall in love with a guy but because I have a *strong* preference for women I also don’t feel fully comfortable using the term bisexual. It’s complicated, lol.
I am also bisexual. I got married to a man 2 years ago. My spIit was same as yours and I have only dated with girls in the past but a few years ago I met him in a bar and we had a really long talk on the first night and i fell in love with him... I have never thought I can love a man so much but this happened.. Since I am married to him, I stopped using a term "bisexual". I don't want to confuse his family and friends. Sometimes it is hard when I have a situation to talk about exes..
me toooooo, but using the word "queer" in danish would sound weird so i just tell people that i'm bisexual. Also people would probably start asking "what's queer?", and then i would have to explain that
‘Once your in a relationship, you ar not longer bisexual’. Exactly that. I am a 36-year-old woman and have been open about my sexual orientation since I was 18 years old. But since my last two relationships with a man (and having childeren), it seems that my sexual orientation no longer exists. After all, I am in a relationship with a man, ‘why are you still bisexual?’ I don't like boxes, but I still find it hard that they get me out of the "bisexual" box. Even my own parents. I am proud who i am, but it seems like I have to come out again every now and then, and defend myself about my sexual orientation. Thank you for making this video, knowing that more are struggling with this "problem." I just discovered your videos, (becouse of your buzzcut..I did it a few weeks ago)you are both fantastic. And your hair is stunning!!!!
"I don't like boxes, but I still find it hard that they get me out of the "bisexual" box" That's interesting to me, I see bisexuality as being outside of the box 😂
as a bi woman, seeing fellow bi women in healthy relationships with other women makes me so happy. i feel like so many people expect us to settle down with a man, and that’s just simply not true for a good portion of us. and however life turns out for us, we’re still bi no matter what. great video :)
As a bisexual women, I hate being told "you just need to work out what you prefer".... What I prefer is a decent person!! I don't care what their gender is, it's the person I'm attracted to, not the gender.
Thank you for talking about this. As a bisexual woman, I often struggle with the same things you mentioned. I'm still learning to fully accept my sexuality, but making progress everyday. 💙
This is my problem, Im 32 and still not out! I struggled with it in for years, I've accepted it in myself but I'm still worried about peoples judgement. I don't want/need to pick a side, I want to be with a decent human being!
I think I needed this video today. I wrote down a list of things that fear was holding me back on, and accepting that I am bisexual was top of the list. I've long accepted and embraced being attracted to women, but I've struggled to accept the bisexual label because of all the judgement and misconceptions you mentioned. It honestly feels easier to tell my parents I'm gay, than bi. And I know they would understand that better too. But I want to be true to myself and I am still attracted to men, even if I choose not to date them. Thank you for this video that not only summed up everything I've felt but also fills me determination to accept my orientation and be proudly bisexual! :)
This is very true. People do 'stereotype' people who identify as bisexual. It's almost as if bisexuality isn't a recognized sexuality. It's time we begin to progress forward and actually accept people for their preferences whether it be a man, woman or BOTH. So glad you were able to build up the courage to post this inspirational video. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜♥️🏳️🌈 #happypridemonth
Thank you so much Lilian!! I'm so scared of being rejected by the lesbian woman I have a huge crush on, if I tell her I'm bisexual. You seem to have found a great, open-minded lesbian partner in Alexis. Two lesbian friends told me they had bad experiences with bisexual women, and now they only want to date lesbians. But when they explained the issues they encountered, the reality is that these supposedly bisexual women were just biCURIOUS, just exploring, not committed, mostly into men, etc... So I completely agree with you, Lilian, when you say a bisexual can absolutely have a real, meaningful and committed relationship with a lesbian.
So true... being trans just adds another layer of complexity (and sometimes confusion) to how people perceive you and your sexuality. i know it can be hard to let go of internalized biphobia and transphobia, but i hope you'll manage and wish you happy dating. Greetings from another bisexual transgender woman ^_^ you are not the only one
Wow, great video and well-explained! Thank you so much for this. Re: "internalized biphobia": a friend of mine, who is bisexual and happens to be German, had a tendency to avoid me when she hooked up with a guy again because she thought that me and my friends would disapprove of her not being gay enough :( She had previously been with a woman for 16 years and broke up only after that one cheated on her, among other things. So, of course that homo- or heterosexuality do not equal monogamy nor does bisexuality equal polygamy or cheating. Once again, great video! Thanks so much
When I was coming out, I struggled with this. Because I had dated men, I felt like I wasn't as sure or "pure" with being gay. That women who knew all along that they only liked women were somehow more legit, and I also felt a bit of shame about it that it took me so long to realize. Thank you for speaking out for the validity of your identity and so many others.
Great video! I'm vice president of the board of directors for a local LGBT support group (a chapter of PFLAG) and our discussion topic last month was supposed to be bisexuality but we didn't have a guest speaker or anyone to rep the squad as it were on hand. I'm definitely sharing this on the Facebook group though!
Thank you so much for making this video! As a bi woman in a monogamous marriage with a straight man, I also fall into the spectrum of bi erasure. In fact, I didn't even know I was bi until I was already married (I have internalized homophobia/religious indoctrination to thank for that one). I love my husband and am attracted to him, but I am also attracted to other people, usually women. My attraction to women does not make me feel any less attracted to my very male husband.
Preach!!! I love this video thanks for representing!! I think you articulated yourself very well and I hope one day bisexuals will be respected as much as everyone else. 💖💙💜
Hi from the UK. I’ve just found you two on you tube. Loving the calm vibes you each portray uniquely. I’ve had an interesting month with regards to being open about my own bisexuality! I’m in my mid 40s and have been married to a guy for almost 20 years. We’ve three kids. As all the kids are hitting their teens this month I came out to them as bisexual. In turn two out of three of them have also come out to us as bisexual too! It honestly wasn’t that much of a surprise as we’ve always been frank about gender not being important in relation to who you love. Looking forward to more of your videos. Lots of love. X
Thank you for this video! I also identify myself as bisexual. In the beginning of me trying to figure out my sexuality, I was hard on myself, always questioning if these feelings I have for women are real, or if I am just like what everybody else says, “trying to get attention”. Eventually I got out of that stage, but I am now (ironically) stuck with this “subconsciously suppressing feelings for the opposite sex” stage. I know clearly that I shouldn't be feeling any of these non-senses. I mean, I AM A FREAKING BISEXUAL!!! But the reality is that, with my country (Taiwan) finally legalizing same-sex marriage last month after years of fighting, this irrational fear that “falling for a man would disqualify my queerness” haunts me. (Internalized biphobia is obviously no fun 😂. But I think I'll be alright, just need a bit more time to work things out again.) Anyway, it's great to have someone like you to open up and start this kind of conversation. I always feel that I am practically on my own, dealing with all these self-doubts. It's like, no matter how supportive my family and friends are, they being straights, simply can't relate to my struggles. So, thank you again for this video, it sure makes me feel understood and less lonely 😀.
Thank you for sharing your truth! That means a lot ❤ I admire your courage! I think people of any sexuality or gender identity can fall into "gatekeeping mindset." It's tricky because our truths do not all look the same, and we are all in different stages of discovery. I believe it's important to examine the sources of the impulse to tear someone else down and ask yourself some tough questions, in order to grow. Being able to answer tough, personal questions honestly with yourself will really help keep you out of the pitfalls of adopting this mindset. A wise person I knew who used to identify and live as a lesbian, but now is a couple years into gender transition, once told me: the label follows the feeling--the feeling shouldn't follow the label. Let's give others and ourselves the space to learn, grow and change 🌱
Thank you for this. I try to explain this very thing to people all the time and some get it and some don't. I strongly believe that those who don't, simply don't and therefore it's not my place to convince anyone of anything especially who I am. It was confusing for me in the beginning, just like you described, but once I figured it out, I was happy and still am today. I also realise that it can be a challenge for prospective partners as well, but they have to figure out their own feelings and make their own decisions on the commitments they choose. I feel also that because we ''Bi'' people can often not really belong in either the straight or gay communities, we have to be and usually are very strong people in ourselves and our identities and that can be confusing and in some cases threatening to those who ''don't get it''. Thanks again for addressing this topic. Big love
Hello! Thankyou very much for this video. I'm currently exploring my own gender, since I'm 27 and have only had heterosexual relationships and yet have allways felt I like women. I've been studying what this might mean, and your channel is helping me a bunch! I was surprised to hear that bisexuality has a negative connotation in some circles, I'm from Mexico and have lived in the West quite a bit but I've never encountered this. My Mexican circle is quite diverse relating homosexuality, my parents consider themselves open minded but have trouble accepting lesbianism as something that is natural, and I have all sorts of friends, some more accepting than others. Also, mexican culture (what we can uderstand as the main stream of thought regarding sexuality) is predominatly sexist (machista). This is part of our everyday lives, there are a lot of feminicides here, a lot of seeing women as preys, a lot of seeing women essentialy as virgins or prostitutes, as essentialy mothers. Accepting I also like girls is a new world for me, and understanding how I feel towards men, my heart having travelled alongside them for such a long time, as well. So thank you, most sincerely for this and for creating and inciting a representation of bisexuality. Let's keep baking a better world ;)
Lilian... your videos are always helpful. There are days when I feel so low, and you with your clarity really help. Some of the sentences you said in other videos, really helped in moving on.
ellie Orchard thank you so much! They reacted much better than I thought they would, they said they still loved me and they accept me for who I am and they just want me to be happy. I talked to my mom afterwards and she said she was surprised on how well my dad took it because he’s not very open minded and he’s really stubborn so I was terrified to tell him. But he took it really well!
This video literally describes how I’ve been feeling especially lately but for years if I’m honest!!! I’ve been figuring a lot of stuff out the past few months and years that are literally described by you!! 😍 I am feeling attractions towards women as well as men but I always felt too “tomboy-ish” or “masculine” to be bisexual, that being bisexual would mean I won’t be accepted as the tomboy-me (which I now know is bullshit) and when I had a crush on a guy I was always like - oh that’s so wrong, you’re queer, maybe this guy is just objectively more good-looking than most guys or something, your feelings aren’t real. It’s like I didn’t want to allow myself to be bisexual BECAUSE of the stigma that bisexuals are “straight girls that just want to have fun with girls” and I just knew for sure that I wasn’t straight, cause I fricking love girls! This video is AMAZING! Thank you so much for sharing - you’re the first person that literally represents how I feel and finally make me feel like I’m not alone!
All of this that youre talking about is so true, ive realized when im now come out as bisexual myself that there are a lot more biphobia then you think and its so important to talk about it and make people aware, we are just as valid as anyone else in the community! Thank you for making this video! ❤
The moment you said "I am attracted too women and I am attracted to men. But not equally so." I LITERALLY screamed "AMEN!" Because this is SO true. I myself just recently came as bi to my mother, and am slowly coming out to my friends. This being said, I have learned that many people, myself included, didn't or don't seem to realize that being bi doesn't necessarily mean you're 50/50
You awesome for doing this :) Thank you! I always felt weird saying that I'm bi, I felt like once I said it people would look at me with their judging eyes and not take me serioursly. There is such a stigma with the word bisexual and I think it's stupid and a lil bit hypocritical. I've recently realise that nothing is wrong with it. I dont care what people think anymore. There will always be people who are with you and people who are against you, that's just how it is. Im about just living my best life :) Happy Pride!
Thank you so much Lillian for making this video! You totally expressed all of the feelings that I’ve had and fears related to my bisexuality. I I often feel nervous when I go to queer lady bars that I won’t be taken seriously or because I’m very femme-presenting assumed that I’m not “real. “. It makes me nervous to flirt with cute girls! Perhaps you can speak to that in future videos. Thanks again
You have no idea how much your story has helped me. Thank you so much for open a window that is much needed for the bisexual community. I love you both so much and I admired you! Happy pride 🌈✨
what a great video!! your example of piper from orange is the new black reminded me of callie from grey's anatomy BUT this they actually handled bisexuality well and talked about it
I am somehow afraid to admit that I am into girls more than men at a energetic level. I love and I am attracted to men too, but is something that draws me to girls in a very pure and mysterious way. I am confused. I somehow want to explore this energy in me.
I hate it when people say that being pan sexual means that you aren't limited by gender because I am bisexual and have never even considered a person's gender in terms of disqualifying them from a list of potential partners. We don't have to pick a side and we are also no limited by gender
Probably because many people have had negative experiences dating bisexual people, as a lot of them tend to be selfish &, cheaters. She may be the exception but most bisexuals lean towards the straight side and don’t take their relationships seriously, will 100% leave when the right man comes along etc etc. just no point in trying to get serious with one
@@thisgoogleaccount5009 That's just a rationalisation of prejudice. Plain and simple. You are doing the same thing some people do when they justify their racist bias with some criminality rates or a friend's anecdote. With the difference that the racist at least has bothered enough to wrongly support their prejudice with data instead of unverifiable claims.
@@biboba604 literally every lesbian has had this experience at some point I’m telling u straight up that’s why they stay away from bisexual women and have negative connotations. Just the bitter truth that when you chose to date a bisexual woman she will always choose a man in the end that’s the truth. And it’s not even biphobia, the numbers tell the story. It’s just way easier to be with a man than a woman and that’s facts so bisexual women will always choose men in the end
@@thisgoogleaccount5009 Where are those numbers you are talking about? Unprovable self-reported anecdotal evidence in a CZcams comment is not "numbers" dear. You keep repeating the same things and using literally the same flawed logic (and/or lies) as the racists that say "I am not a bigot, literally everyone I know that has been robbed was robbed by a black man". As I said, at least the racists put some effort into cherry picking and misinterpreting actual numbers in order to try and defend their bigotry
I find dating lesbians means as a bi woman I’m judged from the on. I don’t know how to convince them but this video described my exact feelings. Thankyou so much for doing it
I came out as Bisexual then realized I am Pansexual and I get "Oh, one of those" Or chose a side, or your greedy. I get couples who want to use me like a novelty, I get straight ladies who are curious. I've gotten people frustrated and they reply your making it too complicated...It hurts but I keep it in. I thought I would be accepted but also I don't feel the need to present just as I am, and the right friends or person will see me for me. These videos help me so much and give me some comfort. I'm human too and I can't help who I am and who I love and want to love without feeling that no one will love me back because of who I am. I've also noticed trouble when I had a boyfriend and he acted like every Woman that spoke to me I was flirting with or something. This video hit home and made me tear up
Thanks for opening up about this. I'm bi but am like you and more into women, but I always feel like I'm like betraying my sexuality / future female partners ..when I am attracted to men too. It's tough.
As a bisexual women I loved this video. I could relate to everything you’ve said. I find it hard because there is so much stigma around being bi. I went to a pride event with some lovely lesbians recently. They were nice and friendly but I just didn’t feel like I fully fitted in. You are such a beautiful human! Please continue to share your stories and thoughts. :)
You made very good points. I have to admit that it's hard for me to accept bisexuality, especially that most of spoke persons are super attractive individuals who just can do whatever they want, as a result it's easy to start being jealous and if the jealousy gets out of control also kind of aggressive and negative about it (not in my case though :) ). I think also LGBT community is full of people who are just struggling with their identity and are insecure (me for example), which also easily triggers negative attitudes. There is just a lot more work to be done towards accepting and giving the same social value to LGBT people as to straight people. Happy pride month!
Thank u for sharing it ! I'm bisexual and the reason why I came out late it's because all the biphobia ("I like this girl but maybe it's just a friend stuff or admiration" " "All the girls are attracted to others girls sometimes" "It's just a phase" "I have to choose" "Im attracted to men so i'm not LGBT"), and the lake of representation in films, series, book,.... Now I'm fine about it and I've choosed not to choose between genders. But I see sometimes biphobia on dating apps or sexualisation from couples. I'm not monogamous so maybe I'm a bit cliché but I never linked this with my bisexuality and it's not depend on the gender of the person I'm with. I never cheated or I don't feel never satisfied, I just communicate a lot with the person with who I am and it's ok. (Sorry if I made mistakes, I'm not a native english speaker) Thanks again !
I have the same thoughts and am thankful for your encouraging bisexual story. I often can feel like I am erased but am slowly taking the time each week to post queer stories on my social media.
Happy Pride Lilian! I'm still sorting out what labels I identify with, and (for years) was self conscious about possible LGBTQ identity being misread. After June 2016, I decided that I should be proud of whatever, whoever I am, and support others being proud too.
:'') Thank you Lilian for this video. It's relatable and helpful to me, and I am sure as well to others who have been misunderstood or shut down on. I am happy for you that you have gotten this off your chest, and on to chasing your own happiness!
I’m really glad you posted this. You accomplished what you were trying to. I’m in a serious monogamous relationship with a woman and I’ve been having a really rough time since we got engaged. She identifies as lesbian and I told her when we started dating I identify most with the terms homoromantic/bisexual. This has always been a huge worry for her. If I say an actor is attractive or my “bisexuality surfaces” through conversation it triggers her insecurities. I am realizing it’s affecting our sex life. I didn’t know why because I also identify about 70/30 bisexual. I don’t see an issue being married to a woman and being monogamous. I’m very interested in our sex life. But I’m learning not being able to embrace my bisexuality also makes me feel closeted similar to how it felt when I was “straight” and confused about women. I’m worried if I have to pretend I’m 100% gay (even in a lesbian marriage) I’m going to have an identity crisis. I’m really struggling with how to bring this up to her in a way she doesn’t feel I’m trying to call off our engagement. I don’t want to be with anyone else, but I want all parts of me to be validated so I feel 100% myself at home.
Hi!🙂 Irgendwie habe ich das Gefühl, Du hast das schon Mal in einem Q&A oder so erwähnt, also ich war jetzt irgendwie nicht überrascht. Aber ich bin immer super glücklich, wenn ich bisexual (Coming-out)Videos sehe, davon gibt es immer noch so wenige! Sehr relatable!! 😂☺️ Danke!🌻
Thank you so much for posting this. I have always felt like I’ve been living in between two worlds, never quite belonging in either. It’s a very lonely place to be.
When I was younger I worked with lovely lesbian couple (before I knew for sure I was bi). There was a discussion in the restaurant one day from some customers about bi people being just greedy straight woman that want their cake and to eat it too. It hurt me so much and at the time I didn't really understand why. Now I know it's because what they said was an opinion of me, someone they don't know. It's just sad that those people don't know the struggle, the pain, the self doubt, and the fear that came to me in the journey of realizing my truth. It's sad because they would never know my kind, faithful, loving heart because they just want to make assumptions. If people want to make assumptions, then they should only assume the best.
Thank you so much for explaining this! I finally came out fully as bisexual and I've dated lesbians. I didn't go through the drama with them, however the guys were a little bit insecure. I tell anybody that I'm dating if I'm with you I'M WITH YOU.
The lgbtq+ community gets enough hate without us hating each other. The hate bisexuals and pansexuals get from other members of the community is ridiculous. I've even heard people calling bisexuality homophobic because we also like members of the opposite sex and get in heterosexual relationships. It's so toxic honestly.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR OPENING UP TO... YEAH, PRETTY MUCH THE WORLD! It's such en enormous step and your honesty is much appreciated. AND you know what? You speak right from my heart. I couldn't have explained it any better! Thank you and massive hugs 💋
Thank you for what you said! Back in the 90's, when I was 20, I lived in San Francisco and most of the young people I knew were bi. It wasn't really talked about tho. It feels like, finally, the bi community is getting the attention and the understanding it needs. XOXO
Some people feel comfortable with calling themselves bisexual. They have not come out to themselves. When they do they know it is gay, lesbian. Though on the other hand there are committed bisexuals. Some who never act on it. I don't agree with labels and people shouldnt have to justify themselves.
I actually really needed to hear all of this, to know that other people go through the same thing. Today, I learned that my school is starting an lgbtq+ support group and I'm really excited about it, small steps right? :) Anyway, thanks for trusting us with all of this, und bleib wie du bist!
I'm still trying to figure myself out and videos like yours help me so much. I have two lesbian friends that are married to each other and they were so supportive of me when I came out to them as questioning. I also had a girl at Pride last year that was like "I don't know what to label myself" and I felt that so much.
I want to shout praise for you from the highest mountain because my god that was beautiful. Beautifully put and expressed. My experience with the word bisexual is that it is technically how I am identified within the words available but I don't really like to label myself as that and I prefer gay or "fluid" (sexuality wise) because I think they are more fun as words. And your words about the lack of community for bisexuals - I wish there was more.
🇧🇷 kisses from Brazil 💙 This video made me feel confident, happy and comfortable with what I feel and think 🥰❤️ Thank you both so much for all the amazing videos you girls have been creating for this CZcams channel. YT suggested me one of your videos when I searched for queer content in order to feel more confident about my sexuality and I completely loved your channel! You’re both amazing women and I just want to say THANK YOU ❤️ I’m now feeling that priceless bisexual pride I was looking for 🥰
I'm sorry you have had to go through this, you are worthy of love every bit as much as everyone else and I'm so glad that you are in a happy, healthy, and committed relationship
As a woman who is newly openly out- being called out and questioned about if I actually like woman seems to happen all the time now.... Thank you for this video! I needed to hear this!!!❤️
to be honest.. i've never encountered any phobia against my sexuality... because i've never started a discussion with anybody about it :D i live openly as a lesbian .. and just having to say "openly" is so weird to me bcs i feel like i am no different from heterosexuals. all my friends except maybe 1 or 2 people there are heterosexual- the only times i encounter worries/anger/fear about sexualitys was when i entered LGBT discussions/parties/groups. "outside" in the world, my sexuality is not open for discussion because quite francly.. nobody gives a damn. and i am sooo glad about that. i can do whatever i want, like anybody else.. like i always did. - often, specially nowadays, i feel less secure and rather embattled by the LGBT community than anywhere else. since i had contact to the community etc, i rather felt guilty of having to call myself a lesbian if it came down to definition. i dont feel any different from the time when i didnt realize that i was a lesbian yet. i feel "hetero" if you will. i feel like me. and since all the definitions, sexualities and genders were made known... i feel like i am in danger because being ONE of those definitions suggests a world of fear/anger/not feeling right/being oppressed by others.. THAT is what scares me. not my sexuality or the people i live with or the world i live in..
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and being able to set yourself free to open up about your orientation. I Found it helpful to understand who you are and the issues surrounding bisexuality.
You're so brave and such an inspiration🌸 It's really nice to have someone out there who thinks just like me. I'm bisexual too, which is a term that most people know but not fully understand, so thank you so much for sharing these important thoughts. I hope this helps to solve the doubts of some people❣️ And I'd love you to continue making videos related to this topic, you beauty🤗 Much love for you and Alexis from Peru. Happy pride!🌈
Thanks for this video. As a more androgynous presenting woman this is something I also struggle with, and people always assume my sexuality. I can relate to the 70/30 thing. Everybody knows me as a lesbian so now I feel like I can’t re-come out but I’ve been correcting people more recently.
Thank you so much for making this video. This is exactly how I feel but I’ve been struggling to articulate it. I’ve also been ashamed about being bisexual and have been longing to be just straight or just gay. I appreciate you both! 🥰 I’m working on accepting that I’m attracted to all genders, especially women.
thank you for sharing this. I recognize the confusion and struggle it can give. And as you say it, people are people, love is love and a bisexual is simply being attracted to a human being.
I love you did this video. I am actually doing a documentary on this too. I am biracial because my mother is white and from Scotland and my father is black American and I am bisexual (pansexual) but in reality I say queer. I'm married to a transgendered male who was born a female to a Korean traditional family. So you can imagine our struggles. To add on to that I do not look white or black and my daughter from my first marriage is half-Asian and the labels and presumptions we receive regarding our race and racial slurs here in the south, that are horrible to say and yet are not even ours, is insane.
Saying the word bisexual is so important.
@@theunchosenone1 lmao please teleport back to 1995 I'm pretty sure the largest part of the LGBT community would beg to differ
It is important 😎
Yep
Why is it sexual though we don’t say straight sexual
@@bxstar5276 heterosexual term exists
I just came out a few mins ago and my mom replied shes bi too lol
+Gionna Belton Haha that‘s amazing!
Omg😂 that’s amazing ❤️
Gionna Belton wowww!!!! Love it!!
Gionna Belton Any advice on coming out to my parents? I’m really scared only because I don’t know if my parents (and siblings) will accept me :/ (I haven’t come out to anyone yet)
Whahaha...amazing...
Happy Pride Month Everyone! Thanks for listening to my rant. Let's talk more about bisexuality - what have your experiences being bi or dating someone bi in the LGBT community been like?
First of all thank you for your courage. I wish we all could love who we want without being judged or categorized. I also tend to think being bi is the norm (meaning that everyone is bi to some extent with various degrees whether they act on it or not), although I don't personally identify as such. But you're right, bisexuals are the target of all communities. It once was the more acceptable way to come out, now it's become the most openly prejudiced community. In any case, you're still the most inspirational lesbian couple I've ever seen.
Alexis and Lilian I am a lesbian, and sadly, my experience dating bisexual women has been atrocious. Obviously, not all bisexual women would behave the way my exes do, but due to that trauma I prefer to date other lesbians.
Happy Pride Month!!! ♥️
Did you ever think you could be pansexuality or Skoliosexuality ?
Alexis and Lilian I’ve never actually dated a bi woman ( I’m les) but I did date a pan woman, and she was great, but honestly I didn’t care about her sexuality, she was and still is perfect the way she is. I loved her for her not for her sexuality
You are a bicon!! Thankyou for making this video, i feel like both straight and gay people have a prejudice against us and think we're not real and this video could help change their minds! ly xxx
So true!!!!
My split is about 90/10, preferring women. I also use the term queer because I don’t fully identify with the term lesbian because I could potentially fall in love with a guy but because I have a *strong* preference for women I also don’t feel fully comfortable using the term bisexual. It’s complicated, lol.
Homoflexible perhaps?
I am also bisexual. I got married to a man 2 years ago. My spIit was same as yours and I have only dated with girls in the past but a few years ago I met him in a bar and we had a really long talk on the first night and i fell in love with him... I have never thought I can love a man so much but this happened.. Since I am married to him, I stopped using a term "bisexual". I don't want to confuse his family and friends. Sometimes it is hard when I have a situation to talk about exes..
Chi Ba thank you for sharing ❤️ in the end none of it even matters, love is love is love
me toooooo, but using the word "queer" in danish would sound weird so i just tell people that i'm bisexual. Also people would probably start asking "what's queer?", and then i would have to explain that
Don't give yourself a label. Stop explaining yourself to people. Live your life. Live it for yourself and not other people.
‘Once your in a relationship, you ar not longer bisexual’. Exactly that. I am a 36-year-old woman and have been open about my sexual orientation since I was 18 years old. But since my last two relationships with a man (and having childeren), it seems that my sexual orientation no longer exists. After all, I am in a relationship with a man, ‘why are you still bisexual?’ I don't like boxes, but I still find it hard that they get me out of the "bisexual" box. Even my own parents. I am proud who i am, but it seems like I have to come out again every now and then, and defend myself about my sexual orientation.
Thank you for making this video, knowing that more are struggling with this "problem." I just discovered your videos, (becouse of your buzzcut..I did it a few weeks ago)you are both fantastic. And your hair is stunning!!!!
Yes! Same here!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
"I don't like boxes, but I still find it hard that they get me out of the "bisexual" box"
That's interesting to me, I see bisexuality as being outside of the box 😂
as a bi woman, seeing fellow bi women in healthy relationships with other women makes me so happy. i feel like so many people expect us to settle down with a man, and that’s just simply not true for a good portion of us. and however life turns out for us, we’re still bi no matter what. great video :)
the most relatable thing i’ve ever seen on youtube ❤️💯👌🔥
SAME
Agreed
Definitely!
yep
As a bisexual women, I hate being told "you just need to work out what you prefer".... What I prefer is a decent person!! I don't care what their gender is, it's the person I'm attracted to, not the gender.
Completely agree with you
But that person has gender.
@@devitaromlah2866 yeah but I think they’re saying that the gender won’t affect their attraction
That's pansexuality
all the love for our brave bisexual queen! 😌💌
Haha aw I'll gladly accept that title 😄❤
I was never found a video that represent 100% me until today, thank u for your visibility 💚
Thank you for talking about this. As a bisexual woman, I often struggle with the same things you mentioned. I'm still learning to fully accept my sexuality, but making progress everyday. 💙
I can't express in words how much you inspire me! I wish you and Alexis all the happiness in the world! Happy Pride Month to you💛🌈
This is my problem, Im 32 and still not out! I struggled with it in for years, I've accepted it in myself but I'm still worried about peoples judgement. I don't want/need to pick a side, I want to be with a decent human being!
Thank you so much Lilian for opening up ❤❤❤ You're such an inspiration 🌈❤💙💛💜
I think I needed this video today. I wrote down a list of things that fear was holding me back on, and accepting that I am bisexual was top of the list. I've long accepted and embraced being attracted to women, but I've struggled to accept the bisexual label because of all the judgement and misconceptions you mentioned. It honestly feels easier to tell my parents I'm gay, than bi. And I know they would understand that better too. But I want to be true to myself and I am still attracted to men, even if I choose not to date them. Thank you for this video that not only summed up everything I've felt but also fills me determination to accept my orientation and be proudly bisexual! :)
Thanks, I’m in my 60s & I’ve always secretly loved the open-heartedness of bisexuality and I needed to hear your pride to reclaim mine..
This is very true. People do 'stereotype' people who identify as bisexual. It's almost as if bisexuality isn't a recognized sexuality. It's time we begin to progress forward and actually accept people for their preferences whether it be a man, woman or BOTH. So glad you were able to build up the courage to post this inspirational video.
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜♥️🏳️🌈 #happypridemonth
Thank you so much Lilian!! I'm so scared of being rejected by the lesbian woman I have a huge crush on, if I tell her I'm bisexual. You seem to have found a great, open-minded lesbian partner in Alexis. Two lesbian friends told me they had bad experiences with bisexual women, and now they only want to date lesbians. But when they explained the issues they encountered, the reality is that these supposedly bisexual women were just biCURIOUS, just exploring, not committed, mostly into men, etc... So I completely agree with you, Lilian, when you say a bisexual can absolutely have a real, meaningful and committed relationship with a lesbian.
It's so tough for me to admit my bisexuality. Even to myself. It's wrapped up in being trans for me, which makes it even more awkward.
💕💖💗
So true... being trans just adds another layer of complexity (and sometimes confusion) to how people perceive you and your sexuality.
i know it can be hard to let go of internalized biphobia and transphobia, but i hope you'll manage and wish you happy dating.
Greetings from another bisexual transgender woman ^_^ you are not the only one
Wow, great video and well-explained! Thank you so much for this. Re: "internalized biphobia": a friend of mine, who is bisexual and happens to be German, had a tendency to avoid me when she hooked up with a guy again because she thought that me and my friends would disapprove of her not being gay enough :( She had previously been with a woman for 16 years and broke up only after that one cheated on her, among other things. So, of course that homo- or heterosexuality do not equal monogamy nor does bisexuality equal polygamy or cheating. Once again, great video! Thanks so much
WOW. I related to this video so much. Thank you for giving a voice to the bisexual community:) makes me so proud to be me.
THANK YOU!!!. I can relate to EVERYTHING you have said. This video makes me feel less alone.
Aw I’m glad to hear that! You’re definitely not alone 😊
Yay! I love you coming out as bi! 💖💜💙 We need more positive bi representation 🥰
I can relate to this so much, I was afraid to come out as Bi myself. Happy Pride!
When I was coming out, I struggled with this. Because I had dated men, I felt like I wasn't as sure or "pure" with being gay. That women who knew all along that they only liked women were somehow more legit, and I also felt a bit of shame about it that it took me so long to realize. Thank you for speaking out for the validity of your identity and so many others.
When you said „much prettier girlfriend“, yees, she is indeed very pretty, but Mädel, so are you!! 🌟
LG from an Austrian bisexual
Great video! I'm vice president of the board of directors for a local LGBT support group (a chapter of PFLAG) and our discussion topic last month was supposed to be bisexuality but we didn't have a guest speaker or anyone to rep the squad as it were on hand. I'm definitely sharing this on the Facebook group though!
Thank you so much for making this video! As a bi woman in a monogamous marriage with a straight man, I also fall into the spectrum of bi erasure. In fact, I didn't even know I was bi until I was already married (I have internalized homophobia/religious indoctrination to thank for that one). I love my husband and am attracted to him, but I am also attracted to other people, usually women. My attraction to women does not make me feel any less attracted to my very male husband.
I'm with you Lilian! Very well said.and inspiring. You go girl!!!
Preach!!! I love this video thanks for representing!! I think you articulated yourself very well and I hope one day bisexuals will be respected as much as everyone else. 💖💙💜
Thanks for putting this up on Bi day for Pride Month 💙💜💖
How brave and strong you are, Lilian. Thank you for voicing this complex issue so eloquently. LOVE to ALL
Hi from the UK. I’ve just found you two on you tube. Loving the calm vibes you each portray uniquely. I’ve had an interesting month with regards to being open about my own bisexuality! I’m in my mid 40s and have been married to a guy for almost 20 years. We’ve three kids. As all the kids are hitting their teens this month I came out to them as bisexual. In turn two out of three of them have also come out to us as bisexual too! It honestly wasn’t that much of a surprise as we’ve always been frank about gender not being important in relation to who you love. Looking forward to more of your videos. Lots of love. X
Thank you for this video!
I also identify myself as bisexual.
In the beginning of me trying to figure out my sexuality, I was hard on myself,
always questioning if these feelings I have for women are real, or if I am just like what everybody else says,
“trying to get attention”.
Eventually I got out of that stage,
but I am now (ironically) stuck with this “subconsciously suppressing feelings for the opposite sex” stage.
I know clearly that I shouldn't be feeling any of these non-senses. I mean,
I AM A FREAKING BISEXUAL!!!
But the reality is that, with my country (Taiwan) finally legalizing same-sex marriage last month after years of fighting, this irrational fear that
“falling for a man would disqualify my queerness” haunts me.
(Internalized biphobia is obviously no fun 😂.
But I think I'll be alright, just need a bit more time to work things out again.)
Anyway, it's great to have someone like you to open up and start this kind of conversation.
I always feel that I am practically on my own, dealing with all these self-doubts.
It's like, no matter how supportive my family and friends are, they being straights, simply can't relate to my struggles.
So, thank you again for this video, it sure makes me feel understood and less lonely 😀.
Thank you for sharing your truth! That means a lot ❤ I admire your courage!
I think people of any sexuality or gender identity can fall into "gatekeeping mindset." It's tricky because our truths do not all look the same, and we are all in different stages of discovery. I believe it's important to examine the sources of the impulse to tear someone else down and ask yourself some tough questions, in order to grow.
Being able to answer tough, personal questions honestly with yourself will really help keep you out of the pitfalls of adopting this mindset.
A wise person I knew who used to identify and live as a lesbian, but now is a couple years into gender transition, once told me: the label follows the feeling--the feeling shouldn't follow the label.
Let's give others and ourselves the space to learn, grow and change 🌱
Thank you for this. I try to explain this very thing to people all the time and some get it and some don't. I strongly believe that those who don't, simply don't and therefore it's not my place to convince anyone of anything especially who I am. It was confusing for me in the beginning, just like you described, but once I figured it out, I was happy and still am today. I also realise that it can be a challenge for prospective partners as well, but they have to figure out their own feelings and make their own decisions on the commitments they choose. I feel also that because we ''Bi'' people can often not really belong in either the straight or gay communities, we have to be and usually are very strong people in ourselves and our identities and that can be confusing and in some cases threatening to those who ''don't get it''. Thanks again for addressing this topic. Big love
Hello! Thankyou very much for this video. I'm currently exploring my own gender, since I'm 27 and have only had heterosexual relationships and yet have allways felt I like women. I've been studying what this might mean, and your channel is helping me a bunch! I was surprised to hear that bisexuality has a negative connotation in some circles, I'm from Mexico and have lived in the West quite a bit but I've never encountered this. My Mexican circle is quite diverse relating homosexuality, my parents consider themselves open minded but have trouble accepting lesbianism as something that is natural, and I have all sorts of friends, some more accepting than others. Also, mexican culture (what we can uderstand as the main stream of thought regarding sexuality) is predominatly sexist (machista). This is part of our everyday lives, there are a lot of feminicides here, a lot of seeing women as preys, a lot of seeing women essentialy as virgins or prostitutes, as essentialy mothers. Accepting I also like girls is a new world for me, and understanding how I feel towards men, my heart having travelled alongside them for such a long time, as well. So thank you, most sincerely for this and for creating and inciting a representation of bisexuality. Let's keep baking a better world ;)
I loved the video, i am bisexual too, and i feel totally identified with you
Proud bisexual here sending out positive energy to my LGBTQ sisters and brothers. ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻🌈☯️☮️🌎🌏🌍🕊
Lilian... your videos are always helpful. There are days when I feel so low, and you with your clarity really help.
Some of the sentences you said in other videos, really helped in moving on.
Oh wow, that makes me so happy to hear! Thank you. Stay safe and sane out there ♥️
I came out to my parents today as Bi. One of the hardest but most relieving thing I have ever done
Tristen Romo I’m proud of you! I hope they reacted well! Know you’re valid and loved for exactly who you are! ❤️
ellie Orchard thank you so much! They reacted much better than I thought they would, they said they still loved me and they accept me for who I am and they just want me to be happy. I talked to my mom afterwards and she said she was surprised on how well my dad took it because he’s not very open minded and he’s really stubborn so I was terrified to tell him. But he took it really well!
This video literally describes how I’ve been feeling especially lately but for years if I’m honest!!! I’ve been figuring a lot of stuff out the past few months and years that are literally described by you!! 😍
I am feeling attractions towards women as well as men but I always felt too “tomboy-ish” or “masculine” to be bisexual, that being bisexual would mean I won’t be accepted as the tomboy-me (which I now know is bullshit) and when I had a crush on a guy I was always like - oh that’s so wrong, you’re queer, maybe this guy is just objectively more good-looking than most guys or something, your feelings aren’t real. It’s like I didn’t want to allow myself to be bisexual BECAUSE of the stigma that bisexuals are “straight girls that just want to have fun with girls” and I just knew for sure that I wasn’t straight, cause I fricking love girls!
This video is AMAZING! Thank you so much for sharing - you’re the first person that literally represents how I feel and finally make me feel like I’m not alone!
All of this that youre talking about is so true, ive realized when im now come out as bisexual myself that there are a lot more biphobia then you think and its so important to talk about it and make people aware, we are just as valid as anyone else in the community! Thank you for making this video! ❤
Love this!! 🌈♥️
The moment you said "I am attracted too women and I am attracted to men. But not equally so." I LITERALLY screamed "AMEN!" Because this is SO true. I myself just recently came as bi to my mother, and am slowly coming out to my friends. This being said, I have learned that many people, myself included, didn't or don't seem to realize that being bi doesn't necessarily mean you're 50/50
Firts of all, Proficiat for your coming out to your mom, and secondly good luck.
Thank you
THIS. VIDEO. WAS. NEEDED.👏🏻✨Thank you for saying something!🏳️🌈💖💜💙
You awesome for doing this :) Thank you! I always felt weird saying that I'm bi, I felt like once I said it people would look at me with their judging eyes and not take me serioursly. There is such a stigma with the word bisexual and I think it's stupid and a lil bit hypocritical. I've recently realise that nothing is wrong with it. I dont care what people think anymore. There will always be people who are with you and people who are against you, that's just how it is. Im about just living my best life :) Happy Pride!
I am grateful to have such a beautiful, intelligent, well-spoken and inspiring young person, to call one of my best friends
Thank you so much Lillian for making this video! You totally expressed all of the feelings that I’ve had and fears related to my bisexuality. I I often feel nervous when I go to queer lady bars that I won’t be taken seriously or because I’m very femme-presenting assumed that I’m not “real. “. It makes me nervous to flirt with cute girls! Perhaps you can speak to that in future videos. Thanks again
You have no idea how much your story has helped me. Thank you so much for open a window that is much needed for the bisexual community. I love you both so much and I admired you!
Happy pride 🌈✨
what a great video!! your example of piper from orange is the new black reminded me of callie from grey's anatomy BUT this they actually handled bisexuality well and talked about it
I am somehow afraid to admit that I am into girls more than men at a energetic level. I love and I am attracted to men too, but is something that draws me to girls in a very pure and mysterious way. I am confused. I somehow want to explore this energy in me.
Go for it!
I hate it when people say that being pan sexual means that you aren't limited by gender because I am bisexual and have never even considered a person's gender in terms of disqualifying them from a list of potential partners. We don't have to pick a side and we are also no limited by gender
I just came out as bisexuale a few months ago and I am so open now and I feel free... I can now speak open about it and that feels so good...
I never understood why people have negative reaction about Bi,...
Probably because many people have had negative experiences dating bisexual people, as a lot of them tend to be selfish &, cheaters. She may be the exception but most bisexuals lean towards the straight side and don’t take their relationships seriously, will 100% leave when the right man comes along etc etc. just no point in trying to get serious with one
@@thisgoogleaccount5009 What is wrong with you? You've probably never gotten to know any bi person.
@@thisgoogleaccount5009 That's just a rationalisation of prejudice. Plain and simple.
You are doing the same thing some people do when they justify their racist bias with some criminality rates or a friend's anecdote. With the difference that the racist at least has bothered enough to wrongly support their prejudice with data instead of unverifiable claims.
@@biboba604 literally every lesbian has had this experience at some point I’m telling u straight up that’s why they stay away from bisexual women and have negative connotations. Just the bitter truth that when you chose to date a bisexual woman she will always choose a man in the end that’s the truth. And it’s not even biphobia, the numbers tell the story. It’s just way easier to be with a man than a woman and that’s facts so bisexual women will always choose men in the end
@@thisgoogleaccount5009 Where are those numbers you are talking about? Unprovable self-reported anecdotal evidence in a CZcams comment is not "numbers" dear.
You keep repeating the same things and using literally the same flawed logic (and/or lies) as the racists that say "I am not a bigot, literally everyone I know that has been robbed was robbed by a black man". As I said, at least the racists put some effort into cherry picking and misinterpreting actual numbers in order to try and defend their bigotry
You perfectly explained bisexuality with the words I could never find.
Im going to show this to my mom so she can understand it better too!
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve had a lot of insecurity about my sexuality, so thanks for making me feel less alone xx
I find dating lesbians means as a bi woman I’m judged from the on. I don’t know how to convince them but this video described my exact feelings. Thankyou so much for doing it
I came out as Bisexual then realized I am Pansexual and I get "Oh, one of those" Or chose a side, or your greedy. I get couples who want to use me like a novelty, I get straight ladies who are curious. I've gotten people frustrated and they reply your making it too complicated...It hurts but I keep it in. I thought I would be accepted but also I don't feel the need to present just as I am, and the right friends or person will see me for me. These videos help me so much and give me some comfort. I'm human too and I can't help who I am and who I love and want to love without feeling that no one will love me back because of who I am. I've also noticed trouble when I had a boyfriend and he acted like every Woman that spoke to me I was flirting with or something. This video hit home and made me tear up
Thanks for opening up about this. I'm bi but am like you and more into women, but I always feel like I'm like betraying my sexuality / future female partners ..when I am attracted to men too. It's tough.
Date other bisexual women, they will know these feelings as well
As a bisexual women I loved this video. I could relate to everything you’ve said. I find it hard because there is so much stigma around being bi. I went to a pride event with some lovely lesbians recently. They were nice and friendly but I just didn’t feel like I fully fitted in. You are such a beautiful human! Please continue to share your stories and thoughts. :)
I really appreciate this video being pansexual myself I suffer with many of the same stigmas. Thank-you for bringing more awareness to this topic 🌈💕
You made very good points. I have to admit that it's hard for me to accept bisexuality, especially that most of spoke persons are super attractive individuals who just can do whatever they want, as a result it's easy to start being jealous and if the jealousy gets out of control also kind of aggressive and negative about it (not in my case though :) ). I think also LGBT community is full of people who are just struggling with their identity and are insecure (me for example), which also easily triggers negative attitudes. There is just a lot more work to be done towards accepting and giving the same social value to LGBT people as to straight people. Happy pride month!
Thank u for sharing it ! I'm bisexual and the reason why I came out late it's because all the biphobia ("I like this girl but maybe it's just a friend stuff or admiration" " "All the girls are attracted to others girls sometimes" "It's just a phase" "I have to choose" "Im attracted to men so i'm not LGBT"), and the lake of representation in films, series, book,.... Now I'm fine about it and I've choosed not to choose between genders. But I see sometimes biphobia on dating apps or sexualisation from couples. I'm not monogamous so maybe I'm a bit cliché but I never linked this with my bisexuality and it's not depend on the gender of the person I'm with. I never cheated or I don't feel never satisfied, I just communicate a lot with the person with who I am and it's ok.
(Sorry if I made mistakes, I'm not a native english speaker)
Thanks again !
I really needed this video. The worry of not being taken seriously or like i'm not fully welcome has made me afraid to explore my bi-ness.
I have the same thoughts and am thankful for your encouraging bisexual story. I often can feel like I am erased but am slowly taking the time each week to post queer stories on my social media.
Happy Pride Lilian! I'm still sorting out what labels I identify with, and (for years) was self conscious about possible LGBTQ identity being misread. After June 2016, I decided that I should be proud of whatever, whoever I am, and support others being proud too.
Happy pride month for you and Alexis. ❤🌈
Omg, you’re so cute! This topic is soooo important and no one really speaks up about it! Love ya! ❤️
:'') Thank you Lilian for this video. It's relatable and helpful to me, and I am sure as well to others who have been misunderstood or shut down on. I am happy for you that you have gotten this off your chest, and on to chasing your own happiness!
I’m really glad you posted this. You accomplished what you were trying to. I’m in a serious monogamous relationship with a woman and I’ve been having a really rough time since we got engaged. She identifies as lesbian and I told her when we started dating I identify most with the terms homoromantic/bisexual. This has always been a huge worry for her. If I say an actor is attractive or my “bisexuality surfaces” through conversation it triggers her insecurities. I am realizing it’s affecting our sex life. I didn’t know why because I also identify about 70/30 bisexual. I don’t see an issue being married to a woman and being monogamous. I’m very interested in our sex life. But I’m learning not being able to embrace my bisexuality also makes me feel closeted similar to how it felt when I was “straight” and confused about women. I’m worried if I have to pretend I’m 100% gay (even in a lesbian marriage) I’m going to have an identity crisis. I’m really struggling with how to bring this up to her in a way she doesn’t feel I’m trying to call off our engagement. I don’t want to be with anyone else, but I want all parts of me to be validated so I feel 100% myself at home.
I am bisexual too :) Maybe we just have a big heart with great capability to love.
That's so sweet
Some people might take that as you saying homosexuals and straights are not capable of great love?
@@MixedRogueKhorri Do you take it that way?
@@gunnhildk6299 Initially when I read it quickly, yes I did. Then I sat back a bit and realized it's the internet and people can say what they want.
@@MixedRogueKhorri :)
Hi!🙂 Irgendwie habe ich das Gefühl, Du hast das schon Mal in einem Q&A oder so erwähnt, also ich war jetzt irgendwie nicht überrascht. Aber ich bin immer super glücklich, wenn ich bisexual (Coming-out)Videos sehe, davon gibt es immer noch so wenige! Sehr relatable!! 😂☺️ Danke!🌻
Ja stimmt, wer gut aufgepasst wird nicht überrascht sein 😉Freut mich, dass du "relaten" konntest!
@@AlexisLilian Haha, ja, auf jeden Fall! 😂☺️ Danke für die Antwort 💕
Thank you so much for posting this. I have always felt like I’ve been living in between two worlds, never quite belonging in either. It’s a very lonely place to be.
When I was younger I worked with lovely lesbian couple (before I knew for sure I was bi). There was a discussion in the restaurant one day from some customers about bi people being just greedy straight woman that want their cake and to eat it too. It hurt me so much and at the time I didn't really understand why. Now I know it's because what they said was an opinion of me, someone they don't know. It's just sad that those people don't know the struggle, the pain, the self doubt, and the fear that came to me in the journey of realizing my truth. It's sad because they would never know my kind, faithful, loving heart because they just want to make assumptions. If people want to make assumptions, then they should only assume the best.
Thank you so much for explaining this! I finally came out fully as bisexual and I've dated lesbians. I didn't go through the drama with them, however the guys were a little bit insecure. I tell anybody that I'm dating if I'm with you I'M WITH YOU.
The lgbtq+ community gets enough hate without us hating each other. The hate bisexuals and pansexuals get from other members of the community is ridiculous. I've even heard people calling bisexuality homophobic because we also like members of the opposite sex and get in heterosexual relationships. It's so toxic honestly.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR OPENING UP TO... YEAH, PRETTY MUCH THE WORLD!
It's such en enormous step and your honesty is much appreciated.
AND you know what? You speak right from my heart. I couldn't have explained it any better! Thank you and massive hugs 💋
Im so glad you uploaded this video and be true to who you are lilian. I could relate 100%!!!! Thank you so much for this!
Thank you Lilian, I hope your words help to raise awareness about the bisexual topic, especially within the LGBTQ community!
Thank you for what you said! Back in the 90's, when I was 20, I lived in San Francisco and most of the young people I knew were bi. It wasn't really talked about tho. It feels like, finally, the bi community is getting the attention and the understanding it needs. XOXO
Some people feel comfortable with calling themselves bisexual. They have not come out to themselves. When they do they know it is gay, lesbian. Though on the other hand there are committed bisexuals. Some who never act on it. I don't agree with labels and people shouldnt have to justify themselves.
I actually really needed to hear all of this, to know that other people go through the same thing. Today, I learned that my school is starting an lgbtq+ support group and I'm really excited about it, small steps right? :) Anyway, thanks for trusting us with all of this, und bleib wie du bist!
I'm still trying to figure myself out and videos like yours help me so much. I have two lesbian friends that are married to each other and they were so supportive of me when I came out to them as questioning. I also had a girl at Pride last year that was like "I don't know what to label myself" and I felt that so much.
I want to shout praise for you from the highest mountain because my god that was beautiful. Beautifully put and expressed. My experience with the word bisexual is that it is technically how I am identified within the words available but I don't really like to label myself as that and I prefer gay or "fluid" (sexuality wise) because I think they are more fun as words. And your words about the lack of community for bisexuals - I wish there was more.
🇧🇷 kisses from Brazil 💙 This video made me feel confident, happy and comfortable with what I feel and think 🥰❤️ Thank you both so much for all the amazing videos you girls have been creating for this CZcams channel. YT suggested me one of your videos when I searched for queer content in order to feel more confident about my sexuality and I completely loved your channel! You’re both amazing women and I just want to say THANK YOU ❤️ I’m now feeling that priceless bisexual pride I was looking for 🥰
I'm sorry you have had to go through this, you are worthy of love every bit as much as everyone else and I'm so glad that you are in a happy, healthy, and committed relationship
As a woman who is newly openly out- being called out and questioned about if I actually like woman seems to happen all the time now.... Thank you for this video! I needed to hear this!!!❤️
to be honest.. i've never encountered any phobia against my sexuality... because i've never started a discussion with anybody about it :D i live openly as a lesbian .. and just having to say "openly" is so weird to me bcs i feel like i am no different from heterosexuals. all my friends except maybe 1 or 2 people there are heterosexual- the only times i encounter worries/anger/fear about sexualitys was when i entered LGBT discussions/parties/groups. "outside" in the world, my sexuality is not open for discussion because quite francly.. nobody gives a damn. and i am sooo glad about that. i can do whatever i want, like anybody else.. like i always did. - often, specially nowadays, i feel less secure and rather embattled by the LGBT community than anywhere else. since i had contact to the community etc, i rather felt guilty of having to call myself a lesbian if it came down to definition. i dont feel any different from the time when i didnt realize that i was a lesbian yet. i feel "hetero" if you will. i feel like me. and since all the definitions, sexualities and genders were made known... i feel like i am in danger because being ONE of those definitions suggests a world of fear/anger/not feeling right/being oppressed by others.. THAT is what scares me. not my sexuality or the people i live with or the world i live in..
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and being able to set yourself free to open up about your orientation. I Found it helpful to understand who you are and the issues surrounding bisexuality.
You're so brave and such an inspiration🌸 It's really nice to have someone out there who thinks just like me. I'm bisexual too, which is a term that most people know but not fully understand, so thank you so much for sharing these important thoughts. I hope this helps to solve the doubts of some people❣️ And I'd love you to continue making videos related to this topic, you beauty🤗 Much love for you and Alexis from Peru. Happy pride!🌈
Thanks for this video. As a more androgynous presenting woman this is something I also struggle with, and people always assume my sexuality. I can relate to the 70/30 thing. Everybody knows me as a lesbian so now I feel like I can’t re-come out but I’ve been correcting people more recently.
Thank you so much for making this video. This is exactly how I feel but I’ve been struggling to articulate it. I’ve also been ashamed about being bisexual and have been longing to be just straight or just gay. I appreciate you both! 🥰 I’m working on accepting that I’m attracted to all genders, especially women.
I know this is almost 3 years old now but thank you so much for posting this
Thank you SO much for this. I am currently confused trying to figure out if I’m Bi or Lesbian and these words were very helpful.
YES. Thank you for sharing this with us and also for adressing some of the problematic thoughts associated with this identity.
So accurate and reliable ! That is something which is not talked about enough on CZcams ! Well done ! 👌🔥
thank you! 😊
thank you for sharing this. I recognize the confusion and struggle it can give. And as you say it, people are people, love is love and a bisexual is simply being attracted to a human being.
I love you did this video. I am actually doing a documentary on this too. I am biracial because my mother is white and from Scotland and my father is black American and I am bisexual (pansexual) but in reality I say queer. I'm married to a transgendered male who was born a female to a Korean traditional family. So you can imagine our struggles. To add on to that I do not look white or black and my daughter from my first marriage is half-Asian and the labels and presumptions we receive regarding our race and racial slurs here in the south, that are horrible to say and yet are not even ours, is insane.
Oh woooow, you really have so much of mix in your life...
Many people have not used to it so they are very radical in their opinions...