In a sexless marriage for 9+ years and still believing the lies!!!!
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
- You can change your bedroom, and revive it........but you must change your mindset......and be willing to do some different things.
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If it's sexless...it's not a marriage!
Exactly! I am fed up and rolling.
I ended up in a sexless marriage, sex about five or six times in eight years.
We met at church, so she wanted to wait. We dated for two years and then married, I was 25. I already had a house and car and business.
She was a chameleon and changed right after the wedding, when I confronted her about this, her exact reply was "I acted that way during dating or you wouldn't have married me." I should have had the marriage annulled right then, but being a Christian man at that time I tried to be long suffering. It just got worse over the following months and years, I worked a full-time job and a part-time job, I cooked and did the house work and yard work. She quit her job and went from 130lbs to almost 300lbs in the first 18 months. I tried to get her to go to counseling all during the marriage. Finally in the 8th year I told her I wanted a divorce. Even the marriage counselor agreed that I should after he talked with her a few times after we separated, she wasn't going to change.
I had to sell my house, I had to buy her a new car, I had to pay all of her lawyer and legal fees, I had to pay all of her debt and credit cards, I had to pay ten years of alimony, I had to pay her utilities for one year, she got half of my business, she got all of my savings. My lawyer told me that I got off lucky. I was homeless living in my car for a year. It took 15+ years to pay all of that off and start over at 45 at $0. I will never get married again, or live common law with a woman. I am 61 now. I tried online dating, but every woman I bought dinner for told me she wasn't interested because I don't make $100k+ or my house isn't expensive enough etc. So I am pursuing my own goals and creative outlets in my current business.
A "Christian woman" lied. Many "Christian women" lay a trap in church and aren't Christian when they score that poor sucker. Maybe God won't send you to hell for an annulment.
SADLY, that's most of us women and you were crazy to stay.
Never marry!
In reading this I’m honestly very admiring of you that you had the balls to cut the cord. I was in your exact same situation but with two kids and made the mistake of trying to “do the right thing” and ride it out. I’m 67 now and my wife has been frigid for most of our nearly 40 year marriage. We were bound for the kids then bound financially, but you were smart and brave enough to get out in time. I have maybe 10-12 years left, and no time to start over. I also am so angry and bitter and resentful and have had screaming matches at my frigid wife, but she’ll never change, so I pay for it or get one offs on the side, so unfulfilling. But it’s not just her who is to blame, I should have lived in my car as well to escape, but had tuition for the kids and medical bills to cover, and figured I was getting what I deserved and bargained for by staying.
Good for you for making the tough choice and coming out whole on the other side! 👍🙏
@@E.L.RipleyAtNostromo
WOW ... I'm forty five now soon to be forty six and looking at y'all two stories... WOW just wow. I knew the time I should have left my marriage but just like y'all my dumb ass stayed because this is my first marriage and I didn't want to be like other og's and be married two or three times in what I know now I should have experienced because I would have been in a much better position in life right now. Twenty three years of pure mind fuckin me while still withholding the pussy
SMH
But wish me luck because I'm not old until I can't wipe my own ass and my libido aka hormones is still in top notch status
(Probably thanks to my wife for not putting out like she should have)
LMAO
Do not EVER tolerate transaccional relationships where you trade slavery for few minutes of sex
trans ...what????
Lol transactional
@@jigglywigglyjello1276 Thanks I was in a hurry pleasing my woman 🙋♂️😎
@@jigglywigglyjello1276yes, narcissists make it a transaction 🫡🇺🇸🦅
Some women have a dual mating strategy. They marry a man whom they view as a provider but are not attracted to this man. Instead they get their sex from outside their marriage. If you are in a sexless marriage make sure your partner isn't eating outside while you tell yourself lies to remain faithful.
Always marry under conditions so that your money is always safe even after divorce. Certainly in these days how stupid can you be not to include that in the marriage contract.
oh fuck
Root cause is Hypergamy and Feminism. Today's "Modern" woman has been sold a Bill of Goods and she will always be left holding the bag. BUT it's NEVER her fault, it's always the Patriarchy or the Mans.
she's dating the co-worker.
@@sloeberdoet
😂Was she surprised,I didn't have any money and still don't. The joke was on her.
Getting sex before marriage was so easy.
Getting sex while married is tough.
The most disappointing thing I have learned on thie Earth. Men, never get married.
Are the two linked? Part of the problem is men do not continue to foster and grow the intimacy and connection with their partner often after they are married.
They often abandoned the role as lover because they are too focused on providing or being dead.
@@manoflegacy I dont know a single guy that would rather be dead than have sex. Though I seriously doubt it all the men's fault regarding the lack of sex in marriage. That is just silly.
@@fahs I never said it was all the man's fault. However if you do not know how to foster intimacy.........and keep the sex life alive you shoot yourself in the foot.
@@manoflegacy Women mainly become mom only and that's one stereotype that's here to stay for a reason. As a woman it's Ludacris how we use men and y'all forgive us due to how you're raised. Parents literally raising y'all to be our walking wallets that we can cheat on. Then complain about our accountability.
@@patricew.4010 again sometimes forgiveness is appropriate but a man has to have boundaries and no when to say enough is enough.
They hump like rabbits before you marry them. Once you say "I do" they say "I don't, I won't and you can't make me." You divorce them and they clean you out. Then they repeat the process with their next victim. (Married twice, won't do it again)
Did you continue to do all the things you did before getting married? Men very often forget that before getting married they were dating their wife spending time with their friends and stop both these activities upon marriage yet don't realize how correlates to bad results.
@@manoflegacy After awhile you forget what you enjoy. It takes a long time to remember sometimes. Good guys finish last. Women like bad boys. Men marry women hoping they never change. Women marry men to change them.
@@darkrider68 Good guys finish last, but they finish best.
Who laughs last... laughs the best.
👍💯
@@darkrider68😅😅😅
40 yo guy here and not getting married is probably one of the best things i didnt do. Choose not to have kids as well, i seen the writing on the wall in the early 90's as a kid.
Wdym in the last sentence man. Im a 20 yo single guy, can a prenup save me? I REALLY want kids. I mean, im kinda mad that i have supersoldier genetics, i mean literaly engineered, a labrat. I have fcking everything and some special abilities. I can also raise them very well and lovely but god daaamn.. I have no experience with women. My mom can find a good one or maybe a bad one but i will never trust %100 anyway. I dont know what to do. I have been thinking of scenarios, like my children becoming woke, my wife not being virgin and also cheating, trying to understand what i should in all of these situations and im so frustrated, this is so much headache. I cant get out of this sh*t but i also really want to have my own kids. God damn it marriage is fcking deadly dangerous.
Mstow
@@zombine7103 If you find the right woman, you don't have to worry about these things.
I hope everything works out for you. i Know you want to have kids badly, but honestly what is stopping you from holding off on the marriage for a few years? -_Neil C.@@zombine7103
What writing did you see on the wall in the early 90s?
3 years in my marriage. That will never happen again. She tried to kill Me. I am 55, one week is almost to long now. I'm been doing keto/carnivore and am in better condition than I was 10 years ago. NEVER give up Men
Connection is either there or it’s not. Women want to be married and will ignore the fact there is no connection, which results in sexless marriages.
From a general statement I disagree. Connection is often allowed to die yet to die due to ignorance and focusing on the wrong things. This is both the fault of the husband and the wife often. I do agree there are some women who are just focused on the getting married and don't feel attracted or a great connection but are getting married for the wrong reasons. That's usually a lower quality woman who does that though. Ironically she often thinks she's high quality and she is exactly the opposite.
One of the things all couples need to do and I coach men as they are required to lead this department is focuyet in this department is focusing on connection and intimacy to ensure the health of the relationship.
Ignore is the major component. You see and feel but stay? What's wrong with self-esteem, When a man cherishes you, there is no comparison!!! Even if you don't have anyone, value always yourself worth!!!!!
Hypergamy and Feminism causes a many problems.
I am 65, never married and no kids. I saw what happened to all of my brothers and friends.
I just won't enter into an insane contract.
All your brothers got divorced?
Don’t get married.
So damn simple😅
Stay single and happy
@@commonsenseisntcommon1776 Having children is part of being a man. Raising your children correctly is a job that a lot of guys who say "never have children" can handle. The relationship between a father and son is the strongest relationship there is. Some of you have to stop being a bunch of pussies and actually be a father.
Married over 25 years here. 3 children. still having sex with wife and if I could go back I would not change a god damn thing.
@@bigd9260😳go away....
Says the person with bad experience..
A new word in my vocab Despair.. 20 year marriage, with pushing half of i Without sex I am a fool... Medically retired now a dependent without hope of change
Sorry to hear that brother. Hopefully you have other aspects of your life that bring you joy.
I hope you find happiness. I'm sorry for your situation and I hope you feel better. Sex isn't that important, your wellbeing is important. It'll be worth while spending your time doing something accessible that you enjoy
I hate cheaters.
@@CD-yx8fs its not even paying crumbs. Its taking your money.
That's why prostitution is illegal in most states. No man would get married.
If however there is a huge difference between just having sex and deeply intimate and connected sex with a partner that you love. Prostitution is not the answer teaching men how to lead and be great men and husbands and lovers is.
@@manoflegacy The delusional nature of women today and the Social Media machine that makes them that way has probably made it impossible. You are right in that men must lead but after several decades of being marginalized by Leftists this is tough also. The message from Feminists that any sex not initiated by the woman is rape is seared in our brains. In mid life I have cracked the code on women and have no trouble getting laid. Connecting with a creature that is incapable of loving on the level of a man though........
@@manoflegacy Agree. And this actually makes this problem a lot bigger, because if you don’t have this in relationship, there’s no easy solution. But still it’s better to go for prostitutes and one-night stands than be stuck in a sexless relationship. The same way as frying eggs with salt on a pan everyday is better that dying from hunger, if you can’t eat in Chinese or Italian restaurants.
@@anrymarchen you won't die of hunger if you don't have sex. It's not necessary to living or dying
They wouldn't live long enough to get married ☝️They'd get HIV and end up with AIDS before they even got tested. Oops. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
21 years of marriage. No intimacy from my wife. Sex a handful times a year. No foreplay, no kissing, touching etc. always “quickie style”. I’ve talked with her about this numerous times. I am romantic, love physical touch, etc. I rub her back, legs, feet, etc. she reciprocates because of obligation and makes feel so. She preoccupies her time with her job, career, everything under the sun. The latest excuses is “ different love language” ( duh no shit) or she tells me how her “parenting” is enough to show love.
So was she this way before you married?
Its so common for people to have sex in workplaces.
@@manoflegacy she was never a sex maniac. But she did initiate a good amount in the beginning. Also in the beginning was issues of me and her folks. They constantly interrupted our marriage. She will bring up an email almost 19 years ago in which a female flirted with me. An email she found while snooping thru my computer. And here we are now.
Two years married and it’s the same. It’s even worse when I read the messages of him making fun of how he doesn’t have sex with me to his friends.
I believe that these people are narcissists people because marriage is a Godly institution and God wants us to have sex. Multiple and be fruitful.
I am sorry to all men and women who have been through this. It’s not natural nor is it right but I believe God can restore all. Sending you all love ❤️🙏🏽
@@thenativeconservationist Learn about Islam. In this religion a wife's main duty is coming to the bed when her husband calls.
And a mans role is leading, providing by paying all the bills like house, food, clothes etc.
That's the foundation of marriage. You build on top of that on generosity, love, patience etc.
I feel bad for the Western men who stay because of guilt which is a downfall for a man. Because womens power is words. But you must judge her by her actions. Always judge a woman by her actions.
That's how you know if she really cares about you or just telling you hey dummy keep believing my words like a 5 year old child.
Judge me if you want but I'm currently into knowing my situation is headed this way.. but expecting it to go this way some how some day, I've been prepared for this on the day I first smelled disappointment within my marriage --way back when -- and yes even though it hurts as I'm currently going through this and I know foe show that it's going to hurt much worse when it's all said and done.. I have made sure that I'm going to be alright in the end......... as long as I keep my head in the GAME
(Emotion's VS logical) thinking
Bless you all
And I'll pray for you
As long as you pray for me
I went through that, it sucks. I refer to it as bait and switch. I thought I was the only one, but I’m not alone. Thanks
Sometimes it's bait and switch other times it's we allow the connection to die off because we fail to continue to date our spouse and grow intimacy and connection.
@@manoflegacy 😖.......ok.....DUDE ......if you made the mistake of Marrying you girlfriend, make her your legally binding wife , and you are paying the bills trying to financially Make ends meet then you ARE NOT DATINF her anymore......Gawd all of the responsibility is on men to do EVERYTHING..?!?......THE 2 of you are not dating......if she is not willing to have sexusl relations with you, then YOU have been played, you got Conned.......................you got fleeced...........🤔
Arin
@@SchrodingersMath sorry you have such a shortsighted perspective brother. The reality is dating is where you grow intimacy and connection and in fact you need to continue to date your wife if you want to avoid a sexless marriage.
@@SchrodingersMath exactly right. Men have to do everything and if we dont she shuts us out sexually and might even just get a boyfriend. Men dont even ask for that much from women and they dont even do that. If a woman likes me and wants to be with me, she will make the same effort I do to "date" me once we are married. If she thinks she does not have to because we are married or she has kids and its up to me to bring in the money, provide stability, and still date her while she just hangs out, then I am with the wrong woman and it is time to leave. Men allow relationships to be one sided because we are controlled by the wrong head and cant stand to be alone. Leave these manipulating no effort putting out woman. My experience is a woman who wants to be with married, married or dating, puts out real effort and recognizes what I do. If she wont shes not a good woman or simply not into me. Why stay if its the latter. These fix it courses are just temporary bandages on a wound that only work because the man requires nothing of a woman and hes just doing what he needs to do for sex. F that.
I've been Dating my wife for almost 53 years. My #1 goal was to make this blue eyed blonde happy.I didn't over do it but she has freedom and can buy basically any thing she wants within reason. Rewards me with 3 beautiful kids. We buy a new house and she loves it. We get a lot up in the mountains so her and the kids can spend summers there and weekends during the rest of the year. Life is good like a Norman Rockwell painting. 17yrs into this marriage I get rewarded with a year long affair with a local up the mountains. Thank you very much
People are naturally inclined to become bored and are always on the lookout for something fresh and thrilling.
While there is some truth to that statement that is not the situation here. This is a case where the man failed to run the romance department and failed to create polarity within the relationship.
@@manoflegacy Alright thanks for the information.
Better off with an employee...a concubine, or a maid. If a _girlfriend_ turns me down, she's on borrowed time.
Just because she turns you down shouldn't mean she's on borrowed time she is not a concubine where she is yours to have whenever you see fit.
@@manoflegacy You're absolutely right - I see that I have not made my intentions plain. By 'borrowed time' I do not infer that she is indentured to me, that she must submit to my capricious whims, nor do I mean to say that she would come to any harm should she refuse me (good God, NO!)
What I was meaning to convey was that a _marriage_ is a _bond-_ if one is bound to another in such a way then it would seem proper that intimacy would not be withheld between those thus bound.
If I am in a relationship, and I find that my partner is not sexually drawn to me (or vice versa), then that _relationship_ would not seem to be viable and therefore may be subject to reconsideration.
@@saxongreen78 Thank you for the clarification! That I agree with and a little more context more contacts makes a world of difference.
So true. She isn’t interested into him.
100% - this is so common as women only find about 15-20% of men sexually attractive (physically) (there is data out there). I really think marriage is a beautiful thing but I just do not see how it can work anymore. The attractive guys have dozens of women chasing them (going to be hard to settle down when women give it to them for free). The other 80% are not attractive so most of their wives are not going to have sex with them after the relationship is locked in because frankly they don't want to and don't have too.
Once that started happening, I walked out. Obviously there were other issues but im not paying a womans bills while she does nothing and gives me sex once a month where she does not even enjoy it. We had two little kids too. I still left and divorced her. She would have just lived a nice life until the kids were grown. Leaving might have solved that problem but she still got paid. You just have to know when the relationship is done and move on. The problem with men is we try to fix things and stick around and we are too busy to try and figure out if she has something on the side. Just leave her and never speak to her again. Thats what I did 10 years ago. I get more sex as a single men and I am no Chad or Tyrone by any means and the money I saved by divorcing her sooner rather than later was huge. Women dont care about men. We are here to be used. That is all fine. We just need to accept it and reciprocate.
Well again it's not about fixing the relationship, but fixing and improving yourself. When you lead yourself and level up often your spouse will follow.
Keep in mind a lot of men don't know how to grow connection and intimacy so they're self-sabotaging their own sex life.
Divorce should never be excluded as an option but it should also not be the first option.
@@manoflegacy Sorry man, I keep hearing you push most of the onus on men makes me wonder if you really understand the feminist/entitled mindset so prevalent in our society today. Not saying men are perfect (by any stretch) but there is a reason women file in 70% of divorce cases... men's instincts are to provide and protect but women don't want/need that anymore so in many cases they are happy to leave and take half of everything on their way out.
I feel as though I got ripped off & I’m resentful but I should’ve ran when I saw the signs. I’ve never been in a relationship, now a marriage where the man isn’t into sex. I’m suffering and sad. It’s so painful not feeling wanted. I know I have to divorce him but just can’t bring myself to say those words. Ty for this video ❤
Hope things get better
Maybe he needs viagra but is too shy to admit it maybe you should try that first
Just the opposite applies to me as a man, I want sex so badly, but she doesn't give me. I wish you were my wife.
Have you ever considered what you may have done to turn off his desire? Or has he never had any? It's not meant to be an offensive question. Just curious. My daighters' mother and I had decent sex earlier on. Then she started treating me like dog shit. I lost interest in sex with her, and she made a stink. Now she's the one who expresses no desire. But I don't feel bad for having the self-esteem to resist sex with a disrespectful woman. And here she and I are now. Oh, well
If you can connect with him and you can both be happy doing other things, why not just do that?
It's also been almost 9 years now for me. I don't know what to do right now. I'm drowning. He just isn't attracted to me anymore. He says I'm beautiful and he says he loves me. But I'm starting to believe in it less and less. I've never been in so much pain. And the rejection is eating up at me. Its come to a point that I'm afraid to touch him.
First take a deep breath, there's a lot of it depends in this. I don't want to go back and forth forever on CZcams feel free to reach out to me at denniscollins@manoflegacy.org or if you want a female perspective My partner Melanie at immortellecounseling@gmail.com.
Either one of us would be happy to have a conversation with you.
Keep in mind his lack of interest is not normal, but there are many reasons that he could be embarrassed about that are the cause of this.
This! My husband when I met him seemed very eager sexually, AFTER we married (and I mean immediately after) he berated me for having sex toys, made me throw them away, he berated me when I would ask for certain things that I enjoyed sexually…everything had to be in his control, but then over the years it got boring, I felt I could do nothing without him complaining or berating me. I would put on lingerie, prance around to get his attention and he would rather finish his gaming for the day than have sex with me. I felt ugly adn defeated. So I stopped wearing the lingerie, I stopped wanting him because his personality is stunted sexually, he is a control freak. Now I am stuck. I cant leave and he has said things like he is married until death do us part….I took it as a very real threat as he is a military vet with ptsd and a tbi….and I have little doubt after all these years a personality disorder as well. He drove my son away, he said he is never returning…so I am planning my escape. My point in this is….not every man claiming to be a “good guy or man” is actually a good man. Some are down right bringing the sexless marriage on themselves
@@michellesimmons3150 first off I'm sorry for what you're going through.
For anyone else reading this if there is that significant of a behavior change immediately after the marriage file for an annulment or flea immediately because that is a huge red flag.
Plan your escape carefully like you're doing consult an attorney or two using free consults to figure out what divorce would look like for you and understand you have to be very sure who you can trust with your location.
Don't assume family or friends won't tell him.
I would tell you right now if after getting married next spring I told my fiance all the sex toys had to go she would leave with them. Besides which there are a lot of fun because I'm not insecure little man.
If you're not working with a counselor or coach please find one who will help guide you through the process of escaping.
Best of luck.
@@michellesimmons3150 Bro he is literally from the military what did you expect, he, most probably, has come a near death experience and saw people die or dead people, has used weapons, has lived in an ambiance where OBIDIENCE AND CONTROL are related to literally keep your life or lose it.
Why are women like this, it has been this way since the dawn of man and it will most likely continue to be this way, I am not saying he should transport it to your sex life but you could try understanding that at least. You should have married a poet, oh wait, poets are "nice guys" aren't they? it is you who brought this upon yourself.
It seems like not a match.. not real love or attraction. Real love grows better with time .. the hard times are very short term and gets less over time ..
I've been married almost 40 years come to find out she was molested by her stepdad she has no want or need for sex just enough to keep stringing me along tired of it.
Feel free to send me a pm if you'd like to set up a time to talk this week. You have different options and if she's not interested in sex because of past trauma you have to make decisions whether you want to stay with her or do something to take care of this particular need/issue. Sorry brother sucks to have somebody lied to you for that long.
@@manoflegacy rejection sucks. I've told her I want out of this marriage. It's time to move on. I can't live this way anymore.
@@manoflegacy I don't know how to send you a PM I'm illiterate when it comes to the new technology lol
@@larryrichins7887 my email is denniscollins@manoflegacy.org
trauma leaves deep wounds that can be resolved and healed, but she's gotta want things to be better for herself, first. If she's not a willing and active participant in her own recovery, no thing and no one can help her. Unresolved wounds make people bleed on everyone and every thing until healed. Once aware of the wound, it's possible to get healing.
Only one partner is in a sexless marriage.
HAPPY LIFE NO WIFE PROBLEM SOLVED!!
It's not a sexless marriage she's getting it somewhere else 😂
She will also take half his social security
That is not true. No one can take a man's social security benefit. At retirement, a spouse is entitled to draw up to 50% of the husband's benefit if they have been married at least 10 years. Her 50% benefit in no way limits or reduces the husband's benefit.
STOP being SELFISH and connect with your spouse!!! If not LEAVE because you are being selfish and keeping them hostage in a MISERABLE existence that they will end up despising you and resenting you anyways
The need to not be selfish and connect iwth your spouse is a two way street Amy. Men it is up to you to lead, this means you MUST continue to date your wife....
Yes........that does not stop because you are married. You need to continually work on and improve yourselves men. You must work on your knowlege and sexual skills, and part of being a high value man is maintaining and spending time with other quality men and making sure your woman does the same with her quality female friends.
@@manoflegacy I never said it wasn't, you were talking about a spouse who neglects the other in the bedroom, and that is selfish. When you are married you are supposed to remain faithful in every way to your spouse, so knowing that and withholding connecting through sex, then that is selfish.
@@amymay6591 Sadly many women do not. I was addressing the need for men to step up and show up properly to begin with. I have some other videos coming on this topic soon.
Most women are selfish and self centered by nature. Don’t let anyone guilt you into wasting your life out of invented morality. We get one chance at life. Having some regard for yourself is not selfish.
My wife cut me off 9 months ago! I have ED thanks to diabetes. Do women do without sex or must have it? She claims she went through menopause and doesn’t want or need sex anymore! Could this be true or is she having an affair?😮😮
So postmenopausal sex drive is unique to every woman. Some women their sex drive increases others it disappears.
For those that it disappears often there is little connection and romance to begin with within the relationship in my humble opinion.
So my question would be do you have type 1 or type 2 diabetes and what are you doing for your health because type 2 is typically self-induced.
Let me know if you'd like to have a conversation brother.
Damn good video
Dennis... maybe I can reach out to you... Ive never done this before. TY for the eye opener tho... - Jim
denniscollins@manoflegacy.org. shoot me an email brother we will talk.
I'm a seaman. And when I'm home, I have sex only 1-2 times in 5-7 months. So am I in a sexless marriage?
Yes unfortunately 1 to 2 times and 5 to 7 months meets the definition of a sexless marriage. Sorry.
You can survive without sex. There’s a lot more to Marriage then that. I’ve been married 16 years.
I mean.....are you having sex with the fish 🐟 or other seamen? Or are both of you loyal?
Dude yes. Get out now!
After I caught her for the second time I lost interest in her but still wanted the comfort of a marriage.
I did not lose interest in sex… I’ve had multiple affairs and really enjoyed them.
Being married helps not having to commit to and so I am having a great time. I am well to do and have enjoyed the last ten years with a variety of beautiful, intelligent and passionate women.
I am neither possessive nor jealous of my girlfriends and prefer those that are in relationships…. I am not the guy they can call at 2 am because they have a flat tire on the expressway…. I am the guy that has a great time with her once or twice a week and leaves a couple of C notes on the night stand.
No ego involved just the appreciation of a fine woman in my bed. Yes, even though I am fun and considerate…. it’s about me.
Some men forego the sex to be with their children. One shot at being a dad. Men determine what kind of Dad they are. She's decided to be your roommate and not your wife. Not my choice and I don't believe the lies.
I choose fatherhood. I always swore if she somehow got pregnant I would raise my kid. I still think it’s a miracle she got pregnant.But I think I made the right choice. Now we’re just business partners,I gave up some time ago.Don’t know what the future holds,if I meet someone else who knows what might happen.
An unfaithful wife is a heo a 304, if you forgive her she will lose respect for you which is a real turn off for her and do it again and again. Ditch the 304, learn and move on.
I once heard this secret for a lasting relationship. Keep his balls empty and his bully full 🤣
Belly* lol
I respect the older guys but I dont think you all can give advice to men in this generation. Nowadays most people meet online where 80% of women are gunning for 20% of men. Even if you get married women are getting constantly bombarded by thirsty dudes looking to hookup. Marriage makes little sense for a man in today's America. You'll either be sexless and miserable or broke after divorce court
Ironically I think your generation needs some of the knowledge we have even more.
Prior to my current girlfriend and any time I've been single my norm and what I coach men is to date 2 or 3 women.
I'm currently in a long term relationship coming up on 2 years and I don't have less sex than when I was dating 3 women I'm having more.
The secret is I learned not to focus on sex but to build connection to create security for a woman so that she feels seen, heard,and safe.
By doing this it allows a woman to blossom before your very eyes. The reality is the things I teach men should be taught to all men. Every man I've coached made a statement at one time "why hasn't anyone taught us this sooner???"
The reality is it is the man's responsibility to lead, and if you understand if you understand connection true intimacy, Winter machine, and how to create polarity you will find women to be an amazing gift be an amazing gift and the feminine energy and essence something fun to play with.
As a man who's had what could be considered p*** star sex let me tell you sex combined with deep intimacy with a woman you love make sad stuff look like nothing.
@@manoflegacy lmao "build a connection". Good luck with that. Men should be focusing as little time as possible on women. Build up your status and your resources, appearance, get a good ig profile with good pics and make sure women are on your program. Sex comes before a "connection". As a man your time is your currency. Dont waSte time going out on dates etc until she's slept with you. I've slept with over 400 women over a 8 yr period and the most i spend on a woman before we hookup is coffee at Starbucks. Young men in this generation should be focused on getting sex first and then you open up to her. If you don't have enough value to demand that don't waSte your time. Bc women nowadays are attention starved and men are giving it out too freely
@HUB GOBLIN I agree partially but I disagree with the conclusions. Just being a masculine man isn't enough to operate successfully in today's dating market. Those men in the past were built for a different generation of women. So things like chivalry and marriage etc were far more acceptable. Also the internet has changed everything. Women are getting more attention on a daily basis than anytime in human history. So men who want to be successful need to forego marriage, build up their status get in shape/get money and then compete. And when you compete you need to give the women as little of your time as possible especially before you've slept with her. Your time is your commodity
Only 2 or 3 women out of a 1,000 are going to be a good wife long term. Most are going to cut off sex, cheat, lie and divorce because they have access to the top 5 % of men on the planet - via the internet. Good luck finding one with those odds.
Old man bs
Been there. After I separated I would say 2 days later she was out already going out and having a good time. In the end just walk away. Woman don’t just lose sex they just don’t wanna have sex with you period. So just move on.
The problem is most men in these situations don't realize they hold the key to changing it. We help men turn around sexist marriages regularly but you have to be willing to get outside of your comfort zone and prioritize yourself.
@@manoflegacy You know... I agree with you. I will argue I think you spend way to much time worrying about sex. Do you have children? Because a lot of guys talk about "how to be a man" but if you have never raised children then you missed half of what being a man is all about. There is no STRONGER relationship than a father and son. I would take a day of dirt bike riding with my son over an hour in bed with my wife.
Friends come and go. A wife can come and go....... but raise your son correct and that bond is forever. The Spartans knew this and that's why they would never send a father and son into battle together.
All you guys fixated on sex..... Stop fixating on it. Treat your wife like shit and you will get sex. Okay... Okay.... I dont mean cheat on her, abuse her, or get a divorce. I mean get a motorcycle go hang with the guys.. or your son..... stop buying her shit and trying to be a hopeless romantic. Hopeless romantic might work for some girls but I think most want a bad boy.
I have been married for over 25 years and sex comes and goes. When I notice my wife starts turning it down all the time I make a mental note and actually start ignoring her just a little bit. I stop grabbing her ass.... giving her a hug.... just little things. I just try to not act interested. It takes a few weeks and some will power but she almost always starts coming on to me. LOL......
A wise man once said "women want what they cant have". Dont know who that wise man was we just always call him the "wise old man" but the saying is true.
@jorgerios8472 agreed 1000%.. There is no version of you she wants to have sex with. It's a done deal. Best to move on, the sooner the better.
Marriage is a death sentence
Going to have to disagree. The problem is we're not taught how to lead in the marriage and be great husbands. Which is what is one of the causes of these type of problems.
@@manoflegacy well I can say for me I’ll never do it again. Never never never. Sex life stops or comes to a major slow down. I’m going through a divorce right now, I tried being ok with it for 2 years and I rather leave before I cheat
Lol
Marriage vows are keeping people in bondage. This is not living an abundant life. Divorce is not a bad word.
I do not agree. Marriage can be either great or horrible depending on the 2 parties involved. The current divorce rate would disprove that marriage vowsmarriage vows or bondage.
Spot on. The only possible reason to get married is for children. I just wish I knew exactly what I would be sacrificing for my children. I love them enough to sacrifice all of my needs for them, but I’m looking at the situation as literally sacrificing my own life for them to have a chance at happiness
80+% of Divorces are initiated by the woman.
Many of these have had affairs.
Today, many women see Divorce as a way to level up.
The Courts and Governments have conspired to give them 50% of the Man's wealth, whether deserved or not, especially in Wealthy Environments.
Women can now marry, claim irreconcilable differences, take half, never look back, and move onto another sucker take his half and low and behold, now have 100% of something she didn't work for.
Men have been checking out at a faster and faster rate over the last few decades.
Make NO MISTAKE there is a WAR on men. Fewer and Fewer are graduating High schools. Fewer still go to a College or University. Everywhere you turn, it's the Patriarchy's Fault or MEN in general. Men are being treated poorly and are to blame for quite literally everything. They are then taken to the cleaners in Divorce court.
This vid reminds me of Jack Murphy. A Simp. A Cuck. Somehow it's you who FAILED.
NO
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ISN"T
FEMINISM is to Blame for much of today's problems in relationships.
The "Modern" Woman has been SOLD a Bill of Goods. Women have bought into this insanity. It's motto is something along the lines of, You can have your cake and eat it to, and more. More. MORE!
Of course that is not the case. Never has been.
You need to Compromise. Share in lIfe's ups and downs. Women do not do this.
HYPERGAMY.
Women wait at the finish line and pick the winner.
Many "Modern" Women have Mental Illnesses. They want the "Alpha" the "Bad" boy, the guy that will never settle, the guy that will treat them like garbage, the guy that will always cheat on them, even though they claim they want the "Good" guy that is none of those things. WHY? Because she thinks that with enough love and understanding, that "Alpha" will change for just her, and when he does, she will parade him around, like Achilles did with Hector, to show off to all her friends and family and say SEE! This is what I did! I changed him and he changed for me! It's LOVE!
BUT
It NEVER works out like that of course. She is just a number, to the "Alpha" nothing more. Why would he settle, when he has 10 more just like her lined up and waiting?
Today's "Modern" Women treat Life like the Husband Store. They will race up to the Roof, never stopping on any of the floors, always thinking the NEXT FLOOR up will be BIGGER, BETTER and MORE than the last. Until they get to the Roof, where there is a sign that says "Welcome! You are the 157 456 981 woman to make it up here, there are NO MEN on this floor, this floor solely exists as proof that women are impossible to please."
So what does the "Modern" woman then do? Why, she jumps from the roof, to get back to the Ground Floor, only to pick herself up, and go Running Back in and Race all the way to the top yet again.
You want a couple of guys to listen to?
Rich Cooper and Better Bachelor amongst a few others.
Just changr the laws to protect men too then its not so bad
Most people dont obey vows, they usually just divorce
Watching from Ireland
If shes not having sex with you, shes having sex with someone else.
Women hit their sexual peak at 31.
What im trying to say is that they become the most horniest.
If shes not having sex with you when married and at that age, then be suspicious.
I end up in our marriage as no sex, or any other kind of love, she had a few fares on me and we finally end up as brother and sister relationship
Sorry to hear that. So the question is why do you stay? I believe, I know you can recover from one affair by why stay in a marriage like this? Please do not say for the kids, this harms them more then helps them.
That's all we can do if we don't want to alienate all of our family or friends for being another "typical male".
@Clowy Nicx how is it funny
So if the connection is gone I’m focked?
Not for sure, it can be rebuilt. I'm actually working on an online course now to help men with this issue.
One of the biggest problems is men stop dating their wives. This is a foundational issue that leads to a sexless marriage and loss of connection. Subconnection. You need to start working on yourself, and then invite her to join the adventure.
@@manoflegacy Thanks for advice.
I know far more women who are dying to be loved and have sex and the husbands have withered and care nothing about being intimate, which also took their reason to be affectionate with it.
@@robinr5669 Is there a many men who haven't taken care of themselves and don't realize how important that aspect of life is.
How in the world do you only have 1k subs?
Thanks brother! I don't sensationalize I tried to educate so the growth isn't as fast I guess.
Ooooof!! It`s the other way around in my house, so sad.
I'm sorry to hear that. 1st I would always recommend that a man get a physical make sure hes got no issues. Then quite honestly he needs to assess why hes not interested.
@@manoflegacy Well, he is way more into porn than me. He refuse to give up porn because he needs the "variety" he says. Also I am 47 years old, not 20 like his pornstars. He said to me about a year ago that having sex with me was like having sex with a grandmother, so everytime we have sex, my mind is churning grandmother, grandmother and I obviously don`t feel sexy. When we do have sex, he usually climaxes before me and then leave me alone in bed to finish myself. That happens 8/10 times. I usually cry when I climax, go figure. I have told him how all of this makes me feel, but still he does`nt budge. We have been together 25 years.
@@missteslaknutsen4421 I am sorry. This response is as much for the men as for you as well Miss Tesla. This is part of the problem with porn, it never says no and creates an unrealistic belief and expectation around sex. Like many men, they do not know about true intimacy and the need for them to lead in the relationship. This points to HIS inadequacies, not yours. Hi valued men, lead the romance department, and while we are not looking for outcomes when it comes to sex, they should be pleasuring their partner.
@@manoflegacy I agree with everything you are saying, but I can want change all day, it does`nt matter when he does`nt give a flying frikk. He was diagnosed 3 years ago: narsisistic personality disorder and suddenly I did`nt feel completely crazy anymore. All the verbal abuse, gaslighting, blaming me for everything, never take accountability, porn in excess and of course, witholding love and sex as a tool to control me. I have a lot of thinking to do. Throw away 25 years, 2 kids, or leave.
@@missteslaknutsen4421 My response to you is what I would tell a man who I am coaching. You will live to 85, you have 38 more years.......don't you deserve better? Is the relationship serving you? Is it throwing away 25 years or choosing a better option for the remaining 38 you have left? If you had friends in your situation what would you tell them to do?
I can buy all the services of a marriage except genuine affection, that is what i miss most. No touch, separate bedrooms, housemates!!
Same here. Roommates
services?
Then something must have gone very wrong. I'm sorry
I am going on 15 years
Why? 🤣🤣🤣
When you find good action... that's it whether man or woman...
But...Sometimes in a sexless relationship, it's the outside sex that helps a relationship survive when everything is perfect at home but the sex
Yes however rarely, and I do mean rarely, is everything else great in the relationship.
Then the question comes is this something that the other partner is aware of or is being done secretly?
@@manoflegacy absolutely not aware mate or else everything falls apart. Perfect house, jobs, kids, family, friends, investments, holidays, great conversations and personality.. but the sex is not good , not the same drive n desire nor the frequency, then the outside action is what keeps it together. . .
Sadly if you”re the person who a man or woman has an affair with you end up being left.. so many people put there hiding these secrets and it’s not just the couple or get hurt .. personally.. move on and find the right partner .. however hard it is.
Truth. Even if you would rather just be with your spouse. If you gotta get it, then it is what it is.
Buddy really solely blaming buddy when she's the one cheating. We women are largely golddiggers and she likely wasn't into him from the get go.
I'm not just blaming the man. And I don't believe women are largely gold diggers. You might be right she likely wasn't into him from the get-go and if he accepted that that's on him.
Both are at fault in this situation her for her affair. And if he has not cultivated connection and intimacy all along and is staying married just to avoid divorce he's definitely in the wrong with that.
How I can relate!
20 years for me bro; I’m still waiting and believing 🤣😅 I’m about shot now
So the question is what have you done differently other just waiting and believing? And is she an amazing roommate?
@@manoflegacy yeah she is amazing and I love her dearly; she’s just a narcissist and I could never change enough to be that guy for her and I’m too stubborn and stupid to give her the boot; I’m just a sap. I have a great life, just no intimacy and it’s lonely.
@@rogerbyrns4630 I'm sorry if she's a narcissist she's not amazing she's 1 of 4 billion women and what you've told me is 3.9 billion of them are better than her. Why do you continue to exist in a less than life?
@@manoflegacy well, I have a family with her and grandchildren; and it’s so devastating for everyone involved to experience divorce.
@@rogerbyrns4630 well if you're going to change it needs to be for YOU. Sounds like you are content living in a less than desirable situation. You have convinced yourself of this story.
Women should not be incentivized to divorce with cash and prizes, like they are in family court today.
My friend - 31 years started cheating 5 years in she didn't leave until a baby was born in 2018- the community bucket called the wife 2021 - Scam Sham wife moved out and filed for divorce They've been divorced for 20+ years prior- paperwork work finalized April 2023- thank you for the bday gift! I am his high school crush and since paper work done we have been bonding for the last 7 months. We are starting business together, a second home on the Vineyard, travel, shared bank account, he deposits, I withdraw. We are good, friends first!
Talk more about this topic 🫡🇺🇸🦅
Already in the works!
damn 9 years
Glad that I'm aware of woman use the bait and switch tactic. Not going to get married.
My wife doesnt want sex but all her friends do, so it works out.
once a month? lucky.. I'm at ever 18 months now and I'm done
Anyone know a natural way of helping ed?
So often most times there is an ED issue It is between the ears and not physical.
From a physical standpoint if you're overweight by losing the fat getting back into shape will improve the cardiovascular system and blood flows really important to erections.
Also this will help improve your testosterone levels.
@@manoflegacy i exercise 5 days a week and I have never been overweight in my like. I have never drank alcohol smoked or done drugs in my life. I eat healthy. I just don't understand why its not working the way I should.
@@kevkeating1962 hey brother shoot me a note at denniscollins@manoflegacy.org so we can have a discussion about this. It will be far more effective than back and forth on here and afford you some privacy.
Carnivore diet and Lift weights several times per week. Your Old friend will come back to life.
@@TheSchmuel absolutely correct! I am carnivore and I am sending this response as I'm leaving the CrossFit gym totally spent and feeling awesome!
You get engaged to a hot hornbag.....and then find yourself married to a block of ice.
Let's look at the decision making. Did you rush into marriage or choose wisely? Did you continue to cultivate connection and emotional intimacy once married and have regular date nights? Sadly we sometimes unknowingly create the cold heart.
If your in a sexless marriage for over a year never mind 9 years, having sex with someone else is not cheating because they broke the agreement. Go out and get it elsewhere. Just have some courtesy and don't have any intimacy with your spouse afterwards. They didn't ask for a STD. I would tell them first and give them the option to leave the marriage or except the results of their actions of no sex. Someone who loves you would do this to you.
I ment to type "wouldn't do this to you"
Been thru this wit a ex gf
Lol
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Guys don’t understand… without sexual polarity…. Traditional gender roles…. Aka the man provides 100% financially and has a backbone.. she will not be sexually attracted to him
Try being married for 30 years to a disabled woman who quit having sex 25 years ago
Never legally marry
Either a couple have chemistry or they don't. No amount of advice, classes or books will change that. You either want someone sexually or you don't. I never enjoyed sex, even before our marriage and I choose to ignore it. Due to familiarity, families and others expectations of us plus I did not want to hurt him we got married. 22 years on and no sex whatsoever. I just don't see him that way and I never ever will. I am sure there are many husbands or wives out there who feel the same.
Yeah I feel sorry for any man who has a woman who does that to him. If you never felt that way and there is no chemistry why would you marry him?
@@manoflegacy I explain why in my original comment. I am an Irish Catholic and I was very young so it was literally expected of me. I do love him, I treat him well, I am a devoted mother and I have never had an affair. The problem is that I am not on my own with my situation, the fact is that it is rife. Others dictate your life and no matter what others say, many of us go along with it.
It's not as black and white as me rejecting him anyway, the thing is he doesn't even try. He's a very heavy drinker. Nothing to do with our sex life either, he always was. Another thing I choose to ignore. Bottomline is, it can't be fixed so my advice is to both men and women is, if you do not want him /her sexually from the beginning then GET OUT fast, for both your sakes. BTW its nothing whatsoever to do with his performance, he's a goodlooking guy, chemistry is everything and without it, it simply spells disaster.
@Clowy Nicx thanks for that substantial comment , I have learnt so much from it
Interesting.
Well my husband stopped having sex with me. He said i got so disgustly overweight.
But oddly i feel more respected for the moment not having to sleep with someone who is so superficial and the bjs. Because i am trying to be a woman of God.
And these things do not seem compatible.
Sex is the cause or bondage and death.
It is not the goal of human life.
Seeking to reestablish our relationship with God is.
He tried to add another woman into our relationship and im just heartbroken and why have sex if your heart as been crushed by someone?
Seeing how superfical it all is and animalistic.
I lose respect for my husband and that turns me off.
But oddly i have a strange attraction to saints.
Its because our original passion for God was degraded into this worldly life because we wanted to be like gods and it is idolatry imho.
That's why there isnt sex in heaven, and angels arent given away in marriage.
We've entered a dualistic system and are divided even within ourselves.
I lost my manhood after my stroke
i wish you a steady recovery.
Leave her butt if she does not want sex.
Exactly don’t get married
Actually that in and of itself is not the answer Rick. The problem is we don't know how to lead properly in a relationship. And the individual of this video was made about wasn't willing to do what was needed to change the situation.
Wake up ,,,,its called mgtow snd its a wonderful life!!!
I’ve been 15 yrs, 😮without
Marriage is not worth it
We need help
Hey brother shoot me a note at denniscollins@manoflegacy.org
So many christians commenting here, thats of course a real problem with christianity and how it basically FORCES women how to act. Sex is great fun, I'd never hold it against a woman who had sex before me, that means sex during. 25 years and counting and sex basically whenever I want it, and far more frequent when we were young.
Chances are good that if you are married and there is no sex, that doesn't mean she's not having any. From my experience women enjoy sex about a HUNDRED times more than men. And just think how much you enjoy it.
Well the issue is men often fail to do the bear basics when it comes to romance creating sexual attraction and polarity.
Add on to that and you're total ignorance on both sexes because of a lack of education and you are set up for failure from the beginning.
Gotta bring brothels back
bro I wouldn't let it go on for 9+ years... more than a year of no sex and she's already broken her vows. Time to move on.
Not quite how that works.
15 years for me stupid written on my forehead
So how are you going to make use of your next 15 years?
@@manoflegacy wish I knew
@@danavest Well it is up to you to create the kind of life that you want exclaimed is that you want! Or 15 years from now you can look back and go that was a waste yet. Either way is a 100% ir responsibility creating the type of life that you want.
Thanks for the advice I left the bitch starting a new life
That is not normal...
Sadly it is becoming more typical.
Too much about how sad u are for the guy not enough help for those in need.
It's about being honest with your situation perit's tuition. I actually cover some things you can do in other videos if you were look.
Men have to be aware that after 9 years in a sexless marriage, especially if the spouse has had an affair, most likely she's not living in a sexless marriage only he is.
Why does the guy have to turn his life around. She has low self esteem,that’s why she’s having an affair.
The feminine responds, quite beautifully, to masculine leadership. The reality is in this particular case he was failing to lead.
Your argument is a common problem we see with men they want to complain why do they have to go first why do they have to lead the change they want to see. They misunderstand they have the honor to lead the relationship.
If a guy cheats- he is a dog, terrible human. If a women does it, she is still the victim. She was emotionally suffering and ignored. Hypocrisy.
This dude sounds ilke a corporate trainer for sex. Not saying he is wrong, but weird. He makes it sound like it's the dudes fault. It is a two way street...always.
It's not always the dudes fault That's not what I'm saying You're missing the point. The issue is we don't do the minimum things required to grow intimacy in connection which then pushes our partner towards this.
It's a societal issue not a him and him alone screwing up we don't teach men the things that matter.
@@manoflegacy What about nature? In nature, most males do their thing and move on. Most. Trying to force something beyond nature becomes a problem. It is about energy. It goes both ways. It is not a his/her fault thing. Blame it on the rain. It is mostly nature. Facts. Lawyers then complicate things.
Men just jumping on and doing it like a pigeon is too boring,men need lessons,sometimes it has to be very passionate and sometimes sensual,few men are sensual,and finding something else will end up the same way after time,everyone tries at the start and then boredom sets in.
Michele, lol, that does not sound like a man, that sounds more like a little boy........whose only concern is to get off.
Quality men understand they need to pleasure their partner, and even if something works, giving her a half a dozen or dozen orgasms, you cannot just do that every time. Variety is key.......both in what you do, and approach. You nailed it......sometimes it will be animalistic, other times slow and sensual, always with a burning passion.
For men reading this if you have not already get yourself a copy of "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner. Read it, learn it, absorb it.
ML you know nothing. Passion starts with maturity.
@@jayhalley2642 Dont really get what you say,rudesness I do know doesnt work either so try not to be rude cause you make yourself look like... a not very nice person...
more guys should know about the work of Mantak Chia - LOTS of tools to make life and love more fun in the bedroom. ;)
I’m totally opposite of that , always have been. I’m not selfish in the relationship nor bedroom.
Why would you stay sexless in a marriage for any length of time? Sleep around or take the hit and file the divorce.
Again the answer is not to sleep around. Keep in mind sometimes men contribute to this problem by failing to continuing to date their wife, grow connection and intimacy.
@@manoflegacy while she's sleeping with other men and has already cheated on him? Women don't understand that you can devote time to her or work not both.
@manoflegacy I agree if it's before that alimony period give her those walking papers. Afterward, you'll just be giving her a pay day.
The guys a simp
Thing is, guys stop caring for us the second we're honest about not wanting to be on our backs.
Sorry you have experienced that but that is absolutely not true.
@@manoflegacy My experience is that you let them do their thing a few times and then try to get them to find other ways to connect with you. Presenting him with ideas but it's hard not to want to sucker punch someone who turns the topic instantly back into wanting to belittle and molest you. I hope you understand where I'm coming from
@@thewonkyfonker 😂😂
@@thewonkyfonkerI can understand that I think. Then again, I have limited experience with LTR at 57 years of age. Relationships are just not for me.
@@boxelder9147 Me neither, but I've seen relationships that those around me were part of and it seems like it's almost always the guy who wants to get physical. A lot of times the girl just goes along with it to not hurt his feelings. Most of us girls would rather spend our time doing something more fulfilling than spending it against someone's stinky body.
9 years? Friggin' rookie. Try 18.
The lion and lionesses goodbye to old lion in with new younger lion
Actually i am not interested in sex with my wife
I'm sorry to hear that brother.
Lots of women are in the same boat...
No, I don't think so.
I've honestly never met a woman who can't get sex at any time, at any age... even at 70.
Try 9 years. My hisband is so dead and boring.
a lot of guys have sexual hangups about real sex not the stuff in their head that usually involves sluts due to their upbringing. Usually centered around the Madonna Whore complex.
And what did you do about it?
They'll use you up and discard you, fellas! Stay by yourself, and save yourself a lot of headache!!
What if we are knowingly cause this problem because we're not continuing to lead in the relationship?
You can't lead someone who thinks she's doing you a favor just by being there...
Lol. There's no revival. She gone
WTF are you talking about!? If only the guy could make changes??? Bizarre in the extreme.
Actually not, like many mistaken men this man is never been run the romance department like he's supposed to. If you're not leading in the bedroom and in the relationship you have responsibility for the sexless marriage.
Islam is your solution, look no further ladies and gentlemen. Peace
I have a question. Why do people still have sex? Sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. Why don't humans just remove sex from this world? Women can still get pregnant without sex (there's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex including artificial insemination). Sex does cause a lot of problems, so the world might be a much better place without it.
Because we are sexual creatures. Sex gives us pleasure and is often a way for two people to be intimate and show each other their love. If you have that kind of thoughts, then you might be asexual, which is nothing wrong. However, remember that you are in minority and it's not how most people think and feel.
@@Martyna456 Sexual intercourse is not a good thing and it's bad for the world. It causes a lot of problems for our society. For example, sex ruins nudity since many people think that sex and nudity are always linked together. Because of sex, people always think nudity is sexual (when not all nudity is sexual). The concept of nudity in itself isn't sexual. Being naked is natural, while sex is not natural.
@@icysnow57cold64 Of course it's natural, it's biology, hormones and an instinct. Of course, we can control ourselves and won't die, if we never have sex. However, what you suggest would actually not only be unnatural and inhumane, but also unrealistic. Again, it's how you feel and you have a right to it. But don't expect others to feel and think like that too. Maybe educate yourself about human sexual development, so that you would have better idea about it. And remember that human nature is how it is. We have law and ethics, but it doesn't change the fact that utopia is just an impossible dream because of people, how they are and how they can be.
@@Martyna456 What's wrong with everyone in this world breeding through artificial insemination?
But what do you say to a woman like me who is in this situation? I'm in a secluded marriage I don't want to be. Any videos on that?
JR first off thank you for reaching out. I would say similar to the advice I give men. Melanie and I created a five video series beginning this Friday on my channel and fearlessly feminine specifically addressing this from both sides of the fence male and female, not just the male perspective.
Leave
Go and find happiness. .
I left and took the pain ?
Emotional, Financial, Betrayal..
I now have an amazing life and tbh if I knew what awaited me ? I would have left her years earlier