I hate when older people tell me that college is going to be the best years of my life. It’s not and it’s been two years already and they’ve been absolute hell and I’m hating every second of it.
I agree with you, even through I have to take older people since my family is so weird. I took college something else, but it's really hard to take and a lot of people are just not my thing. I tried to take my college as better looking right now. I took it as I want some Photography type of classes. I have to take my classes serious next semester as a college senior now.
Same for me I think the reason it’s not the best time is because at this age people r growing and learning and making mistakes and that’s normal but nobody ever talks about it
The fact that they say "the best FOUR years" made me feel like a failure when it took me five to graduate. My cousin finally made me understand that I'm not a failure because I didn't give up and I ended up with a degree.
That's me right now. I'm in my fourth year and not close to graduating. Really kills your motivation when those around you keep telling you that you're doing something wrong. :') Glad you had someone to tell you otherwise, though!
Yes! I graduated high school in 2013 and I’m graduating college in a few days. I felt so guilty that I didn’t finish in 4 years at first. I felt like I wasn’t smart enough, but I final,y see the truth now.
I got kicked out for my clothes smelling like weed (no drug test) and came back 2 years later, for a total of 7 frickin’ years to graduate, even though I’m a smart girl. It’s okay, f what people think 💗
"When you think of college what's the first think that comes to your mind?" Depression, loneliness, and complete disappointment I'm entering my senior year and I have never felt so mentally exhausted than the last 3 years There are some good days and moments but it's been overall terrible
same girl! i’m about to be a senior too i feel the exact same way. the bright side to this is we have so much to look forward to outside of college- it can only get better from here 💕
I really appreciate this comment because I’m in a similar position and feel the same way. Going into my last year, I’m at place where I associate stress, anxiety, and loneliness with college pretty much more than anything else. My only hope is that things will get better after grad and I hope that they do for you too 💜
I just graduated two weeks ago and I gotta say I completely get where you’re coming from. I had one of the less than desirable experiences from time in college. From terrible roommates to bad relationships/breakups to feeling so alone and depressed w merely no friends. I had to move home for little bit this last semester for my mental health and it helped so much. Starting therapy, meditation and journaling all really have help me get through the every end of it. Just remember to try your best to take care of yourself. Something I started to try recently to help with my depression is to try 1 thing a day that makes me uncomfortable (ex. trying a new food, working out, doing something independently) it’s scary or weird in the moment but as soon as it over you’re so proud of yourself (kinda how it might possibly feel when you finally graduate). Hope this helps, good luck bestie you’re doing amazing ❤️
Society: „School is the best time of your life“ i- For a lot of people school only meant stress, (social) anxiety, being bullied and getting afraid to go there. Happy for everyone thriving in school/college, but some just didn’t experience a lot of positive things there
yes exactly, most of my social anxiety came from school, every time I went to school I would freak out, it was so bad that it had times that I would almost threw up.... of course it was not like that the whole day, but still is one of the biggest memory I can think of
@@moniqueribeiro24 omg same 😭 i suffer from anxiety and high school made it worse! i like college rn bc its online but i still get anxious when there’s tests and stuff. im actually scared to go back in person if we actually get forced to do that next year.
@@pjm7243 yees I totally understand you, I'm in the last year of high school, it's online, but my anxiety is still there you know...... and it's soooo frustrating
college is not supposed to be the best year of your life. you’re there to learn and get your degree. i don’t get people that just go to college to party. i’m just focused on my studies at the moment (especially being pre-med) and once i graduate, then i can go live my life however i want
I hate college too I totally agree, my college experience is like waking up and struggling the entire day, not getting good homemade food to eat, and then dealing with assholes all day only to get back into a crappy dorm and deal with roommates.
First of all I feel honored to be included in your B roll, second of all THANK YOU for speaking your truth about a topic that is so under discussed. Although I’ve always said I feel so lucky to have had the “dream college experience” I KNOW that’s not for everyone. Listening to you talk about this reminds me exactly of how I felt in my stupid study abroad experience that everyone over hyped and I just felt like wow this wasn’t for me. I just love you so much because it’s so rare to find someone who is so unapologetic themselves and I feel like you know who you are at your core and make such good decisions to put your needs first and take care of yourself! I strive to do the same, and it’s been such a pleasure watching you kick ass. You’re doing SO awesome on your own journey & post grad life ain’t ready for what you have to offer. Keep being a rockstar role model to us all. No one has it all figured out and society needs to chill with all the unnecessary pressure and expectations. We are SO young & should be young and wild & free 💅🏼✨
Also side note, UO was not my top choice school either, it was the financially smart decision school & I too felt like a failure for not moving as far away from home or not signing as an athlete, and frankly I just got lucky that It worked out well...oh and three of my close friends have transferred schools & been so crazy happy. Transferring should be encouraged as an option to high school and college student! Everyone I know who transferred ended up being 10x happier & I applaud that.
facts. im in community college and didn't really get the "college experience" while all my friends are out having the college experience. i am learning that my path is different and that everything is going to work out and im doing what I need to do. love you so much hannah
College was the best 4.25 years of my life! Struggling to pass classes, being broke, having both night and day classes mixed into a single semester, spending every single waking moment either studying or working, living at home, not getting enough sleep/food during the week… Everyone’s experience is different
also, if you dont feel like you enjoyed your time in college as much as you should have: your time on this earth is not over! there is time! you can do all the stuff you wanna do! if you're not dead, you've got time
LMAO, no you can't enjoy anything after college. Oh wait, you're a woman. You won't understand the struggles of a man. You, as a woman, can choose to get a job on your own, but you can also choose not to do that and instead take the easy way out by many ways such as marrying rich or starting an OnlyFans (no matter how heinous it actually is since it enables women to profit big off of exploiting men's mental health by paywalling even the most basic of social interaction, but that's for another topic). Men on the other hand, don't have any of that luxury, and they are forced into low-paying, high-effort jobs that result in them being drained out of all the time and money they could have in life. That is why for men, college is all or nothing, because after that, if a man isn't rich, only hell awaits.
@@akiranatsume3501 I'm truly sorry to read this if it's something you are going through, life is really not so easy for everyone. But don't you think it's kinda off as an reply under a comment of someone trying to reassures some people (we don't care about gender btw) concerned about depression ?
People always said that college is going to be the best 4 years of your life but you still have so many years after college and you don't know what's going to happen. College is about learning and growing yourself. xx
What's the damn point of living after graduating college when life after college is nothing but torture? In college, you could have tons of fun, make tons of long-lasting friendships, and meet plenty of gorgeous and fun-to-be-with women who actually care about looking hot and/or having fun, and overall, have plenty of great times. After college, if you aren't rich, all of that is gone. All that exists are responsibilities that drain away all your time and money so that you will not have time or money to spare for an ounce of life outside of your job. There is no such thing as fun, friendships aren't a thing since everyone is just there to use you for their assignments, and all non-rich women are not only hideous but boring as well since all they care about is their jobs, which in turn leads to a life of absolute hell, completely devoid of good times, let alone great ones. If college isn't the best years of life, you truly and utterly fucked up and you will regret wasting your college years for the rest of your life.
Advice from a recent college graduate: Don’t think that your college experience has to be the stereotypical one. If you don’t want to go out, get drunk, and party, don’t do it. If you want to, then by all means do so responsibly. Just don’t let anyone make you feel like going to football games, partying, and joining Greek life are THE college experience. Your college experience should be YOUR experience, not what people tell you it should be 🤍
I couldn’t agree more, college was just college for me I didn’t do partys I commuted to campus and graduated early, I was litterally in and out and had no desire to socialize!
College was like the worst 4 yrs of my life. I went to UCLA, which was supposed to be cool right? I had a lot of shitty roommate situations (and some good ones), a bad breakup, and at the end of it all I didn't even get to have a graduation ceremony because of COVID.
same. i was lonely as fuck for most of college and when i finally made friends in my junior year, covid happened. i'm trying to teach myself that there's so much to look forward to. we're gonna be okay lol
honestly, this video, i can 100% relate to. they say college is supposed to be the best 4 years of your life. but holy crap, it was stressful and tolling on my mental health. i’m also an introvert, and didn’t really make that many friends in college, which is totally okay. i just never had the real college experience with parties etc. also, covid didn’t help either.
College was fun, but not the best four years of my life either. I commuted my first 2 years and on campus the last two. I spent better time with my close friends from middle and high school compared to college friends. It's a hyped up experience. All my favorite things about college (traveling, friends, concerts, etc) happen in my 20s, but without homework and more money
Thank you for this!!! I also had much closer relationships in middle and high school and couldn’t figure out what I was doing “wrong” since everyone else seemed to have these close knit friend groups. Then I realized that as adults, you’re not around the same people all day. You live different lives and have adult responsibilities...not something you’re prepared for!
Yes to all of this. It's your life and you do what you want with it. College is only four years and does not need to define your life. I'm graduating in December and while I'm so grateful for the time I've been in college, I'm so ready to be done and grow into something better.
I am a freshman in college and being surrounded by people who are enjoying it made me feel like I was doing something wrong or that something was wrong with me. So thank you so much Hannah for the ted talk, for reassurance. ❤ "I'm a real one"
@@_dimy_ I'm literally only going to a community College that is directly across from my highschool, mostly because it's close and secondly because my GPA wouldn't be good enough to go to actual university anyway. I have not made a single friend the past 4 years lolllll.
Don't worry about this bud. I am a year out of college. I went into college with this mindset and I spent a lot of time growing while in college, but i'll be honest it wasn't the best 4 years. I can already tell you the last year has been amazing, and I am not doing anything I thought I would be doing. I changed my mind about what I wanted to do my senior spring. You have so much life that happens after college. Don't let the people that surround your or the media let you believe that the best 4 years of your life have to happen before you've even made it *statistically* through even a quarter of your life. There is so much life to live you will see your friends have kids and some countries that you know of now won't be recognizable when look at them in 40 years. If college was the best 4 years of someone's life they weren't paying attention to what was around them because there is too much goodness as we grow and get older to let the time before we have even fully developed be the "best time of our lives" Also in my experience when I ask the the people who are saying that they typically say they just want to be able to drink without getting hungover or they miss not having responsibilities like kids and if that's the case then you can choose whether or not you want kids and they may not the best people to be taking advice from
I’m in almost the exact same situation! I moved away for college, absolutely hated it, and decided to transfer somewhere closer to home. Someone I looked up to told me it made it look like I failed but it was the best decision I could make for my mental health and I don’t regret in the slightest.
I started college last September and I still have not been in a in-person class nor I have any new friends. I been feeling kinda bad about myself because I’m 18 and thought maybe I was the problem, as Im not experiencing the “college life”. This kind of videos are much needed, thank you Hannah💗
@@sonyamarmeladova8425 I'm sorry to hear that, but everyone has different experiences, and I hope mine goes better as time passes by, no place for negativity in here
I'm a real one! I totally 110% agree with you on everything, I just graduated college this year as well and I couldn't stand it. I went to a school in my hometown as well, and I thought I had to move as well to get the "experience". I went to school, made no friends, and left with no friends. I love the career choice I made, which is graphic design. And I thank you Hannah for your videos because I did feel like I had someone to relate to during my school years!! for anyone reading, I can't wait to see what the future has in hold for you !!
From a graduating senior who commutes to school and lives at home - HELL YES girl! The expectations are INSANE. Congrats on the BA - we freaking did it AND in a pandemic :)
I’m in my junior year and haven’t made any friends and suffer with stressful situations by myself lol. Personally it hasn’t been the best years of my life
College was “ehh” for me. I went there to do my thing and that’s about it haha! Your thoughts about college is what I think about it too! I didn’t have a “traditional” college experience either! Thank you for making this video!!! Senior year of high school was sooo stressful for me. It seemed like everyone was going to college and I thought I had to go too 🙃
PERFECTLY SAID!!! I graduated from a fully commuter school 2 years ago and every time I thought about this, I felt alone because no one talks about college in this way. College was not the best four years of my life. I appreciate it greatly and learned SO MUCH, but I did not feel like the “cool” college student with the traditional “college experience”. People looked down on me when I said where I was going because it wasn’t a large, well known university. I look back and thank myself for never letting peoples opinions drive my decisions because now I have my dream job due to the degree I got, that only my school offers. I grew to love being independent even without being away at school. I learned how to be myself, and I’ve never been stronger. Thank you so so much for this perfectly said video. So much respect!!!!!❤️
I feel so seen. I'm nearly done college and I've been sad most of the time, lonely and underwhelmed from the idealistic vision the world puts out, and I feel bad and like I failed somehow, and that if the 'best years of my life' sucked then there's no hope for anything else. I really needed this thank you.
Totally agree and imagine them saying “you re Gonna peak in college” … that sounds So depressing imagine never being able to evolve further than college-you. When you finish college thats when real life is JUST beginning
oh my goodness, it is so nice to see a youtube who not only shows the positives of school but also the negatives. i have exams next week and i really needed this to help calm my nerves. thank you hannah
People always told me that college is gonna be the time of my life and I’m simply not feeling it AT ALL. I kind of felt like I was missing out on something since everybody keeps on saying that. I really needed this. ❤️
As someone graduating in December, I’ve been thinking a lot about this! We’re sold this narrative that if you don’t make a group of lifelong best friends, find your soulmate, study abroad, etc that you’ve done something wrong. In reality, I don’t really know anyone who had a “perfect” college experience. Not to sound overly pessimistic, but college is also filled with constant comparison (watching others get internships and do amazing things and feeling behind), being tired, growing pains/adulting, and loneliness. And I think that if we were honest upfront about some of these realities people would feel less alone for not absolutely living college. As someone who is also very close to my family, I HATED being away from them so much. And that feeling didn’t just disappear after freshman year. I wish someone would tell me that I have my entire life to experience amazing moments, and that I don’t have to feel pressured to cram all of these milestones into four years. There’s no rush!
PREACH! My college experience was also not the best 4 years of my life -- in fact, I would say I was probably at my lowest for a good portion of it. I'm all about normalizing not having to have a perfect college experience and not setting up young adults for disappointment. If they love their time attending college, GREAT! If they don't, that's OKAY!
I am soo happy that for first time someone is actually saying this. I am honestly tired of people romanticizing college experiences and those stupid movies and series amde on it. My college life isn't that good. I think I had better social life when I was in school than college! My mental health was at the lowest point it can be during college and I thoughts, things might get better and just at that point, covid pandemic came and I am here doing online college at my home since the past 1.5 years and I hate it!!! When people tell me how fun their college life is I feel that I am missing out so many things but I am just 21, even if my college is getting over soon, I am very sure better parts of my life will come soon even if like others, I didn't really have that so called college life!
literally a much needed reminder. When you are a commute student, you just keep getting reminded that you are not living in the college experience and it really takes a toll.
I'm so glad someone else is also saying this. I've had the worst time at college. Genuinely the worst years of my life. People need to stop saying that college years are the best of your life because they aren't for everyone and that's okay
I relate to this so much. I've got one year left of school, and the past 3 years have been so transformative, but definitely not the best years of my life. Its been a struggle. But why would I want to peak at 22?? I've got so much life ahead of me!!
thank you for saying this, college can be really stressful at times and people describe it as the best thing that could happen to someone but it is truly not the same for everyone.
Not me crying because no more college productive vlogs from my favorite youtuber. That's fine tho, you're still our favorite, Queen. Congratulations! ❤️ Sending virtual hugssss☺️🥰
I feel this. I started late after a gap year and went part time to a community college and took four years. I'm graduating next week and I couldn't be prouder of myself and my growth. Everyone's experience is different, and that's okay.
this is exactly what i needed today, im in my second year of college and i've been beating myself up for not participating more in clubs and things to have the proper "college experience" but i know its ok to not do all the things people say you should be doing, thank you hannah! and congrats on graduating soon
I fell this so much!! I’m going to be a junior and at this point college is a means to an end. I will do my best and use all the opportunities I have, but the whole romantic crazy college experience is not in the cards for me but it doesn’t me that this time is useless. It also means that those romantic and picturesque experiences won’t exist later in life. A big I learned like when in high school is that we have time. It always feels like time is running out but taking time is key
no because thank you so much for this. my freshman year, i was at the lowest point of my life because i wasn’t ready to move away and didn’t like my school. college doesn’t have to be this fairytale and it’s super glamorized. so many people suffer through college because of the stigma around dropping out. it’s okay to transfer. it’s okay if college isn’t for you. it’s okay to change your mind.
As junior about to transfer to a college in my hometown this fall, I NEEDED THIS. college has been an absolute dumpster fire for me, but being able to go back and watch your transfer videos from when you were going through the same thing makes me feel better about it:) congrats on (almost) graduating!!!🎉🎉🎉
THANK YOU for making this video. It was so relatable. I just left my college and transferred back home. I have been struggling with feeling like a failure and that I can’t do things on my own. This was really reassuring
I love that you're talking about this! I felt so scammed during college because I had an awful time. I was broke and struggling with my mental health the whole time. I felt like my school didn't care about our education as much as our money. In the end, I did find my best friends there and definitely grew A LOT as a person though. I think instead of saying it's the best 4 years of your life, we should tell people it's a time where you will be challenged by life and start creating your identity as an individual.
Your experience is very close to my own with a pit stop in community college, and I’m so glad you’re making this video. I made it a point to tell all the younger students that they can transfer if where they are doesn’t feel right or things change. Some of those people have thanked me for saying that and letting them know the options because no one tells you that when you first start college. I found what I loved to study, I don’t necessarily work in that field, but I like what I do. You’re doing great, and thank you for this accurate and infinitely helpful message.
I left college after my first year. I did not enjoy it and I felt this wasn't my path. Now I am going to cosmetology school. I am so beyond excited. 🥺 I will keep you'll updated! ❤️ And that is okay! If you are reading this you don't have to go to college and you will still succeed.
This video is so important!!!! The pressure we put on 17 and 18 year olds to have it all figured out is ridiculous! I wish someone had shared this idea with me when I was that age. Instead I went to college in a major that I guessed I would like, transferred schools and into another major that I guessed I would like and ended up just leaving. I completed 3 years of school with no real direction and couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do or who i wanted to be. And the end result was not finishing. I felt like a complete failure. If I had it to do all over again, I would have gone in without declaring a major, taken some different classes to find out my interests, taken my time (you don’t have to graduate in 4 years), then declared a major and finished. It doesn’t have to be cookie cutter like they want you to believe!! One size does NOT fit all! Thanks for speaking up about this!!
wow, thank you so much for making this video!!! i’m literally in the same boat. i went to a 4 yr university freshman year and HATED it! it was out of state and hard to get into so i thought i had to be there and just suck it up. bc of the pandemic i got sent home early and decided not to return. i tried transferring but none of the schools i applied to accepted me so now i’ll be staying at my community college and it feels so shitty bc of this idea i had of the “perfect college experience” but honestly i’ve grown so much this past year and saved so much money and am honestly happier than i’ve ever been. it’s so nice hearing someone else share this experience bc i’ve been questioning myself so it’s sooo reassuring to hear you speak on this. thank you!!!
oh my god I needed this video rn. I’m about to be a senior in college and I can’t tell you how much pressure I put on myself these last 3 years to have the “perfect college experience”!! I got so much slack from ppl for going to a commuter school, and I thought I was doing something wrong when the only time I would really have fun is when my friends would come back home for breaks. But nope, it’s like you said: everyone’s life is completely different, which is why “the college experience” is gonna be different for everyone, too!
Thank you for this! I also transferred after my first year of college and came home, it took me so long to find the right career choice for myself and now im working on my Masters Degree. If I stayed where I was at I wouldn't be where I am today and I always say "I wish", but leaving that school was honestly the best decision. Dorming and going away should NOT be glamorized!!
I've never felt more connected to a video more then this one. I can't express enough how much, the "college could possibly not be the best 4 years of your life", needs to be talked about more because it is okay! I am finishing my freshman year of college and I just wanted to say thank you for posting this video because I've been having those emotions of beating myself up for not enjoying college like everyone else did right now. love you so so much Hannah❤️ xoxo
This is so importante. I grew up as a nerd girls struggling to fit in school and I was always told that I was going to fit in so well in University, that I’d meet people like me, etc. Sadly, during my undergrad years I had some of the worst experiences of my life: my dad died, i got depression, started having self destructive behaviors, etc. Later, during my last year I was better and in my way to recover, so I decided to go to grad school in the US (I’m from Chile). I got accepted in Columbia and was granted a very important financial aid from my government, but everything cameback. I hated nyc, my depression cameback, and I was soalone and so far away from my family that everything felt meaningless. I still love my college experience and I’d do all over it again, but it was not even close to the best years of my life,
I’m graduating from high school in about 3 weeks from today and this is exactly what I needed to hear. There really is so much pressure on students to go the perfect path or else life will be shit. But telling students that IS what makes life shit for us if we “fail” to make it happen. So thank you, Hannah, for this talk. Really needed it ❤️
Thank you for making this video. So fucking relatable!! I regretted my college experience and felt like it was my fault or I did something wrong. I had to learn to accept that my experience was my journey and that was ok. I had to go through what I went through to be who I am today.
I am from a small town in Wisconsin. I ended up moving to Minneapolis for my first semester of college. Two weeks into the second semester, I came home and essentially "dropped out". Everyone was like "wow, that's not the girl that I knew". I ended up finding a college that I love 25 minutes from my home, and I commute everyday! I love being home but I don't love my hometown... that is the whole reason that I wanted to move away that first semester. I feel this video!! I never imagined that in my college years I would be doing online classes in the middle of a pandemic either BUT I learned that I CAN do online classes and that I nail them. It has been such a learning experience but overall, it's okay that these years did not go according to plan. If I would've stayed at the first college, there's no way I would've been able to find the correct career path and majors that I am pursing now.
I can relate to it , I had a complete breakdown but my teacher's support , meeting the right people and following the right instructions made me come out of my depression. 💜 I can feel you saying " my heart knew that I'm not supposed to be here"... I know how much it hurts walking inside the campus and meeting the people would feel like And I also know that deep down it still bothers you too , We'll get through it girl
I would have graduated in two months but life took a turn and I’m starting a new path and finishing my first semester in nursing school in a week. It’s hard to accept things don’t always go as planned but I’m so happy where I’m at now. Thank you for videos like this makes me feel like I’m not alone 💜 your videos like this made me want to subcribe when I did I felt like I had someone who truly understood what I was going through. And yes Everything is a learning experience if you make it one. That’s my life motto 👏🏼
i went to a pretty school, it was nice. made no friends, was super unhappy, and wasting money. i transferred closer to home to save money and lived happily seeing my family, working a job i liked, and commuting to school. it doesn’t have to be about a big school experience where you go in to debt. everyone is so different and college isn’t always what it’s made out to be!
THANK YOU so much for posting this. I have been thinking about this topic a lot... my college experience is not like the “typical” one and I’ve totally been beating myself up over it thinking I’ve been doing something wrong!!! But I’m not!!! Thank you thank you for validating how I’ve been feeling and reminding me that it’s okay❤️❤️
My school years (all 14 of them) were the best ones for me, this last year (I'm in 12th grade rn) has been awful, our last year was wasted online but I still believe that my school years were amazing! It built me up so much and I made a real family there, though a little bit stressful, I loved and still love my school so much. I'm looking forward to med-school now. Thank you for the video Hannah, I'll definitely try to not have unrealistic expectations now 😊❤️
I needed this video thank you so much for this I literally was sad walking out of my campus library and seeing a sorority group walk by. I felt discouraged because I’m not in something like that but now I feel better about it
man, this video makes me feel seen and heard!! finally, someone who speaks the TRUTH 🙌🏻💕 i have made literally 1 friend throughout my 3 years of college and honestly have been quite lonely throughout it all. I’m hoping my senior year is better, but it’s so hard watching peers on social media hangout with their friends and say how college is the “best years of their life”. i guess i’ve got more to look forward to after college, but i’m just nervous that i won’t know how to make any friends once i graduate since I won’t be around people my age constantly anymore 🥺
This^. Needs to be talked about more. Thanks for spreading this awareness. I relate so much. Media romanticizes college/ what college “should be” all the time and it’s different for everyone/ never gonna be like how it is in the movies (tv etc.). It may not even be 4 years and that’s ok. I transferred colleges three times, experienced bullying, experienced living on campus and commuting, went to 2 year and 4 year schools, had some high highs, and really low lows. College can be great but it can also really suck. But the years are transformative nonetheless.
I went through the exact same thing I moved away because I thought I wanted to be independent af and live it up but I was miserable and ended going back home I was ashamed at first but it was the best decision I ever made I’m so much happier now and I’m saving money 🙃
Thank you for this video, Hannah. I'm graduating this coming week and really needed it. I went to your dream school and have hated every minute of it. I've felt incredibly guilty these past few weeks because I look at the students around me who've had such amazing experiences and I just can't relate. I never participated in campus life because I commuted all four years. I think it's easy to feel a lot of regret/guilt at the time of graduation. No one should, though, because regardless of the past four years, the coming days are a new start. I'm excited for them.
i have two semesters left and been worried lately that i needed to drastically change things this year because i need to pack 4 years of "necessary college experiences into the next 7 months". i needed to hear this. thank you ❤️
thank you so much for this video, it helps to see others having non-traditional college experiences. when i was close to graduating high school, i panicked and decided to go to my local community college instead of a big name 4-year uni because i had no idea what i wanted to do and i was terrified of moving away from home. for nearly a year i felt like a failure for that decision. now one semester away from graduating with my associates degree, i can say that was one of the best decisions i've ever made. while working through my gen ed requirements i was able to explore different career interests and find out what i really wanted to study, all while paying a fraction of the cost compared to 4-year unis and staying close to home. i wish transferring was more widely talked about, its a valuable option to have! also, college is HARD no matter where you go and i wish it werent so romanticized.
I had a rough first two years of college. I struggled so much with it. I finally decided that I would transfer, which is where things started to get better when I found a school that I like and actually have opportunities to do things. I loved it so much that I decided to go back there and do grad school.
i needed thisss i start college in the fall and i’m staying in my hometown, i didn’t get accepted into my dream college and that was really hard for me to accept. i felt like i failed myself but i’m excited to go to the school i choice and start learning more. this reassured me that things will turn out the way they’re supposed to 🤍
HANNAH OMG I NEEDED THIS SO BAD. as a graduating senior I'm already stressed over which college to go to whether I move 2 hours away to a UC college that really isn't in my heart or go to community college. I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH THANK YOU
ME TOO ME TOO. this is literally my same situation haha I'm trying to figure out between going an hour and a half away to a uc which was never my first choice or cc, I feel like if I do cc I might regret not going to that uc for that full "college experience" which is something I always thought I wanted but don't want to end up there and regret it because like you said it was never really in my heart either. Which do you think your going to do if you don't mind me asking?
I’m about to be a junior and I’m literally going to change my major for the 3rd or 4th time on Tuesday. I was doing accounting but I literally hate it and get so much anxiety even thinking about it. I was out of school for like 3 years because I got married and had kids, but I still couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do with my life. It wasn’t until literally like two nights ago that I had an epiphany and decided I want to major in MIS. It fits my interests so well and I don’t know how I didn’t realize it earlier, but that’s okay. Better late than never 🤷🏻♀️
Girl, I'm literally so thankful for this video and you being REAL. Like, different event but same thought. Everyone around me said that high school experience is another level, friendship is tottaly warmer than everything blå blå. And they also said that i shouldn't be going another city for high school because I cant make it? Like how, do u even know me? But yeah I listened all of them and I decided to stay in the city that I ve been living for 13 years. (Even if I hate this city) I'm senior right now and to be honest it was the worst experience that I've ever had. Friends? They caused my anxiety. Living with family so u can be relaxed? I got stress all the time. I was going to school just for escape from home and coming to home just for escape from school. What a beautiful Loop. So yeah all this 4 years I just thought something is wrong with ME! All of my friends(!) were having so much fun during their high school life and I was just struggling. Everything went bad and all the time I blame myself for this. :(( It's good to hear that is not my foult...
I’m so happy you made this video. People (including myself) often have unrealistic expectations of what college will be. While I made amazing friends and have good memories, I spent most my time in the library. My stress and anxiety was at an all time high. Thank you for sharing your experience💗
Hey, thanks for your video because after my today’s mental break down it is really great to see it. I have my last finals on Wednesday and my graduation is next month after oral exams from 2 different areas of questions 🙄🤪 It will be really crazy month and I’m looking forward to your next content. You go girl! 🌸❤️📚👩🏼🎓👩🏼💻
love these sit down, talk videos 🤎! so far, my college experience has been a good one, and I am very thankful for that because I understand that it is different for everyone. I am a pre-med major and I have absolutely fallen in love with it (like I knew I would). I chose to start out at a community college before I transfer to a university. I am about to complete my first full year of community college and it feels amazing! this is my last official week before summer! I feel like in the one year that I have experienced that I have grown so much as a person and I've learned so many things both academically and personally. the amount of self-growth that I've experienced from college is everything!
I 100% agree with you. Not everyone is going to have the same experience, everybody is different and likes to do different things. I am glad that you are able to talk about this because I feel the same way! So many people think that college is all about moving away from home and partying, etc. but that's not true for everyone. I personally had a mixed experience, I met some of the best people, but my mental health plummeted my junior year due to some personal things. I also want to say thank you Hannah, your videos have helped me through some rough times, and congrats on graduating!! ❤️❤️
I hate when older people tell me that college is going to be the best years of my life. It’s not and it’s been two years already and they’ve been absolute hell and I’m hating every second of it.
i agreeee,, im going to be a junior in the fall and i literally have no friends on campus
Me too
I agree with you, even through I have to take older people since my family is so weird. I took college something else, but it's really hard to take and a lot of people are just not my thing. I tried to take my college as better looking right now. I took it as I want some Photography type of classes. I have to take my classes serious next semester as a college senior now.
Same for me I think the reason it’s not the best time is because at this age people r growing and learning and making mistakes and that’s normal but nobody ever talks about it
@@brianavanisouvong same 😪
me wanting the best college experience ... But all my classes are Online Now... PLS
hi ciara!
Literally me.
Sadd affhhh
Dude yes!! I am so freakin bored of that 😪
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!
she’s spitting absolute facts over here💅
Hey Syd, hope you're doing well with the new job!
pls ur obsessed w penn state football lmaooo
A tip : watch series at Flixzone. Me and my gf have been using it for watching loads of movies lately.
@Jamison Jude Yea, I've been watching on flixzone} for months myself :D
Totally agreed ✅
The fact that they say "the best FOUR years" made me feel like a failure when it took me five to graduate. My cousin finally made me understand that I'm not a failure because I didn't give up and I ended up with a degree.
That's me right now. I'm in my fourth year and not close to graduating. Really kills your motivation when those around you keep telling you that you're doing something wrong. :') Glad you had someone to tell you otherwise, though!
Yes! I graduated high school in 2013 and I’m graduating college in a few days. I felt so guilty that I didn’t finish in 4 years at first. I felt like I wasn’t smart enough, but I final,y see the truth now.
Same i also had to repeat a year i was feeling like a loser all the time.
I got kicked out for my clothes smelling like weed (no drug test) and came back 2 years later, for a total of 7 frickin’ years to graduate, even though I’m a smart girl. It’s okay, f what people think 💗
"When you think of college what's the first think that comes to your mind?"
Depression, loneliness, and complete disappointment I'm entering my senior year and I have never felt so mentally exhausted than the last 3 years
There are some good days and moments but it's been overall terrible
add crippling student debt from loans that they allowed an 18 YEAR OLD to take out to that 😭
Absolutely agree! I'm in my third year, absolutely burned out! My mental health is at an all time low and it truly is a lonely experience
same girl! i’m about to be a senior too i feel the exact same way. the bright side to this is we have so much to look forward to outside of college- it can only get better from here 💕
I really appreciate this comment because I’m in a similar position and feel the same way. Going into my last year, I’m at place where I associate stress, anxiety, and loneliness with college pretty much more than anything else. My only hope is that things will get better after grad and I hope that they do for you too 💜
I just graduated two weeks ago and I gotta say I completely get where you’re coming from. I had one of the less than desirable experiences from time in college. From terrible roommates to bad relationships/breakups to feeling so alone and depressed w merely no friends. I had to move home for little bit this last semester for my mental health and it helped so much. Starting therapy, meditation and journaling all really have help me get through the every end of it. Just remember to try your best to take care of yourself. Something I started to try recently to help with my depression is to try 1 thing a day that makes me uncomfortable (ex. trying a new food, working out, doing something independently) it’s scary or weird in the moment but as soon as it over you’re so proud of yourself (kinda how it might possibly feel when you finally graduate). Hope this helps, good luck bestie you’re doing amazing ❤️
Society: „School is the best time of your life“
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For a lot of people school only meant stress, (social) anxiety, being bullied and getting afraid to go there.
Happy for everyone thriving in school/college, but some just didn’t experience a lot of positive things there
College is for life but so many order person ask me what is yoir college
yes exactly, most of my social anxiety came from school, every time I went to school I would freak out, it was so bad that it had times that I would almost threw up.... of course it was not like that the whole day, but still is one of the biggest memory I can think of
@@moniqueribeiro24 omg same 😭 i suffer from anxiety and high school made it worse! i like college rn bc its online but i still get anxious when there’s tests and stuff. im actually scared to go back in person if we actually get forced to do that next year.
@@pjm7243 yees I totally understand you, I'm in the last year of high school, it's online, but my anxiety is still there you know...... and it's soooo frustrating
Yeah! Just school in general.
college is not supposed to be the best year of your life. you’re there to learn and get your degree. i don’t get people that just go to college to party. i’m just focused on my studies at the moment (especially being pre-med) and once i graduate, then i can go live my life however i want
This is the best comment. I totally agree 💯
Best comment ...really hit the spot!
Cope
That’s right
Yup yup.
I hate college too I totally agree, my college experience is like waking up and struggling the entire day, not getting good homemade food to eat, and then dealing with assholes all day only to get back into a crappy dorm and deal with roommates.
Why do you make yourself miserable? Stop, it’s not hard nor does anything really change. You’ll just be much happier
Felt that
First of all I feel honored to be included in your B roll, second of all THANK YOU for speaking your truth about a topic that is so under discussed. Although I’ve always said I feel so lucky to have had the “dream college experience” I KNOW that’s not for everyone. Listening to you talk about this reminds me exactly of how I felt in my stupid study abroad experience that everyone over hyped and I just felt like wow this wasn’t for me. I just love you so much because it’s so rare to find someone who is so unapologetic themselves and I feel like you know who you are at your core and make such good decisions to put your needs first and take care of yourself! I strive to do the same, and it’s been such a pleasure watching you kick ass. You’re doing SO awesome on your own journey & post grad life ain’t ready for what you have to offer. Keep being a rockstar role model to us all. No one has it all figured out and society needs to chill with all the unnecessary pressure and expectations. We are SO young & should be young and wild & free 💅🏼✨
Also side note, UO was not my top choice school either, it was the financially smart decision school & I too felt like a failure for not moving as far away from home or not signing as an athlete, and frankly I just got lucky that It worked out well...oh and three of my close friends have transferred schools & been so crazy happy. Transferring should be encouraged as an option to high school and college student! Everyone I know who transferred ended up being 10x happier & I applaud that.
@@KiaraMadisen well spoken
facts. im in community college and didn't really get the "college experience" while all my friends are out having the college experience. i am learning that my path is different and that everything is going to work out and im doing what I need to do. love you so much hannah
Which college do you go?
@@aaryarajgogoi7630 i go to montgomery college
I go there too!
College was the best 4.25 years of my life! Struggling to pass classes, being broke, having both night and day classes mixed into a single semester, spending every single waking moment either studying or working, living at home, not getting enough sleep/food during the week…
Everyone’s experience is different
Is the first sentence sarcasm?
also, if you dont feel like you enjoyed your time in college as much as you should have: your time on this earth is not over! there is time! you can do all the stuff you wanna do! if you're not dead, you've got time
LMAO, no you can't enjoy anything after college. Oh wait, you're a woman. You won't understand the struggles of a man. You, as a woman, can choose to get a job on your own, but you can also choose not to do that and instead take the easy way out by many ways such as marrying rich or starting an OnlyFans (no matter how heinous it actually is since it enables women to profit big off of exploiting men's mental health by paywalling even the most basic of social interaction, but that's for another topic). Men on the other hand, don't have any of that luxury, and they are forced into low-paying, high-effort jobs that result in them being drained out of all the time and money they could have in life.
That is why for men, college is all or nothing, because after that, if a man isn't rich, only hell awaits.
@@akiranatsume3501 I'm truly sorry to read this if it's something you are going through, life is really not so easy for everyone. But don't you think it's kinda off as an reply under a comment of someone trying to reassures some people (we don't care about gender btw) concerned about depression ?
People always said that college is going to be the best 4 years of your life but you still have so many years after college and you don't know what's going to happen. College is about learning and growing yourself. xx
What's the damn point of living after graduating college when life after college is nothing but torture?
In college, you could have tons of fun, make tons of long-lasting friendships, and meet plenty of gorgeous and fun-to-be-with women who actually care about looking hot and/or having fun, and overall, have plenty of great times.
After college, if you aren't rich, all of that is gone. All that exists are responsibilities that drain away all your time and money so that you will not have time or money to spare for an ounce of life outside of your job. There is no such thing as fun, friendships aren't a thing since everyone is just there to use you for their assignments, and all non-rich women are not only hideous but boring as well since all they care about is their jobs, which in turn leads to a life of absolute hell, completely devoid of good times, let alone great ones.
If college isn't the best years of life, you truly and utterly fucked up and you will regret wasting your college years for the rest of your life.
@@akiranatsume3501 pls go to therapy
I'm glad we bigfoots don't have to go to college out here in the forest
How do you get wifi?
@@zameerpaleker832 literally ahaua
***ahaha
@@zameerpaleker832 don't question it.
good for you
Advice from a recent college graduate: Don’t think that your college experience has to be the stereotypical one. If you don’t want to go out, get drunk, and party, don’t do it. If you want to, then by all means do so responsibly. Just don’t let anyone make you feel like going to football games, partying, and joining Greek life are THE college experience. Your college experience should be YOUR experience, not what people tell you it should be 🤍
I couldn’t agree more, college was just college for me I didn’t do partys I commuted to campus and graduated early, I was litterally in and out and had no desire to socialize!
College was like the worst 4 yrs of my life. I went to UCLA, which was supposed to be cool right? I had a lot of shitty roommate situations (and some good ones), a bad breakup, and at the end of it all I didn't even get to have a graduation ceremony because of COVID.
same. i was lonely as fuck for most of college and when i finally made friends in my junior year, covid happened. i'm trying to teach myself that there's so much to look forward to. we're gonna be okay lol
honestly, this video, i can 100% relate to. they say college is supposed to be the best 4 years of your life. but holy crap, it was stressful and tolling on my mental health. i’m also an introvert, and didn’t really make that many friends in college, which is totally okay. i just never had the real college experience with parties etc. also, covid didn’t help either.
*When she sat down in her car with Coffee...you better know it's gonna be a blast* ⚡❤️✨
Haha lol so true
“If you’re happy doing what you’re doing, then nobody can tell you you’re not successful” -Harry Styles💓
Not even flash came here as much as fast I did lol
College was fun, but not the best four years of my life either. I commuted my first 2 years and on campus the last two. I spent better time with my close friends from middle and high school compared to college friends. It's a hyped up experience. All my favorite things about college (traveling, friends, concerts, etc) happen in my 20s, but without homework and more money
Thank you for this!!! I also had much closer relationships in middle and high school and couldn’t figure out what I was doing “wrong” since everyone else seemed to have these close knit friend groups. Then I realized that as adults, you’re not around the same people all day. You live different lives and have adult responsibilities...not something you’re prepared for!
I LOVE how Hannah is just REAL with us like she’s basically my big sister!
LOL i feel this! She is like a big sister but I'm older 😂
Yes to all of this. It's your life and you do what you want with it. College is only four years and does not need to define your life. I'm graduating in December and while I'm so grateful for the time I've been in college, I'm so ready to be done and grow into something better.
I am a freshman in college and being surrounded by people who are enjoying it made me feel like I was doing something wrong or that something was wrong with me. So thank you so much Hannah for the ted talk, for reassurance. ❤
"I'm a real one"
as someone who is graduating in a month, this just hits home and it's exactly the type of video i need right now
Bruh highschool wasn't the best 4 years of my life, I was hoping for college to be my best 4 years. Now I'm feeling down again lmao
no dont think about it that way, theres still a good chance youre gonna love it, its so much better than school
@@_dimy_ I'm literally only going to a community College that is directly across from my highschool, mostly because it's close and secondly because my GPA wouldn't be good enough to go to actual university anyway.
I have not made a single friend the past 4 years lolllll.
Lol same
Don't worry about this bud. I am a year out of college. I went into college with this mindset and I spent a lot of time growing while in college, but i'll be honest it wasn't the best 4 years. I can already tell you the last year has been amazing, and I am not doing anything I thought I would be doing. I changed my mind about what I wanted to do my senior spring. You have so much life that happens after college. Don't let the people that surround your or the media let you believe that the best 4 years of your life have to happen before you've even made it *statistically* through even a quarter of your life. There is so much life to live you will see your friends have kids and some countries that you know of now won't be recognizable when look at them in 40 years. If college was the best 4 years of someone's life they weren't paying attention to what was around them because there is too much goodness as we grow and get older to let the time before we have even fully developed be the "best time of our lives" Also in my experience when I ask the the people who are saying that they typically say they just want to be able to drink without getting hungover or they miss not having responsibilities like kids and if that's the case then you can choose whether or not you want kids and they may not the best people to be taking advice from
@@Averyliz23 I dropped out lmao
Not me crying while studying for my finals after hearing this
It’s the time of the year where I make my work crying :’) Master thesis is a whole other level of sad man
I’m in almost the exact same situation! I moved away for college, absolutely hated it, and decided to transfer somewhere closer to home. Someone I looked up to told me it made it look like I failed but it was the best decision I could make for my mental health and I don’t regret in the slightest.
I started college last September and I still have not been in a in-person class nor I have any new friends. I been feeling kinda bad about myself because I’m 18 and thought maybe I was the problem, as Im not experiencing the “college life”. This kind of videos are much needed, thank you Hannah💗
I hope it all turns around and you’ll experience some happier days related to college 🥺
@@studywithanna thank you
Girl, I am in the same boat as you and I feel the same way. Glad to know I am not alone in this and neither are you!💗
I am on my third year of college and I still do not have friends. While you think that it will get better, it gets much worse, sorry
@@sonyamarmeladova8425 I'm sorry to hear that, but everyone has different experiences, and I hope mine goes better as time passes by, no place for negativity in here
I'm a real one! I totally 110% agree with you on everything, I just graduated college this year as well and I couldn't stand it. I went to a school in my hometown as well, and I thought I had to move as well to get the "experience". I went to school, made no friends, and left with no friends. I love the career choice I made, which is graphic design. And I thank you Hannah for your videos because I did feel like I had someone to relate to during my school years!!
for anyone reading, I can't wait to see what the future has in hold for you !!
i love this real talk. ur seriously like a big sister to all of us
yes she's all of our big sister🥺❤️
From a graduating senior who commutes to school and lives at home - HELL YES girl! The expectations are INSANE. Congrats on the BA - we freaking did it AND in a pandemic :)
I’m in my junior year and haven’t made any friends and suffer with stressful situations by myself lol. Personally it hasn’t been the best years of my life
College was “ehh” for me. I went there to do my thing and that’s about it haha! Your thoughts about college is what I think about it too! I didn’t have a “traditional” college experience either! Thank you for making this video!!! Senior year of high school was sooo stressful for me. It seemed like everyone was going to college and I thought I had to go too 🙃
PERFECTLY SAID!!! I graduated from a fully commuter school 2 years ago and every time I thought about this, I felt alone because no one talks about college in this way. College was not the best four years of my life. I appreciate it greatly and learned SO MUCH, but I did not feel like the “cool” college student with the traditional “college experience”. People looked down on me when I said where I was going because it wasn’t a large, well known university. I look back and thank myself for never letting peoples opinions drive my decisions because now I have my dream job due to the degree I got, that only my school offers. I grew to love being independent even without being away at school. I learned how to be myself, and I’ve never been stronger. Thank you so so much for this perfectly said video. So much respect!!!!!❤️
when i think of college the first thing that comes to mind is severe depression 🤪 and i’m finishing my first year this week so-
THAT WAS FIRST YEAR ME TOO 😭
I feel so seen. I'm nearly done college and I've been sad most of the time, lonely and underwhelmed from the idealistic vision the world puts out, and I feel bad and like I failed somehow, and that if the 'best years of my life' sucked then there's no hope for anything else. I really needed this thank you.
Totally agree and imagine them saying “you re Gonna peak in college” … that sounds So depressing imagine never being able to evolve further than college-you. When you finish college thats when real life is JUST beginning
oh my goodness, it is so nice to see a youtube who not only shows the positives of school but also the negatives. i have exams next week and i really needed this to help calm my nerves. thank you hannah
The timing of this video is just 🤌
People always told me that college is gonna be the time of my life and I’m simply not feeling it AT ALL. I kind of felt like I was missing out on something since everybody keeps on saying that. I really needed this. ❤️
As someone graduating in December, I’ve been thinking a lot about this! We’re sold this narrative that if you don’t make a group of lifelong best friends, find your soulmate, study abroad, etc that you’ve done something wrong. In reality, I don’t really know anyone who had a “perfect” college experience. Not to sound overly pessimistic, but college is also filled with constant comparison (watching others get internships and do amazing things and feeling behind), being tired, growing pains/adulting, and loneliness. And I think that if we were honest upfront about some of these realities people would feel less alone for not absolutely living college. As someone who is also very close to my family, I HATED being away from them so much. And that feeling didn’t just disappear after freshman year. I wish someone would tell me that I have my entire life to experience amazing moments, and that I don’t have to feel pressured to cram all of these milestones into four years. There’s no rush!
PREACH! My college experience was also not the best 4 years of my life -- in fact, I would say I was probably at my lowest for a good portion of it. I'm all about normalizing not having to have a perfect college experience and not setting up young adults for disappointment. If they love their time attending college, GREAT! If they don't, that's OKAY!
I am soo happy that for first time someone is actually saying this. I am honestly tired of people romanticizing college experiences and those stupid movies and series amde on it. My college life isn't that good. I think I had better social life when I was in school than college! My mental health was at the lowest point it can be during college and I thoughts, things might get better and just at that point, covid pandemic came and I am here doing online college at my home since the past 1.5 years and I hate it!!! When people tell me how fun their college life is I feel that I am missing out so many things but I am just 21, even if my college is getting over soon, I am very sure better parts of my life will come soon even if like others, I didn't really have that so called college life!
literally a much needed reminder. When you are a commute student, you just keep getting reminded that you are not living in the college experience and it really takes a toll.
I'm so glad someone else is also saying this. I've had the worst time at college. Genuinely the worst years of my life. People need to stop saying that college years are the best of your life because they aren't for everyone and that's okay
I relate to this so much. I've got one year left of school, and the past 3 years have been so transformative, but definitely not the best years of my life. Its been a struggle. But why would I want to peak at 22?? I've got so much life ahead of me!!
thank you for saying this, college can be really stressful at times and people describe it as the best thing that could happen to someone but it is truly not the same for everyone.
Not me crying because no more college productive vlogs from my favorite youtuber. That's fine tho, you're still our favorite, Queen. Congratulations! ❤️ Sending virtual hugssss☺️🥰
I feel this. I started late after a gap year and went part time to a community college and took four years. I'm graduating next week and I couldn't be prouder of myself and my growth. Everyone's experience is different, and that's okay.
My college experience was meh and it is fine. There's more to life than these phases. Congratulations for graduating, Hannah!
this is exactly what i needed today, im in my second year of college and i've been beating myself up for not participating more in clubs and things to have the proper "college experience" but i know its ok to not do all the things people say you should be doing, thank you hannah! and congrats on graduating soon
I fell this so much!! I’m going to be a junior and at this point college is a means to an end. I will do my best and use all the opportunities I have, but the whole romantic crazy college experience is not in the cards for me but it doesn’t me that this time is useless. It also means that those romantic and picturesque experiences won’t exist later in life. A big I learned like when in high school is that we have time. It always feels like time is running out but taking time is key
no because thank you so much for this. my freshman year, i was at the lowest point of my life because i wasn’t ready to move away and didn’t like my school. college doesn’t have to be this fairytale and it’s super glamorized. so many people suffer through college because of the stigma around dropping out. it’s okay to transfer. it’s okay if college isn’t for you. it’s okay to change your mind.
As junior about to transfer to a college in my hometown this fall, I NEEDED THIS. college has been an absolute dumpster fire for me, but being able to go back and watch your transfer videos from when you were going through the same thing makes me feel better about it:) congrats on (almost) graduating!!!🎉🎉🎉
THANK YOU for making this video. It was so relatable. I just left my college and transferred back home. I have been struggling with feeling like a failure and that I can’t do things on my own. This was really reassuring
I love that you're talking about this! I felt so scammed during college because I had an awful time. I was broke and struggling with my mental health the whole time. I felt like my school didn't care about our education as much as our money. In the end, I did find my best friends there and definitely grew A LOT as a person though. I think instead of saying it's the best 4 years of your life, we should tell people it's a time where you will be challenged by life and start creating your identity as an individual.
Your experience is very close to my own with a pit stop in community college, and I’m so glad you’re making this video. I made it a point to tell all the younger students that they can transfer if where they are doesn’t feel right or things change. Some of those people have thanked me for saying that and letting them know the options because no one tells you that when you first start college. I found what I loved to study, I don’t necessarily work in that field, but I like what I do. You’re doing great, and thank you for this accurate and infinitely helpful message.
i love how real this is it’s like a big sis talk.
I left college after my first year. I did not enjoy it and I felt this wasn't my path. Now I am going to cosmetology school. I am so beyond excited. 🥺 I will keep you'll updated! ❤️ And that is okay! If you are reading this you don't have to go to college and you will still succeed.
2 years late but, we'd love an update!
thank you hannah for being the bigger sister for all of us 🤍🤍
(Edit: I’m a real one ❤️)
I second that!!
College has been an absolute nightmare for me. Nothing but stress and anxiety
This video is so important!!!! The pressure we put on 17 and 18 year olds to have it all figured out is ridiculous! I wish someone had shared this idea with me when I was that age. Instead I went to college in a major that I guessed I would like, transferred schools and into another major that I guessed I would like and ended up just leaving. I completed 3 years of school with no real direction and couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do or who i wanted to be. And the end result was not finishing. I felt like a complete failure. If I had it to do all over again, I would have gone in without declaring a major, taken some different classes to find out my interests, taken my time (you don’t have to graduate in 4 years), then declared a major and finished. It doesn’t have to be cookie cutter like they want you to believe!! One size does NOT fit all! Thanks for speaking up about this!!
wow, thank you so much for making this video!!! i’m literally in the same boat. i went to a 4 yr university freshman year and HATED it! it was out of state and hard to get into so i thought i had to be there and just suck it up. bc of the pandemic i got sent home early and decided not to return. i tried transferring but none of the schools i applied to accepted me so now i’ll be staying at my community college and it feels so shitty bc of this idea i had of the “perfect college experience” but honestly i’ve grown so much this past year and saved so much money and am honestly happier than i’ve ever been. it’s so nice hearing someone else share this experience bc i’ve been questioning myself so it’s sooo reassuring to hear you speak on this. thank you!!!
Omg ICED COFFEE IN THE CAR IS BACK. And with a LEGIT EDITING AND SCRIPT.
oh my god I needed this video rn. I’m about to be a senior in college and I can’t tell you how much pressure I put on myself these last 3 years to have the “perfect college experience”!! I got so much slack from ppl for going to a commuter school, and I thought I was doing something wrong when the only time I would really have fun is when my friends would come back home for breaks. But nope, it’s like you said: everyone’s life is completely different, which is why “the college experience” is gonna be different for everyone, too!
Thank you for this! I also transferred after my first year of college and came home, it took me so long to find the right career choice for myself and now im working on my Masters Degree. If I stayed where I was at I wouldn't be where I am today and I always say "I wish", but leaving that school was honestly the best decision. Dorming and going away should NOT be glamorized!!
I've never felt more connected to a video more then this one. I can't express enough how much, the "college could possibly not be the best 4 years of your life", needs to be talked about more because it is okay! I am finishing my freshman year of college and I just wanted to say thank you for posting this video because I've been having those emotions of beating myself up for not enjoying college like everyone else did right now. love you so so much Hannah❤️ xoxo
literally same
This is so importante. I grew up as a nerd girls struggling to fit in school and I was always told that I was going to fit in so well in University, that I’d meet people like me, etc. Sadly, during my undergrad years I had some of the worst experiences of my life: my dad died, i got depression, started having self destructive behaviors, etc. Later, during my last year I was better and in my way to recover, so I decided to go to grad school in the US (I’m from Chile). I got accepted in Columbia and was granted a very important financial aid from my government, but everything cameback. I hated nyc, my depression cameback, and I was soalone and so far away from my family that everything felt meaningless.
I still love my college experience and I’d do all over it again, but it was not even close to the best years of my life,
Omg I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you're doing better and feeling you're best rn.🤗❤
exactly, we don't live in a vacuum when going to college, life still happens
SO many of us needed to hear that. I feel so lost right now as a freshman in college and that definitely helped me
I’m graduating from high school in about 3 weeks from today and this is exactly what I needed to hear. There really is so much pressure on students to go the perfect path or else life will be shit. But telling students that IS what makes life shit for us if we “fail” to make it happen. So thank you, Hannah, for this talk. Really needed it ❤️
As the freshman in the middle of a gap semester because the first one was a flaming dumpster fire.... I needed this so much😭
Thank you for making this video. So fucking relatable!! I regretted my college experience and felt like it was my fault or I did something wrong. I had to learn to accept that my experience was my journey and that was ok. I had to go through what I went through to be who I am today.
I am from a small town in Wisconsin. I ended up moving to Minneapolis for my first semester of college. Two weeks into the second semester, I came home and essentially "dropped out". Everyone was like "wow, that's not the girl that I knew". I ended up finding a college that I love 25 minutes from my home, and I commute everyday! I love being home but I don't love my hometown... that is the whole reason that I wanted to move away that first semester. I feel this video!! I never imagined that in my college years I would be doing online classes in the middle of a pandemic either BUT I learned that I CAN do online classes and that I nail them. It has been such a learning experience but overall, it's okay that these years did not go according to plan. If I would've stayed at the first college, there's no way I would've been able to find the correct career path and majors that I am pursing now.
I can relate to it , I had a complete breakdown but my teacher's support , meeting the right people and following the right instructions made me come out of my depression. 💜
I can feel you saying " my heart knew that I'm not supposed to be here"... I know how much it hurts walking inside the campus and meeting the people would feel like
And I also know that deep down it still bothers you too , We'll get through it girl
I would have graduated in two months but life took a turn and I’m starting a new path and finishing my first semester in nursing school in a week. It’s hard to accept things don’t always go as planned but I’m so happy where I’m at now. Thank you for videos like this makes me feel like I’m not alone 💜 your videos like this made me want to subcribe when I did I felt like I had someone who truly understood what I was going through. And yes Everything is a learning experience if you make it one. That’s my life motto 👏🏼
oh god the intros are always on POINT
i went to a pretty school, it was nice. made no friends, was super unhappy, and wasting money. i transferred closer to home to save money and lived happily seeing my family, working a job i liked, and commuting to school. it doesn’t have to be about a big school experience where you go in to debt. everyone is so different and college isn’t always what it’s made out to be!
THANK YOU so much for posting this. I have been thinking about this topic a lot... my college experience is not like the “typical” one and I’ve totally been beating myself up over it thinking I’ve been doing something wrong!!! But I’m not!!! Thank you thank you for validating how I’ve been feeling and reminding me that it’s okay❤️❤️
My school years (all 14 of them) were the best ones for me, this last year (I'm in 12th grade rn) has been awful, our last year was wasted online but I still believe that my school years were amazing! It built me up so much and I made a real family there, though a little bit stressful, I loved and still love my school so much. I'm looking forward to med-school now. Thank you for the video Hannah, I'll definitely try to not have unrealistic expectations now 😊❤️
I needed this video thank you so much for this I literally was sad walking out of my campus library and seeing a sorority group walk by. I felt discouraged because I’m not in something like that but now I feel better about it
man, this video makes me feel seen and heard!! finally, someone who speaks the TRUTH 🙌🏻💕 i have made literally 1 friend throughout my 3 years of college and honestly have been quite lonely throughout it all. I’m hoping my senior year is better, but it’s so hard watching peers on social media hangout with their friends and say how college is the “best years of their life”. i guess i’ve got more to look forward to after college, but i’m just nervous that i won’t know how to make any friends once i graduate since I won’t be around people my age constantly anymore 🥺
This^. Needs to be talked about more. Thanks for spreading this awareness. I relate so much. Media romanticizes college/ what college “should be” all the time and it’s different for everyone/ never gonna be like how it is in the movies (tv etc.). It may not even be 4 years and that’s ok. I transferred colleges three times, experienced bullying, experienced living on campus and commuting, went to 2 year and 4 year schools, had some high highs, and really low lows. College can be great but it can also really suck. But the years are transformative nonetheless.
I went through the exact same thing I moved away because I thought I wanted to be independent af and live it up but I was miserable and ended going back home I was ashamed at first but it was the best decision I ever made I’m so much happier now and I’m saving money 🙃
Thank you for this video, Hannah. I'm graduating this coming week and really needed it.
I went to your dream school and have hated every minute of it. I've felt incredibly guilty these past few weeks because I look at the students around me who've had such amazing experiences and I just can't relate. I never participated in campus life because I commuted all four years. I think it's easy to feel a lot of regret/guilt at the time of graduation. No one should, though, because regardless of the past four years, the coming days are a new start. I'm excited for them.
i have two semesters left and been worried lately that i needed to drastically change things this year because i need to pack 4 years of "necessary college experiences into the next 7 months". i needed to hear this. thank you ❤️
literally THANK YOU! I keep changing my mind what I want to do for the rest of my life, and the thought of college freaks me out
Hannah literally SO REAL to us IL HER
thank you so much for this video, it helps to see others having non-traditional college experiences. when i was close to graduating high school, i panicked and decided to go to my local community college instead of a big name 4-year uni because i had no idea what i wanted to do and i was terrified of moving away from home. for nearly a year i felt like a failure for that decision. now one semester away from graduating with my associates degree, i can say that was one of the best decisions i've ever made. while working through my gen ed requirements i was able to explore different career interests and find out what i really wanted to study, all while paying a fraction of the cost compared to 4-year unis and staying close to home. i wish transferring was more widely talked about, its a valuable option to have! also, college is HARD no matter where you go and i wish it werent so romanticized.
I had a rough first two years of college. I struggled so much with it. I finally decided that I would transfer, which is where things started to get better when I found a school that I like and actually have opportunities to do things. I loved it so much that I decided to go back there and do grad school.
i needed thisss i start college in the fall and i’m staying in my hometown, i didn’t get accepted into my dream college and that was really hard for me to accept. i felt like i failed myself but i’m excited to go to the school i choice and start learning more. this reassured me that things will turn out the way they’re supposed to 🤍
HANNAH OMG I NEEDED THIS SO BAD. as a graduating senior I'm already stressed over which college to go to whether I move 2 hours away to a UC college that really isn't in my heart or go to community college. I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH THANK YOU
ME TOO ME TOO. this is literally my same situation haha I'm trying to figure out between going an hour and a half away to a uc which was never my first choice or cc, I feel like if I do cc I might regret not going to that uc for that full "college experience" which is something I always thought I wanted but don't want to end up there and regret it because like you said it was never really in my heart either. Which do you think your going to do if you don't mind me asking?
I’m about to be a junior and I’m literally going to change my major for the 3rd or 4th time on Tuesday. I was doing accounting but I literally hate it and get so much anxiety even thinking about it. I was out of school for like 3 years because I got married and had kids, but I still couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do with my life. It wasn’t until literally like two nights ago that I had an epiphany and decided I want to major in MIS. It fits my interests so well and I don’t know how I didn’t realize it earlier, but that’s okay. Better late than never 🤷🏻♀️
Girl, I'm literally so thankful for this video and you being REAL. Like, different event but same thought. Everyone around me said that high school experience is another level, friendship is tottaly warmer than everything blå blå. And they also said that i shouldn't be going another city for high school because I cant make it? Like how, do u even know me? But yeah I listened all of them and I decided to stay in the city that I ve been living for 13 years. (Even if I hate this city)
I'm senior right now and to be honest it was the worst experience that I've ever had.
Friends? They caused my anxiety.
Living with family so u can be relaxed? I got stress all the time. I was going to school just for escape from home and coming to home just for escape from school. What a beautiful Loop.
So yeah all this 4 years I just thought something is wrong with ME! All of my friends(!) were having so much fun during their high school life and I was just struggling. Everything went bad and all the time I blame myself for this. :((
It's good to hear that is not my foult...
I’m so happy you made this video. People (including myself) often have unrealistic expectations of what college will be. While I made amazing friends and have good memories, I spent most my time in the library. My stress and anxiety was at an all time high. Thank you for sharing your experience💗
Hey, thanks for your video because after my today’s mental break down it is really great to see it. I have my last finals on Wednesday and my graduation is next month after oral exams from 2 different areas of questions 🙄🤪 It will be really crazy month and I’m looking forward to your next content. You go girl! 🌸❤️📚👩🏼🎓👩🏼💻
Wow. That's a lot as your working so hard on your education.
That beginning edit though... felt like the beginning of a movie!!
love these sit down, talk videos 🤎! so far, my college experience has been a good one, and I am very thankful for that because I understand that it is different for everyone. I am a pre-med major and I have absolutely fallen in love with it (like I knew I would). I chose to start out at a community college before I transfer to a university. I am about to complete my first full year of community college and it feels amazing! this is my last official week before summer! I feel like in the one year that I have experienced that I have grown so much as a person and I've learned so many things both academically and personally. the amount of self-growth that I've experienced from college is everything!
I 100% agree with you. Not everyone is going to have the same experience, everybody is different and likes to do different things. I am glad that you are able to talk about this because I feel the same way! So many people think that college is all about moving away from home and partying, etc. but that's not true for everyone. I personally had a mixed experience, I met some of the best people, but my mental health plummeted my junior year due to some personal things. I also want to say thank you Hannah, your videos have helped me through some rough times, and congrats on graduating!! ❤️❤️