He asked his girlfriend to be more responsible & THIS is her reaction
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
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4gis on my jeep
Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she chooses which state benefits her the most.
Fax🗣️
this genuinely goes hard
Facts
This also applies to Black Privilege as well.
We have another word for that: COWARD.
"She said I should feel lucky that she even gave me a chance." Okay... So why did you not just date the "tall, jacked, had tats" guy then?
they don't want her now that she has kids.
Because they are likely poor and unstable?
@@renmcmanus exactly. after women have their fun they "settle" for a guy that will take care of them financially.
Because those guys aren't stupid. They would do the Home Depot and screw, nut and bolt before taking care of another man's child.
It ain't just an insult, it's a warning. It's a red flag that she's going to cheat on you in the future if she can. So break it off while you can!
Ah, people overestimating how much they're worth, always fun to watch someone tell them the truth
It's quite amazing how many people have completely abandoned humility and grace and still think they are great people.
@@musicninja98sometimes my mind thinks like that
@@NaisanSama same here, sometimes you'd have to acknowledge your lowest point in life in order to appreciate the moment you're in the highest point
When my ex bugged out she thought she will have it made and I'd be miserable. Now I'm happy single and she's depressed and suicidal.
Feeling sorrier for her kid than the ex. Guy can walk away, but the kid... he's going to be there when she needs to vent.
Oh boy, I can imagine the outcome
i just hope that kid doesn't grow up thinking about relationships the same way his mom does.
@@teamtx1578he won’t, hes gonna be indoctrinated to the ideology of serving women his entire life
With fewer parts on the lower section as well.@@ayyytism6081
@@ayyytism6081Could be worse, ending up like that villain from Typing of the Dead. 💀
Guys, stop paying for another persons debt! If a woman is over 25, single, has a child and still has debts then just run. The amount of red flags there are staggering. Also, just because you make more than your partner, doesn't mean you have to pay more. Separate your assets so you have some financial protection even from the long con types. If need be, consult a lawyer specialized in asset protection.
If you get lawyers involved to protect your assets as you engage yourself in what is supposed to be durable romantic relationship founded on love and sacred duty, you are setting yourself up for divorce from the very start. Married people typically join their bank accounts, which is the exact opposite of your suggestion to raise legal barriers preemptively. It reinforces the lifelong oath they swear to each other on the altar. The way to avoid long con types is to marry a person whom you know and your community knows, someone who was raised in the same value system as you, who has plainly embraced it wholeheartedly, who can be vetted by 20 elders whose judgement you can rely on.
The problem nowadays is most people don't have such a community. They don't have a network of wisdom and people-knowledge to find their mate. They are completely atomized individuals seeking other atomized individuals at random hoping they win the relationship lottery. This practically never happens and thus most relations end in disaster. If you want to find true everlasting love, first join a community, which are always centered around religious institutions (so I guess first you need to start believing in something greater than yourself, your desire to bang a female, and your bloody assets), devote yourself to that community and that faith with your whole heart and soul, and I can practically guarantee you that community will give back to you by producing the faithful wholesome woman of your dreams, and then you'll have 4+ kids with her and live happily ever after.
The key is not to have bloody lawyers backing you up in case of psycho bitches, it's being involved with a faith-based community (in physical space, not online.) where such rotten eggs are quickly spotted and routed out. Always has been. Always will be. I don't care which one you join. A Jewish one, or Muslim, or Christian, Mormon, Amish, or perhaps even a native American tribe, it doesn't matter. But you must HAVE one, or you are doomed to spiritual solitude, and therefore solitude of all kinds.
Agreed, the guy is a idiot
You dont have to run, but dont be paying their debts. Hell, if they realy like you they dont need anything but your time and affection. If they start demanding money then thats a sign to leave. They where scraping by before, so you dont need to come in and be the white knight for them. Even if you end up getting amried, keep 3 bank accounts. One for each person and a joint one you both contribute to for bills. Feeling like someone is just using you for money is an easy way to sour a relashionship.
he made a huge mistake being Captain SaveAHoe.
And this is why Parents need to teach kids about financial responsibility instead of spoiling them all the time.
Facts 🎯
100% this is why she is acting this way. She is under the impression that this is the way things are meant to be.
She has bigger problems than financial resposabilities. Financial responsability is one of the least harmful problem that she has. She has an overinflated sense of worth and nothing to back it up with. No skills, no intelligence by the way he describes her. She is just an average self-entitled spoiled women that still has the mentality of a highschooler. She never matured......despite having a kid.
If the govt. treat women how they treat men they would immediately remove the kid from her custody because she proves she is irresponsable.
@@s1os2s3 I mean financial responsibility is hardly small. Not having it is the thing thats feeding her ego and sense of self importance. You can temper any ego with responsibility, just by being aware of the costs and making herself more willing to cover debt is already gonna flip her character by at least 50%. The rest of course has to come from her.
@@yammoto148 Not in this case. Her problem is that she is a bitch primarily. She never matured to know what responsability is.
You shouldnt expect someone as immature as her to be financial responsable. It is the least of her problems. I didnt say it is small or big. I said it is the least of her problems.
You can be the most financial responsable person in the world but if you're a bitch then no one wants you.
Also, her inflated ego does not come from money. It comes from the account of her being hot at some point and means that people was not be honest with her and had not called her out on her bullshit. They sung her song to bang her. When you go out clubbing you dont go out to have philosophical discussions. You go to have fun and have sex.
If that woman is not responsible on her own bills, I wonder if she is responsible on her job.
Probably not, got it via nepotism.
She works from home. I severly doubt it.
1) Government contractor
2) Got it handed to her
3) Remote worker
4) *_Government_* contractor
The evidence suggests: not very.
Yeah, the moment the "I could've had any guy I wanted, you should feel lucky I gave you a chance" argument comes in, the only valid response should be
"OK, then be with those other guys. We're over." The KYS thing? Yeah, no. He should run for the hills. Get a good lawyer, make sure she cannot falsely accuse him of anything and run like his life depended on it - because it pretty much does.
The fact that priscilla image was on the caption make it more accurate
"maybe they can pay your rent then"
His mistake was dating a single mom at all. Leave her
AITA? No you're not the @hole. You're right in telling your girlfriend to be more responsible.
Yep, thats a healthy conversation to have too.
I'm actually surprised he got so much support. That sub typically downvotes anyone who sides with the man into oblivion, regardless of what the situation. You don't even have to straight up side with the man. Even just saying ESH Will cause the entire subreddit to dogpile on you.
Hell, I got permabanned because some failure of a grocery store supervisor who became a moderator happens to be on watch when I said NTA.
I usually go into those subs and reply nta to any guy posting there just to piss off the sub
Nta?
@@user-cs4su3ng9l Not the asshole.
@@user-cs4su3ng9l"Not_The_Asshole"
That's one of the reasons I'm hesitant to start a relationship. If I take care of the bills, she'd think I'm buying her affection (or her body). If I don't, she'd think I'm not rich enough to support her (or any other BS). Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Don't get involved, simple.
I ain't saying to start hating on or resenting or any dumb shit, just avoid... since that will be better for you.
I really hope you try one day to find yourself the partner you deserve. Trust me, I've had several bad relationships that made me question myself and if I'm the problem. Then I found an amazing guy and we became the fabled Power Couple of legend. We play to our strengths and cover each other's weaknesses. And I wish you such fortune with a relationship, if you still want one. Being single is okay too. ❤
Ensure that the two of you are properly communicating. Otherwise, things get ugly.
Don't be afraid. As much as modern feminism and western wokeness has ruined people, especially women - there are still good women out there who have sense. There will be a woman out there for you who will be understanding and thankful for your kindness. Of course, you can run in with some bad apples, but that's part of the risk of life. There's no such thing as no risk, and to find happiness you'll have to take risks.
this is why you date someone who has a job and has the same mentality as you too.
For example, my GF offer to paid me the things i did for her for free for her twitch channel (I'm an illustrator), despite i told her not to. Why? because she can invest that into other stuffs and if feels she wants to do it once it get better. I will keep supporting her with my work too. She also has a well paid job and make 3 times more. YEAH! even if my work is paid as well and i told her there will be moments i won't be able to do anything because of other works.
If any of this is true it only proves why you can’t help some people and to never be with awful individuals like her.
I see a lot of people saying that it's on the guy for dating someone like her in the first place. Dude...
A lot of people, whether they're people who haven't dated before or who are more experienced, don't find out about the dark sides of their partner until well after they start dating or worse, after they're married. It's good that he realised and ended it (well, she kicked him out but still) late than never. You guys are basically victim-blaming.
I do worry for the kid though. Yikes...
Adding to that: it takes two to tango. She was likely looking for someone to exploit
You need to be smart to be a sociopath.
Bah, screw the kid. It's from a helllspawn so why should anyone be worried? OP should've been glad he didn't end up becoming homeless. By the looks of things, OP probably never had any red pilled realisations. Single mother in real life is always a red flag.
Being a single mother is a HUGE red flag. How can somebody just ignore that?
Partially agree, but they don't live together and he is paying her bills.
The more I grow up, the more I realized how common sense and self-awareness is such a blessing in this era where common sense and self-awareness is non-existent or an alien concept to most people, and I'm starting to appreciate what I have
As someone who I don't know once said to me, "Common sense isn't as common as you think it is" and that is the sad truth. I would pin it on parents, not teaching it well and/or the brain rot that is social media.
Women completely understand this, but they’re too evil to acknowledge
@@ayyytism6081
evil snakes
@@demonslayereren3970 what women are
The lack of religious instruction is to blame
His first mistake was even considering a single mother with non-existing baby daddy. That alone tells you 90% what the female is about.
The second was helping her get a better job. When a woman earns more than a man, she will find ways to dump said man. Thinking she's all that. If it weren't for him paying for everything and his cousin, she would still be be in that low paying job.
@@angelphoenix7784 Yep to both.
People that shriek "these are just stereotypes that don't apply to all women!" or "but, but men do these things too!" are ignoring that these patterns of behavior are a constant trend with women more so than in men -- as in you can literally and accurately predict how situations like these are going to go from just the initial bits of info given.
It's getting to the point where a lot of people, especially younger people, are asking "were our great-grandparents correct?".
I mean, not always. She could have been the widow of a young policeman who got killed in the line of duty, which would explain why she's 29, single, with one kid, and still a wholesome and kind mother and would be wife to anyone willing to pick up after the late first husband.
Or maybe it was the father of the child who was an abusive A-hole in the prior relationship and she had to end it all to protect her kid. Single mothers aren't automatically bad eggs. Sometimes there isn't even one bad egg to be found. My parents got divorced after 12 years of marriage and having had 3 kids, and neither of them were bad eggs, its just that their relationship fell apart over time. They didn't knew themselves and each other all that well when they first married (they were only 21 at the time), and strained to maintain a genuine romance. It happens. They both quickly found another partner that was better suited for them, and growing up it's almost like I had two dads and two moms. Both couples are still together and happy 30 years later.
All that being said, do your homework before you commit. Look for the signs. Bag eggs aren't that hard to crack and they smell awful. You'll know fast enough if you just pay attention.
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Unfortunately, those scenarios are pretty much the exceptions and not the rule (like they used to be), these days.
The only sympathy (empathy?) I'd have for single mothers is if they were fleeing extreme circumstances (such as an abusive partner) or suffered from a tragedy (such as their partner being killed or dying).
But, again, most single mothers these days, pretty much the default why they're single mothers really, are single mothers because they're just train-wrecks.
And, to be cold? Dating a single mother, no matter the cause, typically has the same effects when it comes being a priority in their lives compared to a woman without children, and when it comes to your role in that child's life itself.
"Blended families" always have cracks and faults -- it's just some survive them and others don't (personally I know families that had both outcomes, but the latter is more the depressing norm).
It's just a headache all around compared to dating an unattached woman.
Additionally, if the woman you were dating basically chose you over her own child (this can apply to single fathers dating women too). would you really want to be with someone so morally repugnant that they'd ditch their own child in favour of a new partner?@@liwendiamond9223
a large chunk of women these days are entitled brats who are coddled through life and in the workforce.. People need to start realizing this.
correction: Western women
maybe it's a western thing? idk
A lot if not all women I know are hard working and dedicated.
And still claim they're oppressed, it's absolutely sick.
Nah, it's more of it being all posted on the internet. It seems like they are all like this because we can't see all of the succes stories since they aren't being posted or just not as much.
*Western women, but yeah.
What a lot of people don't realize because of modern feminism is that women are generally predisposed to be coddled. Think about it - before civilization women were always being protected and provided for by men. Men brought home the food from hunts, and men protected women from predators. This is because women's role at the time was to give birth and take care of children, which pretty much meant that they had to "stay in the kitchen". This is also why women are seen as more compassionate and empathetic - they HAD to be since it was their entire job to raise children.
This natural state of seeking protection from men carried over to when civilization and societies were established. You can even see this natural order today with things like "women and children first", "you can't hit women", the fact that the military is still almost entirely composed of men especially on the front lines, women wanting tall guys who make a lot of money for physical protection and financial gain, the whole culture of men opening doors for women that only recently became obsolete, and more. You can also see the natural tendency of women towards feminine, care oriented roles in things like their love of cute things like pets/babies, their higher rates of working at jobs like teachers, daycare employees, and nurses, and also the tendency of women to vote for bigger government because they want to help people through regulation (and also because they're less independent and expect a larger force like the government to protect them.)
Due to their relative physical weakness, women also preferred relational warfare as a means of competition against other women to get men. This is why women are more prone to gossip and care a lot about fashion: status is the name of the game.
All this goes to show that gender roles exist for a reason and that given absolute free will, men and women will naturally gravitate towards certain things. The only reason why people don't understand this nowadays is because they've been brainwashed by feminism and birth control has made them forget that for most of history, women were immobilized because of pregnancy. Now am I saying that all women should stay in the kitchen, period? No. If a woman wants to take on a traditionally male occupation and is qualified for it, I really don't give a shit. In fact, I actually respect them. And birth control is a good thing, as long as it is safe and used properly.
What I am saying is that people need to stop attributing shit like "the pay gap" and the fact that there are less women in STEM to "muh patriarchy". Women have free choice in Western society, if they wanted to be in STEM or jobs that pay better they would. But of course, because of this myth we have affirmative action crap where women are hired to fill out a quota even if they're unfit. So yes, women, minorities, they're coddled as hell. And I'm saying this as a minority myself. Then again, not much of a minority when I'm Asian and all the American universities will see that and would rather admit minorities because "Asians are overrepresented". Even if the only reason we are overrepresented is because Asians tend to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and work hard and get shit done, while whites are over here being apologists and blacks are blaming muh white supremacy for everything and looting stores like degenerates.
1:55 Okay, ignoring that OP sounds like a pretty stand-up guy, that is such a shitty thing to say about your own kid. “The only reason I’m not with someone I like is because of my son,” is basically what she’s saying. Seriously hope the kid turns out okay.
The son will be a daughter in due course, probably.
If she’s venting to her kid he’s gonna grow up hating her or hating himself, probably a bit of both.
What do you mean with "stand-up guy"? Like, stoic?
She'd have a point if she wasn't trying to date someone to be her ATM, and just dedicated herself to making sure that ends met for her son as the top priority.
My mom was the latter for about 18 years after getting divorced. Dudes could wait, and sometimes vacations because times could get tight. Trying to keep things stable for a child to grow up should be more important than looking for walking ATMs and "playing the spread."
Asking women to take accountability (impossible challenge)
"I know what I said was a lot-" No, Chief, not really, it was pretty much on par with the shit she said. She just doesn't like being dished back the stuff she's more than happy to serve.
He put it nicer than I would've that's for sure.
@@teamtx1578 Woulda called that b a 100 KG
Love how they all immediately start blaming the guy. Despite that women being absolutely toxic
First of all the biggest mistakes of the o.p was dating her when she was very irresponsible with money.
Probably the reason why her previous boyfriend left her.
@@kish45Damn right.
Ah I love these "Am i the AH" posts. I've been stuck in this rabbit hole for months. It's like the best drama, It easily replaces soap operas and telenovelas.
Just wait until we have soaps generated by AIs trained on it. It's gonna be legendary.
Don't get too attached to it though. You'll ruin your mental health
I'm just saying, getting into reading about other people's drama as a main source of entertainment, really isn't great for your own mental health, and it's just a friendly reminder, not a judgement on you. I know this channel itself is creating content that to a degree mongers on drama, but hero hei at least switches up the topics and makes videos about whatever interesting or important is happening, drama and negativity aside. And I'm really only saying this 'cause real life negativity and conflict is really not the same thing as a soap opera or television series-where you don't have to actively put in the mental energy to judge people or compare to yourself morally, you just shut your brain off and enjoy the writing and performance of the show. And on the internet when we know that these people are real and that they can be compared to ourselves, focusing on it can then slowly change how we perceive ourselves and others for the worse. It's a subconscious thing, whether we're aware of it or not. But I'll admit that it can be entertaining too, but I hope the rabbit hole doesn't get too long for you like it does for some unfortunately.
@@bc-cu4onWe can already have those, it's just that nobody is making it. I think the next best thing was the AI Seinfeld show.
The classic "I'm a 10/10 no matter my flaws and detriments. Because my delusion overrides reality."
She was just using the guy. That lady will never stop parasitizing her partners in relationships.
This is actually a typical line of distraction in an argument.
She did not like the money talk because she knew there was truth in the discussion, so she had to deflect to other things.
This is a pretty common tactic and not surprising it was even brought up. Looks, career, and sexual performance are pretty common poking points.
You just have to let it slide off you guys. It doesn't mean anything when it gets to pure insults.
Just brute force past and ignore the insults. Keep to the point.
10 months isn't long, and without living together it's probably the best time to determine whether he wants to stay with her or not.
I feel like part of this came from Bill Burr....
The fact that's even a consideration to stay with her is extremely worrisome. That relationship had more red flags than a CCP parade.
Lol this woman is delusional
0:09 The power of achieves! The power of Venti!
Maybe this would work better if people decided to be together because they actually enjoy each other's company. You know, be the best friend you want to have as family.
This "transactional arrangement" that leaves people feeling replaceable is not a relationship, and the two shouldn't be confused.
I just hope the kid doesn't grow up with the same warped view on relationships as his mom. He both needs and deserves a much better role model.
This can only work if we went back to a system where nobody is allowed to have sex before marriage. It’s expected to be a virgin before marriage and there isn’t any sex before tying the knot. Additionally, courting consists of small dates and quality time getting to know each other and their families. By comparison, modern dating is legal prostitution.
I couldn't date someone who takes terrible finance decisions.
I just can't imagine myself trying to rewire their brain into that of a working adult who can do math and think ahead.
She's a single mother: she's already a master at bad decisions.
In this instance, yes.
Every instance
@@joecooper8527Wow the misogyny in here is astounding. Being a single mother is not always a choice, if it ever is
@@toony1232So.... It wasn't a choice to lie down with another person knowing there is a risk of getting pregnant and them potentially leave or being absent foh 😂
@@toony1232 The choice to not sleep with anyone without proper vetting of the other person's character ?
Reddit: "What, that's what kms means?"
Anyone who knew what kys means: "... Was the wording around the use of it not enough context?!"
Kys? I love their music
"I wanna rock and roll all night! And party every day!"
No self respecting man earning 112k should be dating a single mother. Always a miserable choice
It's a good thing he realized what kind of person she is before they get married and ended the relationship. It would be worse if he found out later and she wanted divorce. She would take half maybe more, everything that he owned. And he still has to pay for her and the kid monthly.
No wonder her previous boyfriend didn’t want to be involved.
Why are people paying off other peoples debts, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
Hornyness and litteral centuries of "respect all wahmen"
The girl was kinda right, OP was likely a loser with money. By the way he goes about his life.
@gr33dl0cknein3 Dude sounds very naive. This isn't a real relationship.
Susan yeeted one of the replies.
@@benjaminrogers8875 even in death Susan still haunts us.
An unfortunate but good rule of thumb is to never be responsible for someone's basic living (just dating, not married, but even then you need this sorted out before marriage) and I would say that to any man or woman looking for dates.
I get that some people are more well off and they want to help, and they shouldn't feel bad about that to a certain extent, but you NEED to be careful.
The fine line between generous and exploited is as thin as the line between grateful and greedy. They may look the same at the time, but they're very different words the longer it goes on.
It's less about not being responsible for someone's basic living and more about not being responsible for helping them fix themselves up. That said, your argument about basic needs is correct for a different reason - both partners should be financially independent before marriage so that they can easily end the relationship if they need to. After marriage it's okay if one partner isn't financially independent as long as they're contributing in other ways - like child-rearing, housework, etc. That said, it's becoming easier for stay at home parents to be financially independent because of online work.
The real good rule of thumb is don't be with someone who has an unhealthy amount of debt and is in a bad place financially. First because it is usually (but not always) a good indicator of financial irresponsibility.
The second reason is this. You know how if you take on a liability like Accounts Payable and an asset like Furniture when you buy a table on account? Well, providing for a financially unstable partner is like getting Accounts Payable, but then there's a high chance your furniture gets burned down in a house fire. In other words, it's a very risky liability to take on, both in terms of financial investment and emotional investment.
I see stuff like this and I feel like an outlier among women. I can't imagine having someone else pay my bills or spending crazy. I've been through enough times of tight money that even with everything I've paid off myself, I have to keep being frugal because it doesn't take much to end up in a money's tight again situation.
Same here :(
you are lucky that your soul isnt as bleack as night/snake
She is 29 and has a kid. She is done with dating unless being used for a fun night.
*sips tea* Ah, Matriarchy. Lovely.
Get toxic people out of your life ASAP,
P.S: people not knowing what kms was, was kinda wholesome ngl
Dude didn't dodge a bullet, but an ENTIRE artillery barrage.
I may be cruel and not every single parents are like this but don’t date people with children.😮
Or just look at the circumstances and weight the pros and cons as you always should do with any relationship.
@@Dice-Z The circumstances are that she's without a partner and with a kid(s), that's all you need to know to avoid.
The only exceptions are widows.
@@justsomeguywithlasereyes9920 Not really
He definitely wasn’t the jerk.
"She has a son from a previous relationship" stop right there, that's already a huge red flag unless she's a widower, and even then it's based on what the relationship was. There is a reason why she dosen't have a father to go with that child and majoirty of the time it's because of herself and she has ZERO accountability for it.
I am absolutely flabbergasted by this
There are videos about things like this. Helping a woman get a better paying job. She will find ways to break off the relationship.
"I can get any guy I want."
"Why don't you?"
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Skeletor: MYAH! JUST LIKE A WOMAN!
while there were red flags from the start, bro really shouldn't have needed to feel like his thoughts of leaving her had to be justified and approved by the public. dude just wanted someone, not some witch sucking his life dry.
For all of the women out there. I don't recommend telling a man who knows your psychical location to kill himself. If he does it it only goes two ways. Alone or with as many people as possible. You are risking your own stupid life saying that.
No money discipline with a kid is a red flag.
Acting like a hot girl over 30 with a kid is a big red flag.
"Do men fall for the damsel in distress thing this easily?"
Many men can derive joy from providing or helping people out, some find it more fulfilling to use the money they earn on those they care about instead of themselves.
So yes, if you play it right it can be an easy way to manipulate a guy who actually wants that responsibility... at least he will until you manipulate him. Who knows, maybe his bachelor life starts now?
This is something you will also notice in East Asian countries, where girls will tell guys they like about struggles they are having to see his reaction and check if he shows any interest in it.
I've heard some say that if he is disinterested in it, he's probably not looking long term where her struggles will become his as well, to an extent.
How hard is it for people to believe the guy was dating the girl cause he liked her and didn't see the crazy till later. Most manipulated relationships aren't so easy to sniff out at first.
But no dude must be average loser dating down, what?
Honestly it just shows the lack of experience on his side and the lack of maturity. That's why the earlier in life you get into "trouble" with women, the less expensive it is to end those relationships and gain valuable experience. He is lucky not to get married to her, that would be an utter failure.
@@TheEthereaUnless you've taken a dive into the (rational side) of the Manosphere &/ Red Pill. I've personally heard enough horror stories that are so similar to this or worse & seen the statistical evidence, that I want absolutely nothing to do with women. I don't hate'em, I'm just too afraid of how easily they can destroy men's lives & get away with it.
To me, there is no relationship that could ever make me trade in the peace of mind I get from being alone.
"Better to have loved & lost than never to have loved at all" that is grade a BS in today's world. Ain't no amount of good memories that you can experience with a person in a relationship that can make it worth the relatively high possibility that you will go through stuff like this or worse.
OP dodged a freaking ballistic missile there
"you should feel lucky i gave you a chance"
Me: well im not really feeling so lucky now from how shitty you've been treating me. In fact this is a miserable relationship
Growing up in Asia, as a man who make enough of a living, I think it's basically given that a girlfriend is an expense and a wife is contracted expense. I always pay for everything in my relationship. So, I don't really find his situation any dire nor unfair. He went in head first knowing what he gets himself into. In my culture, we rarely ever take a divorced woman, though. She can divorce one, second is just a repeat. Probably a few exceptions that will be normal is if the husband died. In a few dates I had with westerners, the moment I play the money drying game, they'd show their tails. Good test for gold diggers.
Your culture is not their culture though, judging it by the same metric is dumb.
@@WeWillAlwaysHaveVALISNo shit, OP repeatedly said "in my culture" in multiple ways to let the reader know about HIS experience from HIS culture.
If women aren't supposed to contribute to the family, why are they allowed to work?
@@09f9 So you're saying that in cultures where women aren't expected to contribute to the family, they shouldn't work?
@@09f9 You'd have to ask women why they want to work. They're the ones that chose to serve corpos and government instead of their husbands.
Guys like this need to learn that it is cheaper and easier to hire a call girl than it is to date someone, especially someone with kids.
It's better to be single than to be in a half ass relationship
feel sorry for the kid, that lady is a textbook example of a toxic relationship even before her unalive comment.
Ah yes the "you make more so you'll pay for my troubles" and she wonders why her past relationships went bad
It's telling how toxic reddit is for that being deleted.
Mistakes:
1. Being serious about a single mom
2. Paying her bills while she isn't even living with him
3. Paying her debts.
4. Risking your credibility getting her a better job through your connections when you don't even live together yet,
Even before this happened he made way too many mistakes in his relationship with her. Now she got him to pay her bills, her debt and improve her job she isn't thankful she just thinks he deserves her even less.
If you wouldn't trust a person with your credit card, then definitely do not begin a relationship with that person.
I'm always amazed by this kind of entitlement, I genuinely don't understand how some people get like that, thinking they just deserve everything on a plate for 0 effort.
Paying bills for someone and be at that level of ungrateful.
Well, she's just God's gift, y'know? Probably thinks she got that job by herself, too. I work in a hive of nepotism, hard to escape... makes things suck, including the company
Being put on a pedestal their whole lives does that to a person.
'Archive Activate!'
That with the venti pic got me laughing
He should feel blessed and lucky to get out of that relationship.
Man your venti joke powers are getting better and better also hows the new region in genshin for you
I insist women think they're above men and must be taken down a few pegs... Several pegs.
Man if I was that girl I would even be living with the guy, I wouldn't forcefully make him pay for two houses Jesus
Well I gotta say I hope after the girl told him to end himself I hope he cut ties with her and took the kid I really hope because I don't wanna see a woman that crazy take care of the kid
(Pd:in another tone , if she changes for the better maybe she could be allowed to see the kid but I highly doubt the guy should be with that sicko anymore)
Gods I wish if they split up he could take the kid, but the kid isn't his which means he probably has 0 legal right to take her kid😭 only thing that could be done is calling CPS, but there doesn't seem to be any signs of abuse or neglect of the kid so... the only issue would be irresponsibility with money. 😭😭
@@PillowDxmon the people in this world sometimes surprise me on how incompetent and cruel they can be... But I shouldn't be surprised at this point , wish the best for that poor child
@@saidzilla226 me too. I hope that mom gets her shit together, if not for her then for her kid. Seems like she loves the kid cause she was buying him a bunch of stuff, but might also be for ego.
Hyped to watch
PERFECT thumbnail.
Should've taken the PS5 back and said " try get the next guy to your son a PS5" or "my purchase, my PS5".
Man dodged an intercontinental missle
this is why im glad my life is in the lowest point....at the very least i wouldnt get my hopes up if i found someone and fell in love with em
Could end up being like this and its sad
This is why basing a relationship on looks will always fail. Zero sympathy for the poor dude that didn't think things through.
Dude did nothing wrong. If she thinks she can get any "high value" male she wants while already having a kid from another relationship, she is delusional and needed this wake up call. Unfortunately, she won't learn her lesson until she's in her mid forties and alone after her kid leaves home. Women that delusional take YEARS to finally get it and sometimes they still never do.
Considering I'm watching videos regarding AIT(A/J), the OP in this situation is NTA. He's better off without her. When she got her new salary her greediness started to show by purchasing irresponsibly. If this is her place in her name, the OP is lucky to have been kicked out only, cause now he can sit at his parents/grandparents/cousins/siblings places until he finds his own place to rent/purchase if he doesn't have one yet. She kept him for the most part so that he can pay the bills/utilities blah blah. She has a few loose screws to even insult her own child.
The OP can find someone that actually can reciprocate feelings, it's just not the right time yet probably. It's gonna take a while to find the right person, but honesty and trust is what a relationship is standing on.
Without him her life would be totally different. He had connections and made her career. He paid her bills and who knows what else. She would be living in a single wide trailer or in government housing without him. She never cared for him and just wanted a walking wallet with intimacy benefits. He sounds like a great man, responsible and has a good head on his shoulders. He deserves so much better, she will regret it especially if she looses her job or has to file for bankruptcy due to her absolute horrible financial management. I pray for him and for that woman's poor child. I also pray for her, that she wakes up and see's what she has become and the wickedness that she does. I hope she realizes that you can't treat and use people like that, it will always come back to bite you in the rear horribly. . She might buy her child things and spoil him but she is not teaching him responsibility or how to be a decent man . Children see EVERYTHING you do and those actions help mold their personalities/ minds. I pray her child doesn't take after her complete narcissistic selfishness and lack of compassion or her insane Comprehension of reality...
The worst part is the way she talked about her kid. I wish I could speak to the kid and tell him to be strong because her mom will make him suffer
She got knocked up by one of those "jacked and tats" boys who ditched her hard, and then latched onto someone foolish enough to walk into the trap of "Oh, I'm such a good mother, struggling to care for this boy!". Now she's got money herself, she's finally showing her true colours.
One to beam up, Captain. Get that boy out of there!
Responsiblity is becoming humanity's weakness. 💀
There are women that can be pigs.
Yeah
He would be lucky if when they break up, she dont come around asking for child support money, even though hes not the father (ive seen that happen before)
Reddit post: "Me and my gf are both 29, she has a 5yo son from a previous relationship"
Me, who's the same age, lives with his parents, and has never even been on a date: ...
Oh, and before anyone gets the wrong idea about the living with parents thing, we live on an isolated ranch (have for the past 20 years) and they have vehicle control. I've been trying to find a way to get financial independence from home, but on top of us only getting good internet less than a year ago, chores here can be demanding.
sounds better than the city or suburbia but the grass is always greener... then again you probably don't have people trying to rob you or ODing in the street, so...
"I'm leaving you, Harold."
This kind of stuffs are way more common than people would think.
I've had enough girls
I'm happy staying alone for the rest of my life .
I never want to deal with anything like this ever
I remember this one and it was bad.
this women better not be abusing her child. this kind of behaviour is a MASSIVE red flag for me. as someone who survived child abuse. this sort of behaviour leads into neglect and mental if not physical abuse.
She should at least be able to set aside $20,000 a year no problem. She's going to destroy her life with credit card debt.
I lived as a broke college student before, after some ups and down, income increased then drop to 0, then increased again. drop to 0 again then back up. I still do live like broke student now after years of promotions etc, and only use up 25% of my income and saved and invest the rest. Probably buy new gaming laptop once a few years.
The problem with her is, it seems that she thinks her life will keep going up, this is her time, now it's her chance to shine. then increased her living cost. She could have saved money easily because she got used to 40k income. Now when she got used to 70k income, she will be even more entitled, and reality will hit harder when everything goes away.
@@rtbear674 That's exactly what I mean. She will likely take on debt to maintain her lifestyle.
"End your life!"
"End our relationship? Got it"
The man's nickname must be Neo because he dodged a bullet at point-blank range
Jesus... I feel this isn't over yet, if that delusional witch acts like that when being called out, she might strike back in other ways to pass as a victim in this situation.
I don't know when exactly this happened but I hope OP warned people ASAP about what kind of witch that awful woman was before she tell lies on internet or the cousin, he risk being harassed online and doxxed because of her.
Money is always a problem in a relationship. If they can’t agree, they either need to work it out or break up.
Bruh I wish I had a nice job id be financially responsible and buy a house
The Gym-Reaper is calling this guy.
from the streets she came and too the streets she will return.
"Gurl, you should be more responsible.."
YOU LIFE IS NOTHING
YOU SERVES ZERO PURPOSE