Why narcissists must keep you in a confused state

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  • čas přidán 8. 09. 2024

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  • @monarene44
    @monarene44 Před 4 měsíci +29

    My dream died hard but I don’t miss being relegated to that of a doormat.

  • @smokeybear7669
    @smokeybear7669 Před 4 měsíci +12

    They want you to feel abnormal so they can feel normal.
    These are lost people don’t try to make sense with these covert narcissists
    you’re fighting a lost battle.

    • @johnnycorn7225
      @johnnycorn7225 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Perfect perspective, winning, time saving move.

  • @JUMPforyourLIFE
    @JUMPforyourLIFE Před 4 měsíci +14

    Joe, I’m through the trauma bond, reached the point of indifference, and I still like hearing your perspectives on this disorder. Borderlines and Narcs act similarly. Both are super freaking dangerous. I’m glad I’m still young and have learned this lesson. Thank you Joe!

    • @user-qs5hz4mf3p
      @user-qs5hz4mf3p Před 4 měsíci

      Borderlines are basically failed Narks or Narcissist Light. It's like Nark but not quite. Had a Nark and BL chasing me simultaneously. Nark was easy to see seen it before. But BL didn't know about til researched...

  • @user-qs5hz4mf3p
    @user-qs5hz4mf3p Před 4 měsíci +6

    The confusion is to get the victim to feed supply/boosts. Chasing, begging, and pleading for answers from Nark. Victims blow up phones by texting and calling non stop. Feeds Narkys self esteem and ego og being ALL SUPERIOR ALL POWERFUL..

  • @julieanna8495
    @julieanna8495 Před 4 měsíci +21

    Joe, you speak with such clarity of perspective. 👍🏼👏🏼🙌. I am so thankful to have found your incredible channel. You are making a big difference in my thoughts and here I am in my middle 60s finally figuring out these types of people 😐.

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  Před 4 měsíci +4

      Such kind words. It's an absolute pleasure 🙏

  • @NickRivers-bk2ni
    @NickRivers-bk2ni Před 4 měsíci +8

    I’ve been killing it with no contact with my ex narc. No contact since 1-17-24 and I ignored 2 Hoovers. Your content has been a big part of my healing. You are a God send. Thank you so much.

  • @flightydancer
    @flightydancer Před 4 měsíci +6

    You are so clear and wise. Sounds like you really understand this topic.

  • @kerimorgan6665
    @kerimorgan6665 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Understood and you are right… albeit some of my own doubting of what I know is true comes from myself, and not trusting my intuition. But when I am certain of something I tend to hold on to it like a dog with a bone so to speak. I am not the most patient person either 😇

  • @SagittariusBabe87
    @SagittariusBabe87 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Good day, Joe! 😊Great video today💯😁 So very true, our clarity & realization is what we need to focus on the path and OUR life. It's so imprtant to keep these toxic people far away and/or grey rock. I had quite a few toxic people in my life, family & bf's not build me up, put me down, tell me I will fail, criticize my dreams, make assumptions that were not true and try to keep me from pursuing my dreams & career. Didn't happen and they couldn't break me down. They don't want you happy(because they aren't obviously), they WILL take you down & destroy you IF you let them. They don't like when you realize all that has happened & everything becomes clear & you're focused on the path and YOUR life.
    Like you said before joe, "It's so important to cut the cord with these people."💯

  • @haneefahmuhammad3447
    @haneefahmuhammad3447 Před 4 měsíci +2

    I love how you articulate your perspective....and your art work is visually comforting and beautiful.

  • @samxsara
    @samxsara Před měsícem

    First thing I ever said to him, when I met him in fb 2020 was : “less is more”

  • @PrettyEmpowering
    @PrettyEmpowering Před 4 měsíci +2

    This message was SO GOOD! It gave me soo much clarity. It was divinely timed too. I was ruminating on something a possible narcissist said to me. I spoke about something I wanted and then they were trying to ask me why I wanted that color. And then tried to insist I get a different style, that it’s more favored, yet they have item and it’s not that style. And I was just frustrated how when I talk to this person they are constantly invalidating the things I personally want, like it’s not good enough. But they are free to live however they want and their style to me is definitely something I’m not a personal fan of whatsoever. Yet they will give tips from experts and but you don’t see them taking that advice in their own lives.
    I also had a Narc one time help me clean my room, which now I know was to monitor and observe what I have. And I cleaned off my desk and put 3 photos of myself and family at the top and they were telling me I should take them down because it looks too cluttered. I’m not defensive so I just said no, I like them. But I thought about it later, they have the mostttt cluttered room and desk. (probably bc they didn’t want me to have reminders of my own autonomy!)
    *So you really have to pay attention to critical people if they even practice what they preach, or they are just trying to confuse you from your own growth and authenticity.*

  • @learningcuisine
    @learningcuisine Před 4 měsíci +4

    Appreciate it, Joe. Your expert content is balmy and helpful in healing.

  • @Sarah_sunshine14
    @Sarah_sunshine14 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Yay….lovely Joe is back ❤…Thankyou as always with your wise words…nice end to the week…🙏🏻❤️

  • @user-hz5fn3pf1w
    @user-hz5fn3pf1w Před 4 měsíci +1

    My ex wife is a narcissist and so is my mom and guess what they are best friends my ex wife now lived with my mom with my daughter as well you have to gain discernment when you go no contact or low contact and run into them they will tell you all the great things other people are doing in hopes you feel jealous and spill everything you got going on, DONT, keep all your moves to yourself so they can’t send you the evil eye and evil energy and foil your plans

    • @samxsara
      @samxsara Před měsícem

      If you’re a male, please extricate yourself from such situation by asserting yourself and your masculine

    • @flowersofthefield340
      @flowersofthefield340 Před 22 dny

      Other people are invaluable in such matters

  • @EMGEE718
    @EMGEE718 Před 4 měsíci +5

    My man Joe B!! Whats up brother.. thank you for the great content as always!!

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  Před 4 měsíci +1

      👊👊

    • @EMGEE718
      @EMGEE718 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@joebhouse please know you've kept me upright in some very dark times... I'll forever be greatful.

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  Před 4 měsíci +2

      So happy to have helped buddy!

    • @Sarah_sunshine14
      @Sarah_sunshine14 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@EMGEE718ditto….hes amazing isn’t he ❤️

    • @EMGEE718
      @EMGEE718 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@Sarah_sunshine14 yes he is.. and so are you. I've learned so much through the pain.. one of my favorite lessons is that sometimes it's complete strangers who are there for you and understand what happened. No matter what they did, they didn't break us!! The sunshine is beautiful!

  • @amandajohnson-williams7718
    @amandajohnson-williams7718 Před 4 měsíci +2

    So true Joe, thank you ❤

  • @rvrnt196
    @rvrnt196 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Great video, thank you!

  • @flowersofthefield340
    @flowersofthefield340 Před 22 dny

    Yeap the sure dooooooo .......... but others see it too

  • @klyn9619
    @klyn9619 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 Před 4 měsíci +1

    WOW ! 😯 I missed premiere of new ''magic of Joe'' ! I just stopped waiting for it . Thank you for adding one more fantastic video, we will be watching it many times ! 🤗❤

  • @Ms_SexxyDiva504
    @Ms_SexxyDiva504 Před 4 měsíci +2

    💫 Gm Joe🌞Have a great day. Nolalower9Ward ⚜️💃🏽

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Having any hope with a covert narcissist is a no sum game

    • @flowersofthefield340
      @flowersofthefield340 Před 22 dny

      Coverts are very veŕy "sneaky" .......... nasty 😈 demons ..........
      THEY DONT EVER CHANGE & CORRUPT TO THE CORE

  • @Luke747gal
    @Luke747gal Před 4 měsíci

    Insightful as always. Thx

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 Před 4 měsíci +4

    ☕️”☕️

  • @debbiecarmona1930
    @debbiecarmona1930 Před 4 měsíci

    Thanks was waiting for your new video

  • @MiaCulpa
    @MiaCulpa Před 4 měsíci

    Yeah 100 grand drops into my bank account on the regular--give me a break with that one. You say it like it is a common example that anyone would relate to their own life. That's where you lost me. Setting my mind right never did a damned thing to help me cope with the narcissists in my life. You know what did? Cutting them out of my life--completely. Maybe I'm not caffeinated enough to follow your thought process here. This made almost zero sense to me. Guess I'm not the target audience.

  • @rozcindylove4583
    @rozcindylove4583 Před 4 měsíci

    All around the houses but I was hoping you would answer the question. No. This is all waffle. If you put a question as a title just answer it.

  • @LV4REAL
    @LV4REAL Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you, Joe!! 😊❤