Do you feel your world shrinking with each loss of family, & friend. How do you cope?

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  • čas přidán 27. 07. 2024
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Komentáře • 157

  • @marthabradas8873
    @marthabradas8873 Před měsícem +35

    I tell myself, we are born alone and we die alone. I feel I have lived my entire life alone. I try to embrace moments , and I try to let go of yesterdays . . Tomorrows are hard, I don't want to not have a tomorrow. Then I look to my faith and say that I am not in charge. I ponder the questions...but as I get older, I still do not have answers. So I try to stop looking for answers and to concentrate on living fully in the moment. 🥰 I wish you peace everyday Lindy🥰

  • @paisleydreamzz
    @paisleydreamzz Před měsícem +19

    I have a little plaque in my kitchen “bloom where you are planted”. Yes I’ve lost family and friends, but I’m certainly not ready to join them! I just try to find something or someone to enjoy every day. Prayers to all those with recent losses❤

  • @Rainismusic
    @Rainismusic Před měsícem +24

    My friend and I have had discussions about those very things in recent days. Her 47 year old son, and only child, had a massive stroke Saturday and there’s no brain activity. She takes comfort from knowing he had already signed medical papers that he wanted to be an organ donor, and that is being honored. My friend is now truly alone in this world, except for my family. She is a part of our lives and we help her when we can, but we can’t replace the loved ones she’s lost. My husband and I are getting old too, and have our disabled adult son to protect and care for. Honestly, it seems like most old folks will have to take care of themselves and each other. And it’ll be okay, we’re toughened by all of the things we’ve already experienced and took care of on our own, with the Lord’s grace and help.

  • @francesco5581
    @francesco5581 Před měsícem +15

    Every time we lose someone (even a pet) we know exactly the weight of love we had for them, and it's terrible but at the same way so powerful... and also it makes death much more acceptable. But that does not destroy the joy of living, every person (pet) we have lost is like a soft pillow of memories that warm our life. I am proud of the people (or pets) that i've lost, they are just at the next station ... All is fine, i enjoy life.

  • @susanwest2002
    @susanwest2002 Před měsícem +19

    I lost my son and my husband within 11 months.. Then turned around and lost 3 brothers the next year.. Grief works heavy on people.. You never get over it you just try to cope.. God bless everyone

    • @johnlatham3854
      @johnlatham3854 Před měsícem +2

      Susan, you have been through too much. You probably have hundreds of prayers from Lindy's channel. Your load that you carry might lighten with the help of these anonymous, kind, compassionate, followers of Lindy's channel.

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před měsícem +1

      Oh God bless you. And I mean that sincerely.

  • @cheri6174
    @cheri6174 Před měsícem +2

    So so true Lindy. I have three children. Two don’t speak to me or let me see my grandchildren. My oldest has been suffering with seizures for 22 years and will never live in his own. I’m 68 and feel absolutely no joy. We are praying for the day when my husband can retire hopefully next year and get in the road. I want to die in the open road not in a rocking chair. So afraid we won’t have enough money to survive.
    As I age I truly believe not all tragedies make you stronger. I am getting less and less able to cope with all these tragedies. You take care and know we love you

  • @martna1
    @martna1 Před měsícem +36

    What's even worse is when they betray you and reject you and are still working around, while you are left to struggle alone. It's like a stab in your heart.

    • @c.h.5998
      @c.h.5998 Před měsícem +9

      And far too often this is happening..😢

    • @martna1
      @martna1 Před měsícem +7

      @@c.h.5998 Exactly! My husband left me after 28 years. Did NOT see it coming. My only child stopped talking to me 3 years ago after decades of sacrifice raising her. She is 32 and I'm 72. I keep asking Jesus why?

    • @BettyWhite-rr2wk
      @BettyWhite-rr2wk Před měsícem +3

      This is so true. It happened to me too. ❤😊

    • @WenchInTheTinfoilHat
      @WenchInTheTinfoilHat Před měsícem +4

      Humans betray. Especially young ones. I think it’s meant to be a lesson to both parties.

    • @user-ii3vn8tn3q
      @user-ii3vn8tn3q Před měsícem +10

      When your sister moves, and doesnt tell you where, and years pass and STILL doesnt bother to tell you where.
      When your birthday passes and your children forget, and dont contact you.
      When another christmas passes and still, no one visits...

  • @rangerannie5636
    @rangerannie5636 Před měsícem +15

    The hard part for me is being the last keeper of the memories. When I'm gone all the others who have gone before me will truly be gone. 😢 Sacramento, California USA 🇺🇸

    • @TiredEmpath
      @TiredEmpath Před měsícem +1

      That is so true, the “last keeper of the memories.”

  • @wandacraig8286
    @wandacraig8286 Před měsícem +6

    Oh gee, loss...well first thank you for opening this platform up for us to share or maybe vent. I was just thinking about some favorite county music stars who have passed and one who is failing right now and how it seems like only yesterday they were touring all over. And then we have Donald Sutherland just passed and that hurt.
    I guess I'm pretty accustomed to loss. My Dad passed when I was 21, got married at 31, Mom passed when I was 41 and my husband passed when I was 51. We never had any children of our own but he had children from a previous marriage and when he passed his kids evaporated over a very short period of time. Now 16 years down the road I rarely speak to any of them and I'm okay with that now. But there was a very long period of years that the loss of them besides the loss of their dad was devastating to me. I had to come to grips with it and by the grace of God I came through it, but that did not make it easy. Since then I have a few close friends but have learned that everybody has their own life to live and their own things to do and their own families to do it with and I am just alone. So I have chosen to be happy with my two cats and doing things that I can still physically manage to do and to heck with the rest of it. If people want to be a part of my life fine and if they don't I'm probably better off without them. And I really hate to make a statement like that but at 65 who the heck cares anymore. I'm a little bit handicapped so I can't go out and have adventures anymore which is difficult to say the least and is yet another form of loss in my life. But through CZcams channels that I have subscribed to and getting to watch other people in their adventures, I take joy from that and do as many projects as I can in my own life that bring me joy and fulfillment. Everyone's situation is different and you can literally be in a room full of people that know you and you can still be completely alone and miserable. So I choose to be alone and be content with it. What is it that Paul said in the Bible, to be content in whatever circumstances you find yourself. When it comes right down to it one's relationship with the Almighty is the most important anyway. And you can try to reach out to people but if they really don't want you involved in their life It's kind of like you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Like Forrest Gump said, life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you're going to get.
    Thanks again!

  • @eleanorbuck715
    @eleanorbuck715 Před měsícem +9

    I think when we were young; we thought we would live forever. It is the Boomers time now. Life has passed so quickly. So many losses of family from death. Small family. Children moved far away. I know that there are more losses to come. We are mortals. Younger generations will learn this too someday. Probably all seniors are thinking about this. There are no easy answers.Take one day at a time. Try something new. Smile and say hello to your neighbors. Write a letter. Be open. Join a senior center. It's hard to leave one's comfort zone. I should know. May I suggest to all the animal lovers, including myself, who have lost dear pets, there are new pets out there that need your love and concern if you are able. God bless you, Lindy, and all who have shared their stories here. May we all find a path to peace. ♥

  • @GoldenRetrievermom
    @GoldenRetrievermom Před měsícem +11

    I have no one left. I’m alone. It’s beyond difficult. I have my dogs and I’m grateful for them. I pray I outlive them.

    • @TiredEmpath
      @TiredEmpath Před měsícem +3

      You’re right, it’s difficult. I also plan to outlive my pet so she doesn’t have to experience life without me. I’d rather grieve her…

    • @carolrivers292
      @carolrivers292 Před měsícem +5

      My Isabell 🐶 passed unexpectedly
      After loss of our home and belongings
      Most family including my son
      Have passed
      I did have a breakdown when Isabell passed
      Learning to be in my car

  • @pattierwin4380
    @pattierwin4380 Před měsícem +11

    Yes, caring for my elderly parents for past years. I helped give myself a stroke I believe, by worrying I haven’t done enough. Head knows better, heart still worries.

  • @tatianasalazar4188
    @tatianasalazar4188 Před měsícem +8

    You are somebody!!! You don't need to be a professional to be helpful! Thank you for providing this helpful information! 🤗❤️

  • @sheilahoness-dd9ws
    @sheilahoness-dd9ws Před měsícem +8

    Good Morning Lindy and Marley. It never gets easier. I've lost many like you. I put one foot in front of the other. Not easy. But its the only 😢 sometimes. Thank you Lindy, I'm sorry for your loss.

  • @pandachickenmama
    @pandachickenmama Před měsícem +1

    I lost my husband last August and my mom this spring plus several friends this past year. This has been my season of grief and mourning, each person's passing left a bit of them imbedded in my soul. There is an old saying that says, "Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them."

  • @prism6
    @prism6 Před měsícem +3

    Making friends as an adult can be challenging. But I feel it's important to keep making friends as we age, to keep in the habit, challenge our world views, find new ways to relate to people. Same with famous sports stars, movie stars etc. Not everything's going to be for me, but I try to be open to them

  • @dianebennett4259
    @dianebennett4259 Před měsícem +6

    It's Pretty 🔥 Hot out There ! Stay Cool The Heat Takes Toll On The Senior .

  • @lynnnunezwhitlock1073
    @lynnnunezwhitlock1073 Před měsícem +11

    I think of Heaven.. I listen to posts of people who have seen their loved one in Heaven. I talk to them(my loved ones ) not worship , just say Hi.. some sorrow never goes away but it’s so much sweeter knowing we will be together in the end !!

  • @grannyprepper1181
    @grannyprepper1181 Před měsícem +1

    Wow this is a loaded subject for me. I’m 71, both my parents are gone and so are my 3 siblings, all my aunts and uncles and a few cousins. Sadly I’m (we) are at that age we’re loosing people left and right. There’s no stopping it or changing it. 🤷‍♀️

  • @VioletsandRoses18
    @VioletsandRoses18 Před měsícem +7

    I watched this video coincidentally right after a terrible bout of grief for the loss of my 18 year old cat Violet Rose. My two cats are who helped and are helping me through my life and now one is gone. Betrayed by family,my cats are my only family and I grieve harder for my cat than for a person. I have one daughter who has not betrayed me but she has her own life 8 hours away from where I live. I am basically by myself. My cat,books,tv…my crutches to get through this difficult life as an old lady. I am 75. I am not even telling the worst of it here because it is a long story and the struggle is monumental. also I probably would be airing too much of my life to tell the whole story here as a subscriber.
    Thank you Lindy. Thank you for this topic of loss in this video. You don’t have to be a psychologist to talk about these things. You have all your many years of practical wisdom and I doubt any psychologist could have said it better than you. ❤️

    • @TiredEmpath
      @TiredEmpath Před měsícem +1

      I’m so sorry! Like you, I do hold back because of the public nature of comments.

  • @susanstancliff2937
    @susanstancliff2937 Před měsícem +1

    My parents passed away over 20 years ago. My older sisters passed away about 5 years ago. I said to my brother, it’s you and me now, I wonder who will go first! He said he would let me know!
    We have no control when or where, but if at all possible be prepared the best we can.
    Years ago my mother said she was sad because of all her family and friends most were gone. I said but you still have your kids and grandkids, she said yes but it’s not the same. Now I understand. The people who knew us all our lives, as kids, teenagers, starting our first job, getting married and having kids…. most are gone.
    As you said, movie stars, singers, even places we use to live have died or changed.
    I have some family near, but I understand what you’re saying.
    I guess we have to realize and accept just as our parents did, it’s our turn.
    We were young once we all have been there, now we move over for the next generation. They did for us, we do for them.
    One thing you said, if that’s all we think about we are wasting the time we have left.
    I believe in Jesus Christ as my Savior and this brings me strength and grace.
    We must accept life as we get older because like they say, “ don’t complain about getting older because many are not given the luxury.
    I’m thankful for many things and one is your videos. We all need to be thankful and kind and share our good times and bad times. We were lucky our mothers choose life for us! Fathers too.🙏❤️🕊🦋🐶

  • @brianhall8097
    @brianhall8097 Před měsícem +27

    Lava back 2015 I went to 3 years of divorce because of my wife committing adultery during that time my brother died in 2016 my sister died 20 days after my brother then my other brother died two months later then a month after that my father passed 16 days after that my mother passed away and and then nephew passed away due to a drug overdose then I lost my best friend that anybody could ever ask for I work just to keep my mind off the pain of the loss as time has went on I find it to be difficult to go on but I have a little dog that has been by my side through all of it with me I apologize long comment let's all try to keep our heads up and be good to one another while we're here on this planet God bless all reading this🙏

  • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
    @gloriouslifeonwheels3621 Před měsícem +3

    It really is hard losing those who are the only ones who have experienced your history with you.

  • @Out_GalliVANtin
    @Out_GalliVANtin Před měsícem +1

    I think I dissociate from loss & grief. I feel the grief deeply at first, and then eventually kind of compartmentalize it so I can function.

  • @TamaraLemmon-nd7xg
    @TamaraLemmon-nd7xg Před měsícem +4

    I talk to my love all the time. Lost him to cancer a week before Christmas a year and a half ago💔. I try to make him proud everyday by making myself keep going.
    I have nobody now. Not human anyway. My Miss Kitty is my best friend ❤

  • @susie4517
    @susie4517 Před měsícem +13

    Hi Lindy....I also lost my parents when I was young BUT, the hardest was my son, 24 in 2000 shot as a NYPD cop. Then my daughter had a heart transplant in 2015 and now she's 49 my only family left and then my hubby in 2021 of covid and my younger son just one week after his 46 birthday (he put the light on the new Freedom Tower in NYC...HE needed a heart transplant, wasn't getting it and never wanted to be an invalid so he took his own life by hanging 8 months ago. He was so disfigured after autopsy that I screamed too much and my cancer went bad. I had a bag put on my side. So my grandkids are not in this country. I know both my daughter and I are damaged beyond BELIEF. We have no one. Only doctors appointments and cemetary visits. But you have helped me so much. Love you susie NYC

    • @l.a.v.alindysawesomevanadv3428
      @l.a.v.alindysawesomevanadv3428  Před měsícem +2

      Oh Susie you are so special. I have no words.

    • @susie4517
      @susie4517 Před měsícem +1

      Thank you Lindy for being on this channel. Your from my world. We have alot of commonalities. Thk you for sharing. Susie Nyc❤❤❤😊😊😊😊

    • @tracymorgan5386
      @tracymorgan5386 Před 18 dny

      I’m so sorry for what you and your daughter have been through but you both do have each other, take comfort in that.

  • @lorishoemaker3906
    @lorishoemaker3906 Před měsícem

    I have an elderly neighbor that walks the neighborhood. One day we were talking and she said all she has left is her memories. Wow, that really hit me hard. Iam 62 and thought, she’s right!❤

  • @michellecats12
    @michellecats12 Před měsícem +1

    You are 100% correct Lindy. I was just thinking about these losses over the weekend. Whenever I hear about the movie stars have passed, I remember back when I watched a certain movie. All of my past is going by very quickly. Thank you for reminding me about these feelings and that I am not alone in this.

  • @louiseevans8242
    @louiseevans8242 Před měsícem +2

    Letting go is my life lesson, that I have yet to master. I think it's just our turn , everyone gets their turn. This video really touched me as it is so true, Family gone or inaccessible for one human reason or another, I have no one where I live, The few friends that are left live in other states, everyday I ask that question, what am I going to do, and I get through another day, I would love to get into a Golden Girl situation, "remember them?", I don't need anything from anyone except that human connection . I good laugh once in awhile companionship . Stimulation!!!!! that you get from being around other people that you enjoy.

  • @elsathal7359
    @elsathal7359 Před měsícem +3

    To go home is not scare me to stay endure more bring it there is beauty all over the world am so blessed to be here most day's even thankful for the pain 🙏🏽 Thank you for sharing ✌🏽💖🤟🏽✨️🧚‍♂️

  • @mafrun
    @mafrun Před měsícem

    It's not easy, for sure. I am a crier. 3 very precious family members/friends passed away in the last 6 weeks, and I can't stop the tears from rolling down my face without a second's notice. This "senior" timeframe certainly has its downside. Hugs, dear girl. ❤

  • @annedrysdale3281
    @annedrysdale3281 Před měsícem +4

    Good subject, Lindy. Grieving is awful and a grief counselor taught me over a year’s time. It’s better now. Tks for sharing! 🤗🤗

  • @allpurrsandpaws
    @allpurrsandpaws Před měsícem +4

    What works for me is staying busy and helping others. I try to focus on giving and assisting those who are struggling more than I am. As I age, now 67 years old, I physically cannot do as much as I use to, so I’m always looking for new ways to be useful and helpful. Building new relationships are always encouraging as long as my motive is what can I contribute to the relationship and not what the relationship can do for me. The best relationships are always symbiotic.

  • @BennyC-qg6rd
    @BennyC-qg6rd Před měsícem

    Another great subject, Lindy. Both of my parents have passed, along with my wife. My siblings are still alive, but are living their own lives. I'm coping the best I can. It never gets easy. Just stay safe. My best saying is, "Take care of Number 1, and Don't Step in Number 2", Rodney Dangerfield.

  • @dodgecityvanlife
    @dodgecityvanlife Před měsícem +1

    Loss has permanently changed me in ways I would not have expected. It's changed the music I listen to, the way I speak, what I find funny, everything. Now I just like nice things 💙

  • @WarnMilota
    @WarnMilota Před měsícem +1

    You have so much wisdom. All of my closest friends have died. Lost 3 dogs. Each was devastating. I've always thought, if things get bad, I could do this or that. There will come a time when you can't do this or that.

  • @spwriter1
    @spwriter1 Před měsícem +5

    I just lost my mother who was 93. That was extremely hard and my ex-husband he died a couple weeks before. I get lonely Even though I'm married but I have faith, I have God. I think that's number one for me. I have a hobby and I work online. I keep busy and I make sure to get out of the house everyday. I don't do good being in the house too much. I'm glad you're talking about this because it's a tough subject and it needs to be talked about.

  • @shirleysmith4000
    @shirleysmith4000 Před měsícem +1

    I love watching you, lost my daughter 13 months ago still grieving having health problems unfortunately need to get out more. I really enjoy listening to your positivity. Thank you.❤

  • @ruththompson9369
    @ruththompson9369 Před měsícem +2

    I lost my mother early and father later in life if we lose grandparents we lose uncles or aunts. If we lose our mothers and fathers we lose our brothers or sisters but when we lose a child, we lose ourselves self, and having that loss took my soul I also lost 4 brothers which means my mother and father know my loss but here is something to never say. Because grief is so much our journey never says I know how we feel.. that's the worst that anyone can say.. if we both lost the same person..grief is and will belong to the person who lost. I know not your pain and you know not mine.. what brake you will make me stronger and what brake me will make you stronger.. grief belongs to the one who goes through it.. never say to anyone I know how you feel.. never.

  • @TamaraLemmon-nd7xg
    @TamaraLemmon-nd7xg Před měsícem +2

    Lindy, i would be so grateful to meet you in person. I already love you and have since i first saw you❤
    Remember, as my Terry always said. Its all in the attitude 😊

  • @LittleMo777.
    @LittleMo777. Před měsícem

    My husband is terminally ill and has been sick most of our married life so grieving has been a process that we both have gotten through. We have talked a lot about it being toward the end of our lives and we are dealing with it and knowing that when this life ends we are then with God and a new life begins. It’s a journey of acceptance and comes with highs and lows. Some days we look around us and don’t feel ready to give up our worldly home and family but that won’t change the outcome. 😢 just enjoy every minute you have with friends and family!❤❤❤

  • @monkeyloujoseph708
    @monkeyloujoseph708 Před měsícem +1

    Really appreciate your sharing of this subject. Funny, you hit the nail on the head with me. I have lost good friends and family in the last 6 months. Plan in so important and makes it easier for family to deal. Thank you and take care!❤

  • @Bernimv
    @Bernimv Před měsícem

    Understanding y'all losses 🤗Within 4 months lost 5 family members🙏🏼
    Thats what keeps me going for me is that death is to Live and as well speak to them for they are forever present. As an indigenous Indian ways not all do but our heritage is so.

  • @sueparke3704
    @sueparke3704 Před měsícem +2

    I think when we lose a actor, singer of our generation or a sibling, friend we see our own mortality coming to a end as we age. 😢

  • @bencuraza6503
    @bencuraza6503 Před měsícem +2

    Generational lost what was once familiar is a memory. Short daily prayer loved ones with weekly cemetery visits.
    Currently, ❤💪Mom💪❤ 3-ER in 3-weeks🙏🙏🙏.

  • @tamzcountrylife
    @tamzcountrylife Před měsícem +1

    Loss is extremely hard. To each their own. ♥

  • @trippin6118
    @trippin6118 Před měsícem +2

    I lost a lot of family in 6 months. Don't expect people to understand depression if they never experienced real loss. It took me 4 years to kinda snap out of it. I dealt with it by running away for awhile. I traveled as far as China then to Tibet and Greece

  • @johndonohue5717
    @johndonohue5717 Před měsícem +1

    Thank you for this video. You are brave to speak on these things. Thank you. Former Gen X er who has "survived" a lot.
    I know you believe in God. He is my only defense these days. The reality of growing old isn't easy and yes I've had depression lately. I miss my mom so much it is a pain in my heart. She was a Christian and did her best always.
    I am a former homosexual drug addict alcoholic who spent years in lost living and behavior. I privately cry that I caused so much pain anguish for my mother. The last years have been really tough.
    I have had to learn how to forgive myself and others and still need to give it all to God.
    Family all came apart when mom died. I am all alone in a city where I did some of my worst behavior. Yet I believe in God now, Jesus and in some ways am more stable happy than I've ever been.
    I hope this makes sense. I watch You Tube videos of preachers and now read my Bible a lot. I hope you don't take this the wrong way. You are a pure soul and I can tell God loves you very much.

  • @stephaniebaty1302
    @stephaniebaty1302 Před měsícem +3

    Thanks Lindy
    This was perfect timing for me as I lost one of my best friends last week. We texted and talked daily. It’s hard but like you I experienced early losses throughout my life. Out of nine in my family only three of us are left. Thanks for your video on loss.

  • @LuAnnSmith
    @LuAnnSmith Před měsícem +2

    You may not be a psychologist, but you are a very wise woman, and I really needed this message today. Thank you...

  • @OceanArtWildlife
    @OceanArtWildlife Před měsícem +1

    "I don't want to be a vegetable" is a wonderful sentence.....😂 how can I make a serious comment if you constantly make me laugh......beautiful words by the way😊

  • @peterrubin643
    @peterrubin643 Před měsícem +1

    Thank you, thank you, thank you
    You show us we can mourn for many different things in life.
    You said you are no expert, but I have to disagree, just by living the life you have had gave us a lot of experience in this area of life. Please keep giving us your experience, it can help someone out there. I hope I can meet you one day.
    Great smile and laugh.
    Be well.

  • @tina4sugeree8
    @tina4sugeree8 Před měsícem +2

    yes & yes , to the ?'s , and one day at a time ....

  • @caroliram1982
    @caroliram1982 Před měsícem

    Thanks for addressing this very personal subject. Being in the 70's is hard! The 6 closest people I thought I would have with me to ride into the sunset have all died. It's hard.

  • @rvgrandmacharlotte4604
    @rvgrandmacharlotte4604 Před měsícem +3

    My kids are estranged - took off when their dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers. We were 9 and now just 5 but my siblings have little to do with me. We live in different circles. I am facing the fact I will die alone since my husband is gone. I still hope to make a circle of other nomads. Such is life. At least I know where I will go when I die -to heaven.

  • @janet4735
    @janet4735 Před měsícem +2

    list My Husband of almost 58 years 4 years Yes I have tied them & talk to them every day many times

  • @mythicalnomadadventure969
    @mythicalnomadadventure969 Před měsícem +3

    It's not about being afraid, or doing what "the society" demands. It's about our memories, friends & our freedoms just like fulltime #Vanlife, It's "not for everyone" it's ours to live
    👍 Rock on 😉.

  • @GEAUXFRUGAL
    @GEAUXFRUGAL Před měsícem +2

    You are such a beautiful person I wish we were closer. We could go to Sr center and enjoy the ac and card games.

  • @amyd1549
    @amyd1549 Před měsícem +3

    Sad but true vid Lindy.
    It is hard but we must adjust and go on.

  • @deborahkimball-billups6405
    @deborahkimball-billups6405 Před měsícem

    Wow ,makes me happy to know that I'm not the only one that has all there emails . And talk to them all the time. Send them messages as well . Love wins always ❤ Thank you for sharing this beautiful story..❤

  • @maydayzee
    @maydayzee Před měsícem

    Lindy, I think you are correct in that many people have not prepared themselves for old age. Others, of course have prepared, but it still isn't easy. I fall in the second group. I'm around your age and my husband has been gone for close to 15 years. Without Jesus as my Lord and Savior, I'm sure my mental health would be suffering, but He gives me comfort every day. I really miss my only sister. She was younger than me, but as you said, sometimes the younger ones go before the elders. She has been gone over 5 years. She suffered for years before she died. I'm thankful she is in heaven, though I wish she was healthy and still here with me.

  • @janete6439
    @janete6439 Před měsícem +1

    Thank you your experience has really helped me and others getting old and losing our friends.

  • @c.h.5998
    @c.h.5998 Před měsícem +5

    I so understand. Since covid, i became aware of my age. Suddely the term elderly, was me!
    Ive lost family through death,estrangment, and actually even jealousy.dislike.
    I have a large family. But it fell apart after my mother psssed. Greed overtook some.
    Younger ones busy with their lives.
    People used to treasure old friends, family..seemed so anyway.. now the glue, the ones older than us are gone.
    Yes...there are times im hurt, afraid and its very scary to know you just.might be alone..
    So.i fight to stay heathy as possible. But there is that emptiness that hits here and there.
    People surrounded by family...are so fortunate..but far too many are not anymore.
    Our generation is dealing with a lot of loss.and memories with no one to share ..its hard😢

    • @gary-rr7jp
      @gary-rr7jp Před měsícem +1

      I know what you're saying about memories. All the friends I grew up with are gone and I'm just in my early 60's. A lot were younger than me. I'm an only child who was adopted, so any cousins haven't really kept in touch and live far away. I have no link to my childhood through to my early 40's. All those memories are mine alone. One of my close friends is 79. The next is 69 and my traveling friend is 65, but she just moved about 3 hours away. I just had my 21-year-old cat put down because she was suffering, so the house is very empty now. I have never driven, so that just isolates me more. I'm not depressed, but just doing the best I can to enjoy what's left.😁✌

    • @c.h.5998
      @c.h.5998 Před měsícem

      ​@@gary-rr7jp💜

    • @c.h.5998
      @c.h.5998 Před měsícem

      ​@@gary-rr7jp im so sorry for people who end up alone now days. People that are younger, or have close family seem to believe we must have done something. But thats not the case much anymore. A lot of it is inheritence and greed in families.its happening so much. A friend just lost his sister and tbe brother that never was there, called 5 hours after she was found,to start with the rightful heir agenda.
      My family is large. All related too. And i was done like him . He always hinted that i might share some blame..now hes finding his own brother ready for a inheritence fight.😢 and telling lots of lies.
      Today so many families do this. I walked away,refusing to toss family aside for money.he has too. So is it guilt tbat. Makes them, go on to make personal attacks. To shift blame? Hes now getting treated bad too.
      Long story😅
      But it seems to be a trend..obviously the blood is thicker than water thing, is a myth..
      Its in the hearts of those that just simply dont value others.but obviously want others to not know that they really never cared so much . They find any excuse to justify the wrong .
      So insult added to the injury.
      We blame ourselves for a long time, but one day you notice..no. its a trend.
      People just dont value other people so much anymore..

  • @kimdolly
    @kimdolly Před měsícem +2

    You have a good heart, dear lady. I'm 71 years old and have been on the road with my oldest daughter and DIL for 4 years. I've lost all 3 of my brothers, 2 of them since I've been on the road. There's 3 three of us girls left, but my sister will be 83 this year. Elder orphans are becoming the norm rather than the exception these days. Praying for your journey. ❤

  • @hippiegirl5167
    @hippiegirl5167 Před měsícem +2

    As we get older we seem to go back in time where everyone we knew were there. When I was younger I hardly ever thought of the past but when I turned 70 I found that I was the only one left and I’m next 😢

  • @lynnburns7663
    @lynnburns7663 Před měsícem +3

    I love listening to you, you soothe my soul.❤🙏🏻

  • @Barbara-xh5ef
    @Barbara-xh5ef Před měsícem +2

    I've had many losses throughout my life.
    My mom loss half of her children before she passed a few years ago at 90. She had 14 children. She lost 2 husbands as well. What a strong woman she was.
    I have loss my in-laws within the last 3 years as well.
    I lost my husband at 42. Our son is his age now.
    I read something not long ago that we die twice, when our physical body dies and again when people quit talking about us after we're gone.
    I'm not worrying about dying because we'll all be together again. I also know they're close by watching over us.
    We just learn to rebuild ourselves and we become different after each loss.

  • @jenBaker707
    @jenBaker707 Před měsícem +15

    Jesus That's how. I buried both of my brothers, my sister and both my parents. The only thing that helps is god. It never goes away.

    • @jenBaker707
      @jenBaker707 Před měsícem +4

      Buried my brothers and sister before my parents.

  • @Adornments4U
    @Adornments4U Před měsícem +1

    Lindy you touched on something greater... The difference between being happy, vs lasting joy, and contentment. The world has sped up so quickly in our lifetimes, humans can't keep up with all the collective pain, fears, joys, and contentment. Societys anxietys' has visibly shaken nature to it's core of existence, including our planet. Most of all the knowing that humans have the ability to end our world. Climate change is before our eyes, and effecting all of us. Folks are obsessed with instant Happy. because contentment, takes time. Beleiving life is too short. Leaving little time for processing acceptance, of our own mortality, and losses of our beloveds. Coping with Fear of this magnitude has forever changed us, making death without hope a possible reality. I beleive it's a process, and we must support one another thru this... Great thoughts Lindy,, thank you so much for your needed conversations. In the mean-time keep on, deep breathing, and take it one step at a time. and keep your conversations going. ~~~~~

  • @peskybobcat
    @peskybobcat Před měsícem +3

    I took note of this problem in my 40s glad to here I’m not the only one that still talks to them even though there gone

  • @3generations393
    @3generations393 Před měsícem +2

    Great subject Lindy. Personally, getting into my minivan and starting my life over is slowly bringing my will to live back. CZcams has been my link (lifeline) to this new chapter of my life. Thank God I have made friends (like you) and I hope to build my channel to encourage others as well 🙏🙏💞

  • @donnaquinn8641
    @donnaquinn8641 Před měsícem +2

    Thank you for this conversation. This one brought the tears. The reality is loss is a part of life. As we get older and watch those we love leave this world, along with grief, it forces us to look at our own mortality.
    Loss is something I struggle with. I keep my feelings to myself only to find later it hurt me more than it helped.
    We are all different and handle loss & grief uniquely.
    Your kind and insightful thoughts and commentary on this subject will be my go to video from now on. It most definitely helps.
    You are amazing, Lindy.
    Keep on being you, sharing your Wisdom & stories.
    We 💖 You.
    Hugs & Travel Mercies for you & Marley.
    God Bless
    Thank You

  • @rosamaryzayas5650
    @rosamaryzayas5650 Před měsícem +2

    Loss of family, friends, pets doesn't get easier. You have to give yourself time to heal one day at a time. Prayer and faith helps to.cope with the pain. I'm turning 68 in November and yes I think of everything you are talking about. I try to keep busy and always have a goal. Enjoy my grandkids and the rest of the family although is very small.

  • @WenchInTheTinfoilHat
    @WenchInTheTinfoilHat Před měsícem +2

    Have you ever seen the animated movie Coco? If not, please watch it. It gives a better outlook on losing those we love & those we may have never known.
    We love you, Lindy & Marley.

  • @GEAUXFRUGAL
    @GEAUXFRUGAL Před měsícem +2

    I can't imagine your level of loss. I hugged Mom before I left her house yesterday. I am driving her home after her Dr appointment.She came to get me from the hospital after hit and run.

  • @Jacquie_Kirk_111
    @Jacquie_Kirk_111 Před měsícem +1

    My dad left when I was a kid, my mom died when I was 21 and my husband died when I was 37. Loss is tough..... But Gods audible voice came to me recently and so did his light. It's the only thing keeping me going!❤

  • @roseyc.5846
    @roseyc.5846 Před měsícem +2

    P.S. NO machines, Lindy...right! 👍 Yes, it gets VERY lonely. 😞 Rosemarie ❤️

  • @rvingkeepitrolling8797
    @rvingkeepitrolling8797 Před měsícem

    Great topic I feel the same way you do when you get older you? Things. I live alone except I have my 2 dogs they keep me company I talk to them 😊. My granddaughter lives with me but due to her working she's only here a couple days a week and she's on one side of the house and I'm on the other so the only time we see each other is if we meet up in the kitchen. I'm 63 and I've lost a lot of friends and family including a daughter I still work part time so I stay busy but when I'm off I'm in bed my body hurts and I shut down . I have a u tube channel and have met so many wonderful friends it takes me a year to make $100 it's a small channel but I have it mostly for the people I've met they're the best.

  • @janet4735
    @janet4735 Před měsícem +3

    thank God you haven't lost your two disabled kids My Son 6 years today

    • @shirleysmith4000
      @shirleysmith4000 Před měsícem

      Condolences to you I lost my daughter 25 and my grandson so I know how you feel.

  • @KimSooAcu
    @KimSooAcu Před měsícem

    We love you Lindy!!!

  • @kristineharvey6461
    @kristineharvey6461 Před měsícem +1

    I lost my sister Crystal when I was a kid from a tragedy I've lost my mom from cancer in my alte 20s and a few yeas ago my dad and all my grandparents it's never easy for me with every loss

  • @susanh3342
    @susanh3342 Před měsícem

    Lindy, I keep my friends and my mom's phone number in my phone they're all gone. But sometimes it's just nice to see that their names they are part of my history.

  • @darlenemiller847
    @darlenemiller847 Před měsícem +2

    Thank you Lindy for the talk! Your very calming.🩵🙏😇🌸

  • @carolrivers292
    @carolrivers292 Před měsícem

    Thank you Lindy

  • @terriweston-br7jf
    @terriweston-br7jf Před měsícem +2

    Lindy, you are so very insightful. Thank you for this video on such an important subject. I wish you joy!!! 🎉

  • @richardselfridge2926
    @richardselfridge2926 Před měsícem

    Just as we are unique, so is our sorrow. Sorry, I've been away good to see you! And 44,000 subscribers!😸🙏❤

  • @teresabagatta-reale1347
    @teresabagatta-reale1347 Před měsícem

    Love you Lindy!! It is so scary!!

  • @thereseshine7506
    @thereseshine7506 Před měsícem +3

    Donald Sutherland died a couple of days ago. It's sad to lose actors, musicians as well as family, and friends, who've enriched our lives. To tell you the truth, I hate these coming months because my daughter was hospitalized after getting covid end of July 2021, 57 days in the ICU, and passing Oct 9th. Nov her celebration of life and holidays, a new year without her. I don't like going through this pain year after year. It never ends.

  • @rhondamckinley4373
    @rhondamckinley4373 Před měsícem

    Thank you for sharing ❤
    My faith in Christ is how I cope with life and death.

  • @RachelOlynuk-vy3tq
    @RachelOlynuk-vy3tq Před měsícem +2

    Give it all to Jesus❤ we are never alone , God bless you through it.

  • @janet4735
    @janet4735 Před měsícem +14

    I have No depression I have God with Me all the time

  • @prettycountrygal2367
    @prettycountrygal2367 Před měsícem

    I have experienced a lot of loss. Starting with my great grandmother who died when I was 2 years old. When I was 4 my grandmother died, when I was 11 my other grandmother died, when I was 19nmy grandfather died, when I was in my 2p's I hadb5 miscarriages, listb6 babies, including a set of twins, I could go on. There are several other that gas passed away that was in my life. Loss is a hard thing to go through.

  • @2024-z3e
    @2024-z3e Před měsícem

    We are never alone. God is always with us and within us. Take comfort in knowing there is life after death, your loved ones family friends and pets still remain close to us in spirit and we will join them when it's time.

  • @debbiel8585
    @debbiel8585 Před měsícem +2

    whats really hard is an estrangement from a child. and their is no answer to solving it. But all things you talked about r hard. I am working on trying to get things in order.

    • @c.h.5998
      @c.h.5998 Před měsícem +2

      I have that too..one son, who married s girl who wanted me gone..
      I thought time would make her more compassionate..
      No..😢

  • @silviaconrad8401
    @silviaconrad8401 Před měsícem

    I don't give a crap about strangers, movie stars.I care about family,my daughter,my brother and my best friend. My dog died a couple of weeks ago.The pain is constant, I like going to sleep,it gives me a break.

  • @Raptorstwo1
    @Raptorstwo1 Před měsícem

    Thanks!

  • @ashphyllis8291
    @ashphyllis8291 Před měsícem +5

    I lost my son,will never ever get over it :-(

    • @MissingRenoboy
      @MissingRenoboy Před měsícem +1

    • @shirleysmith4000
      @shirleysmith4000 Před měsícem +1

      I feel yeah I lost my daughter 13 months ago and my grandchild, my only grandchild it’s heartbreaking

    • @ashphyllis8291
      @ashphyllis8291 Před měsícem +1

      @shirleysmith4000
      So sorry ,ppl can not understand the hurt and loss that is always inside us~

    • @shirleysmith4000
      @shirleysmith4000 Před měsícem +1

      @@ashphyllis8291 just wanted to let you know you are not alone! I feel the same way.

    • @ashphyllis8291
      @ashphyllis8291 Před měsícem +2

      @shirleysmith4000 thank you so much ~

  • @sashanealand8315
    @sashanealand8315 Před měsícem

    i lost my dad 5 years ago, still I can move on, maybe never, ferl like my real life stopped at that moment

  • @DeborahABeliever..WOODINVILLE
    @DeborahABeliever..WOODINVILLE Před měsícem +1

    I put my trust in God Almighty who has carried me through loss of many ✝️
    Very hard but Hope keeps me going 👍

  • @kenfreed614
    @kenfreed614 Před měsícem

    Not sure if you intended it, but for me there is a relationship between the neglected Arizona rest stops in your previous video and the sense of loss described in this one.

    • @l.a.v.alindysawesomevanadv3428
      @l.a.v.alindysawesomevanadv3428  Před měsícem +2

      Yes there is a relationship between the two. I felt loss in that empty rest stop and comments were made about their losses. It's all been in my mind and the rest stop brought it to the top of my mind.