ENGAGEMENT PARTY: EVERYTHING You Need To Know
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This is perfect, I have been watching Jamie for a year now but this is the first time watching while engaged! 🎉
lisapop8 congrats!!
Congratulations!
Congrats!!
Congrats! 😊 Remember, relax and everything will come together nicely! Follow her advice, don’t try to do everything yourself, but MOST IMPORTANTLY. Your wedding is a celebration of getting to spend the rest of your life with the person you love. It’s not about having the best wedding ever. All people truly care about is that you’re happy. So have fun! And don’t stress too much!
that's so exciting congrats!!
You should do bachelor and bachelorette party’s and how to plan them!!
I agree! Yes please!
Yes please!!!
In my Culture, he can ask you to marry him the western way but as soon as you get home take off that ring and hide it. Or wear it on a necklace which is hidden in your clothes. Because you need to plan the engagement event when his family comes to ask for your hand in marriage to yours and decide a wedding date. You can now wear the ring.
That is so interesting! Thanks for sharing! Where are you from?
Cute!
So what happens when he asks u why aren’t u wearing the ring I saved up for for 3 years or paying off for 3+ years?
Highly recommend doing an engagement party. It's awesome practice for wedding planning just on a smaller scale, so you can see very early on in the planning process where your strengths and weaknesses are. Plus, we knew that we wanted a destination wedding, a lot of our friends and coworkers wouldn't be able to attend the actual event but still wanted to include them. Was a great way of doing that. Everyone got to have a fun weekend in an interesting locale and weren't obligated to do anything except show up and have a good time. All in all a great experience!
Great advice!
Our engagement party was a potluck at my parent's house. We bought ribs and my dad grilled them, and we had salad, chips, and some desserts. We had a total of like 10 people, all immediate family, Grandma, and an aunt and uncle who were in the area.
That’s the kind of engagement party that I would want.
I didn't even realize engagement parties still happened. 😂
Thanks for the educational video for the girl who until today thought this was a dead tradition. 😂
I've been watching Jamie for years, but this is the first time she's posted since I got engaged! Unfortunately we can't have an engagement party because of COVID, but my fiancé invited 4 of my closest friends to surprise me right after he popped the question
Can you do a video on planning a vow renewal? Or beach wedding? I'm so lost on this planning
JAMIE! YOUR TIMING COULDN'T BE MORE PERFECT! Literally was talking about our engagement party today!
IM ENGAGED! He proposed last night and finally all my homework on your channel will pay off!! Thank you 😊
We got engaged and as we were about to do a party, the pandemic hit. 😑 I’m glad you talked about multiple engagement parties as we have to do it due to family conflict
So sorry. I know what you mean. Conflicts suck.
Same boat. I look at it as an excuse to get dressed up more times...it's small but it helps me to find a silver lining about the situation
Jamie, as an attendee, how should your gift for an engagement party differ from your wedding gift? (Especially for a dressier engagement party)
We planned our own engagement party, but with us being musicians, we opted to put on a concert for everyone instead of a traditional party. That way, all the tips we get go toward the wedding. 😎
Wow this is amazing timing as I just got engaged over the weekend and was wondering about throwing a party! Thanks Jamie! (Edit: Also thank you to everyone for your congratulations, it warms my heart! Wishing you guys the best ♥️)
Congratulations!! 🍾🥂
Congrats!!!! I am in the same situation and just got engaged over the weekend haha Sending my well wishes while you plan everything 💕
Congrats on the engagement!
Congrats!!
Defintely recommend doing one! We did one for ours (we hosted) and it was a great practice for the main event. Held it at a restaurant during October in a small town famous for being haunted. Everyone enjoyed themselves and it really helped me realize what my strengths and weaknesses are, and what I will need help with. So glad I had the chance to figure that stuff out well before the wedding.
Also congratulations! :)
I always thought my engagement party would be an engagement announcement. Invite close friends and family to a nice restaurant (say it's just them coming) and put sealed envelopes on the table. At some point in the night I ask them to open the envelopes and they're wedding invites.
I am beyond thankful that I got engaged prequarantine. Our friends all met up at the local brewery we went to on our first date and celebrated together💍😁❤
Congratulations, have you chosen a date?
@@notjessaplannerThank You! Yes May 29th 2021!😁❤
Can I just tell everyone here DO NOT HAVE A SURPRISE ENGAGEMENT PARTY. I got surprised for mine and 1) i wasn't even warned to bring a nice outfit 2) There were loads of people invited who I didn't know and/or liked 3) It was open bar and everyone got hammered and humiliated me.
I usually like surprises but this was so not cool. I would want more control in the party so I can actually enjoy it. Love my fiance and his family (they planned the party) but the party was more a celebration for his family to party than it was about our union and it's hard not to be resentful.
Just wanted to let you know how sweet and supportive you are Jamie! I recently came across your channel and I've been binging your videos every day for about a week :) absolutely love your content, your energy and the kindness you radiate.
Seeing this video posted absolutely made my morning! I just love all of your content, and I feel like I learned so much from this video!
Just purchased The Master Plan the other day and I can’t wait to start planning! ❤️❤️❤️
Yes! I’ve been waiting for this video! Just booked our venue for the party today :)
I absolutely LOVE your personality Jamie!😀💞
Planning an engagement party for Labor Day weekend. Got engaged in April and I’m excited to have our families and close friends to meet
I did the exact same thing! Got engaged April 2019 and had the party Labor day weekend 2019. Congratulations!
Congratulations!!!!
Maybe I should follow your lead... April 4th engagement; May 28th wedding
One of my good friends had an engagement party awhile after they had been engaged with just the wedding party. It was a great chance to meet the grooms side of the party and who we’d be spending time with throughout the wedding planning process!!
Last year I went to an engagement party for one of my best friends. It was right after the proposal and the groom invited me through facebook messenger! It was hosted at a local coffee shop and was a very sweet time celebrating with the two of them and about 15 other people!
I just got engaged 8.14.2020 after almost 11 years together. These videos have been so helpful. It feels very overwhelming sometimes with all the planning that needs to be done. Thank you Jamie!
I'm happy I'm not the only one with a long dating history. My boyfriend and I have been together 11.5 years and just got engaged before Christmas.
Literally so excited you moved to Texas I hope you can help me with my wedding one day!
Thank you for making this video. I felt like I needed to make something formal. When all I really want to do is a pool engagement parry with pizza and burger and drink ❤️I really need this video thank you so much
I just got engaged on july 3rd so this is awesome timing! I'm trying to figure out how to navigate wedding stuff amid Covid.. I've been married once before and it was a quick courthouse thing so my fiance and I want to get everything just right ^.^ we are planning for 2022 ❤
OMG Congratulations!
My boyfriend just proposed to me yesterday so I’m SO EXCITED to start planning all these fun things thank you so much for a great video!
Yay excited for another video! we didn't have an engagement party (we got engaged last October) there were so many holiday parties and I was busy with my grad program but I might be having a bridal shower hope you make a video about that :)
Why am I watching this 1.5 years after my engagement party😂
Girl, I am single and I'm still watching LMAO
Love Jamie and her vibe, plus I figure, why not listen to an expert talk about happy stuff LOL
For my engagement party, I ended up wearing the colour that my bridesmaids will wear and the dress was in the style that my wedding dress is (short version of course). It was so fun to wear on the day
We just decided to go to an Olive Garden and ate with 5 other people’s from our families 😅but it was pretty nice still
Sounds like a laidback, fun time with people that you love :)
OMG Olive Garden is the way to go! lol, I love their salad's and breadsticks.
@@notjessaplanner I don't live Stateside, but if I did, I suspect I would be at Olive Garden quite a bit.
Sounds like a chill place to get yummy food LOL
My engagement party happened like six months later, and it was mixed with a Christmas party. I only invited a handful of people that aren’t attending our wedding. I actually put them on the waiting back up list.
Omg I had no idea you could rent floral arrangements. Genius 😍
Hi Jaime!!! Can you do a video on renting bridesmaids/bride’s dresses? Thoughts? Good websites to do so? Love your channel, just subscribed to help me plan my wedding! Love that I’m able to get more insight on things I never thought of!
I also think a Facebook invite may be a good idea for an engagement party
Just found you girl and let me tel you I am going down the rabbit hole today😂… thank you for all of your great info and recommendations they truly are a God send 🙏🏻🥰😘..
We had our engagement party about 2 months after engaged. It was hosted by my fiancé/ husband’s parents at their house. Ours was a brunch style. We only had us, our parents, siblings, grandparents, and our bridal party but they didn’t know! We used our engagement party to ask our friends/ siblings to be in our bridal party. I gave my girls navy blue toms (my mother-in-law painted white flowers on them after we made sure they fit) and my fiancé gave his boys small coolers with their names on them filled with their favorite beers. In their bags, everyone got a card asking them to be a bridesmaid/ groomsmen/ maid of honor/ best man.
Could you do a video on rehearsal dinners and bridal showers?
We had our engagement party at a bowling alley (pre-covid obvs) and it was SO FUN!! Highly recommend!
"Sometimes it's super necessary..." I laughed so hard! Got engaged in January & were planning on having a party in March. We're maaaybe going to have a party in October & are getting married a year from September, rather than this September.
Just got engaged on July 4th! I'm just excited to stop looking like a weirdo for watching your videos lolol ;)
OMG congratulations
@@jessicafleury6434 thank you :D!!
@@notjessaplanner thank you :)!!!!
These videos are super helpful and you are a blast to watch. Can you do a video for long distance couples? My family lives 8 hours away and I’d love some advice.
We hosted our own engagement but our families chipped it. We sent our emails out using Paperless Post, which was a nice middle ground. It was held at a function centre were we had food catered that we warmed up. Our families supplied dessert and I made a cake. I also work black!
This has now made me want to buy a white pantsuit
How exciting!! I'm looking for a wedding planner and I live in Texas 😁
Please do a video about bachelor/bachelorette parties!
We stan our inclusive queen!! Yesss Jamie, thank you for using gender neutral language like it’s no big dang deal! 🙌
A little late for an engagement party (got engaged Memorial weekend, and here we are at the 4th of July), but I found this video as well as your whole channel so helpful for my own wedding planning. I can't wait to see what else you have coming soon!
congrats!!
Congratulations!!!
If it makes you feel better, I got engaged in April 2019 and we still haven’t done an engagement party because of various scheduling conflicts and because I want to wait until my brother and sister in law (who is also my MOH) are able to visit from Hong Kong to attend. The best thing about being engaged is that the engagement and planning process is about the couple and the family coming together, not about doing things in a certain order or time.
I feel like planning an engagement party for the same day as the proposal could go poorly. Like what if the person says no? 😬 This could just be me with all of my awkwardness and anxiety, but day-of engagement parties and massively public proposals stress me out.
Many couples discuss marriage in advance, it's only the when and how of the proposal that's a surprise, so in that case having it on the day is ok (personally, I feel like u have to have discussed marriage beforehand, I thought everyone did that. Just my personal opinion obviously idc what other ppl do)
Sandy Christine fair point. I’ve seen lots of failed proposals online, and I get really bad secondhand embarrassment which triggers my anxiety, so that all makes the whole idea a little frightening. I do hope that people discuss marriage beforehand, especially with public proposals, but I know couples who didn’t and just spontaneously got engaged.
@@sandhyachristine7173 This.
Always surprises me when a proposal "fails".
Like did y'all never discuss this beforehand LOL
proposals should be a surprise but the engagement absolutely should not be. couples should have thoroughly discussed marriage and their expectations/desires, so that popping the question is just formally acknowledging what they've already talked about
We aren’t having an engagement party but it actually seems like the perfect event to invite people you wish to celebrate your engagement with that you won’t necessarily have present at the wedding. I’ve never heard of anyone assuming that being invited to an engagement party was a gateway to being invited to the wedding.
Hello Jamie. Can you do a video on flower girls. Or having odd bridal party. Erin
can you do a video on the steps to postponeing your wedding!? 😔🤞
I was looking for activities and games 😮
Can you do a video on not having a dj at the wedding. What are some things people should do if they are on a tight budget and can’t afford one
Did you go to college? I’m about to be a senior and wedding planning is something that I think would be really cool to do. I think I’m going to do esthetics but I also really like planning and wedding things so. I’m just looking for some info about everything.
Welcome to Texas!!!
I was thinking on valentine's day make dinner and dessert for my boy's parents then tell em then next week tell my parents and do and make the same thing then just have a mini friend party at a park get all our frinds together
Greate video but I would liked you to start with a Why. Why have an engagement party? Why do people have them?
Once things start calming down after the move, of at least when you run out of pre-recorded videos, you should do one on how to set up a setup/tear down crew. You talk about it a lot, but logistically, which vendors would typically help, with what, and do you have to hire outside help? I’m still left with so many questions on how to do this
Hey Rachel, It really depends on the scope of work. Set up would typically involve your florist, rentals (tables, cutlery), dance floor, catering, cake, entertainment (dis/live band), videographer and photographer. For breakdown it would be just about every vendor coming back after the wedding is done to collect their belongings. I.e. the florist it would be their vases. I hope this helps!
Not JESS A Planner Thank you, it does and it doesn’t. What about DIY? Would that need to be friends and family? What vendors would even be worth considering to help coordinate that piece?
@@rachelechols5041 For DIY, if you have friends/family members willing to volunteer their time (during set up and breakdown) have a list of what items go where. Have multiple containers and bins for certain things and a list of what items are in that particular box. Add where you want each item placed and for breakdown that they checkmark those items went back in that box. It can get crazy during any wedding and time goes by super fast. The last thing you need is for people to continuously bother you question after question where you want things and add stress.
For a vendor coordinating that, I highly recommend hiring a wedding manager (formally known as a Day of Coordinator). Someone who will be there to take care of the logistics and detailed plans you set. You will have less worry on your day and ultimately save you a lot of time as apposed to you doing it on your own. Planners they will hire assistants to help set up and breakdown for the wedding too. Not sure if its in your budget but there are so many planners with different pricing. Are you apart of a local brides FB group, you might be able to find someone willing to work within your budget by posting about it there. I am not sure where you are located, but in rural areas there seems to be many bridal FB groups.
For other vendors, like the florist or a venue, look at the contract and see if they specify they will be there for setup/breakdown. If they do that part is all their responsibility.
If you have any further questions, I can gladly answer them for you. My email is jess@notjessaplanner.com. Happy to help! (:
We go engaged in December and wanted to do a party in March, but carona happened. Not getting majored until next July, when would be a good time to have an engagement party? Especially now?
Keeping our fingers crossed that we can do an engagement party at the end of the summer!
🤞🤞🤞
Jamie can you talk about surprise weddings? I know people who have invited people to their engagement party and then surprised their guests by telling them it’s their wedding. Thoughts on this topic and tips for how to pull it off?
We are having our engagement party 10 months after we got engaged!! We got engaged in October 2020 but lockdown finishes July 2021... better late than never I guess! 😆🤷♀️
Could you possibly do a video for a wedding shower? Trying to plan a backyard drive by wedding shower because of the pandemic but wanted to know more of the how to do’s especially during a pandemic.
Check out our new custom garlands... would be great to dress up the backyard or front porch for a drive by shower!
we're getting engaged soon and ive always wanted an engagement party with all our college friends at one of those speakeasy jazz bars (we're swing dancers so we love early 20th century stuff!). but with this pandemic and closed bars looking like reality for the rest of the year idk if that will ever happen :(
I was thinking of having a big engagement party, getting married at the courthouse then having a nice honeymoon. Probably would be cheaper! 🥰
Unfortunately we can't have any parties right now 😭😭😭😭😭
But thanks for the tips!
Oh wow. I didn't know it was this big of a thing to throw engagement parties in the US. I can't remember a single engagement party in Brazil that I've been to. Usually just pics or videos of the proposal and the wedding invitation are enough.
just fyi, the something borrowed blooms link isn't in the description!
She fixed it :)
I plan on going to Costco for food lol
Can you wear a crown for your engagement ceremony?
In need of help! Im in Australia and I’m getting married in 8 weeks. They have announced that you cannot mingle or dance at weddings. If this doesn’t change do you or anyone have any suggestions for entertaining guests! 💕
Now I want an engagement party and we are married now😂
We never had one cause most of my husbands family either lived 8 hours away in Port Lincoln or lived in Queensland. So we didn’t see the point. 😩
Lol, what about a vow renewal?
Not JESS A Planner i only got married the 1/feb/2020. But one day. Lol
I’m from Poland and my fiancé is from the US I live in the UK and that’s where we plan to live and we’re pretty sure our wedding will be in Poland bc it works out sooooo much cheaper but I’m so nervous about his family not being able to get there 😫 I’m thinking maybe we should do an engagement party in the US and invite all his friend and family that we want to invite that way if some can’t make it they still celebrated with us in some way. Does that sound like a decent idea I’m really stressing 😥
What is the point of an engagement party? Is is like just getting together to eat and celebrate and talking and stuff? Do ppl play games and stuff? I never heard of this before 😯❣️
Those are the exact arrangements that I’m considering from something borrowed blooms! It pains me to see thousands of dollars of flowers thrown away at the end of a wedding.
Yay! We can't wait to be part of your special day!
Do you think waiting awhile after getting engaged (closure to wedding) is ok to still have an engagement party? Due to covid we couldn’t have one right after but would still like to celebrate our engagement with everyone eventually.
TOTALLY!
YES! 😊😊😊
It's cool but a bit weird considering your other videos about faux flowers
@jamie this comment was a bit too critical. We know you’re busting your butt to give us consistent content. Don’t feel insecure about your content it’s great and we love you! ❤️
I always thought the "engagement party" right after the proposal was a "she said yes" party. I thought they were two different things. Im so dumb lol
Well the floral website wasn’t linked!!
somethingborrowedblooms.com/
First!!!
I love how you say person who does the proposal and not groom! We love inclusivity
Planning my wedding has made me hate my wedding I’m over it I’m doing it all on my own. What is your advice?
Oh no! We can help make flowers stress-free
Something Borrowed Blooms are y’all in the Galveston TX area
@@redpanda_ann We are located in Lafayette, LA but would be more than happy to ship your blooms right to you!
Jaime, I love and appreciate your videos, I really do. But, I recall a video some time ago when you talked about how you didn't like artificial flowers - but now you're allowing them to sponsor your video? What changed? Did you opinion change on fake flowers? Or, does it depend on the event? I promise, I don't mean for this to be a hate comment (It's not 🧡). You're one of my favorite CZcamsrs and I find your content both entertaining and informational. I'm just genuinely wondering if your opinion of fake flowers has actually changed, or what's going on. Thanks!
What I recall from other videos is that she wanted to break the belief that fake flowers are cheaper than real ones. The cheaper ones look really fake but the beautiful fake ones are just as expensive or maybe more than real ones.
@@JamieWolfer thanks for your reply and understanding that I had zero intention to be offensive or combative! 🙂
I want to have an engagement party but I don’t know how. My parents are not happy with my engagement so they won’t host or come. I live in an apartment so it’s too small my in-laws also live in an apartment. I don’t wanna spend money on a venue and definitely can’t afford a restaurant. So I wonder if it’s even worth it for me and that makes me sad.
Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear this. I would suggest looking at Airbnbs that allow events/gatherings. Peerspace or Giggster are also great to find places and sometimes you can find some hidden gems that won't break the bank.
Y’all I didn’t even know engagement parties were a thing
Hi Jamie. Is there an email addresses that I can contact you through please? I have a few questions I would like to run by you!
Thanks
Ashlee Jones
(Wedding planner in training)
Are guests supposed to bring a gift or money envelope to an engagement party?
Not that I've heard of?
IME, engagement parties are literally an excuse to get together, congratulate the engaged couple, admire the ring, and talk all things wedding.
Guests aren't obligated to bring anything but themselves, and their well wishes.
But then again, I could be wrong as I am no wedding planner?
@M C thank you