Stop Trying to Not Be Angry (Do THIS Instead)
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- čas přidán 4. 02. 2024
- What Jesus says about anger. 😡
QUESTION FOR THE COMMENTS:
Confession time: What most easily angers you?
HERE'S HOW:
As you walk through today, look for wherever your will has been thwarted.
Pause and reflect on the deeper issue of your anger, and pray and inviting the Holy Spirit into that moment with you.
Resist the urge to ruminate on the wrongs committed against you, instead ask God to take it away from you.
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QUESTION FOR THE COMMENTS: Confession time: What most easily angers you?
Being contradicted.
Being made to feel small or that I don’t matter…Yes, I know “being made to feel” is a whole counseling session, but situations that touch those buttons cause anger. I’m learning to own it and deal with it…God is kind.
Yes to what Kathy said.
Being ignored by people/family I thought would validate me.
There was a Christian person in my life where I worked who regularly accused me of unkind motives in numerous situations. Because I knew my own heart and knew she couldn't truly read my mind, it felt so unfair. But I had incredible guilt for even feeling angry towards her. So then it turned into a long term low grade depression. She had permission to vent frequent anger towards me and I felt lonely and worthless. I'm no longer in her inner circle but we are on good terms and spend time together occasionally. It is of grace. I often anguished to resist ruminating and yes, failed short term. But God renews our intentions over and over. This is a great message, especially for acknowledging that anger will happen. The important thing is where you take it.
Good food for thoughts. Anger is a secondary emotion. There is a deeper root to that anger. Could be a deep need not met.
Probably the best teaching on ANGER in 12 minutes. Amazing. I have been that man full of resentments and only started getting free from it when I went to AA three times a week. Thank you John. I am free because of Jesus, AA and teachers like you.
As I get older, I am less easily angered, but I do get extremely frustrated with those who refuse to see what’s happening around them
I think my will gets thwarted a hundred times a day🤦♀️
This was a great reminder for me today. I’m eager to hear your continuation tomorrow. Rumination is such a slippery slope.
“You shall love murder…”. Hee-hee. 🤣 It’s a really good thing Jesus overruled their understanding of that commandment. 🤪🤣
gah, sorry about the typo!
@@BecomeNew it brought a smile and lightness to my early morning. Bloopers and boo-boos just reaffirm how real we all are. Love you all and am so very grateful for and blessed by your hard work. ♥️♥️♥️
Things that threaten my autonomy. I have been expose to controlling and manipulative leadership and when I sense a hint of it I get angry. I’m using prayer and the neurocycle to help process my emotions
It’s never OK to not will the good of the other. Anger rooted in not willing the good but instead considering our perceived “offense” as more important - then taking the next step deeper - to choose to ruminate - thus allowing a foothold for the evil one and starting down a toxic spiral that is so difficult to stop.
I suppose what normally tempts more often than not to start down that spiral is when someone seems to devalue and dismiss my opinion.
“Would you give me the grace to put the people who hurt me into your hands”!!!
Over and over and over again
Excellent message today. I am part of a weekly men's group for anger management called "Men At Peace", and we use a book with the same name written by a pastor (Dick Klaver). Very powerful read, yet straightforward and has helped thousands of men with their anger and to better understand their emotions.
If this happens in my life, and it doesn't happen too often, I go back to the person and tell them I am sorry. It is uplifting and brings me to peace. Not perfect at this, but, I catch myself now.
Angered by things I forget and when I do something stupid! But thankfully your messages help me to see God’s mercy and are helping me to take myself less seriously. I so appreciate the encouragement I receive.
I like to use the Serenity Prayer and Stoicism philosophy. Just know what is in your control and what is not. You control your reaction.
Yep... stopping the ruminations will help... a lot. I was angry with a doctor's assistant recently, but as I stopped living with resentment toward that person, the anger just faded. I just have to remember not to treat others the way I have been treated but to treat others the way I would like them to treat me. Give love to get love.
I spent quite a few years practicing anger. I found it to be a good source of energy. When I went to work, I found something to be angry about so I'd do a better job. I think the "benefit" wasn't so much that I did a better job, it's that I was entertained - it made the time go faster. I've come a long way toward breaking that habit, but it's not entirely gone.
My anger used to be expressed only in my immediate family (those outside of that wondered why I never really got angry (they never saw me angry). My anger was mainly driven by my life being out of control in many areas. I have learned (I read some of the comments) that things like disappointment, frustration, are actually more acceptable forms of anger. Becoming truly the person Jesus wants us to be means we aren't angry, or frustrated by others. We want the best for them. I am leaning (and have a long way to go) to be that person, who genuinely wills the best for the other, including those who hurt me.
Great word, John. I was getting caught up in anger over an alleged injustice and after watching your video, I started to calm down and think more reasonably about how I was feeling and why.
People in my life who can’t converse with people of differing opinions.
Exactly what I’ve been struggling with by praying scripture or asking God to help me with this deeply ingrained habit. I had to listen to it twice and am looking forward to John’s further teaching on this subject.
People anger me...this was a great lesson for me. I sometimes 'vent' with trusted folks and thot it was helpful for me...now I need to share this with them and apologize too :) I'm encouraged to work on stopping this unhealthy option. I have been praying thru these times more often, and it helps. But I like the prayer you've given us, thank you. Usually I just whisper, O God, help me! Thank God - He does!
When I feel disrespected I get angry because it makes me feel that person thinks that they're better than me in some way.
Something that always angers me. I am ashamed to say there might be more than one thing. But a big one is when someone lies to make another person look bad. It infuriates me, and it hurts. Those "prove you are not a robot" things get me too.😅
I find it helpful to forgive someone when I realize that I've been forgiven for so much more wrong... what I subjected our Lord to, watching me do what I did, but I was forgiven. How can I not forgive someone else for their small wrong? I've been given so much grace.
I get angry when I feel that I (or someone I love) receive unfair criticism or negative feedback. Also when someone acts in a manipulative or or undermining way. I have to work hard at giving such frustrations to God and not letting myself become cynical or resentful.
11:40 Maybe letting go with a bat doesn't help, but I have found that reverting to a childhood solution, namely, drawing a mustache/beard on a picture of the offender does. Dissipates the anger for me and makes me chuckle. Pretty harmless stuff. Thank you for reminding us that not wishing good for someone else is never OK.
Being cut off, talked over, belittled, ridiculed during a Web-based Meeting at work
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Thank you for todays message, John. A wise and hopeful insight on how to choose what's a healthy response instead of what feels just. I pray that Gods healing hand be upon you to help you overcome whatever bug you're fighting. Take care, be well, God bless.
I am most easily angered other drivers. Sounds cliche but it is so true. Lol
Wow. I know this is so cliche to say - but that was so incredibly timely for me to hear today. Thank you.
My wife will be glad to know that anger against technology is not a problem. One morning, some years ago, I heard a loud ruckus coming from our home office. I walk in to find my wife screaming and pounding on the touchpad of MY computer and saying some very terrible words. She was in a rush to write a speech for a speech class that was due that evening and was struggling with the unfamiliar touchpad. I glanced at the monitor... I kid you not, the title of that speech was "How to control your anger". I couldn't help but laugh out loud and point out the irony... and then got the #ell out of there.
I'm not sure if John does this in the next video, but one thing I love about Dallas' treatment of anger is that if you are living in the Kingdom of God, and know you are blessed, and that you are being taken care of primarily by God and not yourself, anger shows up less and less. When I'm angry I feel like it's up to me and it's not working (because of a situation/person etc), in the Kingdom of God it's not up to me, so anger is no longer a useful strategy for life
I have not experienced anger for over 35 years. But, anger has been replaced by disappointments. I have two daughters that full grown and living great on their own for many years. Now, if someone was to harm either one of them then I believe that I would mentally find myself in need of a HUGE level of the grace of God.
This one touches a nerve. Yep, I find myself getting angry when my intentions get misunderstood, or when overlooked.
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I’m always praying for God to show me how to love and see others through His eyes. It was great for me to hear your comment to remember that God loves the person who hurt me as much as He loves me and to ask him to give me grace to put them in His hands.
Thank you, John! I really needed to hear this message. I ask God to help me remember that you love the one that wronged me just like you love me so I can release this anger to you! Amen
Beautiful
Thank you John
Glad you enjoyed it, Laura!
Rob
Thanks John and team. Just identifying my feelings as self-righteousness and not willing the good for others leads me to confession and cleansing.
myself. I am most angered by my own stupidity. but my anger never lasts that long, as I realise pretty early on how stupid it is 🤭
I love this.
good morning ☀️ oh my, when do I absolutely go bonkers & turn into Rumpelstilskin? sadly and lately it’s mom in her dementia, Lord help me. Mom is prideful and very self-absorbed, only her world matters. Intellectually, I am grateful as there’s a HUGE upside to her fighting to maintain her self as physically she at 91 yrs is amazeballs and does very well in her self-care except she will wear the same outfit (daily bathes & new underwear, tho).
But, I can lose it on her in a mili-second.😫 She will throw, give away, move, misplace your things and doesn’t remember but she knows where hers are. (kinda funny but NOT!)
I agree ~eliminating my grouchiness is the key. please pray for mom & my grouchiness, thank you.
Oh my goodness, my answer to the question was ALSO my 91 year old mom with cognitive decline. It sounds so bad, to get mad at a poor old gal playing with half a deck. But yeah when I explain something over and over, I can get so frustrated.
@annie, right?!? Thank you so much for your testimony too. it reminds me that we are all human, and Annie hugs and prayers & thank you for your courage and goodness. 🙏🏻💕🍃
Matthew 5:21....you shall LOVE murder? I don't see that in any version of the Bible.
yikes! That's a typo, "You shall not murder" Thanks for calling that out
Typo alert on "love murder" unless you were talking about viewing the ten different Law and Order shows. I wonder what the charge for going into a "gratitude explosion" room would be.
ha! thanks Paul. noted!
Loud, modified exhausts on vehicles.
haha.. YES
Injustice
Older manuscripts:
That means they're closer to the original text, right?
Wrong.
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