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5 Reasons To Love Being Single (With Special Guest Lewis Howes!)
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- čas přidán 23. 10. 2015
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Why don’t you have a man yet?!
Oh...you’re still single? But why?
Uh-oh. Better find a relationship while you still have time!
Any of these sound familiar? If you’re single, I’m sure they will.
Whether it’s in Hollywood romcoms, glossy magazines, or even just your mother’s nagging, there seems to be a constant assumption in the world that being single is the WORST THING EVER.
Maybe you even secretly feel this way yourself.
But you shouldn’t. Being single is totally underrated. In fact, it can be so much fun that you wonder why anyone would ever want a relationship to begin with. In this week’s blog video, I’m joined by a very special guest, my friend Lewis Howes, former pro-athlete and host of the School of Greatness podcast.
I’ve followed Lewis’s work for a while now, and I’m thrilled he agreed to come and share his top 5 reasons why being single can be the opportunity of a lifetime, and why you should savour every second of being free and unattached while you can. It’s a really fun and insightful video, with some genius practical tips for making your life extraordinary so that you can truly appreciate yourself and have a world that bring you happiness and fulfillment.
As you know, I don’t have guests in my video blogs very often, so you can trust me when I say that Lewis provides incredible value.
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When I'm single I listen to my friends talking about their relationship problems, or watch couples argue and struggle. In this moments I'm like : "wow, I'm in such a quiet and peaceful place right now !".
Same, all my friends are married now, most have kids, and its amusing to watch as an outsider unaffected by the drama.
You stole the words from my mouth!
This is interesting...my co-worker is always harassing me to “find a man because I am getting old”....But she always have drama with her husband....then I’m like this is what you want me to get into?
So true like am getting issues now be glad your single enjoy it love you do you
Omg same here 🤣
....being your own best friend is the greatest feeling! reprogramming your brain to not "need" people is sooooo liberating!
Sooo true
This.
@@omardelmar ....oops...didn't see this question...lol....no particular strategy. really it is just a matter of telling yourself different messages and figuring out what makes you happy and do as much as you can of it. if you start to feel bad, think about the thoughts that precede the feelings and work on them....simplistic instructions, I know....not easy at times, but it can work...hope you are well
Omar Del Mar just enjoying your own company! A good book, a good show, that delicious meal you make to yourself, your hobbies, good friends. That’s how you enjoy yourself. And never a sad, drama filled day in your life!
@@0921AV sounds heavenly!!! gotta do it for ourselves!!
After my husband died I had no idea how to go on living. Now I watch opera every night when I get home from work. I go to group therapy with other widows. I make CZcams's of things I think are beautiful and important. I took the best care I could of the 5 cats my husband left me when he died. Three years after my husband died, our apartment got destroyed in a fire. When the firemen and police refused to go into the building because they were afraid it was about to collapse I went in and saved the four cats that were still alive. I volunteer as a gardener at a public garden and I raise butterflies. It's not the life we planned, but I do what I can.
may your husband and cat rest in peace
I love you
Wow. You’re so strong.. I’m still not at that point after my divorce 3 years ago. I admire your strength.🌸
How is it goind for you now?
You're an inspiration 💓
Loneliness is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t wanna deal with people. You can not be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.
Haha so true.
I loved and was inlove with my Ex, but I felt more lonelier WIiTH him than being single. 🍒
Exactly have u realized once u stay single for a while u start to appreciate so many things about yourself
Exactly
@AliSand that's where the guys in the video were talking about having friends, family and new interactions.
From my experience:
1- love yourself
2- be socialized
3- do the things you love and you didn’t have time for
4- exercise
5- be your own friend, don’t always ask your friends for help! Try to find what’s best for you “cause they aren’t living the life you’re living”
6- makes these steps your daily routine
So even if you’re in a relationship after you’ll be more confident
Being single is a great opportunity to give yourself the love you would give others and also learning to value yourself as a person.And is good for experimenting too!
naSia Red I agree, i love being single. :)
@@bettinap3288 me to i still haven't found the answer to why i shouldn't be single
This is the dumbest advice I've ever heard
Loved this
Truee
The one thing to make being single more bearable: turn off social media, go outside, smile at grumpy strangers, and enjoy the moment when a frown turns upside down. Always makes me feel better :)
I have this rule... When I feel hesitant about going out on a limb, texting a crush for example, I assign myself a challenge to earn the text... One day, I challenged myself to make 18 strangers simile :) I ended up having one of the best days at work, and laughing through the day with my client. Cheers.
single is amazing. been single 15 years and love it. more money less headaches, freedom to be me. its the best!
I agree
Gage Öhrn yeah that’s good
1. Get so excited about your goals and what your doing in life.
2. Excercise i.e for me biking, volleyball and eating healthy.
3. Making new friends
4. Having an unwavering belief that you are amazing, the guys you like like you back and anybody would be more than lucky to be with you.
Well a healthy relationship should still allow you to do all of those things. If your ability to live your life is hindered by a relationship, it's probably not a good relationship.
Thank you so much for this you are absolutely right, I do all of these except the 4 one but now I know what to add to my routine . Thank you 😊
Coffee in the morning alone is awesome.
😍😍
yeah, like finding your rhythm in the day, right ?
Beer at nights alone sucks~~
Yes having a breakfast in a park alone.
God damn it man....I love that feeling
I'm single over 3.5 years, I have since then bought my own house, have loads of new friends, dropped the shitty ones, go on spontaneous weekends away on a whim, answer to no one, have money in the bank, no drama no anxiety no arguments ever which relationships are.No having to be dragged around on weekends to crappy shops to keep your "other half" Happy I can go on forever 😅 most relationships are pure rubbish so don't settle for someone who has not similar goals and dreams as you.youll only live with regret and resentment.been there a few times.im happy as f*ck being single.
Agreed...youre woke as f dude..
You are right, you will definitely benefit from staying single while you think that way about relationships.
But you super hot. So what a waste to not share the love.
@@natashamcclintock1324 Thanks, I'm dating at the moment.
@@mokeeffe500 good you should and you should enjoy it. I'm also very happily married... But you needed to be told.
As a single person the one thing that I've been doing that's improved my life 100 fold!! Is getting to know myself through healing and personal development. I've been doing EFT, I've been journaling, going through self exploration and trauma healing. Working on being and feeling more competent and worthy of existing. Connecting with myself and nature. Learning to live in each present moment. Setting boundaries and learning to speak up more and a host of other things that have just helped me feel more grounded in who I am. Learning about myself, learning about the things I am interested in. Learning new skills. This has helped me glow and grow and it's so funny because I'm constantly being asked if theres a man in my life or having colleagues and acquaintances joking about how I'm hiding someone special and lying about being single and when ever I hear that my heart just beams because it shows that I'm so full and overflowing and beautiful that others think there has to be some one inspiring this change, meanwhile it's just me, I'm inspiring my own glow. 🌟 and even though I do desire romance and intimacy, I'm at a point where whoever I choose to be in a relationship with has to add to my joy otherwise what's the point. And he will come in time, I don't have to rush or worry about it.
There should be more likes on this comment. So beautifully said! I'm happy for you :) I'm on the same journey
@@freeguy3751 thank you! All the best with this never ending ascension and discovery journey.
@@nadiag366 This is so well said, don't settle for anything less then great
I’m on the same
1. Invest in learning, Toastmasters, learning to speak French,jewelry making,reading, a lot of reading.
2. Eat and try new cuisines, never could do that with someone who is a picky eater.
3. Art, my passion, people watching and drawing sketches of the public or going to a beautiful spot and paint.
4. Going to events I love ALONE enjoying it every moment without that feeling I drag someone to it.
5. Having the enjoyment of ONE whole day not having to talk to anyone. Being silent for one day and think helps me a lot (peace of mind). NO distractions.
So true.. investing in yourself is the number one thing that you should do. Although we need some time in our lives to socialize, we can also do that by volunteering, taking classes, asking friends out, etc. and getting into flow with your passion ^^
love it
I got to travel more. Hiking etc. Looking forward to more adventures to come
at first I embraced being single, going out really late left me unfulfilled but I wanted to do it to 'get it out of my system' and after alot of dating fails I have finally decided I'm going to stop trying. I'm now a morning person with running errands super early and I even got the courage to go to a movie by myself. I've decided to be kinder and more compassionate as well as going to church regularly and be happy with being by myself instead of negative and bitter that I feel as though I'm the only single person left. nice video!
Nice.
I go to the movies by myself all the time. I've done it for years..
Is it different for women or it doesn't matter? I'm thinking of doing that
I say if you wanna do something such as the movies etc and you have no one to go with proudly go alone.
Ive gone on many road trips alone, amusement parks and stayed the whole entire day alone enjoying rollercoasters and funnel cake with all the toppings all alone and went home alone and watched movies all alone, ive gone to the club all alone and stayed until closing, and danced with several people or by myself happily, and went to a variety of special events alone and spent the whole time alone and had a blast.
Point is if you wanna do something and there is no one to go with happily go alone and have a blast and enjoy your own company.
Plus when you go alone you can leave whenever you want to.
Are you all single still? Or wifed up with kids
#6 - taking full responsibility when things are not great without having anyone else to blame
the hotness on this video blew up my screen.
TheShabby Attic my ovaries are like explodingggggg omg I love these two together ! 😍😍😍😍
That's because you are shallow
He knew ladies would get excited. Hahahahahah.
I'm so single atm. It's okay though. Being in a relationship gives me a lot of anxiety. Not being in a relationship makes me more at ease.
@Top Gadget Lover which is why I'm single af
TheShabby Attic - the video addresses your thirsty behavior and why men don’t like it.
you know what I love about being single now? I love me. I love every minute of being in my own skin. even if I'm doing nothing exciting(always) I love that it's MINE. I do not feel bad or lonely, cause I have me to hang out with. and I love talking to strangers. I make a point of talking to people, especially at work, everyday, to get to know them, even if only for a minute. since I don't want another relationship there's no pressure, so I am just me, liking who I am and meeting all kinds of new people. Being single can be beautiful if you stop feeling sorry for yourself.
this is beautiful.
Absolutely true! I love and enjoy being single as well. And it's important to allow myself to heal from all my insecurities and love everything me including my flaws.
My tip: To not care so much of what others think of you and to just go for it. Thinking of what other may think will limit you. So take a chance, you can only gain!
Being single helped me as a man become more spiritual with who I am and understand who I am and what makes me happy. I discovered my passion after a breakup of 7 years long and that was only because I freed myself from the fear of being single as well as being in an unhappy relationship.
Thank you Matt and Louis.
Forever a subscriber
being single helps me lose weight
Amazing, man. So much respect and admiration I'm sending to you right now. As I'm still in a process of getting to know myself truly, and accepting myself at same time. Single life gives this opportunity to grow.. just acknowledging this is already a step. Thanks again for sharing!
I've been single for three years, at first I felt self conscious to tell people I'm single, but then i decided to go to spa days and reward myself for good things i do through the day. I also went to the movies alone, and I remember I felt so awkward asking for one ticket but I realized how strong I was to be standing alone and having fun appreciating myself. Now I feel so confident and I truly love myself which makes me ready to love someone. It's nice to be single sometimes 😉
1) to get a sexy body and just be healthier 2) get closer to God 3) spend more time with fam and improve relationship with all 4) achieve my glo goals 5) fall deeply in love with myself and make that unconditional and consistent
i love that God comes just after sexy body :D
We don't all need 'God'.
You do realize you can do all these things with a partner, right?
😍 😍 😍 😍
Mostly agree but the god part is gonna be left out for me :)
I've been single for years and wouldn't have it any other way. Relationships aren't for everybody and there are no laws in the world saying you have to be in a relationship. If there were, I'd get life in prison. I have no intention of being in a relationship, but to anyone who does, just make sure you both want the same things in a relationship. Communicate, compromise, respect and love each other.
all has to have those parts for a mature & strong relationship
Amen to that.
glad i came across your comment..that's some real shit right there
bobby cole Thanks
I want to be happy myself before I am get into another relationship
and then when or if I get into a new relationship I want it to be a healthy relationship. 8)
I loved this video! I am older than both of you, but have been a widow (single) for 14 years and had been married for 20 years. One can get "lost" in a love relationship, and my spouse WAS my soul mate. I am doing all of your 5/6 ideas and it works! Go back to the things you love, it will make you stronger! My favorite was become a morning person. I would add, stay on task, try to keep a schedule in your life. Do something that you always wanted to but couldn't because of your marriage or relationship. Don't get bitter, get better!! ❤️😎Thank you for sharing!!
Niko Pagni wonderful comment !! what a Blessing be able to experience having a Soul Mate...
My number one, especially for being single after getting out of a relationship, is probably making sure that you put the energy you used to put into a relationship into something really productive and fulfilling. It really helps you to get to the point of being *happily* single.
I think the best thing about being single is having time for personal growth. when you're in a relationship so much time goes into that but when you're single you can really focus on what you wanna improve on about yourself and what you want out of life. also its SO nice not having to make decisions for two people. so being able to be selfish is my second one.
Hussey is so confident and assured.
Ikr
Wow, the “Be a morning person” totally makes sense
Traveling alone is really, truly wonderful. I didn't appreciate being single until I took a road trip and realized I could do and see whatever it was that I wanted to do and not feel ashamed or shy or guilty about that. I've learned to talk to strangers, to appreciate that there's always something to do (regardless of the weather) and to be content with myself. If you're not sure if you like yourself, being alone in the car with your thoughts for a 22 hour car ride will make it very clear! Your trip doesn't have to be glamorous. Just take a drive to the next town over with the radio off and just your thoughts to keep you company. I also like to journal afterwards about some of the things I think about on my trips - self-limiting beliefs, goals, dreams, all of it.
One reason to love being single? Saving money!
+Bigcuts36
LOL! Not necessarily! One still can spend a ton of money even if one is single . . . just that the spending is on oneself. ;)
ExtraordinaryLivinTV Either way its easier to control the spending on oneself as it deals only with self control rather than feeling like you're pressured to always spend it on someone else.
i agree... period
lol hahahahahaha u made my day sir! 24.05.16
Well he is not guy for you then if he has if he has strong feelings for you then he will make a strong effort to see you
Being single was my precious opportunity to find out who I am and what I want. For the first time, I became my priority. I focus on that dreams I left down and I took control on my life. Single means power , success, freedom, fun, spontaneity and simplicity. And when you want to get in a relationship, it's going to be a healthy one to share that happiness inside.
I love when attractive men sit and talk about their FEELINGS AND INSIGHTS. What madness. Amazing. A concept.
1. You won't go broke
2. You will actually have free time
3. You won't get STDs
4. You won't get cheated on
5. You won't get into domestic violence
I didn't actually go through all this but I've heard stories :/
Bro im phucking DEADDDD!😂👏🏼
Adding on to 3 no having to worry about sinning if you're christian which means being closer to God
Not getting ghosted, taken advantage of, and manipulated.
Until very recently, I used to feel incredibly bitter about the fact that I am single. A lot of my close friends are in long term relationships and I always used to think 'what is so wrong with me that no one wants to be in a relationship with me?!'. I realise now, as I get older, that nurturing yourself as an individual is so important. Now I take steps to do all the things that I want to do for my life, and I've never felt happier to be single!
1-don't have to shave your legs every day (sometimes I would go on a date without shaving my legs , so I feel relaxed and control the "speed" we are moving in)
2-can leave dishes in the sink over night, or day, or few days
3-wear the same t-shirt 3 days in a row
4- don't have to feel bad for not cooking dinner every night
5- not worrying where the hell he is and why he is not calling back
6- watch chick flicks all Sunday
7- not worrying what gifts to get in-laws for Christmas, and if should get something for his brothers and their wife's
8 - flirt as much as you want without looking over your shoulder
9 - move country - no worries about distance relationship
10- drink and eat as much or as little as you want of what you want!
Some people actually do take care of their bodies and appearance too much when they are in a relationship. And could be more attractive when they are more relaxed.
I have learned about 10 new baking and cooking recopies in 2 months of living together and I cooked 2 dishes over 4 months of being single.
And learn that it's your choice !
The only person you need to please with your skills or looks is yourself 💁🏻😎
Dono if it make sense leaving comment on an old video. Love what you do Matthew! You r fun
Arina Trostyanetskaya YASSSS you literally just made me realize al the reasons being single is great!
Wtf
OMG I so agree with you. 1.-3. are my top reasons I love being single right now. At first I thought I would go crazy alone in my new apartment, but after only five months I actually can't see me move in with a guy ever again, because I spoil myself to just do what the hell I want. The only thing that bothers me is, that I would still like to have children. If it wasn't for that, I would be perfectly happy right now.
I am having all of the points in a relationship :D
Mala Mii that’s amazing! I think, looking back, what I meant then was: learn to be happy alone and appreciate your space and moment in your life, so when you get together with someone - you can appreciate being together and also stay yourself. I am naturally overcaring person, I do too much, so for me it isn’t obvious to be chill about tidiness and food when I am with someone, but I am chill about my looks. I can be relaxed about that at least 🤣🐥🙌
I’m jealous of their chemistry and how they’re not afraid of showing their “man love” 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣😆
Finally, I can hear clearly Matt's 5th point: Make rejection your friend. Before, I misheard as "Michael Jackson is your friend". I was so confused. Now, finally, I got it. Yesssss!! This is awesome.
haahahahahah you made my day
hahahhaha that was really hilarious! I laughed Soo hard😂😂😂😂
Best comment ever Bahaha
Ha Ha Ha. You were listening like my Siri types
:)
Im single and i have begun to appreciate MY time, I joined crossfit, plus regular gym, i draw and im learning japanese speak and write. I am ready for any activity and opportunity, but alone is those things i do. And i am a morning person since my whole life. You know what, life is good!
I have always had a fear of doing new things on my own going on public transport without someone terrified me! But last week I went to see a Broadway show on my own, 3 train rides away, that I've wanted to see for months. It was the best thing I ever did i feel like I can do anything now and I'm so proud of myself for pushing myself to be a better me.
What I love the most about being single is the fact that I have taken the time to know myself better and this way I feel more prepared to accept the people I want to spend time with in my life!
TRAVEL...traveling enriches your life, and there is nothing like traveling alone. You learn so much about yourself and it's so liberating to explore the world on your own. I imagine that once you're in a relationship, you won't have the same flexibility.
Two handsome guys in one video! Wow! I really liked the 'being a morning person' which is so true, and I'm actually taking this time to learn a new language. Thank you so much for this video :))
Great idea, same here. I'm learning Spanish.
I'm learning French :))
+LynSire Ⓥ bonsoir ^^ j'espère que vous allez bien
Merci! Tout tres bien :))
dont be so horny bitcha
I like being single because I don't have to negotiate doing what I want. Eat when I want, sleep when I want, go to movies and see what I want.
I love it. And I never argue with myself..... Teehee
True
and f*ck when you want ....yes ad and no....
there is something you lose and something you win
Relationships are good. We just have to redefine what a healthy one is. And you will have money, time for your friends and time for you.
I know, relationships are work and a self challenge to keep the balance. They are def energy consuming, but they worth to experience....
We do not necessarily have to be stuck on them as the key of our sanity, but appreciate what they can bring to our spirits. Of course good ones.
Perfect ones do not exist. It is a constant work in progress....just like our whole beings should be :)
I am single :)
"I am sexy and I love it" :) ( like the song) :)
Before my breakup I loved being alone and spending time by myself and now it's painful
Meditation, Loving yourself more, being more socially active and learning to speak another language. Great video guys!
To make being single more enjoyable, I think of my time as being ultra valuable but not limited. Often times (not always...but often) when ppl desperately want to be in a relationship for the wrong reasons, it's Bc they think they don't have enough time left to find "the one" to spend time w, love or make babies with etc. But when you think of your time as valuable, you start to be more aware of what u should spend that time on...instead of losing your shit over the fact that you don't have much time left. It's true when ppl say, "love is timeless." ;)
For me it helps to not think of myself as single. Somehow this label gives you the idea that this is a state in which you are for a certain time. And then you get this feeling well, when should that be over then? Am I too late or..? And this feeling like you can't do that on your own, because well, in a relationship there are two. Labeling myself as single makes me feel weaker, actually. I don't want to focus on what seems to be the norm about being single. All these feelings and emotions and expectations arise with labeling yourself (and others) single. As if it's a bad thing to be single. So what I just do is think about who I am as a person. I don't need anyone in my life to be(come) happy, fullfilled and complete. I'm not single, I'm multiple. ;)
+Angie W Good for you ;). Maybe society and other people stimulate the negative meaning, but it is up to one self if you accept that meaning. I choose not to ;) though it can be a struggle when people keep asking you why are you single.. as if it's a bad thing, as if something is wrong with you. I think being single has made me become more aware of who I am and of what I can give to myself and to others. I don't need to be in a relationship, though I want to one day.
Really well said. I feel I’m not single, but I’m multiple :-)))
I'm not single I am a life force comnected to all life forces in this universe. We are all One.
love that! I hate labels too....and single is getting to be quite a nasty one!
I prefer being single to being in a relationship. But I think of these states as though I'm a plant, growing or dormant respectively. I feel like when I'm in a relationship, men want to be nurtured but they don't know how (or don't care to try) to nurture back. So when I am in a relationship I feel malnourished, not growing, not flourishing, still functioning but otherwise basically on pause - dormant. When I'm single, I can be totally in tune with my body, mind, and emotions, and I can satisfy my needs and desires as they arise. I can use the extra resources I have to enjoy the things that excite me and keep my curiosity going. I truly enjoy being in this flourishing state. I do see the appeal of being in a relationship, but I also feel exhausted just thinking about the reality of having a second set of needs to meet. It's the single life for me.
Slowly recovering from depression and first reward is having coffee leisurely without worrying about preparing breakfast for my ex
1) dont' have to report to someone. you're free.
2) you can work on your goals.
3) you can entertain yourself. and enjoy your me time more (if you're an introvert).
4) you can remake yourself, go radio silent, change locations, move to a different country and come back more you.
The number one thing for me has been taking more classes, and hobbies I have always wanted to try. These activities have broadened my life with new friends and a new self confidence; which really helps when you break up from a serious relationship!
1 is to travel somewhere you been wanting to travel n do something in ur bucket list while travelling.
2nd for me is go out n help someone less fortunate than you are cuz when were in a relationship all we focus on is how we are gonna make our partner happy that we forget there are people out there that needs our help in some way
Not having to deal with another person who wants you to give them all of your time and effort, but never letting you have anything for yourself! Single is the best.
You should change the title! This is great advice for singles AND those who are IN a relationship. You've hit all the relationship obstacles on the nose. Those things that cause us to lose our 'self' when we are with someone. Honestly, that is the basis for most break ups. We get complacent, withdraw from what we love, who we love to spend time with and just become absorbed with the other person. The things that someone loves most about us on first impressions seem to fade away as we stop doing them and become more absorbed with the other's routine and filling their expectations. Good stuff! thanks for sharing!
In the era of feminism this title is spot on
What I love about being single is the strength I find within myself to carry on after splitting up from my Ex, and all the possibilities to have a good life still, outside my front door. 🍒
Gives you so much time for your own thoughts, I'm always philosophising or appreciating little silly things in my day because i'm not obsessing over a boyfriend. Ah I love being single
I have been single for almost 20yrs and for me I love it. I've had the short and sorta long term relationships, (altogether 3) and after the last one I decided to reevaluate my relationship thinking. And for the first time in my life I realized I loved being alone and all that entails. It's not selfish in anyway, cause no one is getting hurt. I've been on dates and when the desire hits I go with it, but I let everyone know that I am looking for absolutely nothing and don't have expectations of me. I will or I won't there is no grey areas. When it comes right down to it, it's always about sex. And as I age gracefully I have found that I no longer have made that a priority in my very busy life and have no problems physically or mentally , I just have reached a understanding in my mind and lifestyle. And I am ok with it all.
Refreshing.
This is really cool..
I've been on and off with someone for 7 years..
But I have also loved every bit of my alone time..
I think I'm starting to co.e to the same conclusions..
I don't desire what people in a relationship want. I'm so unattached to expectations. And especially. Compromising for someone
So much to be said for being single, not have to answer to anyone, being open to meeting new people with romantic potential, flirting without feeling guilty, enjoying your own space, loving who you want, when in a relationship sometimes you feel like you really fall in love with someone and you have to hold back, can't show them love in the same way, even not romantically but just attention wise. You might meet an amazing wonderful person and want to really spend time getting to know them even as a friend and you feel you can't as it will take time from your partner. It just feels so free and wonderful being single
Guys wont like you having close male friends Ruth Rae.
"flirting without feeling guilty" so you were doing that when in a relationship ?
i think i found another reason why you are single xD
Im a comedian. I feel like I can give more joy to people when I'm single. Being with someone I've felt that they almost pull my power from me, control me. being single means I can be myself to my core and not worry about how my boyfriend would judge me. make people laugh, no restraints on my flexibility for traveling and jokes. :)
Same. I'm always a star of a party. Making people laugh. But when it comes to my partner. It feels like his is damping my light and happy spirits all the time.
So cute honestly
Best part for me being single is that in a one single room I can get up early morning at 5-5:30AM and start do my work and go to bed early as well. I can spend my time with my work a lot and don't need to accept or to wait for something because I can arrange my things with my plans and also reconstruct them whenever I want to, and I don't need to reconstruct my plans because of someone opinions.
Staying single after a being in a toxic relationship for 5 years, has never been better than anything else, for me. I've learned a lot out of it, by loving my time alone, doing things I am not able to do, when I was in that period of time. I've finally found myself again and no longer feels, like I'm walking on an egg shell, on a daily basis, which almost drives me nuts. I get to spend more worthy hours, with family and friends. My days are more positive than before, and you know what, I travel! Meeting new people, learning their cultures, languages etc etc. I'm not saying that I am done with love, but I think the fundamental to be in a healthy rs, is by learning how to be a better person and value myself first, before I am able to share my love and values, with another. I believe energy are contagious. Your vibe attract your tribe.
As for now, I love being single.
I LOVE taking myself out on a date, especially fine (or finer) dining. It’s funny when people look at me weird for dining alone, but I put on my best jewelry, my most beautiful dresses and celebrate a great meal and date by myself. 🤩
1: Learn at least two foreign languages. 2: Get back into a healthy lifestyle i.e. diet & fitness. 3: Look for more ways to make a positive difference in someone's life. 4: Have an unwavering belief in myself and my abilities to accomplish my goals. 5: Get closer to my Creator, Almighty God. 6: Radiate happiness and share it even just with a smile.
Funny thing is, when you're single, you want a relationship, when you're in a relationship, you wanna be single again :] =.=' . . . . .
Oh, you poor thing...You are just too easy, Mr. Wong. No person I've ever met, chooses a worse life over a great one, -Do you agree? So, to be in a relationship with you, if the girl had to bring value to your life you didn't already have, you would not want to be without her. Smiles
Hah it's not about me, just saying as people always want what they can't have. But thanks for the sweet reply :] . .
CARL WongTW true
CARL WongTW I never wanted to be single when I was in a relationship. If i was in a bad relationship (which i have been) i only wished for a new better relationship not singleness
CARL WongTW l agree 100% it is the evil irony
One way of feeling happy is making others feel happy. Like doing 'good deeds' . Be it gifting a poor child a chocolate or spending time at an old age or maybe sharing food with someone who can't afford it or anything little that makes them smile. It is magical. The smile on their face will make you feel like its a miracle and YOU are the reason behind it. It's just heavenly!
What I like about being single is, that I really think about/pick/choose what kind of people I want to surround myself with. For friendships as well as romantic relationships. I learned a lot about my own pattern when it comes to meeting new people. I know by now, who is here to stay or who is just a drive by. I struggled a lot in the past with letting the right people in or letting the wrong ones go. Being single gives me the time to figure me and my relationships out and makes me think more clear :)
Focusing on your career/education
This is great. I've got one, too. It kinda piggybacks on the self-dating concept, except with more introspection - and that'd be a good meditation practice. Nothing exotic. Just some quiescence; some time away from technology and others alike. Whether that's in the literal sense - sitting all cross legged and stuff - or in a more interpretive sense, it's helpful to learn the difference between solitude and isolation. Things like jogging, paddleboarding, yoga, working out solo, swimming, or taking a hike are all great ways to reflect on some of those excellent pointers both'a you mention. 'cause it's tough to be happy with yourself if you don't know who that is. And it's tough to find out who you are if you've constantly got distractions plugged into your skull trying to dictate the parameters of your personality. Excellent vid! :)
Number 1 thing that makes your life enjoyable when you're single; MAKING PEOPLE SMILE OR LAUGH - by socializing (people you already know or you meet while you go to work or to school) , it will not only make their day brighter but it also makes yours brighter and gives you more confidence in your life. You can achieve this by simply talking to them , making a slight jock on something, may be just smiling at them would be enough or even helping those who are in need can bring a smile to their face, because you 'spread' love through your action(s).
I recently discovered the wonder of being single and it's exactly what Matthew pointed out at the beginning of this video: The ability to just say 'yes' off-the-cuff to invitations, to do as I please, go where I please, when I please, with whom I please without consulting with anyone, without answering to anyone, without feeling guilty, without feeling obligated to say 'no', and without taking anyone else's feelings into account. It is truly liberating!! Having been in relationships my entire life up to this point, this is the kind of freedom I've dreamt about and I look forward to enjoying it to the fullest!! It's me, myself, and I all the way!!
If you're single, make a list of things you don't want to lose when you get into a relationship. Tuning out societies anxiety around what you "should" be doing with YOUR life and living your life on your own terms is the best way to attract partners/friends/opportunities that are in alignment with your truth. I Love Lewis his podcast is brilliant! Great to see these two together! -- BE WELL
I love having more time to spend with my close knit group of friends when I'm single. We always have so much fun together and I don't worry about anything else when I'm with them. It's great haha
Volunteer...volunteering is such an amazing way to give back to your community and to meet others who love to give as well. This is something I love to do, especially while I’m single!
GREAT video guys. You know, I'm a believer in a great life doesn't start when your in a relationship. It starts the day you realize your awesome. I do value being around others but I will admit that I'm a bit introverted and love time alone so I love being single so I can enjoy sitting in my own silence.
One of the best parts of being single? Time to learn sh*t! Night/weekend classes, books, documentaries. Yeahhhhhh
Prioritizing "me" time. Taking my time to get ready, staying active, getting my nails/hair done.
No.1 find the Way to love yourself , to appreciate yourself and to find your own value ❤️😊
You guys said it all. My comment: Love yourself fully before loving someone else
Yes more videos of you and Lewis
I think they like each other.....the way they looked at each other, u can tell :)
Number 1 thing for me being single would be to finally look within and evaluate your own needs and desires. We get lost in relationships often and put our needs 2nd to our relationship or sometimes even to our partner. Being single helps to reconnect with yourself and your needs.
I decided that since I was doomed to be single......I may as well focus all my energy.....on me!.
I'm now travelling, seeing as much as can, and trying new things.
It works for me !
Practice gratitude. It helps you see that the world is beautiful that life is beautiful with or without a romantic partner.
I love finding my own rhythm of activities and sleep when I'm single. I adapt way too much when I'm with s.o.
Great insight.
I got into a relationship soon after I was suddenly widowed because I was so afraid to be alone... now 5 years later - I've been single for a year. It's taken me a while to appreciate being single - but I am really loving getting to know myself better - and as corny as it sounds - the whole dating myself thing.
Really appreciated Matt's comment about being a morning person. I used to feel that I had to go out at night to "be alive" - but now I appreciate having a good night's sleep and starting the day fresh. A truly better perspective.
~thanks Matt and Lewis
My #1 focus when single is building (goals) and loving myself every damn day of the new adventure!
Practicing parkour--that would definitely make life more interesting, like, immediately.
I love the way Matthew says "podcast" for some reason
1. Take an interest in and empower others.
2. Appreciate what people do and offer.
3. Give more.
I just broke up and I am doing all of these and I have never been happier!!! I love the confirmation I got from this video !
I really appreciate my single life,yes my siblings all get married, idk why I been single. alone not mean is lonely, just do what you love you never felt lonely. I love my self,that why I choose to be single 😘😍
I love to just practice flirting wherever I go without fearing that a boyfriend will get jelous xD
1)Having time to just think with out interruption of thought. 2)Reading more, educating your self. 3)Finding out what your ideals are. 4)Finding out what you like about yourself. 5)Finding out what you don't like about yourself, and working on that.
the freedoms of when you are single means you can explore whatever you choose... inspiring healthy... I find writing, reflecting, sharing with friends, walking in nature and actively learning and diving deeply into newness.. practicing and getting skilled in any areas of passion is a gift to take from being single into relationship... nga mihi for your korero, loved it!!
I love that "mmmm" sound Lewis always makes when he agrees. It is so funny!
I love every single gesture of him. his so animated mouth, the rhythm of his head when he listens , the depth of his sight, the sound of his voice and laugh, the movement of his hands when he gets exited or gets curious...the frozen expression of his whole buddy when his planning to snap the next interesting question.
I am deeply infatuated with his beautiful essence, with the sweet pure child in him
I don't label myself as single, I am just me. I have no relationship status. (lol like you can do on facebook) I think the fact that I began dating later than most of my peers (when I was 19) made me feel more normal to not be in a relationship than be in one. It is almost better because I know that I only have to rely on myself, and I value my independence greatly. Because I am still growing as an individual and learning who I am and whom I want to become, I have recently realized that is more beneficial for me to not be involved with anyone. That way I can grow into my true self and without being strongly influenced by a significant other. It might not be the right thing, but that is the way I see things.
Got dumped out of the blue in March and had to move out - during quarantine. As much as it hurts and I still don't understand what caused it, I am embracing being single again. I loved him very much, but if I am being honest, I have to admit that we really had very different interests and visions for our future. Now I am free!!! I can finally leave this city and live where I want! I don't have to compromise anything anymore. And hopefully someday I will meet someone who is much more suited for me. Until then I'm going to stay positive and look forward to having new doors open. Trusting that the universe has a better plan for me than I did for myself. Good luck everyone!
How long did it take to move on from him?
Cook, meal prep, and organize my home is what I enjoy doing for myself. Starting new craft projects, and camping with my dog alone is very peaceful. I know camping alone as a female might sound dangerous, but I have enjoyed the most blissful mornings and peaceful hikes by myself or with my dog.
this is exactly what I needed to hear and I will definitely be using these tips. thank you both so much!
I'm 22 and I've never been on a date and I love the single life!
"Go on a date by yourself" I LOVE that. I do it from time to time and people often comment to me "wow, you're brave". Who cares. Sometimes I just don't have the time to ask someone to join me as it is very last minute and plus it is nice to have a little me-time. Why limit yourself?
My freedom is the most valuable lesson that I have learned while being single. I dont have to give any explanation where I am at, what I'm doing it. I love it
This helps a lot. I just got out of the military and my BF broke up with me. I'm also starting nursing school so I'm having big life changes. I want to be single for a while and enjoy it because I never have in the past. When I'm with a man most of my time goes toward him. I want to focus on nursing. I'm 27 I just get scared because I feel like I'm getting old lol and all the good guys are going to be taken. I'm not used to being single so I'm
Nervous but this video gave helpful tips. Thanks!
I'm going through the same thing! I'm 28 And starting nursing school as we'll. Just broke up a day ago and it's devastating. I've never experienced really being alone. It's terrifying, and lonely. This does give hope, and soon hopefully we can begin finding ourselves. you are not alone!
Andrea Shaver it's so comforting to know that there are others going through the same thing. My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago. Ugh I hate breakups they just sucks
+Alexandra Golightly
I've been through this twice before and got through it. So I know the steps I need to take. This time is just more difficult because we were so in love and amazing with each other. After a year he came to the realization he doesn't want children. Something I couldn't give up. so we ended it. Do you feel you are better and have made progress over these weeks?
Andrea Shaver yeah I'm a bit better. It's hard because I still miss him everyday but I'm not crying constantly anymore. I had to hold it back during my nursing entrance exams. What makes it especially hard is hat we were best friends before we got together. I was close with his family also. So I feel more like I lost my best friend. I know it's for the best, I hope to pick up the friendship part at least again someday. But I'm just trying to heal right now
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