The rhetoric of the Male identified woman!

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  • The rhetoric of Male identified women!
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  • @karinealourdementalgems
    @karinealourdementalgems  Před měsícem +20

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    • @eleisatrujillo3398
      @eleisatrujillo3398 Před měsícem +1

      🎉❤I only found out about her from you and now she's my favorite and I tell everyone about her and the quote in the beginning of the video you made is what I show people "...they will kick you in the teeth... SMILE at them anyway....do good anyway." Favorite quote of mine 🎉❤

    • @user-do6kh7ob9w
      @user-do6kh7ob9w Před měsícem

      Keep speaking the truth about everything! You're the reason I returned back to the Lord. If you didn't bring knowledge forwarded about where the Bible originated came from, I would still be saying our oppressors gave this to me. I researched it myself and seen white men rewritten our history in the Bible. I have more understanding now. I love this video about women have been working for centuries. Truth shall set you free🤎💯 It's me. I had changed my username🙂 I had to edited this comment, because my elder cousin, man, told me I have to obey my husband and do what he says. Girl, yes, he did. I told him No.😂 My Auntie who's passed said all men cheat. She says as long as they treat you right. I told her No too.😂

  • @scoobydoo02
    @scoobydoo02 Před měsícem +78

    The ignorance online frustrates me so much, so I just stepped away from it all. Don’t wanna shake my head all day. Over it

  • @girlbrittneygirl
    @girlbrittneygirl Před měsícem +54

    Ma'am! Women can still be a single mother even with father in the home! The issue I have with people blaming single mothers is that when comes to single fathers there's radio silence. The average father is not Frank from Moeasha!

    • @ktokie338
      @ktokie338 Před měsícem +7

      Right on! Men don’t have to be responsible nor are they able to unless forced. Which is why there’s a lot of single married women.

  • @nannerbotz4680
    @nannerbotz4680 Před měsícem +47

    Please please PLEASE don't limit yourself on what you say about things like this! I WISH this video was over an hour long. This is such an important subject and you have such valuable things to say on it. If possible I'd love a part 2 🫶🏻 much love and blessings to you

  • @girlbrittneygirl
    @girlbrittneygirl Před měsícem +19

    There is no such thing as the soft life! The feminine does not rest.

  • @pilar8ful
    @pilar8ful Před měsícem +44

    Women were always working you are absolutely right!

  • @ioanafilipescu2327
    @ioanafilipescu2327 Před měsícem +30

    The end of this video: Nothing could be truer! Sooo well said. And yes, I never understood how some people hate the parent who STAYED and literally a lot of times risked their lives to even GIVE BIRTH TO THEM, changed their dipers, cooked for them, cleaned for them, emotionally supported them and honestly, GAVE UP ON THEMSELVES AS WOMEN, AS HUMAN BEINGS in order to please them. And still, the parent who left (usually the dad) is seen in a golden aura because fatherless kids are projecting their idealized version of their fathers and they can do that exactly because they don’t know how it would have actually been to have their father, when in real life…😅

    • @w8what575
      @w8what575 Před 14 dny

      My ex abandoned his two sons..my oldest worships the man and does everything he can to get his dad’s attention and literally discarded his little brother and me…I haven’t met my youngest grandson who is a year old now and same with my older grandson who was 3 last I saw him…he’s gonna be in kindergarten soon…because his dad and his dads wife are “his parents” he stole my youngest sons vehicle and sold it and drained his bank account …then ghosted us…I told him to not contact us again… and then he contacts his brother who still lives with me and tried talking him into moving in with him..Told him a bunch of bs lies as if his little brother wasn’t there and knows what happened first hand…so he’s being attacked now too because he refused to play his brothers game…he literally said he doesn’t want anything to do with his own mother who raised him alone cuz his dad was out committing burglaries and sleeping with anything and everything …idc…if I ever see him again…it’ll take everything in me to not break his nose…his brother feels the same way…the things he did to me were so effed up…putting my debit card on Xbox live for his friends to use….it was so bad the bank shut my card down within 20 minutes of the first transaction to go through …well over $10,000 in 20 minutes all over the world…he even posted my PIN number! Then him and my niece broke in and stole all my jewelry including my wedding ring his dad gave me….he made it so much harder for us on purpose and hates me because I was the one who took care of him…I regret eating my time in the useless pig now…he ruined our lives and I’ll never forgive the spoiled rotten piece of garbage

  • @NK-rf4db
    @NK-rf4db Před měsícem +10

    I will say something regarding Candace(because you've mentioned her),I always thought it's so interesting how she keeps saying that it was "better" for women back then and how she encourages women to be housekeepers and yet here she is, making business deals, flying jets from country to country to speak has a whole platform and yet she keeps on saying how "we don't need feminism anymore"??! one word: hypocrisy.
    P.S.- I genuinely feel like she has some sort of resentment for women, and it stems from her childhood, she always spoke about girls in her school hating on her. Also,the fact she became buddies with certain men who absolutely HATE women is a red flag.

  • @ChaChaWitYa
    @ChaChaWitYa Před měsícem +43

    Hey everyone. Let’s get the popcorn ready 🍿

    • @karinealourdementalgems
      @karinealourdementalgems  Před měsícem +12

      lol 😂 🍿🍿🥤🥤

    • @Meelan72
      @Meelan72 Před měsícem +6

      I chew so loudly I won’t be able to hear anything. I will watch in silence 😞

  • @JenSumma
    @JenSumma Před měsícem +13

    My mom didn’t work full time for a few years while she was married to my dad. She then did part time work and eventually finished college. Now she works

  • @ChaChaWitYa
    @ChaChaWitYa Před měsícem +25

    @18:14 They’re also loud and wrong about A LOT of the “facts” that they bring up and love to ignore socialization smh.

  • @sheng3229
    @sheng3229 Před měsícem +39

    You're a trooper to have this conversation Karine. Go for that 50min length vid haha. Great video on a Friday love 💗

  • @athomewithhollie
    @athomewithhollie Před měsícem +12

    Oh girl I feel like I’m on the brink of losing a friendship over this too… I think she’s trying to overcompensate because of some toxic males in her family.
    And lost one last year when a friend lost herself in an abusive marriage.

    • @vikki8699
      @vikki8699 Před měsícem +6

      Sometimes you have to leave such friendships in order to grow and thrive in healthy areas.
      My mum is a pick me and is very competitive with me and other women. It took therapy to unlearn her teachings and I now have to keep my mum at arms length to protect myself.
      This dies not mean I love her any less, it means that I put myself first.
      I now have the girls girl friendship circle I always wanted. I am surrounded by men who value women and acknowledge what we bring to the table without us saying.
      Its going to hurt breaking away. You have to protect you the lifestyle you wish to create. Some one who is not a girls girl is someone who will saboratage their fellow women to validate their own internalized mysogyny.

  • @Iquey
    @Iquey Před měsícem +12

    Phyllis Schlafy was a good example of a male identified woman. Made her entire independent career at the eagle forum basing woman who work , while she herself, worked...to undermine the rights of women. She was the cultural ancestor of Pearlythings.

    • @KoreaMojo
      @KoreaMojo Před měsícem +2

      It's a grift. When you see people doing the opposite of what they say similar people should do and if they are unaware then they've scammed themselves first. I'm not talking about being conflicted with urges or philosophies and trying to work things out. I'm talking about biblically defined hypocrites: play actors. You wear a mask and you do so to manipulate others. That's what those people are at the worst.

    • @grazielaalmeida8438
      @grazielaalmeida8438 Před měsícem

      In my country there's a very famous male identified woman the wrote a book about Phyllis.

  • @Lendrina22
    @Lendrina22 Před měsícem +7

    Thank you for this topic. I was starting to think that everyone had lost their minds. This new generation is like a sheep herd, following every new trend that is just oposite from norms. From woke to feminist hate, it seems like they don't have their own critical thinking skills. It scares me a lot.

  • @jadajen4
    @jadajen4 Před měsícem +8

    In order for women to pick better men would have to be better

  • @ameliagentle7873
    @ameliagentle7873 Před měsícem +3

    It's not even just about growing up in a toxic household, for me that was just the culture... even in our religious text!! On television everything, I didn't start to think different until I started to increase my awareness a year ago.

  • @PrincessAmmanii
    @PrincessAmmanii Před měsícem +29

    If you believe in equality for women then you’re a feminist. It’s sort of like saying for example ‘because you don’t have a 9-5 then you’re unemployed’, when really making videos is work that you’re being compensated for so you would be considered employed. I hope that makes sense 🤦🏾‍♀️ I personally identify with intersectional feminism. I’m sure you have but I’m new here so please forgive me if you’ve already touched on it. If you haven’t already, I recommend looking into it! ✨💕

  • @kayabe856
    @kayabe856 Před měsícem +7

    I don’t consider myself male identifying or male centered however I feel like I have been hurt the most by women who are male centered, choosing the man over friendship, so I tend to warm up more to men. When looking for a therapist I chose a man because of this.

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 Před měsícem +10

      I experienced betrayal fr MCW and avoid them. I prefer balanced or decentered ones

  • @Tee-Star
    @Tee-Star Před měsícem +4

    1:36 The neutral position is the MOST DANGEROUS...not just on this topic!

  • @ebonyessence8
    @ebonyessence8 Před měsícem +3

    I wish you were my friend in real life. You are so enlightened.

  • @ingridgallagher1029
    @ingridgallagher1029 Před 26 dny +2

    For the record, even your videos were 90 minutes it would not deter me from listening to the end. I love your channel; I listen when i do chores and you make them more enjoyable. Some of the things you've said have really stayed with me when I'm moving through my days.

  • @Tee-hy9uk
    @Tee-hy9uk Před měsícem +1

    It’s sooo hard to find like minded ppl nowadays it’s soo refreshing to hear a woman beside yourself talk and make plenty of sense I was feeling crazy a little but your videos literally gotta me feeling myself again because you say things I say but it’s even more refreshing being able to listen and learn keep doing what you do😊

  • @dreasbling4824
    @dreasbling4824 Před 26 dny +1

    I am so proud of you, young, intelligent, and beautiful woman, because you actually get it. Thank you for caring to share the truth of the matter. Keep being a wonderful manifestation of divine love and integrity. ❤

  • @nevaehortega8403
    @nevaehortega8403 Před měsícem +3

    You’re a jewel sis! I love your calm demeanor and tone. This video was on point.

  • @Meelan72
    @Meelan72 Před měsícem +6

    Yes! The queen of wisdom is back spreading her gems as she glidessss

  • @nonniwilliams2220
    @nonniwilliams2220 Před měsícem +2

    100% agree! Thank you for making this video!

  • @wanderlovesus7777
    @wanderlovesus7777 Před měsícem +7

    Hi, Karine 😊 thanks for sharing this topic!
    So, I don't hate other women and why should I?? I love myself so much, to let anything or anyone project their insecurities on me. But I hate to say this tho but I find the women of my own culture kinda toxic, and hard to get along with and yeah I’ve said it, most of my female friends were from other cultures. Because growing up I didn't own anything luxurious or cool material brands like the other kids had, and because of that I would get pick on by them, and I felt more accepted by other females from other different cultures with better values. I wish the female in my culture weren't like that, but it’s sad and true.

  • @Tamytutu81
    @Tamytutu81 Před měsícem +3

    Hey Karine. You should consider doing a TED talk!

  • @remarkablyweirdmarcus490
    @remarkablyweirdmarcus490 Před měsícem +3

    This video was much needed especially for people with narrow perspectives

  • @monique8736
    @monique8736 Před měsícem +2

    Thank you for this segment as you are a powerhouse of knowledge…I love the controversial content you bring to the forefront to invoke having these hard conversations❣️🫶🏼

  • @PrincessAmmanii
    @PrincessAmmanii Před měsícem +11

    You aaaaate with 19:00 🤣🧐

  • @di7787
    @di7787 Před měsícem +11

    I was sooo early, saw it 3 minutes later, but my comment wouldn't post 😂 This should be interesting for me, I am a girl's girl, but I have male or neutral hobbies

  • @vikki8699
    @vikki8699 Před měsícem +2

    Juat woke up for a beautiful 10 sleep, saw that you posted and immediately clicked! ❤
    Listening to this whilst doing my morning skin and haur routine.
    I think I know who are talking about. Not just Candice but anther girl who is in her 30s and is spewing hateful things about our fellow ladies.
    Its disgraceful! I am proud to be a girls girl and being equal. ❤

  • @victorialester1634
    @victorialester1634 Před měsícem +2

    Thank you Karine !!!

  • @flourishgem9618
    @flourishgem9618 Před měsícem +2

    Ive has women do me dirty throughout my life. In my career, and personal life. Friends & family

  • @Lucky_Gurl-Luna
    @Lucky_Gurl-Luna Před 27 dny

    This conversation is amazing. I use to be very male identified in my early teens and 20’s . I was definitely a pick me .

  • @traceylennon1204
    @traceylennon1204 Před 26 dny +1

    Thanks!

  • @athomewithhollie
    @athomewithhollie Před měsícem +2

    One of my fave videos yet from you. More like this please

  • @journey2jae
    @journey2jae Před měsícem +1

    you better PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!! we don't always agree but girl you got me today lol

  • @kenasssss
    @kenasssss Před měsícem +1

    Thank you, Karine. 💗💖

  • @michie1luv
    @michie1luv Před měsícem +1

    This is a good video!

  • @Joeshaxo
    @Joeshaxo Před měsícem

    Real talk , you ate with this one

  • @SR77736
    @SR77736 Před měsícem

    Great video 👍🏽🧡

  • @denisespencer9190
    @denisespencer9190 Před měsícem +1

    Hi dear I was just browsing through your channel and I love it and your topics really resonate with me.....cheers to a new friendship and subscribing is a must for me

  • @SPchildofGod
    @SPchildofGod Před měsícem +3

    Thank you for bringing this issue to the forefront, and I totally agree that there is an all out assault on women these days. 1 Timothy 2:14 clearly states that the women (Eve) was fully deceived, meaning the blame goes to Adam and ultimately the devil, who Jesus calls, “a murderer when he began,” (John 8:44). Misogyny has been aided and abetted throughout the centuries, and they justify it with the misuse of bible scriptures. 1 Peter 3:7 clearly states that husbands were to assign their wives with honor as a weaker vessel. It doesn’t say lesser vessel. Why would God bless man with a “helper,” who Adam said, “this is at last bone of my bones,” only for man to abuse this gift? Why on earth do they think God would approve of this misogynistic behavior? Short answer, He doesn’t (bottom part of 1 Peter 3:7)

  • @johannawilliams2410
    @johannawilliams2410 Před měsícem

    Very interesting topic...❤

  • @alexmills630
    @alexmills630 Před měsícem +5

    I feel terrible for saying this, but sometimes I find myself wondering, "Are we (women) truly as equally valuable as men?"
    All my life, I've heard every interpretation under the sun. "Women are useless," "women are more valuable than men," "we're all equal" 🙄.
    But when you get right down to it, have we women been getting it wrong the whole time? Are we really worth so little? Is the role that God put us on Earth really to be secondary to the man?
    And this is coming from someone who was mostly raised in an all women household. And I love every single one of them
    I know this is so far from true but every so often the thought comes rearing itself 😔

    • @grazielaalmeida8438
      @grazielaalmeida8438 Před měsícem +4

      For God we are equally valueble, but for this fallen world men worth more.

    • @_Ridethemaverick
      @_Ridethemaverick Před měsícem +1

      I would suggest you read “The Great Cosmic Mother” and you will find out just how valuable you are!💜

  • @Allnewtv244
    @Allnewtv244 Před 28 dny

    I like this one. I can be very balanced in my understanding of other peoples opinions. I have my quarrels with both sexes tbh. Its just nice to hear someone approach this topic in a unbias way ❤

  • @keenfarquharson
    @keenfarquharson Před měsícem

    What a Worddddd!!

  • @DiamondPR
    @DiamondPR Před měsícem +21

    I have girl friends BUT I Always had More Male friends. And I prefer cause Women tend to be jealous competition and gossip. My male friends I Trust the most. And they never gossip, they protect me and they always there for.me. my male best friend still my bff for over 20 years already❤ thats my bro❤

    • @Godspit6066
      @Godspit6066 Před měsícem +4

      Amen girl,same here

    • @redpillqueen8888
      @redpillqueen8888 Před 29 dny

      No. They want to f you. I finally admitted this to myself. Their wives will force them to dump you the minute they get married and they will. They will happily discard you bc you never let them f you. They use you for clout. Imply they are stewing you. Use you to make their gfs jealous. There is no such thing as a male friend. They are waiting for a crumb to fall.

  • @girlbrittneygirl
    @girlbrittneygirl Před měsícem +1

    This is where I have a little compassion for some male-identified women they center males, but they will take up for women. My Mother believes the man is supposed to be the head of the house hold. She knows no different. My mother and father divorced when I was two. My mother did not date until I turned 18. She was single the whole time I was growing up. She's also a foster parent. She will not get any female teenagers. She'll take females 12 and under. She stopped taking in female teenagers because of an incident that happened a few ago where these females had snuck some guys into their rooms. To her , those females were being "fast". But she hasn't realized that those teenage males had the audacity to come her house being disrespectful. Those teenage males invited themselves to her house. Shouldn't she stop taking in teenagers all together? If teenagers are the problem, why would she keep taking them in? I still live with my mother, as I'm part of her support system for the foster kids. Every Morning, I hear her go through hell, trying to help these teenage males. They're decent boys and they're innocent . They are still males. They've never been in foster care. They need guidance. My big brother on the underhand, she keeps letting stay in house although he has issues and won't go to rehab.

  • @glamjam9695
    @glamjam9695 Před měsícem +1

    "A man's rib" 🙄

  • @grazielaalmeida8438
    @grazielaalmeida8438 Před měsícem +9

    When I worked on a cruise ship, there was a woman that hated other women, she only trusted in her male friends, and she treated women with rudeness.

  • @colemelendez8966
    @colemelendez8966 Před 2 dny

    ✨A M E N N N✨

  • @grahamcrackerjay
    @grahamcrackerjay Před měsícem +1

    Facts! That's not God!❤ love your videos!

  • @KayleighHH.
    @KayleighHH. Před měsícem +1

    Sheesh. Black women were so much more before slavery. We have to educate ourselves further than this Karine.

  • @girlbrittneygirl
    @girlbrittneygirl Před měsícem +1

    Ma'am! The truth needs no defending. The male nature is the nature! Bashing males would be claiming that they are more than what they truly are.

  • @mychelle446
    @mychelle446 Před měsícem +1

    19:59 - some gnostics believe that the serpent in the garden was Sophia... Goddess of Wisdom.
    Genesis 1 and Genesis 2 aren't consistent in the account of the creation of humans as well as God's instructions to them.
    _I am using italics to highlight the verses that usually get skimmed over by church leaders_
    Genesis 1
    26 And God said, Let _us_ make man in _our image,_ after _our likeness:_ and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
    27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; _male and female created he them._
    28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
    29 And God said, Behold, _I have given you _every herb_ bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and _every tree,_ in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; _to you it shall be for meat._
    30 And to every beast of the earth, and to every fowl of the air, and to every thing that creepeth upon the earth, wherein there is life, I have given _every green herb for meat:_ and it was so.
    31 And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.
    So God created humans, male and female in the image of Elohim (plural) and instructed _them_ that all trees were for food (including the tree of LIFE?)
    We then move into Genesis 2
    Thus the heavens and the earth were _finished,_ and _all_ the host of them.
    2 And on the seventh day God _ended his work_ which he had made; and _he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made._
    In Genesis 4 we have a new title "LORD" god and a completely different narrative of the creation of humankind is then described as well as completely different instructions to them.
    I know you already know the Adam and Eve narrative, so I won't expound upon it... but what if the serpent was NOT the devil, but a spirit that knew God's original instruction to mankind was to eat freely of ALL trees, including the tree of knowledge of good and evil... and that EVE would be more receptive to the truth!

    • @redpillqueen8888
      @redpillqueen8888 Před 29 dny +1

      Most people don’t think this deeply. They just follow religion… no research at all.

  • @betula.4899
    @betula.4899 Před měsícem

  • @tru777
    @tru777 Před měsícem

    18:04 🤣🤣

  • @vcm5590
    @vcm5590 Před měsícem

    👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @redpillqueen8888
    @redpillqueen8888 Před 29 dny

    Like Pearl. Fug She is the worst!

  • @Nilsil
    @Nilsil Před měsícem

    ❤❤❤🔥🔥🔥

  • @tayla3934
    @tayla3934 Před měsícem

    the ending of this video was very beautiful. “God is the creator, so the highest honor is to create”

  • @user-zr1xc7tz4l
    @user-zr1xc7tz4l Před měsícem

    IMMA Male LAVAA😑

  • @elizabetdanova3219
    @elizabetdanova3219 Před měsícem

    Karine, do you know that "pastor" Jessy. He says that to women...

  • @beatricealboth1242
    @beatricealboth1242 Před měsícem +6

    The jezebel time we living now and they don’t hide it anymore the toxicity between women now in days is fact in the work place in the community the bully the jealousy I don’t hate all women but you see it every day women killing each other over men or jealousy and if I have 4 males friends I ha 1 female friend

    • @brandy_YJJ
      @brandy_YJJ Před měsícem +6

      If you're surrounded by/attract toxic women, that is a reflection on you.

    • @KoreaMojo
      @KoreaMojo Před měsícem +1

      ​@@brandy_YJJIt could be but not so emphatically. No matter where you go, you're going to be around mess. What you sit in, that is your choice for multiple reasons. We do make a society collectively but nothing OP said is unique to women. Oftentimes the motives and mentalities are the same but the expression of these commonalities appears different.

    • @newph0newhodis
      @newph0newhodis Před měsícem +1

      Watch this again. Sad to see self hating women!

    • @Godspit6066
      @Godspit6066 Před měsícem +1

      ​@brandy_YJJ that is so false,I'm empathic all I want to be is a good friend,they like to be in secret competition, they are petty,they're insecure, and they like to project, they're toxic. I met women all the time asking for my number,I give it to be nice,but not trying to connect.

    • @beatricealboth1242
      @beatricealboth1242 Před měsícem

      @@newph0newhodischild I hate myself so much I took therapy and medication but guess what I’m drama free

  • @_Ridethemaverick
    @_Ridethemaverick Před měsícem +2

    I really despise the fact that folks think our history begins with being enslaved. There were civilizations pre ANY abrahamic religions and patriarchy. We did have good ol days. We just have not seen them in centuries. We were violently removed from our previous ways of being. I do agree that women always worked but it was not as it is today. I would suggest you read “The Great Cosmic Mother” for more insight💜.

  • @colemelendez8966
    @colemelendez8966 Před 2 dny

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  • @user-do6kh7ob9w
    @user-do6kh7ob9w Před měsícem

    There are great men but stay away from men like Diddy. Stay FAR away!!!!!

  • @KoreaMojo
    @KoreaMojo Před měsícem +1

    Great video! Just excellent. Now, I only disagree with cutting people off for saying one thing. Only because it depends on what that is, it's just not going to happen easily. Candace does a lot of antiblack work and that's just not it. She's a cog in a machine to nudge people into antiblack rhetoric and stereotyping real smooth like boiling a frog. So nice and easy that you don't know it's happening until you cooked. She's a tool.
    I hate how people call Mary Magdalene a prostitute when it doesn't say anything about that anywhere. It said she was possessed and she was delivered. People really don't be reading letter written to us by Father. Then they wonder why a good amount will be turned away from the wedding with Jesus saying He doesn't know them. You can't know someone you don't listen to or think about their feelings. I digress.
    I love these kinds of diverse topics. People are spewing their mental issues (or spirit sickness) onto others to avoid the pain and struggle of healing and living. I have to add, it's inevitable. We can't do things or think things unhealthy and just hold all the sequelae to ourselves. It will seep out into other areas of our lives and as the proverbial decay continues the pressure builds just like methane gas from a trash heap: if there's no outlet to vent, there's going to be an explosion. So that's what a lot of people end up doing unfortunately venting or exploding. Life's issues are like a wound debridement when dealt with, look into it if you don't know. Life's issues are like gangrene or sepsis if you avoid dealing with them to preserve momentary and illusory peace. Knowing that is a third of the battle. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️