Narcissists Know How Hurtful They Are
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Narcissistic abuse looks like:
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.
Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:
Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.
Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.
Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
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Yes. They know they are being hurtful, withholding, and cruel. That is why they are careful who they do this in front of and will mostly only do this behind closed doors
Yes true
💯💯💯
Absolutely. They are selfish weak cowards just like enablers
And will use how they KNOW they are a$$holios as their poor me victimized story.....
Painfully true
They get mad at you if you try to hold them accountable for the bad things they do to you!!!! The audacity!
That is what I will never understand why ???
Mine gaslight me then would insult me or curse.
@@1010QUEEN7 ever hear the sentence "your light will always irritate their demons?" well that is the gist of it. listen to this video in full again. they are the opposite of your nature.
Or you pull away from them and choose not to relate to them.
@@brendakauffman2222 Why does this sound a bit like sneaky NPD type VICTIM BLAMING to me?!
I am fully convinced: people know EXACTLY what they are doing. If they wanna hurt you, they will. It is a conscious decision. This is why you gotta believe what you see; "You will know them by their fruits."
Good point!
@@angelabowman343 you're goofy
And when you get a really sly narc, they will tell you that it's YOU who doesn't have fruit, but wait it out, the truth ALWAYS comes out - ALWAYS!
"When ppl show you who they are- BELIEVE THEM"
you will know them from their fruits, bingo!
If you pay attention in conversations they tell you right in your face they DON'T CARE...
Yes this is true
You are so right!!
My sister says she doesn’t care outright!
My mom used to say “and your point is…”
Yes!! As I look back to my ex priest pastor confessor and spiritual director malignant narcissist I had for 10 years before I moved away, like evil controlling people who just have to tell you what they are all about or what they will do to you, they feel compelled to drop a line or a verbal hint to say or tell you straight out what they are doing, feeling or thinking...it's right there in front of you but you HAVE to pay attention, listen and take them at their word..no surprises there.
its too easy to brush them off like they are joking...but they are not..we empaths just can't believe people could be so mean spirited or destructive...(wow esp. a priest!.) From the name calling to the humiliating in front of others 'for 'fun 'or 'as a joke', saying ' stop personalizing' or ' you're too sensitive', in self aggrandizement sermons or playing the victim sympathy role ...I have heard blatantly said out loud ' 'I don't care' If you like me great; if you don't like me great' 'I have no friends' 'oh when I was young and happy' ' the ones I treat like this are the ones I really care about' I'm in charge .'I expect people to answer me like when I barked commands in the military'. yikes.!.. DO take them at their word because they will show their true narcissistic colors..and yes they know they are doing damage bc its all about them and being self serving.and that they deserve it all. They want us to play their toxic game. it's just so sick..unfortunately it can take us years before realizing we are not deserving of this trauma abuse behavior and finally learn detachment for good.
Yep! He actually said to me one time that he gives zero and said it again,zero f*cks about my feelings.
How about people like myself who have Intj Sigma personality and really didnot care about social norms, people judments, always alone wolves, we are not narcisists ,right?? I never try to hurt any one on purpose but i just cant be empathaic either!
These types of people are sick.... and it's unfortunate that they're multiplying. No guilty conscience, no empathy....they're dead inside
They're the majority now...
I don't believe they are the majority, or that they are multiplying. They are just very noisy on social media. They actively seek attention and validation online, and pursue it very aggressively. So it may seem as though they are in the majority, but the truth is, for every narcissist posting on social media there at least 10x other decent people who don't, and who are just living their lives normally and considerately towards their fellow man. Don't be intimidated by the trash you see on the internet - at the end of the day it's all just noise 📢
@@carlruppert7324 I don't think they're the majority but i do feel comfortable to say they are multiplying, generational trauma being passed down to their own children, not having a cure for this type of personality disorder or even personality traits. Before I got deeper into studying narcissism, there were a lot of confusing behaviors that I couldn't quite put my finger on, now that i know and understand it, I can look back at my life and see who all the narcissists are that I've ever worked with, met, went to school with, who they are in my family, past friends, exes, political figures, celebrities.... It's become its own epidemic and the sad thing is that although people are waking up to it after encountering and researching it, there's still many more who are victim to it and who feed into it unconsciously. Yes, you're correct that there are many more who are not, but that doesn't eliminate the fact that each generation are creating more.
Amy ,,, I agree with you,,, the path to heaven is a narrow path and few there be that find out
They are multiplying and it was predicted in the Bible. 2 Timothy 3:2-8. It advises us to have nothing to do with them.
I agree there no excuse for their behaviour . I was abused child and I don't treat people the way nacs do .they choose to be evil .
Exactly!
Yes indeed Julie! Same here I was abused and mistreated my whole young life. I did not choose to be a tierant. These people choose to follow the devil and do his bidding. Never be fooled by this disorder bull. GOD gives us choice. Then we choose. JESUS said, Men love darkness more than the light.
Yes narcissistic people try to turn it on us if we've had a bad childhood but some of us suddenly se the light and become people pleasers and you're right we choose how to be in our life xx
Wow! So true and they are expert manipulators of children… they condition you to never say no … that’s how I came to care for my Dad when he was despite him beating me black and blue literally as a child. It’s also built in to never disagree with anything they say no matter how it impacts your life. Childhood conditioning can never be totally escaped … I’m not sorry my parents are dead at all
I could be mean, but I am not. That what sets me apart from being a narcissist.
I'm so tired of people saying "Communication is the Key" .... Sometimes we have to run when that communication is not effective.
True
As a Christian am always told to pray it shall be well but he worsens with age and he wants to be treaded as a king....am so desperate no one understands me
Of course they know.
Just watch them stop raging when a Cop shows up.
Watch them stop screaming when the neighbor drops by.
Watch them get totally logical when a co-worker comes to pick up that file.
They’re not lost. They’re a joke.
Thanks for the reminders--I kept giving them the benefit of the doubt and I need to watch that.
So very true
And watch them scheme and plan their victims' destruction for years, even decades... some of "my" narcissists literally spent every moment of several decades scheming and planning my destruction!
They know what they are doing. A supervisor at work, she pisses on subordinates whenever she feels inclined. Especially out of the eye of our director or vice presidents. Shes calculating and not at all stupid. For some reason these scumbags feel the need to put people in their place when its not needed. I hope there is a special place in Hell for these Mother Fers.
My mom used to rage at us and then the phone would ring. She would calmly pick it up and in a nice tone say hello. It was chilling.
You make an excellent point. The greatest secret in human relationships that causes the most suffering is this belief that we are all the same. That is a lie. There are two types of people, those who can live from their heart and those who can’t. And the ones who can live from their heart are programmed in many ways to believe that everyone is just like them. Discovering that this is not true, that there are evil, heartless people is devastating only because that truth was withheld.
Thank you
Great comment. Thx
Very well said!!
Excellent comment.
Yes, even a more specific classification would be those who don't want to do bad to others because they know it's wrong and therefore they feel pain at hurting others because it's as if they're doing it to themselves (that's what living by heart means in a way). The other category is those people who do wrong unto others because they know they are doing it to 'others' and not themselves. This is the stark difference. The first category is about loving the other person, the second category is about loveless self-seeking behavior.
They are aware, that's why the worst thing you can do to them is expose them.
Yes
Talk cops or lawyer to them and they shut up..
@@kathleenmorris9309, Yes! They split!
@@kathleenmorris9309 Unless they have law enforcement ties and they make your life a living hell and use family court to call you a delusional bipolar paranoid schizophrenic to discredit you with corrupt doctors involved in trafficking rings with military and CIA and FBI and NSA and kill witnesses.
YASSSSS! God TELLS to!!! We all need ti start DOING that!!
Yes, they know what they are doing. The best is to cut ties with those a**holes. I tried for too long to understand, to forgive, to try harder… it doesn’t work.
They will get their karma in due time. They will suffer...
@thaistomp, I can assure you, they already are. They are constantly suffering, in fact. All of the paranoia, mistrust of people, constantly looking over their shoulder, wondering who is out to get them. They are stuck in hell for eternity, with no way out but death.
@@carlruppert7324 And even with all that suffering, they still refuse to stop... Mindblowing.
You can't love devil's. JESUS said they will turn and tear you to pieces.
They know, they know. People, please do not let emotional thinking erase your common sense and cause you to be sucked back into these black hole entities.
Behind close doors is were the devil reveals their true self,and shine their mask up for the public 🎭🐉🤮
Narcs are never satisfied.
Right away, after something that you enjoyed or enjoy doing...they sure do have their snide remarks.
I was reading a book and my sons were real young that was natural for that stage ,just really minor and I was bending down and Narky-narc decided to lean over the arm of the recliner outstretched neck and said in a really bad tone of voice....."Your book is really working out for you."
Who says that??
They sure do say some stuff in the process of doing good and for the betterment of others
my mother is fake person check he out at lois jongsma this video is her fake personality
Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors. I went through hell!
Insert the police into the situation and just watch how NORMAL they can become. 👍
The police may be but NOT in court.
@@Corinna_Schuett_GER true, weird that in court their true nature shows. Think of Amber Heard
Happened to Gabby Petito and he fooled the police then he murdered her
@@BeeBeeBell 💯
Or men that can kick their butts. Straighten right up
I saw something yesterday that really stuck with me. It read "when Jesus hung out with sinners they changed, he didnt." That being said if the people tou surround yourself with are trying to change you and control you so that you fit into the mold they have chosen for you. Cut them out!
Truth
Wow that hit home so hard, thank you! Jesus didn't change, that's so key, remaining myself no matter what is my goal. And I never thought that was ever possible a year ago, now, I am getting there.
true
They do it on purpose, they do it to hurt you, they do it for fun. You can take that to the bank.
Can't fix them, that is not our job. What has light with darkness. We are to flee.
Yes
NOW I UNDERSTAND WHAT SEPARATE THE WHEAT FROM THE TARES REALLY MEANS.
FACT
They choose evil reactions to people when they feel jealous about them.
They choose to ruin the life of a person that they are jealous of . They actually don't see what good things God has given them and they are not happy. Just their eyes are on what others have and that makes them feel evil.
I know I'm there victim. Don't ask
Jealousy is at their core.
When they show you who they are....believe them!
My mother who is a malignant and covert narcissist spent years plotting out her revenge on me for not complying to her control. It was the realization that it was thought out and that there was no remorse and that she didn't care at all that actually rescued me from my pain. Great video!
Maybe an odd metaphor but it's like you suddenly realise you've been hugging ice this entire time, and all the warmth in the hug was actually being generated by you/lost by you. The realisation it is ice comes like a cold shiver. But then you stop hugging the ice.
@@kanicman that is pretty accurate. I remember the day when I realized that she wasn't loving me, she was receiving my love. Just like being used. I think it's a great metaphor.
@@kanicman Great metaphor -- I've been having cold shivers
Someone said to me that he does not know what he is doing and I said 'then why does he hide it', there are 2 kinds of people those who have a conscience and those who do not,
Those who have a conscience have a heart of flesh and those who don't have a conscience
have a heart of stone.
Reminds me of that Rolling Stones song "Heart Of Stone"
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@@Matt-ng4tj Heart of stone is in the bible so it is a very old description of a cold hard-hearted
person.
Once you have a narcissist in your life, love doesn’t die a natural death. Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears. 💙CZcamsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Death by a thousand cuts
Correct. Not a natural death like any other heartache when relationship ends. Rather, the heart is murdered. Sometimes, a plan is put in place to render a slow torturous punishment to begin the process that finally leads to a savagely murdered heart. I believe that slow process is for them to get to more time to extract their pleasure of their favorite part of the relationship. And they may issue additional heartbreak to her children as well, indirectly, but I believe intentional,nevertheless.
I know what you mean but narcissists don’t ‘love’ , they are not capable. You need a soul to love
Really good way to put it!
They know EXACTLY what they are doing. That's part of their supply. Very insidious
Yes
Yes it is supply
I'm listening to you about how they act and do things to us on purpose and I want to cry. I have been married to this person for twenty years and have only recently realized what I'm married to. My plan is to get out soon as I can. Thanks for being here for us.
Sending love, I hope you are doing ok
Run as fast as you can.😊
Married to a narcissistic 33yrs now retired I don't know where to go
All the best.👍 I tried but was hoovered back because of the kids. Married 26 years now 😢😢😢
This video came up on my feed. I watched it. I had to stop and pause half way through. You've absolutely nailed it. The cobwebs are blown away. My siblings and I were brought up in a house where we walked on eggshells. My father's focus of all this crap was my mother and myself. She was deeply religious, and her and I used to pray for my dad while living under unbearable strain. It utterly spoiled her life, my life and caused a dysfunctional family. Narcissism is poisonous. Thank you so much for this my friend.
I can top your story! When my mom died we learned she was an ordained minister in a Pentecostal church. Out of 6 kids 5 were born out of wedlock … but Bible reading and prayers every night . The hypocrisy is astounding … I could say more but you probably wouldn’t believe it .. biggest liars on the planet.. my own parents
I'm reaching the point, where I don't feel the need to respond to their actions.
A thought pops into my head though: "I really hope they enjoy their eternal destination."
Yes Kevin, everything you said is true. It is crucial to set and enforce solid boundaries so that we can separate ourselves from the dark motivations of other people and live our authentic, true lives. Abusive toxic people know what they are doing, they just do not care about you and will happily drive you into the ground if you Let them. They hate other people’s happiness because they are unable to generate their own. So why should they Let others have it better than them? The world is full of Cains and Abels - This is a fact whichwe have to awaken to and stop being naive and victimised. It is high time to take responsibility for our lives! Thank you for your help and support.
Get away from them !!
And you become who you fellowship with ! You dont want to become like the narcssist !
We who love people and want to help others deserve better !!
The worst is when a parent is being sadistic and cruel, thrives on it.
When I went blind, my cousin told my narcissist sister who had discarded me and she shrugged and with no affect in her voice said “I’ll pray for her . Still haven’t heard from her it’s been 14 years.
Wow
Wow, that’s rough.
When you talked about how they said they knew they had gotten to you, I was like, WOW! I have experienced that so many times with family! The INSANITY of these demons is real.
Yea it is
Experienced something eerily similar to this. In fact it became the moment that I realized exactly who and what I was dealing with. In the weeks after the split with my narcissistic ex she blatantly stated that she spent the last six months of our relationship treating me like crap hoping that I would either cheat on her or break it off myself. Of course I had no intention of doing either. It takes a special kind of evil to do that.
Yes
The truth could have saved you and the other person a lot of bother.
My ex did exactly the same pure reckon evil.She set me up time after time to look like the angry ant.She was a conniving piece of work and I was dumb and gullible .
My son who was my blue eyed boy.. He was better looked after than most... Turned hateful and evil towards me.. Narcissists only think of money and power..
Took all my money but left me in poverty.. They don't care..
Love your teaching..
Yes ex narc was devaluing but didnt have guts to discard so I had to do it. No one deserves a Narc in their life
The ones I have known actually glorify that destruction and were proud of it.
Yes they know .. my ex even said he knew he was hurting me. Glad I kicked that to the curb. SMH
Yes
Yes it is intentional they watch and gather information on what causes reactions, hurt, pain or destruction to someone then use it to inflict hurt you to manipulate, use & control you. They are malcontents as they are not satisfied 😒 or unhappy
Yes this is true
Thank you for the reality check! So true!!
True. And may this truth set some people free...
Yes
I was hurt by an educated Ph.D. in Psychology and now a lawyer. The pain was like a knife, however, I am over him now and I refuse to be drawn in. This man told me he never celebrates any religious Holidays or any Holidays or birthdays--you name it. His life has no joy and I tried to make him just a little happy and I paid for it. NO MORE! He is a lone wolf and will stay that way. I felt dark energy and I distanced myself, very politely, but I am away from his energy. All he cares about is money, work and his truly wonderful dog from what I can tell.
Don't try to save trash...even if he has a cute pet 🐕
This has been the hardest part of my healing journey. I have been awakened for 3 1/2 years now. It is hard to wrap my head around the fact that there are people who set out to intentionally hurt and or destroy you. I too, before I knew about narcissim, thought everyone had a heart of gold like mine with the exception of a few serial killers etc. That is where we went wrong in forgiving and forgiving and forgiving them over and over. After All they shared the same blood and the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree. But that is not always the case. We chose what we become. Nice children usually become nice adults and bully children become adult bullies. I just could not imagine myself intentionally hurting someone out of jealousy or whatever their sickening motive is. I could have very easily become like that but I thank God all the time that He made me "me" instead. God bless and it is great that narcissism is being called out on the internet to awaken our oppressed brothers and sisters. Thanks for doing your part.😄😄😄
WOW!WOW!.and WOW!! This guy is fantastic 👍 at the way he describes "👍👍👍narcissism".. black and white it is what it is don't sugar coat it for sure!... 25 years of abuse mental verbal second degree burn deliberately done cheated ended up in the Haven home for protection constantly harassing me manipulating me cheating on me countless times head games!! holy cow!!.. I could write a book"... I never knew what the hell I was going through until finding all this stuff on CZcams the last couple years, but seriously I got sucked in no not living with this guy that's done could never trust him he's now a pill junkie, but he tries to abuse I do no contact now blocked his number it's a battle it's hard 25 years I was in denial I didn't think that humans could actually do this?? I didn't get it??..
@@cherylgiorio788 I am sorry for your horrible narc experience. And that is putting it lightly! It is sad how the good people are always targeted by these monsters. We just look the other way thinking that maybe when they said that they surely didn't mean what they said...
But the main thing is we learned who they are and they are out there and many is their number. You are not always free when you go no contact. Sometimes you have to look over your shoulder. Things will get better because we won't make the mistake of letting another narc in our lives.
@@susanbarnyak7393 thank you so much for your support 🙏 everyday is a struggle I still have a hard time believing 25 years was never true it was all fake and hurtful and meant to be!!... I blocked him but he still calls he gets through voicemails and starts the whole thing over but I ignore it, my sister doesn't understand she doesn't think these people exist she has no clue how this fight first thing I've ever had to do on my own!!.. after I lost my mom in 2016 he became more evil and mean and tossed me aside and told me to get over it.. I was stuck had nowhere to go but when he's second degree burn me welfare finally helped me get away but to this day he just reverses everything it makes it like I'm the one going nuts when I have done nothing wrong this have tried to move forward and still trying so damn hard on my own ❤️.. thank you appreciate your feedback more than you'll never know 🤗🤗 I will get through this once and for all my eyes are so wide open after all these years I know I've lived with the Devil!
@@cherylgiorio788 you're welcome Chery. Every day we get a little stronger. It has been 3 1/2 years no contact and that was the hardest thing for me to wrap my head around was that some members of my family didn't exist and I was living in an illusion meant to destroy me. You are doing the right thing by getting away. It is a bummer because you just want to be left alone because you don't trust anyone and good friends are hard to find. I am thankful for these sites because it puts my faith in humanity back on track. Things meant for evil God always makes good. One day the sun will shine for us. God bless!
I was being taking advantage because I kept on forgiving abusiveness.
It's the lack of empathy and guilt that makes them different than the healthy person. The sociopathic antisocial actions are so apparent to me, even in people that communities consider "good" people. I have become so aware of these traits, even in children. It's like an alarm now when before I fell for it growing up in a narc family cult and being trained to be that yes person. No more, and I dodge a lot of people now. It is on the rise. Be aware of your surroundings, and protect yourself. Walk away before they get their claws on your life. I don't feel bad for what they can do to people. I feel bad that they can't experience what truly matters in life, and that is compassion for another. They are truly missing out in this world and the next. Never forget self awareness is the first step to changing your behaviors and being better. They have an opportunity, but it's up to them to make better decisions.
Love this! You are so right.
I had hopes that I was wrong about my Dil a while back. Nope. She's absolutely so full of herself and cruel that I'm depressed that I have no where else to live.
I’m in the same position as you are.
@@shelleyg218 ❤️
Are you ok?
So true they are fully aware.But once you know how to respond and practice self ❤️ you are good to go!
Yes
This lesson in motives is still a hard one to grasp for me. I don't know why it's so hard to believe that some people do have evil motives and an agenda that they'll do anything to achieve no matter who it hurts and no matter the lies they have to tell. I can't imagine these evil types of people who manipulate and lie to hurt gets and get what they want can sleep at night, but I guess that is a good thing that I don't understand it because I never want to be like them. I know a group of narcissists who attacked with lies in public on social media and I think they were emboldened by the culture that was going on at that point in time and that they'd be believed without anyone using critical thinking and they were right. They destroyed someone's life with the lies they spread and I hope they burn in hell for what they've done.
They are very destructive
My x narccissist was arguing with me over who has more issues. He went into a crazy rant because he's diabetic. I'm disabled with mobility issues & chronic pain. I don't compare myself or issues with others. I compare my own self, against my higher self. I simply hung up on him. The older he gets, the worse he is. I've endured such trauma since childhood (my mother was a narccissist) & into adulthood... I'm a senior now & I've had a lifetime of trauma & abuse that hasn't helped me heal. I'm staying strong & managing my life very well without him. (Almost two decades now)
Good for you!!
❤
You're exposing the narcissists, so they are attacking you. Take good care of yourself against these evil ones. Pray for protection.
Yes this is true
Forget boundaries. My narc sees boundaries as just another challenge. No contact is the only way. I pray for her from a distance. That's all i can do. Her behavior is her choice.
Kevin, you are just getting better and better! thanks, great material!
One more thing . . . when or if they apologize , its an empty and meaningless apology. They can't apologize for horrible things they INTENDED to do. They WANTED to hurt you.
This is true Christine
💯
I broke up with a family member by saying "no beef... we just ain't vibing, peace". That began a lying narc rage that verified it was all on purpose.
They are totally fully aware!!🙏🏾
Hi Kevin this is so true . They don't care who they are even their own family .
Yes! They know exactly what they are doing! I used to give my covert narc ex "friend" the benefit of the doubt, so to speak, everytime she would say or do something hurtful or unkind. I knew she came from an abusive (at least by her account) family situation, so I gave her lots and lots of grace and excused her behavior too many times, like good Christian friends should, right? At the same time knowing that it would be wrong for me to behave poorly towards her because of my childhood traumas. I finally went no contact a year ago. The sad thing was, we had been close friends for 25 years, or at least that's what I was tricked into believing. The Lord opened my eyes and I now see her for what she truly is and was all along.
wow, i am so very sorry. i have had similar hurts with an ex friend who i believed shared the same road of watching for our soon coming Lord; i thought and truly believed she was on the same page as me, but sparing you the details, i came to realize she 'used' my innocence and giving spirit of time, effort and $ to help her with her 'tragedies' of this life and then she went no contact after i needed a small break because the constant care was becoming too much for me. she had another family friend helping her at the time and i thought that was okay, but apparently it wasn't as she felt i abandoned her. what?? after 'all' that i have done over the last 3 to 4 years?? that's not my 'mo' and i wouldn't intentionally do that to anyone! so i haven't heard from her for 7 months now and she won't give an explanation/want to discuss it at all. left me devastated, until i learned about this trait and now? i am soo thankful the Lord has cut off the contact for now i can get on with my own life free of drama and stress and devote it to drawing close to my Lord who i know is coming soon for all who believe in him. this world is soo evil and we Are definitely in the last hours of the last days of Grace before the snatching up of the Church and the Tribulation years begin, as the Holy Scriptures say. may the Lord comfort you and draw you close to him and do stay reading the Scriptures daily and keep your eyes on Jesus...don't allow the enemy to take a seat at your table with the Lord! Soak your spirit and soul into the Word of God!
@@laurienordin2076 Yes! This whole thing started after her husband passed away. Last year we actually stayed with her in her house for 2 months while she recovered from knee surgery. During that time, she went from seeming grateful for us being there for her, to a demanding dictator who tried to turn us into her personal slaves. We knew she was going to need help with day to day things involving personal care, as well as a few projects she needed done. Well, that turned into her essentially running us around, unnecessarily in some cases, while she was supposed to be home recovering. We at one time had a "deal" with her over cooking and cleaning, etc., but she didn't stick to it. And the list of chores and projects kept growing!. My husband was not a plumber, yet she got mad when he couldn't do a fix on her outdoor faucet system, after making an honest (and unprofessional) attempt. There were other incidents where she wanted something done that we weren't qualified to do from a professional standpoint. Then she got mad when it didn't turn out right and basically accused us of being worthless to her. Also, while we were there, my husband (who was unemployed at the time) ended up getting a job in her area. I guess she felt that on top of everything else we were doing for here (too numerous to mention), she felt we owed her indefinitely for her "hospitality" until we could find a place of our own, as we were also essentially homeless at the time. We couldn't wait to leave and it essentially destroyed our "friendship" with her. So, moral of the story is "No good deed goes unpunished". We felt betrayed because we had the time and gave it up willingly to help out a widowed friend, but she, feeling greedy and entitled, took advantage of us. Just made us believe that our whole relationship with her was a massive fraud and was merely "transactional ". They literally are the worst!
@@barbaraburns1301 Oh, Barbara, i am truly so sorry; you know, the more i ponder on my experience and read of other's, and know that we are so very close to being called Up, it seems to be that these evil spirits/demons are increasing their terror/havoc on our lives..you know? in more intensity so to speak. they know the hour! the person may not, but the demonic spirit that has a hold on them, sure does!
i was praying yesterday that i am soo very thankful that i have had to go thru this to awaken me to what is truly happening and to draw closer to the Lord and stay in his Word. i pray for this ex-friend of mine that the Lord will take the veil off her eyes to 'see' the horrible state of sin she is in and to run to Him and fall at his feet for forgiveness and complete healing and to forsake any past and present dealings with the satanic holds. i pray she will realize the deep deep love of Jesus just for her and seek Him.
i have another ex-friend i had to let go of too... the one above is a covert Narc and this other is an overt Narc. the last 3 years of my life i've felt i've been sandwiched in between the drama and stresses of their lives, not knowing about this condition/traits/demonic hold until the beginning of this year. i never heard of this kind of person and here all along i was thinking i was 'helping' two friends and now i come to find out i was enabling them and being drained of every ounce of life within in me..but God!
i have shared elsewhere on other youtube video sites about a fabulous book i have just finished reading....take a look on Amazon, at the reviews...that sold me on it to purchase it. The First Will Be Last by DC Robertsson, A Biblical Perspective On Narcissism. Wow! Truly very very helpful. basically takes one through the Scriptures to show what God reveals about these people, gives examples and what to do...to pray for them and yes, to distance yourself from them in a most cautious way. the condition is of the heart...the heart is deceitful above all things and who can understand it? only God and only he knows..Jer. 17:9
Good, so very good that you have your husband to love and encourage as you go thru this life. Lean on the Lord, be tender hearted toward each other and walk in love, allowing God to heal you. remember that the Scriptures say, Vengeance is mine saith the Lord. Romans 12:19
i've watched many short videos on this subject here on ytube and read many comments; their comments have truly helped me, but i don't want to drown myself in being the victim....this is why i stress staying in the Scriptures and be happy with where God is leading you 'today' so that you can let Him now deal with that person and this frees you to press on to know the Lord.
Psalm 73 .... and vs 15-17 has hit me hard. Trust in God and keep your eyes on Him, cling to Him and He will protect and provide. i pray your heart and your husband's will heal as you look Up.
God bless you and keep you..in Jesus' Name. Amen.
@@laurienordin2076 You have just pretty much mirrored my life the last 1.5 years! I too feel like the Lord has put me and my husband through this so He could open our eyes to what is really going on in the world. Until last year, I thought that NPD and narcissists were largely a joke, that those people were just caricatures and didn't really exist. I never would have believed that I had actually been friends with one for 25 years. Boy was I wrong! It took living with her to find this out. Like you, I did my research (btw that book on narcs you just mentioned sounds interesting! ) and I got educated on all the different types. She seems to be a covert type. That's why it was so hard to see this until after her husband passed and we moved in with her for those 2 months. It's not like there weren't any yellow flags before because there were. Plenty of them! But, being the good Christian friends that we were, we just passed it off as nothing and largely ignored it! Saying, oh that's just how she is! A little rough around the edges. Afterall, none of us is perfect or without sin. And, she didn't really mean to do or say that, did she? We realize now, that despite claiming to be a good Christian woman, the fruit was fake or non existent. Her husband, God rest his soul, was a completely different person, and I believe a true Christian man. He absolutely loved her unconditionally. But I can see now whete she took advantage of him too because of his faith. I have heard that these narcs will pretend to be Christians in order to take advantage of others, especially in the chuch. And, I have to say that the church is blind to it and enables it. Because, if you are this kind of person, where else can you go, treat others like garbage, take advantage of their Christlike attitudes, and still be unconditionally loved and never confronted about your behavior? The modern day church! That's where! It's what's wrong with today's society, and why these people get a free pass to wreak havoc in people's lives. Churches have made an idol out of "love" and "tolerance", yet never talk about sin and repentance. So people have been cowed into accepting the abuse from the narcs because they feel that that is exactly what you are supposed to do if you claim to know Christ. I beg to differ, THEIR Christ is a doormat, but the true Christ is not! Look to see what he said to the Pharisees for proof of that. He knew the condition of their hearts.
Sorry, I got off on a rant there. Lol. But, yes, it is all absolutely demonic in these last days. The demons know their time is short, whether the narc knows it or not is debatable. Personally, I don't think my narc is a true Christian, but I don't want to judge her. That's up to God. I also continue to pray that God will open her eyes to see her need for true repentance and forgiveness before it's too late. I would expect the Rapture at any moment now. Thanks for sharing your story and book recommendations 🙂
@@barbaraburns1301 oh my goodness!!! you are sooo correct with what's happening in the present day American church! spot on correct! my one ex who is the overt Narc has caused division and they just outed her from attending my bible study and i brought it up to my home church body (house church) which has dwindled to a small number now, and no one wanted to meet up to discuss this same person or even address the issue in email...except the leaders and i. 'not what Jesus would do' seems to be ruling, so i have opted to bow out of the home church as having this person present causes tension for her and i. not sure how long the group will last, but at least i'm out. it's so sad how this seems to be wrecking havoc in personal believer's lives and the Church groups themselves.
Thank you for sharing!! just floors me! Stand strong with God's armor on! and Delight yourselves in his Word and Truth!
yes, reading slowly through that book along with the given Scriptures has truly helped me. God bless you and your husband and all who might read our dialogue here...live for Jesus! that's what matters! He is coming so very soon for all who believe him and are following him!! we Are Home soon!!
Don't let them hurt you. I completely ignore mine now. I even refer to it as it. Everything is in the hands of our solicitors. There is no reasoning with them. They are sick. Avoid them when you can, ignore them when you can't. Don't be baited because that's exactly what they want.
FOR SURE
That’s right. They just don’t care. Never did, never will. Run!
Right on point your message is crystal clear. Accepting reality lead me to exit action four years ago. Today, I continue to ask myself how and why I ever allowed myself to be detained in a narcissistic relationship. While those questions will probably never be completely answered, I have found it more important to prevent narcissistic people from entering my life going forward.
Many thanks to The Royal We and Kevin for making sense of narcisim.
Thank you Joseph
Usually comes from childhood. It doesn't have to be your parents, it could be any caretaker or teachers and classmates. It's also related to limiting beliefs you pick in childhood and teen years. Most usual are: I'm not worthy, not enough, I can't or there's something weird or wrong about me. We are not aware of those beliefs. They are hidden in the subconscious mind.
@@Lyrielonwind thank you for making more sense of this disfunctuonal disease that robs empathetic people like myself. 🙏
~ STREET ANGELS AND HOUSE DEVILS ~ There's a reason they are called that!
They absolutely know. That's how they are able to change depending on who's around.
Yes true
My narc relative not only says and does deliberately hurtful things, she then brags about the hurt she’s caused. She actually regards it as success when she’s scored a hit.
Amen, yes, sir! I have always given people a pass “forgive them Father for they know not what they do”. Yes, they do! 💯
Evil doesn't need a reason to be evil, that's what makes it evil!
Yes, true!! they are aware of their hurt, they do it on purpose AND they LIKE it!! That is the psychopatic side...
We know that being kind, less judgmental, listening to the other person's
point of view, is what we have to do. Sometimes we get lucky and meet
other nice, kind interesting people. And it's really a surprise who this
turns out to be. I like a lot of people...not everyone.
This is true
They get a high from hurting you!
When my Golden Child older sister rages, she blames her victim and/or forgets that she ever raged.
"I never said that," is her go to "apology."
She also likes the, "You're too sensitive" and the "why can't you ever just let things go?" defense.
Yes, they know exactly what’s up! We must find a safe way to go no contact ASAP!
Spot on Kevin! That is exactly the mind set I did have and only recently realising how foolish I was being. My believe was that there is was a lost little child in each narcissist just needing to be loved enough that it will come out of hiding and the narcissist would change for the better of themselves. Now I realise that it was the Narcissist that turned there own back on there lost inner child long ago and the narcissist choose to be exactly who they are.
No, perhaps a lost child in each codependent, but not in the narc. There is a DEMON in every narc. Like really
" im sorry you feel that way" not an apology
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My husband of 12 years fooled me good. He knew exactly all the covert damage he has done. So malicious 😈
You nailed it! They just whant to get what they think they want and no matter what.
Yes this is true
Kevin- thank you! Yes, they know! Several of them end up swearing in capital letters in text messages at me, or using sarcasm…their text messages are so evil, name calling, accusations, only to hurt. It’s so awful but true!
A narcissist doesn't care. It is never about you when with one. Even in death...They have no care as to what happens! You...like I... are the clean up crew to all ...! They, really don't care while living but know...you will do what is needed when, needed. That person...I will never be again!
I feel this may happen to me and I’m a Hispanic male of 50 and just shy of 5 years learning about narcissistic personalities especially Relgious parents , culture and siblings aswell as MANY RELIGIOUS LEADERS …!!
@@carmenburgos1616 religions foster narcissism because they hide the truth and nothing is ever resolved.
When they face death they will CARE because they will realize they missed the Highway to Heaven
It took me forever to realize that he just doesn't care, that he knows exactly what he was doing to me. I really could not wrap my head around anyone being that evil on purpose!
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Holding one's own boundaries is the cure.
Terrible revelation but the beginning of healing realizing this truth!🙏🏻
So true! I still pray for the person that hurt me so badly. He use to say to me. “I am not going to treat you any different than I do my family members.” Mostly meaning his mom. I how realize that was not a positive statement. He was brutal and just did not give a --- of the damage left behind. He is 49 never been married. Hopefully, never will be. He will destroy every one he touches.
Jesus said to pray for those who abuse us. I still pray for him. But God alone knows how to reach him. I can't. I have to leave it in His hands, walk away, and live my own life. Thank you for sharing this truth, that he knows what he's doing. A revelation I needed to hear.
I did the reverse psychology thing and it just backfired into her making me believe im the abuser… There was no way of surviving with them. I have to get out of this soon because I just wont make it this year honestly.
I hope you are doing fine ❤
Absolutely FACTUAL👍
You nailed it. The fact is the Mis-taught Doormat Doctrine nearly destroyed my life. I would love to have back those wasted 23 years... Wish I knew then what I know now 😉👍
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Yes Barbara
This is a hugely important message
Thank you
My Ex a narc, would sit there with thus huge smile on his face right after he was very nasty ir hurtful to someone, he woukd be quiet proud if himself! Once my 3 children were grown by by!
My Dad was a narcissist. I took care of my step mom while she was sick at my Dad's request paying me weekly for up to 8 weeks. He couldn't hide his behavior that long while I lived with them and his behavior was so atrocious and triggered me so bad that I left when he expected me to stay another month. I told him the truth of why I was leaving. A year later he has pancreatic cancer and nobody would help him. I decided as a good spiritual person who believes in the verb of "love" not just the feeling, and that forgiveness is a verb as well not just an emotion, and to help others when needed, and I went to take care of him. His behavior was a 180 and I asked him why he was being so nice to me and he replied "because I don't want you to leave". The dawning of this revealed to me that he always had the ability to be nice and decent he just decided not to because it wasn't in his best interest. Talk about an awakening!!!!! I have much better discernment now about who I spend time with and on. God bless. I did stay with him til the end. Held his hand while he died and he was conscious at the moment of his passing. In the end, even though he was a narcissist, I believe because of his upraising I was at peace with my decision and with him because we are all God's children. But that doesn't mea we have to accept abuse.
Biggest lesson you touch on here: not everyone has a heart of gold, some people are truly evil.
Well, after long durations of our being exposed to their apathetic attitude, now we know that they know that they're being cruel and hurtful but don't care. They should also know that we too don't care that they don't care about causing us to hurt and suffer. If it was someone whom we loved and therefore were expecting good treatment from, we would have cared. But coming from apathetic unlovable-in-character, cruel, and artificial people, we shouldn't care either that they don't care that they are hurting us.
I seriously don't care that they don't care, because they mean nothing! And when I can see that there's someone who does care about his or her actions out of their love for me, then I too care about them, and I did. That's how it is and should be. We're not called to be unlimited givers who throw our best parts to unchangeable and stinking muck of this world - narcissists. Matthew 7:6 - “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
If a person gets killed by a stranger whom she cares nothing about, it's not hurtful. But if (s)he gets killed (literally or metaphorically) by someone (s)he loves, that's heartbreaking and unbearable.
I'm ready to lay down my own life for someone I love (like Jesus did, He showed us what it was to truly love, we want to save the ones whom we love at the expense of our own lives). Narcs do the opposite, they will kill others in the name of loving them, and that's how we know that they're led by devil and their entire understanding of love and life is demented, and how they themselves make a mockery of themselves is when they come and act as if they're much better at life and living and human interactions, when in fact they're fake-good criminals. Just imagine a murderer and rapist coming to you and boasting how he is so much better at living life and knows 'how the world works', while you're the one who's actually living your life the way it should be lived. That criminal just made fun and a fool of himself by making such huge comments about himself.
Truth
Narcissists have a God-like complex. They don't want loving people around, they want adorers.
I listen to you in Poland . You’ re absolutely right ! Many Polish people speak and understand English , I will share your video with other people . God bless you !
This is a universal issue.
Regards from Spain ❤
They are fully aware! It’s the hard truth. But I’m happy to be toxic free
Yes, they know! They laugh and smirk while they do it! They are VERY evil.
Wow Kevin awesome & painful too….beautiful scenery 🌳
Thank you
Spot on. They are just evils 😈, my narc sister told me that everything bad that she did to me was just to hurt me because she hated me so much. I never did anything bad to her. I just helped her anytime she needed me, and for that, she called me an idiot because she would never help me if I ever needed her.
The clarity on my narc problem is healing to me. I was questioning my sanity and self worth due to years of subtle gas-lighting. Thank-you for your insight and wisdom dear man.😊
This could not have come at a better time.
Thank you
Strong words of truth! I’ve been kicked for saying the same.
Say it here
My mother is a narcissist I’ve been going through abuse in every way I’ve had to go through a lot of therapy and getting close to god I forgive her over and over again but now that I’m awake to what this really is I want to cut her off she always has her mask on in front of other people she even has a different personality in front of certain people it’s kind of scary how hateful she is against her own daughter I’ve always dated men that treated me the same way until I became aware and healed and I can no longer be around it any longer and the funny thing is she’s in church every Sunday
I hear you
I spent 21 years with a narcissistic husband who locked me in a mental institution. He told me your strong you'll get through this. They'll do anything to destroy 69u
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I have nothing to do w them. The problem for me is that I think I am staying stuck because there is no accountability for the pain and the lies and the loss, the damage they have done to my life. It is hard to move forward when there is no accountability. But I know I need to get past that. This is one of my biggest hurdles right now in the healing process.
My faith and Christianity is why I always thought show them love and compassion but it just fuels their abusive bully character more. 💔
love also corrects and to be compassionate, you need to stay alive.
So awesome to hear you Kevin, you are a light in the dark of these sub-humans.. Feel blessed to have found your channel and the education you bring. Kia Haka (NZ) to all people post relationship or in relationship or on their healing journey... We owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward and never ever look back.. Just WOW - never knew these people existed before my 6 years with one.. Just WOW. Thankyou Kevin. 🙏
Hayman characters are everywhere. Pray to God in your alone time to protect you from these evil types.
How to deal with a narc LL that despises you only because you stand up to her bullying and exercising your rights ?
Yes
AMEN!!!! Thank you!!! It is so wonderful to hear someone say that outloud!!!!! Hope you guys were not affected by all that flooding. 🙏
Ohh we missed the flooding. Thank you
Yes they sure are!!!!
Yes
Our awareness is our power!
@@Yolodiane no it isn’t , they hae awareness and is demonic to the core , you think when your trying to get away that you left on your own power !!.??.! No , thsi doesn’t end until , you run away first , implement breaking of soul ties and still , the spiritual realm works everywhere with other narcs … Certain power may be needed if your able to understand wich one’s to apply and at times your dealing with demons ..!!! Do serious research and not thru you tube ..
I've learned to ask for clarification when the narc makes a snide ambiguous remark.
Our personal vulnerability is attracting these people.