16 Personalities Answer Questions About Their Dating Lives
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XXFJs: "Love is everywhere."
XXFPs: "Love can be anywhere."
XXTJs: "Love serves a purpose."
XXTPs: "What is love?"
Truth
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Okay,sorry,i'll leave
I was just saying what is love yesterday to my friend and singing it in my head because I love Twice-INTP
@@anonymoussomeone3491 same bruh
@@emiliya7 don't hurt meeeee
"Love is dead and society killed it."
Love the subtle Nietzsche reference.
My brother is INTJ and loves Nietzsche lol
@@ZosiaDabrowski Have you read his books? INTJ are often found unknowingly quoting him, without ever having read a book.
@@arcadianfox8127 lol fun fact
Friedrich (Ni)etzsche
@@dischqrge4846 (Ni)e(T)zsche
Kristin: "Are you dating at the moment?"
INTP: "You mean carbon dating?"
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As the barista leans in to pour the coffee, he throws a quick glance that clearly says: "I will do this for you for the rest of our lives".
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As cold as an INTJ sounds, they have actually put a lot of thought into questions like these and grounded their expectations in reality
As an INTJ, thank you.
INTP in the video seems pretty accurate, not quite as opposed as ISTPs or rejecting the concept of "love" like INTJs, but just going "huh, I guess that's a thing that exists".
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True, and that's why almost all ENTJ, ISTP and INTJ are married or dating xD they fight the idea so hard they fall for it. While being INTPishly oblivious to the idea of love really makes you avoid it.
Its very hard to identify when you have love aswell it's as if it were a vampire in a mirror very strange
As an INTP I discovered that I like kissing when a girl first kissed me LMAO
The INTJ still hates TikTok, proving that the scene with the ESFP was from a simulation.
Lol, I'm in love with her Intj. I'm Infj. But, I love them. Honesty is a good thing. I can handle it. đ
I'm an INTJ and don't use tik tok and don't plan to. My husband is an ISTJ and that's also true. Lol. We have similar tastes, personality, and interests. We both do love each other. We both have a healthy disdain for crowds and people in general.
I'm an esfp dating an intj, he's the one using tiktok
@@TaunellE Yeah, I'm an Infj myself so I like it too but sometimes it just sounds more like pessimism than honesty to me. So I like them but not always. Honesty is a good thing right? So I am.
@@tiredcatman7381 oh no...
-esfp
"What do you look for in a partner?" Me, an INTP: "Congratulations on asking me the only question I've never given any thought."
I'm an INTP and have given that question a lot of thought, lol surely there are INTPs trying to date. It's all a spectrum. Don't you find personality interesting, and therefore compatablity interesting?
@@m_hall I've never had much interest in dating. Relationships for me have usually been things I fall into without realizing what is happening because the other person liked me enough to pursue me. I'm the classic oblivious guy.
@@m_hall I've had no interest in dating for 99% of my life, though I recently started using dating apps. It currently feels like I have a lot to catch up on in terms of basic texting skills despite being a lawyer that normally has no problems with words, written or otherwise.
"What girls do you like?"
Me an intp: "Smart girls, and pretty, but mostly smart... and pretty
@@m_hall Oooooooh boy I feel this way too ! I'm INTP interested in language and human psychology so I've given it so many thoughts. Though I've come to a conclusion that I don't know what I want, just some kind of "friendship" that goes beyond expected, I think. Because I can't imagine dating without being myself so I need to be friend with him first. The only things that matters is that both should share the same value (respect, generosity, depend of yours after all). And of course, a romantic connection.
The âare you dating at the momentâ for ISTJ is so accurate, they always want to get married as soon as possible when they know they have a good relationship.
Assuming they're in a place where they feel like they can actually responsibly handle it financially, then yes. At least, that's been my experience with ISTJs :)
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Eh, I don't know, I have heard of many horrible stories of people getting married (or in relationships in general) and then start arguing all the time or even cheating on each other and so on so I d like to be really sure of this love thing before I take that step. Then again, I have never actually been in love so can I really be trusted with a viewpoint on that? (male ISTJ here)
The INTJâs theory on dating hit all the nails on the head: The dislike for shallow media, the phrase âemotions canât be trustedâ, which I have used many times verbatim, and the emphasis on shared values/goals rather than unreliable romantic attraction are a good summary of the approach. In my experience, the INTJ tends to view love more meaningfully as an action of thoughtful choice and dedication rather than a feeling.
I really like it and i agree with that approach. - INTP
This is definiftely how I operate. I want someone who is compatible; love can come afterwards. *Finding* a compatible person, though? Seems almost impossible. - INTJ
And thus, the bar is set inhumanly high
INTJ too - personally Iâd marry a friend since if your connection is well built up, thereâs a lot of common ground and shared ideas for the future then they seem to be the best choice.
Appreciate hearing your insights!
My ISTJ spouse hates it when I try to sing to her. I wrote a song for her once. Sang it, recorded it, playing all the instruments, then mixed it and gave her an mp3 of it as an anniversary present. She said she appreciated it. Then, when I hinted that I might do that for our next anniversary, she said: "You know, I don't think I'm the sort of person who really likes music." So, next anniversary, she got a waffle maker.
Waffle maker IS love.
Actually, if the lyrics are on point that is pretty thoughtful I think, relationship anniversaries should be more about celebrating the relationship than whatever that person needs at that time. The waffle maker sounds great too. What I definitely hate is forcing ME to sing though. I MIGHT start singing if I am really comfortable with you and we are listening to music I like together but forcing me or doing it in public is a big no-no. That is my viewpoint as another ISTJ, obviously for your relationship the important opinion is that of your spouse but I wanted to throw in my two cents as well. Goes to show that people are different even if they are the same type
That's so sweet actually..
What is your type?
No đ honestly things like this is the one reason why i don't really want to date istj even though im very compatible with them (as estp), bcs i like to do random fun things and if they don't like it I'll be stripped away from my soul if it happens too often đ i can't live like that, man.
Man, gotta say, ENTJ was masterfully performed in this one.
Everything, from the way that she carries herself, to the way she's dressed, the things she says and the way she says them.
-ENTP
I felt called out all the video. She even gave me PTSD sometimes and brought up buried memories. IDK if I liked that but that was 1/1 ENTJ you are right
@@adampolyak7418 xD
Tried to save an ENTJ once from a toxic (notgonnamentiontype), but it was too late. When she mentioned "People can hurt you" I'm kinda sad inside. Hope you bros are doin alright :(
-INTP
@@OGSilentMan It was right on the money based on the ENTJ's I've met. Stoic but as an infj appearances don't fool me and the second they open their mouths all I can think is "who hurt you? Its ok to talk about it you know". I wouldn't actually tell them that....might make him feel exposed and scares them off. But I don't have to ask them. I can make the most stoic guy talk about his mommy issues within a week without asking a single question. Apparently I have the aura of a teletubby...it has weird effects on the ENTJ's. đ€
@@maaiker2977 I know someone irl who might need that Ni-Fe-Ti magic lol. Its pretty cool to see different people radiate their strengths in different ways that affects their irl relationships/environment like that.
A lot of people personally said that i'm the most "unique" of my siblings and my dad said i have "potential" though i know its literally just my Ti-Ne speaking in a family full of TJs and FPs Oi/Oe doms lol
ESTP didn't even hesitate at admitting that she loved her car more than her own boyfriend! đ€Łđ
I thought the Estp was maybe the bestđ Iâm an entp but I feel them man, especially when younger I was all into cars motorcycles would hate to be accosted with a question about âloveâ - though as an entp we likely would be fluent even verbose in how we would avoid addressing it, we donât like to talk about to embody Fi very often and casually either.
Iâm an estj with an estp bf who is a car mechanic and a car stuntman.
He loves cars more than his own mother.
"I don't look for a partner." ISTP, once again not mincing words, and telling it like it is! đđ€Ł
ISTP being relatable - INTP
Well at least I understand myself a bit more now.
I feel a bit sad because on the one hand I feel like i do not want to miss out, but on the other hand that fellow ISTP speaks from my soul.
@@torkakarshiro5170 Yep. But it's so much effort. Lol. I tell myself once I'm happy with where I am. Then I will date. (The logical ISTP brain)
The evolution of my would be answers as an ISTP over the last two decades or so:
I don't look for a partner.
I do look for a partner.
I have given up on looking for a partner.
I'm fine without (looking for) a partner.
I'm not looking for a partner but I'm open to be found.
I'm low key looking for a partner.
Let's see what the future holds.
INTP here, and I agree only with INTJ's point.
Hard to imagine an INTP who "never thought" about something.
We have Fe, you know? We love to analyze everything, including emotions and feelings. It's just that feelings and emotions of others interest us more than our own, and mostly from afar, because we don't have desire nor energy to invest in relationships (caring about someone, actually do stuff you don't want just to please them, like turning on notifications to reply asap, etc). I'd rather analyze all love related stuff from a safe distance; books, games, manga, movies - they are great for that.
And once you have enough data from your analysis of feelings and relationships, it's easy to come to INTJ's conclusion about it.
1 year late but I definitely agree with this, and was looking for a comment like this. I've definitely thought about love and what that means and analyzed it, but compared to the norm I view it a lot differently. Many actively seek out for it and end up chasing after something superficial, while I don't see the point in it, and I end up seeing all the flaws in love and relationships that other people are so blind to
I certainly care far more for my own emotions than othersâ -INTP
Put a like directly after INTJ said that being in love and finding someone are completely different things. That's what I always say, I mean, think. People wouldn't understand, no sense to waste my energy on explaining this.
Relatable 100%
I can imagine the looks of horror I would get from my coworkers if I admitted that marriage is a union built around a specific purpose, to bring stability to your children and the merging of two families, and not for love. - INTJ
I *may* have told my wife that a bit early, but sheâs an ENTJ, so she drives with purpose
I don't think about love, relationships and related matter too much so I had to think a bit about this but it does make sense. I'd like to hear more but you run the risk of me not understanding and consequently wasting energy so I respect that
@@peachesandcream8753 but what happens if an INTJ does not marry the person they love, just the person who happened to be in the right place at the right time? Does the INTJ forget about the person that they loved who âgot awayâ?
INTJ: I think the feeling of love does have something to do with it. Love and a partnership. Why would you want to be beholden to someone without affection? It would be a nightmare. You are never more alone than in a crowded room.
There's a lot of different affections, i actually agree with the approach of the INTJ. I would rather be with someone that i respect, understand and admire than being with someone i ''love'' (it's a fleeting emotion, for me). - INTP
As another INTJ, agreed. I tend to be pragmatic when it comes to romance, but never to the point of erasing love from the equation. Fi comes third, after all.
@@doublejayjay This is why C.S. Lewis identified four different kinds of love, two of them romantic: Eros and Storge. Eros is that "feeling of love" while Storge is familial love, but is ultimately what Eros effectively morphs into over time with a romantic partner (Eros is the passionate kind, Storge is far more tender). In truth the INTJ seeks Storge, and understands that Eros is fleeting and can be deceptive. At least from what I can say of myself. People just don't understand the concept of love in its complexity.
@@Azdaja13 Exactly! The initial heady, honeymoon phase is supposed to deepen into a stronger, more durable love. For me, marital committment without romantic love would be like having a roommate, not a spouse.
Problems occur when people go off the initial high alone and don't have those shared values, etc. underneath. When it fades, some realize they have nothing in common and might not even like each other as people. I'd hate to have that realization after I've married.
-INFJ
@@shrimpdance4761 soo true
The INTJ one was so accurate.
I've never met another INTJ in my life.
It's nice to know that someone in this earth can understand me.
yes this is soo accurate đŻ
I am an ISTP and well, I related to all the ISTP clips (it kinda surprised me) but I will say, when I have a crush on someone (which doesn't happen often at all) I transform. I internally become an INFP, but nobody would ever know. Just you. Person on the internet.
I have the curse of if I do have a crush on someone. They end up being lesbians. It must just be some vibe they throw off that I can't see.
@@Jimmy_Jones Or maybe you're into lesbians :p jokes aside, 'eh... must suck. Good luck finding whatever you care for
Oh yes, the inner INFP! I remember him from my younger years, nowadays he mostly hides deep inside of me, but he's still there.
(Or maybe it's a she? I don't know how exactly that superego side of the mind stuff is supposed to work. Or if it even is that.)
@@MichaelGrundler will I miss it?
@@IndyLaLune I don't know. I think I feel more balanced and mature the way I am now. But I didn't have a major crush (or other emotionally triggering events) in a while, so maybe it will show up again next time.
But yes, there might be something missing. Maybe that's why I'm so fascinated by and drawn to FPs in general and NFPs in particular. It's sort of externalizing the need for Fi.
"Trust, loyalty and compassion... And they gotta fit into the box that I made for them" đŻ% INFJ
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The ISFP giving a random excuse to get out of an uncomfortable social situation is 100% something I would do and have done in the past.
Same đ
As an INFP, I don't actually fall in love that often at all. But when I do, I fall extremely hard to the point that it's an actual problem. I recently did, and it's kind of actual torture. I tried to call Amnesty about it, but they couldn't sanction my feelings in any way. Sigh.
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Yep, sounds about right đ
Accurate
You're getting really good at this. My only personal interjection is that when INFJs move on, they *really* move on. It's like a door slam on a two-year timer.
INFJ here. No to second chances or to lingering feelings, once itâs off itâs off, hearts are like glass, seldom do you peace them back together and not see the cracks. I am conflicted however as I do understand relationships take work, but once the line is drawn detachment is made.
This reminds me of a convo with my dad and sis about the feeling of romantic love. I (INTJ) said, "I'll know I've found the one when the thought of being away from him makes me want to vomit blood." They didn't know how to respond.
I am an INTP by default, but I learned to play two modes when I feel too much pressed: ENTP and INTJ. I play ENTP when I feel somewhat comfortable, especially when my friends are pushing these kind of emotion-related questions. Not that I think any of it seriously it's just a bit more fun and not getting vulnerable.
My other facade is INTJ, I use it when I need a bit more control of the situation, or in the very rare cases when I am actually angry at someone and need a vent.
i think that just means you're an introverted ENTP, cause the INTJ is our shadow type & it's totally natural for ENTPs to relate to INTPs sometimes. Anyway, could be anything.
@@ATinyWarrior well, so far ALL tests of MBTI I have done resulted in INTP, and that is my most comfortable mode indeed. At least if I am let alone enough, I always do INTP stuff, I had to practice to do otherwise.
Although I indeed like to play the ENTPs argument games, and arguing for game.
I totally get you on that. I'm INFJ and when people abuse my patience and I get angry, I switch to INTJ mode and my Fe enters in sleep mode. And when my mind is very stimulated, I enter in a INTP analytical mode and I want to know everything about a particular subject in detail. And when I'm very comfortable with friends, I start joking like an ENTP.
Same but when Iâm comfortable around people Iâm either an ENFP or ENTP and when Iâm extremely stressed I give in to Te shadow function
I think a lot of INTPs (particularly those who are trying to be productive) have an "INTJ emulation mode". I tend to test as INTJ, but looking in more detail at the functions, I'm clearly INTP.
I loved the mood transitions, you nailed the triggered ESTJ (0:36) and ENTJ (6:14) :D
I was surprised the ENTJ made it so far without getting triggered. But many of us do have 50003245465841651654 excuses before we have to jump ship on the convo XD
Interviewer: What do you look for in a partner?
Me (an INTP): Umm... someone who's smart, has the same worldview as me - which she will do if she's actually smart.
Interviewer: Is that all? Just smart and stuff?
Me: *sighs* Honestly... I just want someone who wouldn't mind cuddling an overly sarcastic android.
Interviewer: Have you ever been in love?
Me: Yes.
Interviewer: ...would you care to elaborate?
Me: No (I cannot reveal my feelings to anyone but my girlfriend because I have a crippling fear of exposing my feelings).
Interviewer: Are you dating at the moment?
Me: I mean... I'm not sure if I'd call it "dating." Me and my ENTJ see each other every day and hang out all the time but, it's not really "dating," you know? We just kind of met and, after a few months, were like "so, we're in love aren't we?"
Interviewer: You see each other every day but don't consider that dating?
Me: So, seeing each other every day is "dating?" Does that mean I "dated" my best friend when I was a kid just because I went out to play with him every day?
Interviewer: Why are you like this?
Me: Why shouldn't I be?
Interviewer: *throws microphone at me*
Hmm, my two INTP friends tend to be really eloquent when they answer relationship questions. They tend to think deeply about ANY questions and usually have thought about the abstract questions I have. I think a better INTP representation would be, âHm, interesting question. It depends on what you mean by love. If it is defined by xyz, then my answer to the question isâŠâ (they usually break down the question and answer it with a carefully chosen diction). I also donât understand why your INTP tends to wear geeky t-shirts because they tend to go for something safe (formal, plain, comfortable) or something their parents bought them, haha. One INTP I know in their late 30s usually wear a shirt and a suit for work and parties. His casual clothes are ALL plain and of usually of the same brand. The other one I know whoâs in his early 20s tend to wear plain t-shirts, which I find interesting.
But one characteristic Iâve noticed is they tend to take time to answer these questions. You can see in their eyes that they are weighing the question and answers in their mind, so what comes out of their mouth tend to be slower paced (so that their answers represent the âtruthâ by their Ti logic). But if they donât know you well and donât want to answer your question, then they would give a really vague reply that does not contradict the truth, but does not give away the truth. I find that INTPs are really good at this.
Haha, yeah, a Rick & Morty tee-shirt is more like something that I would wear in some kind of fantasy situation, not in real life !
No yeah no yeah no yep no yeah yep
You have good observation skills. It doesn't make for funny representation though.
Ellinor you are 100% correct, could not agree more! Kristen is extremely talented (seriously Kristen don't take this as an extreme critism because you're really gifted at this stuff), but I can't help but feel the INTP portrayls always miss the mark and stray a little towards an extremely shy, bad communicator, hasn't thought through it kind of person. I'm an INTP have thought about relationships and love a lot. I think personality is fascinating and therefore compatiablity is fascinating.
I often have the problem of trying to cut down my extensive thoughts on a subject, and try to make it digestable for what is socially acceptable in a small talk converstion.
I'd also not typically wear a super nerdy shirts, and would stick to comfortable, and somewhat stylish. I'm 28 thought and probably have come a long way over the years as I've understood myself better. At the end of the day though, perhaps I'm an outlier on the INTP spectrum, and the majority of INTPs relate to the portrayl. Fun stuff either way!
8:31 I legit said the same thing to my friends when asked what do I think of marrying someone. They cut me off before I could finish with 'love fades so don't rely too much on it' and called me childish/immature/heartless when I admitted that I'd marry someone who I didn't love. And sadly I took the criticism a bit too harshly, but I feel validated now. Thanks Kristin. Much love.
@@doublejayjay Exactly. Most elderly couples will tell you that their secret is that they made an effort to stay together despite the hardships that they faced. Very few can truly claim that they feel the same way they did in their youth because feelings fade in time. - INTP
The INTJ is so spot on, and made me laugh a ton. And yeah, love the emotion can and will flicker, die, get reignited, blaze, and then flicker again. Its the cycle of emotions. Love the action is something else though, and you don't have to feel the emotion of love to do the actions of love.
I wouldn't marry someone I didn't love, but neither would I marry someone just because I love them. For me, the passion has to be there, but I also ask the question: "Could this person and I maintain a good working relationship even after the excitement fades?" So for me it's kind of both . . .
A strong relationship built on trust and respect is essential. The hormonal fluctuations of romantic emotions? Not so much.
I don't think anybody is entitled to criticize (in a devaluing manner) other person's concept of love, or of how they want their relationships to go. As long as you are clear with your partner and do your best to not hurt anyone- people are different.
2:49 "could you love an ant?" đ€Łđ€Ł
The "have you ever been in love?" ENFP is me. I'd actually would answer that! Spot on!
"Yeah, he/ she is with another one now, but he/ she will never love her/ him as much as I did....do" INFJ spot on
I am not an ENTJ, but I am sure that if I asked my two ENTJ friends these questions, their answers and their facial expressions and their tone would be EXACTLY as you've done them.
Kristin just murdered all ENTPs (including me)! How do you know us so well? Kristin, how many ENTPs have you psychoanalysed to come up with those UK captions! I am too stunned to speak!
My guess is her brother and friend are the main entp inspirations
I have one confirmed ENTP on my FB friends. Donât know if heâs âin loveâ with his live-in partner, but he had a long dating life leading up to her.
An INFJ-ESTP-ISFJ love triangle, a murder mystery and confirmation that Batman exists. The lore is expanding, someone create a dear kristin wiki!
A movie to confirm your theory: Gone Girl, when you can, search for their MBTI type (after you watched the movie so you can understand what I mean ;) )
My neighbors are an ISTJ and ENTJ couple. They met in college and married not long after. At "so I got one locked in early," I just about died.
Yup. That right there. That's what they did.
Which ones are the husband and wife.
My aunt and uncle are also an ISTJ and ENTJ couple! They met in college and also got married not long after hahaha
My uncle is the ENTJ and my aunt is the ISTJ. Their children are INTP and ISTP. They're a no bs kind of family ^^;;
@@ninakim9832 imagine if a feeler makes it there, poor soul
@@ninakim9832 my uncle and aunt are the same entj uncle that I'm related to and an isfj aunt. I think their kids are maybe an enfj son and isxj daughter
ISFJ IS DATING BRAD NOW??? THE KCU (Kerstin Cinematic Universe) IS EXPANDING GODDAMN
as an ENFP this video is a mix of a personal attack and a punch in the face LMAOOOOOOOOOOO. i'm a 23 year old that has never had a serious relationship đđ. it's concerning how accurate this video was.
âI donât⊠look for a partner.â
âWhat is-what⊠what does that mean?â
âNope. âŠ.Is that all youâre going to ask me?â
The most accurate representation of an istp and their âlove lifeâ.
Thank you.
I know 4 ISTP and they have dogs. Perfect for oxytocin release.
My ISTP brother proposed to his ESFJ girlfriend recently and it was actually really romantic. If you asked me a few years ago if I thought he was capable of love like this I would've hesitated lmao
@@whitneyd6827there are fathers and mothers with this personality. I guess the difference is that ISTP don't seek love but love finds them and they go along with it. I mean dating is not an ISTP style but meet someone and having good times is definitely what ISTPs do.
@@YourNickIsTaken I'm not by any means saying they can't make great parents or partners. It's honestly a shame they don't want kids because he would've made a really good father. It's just been wonderful seeing her teach him how to use his inferior Fe and overcome his insecurity of showing emotion. He couldn't do that 4 years ago
@@whitneyd6827 oh, I get it now. Thanks.
The INTJ is filthy accurate here. I also feel like the INTP. Love, dating...how does that work exactly?
Yup. As an ENFJ I sort of dread people asking me what I look for in a partner because I end up talking their ear off because I feel the need to explain myself when really the girls I end up liking don't exactly fit that list đ đ
Me watching this and taking notes on how to attract the types and be in a relationship with them (and realising my chances are probably slim with XSTXâs which I knew anyways but still đ) however I love ENTJâs and the urge to meet one and breakdown their defences with my bubbliness and loving nature and overtime help them see they can love and that they are worthy of it and help them find it! The ENFP questioning what love is and that she needs to stop looking for her soulmate while still romanticising this idea of a soulmate is 100% relatable! Oh and the ISTJ âI probably love my husbandâ made me snort because I can just imagine my mum saying that. This is also a very nuanced presentation, and all the people in this video are very sweet and itâs just a very wholesome video!
Also updates to the DKCU- the INFJ in this video who is waiting for her ex to get back to her is Becky and talking about Brad (the ESTP-you can see the start of this story line in the party video) who the ISFJ is dating! Loving this expansion to the lore lol
I hope this doesnât cause tension between Becky and the ISFJâŠ
@@nickmerchant4588 ooh could be spicy. Presumably this is after +1 to wedding video. OOH maybe the ESTP and the ISFj met at the wedding and now theyâre going out đ€
My best friend is an ENTJ married to an ENFP. He never doubted that he could love, but both of their ideas of love are very atypical. In a nutshell, they are both believers in radical honesty supported by radical acceptance.
@@PeterJohnson-rh5hi I love that!
What is your MBTI?
When the ENTP first came on screen, I thought it would have been ENFP! Itâs fun to see ENTPâs more silly side, but still very ENTP and very accurate (especially the UK captions with the behind the scenes thoughts!) đđ Truth be told though, Iâd love to find a human, but Iâm 20 and never even experienced âšmutual affectionâš let alone been in any kind of relationship. Am I just that odd that no oneâll approach me? đ ~entp
Ahh...to be 20 again and live in a constant state of doubting your own self-worth. Don't give up hope, and try to see your quirks as strengths and not weaknesses.
If you reach out for the people to whom you are attracted, your life will immediately start to pick up. EXXPs get so much more out of initiation than passivity. There's always the chance of rejection, but you will get far more reward out of the experiences than pain.
As an ENTP, I take offense with this video, I fall in love everytime... I look in the mirror. Ah, one thinks perfection can't be achieved until you meet me. But then again, you have met me, everything else falls short, so how can you not be in love?
Just kidding, I rarely if ever have partners, I think what I would search is someone that is very intelligent, both capable giving interesting perspectives to things, is able to prove me wrong but is also openly emotional but stable. And more importantly, doesn't involve emotions to any discussion or exploration of ideas, but can be quite empathetic.
I have never found that person.
I have tried a few relationships, because I was curious... it is terrible. Specially since I was once with an emotionally chaotic person, it was the worst thing ever. I have been with emotionally cold and distant people, it is better, but at the end of the day, I have tert Fe and do have the need to connect with people emotionally. I have been with emotionally stable people, but the person had nothing to offer intelectually, Ne Ti is above Fe, so i got bored pretty quick.
I can deal with emotions, quite easily frankly, I have tert Fe. But because of Fe, emotionally chaotic people might be the oly thing that ever get me stressed. Like I can deal with anything, but emotionally unstable people. I can help a friend once in a while, that is like that, but to have that 24/7 it is hell on Earth.
So I have come to the conclussion, that is what I need, I am not much of a physical person so how the person looks doesn't bother me that much. Mostly care about their brain, but must have a bit of heart as well.
I like how she said it better... Less reading.
-ENTP
Thank you fellow ENTP, i didn't feel like commenting a lot today & when i do it's usually a para, so thanks for putting my thoughts into words. I'm dating an ISTP rn & it's really fun 'cause you get a lot of personal space + they're just cool people in general. Now if only my financial life was set, i'd love life.
@@BillyBob-lt5nr Dunno, your comment sounds like an STP type of comment to me.
@@farrex0 totally
you know you had me until the "read more" thing
i do agree with you though
1:19 ESFJ: kind, funny, that they somehow know my unvoiced expectations (& feelings).
So true! If we're feeling sad we might act super happy/silly to cover it up, but we want you to notice and ask what's wrong. đ
1:08 Couldn't be more accurate, nailed it!
3:38 Accurate again, I also love the Nietzsche reference
8:31 Accurate again
this was a really fun video Kristin. i felt the energy you conveyed with your emotional range. you're so gifted! â€
This was so fun! Actually laughed out loud multiple times, especially when your ad cut into the ESTJâs answer, not sure why that was so funny to me
You bring so much joy! Thank you for the time you put into these amazing videos!
Once again, very spot on INTJ. Also Kristin, I'm guessing the turning point that you speak of in the subtitles is either "What is love?BABY DON'T HURT ME" or the ESTJ preffering dominoes to Jenga blocks
Wow this was hilarious. Also the first time I've really *seen* my sister in an MBTI sketch- thanks for doing more with the ISFP than portraying a walking aesthetic
I love and am invested in all the characters in both the regular storyline, and the bizarro one revealed in the UK captions.
Kristin you are my favorite! Never been so seen as an ENFJ. Your videos, concepts, and execution are all fantastic, and you step into each of the 16 types flawlessly
As an INTJ, the first part about the INTJâs absolute disgust for Tik Tok was incredibly accurate.
I personally do not use much in the way of social media except for work, as I use other forms of divertissement such as reading, and frankly I think using social media overall tends to have a net negative effect on people. I particularly dislike the social medias that feature short 5-15 second clips, as it represents a lot of what is wrong with modern society. Not that I think people shouldnât be allowed to enjoy such entertainment, but itâs indicative of a society in which gratification must be instant, and attention spans are non existant. It also encourages the unfortunate trend of âinfluencerâ or âTik Tokerâ being the most popular âcareersâ for young people, as opposed to something more productive and useful, like an engineer, or electrician.
Donât get me wrong, I think entertainment is important in the functioning of society, as without it, unfortunately a lot of people would be less productive, and turn to even worse forms of recreation simply in order to make their life worth living (modern society faces a crisis of meaning, and much of whatâs filling the void is not healthy or sustainable).
Ultimately, as a reasonable person, if a partner was ideal in all other ways, but simply happened to occasionally use Tik Tok, I would likely be able to overlook that. Itâs what the use of Tik Tok is often indicative of that is the problem.
Disclaimer, despite going through the process of creating a tier list of 30+ traits in a partner, and designing a multiphase guide on how to acquire a partner with another INTJ friend of mine, I have zero experience being in a relationship, as I have prioritized other things thus far.
Welcome to another edition of Essays With Thomas in the Comment Section of a Dear Kristin Video.
You don't have to be an INTJ to hate TikTok and all the idea of social media altogether... đ they are useless, a waste of quality time and full of supercial contents and plain cringey stupidity... even if the short videos CAN be very witty with smart jokes (I really enjoy watching them but ON CZcams) or the content can be useful (like life hacks) almost all the time social media proves to anyone with some cells in their brain that it's indeed the reason why of our society is collapsing... real life is a much better world... đ - an ESFJ woman (shocker, I know)...
đ sorry but I didnât expect a wall. Iâm not reading this, but Iâm sure itâs đŻ-intj
Dudes named Luigi who don't know about Nintendo: 'hey wtf'
HAHA
THANK YOU! For iterating what I feel, there is such a thing as too mechanical. And dating-apps are the grinding millstone which destroys any organic love and mills it down to numbers and statistics about people.
What about the chance meetings, the spontaneous connections, the joy from seeing someone you didn't expect walking around a corner?
I also feel that I cannot properly convey emotion through text as I would through speaking to someone.
I also heavily relate to having an absurd amount of thoughts and ideas for a perfect partner in my mind.
But seeing you iterate the love I feel for all people I come across on the street, it just made my heart skip a beat and made me forget the rest of the world. *That*, that specific thing is exactly what I want from any partner. The ability to express their love for all things.
You've made me honestly consider whether I should look for a fellow ENFJ to share our love.
Holy smokes Kristin, you're out here sharing life-changing words with your audience.
Is it just me or this video's vibeezz were just... different đź? IN A GOOD WAY ofc, i loved it sm and you nailed each and every one of types as always
Love how the INTJ immediately defaults to what they DON'T want đ€
This is the video I can relate most as an INFJ.
Seriously, was like watching myself in the mirror
Same for me! I knew this video was going to be rough, but oof, right in the accuracy.
This is genius level work! And so fun to watch đđ. I am waiting for the MBTI types through ISFP eyes.
I love how the music shuts off for the Ti doms đ
Really appreciate all the entertainment of all your content - very enjoyable!
I love the waltz of the flowers playing in the background!
I'm an asexual ISTP who runs away from commitment and values personal freedom, and dang you nailed this once again
Asexual ENFP here- but platonic relationships I feel so deeply and I idealise Romance I just donât really feel it. I find people beautiful and I am just in love with people in general I fall in love platonically very easily- I think apart of me loves everyone I meet in some way
I'm an ISTP who is questioning (I think I'm demi or ace) and I am the exact same way.
Aseuxual intp here
Oh hey, kittens! Another Ace here!
INTP.
And, you know, sometimes I don't know where the Aro-Ace stops and the INTP begins.
@@hiiamjustacoolrandomuser168 ayy duskwood?
I love the fact that you manage to make each one their own distinctive character. Hugely entertaining and a great acting reel.
INTJ is so accurate for me it's almost frightening. Nice.
Love in a long term is just a deal.
I care for you, you care for me.
(and we try to take over the world together)
When i was in love it didn't dampen my judgment but it was just second "false" judgment which was so irritating. xD I know it was wrong but it was there trying to blind me from flaws of another person.
She puts so much work making these videos and working on this channel. Very talented, she should be famous
That camera is awesome! The video looked so bloody good!
I swear this channel is the only one where I watch the videos twice: first without subs to get the general feeling of the personalities, then the second time for the puns and/or explanatory subtext. This "alternative text" really is a clever gimmick to glue me to the videos, so good job, again!
Can't comment on the actual topic, love life of any kind seems to elude me with all their force, so I gave up chasing it...
I love your ENTJ acting in here đ I really wish I could see you act in the big screens one day! đ
Feeling very seen, with my meaningful, emotive face. â€ïžđ Great job!
-INFP
Just one of the, I'm sure, many different faces in the INFP vocab!
@@dearkristin my face always gives me away đđâ€ïž
Love the format of this video!!
The are you dating at the moment question was relatable đ
My bf (who got back together with me some months ago) is very concerned with being financially ready for marriage, which I do appreciate to a point (though he's an ISTJ not ESTJ). He doesn't mind poetry and music, which I'm glad about. đ
-INFJ
Lol nice i enjoy your wit and humor! Keep up the good things!
INTP here:
Look for in a partner: Chill, funny, outgoing but respecting my me-time and organized (like he organizes and/or doesn't get too upset when I don't) (Hmm looks like an ENTP would be nice)
Fell in love: Lol no
Seeing someone: Lol no
Love *can* be an emotion, like most people assume it is, however I've noticed that the people who view love as a verb tend to have longer lasting and more meaningful relationships. My grandfather once told me; Love is 10% finding the right one, and 90% being the right one for them.
- An INFJ.
This is correct. I am actually scanning through the comments hunting for an ESFJ to thank. (ESFJ are often inaccurately stereotyped by the immature) I saw your comment and I had to agree. I am an INTP and I married an ESFJ. They are masters at love. "90% being the right one for them" Also 1st Corinthians 13 This woman is incredible and even teaches me how to love her back. Either way, love is a verb.
2:26 I'm an ENFP but I have this reaction lol. I love people so much, but I've never been IN love with one. That concept completely flies over my head. I didn't realize people actually felt that way about others until like... 2 years ago đ . I mean... what is marriage? Having a glorified, legally binding roommate?
It took me a while to realize that I was one of those asexual/aromantic people because I didn't fit the stereotype of the touch-averse antisocial who has no emotion. Sure some people may relate to that description, but an absence of romantic/sexual attraction does not necessarily imply a complete lack/deficiency of love. In fact, I probably have TOO MUCH platonic love for my friends. I hug and squeeze them to death every chance I get, and I love to make memes out of them. You'd be surprised how many photoshop ideas and puns you can think of when you're determined to make a meme about someone.
I love my friends so so so so so so much, but I do not want to be in a romantic relationship with them haha. Some of them have their own partners and I'm happy for them! They make each other better and it's wonderful to see your friends flourish. I can't wait to be everyone's bridesmaid lol
The "have you ever been in love" for the ENFP hit too close to home, I have literally had that conversation with so many of my friends đ„șđ
I just fall in love way too quickly and way too hard, I kinda wish it'd just stop, it's getting so exhausting. Also, that paired with my inability to see if someone is being geniuine with me sets me up for desaster, fuuuck...
I feel you. If you need anything I'm here for you!
@@ninaportoc Thank you â€â€
I appreciate the soft blanket on INFP's shoulders & can relate to having an emotional attachment to certain trees hehe
i'm an INFP who rarely ever falls in love, but my high ideals certainly do not help. when i fell in love with people in the past, did i just want to be their friend? i don't seem to fall in love much at all anymore, unless i'm already with the person... but i do get "friend crushes" all the time
Laughed so hard with the âCan you love an ant?â on ENTP and as an ENFP-T I laughed so hard, itâs so true!! Allround a great funny video đđ»đđ»
This video is PERFECT, seriously!
In love with ENFP's hair and also, wow it's been a long time since I watched a dear kristin video I'm hit with the awesomeness again
(INTJ) 1:07 Thank you, Kristin. It's an effective and immediate way to filter people.
I'm an ESTP. I feel so called out. I broke up with my last boyfriend because I realized I loved my car more than I loved him.
It is MBTI Parody combined with ARG captions story! great job Kristin!
Wow! That was really good! Your approaches to ads are very smart and hilarious.
The flip side of Infj. I can be evil. "What happened to .. pos?"
Casually, What? Oh, he's dead. đ€
Happy birthday Kristin! âšđ„ł
First video I've seen of you, so funny and well done! I love that you wear a crucifix and have a St. Michael statue in the background. I'm not sure if that's a picture of a Saint as well because it's a little blurry, but I love it all, keep it up!
New to the channel, gotta say the joke captions are a work of art (chefâs kiss)
Also, damn you Brad, always creating drama!
Amazing camera angle and quality!
kristin ur eng uk captions for enfj have sent me
I read an article once that listed the types of people each personality tends to date and the type they should date. For INTP, the type they date is whoever shows interest in them, and for INTJ it was no one. As a long time bachelor INTJ it sounded pretty accurate.
INTJ here. Your INTJ is so accurate. Love alone is not enough to build a family. I've chosen my husband in that way. I've been married for 10 years and I have no regrets.
hahaha the istj couldnÂŽt be more accurate đđđ and that shuddering thing at the end... I am doing exactly same thing đ€Ł
Substitute "Twitter" for "TikTok" and you've got my take on dating pretty much word for word when I was in my mid-20s. Glad I've learned how to connect with feelings! - older INTJ
As an aroace ISTJ who doesn't want to be in a relationship ever, I don't know what I was expecting before watching this but I definitely can see myself being like that if I did want to get married, the first person that is compatible with me is gonna be the person I stick with unless they don't want to, and I definitely agree with everything the INTJ said. Also I don't understand why would people get married before being financially stable. Great video as always!
I am glad to explore your channel đđ„đ