10 Simple Ways to MELT a Man's Heart

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  • čas přidán 8. 02. 2024
  • Learn what makes a man fall for you... and how to inspire it 🔥 Here are 10 easy ways to open his heart and deepen your connection with him right now!
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Komentáře • 533

  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +29

    QUESTION OF THE DAY - what ways have YOU found to melt a man's heart that I may have missed?? Let me know in the comments!
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    • @barbaralebrun438
      @barbaralebrun438 Před 4 měsíci

      Valentin's day 1987 I met the lover of my life, in a piano bar, in Aix en Provence, i was the only girl spoken english of group of friends, we fall in love at the first sight, and he an American pianist of jazz I helped him settle in France for a while, i hepled him working in piano bars and restaurants on the Côte d'Azur, as translator. I guess we are always in love because i live in free, to around the world for his work, and we meet in differents countries, never curious, or jalous, I'm indépendant, the freedon is the best ! Also i know my level in english and french accent
      are an obvious advantage...now we have 60 and 70 for him, still attract by each other, enjoying life and travel together, and not the two of them together I understood that freedom for him was the priority as I love him madly I accepted.today's communication technology helps us a lot we write to each other every day we started with faxes today it's WhatsApp

    • @emilietije4836
      @emilietije4836 Před 4 měsíci +6

      I assume this only applies in a relationship not when he is still dating you

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@emilietije4836 the video? It applies at every stage! :)

    • @emilietije4836
      @emilietije4836 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @@Mat_Shaffer so he will not take you from granted if you start doing this at the beginning? A guy once told me that I was too nice

    • @lovelaughrelationship2079
      @lovelaughrelationship2079 Před 4 měsíci +5

      Hi @Mat_Shaffer,
      I am an avid listener of your channel and you helped me a lot when it comes to knowing my worth and how to deal with a man.
      I've finally found a man of whom I am going to spend my life with.
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and personal experiences on your videos. ❤
      More power to you and Callie. ❤❤❤
      God bless 🙏

  • @somav8
    @somav8 Před 4 měsíci +247

    1. Appreciation (Reinforce good behavior)
    2. Unconditional Support (Have his back when not successful)
    3. Dance of Independence Give him space (To hang out with his friends)
    4. Be his emotional sanctuary
    5. The Spark of physical touch (in and out of bed)
    6. Authentic Intellectual Ability
    7. Loving Interruption to the routine (take them out on an adventure)
    8. The language of little things (show him that you are listening)
    9. The Harmony of Humor
    10. Unapologetic Openness

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +13

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @tinyelephant77
      @tinyelephant77 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thank you

    • @hopeholistichealermccullou735
      @hopeholistichealermccullou735 Před 4 měsíci +5

      Thanks ardently! I love to see the items then listen! You’re the Best! 🙌🏾💜🪬🕉️

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Some couples understand each other without talking. Silence and silent gestures are speaking from the heart. :)
      Good couples bring the best out of each other with their individual hobbies, ideas.

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 Před 3 měsíci +2

      It probably works only if he can feel worthy to receive it.
      receive money, receive success, receive love, empathy etc.

  • @geeem7889
    @geeem7889 Před 4 měsíci +226

    I love the example when you said how you did the dishes and let her sleep. Thats sweet. But i feel like house chores should be something that both ppl do as needed, something shared, not something that she only takes care of. And you know, everyone has a different set up at home which works for them. But I just don't like it when dudes expect praise for doing stuff that they should be doing anyway as a grown up adult. I know this was just an example and im not in any way attacking you. I love your content and have been listening for years!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +38

      Love this share and insight!! Yes Callie and I absolutely share house work duties, she usually handles the laundry and I am normally on dish duty unless I am very busy with work :) This was a situation where I am in a busy part of my work season but I took the time to support her so she wasn't left doing everything for me!

    • @beatricebliss9379
      @beatricebliss9379 Před 4 měsíci +25

      I support the 'polarized' kind of chores. Women are the habitual type of chores, that creates estrogen. Men are the punctual/ emergency type, that creates testosterone. Of course he does the dishes if I am sick. I don't have to ask him. But that is an emergency type right then. He does so much for me, that I actually like doing dishes, laundry, cleaning etc. At the same time, he treats me wonderfully: brings me flowers all the time, takes me to restaurants, pays me compliments, behaves like we were in the first months of our relationship. Rare find, I'd say.
      Also, appreciating what he does does not cost you anything, but your ego. And he will be more caring, more attentive and loving to you.

    • @geeem7889
      @geeem7889 Před 4 měsíci +15

      @beatricebliss9379 cool, whatever works for you! The key thing is to feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship. I personally want both of us to do whatever is needed because we both work outside the home. If I was a stay at home wife that would be different. I don't want to be doing everything around the house myself when I'm also just as tired and busy as him. Plus I don't want to feel like I'm his mom. That's not attractive to me. That's not to say I won't take care of him as much as possible to the best of my abilities. It's a give and take, and it's all fluid..not set in stone. And I like it that way.
      There's women out there that do it all, working outside the home, taking care of the kids and doing all the house work. I think that's extremely unbalanced and of course they're burnt out. I'm not signing up for that life, as I think there needs to be some sort of balance to be happy. Otherwise you end up bitter and resentful, complaining about how your partner doesn't support you. It's not like it used to be back in the day when ladies used to be stay at home wifes. Majority of ppl don't have that option, and some don't want that even if they could. Which is also fair. Everyone's situation, circumstances as well as personalities are different which will impact the choices they make. Many still want the traditional roles which is cool but the reality is we don't really live like that anymore. Women have to work too. Cost of living is nuts.

    • @me-meluv6921
      @me-meluv6921 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Big facts 💯

    • @jennyhansen9963
      @jennyhansen9963 Před 4 měsíci +23

      Yeah… the “doing the dishes ‘for her’” was cringy.

  • @susanwalker3454
    @susanwalker3454 Před 4 měsíci +35

    These are so true matt, I am a therapist myself. showing my love that I appreciate him even for small things that get overlooked so often. He does the same for me. Appreciating someone makes them want to do more for you too.
    Unconditional support like Unconditional love is so important. If you really love someone you should shows these without expecting back. Needless to say a lot of time it does because they feel loved and appreciated.
    A healthy relationship includes having your own interests and life separately. It also gives you stuff to talk about!
    Before me my partner was married for 23 years, but it became so toxic he didn't want to live then he managed to leave. I met him later but have and still am showing him I'm there for him to be vulnerable with me, he's safe with me. It takes time but you can rebuild.
    We are very connected in energy, we cuddle all the time and just love having physical contact.
    He always says that he loves I'm intelligent and the way I think. We have both had lives that have been challenging but we have accomplished a lot.
    You should always keep life interesting nothing worse than mundane day after day.
    It is so important to do fun things together.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Love this share thank you! So glad you do these in your relationship 🙌🙌

  • @ellenlartz2499
    @ellenlartz2499 Před 4 měsíci +17

    Matt:
    I have known my man since I was 7 years old . We were best friends by the time I was 17. We have been together since 2005. We give each other space and we try to keep each other in mind at all times. I wouldn't be me without him and I am the most grateful woman because he belongs to me.1

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @nn7397
      @nn7397 Před 2 měsíci +1

      So lucky. I am 50 havent found him yet.

    • @arnelevans4803
      @arnelevans4803 Před měsícem

      ​@@nn7397I'm 41, I still haven't found mine

  • @TheNewEarthCollective1
    @TheNewEarthCollective1 Před 2 měsíci +9

    Dude, the dishes are both of yours, not just hers! You did it for her too, but they were also your dishes and you should also be doing them!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před měsícem

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @lindadeise4575
    @lindadeise4575 Před 4 měsíci +36

    I'm so glad that you are making these videos again. Thanks Mat!!!

  • @Primavera1111
    @Primavera1111 Před 3 měsíci +9

    Do she also received a hug for every time she cooks and do the dishes?

    • @phoenixfire4640
      @phoenixfire4640 Před 2 měsíci +1

      this is exactly what I was thinking. Why does the man get an overreaction about the woman probably does the chores majority of the time and never gets that same appreciation

  • @monicad.williams5057
    @monicad.williams5057 Před 4 měsíci +16

    I am so glad that I have you as my life coach! You give such amazing insight into topics that sometimes you maybe not to well informed on. I really learned a lot with your videos!

  • @user-po6vc9xv3k
    @user-po6vc9xv3k Před 3 měsíci +5

    You are such a Gem! Not many men are as open minded in variety in fun activities. You and your girl are blessed. Keep things fresh.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)

  • @quicknotesmedia9540
    @quicknotesmedia9540 Před 4 měsíci +25

    Welcome back! So happy. I watch a lot of relationship videos and I’m an educator (I actually own a private school) and I have to say…you have the perfect combination of clear communication and effective delivery of your teachings and knowledge. Your content is valuable and your passion is clear. I feel it through the phone. I love the presentation and summary too. Btw, you’re very accurate about relationships. My boyfriend and I are in a committed, loving, and happy relationship for 2 years. I can validate this video. A+++ 😁Thank you ❤

  • @mariarossi6719
    @mariarossi6719 Před 4 měsíci +24

    Lovely to see you again, Mat. You along with Stephan Speaks have taught me a whole heck of a lot about men and relationships. Thank you.

  • @legaleagle4947
    @legaleagle4947 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Thanks Mat! What a wonderful come back 🙌🏻💝

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      BOOM thanks my dear so glad you enjoyed it!:)

  • @deec411
    @deec411 Před 3 měsíci +12

    It might be old fashioned but making his favorite foods or sentimental foods. My husband talked about a shadow cake that his grandmother would bring to Sunday dinners. So I made one from his description and he loved it 🥲

  • @loriengoedhart3898
    @loriengoedhart3898 Před 4 měsíci +18

    Great video Matt ❤ I find humour is one of the easiest ways to connect with a guy, so I just love being a goof ball, having fun and not taking things too seriously all the time. Plus they just love confidence. When I am most confident in myself and living as my best self, then I find a man will respond in his best way.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +2

      YES thats so sexy! so glad that you're aware of that :)

    • @loriengoedhart3898
      @loriengoedhart3898 Před 4 měsíci

      @@Mat_Shaffer thanks! I think confidence in a man is sexy too. I love your confidence. It comes through in droves. And the little laugh you do, that's very cute! 😘

  • @tangnfi
    @tangnfi Před 4 měsíci +15

    Fears Desires and Agreements game… so brilliant ❤

  • @daisysig
    @daisysig Před 4 měsíci +3

    I have found your point about honest, genuine, heartfelt appreciation for his actions to be so very powerful! Especially for a man who comes from a very male-centric family background but feels inadequate many times. He is very service oriented because it's the "right thing to do" but isn't sure how to take my compliments...but I'm determined to help him understand his individual, unique worth and show him my love through appreciation!!! And I've seen the smile bubble up in his eyes when I do!

  • @plantbasedgirl5854
    @plantbasedgirl5854 Před 4 měsíci +3

    I just LOVED this!! So many great ideas. They all make so much sense!!

  • @lilibethnieto55
    @lilibethnieto55 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Thank you Matt…love your authenticity and very spot on advices. Amazing message ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      You are SO welcome! glad you enjoyed it :)

  • @skyplayz2365
    @skyplayz2365 Před 3 měsíci

    So great to see a new video from you, Mat! Thank you! 🙏❤️

  • @dianac9042
    @dianac9042 Před 4 měsíci +19

    do you thank her when she does the dishes?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +3

      We thank each other often! Gratitude is so important ❤️❤️

    • @JNyceWitSpice
      @JNyceWitSpice Před 2 měsíci

      Many men have an avoidant style of coping. So, any avoidant no matter gender, has difficulty expressing emotion. They will show you gratitude with action. For example, when I do something my avoidant really appreciates, like a good home cooked meal he'll wash the dishes. I know that's his way of saying thank you besides saying, "That was delicious!" So, I say thank you to him for washing dishes/appreciating me. You shouldn't expect the same exact in return. Just the same effort.

    • @PamelaLDeVrou
      @PamelaLDeVrou Před 13 dny

      Not about the fishes…it’s about the appreciation. In anything that’s done

  • @WildCarrie
    @WildCarrie Před 4 měsíci +3

    I’m talking to a guy currently and I decided to watch this video and let me just say we do all of these things already and consistently every time we see each other. It’s crazy how spit on this video is to it ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Amazing so happy to hear that! ❤️❤️

  • @tooblessedtobestressed1771
    @tooblessedtobestressed1771 Před 4 měsíci +1

    You are back
    Yayyy
    Loved your past videos

  • @Angela-bo8qm
    @Angela-bo8qm Před 4 měsíci +8

    It's really nice to have you back Mat 🥰

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +3

      So happy to BE back! 🤗🤗

    • @Angela-bo8qm
      @Angela-bo8qm Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@Mat_Shaffer I'm glad you are 🤗🤗

  • @if7363
    @if7363 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Glad you're back 😊

  • @juliaweinberg7336
    @juliaweinberg7336 Před 3 měsíci

    Matt, you are amazing! Loved everything that you said with such authenticity and Thoughtfulness! Keep teaching us all! Wishing you continued loving in your relationship and life.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @emilygomez4748
    @emilygomez4748 Před 4 měsíci

    Good to see you again. Well needed video. Thanks for educating us.

  • @rebekahrenee9093
    @rebekahrenee9093 Před 3 měsíci

    Love this ❤️ I already do these things but it helps to hear it from someone else and this is a fantastic channel! Thank you 😊

  • @francesmurray4991
    @francesmurray4991 Před 4 měsíci +6

    I enjoy your videos. What you say feels like it is commonsense, but it's amazing the ordinary things that we should do just get overlooked in our busy lives. Thanks for your suggestions

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      thanks for the feedback frances I appreciate you! :)

  • @alexalmes
    @alexalmes Před 4 měsíci +2

    On point! Thank you so much 🪷🙏🏽🪷

  • @nitagonzales1421
    @nitagonzales1421 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thanks, for your great advice Matt.

  • @peshkaris1801
    @peshkaris1801 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I love this, thanks 😊❤

  • @mrsfantastical2010
    @mrsfantastical2010 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Yayyyy! Ur back❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @bindicat9070
    @bindicat9070 Před 3 měsíci

    Sorry to hes you had an injury!
    Glad to hear you are back!
    So right it’s harder to love when things are difficult!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @annabellacrewe8858
    @annabellacrewe8858 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thank you for your fresh and happy presentation ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      you are so so welcome Annabella! :)

  • @cynthyblessing9986
    @cynthyblessing9986 Před měsícem

    Thanks Matt for this wonderful video appreciated 👍

  • @jasminewatson5723
    @jasminewatson5723 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Great video Matt

  • @shaybee6893
    @shaybee6893 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Very insightful advice. Thank you 🎉

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @dawnmarie8771
    @dawnmarie8771 Před 4 měsíci

    Excellent content!! Thank you so much!!❤

  • @joyuslife6126
    @joyuslife6126 Před 3 měsíci

    This was awesome and very helpful, thank you.

  • @user-jainupasana
    @user-jainupasana Před měsícem

    Amazing, awesome video❤

  • @BledaRassmar
    @BledaRassmar Před 4 měsíci +2

    I feel like I do these things…do you have a sibling like yourself, but who is single? Asking for a friend…
    It’s me, I’m the friend.

  • @kathysalvatori5509
    @kathysalvatori5509 Před 4 měsíci

    I agree to show appreciation, support and be there during the bad times

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @user-fr2mp2kt8d
    @user-fr2mp2kt8d Před 4 měsíci +1

    I enjoy watching your videos I learn something new every day thank you so much 😊😊😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      so glad you're learning! much more fun to come!

  • @newearthgoddess
    @newearthgoddess Před 3 měsíci

    Great video. Love when you share the stories men tend to have- it help get inside and understand better

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @AnnAlasnanam
    @AnnAlasnanam Před 4 měsíci +3

    You are very appreciative of her that's the difference between you and other man. My ex doesn't recognized that I've been doing this so I ended it up. Bless your relationship even more.

  • @josephineabris8506
    @josephineabris8506 Před 4 měsíci

    Yes love it💕ur back🙏❤️

  • @cutejaxngirl
    @cutejaxngirl Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you for the important and helpful advice!

  • @lunewyorker
    @lunewyorker Před 2 měsíci

    Perfect Video!!! Thanks🎉

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @myrakucharski552
    @myrakucharski552 Před 3 měsíci

    Great advice, thank you!!

  • @ewaholmes707
    @ewaholmes707 Před 4 měsíci

    In general, you are very right...thank you so much 😊

  • @marikanemeth7362
    @marikanemeth7362 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Great video !

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Glad you enjoyed it 🙌🙌❤️❤️

  • @isabelolsson1890
    @isabelolsson1890 Před měsícem

    Great teachings, thanks so much for a great video.❤❤

  • @anac2314
    @anac2314 Před 4 měsíci +4

    So true Mat!!!
    Thank you.
    Glad you’re back.
    You’re the best here, seriously!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      aww thanks hon! so appreciate that feedback

  • @dawnstonerock4253
    @dawnstonerock4253 Před 3 měsíci

    You restored my hope.

  • @zensvlognotapro
    @zensvlognotapro Před 4 měsíci

    Hi ! Mat nice come back ✋. Keep sharing your gift 🎁🙌.
    This is spot on 💖

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      amazing glad you enjoyed it! more fun to come!

  • @RegenaO
    @RegenaO Před 3 měsíci

    Wow!!!! Fears - Desires - Agreements Game 🎉 brilliant! Thank you 😊 So powerful

  • @lex28lush10
    @lex28lush10 Před 3 měsíci

    So genuine, love that you share your experience. Thank you, Matt ✨
    Don't feel so paralysis in connection with men as much. .. Still takes lots of practice

  • @corinaluanavlad2417
    @corinaluanavlad2417 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Congrats for this video! I'm so happy to see you again! It is a real pleasure to listen to your advices!
    I'm done with dating confused men! I love myself enough not to accept their inconsistent behaviour! I deserve to be happy with myself.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +3

      YES happiness is an inside job! and the right guy wont be confused, he will be certain :)

    • @corinaluanavlad2417
      @corinaluanavlad2417 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@Mat_Shaffer thank you! I do agree with you.

    • @rose7777
      @rose7777 Před měsícem +2

      I second your comment sister

    • @corinaluanavlad2417
      @corinaluanavlad2417 Před měsícem +1

      @@rose7777 thank you sis. 😉❤

    • @rose7777
      @rose7777 Před měsícem +1

      @@corinaluanavlad2417 u said the truth 🥰🥰😘😘

  • @sandramichaud8033
    @sandramichaud8033 Před 19 dny

    The tease about something to look for at the end, is enough to make us curious!❤

  • @kevabela6307
    @kevabela6307 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you🎉 Wonderful. I appreciate a conscious, caring and articulate man's ability to communicate these very important needs and wants that even the most loving woman may overlook or never have considered ❤

  • @kimngatran6271
    @kimngatran6271 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for your advice! I just subscribed to your channel!

  • @kimberlyp_shiprocker
    @kimberlyp_shiprocker Před 2 měsíci

    I love that you share gratitude with each other. I write gratitude every night, but never thought about sharing it with my guy. I love giving him space, because I understand the need for it. I hope I'm on the right track, as everything here sounds like our life (for the most part).

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 2 měsíci +1

      Love that. Thanks for sharing!

    • @kimberlyp_shiprocker
      @kimberlyp_shiprocker Před 2 měsíci

      @Mat_Shaffer Thank you! Much of this is what I've learned and practice because of sobriety.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 15 dny

      You're very welcome.

  • @trineneverest2255
    @trineneverest2255 Před 4 měsíci +1

    ohmygoodness I was really worried you weren't coming back I really needed you to come back specifically my back

  • @amyhicks7717
    @amyhicks7717 Před 2 měsíci

    I agree... Consistency is the biggest key

  • @pamheisler4927
    @pamheisler4927 Před 4 měsíci

    Love your videos. I'd love to hear info on the 4 main attachment theories. You are easy to listen to. 😊

  • @margaritagonzalez5011
    @margaritagonzalez5011 Před 3 měsíci

    I can’t finish listening to this…keep your Kelly, jezzz.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @faith_marie111
    @faith_marie111 Před 11 dny

    I love the messages you are sharing and your energy exudes peace! I can tell we are kindred spirits. I'm drawn to this work too, but I'm more focused on helping women fall in love with themselves so they break the cycle of falling into narcissistic abuse with men who are not ready for any type of serious commitment. It's a generational wound for all the women in my family. Well, maybe not all but quite a few.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 9 dny

      "You’ve got such great insight! Thanks for sharing and making this community awesome. 😘"

  • @krissekivisto4805
    @krissekivisto4805 Před měsícem +1

    Women need exactly the same things...
    But you are a wonderful Man 💋❤💋💋 helping women like this.

  • @CarmenRivera-id6cl
    @CarmenRivera-id6cl Před 19 dny

    Thank for advice , with this points of. A relationship .

  • @user-hk6ld3cc1u
    @user-hk6ld3cc1u Před 3 měsíci

    I really like your video!!
    You’re very good
    Thank you
    🎉

  • @128cherylmarie
    @128cherylmarie Před 4 měsíci +1

    Learning a lot from you Matt. Thank you as always!🩷🌞🩷

  • @maggiewanjiru2807
    @maggiewanjiru2807 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Great 👍🏿 thank you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      I’m happy this resonated with you!

  • @devanshikar7705
    @devanshikar7705 Před 4 měsíci

    Hey Mat ! Welcome back. I thought of you so many times. Hope you have been well. Happy to see you 💐🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @MIKA-dh7ee
    @MIKA-dh7ee Před 3 měsíci

    These steps are so true

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @kellyismond9351
    @kellyismond9351 Před 3 měsíci

    Thanks so much

  • @mary-annbingham6159
    @mary-annbingham6159 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @SewDiva5691
    @SewDiva5691 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Good to see you, Mat! Welcome back! A woman just being her authentic self and caring for others by volunteering. That’s just me. Lol! Btw, Callie is beautiful inside and out. I’m happy for you both.👍👍🫶💞

  • @MariaPouli-lx5pe
    @MariaPouli-lx5pe Před měsícem

    Unconditional love and acceptance

  • @kevabela6307
    @kevabela6307 Před 3 měsíci

    That's a great game: Fears, desires and agreements 🎉

  • @pricesunbury59
    @pricesunbury59 Před 3 měsíci

    My man is the sweetest. He is great.❤❤

  • @emonyt
    @emonyt Před měsícem +3

    I want to see the internet overflowing with videos for men how to melt a woman's heart , because most men are completely oblivious on how to treat a woman. Nicely put.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před měsícem

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @user-ug7ne7sj5e
    @user-ug7ne7sj5e Před 2 měsíci

    I dont see you doing the dishes , is a faviour you do for her , knowing that you both are living togather

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 2 měsíci

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @SpirituallyInclined2024
    @SpirituallyInclined2024 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank You

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci

      I’m happy this resonated with you!

  • @safirakakitchen708
    @safirakakitchen708 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank u ❤

  • @ellenvanwyk5977
    @ellenvanwyk5977 Před 3 měsíci

    Hi Matt nice hereing u again been long time well worth it 👌 😊

  • @user-gv7jr8fr7n
    @user-gv7jr8fr7n Před 4 měsíci +4

    I’m a 50 ish vibrant lady with a strong libido trapped in the body of a 75 year old. Finding love might be easier if I looked and felt my age. I think I understand what it feels like to be trans but mine is an age trans. Should be a term for that.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Age trans thats brilliant! also very common, so many of my students and clients are in the same boat, and a lot of times that means you will end up dating younger men... nothing wrong with that ;)

  • @rebeccahenson6989
    @rebeccahenson6989 Před 4 měsíci

    My nearly 5 yrs of a sweet long distance friendship has amazingly blossomed into an extraordinary love relationship like no other. My love of my life is a respected UN Surgeon currently contracted in Syria for our injured soldiers. I am so happy you are back so I have something to focus on as we talk almost daily, until my loving man returns stateside by Summer. When I have my unfortunate moments of impatience as I await his return at times, I must put his life in God's hands. You being back helps me to stay focused on our love relationship, until he sends me his passionate messages of love again. You helped me work through a tough ending to a Narcissistic marriage of 38 yrs, so thank you for keeping things fresh and encouraging for the past 5 yrs. I am so happy for yours and Callie's 2 yrs of love. Isn't it amazing to be living happy with your forever love? Happy Valentines Day 🌹to you both. Love & Light

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      beautiful share my dear! happy valentines day to you too!

    • @audreybiloon
      @audreybiloon Před měsícem

      Be careful that your LDR with a “surgeon for the UN” (typical scammer profile, that involves asking for money which a “surgeon” doesn’t need) doesn’t ask you for money…if so it’s not a LDR but a LDS [Scammer] R.

  • @Laycismom
    @Laycismom Před 2 měsíci

    Laughter is so important in my relationship with my boyfriend. We talk on the phone for hours every night. One night we had a serious conversation and no laughing. The next day I just felt so hollow inside…and I remembered that we didn’t laugh…and he sensed that things were a little “off”.

  • @heathersanchez3184
    @heathersanchez3184 Před 6 dny

    My husband and I share the chores even though I'm home all day and he works outside the home and we appreciate each other for it!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 5 dny

      Your comment is pure gold! Thanks for making my day. 💛

  • @mayle6307
    @mayle6307 Před 2 měsíci

    You are very good

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @Tangerine72
    @Tangerine72 Před 4 měsíci +5

    THEY both ate dinner but HE did the dishes FOR HER the next day lol ; yeah okay.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 3 měsíci +2

      I cooked dinner (I almost always do) and did the dishes that time, she usually does the laundry...we do a lot of chores for each other because we live together and are in a healthy partnership! the important part is showing conscious gratitude to each other for what we do to contribute to the home, and we are both good about that :)

    • @sharicoburn5475
      @sharicoburn5475 Před měsícem +1

      Glad you noticed that too

    • @elizabethschiemer1270
      @elizabethschiemer1270 Před 28 dny +2

      He did the dishes FOR her? ? ?

  • @bunmihelpingministries8307
    @bunmihelpingministries8307 Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks

  • @shadowboy23
    @shadowboy23 Před 2 měsíci

    I like you man, think u are the bees knees!!!! Great loving vibes and sharing wizdom

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 2 měsíci

      Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)

  • @lyria8469
    @lyria8469 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Mat, such beautiful hair you have!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)

  • @fatimasalie3911
    @fatimasalie3911 Před 3 měsíci

    Great😊

  • @msm3668
    @msm3668 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Hi Matt. Great video. Question. Can you explain the game you and Callie(sp ) played on your drive to Florida? Sounds intriguing. Thanks!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Fears Desires and Agreements is powerful! google it its all over the internet :)

    • @msm3668
      @msm3668 Před 4 měsíci

      @@Mat_Shaffer
      Thanks, Mat. 😊

  • @blueskysea450
    @blueskysea450 Před 4 měsíci

    For me, one of the things that works is showing trust and treating my man like an adult, responsible guy who can do anything he sets his mind to. I let him feel it. I'm very careful not to pretend to be a mother and treat him as incapable or not very intelligent. I know he's an adult, he already has a mommy, he's smart, he's intelligent, he's clever and he can actually work towards a goal. So I just don't act like it's any different. And it is extremely easy to make such a mistake.
    Additional tip: Don't act like a teacher checking a homework assignment. Even with everything I wrote earlier - it could be a mistake that will sneak by unnoticed into your behavior.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @faeriesart9647
    @faeriesart9647 Před 3 měsíci

    Hi ! New to your channel.. I am
    In a new relationship now about 4 months, he still gets personal friend invites I haven’t met yet, we do have mutual friends though, it helps to hear that I can support our freedoms.. it’s very vulnerable and deep when we are together🙏🙏

  • @user-gv7jr8fr7n
    @user-gv7jr8fr7n Před 4 měsíci +3

    Yes. I get them as young as 22. Would rather attract 65 crowd but I think age is a problem to many of them. Thanks for listening and responding.

    • @user-gv7jr8fr7n
      @user-gv7jr8fr7n Před 4 měsíci +1

      I think I’ve listened to all your recordings on utube. Look out Callie, I love your man. 😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Před 4 měsíci +1

      so welcome! keep shining your light my dear you are a rockstar! :)