10 Simple Ways to MELT a Man's Heart
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QUESTION OF THE DAY - what ways have YOU found to melt a man's heart that I may have missed?? Let me know in the comments!
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Valentin's day 1987 I met the lover of my life, in a piano bar, in Aix en Provence, i was the only girl spoken english of group of friends, we fall in love at the first sight, and he an American pianist of jazz I helped him settle in France for a while, i hepled him working in piano bars and restaurants on the Côte d'Azur, as translator. I guess we are always in love because i live in free, to around the world for his work, and we meet in differents countries, never curious, or jalous, I'm indépendant, the freedon is the best ! Also i know my level in english and french accent
are an obvious advantage...now we have 60 and 70 for him, still attract by each other, enjoying life and travel together, and not the two of them together I understood that freedom for him was the priority as I love him madly I accepted.today's communication technology helps us a lot we write to each other every day we started with faxes today it's WhatsApp
I assume this only applies in a relationship not when he is still dating you
@@emilietije4836 the video? It applies at every stage! :)
@@Mat_Shaffer so he will not take you from granted if you start doing this at the beginning? A guy once told me that I was too nice
Hi @Mat_Shaffer,
I am an avid listener of your channel and you helped me a lot when it comes to knowing my worth and how to deal with a man.
I've finally found a man of whom I am going to spend my life with.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and personal experiences on your videos. ❤
More power to you and Callie. ❤❤❤
God bless 🙏
1. Appreciation (Reinforce good behavior)
2. Unconditional Support (Have his back when not successful)
3. Dance of Independence Give him space (To hang out with his friends)
4. Be his emotional sanctuary
5. The Spark of physical touch (in and out of bed)
6. Authentic Intellectual Ability
7. Loving Interruption to the routine (take them out on an adventure)
8. The language of little things (show him that you are listening)
9. The Harmony of Humor
10. Unapologetic Openness
Thanks for sharing!
Thank you
Thanks ardently! I love to see the items then listen! You’re the Best! 🙌🏾💜🪬🕉️
Some couples understand each other without talking. Silence and silent gestures are speaking from the heart. :)
Good couples bring the best out of each other with their individual hobbies, ideas.
It probably works only if he can feel worthy to receive it.
receive money, receive success, receive love, empathy etc.
I love the example when you said how you did the dishes and let her sleep. Thats sweet. But i feel like house chores should be something that both ppl do as needed, something shared, not something that she only takes care of. And you know, everyone has a different set up at home which works for them. But I just don't like it when dudes expect praise for doing stuff that they should be doing anyway as a grown up adult. I know this was just an example and im not in any way attacking you. I love your content and have been listening for years!
Love this share and insight!! Yes Callie and I absolutely share house work duties, she usually handles the laundry and I am normally on dish duty unless I am very busy with work :) This was a situation where I am in a busy part of my work season but I took the time to support her so she wasn't left doing everything for me!
I support the 'polarized' kind of chores. Women are the habitual type of chores, that creates estrogen. Men are the punctual/ emergency type, that creates testosterone. Of course he does the dishes if I am sick. I don't have to ask him. But that is an emergency type right then. He does so much for me, that I actually like doing dishes, laundry, cleaning etc. At the same time, he treats me wonderfully: brings me flowers all the time, takes me to restaurants, pays me compliments, behaves like we were in the first months of our relationship. Rare find, I'd say.
Also, appreciating what he does does not cost you anything, but your ego. And he will be more caring, more attentive and loving to you.
@beatricebliss9379 cool, whatever works for you! The key thing is to feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship. I personally want both of us to do whatever is needed because we both work outside the home. If I was a stay at home wife that would be different. I don't want to be doing everything around the house myself when I'm also just as tired and busy as him. Plus I don't want to feel like I'm his mom. That's not attractive to me. That's not to say I won't take care of him as much as possible to the best of my abilities. It's a give and take, and it's all fluid..not set in stone. And I like it that way.
There's women out there that do it all, working outside the home, taking care of the kids and doing all the house work. I think that's extremely unbalanced and of course they're burnt out. I'm not signing up for that life, as I think there needs to be some sort of balance to be happy. Otherwise you end up bitter and resentful, complaining about how your partner doesn't support you. It's not like it used to be back in the day when ladies used to be stay at home wifes. Majority of ppl don't have that option, and some don't want that even if they could. Which is also fair. Everyone's situation, circumstances as well as personalities are different which will impact the choices they make. Many still want the traditional roles which is cool but the reality is we don't really live like that anymore. Women have to work too. Cost of living is nuts.
Big facts 💯
Yeah… the “doing the dishes ‘for her’” was cringy.
These are so true matt, I am a therapist myself. showing my love that I appreciate him even for small things that get overlooked so often. He does the same for me. Appreciating someone makes them want to do more for you too.
Unconditional support like Unconditional love is so important. If you really love someone you should shows these without expecting back. Needless to say a lot of time it does because they feel loved and appreciated.
A healthy relationship includes having your own interests and life separately. It also gives you stuff to talk about!
Before me my partner was married for 23 years, but it became so toxic he didn't want to live then he managed to leave. I met him later but have and still am showing him I'm there for him to be vulnerable with me, he's safe with me. It takes time but you can rebuild.
We are very connected in energy, we cuddle all the time and just love having physical contact.
He always says that he loves I'm intelligent and the way I think. We have both had lives that have been challenging but we have accomplished a lot.
You should always keep life interesting nothing worse than mundane day after day.
It is so important to do fun things together.
Love this share thank you! So glad you do these in your relationship 🙌🙌
It might be old fashioned but making his favorite foods or sentimental foods. My husband talked about a shadow cake that his grandmother would bring to Sunday dinners. So I made one from his description and he loved it 🥲
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Do she also received a hug for every time she cooks and do the dishes?
this is exactly what I was thinking. Why does the man get an overreaction about the woman probably does the chores majority of the time and never gets that same appreciation
You are such a Gem! Not many men are as open minded in variety in fun activities. You and your girl are blessed. Keep things fresh.
Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)
I'm so glad that you are making these videos again. Thanks Mat!!!
Amazing! love hearing that!
Fears Desires and Agreements game… so brilliant ❤
Matt:
I have known my man since I was 7 years old . We were best friends by the time I was 17. We have been together since 2005. We give each other space and we try to keep each other in mind at all times. I wouldn't be me without him and I am the most grateful woman because he belongs to me.1
Thanks for sharing!
So lucky. I am 50 havent found him yet.
@@nn7397I'm 41, I still haven't found mine
Thanks Mat! What a wonderful come back 🙌🏻💝
BOOM thanks my dear so glad you enjoyed it!:)
Dude, the dishes are both of yours, not just hers! You did it for her too, but they were also your dishes and you should also be doing them!!
I appreciate your opinion on this!
Great video Matt ❤ I find humour is one of the easiest ways to connect with a guy, so I just love being a goof ball, having fun and not taking things too seriously all the time. Plus they just love confidence. When I am most confident in myself and living as my best self, then I find a man will respond in his best way.
YES thats so sexy! so glad that you're aware of that :)
@@Mat_Shaffer thanks! I think confidence in a man is sexy too. I love your confidence. It comes through in droves. And the little laugh you do, that's very cute! 😘
Lovely to see you again, Mat. You along with Stephan Speaks have taught me a whole heck of a lot about men and relationships. Thank you.
I appreciate that! happy to be back! :)
Agree!
I am so glad that I have you as my life coach! You give such amazing insight into topics that sometimes you maybe not to well informed on. I really learned a lot with your videos!
I'm so glad!!!
Welcome back! So happy. I watch a lot of relationship videos and I’m an educator (I actually own a private school) and I have to say…you have the perfect combination of clear communication and effective delivery of your teachings and knowledge. Your content is valuable and your passion is clear. I feel it through the phone. I love the presentation and summary too. Btw, you’re very accurate about relationships. My boyfriend and I are in a committed, loving, and happy relationship for 2 years. I can validate this video. A+++ 😁Thank you ❤
I have found your point about honest, genuine, heartfelt appreciation for his actions to be so very powerful! Especially for a man who comes from a very male-centric family background but feels inadequate many times. He is very service oriented because it's the "right thing to do" but isn't sure how to take my compliments...but I'm determined to help him understand his individual, unique worth and show him my love through appreciation!!! And I've seen the smile bubble up in his eyes when I do!
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you Matt…love your authenticity and very spot on advices. Amazing message ❤
You are SO welcome! glad you enjoyed it :)
I’m talking to a guy currently and I decided to watch this video and let me just say we do all of these things already and consistently every time we see each other. It’s crazy how spit on this video is to it ❤
Amazing so happy to hear that! ❤️❤️
I just LOVED this!! So many great ideas. They all make so much sense!!
Glad it was helpful!
So great to see a new video from you, Mat! Thank you! 🙏❤️
Your kind words touch my heart
You are very appreciative of her that's the difference between you and other man. My ex doesn't recognized that I've been doing this so I ended it up. Bless your relationship even more.
thanks love! Yes I am :)
I enjoy your videos. What you say feels like it is commonsense, but it's amazing the ordinary things that we should do just get overlooked in our busy lives. Thanks for your suggestions
thanks for the feedback frances I appreciate you! :)
Matt, you are amazing! Loved everything that you said with such authenticity and Thoughtfulness! Keep teaching us all! Wishing you continued loving in your relationship and life.
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
do you thank her when she does the dishes?
We thank each other often! Gratitude is so important ❤️❤️
Many men have an avoidant style of coping. So, any avoidant no matter gender, has difficulty expressing emotion. They will show you gratitude with action. For example, when I do something my avoidant really appreciates, like a good home cooked meal he'll wash the dishes. I know that's his way of saying thank you besides saying, "That was delicious!" So, I say thank you to him for washing dishes/appreciating me. You shouldn't expect the same exact in return. Just the same effort.
Not about the fishes…it’s about the appreciation. In anything that’s done
Good to see you again. Well needed video. Thanks for educating us.
My pleasure! ❤️
Love this ❤️ I already do these things but it helps to hear it from someone else and this is a fantastic channel! Thank you 😊
I’m so glad this helped you!
Sorry to hes you had an injury!
Glad to hear you are back!
So right it’s harder to love when things are difficult!
Thanks so much for your feedback!
You are back
Yayyy
Loved your past videos
ohhh yeah Im back baby! :)
Thank you🎉 Wonderful. I appreciate a conscious, caring and articulate man's ability to communicate these very important needs and wants that even the most loving woman may overlook or never have considered ❤
You are so welcome
Glad you're back 😊
yesss me TOO!
Thanks, for your great advice Matt.
My pleasure!
It's really nice to have you back Mat 🥰
So happy to BE back! 🤗🤗
@@Mat_Shaffer I'm glad you are 🤗🤗
On point! Thank you so much 🪷🙏🏽🪷
You are so welcome 🙏
Thank you for your fresh and happy presentation ❤
you are so so welcome Annabella! :)
I love this, thanks 😊❤
You're welcome 😊
I love that you share gratitude with each other. I write gratitude every night, but never thought about sharing it with my guy. I love giving him space, because I understand the need for it. I hope I'm on the right track, as everything here sounds like our life (for the most part).
Love that. Thanks for sharing!
@Mat_Shaffer Thank you! Much of this is what I've learned and practice because of sobriety.
You're very welcome.
So genuine, love that you share your experience. Thank you, Matt ✨
Don't feel so paralysis in connection with men as much. .. Still takes lots of practice
I’m so glad this helped you!
I agree to show appreciation, support and be there during the bad times
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
Yayyyy! Ur back❤
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
Great video. Love when you share the stories men tend to have- it help get inside and understand better
Thanks so much for your feedback!
I enjoy watching your videos I learn something new every day thank you so much 😊😊😊
so glad you're learning! much more fun to come!
Excellent content!! Thank you so much!!❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks Matt for this wonderful video appreciated 👍
You are so welcome!
This was awesome and very helpful, thank you.
Your kind words touch my heart
Very insightful advice. Thank you 🎉
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
In general, you are very right...thank you so much 😊
Happy to hear that!
Thank you for the important and helpful advice!
Your kind words touch my heart
Wow!!!! Fears - Desires - Agreements Game 🎉 brilliant! Thank you 😊 So powerful
Yes! Thank you!
Great teachings, thanks so much for a great video.❤❤
Your kind words touch my heart
Hi ! Mat nice come back ✋. Keep sharing your gift 🎁🙌.
This is spot on 💖
amazing glad you enjoyed it! more fun to come!
Good to see you, Mat! Welcome back! A woman just being her authentic self and caring for others by volunteering. That’s just me. Lol! Btw, Callie is beautiful inside and out. I’m happy for you both.👍👍🫶💞
Your kind words touch my heart
Great video Matt
Thanks so much my dear!
Perfect Video!!! Thanks🎉
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
ohmygoodness I was really worried you weren't coming back I really needed you to come back specifically my back
😂😂😂
Yes love it💕ur back🙏❤️
Many thanks!
Great advice, thank you!!
You are so welcome!
So true Mat!!!
Thank you.
Glad you’re back.
You’re the best here, seriously!!!
aww thanks hon! so appreciate that feedback
I love the messages you are sharing and your energy exudes peace! I can tell we are kindred spirits. I'm drawn to this work too, but I'm more focused on helping women fall in love with themselves so they break the cycle of falling into narcissistic abuse with men who are not ready for any type of serious commitment. It's a generational wound for all the women in my family. Well, maybe not all but quite a few.
"You’ve got such great insight! Thanks for sharing and making this community awesome. 😘"
Hey Mat ! Welcome back. I thought of you so many times. Hope you have been well. Happy to see you 💐🙏
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
The tease about something to look for at the end, is enough to make us curious!❤
Thanks for sharing!
Congrats for this video! I'm so happy to see you again! It is a real pleasure to listen to your advices!
I'm done with dating confused men! I love myself enough not to accept their inconsistent behaviour! I deserve to be happy with myself.
YES happiness is an inside job! and the right guy wont be confused, he will be certain :)
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you! I do agree with you.
I second your comment sister
@@rose7777 thank you sis. 😉❤
@@corinaluanavlad2417 u said the truth 🥰🥰😘😘
Amazing, awesome video❤
Glad you liked it!!
Love your videos. I'd love to hear info on the 4 main attachment theories. You are easy to listen to. 😊
Coming soon!
You restored my hope.
I’m so glad this helped you!
Great video !
Glad you enjoyed it 🙌🙌❤️❤️
I really like your video!!
You’re very good
Thank you
🎉
Your kind words touch my heart
Thank you for your advice! I just subscribed to your channel!
I’m so glad this helped you!
I can’t finish listening to this…keep your Kelly, jezzz.
Thanks so much for your feedback!
I agree... Consistency is the biggest key
Thanks so much my dear!
Women need exactly the same things...
But you are a wonderful Man 💋❤💋💋 helping women like this.
Wow, thank you
Thank for advice , with this points of. A relationship .
You are so welcome!
Learning a lot from you Matt. Thank you as always!🩷🌞🩷
My pleasure!❤️
Great 👍🏿 thank you.
I’m happy this resonated with you!
I dont see you doing the dishes , is a faviour you do for her , knowing that you both are living togather
I appreciate your opinion on this!
These steps are so true
Thanks so much for your feedback!
My man is the sweetest. He is great.❤❤
Happy to hear that!
That's a great game: Fears, desires and agreements 🎉
Fantastic! Thanks so much!
Thanks so much
You are so welcome!
My nearly 5 yrs of a sweet long distance friendship has amazingly blossomed into an extraordinary love relationship like no other. My love of my life is a respected UN Surgeon currently contracted in Syria for our injured soldiers. I am so happy you are back so I have something to focus on as we talk almost daily, until my loving man returns stateside by Summer. When I have my unfortunate moments of impatience as I await his return at times, I must put his life in God's hands. You being back helps me to stay focused on our love relationship, until he sends me his passionate messages of love again. You helped me work through a tough ending to a Narcissistic marriage of 38 yrs, so thank you for keeping things fresh and encouraging for the past 5 yrs. I am so happy for yours and Callie's 2 yrs of love. Isn't it amazing to be living happy with your forever love? Happy Valentines Day 🌹to you both. Love & Light
beautiful share my dear! happy valentines day to you too!
Be careful that your LDR with a “surgeon for the UN” (typical scammer profile, that involves asking for money which a “surgeon” doesn’t need) doesn’t ask you for money…if so it’s not a LDR but a LDS [Scammer] R.
Hi ! New to your channel.. I am
In a new relationship now about 4 months, he still gets personal friend invites I haven’t met yet, we do have mutual friends though, it helps to hear that I can support our freedoms.. it’s very vulnerable and deep when we are together🙏🙏
I’m so glad this helped you!
Unconditional love and acceptance
Amazing! love hearing that!
Hi Matt nice hereing u again been long time well worth it 👌 😊
Thanks so much my dear!
Thank you
Welcome!
Thank You
I’m happy this resonated with you!
Thank u ❤
You're welcome 😊
Laughter is so important in my relationship with my boyfriend. We talk on the phone for hours every night. One night we had a serious conversation and no laughing. The next day I just felt so hollow inside…and I remembered that we didn’t laugh…and he sensed that things were a little “off”.
Thanks for sharing!
I like you man, think u are the bees knees!!!! Great loving vibes and sharing wizdom
Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)
Allison Armstrong is a great resource for this too and puts in in a way females can understand it. Sadly though problems can arise though when a male isn’t in his masculine energy and has childhood trauma. It can make it impossible and turn things into walking on eggshells. I think a male who knows who he is already will respond great with all of this advice. 😊
Thank you for sharing!
For me, one of the things that works is showing trust and treating my man like an adult, responsible guy who can do anything he sets his mind to. I let him feel it. I'm very careful not to pretend to be a mother and treat him as incapable or not very intelligent. I know he's an adult, he already has a mommy, he's smart, he's intelligent, he's clever and he can actually work towards a goal. So I just don't act like it's any different. And it is extremely easy to make such a mistake.
Additional tip: Don't act like a teacher checking a homework assignment. Even with everything I wrote earlier - it could be a mistake that will sneak by unnoticed into your behavior.
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
You are very good
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
Mat, such beautiful hair you have!
Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)
I feel like I do these things…do you have a sibling like yourself, but who is single? Asking for a friend…
It’s me, I’m the friend.
Wow. Thanks. This was so thorough and comprehensive. The only one I might be a bit nervous about, in the beginning of a relationship was/is suggesting dates. I like the idea of an occasional suggestion on my part to break the routine though🙂. Once, I told a guy I wanted a SURPRISE. I said I didn’t care if it cost money or not. Let’s just say the evening involved heated, lovely scented massage oil on my back😃. Let’s just say that.
Otherwise, PLEASE take a break for some herbal tea + lemon🍋 and honey🐝. This must have made you so tired.
Cheers.
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
Thanks
You're very welcome.
Yes. I get them as young as 22. Would rather attract 65 crowd but I think age is a problem to many of them. Thanks for listening and responding.
I think I’ve listened to all your recordings on utube. Look out Callie, I love your man. 😂
so welcome! keep shining your light my dear you are a rockstar! :)
Hello Mr. Mat Shaffer. Thank you for sharing with all of us about your experiences and sugestions. With SAME respect I would like to share with you two things. 1-Your ideas, sugestions and ALL are great-believe me. 2-I will just add this to IT: Would you like to mentioned something like '1- Simple Ways to MELT a Women's Heart' perhopes? Reason is, that we women do a lot for men already. However, you are here sugesting us a few more ways-wich I thank You. I do believe that it be NICE that men also go out of their ways to make US (Women) welcome, respected and love. Hope, pray and wish that you may agree about THIS concept as well Mr. Shaffer.
Great idea!! It's on my list!
My husband and I share the chores even though I'm home all day and he works outside the home and we appreciate each other for it!!!
Your comment is pure gold! Thanks for making my day. 💛
THEY both ate dinner but HE did the dishes FOR HER the next day lol ; yeah okay.
I cooked dinner (I almost always do) and did the dishes that time, she usually does the laundry...we do a lot of chores for each other because we live together and are in a healthy partnership! the important part is showing conscious gratitude to each other for what we do to contribute to the home, and we are both good about that :)
Glad you noticed that too
He did the dishes FOR her? ? ?
Would love to see a transcript of the questions that were posed on the road trip to your parent’s house after just meeting your girl! This was at the end of the video & I think you called it Fears, Desires & Agreements. Thanks! @Mat_Shaffer
Aw so welcome! You can google the process it’s on the internet 🙌🙌