Please watch: "This bear is having the time of his life jumping with this boy" • This bear is having th... -~- This father is helping his daughter deal with her anger
This man didn’t just help his daughter, he’s helped me. After 25 years of struggling with anger, his words made a difference in my brain. Now everytime I’m angry, I hear his words. I needed a father figure like that.
My dad is foreign so I never had a dad like this or anything tbh I don’t even think I have a dad I just had a sperm donor that ruined my life this entire time while he had a secret family that he would visit but this dude is actually something I finally found that I needed for once 👌
At this point, all I can say is to follow his advice, and don't hold on to it for too long, cause otherwise, you will start to crack like me. It hurts, anger hurts, and I have never learned to let go of the anger, the fear, and the sorrow. More appears, but the old never left, and it just builds up within until you shatter.
My dad talks to me like that when I’m under a lot of stress and accidentally shout at him I usually start crying afterwards and he lets me just have some space I once asked him “why do you give me such a good childhood??” And he said “because I didn’t have one” HES LITERALLY PERFECT
i feel like most of us were raised believing that anger is wrong. he’s not only validating those feelings and respecting her boundaries, but also teaching her the importance of not holding onto those emotions. she’s gonna have a good head on her shoulders as she grows up
I feel like most parents don't really grasp that their children are not objects, but actual real people with thoughts, feelings, and boundaries like them.
You can't let those feelings go if you still live with people who invalidate you and who do not respect your boundaries. Doing that gives them a chance to erode more of you. You don't really have a choice.
Probably, unlike a therapist, have experience with the issues he's giving advice on firsthand. He's talking like he wishes his parents talked like to him.
This is how every parent should be. especially if they were treated bad as a kid too, they should want to make sure they don’t make the same mistakes their parents did because it can be traumatic and he knows how it feels. More parents should be like this instead of being lazy and weak and just yelling at them and tell them to hush up and go to their room likes their parents did them.
@@khaliyahbreaja Ur very much right My mom is the way she is mostly because of her upbringing and maybe smth happened in the past but instead of wanting to be better towards her children, she is worse, it's like she wants revenge and the only person she give similar treatment to is her child I don't ever wanna be like my parents, I want to give my children what I wasn't given
Jesus Christ is the perfect Father to have. When my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord takes me up. He loves you more than you could ever imagine❤
I know it's out of context, and it was wholesome and all and I respect that. But man, one thing I can't get over is parents kissing their kids on the lips... in my opinion it's not right Idk
What a wonderful father. He got down to her eye level, calming spoke with her, acknowledged her feelings, acknowledged how he feels at times and let her know it's okay to have these feelings. He's teaching her how to set boundaries, advocate for herself, understand her emotions and how to cope with them. 👏👏👏👏💜
This father is helping me deal with my anger too. I wasn't expecting to react the way I did, but I burst into tears after I watched this. Thanks, internet dad, I needed that.
@blaine girma my advice, if you want it, is to remove your emotional attachment to him. You can only hate someone you love. I've had to do the same thing with my mother. It's a simple process but it takes a huge amount of effort. First step is to accept and love yourself. The rest will come naturally. As your respect for yourself grows and solidifies, you won't allow yourself to internalize any unnecessary negativity.
although, if having a relationship with your father is important to you, I suggest learning how to meditate and studying psychology. It's easier to love someone you understand.
I'm sure your dad talked to you like this when you were a kid, however, over the years he probably realized his words were falling on deaf ears, so he stopped doing it.
It definitely opens up the lines of communication. It is so healthy to be able to speak your mind and know that it will be respectly received and vice versa. Plus say sorry if you get things wrong.
That's a Father!! We never lied to our boys!! Sometimes we had to dial it down for their age & ability to understand. But they're in their 40s now & doing very well. Go Dad!! In twenty years, she's gonna Thank You!!
I have two students in my classroom who I have to do this with just about everyday and I see a change in them a little at a time. Kids need talks like this.
This nearly brought me to tears. I grew up around abusive men so I have not seen many examples of good men like this in my own life. This father is incredible and I am so happy that this girl will grow up in such a loving and nurturing home. God bless the both of them.
That's a good father. And that is how it should be. If more parents were like this with their kids, we would have more rounded and well adjusted people in the world. If you've got kids take note of this right now.
@@angelabdul3308 He obviously wasn't the one filming it. The other girl in the background is whispering to the person filming it, probably the mother. More than likely she uploaded it too as an example of how to be a parent. I know I'm reading a lot into it but really, not much more than you did.
@@angelabdul3308 1. It was an example of how to teach your kid how to deal with emotions 2. They never showed the girl's face 3. They never mentioned her nor the father's name 4. They didn't promote their insta/youtube/whatever 5. The father isn't the one recording 6. If you think this is to gain 'Internet points' then you clearly have a problem, as literally nobody cares about those other than people like you
Therapy is a sham anyway. Imagine the bills people would save if they learn to communicate with their children instead of paying some fast talking parasite who charges by the hour.
I just tried out the 20 second version of this on my friends 3 year old daughter. She threw my girlfriends iPhone on the floor laughing and the mom said hey apologize! The daughter said “no!” And the mother dragged her to her room for time out and she was crying and yelling violently. Then she ran out to the living room and was hyperventilating and crying hard. I asked my friend if I could try something, sat next to the child and said, “You’re angry, it’s okay. It’s okay to be angry. But the anger will pass. You’ll feel better. And once you feel better, it would be nice to apologize to (my girlfriend) about the phone. Because what happened made her sad. We’re not mad at all. Everything is fine. When you’re ready, you can come to us.” Less than 20 seconds later, she’s laughing, smiling, comes over and apologizes. The mother was amazed. This man knows what he’s doing.
My parents would have told me to stop acting like a crybaby and a "little girl"" and get over myself, because "others have it worse" and i should be "grateful". Anger, stress, sadness and frustrations are normal emotions to have, it's completely normal to feel anger about stuff. One day i'll be this parent.
looking pretty basic right? but it is an advanced advice for a little girl, I wish my parents did it this way, and maybe force some Calculus and Basic Physics problems in my head.
It would be so much better dude. I really wish my dad was like that. He works in the Army so I guess he is used to being rude? Idk. But he usually mentally brings me down when I’m mad at him. Recently, I was mad about how I saw being treat in my house hold and he told me, “Your brain must be wired to not think correctly. You need to use logic and not whatever your doing” He also basically told me I had a disorder. Man, I wanna leave my house so bad.
Wow. What a great dad! I cried inside watching this, though. I never got that. I got yelled at, insulted, screamed at, and grounded/spanked so much despite being a well behaved, straight A/B student that I felt like i wasn't allowed to have or show negative emotions of any kind. I'm so glad these little girls will get to grow up with such an empathetic father. He even genuinely apologized. Its important to teach your kids that its okay to feel bad and help them learn how to work through it.
I swear, a lot of people need this. There's so many people out there who have never heard a single "I'm sorry" from their parent/guardian and that 'simple' thing can affect them a lot, later in their lives.
I’m so proud and so happy to say that I have a stepdad like this. It fills me with so much anger to see how some children are being treated by their parents.. this is the right way and I remember how my dad treated us. No one deserves to be treated like shit. So if you’re not going to treat your child like that, please don’t have children at all
Respect for each other is so important,, helping a child understand better is showing them respect as an individual...❤️..Blessings to you and your family...
For real, I never heard my parents say they're sorry. Never. This one time, and that was sarcastic, out of spite and said to make me feel bad. Parents can be wrong too.
Notice that He NEVER used the word ". "sorry". He is VERY SPIRITUALLY mature, thus, KNOWING that THAT WORD has a VERY LOW VIBRATION. He ACKNOWLEDGED Her feelings with SOOOOOOOO MUCH CLARITY and HEARTFELT SINCERITY. He took RESPONSIBILITY for his actions and stated what HEwould do differently moving forward. What s BEAUTIFUL example. ETERNAL GRATITUDE to this LOVING family🙏💚😇🎶🎵🌈👏👏👏👍🏿👍💯‼
*This father:* I respect you and your emotions and I'm sorry I said something that upset you *My mom:* it's YOUR fault I tackled you and took your phone away and left you crying in pain on the floor. You DESERVED it.
That’s the best “stop, recognize and correct” that everyone needs from time to time. This man delivered validation, understanding and followed through by giving options as well as being there along the motion or emotions. Well done 👍
This man is a real father. He got down to her level, remained calm and taught her an important life lesson about dealing with her emotions. This is how every father should be
I wish my old man was like this. I once got beaten up when I was one because I wouldn't be quiet in church. After I got beaten up, I noticed thick red liquid oozing from my sweater. Faint memory tho. So yeah, I hope ya'll got better lives than me.
This is excellent parenting. No yelling. No hitting. No curse words. No blame game. No violence. Just TWO minutes of gentle conversation. That's all it took. TWO MINUTES.
@Maja she'll likely treat her partner well because she's been treated this way as a child. We learn how to treat others by following how our parents treated us as children.
We've all been there one way or another with our parents. No one's perfect, especially not parents or kids. It's important to have a trusting relationship with our kids that go both ways. They're humans too.
So true. Many people have experienced similar things but they have to been there. They have never felt it, carried it with them, learnt to let it go. He has and I am trying.
With my kids I said what I wanted to hear from my parents. Worked out so well. My son never raises his voice. I'm so proud. He is 44 with 3 kids and a thriving business.
Wow, he gets down so he can look his daughter straighten in the eye, speaks softly, acknowledges he is not perfect, apologizes and asks her if she is okay. Now that, is a real good man..
Having toxic parents doesn't necessarily make you toxic it just makes you even more loving. I guess he's been through it and he knows how to treat children the right way. Amazing dad, amazing example.
Ehhhhh it depends. I used to catch myself picking up my dads toxic "communication skills" a few years ago. I'm a very kind and compassionate person but anyone can pick up bad habits from a toxic household. I of course can control myself much easier now that I'm older but being raised in a toxic home can really turn some people into fuckheads
I am a firm believer that you have to sit there and talk to your children in detail about the situation. Growing up I was always told "because I said so" or "that's how it is" those were the two most common sayings in my household and they never explained anything. I have so much respect for parents who take the time to sit down and explain things.
That could possibly lead to anger issues so if you're angry at someone just LET IT OUT. Its healthy to have agruments sometimes and will maybe even create a greater bond with the other person afterwards. Of course you shouldn't go too far as to 'death wish' or bully someone. Having an honest opinion is not the same as verbal bullying. Know your boundaries.
@Robert Jordan I do get that, it's different for everyone. You obviously shouldn't do it if you're underage, it would just get you told off or hurt. But more so, with your friends it should work. Find what's best for you.
This is what I’m talking about. Adults needing to respect kids too. Like that’s good parenting. Instead of pushing it to the side and disregarding they’re feelings you acknowledge it and apologize and still teach them.
Thankfully my mom has raised me in a way that she respects me and always apologizes if she is wrong on her side. I never really had anger issues but thanks to her I am a very calm person and have improved as a human being
He’s basically the opposite of my dad. My dad used to tell me “Don’t cry or I’ll hit you more” “Don’t get mad” and that’s why I suck expressing myself and I just end up letting all those negative emotions built up over time until its just too much to keep it in that I’ll just explode
Luthfil Hadi Yasin i thought I was the only one. Every time I try to leave to not make it worse, they act like me leaving is worse then opening my mouth
Bro if you have asian parents and even do anything out of negative emotions they will try beating it out of you. Sometimes if you don’t feel like talking to anyone they will automatically jump to the conclusion that you are being arrogant and grumpy leading to them telling you off for feeling that way. You will be lectured for feeling anger, however for doing something such as slamming a door, face planting into your bed or any little thing they will hunt you down with a slipper and end you.
That's what happens when your spirit encounter real truth..you just know that you know it is right. That's how I felt when I learned about Jesus Christ and his teachings. What this father is communicating to his daughter comes from divinity.
This is a new breed of parenting. Now that more or less western life is less about survival and more about social progression and maturity, parents like this are popping out more than ever.
@Crystal Blue, I had a wonderful friend named Jackie. She used to live in New Jersey, then she, her husband, her daughter with him, and her son from her first marriage moved to rural Pennsylvania. While she lived in New Jersey, I saw her interact with her children both in public and at home. She was patient, kind, and firm; she would say a lot of things, but she never called her kids named, never made them feel like they were wrong or bad, she just let them know which things were acceptable in public places, and which were not.
He was just making up to her because he called her names. That hurted her sentiment. The father should not call her by funny names especially to a child in the first place.
@@SarahMc585 for years, a long-time client would think it strange that I would always advise her to have no contact with her family. But I would listen to her tell me about how her brother would call her a slut and a whore, in spite of the fact that, at the time, she was the ONLY person in the household bringing in money.How her uncle, who is, or was, at the time, financially comfortable, and still ask my client to do things for him, financially speaking. Enough said.
@Terry Micmac Don’t underestimate children. Even if they don’t understand certain words they understand the tone and overall thing you’re trying to convey. Parents who disregard children and their feelings and thinking they’re too dumb to understand is the reason why children don’t open up or feel their thoughts are valid. Children aren’t mindless. They don’t know a lot at first but they are constantly learning and picking up information. Parents should keep that in mind when talking to their kids.
@Terry Micmac Lmao, you're here calling someone out for swearing, and you call them a marshbellow, like what the fuck are you? 12? Then you write that stupid ass paragraph and the amount of shit that's wrong there just pushes the notion that you are 12 further and further. My guy, you need to grow the fuck up. You completely misheard what he was saying and his intentions behind every word.
This video always makes me tear up. Wish I'd had this instead of emotionally detached, abusive parents that scoffed at honest attempts at opening up to them about my depression and suicidality even though I hated them so much.
I understand the father's motives and it's okay to talk to kids like that every now and again but some point and time he's going to have to get a little more more firm yes it's a good way to teach a little kid but what about someone who's not as easy as that little girl someone with a slightly more anger problem who requires more than just a little talking to another reason I say I understand his intentions but the real world there are going to be people who don't respect your opinion I think there's a balance I think you should love your children teach them right not be abusive knowing it's okay to just talk about it and when you got to put your foot down and say something this obviously was one of those situations where I agree he did the right thing in this situation but I don't think it would be true for every situation
@@higurashianduminekoconnect1702 this is why you start the understanding when they are young. So they know its okay to be angry but not okay to behave certain ways
@@Secarious We're taught throughout childhood and school that being transparent with the wrong people will just get you relentlessly attacked and that makes people wary to open up for the rest of their lives.
That father probably gone through something horrific in the past and he did not want his daughter to do the same. Most parents dont know and wont do this to their child. Instead just yells at them. That girl is lucky to have a loving and caring father for her
"I respect you and I respect your feelings." Just imagine how many kids' lives and their perspective about life you could save if you just say this to them and live up to it.
God i wish someone would respect me as a kid. I was always called disrespectful for standing my ground. My parent never listen to my opinion. Sometimes i just wished i was born in a non traditional country. I’ve just realised how many kids are manipulated to think that their parents are always right and to treat them with the upmost respect. And if you’re not respecting them you aren’t worth taking cared of by your parents.
i wish my parents spoke to me like that. my stepfather especially always reminds me that i know nothing and that my opinion is not wanted, needed, or even valid. he acts like i have no value and then when i get upset for him saying these things, i’m being rude and disrespectful.
This man didn’t just help his daughter, he’s helped me. After 25 years of struggling with anger, his words made a difference in my brain. Now everytime I’m angry, I hear his words. I needed a father figure like that.
yes please where can I order!
ps. also happy to hear that this has impact to your life and it helped you in your stuggles!
❤️❤️❤️
Same
My dad is foreign so I never had a dad like this or anything tbh I don’t even think I have a dad I just had a sperm donor that ruined my life this entire time while he had a secret family that he would visit but this dude is actually something I finally found that I needed for once 👌
Dads in the kids lives and households are important! Proof right here.
"You can be mad at yourself, just don't hang on to it for too long"
Wish someone could've told me that.
You can let it go.
It’s never too late to hear it friend
You can be mad at yourself just don’t hang on to it for too long. There you have it. I hope it helps:) Have a great day!
At this point, all I can say is to follow his advice, and don't hold on to it for too long, cause otherwise, you will start to crack like me. It hurts, anger hurts, and I have never learned to let go of the anger, the fear, and the sorrow. More appears, but the old never left, and it just builds up within until you shatter.
Samee
My dad talks to me like that when I’m under a lot of stress and accidentally shout at him
I usually start crying afterwards and he lets me just have some space
I once asked him “why do you give me such a good childhood??” And he said “because I didn’t have one”
HES LITERALLY PERFECT
@@Jennifahh I can’t control my stress and anxiety
Bitch
My dad went to get the milk
I haven’t seen him in 6 years
That's A Good Father
@@ilikeducks4567 Maybe there is no more milk in the store and he is waiting for it?
@@nathanlenoir6410 lmao I hope 😭😭😂😂
i feel like most of us were raised believing that anger is wrong. he’s not only validating those feelings and respecting her boundaries, but also teaching her the importance of not holding onto those emotions. she’s gonna have a good head on her shoulders as she grows up
I feel like most parents don't really grasp that their children are not objects, but actual real people with thoughts, feelings, and boundaries like them.
You can't let those feelings go if you still live with people who invalidate you and who do not respect your boundaries.
Doing that gives them a chance to erode more of you.
You don't really have a choice.
This bloke has better anger management advice than my therapist.
Haha same 😂
Same 😭
Probably, unlike a therapist, have experience with the issues he's giving advice on firsthand. He's talking like he wishes his parents talked like to him.
Lmao
Haha
It probably something that daddy wants to hear from his parents. His eyes looks teary. For some reason, i see it like he is talking to himself too.
❤️
Also, he hurt his daughter and didn't want that she feels bad
Exactly :(
This is how every parent should be. especially if they were treated bad as a kid too, they should want to make sure they don’t make the same mistakes their parents did because it can be traumatic and he knows how it feels. More parents should be like this instead of being lazy and weak and just yelling at them and tell them to hush up and go to their room likes their parents did them.
@@khaliyahbreaja Ur very much right
My mom is the way she is mostly because of her upbringing and maybe smth happened in the past but instead of wanting to be better towards her children, she is worse, it's like she wants revenge and the only person she give similar treatment to is her child
I don't ever wanna be like my parents, I want to give my children what I wasn't given
I'm jealous of that girl, I wish their was more dads like that.
The term is true gentleman. Lacking in society as there aren't many dads like this
Do not be jealous, be grateful for what God has given to you.
Jesus Christ is the perfect Father to have. When my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord takes me up. He loves you more than you could ever imagine❤
@@clairebearie87 There aren't many like this, because those that aren't like this also didn't have parents like this.
Why do I feel like he's talking to himself through the child
Because he went through things he doesn’t want his daughter to go through.
Because this is the way to communicate to children. This is what we all need and needed.
Parenting in a nutshell.
Because he clearly upset his child and now acting like a good parent. Funny how they didn't record the start of this interaction
@@tgb-vf4es absolutely agree with this
He's teaching his daughter the concept of personal boundaries at an early age. She'll grow up stronger and more self assured because of it.
I know it's out of context, and it was wholesome and all and I respect that.
But man, one thing I can't get over is parents kissing their kids on the lips... in my opinion it's not right Idk
@@st1lysh35 welp, get ready for some arguments
If you know what i mean.
I do agree with you
@@st1lysh35 same
I wish every daughters out there were taught this, including me lol
@@st1lysh35 yea i personally find that weird too-- like, no thanks :u
I feel like this helped a lot more people than just his daughter
it did
sure did, i needed this today
Facts
Facts i needed to hear this
Absolutely
What a wonderful father. He got down to her eye level, calming spoke with her, acknowledged her feelings, acknowledged how he feels at times and let her know it's okay to have these feelings. He's teaching her how to set boundaries, advocate for herself, understand her emotions and how to cope with them. 👏👏👏👏💜
I love how this parent is having a serious conversation with his daughter, and the other kid is “la la la la la 🎶”
A parent saying a sincere "Im sorry" to his kid. Mindblown
i don’t think my parent’s know this word exists 😂(😭)
@@ellaho4663 💀🤣 same
Parents admitting to their faults? A miracle
My moms apology was "I'm sorry you feel that way."
🤯
Im 26. I needed that today. He's raising his kids right. Hell, he raised me a lil bit in these 2 minutes
I hear ya ❤
You had 666 likes n i made it 667. You dont need to worry now. Its been taken care of!😂😎
period...ima just let my anger be
Me too. Thanks for making me feel less alone.😊
i’m 22 and this taught me so much
**Dad educating his daughter**
Kid in the background: DO I SMELL LIKE LADY
No gravy not lady
i thought the kid said "do i smell like sadie?"
@@zee9233 lmao everyone is hearing completely different words, she left us confused
@@AlfififianI heard the same thing!
This father is helping me deal with my anger too. I wasn't expecting to react the way I did, but I burst into tears after I watched this. Thanks, internet dad, I needed that.
“That’s your boundary and I respect it”. I’m 24 and I still don’t hear this from my parents...
My parents are the only ones allowed to have boundaries. I'm 25 and they still don't get why I don't open up to them. Because I can't.
@blaine girma my advice, if you want it, is to remove your emotional attachment to him. You can only hate someone you love.
I've had to do the same thing with my mother.
It's a simple process but it takes a huge amount of effort. First step is to accept and love yourself. The rest will come naturally. As your respect for yourself grows and solidifies, you won't allow yourself to internalize any unnecessary negativity.
although, if having a relationship with your father is important to you, I suggest learning how to meditate and studying psychology. It's easier to love someone you understand.
blaine girma Imagine having a proper dad. Wtf. Is this kid going to conquer the world?
I'm sure your dad talked to you like this when you were a kid, however, over the years he probably realized his words were falling on deaf ears, so he stopped doing it.
"if I don't know better, I can't do better."
This line is so important in every relationship, words to remember.
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Absolutely!
It definitely opens up the lines of communication.
It is so healthy to be able to speak your mind and know that it will be respectly received and vice versa. Plus say sorry if you get things wrong.
So original
I love that
That's a Father!! We never lied to our boys!! Sometimes we had to dial it down for their age & ability to understand.
But they're in their 40s now & doing very well. Go Dad!!
In twenty years, she's gonna Thank You!!
I have two students in my classroom who I have to do this with just about everyday and I see a change in them a little at a time. Kids need talks like this.
Best part of his speech is, "You're still loved.." kids need that
.. noticed that too.. stilled loved and safe.. xo.
@athenstar10, not just kids.
I cried at that..
@@nl4075 You and me, both.
And we were not the only ones.
Yes and your still safe!
Some of the most beautiful words a parent can ever tell their children: "I'm sorry".
So true😭😭😭
For me, I want "You are safe"
I hardly hear that from my parents 😭
It’s “We love you”
Cause they gonna have to hurt our feeling or make mistake to say sorry to us, in the first place.
mine would never do that
This nearly brought me to tears. I grew up around abusive men so I have not seen many examples of good men like this in my own life. This father is incredible and I am so happy that this girl will grow up in such a loving and nurturing home. God bless the both of them.
That's a good father. And that is how it should be. If more parents were like this with their kids, we would have more rounded and well adjusted people in the world. If you've got kids take note of this right now.
The way he talks to her, the way he looks at her, this little girl is lucky to have a father like him. Good for her.
Yeah I'd love a father who filmed this kind of stuff to post on social media for internet points, father of the year
@@angelabdul3308 jelly
@@angelabdul3308 He obviously wasn't the one filming it. The other girl in the background is whispering to the person filming it, probably the mother. More than likely she uploaded it too as an example of how to be a parent. I know I'm reading a lot into it but really, not much more than you did.
@@angelabdul3308 1. It was an example of how to teach your kid how to deal with emotions
2. They never showed the girl's face
3. They never mentioned her nor the father's name
4. They didn't promote their insta/youtube/whatever
5. The father isn't the one recording
6. If you think this is to gain 'Internet points' then you clearly have a problem, as literally nobody cares about those other than people like you
Is your profile picture Rick Grimes?
Imagine the amount of money that would have been saved in therapy bills if every child heard words like these from their parents.
The therapy business wouldn't even exist!
Talking about how convos can resolve problems... if yal are Into debates and productive discourses, check @daily_discourse !
Therapy is a sham anyway. Imagine the bills people would save if they learn to communicate with their children instead of paying some fast talking parasite who charges by the hour.
@@Fluffy._.Doggo.123 more like they would help the kids deal with the problems before they snowball into an avalanche
@Nomadic Crier huh? Why? Its the same with mothers
"i respect your boundaries"
If only more parents understood this...
Amazing what happens when you talk to kids with respect. We love this.
Future parents: *”WRITE THAT DOWN WRITE THAT DOWN”*
and future mums too hihi
@Ghosthorns cuz this guy is a dad
@@flyingmind3890 future*
@@Wincognit0what is a r/woosh
@@Wincognit0 thanks for corrected me,I'll correct it
I just tried out the 20 second version of this on my friends 3 year old daughter. She threw my girlfriends iPhone on the floor laughing and the mom said hey apologize! The daughter said “no!” And the mother dragged her to her room for time out and she was crying and yelling violently. Then she ran out to the living room and was hyperventilating and crying hard. I asked my friend if I could try something, sat next to the child and said,
“You’re angry, it’s okay. It’s okay to be angry. But the anger will pass. You’ll feel better. And once you feel better, it would be nice to apologize to (my girlfriend) about the phone. Because what happened made her sad. We’re not mad at all. Everything is fine. When you’re ready, you can come to us.”
Less than 20 seconds later, she’s laughing, smiling, comes over and apologizes.
The mother was amazed. This man knows what he’s doing.
That’s awesome so good to know thanks for sharing
A lot of parents are just parents by name not by deeds
mairlyn sasaguay amen!!
That's great :) thank you for sharing!
No one is bothered to read that
My parents would have told me to stop acting like a crybaby and a "little girl"" and get over myself, because "others have it worse" and i should be "grateful". Anger, stress, sadness and frustrations are normal emotions to have, it's completely normal to feel anger about stuff. One day i'll be this parent.
I feel like she's gonna hear this in her head even at an older age like a Jedi mantra, then go on with her day
When he said “just don’t hang on to it for to long cause that’s when it becomes a big problem.” That got me.
This is so so true
I know, I'm sitting over here all teary eyed.
Same. That was golden.
We adults need to hear this more often
looking pretty basic right? but it is an advanced advice for a little girl, I wish my parents did it this way, and maybe force some Calculus and Basic Physics problems in my head.
Looking your kids in the eyes like this and having a serious yet loving conversation is 10x more effective than grounding, yelling, and spanking
But what about..
dO i SmElL lIke bAbY
Not for me lol
@@jacobmaz8157 same
It would be so much better dude. I really wish my dad was like that. He works in the Army so I guess he is used to being rude? Idk. But he usually mentally brings me down when I’m mad at him. Recently, I was mad about how I saw being treat in my house hold and he told me, “Your brain must be wired to not think correctly. You need to use logic and not whatever your doing”
He also basically told me I had a disorder. Man, I wanna leave my house so bad.
At least for spanking it only works at a very young age. Eventually you have to respect your kid as the person that they are
“Let me know your boundaries and I will respect them always.” THAT is the parent people should strive to be always
Wow. What a great dad! I cried inside watching this, though. I never got that. I got yelled at, insulted, screamed at, and grounded/spanked so much despite being a well behaved, straight A/B student that I felt like i wasn't allowed to have or show negative emotions of any kind. I'm so glad these little girls will get to grow up with such an empathetic father. He even genuinely apologized. Its important to teach your kids that its okay to feel bad and help them learn how to work through it.
Hearing that “I’m sorry” when you’re a kid goes a longgggg way. You never forget it, even as an adult
YOUR SO RIGHT!
I agree with you
Agreed. Never got a "I'm sorry" from an adult.
I swear, a lot of people need this. There's so many people out there who have never heard a single "I'm sorry" from their parent/guardian and that 'simple' thing can affect them a lot, later in their lives.
Lucky you
*Dad encouraging his daughter*
kid in the back: “dO I sMelL lIke bAbY?!”
Lol I even thought the girl he was talking to was saying that 😂!
LMAO at this comment 😂 I didn’t even notice but that’s hilarious
I thought she said "dO I sMell liKe dAddy"
I heard do I smell like daisy
LMAO 😂😂😂
I’m so proud and so happy to say that I have a stepdad like this. It fills me with so much anger to see how some children are being treated by their parents.. this is the right way and I remember how my dad treated us. No one deserves to be treated like shit. So if you’re not going to treat your child like that, please don’t have children at all
Respect for each other is so important,, helping a child understand better is showing them respect as an individual...❤️..Blessings to you and your family...
I wish all parents treated children’s feelings like this. Some people really need to know the value of the word “I’m Sorry” 😞
Yeah... Out of all my memories, and I’m not saying that my dad is a bad parent because he’s not, I can only recall my dad saying sorry to me once.
For real, I never heard my parents say they're sorry. Never. This one time, and that was sarcastic, out of spite and said to make me feel bad. Parents can be wrong too.
Many times a parent needs to say those 2 words to their children.
Notice that He NEVER used the word ". "sorry". He is VERY SPIRITUALLY mature, thus, KNOWING that THAT WORD has a VERY LOW VIBRATION. He ACKNOWLEDGED Her feelings with SOOOOOOOO MUCH CLARITY and HEARTFELT SINCERITY. He took RESPONSIBILITY for his actions and stated what HEwould do differently moving forward. What s BEAUTIFUL example. ETERNAL GRATITUDE to this LOVING family🙏💚😇🎶🎵🌈👏👏👏👍🏿👍💯‼
this is 100% scripted. who the hell records yelling at ur kid. Done for views. PATHETIC
"Dad educating his daughter"
Situation: serious
Sibling: la lalala lalaaaa...
Uhh, typical sibling behaviour...
@BPF_ Savage ; )
unlike you-
OH WRONG PERSON SORRY!
Do I smell like Sadie?!
*This father:* I respect you and your emotions and I'm sorry I said something that upset you
*My mom:* it's YOUR fault I tackled you and took your phone away and left you crying in pain on the floor. You DESERVED it.
That’s the best “stop, recognize and correct” that everyone needs from time to time. This man delivered validation, understanding and followed through by giving options as well as being there along the motion or emotions. Well done 👍
There's so many broken children living in adult bodies that need this.
Wow!....this is the one.
I'm in tears as an adult injured from childhood and I applaud him as a childcare worker 😍🥰🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Istg I nearly cried when the dad was speaking. I wish my parents were as considerate as him.
Absolutely. This is a profoundly truthful statement.
Me 😢😢😢
This man is a real father. He got down to her level, remained calm and taught her an important life lesson about dealing with her emotions. This is how every father should be
Every parent. Not just Dads
@@Just_a_girl_in_the_world Obviously
I wish my old man was like this. I once got beaten up when I was one because I wouldn't be quiet in church. After I got beaten up, I noticed thick red liquid oozing from my sweater. Faint memory tho. So yeah, I hope ya'll got better lives than me.
@@luciusmalfoy7778 that's abuse and you don't have to tolerate it
This is how people should be
This is excellent parenting. No yelling. No hitting. No curse words. No blame game. No violence. Just TWO minutes of gentle conversation. That's all it took. TWO MINUTES.
This is good. Speaking to your kids like little adults to grow up respectful and educated. 5 stars to the dad. Awesome!!
When this girl grows up she will choose healthy relationships because she will know how she is supposed to be treated.
I sure hope so because sometimes you can have the best parents yet the problem is in you.
@@SherXP some wise words
@@SherXP chances are it's the parents so she's probably fine.
So true...
@Maja she'll likely treat her partner well because she's been treated this way as a child. We learn how to treat others by following how our parents treated us as children.
He's been there. He won't let his daughter take the same trip. Kudos, dad.
We've all been there one way or another with our parents. No one's perfect, especially not parents or kids. It's important to have a trusting relationship with our kids that go both ways. They're humans too.
If I'm ever in the position of parent I want more than anything to nail this lesson. This man's a solid dad.
So true. Many people have experienced similar things but they have to been there. They have never felt it, carried it with them, learnt to let it go. He has and I am trying.
What's Kudos
@@Undesignedd A Greek starter with cheese and olives. I personally love it. :-)
With my kids I said what I wanted to hear from my parents. Worked out so well. My son never raises his voice. I'm so proud. He is 44 with 3 kids and a thriving business.
This actually made me cry. Every kid needs a parents like this and deserves a parent like this
truth
Wow, he gets down so he can look his daughter straighten in the eye, speaks softly, acknowledges he is not perfect, apologizes and asks her if she is okay. Now that, is a real good man..
*Jason David Frank is such a good father.* 😭😭😭
Yes indeed, yes indeed!!
I want a dad like that can he adopt me please 😃
This is the healthiest way to raise children. If most people were like that we'd have a much better humanity
100% agree with that.
INDEED!
Facts
So true. 😊❤
TRUTH!
This is what you call a father!!!! Someone who can actually get on his daughter’s level!
Having toxic parents doesn't necessarily make you toxic it just makes you even more loving. I guess he's been through it and he knows how to treat children the right way. Amazing dad, amazing example.
Ehhhhh it depends. I used to catch myself picking up my dads toxic "communication skills" a few years ago. I'm a very kind and compassionate person but anyone can pick up bad habits from a toxic household.
I of course can control myself much easier now that I'm older but being raised in a toxic home can really turn some people into fuckheads
Same reason why I want to raise my future children in a good way.
True. Here´s a guy who clearly has learned things the hard way. You can see and hear it.
This is a lesson you can teach to anyone at any age. Teaching her this at a very young age is such good parenting.
imagine if every parent just acted with rationality instead of denigrating their childs feelings
I am a firm believer that you have to sit there and talk to your children in detail about the situation. Growing up I was always told "because I said so" or "that's how it is" those were the two most common sayings in my household and they never explained anything. I have so much respect for parents who take the time to sit down and explain things.
Yes
I saved your 666 likes ;)
@@Solbashio it won't happene trust me
My dad gave me similar advice, not word for word but close enough: "You have every right to be angry, but don't take it out on others."
Lol my dad did something similar, but said: *belt*
That could possibly lead to anger issues so if you're angry at someone just LET IT OUT. Its healthy to have agruments sometimes and will maybe even create a greater bond with the other person afterwards. Of course you shouldn't go too far as to 'death wish' or bully someone. Having an honest opinion is not the same as verbal bullying. Know your boundaries.
I remember when my uncle told me a speech it changed my life
Well aren’t you a lucky snowflake, I just got a tornado kick to the face.
@Robert Jordan I do get that, it's different for everyone. You obviously shouldn't do it if you're underage, it would just get you told off or hurt. But more so, with your friends it should work. Find what's best for you.
I like this dad! He treats his kids like equals and talks to them in a way they understand!
So much respect!! That is a solid dad right there. Someone who I hope I can be like when I have kids.
A lot of us are just broke children trapped in aging bodies, waiting for the healing that never came years ago.
The truth. Sadly.
Deep.
Agreed
What can I do for that
Shiiiiit
This is what I’m talking about. Adults needing to respect kids too. Like that’s good parenting. Instead of pushing it to the side and disregarding they’re feelings you acknowledge it and apologize and still teach them.
I agree that how they learn to respect. Just because they are kids does mean they shouldn't get respect too
Thankfully my mom has raised me in a way that she respects me and always apologizes if she is wrong on her side. I never really had anger issues but thanks to her I am a very calm person and have improved as a human being
@@ayesharehman2945
Go Mom 🌈🌈🌈
@@loki6253 Thank you
Exactly "I am sorry"can change a whole lot
This speech is so important, let go the hate..the anger...the...the...COULD SOMEONE SHUT THE KID'S MOUTH IN THE BACK!!!
What a wonderful and emotionally available father. How refreshing!
A very wise man there. The world needs more dad's like that.
Stop saying that instead say I'm gonna be like that!
Yeah, the world doesn't be someone, you become the one for the world.
He’s basically the opposite of my dad. My dad used to tell me “Don’t cry or I’ll hit you more” “Don’t get mad” and that’s why I suck expressing myself and I just end up letting all those negative emotions built up over time until its just too much to keep it in that I’ll just explode
The world is filled with men like this...Our culture and media keep telling us we’re toxic though...
@@bob5074 Yes there are, but we still need more..
This is so much better than just being told “stop overreacting” or “go to your room”
Luthfil Hadi Yasin i thought I was the only one. Every time I try to leave to not make it worse, they act like me leaving is worse then opening my mouth
Bro if you have asian parents and even do anything out of negative emotions they will try beating it out of you. Sometimes if you don’t feel like talking to anyone they will automatically jump to the conclusion that you are being arrogant and grumpy leading to them telling you off for feeling that way. You will be lectured for feeling anger, however for doing something such as slamming a door, face planting into your bed or any little thing they will hunt you down with a slipper and end you.
No shit Sherlock
The Special Ki FAX IM DEAD LMAO
@@integrity1004 bro hahaha 🤣
This is why kids need a solid father figure in their life. Teaching them logically how to deal with emotions.
*solid mother figure too. Sadly, a lot of moms are as distant to their child’s psyche and controlling just for the sake of it.
I can assure that not only the little girl but also many adults who watched this clip has learnt a life lesson
That's what happens when your spirit encounter real truth..you just know that you know it is right. That's how I felt when I learned about Jesus Christ and his teachings. What this father is communicating to his daughter comes from divinity.
This is a father who understands his child is a human being, not just someone to control and invalidate in their own image.
Shut up
@@misterbobby8913 It's true! Most people treat children like they aren't human beings. I sure hope you're not allowed around children.
@@milesfann33 you're ignorant
@@misterbobby8913
Are you ok
@@BritAltie no I Need a Hug : /
I'm kinda surprised there are parents like this that are still around. That's one parent that has my full respect 💯
I think there's parents who try to do this but the kid changes overtime either from social media, bad friends, or smth else
"still around", implying they even existed before. Lol.
@@Terapagos3000 yeah honestly. I feel like awareness of emotions if anything has gotten better in recent times.
This is a new breed of parenting. Now that more or less western life is less about survival and more about social progression and maturity, parents like this are popping out more than ever.
I mean most of parents nowdays beat a shit out of somebody I mean it's not bad when the kid is let's put it "bad" and u can't change it by talking
Meanwhile my mom with a slipper, "Try it again, try it..."
my dad was the same, he 'gave' me something to get angry about.
@Per Sunn 😵🤦🏻♀️
@Per Sunn
I hear ya 🤦🏻♀️
Jerry Springer
Yeah that's why this video shows actual, good parenting, compared to parents who think abusing their own kids is a form of parenting ,which it isn't.
@Per Sunn you think being abusive is a form of parenting? Yikes.
This is the dad I always wanted. Someone who respects and knows what to say
Damn, do parents like this really exist? That's one lucky kid.
@Crystal Blue, I had a wonderful friend named Jackie. She used to live in New Jersey, then she, her husband, her daughter with him, and her son from her first marriage moved to rural Pennsylvania.
While she lived in New Jersey, I saw her interact with her children both in public and at home. She was patient, kind, and firm; she would say a lot of things, but she never called her kids named, never made them feel like they were wrong or bad, she just let them know which things were acceptable in public places, and which were not.
My siblings make fun of me for talking to my kids like this lol
I teared up watching this father be so good to his child. I never experienced that or anyone explaining to me that it's okay to feel.
He was just making up to her because he called her names. That hurted her sentiment. The father should not call her by funny names especially to a child in the first place.
@@SarahMc585 for years, a long-time client would think it strange that I would always advise her to have no contact with her family.
But I would listen to her tell me about how her brother would call her a slut and a whore, in spite of the fact that, at the time, she was the ONLY person in the household bringing in money.How her uncle, who is, or was, at the time, financially comfortable, and still ask my client to do things for him, financially speaking.
Enough said.
Imagine how the world would be like if every child got a talk like this from his parent
@Terry Micmac god youre so fucking miserable
@Terry Micmac what are you so angry for man-
@Terry Micmac Don’t underestimate children. Even if they don’t understand certain words they understand the tone and overall thing you’re trying to convey. Parents who disregard children and their feelings and thinking they’re too dumb to understand is the reason why children don’t open up or feel their thoughts are valid. Children aren’t mindless. They don’t know a lot at first but they are constantly learning and picking up information. Parents should keep that in mind when talking to their kids.
@Terry Micmac Lmao, you're here calling someone out for swearing, and you call them a marshbellow, like what the fuck are you? 12? Then you write that stupid ass paragraph and the amount of shit that's wrong there just pushes the notion that you are 12 further and further. My guy, you need to grow the fuck up. You completely misheard what he was saying and his intentions behind every word.
@Terry Micmac You need a safe room.
"Turn the camera on, I'm about to make an inspiring speech to my daughter."
kid in the background: "So you have chosen, interruption"
Yea, it kind of felt like he was being dramatic to go viral.
@@650homesbyramy2 100%. The Kid doesn't know wtf he's talking about.
@@realMaverickBuckley haha yep
true, it even looks like he has wet eyes there for a minute..
Wish my mom was like this-such good parenting
this little person is gonna grow up to be so kind, and so well-spoken, and so emotionally stable.
This video always makes me tear up. Wish I'd had this instead of emotionally detached, abusive parents that scoffed at honest attempts at opening up to them about my depression and suicidality even though I hated them so much.
Based upon what, Montisorrie?
Shit wish my parent thought me to not keep my emotions bottled up. This is modern parenting 101
I understand the father's motives and it's okay to talk to kids like that every now and again but some point and time he's going to have to get a little more more firm yes it's a good way to teach a little kid but what about someone who's not as easy as that little girl someone with a slightly more anger problem who requires more than just a little talking to another reason I say I understand his intentions but the real world there are going to be people who don't respect your opinion I think there's a balance I think you should love your children teach them right not be abusive knowing it's okay to just talk about it and when you got to put your foot down and say something this obviously was one of those situations where I agree he did the right thing in this situation but I don't think it would be true for every situation
@@higurashianduminekoconnect1702 this is why you start the understanding when they are young. So they know its okay to be angry but not okay to behave certain ways
This dad is so amazing. He is very accepting.
Ray Mak oh my god you’re in every single video I see, I’m always finding your comments. I saw in a bunch of videos of some Japanese people lmaoo
I don’t get why CZcams keeps on showing me your comments, they just keep on randomly popping up 💀💀💀
IKR such a good father!
i like trucks.
bro are you commenting on every video you see or what?
My mom always taught me that it’s okay to be angry. But it’s never okay to be violent.
The 'I'm sorry' at the end was so very important! That tied it up nicely and put a bow on this. Well done, dad! 🎁
Bruh
* dad having a serious talk *
Other child- "dO i sMeLl LiKe sAdiE"
"nOOooOoOo" "dAdAdAdAdAaooOOoooO"
😂😂😂😂
@@Bigsauce7593 yeah, just imagine that it was the kid he was talking to was doing it😂😂😂
Xx 3my xX lol
Xx 3my xX ikr TwT
T Reezy bruh same whaaa 🙈😂😂
"If I dont know better, I wont do better" they are some of the wisest words I've heard in a while
czcams.com/video/W9B8NrjOWcI/video.html totally a rick roll... or is it...?
I only wish people acknowledged this more often. Cause people really seem to have a problem with being transparent.
"I can't''
@@Secarious We're taught throughout childhood and school that being transparent with the wrong people will just get you relentlessly attacked and that makes people wary to open up for the rest of their lives.
@@GL1TCH_DOCTOR its not a yt link, there's a "." between the word youtube
That father probably gone through something horrific in the past and he did not want his daughter to do the same. Most parents dont know and wont do this to their child. Instead just yells at them. That girl is lucky to have a loving and caring father for her
If only MORE parents were JUST LIKE him! WOW!
That’s a REAL DAD! A REAL MAN!!
This dad is literally holding his tears in his eyes not to see her daughter cry too
Oh I don't think so :) I think that is how honest eyes look like
Aww
Harry Gim me to :>
Yep
"I respect you and I respect your feelings." Just imagine how many kids' lives and their perspective about life you could save if you just say this to them and live up to it.
That's a privilege not everyone has.
And that's the kind of parenting that I want to have, so that my children can be like that to their children too.
God i wish someone would respect me as a kid. I was always called disrespectful for standing my ground. My parent never listen to my opinion. Sometimes i just wished i was born in a non traditional country. I’ve just realised how many kids are manipulated to think that their parents are always right and to treat them with the upmost respect. And if you’re not respecting them you aren’t worth taking cared of by your parents.
i wish my parents spoke to me like that. my stepfather especially always reminds me that i know nothing and that my opinion is not wanted, needed, or even valid. he acts like i have no value and then when i get upset for him saying these things, i’m being rude and disrespectful.
Not only kids
Hahahaha i know mine would have been different hahaha. Self deprecation is the best
This brought me to tears from the pure preciousness of it. This moment will change her life. Well done dad. Well done. 👏👏👏
One hell of an awesome dad for sure. This is the way parenting should be done.
I’m crying this is how parenting should be. Too many kids don’t get this.
I am crying because I wish I have this
Or get this and still do wrong because nowdays children are full of bad pride
@@carlogustavovalenzuelazepe5774 okay boomer
@@bernardschmitt6389 oh no my argument got invalidated xD
@@carlogustavovalenzuelazepe5774 it's a very boomer thing to say. People said the same thing about kids in past generations.
' I respect u and I respect your feelings'.
Every child loves hearing these words. Parents, take a note.
Ok but my parents think it’s weird for an older person to respect a younger person.
@@hi_this_is_a that’s kinda dumb. Just because parents are authority figures, they should ALWAYS respect their kids.
Parents, take a note ? Lmao if they would leave the whip and use pen and paper maybe give it a go
@Deplorable Texan huh what’s your point exactly?
@Deplorable Texan I hope that's sarcasm.
Good for you, Dad, correcting your daughter the right way, without yelling at her. She'll always remember this.
Thank You Father for being SO SO loveing and caring to your Baby Girl. BeBlessed
He just saved his daughter about $30K in future therapy sessions.
Wait they really cost that much !? Damn I’m glad my mom has the right insurance on me
@@emilyhorton1593 my therapist charges $125/ 45 minute session for patients without insurance. Luckily my insurance covers 100% :)
@@danielle3057 jesus christ fuck that
@@danielle3057 wow what insurance do you have?
@@emilyhorton1593 to me myself is the best therapist I have, whenever I have a problem I talk about it to myself and find solutions, it helps a lot.
This man is healing a generation in this one video. I hope he’s proud of being a stellar role model for his kids. 👏
That was perfect, I loved how he handled it. Great Dad.
WOW! He validated his daughters feelings while also teaching a lesson without talking down to her. I pray this goes viral.
Well it seems your prayer was answered. 1.6 mil views at the time of me watching. And seen through YT reccomended.
JJRULEZ159 bruh this comment was 1 day ago
@@cloakifies9179 and based off of OP's wording, im guessing this vid had lower views yesterday. If not, oh well, i look like an idiot.
My heart goes out to the people who weren't raised in a healthy way.
Thank you
Thank you
So basically everyone
Thank you.
Maya lmao
Loving father taking the time to show his love and concern for his sweet daughter.❤❤
Love the toddler in the background singing and humming. Good job, Dad.
I’m 27 and broke into tears. He’s a good person and a great father
He is a great father!
I aspire to be as good as a parent as him.
I’m 17 and I cried
I wish I could hug everyone on this post *hugs*
Sebastian Flick or one of those hurt people that have never seen this in their lives. You still get a hug tho