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My father lived with a girl in Florida in the 1950’s. They broke up and went their separate ways. Many years later, there was a phone call from a woman who was the daughter of the girlfriend. Her mother told her when she was about 20 that my father was her father. When my dad and her mother broke up she was apparently pregnant but never told my father. My dad met the “daughter” and she just wanted to meet him nothing else. Had no contact with her for over thirty years. My mom, dad, and sister had all passed away. So I was kind of alone. She reached out to me and I really wanted to meet her so I did. It was really nice having a sister again. I had done the DNA test with ancestry. So she decided to do the DNA test with ancestry too. Turns out we are no relation. 😢 Her mom got pregnant from some other guy.
I am so sorry that happened! Grrrrrr. So frustrating. This is the story of so many of our clients.
Noooo.... 😮
@@user-qt2sd4ws9m. Oh, I’m so sorry; that is awful for your mom and for you.
I’m sorry. That must have been heartbreaking.
@@dnangelsorg2544this is why there should be laws against paternity fraud along with mandatory DNA testing at birth!
DNA testing should be mandatory before the birth certificate is signed.
They will never do that. Families are the backbone of civilization. They know this would disrupt too many.
@@thec9424 So? I want to make sure my wife isn't making me rear someone else's kid.
This would force honesty to women, it would strengthen the family.
If DNA testing isn't done in the beginning, it's going to be done down the line.
It's better to be up front with
it than end up on paternity court TV where your dirty laundry is exposed to your child as well as millions of viewers.
@jdmarr2259 There is a reason dna tests at birth aren't a national or state law anywhere. No one gives a FlyingF about men, not even other men. No one cares if men pay for and raise kids that aren't theirs. Just as long as someone is paying.
Ancestry is a fantastic service that helps (some) people come to terms with their unknown past. Through Ancestry I discovered a half-sister on my mother's side in 2022. In 2023, I discovered 4 half-sisters and 3 half-brothers from my father's side.
My mother came to the US from Ireland in 1960. She was 6 months pregnant. She gave birth to me, and I was subsequently placed in an orphanage in Brooklyn, NY. I was taken in as a foster child and remained as such until I was 9 years old when I was legally adopted by my foster family. My mother visited me until I was about 6-7 and realized that she could not provide for me and therefore gave up legal rights to me. I had been searching for over 60 years for my mother and father. Unfortunately, both have passed away, so I did not have the opportunity to see them in person. However, I feel blessed that I have now met up with other members of my extended family.
No surprises in my DNA test. I did it because someone gave me the kit as a joke one Christmas. My test shows me to be about 90% German and 10% Northern European which makes sense because my biological fathers family has lived in the same village in Bavaria since about 700 A.D. and I still have many family members living there. My biological mothers family is also from Bavaria, but I am less clear on exactly which parts.
I will say that my adopted parents always told their adopted children that they were, adopted. There were seven adopted children and one biologically their own. All seven came from the same orphanage in Germany (1950's - 1960's), but all of us had different parents from different parts of the world. For my younger brother and I both parents are from Germany, however, one sister is of Czech lineage, one of Spanish, one English, etc., some had US Servicemen as fathers and others had German men as fathers. It is rather amusing to see a photo of our family back in the day with many different sizes, shapes, and ethnicities all raised in a single family.
Awesome
You gotta be careful with those sort of thing. I did mine thinking I would have no surprises. Found a sister from my dad's previous relationship, before he met my mom. And he was never told of her. He went from five kids (including my stepbrothers) and two grandkids to six kids and seven grandchildren overnight essentially.
This is literally one of my biggest fears, having a partner who has kids he doesn't know about. Men think their history doesn't matter but they are the only ones who can be parents without knowing about it (excluding some pretty crazy stories). No shade to your dad or family at all as idk the circumstances but it just baffles me that it's a situation so few ever consider.
Vice versa❤
Why would you want to be careful? You should be happy that you found out but that relative because we all know stories about people who accidentally slept with their family who they didn’t know was their family member.
The number of stories you hear like this is unreal. Personally, I think tracing ancestry should only be undertaken if absolutely necessary, not just as a bit of fun. I heard a true story, from the neighbour of a woman whose husband sued for divorce when she had a black baby. She went through hell, but won her case when DNA showed black ancestry in HIS family. THAT was a valid use of a DNA test. (He wept and begged her to take him back - she didn't.)
Good on her - he didn't know the meaning of love!
It is strange, that the man did not know, that his father or grandfather (or himself) was black. In all other cases, it is almost impossible that his kid become black.
You cannot know, in advance, if the information is necessary.
If you don't know that your mom cheated, then you might not know that you have a dad that was a carrier for a certain disease. You also might not know where the compatible donors for certain tissue matches might easily be found.
So the husband took an ancestry test to see if he had any black in him, but didn’t do a paternity test…which would’ve told him if he was the father or not? I’m confused. Are these people white and the baby came out black? How dark is the baby? How dark are the parents?
@@ajmatt574exactly the story makes no sense.
Just be aware what happens to your DNA data.
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It's important to be informed and cautious about where you share your DNA data, but it's also crucial to recognize the value that DNA testing can bring to people’s lives. Many individuals find answers, closure, and connections through DNA testing that they wouldn't have otherwise. While privacy concerns are valid, reputable companies have measures in place to protect your data.
Ultimately, the decision to use DNA testing is personal, and it’s about weighing the potential risks against the very real benefits. For many, the chance to uncover the truth about their heritage, health, or family connections far outweighs the concerns, especially when they take steps to choose a trusted provider and understand how their data will be used.
@@dnangelsorg2544I have read several news reports that western governments have made DNA labs sign disclosure agreements to let them see dna results or be shut down. It seems they have the need for that information as well.
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@@notmeee7302source?
There would be a whole lot less “surprises” if paternity tests were mandatory at birth.
Opt-out, at least.
Who do you suggest pays for all those tests? A lot of people just can't afford that.
@@christinef7739 I suggest the perpetrators of paternity fraud be made to pay.
@@christinef7739 Those who perpetrate paternity fraud should be made to pay.
@@christinef7739 I suggest that those who commit paternity fraud should pay.
WE WERE ON A BREAK!
As a father, if I were to find out a child of mine wasn't really mine, I'd be devistated. And you never hear of the effect on those men when the the child they helped raise goes off searching for their birth father. Personally all I can think about is how horrible the mother is because more than likely, she KNEW.
I never understand women like these, like not only do they cheat, but they're disgusting enough to let a rando spunk inside them.
It is absolutely diabolical that any woman would allow a lie of omission like this to go on. Even worse is the fact that very rarely will a man be able to be released from obligations if he wants out when finding out the truth. Obviously these women know there is a 50/50 chance in most cases that their affair partner is the father, but they don't want to blow up their relationship and be exposed, so they lie by being silent and let/make a man think he is the biological father for their own selfish benefit, putting themselves above the welfare of both that man and the child.
Quite simply, it is unspeakably evil.
The mother of my daughter INSISTED the baby was some El Salvador crime family idiot Canada deported. He was picked up at the airport by the military and never seen again. Then she linked up with ANOTHER guy and insisted HE was the father. After several years they split up, and his new beau insisted a DNA test (even though he wasn't contributing anything to her upbringing, but to cover his backside liability in Canada). He wasn't the father. I knew all the time I was the father: no DNA test necessary! She has the same hair as my sister, is incredible at math (her other side can't add!!),. AND she "talks a lot". She's my girl!!
Genes do not make a father. If I had a kid that I was raising, it wouldn’t matter to me if it were my genes or someone elses, that is still MY kid and I would help them find their birth father
I’d be pissed at my wife for cheating, but the kid didn’t cheat.
I and my 1/2 sisters show as "1st cousins" through Ancestry. (Same mom different dads; I'm from a 2nd marriage.)
I can ONLY imagine the drama for the 2nd sister! Hope she's finding the healing she needs.
Ancestry will label a half sibling as close family - first cousins. It’s the cM amount that matters.
Is your mom an identical twin? Triplet? An identical twin whom she & her sister(s) dated, mated or married brothers?
People have a right to know who their real father is from birth.
Your real father is the man that loved and supported you throughout your life, that is an earned title. I always refer to my stepdad as my father.
@@blauer2551 valid point, but sbl is also correct. We have a right to know our truth.
What about a situation where a child was conceived using a sperm donor? Many donors want to remain anonymous. Many recipients don't want a relationship (on any level at all) with the donor. Many couples using a donor would not want this known to anyone but themselves.
Well before these tests were available, a friend told me that when she was 16, her mother sat her down and told her that her dad wasn't her dad. She told her mom that she already knew because she's a dark-skinned Mexican, her mom's a light-skinned Mexican, and "dad" is a white American. :)
depends. some ethnic skin colouraton does NOT dilute % consistently (East Indian), and you get surprises.
Always, I repeat, ALWAYS tell your kids the truth and don't keep secrets... Children grow into adulthood and learn to think and work things out for themselves. Your adult kids will respect you more when truth is present in their lives , even if it hurts your own ego, always lead with truth... Don't expect your kids to be truthful and honest with you and not keep secrets, if you don't do it yourself... Practice honestly and live openly and that way you don't carry the very heavy weight of guilt throughout your days.... ❤
I completely agree! I was blindsided at 33 with truth of my actual birth father. Took me 7 years to have courage to meet him. 27 years later my mother is still angry with me for meeting my father. It’s been a rough journey
Best advice ever!
This! 100%!
Hurts your own ego!? How about it destroys your marriage and leaves you and the child homeless!?
Yes, so true. I have a friend who was raised as an only child. She began doing extensive genealogy research on her family. She discovered a lot of interesting family history on both paternal and maternal sides. Her husband bought her DNA test to discover more relatives. My friends parents were already deceasd during this time. She discovered from the results that her mother had a baby girl who she gave up for adoption. It happened about 3 years before her parents were married. My friend was able to connect and get together with this half sibling. All those years, her mother never told her the truth about this baby that she had to give up for adoption. Sometimes, people have such deep dark secrets that are too difficult to talk about.
I had a DNA surprise, and although it completely rocked my world, i would 100% do it all over again if given the choice to go back to a time when I didn't know. My only regret is not testing sooner. It was totally worth it. So many things I didn't understand before now make perfect sense. And now I have accurate information to pass down to my children and accurate information when I talk to my doctor. I feel blessed to live in a time when this is available.
I and my younger brother were adopted in California, notorious for protecting adoption records. He used a DNA service of some sort, found some biological cousins who explained his situation. I just know that I was born of a Norwegian appearing young girl of 14, impregnated by a married man some years her senior. My brother suggest I look into this, but I declined. My biological mother would almost certainly have passed by this time and I honor my adopted parents and my "true" parents. I asked my dad about this once, and he was devastated, only solidifying my commitment to not pursuing this. Genetics are less than societal/cultural. I miss my TRUE (non-biological) parents SO muchl
A paternity test should be required at birth! 304’s committing paternity fraud left and right!
What is a 304?
@@janeflip1 a polite way of saying whore
@@janeflip1 on older calculators.. you punched in 304, flipped it upside down and it speall H 0 E.... (cannot type it in here or YT will censor, jail you 24 hours.. libs are such wusses... )
@@janeflip1Promiscuous woman. If you type in 304 in a calculator and turn it upside down, it looks like hoe. I looked it up. We both learned something.😊
@@janeflip1, enter “304” on a calculator. Next, look at it upside down and see what it says. The term “304” is often used rather than that word because it often gets censored, but also because it’s a slang term used to nicely disguise a way to describe women that are promiscuous with many partners.
Was it the milkman. Was it the Wal-Mart greeter is the mystery that I was interested in.
I have never been greeted like that at WalMart.
@@MrTruckerfhysterical!!!!!!!
This is my brother Darrel, and my other brother Darrel……Newhart..
I've never understood this "I need to know where I come from to know who I am" thing. For me it's not important to know where I come from, what matters is where I am now and where I'm going.
And focusing on "my life is a lie" is foolish. Be thankful that you had a home, food, clothes, school, a father and a mother who looked out for you. There are millions of people who had none of that.
It's understandable that everyone has different perspectives on family and identity, but for many NPEs (Not Parent Expected), discovering that their biological parent isn't who they thought can be deeply unsettling. It's not just about "where I come from," but about the core of one's identity being shaken. Imagine building your entire sense of self on a foundation that suddenly shifts-it's natural for that to feel destabilizing.
The feelings of confusion and betrayal aren't about being ungrateful for what one has; they're about processing a life-changing revelation. Acknowledging the pain someone feels in such a situation doesn't diminish the gratitude they might have for the love and care they received-it just means that they're human, grappling with a significant emotional upheaval. Empathy can go a long way in understanding that this isn't just about the past, but about making sense of the present and future too.
Too good not to share. You should take this advice @anna1417
Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge... is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world.
@@anna1417 there’s an additional angle of concern though. Inherited diseases, and family risk factors. You can be totally happy with the people who raised you, not contending that, as I was adopted. However, the medical data is good to have and family history is just a huge thing that won’t necessarily be apparent from medical tests.
I certainly hope if someone close to you in life has a DNA surprise you react with more empathy than you have here. Suddenly knowing that things you always thought were true are no longer can be very difficult. Please do a little research before you speak to someone on this.
What explains my penchants for whiskeys, Blackwatch plaid and cheese? I find it fascinating where we come from. Unfortunately some people lie because they don’t want to be caught out.
All the more reason for DNA tests at birth should be mandatory
That sure would put an end to so much trauma later in life when this is discovered.
Cop World would just love that.
@@garyowen9044DNA could be destroyed after verification.
It would also mean many men (up to 20%) wouldn't so easily get ripped of $$$$$ by lieing women.
Men would love this since yall cant be trusted
I had a close match I didn't recognize when I did one of those tests, but it turned out to be my great aunt. My grandmother and her sister were not close, so the family lost touch. I was able to reconnect my dad with his cousin though, who he hadn't seen since childhood. That was cool.
My stepmum found her birth family through a DNA test. It worked out fantastically for her, at least.
I found out that I have a half sister who was adopted at 4 days old. She did a DNA test and found me through my cousin's DNA test. My mother was divorced from my father and apparently had an involvement with her neighbor. I didn't find this out until i was in my late 60's. This was kept a secret from my brother and I since since i was about 5 years old and my brother was 8 years old.
That happened to me. I found out the man who raised me was my uncle. My mother had an affair with her husband’s brother! All of them are gone now so I can’t ask them about it, but I think some had an idea I could be my “uncle’s” daughter, because of how I was treated by relatives (they were mean to me my whole life) I was the family’s dirty little secret and it was apparently my fault.
Your fault? That is the craziest thing I have heard today! To hell with those who felt superior.
I had to get genetically tested. Medically I agree with it and it is interesting to understand where your family came from. It was found I do carry a genetic disease that does not let my body get rid of iron. They told me I have Viking blood. 😂 At least that explains a lot and it did give me comfort.
Sorry about your health.
I have Viking Ancestors also I have Duper trends in my hands the pain and the deformation it's hard to deal with, it started to show up in my hands after I turned 50.
Hemochromitosis?
@@tracycameron2580 yes. Haha I have the c282y gene. It's a pain especially dealing with medical insurance! Alot of blood work.
The medical community use to think that about 15% of fathers were different than what was listed on the birth certificate. Remember, the doctors liked to have a good accurate family medical history. DNA has shown that this really is in the neighborhood of 10%.
According to these DNA sites it is closer to 6 percent.
I disagree. DNAngels is tracking this statistic. 10% is a guess by community members who don't have access to data. We have access and I can tell you that the number is 17-20% currently and that is only after compiling data for 6 months. Stay tuned and don't believe everything you read if it is not backed by science.
It was 33% when tracked by blood testing.
Theres no way its lower with dna testing.
@@sugarnads I would love to know more about this statistic and blood testing? Can you tell me more? Where did you read this and what is it based on?
@@dnangelsorg2544 years ago i read an article about the US CDC, in the 60s, sending a doctor to selected hosptitals over the US taking blood samples of newborns and their parents, doing serology testing for reasons i dont recall.
The doctor reported that he also found in 1/3 of cases the baby had a blood group which could NOT be the result of a coupling of the mother and the stated on the birth certificate father (generally, but i guess not always, the mothers husband). IE mummy had cheated on 'daddy'.
The likelhood that the percentage rate of daddy not being daddy can HARDLY have gone down since the introduction of dna testing, now can it?
I like the south sea islands idea that children come from the mother. The father is the lucky man who gets to raise them, whether he is their bio father, or not. Children are a blessing. Count yours.
Nah
Hell no, children come from both parents. And tricking somebody into raising a child that isn't theirs should be punishable by law.
So we should excuse a spouse that cheats?
@@jamskinner- Do you really want to find out that you are physically unable to have kids? Low count is very common diagnosis now days!
@@Lifeisgood888 why not?
I think this type of information is paramount, especially now days when some guy could be dating a half sister, or other relative!
I need to have a test done because there are so many secrets in my family and i was born with a lot of health issues
And you needing to do that is okay! Some people need the truth so they can move forward and away from any secrets. Wishing you good health!
Color of eyes height hair features is hereditary.. not health problems, unless you had those health problems at birth.heart disease for example, you can't just get it because your family line had it. You would have it at birth. Hope this helps
@@user-el9wx7bv7z There are many genetic health problems that aren't diagnosed until later in life. We discovered a rare genetic health issue that my husband and son have after finding his birth father. No one knew this was the condition causing their problems until then.
@@user-el9wx7bv7znot true, my family has a genetic condition.
I did the family tree thing and the DNA with Ancestry, but my surprise didn't come from there, it came from my "Uncle" Ted. I got an anonymous letter in the mail with copies of two documents. Apparently, my father was the result of an affair that Grandma had. I looked at the cat and started dancing around the kitchen. Now I understand why Grandma was so accepting of my son, I was single when he was born. I loved Grandma and I loved my dad, so it didn't make a difference to me. It's a long story, but "Uncle" was just a bitter man in the end.
Those who want mandatory testing, please consider unintended consequences.
1. Once someone has your medical information recorded, correctly or incorrectly (error is more frequent than you think), it is a bit like posting something on the internet - information goes places you don't expect, including insurance comoanies you've never dealt with.
2. Do you think these ancestry companies do complete and correct sequencing? I don't.
3. Can they confuse your DNA sample with soneone else's? Have labs ever done that with blood samples? They have? My, my.
4. Can this information be used in identity theft? Probably.
5. What if you're a chimera? (Harboring another's DNA besides your own) Yes, this happens, usually with no overt manifestation, and with a greater frequency than you would guess. (No, I don't have the statistics.)
Consider a late episode of Star Trek Enterprise wherein a child is test-tube fertilized with stolen genetic material of the parents, and brought to full term in some kind of artificial uterine environment, without the parents' knowledge. No, the technology doesn't exist today (as far as I know), but imagine someone making use of your DNA in a related way, unknown to you. Better not make it too convenient.
True 👍 many factors to consider indeed
DNA testing even with human error is still much more accurate than taking someone's word for it (humans lie, a lot actually). Errors can be corrected with retesting. So far there are only approximately 100 known cases of human chimerism world wide. In fact the chances that this causes mistaken Paternity is incredibly small. If you have a valid concern chimerism is at play you can get DNA samples from multiple areas (blood, hair, buccal).
The current rate of misappropriated paternity is 5-30% depending on your country/region. Your fear mongering over the star trek idea is no where near the realm of possibility given today's technology.
Lol women will put up all kinds of unlikely scenarios to avoid accountability. I'd rather all of those things happen at once rather than raise a child that isn't mine. Mandatory paternity tests at birth!
Seems like most who are for tests are men and those against are women. Tells you something doesn’t it?
Soo... you just make up a bunch of BS you have zero proof to support, and then quote Star Trek to support your cause, despite Star Trek being FICTION...???? Seriously.... your entire post couldn't possibly get any dumber...
Reason why men need to do paternity tests at birth. If it’s yours enjoy your life be a good dad. If it isn’t. Your choice.
If you don't trust your partner, why get married in the first place.
@@higurashikai09 trust has nothing to do with it. You can trust your handling of a firearm and mistakes happen. Life changing mistakes. Better just run the DNA to make sure it’s your life that is legally being altered before you get hosed because of some other man’s firearm mishandling.
Don’t totally rely on the dna test. Mine came back saying I wasn’t related to my mother but I am related to all her family. The first dna test I took said I was North African but no one else in the family was. They might make mistakes or it’s a scam.
Say WHAT???? You think I shouldn't be able to trace my ancestry because YOU don't think its necessary?! My apologies, queen of everything.
If only Maury had a show back then…
These stories are a trip.
Bought my wife a DNA kit for Christmas one year because she was interested in where her parents DNA might be from. She had always heard English Irish and a touch of Dutch.
She was excited when she got hers, but then decided to buy kits for some siblings...
During the interim, her family tree on the site was showing connections to names she had never heard. She reaches out to a few, questions are asked, no real gaps fill in, then the sibling's kits come back.
They are 5 half brothers and sisters, my wife and one other brother were not from my father in law's DNA.
My wife was shocked, her mom had passed at this point so we couldn't get answers there. Her "dad" growing up was calling elder family members telling them not to tell my wife anything...
Long story short, my wife never wavered loving the man who raised her, and still thinks of him as her daddy, but gained a biological father and sister who she resembles and has connected and made good relationships with them.
Her original family is torn. They don't seem to be taking it as well, and her twin brother wants nothing to do with the biological dad.
I contend it's the worst gift I ever gave her, she claims it's the best.
These stories are becoming so prevalent, that perhaps paternity needs to be tested before birth certificates are signed.
That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be.
I used to ask my dad if we were both his? He was like yup, he was right all 3 of us have the same rare genetic disease. My geneticist still did the workup and cryo froze my whole family's DNA.
Paternity testing at birth
Paternity testing at birth is an idea that could provide clarity and transparency from the very beginning, eliminating potential confusion or surprises later in life. It ensures that everyone involved knows the truth from day one, which can prevent future heartache and help build trust within families.
By establishing paternity at birth, it also ensures that legal, financial, and emotional responsibilities are clear from the start, benefiting both the child and the parents. This approach could lead to a more honest and open foundation for family relationships, reducing the potential for painful discoveries down the road. It’s about ensuring that everyone has the information they need to move forward with certainty and confidence.
Oh yes. Lots of surprises do come from DNA. Found out we have a niece that we did not know about.
I consistently say that a full DNA test should be done at Birth! For the Child's sake! My family's history is surprisingly similar to my health! If i suffer from something? I tell my kids! Melanoma can be hereditary? But for me to get a Melanoma in the exact same position as my Mum? I believe that medicine and DNA testing is paramount for children!
......dad knew. Loved her enough to accept the circumstances and be their father. Been there......
My sister did one, I keep forgetting to ask her about it, but I guess there was absolutely nothing surprising there. Jewish sometime a while back on my mom’s side, but her family is from Poland so that’s completely reasonable (we just weren’t specifically aware of it.) A friend of mine got in touch with some previously unknown cousins overseas and wound up visiting them a few times.
I understand that the information can really muck things up for some people, but I don’t think there’s a good way to police it.
Mapping and tweaking genomes… that is going to get more and more complicated and contentious.
Mommy played away... I knew it was coming.
Papa was a rolling stone..............................................
And for every sad story there are so many positive experiences.
"They split up briefly then they got back together and surprise we're pregnant" Translation: Mom went out whoring around and got knocked up, new guy wasn't interested in paying the bills so she went back to her husband to make him pay for her mistake. She knew what she was doing. They always do.
Same thing happened to me. I always said that my dad was really dark & my mom was really white and I just happened to look more like my Mom (my brothers were all pretty dark to somewhat darker; I was see-through white) but, turns out, I was wrong! I did a DNA test and my dad? NOT my dad! My brothers are all my half brothers and I found a half sister that I had never met & there is possibly several more. Awkward position, my mom says my dad knows but I don’t think he does & could never bring myself to ask him so I guess it’s still a secret. 🤷🏼♀️
So the story is woman has affair , gets pregnant and child is raised. Not that interesting really. Kind of ignores the husband and wife separate briefly but wife still finds time to
‘entertain’ another man side of the story and the husband completely cuckolded sequel. She takes her pleasure with one man and lets the other raise and support the outcome. Clearly didn’t use a contraceptive and must have known that there was the possibility that the child was not her husbands. They obviously remained married during the brief separation so the real story is unfaithful wife gets some on the side , avoids precautions and obligates husband to bring up another man’s love child. Great story. Jeez !
Hearing these stories and reading all of these comments has given me a deeper appreciation for the strict guidelines in Islam regarding the safeguarding of lineage. I never considered the importance of such laws and the impact they could have on people's lives. I pray that God heals and envelopes everyone's hearts with tranquility and may we all be guided to the best way of life wherein everyone is safe from harming others and being harmed by others (even in such unexpected ways).
Mom… gotta get her grove on.
If I had outside close relatives, I would want to know…if my father wasn’t my biological father, I would want to know that also…
I took one. I realized before anything could happen. Absolutely nothing interesting was in my DNA.
It runs about 30% of those tested so without everyone being tested who knows could be much higher.
Thirty percent of those who are suspicious are not the father. 33 percent if black. 18 percent if native. Other groups fall in between somewhere, but they did not give numbers.
But according to the DNA companies like Ansestry, the real number is 6 percent. And some of those are because of adoption or sperm bank use.
So the man knows.
A case in Toronto. A woman bought kits for the entire family. Four daughters. The parents called a family meeting. They all had the exact father, but not the man who raised them. His swimmers didn't work.
When men and women get suspicious of their partner, it is often, not always, based on something real. Strange behaviors. Late nights. Suddenly becoming much more interested in looking good. Too many work trips. Or in the case of single men, it is something which they will think about. Especially if they were not with the woman often or long.
No according to PIs, if a woman is suspicious of her husband, she is right most of the time.
But if a man is suspicious of his wife, he is wrong about 30 percent of the time, which matches with them not being the father.
Also, a lot of the time a man gets suspicious when he is cheating.
I disagree with your statistic. DNAngels is actively tracking this data, and while community estimates can vary widely, we have access to more accurate and up-to-date information. Based on our ongoing study, the current estimate is around 17-20%, and that's after just six months of data collection. It's important not to rely on figures that aren't backed by thorough research. Stay tuned as we continue to compile and analyze this data to provide a more precise understanding of the situation.
@@dnangelsorg2544 People who are suspicious of their partner are more likely to do a DNA test which skews the percentages.
Oh, SHE KNEW, SHE ABSOLUTELY KNEW!!!!
"Mom had an affair..." There's a shock.
I always advise people to not take a DNA test unless they are prepared and able to handle surprises! They do happen?
I have 2 sisters that are on ancestry and when I did my DNA they haven't matched me with them, we don't speak so is it possible that they have blocked me from getting matched to them, i just need to know why im only getting matched to 4th and 5th possible cousins that i don't even know,
Mom knew perfectly well.
My thoughts as well, had a one night stand ? Recognised the symptoms and got back with hubby rather than be a single mum
Oh the mom knew she just didn't say anything cuz her plan to monkey branch to her chad didn't pan out cuz he didn't want her long term so she went back to her husband cuz she still needed financial security and led him to believe it was his.
Yep. Very common today.
....and it took them a week to recognise!? 😂🤦♀️😂
Stuff happens. My sister-in-law recently found out that she wasn't related to her "dad." She was, however, related to her dad's friend. Surprise. She then found out that her supposedly new biological half-sister was actually related to her own "dad" and not her biological father. Oops.
This movie has nothing to do with offspring but still explains so much. "Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice".
Was wife-swapping or 'swinging' prevalent in that neighborhood? Sounds like it. My kind of place!
Hey I got a cousin out of DNA test 💛🙏
Too good not to share:
Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding.
The highest form of knowledge... is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world.
Sometimes you're better off not knowing.
Ignorance is under rated.
I'd rather know than be a cuckold. You do you.
My grandfather had blue eyes, as did my grandmother and all the children except one brown eyed daughter born in the 1920s when they were separated. Luckily there were no DNA tests back then.
In other words, these 304's been running them streets forever
No shit. Human nature didn't spring up today.
Don't open that pandora's box, don't do the test.
YES do the test! You have the right to know!
Btw, did you know that paternity testing in France is illegal? Makes sense why you'd be against it.
Don't ask questions that you actually don't want the answer to
That's why I don't do trial separations. Nuff Said
Why is it automatically assumed the mother had an affair? She may have been r@ped and husband left her briefly over this. It's happened; many men can't deal with their wife being assaulted.
My 1st thought is SA.
Occam's razor.
You’re absolutely right-it’s important not to jump to conclusions about how these situations come about. There are many possible reasons for paternity discrepancies, and it's crucial to approach each case with empathy and an open mind. Assuming an affair overlooks the complexities of human relationships and the difficult experiences some people endure.
Situations like assault or a temporary separation can indeed lead to unexpected paternity results, and these are deeply sensitive issues that deserve understanding and respect. The key is to remember that every family’s story is unique, and we should be careful not to judge or make assumptions about what might have happened.
@@karen7573 You’re absolutely right-it’s important not to jump to conclusions about how these situations come about. There are many possible reasons for paternity discrepancies, and it's crucial to approach each case with empathy and an open mind. Assuming an affair overlooks the complexities of human relationships and the difficult experiences some people endure.
Situations like assault or a temporary separation can indeed lead to unexpected paternity results, and these are deeply sensitive issues that deserve understanding and respect. The key is to remember that every family’s story is unique, and we should be careful not to judge or make assumptions about what might have happened.
Why is it ALWAYS women trying to deflect blame and responsibility.
My aunt took one of those tests for fun. Sometime later she was contacted by a half-brother (on her father’s side) nobody knew existed. She never responded. I guess she doesn’t want to know.
It’s not uncommon for people to be unsure of how to handle unexpected news from DNA tests, especially when it reveals something as significant as a previously unknown sibling. Everyone has their own way of coping, and your aunt might not feel ready-or ever feel ready-to confront that reality. It can be overwhelming to process such a revelation, and sometimes not responding feels like the safest choice.
However, for others, these discoveries can be an opportunity to connect with family they never knew they had, filling in gaps and gaining a deeper understanding of their family story. There's no right or wrong way to respond, but being open to the possibilities, even if it's just acknowledging the other person's existence, can sometimes lead to unexpected connections and healing.
Why Cant People take 8 weeks off between "Boyfriends"?
Horrible
Scary that you were able to trace back to individual father, was he also a customer at some point to consent to this
My daughter who hates me took a DNA test said she was Mexican and German American. My husband is/was RIP German/American my mom is italian from Italy and my father from Nicaragua from there born. My daughter hates me more for "lying" to her all her lufe because shes Mexican. Oh brother she blocked me and refuses to talk to me.
You’re complaining about your children strangers on the internet. Are you looking for validation or sympathy? You may wanna look at how you’re acting to see what’s happening.
🤔 Nicaragua? As in Latin + Indigenous American?
Hello, Mexico! 🙋
@@codename495 She's sharing her story, just as other people are doing in this very comment thread.
@@MelissaThompson432 Yep, Nicaraguan and Mexican are basically the same people genetically.
@@theeclectic2919 they are very similar.
I had an aunt, that was not from my grandpa... 😅
My problem with these tests is 1: suppression of certain types,2: the fact that I know ppl who have had different places do it, and they come back different, 3: I know ppl who know they’re history, and the test comes back way different.
I do not understand what you think is being suppressed. Also the ethnicity is only a guess based on various factors that are different across different companies and not reliable with respect to parentage but can only provide clues. The best information comes from the cm value or percentage at some companies. If the matches are not as expected then it is most likely a dna surprise and not an issue with the test- but do be overly concerned about ethnicity differences as it really does not tell us anything.
Sorry do not be concerned about discrepancies with ethnicity!
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I know ppl who can trace their heritage to prereservation eras, who were actually born on reservations, that have take the test and gotten 0% Native American or the similars.
Full blooded natives that get 0% on the test. And there is no chance that it would be a “dna surprise”.
And I am not “overly concerned about ethnicity differences”, and there is no excuse for five different companies giving five different results on the same dna, and I’m not talking about few percentage points.
I have no idea why, but I know for a fact that it happens, for whatever reasons, and I’ve seen enough to know that I cannot be confident in any of these tests, as true science is repeatable.
I wonder if some even do the actual tests, and could be simply scamming ppl.
When you take a test, you need to understand the results that it gives you. They are very accurate and much more than just a "guess". But you need to have an understanding of each company's algorithm and limitations. Ancestry, for example, has multiple articles about Native ethnicity and what it will show and not show and why.
@@Ashleelk
I know this, but yet that still doesn’t explain the 0%.
Y’all work for these companies or something? And btw, don’t be condescending to me, as it seems you’ve not read my comments or don’t understand them.
Those DNA tests are more trouble than not. What good comes from such revelations? Heartache and misery that would've been better left a mystery.
They are collecting the genetic information for a reason, and I can't reason why.
I was happy to find out my ethnicity, which is 95% from a country I like.
That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be.
It's not the DNA tests that are the trouble, it's the women.
It’s true that DNA tests can sometimes reveal unexpected and even painful truths, but for many people, the knowledge gained is worth the emotional journey. Discovering hidden aspects of one’s family history can be challenging, but it also provides opportunities for healing, connection, and understanding that wouldn’t be possible if those truths remained hidden.
As for the collection of genetic information, while it's important to be aware of privacy concerns and to use reputable testing companies, many people find that the benefits-such as finding lost relatives, uncovering health information, or simply understanding their heritage-outweigh the risks. The choice to take a DNA test is a personal one, and for many, the revelations, even if difficult, bring a sense of clarity and closure that’s invaluable.
For some the secrets have shaped their entire lives in one way or another and them finding the truth finally brings healing. And with healing those secrets no longer have so much power over the choices they make in life.
First off, she knew. Men, do what you gotta do.
All my kids are mine. But some other people's kids are mine too. Can't say anymore than that.
It really depends on the situation. She obviously knew there was a chance the baby wasn’t his, but it’s difficult to say if she knew for sure.
@@TheHcjfctc - aka, she knew.
AI will do all this human detective work very soon. And then DNA tests will take that step function move forward to provide real insights into each unique individual.
Mama's baby, papa's maybe
That phrase, "Mama's baby, papa's maybe," has been around for a long time, reflecting the uncertainty that can sometimes surround paternity. While it might be said casually, the reality behind it can be deeply impactful for those involved. For someone who discovers through a DNA test that their father isn’t their biological parent, it can be a life-altering moment filled with confusion, anger, and sadness.
It’s important to remember that behind every catchy saying or old adage, there are real people with real emotions. The discovery of an unexpected truth about one’s parentage isn’t just about genetics-it’s about identity, trust, and understanding one’s place in the world. These experiences deserve empathy and respect, not dismissal or jokes.
@@dnangelsorg2544 I totally agree. There are people who find out later in life, usually as a complete shock. So I do have empathy for them. My comment wasn't meant as a dismissal or joke. It was intended and primarily aimed at women, who seem to fight any type of reform with mandatory paternity testing. This would solve so many problems. Yet countless women, Lawyers and legal system (AKA child support industry) refuse to consider that these children, and the men that are either (1)denied knowing they have a child, or (2)they are oblivious to the fact they are raising some other mans child, are greatly affected by all of this !! Its not just the children, its the men too !!
I think we're on the same page, I just think you read my comment the wrong way.
Do men not deserve the same knowledge that women have......... in KNOWING 100% that the child is theirs ??
@@dnangelsorg2544 If you are the child of an illicit love affair, you have to remember, YOU WOULD NOT EXIST AT ALL, NOT IN ANY FORM, if that affair hadn't happened. You owe your life and your existence to that affair.
They used to burn witches at the stake
Why can't women just leave things alone.
Feminism and its law arm, metoo, have enabled females the delusion of "can do no wrong" morals. Nearly impossible to find a girl that's been with less than 3 dudes. This permanently damages a females ability to pair bond. Scientifically proven.
I found out my deceased grandfather cheated with a neighbor.
Hehe, I’m the skeleton in someone’s closet. I’m adopted, biological father unknown, biological mother is known, but seriously doubt she knows who the father is either, let’s just say that. One night stand most likely. No one on the bio father’s side that I’ve talked to on ancestry can figure out who he is. Why did I bother? I walked to at least know his name, know what he looks like, and maybe get the details on any family genetic issues, cancers, or other diseases. That’s it. Not looking for a relationship, nothing. Just curious. I may never know.
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@@dnangelsorg2544 I’ll think about it, but if that’s a paid service, it’s really not in the budget right now.
I think you're handing it in a mature adult manner. More people should think like you. You are wise.
Why are these videos frequently conducted in a hotel room? 🤔
That's how we found out my cousin wasn't my cousin
Of course the mom knew. She was only married once and knew when her knees were parted and by who.
I understand this happens about 10% of the time.
Of course she knew
From One in 20 to one out of 3 kids are not from their fathers. So at least one of kids from your class was not his father's child, probably several of them.
Majority of women are fateful, but up to 30% are not.
If father is put on birth certificate, there is should be mandatory test.
It is not about trust.
Why people get officially married, don't you trust your partner?
Why you get officially hired. Don't you trust your boss?
Why sign a contract with landlord or company when you by something.
We should destigmatize dna tests.
It is right.
If man's name put here there should be something to probe it.
And faking this should be handled as severe as any document forgery.
It is not some 4th grade homework report card. It is tens or even hundreds of thousands dollar question for every kid.
They were on a break...
People place way too much faith in these services. There are multiple examples of people getting widely varying results from different services "examining" the exact same sample.
Thank god I can't have children.
Ignorance is blizz, especially with such matters
It's true that ignorance can sometimes feel easier, but it doesn't mean it's the best approach. Choosing not to know might spare someone from immediate pain, but it also denies them the opportunity to fully understand themselves and their family history. For many people, the truth is empowering, even if it's initially painful.
Being informed about one's origins can bring clarity, closure, and a deeper understanding of who they are. It's not just about uncovering difficult truths-it's about embracing the whole story, even the parts that are complicated or challenging. Knowledge, even when it hurts, can lead to healing and growth in ways that ignorance never can.
2:02 better than 1/4 sister or zero sister but not as good as 3/4 or full sister 😸
Apparently I'm odd. I just cannot see that finding out that my ancestery is different than what I thought would devestate me or destroy me or make me not know who I am. It wouldn't change how I think about myself. But I am aware that most all people put great stock in "blood" family. I've had people try to explain to me why it is so important but I just don't get it.
Have you ever heard the phrase 'blood is thicker than water' ? Well, so is mud and that is about how clear some of these relationships are.
It’s very very common.
DNA stops all the lies.
I suggest not using these sights. Just be happy.
It's understandable to want to avoid potential pain or complications, but for many people, the pursuit of truth is a fundamental part of their happiness. While some might find peace in not knowing, others find that understanding their full story-no matter how complex-brings a sense of closure and completeness that they wouldn't have otherwise.
DNA tests and the insights they provide can be challenging, but they also offer the opportunity for personal growth, healing, and connection with previously unknown family. Happiness isn’t just about avoiding difficulties; it’s also about facing truths, making sense of them, and finding peace on the other side. Everyone's journey is different, and for some, knowledge and understanding are key components of their happiness.
@@dnangelsorg2544 it seems all it does is break up families, blame the mom, accuse the dad, etc. Most of these stories are sad. Its overused.
@@KristinaBakerSmithI'm a firm believer in the truth will set you free and what's done in the dark will come light. I guess I would rather live with an uncomfortable truth than a comforting lie.
@KristinaBakerSmith
The test doesn't break up the family, the cheating woman breaks up the family. Really weird that you'd dodge accountability like that Kristina, are you hiding something?