Girl Goes Missing After Violent Criminal Wins Full Custody | Harmony Montgomery Case Analysis
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- This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of Harmony Montgomery?
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“She was dead for two years before anyone even noticed.” Every single person in that little girl’s short, unfair life failed her. Absolutely despicable.
everyone failed her. very sad
Sickening that the CPS fails children every time
Agreed. They knew she would be at high risk in his custody with known drug abuse and violent history but no one cared.
@@lilajane3 That's part. They need to be held responsible for her death as well. 😒
Agreed. Despicable
That judge needs to lose his job. How can they allow this to happen? Absolutely disgusting.
Agreed. Just watching him you can see how impulsive and unstable the loser father is.
As usual nothing will happen to judge and the judge won't lose any sleep over this
In March, 2019, Judge Mark Newman granted Adam Montgomery custody of Harmony Montgomery in spite of a lengthy criminal record of violence. In September/October, 2019 Judge Mark Newman retires. In December 2019, Harmony was found dead. Adam Montgomery is arrested for 2nd degree murder. Judge Newman lives with the blood of Harmony on his hands.
No he or she needs to go to prison, along with the so-called social workers. And Adam would be their warden.
In my experience, the courts don’t give a lick about the children. They only want contentious cases, where violent fathers are given unquestioned rights. Sad state of affairs.
Harmony had a younger half brother who had been adopted. His adoptive parents wanted Harmony as well, but it was determined she had to live with a violent criminal in deplorable conditions..
They fought so hard for her.
Yes, the half brother is doing well. The 'system' made a huge mistake not letting these people adopt Harmony, too. Now, they're left to explain to the young boy he no longer has a sister who loves him. Sad case.
I didn't think I could feel more anger about this case. Then I read your comment.
This makes it even more sad and tragic.
Not acceptable for so many reasons. Who are we? Who have we become? How is one child's life worth more than another? Rescue them all at the same time without question. No child left behind! Ever.
So there was a qualified family ready and waiting to love this little girl but instead she was given to a habitual felon? Just because they shared DNA? What in hell was that judge thinking? You can impeach a judge! It WAS that judge’s decision that caused Harmony’s death! Hang you head Massachusetts, hang your head and cry!
Judge that granted him custody should be held accountable. Dude literally shoots someone in head before & you grant him custody.
Unfortunately at the time. The judge didn’t or couldn’t have access to Adam’s criminal history therefore he was granted custody.Very very sad. I believe the law was amended or changed after the fact.
That’s a problem, the judge should be able to get the criminal history before granting him custody of a vulnerable dependent. The court process is backwards
You can also thank conservative laws that force the hand of judges into treating drug abusers the same as violent criminals.
My suspicion is that that father only accepted custody of Harmony because of the disability money she likely received.
My missus and I sat on a Child Protective team for three years. What we found was social workers who were willing to overlook anything, and check any box, to put these kids back with their parents, no matter how dysfunctional those "parents" were, and no matter how much evidence there was of their dysfunction. Parental rights ALWAYS took precedence over protecting the kids, although no one would actually say that. In my experience, Family court is a racket made of attorneys, judges, parenting evaluators and psychologists who conspire to keep everyone in the circle busy and well employed. The welfare of the kids isn't even on the radar.
You are speaking the truth. I would add that inexperience is a problem too.
Wow, that's heartbreaking. May I ask, what did your Child Protective Team do? Did you guys ever report these social workers or go to police about them?
That is true here in Australia too. Their maxim on family circumstances is “near enough is good enough”!!🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
@@abeltesfaye_ We were supposed to vote on placements. It usually was 5-2, to place. We were foster parents at the time and a child we adopted had been abused in a family placement. we gave up after 3 years..I was a cop before med school, now a shrink and my missus is the best nurse I've ever known. But, we were always outvoted in the name of parental rights
yes! I agree, this ""REUNITE THE FAMILY of birth" rule has gone too far
I live in Manchester, and let me tell you that no one (police, dcyf) cared about this little girl at all. They felt there were more important things to do. Once it got out to the public, only then did they say “we’re doing everything we can to find her.” She was still considered a missing person until recently. So tragic.
I am so sorry for your pain and that of your community. No one seems to understand that we can't spare even one child. For any reason, ever. We feel it here in the US, too. No one person owns a child. We must all be on guard all of the time to preserve the safety of our children. Every loss is an admonishment to us all. We must be more caring and vigilant because they are our only joy. Love to you and yours.
@@sherryd.3425 Seeing her little face every day driving by a billboard (in 2021) was so sad. I think we all knew that she was gone a long time ago. So sad that she was forgotten for years.
@@sherryd.3425 Manchester New Hampshire is the US.
This reminds me of that George Carlin quote: "They will do anything for the unborn. But once you're born, you're on your own!"
My heart. When Dr. Grande said, "after the Judge knowing the father shot someone in the head, this guy might be alright.." My heart sank. This child was failed in every way. It honestly makes me count my blessings. My childhood was awful, but I can't compare to being unnoticed, unloved, by everyone. I appreciate Dr. Grande trying to speculate what could be happening in this situation. I think we all wish we could make some "sense" out of this, in hopes of making changes for the better, in the future. America needs to do way better than this, for our children. With the school shootings, poverty stricken parents and not enough funds.. I'm tired of our violent chaos.
This is a horrendous case of negligence. Every single person who was responsible for her care failed her. Thank you for this analysis Dr. Grande.
Poor Harmony. How awful that so many people failed her. Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande. ❤️
The lack of judgment of everyone involved in this case is astounding. Poor girl💔
Your analysis was very comprehensive, Dr. Grande. I just wish more and more people get to know you and listen the amazing things you have to share. Your channel is a wealth of knowledge and truly, an asset to society. Keep up the phenomenal job.
Thank you!❤
I have told people about Dr. Grande. I feel they would be really impressed with him
Yes. Astounding. That's definitely the word I was searching for. It's just unforgivable..
Maybe the judgment should have come before this poor girls birth. You should support abortion.
May your analysis of this case be used as in-service training for all who represent children in court.
Laws need to be passed. I think there clearly aren’t enough placement options for the amount of abused and neglected children. Dog rescues tend to be much more careful than this with who can adopt one of their dogs. Mr. Montgomery had a nice source of income while he tortured a child with severe special needs. Imagine if she could have found a carefully screened home with educated, experienced, caring and dedicated caregivers. That’s what kids deserve.
@@dariamancini963 that's not an issue of not enough laws about where kids end up. The households you are talking about don't want to adopt or foster.
It doesn't matter what laws are in place if foster families are not good.
@@dariamancini963 I'm not saying it right, but the fact is that there are more people who want to adopt a disabled pet, than a disabled child.
all these ppl failed her, but i will say that i have known wiseguys in ny that had very violent crimes, and treat their families like gold, maybe its an italian thing but it is the case for many in the line of work.
Yeah, we’ve got to train them to be caring, thoughtful and compassionate human beings.
Thank you for bringing light to this tragic story, and for highlighting where the blame belongs. Now I’m going to watch some videos from HERD elephant orphanage so I can feel better about life. Some days it’s just hard to find genuine compassion in the human race, so I turn to the loving and protective family unit of a group of orphaned pachyderms. ❤ Thank you for all you do, Dr. Grande. 🌺
Love the HERD videos. ❤
Same here. Sheepishly Me is a fun channel too, especially during lambing.
Same goes for all is us. Dr Grande is the best!
Do you think looking 'to nature' is the best remedy for humanity? We're part of nature and our 'humanity' involves the best and worst of that construct. If elephants overpopulate the earth, they might have the same problems we have. Maybe they would have invented abortion too.
are you vegan and maybe an acitivist then? because it's not good to be a hypocrite (:
Thank you for providing your speculations on cases like this one, there are others.
Please look into the death of Thomas Valva, an autistic boy in NY who with two brothers was taken away from his immigrant mother, and the system kept her from her children and the special care they required. Custody was granted to his police officer father Michael Valva, who with his wife seem to have systematically tortured the three boys. Michael and his wife have been charged with murder, looking into the case it is clear the system played a pivotal role in the death of Thomas Valva. May justice be served, and those complicit and blind to the suffering of children be held accountable!
The Thomas Valva Case is another failure and after the death of the abused autistic boy, the judges are still making it hard on the mother with no record to get her two surviving kids back. I believe the father and step mother used the kids for child support and weaponized the court by the abusers, father being a cop I believe helped him get custody of those kids....even with a murdered child the fact the bio mother is constantly dragfed by the courts / cps only is an example again how the system does not work in the best interest of kids.
Poor baby girl. I can imagine that the last few moments of her life were terrifying.
Of all the cases I have ever learned about Harmony's has made me so angry and just heartbroken for her. It seems she just never had a chance.
People who adopted her half sibling, brother, tried to adopt her, but the mistaken attempt to keep Harmony with a biological parent, took away Harmony's chance of a happy life. Very sad.
Edit: I read that Harmony's father wouldn't give consent for her foster parent's to adopt her, as if he should've even been asked. I assume it must've been due to legal procedure.
That “judge” needs to be disbarred IMMEDIATELY. He placed a child in a dangerous home with a criminal and she was subsequently murdered.
This is the first time I have detected any sort of strong negative feelings from the Dr. about a subject. I could tell he was particularly disturbed at the details of this case, and rightly so. Poor child. Her short life was one of never-ending suffering. May she rest in peace.
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I noticed that as well!
I've never seen any tell-tale signs of emotion from The Doc except in this case. It was literally less than a second, and I bet most folks missed it. When I saw his face tighten a bit, I thought to myself "Wow! He is infuriated!"
I mean, who wouldn't be?
It must take more effort than I had previously appreciated for him to maintain a clinical and detached demeanor while presenting his analysis of these cases. This only amplifies my respect and interest with this channel!
Not only did her parents fail her but the "system" failed miserably. Poor little girl.
I had not heard of this case. It seems that Harmony didn't stand a chance with the awful circumstances surrounding her existence. I know it's completely impossible but I've said for decades that people should have to pass an evaluation to become a parent. Sadly, it's usually the children, who are blameless for being brought into the world, who suffer for the incompetence and cruelty of others. Thank you, Dr Grande.
And with the awful people that surrounded her from her mother to her father to child welfare services everyone were awful
Agreed. We are evaluated for almost everything else.
You have to wonder how many stories like this are never reported. These kids are abandoned to their horrible fate by society. Makes me sick to my stomach thinking of the short life of this kid.
I'm a retired mental health social worker who first worked with kids and later in my career, moved onto the adult system.
My experiences with child protective services aka CPS......let's just say I have nothing nice to say. CPS workers were incompetent, didn't know the laws regarding children/adolescent, didn't know about mental health issues, and just plain didn't give a rat's ass.
For example, I received a report from CPS requesting an intake into the CA system. Per the report, it was a mother and her 2 sons, both enrolled in school, no learning difficulties, lived in subsidized housing where the apartment was clean and the mother was an appropriate caretaker.
The reality was, the apartment was infested with roaches, rotten food on the floor, dog feces all over, the 2 kids shared a mattress on the floor that was soaked with urine, all had lice, the kids had severe learning disabilities as well as ADHD and so on.
Another case I had were CPS intervened was when they removed a pre-teen girl from a stable environment with her grandparents and placed her with a cousin who was a gangbanger and did meth.
Two months later, the girl was dead - shot in the head by the cousin's drug dealer boyfriend. He thought she had stolen his stash.
And the list goes on.
I'm sure there probably were CPS workers who were competent, but in my years of working with kids, I never met one.
Wow. Suspected as much but sad to read this confirmation.
Absolutely heartbreaking to hear how precious little Harmony was treated by those who should have loved & protected her. Beautiful little girl! Thank you Dr. Grande for reviewing this awful, awful case.
Harmony had a beautiful smile in her photos despite her troubles. How could anybody hurt and neglect that sweet child?
Yet children are born every day into hurt and neglect by there parents. It’s best that the pain is not felt. Support abortion.
I live not too far from where she lived. A case like this is always haunting but when it’s this close to home it hits a different nerve. This poor girl was failed by everyone, she didn’t deserve this
You’re right. Support abortion. Many parents cannot support or do the right thing for children.
That poor baby! I worked for CPS for years the ball was dropped several times no home study, no psychological, poor monitoring etc.
What a sad case. Were there no other family members-grandparents, aunts, uncles-to intervene for Harmony. What a beautiful little girl and may she Rest In Peace. 💕Love to Harmony, from Jean
As a granny of 8 (3 who live in my home), I simply cannot imagine how children like this "slip through the cracks".
It makes me wonder how many kids at my granddaughter's fall festival yesterday might be living in similar circumstances. Those are the thoughts that keep me up at night.
I'm going to hug my grandkids now..
Thanks Dr Grande for helping to remind me how fortunate I am.
Maybe not all granny’s are like yourself. Maybe you should support abortion.
@@teej008 who tf said I don't? I support WOMEN and I'm a feminist like you've never seen, I can guarantee you that! I honestly don't know wtf is wrong with people coming for others in the comments. Get a life and don't think for one minute you KNOW me. You do not.
@@emilyhollis4231 I’m so glad you do. My apologies. Keep up the fight, there are so many empty sentiments on this feed that I made assumptions.
@@teej008 🥰 sorry for being overly pissed....but I live in Alabama so I'm easily triggered about these things.
Sadly it is an awful case. Every adult failed her. Where were her grandparents? where were the social care?
WHY DO CHILD SERVICES NOT TAKE THE CHILD AWAY to ask her/him questions? Asking the child questions in front of her/his abuser, is not going to get you the truth!!! RIP Harmony.
That's a slippery slope. It should be very hard to take children away from their parents. Obviously an extreme cases it has to be done but be careful what you wish for do you really want to live in the world or someone could have their kids taken away for let's say decide to homeschool them and bring them up with an alternate ideology like living off the grid or not trusting the government? A case can be made that that is harming a child. I would say the majority of society probably doesn't believe in capital punishment so should we take away someone's kid for spanking them? No matter where you draw the line you're going to draw it across somebody's feet and who is to determine who's right and who's wrong?
Their top priority is to return kids to parents. It’s a sad way of doing things (imo) because some “parents” are not fit for the role.
@@robertstone9988 you should look up how easy it is for some hospitals to take kids away from parents
Yeah its tragic, she had such a cute little smile, her dad was a demon beating her to death like that.
@@Cafeallday222 my wife wouldn't be here if she hadn't been taken away from her birth mother but I can see where he can become a very slippery slope. If you use safety of the child as an excuse to remove the child where does the safety of the child line lay? Obviously these pieces of s*** in this story should never have had children. But what if I decide that I want my child to be healed by traditional tribal medicine men instead of going to a doctor? What a religious reasons I decide to keep my children home in homeschooled and teach them our traditions which may Clash with broader societies? I have a cousin who moved to Arkansas onto a Hundred acre ranch to live off the grid now his kids are grown but say that they were teenagers living with it is that child abuse? I know a progressive lady who I used to work with felt like you should be able to take away someone's children if you had racist beliefs, is that okay? And if you can take away that person's kid for the racist beliefs under the understanding that they will poison the young child's mind why not take away the person's kid who doesn't believe in evolution or raise their children to believe in the power of prayer instead of Western medicine? What if I don't want to raise my kids to believe that there are more than two genders? Or don't allow one of my kids to express his gay or transgender? Are those examples of child abuse? What about somebody who's vegan enforces their children to be vegan is that child abuse? So I'm agreeing that sometimes in extreme cases children should be taken away from their parents but where do we draw the line and what people is it acceptable to say f*** you you don't get to raise the your kids the way you see fit too?
Harmony was so cute. She was abused and cheated out of life by all of those who should have loved and cherished her. She was also severely let down by social services. What a tragedy!
I know, just looking at her little face it’s like how could anybody hurt her 😢. RIP Harmony, you deserved so much better.
@@meredith2803 I know. It's really sad.
Social services can only do so much. Support abortion. It was against this child’s human rights to have had to take on the burden of abusive parents.
@@teej008 Sorry, I can't do that because I'm pro-life and it's not based on a political affiliation. Let's see if I got this right, so you advocate murder to prevent murder is that what you are saying? At least this girl has a chance at life in the hereafter, whereas, if she was aborted she may not have a chance at life at all.
@@dissidentfairy4264 I advocate stopping suffering before it can begin. Any just being wouldn’t allow suffering in the first place. This child suffered in full view of whatever power you hold on high.
Thank you Dr. Grande, excellent yet very sad video. Too many children these days are slipping through the cracks.
"slipping through the cracks" is not what i'd call it. The court, DCFS, attorneys all knew what they were doing and the likely consequences of their decisions. custody cases are a lucrative business, everyone making big bucks off the backs of our children. Get informed!
Was it better in the past?
What a heartbreaking story.
Thank you Dr Grande for being a advocate for Harmony. Something that was lacking during her time on earth.
She was not only a victim of her father but also a tax payer supported system meant to keep her safe.
Every time I see her cute little bespectacled little face I’m gripped with deep sadness. Having raised two daughters I would have given everything and anything to have the chance to welcome her into my home. With bedtime stories and playing silly games, she would have been so welcomed and given the love that as a mother of adult children I still have room in my heart for another child.
Support abortion and protect the human rights of many other Harmonys. They would have been better off without abusive parents like these.
@@teej008 I’m afraid because of the decision of our partisan SCOTUS we are sadly gonna see more cases like this. Forcing women to birth a unwanted child without any social support is a recipe for disaster. In Michigan codifying Roe v Wade is on our ballot. Thanks to a Democratic Governor who wants to protect women, children, and healthcare providers.
@@teej008 abortion rights have nothing to do with it. people decide to have an abortion or not, and are not required of criminals, drug users, or mentally unhealthy mothers. DFS did not do it's job, although it is adequately paid through our taxes. The judge failed miserably in the execution of his job as well.
The sad thing is there are so many children currently being abused in their own households, by those that should be loving and protecting them. 😢
Enough said. Support abortion.
Judges never seem to get held accountable for poor decision making, it does my head in!!
It took two years before anyone thought to look for this child. Two years! If she were a missing pet, social media and all its groups would have been searching for her and paying for her care. Harmony Montgomery mattered, I am sorry sweetheart.
Always a winner with the prison tear tattoo. Big alarm bell there, run girls.
What a miscarriage of justice for Harmony! No one looked for her for one or two years. Appalling!
💯! Every person failed that precious child. Anything to keep a child with a parent. The crimes he was suspected of alone should’ve prevented him from gaining custody. My mom was a social worker & they’re so overworked that they can barely make it to each case in a day. And they’re so underpaid. Still though, the social workers who did check on Harmony failed her completely.
The only miscarriage that should have happened should have been artificially induced. To stop this child’s misery and many like her, support abortion.
This sort of thing probably happens more frequently than we'd like. :(
One case alone should be more frequently than we like
In some cases the system hurts children by misinterpreting a situation with them and their parents, and rips them apart. In others, the system hurts children by misinterpreting the entire point of their organisation, and forces children to stay with abusive parents. As a mum it's soul destroying when either happens. My heart goes out to Harmony. I'm so sorry and angry her precious life was unforgivably and violently shortened by basically every adult who ever crossed paths were her.
both of these happen way too often, imo.
As someone who grew up in foster care this case doesn't surprise me. For those saying she would have been better off in care, fyi, sexual abuse is rampant in CAS/CPS and foster parents also kill kids....so not necessarily but in this case it would have been the lesser of two evils.
Amen! When people tell me the foster care system was a better environment for me (also raised in foster care) I inform them that predators hide in foster care, just waiting like a zoo lion to have a juicy chunk of meat thrown over the fence for them.
Thank you for sharing. 🌺
I would say, in this particular case, she would have possibly been better off in Foster Care. I agree that predators lurk in systems that are meant to aid vulnerable people; be it children or adults and blanketed statements regarding Foster Care fail to highlight the reality of being in the system.
@@DreamingInTechnicolor You’re right, anything is possible. Sadly little Harmony wasn’t given the chance. This one is definitely a heartbreaker. 🌺
Name that friggin Judge!!!!!
R.I.P Harmony! I will speak up for children like you and my little sister!
- Sees the teardrop tattoo
- "Adam was in jail after running into some problems with the law"
-Uh-huh I'll bet.
Heartbreaking 💔 Harmony’s story needs to be more widely told and not forgotten. From the moment she entered this world until the moment she left it she was chronically neglected and ultimately rejected.😢 Unacceptable.
Do you agree with abortion? This is why you should agree with abortion. It's against that child's human rights to be born to such parents.
@@teej008 I'm pro-choice but many people who should get abortions will not because they have very little self-awareness on their inability to parent until the child is already here. What's most sickening about this case is many many people would have happily adopted this little girl, but instead she lived a miserable life and then was murdered.
She was so forgotten and overlooked but nothing could dull the beauty of her soul showed though the smile that captured us all. RIP Precious Harmony.
What a beautiful child. So tragic, she never had a chance.
I live in New England & Harmony's story has been big since she was (finally) reported missing. Such an adorable little girl thar deserved so much better. Such a heart breaking story, makes my soul ache. Rest in peace sweetie.
This one breaks my heart. What a beautiful child! I hoped against odds that she would be found alive. Why was Harmony was given to her father? Her brother, Jamison, was adopted into a loving home and they wanted Harmony too. I dunno, I have been through CPS bullshit and without getting into it - the entire system is absolutely corrupt. Look up Senator Nancy Schaefer...
This is absolutely heartbreaking! That poor sweet little girl. I’m literally sick to my stomach now. That judge should be held accountable for this!
Thanks. I was worried that you were going to diagnose someone in this video. However, you only speculated on what could be happening in a situation like this. That is a relief!
This makes me absolutely sick and so sad. Poor little girl. 😢
Never knew. Thank you. In my experience, bad parents want custody to avoid child support.
That poor baby didn’t stand a chance. I don’t understand the way they push to have obviously toxic parents remain in children’s lives.
Do you agree with abortion? This is why you should agree with abortion. It's against that child's human rights to be born to such parents.
@@teej008 I agree with women’s right to choose. I also agree with not giving deadbeat parents third chances.
The scrubbing the toilet with her toothbrush is hideous. A man with zero self-discipline expecting a little girl to show what he always lacked. Poor baby.
Love,
David
I believe this might be your best narrative yet. I deeply appreciate your analysis of the parents, state involvement, and outcome. Harmony rest in peace.
I really didn’t need to watch this this early 😞
My thought too. However, Dr. Grande’s tender care in his presentation really helped ease the boiling blood and heartache that usually arise when I hear such stories.
Can‘t watch it when the victim is a kid 😭😭😭😭😭
I feel you there. I usually scroll right past those stories, don’t know why I watched this one. Probably because Dr. Grande is always so compassionate in his presentation of these types of horrific cases. 🌺
That poor little girl never had a chance. Literally EVERYONE around her failed her!
That's why abortion should remain legal and even be promoted amongst hard drug addicts. That is no world to send a child into.
Sadder that if a family member or neighbor stepped up to take her in, CPS would have investigated them more closely than the parents.
Do you agree with abortion? This is why you should agree with abortion. It's against that child's human rights to be born to such parents.
@@teej008 I mean, really it's why we should make it easier to adopt. There was a family that adopted her brother and were fighting to get her too, but they couldn't because cps wanted to keep her with her father.
Kind of fucked up that you just said you wish Harmony was aborted.
Thank you for doing this analysis and for giving Harmony more focus than she ever had during her short traumatic life. It is so distressing to continuously hear about these tragic situations involving children who are murdered at the hands of the very people who should be protecting them. RIP Harmony.
Thank you for covering this Dr Grande. this case needs attention so that it doesn't ever happen again. no adult in this poor little girls life seemed to care at all about her welfare. i hope the judge that awarded the violent offender father custody is no longer on the bench and that his name is known for what he did. as well as others charged with making sure this little girl was not being harmed who failed miserably. Sickening and i hope it keeps them up at night.
Thank you for all the interesting videos every day, Dr. Grande. I appreciate them every day. It’s Grande time. Let’s do this!
Some “human beings” should never be allowed to breed
I think the system falls victim to "the path of least resistance." Becoming desensitized to what people do to each other and/or being overworked doesn't absolve each individual social worker from culpability in these cases.
Every State; Every Town; Every Mon-Fri- Welcome to the world of Coercive Control & the Unjust court system. Dr. Grande can post a new upload every day for the rest of his life. The material is there & who better than the voice of Dr. Grande for the children?
These stories especially involving children hurt my heart. I find it hard to watch.🥺
Good evidence that you are a compassionate person. Rare these days. 🌺
They break me.
@@needtoknow617 Do you agree with abortion? This is why you should agree with abortion. It's against that child's human rights to be born to such parents.
@@teej008 I understand what you’re getting at, but it feels awful saying that I wish this little girl had never been born. I have so much difficulty processing crimes against children. Absolutely no doubt that there is/was a childless couple out there who would have cherished her.
@@needtoknow617 there are many caring people out there, like yourself. But the world is not ideal, and this child should never have been put in the position of shouldering the burden of abusive parents. It was against her rights as a human being to do so. Non existence is better than the cycle of pain and abuse every time.
Thank you for sharing your insights about this tragic case, Dr. Grande. Harmony's case is not unique, where a system that was supposed to protect and nurture her failed her completely in all aspects. Given this situation, the poor child was doomed from birth. Undoubtedly, her death has made no changes in the bureaucracies that failed her, even if it didn't occur in New Jersey.
Great analysis, DG, but I think we let bio mom off the hook way too easily. She repeatedly LIED to family about Harmony, telling them that she was in regular contact with the child and that Harmony was fine, when in fact she had not had any contact with her child for TWO YEARS! And she knew what kind of man Adam was, she knew the child was in harm's way. Crystal only called police when her son's adoptive parents forced the issue. Crystal did absolutely nothing to find that child, and she was NOT in rehab, she was living in her home. She spent more time getting tatooed than she did looking for her daughter.
no they couldn't get a hold of the mother but when they finally did she said she hadn't seen her since the facebook call
I agree, Crystal was a POS also. She cared more about drugs than her own children. Unfortunately we see this all the time. I think she should also get some jail time for being a lier and not really caring about this beautiful child. I also hope she gets sterilized. She definitely doesn't need to breed ever again.
What a tragedy. I've had experience reporting abuse/neglect to Children and Youth while working in mental health crisis at a hospital, and the results are exactly what Dr. Grande is describing here - gross negligence and incompetence.
Just seeing her sweet face hurts my heart. She looks a lot like my oldest daughter. How can a parent harm her? 😔
She had no parents They were drug addicts ,despicable and disgusting She never had a chance He took her because he wanted the monthly money he would get so he could buy more drugs The system is has corrupt as her "Parents" and the judge that allowed this to happen should be in jail for life
How could a judge?
I have a loved one that is locked up in the same jail as Adam Montgomery and has been there the whole time he's been there, they were even in the same unit for a while and the things I've heard are truly disturbing and just makes me so upset! He obviously denies having anything to do with his daughter and a lot of people say he comes off like a normal person and is funny and very likeable. Apparently, who the hell knows why, all the girls love him there, the nurses, C.O's, and staff all think he's cute and nice and they all treat him really well like one of their favorites.. 🤮🤬 which I personally find absolutely sick and twisted. And now the jail has him in protection so all the guards are keeping him safe just in case and are really nice to him.. I couldn't do it, I would lose my mind on that waste of space, sorry excuse of a human.
Oh and a little insider info on the case.. I know they haven't released any info on finding her remains yet but back in summer when the FBI did that big search of their old apartment and took the fridge and then announced the case to be a homicide case.. what they didn't put in the news was they also dug up a part if the street and into the sewer system and put up big blocking walls around where they were working. Not sure exactly what it means just thought it was curious. People at the jail I guess somehow knew the search was going to happen before it did, which I also find weird.
Shank in shower!?!?
At the very least castration…….
Nothing like a criminal court judge to determine which criminal gets full custody.
Thanks for featuring sweet Harmony Dr. Grande. You're right, she was failed by everyone. Her parents, the system and especially the judge who after looking at Adam Montgomerys very long violent criminal arrest history decided to place Harmony back with her dad.
By the way all of those pictures that you showed of Harmony in cute outfits, different types of eyeglasses, hair perfectly combed with bows were pictures taken when she was with her foster parents who adopted Harmonys little brother and were trying to adopt Harmony as well:((
It's very sad that Harmony wasn't allowed to be adopted by the foster parent's.
She would have grown up in a happy family, along with her sibling.
I can't understand why anyone fought to keep her with either of her inadequate, biological parents. Poor little girl.
Dr. Grande,
This could not have been an easy video to make. Thank you for doing it.
A very similar scenario has played out here in Western Washington. Oakley Carlson, 5 years old. Drug addict parents, who either killed her or sold her. DSHS took her away from a loving foster family (who wanted to adopt her) and sent her back to that situation because not paying for foster parenting and being okay with kids being in danger is quite alright with the lazy state government. And, this time, it was the passive father and the violent mother at play. Oh and the school administrator waited almost a year to report her absence from school.
What is happening to our world? So many babies being abused and even tortured by people who are supposed to love them.
The judge who awarded custody to the “Father”. Should be locked up, for a long time.
The problems of demonising and criminalising drug use and addiction have countless branching harmful outcomes, this being of the more extreme, tragic and avoidable one of them.
“[Investigators] found it strange how unconcerned he seemed to be over his daughter’s whereabouts..” Um. WHY!? Seems to me that NO ONE- including the state- gave much of a damn. How many ppl can fail one little girl?!
Incredibly sad story. Than you for your spot-on analysis, Dr. Grande.
Could you analyze Frank Deleon from Houston, TX. He killed 16 year old Diamond Alvarez, shooting her 22 times in the back in January of 2022. He is on house arrest despite violating his parole and despite being an obvious flight risk for packing to flee when being arrested. The police are cutting this guy so much slack while the family and community is rightfully outraged by this! More people need to be talking about this case. To shoot her 22 times he had to have reloaded his gun, this was so violent and he's been sitting comfy at home with his family this entire year
Good that YOU are putting a lot of emphasis on how ridiculous it is Harmony was placed with her father to begin with..... Spread the word!
An analysis of the judge who made this decision would be interesting. Incompetence doesn't justify well enough the completely senseless, utterly cruel decision of the court.
Poor angel was brought into this world and all she did was suffer. I’m so sorry Harmony. :(
Came back to rewatch 👍
Thank you again Dr. Grande
As a resident of NH, this story was prominently in the news for so long, we had to know it would end very badly. So heartbreaking on every level. If a violent, criminal biological father is seen as a better solution for placement than the foster care system, it is obvious the system is completely broken! I hope the judge who awarded Adam custody, and the lawyer who never advocated for Harmony, never get a good night's sleep for the rest of their lives. As so many "conservatives" lobby for less support for mental health, Healthcare in general, welfare, government involvement, etc, and funds to support those departments are cut to the bone, we can expect more innocent victims like Harmony. Thank you, Dr. Grande, for once again articulating the issues so clearly, calmly and concisely! Now if we can only get the folks in charge to listen, the voters to care and understand, and the necessary changes be implemented!! Put Dr. Grande in charge!❤
My mom works for CASA, court appointed special advocate, for children who enter DCF system. It can be heartbreaking to see how something like this can happen. Thst poor little girl.
I pray she's nothing like the ones in my county here in WV. The entire system here is set up to fail these kids. I'm a bio/adopted/foster mom. My husband and I have always been advocates for children and bio parents but the system doesn't support this. Instead of encouraging more visits to ensure that bond is strong or built upon they'd rather limit it, even for the parents who show vass improvement. For this we have taken it upon ourselves to help. If the parent(s) hit milestones such as 30/60/90 days sober we set up celebration lunches/dinners at restaurants where they can have a meal with their child to bond over such a great achievement. We of course stay close but at a separate table. This helps mom/dad work towards future goals and helps the child know their parent is fighting for them.
We also encourage emails and letters, especially handwritten and homemade gifts. Sometimes phone calls just aren't enough to get through those really low times. If they have something they can read as a pick me up I believe it helps. Of course there's always those parents who just don't care. It seems those are the ones the courts want to help, they get the multiple improvement periods. Yet those who do everything to the T are treated like trash. Those parents are given a 6 month improvement period just to be dragged along for another 2 years bc someone at CPS doesn't want to do court paperwork. They'll schedule appointments but not inform the parents or inform them an hour before or the day after then blame the parents. Who do the parents complain to? The CPS worker, the supervisor? That's a joke. The Judges automatically side with CPS. The court appointed attorneys are useless and are buddy-buddy with CPS so they do nothing to help their clients. It's actually repulsive.
Then I see these awful stories and I'm flabbergasted. Why isn't there a set standard that every agency must follow? There is far too much wrong going on and it's these kids that suffer/are suffering.
I love each and everyone of my kids, as soon as one comes into this family they are forever considered part of our home & hearts. No matter what or how long it's been they will always have a place here. Kid or Adult they can always come back and I'll have a place for them.
But I'll be honest quite a few of them never should have been removed from their homes. If anything CPS could have offered some resources and that would have been enough. I'd much rather the limited room I have go to kids that are really in abusive and/neglected situations.
We are all overwhelmed, overworked and way understaffed, even us foster families. I currently have 4 fosters (2 are pending adoption, one by the New Year, one just started process) and CPS is hounding me to take on another 4-6. This is on top of my neurodivirgent son, special needs daughter in a wheelchair and my other girl.
We need a better system. I'm sure you've seen your mom stressed and beyond mentally, emotionally and physically drained from her job. It's definitely no easy task. I'm glad we have people like her. She plays a big role in getting these kids help, but even her position Needs HELP. We all do.
@@vixxxenfoxxx3660 it sound like you're doing an amazing job of trying to do what is best for the child. The work of CASA, at least here, is to assess the situation between a child and the parents/legal guardian and make recommendations for what the child needs regardless of what anyone else might want. For older kids it often involves listening to what they say and for little ones it involves spending time each week with the child both together with parents and separately to get an idea of what is happening. They also encourage and try to support the parents who are trying to do what is right by the kid and celebrate achievements.
Thank you for covering this. Just about to listen. She hit me as hard as the loss of Gannon Stauch. I can usually compartmentalize these things after decades of studying, as an amature, true crime and serial murder. ( I had wanted to be a psychologist but didn't do it, then by chance read a couple serial killer books and after having been a victim a few times of violent crime from childhood up, and witnessing it a few times, i got interested in studying the people and figuring out why) .But I cried for 2 days over Harmony. Same with Gannon. I doubt the tears are over. Bless her precious heart . How just how can a dad do this to his baby girl? I get that serial killers are mostly about power. But what excuse could he even give for this beautiful child of his very own?? I wish I could have kept her safe from him somehow. Or someone had. She seems so sweet. She is with the Lord now in total joy , never to feel pain or fear again. Im having trouble as a Christian to tamp down wishing various bad things on him. God help me.
Jesus would have no forgiveness for this person.
@@davidvonkettering204 Do you agree with abortion? This is why you should agree with abortion. It's against that child's human rights to be born to such parents.
@@teej008 i do not agree with abortion. I agree with adoption. Or waiting for marriage. Or using birth control. Abortion is not birth control. The pill is free at women's clinics where they like to do abortions. You can get a years worth. Condoms are smart to keep from getting stds. They make foam and little films and diaphragms and the iud, and implants. You can get your tubes tied or the man can get an easy procedure by getting snipped. Doesnt affect him sexually just cuts off flow of sperm. A few days of lifting no more than 10 pounds. Tiniest cuts you ever saw. A couple days of ice packs and relaxing. Its much easier for men than women. Use a condom and a film or foam. Use birth control pills and a condom. Or wait till you are ready to gave kids. Did you know the suck obviously human developing babies through razor blades? They feel the pain. They also let the head come out and shoves scissors into their skull and cit up and scramble their brains. Others they let be born and lay them on a cold steel table and let them die. That baby could have been adopted by loving parents who can't have a baby on their own. Its not the mother's body, its the baby's body. It take a cold hearted person to kill a baby developing inside them, as cold as this man thing that beat his daughter in the head with his fists until she died. He could have giving her up for adoption himself. So could the mom. They had no business with her and could have had her adopted. I would have loved to have her. She's precious. Nobody has the right to take a life no matter the age.
@@davidvonkettering204 if he truly has godly sorrow and repents and turns to Jesus and follows Him, he could be forgiven. Do I see him honestly truly doing that? No. But with God ,all things are possible. I have forgiven a lot of traumatic things done to me in my lifetime. Its not easy. Sometimes I deal with ptsd and feel sad or mad etc but I'm working on it. But I'm not the Lord.
This is a heartbreaking story. I wonder if her Mom was offered long term residential drug treatment? From what little I've seen she seems to be the only person who actually cared about Harmony, although her ability to do so was tarnished by drug use, perhaps long term treatment and support could have saved them both.
It seems social service's tried to rehabilitate her and were not able to.
The mother didn't talk with her daughter for a couple of years, it hardly speaks of a caring mother, but I'm sure Harmony would've done better with her than her father.
Sad he denied Harmony's foster parent's the right to adopt her, along with her half sibling, she could have had a happy life. Instead, he took her life away, poor little girl.
The mom is a POS. She didn't even talk to that little girl for two years. Her drugs were always more important. The mom needs jail time. It's to bad losers like these drug users get to breed. I hope this mom gets sterilized.
Governments need to pour more resources into child protection and foster care if they want better outcomes. When you don’t have the right expertise or those people are stretched thin, these cases are inevitable.
And I don’t think family reunification should be the number one priority; you can’t make someone want to change and it’s clear neither of her parents did. I have a friend who was removed from her parents, went into foster care, and was adopted and she is grateful that happened. She wants nothing to do with her biological parents after what they did and was glad her foster family didn’t allow them to see her either.
And while abortion must always remain a choice and I would never force it on anyone, I worry with increasing restrictions, people who might make the wise choice not to bring a child into their situation won’t be able to act on it.
🤢Dads are supposed to protect their tiny defenseless daughters from monsters - not to be that monster.
I wonder how much money everyone made, food stamps, housing, monthly check etc, and than the state employees, lawyers, clerks, judges, social workers etc.
Sweet Harmony, I am so sorry you weren't given a chance. Justice is coming! RIP xoxo
Jeez. Listened to the full topic. This is just heartbreaking beyond description I guess that's the understatement of the day. But it seems like the whole damn world's getting heartbreak beyond description. Please take care and thank you for sharing.
I will never understand this toxic idea that the biological parent having custody is always the preferred ideal. Unfortunately some kids are better off in state custody.
Poor baby girl 😢
It's simply because there ARENT ENOUGH FOSTER HOMES!!! So Reunification is the only option. Why don't YOU get foster care certified?
@@reachingcoldmountainbeforeyou I don't think some people comprehend how many at risk kids there are, and how overwhelmed the child welfare systems are. There are so many cracks, or abysses, for kids to fall through.
If you read the court documents the judge signed off on it despite the cps worker arguing against the placement. You can't do much when you're a cps worker you can't even come out with for this case we did x y and z with a b c and d recommendations but were denied on multiple occasions as it violates privacy laws.
Do you agree with abortion? This is why you should agree with abortion. It's against that child's human rights to be born to such parents.
I find it sad that her foster parent's were denied adoption of Harmony.
They adopted her sibling and tried to adopt her.
Thank you so much for covering this! I’ve been hoping you’d analyze Adam Montgomery
Good morning good Dr. Thank you for your hard work and analysis
That is just disgusting that nobody noticed her death for 2 years! 😲😢😢 Bless you Harmony, no-one looked after you. 🥰😘❤️