How To Deal With A Difficult Boss - Tips for Handling a Challenging Boss

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  • Wondering how to handle a difficult boss? Let's tackle this bad boss challenge together.
    Who wants to work with a challenging boss? No one, obviously! Difficult bosses can turn a dream job into a dreaded job.
    This video is about how to deal with a bad boss in a way that will allow you to stay focused on your job, keep up your good reputation, and turn a dreaded day at work back into an exciting day in the career you’ve been looking forward to.
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  • @ann-marikarhunen9529
    @ann-marikarhunen9529 Před 3 lety +715

    I think one clear sign of toxic boss is when you used to love/like your job but because of behaviour of your boss you don't like it anymore.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +19

      Yes a clear sign indeed. Hopefully some of these tips will help. Thanks for watching, cheers!

    • @nickeljoyadams9563
      @nickeljoyadams9563 Před 3 lety +33

      That's is exactly what I am experiencing right now.

    • @ashantijackson1632
      @ashantijackson1632 Před 3 lety +3

      Dealing with the same thing..im on the verge of getting fired bc i told my bf how work would be and he came up there..i wanted to be in her position

    • @Carlos-od7jr
      @Carlos-od7jr Před rokem +3

      One of my bosses is a female who used well still does work in a prisons she talks down to her inmates I'm pretty sure and she dominates them because she feels she has to be one up on men and she's bringing that into the job that I have as she is my boss and she talks to me like a little kid my friend told me to tell her "talk to me with respect I'm not your child or your inmates you clearly have a problem with me but I'm just here to work and your toxic energy isn't really affecting me but it's getting annoying" she's probably going to minimize my hours which is a case for retaliation so I'm wondering what I should do

    • @individual1199
      @individual1199 Před rokem

      Oww you said it well
      So on me now,

  • @gerrithoevers
    @gerrithoevers Před 3 lety +210

    This sounds more like "How to Survive an Abusive Relationship".

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +4

      Hi Gerrit, whether it be a difficult boss or difficulty in any other relationship there is no room for abuse of any kind. This video was geared towards dealing with a difficult boss but I think some of these tips can be used in difficult relationships outside of the office environment. Thanks for your comment and for watching, cheers!

    • @sherylsalazar4822
      @sherylsalazar4822 Před 3 lety +21

      It is an abusive situation 😕 but instead of a personal relationship its a workplace relationship. Abusive in the way they take advantage of you and make you crazy.

    • @LisaMarie-rh5yn
      @LisaMarie-rh5yn Před 2 lety +3

      I know! So bad!

    • @vsb000
      @vsb000 Před 2 lety +3

      Yup. Some of those leaders are bullies.

    • @bobbypowers9196
      @bobbypowers9196 Před rokem +2

      yes in other words just be ready to do some kissing

  • @thenmetv9898
    @thenmetv9898 Před 4 lety +166

    When it comes to bosses I've done both..been patient..."never talk back" and been a push over...and it's didn't work..still got canned....now I tell them how I feel with an honest calm and confident face...still get canned... That's why you gotta stick to your values

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +32

      I couldn't agree more. Sometimes no matter how you deal with a difficult boss you just can't win. However if you stick to your own core values you will always be a winner:) Thanks so much for watching, cheers!

    • @natbett206
      @natbett206 Před 3 lety +14

      Document everything - every conversation

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... Před 3 lety +4

      @@natbett206 How do you do that with calls? She can deny her words said. And she did for me.

    • @pinkelement1390
      @pinkelement1390 Před 3 měsíci

      I also tell him how I feel from time to time, but he goes back to his old habits and I have to remind him from time to time how horrible he is.

    • @harrisiskandar8356
      @harrisiskandar8356 Před 2 měsíci

      Whatever my boss said I will do it no questions but when he scolds me what I'm not guilty of I will fight.

  • @brandiroyal7443
    @brandiroyal7443 Před 3 lety +88

    Omg I contemplate quitting atleast 3times a day!! I hate feeling this way...I will try these tips!

    • @rahmajaffar7007
      @rahmajaffar7007 Před 3 lety +1

      Same here

    • @serf6355
      @serf6355 Před 3 lety +4

      Also currently going through this hell.
      Hoping Brandi’s situation is better now?

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety

      I am hoping that these tips work for all of you. Thanks for watching, cheers!

    • @loulou2302
      @loulou2302 Před 3 lety

      Same like every breaktime, that's my thought 😅😭

    • @user-wm8eh6ny8g
      @user-wm8eh6ny8g Před 2 lety

      Same. I cant take it :(

  • @10MinutestoRouletteFortune
    @10MinutestoRouletteFortune Před 4 lety +197

    I have one rule, don't expose yourself to any toxic person. Just imagine having a boss that no matter what you do it isn't right. I had to put a boss in his place because he didn't know what he wanted as his mind constantly was changing and nothing I could do was right no matter what T I followed. Everyone on the team felt equally frustrated. After a year of dealing with this toxic asshole and on my final day when I gave my resignation as I had a job lined up I asked him, "Do you think support, encouragement and gratitude are important attributes for a successful managers should have?" I then handed him my resignation and walked out. A month later another key person on his team left as well. My current boss now is a great guy to work with and my job is once again enjoyable.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +6

      I am so happy that you have found a team, boss and company that allows you to enjoy your work. That is so very important. Thank you for sharing your experience and for watching, cheers!

    • @10MinutestoRouletteFortune
      @10MinutestoRouletteFortune Před 3 lety +8

      @@rajibaidya4935 exactly If you aren't happy with your work there are plenty of other places where you will be respected. Trust me, it isn't worth it having an ass as a boss.

    • @happygal1974
      @happygal1974 Před 3 lety

      My boss can literally announced herself among people, i have high expectation and difficult people to work with. I will scold when thing is not done

    • @10MinutestoRouletteFortune
      @10MinutestoRouletteFortune Před 3 lety +7

      @@happygal1974 Some female bosses are the worse because they think they have to be a hard ass man to keep up with whatever competition they think they have with men. In my experience, a female boss with predominantly men in the team is NEVER fun. They like the control and are emotional in most of their business dealings.

    • @swoosh3684
      @swoosh3684 Před 2 lety +5

      My boss criticises everything I do and it has gotten to the point where I'm afraid to do go beyond.

  • @rosebud97044
    @rosebud97044 Před 4 lety +115

    I'm dealing with a bully boss who plays mind games and sets you up to get "into trouble" . There is no working with him. i'ts impossible. He doesn't even let you know what he expects because he wants you to be wrong so he can bully. he's a evil narcissist and sometimes you just gotta get away.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +15

      I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes there is no winning so at that point you need to do what's best for you. Hold strong to your personal values and don't let people like that push you into acting out in a way that puts you in a negative light. Thanks for watching, cheers!

    • @jamesbenedict6480
      @jamesbenedict6480 Před 4 lety +6

      Kim D Just find yourself happiness by NOT working for him any more! Sooner the better for you!!

    • @k9casablankino845
      @k9casablankino845 Před 3 lety +3

      Don’t forget that you’re an INTERNAL customer. If he gets on your nerves, then find another job!

    • @4evaravensfan
      @4evaravensfan Před 2 lety +3

      I'm dealing with the same type of boss. It's awful 😖

    • @monicacorrea6106
      @monicacorrea6106 Před rokem

      Sounds like my boss condescending bully boss.

  • @yarnfossil5694
    @yarnfossil5694 Před 3 lety +57

    I feel like with my boss there’s no right answer. What she wants changes from week to week, day by day, and like today hour by hour. Putting me behind on what I need to do.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +1

      That will definitely make for challenging work days. I hope this video was of some help. Thanks for watching, cheers!

    • @makoy2984
      @makoy2984 Před 2 lety +5

      I don't exactly know what you been through. But I had an experience before. Being a newbie, I made lot of mistakes in my reports. That was very frustrating. Working in a bank, you need to assure everything is correct up to the last cents. I'm not to blame because being new to the report means you need help from your boss on how to do everything. But my boss is a type who give less instructions. It was like, "how can I do this.job right with little instruction" and your limiting conversation with them because you feel toxic with them... Your job will literally be easy with proper guidance. You ended up being blame for all the mistakes.
      This days were challenging. Yeah, it leave me some kind of trauma and a lesson to be equipped with knowledge. These will always remind me, "This is hard but I have to adopt, get all necessary skills to make myself better on my work".
      I'm here also to remind all young professionals. This is the right time to enjoy life and also to equipped yourself with knowledge.
      That's why I'm here always for some tips😊

    • @avril.227
      @avril.227 Před 2 lety +4

      I had a boss like this. A complete power trip, so sorry to hear that. Document everything if they keep trying to flip the script so you have proof.

    • @dooday1
      @dooday1 Před 9 měsíci

      ​@@makoy2984The "not wanting to ask info because interactions are toxic but task being hard to complete because of lack of communication" I felt that.

    • @Dequa21
      @Dequa21 Před měsícem

      I see a pattern with in myself where I become argumentive and defensive. Even with HR intervention, head HR was on his side and passive aggressive. None of the less leaving me feel hopeless in the trust of my team because I couldn't come to the table with proof even though the environment Is indeed. Coworkers speaking little of the boss and when stuff hits the fan. Everyone is on the bosses side obviously because nobody wants to lose their job but utilize you as the scape goat and me, myself and I making stuff up

  • @healthyvoicetips
    @healthyvoicetips Před 5 lety +115

    I had a difficult boss in my first job!!! And I hated every time I had to meet with her. But I survived by focusing on my part of the job and doing my best. Great tips. Thanks.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety +3

      Good for you for staying focused, Katarina! I've had the same experience of dreading meeting with a bad boss. It's no fun for anyone - glad you made it through! Cheers!

  • @msbutterfly714
    @msbutterfly714 Před 7 měsíci +9

    No toxic environment is worth your well being. Screw staying there and living with it. Find another job, sooner or later HR will figure him/her out why there is such a turn over rate. Professor in college told me (the whole class) "You can get paid $50 dollars an hour but if your boss is an asshole, you wont stay long." no truer words have been spoken. Peace out

  • @robotpanda77
    @robotpanda77 Před 9 měsíci +13

    Reminds me of a manager I went to for advice on a bad boss saying "have you tried talking them about it" 😂 If you go to death row in jail you will find a lot of innocent men or say they will tell you. A bad boss doesnt just stop being a bad boss because you are nice to them, or talk to them or work hard. A bad boss is at their core an unhappy person. And like a drowning person they will drag you down with them if you try to help. The only thing you can do is save yourself and let them sink.

    • @kikim2592
      @kikim2592 Před měsícem

      Amen! So true, especially when they have just gotten promoted, and they’ve always been nothing and nobody gee 😮 that’s one of the worst experiences

  • @yespls4184
    @yespls4184 Před rokem +7

    I have a really hard time with a mean boss because I'm very insecure and blame myself for every little thing that goes wrong at work.. and I always have this fear that people think I'm bad at my job or lazy because there's always something left on my plate that I'm unable to get to

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem

      I am sorry to hear this. I hope this video has helped and wish you all the best.

  • @jschultzf3
    @jschultzf3 Před 5 lety +98

    I think the micromanaging boss is the WORST!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety +9

      Yeah! Micromanagers are frustrating for sure. Especially when you work well independently. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, cheers!

    • @nicolemaree8785
      @nicolemaree8785 Před 3 lety

      Me right now 🤯

    • @annwambui6594
      @annwambui6594 Před 3 lety +4

      They are real devils

    • @happygal1974
      @happygal1974 Před 3 lety +5

      mine is behaving this way due to insecurity of herself. How can a company works without any problem? Her expectation is zero problem 🤣🤣🤣

  • @marianna2933
    @marianna2933 Před 3 lety +28

    I’ve thought if quitting almost once or twice a month. I’ve cried to myself at work at least three times.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +2

      I am so sorry to hear this. I hope this video will help you. Stay strong. Wishing you all the best, cheers!

    • @debbiecrawshaw8722
      @debbiecrawshaw8722 Před 3 lety +2

      I feel ya. Me too, I wait till i get in the car, and cry.

    • @hunter2442
      @hunter2442 Před měsícem

      OMG I cried to today and I am a man! but my boss threatened to fire me and I have a family of 4 kids!

    • @marianna2933
      @marianna2933 Před měsícem

      @@hunter2442 :((((

  • @defknightsoul
    @defknightsoul Před 8 měsíci +10

    Nearly every large workplace has at least some toxic supervisors

  • @thekellybaader
    @thekellybaader Před 5 lety +122

    I love what you said "Don't try to fix your boss!" It's hard for those of us are fixers:)

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety +6

      Oh, definitely!! And I'm sure that as a "fixer" you make a great boss, always ensuring that everything is at its best. :) Cheers!

    • @LAMacli
      @LAMacli Před 3 lety +10

      Adriana Girdler No matter what speaking against your boss to others never is good. And anytime I’ve told on a Boss it always back fired so your better off dealing with it like you said. Doing the best job & submitting to their authority. Not saying to take abuse but a boss whose harsh or unfair sometimes you just have to live with it. I know if I put my trust in God he will work it out. Sometimes confrontation is necessary but only with you can approach your boss in a gentle way.

    • @jonnuanez2843
      @jonnuanez2843 Před 2 lety +2

      I turned off the side of me that is a "fixer" because people do that to me and it's very rude and obtrusive. Let a person be a person. How I want to deal with it is the key.

    • @SydMountaineer
      @SydMountaineer Před 2 lety +1

      Right, it's best to focus on yourself, that is the only person you can control, your mind & body.

    • @chetzmartinezrodriguez2253
      @chetzmartinezrodriguez2253 Před rokem +1

      I disagree this part…I been dealing with my difficult boss for years and to be honest she always always give me shit everyday till she press my button and we had a really really big arguments.Shes a lawyer and Im just a Nanny…I always stand on my foot when i know Im right..I will never say sorry to her if i know shes wrong…One day i talk to her and tell everything what i don’t like it…And hell yeah were okay…Been with them 5 years now….

  • @ps6572
    @ps6572 Před 9 měsíci +6

    I have just quit my job , as it became intolerable. There were simply too many insults , and unkind remarks thrown my way its all still raw but i will feel better for it, as i decided to protect my mental health and well being. Thanks for sharing these tips though, they offer a diff perspective and will help me in next job 🙂.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 9 měsíci +1

      I am sorry to hear you needed to quit your job, but I'm glad you are doing what you need to do for your mental health. Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Cheers!

    • @hunter2442
      @hunter2442 Před měsícem

      I pray that I can quit too! 😭😭

  • @georgianacinca8709
    @georgianacinca8709 Před 2 lety +42

    1) focus on your job
    2) know what's important to your boss
    3) don't try to fix your boss
    4) stay aligned with your values and vision
    5) put yourself in their shoes
    6) take another look at how you're approaching things

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety +1

      Thanks so much for watching. I hope this video has helped you as you move forward. Cheers!

    • @thuynguyen-hu4on
      @thuynguyen-hu4on Před rokem +12

      tried that. It did not work out. They are something els. I found a better place, co-workers, and have good boss ever.

    • @Butterflyyyy9
      @Butterflyyyy9 Před rokem +5

      @@thuynguyen-hu4on Good for you don't take abuse from anyone

    • @IseeWhy
      @IseeWhy Před 10 měsíci +4

      1) change job

    • @Sam-mu9ug
      @Sam-mu9ug Před 7 měsíci +1

      You can't solely focus on your job is the person is being abusive, unpleasant and at times unprofessional. It's useful to check your reactions and feelings and also ok to be clear about what your willing to accept

  • @MrFarlafunk
    @MrFarlafunk Před 2 lety +26

    Hello Adriana, I have been dealing with a boss that has been very difficult to deal with. Just being around him has been causing a lot of anxiety. I work for a great company and I love the work i do. I am so thankful that I found this video. I think it will really help me get through this.. Keep up the good work

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Tim. I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with a difficult boss and even more so that it is causing you anxiety. On the positive side, you love what you do, and the company as well which is often hard to find both together. I really hope this video will help you moving forward. Wishing you all the best, cheers!

    • @rachelmruizmsw3346
      @rachelmruizmsw3346 Před 4 měsíci

      I hope everything worked out for you. I am in that position myself, and I agree it will axhaust and mentally drain you. If you're doing good, give me some advice, please.

  • @jamesbenedict6480
    @jamesbenedict6480 Před 4 lety +52

    Excellent tips...over the years I used all your tips (including documenting) and learned to live with it.... on the other hand...happiness is the key. People quit their jobs not because of the company, it is only because of the difficult boss they have to deal with it everyday. In fact, "dealing" with a difficult boss everyday is not good for your mental health...you bring home everyday on the kind of things you had to deal with at work. So, my advise is try to be happy...find another way. You cant control to change the boss, but you can control what you can do. You dont have to deal with the difficult boss everyday. Find another job and quit!! Belive me, just the action of quitting itself will bring happiness to you!!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +3

      James, I completely agree with everything you have said here. I feel it’s important to give it a go, try to manage the situation when dealing with a difficult boss. However, there may often come a time that the environment is doing you more harm mentally and then it’s time to think about making a change. Thank you so much for your comment. Hope you are keeping well and safe and that you are no longer dealing with a difficult boss. All the best, cheers!

    • @makoy2984
      @makoy2984 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeah, that's true. It's like your all time revolves around him, not your career anymore. You'll be preoccupied always on how to deal with the difficult boss and that's not healthy on your personal growth and mental health. I'm on my way on quitting this job but I have to be on the next company I'll be with.

    • @rachelmruizmsw3346
      @rachelmruizmsw3346 Před 4 měsíci

      Oh, Adriana answered you! Ant she amazing, I am dealing with this and both of you are so right. I am going to try and do as Adriana advised and it that does not work, I will quit!

  • @jasonreviews
    @jasonreviews Před 3 lety +14

    unfortunately mine is sociopath. Can't fix crazy.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety

      Unfortunately sometimes you can't. Wishing you the best. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @chocolatte8301
    @chocolatte8301 Před rokem +4

    I'm going thru this now. Thank you!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem

      Thanks for watching, I hope this video will be helpful. Wishing you all the best, cheers!

  • @CoachSimona
    @CoachSimona Před 5 lety +11

    Thanks for the useful tips!
    I especially loved #4 about staying true to your values. As a matter of fact, I had a similar situation to yours a few years back: I had a difficult boss and almost thought about quitting but I loved my job. I dealt with the situation by putting all my love and creativity into my job, instead of trying to "fix" my boss.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      That's amazing, Simona! I'm so glad you took it as a learning opportunity, and an opportunity to grow and improve in your career. Every difficult situation can be seen as a gift, and it sounds like that's just how you saw it. Good for you, for remaining positive and for dealing so well with that difficult boss! Cheers!

  • @JuanRios-ng8by
    @JuanRios-ng8by Před 2 lety +5

    I just watched this video, and after watching it I glanced at how long ago it was posted. This was 2 years ago. And I just want to say that even after 2 years of posting your video, someone still finds Great value in it. Thank you very much.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Juan! Thank you so very much for such a wonderful comment. It brings me great joy to know this video has been of value to you. Thank you for watching and commenting, cheers!

  • @JahneshaH
    @JahneshaH Před rokem +2

    I tune them out, try to have as little interaction as possible and focus on my own role.

  • @laurendempsey9644
    @laurendempsey9644 Před 5 lety +7

    Love what you said about knowing your boss and getting more information if you need it. No matter what kind of person your boss is, having clear instructions is always important to do your best and avoid all miscommunication. I also agree that you shouldn't blame yourself but sometimes you do have to adjust your approach.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Exactly. That's why it's key to know what's important to your boss and what expectations they have of you. Thanks for watching and for continuing the conversation. Cheers!

  • @LeasCraftStudio
    @LeasCraftStudio Před rokem +10

    I love your energy. Refreshing but down to earth. Great tips too. Currently dealing with a boss who constantly seems irritated by me and speaks over me. And they wonder why turnover is so bad! Anyway, it’s my last week at this job and I am SO excited

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem +3

      Thank you so much and I wish you all the best in your last week. Good luck with your new endeavour. Cheers!

  • @HezOmanjo
    @HezOmanjo Před 7 měsíci +10

    1. Focus on your job - you can't control what your boss is doing or how they are behaving. Be very clear with what your roles and responsibilities are.
    2. Know what's important to your boss - if not clear, book one on one meetings.
    3. Don't try to fix your boss - understand their behaviours and patterns and adjust yours to theirs.
    4. Stay aligned with your vision and goals - who are you and what do you want.
    5. Put yourself in their shoes - It's not about you it's about them. [My own insert here - change how your boss perceives your personality by focusing on them.]
    6. Take another look at how you are approaching thing - is there some validity to why my boss is doing certain things? Is it me?
    7. Document everything.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 7 měsíci +2

      Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. Cheers!

  • @AngieNFilms
    @AngieNFilms Před 5 lety +4

    You’re so real! Love it. Love what you did “stay true to who you are”. 💛

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. Authenticity is key! Cheers!

  • @theanxietyexpert9913
    @theanxietyexpert9913 Před 5 lety +5

    Great video and love the captions and whole layout. Really great tips to think about and apply within the work environment and also great if you are a CEO, as well. This helps us to always remember that we should treat those we work with and direct with due respect and integrity. Keep up the great work:)

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      That's so true! Work is especially hard when you have a difficult boss, but you can definitely apply some of these tips to other people you work with as well. I agree, it's important to show respect and compassion :) Cheers!

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration Před 5 lety +2

    Great video Adriana, loved the tips. Not changing your boss isn't limited to the workplace, but can definitely be applied in all relationships

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      That is so true! I'm glad you liked the tips, regardless of who you use them for. Cheers!

  • @Merelynne
    @Merelynne Před 5 lety +9

    I had a difficult boss in college. I knew it was a part-time job to get through school so it made it a lot easier to walk away to find something else without the stress of a difficult boss.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Meredith, I think that goes with my tip of focusing on your job! It sounds like even though you had a sucky boss, you were able to focus on why you were there, to get yourself through college. Thanks for sharing, cheers!

  • @parveenaulakh2325
    @parveenaulakh2325 Před rokem +3

    I quit my job yesterday best feeling ever

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem

      Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @Izzy-cw6iv
    @Izzy-cw6iv Před 2 lety +8

    This was so helpful for me. I’ve been so depressed about these issues. Thank you!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      I am so happy to hear that this video was helpful. Wishing you all the best, cheers!

  • @DiniVino
    @DiniVino Před 5 lety +3

    Love it! Know what is important to your boss - this is the key to being loved by any boss and it isn't always doing your job, right?!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Yes! Sometimes you just have to make some minor adjustments to your own work. It's unfortunate that sucky bosses exist, but knowing what's important to them definitely helps! Cheers!

  • @tiffanyharris3048
    @tiffanyharris3048 Před 4 lety +4

    I have had a difficult boss before and it didn’t make going into work very enjoyable. Thank you for all this great advise on how to deal with a difficult boss. I will continue to remind my self to stay true to me:)

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety

      Always be true to yourself and practice self care. Glad this advise was helpful. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @RichTriggerBontrager
    @RichTriggerBontrager Před 5 lety +5

    "Don't try to fix your boss" . That is a huge tip. In one of videos I focus on leadership values. You mention values.... having that as a part of the work environment, and setting is huge. Yes stay true to your values even if they are not holding the pre-agreed on values.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      For sure... As well, everyone has their own personal values and it's important to stay true to those, even at work. Thanks for watching and for sharing your thoughts. I'm glad you're living your values! Cheers!

    • @Yourdaddy_2024
      @Yourdaddy_2024 Před 7 měsíci

      Hmmm. I agree that we should stick to our values but we should also bend it to our benefit which means to let loose on some to play the game! You won’t go too far with strict boundaries! My cents

  • @Alex-mt7vg
    @Alex-mt7vg Před 3 lety +2

    This helped me the most out of all the videos I've watched about this topic. This is so genuine and applicable! Appreciate the video.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety

      I am so happy to hear this! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @faisalmohdzabidy7980
    @faisalmohdzabidy7980 Před 2 lety +2

    These are very good tips. I suffered a lot and in temporary depression under a micro-managing boss who thinks he is always right. I also thought about quitting.. but I really looked inwards and go back to my WHY to keep me going.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety +2

      Personal reflection and reconnection to one's self is key to getting through any difficult situation. Stay centered and you will observe what is going on vs being caught in the eye of the storm. Thank you so much for watching. ♥

  • @DoLifeHealthier
    @DoLifeHealthier Před 5 lety +4

    OH man!! I could tell stories for days! Great video Adriana.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Haha oh boy! I hear you on that one! Thanks for watching. Cheers!

  • @Tdr-jv2nc
    @Tdr-jv2nc Před rokem +5

    It’s so awful that we have to put up with difficult bosses

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem +1

      It most certainly is but hope this video has been helpful. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @SimpleMarketingAcademy
    @SimpleMarketingAcademy Před 5 lety +1

    I am so thankful that I work for myself. All of your great tips will help others with bad bosses, so much!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety +1

      It is great to be your own boss, isn't it?! So glad to hear that you love what you do. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @MartaKeller
    @MartaKeller Před 5 lety +4

    I've definitely had a difficult boss before. Yes, the perspective shift into the boss's shoes sure is powerful way to look at things!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      I agree, Marta - mindset is everything! Thanks so much for watching and for continuing the conversation. Cheers!

  • @terrenceforbes5935
    @terrenceforbes5935 Před 4 lety +1

    Awesome video, definitely provided some good insights and approaches for how to handle a "not so great" supervisor at work. Thanks for sharing!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety

      Glad you were able to take away some tips and approaches. Thanks for watching. Cheers!

  • @Gidyupcowboy
    @Gidyupcowboy Před 5 lety +2

    Solids tips. I was just telling someone a few days ago that I have been so fortunate in my career. Almost 30 years of working and I can count the bad bosses on one hand.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      That's great! Well, it's not great that you've had some bad bosses, but I'm so glad you see it as a gift that you haven't had all bad ones. It's sad how common it is to have a sucky boss. Thanks for sharing and for watching! :)

    • @spiritussublime
      @spiritussublime Před 3 lety

      Wow, you are lucky!

  • @SuperPina
    @SuperPina Před 5 lety +2

    Love that you are a productivity expert! Such a great and important topic here. Thanks xo

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Thank you for watching! I love being a productivity expert. Cheers!

  • @ursulabecker3200
    @ursulabecker3200 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for this video
    I really needed it
    Such a REAL video
    I needed perspective

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +1

      You are so welcome. That is why I create my videos so people can learn from my experiences. ❤️

  • @kG-uq7ju
    @kG-uq7ju Před 2 lety +2

    This has been really helpful. You're right. I just have to focus on my job/work and stick to my values. And it helps a lot because we are currently working from home so I don't have to see him at all. My boss has been unsympathetic to many employees. For him, reasons are no different from excuses although they were urgent. He couldn't care less at all. So, I'm learning how not to care about what he says and just focus on my job. He's the kind of boss that is generous with criticisms but stingy when it comes to appreciation.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      Thanks for stopping by to share your story, KGrace C! Sounds like you are handling it like a champ - which I love to hear. Keep it up and as you say, focus on your job! Cheers!

  • @cspc2570
    @cspc2570 Před 4 lety +1

    Very helpful with my situation. Thank you!!!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +1

      Thanks for watching and glad it was helpful, Cheers!

  • @charles.mccormick
    @charles.mccormick Před 5 lety +2

    Great video. You have solid points and really good production value here.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety +1

      Thanks so much! I appreciate the feedback. Cheers!

  • @MrNobody1981
    @MrNobody1981 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Thank you Adriana. I was furious on my super boss who cancelled my leave request for next week. I was going to take some drastic steps when I thought of browsing some videos on anger management when your life's lesson videos came up & it forced me to ponder upon my foolishness. Thanks once again.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 měsíci

      You are most welcome! Wishing you all the best in the days ahead. Cheers!

  • @KellyRoach
    @KellyRoach Před 5 lety +1

    Thanks for your tips - you provide different approaches that allow growth overall

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Thanks for your feedback, Kelly! So glad you liked the tips. I believe these approaches will work for many people, which is why I love sharing them. Cheers!

  • @Stupid_Money
    @Stupid_Money Před 2 lety

    only 3 and half minutes in and I already liked and subscribed! I was able to write down and make a plan on how to talk to my boss thanks to this video! I will be implementing these strategies on my next shift. Thanks for making the video!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      Hi Timothy. First, thank you for subscribing! I am thrilled to hear that this video has helped you make a plan moving forward. Wishing you all the best, cheers.

  • @PiCheZvara
    @PiCheZvara Před 8 měsíci +2

    My boss is weirdly competitive with me. I know him a long time, so I know how he thinks, so for example if I'm late with an assignment, I usually know when to write him to confirm I'm indeed working on it and will send it in few hours. So he knows I didn't forget. Most other people I worked for ususlly responded with "OK" when I did this - my current boss responds with things like "telepathy, I was just about to write to you" to sort of establish he is ahead of me and in control of the situation.
    It's really weird.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 8 měsíci

      Thanks for sharing and just keep up the communication on your end. Wishing you all the best.

  • @jrccandleco7939
    @jrccandleco7939 Před 4 lety +3

    I agree with you 90% bosses can be abusive and belittling. They can be passive aggressive and stay in lines of respect. That’s when you are really screwed. “ messing with you just enough to drive you crazy and still be in the right. That’s a no no

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety

      Thanks for watching Joey. I hope these tips helped if you are dealing with a difficult boss. Cheers!

  • @ValdezV
    @ValdezV Před 3 lety +3

    It sucks that we have to adjust ourselves because they aren't very nice people.... But i just realized we have to adjust ourselves in most if not all relationships

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +2

      Yes, work or personal relationships all require us to adjust at some point or another. The important part though is that you stay true to yourself when making decisions on when to bend or adjust. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @avril.227
    @avril.227 Před 2 lety +2

    How do you know if your boss is overly critical or just trying to get rid of you? And how do people really deal with this every day? I’m the one constantly reminding him, he has ADD, yet he is constantly on top of me when I think I’m bringing my A game. I’m exhausted.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      Sounds like frustrating situation. Have you ever had a sit down to discuss how you are feeling? This may be a good place to start. All the best and thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @alisejankovska9125
    @alisejankovska9125 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Well,if you have such a boss you lose motivation ...
    I like what I do but lately it's like I have to talk myself into doing my job really good ..

  • @RemainForeverHealthy
    @RemainForeverHealthy Před 5 lety +2

    I like the tip stay aligned with your values and vision. Good stuff Boss

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Thank you! It's something I definitely believe in. Cheers!

  • @gingerjesus2721
    @gingerjesus2721 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I stopped. Work is work. Fun is fun. That's why we call them different things.

  • @clotairezhang6795
    @clotairezhang6795 Před 3 lety +4

    Sometimes when you have been working tough through 7days you were stressed out and here comes a strict boss to demeaning you control everything. And you choose not to hold back but to yell out... No money anxiety disorder insomnia

  • @JumpRopeVeteran
    @JumpRopeVeteran Před 4 lety

    Great video. Thank you for this.

  • @schmidtandcompany
    @schmidtandcompany Před 5 lety +4

    This is so useful for me on the management side! Certainly don't want to be a difficult boss 🌝

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Me too! I strive to be the best boss I can be - it helps that I've had a couple of sucky bosses so I know what behaviours to avoid, lol! I'm sure you're a great boss, Cindy-lou! Cheers!

  • @linli4448
    @linli4448 Před 4 lety

    Really love your video! Really appreciate your tips! Very objective

  • @jenagrizanno9351
    @jenagrizanno9351 Před 3 lety +3

    My boss is just a prick. It doesn't matter how good of a job I do,
    Some people are drunk with power and they turn into pricks.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +1

      Hi Jena. I'm sorry to hear that your boss is terrible. I've experienced this myself. Focus on you doing the best job you can do and document everything. If you have to, go to HR; that's why they're there. Good luck!

    • @jenagrizanno9351
      @jenagrizanno9351 Před 3 lety

      @@AdrianaGirdler thank you for getting back to me I appreciate your advice. My boss owns his own cleaning company and he's actually been investigated before for cooking the books. In the end he had to cut several checks to his employees this was before I started working for him
      I learned this information after I was hired 16 months ago.
      I have been documenting things for several months after I started noticing my paycheck was unusual. On top of him being incredibly passive aggressive and a complete narcissist, I have discovered my paychecks have not been adding up right for quite some time. Long story short I'm going to end up calling the Better Business Bureau or possibly going to the Workforce Development Center and Reporting him.

  • @LuxuryHomesCharlotteNCEMagids

    love your video presence Adriana ! I have actually never had a boss. (Except my wife !) But I would have a difficult time with one for sure-😀.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Thanks so much, Eli! I guess if you've never had a boss then that makes you a PRO at avoiding bad bosses! Haha, cheers!

    • @jamesbenedict6480
      @jamesbenedict6480 Před 4 lety

      Eli Magids Living in Charlotte NC do you work for a living? If you own a business, then your customers are your boss! Wife doesn’t count. You took an oath at the alter. With a real boss, you accepted to be a servant!! What is it! C’mon be serious!!!

  • @kiraspider1
    @kiraspider1 Před 3 lety

    Awesome video very insightful. Thank you

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety

      Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @invalism1931
    @invalism1931 Před 3 lety +3

    This video has really helped me alot, especially with tips like their behaviour and putting myself in their shoes

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety

      I’m so happy to hear this video has been helpful. Thanks so much for watching! Cheers!

  • @kirimiicrypton6138
    @kirimiicrypton6138 Před 4 lety

    Thank you for this!!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +1

      You're so welcome! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @allanjones8653
    @allanjones8653 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for this video!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 lety +1

      You are so welcome! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @Franky0029_
    @Franky0029_ Před 2 lety

    Documenting seems so helpful! Thank you! ❤

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      Hi Francesca. First I would like to thank you for watching and hope that this video was helpful to you. Unfortunately when dealing with a difficult boss, one of the best things you can do is document. Hopefully you never need to use it but if you do it will only help to resolve the situation a little easier if the time comes. Make sure to keep all email communications in a folder so you can access them readily. Also keeping a log of conversations, time, date and what was discussed is also a good idea. Wishing you all the best! Cheers.

  • @aseelab5776
    @aseelab5776 Před 2 lety +1

    Your words are very comforting and exactly what I am going through. Micromanagement 😢

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety +1

      I hope this video has helped. Stay strong and wishing you all the best. Cheers.

  • @ToTheWolves
    @ToTheWolves Před rokem +2

    I have to sit right next to my terrible supervisor for 12 hrs a week every week. I enjoy working with pretty much everyone else , but she'll be the one to make me quit a good job.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem

      I am sorry to hear this. I hope my video has given you a few tips that will help you deal with your supervisor. It would be a shame for you to leave a job that you enjoy. Wishing you all the best. Cheers.

  • @ayabarre9315
    @ayabarre9315 Před 4 měsíci

    Warm thanks Adriana❤
    I felt comfa after watching this. I know every idea in this video, but it's good sometimes to hear them

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 měsíci

      You're so welcome! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @ProfessorHeatherAustin
    @ProfessorHeatherAustin Před 5 lety +16

    Adriana, this is such a hot topic lately. I recently did a video about how to deal with a toxic workplace. There are so many people out with difficult bosses. Love to get your feedback. Great tips!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      I saw that video and loved what you had to say! Thanks for watching and I'm so thankful for your feedback. Cheers!

  • @MikeSarge
    @MikeSarge Před 5 lety

    You are speaking the truth on this video! Thanks for the tips 🏁

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Thanks so much, Mike! I'm glad you liked them. Cheers!

  • @adrienneisabelle4328
    @adrienneisabelle4328 Před 4 lety +1

    Hi Adriana, thank you for your content. Can you please make videos for people like me who have just started their careers.
    How to cope with the emotional stress of failure, mistakes and ways to perform better.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety +1

      Hi Adrienne! Thank you for watching. I will put your request on the list, but in the mean time check out my mindfulness playlist and the visioning playlist. These videos will give you tools that will help you work thru all of the above. Cheers!

  • @TheOne9661
    @TheOne9661 Před 4 lety +1

    Thanks, as a one-time difficult boss, your tips are on target

  • @joncovington2859
    @joncovington2859 Před 4 lety

    Amazing ...thank you so very much! You are awesome!!!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety

      Thank you so very much, and thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @defknightsoul
    @defknightsoul Před 8 měsíci

    Really needed to hear this! Ty!

  • @NiaMSnow
    @NiaMSnow Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you so much for this video!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 6 měsíci

      You are so welcome! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @gbts2020
    @gbts2020 Před měsícem

    Helpful! Thank you.

  • @ElioG
    @ElioG Před 5 lety

    Great video! I'll keep all these tips in mind when I start working again lol.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 5 lety

      Haha awesome! Are you looking for a new job? My videos are perfect for those who are new to a job or career. Wishing you all the best in your search and hope you come back for more tips! Cheers!

    • @ElioG
      @ElioG Před 5 lety

      @@AdrianaGirdler Yes I am thank you!

  • @machindraborhade8984
    @machindraborhade8984 Před 3 lety

    Your tips are really helpful. Thank you very much.

  • @cool2investinternational

    Ill try this one. Thank you for sharing 🙏

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem

      You’re very welcome. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @Pfariso.Evelyn
    @Pfariso.Evelyn Před rokem

    Thank you so much, was just listening to you now because I'm on my way to work and have to face my boss with her attitude

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před rokem

      Hoping that your day unfolds in the most perfect way. Cheers!

  • @christinastavrinidis6780

    “Stay aligned with your values and vision” this is the most powerful one for me

  • @Sustainablebritt
    @Sustainablebritt Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for this video #4 made me tear up because it's so true. You helped remind ,e to realign myself.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      So happy to hear you enjoyed this video. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @fishlee3587
    @fishlee3587 Před 3 lety +3

    I once went to my boss’s boss to tell my side of the story! Things got a lot better since!

  • @demetricehicks9848
    @demetricehicks9848 Před 2 lety

    Thank you I really enjoyed your video!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      Happy to hear 😊 Thanks so much for watching, cheers!

  • @saralenechoy
    @saralenechoy Před 3 lety +1

    Really like the approach! Looking at yourself first before finger pointing☝🏼

  • @jewelsaranghe9134
    @jewelsaranghe9134 Před 4 lety

    thank you so much.. i really need this now.. 😢😢😢😢

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety

      It sounds like you are dealing with a difficult boss. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully so of this tips will help. You've got this! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @rachelmruizmsw3346
    @rachelmruizmsw3346 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you, Adriana for helping me understand my boss! I will do as you say!

  • @nicolemiddleton4939
    @nicolemiddleton4939 Před 6 měsíci

    Very helpful thank you

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 6 měsíci

      Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching and wishing you all the best! Cheers.

  • @angeladecastrosilva830
    @angeladecastrosilva830 Před 3 měsíci

    Honestly you are incredible in the insights and understanding of work and bosses.
    This video has given me great insight. Thank you so much ❤

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 3 měsíci

      You are welcome! Looooove reading comments like this. I am thrilled this video has given you some great insight! Wishing you all the best and thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @aprillynn6221
    @aprillynn6221 Před 9 měsíci +1

    My supervisor has a "fix it yourself" attitude--if I ask her any questions, she's very curt and won't give much information. I've caught her lying to me about things in the past because she didn't want to directly come out and tell me she had an issue with the way I did something. Then, when the workflow does mess up, she always takes her angst out on me.
    I see her laughing and carrying on with other employees, but the moment I step in her direction, she's bone silent.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 9 měsíci

      I am sorry to hear this. I hope my video gave you some insight on how to move forward. Thanks for watching, cheers.

  • @timmysticcrafts
    @timmysticcrafts Před 6 měsíci +1

    OMG..no 3..I gonna do it from now on coz he’s driving me crazy day by day😂

  • @George-Aguilar
    @George-Aguilar Před 4 lety

    Love the video so far

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 4 lety

      Thanks George and thanks for watching our video on How to deal with a difficult boss, Cheers!

  • @jackcarraway4707
    @jackcarraway4707 Před rokem +2

    If you're doing the best you can and show your boss respect, do not tolerate disrespect from your boss. I once had a female boss that did that and I basically turned into a landmine just waiting to be stepped on. One day she stepped on the landmine and I told her to go eff herself because it's obvious her husband isn't and I walked off.
    She was speechless. As I was walking away I shouted "You're doing great at shutting up for once, keep it up!"

  • @makoy2984
    @makoy2984 Před 2 lety

    I admire you for keeping true to yourself and staying with your values amid a difficult boss. I want to learn that. It will be a discipline though learning your boss is difficult and peer pressure you for those values who are not you... I'm learning so much from you maam😊

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 2 lety

      Thank you so much and thrilled that you are learning so much from my channel. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. Wishing you all the best, cheers!

  • @littleteethkeith
    @littleteethkeith Před 10 měsíci +1

    One thing is for sure if you want to quit your job because someone that works there is shitty towards you, you’re going to quit every job you get.
    I have four bosses and only one of them is shitty. I like those numbers.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Před 10 měsíci

      Thanks for watching and sharing. Those numbers are good odds:) Cheers!