How to get your boss to respect you and stop being difficult at work

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    In this professional communication training video, How to get your boss to respect you and stop being difficult at work, communication skills coach Dan O'Connor gives you tips and techniques for getting your boss to stop harassing you and start respecting you. #difficultbosses #gainrespect #respectatwork
    Here's the breakdown of this free effective communication skills training lesson online:
    0:40 How to get your questions answered
    1:14 Leanna's dilemma
    1:58 How to set up this talk
    2:43 Some handy power phrases to start
    3:00 Danger phrases to avoid
    3:40 a great lead-in line for this talk
    4:07 Woman to Woman
    4:52 How to say, "I respect you"
    5:15 The complete lead-in line
    5:43 What it means to "Overturn the Tables"
    7:12 Key phrases for table-turning
    7:33 Where to get more
    8:12 How to take the high road
    8:43 The entire message
    9:27 Block the interruptions
    10:24 I don't judge you for your mistakes
    10:40 You're better than that
    10:55 You can always come to me
    11:14 I cannot abide that
    11:44 I don't want to have this talk again with you
    12:45 The essence of assertive communication
    13:17 Forgive and atone
    13:25 Level 2
    13:50 I was trying to be nice
    14:45 Throwing down the gauntlet
    15:04 This is not a sorority
    15:53 Mandate and Unfair
    17:33 Enough
    18:29 Above all else . . .
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    -How to gain the respect and acknowledgement you know you deserve
    -Communication skills for the telephone
    -How to deal with difficult people at work--notably bullies, gossips, and people who make inappropriate comments
    -How to be seen as the competent professional you know yourself to be
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    -Job interview skills
    -How to deliver bad news to a customer
    -Communication Skills for Leaders
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  • @TheWizardOfWords
    @TheWizardOfWords  Před rokem +4

    HEY MY FRIENDS: If these videos are having a positive impact on you, please show your support by becoming a CHANNEL MEMBER and/or clicking the THANKS BUTTON above and leaving a little love. A little love will allow me to continue delivering these videos directly to you!

    • @denishabrown4034
      @denishabrown4034 Před rokem

      Omg this is delicious!!!! I’m in bed giggling and can’t wait to try!

    • @judojohn11
      @judojohn11 Před 10 měsíci

      Your videos are always good. I didn't mean to suggest it doesn't work. In my situation I am respectful to my bosses. I was hoping they would show the same kind of respect. What happened to me has to be much deeper. Mom and pops just didn't like it. I was just a good fit for them. I'll keep on trying to love people some day I'll get a little love back. I look to see how to become a Channel member. Thank you .

  • @micheller6804
    @micheller6804 Před 3 lety +18

    My boss recently came to me, said I wasn't acting my usual self and asked if anything was up. I had tried to approach her in the past regarding certain workplace issues, but she appeared dismissive. So I gave up and began looking for work elsewhere. I felt I had nothing to lose at this point, and was honest with her, saying I didn't think the job was for me, and I felt like leaving. She pulled me into a conference room and we had a frank but respectful discussion. We agreed to meet the following week while she spoke to some higher ups and HR about the situation. Come Monday morning, she called me into the conference room and slid a paper across the table. I figured I was terminated, but was surprised to see it was an offer for a substantial raise. I am learning to become more assertive, which is a struggle because I'm naturally passive. Ironically, calmly and logically explaining how dissatisfied I was made them respect me more. Thank you for your videos. They are so helpful. 👍

  • @oanar1289
    @oanar1289 Před 4 lety +54

    I have the opposite issue, my boss thinks I don't respect him and I treat him like the cleaning lady...but I respect the cleaning lady, not sure what he means...he expects submissivness and I expect equality. He sees me as challenging his authority. I see him as a tyrant who wants people to follow him blindly. Not sure how this can be fixed. Currently we are ignoring each other

  • @bekit7131
    @bekit7131 Před rokem +9

    Thanks for making this video. You are one of the few career coaches on youtube that support being assertive when dealing with coworkers & managers.

  • @animezinglife9627
    @animezinglife9627 Před 2 lety +17

    The day my boss respects me is the day I know my character has fallen to her level. She is a dreadful, cruel, competitive, and insecure woman, and a textbook narcissist. She's known to throw tantrums in the workplace and treat everyone like garbage.
    I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm counting down the days when I can get out of there. Any advice in the meantime for those who go far beyond rude or passive-aggressive?

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 2 lety +12

      Stay well below the radar until you have the opportunity to leave. A true narcissist should be avoided at all costs.

  • @juanitav1592
    @juanitav1592 Před 4 lety +9

    You are an amazing communicator!! I’m blown away by your savvy technique!😍

  • @craig3714
    @craig3714 Před 4 lety +5

    Thank you for your message Dan I needed this dealing with a narcissistic boss too .

  • @debbiekillewald8384
    @debbiekillewald8384 Před 4 lety +2

    This is awesome thank you! I just love how they try to make it look like a mistake calling you a different name. Great way of handling that.

  • @justmejo9008
    @justmejo9008 Před 4 lety +2

    As always .. Thanks Dan 💚

  • @KimberlyLetsGo
    @KimberlyLetsGo Před 4 lety +1

    You're awesome, Dan!

  • @MillwallMike
    @MillwallMike Před 4 lety

    I needed this like you have no idea! Many thanks. You're legendary!

  • @marilynl2545
    @marilynl2545 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight it's always helpful...you're awesome

  • @zac2877
    @zac2877 Před rokem +3

    The way you tell a story and the way that you speak, and do it with humor and in a basic way, helps it stick in my brain better. Thank you for this I am absorbing this information and I really needed exactly this one thank you

  • @aratsass1
    @aratsass1 Před 2 lety

    This channel is PURE GOLD

  • @JesusSaves77799
    @JesusSaves77799 Před rokem

    Thank you Dan!! Great video!!! God bless you!! 🙏💖

  • @tomasacadiz9467
    @tomasacadiz9467 Před 3 lety +5

    Your tips are so helpful and you crack me up too. You make my day!

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you Tomasa. My byline for onsite training has always been "No more boring training--ever" because I believe it is possible to keep people awake during a seminar--or a CZcams video. (Possible, not always easy :) )

  • @Angelchickie101
    @Angelchickie101 Před rokem +3

    I love your professionalism ❤❤❤❤

  • @NikkiElla622
    @NikkiElla622 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you for making this video this helps me so much!!!

  • @GlasssWalll
    @GlasssWalll Před 2 lety +4

    I love watching your videos while I get ready for work, these inspire me to improve my communication skills! Thank you

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 2 lety

      Thanks for letting me know Gla$$$Walll. Did I get that name right?

    • @GlasssWalll
      @GlasssWalll Před 2 lety

      It’s Kelly :) My profile is ancient and due for an update!

  • @carlamitchell2259
    @carlamitchell2259 Před 3 lety

    Wow. This one blew me away; you are gold!

  • @AshJae
    @AshJae Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much!! This will be so very helpful for me especially right now at this time.

  • @circular17
    @circular17 Před 4 lety +4

    This video is very useful to me because it shows a way to be angry that actually delivers the essential message. I have been looking into communication to improve myself, but it always seemed to suppose that it goes alright or at least that it never gets to a dead end. Though frustrating cases do happen and just the fact the they are possible can hinder my motivation as I don't know how to handle them. Even though it may be theoretical it is good to know how you can react to them.

  • @hylabrookbooks
    @hylabrookbooks Před rokem

    these are so so helpful!!

  • @shanehall98
    @shanehall98 Před 4 lety

    Hello Daniel, I have been enjoying your videos. I have been using your tips to deal with people in my life.

  • @susanwines5407
    @susanwines5407 Před 2 lety

    Thanks!

  • @beth6102
    @beth6102 Před 4 lety

    Dan is SO wise!

  • @kaminisalunke9550
    @kaminisalunke9550 Před 3 lety +2

    Excellent communication skills Sir. You are great.👍

  • @bluelight5706
    @bluelight5706 Před 4 lety

    Thanks so much!!!🦋🦋🦋

  • @sherrianelliott7994
    @sherrianelliott7994 Před rokem

    Thank you 🎉

  • @venicebeckford3341
    @venicebeckford3341 Před 2 lety

    Thank you

  • @zac2877
    @zac2877 Před rokem +4

    When he said:
    " But sometimes..... you Have to overturn the tables in the temple."
    Then the world's explode revealing his serious gaze back at the camera.
    That one moment was priceless, made me TRULY laugh

    • @zac2877
      @zac2877 Před rokem +1

      Liked, subscribed, and shared. Thank you for sharing some of your wisdom

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před rokem +1

      Thanks for the subscription and for your comments, Zac. Much appreciated.

  • @smoothacceleration437
    @smoothacceleration437 Před 3 lety +2

    Damn, that was such a powerful & masterful delivery. Great video.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +1

      Many thanks for your comment. I hope you liked and will share the video.

  • @blackmamba2613
    @blackmamba2613 Před rokem

    Thank you very much for this video, it change everything. It's work
    s out for me.

  • @chinkyfist6655
    @chinkyfist6655 Před 3 lety

    This video was very helpful. Thanks again. I'll have to keep watching your vids.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety

      Please watch, like and share Chinkyfist. I would very much appreciate that.
      Dan

    • @vivianawolford6102
      @vivianawolford6102 Před rokem

      Thank you for all you help and wonderful communication knowledge.

  • @jennyaskswhy
    @jennyaskswhy Před rokem

    Love this

  • @Mosdefinitelyable
    @Mosdefinitelyable Před rokem +8

    Ok I tried some of this today. It was hard but I actually let my feelings support my communication. I told her how I felt. “Your email really hurt me and is preventing me progress in the organization. “ she had a hard time and said she needed to get back to me. I hope it goes well. I feel good and strong and confident. This is my soul speaking.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před rokem +3

      Good for you, Mosdefinitelyable.

    • @dominiquedoeslife
      @dominiquedoeslife Před měsícem

      Well…? How’d it go?

    • @Mosdefinitelyable
      @Mosdefinitelyable Před měsícem

      @@dominiquedoeslife Oh, I definitely got fired for that one. Haha! But, all in all, speaking up for myself results in bigger wins for my self-confidence. Feeling good, I moved on to other opportunities. :) Thanks for asking! Your content is still good. For me, speaking up for myself is more important that a job. Just my opinion.

    • @dominiquedoeslife
      @dominiquedoeslife Před měsícem

      @@Mosdefinitelyable Oh no! I’m so sorry.

    • @dominiquedoeslife
      @dominiquedoeslife Před měsícem +1

      @@Mosdefinitelyable I agree though. Speaking up for yourself matters.

  • @deborahmartin6835
    @deborahmartin6835 Před 3 lety +1

    Lol! I found you 5 days ago. This is my favorite video so far. Lol

  • @missdeep6260
    @missdeep6260 Před 3 lety +9

    The background is bothering my eyes lol the pattern looks like it’s moving .. i love ur content

  • @sunflower-bp6np
    @sunflower-bp6np Před 3 lety +1

    I've done it with a co worker ... it actually work... but now that I've seen your video I'll do it conciously

  • @marilynl2545
    @marilynl2545 Před 4 lety +10

    Fair is an annual event in some states featuring farm animals....one of my moms sayings....

  • @spd2978
    @spd2978 Před 4 lety

    Dan, wishing you a speedy recovery.

  • @princessrosy403
    @princessrosy403 Před 10 měsíci

    You’re amazing!!!! Glad I found you!!!!!😢😂😮😊😊🎉🎉❤

  • @princessrosy403
    @princessrosy403 Před 10 měsíci

    Oh my gosh.. your just amazing!!!!!!😮😮😮😅😅😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @SKW-12
    @SKW-12 Před 4 lety +5

    Brilliant. Elegant. Empowering, Full of integrity. Thank you! I especially appreciate your underlying thread of loving expression. I hope you are with people who love you, too ^u^

  • @vexstar151
    @vexstar151 Před 2 lety +1

    BEST, REAL Advice for the workplace that I've ever learned! I only wish I could be that straight forward AND assertive tho... especially w/ The Boss! But thank you for this! Hopefully in time, I'll learn to mix a mild amount of assertiveness into my constant people-pleasing manner (aka, constant sugar coating)!!🤞🏻🤞🏻 P.S. Such a delight to find your channel 💝☺️💝

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 2 lety +3

      Karen--not "A Karen" (thankfully) Please keep trying, poco a poco--to be assertive and straightforward. It's OK to be a people-pleaser, but not at the expense of your own needs. And I'm happy we found each other :)(

    • @gbrieannful
      @gbrieannful Před 2 lety

      @@TheWizardOfWords you’re the first person I’ve heard say it’s okay to be a people pleaser. I always that was a negative trait. Interesting 🤔

  • @meeganhargrave5899
    @meeganhargrave5899 Před rokem +3

    What do you do if you politely stand up for yourself to a passive aggressive boss, and tell her how you feel about a certain situation, but she then turns it around on you and plays the victim? I politely stood up for myself because she acted out of line and was very disrespectful to me, and in turn she got offended and said, "No one speaks to me that way!" I was very polite and said phrases like, "I feel like", and was in no way disrespectful to her. Yet, she got very defensive. She also at times will say one thing one day, and then redact that statement a few days later. Can't ever stick to one plan, and is constantly changing things from one day to the next. It's very frustrating. I want to have a good relationship with her, but when she gets in these passive aggressive, high all mighty moods it makes it very difficult to deal with. I also understand that she is in the authority to act high and all mighty since she is my boss, but at the same time she should respect her employees at all times, and they should be able to communicate their feelings or concerns without the backlash in return.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před rokem +2

      Meegan, I can't answer that question without having been there because tone and posture are a very real part of the message you delivered. And some people, even when you perfectly deliver a message, will become defensive. All you can do is your best, and then decide whether or not you can live with this person's erratic behavior.

  • @ogonebasiamang2163
    @ogonebasiamang2163 Před 10 měsíci

    I can’t imagine myself taking a walk with my boss 😅, you have taught me so much, I have become a better communicator and I am pleasantly surprised 🥳 thank you for your videos I have even shared with my friends because they are essential

  • @uknowitliberty6373
    @uknowitliberty6373 Před 4 lety +1

    #Truth.Be.Told.

  • @advocateagainstantisemitism

    I think I love you lol. And I'm pretty sure you'll never see this comment anyway, but I had a major issue with my boss last week, and I'm expecting a show down in front of my colleagues tomorrow as is her habit to embarrass me. I am TAKING NOTES. I already feel less anxious. Thank you so much for your videos. Love, from your new favorite fan !!!!

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +1

      Oh I saw it. I try to read and answer these comments as time allows. Be sure and give me an update from your meeting with your boss.

    • @advocateagainstantisemitism
      @advocateagainstantisemitism Před 2 lety

      @@TheWizardOfWords well......here we are 9 months later and I have a new job. 😂 I'm also back to watching your videos and taking careful notes for my flashcard collection. So that what happened at the last job never happens to me again.

  • @dawnmarshall1290
    @dawnmarshall1290 Před 7 měsíci

    That is sooo funny! I've once hada boss that kept calling me by my official name instead of the one on my name tag! Lol! It was on purpose and I was too timid to correct her. Listen to Dan! I regret not standing up to her. Thanks Dan!

  • @MayorgasHotWheelsWorkshop

    love this videoo on the GGGGGsSpot!!!

  • @stephaniefrost8508
    @stephaniefrost8508 Před 4 lety +14

    I have a question that I’m sure many others have. My supervisor has been singling me out for a year because I called her out on behavior that was directly lowering my teams performance and upsetting everybody. What this supervisor will do is make sure she didn’t do anything wrong, but rather one of the team members will have the blame on them. Usually, this is a result of there being some kind of invisible rule that she hasn’t told one or all of us. What can I do to maintain my image to everyone else or get her to stop doing this?

    • @stephaniefrost8508
      @stephaniefrost8508 Před 3 lety +1

      Just Moi That’s what ended up happening. Lol
      Great explanation 😁

    • @sugarfalls1
      @sugarfalls1 Před 3 lety +3

      I'm sorry to say this, but narcissists don't think they do or have done anything wrong. I've never thought a supervisor would bend over backwards to change their behavior. If she's singling you out, then you'll have to wait until it blows over. And don't bring up anything again about how she treats you. If she demeans your teams performance, that's a reflection on her and you can just show them to rise above it. I'm sorry but I don't think there's anything you can do since you pointed out what she's doing. I'd like to know if you changed jobs since then or if things have gotten better.

    • @DarthTwilight
      @DarthTwilight Před 2 lety +1

      Get everyone to tell you how she does it, then find the common thread. People like that are wolves, and they often go for the one that they think is weakest, and by that I mean in job, personality type, something that reflects their insecurities, etc. Find the pattern? You find the way to fix it with everyone on board. Gather information, but learn to do it subtly. Steer the conversation from at least two others, then, just let them talk, and you'll find out if this person is gonna tell you anything useful. If they look like they're shocked, just say, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have asked." This will prompt either a verbal and or non-verbal cue. Assuming you know how to read people, this will give you at least four different options if you use yes or no questions when you finally get them talking about it with open-ended questions. No matter what, be sincere.

  • @myang651943
    @myang651943 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I've tried these with employees and it works but doesn't work for a boss or a supervisor. They think they are always right and they do no wrong. Even as a manager to manager they have taken it the wrong way.

  • @shaylajwashington8139
    @shaylajwashington8139 Před 2 lety

    Good day, Dan.

  • @SKW-12
    @SKW-12 Před 4 lety

    My team are very focused on framing anything with positive words. But we notice that something can be fine when spoken, yet can seem presumptuous or passive aggressive if expressed via email.
    For example, when speaking:
    "Would you mind helping me with ...?" The collaborative answer is "no", implying "I don't mind - but it seems counter-intuitive to say "no" when agreeing to do engage in something. INSTEAD we ask simply, "Would you help me with ...?" to which one can answer, "Yes" - and this feels like a better response that moves both parties forward.
    However, in writing, the simpler version seems too abrupt.
    Do you have any videos/tips on adapting best phrases depending on the delivery format (spoken vs. written)? Or, perhaps there's a different way altogether of posing such a question.
    Thanks, Dan. 🙏

  • @daisyhuntsmen8022
    @daisyhuntsmen8022 Před 2 lety +2

    I’m smarter than I thought. I did this and used a lot of the language here before I even found this channel. My boss on the last hour of the last day of training went off on me because I worked for 4 days 3 years ago by a hired contractor in the same field. I answered her line of questioning, and she literally said, omg forget it, it like pulling teeth with you. Then circled around again picking off more information, and rewording her questions. I answered and she said It not ok, and said my name in such discuss that it could not be taken any other way but as upset. So that co tinted for 20 minutes in front of 5 other people in training class. I reported to my Temp Agency what happened. 2 days went by and the response was, oh she was just questioning something, it’s ok report to work on Monday @7:45. Um no it’s clearly not ok. I feel attacked, do you think I don’t know what an attack is?

  • @user-rf5pb7cx6z
    @user-rf5pb7cx6z Před 3 lety

    I wish I wish I had your Gift. Thanks so much :)

  • @JustMe-qe2ki
    @JustMe-qe2ki Před 3 lety

    OMG TRIXIE 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Awesome advice

  • @april2161
    @april2161 Před 3 lety

    Will you offer any more training in the future? I just discovered you today. There were references to signing up but only for a limited time & I see nothing about it below. I am bummed about getting in late. Thank you.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +1

      Ruefus, training is my life. If you want to take a look at my upcoming course that is currently on pre-sale, as well as my VIP package and individual training courses, go to www.danoconnortraining.com/ and click the "learn more" link at the top of the page for information on my pre-sale new course, and click "shop" to see everything else. You haven't missed a thing. I'd love to welcome you to my training!
      Dan

    • @april2161
      @april2161 Před 3 lety

      Whoa. I can't believe you answered that quick. Thank you.

  • @ActionAimz
    @ActionAimz Před 2 lety

    At first I was like no way would I say that to my boss but I get it in context it totally works!

  • @Fiiii4567
    @Fiiii4567 Před 4 lety +3

    Brilliant Dan!
    Dont choose the roof top to talk though,it be awful if an accident happened 🤣

    • @katarinatibai8396
      @katarinatibai8396 Před 3 lety

      🤣🤣🤣 I had the same tought - 😆 - it would be to big temptetion for me.

    • @imalwaysme4332
      @imalwaysme4332 Před rokem

      🤣😂🤣😂🤣😅🤣😂🤣😅

  • @svingysvingy
    @svingysvingy Před 4 lety +11

    re question of saying “woman to man/Man to woman”: How about “person to person”?

  • @louisbates673
    @louisbates673 Před 4 lety +3

    I love this channel but does anyone have a boss that has the time to walk around the block with them?! Saying stuff like "I expect more from you" is a bit condescending, hats off to people who go ahead and take this approach tho!

  • @LadyBug31705
    @LadyBug31705 Před 2 lety +3

    So true! I did just that last year at work. And I that is what I have told others, " Jesus flipped tables in the temple." And He is our example to follow. Sometimes we have to flip the tables for others to take us seriously.

    • @vivianawolford6102
      @vivianawolford6102 Před rokem

      That would be an interesting way to do it. Sometimes I feel that way

  • @ruthycantfail
    @ruthycantfail Před 3 lety

    Very interesting. I started a job last month and my manager has changed my name from Ruth to Lucy! At first I was kinda like “I don’t care” (the reason for the name change being I teach foreign kids who might find it hard to pronounce Ruth), but it’s started to really piss me off, especially as she barks orders “Lucy! Do this/that”. So another manager, who may be her boss, haven’t figured out the hierarchy yet, has told me she doesn’t agree with it because the kids need to learn how to pronounce sounds that are hard for them, so going to have a chat with line manager about it this week and ask to be called my actual name! So this was very helpful 🙏

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +1

      Glad to be of help, and btw, as a former teacher, I'm going to weigh in: Your name is Ruth; that is what you should be called.

    • @ruthycantfail
      @ruthycantfail Před 3 lety

      Online Communication Skills Training Courses thanks so much for your reply Dan! I spoke to her about it today using your tips and it went well, I’m now Ruth again 😂 I also asked her to stop manhandling me which she had been doing the past couple of days, roughly grabbing my arm, so the video you did on asking people to stop touching you also came in useful! Love your work 🙌

    • @Scorpio12348
      @Scorpio12348 Před 2 lety

      Omg unbelievable

  • @Pumpkinshaker
    @Pumpkinshaker Před 4 lety +1

    Great advice, but it Wouldnt work with my boss, unfortunately.

  • @indigosungirl
    @indigosungirl Před 18 dny

    And when you’re well-seasoned you would say right there that you don’t go by that name. Then don’t answer to what is not your called name. “Why do you keep calling me Mary when I don’t go by that”

  • @judojohn11
    @judojohn11 Před 10 měsíci

    I did. Now I don't have a job. I feel like a failure. I loved my job. Is it because I let them know they couldn't schedule us to be on call without pay? They said they have to let me go because I can't remember the processes while putting jewelry together. Yet I completed everything and the customers were happy.

  • @kiyasuihito
    @kiyasuihito Před 7 měsíci

    Love this video 🎉 As a man raised by a narcissistic father and in a feminist culture who constantly bombards men to be passive and harmless and submissive, I find your content incredibly helpful. Thank you! 🎉🎉

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 7 měsíci

      You're welcome, Rudy, and please check this out. czcams.com/video/CXCUmkfMNDk/video.htmlsi=4G1MBK6LVNoUAmhm

  • @fim-kaukimoce7283
    @fim-kaukimoce7283 Před 3 lety

    Dan I really want to do this however there is a language barrier. What should I do?

  • @jasimalyousif8054
    @jasimalyousif8054 Před 4 lety

    Is there any possibility to ignore someone trying to embrass you of others?

  • @MrOMYSTARZ
    @MrOMYSTARZ Před 3 lety +1

    God said, "let there be Dan"!

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +1

      HAHAHAHA, thanks Johnnie. Don't let my mother see this. She'll call it blasphemy. :)

  • @aratsass1
    @aratsass1 Před 2 lety

    Wow

  • @holdyourhorses9842
    @holdyourhorses9842 Před 3 lety

    Mr. Dan, I've got a boss who is loud and serious at all times. He tilts his head back and looks down his nose at me when I have question. Is that a narcissist?

  • @andrestifyable
    @andrestifyable Před rokem

    I wonder if this would play out well on the long run

  • @HomemademasksNet0
    @HomemademasksNet0 Před 2 lety +3

    Very helpful and I can tell you enjoy turning the tables very much 😁
    I would like you as my lawyer whenever I am in my people pleaser mode 😄

  • @a.d.b535
    @a.d.b535 Před 7 měsíci +1

    After much abuse, I grew a backbone, looked at boss man direct in the eyes and told him to deal with me as a professional. He's backed off since.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 7 měsíci +1

      Proving that it CAN be done and you WILL be respected.

  • @Butterflyneverlands
    @Butterflyneverlands Před 3 lety

    I’d just look behind me and say, “Mary?” “Who’s Mary?” LOL

  • @marilynl2545
    @marilynl2545 Před 4 lety +1

    HI Dan hope your burns heal soon maybe some aloe Vera will quicken the wound or rx silver sulfadiazine cream

  • @johnnieblaze6144
    @johnnieblaze6144 Před 4 lety

    💯🔥🔥🔥👊🏾

  • @Dina_Darling
    @Dina_Darling Před 3 lety

    Person to person evens the playing field.

  • @arizonanative7409
    @arizonanative7409 Před měsícem

    Dan… I work 100% remotely. My boss changed toward me after the higher ups complimented me. I’m going to try your ideas.

  • @techworld-kc6lt
    @techworld-kc6lt Před 3 lety

    How about in a work place that is low paying I.e. hair salon they are unwilling or impossible to hear you or the moment you speak they talk loader with any words that make no sense in other word they don’t want to hear anything from you; also they know that the owner is short of stylish and they will not be fired

  • @joannab3887
    @joannab3887 Před 3 lety

    How do you handle an interrupter who just will not stop interrupting and does not allow you to speak at all?

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety +4

      I would eliminate that person from my circle of acquaintances. If that person were at work, I would avoid them. If I had to interact with someone like that at work, I would look at them but not speak. When they notice this and comment on it, I would ask them if they are ready to listen to what I have to say, and wait until I am finished before they respond. If they say "yes" I would speak. If they interrupt I would stop speaking and just look at them. This would become the pattern and I would not break it. The first time they interrupt, stop speaking and DO NOT SAY A WORD thereafter. Rinse and repeat daily.

  • @angelaking8580
    @angelaking8580 Před 3 měsíci

    My boss wants me to step up my goals and I asked to job shadow her position, (because i want to become a supervisor) its been 2 years and each year this is the reply" you can but its boring, send me the request again but if you dont want too, its okay"
    She is a bully and can be aggressive...what do i say!?

  • @Nnptam71
    @Nnptam71 Před 4 lety

    It worked for my kids too , lol I swear

  • @jacknjill3000
    @jacknjill3000 Před 5 měsíci

    My boss when wanting to talk, always says not now or we’re not going to talk about that now. This manager seems like he’s not aware of his incompetence and have created skills to avoid explaining or avoid the whole issue. So what should I do or say that I demand to have a talk with you?! Why do upper management and do checks or ask staff that’s under this manager on how they’re doing?

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 5 měsíci

      I would send my boss an email requesting an appointment at his earliest convenience.

  • @sherrianelliott7994
    @sherrianelliott7994 Před rokem

  • @andreaviola8675
    @andreaviola8675 Před 3 lety

    My Boss hasn't spoke to me or been into the office in almost 6 weeks. I keep him in the loop now via email but I find this completely passive aggressive behavior. Normally if/when he responds to me which is hours later its mostly something like ..Thx! . It is only him and I . I am basically on my own.

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety

      Andrea, is there any need for your boss to come to your office? Do you need his help to do your job or are you looking for socialization. Is this a change of pattern for your boss??

    • @andreaviola8675
      @andreaviola8675 Před 3 lety

      @@TheWizardOfWords It is a change of pattern for him. There are certain things I cannot do because I am not qualified. I am the only employee. We are supposed to have weekly meetings and product training ( I am studying to get certified to do what he does) he is just checked out. This is a new industry and while I am a smart cookie I don't know everything.

  • @Sizzle43
    @Sizzle43 Před 4 lety +4

    Dan. I work in an unprofessional environment have a foreman who includes the other team members in our arguments because she has them wrapped around her fake ass. I just usually don’t say anything most of the time and don’t make buddies as I just put my head down and work. Sometimes though I try to make a suggestion to my foreman and that’s when it blows up. I don’t know what to do in those situations when she is trying to get me to look like an idiot in front of her “support crew”. I have no support. My main boss tells me to just be neutral but he does not see it happening. Anyone else have any suggestions too?

    • @youparkedinmysafe-space1476
      @youparkedinmysafe-space1476 Před 3 lety

      Your best bet is too hardcore ignore everyone there. Be the most unpleasant person to be around and at the same time study the job and be better than all of them. They will crave your respect. But ignore the sirens. Eventually, you will have a couple of followers who will admire you because of how good at your job rather than a piece of silicon on your foreman backside. Develop your stamina, attention to detail, and maintain a good track record and keep them far off even when they try to buddy up with you because I promise you they will.

    • @mulan7015
      @mulan7015 Před 3 lety

      Record that shit send it to HR or HR hotline. Sue them. Just make sure to know the recording laws in your state.

    • @mela.1060
      @mela.1060 Před rokem

      @@mulan7015 you can't record at work unfortunately :( not allowed

    • @annetterich1460
      @annetterich1460 Před 7 měsíci

      @@mela.1060ha ha doesn’t stop any of my workplaces…seriously WTH?! Lawyers, anyone?!

  • @JulianeBella
    @JulianeBella Před 3 lety

    I wouldn’t recommend using the word hostile at work. At the mention of that word in some workplaces policies are in place that immediately when a supervisor hears it he/she must report it. So unless you want to escalate things be aware of internal policies before using this word.

  • @Beautifulblessings88
    @Beautifulblessings88 Před 5 měsíci

    I been at this job for awhile and I'm getting tired of my boss. She acts rude and loud she wants you to cater to her needs and she micromanage. She's been making me go to the store for her. She treats me like I'm her personal shooper and I'm not. Also when we run out of food at lunch for the students she blames us but the blame should be on her cause she tells us not to make anymore even though I ask her ahead of time to make more. She told me to tell the kids we are cooking more even though we're not she doesn't want me to tell the students we're out of entree. Also when I haven't clocked in yet she asked me to do something I tell her but i haven't clocked in yet she say she doesn't care go do what I told you. She nit picks at certain things even though she doesn't have to.

  • @fathermischief8025
    @fathermischief8025 Před 2 lety

    Dan, I find some of your lead in statements as "over used" and trigger more eye rolls and listening shutdowns. Are there better lines that are not so "clinical"? I find I am more willing to listen when I know a persons words are their own and not repeating what someone told them to say. Thoughts?

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 2 lety

      Mr. K, I am comfortable with these words because they're mine. Why not take them, adjust them at will, and make them yours? BTW, Mr. K--who is over-using these lead-in lines? Inquiring minds would like to know.

  • @healthiswealth7555
    @healthiswealth7555 Před 3 měsíci

    Can you do a video on how to deal with a narcissistic boss?

  • @davida6146
    @davida6146 Před 2 lety

    Can this work on a zoom call?

  • @jenniferkopp2923
    @jenniferkopp2923 Před 3 lety

    👍👍👍

  • @saltylavender7096
    @saltylavender7096 Před 3 měsíci

    My bosses are so awful, i couldn't possibly say those things. They take no personal responsibility 🤷‍♀️

  • @1rocknroy
    @1rocknroy Před 3 lety

    I am so grateful to be retired from the workplace. Thank GOD!

  • @liebersohn6868
    @liebersohn6868 Před 2 lety

    What would you do when your boss burries you with a lot of work 4 times than other employees,you still shine though the set up, that same boss brushes off your concerns and unethical behaviour that you are enduring the impact and said focus on your role and do not bring other people behaviour.What would you do when you are singled out and your concerns and standing up for yourself getting you to be labelled by your boss as you are being argumentative and making negative comments that are not acceptable in the company Baring in mind I am a very high achiever,my boss wanted to break me, but I shined though the odds.

  • @VesnaArtChannel
    @VesnaArtChannel Před 3 lety

    WOW Dan,,, I am listening to your videos for the first time and I have to say (pregnant blink) I love it (regular wink) ;P :) I have in an hour a to be unpleasant meeting with two of my bosses - one wasn't enough to beat me ;P I'll try to use some of your tips. I do find that my communication philosophy matches a lot what are you talking about. Lots to learn,,, Always,,, Ta

    • @TheWizardOfWords
      @TheWizardOfWords  Před 3 lety

      Vesna, how did your meeting go?? Are you still employed? :) :)

    • @VesnaArtChannel
      @VesnaArtChannel Před 3 lety

      @@TheWizardOfWords Thanks for asking Dan. Let's say it was turning tables but not as a result of that meeting. The meeting was a waste of time and nerves. I had another one with my CEO and yes I am still employed. Trying to position myself much better than before the whole situation. I did some Can you repeat that please? and pregnant blinking hahahha and it is fun to see how people react on that.