3:51 great tips for the most part. But this part is actually not true at all. Believe it or not, some people will still find a way to argue with you and ramp up the emotions even if you meet them with facts. No matter how politely you state them. It's important to remember that even if you do everything right on your end, it can still go terribly wrong.
Yes well if you are firm and believe what you say most people will respect it. Unless someone is physically trying you test you you have to let them know sometimes. This is what is true or this is what I believe, and Wtf are you going to do about it? Look them dead in the eye. Only defend yourself if need be but even the example is defending your position.
This is the best video I have come across to explain the difference between assertiveness and aggression. Thank you so much for making this video! It has helped me so much.
I like that you start by pointing out the different perspectives of how some could think they're assertive when they're aggressive and how some might think you're aggressive for being assertive.
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Very clear examples and so many good points, plus easy to understand. It’s interesting how assertive communication comes from confidence and it promotes confidence in others. Unlike aggressive communication which can lower the other persons self-esteem. Thank you for the video!
I like your speech. It's very accurate and clean. Also, the knowledge from this video is powerful. It's kind of like Carnegie and Psychology. It's really useful. Part 3 Example 1 Aggressive Boss: I can't believe you make another mistake in this presentation, If we don't get this client because of your incompetence. Employee: To destroy me will not change this situation. Now, Let's face the truth. If you are nice to me. Will it happen? If I can stay a comfortable zone I can do it more better. With your blame, the result is what you had now.
Exactly the Same behaviour presented by man is viewed as assertive and when expressed by woman is regarded aggressive. Corporate rule. Have been observing this for 20 years, at all seniority levels 🙄
Good information. However, in a work environment with high narcissism, some will react to anything that is communication very badly. Often, it comes as a covert counterattack.
We in a day when being assertive is offensive. Half the nation working at home and the rest getting a government check. Those that are left are burnt out or lazy because jobs just want a body. I'll keep trying to be assertive but aggressive might be needed sometimes.
maybe you have aggression issues already? every person on this planet can benefit from learning to regulate their own emotions. the government is forcing people to work 40+ hr weeks to only pay bills, so yes people are burnt out when their wages aren’t increasing, but costs are. think about others and their perspective first, don’t resort to aggression. work on yourself for the good of everyone, including you.
You can avoid unpleasant situation in some degree by assertive approach, but sometimes is better to give idiots the only language that they can understand truly. Also everything you've said is true, but depends on environment! For example everybody today in higher intellectual corporations know what is behind assertive complaining or remark. That shit doesn't pass easily, and it is easily interpreted as artificial communication. Nobody is stupid enough not to read hidden agenda. In that cases it is just waste of time, or sometimes it can be even contra productive, but is very good for bosses to maintain distance and not to involve in unpleasant situations, like giving someone knowledge in polite way that they are going to lose job or to give someone hard time for getting late to a meeting like you said etc. It is also the great part of passive aggressions behaviors. So fuck assertiveness, be a good and honest person at first place, and speak like it is ! But yeah, honesty, honor, truth etc., words that don't mean shit in todays society...(that is more difficult than to practice way of communication) instead lets act assertiveness
Why would you offer to work on your idea with somebody who just stole your idea ? They'll just continue to take credit for it. They stole your idea, keep away from them !!
Thanks a lot kara to give me a wonderful advice while speaking with other we no need to being offensive but with An assertive way we can convey our message to other because when we become offensive during speaking out hasnd gesture body style all is changed that is Not good .,🌹
This is soo good! 🥲 I grew up being a very timid and very vague communicator thinking being direct = aggressive. Now I just signed up for the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass and am so excited to learn a new way of being! Thanks Kara! 😄🌱#growthgoals #excited
I can relate to the communication style you grew up using. I'm so happy this video gave you some insights into direct communication. And thank you for enrolling in the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass!!!
I just found your channel today and really like what you do, I wish I had known you when I started as a leader a couple of yrs ago. I have a question for you and I put it here under the most recent video. I used to lead different teams for years but went back to the expert track a year ago. This was not a decision against leadership but for the topics I was able to work with. However, I feel as if my people & leadership skills are falling asleep because I use them less. Furthermore, I am starting to resent my management and team leader for not being good managers and leaders. With my own knowledge and experience it is more and more difficult not to be frustrated with the situation. Do you have any advise to handle this without stepping over the line? Thank you!
some how i get a feelng that the first examples are passive aggressive and not assertive. like "your late 3 times do you have an explanation.. " what about i see you being late 3 times, i feel concerned, because i need order, are you willing to come on time? but otherwise great
To Dear coach Please I Apologizing my well trainer karanina and her coach , I 'll not make that mistakes again I want say please please both of you excuse me again With your student Daahir cabdi Guleed
Your examples are extremly poor, your first one was not agressive, it was abusive, your second example was not assertive" I notice there is another mistake in your presentation,..."? That is agressive, only you put a smile on your face.
3:51 great tips for the most part. But this part is actually not true at all. Believe it or not, some people will still find a way to argue with you and ramp up the emotions even if you meet them with facts. No matter how politely you state them. It's important to remember that even if you do everything right on your end, it can still go terribly wrong.
Yes well if you are firm and believe what you say most people will respect it. Unless someone is physically trying you test you you have to let them know sometimes. This is what is true or this is what I believe, and Wtf are you going to do about it? Look them dead in the eye. Only defend yourself if need be but even the example is defending your position.
Absolutely haha most people are experts gaslighters
This is the best video I have come across to explain the difference between assertiveness and aggression. Thank you so much for making this video! It has helped me so much.
You're so welcome!
I like that you start by pointing out the different perspectives of how some could think they're assertive when they're aggressive and how some might think you're aggressive for being assertive.
I'm glad this resonated with you.
So glad I'm not an aggressive communicator. I do not attack nor transfer hostility at all. I'm confident. I'm self assured.
I really love that Kara gives examples which is absolutely helpful. That’s why I always binge watch her videos ❤
Thank you so much!
Oh you would be surprise at the amount of people that will deny the truth
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Very clear examples and so many good points, plus easy to understand. It’s interesting how assertive communication comes from confidence and it promotes confidence in others. Unlike aggressive communication which can lower the other persons self-esteem. Thank you for the video!
Great point about aggressive communication! Thanks for watching!
I like your speech. It's very accurate and clean. Also, the knowledge from this video is powerful.
It's kind of like Carnegie and Psychology.
It's really useful.
Part 3 Example 1
Aggressive
Boss: I can't believe you make another mistake in this presentation, If we don't get this client because of your incompetence.
Employee: To destroy me will not change this situation. Now, Let's face the truth. If you are nice to me. Will it happen? If I can stay a comfortable zone I can do it more better. With your blame, the result is what you had now.
1- Use facts not emotions 3:18
2- Be specific not vague 4:11
3- Be curious not parochial 5:06
4- Be confident not dominating 6:02
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Exactly the Same behaviour presented by man is viewed as assertive and when expressed by woman is regarded aggressive. Corporate rule. Have been observing this for 20 years, at all seniority levels 🙄
I think you will find that it has now been reversed. Many toxic aggressive women today are lauded as "strong women".
Good information. However, in a work environment with high narcissism, some will react to anything that is communication very badly. Often, it comes as a covert counterattack.
I agree. To a narcissist, any kind of disagreeing is combative to them. Whether family or work
Thank you, so explicit and interesting.
❤Thank youuuu.. kindly make on making such videos . Your videos are excellent and helping me understand my communication pattern and improve it
I'm so glad to hear that. Thank you!
We in a day when being assertive is offensive. Half the nation working at home and the rest getting a government check. Those that are left are burnt out or lazy because jobs just want a body. I'll keep trying to be assertive but aggressive might be needed sometimes.
Aggression is necessary….with our leaders
maybe you have aggression issues already? every person on this planet can benefit from learning to regulate their own emotions. the government is forcing people to work 40+ hr weeks to only pay bills, so yes people are burnt out when their wages aren’t increasing, but costs are. think about others and their perspective first, don’t resort to aggression. work on yourself for the good of everyone, including you.
Great tips . Definitely believe it will help me
I’ve been searching for videos like this for a while, thank you so much
I'm really impressed with your helpful tips you are amazing 👏
Thank you so much!
Fantastic insight! Greetings from Ratimira, Zagreb, Croatia!
Thank yoU!
You can avoid unpleasant situation in some degree by assertive approach, but sometimes is better to give idiots the only language that they can understand truly. Also everything you've said is true, but depends on environment! For example everybody today in higher intellectual corporations know what is behind assertive complaining or remark. That shit doesn't pass easily, and it is easily interpreted as artificial communication. Nobody is stupid enough not to read hidden agenda. In that cases it is just waste of time, or sometimes it can be even contra productive, but is very good for bosses to maintain distance and not to involve in unpleasant situations, like giving someone knowledge in polite way that they are going to lose job or to give someone hard time for getting late to a meeting like you said etc. It is also the great part of passive aggressions behaviors. So fuck assertiveness, be a good and honest person at first place, and speak like it is ! But yeah, honesty, honor, truth etc., words that don't mean shit in todays society...(that is more difficult than to practice way of communication) instead lets act assertiveness
Why would you offer to work on your idea with somebody who just stole your idea ? They'll just continue to take credit for it. They stole your idea, keep away from them !!
Very powerful lesson! Thanks Kara.
Thanks Kara, I liked the examples. It was useful 👌🏻
Aa, aggressive comes from negative feeling in short and then assertive comes from the positive outlook
Spot on!
Heck, this can work for kids too.
It sounds like an invitation to make them invent an excuse which if they had, would of said proactively .
Thanks a lot kara to give me a wonderful advice while speaking with other we no need to being offensive but with An assertive way we can convey our message to other because when we become offensive during speaking out hasnd gesture body style all is changed that is Not good .,🌹
thanks for improv. my skills
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My pleasure!
I'll try to put it on my agenda.
This. This video. This is it.
Great Tips thanks for sharing ❤🙂💐
This is soo good! 🥲 I grew up being a very timid and very vague communicator thinking being direct = aggressive. Now I just signed up for the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass and am so excited to learn a new way of being! Thanks Kara! 😄🌱#growthgoals #excited
I can relate to the communication style you grew up using. I'm so happy this video gave you some insights into direct communication. And thank you for enrolling in the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass!!!
So useful. Thanks
i really wanted to know some examples regarding stating the facts tip like what do u mean exactly cuz i couldn't understand it well
Great video, thanks very much for sharing ❤
Thanks for watching!
It’s really a valuable for me
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Thanks thanks thanks...
You are amazing, great video
thank you 🙂
Actually my attitude of communication change with peoples behair
Hi it was really great video you made! And also it is really interesting video course. are you interesting to do translate to Japanese and sale this?
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You're awesome. ❤❤❤
Great
Most people suck !!!
That's people !
You know people suck !
I'll keep trying though
Stay out the way !
Thank you.
Feelings don't think.
I like it
I just found your channel today and really like what you do, I wish I had known you when I started as a leader a couple of yrs ago.
I have a question for you and I put it here under the most recent video.
I used to lead different teams for years but went back to the expert track a year ago. This was not a decision against leadership but for the topics I was able to work with. However, I feel as if my people & leadership skills are falling asleep because I use them less. Furthermore, I am starting to resent my management and team leader for not being good managers and leaders. With my own knowledge and experience it is more and more difficult not to be frustrated with the situation. Do you have any advise to handle this without stepping over the line? Thank you!
Any updates?
Liked the video but some of the suggestions came across as passive aggressive in my opinion.
some how i get a feelng that the first examples are passive aggressive and not assertive. like "your late 3 times do you have an explanation.. "
what about i see you being late 3 times, i feel concerned, because i need order, are you willing to come on time?
but otherwise great
🎉
Huh Most humans lie when you try to be sincere, and "understanding"... There has to be a faster way.
To
Dear coach
Please I Apologizing my well trainer karanina and her coach , I 'll not make that mistakes again
I want say please please both of you excuse me again
With your student
Daahir cabdi Guleed
Your examples are extremly poor, your first one was not agressive, it was abusive, your second example was not assertive" I notice there is another mistake in your presentation,..."? That is agressive, only you put a smile on your face.
This is stupid