Why You Struggle to ARTICULATE Your THOUGHTS Clearly. 5 TRUTHS!
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- Do you struggle to articulate your thoughts clearly? When you speak, do you get your thoughts muddled and your thoughts come out in a jumbled way? Do you find that your thoughts are clear in your mind, but when you go to speak, they're not clear anymore?!
Being able to articulate your thoughts clearly doesn't come naturally to many people. In fact, most people are unable to articulate their thoughts well. Sometimes it's because you're trying too hard. Other times it's because you haven't put enough thought into what you want to say before you start to speak.
There are a number of reasons as to why you can't articulate your thoughts clearly. In this video, I share 7 of the most common reasons as to why you struggle to articulate your thoughts clearly.
Timestamps:
00:00 Why you can't articulate your thoughts clearly
00:37 Do you speak too fast?
01:49 Do you communicate too much?
03:14 Do you understand the question?
04:38 Do you focus on sounding intelligent?
05:38 Do you use variety in your vocabulary?
07:18 Do you have anxiety? (Fight or flight)
09:50 Do you use this 3-step formula?
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My biggest annoyance is that I always realize what I should have said and how easy it would have been, but never on the spot, only after the conversation has already taken place. That I'm always best at articulating my thoughts when I'm alone and not under any pressure, but I guess that is due to anxiousness.
But thank you for the video! Thinking on the spot is something I'm trying to work on, and you gave some good advice!
That’s a telltale sign that you need to take a bit longer to think through what you would like to say. I have the same issue. I’m an impulsive person; taking moments to think and process is the antidote ☺️
I feel you. It's hard always thinking that I'd get judged. Even after being given the chance to speak in a group, I'd overthink what I told them. It's madness sometimes, but yeah really taking the moment before speaking and consequently speaking slowly is what I'm trying to improve on. Sometimes I want to speak fast because I don't want to lose the idea, only to confuse others, and just hope someone catches it and repeats it to me because even I have no idea what I said lol
I feel you too! When I am away from the event or conversation all the vocabulary comes back in full force. This life!!!
Same
Don’t worry about it. You’ll improve with time when you stop caring.
Anxiety would just shut my brain down during normal meetings where I had to brief. If the stakes were very high, adrenaline would help overcome. Day to day stuff, I’d get so nervous I’d lose track of my thoughts mid sentence.
Same with my problem. Been struggling of this since childhood. Is there a cure?
Same and it’s getting worse when i’m stressed
This just happened to me at an interview for a job I so desperately want but because I forgot what I was trying to say like 3 or 4 times I may have blew it. It was for a store manager position, I have years of experience in management and in this field. I feel like because this happened towards the end of an almost hour interview I bunked it.
@@superkikaymom6910 There's no easy cure. You need emotional behavioral therapy to help you learn how to calm your anxiety and focus on your objective, which is communicating your idea.
People who don't seem to have the problem you do have learned to effectively do this at some point in their lives.
Honestly - invest in yourself and talk to someone about how you feel. There are solutions out there.
Some people are good at talking, some people are good at listening and asking. Both styles can guide a conversation toward their destination. This is what I've learned.
You're right but one must know both of the things. What say mate?
What do u do when the talker is a bad listener?
There’s a whole other conversation going through my head while I’m also trying to talk….
Omg you’re spot on 😂 I can relate unfortunately lol
Turns out my inarticulation was early onset dementia at 35. One of the key clues is when common advice like this video doesn't apply to you and specifically my inability to retain anything I was told or read no matter how many times I tried to learn it. That and recurrent brain fog. I'm literally losing my mind until I don't recognize who I am anymore. I learned some people just have undiagnosed autism or language disorders. If you struggle despite advice, consider your brain's health.
Yikes sorry to hear that?❤ What are things that you do that have been helping you feel more like yourself?
@@user-th1qn6uo3k That's not quite true. You can still articulate full paragraphs for SOME concepts. Like, how hard is it explaining what dementia means? Take myself as example. People often praise me for being well articulated when I explain simple concepts like how to think about finances and stuff, because thanks to my autism I have an natural instinct to explain everything in a very overly detailed manner. For simple concepts i seem articulate because I explain vague things with overly detailed metaphores, painting a clear picture to the listener. However, as a programmer, it means I literally can't explain how my code works in a summorized manner. Lets say a code base has 10000 lines of code. How do I explain this code to someone who doesn't understand code? It would be like trying to explain to a five year old how to paint an exact copy of Mona Lisa without showing the picture, but because it would take days to communicate every pixel of the image and a five year old has like, 30 seconds or less in attention span, the end result is a stick figure that merely resembles a human but is nowhere near similar to the original painting.
My mom has dementia I really hope whoever wrote this comment does not have dementia at this young age. Dementia and Alzheimer’s disease is a terrible disease and strips people of their personality and cognitive functions, it’s not a disease to take lightly and I won’t even wish it on my worst enemy.
@@irenemasek9138 I believe she is telling the truth because I can write a complete paragraph, but not most of the time.
My tip who has been through some of it you might want to take a look at clemastine which is a common allergy medicin that research has shown can help, also omega 3 and 9 has also helped. Not magic cure but can help. ( Background MS that has commonalities ( plaques) with Dementia ( alzheimers) and Parkinson. Big hug if wanted.
To me, my inability to articulate my thoughts stems from my anxiety. I am socially awkward, when I am talking and when I notice that they're not really interested in my thoughts, I simply dismiss myself before they dismiss me coz it hurts whenever it happens to me. Due to that, I am unable to fully express what I have in mind. Now, I have developed a habit to only answer the question/s being asked and nothing more. Because of this, people think I'm snobbish but that is the furthest from the truth. I like having conversations with people but my problem is my social anxiety and my inability to articulate my thoughts that wouldn't bore the person I'm talking to. I can articulate properly and I can maintain a conversation with the people who I consider are close to me. It's completely different when I'm talking to strangers, colleagues, or people I know but seldom talk to.
I can relate to this 100%
1. jump to fast
2. Your trying to communicate a lot at once
3. You don't understand the question
4. You try to sound more intelligent
5. You use the same vocabulary
The problem with taking time to think about what you want to say, is that if an idea suddenly comes while someone else is talking you don't want to be thinking about what you want to say because you might miss a vital piece of information from the person talking.
Yup!
Write it down! I had the same problem but now I just write it down and it helps 😊
so mid conversation you pull out a notebook, put your idea down all the while listening to the other person?
@@Freaky0Nina yea, and by the time the thought is scribbled, you forget the rest of what's said lol
@@AjeebAurat its the same as reciting in ur head what ur going to say while someone is speaking. Ur not giving them full attention so that's rude and ur just focused on what u wanna say and miss what was said. The conversation is happening u currently u can't be writing things down..thats even ruder my god
Reading and deep breathing are the ones that work best for me. Also having a constant internal dialog this way you can practice articulation with yourself, sometimes I like to imagine I'm explaining my ideas to other people and this helps a lot too
I have social anxiety. Sometimes I struggle just to speak. So that's one reason for me.
Weirdly, I’ve found that I’ve developed a stutter as I’ve grown older (30s currently). I think it’s because I’ve got a traffic jam of information from brain to mouth. The second tip is really helpful. Stop. Pick what you want to get across. Make a plan to get there. Then speak slowly.
Same. And it is kind of distressing because I am often noticing people in lower-skilled places being much better in verbal communication. It probably indeed is the constant information overload that has taken its toll on linguistic parts of the brain.
Is English your first language?
@@ericsohn5084 yes, but It didn’t happen to me until I became fluent in another language.
@@nathanharmon8971 What language possibly can that be? I'm bilingual and these languages are dramatically opposite. so it fks me up sometimes
Same issue, I thought i was broken. English is my fourth language btw, i have no issue whatsoever in speaking it, but as soon as i start with my native language, i can’t make sense of what I’m saying
For me overthinking blocks my existence. Knowing too much and not enough is the death and life of me.
Totally hear you, I can relate
#4 is one of my biggest pet peeves. I actually ended up working with a whole bunch of people who would only converse using industry jargon, and obviously tried so hard to sound intelligent and very educated. All that resulted in them discussing the same subject, same idea, for like an hour (and I did time that!).
Were they social science types such as psychs, counsellors, social workers?
Pompous pontificators proudly prostelytizing patronizing passages precipitously upon paltry, prudent peasants. Preposterous!
That is also a HUGE pet peeve for me also. People can be so pretentious - it comes from personal insecurity.
Jargon used judiciously and occasionally as a shortcut to certain concepts (the entire purpose of jargon) is fine. But when it’s used excessively, it bespeaks arrogance and pretentiousness. The speaker is not trying to actually communicate to be understood, but just to inflate his/her own ego.
😂
This drove me nuts back in school 😭
8am global team meetings where we all give updates of all of the projects we’re working on - I now write down all of my notes, which makes it much easier to be articulate! I’ve begun doing this EOD Friday, so I’m ready to go Monday AM. 😄
Love that!
@@kararonin thank you!
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How did it go ?
A very common and sometimes serious problem in communication is people not having thought exactly what they want to say before they start to speak. So - think more before you speak, write down the precise words, or at least the outline, before you start talking
By the time I would put my pen to paper, meeting would be over.
I've always struggled with this. When I was younger I unfortunately was always around very assertive people who spoke up at every opportunity. You sort of just learn to fade away into the background and listen to how well they articulate and think....If only I could communicate like that. Now CZcams just shadowbans everything I say anyway. Great video!!!
Well, you are already half way just by avoiding those assertive people. I am usually good at explaining things but as soon as you meet these bessewissers that talk over you because they think they know better, then I have a special way of communicating with them. One tip is the way you word things. I usually let these assertive people speak their A4 page, memorizing some of the claims they make, build a question on top of that, and then ask such people "Okay, lets say for the sake of the argument that . Then how come ", then he will spit out another A4 page of bullshit and you will just listen and repeat the same algorithm, until he either freaks out, become silent or starts agreeing with you. That trick works well for me because it means you can ignore 90% of what the person is saying, keeping only a few sentences in your head, and you will have plenty of time forming a counter argument while they speak into a brick wall.
I found with menopause, it's gotten noticeably worse too, getting my thoughts out if my head as words out my mouth. 😊
Same here
My mom gave me a book by, don't laugh, Suzanne Somers, when I was peri-menopausal. I got a lot of good information and confirmation from it about health (including brain fog).
Agree. Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than you speak and remove all doubt. Ben Franklin.
You have just described me perfectly. I usually get stuck when the precise word I want just does not come to me. Embarrassing and frustrating,
I feel the same! I always thought I was the only one struggling this. It’s so frustrating and some times it makes me feel incompetent or lame. 😢
Since I'm alone the majority of the time, I don't verbalize my thoughts often. Hanging out with people is a rare and special treat for me.
I think I just recently lost a client, which would have brought my business a lot of work, because I answered the phone and tried to give them all the information on a case before I had actually put together my analysis for them. I probably tried to explain too much before I had put together concrete ideas, and sounded dumb, for lack of a better word. Good advice to slow down and focus. Kicking myself, but now I can practice this.
As a stutter I can relate to this. In the past, when I do representations infront of the class I get curious because what I'm saying and thoughts they don't make sense. I always get nervous every time talking to public because of my stutter.
Wow, this is like 100 percent my problem. Its my biggest struggle when anxious. When anxious, everything else fails with speaking clearly fo people who need well summarized talking points
Thank you so much. this video relates to me. Lately I have been thinking something is wrong with me because I struggle to put my thoughts together and communicate effectively but after watching this I now know that nothing is wrong with me I just have to put in work. Thanks again
Absolutely! So many people have this issue (even me). I recommend you watch my playlist on Become More Articulate and Well Spoken to get other tips for this czcams.com/video/9NrpJSxUeFY/video.html
100% on the clarifying on the question. I never once had people think im dumb because I told them I didn't understand their question. Infact a lot of times, they are just blurting a question out without really thinking about it. It makes them think twice about the question as well.
I can be really on point when I'm in my room doing an interview with myself. 😗
Yes me too, I have a lot of conversations in my head
She nailed it, I’ll probably have to watch this more than once
Thank you so much!
I'm so grateful I stumbled upon this channel. This is something I'm working on because I want to be able to express myself clearly to connect more with my loved ones. Clear communication is key!
Reading something I've never read before is probably one of the best advice I've ever heard. I struggle to improve my vocabulary being foreign born and raised with parents with very thick accent I find myself insecure in this area. I want to grow and I hope this helps me. Thank you so much for all of your help and suggestions. You are such a great coach
Reading out loud will definitely help you with this, as well as listening to and repeating other speakers.
I will try this too. I appreciate you. Thank you.
I forgot to tell you. I watched your video yesterday and went on Amazon and bought the book right away. It arrived last night and I'm excited to get started on that. I just thought you'd like to know that.
@@sherryc2443 Fantastic Sherry! Thank you for letting me know.
Thick accent should not worry you as long as your pronunciation is good. By the way , accent brings in beauty in communication. It's not something that should heap insecurities on you.
I am one who doesn't like to address things I'm unhappy about and what I desire so u can tell my life is full of issues. Thanku for making these videos
All the above, I didn't articulate my points well for job interviews. Overloading information with repeated vocabularies, stress, anxiety to name a few. Thank you so much. Great timely advice!! Thanks for the video, feeling blessed.
Ugh it’s #6 mostly for me. But I have worked and worked tirelessly to overcome this!!! It’s a constant work in progress. I have gotten better! But I still struggle, I don’t think I will ever truly enjoy public speaking, but learning to be articulate when I am in front of people and all eyes are on me is crucial to my work!
This is why I suck at writing essays. I have trouble identifying ideas and linking them clearly in an academic way.
I love how she eloquently and respectfully advises people "hey, do yourself a favour, shut the fck up when you have no idea what the hell you're talking about"😂
Another issue that I have found is talking about important matters to impatient people. They want me to "hurry up, finish the statement". I could have only said 3 words, but they already "think" they know what I'm about to say. Then they interrupt, and try to finish the convo thinking they have the answer. When I inform them that they are incorrect, and they "actually" wait for me to finish...then they look foolish because they realize they should have just listened to get the whole message! 🙄😑
This lovely woman has just enlightened me and now my life is positively altered.
Man am I glad people like you exist ! Awesome video, thanks for the help!
So true as I reflect back on my earlier formative years in my career. And now I’m still learning! Thank u Kara!
Excellent coach. I will replay this over and over again. 😊 🙏!
This is so well summarized and helpful
I so needed this. Let me go back to reading!
Thank you for this great video, which is so relatable to me, in particular, being anxious while speaking. It's really annoying and it is the main issue that is holding me back from reaching my full potential.
It’s like you talking to my face and cut through my soul. Thank God, it’s not directly.
Hi Kara, whenever I see your video it feels you have read my mind .I feel someone has understood me..
Well, I'm watching this because I thought it was for English learners... I think these recommendations could be useful for us! Thanks, I'm gonna try to practice it in my mother tongue as well
Everything you shared is true. As someone who attends a lot of meeting, I always jump to a conversation I partially understand or made very little preparation thats why i end up not saying anything at all. Thank you so much for these wonderful tips.
I feel like 1 is my main problem, but even when I do spend time to understand and plan my thoughts, I still get something wrong. Every. time. If I had to relay info like "The dog jumped 2 meters", for some reason I'd relay the info as "2 feet". It's not dyslexia, it's literally carelessness and I don't know how to get better. Even if I study that phrase for 20 minutes, I'm still getting something wrong and I wish I knew what to do. I think because I've always had people over-correcting me (now and in the past) and I'm subconsciously very anxious and fearful to get things wrong. But I do it anyway.
Fear can cripple your thoughts and your speaking too.
I have this too. I often say the opposite of what I mean without realising. Or I just completely lose the word. Using your example I'd forget "meters", completely gone, like it never existed. I was also overcorrected a lot when I was young so I just don't feel confident in any facts that come out of my mouth.
i think you are more practical than a lot of videos I have listened to on communication. well done
Thank you! Awesome ideas!! I'm so glad to know that this is common.
I always wanted to improve my communication skills but I am struggle to articulate my thought. Your explanation is really help where should I start. Thank you for this video. I am glad I played it.
Yes got lot of value. Thank you so much!
Thank you Kara! That is so helpful to me.
I'm so glad to hear that!
This is the video I've been looking for my whole life. Straight forward and to the point. Every mentioned reason resonates. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable gamechanging information. Simply awesome. ❤
Thank you for sharing
Very useful and succinct. Thanks.
This is a great video, Kara. This is an excellent list of difficulties and practical solutions. AND, the video is clearly killing it with 24k views already (in under two weeks). Looks like you have another winner on your hands!
Thanks Alex! It's doing pretty well isn't it 🤗
Good speech.
Thank you very much.
Have a nice weekend 👍
thanks a lot! sharing too much information is my main problem. sometimes while speaking I will think of additional information that I want to share making it jumbled and confusing
Now that you're conscious of this, you'll start to naturally reduce the amount of information you share.
very helpful and thank you❤
Thank you so much! That was very helpful ....
Sounds like me : trying to communicate too much information at one time. Loved your tips , thankyou so much
This made me realize a lot. I have stage freight and I’m a very introvert person. I shiver talking to even small group, my anxiety would eat me up. I’ve been practicing myself but it seems like I said it wrong or it ain’t enough or it doesn’t make a point. I realize I am processing too much information and is trying to say it all in one go; now I know that less is more. Thank you! This is my first time seeing your video, you gained a sub. 😊
Thank you so much!
Very articulate :)
Clarifying queries also gets more info while at the same time more room to process the information to come up with multiple solution possibilities instead of just one solution whichever pops up first.
I loved the idea to read something new to add to vocabulary new words
and read, white and speak formula is also making a lot of sense.
Thank you for these ideas, it has helped me realign my thoughts on better learning patterns.
Regards
Not sure if I ever subscribed to a channel after just watching one video in the past. Great stuff!
Insightful ! 🤗
Thank you x
Very Helpful...
I clicked the video wanting to know why I struggle to articulate my thoughts. Clicked the chapters of the video. Saw the first reason after "Why you can't articulate your thoughts clearly". Now I know why 😅
I'm so glad to hear you found helpful advice early in this video!
Wow I appreciate this because I definitely need it
This is a step for me to be a better speaker that I can use in school.
I have all of the points in this video, and I should work on it.
I admit, I'm practicing #4, which is pretty weird because I want things to be understood and to have shortcuts. But in reality, it's wrong.
In contrast, I realized now that most of my comments are easily understood. Speaking out my thoughts can be hard for me because I'm an introvert(but not a confident type of person, so this explains it) and I prefer writing.
This is a fabulous video. Bravo!
This video was well made and cohesive. Thank You!
Thank you so much!
super helpful, thanks ❤
Thank you 🌺
Sometimes, I can't get the right word to explain. Lately, I'm suffering from brain drainage which make me very forgetful and mentally exhausted.
This is gem! Thank you! 👍👍👍
Thank you!
Thank you so much , I have made this mistakes for years now I understand why . My issue is I get anxiety when I’ve been asked questions now I’ve learnt a lot in this short video.
🙏 👍👍😘
This is me everyday...thank you for this video.
15 years of therapy summed up in half a minute. Easy for you to say, got to love YT.
Finally, some real advice and strategies. Thank you. Terrific video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I'm so happy i stumbled across this channel. Reading everyone's comments brings me so much comfort knowing that I'm not alone. I'm actually getting emotional because I'm a Master's student who struggles to articulate thoughts. My sentence form and structure is all over the place, and i end up sounding like such a dumbass. It's so frustrating and causes me so much anxiety and insecurity because i can't communicate exactly what i mean to. It is worse when I'm on the spot.
This Channel is exactly what I've needed. Thank you Kara! ❤
I'm so glad to be helping you Judi! You're definitely not alone. I think there are many people who can't articulate well. The first step is realising it and finding resources to help you. I'm so glad you found my channel too!
I always learn something from Kara. Thanks!
its because i have so many thoughts I forget them and so I just speak slowly to slowly remember everything I say I think also perfectionism
Totally agree, I am more articulate when I reduce the speed of my speech. But nerves make me talk faster in the moment. Its always a work in progress I guess
I just want to appreciate how elegant you look and articulate you sound. More power to you and your channel. ❤ New subscriber here. Learning from you.
i just want to tell you that you are doing a wonderful job! thank you for helping people like us.
Thank you very much!
Very informative!
@6:50, I like that idea of reading something new every day on different topics. Like an article. For me, I'll choose topics I am interested in. Thank you! Subscribed!
Reading enriches mind,
provides content;
improves vocabulary.
#readmorebooks
Thank you very much. This is my biggest problem.
Great video 💯💪
Thank you so much Kara! I think this video was made for me.
Thank you so much! I'm glad it was helpful for you!
This is a great video. I think I talk way too fast and jump in without thinking about what to say. I've learned that Its like writing an article. You have the main idea then sub topics and headings and you fill in the rest but you have to always think before you speak.
Thank you!
1:46 intro for an idea
Really helpful
This video is actually profound. I immediately subscribed to your channel and would check out your videos after my meeting today.
I noticed that when I finish talking, most people don't understand me, and I there may not be opportunity to clarify.
Thanks for watching! I'd recommend asking throughout your speech if the other person if following you. Eg "Are you following what I'm saying?" Or "Do you know what I mean?".
@@kararonin I will be sure to do this. Starting from my meeting this afternoon. Thanks Kara.
Thanks for these tips. It really helped me being that I've been trying to improve my communication skill.
Your videos are well made and helpful.
Thank you!
Great advice 👍
I must admit, this is becoming my favourite CZcams channel. Another excellent piece of content.
Thank you so much Bruno!
Wow really helpful! Especially for ones like me communicating with different languages than the native one!
I'm an engineer so I don't have these problems but my biggest problem is that I'm on a continuous engineer mission, and sometimes I don't start at the beginning and I'll go off on a tangent. I have an internal dialog, and sometimes I forget that other people aren't at that stage of knowledge. You have to start off at the beginning by saying what words you're going to use and what exactly it is you're talking about.
Yes, that's very important. And check in with them to see if they're following what you're saying too.
Kara, this t-shirt suits you so well! May I ask what brand it is from?