When The Narcissist Loses Control Over You
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Some people want and need for everyone to be as empty and miserable as themselves.
Yes, and those “some people” should be showing their faces. It would be good for your wife. Don’t talk about her.
I didn’t have a bad childhood , I had a great childhood , I never realized their was people like this existed ,, I can’t believe people are like this , but they do , oh how they do
Tell me about it. I read it in books, but experiencing it is an entire life changing process. They will shock your entire system.
I feel the same way! When Jesus showed me that narcissist exist, I was so hurt and annoyed! I have always had a lot of compassion for people who were spiritually poor BUT when I started to come across narcissist I had to pray hard because I was TOO DISGUSTED with them to be as compassionate as I usually am! At first it made me feel like a bad Christian until I learned otherwise! I had never felt like this about anyone else no matter how bad they are EXCEPT NARCISSIST! They're spirits and behavior are just that horrible!
My childhood was like yours ..... Thought there really something wrong with me. I had never experienced a narcissist in my life. If I did I guess my radar was up without knowing it. I am fine after 2 years of having no contact. Hang in there people.
Good days ahead
Meet my husband.
I am pretty sure he is infected by a demon, if not the devil himself.
God pulled the wool off my eyes.
I totally agree. I never knew either he hacked my phone, took my job away from me.
The narcissist experience can brew in your mind endlessly IF YOU LET IT.
That's what is happening to me now!! I've lost a lot of sleep 😢😮
Always remember that you are dealing with a young child, between about 4 and 8 years old, in an adult's body.
I believe it's more a 6 month old to a 2 year old who is able to speak in an adult body. From my experience dealing with these people I believe the self love is formed at very young age in development from there the emotional growth is diverted to the monster society is left to deal with it as the person grows.... The baby who was left to cry and not picked up over and over and over again
My child is 7. NEVERRRRRR has behaved in such way
When they say " your tge worst person" its a projection. They are jealous envious of you. You have things they don't have. Envy, entitlement- they should have these traits or material possesions. They showed you your triggers and you have more emotional intellect than they will ever have. If you have a talent they devalue it. We need to protect ourselves and do the work. You learn to see the manipulations. Its painful but your growing learning. Watch them move the goal post and deflect. They love if they can irritate you.
I do believe there was a reason why this person entered our lives.
Believe me it was an agonizing lesson to learn.
Yeah I agree, maybe he was in my life to teach me to be stronger and not to give myself up and give up everything for one person. To not be so trusting and giving? To not be so naive and to be brave enough to protect myself and walk away if I have a gut feeling that something isnt right.
Thanks Anoushka I found myself crying at the end of your video because i still can't believe I've gone through this where they are extremely nice in the beginning.... only to disappoint me when they show their true colours! 😊😢💖😇💫⭐⚖️✌️☮️💞☯️💞🙏.
I had an alcoholic father that died from it when I was a kid and was abandoned by my mom for two years. My narc ex trauma bonded with me over this as she was an adoptee. First few months amazing. Last few months destroyed me. I’m so thankful I found you and dr Armani because you’ve helped me realize this person was u like anyone id ever experienced before. So happy I can finally be at peace with everything she did to me. It wasn’t my fault.
I think it’s quite simple and I agree that they target anyone irrelevant of their background when they realise you are transparent.
Once we initially witness that Jekyll and Hyde behaviour , when nothing seemingly has an significance as to why. It’s at that initial point that it seems so incredulous to us that we are completely gobsmacked , totally confused and try to fathom out where this inconceivable behaviour came from.
As we spend further time with them they then seem to be on a level again, agreeable and pleasant.
This now seems so uplifting , the good connection is back , then suddenly they disengage into some malignant energy again .
The whole process initially is subtle , over more time the predictable behaviour comes into play far more frequently .
It’s surreal, and seems unbelievably crazy, whilst toying brutally on a far more regular basis with your emotions .
It truly is a carousel of insidious behaviour at the highest level , for no apparent reason .
They need to use you at their own convenience there is no other reason. These toxic people are complete users!
When they tell you they don’t care, please believe them because that’s the only truth they will ever give you.
Sent from Manchester UK
Great comment, describes my wasted 30years with him.
I believe this is the best post I've came across and I've seen thousands. Like she said I did nothing to deserve the treatment. I'm not co dependent like everyone else says. Listen to this lady. She's telling u the facts.
I have 2 very good friends who had horrible things happen to them they didn't turn out like these idiots. They know exactly what there doing
Yeah they do. I didn’t think about it till the relationship was over and she pretty much admitted that she wanted to “burn a hole in my heart” and the relationship ended horribly. Once I took some time to myself and reflect on the relationship is when I found out everything they did was premeditated. To the slightest argument to driving off somewhere mad, to “giving” me gifts or things I liked, everything was a lie and only for them to gain something. Nothing was from the heart or spontaneous.
I was brought up without a mother in a loving humble family..when the marriage was fixed, the love bombing phase was phenomenal, my MIL woild treat me so nicely, and after the marriage, extreme abuse, manipulation, silent treatment, neglect, isolation from my friends and parents, a roller coaster ride started.. Never ever knew about Narcissism until my Narcissistic MIL died.. I could connect the dots now and wonder how i survived the relationship for 27 years with her.. God was always with me guiding me through instincts and gut feelings..
Anoushka, Thank you. What you do is So Important. I really Can't thank you enough. Narcs have Literally Destroyed Me and My Whole Life. But, I am not Dead Yet. I will rebuild My Life.
I NEEDED to be reminded of this. I thought I was healing and moving on, then he tried to come back yet again two months ago and I didn’t respond, but now for some reason I’m thinking of him constantly and secretly missing him. I’m afraid I’m going to manifest him back. Trying to remind myself all the crap and lies he put me through and his constant lying and games. Trying to remember all the lessons I’ve learned and the pain I’ve endured. He’s nothing but toxicity, lies and manipulation. Why TF am I thinking about him so much again? I thought I’d moved on and was healing.
Didn't knock my self esteem, I only thought that he was mentally ill and insecure.
Say it! They are indeed not as brilliant as they pretend to be
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
The narcissist never had control. I was with one, in marriage, and when he became abusive, I didn't tolerate it.
I don't get how this video is about when the narcissist loses control of you. When you learn the lesson that you are empathetic, compassionate, full of life and they drain your spirit because of karma connection, when does the narcissist leave you alone? I've gray rocked him for years. He doesn't even talk to me. He goes to my daughter to talk. He shuts her bedroom door so I can't hear. If I come into the room, he whispers like everything is some big secret. I walk away. Who cares? It's all a lie coming from him.
Yes. No One Warned Us! My life, or what is left of it, after The Narc, would have been a normal, love filled, Good life, if only I Knew What To Call It! It's too late for me, but I am Not Giving Up on Myself.
Your deep dive in this video focusing on the victims of toxic personalities & how they possibly ended up being victimized may be one of your most powerful, insightful glimpses into the rationale for innocent people falling into the sway of predator personalities. Speaking to the possibility of a spiritual karmic influence could help add a layer of understanding, yet, one must be careful when treading on such grounds because bad things happen to good people. So, karma serving as a universal justice sends the message that whatever happened is deserved. That’s tricky ground. But I digress.
As you may probably know as I’ve commented on your platform more than a couple times that I don’t always agree with your thoughts. Though, I gotta tell you, this one resonated to my heart & soul. Thank you for sharing your keen insights & passion to an extremely emotional, sensitive & important matter of narcissistic abuse
I think an empathetic person is put in a narcissistic life for punishment , they will never beat an empathetic person , and they will always look for the empath in everyone and never find it , my X will not to be able to see a Boat without thinking of me , I made her coffee ever day I was with her , all the simple things in life , she will see me , but me , I miss the person that I thought she was , but I don’t see nothing she did for me ,, but one thing is for sure ,, if yu get sick , or in my case , a very bad sickness that requires radiation ,, they will ghost your tail in a Newyork minute ,, that’s what mine did ,, anyway ..
So sorry to hear that. Yes, they can’t stand it when you are sick. They will suck you dry like a leech. I met one, never knew they actually existed, but they really do. They are so sad.
Sending you my love❤ from Greece
although I don't know you
(I know what you mean, same here)
But what did the empathetic person do to deserve such punishment as to be stuck with the narcissist. I mean, the empathetic person will receive most of the punishment. But what did they do wrong? And of course, in your case and mine, when we get seriously sick, the narcissist discards us. We spend our lives trying to help them, we get abused, we get sick from it and then, they leave for the next empathetic person they can find. The only one that really seems to get punished is they empath. And for what? For being kind?
@@rogerwhoareyou God has a plan , in the military the saying is. Service before self ,, we don’t have the answers , just the question ,
I made mine coffee,breakfast,tea every night,worked fulltime,kids,stayed super fit,told her i loved her and beautiful everyday,chopped wood in negative temps for her,paid every bill and bought her everything and travel last 9 years..she left me 6 months ago for a rich family,fighting for my kids..shes gonna lose..sorry to hear about your situation..hope it gets better.
This is exactly on point🥰
Thank you so much, Anoushka!
This is a very eye opening video. Explains a lot about ourselves and why. Thank you.
❤❤thank you for your great videos thier very helpful and your very pretty
Thank you❤
Thanks Anoushka.
I share with you.
I read the book I received as a gift.
Interesting read afew days ago.
Hi!
I am Andreia and in my case was a trauma Based relation(i believe in karma ,too)my parents ,both traumatised(Narc father..pasive agresive mum)…their marriage was a hell and yes I attract ,I entered a similar dynamic…
There are No coincidences
You are amazing to explain 🌼🌼🌷🌷🌸🌸🏵🏵
And alot of the terms about narcissist she used in expressions and saying about us, karmic, we mirror each other, soul ties, twins, flames, eternal husband etc etc. Lots of odd terms used early on over the top.
I’ve known all along there’s nothing wrong with me so after the cruelest discard what do I do with all the anger and bitterness?
Same here
I feel you
I think they should be locked in a room with no phone just there ridiculous thoughts in their head😮
They would die without supply. They isolate the target and we get stronger and more particular about who we give our time to.
Amazing suggestion !😂
I have given her everything. Yet I was firm and didn't dance to anything simply..she still left I mean after being so happy..but your videos are helping me put two and two together ❤
I vetted my husband for 2 YEARS before I agreed to marry him. That is an frightening amount of control to hold your mask for years. Things didn’t change until after we had our first child, well into the 4th year of our “relationship “. Who could have seen that one coming?
I like your videos. Do you accept constructive criticism?
Please refrain from taking 2 full minutes to promote your lives and another 4 min at end to push your programs. Just state a 10 second intro about ur lives and point to the info below. Your repeat listeners are your base and we suffer through the sales every single video and that is not necessary or kind. Thank you for your consideration.
Narc 😂
@@Eire32 the truth is not the definition of a narc. Sorry. Projection much?
@@thereallisa1I agree she never comes on without a sales pitch never
Jeg forstår det udmærket og er enig med dig om det du siger. Ha en vidunderlig aften Anouska 🙂
I went no contact
I also read that if you have narcissistic parents you can become a narcissistic person yourself and I don’t want to be narcissistic.
Really needed to hear this. Honestly never been so confused in my life, but thank god for Anoushka
This is so true I have been with 1 n wonder why she was put in2 my life I didn't see the reg flag after 2 months ago n she texts me showing me quotes about what's going on in her life like everything was so perfect so it went down hill wasn't expecting this from her, but life is 2 short 2 try 2 make sense of all that happened
My mother was worst narcissist then I was surrounded my whole life
How do you know these things ? this is what happened to me 3 yrs 😢 ty.
There are predators clear and simply. Imagine if we had all ended up with nice caring partners we wouldn’t be here now. We’d all still be in happy healthy relationships. Sure I saw some red flags in the beginning. It all seems that it was too good to be true. Kind caring people are easy marks for these sick soul sucking monsters. The last five years. Including post divorce were so horrific I developed cluster headaches, pre-diabetes, and a heart arrhythmia. Never again will I ever be so caring and trusting of someone I really don’t know. She was white trash through and through with no morals. She would lie, cheat, and steal, to get what she wanted once I was used up and discarded. It’s a terrible way to
Learn a life lesson but a valuable lesson indeed. Never in my life did I think another human being could be so evil. I wish you all the best on your journey of self improvement and awareness!
Gentle thought…maybe we could turn the into music down a smidge? 😮
(…EarPods…)
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Ditto
I'm so angry I can't help it
That is start of second stage ,, 3 more stages to go .. normal at this point .
If I had to guess, less then 3 months in .
Me too, ❤
Do you offer 1/2 seasons?? Id like to talk with you before going into my divorce trial… ?? Its April 8th. Is this possible? Im pro-se.. last leg of the divorce..
Possible? My daughter had a stroke in the middle of the night while at University a couple years ago.
Anoushka was the first person in my contact list to reach me.
I would suggest reaching out to Anoushka over her website. The direct link is found within the description box above.
Again, on any given day Anoushka can receive literally hundreds of notifications over all of her social media pages. Hundreds.
Avoid all that--contact her directly through her website. That is the most efficient way.
Good luck to you. Be well.
Anoushka, with all of this hurt you are feeling? I think the problem I have with some women? I’m not naming names. But if I take this on. If I really listen? I would try and be a vessel at this point. This pain and suffering is not due to me. You are talking through me to the person who caused this. And there was a cause, it’s not something unspecific floating around in the air that no-one can deal with. So please, read that. My pain, my suffering as if it were you? Is not about you. There is no other way I can put it. It is the best way for us to get stuff of our chest without it blowing up in our face. But why Anoushka? Why on earth would you start to personalize this? You don’t get enough attention? You can’t hang in there when things start to get close? It’s your job to take the blame for some reason? Man, I got to get out of here. I must just break off for a while. My tears and anger are not meant for you. Jesus, would you kindly please stop that. It’s the right way to do this, guaranteed.
What you feel like doesn’t matter, where is the videos on just fact of the matters with these people. We all know what they are like if you have dealt with a narcissist. They can do no wrong, they can cheat on you and it’s because you cheat “so they say” but you actually never did
You toob will not let me talk to you. I am going to take them to court.
My girlfriend of 3 years has been physically abusive and mentally abusive. We just welcomed a beautiful baby and just 2 months into our new found family my girlfriend hit me while I was holding my daughter because I left a bottle of her breast milk out on accident. She promised she will never do it again, but I’ve Hurd this many times. Now I’m wondering if I should make a police report or will the abuse stop because we have a newborn or will it continue knowing we have a newborn. Can a narcissist change once having a child? I’m asking because I don’t want my daughter not to have a mother and I’m so confused on what to do. Thank you
No they never chance they get worse trust me they will abuse Child too and you more and more 😢
@@ferdaspring82 😞Thank you, everyone I’ve talked to has said the same. I don’t know why I’m looking for more confirmation, I guess I’m hoping it’s not true, but with the knowledge I have been given from these videos and loved one I’ve decided to follow through with police report. Thank you
You are not saying anything.
Question: I just had a banana smoothie because I’m trying get healthier when I play squash. And straight after I put everything in the smoothie. My mum goes and says I feel like having a banana aswell and then my dad says oh so you put 2 bananas in your smoothie.
I am 99 percent sure I have narcissistic parents.
But I last question is feeling like I have to work for every little bit of freedom or control when I’m at home mean that I have narcissistic parents?
I have played squash only 6 times and i am 18 and I have to book the courts on my parents phone.
I don’t even know anything about my bank details or anything that involves my money.
My goal is to become the best squash player in the world and be able to move out of my parents house. I have been training for 80 minutes per time I go there but I know i should be doing more.
I’m so lucky they even gave me the opportunity to play squash in the first place.
Squash is the only way I can make money my way.
They took the computer away as soon as school finished.
However if I do make it fully out of this and out of Mum parents house I will be the most unstable comedic professional for not just squash but multiple sports because i also have adhd so I can be still in an office.