5 Reasons Why I Date Foreigners // How To Date Japanese Women
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- Do Japanese want to date foreigners? Here are 5 reasons why I date foreigners.
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00:00 Intro
01:22 Direct communication
03:20 Visible affection
04:58 Less expectations for appearance
06:22 Respect an honesty
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I speak Japanese pretty good, I have a job offer in Japan and I want to know is trying to date in Japan just not worth trying as a foreigner. It’s in Kyoto and I know there are not many western people outside Tokyo.. I am moving and if the job works out wall I might live there for years. I’m a widow and I’m 32 and have a 14 year old son. How will I be viewed because of that. I don’t want my son to feel like more of an outsider than what he will be anyway.
@@jonathanhughes8679, Kyoto is on the the outskirts of Tokyo. Your basically in Tokyo. I think it will be good and that they will not look down on you. It would be a great experience for your son as well. You just have to be open to new experiences and foods, as well as your son. I enjoyed my time in Japan. My fiancé lives in Tokyo and from my experience the Japanese are very cool. Very polite and respectful. No matter what we will always be foreigners, but from what I see the younger generation are much more open. I think you would like it.
A rather informative discussionary topic thank you for investing your time and energy into creating this rather than for just the dynamic just people in general just need to know this kind of thing if they ever want to have a particular relationship with a Japanese girl. Hope everyone has a nice time.
I am a bit late to this discussion but here are my opinions anyway. .........
Number 5 is the most important! If each partner treats the other with respect and honesty all of the other 4 items on your list fall into place. Honesty promotes harmony. Respect for you as an individual allows you (not me!) to dress anyway that you like. You as an individual are not a puppet or a mannequin for anyone (including me!) to try and control any of your actions or feelings. Honesty and respect also does not imply that you must try to guess what my feelings are. If I am not happy with anything I should not be upset with you, and if I am upset with something you did then it should be discussed with mutual respect and honesty.
I regret to say that it really doesn't matter what nationality anyone is these types of issues exist. Many unhappy relationships could be resolved with honesty and respect of each other. I hope that you find someone who honors, and respects you for who you are. Your partner should be your best friend and you should always communicate with them no matter what the issues are.
I'm Canadian and married to a Japanese man. He starts sweating when I try to hold his hand in public and we have been married over 20 years!
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Hahahaha, I don’t even know why this made me laugh. I can somewhat relate to this but I never had a girlfriend.
Isn't very hard for you?
@@luispavon1371 I'm used to it!
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA
Thats interesting that Japanese men expect you to "Read the air". In the US, it is women that expect this.
In the west not just USA... Underrated comment!
Kiostkao?
Makes me wonder how a date with a Western woman and a Japanese man might go.
Say it louder for the folks in the BACK!
Not just the US. I'm from middle Europe and it's the same here
As an Asian guy I thought I was gonna get bothered by this video but then I realized your problems with Japanese guys are actually pretty similar to my problems with western girls
Western women are complicated at times which is why I married a Ukrainian woman.
I live in Texas all I can say is are wemon here come with standard bipolar disorder
It's a normal thing
@@THEGRIMREAPER-sq6ed Hahahaha! Run for the hills!
Western girls are wanting mind readers. It's easy if you think with your heart, have good intuition, and can spiritual feel the vibrations in the air. If not, good luck lol.
@@THEGRIMREAPER-sq6ed bro, my thoughts exactly! Haha I'm from Dallas
Gf looks to be in a bad mood.
Me: what’s the matter, honey
Gf: nothing, can’t you read the air?
Me: of course I can, it’s currently 17mil/h wind speed, 70% humidity....
Don't forget temperature and air density.
You forgot wind direction
I think that read the air thing also apply to other asian countries,may be their partner want more attention or something because the longer relationship,the less curiosity about their partner
Also with an upcoming thunderstorm
_Pulls up weather app on phone_
It's kinda funny that many non Japanese guys get offended even though I literally said I prefer them over my people lol
Mostlikely these guys are beta soyboys :)
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Really Asagi? That seems weird. Well I guess you never can tell about this sometimes. 'You can please some of the people sometimes.But you can't please all the people all of the time' , or something like that.
oh boy the leftist, the ones who see racism in everything. Watch out these assholes are insane, best way to deal with them is to ignore them and never ever apologise or back down they won't leave you alone if you do
its the r/niceguys
no wonder japan is "ahead" of everyone, they've figured out telepathic communication
Actually they are 100years behind
I’m certain ways you could say something like that, but Japan does a lot of things better than some western countries including America(the work expectations could use a change though, a bit concerned for people’s well being)
with 50% accuracy rate
For an advanced nation they still too superstitious.
@@ljose007 very true indeed
In any relationship I think it's toxic to except the other person to read your mind, give one word or curt answers, and/or give the silent treatment. I prefer the direct method - which you can still be kind with. I am a Canadian and my husband is a "western" man and he fits this description. I need physical affection. Pouring tea is not the same as a hug. I also need words of affirmation. I hope that with the knowledge of other cultures that people in any culture question why they do things the way that they do. Much of it is influenced by the society around them.
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You hope japanese become more like Canadians?
Do you question why this is your preference and why it is not universal?
I'm Canadian and prefer the Japanese way. My wife (Japanese) and I have been married for 30 years and have 5 kids, all who are healthy, happy individuals. The "reading the air" aspect of our relationship hasn't hampered our romantic or social lives one iota. Neither of us lacks in confidence, either in ourselves or in each other's affection for one another.
Pretty much anyone giving you their opinion on something is going to give you a one sided opinion. Whilst what she is saying is true, that Japanese people are on the whole like this compared to Americans, you could probably say the same about many other countries compared to Americans. You are most likely imagining everything she has said from the frame of reference of your own normals, which isn't really fair to Japanese people. Japanese people grow up in this society and have normalised to it. A lot of Japanese people would feel uncomfortable if you hugged them, that doesn't make them somehow worse than western people. In fact in Japanese culture it's not really about pouring a cup of tea or whatever, it's about being aware of what other people are thinking and feeling, in many ways Japanese people can be much more caring than western people. I don't think that was your intention, but that is the implication.
Also, as a Brit I take offence to the idea of pouring a cup of tea not being the same as a hug, a cuppa cures anything, well known fact you know ;) .
I will never understand how someone dropping hints or expecting the SO to "read the air" is a healthy way to think in a relationship.
If both partners have the same expectation why is it unhealthy? You're supposed to put effort into understanding your partner, not waiting for a blow-up.
@@rsmith02 It's unfair because it is forcing the significant other to do mental gymnastics to understand the partner.
Besides, a lot of times people will interpret the wrong message when trying to read the air because they aren't super-genius mind readers.
@@rsmith02 it's called communicating like adults. It is immature to expect something while saying nothing.
Oops. I'm losing subscribers 🙄
Why? That's crazy!
And also you getting new ones :D Circle of life
lol oi.
To the patriarchal comment, both things described are patriarchal, just in a different way. Masculinity is not always bad. Good video
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I think "reading the air" is probably the biggest challenge for American guys who are looking to date traditional Japanese women. I remember my ex-gf being frustrated that I never picked up on her hints when she was upset about something. I think discussing communication styles are very important in international relationships.
Communication, discussing things in the open two way format works. I would think much better than 'reading the air', or mindreading techniques. What am I thinking now? I bet no one has a clue! And justifiably so. We are people not sorcerers or magical beings that know all by peering into ones mind. Ha ha! Communication breakdown & so does relationship, or anything for that matter.
Yeah maybe it works perfectly when they are both Japanese who are good at reading the air. But in interracial relationships that most likely won't go well 😕
Americans girls are the same way. If you don't pick up on their hints they get pissed off.
@@cornheadahh Yeah, and I missed that course in school !
@@cornheadahh All the girls are like that.. My wife when she was 17 years, though that I can read her mind, I was going crazy, CRAZY on why she was reacting that way or the other. With time, we discussed that we should tell each other what we truly think, coz nobody reads minds in our family.
Thank you for your self reflective commentary. It is refreshing.
Imagine not being able to read minds.
Literal vacuum brains.
Date a Mexican and you will never be able to imagine that again.
Is so simple to say what you feel
Another reason to visit Japan, acquiring a useful skill
probably thinking about his instagram girlfriends
2:08 this is actually every girl I've dated so far, as soon as you hear "whatever" or "do what you want" you know you're screwed
Naah mang they just want you to take the reins and to have a plan though up before you ask.
yup that's the clue ! Something is definitely wrong when you here the words.
a woman losing interest in you is a pretty painful experience, especially if you've been with them for a length of time, kind of amusing that when women leave you they expect you to be sympathetic to their reasons for why they don't love you anymore, but when you break up with them instead they call you a piece of shit, you must of cheated on her, how could you simply not love them anymore, they never talk to you again and then hook up before breaking up with some random guy after a week just to feel better about themselves and not feel insecure, double standards really are one of nature's good ones, an evolutionary punchline, this is whole thing is just hypothetical
I am so fed up with that type of behavior, that even if i notice, i would pretend i didn't. And if she gets angry, i would normally say sarcastically: "Oh my, looks like you are upset. I hadn't seen it coming". Or... i merely leave her alone and ditch her immediately in the process. Normally, you notice that pretty early, so it is better to do that in the beginning rather than after suffering it for months. Because it will never end.
Too much freedom is not wise
That "read the air" thing is not just a part of Japanese culture. It is a pattern that can be found in most people anywhere, dealing with some sort of childhood trauma. A person needs their boundaries to be respected but lacks self-confidence to advertise boundaries effectively before crossed. Then after unknown boundaries are crossed, because of the frustration from the lack of authenticity, it quickly escalates to anger and feeling disregarded by the partner, even if it was all in fact about the disregard for self. It is a result of being treated like you don't matter from a very young age. So, yeah, it is cultural, but it is also a natural human behavior resulting from certain circumstances. In the west, we are going to therapy to get over this urge and it is considered toxic and immature in relationships.
Your comment is wildly underappreciated, and is valuable outside of this relative niche - Thanks for taking the time to type it.
Western women are like this in general, trauma or not
eight reasons why japanese people doestn't make good friends at all:
firstly, they make no effort to speak other languages and anyway when we try to speak Japanese, they make fun of our accents and they don't forgive bad pronunciations
Second, they refuse to show their feelings, even if we are polite, kind and respectful. just because they refuse to put us in their friendship circle for some reason (actually it's only when they're drunk, scandalous)
third, they love to criticize others behind their backs. they judge you without knowing you, they don't give us a chance. they don't tell about our mistakes, how can we improve.
fourth, they feel a horrible need to have many partners for selfish reasons.
Fifth, they treat foreigners like walking dictionaries/wallets
sixth, even though they have many cultural flaws and assume bad things about foreigners, they still fear being criticized by them for some reason, while we do it for a good reason.
Seventh, they easily judge our appearance while it's not our fault we are built like that "buuuuh taller or older foreigners = bad people"
eigth , they refuse to meet people online. and they refuse to invite people into their homes
I love Japan, for what it has naturally, but I don't understand why its people are so well regarded around the world. don't bother me with annoying comments like "nyeeeeeh there are people like them all over the world"
Every single person has a type they find attractive for one reason or the other. This could be status, wealth, physical appearance, or just something you can’t explain. No one should ever have to explain their preference.
However, I am an American living in Japan and I married a wonderful Japanese woman. She never thought she would date or much less marry a foreigner, but we just hit it off and after two years we got married, now for 5 years. Still to this day she finds it difficult to show PDA in public, even hand holding, but she is getting better.
Agree. I married a Thai Girl 10 years ago and she didn't like any PDA at all, until she realized that was normal ( we have been living in Australia ). Now she is OK with Holding Hands and Hugging in Public, but Kissing is just too much for her. I'm from South America ( Venezuela ) and over there when you are in a relationship with a girl is really physical in public. I like my Thai Girl so much, that I have accomodate my manners to her culture.
"when your parents are cheating on you" i knew mom was lying about not getting me the new game system. 😂😂
That was a horrible mistake 😂
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@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan either way... it depend on how old are you... when you get older and you still act like teenager.. most people would just either walk around or waiting for you to left their messange app...
I hate when that happens.
Guys, its her accent. She is struggling to say partners; not parents.
I dated a Chinese girl who I had to "read the air" for and that was pretty frustrating. I'm great at reading the air, but the worst part was that I'd really have to sit down with her and ask her what was wrong. It would take a long time for her to tell me. It was just exhausting, and partially why I broke up with her!
Yeah it's for the best. She probably also find you pushy.
@@roselylez The double standard... if I didn't ask her what was wrong people think I don't care about her, but when I ask her what's wrong, I'm pushy. Some people just want it all, don't they?
Either way, what you said isn't true. She definitely appreciated it, she just had a hard time expressing how she felt due to how she'd been treated by her parents as a child. It was no fault of her own.
@@roselylez "Pushy", for eastern asians even breathing heavily is too pushy. You can't be politely confrontational about anything without being too "pushy".
I highly prefer openly straightforward honest answers even when harsh than passive-aggressive manipulative silence. I love many things about East Asia but surely not this mentality.
@@jackieyo6128 don't get me wrong I totally understand that. I'm just saying when you can't adapt this mentality then of course it's gonna be more challenging for you to date the asian girl you liked. It's never a right or wrong thing! The different cultures are just as important as yours(or as mine). 😀
@@totallyfake2852I'm glad that you're talking nice about her and I believe that!! it's just two different concepts of "what people think" and "what you want to do".... Why do how other people think would over how she thinks? Treat her as how she wanted to be treated, not as how others telling you. - that's the tip I gave to my boyfriend lol
This is the first time i watch your videos - it was a very interesting experience. Thank you for sharing with us
This was much better than I had expected from the title. Nice work. Seems very sincere and kept it simple. From the heart ...
In america we have a few sayings like "read the air" One is "read the room" a related one is 'read the mood". They basically mean the same thing.
Sense the tone
Every video i come back to asagi always looks more and more professional, and thanks to her channel growing
Thank you for talking about your experiences. Hearing you talk about dating and how you view Japanese social norms is very interesting and informative! I've found a lot of videos talking about Japanese culture seem to really focus on generalities, which paints a picture that really lacks nuance, so I really appreciated your video.
This is soo interesting and insightful to watch! Thank you
"Being affectionate is a good thing about relationships" - completely agree :) Very interesting vid, arigatou!
Unfortunately, it is lacking in many relationships nowadays because everyone thinks they are kings and queens.
I think men everywhere can be guilty of taking one for granted.
Women too.
@Mina M Not a lot of hope when women talk about the "guyS" that they've dateD. Baggage.
@Mina M Want to hang out some time?
Girls do as well. It's more of a narcissistic and ego thing, which unfortunately is common in the west among both guys and girls.
@Mina M Honestly, there is no problem with having multiple relationships. Its very unlikely that you find the right person from the start. Also I doubt any even halfway decent man cares about how many previous relationships you had or if you are a virgin...
I would say if they care, they clearly aren't in love with you anyway.
Very interesting video. Thanks a lot for having shared your opinion.
It's fun to date someone who is nothing like you and learn all about their culture, different life experience, how they view the world, etc.
in other word... you not going sexy time.... boring.. what are you preteen... when you start dating it not the same with just had a friend to talk to...
Yeah but you can't spend yojr life with someone who'll never really understand you
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You totally can so long as your patient & truly care about someone. If you can’t find yourself loving someone of a different culture, religion, view of the world, etc, don’t date those people. It’s that simple.
@@shawnsedor2157 It's not about love after a point, it's about understanding their jokes, their culture, vibing with their relatives, agreeing on how to bring up your child, etc. When sexuality isn't such a big part of your life, although you love them, you want someone you can talk to, who will understand exactly where you're coming from.
If you have very close friends who can satisfy that need, great.
@@thorrex True true. I would relate more to same race person and have more fun.
It’s not just you, my wife is Dominican and says a lot of the same things. It’s just different cultures and there is nothing wrong with preferring a certain behavior pattern over another.
It doesn’t mean one culture is better over the other it just means you personally are attracted to one type over the other... which is fine.
I told my wife 30 years ago "If you catch yourself thinking 'I should do this' stop, ask yourself 'is this something I want to do and is it the right thing or is this just something I feel pressured to do.' If it's the latter, let it go and don't do it. Be responsible, but be yourself."
The 5 things you have said here sound like my (personal) ideas of how a healthy relationship starts and stays healthy.
Very cool!
To the people who find this offensive, I only have 4 words for ya, "if the shoe fits"
You made some interesting points there which made me self-reflect about how I think. Like when you explained how Japanese men expect you to read their feelings. I realised I do the same with my wife (I'm British by the way). So it's interesting how I have certain asian qualities 😆
I think that if you have a good western guy that doesn't have severe psychological or emotional flaws then yeah he will have the qualities you described: honesty, respect, and wants you to be independent. But there are many people who have dependency issues, who abuse their partners and who can just fall out of love and treat their partners badly. Remember that in the US the divorce rate is ridiculous (you often hear that it's as high as 50% of marriages end in divorce).
Also the western guys you have dated Asagi are biased towards the Japanese. They have a natural love for Japan and its people, so of course not only are they happy when they are dating you, but they will treat you well in general. But perhaps if you lived in the States, you would find that your experience is mixed, you will find both good and bad.
50 percent of marriages end in divorce ol because people aren’t afraid to get out of a bad relationship yeah and the rates used to be generally lower because they were afraid to leave an abusive relationship and yes I agree
I don't know how they made their top list, but imo western countries are the best/worst when it comes to cheating mancavin.com/galleries/cheating/
Divorce rate is likely higher due to lower birth rates as well. People are less likely to divorce if they have kids because humans likely subconsciously know that raising a child without both biological parents is a HUGE hindrance to that child. Just one contributing factor.
really super, loved this!!!
Thank you for your honesty, Asagi! This video was very insightful
Love it! The explanation you gave concerning the patriarchal architecture is similar to my culture. Latinos call it being "Macho" or having "Machismo behavior."
People need affection and displaying that to one another, is important. Also, being respectful and having the ability to express concerns to your partner is paramount. Best of luck on your journey.
Some of these things make Japanese guys sound like western women.
I live here. Most Japanese men are WAY too feminine. Common peeves:
They won’t approach
They expect the woman to make the first move
“Why can’t she see I’m a decent man/good catch”
They tend to overly avoid confrontation
@@wyattlavigne well neither gender should be forced to "make the first move"
if you like someone and your both single go for it.
scent of real power
So true, i thought the exact same thing
they should become femboys
Great vid. Makes a lot of sense. Stick to what works for you, not everyone else❣👍🏼
lovely video, had so much fun watching it! :D
Asagi...Thanks for the discussion. We Americans do let out what we are thinking. Sometimes it gets to be too much. Not every thought or feeling needs to be spoken, written or tweeted. Some of the best words are those not spoken. However, I would find it frustrating not being able to show affection. Which is nonverbal communication!
Asagi, you have the right to choose your relationship. Lovely and open to sharing ideas, you can communicate with more people. Traditional conversation in Japan depends so much on restraint, subtle cues and direction by indirection. Yes, those of us raised in the West express ourselves more directly. Asagi, you look lovely just the way you are. 😍
Your english is really good! Very clear and no filler words....awesome! Great analysis!!
Makes a lot of sense! Thanks for sharing your experience and take on the Japanese culture regarding relationships.
This was so insightful. Before I met my current boyfriend (he's German and we're both grew up and live in Germany) I was really interested in dating Asian guys but I was very hesitant because of those very intense cultural differences in relationships. Only ever saw one Chinese guy for a "fun" date and it was the weirdest experience ever but also eye-opening that people from all over the world are so incredibly different.
There's a similar expression to "read the air" in English. It's "read the room."
I agree with you, reading the air is so difficult. I love to be direct and to talk about different things with respect.
This was great!
I admired how you expressed this preference of you and that you were willing to look out of your culture for your happiness.
I case you don’t understand translate this -Admiro la forma en que expresas tus preferencias y que fuiste capas de salir de tu cultura para encontrar tu felicidad.
This was classic! I was stationed in Japan for five years (Army captain) and it was so hard coordinating with the JGSDF (Japanese Ground Self Defense Force) through our Japanese interpreter. He would never directly ask what we wanted. My fellow captain stationed in my unit was fluent in Japanese. He shortened the 3 day planning conference to 1 day! It was great!
I'm not a subscriber..keep up the great work!
Great video, great insight
Nice vid, really interesting parallels between our cultures.
Asagi-san, you articulated well some of the more positive attributes that Western people hold dear. Your video is a good compliment to some of Yuta's interviews on the street. Also, your end card where you are striking a dance pose without makeup is very appealing as you look very good without makeup.
Thanks. But I do have makeup both of myself lol
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Most American men can’t tell if a woman is wearing makeup unless it’s really theatrical.
Complement.
No wonder that Japanese have difficulties with relationships if they don't talk to each other... ...
It’s not only in relationships, but also at your workplace. Especially older generation…everyone expects “reading the air”. Super silly…and yet they need thousands of meetings for the sake of future meetings before anything is done. And in the end, still lot of confusion, double/triple/quadrupple checking.
Thank you for Sharing your feelings. keep up the Great work!!!
Ooof yeah, trying to mind read is the worst. I know it can be done depending on your connection with the person but it was always hard for me. Yes!! Honesty is everything in my opinion, to me, honesty is the main building block for a solid foundation in a relationship. This was very interesting to learn from your perspective. I see a lot of what you saw in Japanese men that I saw in American men. This was a great video, thank you for your perspective :)
I've lived in Japan for over 10 years, my wife is Japanese. You are so right about so many things in this video Asagi-san. My wife often expects me to read the air as well, and she is not comfortable with lots of PDA either. LOL
Very good points !!
Excellent video from videography, sound, information, communication (concise, clear, eye contact). From a relationship with a Japanese woman I concur with your conclusions. Seems (in my limited experience) that Japanese women appreciate openness and direct honest communication, as well as much affection - whether physical or verbal.
Very eloquent analysis. Congratulations.
Your analysis is very impressive and perceptive. I enjoyed it.
"Read the air" hahahaha, sounds like American women
we have the same issue in europe, girls dont told you what they really want straight and you must just guess huh
Women in general 🙂
@Barri0 _99 english is not my first language but thanks for correcting me
"Foreigners" means "white guys"
Indonesian to Japan is foreigner. Indian (india) to Japan is a foreigner. Chillian to Japan is a foreigner. So on and so forth. Chinese have a whole different set of behaviors and mindsets etc, Chinese from mainland CCP controlled China is still a foreigner when in Japan. Taiwanese, still. A foreigner. Hmong, still a foreigner. Miao, still a foreigner. Heck, see how Japanese people treated the Ainu over the years and how they treated those from Okinawa etc
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@Spanna Banna the OP is either mediterranean or latino , so it looks like you're the one obsessed with white people.
@Spanna Banna Congrats, you married a white women.
@Spanna Banna Jamaican is a nationality, not an ethnicity. There's White, Asian, and even Black Jamaicans. If you were really Jamaican you would know this.
You are so wise. Awesome video.
I really like your honesty in this video!
I really value direct communication and one of the things that I like to do is to chat with my Japanese friends openly. I'll let them know that they can ask anything and I won't be offended; that they can be completely at ease with me. Its fine for them to say no and be direct about it, instead of using phrases like "oh, that is very difficult". It helps to build trust and lasting friendships, too, not just dating.
"Reading the air", I like that. It is like the saying: "Hear what I mean, not what I say."
100% true. Thanks for your time and effort
I found this interesting, i enjoyed it
Wait, you mean in a multicultural world people are interested in what the world has to offer?
Crazy 😮
Asagi: asks Satoshi if he wants Chinese food
also Asagi: *why do I hear boss music*
She should have said Mexican food, he would have forgotten all about whatever he was upset about..
Great video. Very informative
Thanks for your perspective on this matter
What i found difficult in a relationship with a foreigner was determining if differences were due to personality or culture background. There can be a lot of fundamental differences in culture that (if you're not aware of them) can become the source of arguments. Asagi says she likes to be direct in her communication. While i think that is typicaly a western thing, i do find a lot of westerners not being that direct. So that comes down to personality, but culture does play a role in it too. Dating within your own culture already can be challenging. Let alone dating someone with an entirely different background. :)
"Read the air" is the same in English. We have the same expression. Of course, Westerners do a good deal of that as well.
Good video! I understand your thinking.
Lovely video!
I teach cross-cultural stuff at my university. Love the 'Read the Air' analogy. Thanks for sharing. Just came across you here. :) Great video.
The way you describe Japanese men in dating sounds like American women in dating here 😆
Wow, Japanese man are exactly Italian girl.
Every girl, actually lol
@@AKRex *western*
Japanese men are all girls, apparently. 😂
@@heathers7265yes lol but not necessarily, it's only because japanese women have more realistic standards lol, so...you could say that japanese women are more like western men while japanese men are more like western woman lol, strange to think about
Very interesting and honest insights.
You Have A Very Good Understanding. Respect!
Thank you very much for your insight and perspective. I am an American guy who has recently become involved in a relationship with a Japanese woman that lives in near Tokyo.. I want to understand her as much as I can and your video has helped me enormously . Thank you!
Glad it helped 😊
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan You don't date ALL non Japanese guys tho. You date only white guys. That's a big difference.
Thank you for this!
It's nice to get a different perspective and one from another culture.
Enjoyable and quite interesting👍 direct vs indirect communication
Nice video, Asahi-san!
Thanks for the love
You’re fine as wine girl. Enjoy being yourself and exploring other cultures. You don’t need to worry about all these guys getting offended. You just gained a sub because I think you’re great.
"How could I have known he was uncomfortable"
Welcome to the world of American women.
Not autistic women luckily haha. I genuinely don't know what a person wants unless they say so. "Reading the air" is such a scary concept to me bc I can barely even read facial expressions so I absolutely need people to be blunt with me. Problem is; this makes me super blunt as well.
Tldr autistic american girls > regular American girls B)
@@ripcactusify Where do I find an autistic gf?
Same though.^
Very nice video. Thank you so much
Very well said
Thank you for giving us some insight into your thinking about cross-cultural relationships and communication, Asagi. One of the things I've always liked about you is that you defy many stereotypes about Japanese people; in particular, I appreciate how open and honest you are. I hope this video goes viral because it is very, very good, in my opinion! 😎👍
I agree Asagi is very open & honest. Plus all the cultural views are really educational.
What stereotypes would that be
Asagi, thank you for sharing your experience. Can you also make another video about the opposite? Like what bothers you most when you date a foreign guy as well. Just curious about it. Thank you
Nice video. I like how you didn't hide struggling with the word "patriarchal". You tried until you got it right. I respect that you didn't hide it through editing your mistake. As I'm a new viewer of your channel, it makes me feel that you're super honest and not pretentious. You've got a new subscriber in me!
Great and Interesting video. I especially liked your comparison of honesty as a value with the value of peace and reputation. Such a shift in values makes so much of a difference, and dishonesty is one of the things which has been the hardest for me to accept in a relationship.
I once found a bird on a stair step. I almost stepped on it by accident. It looked weak with feathers ruffled, wings drooped, and hardly moving. It just sat there looking around slowly, helplessly, but unresponsive despite my big foot that could have crushed or kicked it easily. I stopped another person from almost stepping on it too. The bird needed help. No one was helping. I brought it some water and some bread crumbs. I wanted to see it be a bird and live it's bird life. I sat there alongside it, guarded it, and kept it company. The bird drank the water and ate the crumbs. After some time, it stood on its tiny feet again, took a step, then another, and then hopped. It shook itself and unruffled its feathers. Then it chirped, spread it's wings, and flew away to sing it's song once more. I was happy. I never wanted to see that bird there again... Afterwards, I celebrated and had chicken for dinner.
What the hell does this have to do with the video?
@@lMegumemesl Why the hell should you date anyone?
Wow today I learned Japanese men behave just like western women in a relationship. Thanks for the video
Nope actually Japanese women also behave that way. It's Japanese in general. They are realy vague.
lol yeah don't generalise something because you heard a random youtuber said it. It's true that the Japanese are less direct but this goes for the women as well, the Japanese women are probably even more so indirect.
You explained this very well great video.
Great insight.
So if you like display of affection, you should try Hispanic guys. ;)
Yesssirr
@Young Baller Bro, not all "foreigners" are the same
@Young Baller Sorry bro. Let me explain the situation then. I said "if you like display of affection, you should try Hispanic guys". Meaning that from those "foreigners", hispanics are quite expressive in the affection department. Then you said "Bro she said foreigners so basically everyone but not Japanese". Which makes make think you are trying to invalidate or negate what I'm trying to say. If that is not the case then I apologize. I don't understand what was the point of your comment. Cheers, have a nice day.
I honestly don't believe that we are different than the rest of the world in that department, inside doors might really be different, but outside? Like, we are not tongue kissing or gropping everyone in public
@@Hanex94 Yes, we are different. I have seen in public exactly what you are describing. Of course not to everyone, with their respective boyfriend/girlfriend
Thx for the input Asagi, I'm Asian male who adapts western dating style. I hope they can learn from this
Asagi, thank you for posting a very interesting video, and explaining some of differences between Japanese culture and non-Japanese culture. Would be interesting to know when and how you started on this journey, to arrive at how you think today. In my opinion the advice you give is excellent, hopefully would help two people to step out of their comfort zone and explore other ways to develop a relationship. Thank you for explaining the term, “Read the Air.” Now after forty years of marriage I have a name for those signals my wife gives to me every now and then.
Great video