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PAUL'S OUT HERE DEMANDING APOLOGIES NOW?!! PLEASE STOP🙄 | Reacting to "Blue Therapy" Part 5
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- čas přidán 14. 06. 2021
- Reacting to Part 5 of Blue Theory!The drama is far from over.
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I feel like the therapist being shady. “The successful man I met last week” 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I screamed 🤣🤣🤣
I don't even think she knows what shade is, but that was definitely shade honey 😂😂🤣🤣
@@SOdaa91 I was dying, like No She Didn’t!!
Bro the beginning, "had a good week" I-
i would’ve BEEN shady😂 as disrespectful he been💀😂
“Do y’all want us to do the other cou-“
“YESSSSSSSSSSSS”
#SecondCouple PUR 🤣
YES!!!!
Paul a few episodes ago: "you need to heal babe"
Paul this episode: **brings up Chioma's ex from 3 years ago before they started dating**
He is still hurt about. The thing to do is breaking up. He is not the ONE for Chioma.
This should be a case study on acute narcissism. This man is unbelievable!
Paul: We don’t need that type of energy around us
Also Paul: Being a terrible type of energy himself
He's not just bad energy..
He's an eneryvampire.
Narcisists suck the energy out of your soul until there's nothing left, if you're not careful..
@@Elketjeable Yes! It's an absolute victory for them. I feel bad for her.
They’re both wearing black may this relationship be done and over with 🙌🏾
I second that motion. 😆
It very much is
😂😂
Hopefully
i pray they are so toxic
“she’s riding for me” ....but you aren’t riding for her
That's exactly what some people want. Someone to "ride for them", but they aren't returning the loyalty
He’s not riding at all 😂
The therapist actually tried to help Paul connect that he was feeling vulnerable about the website guy because of the way their relationship started. That could have been an opportunity for resolution but Paul shut it down because he can't stand to admit feelings beyond superiority
Egotistical ppl are so dangerous to themselves and other they always need to keep up there pride
She appears to be way out of his league in so many ways that I can't wrap my head around why she's still with him. She's the one with the testosterone in the relationship.
Freaking well said!!! Paul has been the best case study! 🤣🤣
@@67DrWatson she's completely out of his league, beautiful, smart, I just don't see why she's with him. Can't believe he tried to suggest that she is fat. Ha
The therapist tried hard to not say jealousy or insecurity lol ..I cracked up cause I knew that she was going to be straight up but she used vulnerability lols
Paul literally says soo much without saying anything! He ignored every question 😭😭 #secondcouple
PLEASE REPEAT 🤣🤣🤣🤣BECAUSE IM YELLING! Sir answer the question
As soon as I hear a “Do y’all want a ______?” My immediate answer is yes, don’t even ask, I’ll literally watch anything if it’s coming from y’all 😂
Ikr! Facts!!!
Exactly! They can stop asking, we wamt every video they wanna give 😍
literally
🤣🤣🤣🤣yep me too I want it all
me as well
Did anyone else notice that the only things that Paul "did" for chioma was help with business and clearly he's not really doing that either 🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️
I was waiting to hear anything that he did romantically or as an I love you gesture but it never came..
I expected that from him honestly. He knows he doesn’t do anything for emotionally, mentally, and apparently physically. After that conversation, it should have clicked for Chioma that what he’s showing isn’t love. That’s why it’s extremely important that we find love in ourselves. Bcuz I really think she’s looking to Paul for a love that she will NEVER be able to get
Yes! And the therapist didn’t call him on it which is annoying
@@NickiBluIs yeah that's true. However, I think the therapist isn't supposed to dictate "your" (their) type of relationship because s/he is there to listen and make "you" (them) see things in a different light without interfering or without bias. The lady should have pointed it out and then the therapist could have directed the conversation after her initiating it. Don't know if that makes sense but just my two sense✌️✌️
👀 saw right through him...my goodness!!!
And she keeps saying to him that this isn't a business deal/we ain't business partners or something like that.
Tbh I don’t care if this is all fake and they’re acting or whatever it’s honestly teaaaaaa 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹 #secondcouple
Bro when Chioma said Paul gives her a headache I was like, yes sis he does he gives us all a headache. I honestly don't know how you've been dealing with it for 3 years when I can't even deal with it for 5 episodes.
And the fact that he thought that he should have gotten an apology at first. 😑😑😑😑😑
#SecondCouple
I know this is off topic, but those chairs y’all are sitting in are mad cute
I thought it was only mee 🥰
Can't wait for the finished apartment tour🥰
I can’t even watch the videos without getting mad at Paul. If y’all weren’t reacting to it I would 100% not watch this show😂 I cannot stand him
#secondcouple
Same. I tried watching it on my own and I couldn't
#2ndCouple
I'm willing to bet the web designer doesn't know a single one of Paul's ex'es.
"a lot of religions get a bad reputation because of these representatives " Preach Josh , this is facts
"that's a sad story" is my new one liner because she took me outtttt with that one
😂😂😂😂
25:44 bc that part🤣🤣
When someone shows you who they are believe them, and take off the rose colored glasses💯🕶
#secondcouple
You said it!! Although some people act like they have cement blocks on their hands. 😂
The insecurities is oozing off of him, it’s tiring.
She has such patience for his problems, I wouldn’t have lasted in that type of relationship for 6months🥴(Let alone 3)
I am HOWLING she told him “cool story bro” 🤣🤣🤣
Isi is always serving looks.. Lord blessed us with Josh and Isi. #secondcouple
Edit: Okay but did Paul say anything worthwhile in this episode. Word salads and fluff the entire time. I'm tired of him. 3 years. Gash
😂😂😂😂
@She Dhakan righttt I’ve never heard of that! **adds to list of new sayings 👀👀✍🏾📝
@@TheCRYSTALLURE also adding word salads and fluff to my list of sayings 🤣🤣
Paul doesn’t even answer the question he works his way around it and gives UNNECESSARY DETAILS ughhhhhh 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
That's just what dumb people do!
Ikr
9 traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
1.) grandiose sense of self-importance
2.) preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3.) belief they’re special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions
4.) need for excessive admiration
5.)sense of entitlement
6.) interpersonally exploitative behavior
7.) lack of empathy
8.) envy of others or a belief that others are envious of them
9.) demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes
The 4 Phases of a Narcissistic Relationship:
1.) Idealization
-This phase always occurs right at the beginning of any relationship with a narcissist, and is where they will make you feel truly special. This is where they shower you with love and adoration (love-bombing), and present themselves to be exactly who they think you want them to be…and they are typically very clever, with a sixth sense of knowing what it is you want.
2.) Devaluation
-After you’re completely drawn in, the narcissist in your life is going to start changing it up and become manipulative. It will be subtle at first, perhaps focusing first on running down your closest friends and family. They may even try to isolate you from those that are closest to you…this allows them to dig their claws in deeper, and removes a grounded sounding board for you to share your experiences, which leaves you relying on you and only you for support…divide and conquer, as they say.
Over time, the narcissist will amp up their antics to deceive, twist and distort facts, and lie to you. They will become verbally abusive and insult you, accuse you, blame you, shame you, threaten you, guilt-trip you and withhold things from you (such as money or love) while making demands from you.
3.) Discard
The narcissist is always looking for what’s in it for them. At the beginning of your relationship, it may have been the prestige of dating you, money, or even just the “chase” that excited them. Once the narcissist has sucked you dry, you are no longer providing the “supply” they need, or if you have undermined the narcissist’s sense of false self in any way, that rug you swept all those red flags under will be ripped right out from under you. You will be discarded like an old pair of holey socks and replaced with an “upgraded” model they can use to feed their ego.
4.) Hoover
One of two things may happen after you have been discarded by, or you have managed to leave a relationship with a narcissist…they may leave you alone OR they may try to hoover you back into their lives. The narcissist may leave you alone if they know that you have been deeply hurt and their actions have caused you severe emotional pain because they feel validated and special. This is also why they will very readily use your children to inflict more emotional suffering. Remember…a true narcissist lacks all empathy (even for their own children) and requires outside recognition to feel worthy.
Like I said, educate yourselves on this disorder, these people are highly dangerous, manipulative wolves in sheeps clothing. Full link: pathwaysfamilycoaching.com/4-phases-of-a-narcissistic-relationship/
Paul checks all of these boxes so well that it's hard to believe he's not acting. He's too perfect of a narcissist. It's textbook really.
Hes the perfect narcissist🤣
All True! Speaking from Experience. I am Now loving myself as deeply as I once loved him. Consistently praying for God to protect my child mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually from his toxicity. It's real, it's scary, but your power lies within.
Chioma does not need to apologize to him not even for his feelings being hurt. By Paul’s logic, she is a possession and belonged to him the moment they started to get to know each other. That’s hella toxic and controlling. She has full agency over her body and just because he’s interested in her in the beginning doesn’t make him entitled to exclusivity. Period. When they discussed that they were together or that they both agree to exclusively sleeping together, only then can he have anything to say if she was still seeing her ex. I cannot believe she still sees a future with him and proclaims that “she knows” he loves her. Like how? Denise isn’t a very good therapist. She has yet to actually call out his narcissistic tactics. Instead, she leans in and only creates boundaries when he asks about Denise’s life. I don’t like that.
I disagree. She tells him to calm down, she says to let things go, tells them to get on the same page. Gives meaning to why things are brought up or why they should see from each other's view and generally facilitates the conversation. I mean they've both mentioned things that supposedly the other hasn't said before.
Some examples are with the food and Paul talking about his depression. Then the therapist asking if the food can be cooked in a healthier way for compromise in an earlier episode. But Chioma didn't follow that through to acknowledge Paul's side on that or offer to compromise. Then when the therapist told Paul he probably felt vulnerable about the website guy because of the way their relationship started, he rejected that and didn't follow it through to actually realize the connection himself.
Doesn't look their conversation would ever get this far without a therapist. And when the therapist suggests things, they don't listen.
90% of couple's therapy is you guys actually having the conversations and uncovering the issues. It's not the couple therapist thats going to do an individual diagnosis of narcissism.
That's because Denise isn't a real therapist...👀
That’s not how therapists work
A couple therapist have to be neutral, listen but not take sides even if you see there is things to be handled, you have to put it on an easy way otherwise the other part will feel attacked and won't cooperate. They are there to make it work not break up. But if she did go to a therapist for herself alone, would be different, probably it would call out his behaviour. Make her find the difference between her feelings and his feelings. What she can work on and things he needs to work on.
@@ad2094 i get what you mean but the cooking part, it is not her job to make him healthy food she even said that he cooked before they moved in together and she told him i can live with your life style i just want us to eat traditional food 1 day a week which won't really affect his health or body shape if he works out he just couldn't understand
I feel like josh wants to rub on the Paul’s head and make a wish 😭😂😂😂 #secondcouple
Stop 😂💀
I don't think he would want to be in his presence, not even in the same area as Paul negative ass.
😂😂
chioma is like a whole new person in this episode 😭
After the last episode, staying at het sister's place for a week.....she's fed up.
27:33
Denise: ‘We can put this bit to rest now?’
Chioma: ‘Please’
Denise: ‘Paul?’
Paul: ‘Do you think it should be?’
Imma need a podcast from Josh and his boys because he consistently drops gems from the male perspective 💯 Isi you look gorgeous 😍
There is no doubt in my mind that Denice goes to therapy after dealing with Paul's nonsense. 😂😂🤦🏾♀️
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂dead
ISI YOUR HAIR IS 😍😍😍 but okay lemme focus on the video now lmao #2ndCouple
Concerning the start of the relationship: I feel like Chioma probably has been apologising but since Paul's main issue is that he doesn't listen or hear her, it doesn't matter whether she apologizes again. He's just not hearing anything she says and it's mad disrespectful...smdh
It's the way Chioma grew up before our eyes, for me. She was pancaking his foolery, this episode😁😂🤣
SiS⭐️ said, “thats a sad story...”
Y🙃🤣😂 🙃🤣😂
SiS⭐️ look was screaming, Paul, boyyy stop lying😂
Frfr Josh, I be yearning to shake da ishhh out of that boy (like Martin on Def Jam shake)
#PaulDaFluff hella Iggy & stay “pissing about”😤🤯🤬
Definitely want to see y'all reaction to the other couple, they deserve some #Qualityismz (work-er it out or sleep-er it)😉
So I wanna say something. You know how both Josh and Isi had their individual “flaws” and things they needed to work on but they had each other to hold them accountable soo Isi started apologizing and Josh is more emotionally mature. I feel like if Chioma had a better man then she’d possibly be better at communicating. I don’t know if I’m making sense but someone to hold her accountable and grow with her but with Paul there’s no real growth
Agreed. To me, that’s defined as being equally yoked. They do not balance each other out. When asked what have they done for one another lately, Chioma was able to state how she pretty much caters to Paul. He, on the other hand discussed business. As she stated before, she isn’t wood. She needs affection. He wants the dynamic and structure of a successful relationship, wife, family.. Etc. But he isn’t laying the proper foundations.
Narcs drain you and take everything and give the bare minimum my prayers for her is leaving and never looking back
It’s so funny to me because I think we all (myself included) missed out on the fact that Paul’s ex did NOT cheat. I think Paul sees women as possessions to be honest. He said his ex got with her male best friend AFTER they had broken up. She/he doesn’t owe you anything, Paul! Just like single Chioma did not owe you anything. [SIDE NOTE: Imagine if his ex left him and fell in love with her best friend like Josh and Isi’s love story 🥺 She levelled up lmao]
In every episode Paul has to mention he has high Network clients at least five times 😭🤣🤣
Which is literally LIES!!! He ain't got nothing ...
Paul says, "However" the same way that "edgy" white guy in college says, "Let me play devils advocate for a minute..."
yes 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
No because why did I get that exact feeling. That’s spot on
EXACTLY 🤣🤣🤣
Had to drop everything to see this 🤩 #secondcouple
Same Lool
paul cant love anyone but himself man. she just needs to leave him #SecondCouple
It’s not toxic masculinity, it’s narcissism!!!!
Both
On the topic of Chioma sleeping with her ex when they first met: I'm pretty sure she said she's tired of talking about it. I think he's brought it up over and over to guilt trip her. I feel like at least the first time he said it, she'd be more warm in her response, but she just sounds very tired of him bringing it up.
Its the “I’m not insecure i mean look at me” for me
A lot of these African men of ours love apologies especially when you put them in their place or call them our for something they have done. They demand for apologies. They call it disrespecting them.😂
Honestly 💯💯
TOXIC AF
It's a no for me😂
Such a racist statement.
But when Black men make a racist statement back at Black women saying they are loud, mad or angry you hate them for it?
@@candi1904 Racist? They are from the same race and community so how is that racist? Also not all Africans are black i.e. North Africans, they can relate because of similar cultural values.
Is Chioma "sick" enough to let this man goooo, that's the question. You ain't sick enough if you keep staying. 😂
I know what it is . He sees the man as competition and when people are doing something wrong they start blaming the other person first so that they won’t feel guilty .
That’s that insecurity. He should learn to love himself (something he tried to say Chioma should do🥴🙄 the nerve). He really needs to learn self love..he was insecure when he got w/ her (the weight thing). Then bam he lost weight. Attitude changed (more shitty). And now he doesn’t trust that he’s enough for Chioma. That’s also probably why he has multiple jobs that don’t add up to a lick of anything cause he’s trying to be everything & everyone.
So happy y’all dropped this while I’m making dinner! And YES y’all definitely need to look and review the #SecondCouple 🙌🏾
Same
I can’t get over how beautiful Chioma is
Paul talking bout they weren’t active for no particular reason. Dude! There was a reason.. she didn’t know you like that!! The entitlement is just nasty
The faces from Josh and Isi from Chioma's responses are absolutely priceless like I'm double dying laughing out here 🤣💙
I feel like Paul is veryy secretive and lacks trust in her
Aint that ironic when we can’t even trust him. We don’t even know what he truly does for a living. Does Pauletta even know..☠️☠️
Yeah Paul's main business is web development. He's also a certified personal fitness trainer. I guess those are the "high profile" clients he refers to.
Lmao he basically made himself look like a hustler lmao
@@ajayiayomide4401
Lol he started an IT firm a some years back and I was also told that he worked in a London IT firm with a guy one of my acquaintances knows. He also did free websites for small business owners during Covid.
Paul just doesn't know how to communicate, that's the problem. He's always dancing around questions and never goes straight to the point that's why people don't know he's actually an IT expert and a fitness coach.
@@DamiAre I thought Paul was lying about his careers. Is Paul's character really like that? I was beginning to think this show is fake
@@DamiAre if that’s what he does that why does he always exaggerate and paint some weird scenario everytime. Paul has some soul searching to do
that mmmm noise that paul makes all the time is a nigerian thing, it basically means ‘oh really?’
Thanks for that explanation….I legit thought it was just him being a lil b*^%+ baby
I knew the tea would be hot after she came back from the last eposide wearing black. I don't think she should be apologizing or sparing his feelings on this issue cuz he clearly stayed after finding out three years ago. They said it would be buried. He brought it out just to distract cuz he is getting scared of her energy.
“It glazed right over that bald scalp” THE WAY I SPAT MY WATER OUT💀🤣💀🤣
Josh and Isi making this show even more entertaining 🤣
I hope that she’s a runner and a track star 🏃♀️⭐️
as soon as paul brought up being a "nice guy" my eyes rolled to the back of my skull 🙄
Yessss. Please do Deborah and Jamel too😂. Want to see how y’all react to their situation too
Chioma needs to walk away from whatever ship they have because it has clearly sunk. Blind as bat. #secondcouple
‘You bad, you want it,’ Paul’s out here singing Wande Coal lyrics
Right? Wasn’t he claiming that to be “bush” behavior? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
My ex is a Paul. Watching this show made me realize how toxic my ex actually was. It was emotional abuse. Damn. Apparently Denise might be an actor but the couples are real couples.
Yessss do the other couple!!! #secondcouple ‼️ I never watched or heard of this show until y’all reaction vids and I’ve only been watching it when ya react so I’m interested in the other one
#secondcouple
Also Isi, your hair is 😍😍😍😍😍🔥
“I’m sorry that it hurt your feelings” is not an actual apology so Chioma didn’t need to say anything more. Anyway #secondcouple please
Why does chioma sound as though she still wants to be with this man?
Like girl, make up your mind.
The more episodes I've seen y'all react to , the more I'm starting to see how funny Paul moves
He always feels the need to go on a tangent
Never has a straight forward answer
We don't know what exactly what this guy does for a living
When ever Choma brings up a problem , he dismisses it or tries to make her feel bad
He has a comeback for everything
Never apologies
Isi is giving that 2.0 energy HARD y'all and Josh's geometry is 🔥
Paul is like Tommy from Martin. No one ever knows what he does for a living 🤣😂🤣 aka no job. Bald head and everything lol.
This is exactly what I thought of
Y'all had me rolling with these videos! Even if they are actors, this definitely sparked a lot of discussions at home. Love your take aways also.
#secondcouple please!
Ngl Paul character is rife in the traditional Nigerian community in London and it’s low key a reason why I don’t really date them unfortunately. I don’t want a provider or a Shepard I want a partner
Ohhh Paul 🤦🏾♀️ someone get this man
It’s him saying look at me I’m not insecure babyyyyyy🤣🤣🤣🤣
As a counseling student yall have me so invested in this show🤦🏾♀️😂
A lot of Paul's statements have me looking like the confused Nick Young meme.
i wonder if paul just makes things up on the spot sometimes, why would he just now be mentioning the website guy hooked up with his ex in therapy??
100% facts. He be straight lyin’!
#secondcouple they are more balanced in terms of both having issues where this is more lopsided on Paul.
If you all decide to do the second couple, DON’T watch the Aftermath before you do so; There will be no reason to review them if you watch the Aftermath first.
I'm tired of all these tangent conversations. The question was "Paul what things do you do for Chioma?" Why are we down this rabbit hole of her website??
I been waaiiitttiinngggggg on thisssss
Me tooooooo
The other couple is easier to analyze cause Paul is something different 😭
Chioma: this is so embarrassing 🙈
Therapist: there’s no need to be embarrassed
Hmm 🤔… well, there are VIDEO CAMERAS in every corner of the room!!!
Invalidation and just dumb.
The mmm thing is 100% a Nigerian thing😅. Also ngl i spent like 90% of the vid awing at chioma & isi; y'all are gorgeous.
EARLY! the minute I got the notification I clicked this series is too good 😭 QUUAALLIITTYY videos as always ❤️ also #SecondCouple 100%!!!
PLEASE WATCH THE OTHER COUPLE!! #secondcouple they just look like they're going through it all
She probably told him so many times about the initial situation and being nice about it as she said how many times have we spoken about this. She’s just fed up and setting up strong boundaries
This relationship is real! I went on Chioma’s instagram and YES THIS IS REAL!!!😮😮😧😧
You guys should do more reactions, they are great.
#secondcouple
#secondcouple y’all need to react to the other couple. It’s not as dramatic as Paul and Chioma but there is still drama 😭
16:06-16:11 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 wow. That took me out
Paul: "Issat a train???? "
Everyone Else: *Ignore*
I haven't rewound something so many times in a while. Phew im crying. How did neither josh or Isi hear that?
Girl that had me DYIIING idk how no one caught that 😂😂
#SecondCouple after we done with Chioma and Paul. But honestly, I hope she finds happiness within herself again, and then with someone who loves her inside and out.
Oooooh weeeee! Im strapped in! 👀😲 #SecondCouple
Clinical narcissism. That’s Paul. Clinical.
He triangulates A LOT. Trying to bring the therapist into it in hopes that she will tell him he's right.
Validation he's constantly seeking for 🥲🥲i live with this i know this First hand
Choama and Paul should’ve had you guys as their therapists I feel like y’all insight would’ve been great for them
God bless and Jesus loves you! It would be nice to see videos about you guys relation with Jesus I know Josh is a Christian ! Keep up the great work you guys. Isi looks beautiful as always
They are actually both Christians
Somebody needs to give my sis denice a raise.
y’all really got me watching them again for your reaction videos and i have no regrets. josh is so funny 💀 i’m glad you guys kept going with the reactions
Isi, I appreciate the amount of respect you have for yourself & the standard you hold yourself + other people to.
So many people don’t understand that their childhood experiences and hurts are what has created them into these monsters. Paul has alot of healing to do, but the sad thing is, some people don’t even see how they are because it’s all they know and its a comfort zone 😢
BUT God is good, change is possible. Forget Paul tho 🙄
Paul's kind of work is know as being a plug. This mean he is a person that can connect you to what you need so that means he can be anything you need. So his work is based on his connections.
the passive aggression in the way he says "okay, okay" just makes my blood boil every time....
You guys are adorable!! I have enjoyed your videos on Blue Therapy. I love how you vibe together and I'm encouraged to subscribe. Your hair is everything! I mean both of you. Lol.😄💕