10 Style Mistakes That Make You Look Frumpy
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- Stop making these 10 style mistakes that make you look frumpy to elevate your style and change your life. Help yourself look younger, fresher and more attractive! I show you which outfits and which approaches and attitudes to your style are making you frumpy, what to wear instead and how to change your mindset. Dump The Frump Be The Queen of Chic!
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00:48 Style Mistake Principle 1
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04:44 Style Mistake Principle 2
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07:05 Style Mistake Principle 3
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My absolutely most affirming moment came 10 years ago when I was on an Air France flight to Paris and the flight attendant spoke to me, initially, in French. When I looked slightly perplexed (high school was my last spoken French), she immediately switched to English and said "Oh, madame, I thought you were French." Yay. Beige slacks, black and beige abstract printed top, brown leather belt and black cardigan. How lovely to be thought to be French!
Totally one of my life goals.! Brava to you! Et oui oui, tres bien!
You must have felt like a million and all your efforts were worth it. And I rejoice along with you.
I am from Belarus, and many Americans told me I am from Europe because I always dress nicely ))))
❤
I am glad to be an American.
I don't want to be anything I am not.
Tired of being typecast as loud, fat, no style....
I sort of "gave up" when I started working from home and had nowhere to go regularly. Then I decided to dress nicely even if it was to run errands. These things happened as a result: I felt better about myself, strangers would compliment me on my clothes, I got better service and treatment in general, and best of all, my husband didn't want to be the frumpy one so he started dressing better too even if it's just to go out for breakfast. Huge win!🤣
I have to respond to this - I had the exact same experience. Wore lots of comfy clothes at home and got absolutely sick of them, so started dressing more smartly if I had any excuse to leave the house at all (and even on many days when I didn’t). And the same thing - I get compliments all the time and get so much better service and treatment as well! Turning 50 this year and it is such a mood booster to still turn heads - who doesn’t want to be the best dressed woman in any room she walks into (especially now that the bar is so low)!
@@rebeccasmith6408 A woman can turn heads at any age. I once saw a woman in her seventies wearing a classic outfit including a beautifully-cut black wool skirt, her silver hair in a chin-length blunt cut. I want to be like her when I reach that age.
@@genxx2724
Rebecca, You are so right! Age has nothing to do with attracting positive attention and receiving compliments. I am 64, and I dress impeccably; everywhere I go, I receive compliments on my outfits, especially my 4-inch stiletto heels. The compliments come from people of all ages--from kids to teens to young adults, middle-aged people, and older ones. When I speed-walk/run my 5 miles each night, I receive compliments on how inspiring I am to others by staying in shape. Getting older does not mean that we become invisible. In fact, I feel more visible now than I ever did in my teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s.
@@nataliamiles7109 That's great, Natalia. Good to read your comment (and the other ladies' comments). I'm 63 and I do the same as you do, and it feels so much better. I was quite stunned to even have a guy less than half my age flirting with me and wanting to hang out with me (he used to work in a supermarket where I regularly shop). I might have😄....if I weren't married.
@@mirandazannos336 Hi Miranda, It feels good to be appreciated by others! Everyone wants to be appreciated. I have been surprised by the number of young, professional, highly educated men who are attracted to women who are older than them. I'm single, so I welcome all this. In the old days, the idea of older women with younger men was frowned upon, but now, no. Younger people are more accepting of this change of societal norms, too.
As a 35 year old woman from the Netherlands (a.k.a. the Kingdom of Frumpy looks), I believe your styling tips are great for women of all ages - not just over 50. ❤️
Hi Kirsten, I didn't know that the Netherlands was so frumpy now. I was there back in 1982, and everyone looked so sharp and fit. Well, the sloppy look has overtaken the world! We must fight back one pencil skirt at a time . . .
Hello. I live in California now but I lived in the Nederlands for six years and was surprised to see how low effort is there, I mean I live in San Francisco, the land of frump but in the Nederlands was worse, I was in a small village in the north so maybe that's why?
@@nataliamiles7109 BEST line ever. “One pencil skirt at a time.” I am new to MarieA. I’m binge watching. Saw your comment from a year ago.
Yep no-one dresses up, even the bank manager wears jeans! My first New Year's Eve here at the turn of the Millennium, I was the only one in a cocktail dress (I was used to NYEs in London by then) and was so overdressed. Now I understand why when everyone is setting off fireworks and eating oily "oliebollen" you dress down on NYE. I seriously have had no other suitable occasion to wear that dress ever since!
Ha ha ohh noo I didn’t know that people were frumpy :( sloppy dresser in Netherlands. Well you keep being classy and sexy,share this lol
Maybe you should do videos on how to look stylish and still bicycle 🚴 lol
I was at the supermarket yesterday and a man said, "You have impeccable style." I thought of you, Marie-Anne! I wore a straw fedora, an ivory cotton tee that I've had forever, Ralph Lauren linen-cotton straight leg trousers in a neutral paisley pattern (from Ebay), beige espadrilles, gold bracelet. Very comfortable on a hot day shopping. It didn't take me any longer to dress than if I had worn ripped jeans and a baggy tee.
What a great compliment! Keep at it!
Here in Texas, I get compliments anytime I wear a FJB hat or shirt.
@@lynnettehardy4533 I love it! My sister sent me stickers that said, "Let's go Brandon" and I put them up all over town in Utah. I've seen the "FJB" on bumper stickers here. God bless Texas. A long, long time ago, I worked as a Playboy Bunny at the Dallas Playboy Club.
@@lynnettehardy4533Classless. Why are you even here except to troll ?
@@nataliamiles7109Equally classless.
Hello Marie-Anne. I'm a big fan of your channel. I live in the Midwestern U.S., and today while I was shopping, a man came up behind me and said, "Ma'am, I am French. You are very classy." What a compliment! Thank you for the advice on style and elegance. It works!
Oh how nice. 😊
What were u wearing ?
@@esthercontreras3413 The pants are black, flowy, wide-legged. The top is a fitted button-down with short cuffed sleeves and a slight puff at the shoulder, two-toned white stripes. Black belt and black heels. Very basic.
I am a Midwestern girl too, Bonnie! It's so nice to receive compliments like that!
My mom and her husband visited his elderly mother in Indiana every fall. She was very frumpy. She wanted to go to WalMart and my mom dutifully helped her look for clothes there. She wore ugly shirt sleeved tops with a tiny flower print, like bed sheets.
Then on the day they took her to Indianapolis, my mom insisted on taking her to Nordstrom which had just opened. She bought a beautiful black pantsuit and some blouses with the help of my mom and a stylist. My mom asked them to do the alterations right away so she could wear the outfit to dinner in a nice restaurant that night. Also, if she took the things home she’d never get them altered. My mom also convinced her to buy two pair of good shoes which were far more then she’d ever imagined spending.
She felt good wearing her new things and received many compliments. But in the beauty shop in her small town, the women were criticizing Nordstrom and the people who shopped there. They considered them snooty.
She told my mom in the midst of all the compliments and women wanting to know where she got her new things, ‘I just kept my mouth shut.”
I love how you don’t just say what NOT to wear, you’ve gone out of your way to show what a possible correct answer would be as well! How positive and thoughtful! Thank you for your work on this channel, I am really appreciating it
You are very welcome Dovebair
What an inspiration! Years ago as I walked down the street dressed in navy head to toe, a man passed by and said "good morning sister". Shocked, I asked a friend if I dressed like a nun and she said YES! Absolutely! That evening I threw out most of my clothes and began rebuilding my wardrobe. I learn new things all the time and I found your channel a couple days ago. Thank you! I never want to be mistaken for a nun again. Avoiding frumpy is fundamental.
I’m sorry that I chuckled when I read that. What a shock.😮
Avoiding frumpy is fundamental! This is a great slogan!
One day I was dressed all in brown and someone thought I worked for UPS. That was the end of that outfit!
Thank you, I needed this. I am 55 years old and work in a dental practice. This means I wear a uniform every day and only need clothing to go home. I am starting to feel like "why bother." Your pep talk is waking me up. Thank you again.
So do I. Thank you❤
I could not agree more, Marie-Anne! I hate seeing all these frumpy clothes. I think it's good to raise our bar higher and go against the grain! Stand out! I'm not 50+ yet. I am a woman in my early 40s, but your style advice here is universal in my opinion!
I would like to see clothes for the over 30s upward every store & manufacturers are all chasing children and teens it’s crazy that why women give up it’s the fashion industry that’s destroying our interest in clothes.
@@eleanorcrawford9978 thats why women need to know or learn to make their own clothes. 🙂🌻🌞🦋🌈❤️🌹
"What is a shacket, you may ask, Marianne? If you don't know, I'm delighted!" The delivery of this was 100% hilarious and awesome. Thank you for this video. It's brilliant and funny and a wonderful reminder to not give up and continue to elevate!
I did not know there was such a thing until today🤣...I will run the other direction should I encounter one!
“ shaver” just another ploy as something new
"Is frumpy the new black?!" 🤣 You help me change, laugh and enjoy it!! Thank you Marie-Anne! What a philosophy- elevate yourself and your surroundings by being chic: mindfulness, self worth, be an example, dont give up, dont take yourself/things for granted, so many positive messages!!
For the past few years, I've been paying attention to your style advice, and I have not only learned a lot about what suits me best, but also how to pare down my wardrobe to only the clothes I wear and love to wear! Good quality, natural materials, mostly classics, with accessories like belts, bags, and shoes which bring out the style. I no longer need so many clothes, and I look forward to dressing each day, it becomes a pleasure, both for myself and others! Thank you so much for your channel, it really helps!
Marie-Anne, I am 63 years young. I studied fashion for 4 years. I love clothes and now days I can't find good clothes that fit me well. After not sewing clothes for myself for over 20 years- I started making my own stylish clothes. Classic pieces, well make they way I learned to sew in fashion school. I love classic styles and that is what I am sewing for myself now and I started sewing for my little granddaughters as well. My mother dressed like you, and now I dress like my mother. Good, classic and well made clothes.
I don't have your talent for sewing, so I've begun shopping thrift shops. Because vintage pieces are often classic lines, and superior quality. It's like a treasure hunt! And my deciding factor has become, "Is this effortlessly chic?" If it fits like it was made for me and I feel confident and classy wearing it--yes!
Yes, I have started sewing again because I can't find things that are stylish and classic in the fabrics I like. Most stores are selling the cheat possible garbage for fabric and design.
You are absolutely right. I am surrounded by frumpy sloppy people. I refuse to walk around looking like that. I'm almost always the one people consider to be "dressed up". I do not fit in and I don't care. I'm comfortable in my clothes and I'm not frumpy or sloppy. 👍😊
Moi aussi! Ugh! It’s depressing to see sloppily dressed people. I have decided I don’t want to look like them. I refuse to do as the people in my hometown do, so I don’t care if I don’t fit in either and stick out like a sore thumb (in a good way, of course) at my church choir, for example. (People dress too casually at my church these days! Give me a break!) Proud to look presentable.
Me too
They call me miss prissy, I wear it with honor.
Me too. Love fashion and looking nice.
@@marieleemcgill5011 I will gladly take prissy but never frumpy or sloppy!
@@alexandraeverafter1015 me too
Loose dresses are airy and perfect for the summer..They are called Boho and personally I love them. They are flattering as they do not cling to the body but are flowy!
I love Boho, but there are more fitted Boho dresses. Flowy but not wide.
Love flowydresses
They are even more beautiful when worn with a nice hat and pretty strappy sandals.
But the thing is , why look pregnant when you are not ?
Yes Boho works especially if you are driving long distances on a hot day.
What a breath of fresh air you are. I have ALWAYS tried to dress with class. Yes, over the years I’ve made some mistakes, but I’ve made a conscious effort to look decent, modest and classy- no jeans, especially ripped jeans, no leggings or jogging pants, no cargo pants !!!!!! Thank you for this channel
By the way, I’m 63 and will not give up!
I love your observations but must protest about one! I have a brown wool buffalo plaid jacket/shirt that I wear as a jacket over a shirt or turtleneck. It looks like the old Woolrich 49er jacket. I can guarantee that every single time I wear it, I will get compliments. It is very flattering to my figure and coloring. I am very tall and have never had a waistline, even at my thinnest. The boxy jacket creates the illusion that there is a waistline about my slim hips. I think we each have to know our own figures.
I've been waiting for years for style to come back--I love to see the stylish clothes women wore in the 40s & 50s. Frumpy is never an option!
Don't wait for others Robin, be a trendsetter yourself 🙂
I’m grateful I learned to sew and have sewing patterns from the 40s and 50s that I inherited from my aunts.
The clothes from the 1940s-50s era were so lovely and well made.
I’m a 22 yo guy and this is improving my confidence just listening. Thanks Marie-Anne!
Love cotton clothing. Polyester fabric is so common, so cheap looking, and so sweaty.
I agree. I wear Cotton, linen and wool.
I took early retirement nine years ago, and although I have pared down my work wardrobe, and tend to wear more casual clothes every day, I still always wear outfits that go together, along with (minimal) makeup, earrings, and perhaps another piece of jewellery or a bright scarf. Even when playing with the grandchildren, I know I’m dressed in a way that makes me ready for anything. And while it’s certainly respectful to others to look our best, I feel it’s even more a matter of self-respect. I’ve reached the moment where “je me sens bien dans la peau.” And I like it!
It is so wonderful to have somebody speak up for style. I am rarely tempted to buy clothes these days as most of what is in the fashion stores are really awful. As you said, shapeless tiered maxi dresses, wide cropped pants, and horrid bulky sandals. I would rather wear what I have in my wardrobe. Can you imagine future generations looking back at the present fashion? They will have a real laugh. Love your videos, Marie-Anne.
I agree! I recently went to Macy’s and came home empty-handed because I didn’t like anything, including chunky shoes, shapeless dresses, and wide cropped pants. (I am petite, so they all look horrible on me.) I didn’t even find anything at my most recent trip to Nordstrom either. I like the current wardrobe on me. I agree people in future generations will have a good laugh at the current fashion trends.
I'm old enough to remember the 70's. I can already look back and laugh.
@@alexandraeverafter1015 I live in South Africa and here too the shops have horrible frumpy clothes at the moment. I walked out very disappointed. I am also petite and find it difficult to get nice clothes this year.
It isn't just us women over 50. My daughters, 25 & 27, are already having trouble with the current footwear. We went shopping last week for flat, black, leather, strappy sandals which can look professional enough for an office job and comfortable and low key enough for walking outside on cobblestones all day in 38C heat. In short, something they can put on in the morning and be ready for everything the day brings. They couldn't find anything. They asked, "Where are the good shoes?!" They don't want to be stuck with Havianas.
@@melaniemaloney5857 Me too! But I look back and absolutely cringe, remember disco??
I have been interested in style since I was a little girl, and now I'm older than you. Yes, really! :D I always thought I did fairly well in the style department but, at 73, I'm still learning things from you. The biggest take away I have gotten was to always remember, "If you don't love it, it's a non." I buy mostly online, so things arrive and I find myself thinking, oh, it's good enough. And to be honest, returning things is a chore. Bit this week, two different tops arrived that I hung in my closet. But after thinking it over, I am returning them both. Life is too short not to feel stunning all the time.
If it is not a wow, it is a bow wow.
Agree 💯!!
You have a brilliant outlook: "Life is too short not to feel stunning all the time." Yes, that is how I also live my life, and it drives others crazy. They are content in their frumpiness and take it as a personal afront when I show up looking elegant and polished. Let them eat cake! I will continue to dress in an elegant manner each and every day and revel in the artistry of elegance.
Listening to you is so much fun! I too have now developed the “what would Marie-Anne think of this?” I have also been working on my closet. I have found that I can now see things put together differently. I actually had some nice pieces but I wasn’t putting together my overall look. Today I walked into a business meeting and an English lady next to me asked “How do you manage to look so classy in this Texas heat?” Made my day.
Love the term "Dump the frump."
As a resident of Queensland Australia I have to admit I am surrounded by style that is too casual. It's partly because of the warm climate but that is never an excuse. Making an effort always makes one feel more confident.
Yes, making excuses not to look elegant is too easy. I lived in Henderson, Nevada and Sun City, Arizona--well into 115 in the summer for months--and I always wore a linen blazer, high heels, and elegant skirts or pants. And don't forget your broad-brimmed elegant hat, such as Audren Hepburn's in "Breakfast at Tiffany's." I have them in black and white and tie a long ribbon around them so that it hangs down my back. I always receive compliments on my dramatic summer hats, and they protect my delicate fair skin.
@@nataliamiles7109 Wow Natalie. You sound amazing. I love Audrey Hepburn and have watched Breakfast at Tiffany's over and over. I think those days of elegance are gone unfortunately.
@@caroloshea7830 Hi Carol, Let's strive to keep elegance alive and represent it each day. We will channel Miss Hepburn's grace and elegance through our efforts.
Let's elevate Queensland together!!!
@@melilifabulosa5505 Glad that you have a partner to help you elevate Queensland. Anyone out there who wants to help elevate Utah? The peasant/Little house on the Prairie dresses reign supreme here: the Frump Factor.
When I was working as an engineer and would go to a new program, I noticed within a few months all the other ladies in the department would be much more stylish. They were emulating me, I was so happy! Don’t copy frumpy, let frumpy copy you. Marie-Anne in the baby onesie - ROTFL!!! Just bought your two books and style journal. Can’t wait. Already I have greatly improved my retirement style, which had me baffled for a few years, just from following you on CZcams and eliminating bad examples. Thank you so much. You are very motivating.
Fuzzy, I love your mantra: "Don't copy frumpy; let frumpy copy you." I feel the same way. I love to dress in an elegant manner at age 64 and wear 3- or 4-inch heels each day, easily and with a quick step. Let others elevate their style. I am not going to shrink myself so that they feel less intimidated; this is not enlightening.
YES! Marie-Anne - Why should we copy “low standards”?? We want to be the BEST we can be!!!👌😁❤️. Thank you for helping us RAISE our standards!!❤️
Marie-Anne…hooray! So pleased you addressed the ladies who’ve given up! I’m 70 now I have 7 grown children, I didn’t work outside the home after I had them, so I didn’t have a work wardrobe I dressed to please me & to look my role as a mother & very importantly as a wife! My dear husband often compliments me & he also works at keeping up his looks & style. Now as a grandmother of 15 , I also need to look at my role in life & dress accordingly. Being stylish is having respect for yourself first of all & as you said for those around us. People do notice. Many clothes are of nice fabric and are very comfortable these days. Let’s be feminine & look feminine & be proud of it, and feel happy!
Szia, Marie-Anne from a hungarian 60-years old (young) grandma, living in cold old Germany.
You are my inspiration for years. Let me say thank you for your time, your work, support and scale. I became another woman since I see your podcasts and I am feeling sooooooooo good with you
@@MarieAnneLecoeur Give you a big, fat hug
Marie-Anne, I love your fashion advice for women over 50, and your wonderful sense of humour. Thank you for your great videos, and I always look forward to seeing the new ones.
This is gold! All the style "mistakes" you covered here completely describe our current American fashion culture...& I have just not been able to get on board with any of them! Thank you for calling these out & explaining why, in your characteristic professional, yet humorous, way!
Yes Marie! I wholeheartedly agree with your recommendations. I'm 60, and I go to the shops and hardly see anything really stylish to wear. Too many cheap looking shapeless outfits or dowdy colours for older ladies. I much prefer vintage tailored jackets and vintage jeans and jewellery. Oh, and scarves ... lots of them! They can really elevate an outfit. I also like polka dots but used sparingly. Definitely not too much leopard print either!!! Hi from Australia!
I agree with you and have found that I’d rather shop at the clearance section of high end stores than elsewhere! First of all they bring better quality clothes a and their styles are much better!
What do you think of the what do you call them? Umbrella dresses that a lit of people are wearing at the moment? The hem is on the knee or mid-thigh. Some people look so funny in them. One has to be very slim to wear these things I'm talking about.
My mother and I tried wide leg, cropped pants last summer. When we got out of the dressing rooms, we both laughed! It was horrible, made us look big, wide and shorter than we already are! 😂
@@MarieAnneLecoeur it definitely was not for us. 😁
They don't flatter anyone!
I loathe cropped pants! Full length has been so hard to find that, even though I’m only 4’11”, I’ve purchased several pants in regular size, rather than my usual ‘petite,’ so they’d be full length on me. 🙄 Depending on your height, ‘tall’ sizing may do the same for you.
Same. I’m 5’1” and can safely buy cropped pants in a regular size knowing they will be full length on me!
I don't think that wide-leg, cropped pants flatter anyone, regardless of age or body shape. It is so hideous!
Hi Marie-Anne.....as an extremely overweight over 70 woman I AM shapeless so some of the loose flowy things that look so bad on young shapely girls do look good on me. A nipped in waist on someone without a waist looks far worse than loose and flowy But even I wouldn't go with the tiered flowy dresses so comon today. And cropped pants are just a horror on anybody. Pick a length, full length or knee length or even shorts ladies. Mid-calf wide pants don't do anything for anybody IMO.
I think you can create an optical illusion that creates a waist. Wear a belt under a cardigan or use peplums.
As my Mum used to say “never give up!” Marianne’s advice is always very clever and never complicated. Always invest in quality! That reduces our carbon print and maximizes the chic
You are so inspirational Marie-Anne! I have been putting together a summer wardrobe (I am in Australia so it's still winter) so I can make this summer feel special & fun everyday, and enjoy the lovely things in my wardrobe rather than limit them to a small number of events or special occasions. As a 56 year old I think I can claim the right to 'elevate' my personal environment & enjoy style with freedom & joy. I LOVE your "Dump the frump" advice & your videos make me smile!!!!!! Thank you!
Dressing in a classic yet simple style has increased my confidence and feeling of self-worth. Thank you so much Marie-Anne, for your style wisdom and inspiration! I live on a tropical, rural island in the middle of the the pacific (Kauai) where most people dress extremely causally, so I appreciate feeling unique. I actually spend 6 weeks in Spain and Portugal a couple of months ago. And on 4 separate occasions people assumed I was French because of how I was dressed! I was flattered, to be sure.
I applaud your dedication to elegance and refinement. I feel the same way and dress for elegance each and every day, right down to my beautiful, classic 3- or 4-4-inch heels. I am the only woman I have seen in Pleasant Grove, Utah in the past month--since I moved here--in suits and high heels. I refuse to lower my standards. Why look my worst when I can look my best every day?
This is wonderful! I think being assumed French is one the best style compliments you can get.
If your confidence and feelings of self worth depend on what you WEAR, and you feel like a sad loser when you take them off then you HAVE no confidence. You HAVE no real esteem for yourself.
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Renzo,
Elegant outfits can REINFORCE one's feelings--not VALIDATE them. There's a difference. Dressing with class and refinement reveals an extension of the mindset and attitude, conveying self-respect, as well as respect toward others.
Numerous peer-reviewed studies in professional journals reveal that standing taller (back straight, no slumping) AND making an effort to wear a presentable outfit helps men and women during times of depression: their moods improve, and they can then recover faster.
For those who rely on their material goods (clothing, jewelry, vehicles, houses, etc.) to VALIDATE their existence, then yes, this is pathetic. In fact, this is a very common phenomenon in America. Look at the preacher Joel Osteen with his expensive bespoke suits, his fleet of Ferraris, and multi-million dollar houses. His ostentatious display of wealth screams insecurity and low self-esteem, as well as a competitive spirt. In contrast, there is the well-known pastor of Saddleback Church in Orange County, California, Rick Warren (famous author of The Purpose Driven Life) who wears old, plain clothes and drives an old pick-up truck. He does not VALIDATE his existence and self-worth by purchasing expensive, flashy material goods. Conspicuous consumption? No, not Pastor Warren.
@@nataliamiles7109 I accept everything you wrote.
It is always worth making the effort. During the two year lockdown I dressed up everyday as if I were going into work at my college library were I am a librarian and instructor. No baggy yoga or sweat pants but colorful well fitted clothing. I was so productive during the pandemic. I produced work dressed in style and I am 60 years old.
Love this video. In high school I was voted ‘best dressed’. At the time I made all my clothes myself, started at age 8. The local shoe store said his sales went down dramatically when I moved away for college. Guess I was an influencer before social media ( class of 1967!).
I still dress up when I am leaving the house. I get compliments on my style all the time. It’s never really changed: classic clothes rule my closet. Shoes are my guilty pleasure . But I buy items that are not trendy but classic styling that is always ‘in style’.
People I don’t know put my age at mid 50. That in itself makes me feel good. Inside I feel 35.
I’m visiting London and Paris his year and I know I will not scream tourist. I’m even brushing up on my rusty French which will never pass for French from a local but I feel it’s respectful to try to fit in.
Thanks for your channel.
Marie-Anne is so right about the link between clothing style and general trends in society of behaviour, manners and even diet . In Western countries , be they American, Australian, or European one can see this dumbing down in every form of culture which will have a knock on effect with our general standing in the rest of the world . Even during WW2 women made a huge effort to maintain a smart appearance and maintain standards which, in turn kept morale higher . In these times, when easier living is taken for granted by most people, I look about me and see people who are badly dressed , overweight and rude . I strike a harsher note than Marie - Anne but it’s true .
Hello Carol,
Yes, I completely agree with you. Men and women in America dress in a slovenly manner and are actually offended to see people who dress elegantly. If you do dress in an upscale manner here, be prepared to hear snide comments and see rolling eyes from others. However, I refuse to dress like the masses of the Great Unwashed and maintain my elegant appearance.
Yes, there has been a dumbing down effect in America; one great book about it is called Class, written in the 1980s. I have earned 3 MA degrees and 1 BA degree, and I have met people who are offended by these achievements: they cannot stand to be "upstaged" and pout like sullen children about it. In job interviews, I have heard insulting remarks about my higher education; they are so intimidated and jealous. Yet, they refuse to put in the hard work that it takes to be accepted at the best universities in America: the UC system in California, Stanford, etc.
As for rudeness, I cannot stand to fly anymore, since many travelers are so pushy, obnoxious and rude--some are even violent. I would rather drive my car for days then take a shorter plane ride to my destination. As for how people dress on planes, good grief. Back in the day, we all dressed in our finest apparel and displayed our best manners.
The overweight epidemic in America is growing (no pun intended). Ads in magazines and on the Internet attempt to depict an overweight body as beautiful, but that is dangerous: we all know that being overweight is not healthy; rather, it increases risks of cancer, stroke, heart attacks, and other terminal diseases.
Thanks for bringing up these issues.
Natalia
Utah: Land of the Prairie/Peasant Dress
A person can be badly dressed and rude without being overweight just as one can be overweight, stylish, and polite.
Very true
This started happening to me in 2020 - being locked at my house, I got LAZY but over time started getting back to normal. I'd still love to wear jammies to the store but I wasn't raised that way & feel it's a siin lol
Overweight does not equal obese
Anytime I want a new outfit, I always say to myself "will Marie Anne approve this outfit?". Definitely, I don't want to look frumpy. I'm 4.11 in height and I choose outfits that would flatter me. Thanks for the new video!
I'm English and I always think French and Italian ladies really have the edge on style - something about Marie-Anne that is very likeable and makes me smile watching her! Thanks for the video!
Merci Marie-Anne - you reminded me of something my father used to say to me when I was in my early teenage years. ‘Don’t follow the fashion, set the fashion’.
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I am loving all your “no frump” videos. I often feel conflicted about what to wear. I like to look nice but as a long time retired grandmother, there aren’t many opportunities and when there are, I struggle wanting to look nice but not overdressed around others who are always very casual. It’s a real struggle! The world just doesn’t “see” women in their 70s as needing to bother (I’ve actually heard this said) and it goes without saying that the pandemic just made things more challenging. Nonetheless, you are so inspiring - thank you for sharing so much thought-provoking information. Merci! 🇨🇦
Thanks Marie-Anne! I just love how you say it like it is! No holding back! I couldn't agree with you more. So many of the so-called "fashions" I see in the stores today are anything but fashion. I'm older and I remember when going out to dinner was a dress-up occasion. When church was a dress-up occasion. I'm afraid I've reverted back to better fashion times with no apologies!
I agree. I still like to dress for church..it feels respectful. People say why do you wear dresses..I think they are a one and done fashion and I feel put together. Thank You.
Wonderful advice! Thank you for reminding us that we not only dress for ourselves, but for those around us.
I must admit, I'm one of those who feels as though they've "given up." Most of the time I'm just going out for groceries, so I don't feel inspired to get dressed up. I still do my makeup, but my outfit is always VERY casual. That being said, when I do make an effort to get more dressed up, I feel so much better about myself. How you dress really does affect how you feel inside and how you carry yourself. This video has inspired me to try and make more of an effort to wear outfits that will make me feel good about how I look rather than just ho-hum. Thank you so much Marie-Anne! ♥
Marie-Anne, ever since I first heard you say the sentence: ‚If it‘s not a wow, it‘s a non‘, this phrase accompanies me with almost every piece of clothing that I buy and my wardrobe has improved significantly 😊 - Thank you!!
This was great. Thanks Marie-Anne. You’re such an inspiration for us over 50 women to put in the effort to be our best without going for perfection. You’re a breath of fresh air.
Hello Marie-Anne, I am from Hong Kong. I turn 71 today. Thank you for all your advice on do's and don'ts for women over 50. We need to look our best even we are aging. It help to lift your spirit and give you a sense of purpose.
Elders uphold standards.
My style role model? Carol Burnett. She's never shabby. She is always chic and fabulous.
When you’re put together it makes you feel good.
Every word of advice you gave us today is a true gem! Holding ourselves to a higher standard - daily - yes please! xx
Thank you, Marie-Anne, for these tips on how to avoid looking frumpy, shapeless, and unattractive. Why look our worst when we can look our best? That is my mantra. If it not a wow, it is a bow wow (dog). That is my other mantra. Looking elegant elevates our confidence, self-esteem, and moods, and it affects the way we treat others.
I have never watched a style video until today, I didn’t know they existed. As I listened to your message my eyes had tears. I always dressed nicely and put on some makeup my entire life then I became ill and was often in bed off and on for the last 10 years. I would still wear a skirt and look nice to do groceries etc but I noticed I started dumbing down my clothing choices lately. I think turning 67 and gaining a few pounds caused me to not care. I am decluttering my closet right now and will be looking at my clothing choices with a fresh eye. I am going to watch more of your videos, you shifted my perception and now I want to learn more. Merci beaucoup 😍
I feel like it's easier than it's ever been to stay away from frumpy. So much information online about body types, styles and flattering colors. So much good information out there, Ladies! Don't give up! 🤩
Dear Marie-Anne you are inspirational and always look fabulous. There are many lessons I can learn from this video and I thank you most sincerely. I will definitely be watching this video again and again as a reminder of your advice. God bless you 🥰🥰
Marie-Anne, I have to admit that I have two of those loose maxi/midi dresses, but I never wear them without a belt to give my waist shape and definition. I just like them because they are casual but look a bit nicer than wearing a pair of shorts or jeans on a hot day.
Yes, maxi dresses can look so alluring and gorgeous with a defined waist and interesting shoes, as well as a beautiful summer hat.
I so agree with you and love that you said 'Style elevates those around you!'. I feel so much better when I 'make an effort'! I am 73 years old! I have been married 50 years! My husband so appreciates my EFFORT! He feels younger and happier when I have 'tried' to look pulled together and chic! I wish I was 10 pounds thinner, but my oh, I see how 'trying' to stay a bit trim, I feel better and my clothes fit better. IT IS WORTH THE EFFORT! Encourage others with your effort! Your children and grandchildren will be proud of you also!!! I love your channel Marie Anne! Sincerely Gigi
This was one of my favorite videos of yours ❤️ Thank you for the humor and the strong message of "You are WORTH IT!" At age 61 I am excited to finally be expressing my authentic (stylish!) self. I am so excited to dress every day and I finally love my closet-of-tailored -and- mostly-neutrals Thank you for what you do Marie Anne--you help a LOT of women with your videos!!
I agree about the tiered dresses. It was a big trend last summer and seems to still be in fashion this summer but I doubt it will look fresh for much longer
Hi Marie-Anne, l agree with you except for the cropped wide pants . I confess that l really feel very well when l wear them.
Love the way you present your ideas. 😘
I agree! I wear cropped linen wide leg pants with wedges and a tucked in fitted shirt and it looks very nice. Of course, since I'm petite, the cropped pants are not very cropped on me; more like ankle length!
Hi Maria, I would think that the wide, cropped pants allow air to circulate--very welcoming on a sweltering hot day!
I love to wear body-conscious, fitted capri pants, just below the knees with high-heeled shoes (3 to 4-inches).
I have never seen cropped pants that flatter any woman. Looks like you’re standing in a hole. Excellent advice Marie-Anne
I am 5'10" and cropped pants make me look like I outgrew my clothing! Thanks for your perfect advice.🌞🙏
Oh, Marie-Anne! There are SO many CZcams channels out there... yet stick with you for your solid advice I respect your views as they are timeless and they make sense! You are a voice of reason in a jungle of social media.
As a teen growing up in rural Northern California, I longed for the beautiful outfits that I saw in the Sears, Wards, and Spiegel catalogs, but at that time, we could not afford new outfits. As a lover of beauty, style, and aesthetics, I longed to look stylish and elegant. Now, as a grown woman earning her own living, I am able to look the way I longed to look: classic, refined with quality clothing in natural fibers, flattering, and absolutely beautiful. Every day I get to live my style dream, and it feels amazing!
I remember the Spiegel catalog and not being able to afford a single thing. Sadly, I’m not good at finding clothes. I gave good taste and want to look great, but have no interest or skill finding things.
Chic and quality clothes are way more expensive, and often not affordable in everyone's budget. And decent looking chic clothes in plus sizes are hard to find.
@@florichahal7668 Because of the expense of designer clothing, I turned to thrift shops as a young adult; there were plenty in Northern California in the 1970s and even more now. I was able to look chic on a tiny budget. Now, I love to purchase used elegant clothing online in America. What a savings with Talbots, White House Black Market, Tahari, and other brands that I love!
@@nataliamiles7109 I have never checked out any thrift stores.
@@florichahal7668 Hi Flori, there are so many thrift shops in America. Do you live here? I love using ThredUp, since the items are mailed to me, and they are wrapped in lovely white and blue tissue paper with a gold seal. Most of the items, even though they are used, look new, and I have been so happy with them. Thrift shops are fun! It's like a scavenger hunt; you never know what you will find at very low prices! If you do decide to venture into one, I would love to hear about your experience. By the way, your name, "Flori" is so lovely--very unique.
The “shacket” reminds me of what deer hunters wear on a cool day in the woods. 😂 And that’s where they belong! Great video! LOVE your option for wide leg trousers. I need a pair! SO flattering!
😂 Right? Ordered the linen blend wide leg trousers in white! Can’t wait to try!
@@MarieAnneLecoeur Too funny!
Marie-Anne, I so respect that you are always candid and stick to what you believe. I think dressing causally results in behaving causally that I don’t care about. I value classy and elegant behaviors and standards. I refuse to be dumb down in this causal society and have been dressed in a way I like and don’t care how others look at me. I want to be feminine and classy and he way I dress shows it. Thank you for sharing your tips and advice with us.
Marie-Anne, you lift me up every time! I just turned 54 on ‘Bastille Day’ and I went out and bought a nice pair of jeans and a basic top with a beautiful neckline. It’s good to look modern and fresh no matter your age. Thank you for this video, you keep me positive and happy with my age and help me keep pride in my appearance. 🌸💖
@@MarieAnneLecoeur Thank you so much 😊🌸
Good afternoon Marie-Anne! Good to see you today! You are never disappointing in your videos! I agree with every point. It just amazes me that we have choices yet women make all these frumpy (among others) clothing choices. I think just because they make doesn’t mean I have to buy it! I’ve always tried to dress the best I could even before I lost weight. Now, it’s even more important for me. I call it self respect. Thank you for your wise advice! 💕
Oui, je retiens cette formule!
Love this!! The ladies at my old job used to stop me every morning to tell me it wasn't necessary to "dress up" for work. I was wearing the SAME wash-n-wear black boot cuts, a blouse and flats at least 3x a week. It was all I owned! They wore jeans, sneakers and tees. I finally told them that I wasn't going to spend money for jeans and tees just to wear them to the office. That shut them up.
BTW- Love your blouse! Is it available?
I love your retort, Design Lady! I cannot stand it when people ask me why I am so dressed up and then sneer. Why look our worst when we can look our best? Let them elevate their style; I am not going to shrink myself so that they feel less intimidated.
Yes, this! I worked as a secretary in offices where I had to wear a suit, then I moved to a job where everyone wore more casual clothes. They spent more on their sports-style trousers and t-shirts than I could afford, so I went on wearing my suits, and I was “accused” of being too posh. Like you, it was all I had! I would rather be too well-dressed than not well-dressed enough.
@@weebizzom1495 Yes, let us not shrink ourselves so that others do not feel as intimidated; this is not enlightening. Let them elevate themselves.
@@MarieAnneLecoeur It looks great on you! Appreciate the tips!
@@nataliamiles7109, those comments are definitely "a thing." When I was in my 30s, I would get asked why I always looked like I was going "out?" Boot cut jeans, button down white shirt, white keds and light make up??? Boy, did I get the side-eye from some Moms.
Marie-Anne, I have now watched 20, yes!, 20 of your videos. Thank you for the education, the reminder not to give up and for reinforcing fashion sense. I feel more like myself when I indulge my lifelong love of fashion.
You are very welcome 🤗 I am vary happy my channel resonates with you - your passion will keep your style journey alive and well 😘
I bought a beautiful white tiered midi dress, fine organic cotton, delicate print. I added a wide belt. Bam. It's spectacular.
Definitely feel the belt gives that dress some shape. A lot of people don’t even bother with a belt!
Wonderful video. I remember that my mother and grandmother, as they got to a certain age, stopped trying to look their best. Consequently, they would turn down offers for family gatherings because it was too much work. They lost how to get ready for an event. I vowed that I would do my best to look my best everyday and not lose practice. Cultivate a wardrobe that would be well quality and classic. Sometimes a little fun thrown in. I can't tell you how many women in the area where I live in the US, don't even try. Sometimes I feel overdressed just because they don't. I like your advice on who do I follow in fashion, YOU. By doing so my outfits are elevated and not frumpy. Have a wonderful weekend Marie-Anne
Cyndi, How sad. I am more energetic, vibrant, and healthy at 64 than my younger years! Getting older does not mean that we slow down and stop pursuing interests. I just earned my third MA degree at age 64. I will be embarking on a brand new career at age 64! I run and speed-walk 5 MILES (1.5 HOURS) each and every night, no excuses, no pain, no swelling, complete flexibility and high energy.
Being older means I am wiser, more compassionate, kinder, and make far better decisions. Life can get better as you age!! I am living proof.
Thank you Marie-Anne I have learned a lot from you and I am 57 yrs. and I want to look Styled and Chic like you teach.
Merci beaucoup Marie-Anne! At 75 I still make the effort to look as good as I can when leaving the house. I simply never buy frumpy clothes, that way it makes it easy to reach for an outfit and know it will suit me. When alone at home, I don't dress up nor do I wear makeup. But if an unexpected guest knocks at the door, at least I know I am presentable in my "at home" style.
YES!! THANK YOU MUCH for pointing out and voicing what I noticed about some of these “new” styles!🤦🏻♀️. AND for giving us OPTIONS!!💗
Thank you so much marie-anne! Everytime I'm in a crisis how to dress up, I just keep going back to watch your videos! You're my Hero! 😍
You made me laugh out loud 😃. Very good information given with a dose of humor!! I love my wardrobe after following your tips for a while. I pretty much have something for every occasion without looking overdone. I add a few things each season
I love how you speak. "If you don't know, I'm delighted". lol I agree with you completely ... I find that people who say they don't care anymore or whatever their reasons are, are not people that generally feel very good about themselves either.
I so agree with you. I'm 54 and still dress to go to the grocery store. I do it for myself and how I look in them. Plus, someone needs to show these young girls how to dress. No leggings here. No t shirts in public No matter who or what is on them. Too many cute clothes to dress like a frumpy girl
Indeed there are too many nice clothes to go frumpy Susan - you will love my new video out tonight 😃
Another wonderful video! Thanks, Marie-Anne!
@@MarieAnneLecoeur de rein
Génial et facile à retenir: "If it is not wow, it is no". Merci Marie-Anne pour cette vidéo très amusante et pleine de bons conseils 👍
This is so great. I'm 72, I still make an effort and really dislike what I think of as feed sack clothes. As to why you should make an effort...it makes you feel better, smile more and have more fun.
Marie-Anne! You made me smile so many times with your wit and quips. I think this has to be one of the very best advice videos I’ve seen. We mustn’t ever stop being our best selves. I believe it’s one of the keys to living longer.
wow- so true!!! I'm trying to find a dress that suits my wider middle, so difficult! I never used to have to worry about fit and size...but menopause middle has really hit and made that aspect difficult for me. It's like the holy grail to find a fitted dress (with a waist-line) that I can wear. I'd love a video with more of this for those of us that have wider middles. Thanks for your humor and advice! 😀
@@MarieAnneLecoeur ah yes!!! I'll try to find it! Merci!! 😀
I like that: elevate yourself and those around you. Dressing shows respect to others. When my friends come over for coffee and I see they have put some efforts in the way they dressed and groomed: I feel special, I feel that my invitation meant something good to them.
Gigi, Yes, when we dress, we also dress for others. I recently had a job interview, and the 60-something woman who interviewed me on the panel was wearing a very low-cut sundress. I felt very uncomfortable with the tops of her breasts on view. I could not focus on the questions nor the answers and did not pass the interview.
The way she dressed was not respectful to her coworkers, the young students at the school, or to me. Further, a wise employer will have a dress code that prohibits this kind of attire, for employees can sue the employer for sexual harrassment; it is harrasment for us to see the breasts.
Natalia
Utah: Land of the Ubiquitous Prairie/Peasant Dress
I appreciate your sense of humor and smile! As well as your sage advice.
I love your videos, Marie-Anne... Needless to say, I find them to be the coolest most accurate guide to a stylish look, but also because you are the loveliest influencer I've met in the ciberspace. Thanks a lot for sharing your views with such enthusiasm and charm.
Your video was both humorous and helpful! I think the pandemic has contributed to so many women (and men) looking like they’ve given up. Staying home, even working from home has relaxed the standards of dress and appearance to the point that there seems to be no standards left. I’ve even see articles saying that workwear has changed because people want to be “comfortable” and work so we’re seeing much less tailoring in workwear. I use how I dress to elevate my mood and tell the world that I have not given up!
Years ago my male friend told me about meeting an old girlfriend. He was disappointed & described her as "50, fat & frumpy". Those words ring in my head when I look in the mirror. I'm 70 but love fashion, have a waist! and try to dress edgy. Not dead yet--or frumpy, I pray!
Well done on this video Marie-Anne! Very informative and usefull!
Such a great video!
Useful advice, presented with warmheartedness and charms.
Thanks, Marie-Anne!
Excellent pieces of advice, Marie Anne! I hardly understand why our society has given up chic and elegant way of looking and accepts too much casualty! We, who follow you, should keep the effort of "elevate our surroundings" by being classy!
OMG I died at the picture of you in the baby outfit! I agree 100% with everything you said. Just this week I went on a hunt for 2 summer dresses. And let me tell you, finding a one color, straight and simple dress is like finding a needle in a hay! I felt like I was gonna get an epilepsy attack from all the frills, the multi colored atrocious prints, the polyesters, oy! This frumpy, shapeless, so called casual things are everywhere. Horrible!
Problem is everything is made in Asia whereas American women are more Ralph Lauren style than cheap fabric, atrocious prints and color mixes, and poorly sewn styles preferred and made by our Asian sisters.
@@grandmalovesmebest They always sell because the Americans prefer that
Love the imagery in your description “felt like I was gonna get an epilepsy attack…”. Perfectly describes my experience yesterday in trying to find a short-sleeved button-up shirt for my husband. Oh the hideous florals for men at Macys! Looked like the florals belonged to 1800s wallpaper, patchwork quilts, and toddlers’ rompers. I asked the gentleman clerk for a shirt without flowers, trees, birds, or fruits and he replied, “you’re not going to find one!”
Try thrift stores, Salvation Army, consignment, online stores. I rarely shop mainstream stores anymore.
I so agree with you about elevating oneself rather than dragging oneself down to others' low standards. Thank you!
You tell women to show off their silhouette, but most women are very over-weight... as in lumpy...so frumpy. Neat and clean and pretty, they can still be. And then there is the beauty of soul that shines through even a bean bag figure.
Buona sera Marie-Anne you just killed me I loved this video.I laughed out loud.Everything you talked about really is so frumpy.I know at times we have to shake ourselves up but really its worth the effort.Thankyou for your positivity.
I am 69 and always enjoy looking stylish and put together when I go out anywhere. I do not wear “ frumpy grandma” clothes. I do dress in a classic updated style that is age appropriate. I love beautiful clothes and dressing up. Even in jeans it’s hard for me to dress casual. I wear a lot of blazers and lightweight jackets in summer. To cover my old arms and because of air conditioning that is too cold in places. A third piece or a light jacket over a dress adds a hint of elegance. It is very sad that everyone dresses so sloppily. In restaurants or at special events people look like they have been doing yard work. A person must look like they have respect for themselves.
Dear Linda,
I love your style; keep doing it! Yes, I agree, people in the US dress like they are going to the beach, a strip club to work, or to do yard work. How about showing some respect toward others with the way we dress?
I had a job interview recently, and the interviewer--an older woman in her 60s, mind you--was clad in a sundress with the tops of her breasts all exposed. Good grief. This made me so uncomfortable--so disrespectful to me and others in the office. It was a school, so it's awful for the kids to see that at their school. No, I did not want the job after that!
@@nataliamiles7109 Yes I agree, I feel as you. It seems most everyone in the US dresses this way. It is very sad. The styles of clothing we see in stores is disgusting. There also no etiquette for behavior. My husband and I were trying enjoying a nice dinner out while the man sitting at the table behind us was speaking very loudly using vulgar language the whole time we were there. People let their children run and play during the meal and people are laughing and talking so loud we can't enjoy our meal. I could go on forever. The world has changed but not for the better. We do all we can personally.
@@lindariddle2276
HI Linda,
I hear you about the behavior, too, in America. It seems that bad manner/no manners are the norm now. It's so horrible that I have stopped flying; the airports are a cesspool of sketchy types who look like they have escaped from prison and act like it. I used to teach for a living, but not anymore: the children are too ill-mannered, and their parents are even worse. I earned an MA in Library Science in December--probably the oldest student ever at San Jose State University at age 64!--and am embarking on an adult librarian career in an upscale area of Utah.
I recently moved to Utah, partly because the people here are more wholesome, law-abiding; it is much safer than most of California, my home state. So far, so good!
Natalia
I'm sooo glad I watched this. Thanks for sharing!❤️
Bravo, Marie-Anne! Your suggestions are spot on and this is a video I will SAVE if for no other reason than the priceless lessons in your wonderful narrative! I especially love your emphasis on making sure (1) you not forget your silhouette and doing what you can to complement that, and (2) not leaving home for any reason looking frumpy because doing so ENGRAINS that image in your brain about yourself -- and in the minds of everyone who looks at you! -- when you should be elevating your thinking about yourself with clothing that is fitted and sleek! Thank you!!!