How to GET OVER your ex being with someone else | How to deal when your ex MOVES ON and you haven't!
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- How to GET OVER your ex being with someone else | How to deal when your ex MOVES ON and you haven't!
If you're wondering how to get over your ex moving on, or how to cope when an ex moves on, then this video is for you. Watching an ex move on with someone else, and more specifically, watching your ex move on quickly after your relationship has ended can be extremely painful. It can feel like a personal betrayal when your ex moves on with someone else, and can make us feel as though we were not enough, or that this new person must have something that we don't. In this video, I discuss how to get over your ex being with someone else, how to deal when your ex moves on and you haven't and also share more general advice for someone struggling after a breakup. Through accepting your emotions for where they are at, and allowing yourself to move at your own pace, true healing is more than possible.
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I'm Ash Nord, your truth-bombing fairy godmother for everything love, dating and relationships. With so many idealistic, romanticised Hollywood messages about love out there, my mission is to be an honest, unfiltered source of information for individuals and couples seeking honest relationship advice and love lessons. No games, no manipulation tactics, no teachings about how to trick someone into liking you… so, if that’s what you’re looking for, I’m probably not your girl. My content is geared towards those wanting to learn more about REAL intimacy and togetherness with their partners or future partners. I have a psychological focus (I'm a psychology student) and a genuine passion for understanding how humans relate to and connect with one another. If you're into that type of thing, or would simply like to hear personal stories about my own life experiences and romantic relationships, then stick around! I got you.
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Moving on is NOT a competition 🤯🌹
Nataly de Leon yes!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
amen
Appreciate Video! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you tried - Lammywalness Protecting Feelings Guide (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a good one off guide for learning how to get your ex back without the normal expense. Ive heard some decent things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.
I love this ❤️
Sure feels like it tho
Normally the loyal ones take a while to heal, while the other ones start dating again right after. If that happens, it just shows you were wasting your love on someone who didn’t really love you back.
Preach!
Yes !!! My ex found someone a couple days later
That doesn't mean anything actually it depends on the person just bc it takes a few weeks or months for you to move doesn't mean you're not loyal and just because it takes you years doesn't mean you're loyal had a friend whose sister took 2 years to move on and cheated first month into the new relationship
@@my2boyz100 different scenario
Yup, usually when someone leaves and jumps around first it means that person wasn’t very invested emotionally and always knew a way out from you and the relationship. These people are so deceptive because they play roles for short times and rinse repeat on the new person. Alot of people are so obsessed with cupcake phases and perfectionism they’ll jump from person to person to get it, sometimes it really isn’t you and just the other person’s mindset or lack of. We all have taken someone for granted once.
Don’t worry guys it’s a matter of time until your ex’s new partner starts to see their true colors. Don’t panic but be confident. There’s someone much better waiting for you:)
Amen! Love the positivity! ❤️🙌🏼
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Amen to that!!!
Thanx 🙏
Exactly. They're not gonna change just because they rebounded to someone new and shiny. The red flags and issues are still gonna be there.
The comment section made me realize I’m not alone experiencing this emotions. But I know for sure we can overcome this, this is all temporary. I’m here for you💙
I’m so happy the comments were able to bring you some comfort! We have a great community of people here 😊❤️ you’re certainly far from alone.
Don't gibe up hopes 💜💜
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When an ex moves on very quickly…. They’ve ALREADY had “the new one” ready to go…very very few breakups where an ex is moving on with someone else quickly ALREADY WASNT in the works behind your back…a lot of times it’s the signs of Narcissistic tendencies/behaviors of having a new supply lined up before ditching the old supply…been there done that, RESPECT YOURSELF enough to work on you be the best person you can FOR YOURSELF God Bless 🙏😇
Agreed
I love the part when you said “be with someone who choose us on their own.” Yup! I deserve that. Thank you!
Yes!! You absolutely do deserve that!! ❤️❤️🙌🏼
Such a good quote. We deserve someone who doesn’t make us fight, but fights for us.
I prefer to reject that person and move on. It is a freedom that I wouldn’t trade for an infinite amount of time.
Best quote I've ever heard but fully have believed that as well but never could put it to words, thank you
15 years together and he left because he found someone who is better for him. They're happy and in love and eventhough I don't want him back, the pain is still there. I hate it.
@@mulogoli6868 i don't want him back
So sorry , I’ve been doing exercising,it helps just a little but it helps , plus I definitely look better, but dang if my chest isn’t in my stomach! How are you done?
Feeling the same
I don't want him back either but it still hurtssss
the pain and betrayal is so extreme that it leaves the pain to us, I feel you
i needed this , my ex literally found someone else after a month of us breaking up.. i literally feel used :/ thank you for this :,)
try 2 days lol
Thank you, I feel so cheap.
Sorry to hear this, I had the same experience, hugs to you.
Its understable. Same here execpt it was 2 weeks after for me. But based on the timing it was already in the process they were just looking for a way out to get into what they thought was a better newer situation. But as well all know the grass is isnt always greener on the otherside. But then we have a choice to make. Hopefully we make the choice to move on to something better away from a toxic situation
Mine did after 2 months and brought his new girlfriend to MY HOUSE to bring me my stuff. It’s so icky.
Going to Church and to the Gym have helped me heal plus those are the best places to find a new partner...
It’s been a week and he has a new girl now we where together for 3 years and it hurts so much ...
Ahh I’m so sorry, I can imagine that’s extremely painful for you to witness. Hang in there, I promise it won’t hurt this much forever.
same thing happened to me and it is so hard.
girl same we almost hit 4 years in a couple days. it’s been 4 days and he has a new girl. it’s time for us to glowwwwwww
Sorry to hear that 😢. The girl I liked 4 years later after not seeing her heard she might be married now and has a child. Hit me hard when I heard this back in March and I'm beginning to overthink it recently which doesn't help
was with mine for a year and a half and they moved on in under a month. i feel you
I just found out my ex boyfriend got engaged after four months of breaking up. We were together for five years. She moved in to flat that I used to share with him. It makes me feel sick to my stomach.
I’m really sorry that this happened to you.. I hope that things will get better for you!
Sweetheart I wish I could say it get betters but idk cause it happened to me !
u deserve so much better!!! men ain't shit
How are you now?
@@avitalephstein7576 that’s sweet. You must be a decent person to say kind things. I know I do it but I’ve not met many people like myself *_Paul, Liverpool UK_*
There’s no easy or nice way to accept that someone you thought that loved you and felt connected to you stopped feeling that way and left you with the emotions and feelings for a relationship they already left. People change and feelings change, its the disingenuous process of it all ending that hurts the most.
This kind of pain is the worst feeling ever. You feel emotionally, mentally and physically sick and tend to terribly miss that person whenever you're alone or before going to sleep and all those memories and thoughts comes flashing by and all u can do is cry. You wonder what went so wrong or if that person never felt the same but despite all this, it's a phase of life and you only need to stand stronger than ever. Thanks for reminding my worth Ashley. Sending love😊
I’m currently on the heartbreak diet where I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, and I can’t get out of my head. Everything I wanted, he said he couldn’t do, because of his previous relationship. Two weeks later he’s giving another girl all the things I asked for. It’s so sickening, and I’m so hurt
It’s sucks, just happened to me and I just drink to escape the pain
You know guys feel the same breakup sick as women I can attest to that.
@@chrisrancat2808 must be so difficult to cope up with
Thanks
*Moved on from her after she left me for a co-worker*
*Met a girl 10 times better*
Same here, it sucks. I hope a find a girl that loves me for me. You're a lucky man!
Ssame here freakin so painful but i feel bit better now
Hey guys what I’ve learned is as tempting as it is please stay off of their Facebook until u r healed. It will set u all the way back with pain.
I absolutely agree here! Staying off ex’s social media pages is vital!
@Tamera, I made the mistake of looking on FB & ig. What a big mistake! 😭 They look so in love & like they are on one permanent vacation. 🤮 It set me so far back it's been 2 years & I'm still hurting badly.
@@AshleyNord uhmm what do I do if this person is a coursemate that is unavoidable, I literally see him everyday. I'm a student nurse in a class of 46 people with only 4 guys and he is one of the 4 guys, seeing him is unavoidable, so what do I do?
I did this today; dumb move 😮
this video was so comforting, i didn’t want it to end
I’m so happy you found it comforting!! ❤️❤️
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Talking about those fears of abandonment and being forgotten really hit home for me. It’s something I’m really struggling with during my current break up. Thank you Ashley 💕
Ahh yes girl, I find this one is so common for so many of us. Especially if this is something we experienced during childhood, or experienced during early family or even friendship dynamics. Sending you lots of love ❤️ please know that you’re not alone and you are so loved!
Are you totally moved on from him now?.It was already 5months since she found someone new and a lot of times I still think of her and our past. And sometimes I still hope that fate will bring us back together in right time.
@@angelam5440 I would say that I’m over him, but not the scars left behind. If that makes sense. I’m in a new relationship now and am proud of how much I’ve grown. I tolerate such bad treatment that I didn’t even realize until I was in a healthy relationship. Reflecting back on where I was at when I first wrote this comment, I am a new person now. Yes, I wish things happened differently but ultimately I am better off. I hope you find some solace in that. I know you probably hear this a lot, but things do get easier. Life goes on as they say.
@@ciaobellapc7 It's nice to hear stories like yours. I'm looking forward to that day where I can finally say to myself also that I've totally far and grown from this broken person I am now. Life will eventually be okay, I'm sure. And who knows I might find also the "One" that's really for me, soon.
@@ciaobellapc7 thank you for this comment. This really helped me. I’ve also always struggled with abandonment. Didn’t realize it until I started dating. This last relationship ended 7 months ago and I’m only now starting to process because for all that time I was holding out hope for us to one day get back together (and certain mixed signals from him didnt help either). Now that I’m starting to process it feels like day 2 because essentially it is day 2 for me. I found out he moved on despite his confusing comments toward me about us in the future and that made it all the more harder. Reading your comment gives me hope that it will get better as time passes, because right now at times it feels like never ending pain. We were together for 11 years. I’m 32 and wanted to have a family and children in my 30s. Trying to just heal and let go of that dream now and be realistic with myself.
I found out yesterday my ex had been talking to his ex while we were dating. I knew he stopped caring about me and I finally got my answer but it still hurt and brought back the pain. It’s very hard especially when they used you as a distraction, and even though I know it has way more to do with him, it hurts to know I could never be the one he wanted most.
I pray for everyone’s healing, and if anyone wants to talk or make a group chat I would be down! We are the ones growing!
Ouch, I’m sure finding that out was so hurtful and it makes total sense that it brought back the pain! Sending you lots of love ❤️
girl im so sorry you have to go through that.. I also experienced somewhat the same, it was so hard for me to accept the breakup not until he revealed to me his secret, and denying it was not a lie but just a "secret". He's been smoking weed which I thought we both are so against but yeah that revelation is helping me now to stop fantasizing and accept, which is a challenge. BUT I BELIEVE WE CAN DO THIS! you can do this, we really need a community to talk more about this 🤍
@@mitzilou9560 I agree, it would help!
Same situation
Same here
Bird with the same feather flock together, they deserve each other and i deserve better.
Just found out today that my ex of 4 years has moved on. We broke up 4 months ago. The absolute emptiness and agony I am going through is beyond what I have ever gone through.
same here but we were together for 6 years and it hasn’t even been 2 months since the breakup…
@@outroseok I’m so sorry. It is the worse kind of pain to be in and it’s so hard to see that we will be ok down this journey. I want to be OK now without suppressing anything.
Hey man, this is EXACTLY how I'm feeling right now. How are you now in the future?
@@joeschaeffer7227 my mind is so clear now. 100% over it. She even got married to the guy about 5 months into dating him. I did a lot of journaling and reading things and watching videos. Anything to get me through the day. It really sucks man…. I’m sorry you are feeling this way. Reach out anytime man. Hang in there.
Thank you man. I met my "forever" person and we had a fight, split.....3 weeks later she's in a new relationship. It's been a month (still contacting doing the pleading and resoning) but she will barely talk to me. It's killing me inside, this pain is absolutely awful
My ex doesn’t want anything to do with me, and I still feel like we are meant to be in the future. It’s been 2 months, and you have helped tremendously! 💕
Eve Talarski 2 months for me too girl. Don’t worry we will get through this!
Alejandra Leija girl it’s so painful! Love the support! ❤️
I seriously feel like nobody else is as good of a match for me and that’s preventing me from healing. I can’t seem to move on from him. He is such an amazing guy! Ugh I wish I could see the future so bad
I'm right there with you, Eve. It has been 7 months for me and I am still not over it. Time has helped me and so have videos like this! Other things that have helped have been journaling, spending time/being active outside and a friend recommended taking vitamin D supplements. Best of luck to you! You are not alone!
Everyone has their own length of the relationship, level of intensity, ability to detach, every story is different. I know it’s hard to imagine a future without the guy you had planned your entire life with already. You are mourning the future you had in your head with him and now that he is gone you feel empty and loss. I still get like that some days. What has helped me is revisiting the goals I had before I met him. I started to ask myself again what I wanted in life and stopped putting some guy next to me. The right person I’ll find along my journey. It’s hard and don’t feel the need to wake up one day and have it all figured out. Experiencing these lows really make you appreciate all the highs even if it’s a good laugh with friends.
He is in a one year relationship and I’m not over it 👁👄👁
2 years here! 🤦🏽♀️
1 year 😣
Are you over it now?
@@topcat2033are you over it
3yrs n still healing n working on myself daily. Still Married n not giving a shit about them. He always come back after months. Been separated 3 yrs now. Sorry but I'm doing me now. I'll be ok if he doesn't come back. He never can be alone. I leave everything in God's hands 🙏🙏😍
this video made my heart race slow down, i don’t have a best friend to talk to about the pain, so thank you for being that figure for me
What wonderful feedback to receive! Thank you so much. It’s so heartwarming to know that it provided you some comfort ❤️
How are you?
This is what I’ve been feeling. Heart racing, shortness of breath and pain deep in my stomach. I do some deep breaths and it passes. Box breathing helped.
Seeing your ex move on is so hard even more hard when he starts dating your best friend😫😭
Ahhh no, I’m so sorry to hear this has happened to you! I can’t believe how many people are experiencing something similar. I know it doesn’t lessen the pain, but please know that you’re not alone. Sending you lots of love and healing ❤️
nd or when they start dating ur best friends sibling. :\
The same thing has just happens to me😭😭
I would end that friendship bby girl ! Dont hold any resentments towards either of them for your own good though. For your own health I would cut them both out completely
@@ashleighsmith4909
getting your lover back shouldn't be a problem I got my ex back with the help of Mr osekhametalor
I cried watching this... it feels good to let it out while hearing someone talk about it
Sending you so much love ❤️
You are strong!!!
You and your videos are a true gift to me right now. I'm mourning a 6-year relationship and he has already found someone new. I started getting lost and drowning in anger and dark thoughts and you have just pulled me out of that dark place, thank you.
I’m so happy to hear that my videos have brought you some comfort ❤️. Mourning the loss of a relationship that long would be incredibly painful, and watching them move on quickly would absolutely add another (very big) layer of pain. I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this, I can only imagine how difficult it’s been for you. Please know that this IS something you will move through, but it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow yourself the permission to move at your own pace. Sending you lots of love and healing 💕
Mine was 7 years I’m going through the same
Thing girl :( how are u doing now ??
@@Jessie0894 I'm so sorry to hear that. Well, it's been 8 months since the break up, some days I feel totally fine and then others I feel like I'm back to square one and it hurts as if it had just happened (but those days are getting more and more rare, so yay!). What's helped me the most has been to just focus on myself and surround myself with people who love me and not be scared of being a bit more selfish than usual. And most importantly, cutting my ex from my life completely, even though we broke up on really good terms. Seeing him just brings all the memories back, it makes me want to live in the past and it gives me some false sense of hope. So yeah, learn from my mistakes and put your well-being first. :) I hope you are surrounded with love and you heal as quickly as possible. ♥️
@@omniumbruten How are you now?
Same here with a 6 year relationship 😢
You deserve someone that wants you as you are
Amen 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
You also can decide that you don’t want someone else who wants you as you are and that’s okay too.
I tried so many ways to help move on but it’s going back to God and let his will in my life be done and not mine is the only way that helps me and gives me strength to live everyday.
You know what, this is one of the best input I've heard about this topic. Some just focus on the idea of focusing on one's self. But it's so difficult to do if you are going thru something like this. But you connected the gap between being in a miserable state and focusing on self -- that is accepting first of the pain of the situation and being okay with hurting and the process.
I started crying when you were stating the affirmations at the end. Thank you for being a medium to people who needs to hear these like myself.
Awww big *hugs* to you!! Thank you so much for such lovely feedback, I’m so happy to hear my message resonated with you. But yes, for some reason society has seemed to adopt this toxic positivity culture that encourages people to bypass their pain and deny the reality of their experience/emotions. I think attempting to do this is extremely damaging and doesn’t truly help people heal in the long-term. It’s learning to truly surrender into our pain, accept it and care for it that the magic happens! 💕
How are you now?
@@smritichaurasia6968 i've got a new love interest, someone who's sooo much better lol. Great times await 😊
You have no idea how much I needed this right now. Thank you so much.
This. This is the best video I’ve ever seen on relationships ending. A true supporter of healing. Thank you so much
I so love this video Ashley. It talks to me so much...it felt like a big hug. I'm still struggling so much to move on.... a year down the road since she dumped me and this was so comforting. Heartbreak is just the worst pain.
I watched a lot of break up content this month. This video has resonated with me more than any of the others. Thank you so much.
Thank you for sharing this video. I really felt what you said, especially when you say that even when I am not ready to move on yet, it shows how deeply and authentic I can love. ❤️
Thank you so much. As a guy, it feels so good to be vulnerable and understood after a whole year of a break up and trying to move on. Thank you so much you are the first video that made me feel so accepted by myself and not feel unworthy because my ex moved on with some one else. Never thought on saying this but thank you for making me my eyeballs sweat so much after all this time. 😄Wish you all the best! 😊❤️
I can’t thank you enough for everything you said in this video. It truly validated my feelings, and is exactly what I jeered to hear right now. Thank you.
wow this was so good to hear, to know that i'm not alone and that whenever i have a shitty day, it doesn't mean i am back to square one. currently, i don't think my ex has moved on to someone else but im still glad i got to watch this before it does happen one day and to kind of prepare myself mentally i guess.
thank you ashley
I’m so happy to hear you found it helpful! But YES, it’s absolutely okay and normal to have particularly bad days. Thanks so much for watching ❤️
It’s been more than a year for me and I feel like I should be over him, but hearing you say that moving on isn’t the same for everyone really helped me. We were engaged and he’s with someone else now. It hurts but I’m ready to grow and heal. Thanks Ashley
I have absolutely been in your shoes - it took me well past the 1 year mark to move on from one my exes! Especially if you were engaged, there’s an additional element of having to grieve the loss of the future you thought you were going to have together, and this takes time. Allow yourself the permission to move through this at your own pace ❤️
It’s been over a year for me as well. I keep feeling like what’s wrong with me that I can’t move on like he did
Ashley Nord Thank you! You really have no idea how much this video and your other videos have helped me. 😊
my ex dumped me almost 6 months ago and we were engaged :') he's already seeing someone new and doing more than he and I ever did together. he seems so much more into her than he's ever been into me. finding it all out has ripped open the wound from the breakup and I feel like I'm regressing. it's reassuring to know that I'm not healing too "slowly" :')
I came across this video today and can't thank you enough..My ex moved on with his new partner and feels like my world has fallen apart. I am very much thankful to your video and will learn to heal step by step.
I know this video is old, but I really needed this. When you validated my feelings I started crying. Thank you🥺
Just what I really wanted to hear right now. I feel calm after hearing this and self acceptance is what we really need to build. I understand my ex much better now but don't think it's of any use tho. Anyhow , thank you so much for such realistic content. Really helpful.
I’m so happy to hear you found it helpful! I really do my best to be as transparent and realistic as possible with my videos, so I really appreciate your words. But yes, self acceptance and self love is incredibly powerful. I’m not sure if you’ve ever heard of Tara Brach, but her book “Radical Acceptance” was truly life changing for me, and something I think you may find great peace and learning from as well. Lots of love ❤️
everytime i watch your video i feel like a big sister talking to me and try to calm me down. thankyou so much for bringing this up. i really need this atm. much love❤️🥰
Oh that’s so nice to hear 😊 I love that. You’re so welcome, thank you for watching and for your support! 💕
It's been more than a year but sometimes I still have to watch these videos to ground myself...thank you for this wonderful content
This is so good. Thank you. Im really struggling after ending a 5 year relationship and him dating someone a month later while we were still living together. The reflection questions and affirmations were so helpful.
i'm currently dealing with a break up and recently found you because i needed some reassurance i could grow from the situation and... every video i've watched of yours so far, is just very well articulated. you put the right words in the right places in a way you're very easy to comprehend, while also helping me come to different realizations within my situation. these realizations help me ground myself and make me feel a lot less overwhelmed. thank you!! 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for such wonderful, positive feedback! 🥺 it means so much to me, and is all I could ever hope to achieve with creating my content - that it might encourage people to make their own realizations about themselves and become more introspective/self-aware. You’re so welcome!! Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
How are you after 2 years now? Do you feel better, are you completely over it? Did it take the whole 2 years to forget?
I’m going through a pretty rough times right now glad I found this. Thank you
Im so sorry to hear you’re struggling. I’m happy you found this too! Sending you lots of love ❤️
This is the best and most valuable video I’ve ever watched in my life.
You said it all beauty. You are so factual.
What a relief talk.
God bless you real good
Great collection of videos Ash thank you! My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me 2 months ago, and 2 weeks ago I found out that he had been cheating on me for sometime. He is now living with his new girlfriend. The pain has been unbearable but I’m slowly starting to accept what’s happened. Just can’t get him out of my head and picturing him with her all the time while I’m sat here alone crying!!
I’m so sorry to hear this has happened to you. Finding out there was cheating is SO painful, because it makes you question the entire relationship and whether or not your perception of what you had was ever even true. Ugh, so so tough. Healing from this one will likely take some serious time, so please be patient with yourself. Please know that what this guy did is NOT a reflection of you, nor did he do this because you lacked in any way. He’s got some serious character flaws, and trust me when I say you do not want someone who is capable of doing something like this (as in, capable of lying and cheating on his partner of 5 years) as someone to walk the path of life with. You deserve so, so much better. Please know that you are loved ❤️
Ashley Nord thank you ❤️ You’re videos have given me so much to think about, I’m beginning to see the light where before it was only darkness.
How r u doing now?
Horrible....😢
Thank you for this video :) I can truly say I’m over the man I dated, however I can’t seem to get over the breakup and what we had, the emotions, and the feeling of abandonment. I can’t get over the fear that I’ll be in another situation like that
You’re very welcome! This is such a powerful insight. It’s amazing that you recognize your unresolved feelings are entirely to do with your own wounds around abandonment, as opposed to your ex themself. Have you ever heard of the term “shadow work” in relation to therapy? If not, I would check out Rising Woman’s Instagram page, as this is something they talk about a lot. I’m pretty sure they run online courses as well! Participating in something like that may help you to really get to the root of those abandonment fears and allow you to bring understanding and healing to them.
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Going through this right now , I feel as if I will always be alone , but this video was so helpful
This women is a freaking genius, whatever she just said and did made me a whole new person, change my prospective on things. Thankyou! Keep up the good work! List to her and what she's saying it's all FACTS
Thank you, Ashley. Been dealing with a bad break up. She’s now dating her apparent “gay best friend”. Hurts a-lot. But you have helped and you’re exactly right.
wow. She knows what's going on in my head! That's crazy! So accurate. Love this! Thank you! I've only watched this one video from you (yet) but I'm subscribing. This is exactly what I'm feeling right now, and you just said exactly what I need to hear.
Also I feel like I'm the only guy feeling this way.,
I’m so happy my words resonated with you! I’ve absolutely been in your shoes.
And about 35% of my audience is male, so you’re far form alone here! ❤️ I can assure you there are a lot of men who feel the way you do right now.
This video is a gift that keeps on giving. Thank you Ashley 🌹
Seriously, I came here to find something to soothe my heart from my ex after I got to know that he has remarried and moved overseas. Like I feel terrible and sad. But also, I applaud myself for walking out of a violent marriage alive. Thank you so much, Ashley!
You really drop some genuine knowledge in here about asking yourself WHY you are hurting and then addressing those specific fears. And they ARE fears "they never really loved me" is a scary thought when you know for certain you love THEM). I really like and appreciate your focus on the false beliefs needing attention. This is the best breakup advice on CZcams, and I should know: i just watched a dozen less helpful ones.
Cheers to you 🤜🤛
...I do feel kinda odd being the only guy here, but your advice really is not based on gender. This is some universal stuff you hit on.
Thank you so much! There are so many “coaches” on youtube that really underemphasize the underlying causes of our heartache, so it’s my mission to try and fill that gap 😁 paying attention our false beliefs and inner narratives, and therefore really learning how to heal from the inside out is so, so important. Otherwise, we stay prisoners forever.
And my audience is actually about 35% male believe it or not! I think they’re just a little more quiet in the comments section 😊 thank you for chiming in!
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Mariana Bulhosa I’m so happy to hear! But am also sorry you’re going through this. Sending you lots of love, be patient with yourself ❤️
Thank you, I needed this today. I appreciate your approach.
This video is so comforting and reassuring thank you for this ❤️
i know i’m late to the video but it’s been over a year since the breakup. i cried while watching this, it felt great for someone to reassure me that i’m gonna be okay. it’s been really hard.
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You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching. I’m so happy to hear you found it helpful ❤️ you’re certainly not alone!
It is so hard for me first find out he's moved on. This video helps so much, thank you!!!
I should have seen this video a lot earlier. This is the best video I can think to have go viral. Thank you. Truly thank you.
I always go back to this video whenever I have a break up relapse.
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i have broken up with my ex few months ago and now she is already with someone else. It is really hurt. Anw, i really grateful to listen to your advice. It has been a huge help for me. especially on the part that 'even though she has moved on, it does not have anything to do with our worth.'
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Hi. Really spot on. I don't have one or two of the points you mention but all of them. I have a very rough and interesting story I think.
You are very wise and once again, so on point. I'm glad I fell upon your videos tonight. Thank you 🙏
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You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching ❤️
At night I fall apart. I can’t sleep. I quit my job. It just hurts so bad I can’t stop thinking about him. ??? I literally can’t move on I hate feeling so stuck.
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I was actually enjoying what you were talking about. I was sad that the video ended. Thank you. For sharing all this insight
Such wise words from this lady! Love this video.
Just had a breakup yesterday which I initiated. It was just to much toxic behavior which brought out my toxic behavior and my insecurities and fears to the max. I know he will run to someone or anyone else probably even already so this video is just what I needed to remind myself it’s ok. Thank you for the mature way you presented the facts and everything you advised. I will be subscribing now. 😊
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going though this, burns big bravo to you for realizing your self worth and for choosing to walk away! Sending you so much love ❤️
this this this. We were together three and a half months (high school relationship) and while she initiated the breakup, I was *this* close to ending it myself. She just beat me to it. We were both pretty narcissistic and had little to give one another other than materialistic gifts. Her toxicity and trying to make herself out to be so much better than everyone else made me feel very insecure and not good enough for her (i mean, if nobody else is good enough for her, then why should I be?) which then brought out my toxic behavior of trying to put her down. Overall, awful, awful situation. We broke up on December 2 of '22 and now in March of '23 she has started dating the guy that she had a talking stage with a week before she started dating me over him because he was "too dull" for her. Now I feel like she's taking advantage of the fact that he will always be right there and easily exploited so she needs a date to the prom coming up next month, but it also seems like she's just moved way past me. Almost like she's saying "screw you, I was right the first time." It hurts, but I've got my own prom date and I'm leaving for college (she's a junior) in a few months anyway so it's not like I'll have to put up with it much longer but I still feel a stab in the heart whenever i see them walking together or her car parked next to his.
Thank you for this video. Although I’m not sure if my ex has moved on entirely from me, but this video actually has prepared me for what I’m going to face in the future. I hate facing the fact that we might not be together again or I’m not the one for him, but i just hope I too can move from him completely. Still in healing process, really looking forward to be happy again - with or without him.
You’re very welcome, thank you for watching! These things take time, healing is certainly not a sprint. Sending you lots of love ❤️
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Trying my best to move on .. I miss her daily but I know she no longer feels the same way about me. My biggest fear is that I'll love this women for the rest of my life.. I'm done resisting.
Same here its terrible
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This is 1 year and some months and i feel the same way.. 6 years down the drain.. i cant see myself moving on with anyone else... even tho the relationship wasnt perfect i was willing to work it out... i dont see how this is supposed to make you a better person...
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I definitely needed to hear this today. It validates that to feel hurt for months is normal.
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Thank you for your work from the bottom of my heart! I was literally brought to tears thanks to your amazing emphaty. You don't know me, yet I felt understood. It will be a long journey for me, and I'm glad to have found your channel; I will come to hear these kind words again. Thank you.
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It's a 12 days for me...I have been crying since
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Janvii Verma I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this and that you’re hurting so much. As scary as it feels, try to surrender into the hurt and really allowing your emotions to be felt. Resisting, or trying to get “rid” of your feelings can actually keep you stuck. That being said, take it at your own pace of course ❤️ sending you lots of love!
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This is the worst situation to be in emotionally. I wish it was as easy to find people going through the same thing irl as it is to find on here. It would be so helpful to be around people going through the same thing to help eachother out and possibly find someone who is looking for the same thing you are. Most of us are looking for "the one" and our exes didnt have that in mind. Best wishes to you all and hope things better.
It is only getting harder by the day. Thank you for this video.
Was me blocking him back the wrong move? I know I wouldn’t take him back, but I don’t want to make it impossible to be remembered. Even though he did everything possible to delete the memory of me. I just can’t do that.
My fears are being alone and not being loved or appreciated. Being forgotten and especially being hated, I cry knowing he hates me with his whole heart now.
I know how hard it is - often times, it can get worse before it gets better, as all kinds of unprocessed feelings can come erupting up to the surface for our attention when our lives are especially still and quiet. If you think blocking him is the most loving decision for YOU, in that it may help the temptation to contact him etc, then I don’t think it was the wrong choice. That being said, moving on isn’t tit for tat. As I said in my video, it’s not a competition ❤️
This is the best video advice. Thank you ❤
My ex very quickly moved on in just 2 months and I still haven't because I still share that love for her. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today. I actually starting crying during the part that because I haven't moved on yet just speaks about my ability to love and who I am. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through heartbreak. But yes - it’s absolutely the truth! There is nothing about an inability or slowness to move on that should be considered shameful. Not being ready is MORE than okay. Allow your heart to do it’s thing in its own time 🙌🏼
Thank you for this. After 13 years being married. Not even 1 month of being divorced she has moved on. I am not ready to even think about another person. I must take care of myself first.
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This video was very comforting... Recently went through a divorce and im dealing with some negative emotions on how he moved on so quickly... While we lived together no less. Thank you. ❤
I’m so happy to hear it was able to bring you some comfort ❤️ but I’m so sorry to hear that you’re struggling. Moving on from a marriage would be extremely painful at the best of time, let alone watching them with someone else. Hang in there!! I promise you will be okay!
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This is an amazing and very helpful video. I am glad I found it, thank you for creating and posting this!
My fear comes from the fact that I know I messed up.. He loved me deeply but then I became insecure and needy and desperate over stupid and immature stuff and that made him change towards me.
Now I'm faced with the reality of him being in love with this new girl and it hurts because I know how much love he can give to someone and that he is now giving that love to someone new.. someone who probably won't make the same mistakes I did.
I can't help but think that maybe if I had been a little more mature over the relationship, we would have worked out. I lost him and it was my fault, how do you deal with that?
Inês L it’s not your fault at all! We go through ups and downs in a relationship and if they couldn’t deal with a down time with you, they weren’t the right person for you. You learn from this relationship and carry it into the next. Sharing insecurities with your partner is important and if they can’t handle understanding and talking to you about it I think you’ll find someone that will.
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I think you’re being too hard on yourself. I just got broken up with too. But I’ve been in therapy for years, and my therapist talks about how we usually pick a certain type of person, and it’s based on a lot of things in our upbringing. I think it’s more likely to say that your ex will pick someone similar to you. You shouldn’t be thinking that the next person will be so different and better than you in some way. It’s also not good to keep thinking about what you did or didn’t do wrong. All you can change is the present.
And my instinct would be to ask yourself why were you feeling insecure with this person? I felt insecure with my ex. And that’s because he was lying a lot towards the end to me, and not answering phone calls or text for long periods of time. He was giving me reasons to worry and feel insecure. So it wouldn’t be fair to blame everything on myself. I hope some of this makes you feel better.
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This is exactly how I feel. I was so afraid of losing her I ended up pushing her away.
New follower! This video really touched me -thank you! I really pray that you see and answer my question/concern. My ex was lying to me and not being honest with being in a new relationship. I found out through social media. I politely reached out to the new girlfriend and she blamed me and called me crazy. For the past year I was under the impression that we were working on trust and a strong foundation only to find out he has a new girlfriend. I am so crushed. This only happened Friday so I know that it is normal feeling. I just do not understand why he would do this. (we were together for 8 years prior to breaking up)
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A narcissist. I have the same situation and he played the ending out well and tagged her out of nowhere on his ig because he knew I would write her. She ended up believing him because I couldn’t get out the clear truth after being so blind sided so much of it came out as hurt. But I know how you feel. 6 years and he asked e to marry me.. a week later he had a new girl I knew nothing about.
Omg no ! The same thing happened to me same exact thing . It makes no sense at times . Yet my ex is still bothering me telling me
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House he blows up my email ! I’m my head I think we’ll why did U choose someone else when you said we were working on getting back together !
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Thank you for this video. Struggling with my breakup.
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I miss her so much.. it’s so hard. She moved on so quick. I’m still suffering. I hate being alone through this. We were together for almost 2 years and within a couple of months she moved on with someone. It’s been a year and a half since we broke up and I’m still not over her..
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Love your videos. Can't say I agree with the "better fit" argument. If they were toxic, carrying trauma and were emotionally distant, NO ONE is going to snap a magic button and all of a sudden, they'll be the way you envisioned they could be. Just the same pattern with a different face. No if both were relatively healthy, aware, and willing to work at their relationships...that's different
True! He is toxic, with tons of trauma and emotionally distant when that trauma resurfaces. But he found someone who would suck it all in just to be with him as she was chasing him for over a year. So I'm pretty sure it's going to last, no matter how destructive he can be.