How has my ex moved on SO FAST?! Why has my ex gotten over our breakup faster than me?
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- How has my ex moved on SO FAST?! Why has my ex gotten over our breakup faster than me?
Why does it seem like my has moved on from our breakup so fast? How has my ex moved on faster than me? How has my ex gotten over me SO FAST?! I’ve seen comments like this asked time and time again from my subscribers, and I know how confusing and painful it is to watch your ex move on with someone else, especially to watch them move on with someone else so quickly after your breakup. However, it’s important to understand that the speed at which your ex moves on very rarely has ANYTHING to do you. In this video, I discuss a few common reasons that an ex might have moved on from your breakup faster than you, but also remind you that moving on is NOT a competition. It can be difficult to know how to cope when your ex moves on with someone else, but them doing so is not a reflection of how much they did you didn’t care about you. So, if you’re feeling frustrated and are wondering how to deal when your ex moves on and you haven’t, and are asking yourself questions like “why does it seem like my ex has moved on from our breakup so much faster?” or “how has my ex gotten over our breakup faster than me?” then this video might be exactly what you need!
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My philosophy is thank god my ex has moved on as the universe is sending me a better deal😊
YES! Amen! I love that 🙌🏼
Why was the new girl sent him then?
this comment made me feel so much better 😃
I really feel alone is there anyone to talk
@@mehulsoni9 hey There . Here if ya need to talk
I strongly believe my ex moved on so quick bc he was over it before it ended but he also doesn’t know how to be alone I think. It hurts that he emotionally checked out before he left me bc I hadn’t. I still loved him so much and he didn’t feel the same anymore. Now he’s talking to someone else and is living his life happily without me. It went from “you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me” and “I can’t see my life without you” to, “I’m starting to see my life without you” and “im just not feeling it anymore”. I don’t understand. I just can’t seem to move on. 🥺
I was toxic, I pushed him away and I can’t stop blaming myself. 💔
I can relate to a lot of the things you said, down to the pushing him away. It hurts so much to see him with someone else. I'm going thru this rn... I hope you found some peace now
Updates?
i am in the same position but i dont want him back but if you want yours back focus on your goals and job and upgrading whom you are happily but dont do it too often and watch and see he come crawling back to u
I can feel you🥺 how are you doing now?
1. To escape, distract or numb.
2. They don't know how to be single..thy struggle being alone.
3. They emotionally checked out before the relationship ended.
Isn’t it called rebound relationships when someone moved on soo quickly , like the love addiction type, that they’re distracting themselves from the reality of loosing someone significant. I believe at some point it will hit them hard because emotions are real and if you don’t deal with them properly they’ll find their way back to get you!
A really tough reality is that most relationships simply just won’t work out, they will run it’s course either you like it or not. No matter how badly you want it to workout, it just simply won’t.
💔💔 painful truth
Better off renting by the hour.
He said he needed to "be alone" and then moved on instantly. Then covid happened and I found out they had moved in together and I had hoped they would break up. Now I found out last week they are engaged. It hurt like hell to see him living this life with her that we talked about.
I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you. That sounds extremely confusing and painful. Please know that you will be okay ❤️
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Yessssss on reminding us that objects on social media aren't what they appear. Also, thank you so much for reminding us that moving on isn't a race.
Yessss! I feel like everyone’s social media profiles needs one of those stickers under every single photo: “warning: objects pictured here are not what they appear.” Lol
@@AshleyNord that's perfect, my ex "hated" photos but from mutual friends I learned both his and the new person's profile pics use overly done snapchat filters.
@@AshleyNord hello Ashley. What could you advice regarding this matter? I broke up with my ex and after 2 weeks of separation he start sleeping with his ex. They have been in relationship for 9 yrs with no children. Both parties don't trust each other because both cheated while they were in relationship. I am on no contract for 3 weeks now. I still miss him but I don't think I'll get back with him because I don't trust him anymore. I know we split up and was single when he slept with her but I was just disappointed of his behaviour. I think they are still sleeping together. But he said to me when confronted that he hasn't got feelings for her anymore.
This video is so validating and reassuring. I'm saving this to constantly remind myself whenever I need a pep talk. Thanks for doing what you do, Ashley! Your empathy is very much appreciated.
This is such wonderful feedback 🥺 I’m so happy my words have made you feel validated. That’s all I could ever ask for when putting out my content! You’re so welcome! Thank you for your encouragement and support ❤️❤️
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So right! This gave me the strength to block her! I can't help myself but to check and hurt myself any longer. Thank you!
Thank you. 😊 I guess we have to acknowledge the uncomfortable feelings and emotions we have like you said and not beat ourselves over having them. Thank you for telling me how valid they are. This totally makes me feel like I'm not alone. Next up is focusing on our own self growth so we don't spiral into jealousy and not-so-fruitful activities.
My problem is not that he moved on with someone else, it’s that he moved on in a healthy way. He meditates, exercises, is calm. Maybe he said it just to hurt me, idk. But I hate thinking that he’s healthy and at peace while having had destroyed me in the process
I certainly understand why this would be triggering for you. However, I think it’s worth pointing out that just because someone meditates or exercises, doesn’t mean they are decent people. I’m not sure what this person did to you, but if they were intentionally malicious, hurtful, abusive, etc. without offering a sincere apology and acknowledgement of what they did, then this is not a healthy person. And if they did do that (as in offer sincere acknowledgement etc.) then I think it’s important to check in with yourself about why it is you want this person to continue to suffer. This is likely a reflection of unhealed wounds you have within yourself that have very little to do with your ex ❤️
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Thank you! It's very difficult to navigate through all of these emotions, but you make me feel really understood and not alone
I’m so happy I was able to make you feel less alone! Your feelings are incredibly valid ❤️
You explanation is spot on . Can you please do a video on person who lines up replacements while being in relationship and then jumps from one relationship to another
Yeah my first thought was a rebound. Just to fill a void ir boost their ego. Some ppl are codependent and need others around them constantly. Narcissistic people always need new supply as well. My ex had said he was emotionally and mentally tired as was i. I still wanted time to heal but he moved on. He isnt the type to self reflect but I am so this helped me understand it wasn't personal. I was def over the relationship but I still needed time. My ex moved on a week after. I don't feel threatened by the new person. Just surprising bc he said he loved me 2 weeks before moving to her. Oh well. He is her headache now and I've been headache free since I dumped him. He won't be any different with her.
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Mine was still talking about our future plans while talking with others and possibly cheating with someone I had suspected…
Wow Ash you hit it right on the nail 🎯🎯🎯🎯 thanks so much for this video 🙏🏽
“This person is VERY far away from moving on you...But NOT in a good way.” Thank you Ashley I needed that. My ex let it be known in our friend group that she was taking a date to something we were all doing, just a couple weeks after our year long relationship ended. It’s a little confusing though - she blocked me everywhere she could. It’s hard to figure out how if she’s actually moved on or just messing with me. Or maybe she does have a love addiction? Either way, I DO miss her. But that bit hurt pretty bad
It makes complete sense that you would be hurt by this. I think anyone in your position would feel the exact same way! ❤️ hang in there!
In my experience it tends to be as if women move on faster than men. However, the truth is more like that the woman has tried to resolve relationship issues but the man doesn't understand or want to understand. Upset and devastated, the woman will discuss regularly and at length her relationship issues with her girlfriends. All the while, the man is oblivious to all of this, doesn't talk to his friends and just thinks the relationship will work itself out. Then, one day, the shit hits the fan again and the relationship breaks up for good.
The difference now is that the woman, who has already spoken at length with her girlfriends about her relationship problems is already prepped and is emotionally and mentally prepared to deal with the break up and is able to move on as she has already come to terms and made peace with her decision. The man, who was oblivious to all of this is left at the stage the woman was when she started discussing her problems with her girlfriends. Devastated.
Sweeping generalisations? Maybe, but that's what's happened with me and I hold my hands up to being that male.
Nah. This is 100% spot on, man.
he dumped me and send me pictures of her a week after and said he is in love with her,, confused why he would contact me just to say that but his excuse was ''so you know its over for real this time''
@@braniefanie4938 What a twisted man, he could’ve made it clear theres no chance anymore without doing that. Hope you are okay rn and can still love yourself.
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This is so timely. Thank you Ash.
You’re so welcome! ❤️🥰
I just recently ended things with my ex and i was so emotionally drained like you mentioned. Words can’t even explain how done I was and I just could not see a way to make things work at all. So when I ended it I felt shock, sadness, anger , etc. but it’s been less than a month and I’m starting to feel so much better. I feel so free and excited to be able to spend my time however I want & not have to deal with the constant back and forth.
I do still love him and I’m not ready to be with someone else (relationship or FWB) but I am excited to go out and have fun and see what life has in stored for me
I hear you! I have absolutely been in your shoes. I’m so happy you are feeling the weight being lifted and that you’re looking forward to what the future has for you! That’s a great place to be 😊❤️
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Thanks for the validating video. I asked why my abusive ex moved on very quickly after a 2 month period of trying to get me back. She said ‘survival’. She doesn’t have any family, low paying job and tiny apartment. She wanted someone fast. I found out she has borderline personality disorder. All she had to do is be nice to me. Nope, couldn’t do it.
Its only been about 4 months but I can't handle dropping my kiddo off and seeing the new guys car in the driveway, crushes me for so many reasons. My anxiety goes thru the ceiling and sets me back to like it was just yesterday I was walking in the house with them :(
So greatful for you and your strength& videos.
Your feelings are SO valid! Absolutely anyone in your shoes would find this a huge struggle. I can’t even imagine how painful it would be to see that, especially when your ex is the mother of your child 😔
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My ex moved on with someone new quickly. Lately from what I heard the new relationship is far more toxic. I don't know what to feel. Sometimes I feel empathetic and sometimes I feel indifferent.
Low self esteem is the reason my ex jumped straight with someone else
Very well done… and well expressed. Thank you.
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Thank you so much for this video. It doesn't make things easier but at least helped me to understand. I hope thats a beginning of my healing process.
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My heart is in so much pain right now knowing my ex is with another person and I’m still struggling of getting over the all the emotions. I was fine until I find out about it recently... I don’t even want to get back with him but I’m just in denial... he was the one that loved more in the relationship but why is he moving on in just a few months when we had a 4 year relationship..... I hate this feeling and I just want to get out of it.... your video really hit the point, it’s just difficult to deal with it... I cried every morning this week...
It hurts so much. I blocked him on every social media, but it doesn't help a lot when I think about him constantly. He has moved on so quickly... And the worst part of it all is that the last time we spoke, we talked about seeing each other in order to have sex as in a friends with benefits thing, but then he fucking GHOSTED me and never answered any of my messages again. A week later he was posting a picture with another girl on his Instagram Story. I still have been having nightmares about this... He crushed me. :(
Also, could you please talk about ghosting, Ashley? It would be nice 😔
Why would you want to be friends with benefits? In that scenario, he's technically a "free-agent" and can see whoever he wants on the side and you probably wouldn't even know. Going the "friends with benefits" route just to keep that person in your life isn't worth it, and would probably cause jealousy and other problems down the line. Take care of yourself in the meantime, and hopefully you find someone better in the future.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. As someone who went back to an ex to do the whole “friends with benefits” thing, it never ends well 😖 it’s like being rejected and broken up with all over again. I’ve totally been in your shoes.
Yes!! I will absolutely do a video on being ghosted very soon ❤️
@Movie Crazed what do you mean by one-eighty? would love to hear your story!
Love is sweet, love is life, true love never die don't give up someone you love all hope is not lost okay
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So helpful ty. Yes... I'm hurting for sure, and he is one of those guys that is telling me way too much about the new girl Just hurtful.
Ouch! It’s absolutely not necessary for you to have to hear that. If I were you, I would ensure it’s not possible for him to continue contacting you.
Thank you for your video. My ex has moved on 3.5 months after we broke up and its been killing and eating away at me on how quickly he has moved on from our 10 year relationship. It hurts to know that he doesn't love me anymore. I have noticed that he has been showing signs of anxious avoidant attachment style and I would appreciate it if you perhaps made a video that discusses the importance of knowing your partners attachment style and your own attachment style in a relationship. Knowing these things could be very insightful and perhaps it could be beneficial at understanding your (ex) partners actions and your own reasons for mistakes that you may have made in the relationship.
As a fellow anxious avoidant, I would LOVE to do a video about this. I’m cautious when discussing this topic given that I’m not a qualified mental health professional, but I agree that understanding attachment styles is really important! I will certainly consider doing a video about this. In the meantime, if you don’t already, I highly recommend following Silvy Khoucasian. Her work is incredible and very much based in understanding attachment styles.
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I was in a relationship in 2018 this girl started out crazy for me. Mad when she couldn't be around me or talk to me falling asleep on the phone etc. Shortly after things started taking a turn for the worse, she started changing playing games not calling not answering my text rapidly, when I ask her whats wrong she beats around the bush and claim to still be hurt by a past relationship. After a spell I just let things go and moved on it hurted like hell. But she moved on least on Facebook she did! Tried to make me jealous about this new dude...yet never wanted to talk about me on social media. He ended up hurting her and ill admit I found joy in it. But to shorten the story to this day almost three years later I haven't gotten over her I tried but can't.
I hate yet love her very much....both very much.
hi! So i feel like it was me who helped those other videos get so many views as I watched them a dozen times this weekend lol. I recently went through a big breakup with a guy much like one that you mentioned in one of your other videos “ the nice guy Asshole”. I almost wish you could do an entire video on this alone because breaking up with someone who is so genuinely peaceful, sound, and seemingly wonderful throughout every stage somehow makes it even harder, and I feel like this is an experience not to my knowledge many can relate too? Or can? All I know is I was engaged to a truly wonderful human being, but he wouldn’t change in vital ways that were needed to move the relationship to the next step and make us both happy. We were different but we were also great together and I felt like if he could make those changes, it could work.
Long story short, that ending has been excruciating for me. And he has already found so much peace and acceptance in it in just 7 months when we were engaged and together for 4 years. He’s so kind and loving in all his messages , and overall a good human and while that should make me feel good. It doesn’t.
Not sure if you would ever consider this as a video topic but I would love to hear your thoughts on how to move on from that “ most wonderful human who broke your heart into 9000 pieces” aka the “ nice guy Asshole”
Love you and your words ash. Thanks for listening. Hope you read this!!! :)
Gotta love those nice guy assholes. Sending you healing vibes.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I will ABSOLUTELY do a video on this topic because I agree it’s not something everyone can relate to. In my experience, most people can look back on their ex’s and think things like “thank god I didn’t end up with THAT” and it makes moving on much easier in my opinion. However, when the guy was genuinely a good person it makes moving on so so so much more difficult. Anger towards a total prick is so much easier to feel than sadness and heartbreak over losing a good person.
Ugh. I’ve totally been there. Stay tuned!
Ashley Nord yes yes yes exactly it’s so much harder especially cuz everyone around me also loved him too, ugh would loveeee your take on this I can’t wait. Thanks so much for replying I look forward to hearing more xx
Good topic,can't wait to hear it.
Hi. Please tell me how you recovered? My 4 year relationship just ended last week. He was.. he is a GREAT guy... But I was beginning to get frustrated. I had stopped feeling any physical attraction. He did try a little, but not enough. I was miserable. But now that it's over, I'm even more miserable, wondering if maybe I should have just let it all go? Not obsessing over every little detail...?
I became so toxic and hurt him so much.
I'm scared I'll never get better, will never get over him and will forever feel guilty...
Thanks for this video Ash.
I was one of those people who was commenting on your other videos regarding this topic. Not only did my ex move on super fast after out long-term relationship, she was one of those who talked so much shit to me about how great the new guy is. He's got so many friends, good job, own place, her mom likes him, how much sex they have, that she basically moved in with him (this was 2 weeks after we broke up) etc.....It was absolutely ridiculous. The was the tipping point for me, and I immediately blocked her on everything. Maybe a day or two later she emailed me, saying that she was sorry for everything, and that she wished she was more open to talking to me in person. Completely meaningless email, and I never replied to it. The emotional abuse and lack of respect was so real... with the breakup and all that on top of it, it totally destroyed me. I still think about it sometimes, along with creeping her IG from time to time even though I have her blocked (there's easy ways around it since she made her account public again, probably so I could freely creep it thinking that it would make me feel like shit). When I look at her IG I don't even know who that person is anymore, cause it's not the one I fell in love with.
I just laugh at the pics of her pregnant with this new dude, I'm assuming he hasn't seen all her red flags yet, or is completely oblivious to them like I was for most of our relationship (beta simp mindset at the time)....he has no idea what he's in store for lol. Oh well, not my problem anymore :)
Good for you for blocking her and doing what you need to do to protect your emotional health! I’ll never understand why ex partner’s feel the need to continue to harass someone they supposedly cared about, when they are meant to have moved on. Sounds like you dodged a bullet! Happy, healthy people don’t act like she was acting.
Can you pleaseee make a video on how to not let it bother you that your ex moved onto someone better looking or just “better” in general. I can’t find anything on it and I would LOVE to hear what you have to say. I’m really struggling on accepting this fact. It’s really hard. Idk how to not let it bother me. 🙄😞
I realllllyyy hope you see this!! 💕
Ooo yes! This is a great video suggestion!! Thank you 😊 stay tuned!
@@AshleyNord thank you!! I have been really struggling with this. I absolutely love you and your channel. I look forward to your posts every week. Keep up the good work!! 💕
@@AshleyNord Ashley..... can you add into your video another point... if she looks IDENTICAL to you. This is a major part of the problem. She looks like me, like if I had a twin in this small town, it’d be her. I just feel like she’s an upgraded version. Ugh.
My ex boyfriend moved on just after 2 weeks of a breakup of our serious relationship. I still love him and im so hurt. :(
@Mark Shaw I don't want to be back with someone who left me for another girl and broke me.
Same here! Was in a relationship with my ex for 1.5 yrs. I was ready to move to the next step. He was still grieving after the death of his late wife and I had lost my late bf within 4 months of one another. We didn’t know one another but met on the dating app something we both said we wouldn’t try. As commitment was discussed he said he wasn’t ready to commit and didn’t want to put all his eggs in one basket 😩🙄😢💔…Bf said he wanted to work on himself got on the dating apps in a relationship with someone else 2 weeks after our breakup. I did so much for him and his 3 boys as he was a single widowed father. I am hurt, feel used, and betrayed! Not only am I grieving over him but his boys too! Very hard emotionally for me!
Everything will be ok in due time I keep telling myself! 🙌🏼🙏🏼🌟
@@claudettealexis8145 im sorry about that I know how it feels like. I hope you're doing better now.
I feel ya on that level tbh. My ex girlfriend been with whole another guy behind my back since somewhere around june until my bestfriend told me she found someone til this very day after she told me she aint looking for a relationship anytime soon but focus on herself since beginning of july. Yet after our break up she wanted me to be her friend still and all, (which I wasn't hundred percent sure about) then I hung out with her one day then her phone notification blew up from this same guy over & over n it feel big fuck you slapped across my face and she knew I had feelings for her still. So, my dumbass ended up messaging her ex later on, then she found out & I made whole entire lie about it even though it was obvious so she got mad at me and hated me. End of day though, I rather say my instincts knew that this was gonna happen and knew that she had someone else other than me in her life, so I did that extra bullshit just so she can purposely hate me and I never talk to her again because I wasnt gonna heal myself if stayed in her life
@@Bardock059 ohhh wow im so sorry it's a harsh story! Never stays friends with them. You will get through that because you're so strong just believe in yourself. Already 2 months and I feel better. I did cut contact with him completely so I was able to heal and take care of myself. Do the same and never look back on someone that replaced you in the first place after all the love that you gave to them. Love yourself and love will comes to you.
I love you Ash ❤️ BTW You look AMAZING with black hair! 😍
I love you too!! Aww thanks so much 🥰☺️
This was excellent! Thanks.
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You are amazing girl 💖
I appreciate your videos and advice so much 💛
I’m so happy to hear that!! I appreciate you right back!! ❤️🥰
Yay! I love your videos, Ashley!
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Ashley, the end of the video got me so bad. Exactly what happened to me, I texted my ex 2 weeks ago, wondering why she unblocked me out of nowhere while she kept me blocked on IG for months. She said she didn’t know, I said I miss her and asked if I still would have a chance and she said she is in another relationship and she made to point of showing me picture of them together and trying saying how happy she was and that they match so much. That hurt me so bad and I know she did it by purpose. That’ made me feel so unworthy at the time. Why would someone do that?
Damn sorry to hear that, yea I couldn't imagine doing that to my ex ever, that's really inconsiderate, especially after you told her that you missed her. You being sad over that is 100% reasonable, I would've felt the same, honestly I would've gotten so frustrated that someone would do that right in my face. I hope you're feeling better now, 2 months has passed.
How have u been
Your ex is a narcissist, you got lucky when she attacked to someone else. Normal people don’t do stuff like that. Run, don’t walk, away.
I was with my ex for 6 years, we were each other’s first everything. I moved out on December 1st and he already has his friend that he had “feelings” for staying over at our old home. I just don’t understand how after 6 years he can replace me IMMEDIATELY. If it was after 6 months, sure. But it hasnt even been a full week. I feel defeated
Ugh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m sure you feel extremely hurt and betrayed. Hang in there honey ❤️ I promise you will be okay. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever is coming up for you.
Sounds like a classic rebound relationship. Mine did the same thing. Hang in there you are not alone.
This happened to me after a 6 year relationship.
It will become better and you will eventually find your happiness.
Stay strong.
@@Areyoukiddingme64 Mne got married to his rebound
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My ex set up all possible dating apps the day after a break up. That stingggg, I felt so betrayed and hurt.. But what’s the saddest about it for me is that he had no time to self reflect, so sad.. I was his first girlfriend at not that young age..
Ugh, I’m so sorry you’re in this position. Honestly, setting up dating apps the day after a relationship ends says far, far more about this other person than it does about you. Totally classless in my opinion! 😬 and yes, you’re absolutely right. Zero time for self reflection or any accountability. Good luck to the next person he ends up with!!
thank you so much for this, you have aided in my healing process
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A 3 year relationship and I was going to propose the week she ended it, one week later she’s dating someone else. No chance she wasn’t seeing this guy already and that lets me know I can do better. I can’t even look at another girl and it’s been a month. I will never understand it and I’ve been obsessing over how it’s possible she can move on that quick
Like you said, they usually check out months before, and only staying in the relationship because they can not be alone. Once they find somebody that gives them attention, they will transfer their feelings over and once they give you the news the can pretty much jump onto the next person without much remorse.
I finally understood that my ex has checked out long before he officially ended it. Kind of unfair that he never spoke a word to me about anything.
How do you do it though. How do you let go.
You said how you waited around for something from your ex, but how the hell do you let go of that wish when you know it’s likely not going to come.
8 years together, she moved on within a month with someone else. There are not words to describe how I’m feeling beyond devastated, crushed, heartbroken, absolutely lost all will to live.
So how do you truly get through this.
Well mine bring the girl to show me that’s what he is doing.and then text me a week later that he is leaving to sort his life out.they got married a month in and welcome a baby months later.I was soo devastated.my mental health was drained.am picking up the pieces.seeing the trauma flashes in my head gives me anxiety sometimes . But I know I will b heal.
It hurts so much and I feel used 😞 She pursued me relentlessly. I had my guard up because she got dumped not too long ago after a five-year relationship. I fell for her eventually. But, after our first date, she gave me all sorts of lame excuses about us being incompatible... She was like a switch being turned off suddenly... She went from texting everyday, all day, to not wanting to talk at all.
I went 18 days NC and reached out. We texted one text per day for two weeks before I told her I still had feelings for her and wanted to try again. She broke the news to me, saying she had *just* found someone she really "loves and adores". Less than a month... and she is already in love. She asked to be friends.
Few hours after breaking the news, she posted a picture of herself in her public IG with her new flame. She was still in my private IG... I was so hurt and decided to block her.
I wrote a closure message stating that I love her and cannot be friends with her... Then I said that would be my last text. She never replied. It's been 12 days and I have not tried reaching out. I'm shattered and in pain.
I know how you feel. My ex has moved on 3.5 months after we broke up. It is especially painful as a month before he said that he misses me and wanted to meet up in person, but never scheduled a time for it. We have been together for 10 years and after we broke up he promised that he will not date or be in a relationship for a whole year. After a reached out to him 5 days ago he told me that he is in a new relationship and I said that I still love him just to hear nothing but silence and discomfort (he called after I reached out). I am in so much pain that I haven't been able to eat or sleep since I received this news. This is emotional and mental pain that is on a whole other level. I wish you all the best with your journey in healing your heart.
I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had your heart broken. It truly is the worst feeling! I know how painful it is to have your hopes and dreams crushed like that. I think it’s great you wrote a closure text and that you got what you needed to get out. Although I know it’s painful that she didn’t respond, I don’t think there’s anything she could have said that would have made you feel better. I would continue the practice of providing yourself closure! It’s not something another person needs to give you. I find writing letters/journaling to be extremely helpful when it comes to getting your thoughts and feelings out. Hang in there ❤️ sending you lots of love.
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I work with my ex as we broke up in March 2020 we were together 8 years. I love my job and work wise we work well together. I don't want him back. But he has moved on and I really struggle with this I hate him being with someone else. He thinks I should be over it. Its caused a few issues where ive come home from. He knows how I feel and obviously doesn't care. Now he says she may start come to visit him at work. Told everyone except me in the bringing so not to hurt me. Or rub it in my face. I don't know this women. But now wants to through her in my face. Help me get over it please im determine to keep my job. And he's the boss and is not going anywhere either. Love your videos thanks Leanne.
I don't want him back at all.
Ugh sorry about that spammer commenting here! They’re like flies! I can’t block them all quick enough.
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this! Working with an ex would be extremely difficult. I plan on doing a video very soon about unavoidable contact with an ex, so stay tuned!
Thank you Ashley. I wasn't sure what that was about.(spammers).First time ive commented on youtube.
Look forward to seeing your video. 🙂
My ex was surrounded with friends, I wasn’t. So obviously she moved on much quicker. About a month ago Instagram suggested a photo that was her with some dude. It crushed me.
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I know the feeling man, my ex moved on with a new guy 2 weeks later after we were together for 4.5 years.
Yes, having a good support network around you can certainly help the healing/moving on process. Hang in there, know you’re not alone and it won’t hurt this much forever ❤️
Ashley Nord thanks for great videos Ashley ❤️ I was getting sick of listening to HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK instead of how to heal and how to get yourself back.
May I request for a video on how to be alone and deal with difficult emotions?
Yes!! Stay tuned! My healing and self-soothing video touched on this topic as well ☺️
@@AshleyNord thank you so much ❤️
As someone who moved on faster than I ever expected, i can share some of my perspective.
I was 100% committed to my ex and my relationship. However, earlier this year she had several huge life transitions all coming together which turned her into a very negative person. I tried my best to embrace, understand and be with her but her negativity had already had her best and she just completely lost faith in our relationship. All she talked about was how miserable her life is, how I was not good enough and how our relationship would never work.
I was pretty sure that I wanted to marry her but at some point during that time, all my feelings of dedication, faith and commitment started to fade away. I just couldn't think of myself happy again with her, nor could i think of her being happy with me.
Right before her birthday two weeks ago she lashed out onto me again over a very trivial thing and she mentioned breaking up again. Instead of trying to comfort her like i used to do, i simply accepted it, packed all my stuff and left. And i felt relief like never before.
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Bruh this was enlightening…
How do you feel today? Did you ever reconsider?
I hate to admit this, but I was the other person in a situation like this. I loved him, but I was getting very mentally unstable. I often felt like I was projecting my insecurities on him and it didn’t seem fair that I was bringing him down with me. So I let him go and he, like you said just let me.
It’s been a year and a few months. The reality is only hitting me now and I miss him so much. Not having him beside me made me worse. I hurt him and I hurt myself in the process too. He’s now in a relationship and I don’t want to jeopardise what he has now so I thanked him for everything he’s done for me and I asked him to tell me to move on.
Thats so terrible... I don't wanna feel this pain, I am so tired of crying for 2 months already after breakup... That's so hard... So hard, but I hope I can overcome this... 😭
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I was in a relationship where my ex never really loved and cared for me. It was 85:15 relationship. When she first broke up with me, 2 weeks later, she visited this guy. When we got back together again after like 2 weeks of her visit to the guy, I asked her where she went to, she couldn't tell me, always changing the subject. When she broke up the 2nd time, which totally the last, 2 months later, she travelled again to same location to see the, spent at least 1 good month there.
I was like, why couldn't she tell me that there was someone else?
How could she had moved on so quickly?
I was seeing her post on social media(had to unfollow her to avoid emotional torture), when she was enjoying her trip on flights, something I couldn't do for her (I know I did all I could to make her happy and okay) Perhaps, she takes it that this her new guy is financially ok than me.
But the truth is, I can't accept whatever she thinks.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this! To me, it never makes sense why someone can’t just be upfront and honest with us if they have found someone else they’re interested in pursuing. Perhaps fear? I’m sorry she was dishonest with you, as I know that only adds to the heartache. Hang in there ❤️
@@AshleyNord God bless you. I have moved on and am healing gradually.
I called her like 2 months ago telling her I have nothing against her n I have let everything to slide. But, I could sense her hatred n cold shoulders.
I did that cos I have forgiven her and wanted to clear my conscience, letting her know that I am more mature n can't be in enmity with her. I did that not cos I wanted her back. Of course, I don't need such a person in my life again.
Was I wrong?
Thing to notice if you're going to break up sometimes your ex would just diss you for no reason
This brings up an interesting thought as i recently had a Mutual break and we had had many deep conversations talking out all our issues and possible fixes in a calm manner. We both did not want to be alone but at same time was hiding from the underlying truth that we are just not as compatible as we thought we were. After the final come to jesus talk and we just agreed to end things with out any hatred or violence and i dont feel the sorrow that i did when first having the hard conversation. I feel im ready to just start dating again but so many people say give it time. So then i start to question my self am i ready already?
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Thank you for your time
You’re so welcome! Yes, I totally agree that much of these practices or shifts in mindset are easier said than done. We can’t be “talked out of” feeling our pain - it’s important to allow it to exist for as long as it needs to.
Unfortunately there’s not really a simple answer to that question. If you truly love someone new then it doesn’t sound like you are using them! However if you still find yourself extremely triggered by your ex’s actions then I think it’s important to try and understand the root of that.
@@AshleyNord Thank you again :) i will try that.
He emotionaly moved on and faded away out of our 4 years in a long distance relationship. I feel like I was worthless and it's like I was forgotten. I am still greeving and my feelings never ment anyting to him.
For me I was made into someone that is Invisable and that our hole relationship was worthless. It's been 3 years since we broke up and I can't get over how worthless I feel... I am ashamed that I still love him.
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Me ex ended up with me and monkey branched.
The worst thing is the feeling that you are not even worth mourning in sense of her giving herself time to heal.
Previous relationship she had with my "friend" who hurt us both, and when I said to her I am starting to have feelings for her, she said she needs time and don't want to hurt me.
It was he ho broke up with her.
my ex moved on 2 months after we ended. it hurts because i know he had her lined up for when the time came. i still haven’t found anyone that is interested in something serious but i will wait until they show up. i’m doing better on my own and that’s all that matters
Hi I went through something very similar....how are you doing now?
Everything you said is true
So I was in a relationship for like 8 1/2 years, Granite we had problems for the last couple years but I thought we were working through them this year, Only to find out he was still texting some guy He cheated on me with! So in September when I found that out, At this time we already moved we’re staying with our own familys quarantining, I told him I was upset I seen his email he left on my computer, I needs Space, A month later he posted on Facebook he was in a new relationship and post a bunch of new pictures knowing my family would see 🙇🏾♂️ I’ve never been more devastated in my whole life! I found out Halloween and can’t stop thinking about 😳🙇🏾♂️ this lockdown Just makes the situation a whole lot harder to deal with!
Ouch!! I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. I’m sure you feel extremely betrayed. Please know that you are loved and far from alone ❤️ this person’s actions are not in any way a reflection of you, what you did or what you didn’t do.
4 year relationship he replaced me during the breakup, now they have a baby and I'm still hurt 3+ years later
My ex moved on pretty quickly as well. With her ex before me it was the same way but I didn’t think nothing of it. My first love was the same way. I wonder what the pattern is when it comes to those people for me
How do you deal with the difficult emotions/doing the things that bring you happiness during a pandemic?
Thanks for your comment! I actually did a video a few months back about healing and self-soothing during quarantine which you may find beneficial 😊❤️
Thanks for the video, another great one 👍 would you have considered getting back with your first bf when you both developed further? Give it a 2nd chance, cause you could build something stronger? Thx
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He didn't accept the break up when I offered. We had a suspension period without contact and, I found out that he has moved on with a new girl and publicized her on his SNS, which he has never done it to me before. The new girl looks completely different from me, which makes me wonder if everything he told me about "I just like an authentic and original girl" was just a piece of bad joke. He cheated before but, I gave him another chance to fix it, I am trying to fix it, I even move to his country and bring our pet there to be with him, I cannot take the pet back now because of her health issue, which completely breaks my heart when I think my pet now is close to the new girl.
All I do after finding out that he has moved on is "no contact rule", I blocked everything from him but, that person even used another contact to ask me why I blocked him, I was be like "seriously, why you can ask me this question?"
I feel hurt as hell thinking what I have done to be with him, how much I tried to bring things back together and thinking about our happy moments before..everything now is meaningless to me. I am here, in a strange country, and I have not figured out what I should do next. My feeling is just like a roller coaster, sometimes I think I will be okay, but sometimes I feel very upset, and sometimes I feel empty. I don't know if it's a normal process or not.
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Me and my ex were on and off together for 10 years. We just broke up a month ago and she started dating already. We still live together and have kids together. She’s completely changed and is really cold with me. How do I either fix things or choose when to let go?
Was in a similar situation. I could tell the relationship was strained but I wanted to sit down and talk in hopes of fixing it. Instead she lied to another guy she was getting close to saying we had broken up months before we actually did. She did her test run going out with him for months till she finally decided I guess that it was a fit then broke up with me. Three weeks later they started dating officially.
I’m really sorry to hear this happened to you. I’m sure you feel extremely betrayed 😔
@@AshleyNord Its honestly the most painful thing I've experienced
went through the same situation here
it hasn’t even been 2 months since me and my ex of 6 years broke up and he’s already talking to someone new. he’s not in a relationship yet but I’m sure it’s coming soon, either way just the fact that someone else has his attention is breaking me and I can’t take my mind off it.
Im going through this now with my ex of 8 yrs. He even had his new interest block me. Does it get easier? Its only been two months since the breakup and I can hardly handle memories right now…and he is already into someone.
@@lizrower1751 honestly, yes it gets easier but some days you will randomly hurt more than others. one year later and my ex is now engaged to this girl so yeah...
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Rant incoming:
As much as I wanted to block him, he owes me a sht ton of money. I was dumb and naive. I broke up with him bc his friend told me that he no longer loves me and is now using me bc I’m “rich” and for him to cope his sadness. It was very hard for me to accept that. It took me weeks to finally say that I want to break up. He was lying about almost everything and his reasonings did not match up to his actions at all. I forgave him many times before but obviously nothing changed. He tried to gaslight me as well. After breaking up, my ex called me and sweetly talked to me asking if I ate or anything. I was still broken and confused as to why he is still acting like he cares. I asked about the money and he said that he doesn’t have that much money at the moment and will start to pay me in three months. I couldn’t do anything bc apparently he now works for only two days and is learning on another job for five. He also owes someone’s money up to 30k (he owes me 7k).
What led me here was bc on his friends stories, it was full of my ex having the time of his life hanging out with his male and female friends.
Dated him for 9months
My ex and i was already looking for something new while he was still married to me. He divorced me (he’s army by the way)and I was crushed. I’m still crushed because it’s seems that he he’d leave in advance. He got that promotion and left me and my baby girl to survive on crumbs while he’s high on the hog.😢😢😢 it’s been a year since the divorce and I had a moment where I broke down and cried in pain. The relationship was very toxic.
My ex jumped into another relationship within a week after breaking up. She had been chatting to the guy for months and they became a couple instantly that I was dumped. Now she wants us to be friends or I stay close to her so to provide her support. I do love her but am hurt firstly by her breaking an 11 year old relationship and secondly not even respecting it by staying single for a while so to heal. She keep messaging or calling when am trying to be away and tells me how important I am for her which now seems to be a lie. 😢
The last part of this video helped me my ex would always call me to brag about his “new bitch” and how many other hoes he had staying with him he just went public with their relationship my heart really hurts because they look so happy :/ I really want to hate him for all the pain he caused me emotionally and physically he beat me the whole first year we were together . Now around the third year which is this year I moved out our home officially . He found her 2 weeks later . They’ve been dating for 6 months but me and him were still have sex on and off . I just recently found out about her . We were trying for a baby and all 💔 I wish I could just forget we ever met . I want him wiped clean from my memory . It shocks me how he wants to come off as the stand up new and improved man for her . He really is a shitty human being .
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±2349155456106⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,..,....
Let's call it what it is.... they're trying to avoid the grieving process
What if he just dropped you like you never existed??? I am currently taking a break from being on social media etc but it seems like he didnt even notice, he hasnr tried to reach out of even asked about me and I am not going to lie it hurts. It's like I did him a favor by disappearing
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s so painful feeling as though the other person doesn’t care or isn’t affected by your absence. I’ve TOTALLY been there. I’m planning on doing a video about being ghosted very soon ❤️
Could this possibly be the reason that my girlfriend would consistently go into work when ever I wanted to spend time with her even on her days off.
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So I ended a 13year relationship. A week later my ex had a new girlfriend & 2 months later they moved in together.
My ex was weird because he broke up with me, then after a couple months of no contact. He hit me up wanting to be friends, we'd text sporadically not often, then about 2 months after we begen chatting as friends and following each on our socials again. He one day randomly posts a story of himself and his new boyfriend away on vacation in Mexico, the same place where we had gone on vacation. Needless to say I blocked him and just let it be but why else would he ask me to be his friend? I feel like he set me up so I can purposely witness him moving on happily
this vid really helped me alot. I had a 6 years relationship with my ex and he was my first love. He messaged me on Aug, love bombed me but things really didnt feel right because i feel he wasnt sincere enough so i decided to just end it but yet i felt guilty because i still care for him. Then after a month of no contact i saw that he already have someone new. It hurts like hell to the point i found myself lurking and feeling insecure. Until now, there’s still questions on my mind. How can he do that so quickly? But your advice helped me back on my senses. Thank you!
I’m so sorry to hear you went through this. Love bombing is certainly a red flag and something I think you were right to be wary of. As painful as it is that he’s now moved on, I think you should be really proud of yourself for having boundaries and doing what felt right for you at the time. I think your instincts might have been spot on here ❤️
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My ex told me she wasnt scared of being alone anymore a got with another guy a week later.
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Hey so I am currently living with my ex (together 1.5 years) moved in 3 months ago and after 2 months into he told me he is no longer in love with me. A week later he is already dating around and talking to a bunch of other girls. I am heartbroken and really trying to strengthen my mind. I've wanted to move out but I have no job, no family & I'm from a different country so right now I feel stuck. (moving home is not an option for me) but he wont leave either- we don’t even talk &’his family lives down the road..... any advice?! I miss him, feel stuck, would love him back but how fast hes moved on and acted I know i deserve better.
Honey, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this, but this is not a man that you want back. You have absolutely no business lowering yourself to the standard of a man who has blatantly told you he does not love you, and also has further proved that with his actions. This is not someone you should be involved with in any capacity, and that includes living together. I highly encourage you do everything in your power and capacity to find a job and become self sustainable without this person. This sounds like an incredibly toxic environment and I’m so sorry you’re in this position ❤️
My ex fiance of 1 year (together 3 years) moved on back to her ex friends with benefits about 3 weeks after we broke up. I couldn't believe it when I seen her car at his house. Truly disgusting. Never expected that from her, ever.
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±2349155456106⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,......
Does she owe anything to you? It's her life and it's up to HER to decide how to live her life. Grow up!
@@pradnyadeshpande5395 spoken like a true douchebag. Yeah you’re right let’s normalize the fact that she probably cheated on me prior to leaving, which explains how she moved on so quick. Did I owe her countless date nights or an engagement ring when I proposed and she GLADLY accepted the proposal? She belongs to the streets as I’m sure you do as well. Grow up.
I'm going through this now. The problem is she's my across the street neighbor. Dumbest thing I ever did!
I asked my Ex, she said I go back and read all the bad stuff you texted to hate you 😅
i feel like he moved on fast, even tho we only dated long distance for 4 months, it was a so intense love, like a long term relationship would be. Its been 5 months since i broke up with him and its been very very hard for me, meanwhile he started dating another girl... I dont know if 5 months is considered fast or no but for a person that claimed to love me so much and showed me that he truly loved me in the relationship, i think getting a gf months after is fast... Pls let me know what do u think of this
I know my ex's new relationship will not work. She broke up with me and started dating someone a "week" later.
She monkeys branched to him and i couldn't be more happy and hurt.
My ex and I were together for 3 years and he moved on really quickly to someone who I believe is more beautiful than me. It’s been 6 years since we broke up and they’re still together and they even have a baby now. I don’t know why I can’t move on from him. I’m currently in a new relationship of 3 years as well and I thought I moved on but my thoughts and feelings came back when I found out my ex has a baby with him.
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Peope who jump from "Relationship" to "Relationship" are "Carousel Riders" and its very likely that the time you spent with them indeed meant nothing to them! Boyfriends are interchangeable to chics likes this.Goes the other way too.