Get OUT of your FEELINGS in SNEAKERS!

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  • čas přidán 19. 05. 2024
  • I don't have the answers on why people are so in their feelings or #emotions when you pass on #sneakers in 2024 but I need people to do the inner work so we aren't dealing with this past this year. Let's wrap it up by end of 2024 because if I pass on a #jordan #nike or anything else that drops, why does that make you feel some kind of way?
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Komentáře • 105

  • @pamelasa
    @pamelasa Před 2 měsíci +12

    It's jealousy! Because you are making grown up decisions and they aren't able to. Because of your discussions, I have found peace in LOVING a shoe, but not BUYING the shoe. I was in two raffles today for an Wales Bonner Adidas shoe. But I could not comprehend the cost of $190. So guess what? I canceled both bids. ALSO, misery loves company and it makes THEM feel better to know that you are throwing money at sneakers, instead of making decisions that work be for YOU! So for all that you do and for your great perspective, I appreciate you, my love. Sincerely, a 58 year old, FLY sneakerhead!

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +1

      Aww this just absolutely made my day! Thank you!!! I can't see what's there to be jealous of when they have the free will to make a different decision on a shoe, the same as I have on it. I'm really glad my discussions have fostered some normalcy in liking a shoe and being in this culture without needing to drop $500 monthly to show you love it.

  • @dcb326
    @dcb326 Před 2 měsíci +14

    Cmon yall she says it at the end of every video: Act your age, not your shoe size 🤣

  • @reallygemenii
    @reallygemenii Před 2 měsíci +5

    When you say pass and it’s a must cop for them, it makes them feel as if you don’t have any taste in sneakers because YOU passed and you’re supposed to cop every release which is irrational. Buy what you like at the end of the day.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      It feels like I am, as a creator in this space you're almost expected to do that

    • @daltonoakleyjr391
      @daltonoakleyjr391 Před 2 měsíci

      I told somebody that I passed on the military 4s because of lack of space, and the fact that I have royal 1s/game royal 1s /royal blue foams : and dude look baffled when I said it .
      I like 4s but I don’t need every pair that comes out

  • @veryfewrealleft1405
    @veryfewrealleft1405 Před měsícem

    4:16
    It does the complete opposite of tell somebody they can’t buy the sneaker. It opens the door for one more pair, and that size to be available.

  • @noel16777
    @noel16777 Před 2 měsíci +2

    I’ve always said buy what you like. If you can afford them and within your budget. You said it best take accountability. I’ll never judge another person who passes. I’ve never got the hate in the past, if I passed. Last time I check , cost of living goes up. Still waiting for my check to do the same.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      Would love for our checks to reflect COL but it rarely does

  • @tim78baker
    @tim78baker Před 2 měsíci +6

    Those AF1 flea markets were and are some of the ugliest shoe's I've seen, but youtubers still were hyping them up

    • @SouthJerseyBaitReviews
      @SouthJerseyBaitReviews Před 2 měsíci

      what's even more crazy is those same people usually say AF1's are bricks or trash. Yet all of a sudden Af1's are becoming hyped up. Yet every other non-hype Af1 that comes out gets trashed on or gets no hype. You can also tell who the rookie hype Af1 buyers are by how they say, "Omg these Cpfms have such good leather". Like that's anything new they've had good leather on most of the premium/collab Af1s for years. Shit some of the best Af1 leather was from 10+ years ago when they made Af1 bespokes.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      I didn't think they were the worst thing I've seen, but they weren't for me. They received plenty of hype though

  • @VALERIEE9999
    @VALERIEE9999 Před 2 měsíci

    😅🤣 "Beloved" and "Children Of the Corn". Her previous video and all her videos she does have a valid point (S). Another solid and well grounded video thank you. 🙂I look forward to your next videos. Keep up the excellent work

  • @KhaiNYC
    @KhaiNYC Před 2 měsíci

    Another great video and another great topic as always

  • @williamdavis1620
    @williamdavis1620 Před 2 měsíci

    Good video Cuz keep up the good work 💯✅

  • @JordanClemons
    @JordanClemons Před 2 měsíci

    In my head, we are friends, TJ. So as an online friend, just put on your blinders to whatever disturbs your peace. Thats in EVERYTHING. Im not on social media (at least not the more popular forms of SM) and its a peaceful life knowing my decisions arent influenced and /or dissected by ppl I dont know. Social media has normalized trolling, groupthink, poor decision making, and a slew of things that are adding to the decline of individuality and overall individual thought.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +1

      Appreciate it Jordan! Great words and advice to keep in mind. Everything you mentioned is alive and well in the worst ways on SM, especially IG.

  • @genordalton7778
    @genordalton7778 Před měsícem

    "Why are you so in your feelings beloved🤔⁉" 🤣😂🤣

  • @chrisl2765
    @chrisl2765 Před 2 měsíci +1

    You have been the "Reality ✅" in the community!

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      Humbly appreciate that, just sharing my honest thoughts

  • @gerryverstrepen5973
    @gerryverstrepen5973 Před měsícem

    I see this happening a lot sadly enough, people who are frustrated in life get on the internet and spew out their anger. That is something you can't avoid as a content creator or anyone else that's in the spotlight.
    It's especially hard for someone like you who is building a community. Not easy but you have to try to ignore the negative comments. OR you could also look at it as an opportunity to make content about. Just don't let it get in your head.
    I don't know if it would help but some video's I saw recently from people I follow talk about this as well. Namely Finn McKenty's "The people really, REALLY hate me" and Cereal At Midnight's "Unscripted: The Cult of Physical Media"
    Again, even though it's frustrating you shouldn't let it get in your head. That's what the internet is and it's just that: the internet talking.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem +1

      You are 100% correct. As a creator I can't avoid it, part of the territory and you're also right that I can't let it get in my head. I have worked to make it part of the content, only so my community here can have insight into the feedback, good and not so sensible that comes with it all. I'll have to check those out! Thank you for the references.
      The internet will keep talking and I'll keep going. Thank you again!

    • @gerryverstrepen5973
      @gerryverstrepen5973 Před měsícem

      ​@@TalksWithTJ Also remember that so many people who watch you enjoy your content. It's a small minority that talks trash. Keep going TJ!

  • @speaker_vibes
    @speaker_vibes Před měsícem +1

    If you say you’re good on a shoe, people feel like they’re lame for wanting the shoe. But in all actuality the problem is they need validation from other people to buy the shoe. Just buy what you like.😅

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem +1

      Hopefully they reconcile it doesn't mean that at all!

  • @jayjames6952
    @jayjames6952 Před 2 měsíci +1

    That's what I said about upcoming Balvins releasing on Wednesday. I feel that the off-white pair is better than the black m pair and I'm getting so much shit about my opinion on that shoe.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      And I agree with you, I like the white pair much more than this pair.

  • @josephchurch7871
    @josephchurch7871 Před 2 měsíci +1

    The true underlying issue is that those people have become slaves to the sneaker game and FOMO is a real MF.
    These people can’t say no out of fear and in a lot of instances real addiction.
    You being able to pass on a new release shows free will that they have given away.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem

      I think it's scary that we joke about sneaker addictions or sneaker"heads" but in truth I think you're right, there are some honest truths that apply.

  • @CaliBredBoii
    @CaliBredBoii Před 2 měsíci

    Hey TJ can you make a video for sneakers you want to cop?

  • @postman8379
    @postman8379 Před 2 měsíci

    They connect when it's something they like as well as if they want to make sure you are on the same page. But then you differ in the slightest and you're the enemy. They miss the part where we are individuals and have separate tastes. No 2 people will agree on everything

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      NO two, thank you! Not even the closest of two.

  • @Dru2maBoii
    @Dru2maBoii Před měsícem

    When money is involved, people will always be biased in one way or another. Fashion, on its basis, is about status. And status will always be about validation.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem +1

      And them seeking it externally will lead to a lot of unfulfilled emptiness

    • @Dru2maBoii
      @Dru2maBoii Před měsícem

      @@TalksWithTJ yes ma'am

  • @mikejawoski5904
    @mikejawoski5904 Před 2 měsíci

    Therapy session! 😂

  • @rossmacdonald8945
    @rossmacdonald8945 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Social media ironically has stunted some peoples ability to socially interact 😂, I know it's cliché but people are happy hiding behind there screens and talking shit and not taking responsibility for there words

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +1

      I firmly believe this, I don't think 90% of people would say the things they say in person to someone

  • @veryfewrealleft1405
    @veryfewrealleft1405 Před měsícem +1

    Answer is they envy the self-control because they’re not able to do the same thing. That’s what it really is.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem +1

      Hopefully they're able to practice it for themselves if they want to

    • @veryfewrealleft1405
      @veryfewrealleft1405 Před měsícem

      @@TalksWithTJ
      This was great topic TJ . I see it all the time. Key word you touched on was/is “subjective”.
      One person might think a “Bad Bunny” collab is dopest pair ever. Whereas you or I don’t get it at all, & Vice a versa.
      There’s levels to this like anything else.
      Most important thing though is to ENJOY it, I feel since it’s turned into a job for people (as In primary source of income) if you didn’t live kicks before you loved profit you’re going to be miserable.
      Same if doing it to feel validated.
      I feel there’s people with entry level knowledge Gatekeeping true O.G. Collectors.
      I politely correct errata’s from influencers on regular about things that’s inexcusable for them to be doing this & not know. I get it though because Nike is pumping out pairs at rapid paces,
      & To me I love fact they’re finally doing 85 Metallic Navy Lows. They released Grey pair right under my nose. We have social status here in Pittsburgh so I get a fair shot at Collabs. Harder to keep up release wise than financially, was completely Vice versa just few years ago, all waves. Peaks & valleys.
      Again with buying what I like, I love a lot of these Airship Collabs , Awake NY & both AMM collabs 🔥.
      I was ecstatic to get these 85 high Burgundy metallics. Early & easy.
      See I bought 3 pair of Miltarys that would be like you being mad at me for taking what you didn’t want (Diff size but you feel me) kind of backwards hustling is that 😂.
      * this community if we can even call it that anymore should be worried about more important things like getting Jumpman Bostic over 100,000 he did a three PT.r on the DNA show.
      His subscriber count did not move.
      I don’t know what’s wrong with people it’s free….. he pretty much started this shoe tube stuff, & i know he speaks highly of you TJ, I can remember few times he shouted you out & that’s only thing that ever led me correctly to believe that you were probably early 30s when I started watching you,
      but you do look about 18.
      Stay healthy & beautiful. Smart too 💯

  • @patrickbrowne2594
    @patrickbrowne2594 Před měsícem

    Even with inflation going on the sneaker community has become so toxic, you know you have some deep rooted issues when you get mad at someone for having their own reasons to pass on a shoe, I myself have become way more selective just because I have so many sneakers already, so do I need every pair when I can barely wear all the shoes I have now in a daily rotation? Sometimes you just got to be more disciplined and people are struggling with it.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem

      Discipline is a struggle but without it they will continue to make excuses of why they don't achieve the things they want. And sneakers like many things on SM can be toxic, have to find the bright spots.

  • @controversialwolf4238
    @controversialwolf4238 Před 2 měsíci +5

    ☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾

  • @lustre509
    @lustre509 Před 2 měsíci

    I only brought one show this year. Those were the Kobe’s 8

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      Nice!!! Slow and intentional sounds peaceful.

  • @madpuss427
    @madpuss427 Před 2 měsíci +3

    It's the sheep that go on GotSole reels and say the Pandas are the worst sneaker release of all time. The sheep, and I'm sorry, the younger gen sheep, that are easily influenced by other CZcams content creators with backpack and sports gambling sponsors.
    The term sneaker head/sneaker culture has been replaced with sneaker reseller, and 90% of CZcams creators are resellers. They wanna be told what to buy and if 9/10 creators are saying to buy, they're butt hurt when you say you're not

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      I cringe at all GotSole reels when they're asking kids who are barely old enough to buy shoes without mom/dad funding them to say that shoe is the worst shoe of all time. It's far from that but they feel validated in that statement because everyone else is making it too. I think resellers play a part in the value of a shoe only seen through resale price versus meaning to each person/functionality. But I also think it may be bigger than just that because some aren't referencing the resale at all, just that you're insane for not thinking a shoe is God's gift to sneakers as a whole.

  • @RebelKingfrom1995
    @RebelKingfrom1995 Před 2 měsíci

    My main issue is how current markets charge more than the retail price for shoes that came out 5, 6 years ago

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +1

      Well they are charging what's in line with current prices, even if the OG or a retro back in the day was one price (and originated then), they'll always charge what's trending today.

    • @RebelKingfrom1995
      @RebelKingfrom1995 Před 2 měsíci

      @@TalksWithTJ 😩😩😩

  • @Angie_Onaleta
    @Angie_Onaleta Před 2 měsíci +5

    All in all: who hurt them? 😂

    • @pamelasa
      @pamelasa Před 2 měsíci +2

      that part!!!

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +2

      I would like to know and ask them to apologize to these people

  • @shanpierce7402
    @shanpierce7402 Před měsícem +1

    TJ there acting there shoe size not there age this time around times have changed for some is my guess on your question ⁉️🤷

  • @Jay..nice23
    @Jay..nice23 Před 2 měsíci

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @La5ish_GMG
    @La5ish_GMG Před 2 měsíci

    Bc you don’t like the shoe enough to buy them…. They feel like they will made fun of or ridiculed from a previous conversation about buying shoes. Sometimes it’s how you say you’re passing up on them🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem

      Not sure how they could think anyone would make fun of them for buying a shoe off someone else's decision to not buy it. But hey people are interesting.

  • @Jay1Erickson
    @Jay1Erickson Před 2 měsíci

    None of it honestly makes sense to get what you want And leave everyone alone damn keyboard warriors hope you’re OK TJ And having a good week

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      Having a great one Jay, appreciate it.

  • @user-yg1os9xu3h
    @user-yg1os9xu3h Před 2 měsíci

    I haven’t purchased any sneakers in 2024. I decided to wear and enjoy what I own. I have however, started to watch the WNBA. These players are good!

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      They are damn good! Welcome to the W! Who are some of your favorite players so far?

  • @danirayye
    @danirayye Před 2 měsíci

    People who lack a sense of or confidence in themselves seek external validation, therefore, if someone with a larger following says that a particular item isn't it, then that invalidates their decision.
    It's silly as hell.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +1

      The funny thing is though I don't say the shoe just isn't it, I just say it's not something I'm buying even if I like it. Sad that's taken by them as invalidating the pickup.

  • @jhath1497
    @jhath1497 Před 2 měsíci

    Maybe a hearing test is in order. No means No!! If someone can't get why you do what you do then fine don't tune in. That's just too crazy!! When did Random unknown people get to dictate what you say or how you should feel or choose to buy. Too much access!! People need to just be quiet if they can't say something normal . Sorry I have to put up with the nonsense but keep it moving. The reviews are dope plus the insight is nice to hear too. Honesty seems to be a rare quality these days. Oh an yeh I passed on a lot of 2024 shoes too so people do need to act they age. Anyway have a good one!!

    • @jhath1497
      @jhath1497 Před 2 měsíci

      Oops sorry I typed I instead of you. Can't type today

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem

      Appreciate you and trust me, I get your frustration at the current landscape, it's comical, but not in a good way.

  • @gilcruz1479
    @gilcruz1479 Před 2 měsíci +4

    omfg, im done. another rant on same shit

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +6

      You know you could block my channel right?!? Why watch if you don't want to see the content? It's common sense

    • @gilcruz1479
      @gilcruz1479 Před 2 měsíci

      @@TalksWithTJ u right, just unsubscribed

  • @Bassistking
    @Bassistking Před 2 měsíci

    Hmmm...I feel like possibly some people feel they have an immaculate taste in sneakers? I see this in two categories.
    1. The "Everyone should be like me" type: No particular number of sneakers owned in this case but a person has new sneaker and feels it's the best thing since sliced bread, recommends it to the world and for whatever reason feels offended that you don't feel the same and then just thinks something like "Oh you're crazy if you don't buy (or like) these."
    2. The elitist collector: Might just collect hype pairs, rare pairs, OGs, Jordan I-XIV, might be damn near all of them but they usually have a lot of sneakers (let's say 100+ pairs ) have been seeing exclusively through that scope, they might be lost in their own echo chamber for so long and simply can't wrap their head around someone not wanting a pair with the color way inspired by Phil Knight's favorite tie.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +1

      I think those two profiles describe a lot of people I've seen in both my comments and others too when scrolling IG or YT.

  • @keithwarren2226
    @keithwarren2226 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Sorry I am at a loss don’t know 😮

  • @playingindies6730
    @playingindies6730 Před 2 měsíci

    We should be happy that you pass on a shoe, it means that shoe will be available for someone else.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      I thought I was doing people a favor leaving the shoe for someone who wants it

  • @Tyler_tha_narrator
    @Tyler_tha_narrator Před 2 měsíci

    No one likes anything anymore, so it's only desirable if someone else wants it first. Your rejection to someone without their own style or preference is probably closer to you snacking their credit card out their hand than you think.

  • @oo7dw
    @oo7dw Před 2 měsíci

    The people that get offended from someone passing on a shoe is in the shoe game for the wrong reasons. They are insecure, they are sheep, they chase trends. But at the end of the day, they probably have more credit card debt than you 🤣

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před měsícem

      I have none so unless they too have $0 then that at least rings true lol. But hopefully they learn to be secure in their pickups.

  • @SuperRellman
    @SuperRellman Před měsícem

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿‍♂️🤷🏿‍♂️

  • @kels8440
    @kels8440 Před 2 měsíci

    Many people have a sheep mentality.

  • @NathanHartfield
    @NathanHartfield Před 2 měsíci

    Buy what you want Jordan 1s forever 🤌🏾🥰😎life is short have love not hate 🥰✌🏾you go sister 💪🏽

  • @Yesyou_
    @Yesyou_ Před 2 měsíci

    Seems like all you sneaker CZcamsrs get in your emotions once or twice a year and end up making these kinda videos ranting about how it’s the viewer that has the issues seems like yall need to look in the mirror

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci

      So the adults who are upset I don't want a shoe aren't the ones who need to look in the mirror because someone's buying preferences are so upsetting? Got it!

  • @bigdogbee
    @bigdogbee Před 2 měsíci +4

    Get out of the comments and put up some content. I don't think she's buying enough shoes to make content.

    • @pamelasa
      @pamelasa Před 2 měsíci +3

      You are aware that if you don't like it here, there are other places for you to go, right? You must be new here. How does her number of sneakers affect you? There are tons of other sneaker fanatic pages you can visit and love. She's here for the GROWN-up sneaker folks. The ones with money that buy what we like and what we need. We are not on "autopilot" when it comes to buying shoes.

    • @TalksWithTJ
      @TalksWithTJ  Před 2 měsíci +4

      Or here's a fun fact, this isn't my job so I don't need to make content to survive like full time sneaker CZcamsrs who have to buy a able to do a review to earn income to pay bills. Also don't like the vids, I always say don't watch or hit don't recommend channel! CZcams will make sure you never see my vids again. If that's too hard I can hide you as a user so we're all happier 😊😊😊