**AVOID** 3 Reasons Never To Pickup Women in Public
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⏠Contents of this video âŹâŹâŹâŹâŹâŹâŹâŹâŹâŹ
00:00 Guy Fails Approach
01:18 1) Looks Importance (Study)
05:23 2) Low Returns
08:42 3) Negative Self Esteem
The right way to approach women: Be attractive.
The wrong way to approach women: Be unattractive.
But what about approaching unattractive women?
Just have a decent looking body, it doesn't matter much what your face looks like. If you're ugly there are plenty of ugly faced women out there for you.
@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397 Come one. You can't be serious. "it doesn't matter much what your face looks like". This is naĂŻve thinking. You need a decent face to go along with this decent body.
This. And if you are attractive, you won't have any anxiety because your experience has been 95% positive with Women your whole life. Whether online or irl. They laugh at your lame ass jokes, they don't mind if you touch them on a first date and most will put their box on your spear on the first or 2nd date at the latest (or in many cases NO date at all)
@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397
looks >>>> body
Gym body means very little or even nothing if you are below 4/10 tbh. Look is way important than body.
Look at these tiktok most attractive guy. None of them have strong body. They only have looks lol
Cold approach was working good even for normies before Instagram and tinder. The problem is women nowadays are getting too much attention online and they don't care about more attention on the streets or coffee shops. The simps have ruined the game. If all those desperate guys stop following all those women who don't follow them back, dating scene would probably get better
You hit the nail right on the head bro!
never will occur, until manginas wealth boomers still exists
Online gives women all the validation they need so they don't need any during the week.
And we all know that women are doing fine economically.
It's just another reason why women don't need men.
Too far late it'll never happen
That too but the hard truth is you canât negotiate attraction. Youâre either attractive or not. Thatâs the true Blackpill. Youâre either born a Aristocrat or a loser. Youâre either short or long.
Thatâs life.
"The first 1000 approaches, rejections and restraining orders are just a warm up bro"
"Y'all need to know that it started to be better after I approached 10000 women"
Is that bro a hamza reference? Because he has pulled more girls than all of you combined while being a solid 6
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Best. Comment. EVER. Lol.
"Bro its their confidence. They didnt walk confident enough during the approach. I can show you how to walk correctly. My tutoring costs $500 an hour." - Dating Coach
Nah bro they just had to adopt the abundance mindset, then it would have worked
"You aint getting results because you are not doing it 24/7 is a numbers game bro!"
@@TheMrKofiX xDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
@@TheMrKofiX I was rejected 4001 times by women, have never had any girlfriend and am virgin.. Some women called me even ugly. Yes, keep believing that.
Wheat contradicts himself in some way, he was saying "it was not over" for 4/10 or less smv, a 2/10 can get a 5/10, with the first graph he had shown, and then he mentions that warm approach only works for averages and above guys lol.
Getting loud rejections from subpar chicks is the worst. Never approach the low hanging fruit thinking it will be an easy lay. They're usually the chicks with the biggest egos being that they're approached the most, BECAUSE they're low hanging fruit. Never lower your standards.
Couldn't say it better bro
Great point. Iâve said this before that these fat and fuglies get off on turning guys down because they know we donât actually want them for girlfriends
@@Njderig đŻ
Absolutely true.
@@handsomeX 100% Agree. The hotter the girl, the less sheâs approached.
I cold approached very few times in my life... it never worked but I still remember every single second of the disappointment afterwards
cold approach is NOT deception---it's indicating a social friendly vibe and an interest in another human, in this case a woman.
@@pf4773 in my case, I had the deception when they flaked... becoz I was sure and super happy for getting their number and a yes to my approach.
And they flaked every single time... I'd rather get rejected upfront.
Anyways, that is just my experience.
Is your first language French? Deception means completely different things in English and French as does the similar word in Spanish. You may have meant to say that you were disappointed.
@@miesvaillanykyisyytta3252 right! Thank you
Thatâs like saying I lifted weights a few times in my life and I wonât do it anymore because I can still remember the discomfort from it. Life is about hard work and leveling up. You need to put yourself through pain time and time again if you want to succeed.
1. Find a wife in college.
2. Find a wife in grad school
3. Lift weights from age 16 until you die
4. Pray, even if you're not religious. We need all the help we're gonna get đ
Lol at 4đ amazing
fin a wife in grad school or college is delusional... thats only for chads
not even god can save a sub5 male. its game over
God cannot and will not help any sub 5 male cest la vie
This. Your SMV will never be higher that it is in school because you have a captive audience of the most attractive girls you'll ever be around consistently.
How to cold approach successfully: be good looking.
and don't forget be tall. Since you are in person height matters even more LOL short and good looking isnt enough and in real life you can be like i'm 6ft when you are legit 5'10 but she somehow thinks you are 5'5 LOL I swear some girls be thinking some legit 6ft tall dudes are like 5'8 LOL your legit height matters but your frame and most importantly how you make her FEEL matters more. Even if you are 6ft if you are a framecal and you make her feel like you are smaller than you actually are she will FEEL LIKE YOU ARE 5'5 LOLOLOL despite being legit 6ft tall. The better looking you are the better you make her feel but also tower over her so she feels small. You can be like 4 inches taller than her and girls will still say we are eye to eye and same height I've experienced this in real life even when I was 8 inches taller than her she's like you barely taller then me we are eye to eye LOL You literally have to make her tilt her head up.
I only approach not so attractive girls. They are lot more interested in me .
â@@quincy189There's not much difference between 5'10 and 6'0 in real life
Man that guy's approach, especially the transition to the second chick. I am not sure in what world ANY woman would take the bait, and accept to talk to a (below average) guy who just got rejected a few seconds ago by another woman, and give him her number...in what world, a girl would find that attractive...
My only guess is that following some PUA coach's advice he went on something along the lines of :"If you get rejected by a girl, don't sweat it out, transition immediately to another girl, improvise, be "confident" and it will be "fine".......except that it becomes the opposite of fine...
Nah the only problem is that bro looked like a Middle Aged math teacher that gives you a ton of work to do but have literally no authority over his class
That's Bradicus. He claims to have had hundreds of women and I think he's not lying. This Wheat Waffles twit is a real twat. His ridiculous study at the outset. Cold approach is motivated by the desire for p***y, not for any kind of long term relationship. What were the proportion of cold approach couples in this study. I'd guess sweet fa, not least because as he says at the end of the video 80% of men have never had the guts to try it!
Many men who gravitate to wheat waffles and pua kind of sites in addition to having low smv that becomes appallingly apparent in "warm approach" environments where they directly stand in comparison to "superior" men, also have a fundamental desire to seduce rather than be chosen by women. Being chosen by a women is for such men a case of Groucho Marx's "I refuse to join any club that would have me."
That does leave them between a rock and a hard place, faced with large amounts of face to face rejections and "self-esteem" bs thinking that rejection incurs and these days the real threat of legal consequences for daring to approach women. But combined with the consolations of prostitution and porn and the Coolidge Effect reality that is 99.9% of men's long-term couple relationships with women, a cold approach approach, even if it gets results (i.e. p***y) in only 1 in 1000 (real, concerted, ballsy approaches) is supremely worth it. It's sex on your terms and it's a supreme instantiation of "one crowded hour of glorious life is worth an age without a name". And men don't need multiple notches on the belt to get a kick from it. How much cheesecake do you need to eat to get a satifying lifelong accessible memory of how good and satisfying cheesecake is? Like the Paul Simon song says: "If I took all the girls I knew when I was single, brought them all together for one night. It still wouldn't match my sweet little imagination. Everything looks worse in black and white."
What is this "warm approach" wheat waffles bs, anyway? That's just graphing đ, over-thinking and over-analysing the get-a-life real life that every man needs to get, isn't it? The only harsh reality for today's young men is the 90% of men getting a long term relationship deal that existed until the 90s is gone. Now it could be a low as 60%.That's sad, so sad đ for the loser 40% (and you can all guess who you are). But be strong everyman! Life is still bearable and liveable with that sad reality. And it might not even be that sad. Remember Jude Law's Alfie: âWhenever you meet a beautiful woman, just remember somewhere there's a man who's sick of shagging her.â
But we are free! đ
Put little Wheat Waffles to bed and don't worry over-much about his nonsense.
He was following classic RSD nonsense. Which wonât work if youâre a nerdy unattractive dude
@@aminm7714 LOL
@@aminm7714 i wonder if these guys keep society running though.
We'd be getting Afganistan vibes if women continually rejecting beta's
I love these PUA's giving anecdotes like, "I know a guy who's 5'1 standing on a brick with a shoehorn nose that slays daygame" like that's some kind of impressive datapoint or something. The "I know a guy" metic. That's like saying "I know a guy who absolutely slayed stage 4 lung cancer, which means that smoking is totally fine."
Well said, exceptions don't make the rules
I can imagine this channel getting bigger and getting financial support for waffles to get, a sub 5, a normie, and a Chad to go out in public and try to pick up girls. đđ That would be the best video ever.
If this channel grew bigger it would only be banned by youtube, especially if they could tie incels and pua cold approaches with harassment.
That would be amazing lol. Pls do that wheat! The best plan would be to approach the same girl at different intervals by each guy
CZcams doesn't like that type of content (a.k.a. the truth).
No need for a video on that, the outcome wouldn't surprise anyone anyway. It would be like a sprint competition between a one-legged octogenarian, a middle-aged couch potato, and a youthful athlete.
And they all use the exact same lines.
The problem is that we are gradually (or rapidly) descending back into a polygamous society and in polygamous societies most men just lose. It may not yet be socially acceptable for women to use multiple men at the same time but that is quickly changing, and any man who protests is seen as one of the losers who is just bitter that he can't win the game, which is true but doesn't invalidate his thoughts and feelings
I think u referring to polyandry where women have many men, polygamy where a man has many women is advantageous to men.
@@nelsonkiiru7252 No, polygamy does not mean "man has multiple women".
Polygamy isn't gender-specific. Man has multiple women and woman has multiple men are both polygamy.
Through out history on 40% of the men procreate while 60% did not, meanwhile 80% of wmn procreate, we always were polygamous.
@@ShadowbannedAccount I know what am talking about, u obviously don't.
@@ShadowbannedAccount Google or use the English dictionary. CZcams seems to be erasing my comments.
In western societies, cold approaching an average to attractive woman as an average to sub 5 male gives many of those women anxiety, frustration, and even anger. All that they would ever want to hear from most of these guys is âwould you like fries with thatâ, âplease sign for your mailâ, and â just take the freeway north, get off on the first exit and make a rightâ. No witty banter, no extras, and DEFINITELY NO PICK UP ATTEMPTS. Once you assist her, in less than two seconds, youâre back to being invisible to her. And nobody likes a ghost thatâs trying to communicate with them. Itâs just how it is these days in western society.
Iâm at a point in my life where Iâm not even worried bout women. Iâm just focused on myself, making sure my life is in check, financially, physically, mentally, and spiritually, before I actually decide to pursue women. Iâve had women give me choosing signals, but I subtly ignore them or totally just act oblivious to them, which weirdly enough for some women, if they are into you, acting oblivious might make them even like you even more and they start to chase after you, but in my own experience, most of those women are insecure and have daddy issues. Stay up brotherins
Thatâs the right mindset
it's you telling yourself that to feel better; don't get me wrong, your mindset is commendable and i wish there were more dudes like you, instead of fucking simps, but ultimately attractive women aren't going to "chase" you, no matter how much effort you put into self-development; you'd have to be a chad, you can't and never will have that luxury - you'd have already known/experienced that feeling by now if it was the case; and by no means i'm trying to insult/hurt you here
@Crazy Introvert T-Girl yea, sometimes weâre just not in the mood
167 couple and 334 is not enough of a large sample to be taken seriously jezus christ guys
its a droop in ocean really
perhaps at least like 16700 couple or 33400 participant and maybe I start to believe or take to some extent into cosideration those quote and quote findings
has almost zero to do with how you look but how you behave socially don't make stupid moves in public you put her in spotlight effect she does not want all eyes on her
stupid stupid conclusions
Thats actually just justifying your cowardness. I do it too, but lezs call it as it is.
I think we all had our own experiences, which led to the blackpill awakening.
I had a crush on a girl, chatted a bit with her and (fucking stupidly) bought her gifts. She replied late etc and kept me just for gifts and validation.
Few months later, her new boyfriend cheated on here with a few girls. Complained that she trusted him and even bought HIM gifts. Que the Instagram quotes and âwhere are the good guys) meanwhile she got used 4 times in a row by a chad/player.
Full on blackpill after that.
Why would you accept failure just level up
lmao it's your fault for simping
dude, exact same story here except i didn't buy anyone gifts
@@thegoremachine4258 i am leveling up. I was 286 lbs, now 176 lbs. Hitting the gym everyday and getting my money. I just donât have any desire in females anymore.
@@thanosfarmer8304 start SR
I saw once a skinny, horse face eyeglasses dude cold approach a gorgeous girl in the subway. His best attribute was being tall, somewhere around 6'2 maybe 6'3 and being white I guess?
So he kept bugging her with his stories, at one moment he said: "Can I come closer to you because it's noisy and I can't hear you." and he didn't even waited for her answer, they were both sitting down with one chair sepparating them. It wasn't that noisy because I could hear all the cringe unveiling like "So what are your hobbies?" "You seem like a nice girl." "Do you drink coffee?" and so on, damn, it was painful to watch. The girl was nodding while looking at the floor, trust me when I say this, the floor was to her more interesting than the dude's face. Eventually he said something between the lines "So anyway, this is where I get of. See you!" and he left. He looked confused while waiting outside the train until the door closed and that was it.
Cold approach much?
geez and i still feel the cringe when i think about the time i once asked a girl on the bus what she's listening to, because she had like huge ass headphones, so i typed it on my phone screen, and showed it to her. She looked at me and just went to a different sit. I don't know what the f I was thinking back then. Young and stupid. Never approached woman in public again in my life (it was ~8 years ago).
The best attribute an introvert like me is we have a strong sense of body language. I can sense when women arenât into me. Itâs my feeling that 95% if not more of women are attracted to me, and about 20-25% is outright repulsed by me
Attractive girls are approached by sex pests all the time. I've seen my girlfriends have to brush off these weirdos. After a while they learn to be blunt because being politely disinterested isn't clear enough for these creeps.
@@brianwaller7383 What math are you using? 95% like you but 25% don't? Lmao
@Xavier Behavier or maybe they just have somewhere to go and don't have the time or energy to meet a potential partner in a busy train. It's not always about the shining cars lol
Warm approach is undoubtedly your best chance but you're still dealing with the fact that she's online with dudes in the DMs.
Definitely, on public transport nice girls always sending emojis to different men.
What is warm approach? I didn't understand that part
@@miguelbranquinho7130 When you get introduced to a girl by someone who knows you both or you already know the girl from some other activity so you're not a complete stranger.
(but also not too familiar cuz then you're in the friend-zone)
@@Subhumanoid_ Thank you
Yup, that's how I got my gf. Only way for us normies who are bad at socialgroupmaxxing is warm approach. Also she has to be one that doesn't like online dating/presence (like mine).
You'll have little chance with the ones that have online presence, have photomaxxed bumble pics. Those girls are focused on showing off a Chad trophy bf.
I laughed at the Nightclub's "No one's watching" safety, because sometimes when I feel lazy I go to nightclubs alone, order a few drinks at the bar and search for vantage points to observe guys approaching girls (and mostly failing, of course).
Last time I went, these dudes played pool with some hot chicks and got their numbers and I went home empty handed.
Right on. The âstalker eraâ changed everything so very, very much, guys. You literally have to have an amazing psychological plan in order for cold approach to be pulled off in 2022. It has become no different than planning plays in a Super Bowl. And you NEED to steel yourself up for what you will do once the âGet Lostâ message is slammed on the table. Lastly, I urge you to study the term âsexual harassmentâ. Itâs not a good thing, man. Itâs not a good thing.
for sure there are more nuances now than ever before and you ahve to be able to pivot fast.
And quickly because the Home Office is consulting on expanding public order law to include sexual harassment in public with the potential for lobbying to expand that further to private establishments and online sites and apps.
@@tgheretford UK public transport now polices unwanted staring, same for Melbourne in Australia.
Uh just be confident there doesnât have to be some master plan, just be a master of your environment
@Jake Scotland disagrees. A man went to jail for two years for doing just that. That will soon be the case in the rest of the UK.
You covered in 12.5 minutes, what took me 3 years to learn. I spent 3 years of my life cold-approaching women, and although I did succeed a few times, after going our every weekend and day gaming 2 to 3 times a week, the girls I was successful with weren't anything to brag about. Don't let the pick up industry erode your common sense, time and time again I'd see good-looking guys succeed despite having little to no "game". It just goes to show looks matter.
Looks don't "matter", Looks are everything
Iâm glad Iâve never approached women
damn, brutal. and guys are still falling for PUA courses and bootcamps.
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 I honestly envy you. You weren't as desperate as me and had your commonsense intact.
@@dave-oh3549 listen, my ego helped me to not approach women. I think they should come to be and not thinking about them. Donât listen to men saying you should approach women. Itâs bullcrap. Instead go to school or a social events without hesitation to having sex. Thatâs the key, you get sex when you donât think about women and sex.
Amen. I thanked a young woman today at the store for putting her grocery cart away in the designated area and she completely ignored me. Not the first time a young woman acted like I had just asked her to take her clothes off.
Nah, if you did that there would be more screaming
I've noticed that these days even if you approach women to ask for directions or info, they tend to act negatively or cold, like you're hitting on them. When I first went to the university from a big city, everything was so overwhelming to me, I was kinda lost for the first week there in the campus, so I had to stop and ask many people for directions or information, girls were the majority of students there and many of them would stare at me awkwardly for a few seconds, give me an incredulous look and answer in a cold, uninterested or condescending voice when I would ask them where's the nearest toilet, the dean's office, the dorm, etc. Guys were usually more friendly and helpful...
Are you a sub 5 a normie or a chad?
@@stairclimber6027 Maybe a LTN, I'm short though - 5'5 and with a somewhat undeveloped neotenous face.
Women only date down after they have been traumatized by chads rejection.
5.8"...wouldn't even think about cold approaching here in Germany. That toothbrush example is accurate af
Anything under 6" in Germany is a lost cause when it comes to online dating and randomly approaching girls except for maybe the absolute top guys face-wise.
@@gonzobatano5352
Yes, German men are so tall and good looking. Germany and Holland is literally the land of giga Chads
how tall are german men?
@@quincy189 around 5 9 (minimum) to 6 3.
*Reason 4: Potential legal ramifications:* The UK Home Office is consulting on legal changes which would make treat approaching women in any public space a specific public order offence of "public sexual harassment", as reported in The Telegraph yesterday. This could result in anyone practising pick-up in public being given up to two years in prison. The Home Office is also under pressure to expand criminalisation of unwanted communication and attention to private establishments and online spaces as well. The Crown Prosecution Service has also reviewed its guidelines to recommend prosecution for anyone who commits harassment to a woman. Pick-up, flirting and rejection today which results in hurt pride and a knock to your status could tomorrow bring a criminal record and even jail for anyone average looking and below.
A pick-up artist was jailed in Scotland in 2019 for two years and put on the sex offenders register for ten years. The conviction was only quashed on a technicality after an appeal. He was convicted on the basis that unwanted communication and attention constitutes harassment.
There is no way such a law is going to be passed---it can't be enforced. If I ask for directions, then the woman and I have a conversation, she has willingly stood there talking. If our talk is humorous, she is laughing and especially if I'm not blocking her way, again, no harassment. Possibly, though, with such a law, asking for the telephone number needs to be congruent with how she is feeling. It could become important with such a law to record your conversation.
@@pf4773 The Public Order Act is already law. This consultation is asking for a new specific offence to be added to existing law. As I said, the CPS is asking Police to allow prosecution of harassment of women and in Scotland, they already deem unwanted communication and attention as harassment as I also stated.
@@pf4773 hahahahahahahahaha he thinks these laws will still operate on logic. JFL. You're already in trouble for simply staring at women on public transport in the UK and Australia.
@@tgheretford According to what I read, it's unwanted sexual attention. Of course these laws could be abused, but I don't think they're going after unwanted attention in general that's not of a sexual nature.
@@ihatelensflare the law isn't workable dude even if it was implemented it would be rescinded too many complications with implemting something that dumb not workable for a society. Give me an example of someone getting in trouble for looking at a woman is there an actual case or just BS internet chatter that you will.
Some of the worse relationships I ever had was from cold approach. It seems like the woman who go for it have literally tipped the narcissistic scale completely overđŻ.
@@magacop5180 nowadays those same women are on dating apps too. So its all tbe same pool, bro. But i do agree you can deffo make way more of an impression in person than online. Unfortunately feminism and the mee too movement has kinda killed cold approach in alot of cases.
Can i ask what your end goal is with cold approach?
@@magacop5180 The best women are already paired up by the time they are 25. Any older and there is a VERY slim chance they are high quality. It goes down 20% every year after 25.
If a woman is attractive and not a Ho she will want to be married and have children. She won't wait until she is 36 like some of these poor idiot women do.
Donât approach women
@@magacop5180 wrong, if they approach you, itâs better
Correction
3 reasons not to be ugly when picking up women in public
The guy was approaching women like they weren't actually people and he was going over a script
Yeah, honestly that was very painful to watch, especially the way he transitioned to that second girl, telling how he got rejected by the previous girl a few seconds earlier.....i'm not sure in what world he thought it would be a good idea, it was certainly not his rational mind speaking at that point...
That's how they act, so treat them accordingly.
@@maxstrike3022 True!
I've seen Chad's pick up women with even cringier crap than that.
@@Krelian4400 Those are Chad's. If you watch this channel you know they play by a different set of rules. Women already perceive the guy in this video as less than so he has to be extremely confident, talking like he's reading a script won't do it.
Wheat Waffles you and faceandlms have been a HUGE inspiration to me. You've opened my eyes big time, because of you guys I know the dos and donts when it comes to wumenn. THANK YOU guys for all of the work you've done for me and all of the guys in the same situation as me.
Harry, you might want to give Incel TV and Lord Bogdanov a look. Both have a sense of humor and if you're not afraid of some dark truths then you might like them, too.
@@MrHav1k Idk what happened to faceandlms. I hope he's still alive....
@@harryh875 how has your life changed since finding blackpilll? Have you gotten closer to your dreams or is it just a way for you cope about not getting the results you want
Congratulations on accepting your path of being a loser! All thanks to wheat waffles, a grown man who judges other men sexually! What a world
Cold approach is my only way to meet women. There arenât any feminine women in my line of work. I canât get any matches on dating apps except with purple haired feminists and single mothers. I havenât been able to find any interest groups I am interested in with any single women in my age group.
If you haven't found any interest group with any single women in your age group the I think trying to learn new stuff which is outside of your primary interest group is a good approach.
Train Capoeira or get into salsa dancing and get good at them....you'll expand your social circle and meet plenty of women that way.
instead of "hunting for females" you could do it trojan horse style and befriend one, then shoot ur shot with all her friends, lol
@Melchior Meares this. the most dates I've gotten were from cold approaching. very few from warm approaching and 1 from dating apps. I say cold approaching is the go to, because it has endless possibilities and you can meet hundreds of women. warm and dating site approaches are a dead end.
â@@ThiagoPagogna I don't know enough about my country, as I'm not really active in the realm of dating. But I do think dating down in age is probably a good idea.
But I also think it is generally a good idea to do stuff outside of your interest range, and do some hobbies which both genders enjoy. There are women who are interested in manosphere or natural science or sports, but are those the feminine women all the manosphere people want?
I tried cold approach many years ago before I got married and again Wheat is 100% correct. (my wife was from warm approach)
As a normie, I typically got 3 nasty looks, and 2 fake phone numbers from approaching girls at bars in Atlanta (which is the absolute worst place for a single guy btw (Unless you want a tatted baby mama (white or black your choice, all equally fat af).
funny. all my dates were from cold approach/dating apps and none from warm.
@@chuckiegravesfield3170 you are a chad or normie ?
@@kamellolz7 normie
@IceCat7 cope
@@chuckiegravesfield3170 then you just the exceptions. Even good looking guys ainât getting none from dating apps in 2022 and beyond. Few days ago a new article came out that most men are now single and lonely and all that. That is dating apps has like 62% of men so the girls are getting flooded with messages from thirsty simps
Notice how all the guys who go to PUA bootcamps are 5"7 out of shape ethnic men most of the time. I used to be heavily involved in the red pill cold approach scene and now that I look back at it i never saw a single chad at any of these events or bootcamps
Chads don't need help
A sub5 having a confidence and arrogance of chad makes it even worse and over that you get made fun of. Be humble guys, and it's recommended for everyone.
Napoleon was very intelligent and conquered the whole of Europe but guess what known for.
@@grizzlybear2702 what
@@marsh49 his height
@@eanderson9599 height? He was 168cm/5'6" which was pretty normal for that time, like about 175-178cm/5'9"-10" in today's world.
@@marsh49 175 - 178 cm in today's world is short for a man.
Here's the truth on cold approach. It can be effective, only "If" you fall into the top 10% looks wise and have a mouthpiece to build attraction and sexual tension. I been in sales now for over a decade, so cold approach comes naturally to me. However, the trouble begins when you're talking to a chick who you're very attracted to. And keep in mind, if you think she's hot! So does the 1,000+ dudes on her social media. Which is where being at least top 10% looks wise comes in, without that you almost have no chance. Barring you standing infront of a Lambo when talking to her.
A good example of what I'm talking about, is a guy Wheat waffles had on for a podcast "tusk". The guy is certainly a chad in looks, even has a cool Australian accent. You would assume he pulls most of the chicks he approaches, not even close. He has a closing rate well under 50% and some of the chicks that rejected him were 6 and 7s, objectively below his SMV. Which to me proves, cold approach can work for top level guys. Though, it comes at price. High percentage of rejection, even if you're a Chad or Tyrone. And not worth your time or the chance of destroying your confidence if you're under that top 10% level.
Truth is The game is rigged for loneliness.
Social media and dating apps have destroyed our collective minds my friend.
Cold approach only going to work if the girl she is already attracted to you by your looks at first and giving you choosing signal.
@@yyysamuel3215 exactly. Gotta learn how to read body language, and choosing signals.
@@prettyboyjeremy social media and dating apps haven't destroyed a thing my friend.. mens testosterone has been plummeting since the 90s and our addiction to porn and videogames is what has destroyed our men in the past 2 decades my pretty boy best friend..
To be fair, you shouldn't get discouraged from 1000 other guys also thinking she's hot. The main advantage with cold approach is you've essentially skipped the line where those 1000 guys are hoping to get a shot to meet her and talk to her, but you already have. Even before social media women had options and could only pick one, the only difference now is the amount.
I did it once and the girl runaway, called someone. It was the lowest point of my dating life, I mean we looked at eacher a few times I wasnt prepared for that response. Never ever approach in public, it makes no sense whatsoever. Maybe only in the case of her giving signals, but then that was in my case or so I thought... pain thinking about it
This is how it works. You might have had better luck if the weirdos hadn't already scared women into auto-rejecting advances.
Bro that s nothing évent chad taste hard réjection sometimes
There's just too many newsreports about women being harrassed and sexually assaulted. A few weeks ago a girl was being assaulted by two men in the train for FORTY minutes, and nobody came to help her. I wouldn't take it personal that she ran away, we're just more on guard than ever nowadays..
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@@irisdew9988 that's exactly what I wanted to write. Men can be so intimidating especially if you are weak and can't defend yourself. How can you be certain that he has good intention? It's not a matter of being attractive or not. It's about safety. I honestly get scared whenever a strager tries to talk to me for whatever reason. I usually feel more relaxed when a girl approaches me.
I'm a pretty good looking guy, average height, and a decent job, but even I don't think cold approach is worth the effort.
Yes, contrary to popular believe Chads and Tyrones get rejected too. Watch James Tusk in action. Wheat waffles rated him a Chad, the guy hits below .500. Which is really good for cold approach, but it must suck getting rejected by a chick below your looks match. Something I seen happen to James. He even got turned down by what looked be tranny, people were commenting on it.
@IceCat7 they dont really fail the women just already have a chad bf who fck the shit out of them
@IceCat7 chads don't fail cold approach. These so called chads simply arent chads
@IceCat7 opposite of cope. What you think of a chad is probably just a normie. Ryan gosling is a normie for example. Chad is top 0.01% of men. And they do succeed at cold approaching. I know a guy IRL who has a perfect face, hes a model, and he does well at cold approaching
@IceCat7 learn the definition of cope. You're the one trying to reassure yourself. Women have a much higher threshold for what they consider to be good looking. Gotta get on par with their standards
A guy I knew growing up (early to late 2000s) was maybe at best a 5 on the scale. He got laid a lot. His superpower was being impervious to rejection. He must have been rejected over a thousand times in his life. The guy never gave up though, and easily has a body count in the 50s. Just to clarify, there were some pretty hot girls in that count too.
Law of averages I guess. So dudes just have no shame đ€Ł
Its like what happened in a FaceandLMS livestream, where FaceandLMS was debating Bull-Dog-Mindset (a redpiller), and BullDog told FaceandLMS that for a non-handsome guy to be able to get a woman through cold approach, BullDog said that the non-handsome-guy has to approach around 300 woman before one woman legitly says "yes" to the non-handsome man.
Of course, who has time to cold approach at least 300 woman, especially after getting tons of "no, im not interested, i have a boyfriend, etc".
I mean, you can try to cold approach one woman a day for one year, but I can just imagine how your self-esteem would feel like
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@@abel4776 you mean black pill sphere. The manosphere itself is very broad.
I always thought that cold approach is weird. I mean if the rolls would reverse, I would not want strangers to randomly rush me down on the street. Cold approach always gives me scammer vibe. Why would you want to talk to me randomly in the middle of the store or on the street.
Exactly
because he/she found you good-looking?
The truth is at most of us would rarely ever get a warm approach situation. Therefore flirting & game spam approaching is probably the only way. No way around it unless you are regularly getting choosing signals. regularly.
What is a choosing signal. I am a distance inline skater, very in shape. I skate, and girls give a big smile. I never get approached but I approached girls who smiled and most were happy to talk.
@@alb12345672 A choosing signal is an indicator of interest. The can be very uncommon for many men. Girls smiling at you, saying hi, starting conversations, staring at you, are all possible choosing signals. Doesn't mean it's a guaranteed success but its better than no indicators.
@@KyleReeseCel2029 I may have a bit of autism. Over the years people told me women are checking me out, etc. I just never understood it or knew how to act. Better late than never :lol:.
@@alb12345672 You have to look at people regularly otherwise you can't see their expressions. I think a large percentage of people don't do that including myself. I also don't think most women give signals. The times I have gotten possible choosing signals its always a girl employee at store that I have to interact with. You might get signals while you are already in a cold approach or from a static setting like a bar.
video game companies know that if players don't win at least 30% of their games online they will not play. This is in free to play games. It's unhealthy to be regularly rejected.
I actually tried doing cold approaches in college as I was experimenting and did not know anyone at my school when I enrolled and therefore did not have a "social circle" my first year. I was also commuting and not living on campus to save money. I would rate my looks back then a six. I never got loudly rejected or yelled at or "hard nos", but I never got success either. The girls would walk and talk to me for a while then give the "I have a boyfriend" thing or just a polite no. The few that gave me their number either never picked up or rejected once I called. I had more success in classes where I actually met the women and talked to them some before trying.
This was before online dating and looking up videos like this. But I can say I agree with the video. I did feel low afterwards and after approaching thirty or so women, I just stopped doing it because it was affecting my self esteem. You feel unattractive and affects your confidence. I did not know back then this was a bad way to go about it so I naturally felt that "it was me" as how could I not get at least one girl interested? (and no, I was not creepy about it, just introducing myself, saying she was pretty and asking questions) It definitely is a waste of time. But I do think it is a learning experience and gives you the experience to know this does not work very well first hand.
then youre significantly inflating your looks, im a hard normie and cold worked for me
@@quincy189 bro... i dont care.
@@quincy189 exact. Subjective as hell and the truth. Jusz get a glass ball...
â@@adn02170or you are inflating the girls looks that you have cold-approached as well.
ââ@@adn02170so the girls that you have pushed most likely are either normies too or even less attractive.
I've been rejected by more than 100 women I took to dinner from dating sites over a five year period in my 50's, who didn't want a relationship with me because I don't make $100k+ and I'm not 6+ foot tall (that's what they actually told me to my face). I actually started laughing at the rejections by about number 20, because I know that it means that I will go on being a great guy and she will go on to be a ran through cat lady. I stopped using dating sites too.
women just exploit men for free dinners. That's why they insist on dinner as a first date. That's why I refuse it even if that means no date at all.
100 dinners means 5000 spent. You could have hired a 20 year old escort 10 times instead. But i guess you cant win the lotto if you donât playâŠ.
It would be nice if there was a correlation between the attractiveness of either person in the way that everyone only dated his or her equivalent. Sadly, for me as a 3 (or 4 on a very good day), all the women on my level and below wanna date someone above me. Hypergamy be fu**ed.
I have dated (long term relationships 1 year+) woman between 4 through 8.5. The 4s 5s were the most amazing girlfriends. The 7 was my looksmatch and it was more of a struggle. The hottest are always the biggest pains in the ass. Always date down a tik if your above average. If your average find your looks match. If your slightly below (genuinely meaning even when your lean and physically maxed out in the gym) by all means necessary, find a chubby bbw chick with a nice face. There's always a possibility she can move up the ranks. I have seen legit 3s turn into 6s just by losing 50-60lbs.
A loose comparison of the differences between the sexes today. Whats considered ideal for a mans physique as in being the most dominant in a room of top tier men would require the use of PEDs. Unattainable naturally. Even Gandy has used PEDs. And many other top tier males in the media. Not even the most blackpilled channels really know about this. It is a MAJOR factor. Subconsciously we as a civilization are pounded with images of impossible physiques attained naturally. Over time this has had a huge impact. Chris Hemsworth pre ped use has NOTHING on current Hemsworth if they were both at a pool party with a bunch of hot chicks. Jacked Hemsworth gets the eyes all day long. So much more to say about this.
For women it's much easier to become attractive. Makes sense, you see female comic book superheros who look like fit and resemble real life women who are blessed with a little extra on the chest and ass. Common in the grand scheme, 1in 6 chicks have a sick physique. Male superhero? Literally unattainable as a lifetime natural man. Peds, blasting gear for outlier physiques can only touch the male ideal that is pushed upon society. In reality, you see a drawing of skeletor from masters of the universe and that guy is a 6'3 285lbs lean 10% bodyfat no problem like it's everyday easy.even Goku is depicted as a lean 200lbs. People see him as skinny. Just laughing my fcking ass off. Ratios between his wrist and arm show he's packing 17inchers lean. Pretty darn big. You look at a photo of the 1940s-50sNFL lineman. These were the biggest roughest guys at the time. Just before or at the start of ped implementation. Biggest dude on the team was usually 6'3-6'4 250lbs with 20% bodyfat. Guy was an Allstar. Would not be shit today and people would ask if he's still lifting. Chicks Subconsciously wouldn't even consider him a pro athlete physically. The competition is fierce if one compares themselves to the best of the best. Small town game was a real thing even 10 years ago. Pshhhhhhh. We know what nuked that. It's rough out there, I feel for below average guys. I count my blessings every day I was lucky to be above average. Still it means less today than it did 20 years ago. 60 years ago many men having problems watching these videos would have been superstars. Ass and tits, every chick is a superstar. Cheap fat. No contractile tissue. More to say
Same. Iâm a 4 and only sub 4 want to date me lookwise. But they work low paying jobs or have baggage.
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Thanks for your interesting thoughts, man. It's just true that you can't deny the massive influence of media depiction on the standards of attractiveness. Goes for both sexes, but what you say about it being more and more unattainable for men is just true.
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Thing is: when I try to date a 4 or below (even down to 1), they act as if I'm insulting them, like: "How you dare talk to a hot girl like me?". They genuinely believe to be above 5. And I'm not ugly or disgusting or disfigured or unclean or poor - just unattractive from the outside.
All the long-term relationships I had - every single one - were warm approaches. And those were with women I'd consider 5 or above. As soon as they got to know me a bit, they fell in love, and so did I, and the relationships were effing intense in every sense.
So I know I can only have succes with warm approaches, but my current situation doesn't give me these opportunities anymore unfortunately.
Who you're attracted to depends on what level you are on the attractiveness scale, whether or not you're aware of how good looking you are. It's called matching hypothesis, look it up.
Always hated the whole just keep asking out thousands of women with 1% success rate. Now thousands of women think you are a creep, stalker and could get you arrested. Plus college, workplace and friendships poisoning the well
It's a great way to have your photo taken and shared in a women's private Facebook group or group chat. It's a disaster waiting to happen.
Only if you act like a perverted jackass when you do it. Most women will actually like the fact that you approached them. She may even remember you as the rare guy who actually had the balls to talk to her in person.
The only problem with the warm approach is that you just wasted so much of your time on 1 rejection. My favorite approach is none of these. I'll just ask a woman an innocuous question in a public setting like a bookstore or a grocery store without any sexual signaling, like in polite society. I'll then transform that conversation into slightly aggressive opinionated discussion that makes a woman invested in your mental state. I'll then tacitly bring up whether she has a boyfriend ('you come here with your boyfriend often? oh you don't have a boyfriend?'). If she reveals that she does, she either really does or she is trying to tacitly reject any future requests you might have. But if she doesn't, you just successfully had a full fledged conversation that didn't begin with too much sexual innuendo to scare her off so you can break the ice and build chemistry, and on top of that, she willingly revealed to you she is single, she could have easily lied to an unknown stranger. That doesn't give you complete confidence she will reply to your text, but it does make her feel like her connection with you was much more natural instead of breaking the ice with too much sexual tension.
I agree, warm approach is time consuming to get that 1 rejection. From my experience warm approach is only marginally better than cold approach, so might as well get the volume from cold approach. I got two dates from 18 warm approaches. From cold approach i got 6 dates from around 850 approaches. But i agree with the video how 70% is looks and 30% game.
That would be an indirect approach, but you can easily get rejected even with that, I've noticed that even if I approach women with no intention of hitting on them, just to ask for direction or some info, they always stare at me awkwardly for a few seconds, then answer in a cold or uninterested voice, guys are usually more polite and helpful...
Thatâs why I donât bother. Iâm a sub 5 so I know my place. Iâm repulsive to most women.
The only result of cold approach becoming a common trend is that modern women will end up becoming more entitled and feel overvalued.
Exactly
Dude, youre right but what are you gonna do? Not approach women at all?
@@supahjadi8944 I am a monk living in a monastery. The reason why I watch this content is to remind myself that there is no hope for me outside the walls of the monastery. Dont get me wrong I do like the monastic life. But one thing that can get me out of this life is having the false hope of getting a woman (and even if I did the juice wouldnt be worth the sqeeze anyway). So that now I have the monastic 'pull' as well as the worldly 'push' also.
But ofcourse its upto everyone of us what to do with our lives. Its not about not approaching women. Its more to do with finding your true purpose and stick to that and then the right kind of people will come to you. Dont give too much importance to the thoughts on having women as a priority in life. I am no encouraging cope, instead accept it is natural to have those feelings and let them go. We dont have to identify with what we think for thoughts arise and pass away all the time.
@@kiribertiefandango9807 been thinking about joining a monastery as a recovering pr0n addict, how would you say the transition to monk life vs avg western life
When I finally accepted that I don't have a pretty face, my life changed, I stopped simping and began concentrating on myself. I have a Master's degree in Technical Physics and I have an awesome job. I have been studying different topics and I know a shit ton about a lot of stuff :D I also make a lot of money and I never have to worry about alimony nor child support lol I might not look like a Chad, but I sure as hell behave like a Chad ;)
Thatâs right. Play the cards youâre dealt. Chads might have pocket aces but from what it looks like, you got dealt 5,7 and managed to turn things around by forming a straight with the community cards 4,6,8,A,Q. Straight (4,5,6,7,8) trumps three of a kind (A,A,A,Q,8).
I actually had the cops called on me for cold approaching lol đ , I ask the girl out she said she wasnât interested I said ok no problem she even apologized I said literally âhey no, itâs okâ I walked away, I go to this restaurant for breakfast almost everyday for almost two years, a week later same girl calls cops on me I never even spoke to her lol, it just blew me away. I canât have breakfast at that restaurant anymore, I was just shocked like lol wow, ok. Never coming back here again. Iâm still processing this. Mind blown đ€Ż
I've seen men warned by bouncers at clubs for approaching women. The message is very clear: do not approach and get in line on tinder to be swiped left accordingly.
You should come back there. Why wouldnât you? Because of a womanâs insane behavior?
It's funny. Online dating is dead for most men and now even cold approach is a lost cause. Guess we are destined to stay alone for a while, but I am definitely not going to pick up used up women in their 30s/40s after all this shit they have done.
Gender segregatiin is the future
BB i agree with you.
Travel.
I can tell you from many years of experience that the failure rate for sub 5s on a cold approach is 100%.
well nothing is ever 100%. 99.9999999% sounds more correct lo
I donât know, man... cold approaches work pretty fine for me. You win some, you lose some, but it certainly helped me become much more comfortable talking to strangers without making them feel uncomfortable or awkward. I believe it is a necessary part of becoming more charismatic in general. The ability to pick up women is an extra cherry on top.
This i dont know man except for simply telling you got another opinion is whack af. I never heard anyone using this sentence who is really sure about anything in his life
You are very rare, man. Getting rejected all the time cold approaching starts to get to you after a while. I think if you are REALLY shy and do it as some exercise to overcome that, to see it is not the end of the world, then it has some merit. But only to do it once or twice or so.
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@@fantomaz1408 wrong, this one was a rhetoric lesson for those who are capable to understand and change their behaviour (= not low iq people).
@@robvitalo2788 u need more plastic surgery.. đ€Łđ€Ł
There might be a more flexible correlation between looks in warm approach, yes... If and only if:
1- the girl doesnt have better options online, or
2- there is no chad around.
Warm approach isn't much different than cold approach these days other than the rejection hurts more. The days of a girl liking you because you have common interests/personality has been over ever since smartphones became a thing.
@@Krelian4400 Yeah i agree maybe warm approach is only like a 10% higher success rate than cold approach. I tried doing both warm and cold approaches. 2 dates out of 18 from warm approach. 6 dates out of 900 from cold approach. There's only so many social circles available before you run out of things that interest you.
girls wont accept you out of lack of options. they always wait for the best case or return back to exes
Regarding cold approach: I was recently on a subway in a major city at night. Some guy got on the subway dressed for work as a clown, but incredibly made up with white face and an amazing costume. I looked around me and NO ONE wanted to acknowledge this amazing guy on a crowded subway. I waited, then finally said simply, "Amazing costume!" The guy started talking to me, then another passenger jumped in, and all of a sudden we were finding out really cool things about what he did (he was a dancer in a nightclub). My point is that you can miss amazing moments by refusing to "jump in" and engage with someone during the day.
Just talk to men instead bro
Better to miss out on amazing moments than to jump in.
Joker 2019?
Everytime Iâve jumped in Iâve been met with negativity and flat or ignoring all that stuff depends on how you look if people reciprocate most people want to be left alone in their bubbles
Was waiting for the 3 finance bros to start beating the clown up as he was laughing uncontrollably
Pro tip: consistently eating right and working out will bump you up at least three points on the looks scale.
Elite tip: eat right and workout for yourselves, not women.
As a girl, I have only dated two men, my first love and my now fiancee. I met my first love from warm approach (i.e. church), and I met my now fiancee from cold approach (i.e. car towyard).
I have to admit, my now boyfriend is maybe like 2 points higher in look than my first love, which validated Wheat's point I guess...
He said warm approaches have a higher chance of a lob sided ratingâŠ
interesting! Would you even give a chance to a non-conventionally-attractive dude on a cold-approach setting?
@@masterwerneck Actually yes, if he seems very nice, friendly, kind, and polite when he approaches me. I have done that before. :)
@@yolenda_loves_to_sing i urgently need to meet girls like you, my last 30 approachs have failed.
@@yolenda_loves_to_sing i desire a smart, kind and attractive girl to be my partner, but cold-approach is the only way i have to seeking this as i'm 34 years-old and college years are done, but girls that i have approached don't are that receptive, i wonder if it's about my looks (i'm kinda 5,5 or 6 on looks scale)
Bro, some people might think this are crazy topics to talk about, but I've been looking for someone who can give me this information for so long... Thank you!
You may never meet some of these women ever again if you don't cold approach. So you have to decide whether you're okay with all those lost opportunities.
Makes sense. With cold approach, you go by the first thing you see and halo effect establishes comfort and safety for the women. So naturally, only the men she finds physically attractive will trigger that halo effect that fills in the rest. He is good looking so he must be safe to be around. The warm approach results is what normies should be paying attention to. That's where your nonphysical attributes and opportunities to build genuine rapport shines. Remember, this is meat of the distribution type experience. Subfives at the tail end of the curve are going to have a VERY different experience. As do Chads at the other tail end.
Perhaps the sole exception for cold approach for a normie would be choosing signals as you pointed out(i.e. catching her looking at you, being loud to try and get your attention, staying close by you, etc) As WW said, there's a good chance you fill a niche, which isn't a bad thing. The giving of the number and flaking later is a viable way to reject without fear of male aggression response being realized like you might see when the "nice guy" all of sudden becomes a dbag when she rejects him, thereby revealing his true colors and corroborating what her gut instinct suspected.. That's why she does that. Less likely to do that if she initiated via choosing signal, but it's not guaranteed.
You also gotta remember that while rejection hurts, a warm approach rejection hurts far more imo because they know you and still reject you. With a cold approach, they know 5 minutes of you at best. It's the equivalent of you giving them a pamphlet about yourself and they say they're not interested. Most people don't take time to read pamphlets. Men and women alike..so yea. Brings us back to the choosing signal point. Look for that. That's an indicator she wants to read the pamphlet and is at least a little curious.
Good video, though sadly, it is only practical for the meat of the bell curve and the right tail of the distribution.
Good point on warm approach rejections. They are beyond brutal and I've been at some of my lowest points in life after a warm approach rejection. It's especially brutal if you get along personality wise and have like interests but she still rejects you because you aren't good looking enough for her.
Cold approach failures are frustrating in the moment but I usually forget about them by the next day.
@@Krelian4400 exactly.
I read a book last year, it's not well known and it's from the 80s. It basically teaches the exact opposite of the red pill when it comes to getting women. Pursue a woman lightly but be consistent, tell her your romantic intentions regularly, always try to make plans with said woman to spend time together, be generous with a compliment when it's deserved, if you are disrespected don't be scared to express that you feel disrespected, and if a woman seems overwhelmed then disappear for a week and then lightly begin courtship again. The main premise being that consistency will make you more attractive to a woman over time, and that the only way that you can affect that is to make plans to spend time together. Propinquity is one of the most important aspects of whether a relationship develops or not.
The book is called "Love Tactics - How To Win The One You Want"
@@DynamicUnreal that approach is usually wrapped in what's called "cocky funny". The goal is to just bee an easy available lay when the girl gets horny enough
@@carlm8892 I think it depends on the woman's attitude initially and whether she's receptive to spend time with you knowing that you are interested romantically while also not putting pressure on her to have to reciprocate romantic feelings. Which is why the book encourages light pursuit, eventually if the women starts to actually develop feelings of attraction then she may make it more obvious that she wants you to increase intensity. I don't think there's much risk of a restraining order as long as you're respectful and can remain graceful even in case of a very hard rejection. This is the opposite of red pill, red pill espouses to usually be very prideful and don't give women any free validation.
Interesting. And how many lays have you gotten from this method? With what quality of women?
Wow, sounds exactly like what I did when I was in my teens to early/mid 20s. I didn't know that book, never read it, but the tactics it advises are just what back then I thought could actually work. It didn't. Consistency and propinquity will get you friendzoned, not laid. Women don't "develop" feelings of attraction; there's literally nothing a man can do (except maybe gain heaps of riches) to make himself "more attractive over time" to a woman who wasn't all that attracted to him in the first place. As for the very few cases known to me of relationships that came to be nonetheless, well, they didn't last. I've yet to see one lasting relationship that started with the man having to (lightly or in whatever manner) pursue, court, "win over" the woman.
Wow, one year later, I still feel the same way: NEVER eliminate a way of meeting women! Cold approaches, warm approaches, dating apps, at your job, friends, family, dancing, while pursuing recreational interests. Shutting down ANY approach is really to approach things from a negative frame. Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics talked about how he would spend literally hours for months simply standing around in various locations in London, England, and doing cold approaches. it turned out to be a true base of his fearlessness with women and his ability to handle rejection.
Most underrated CZcamsr. You put a lot of work in bro.
As a good looking guy, my heart literally goes out to the less fortunate. In my day to day life, I personally have to deal with a lot of jealousy everywhere I go, and most women get intimidated by my looks, as they associate them with the play boys they've dealt with in the past (I have a dark triad body language/sigma but on steroids).
My neighbour actually refused to talk to me because he thinks I might take his girl.
I have issues to deal with simply because of the way look, but mann, the sub 5s have life set on difficult mode the moment they're born.
I actually have a lot of respect for them. I really do. I guess they're fewer worse curses than being born in an ugly body.
Boys, Letâs focus on what we can control. Lookmaxxing.
Edit: alright boys, according to the responses, it seems like this comment has been translated as me trying to humble brag, how I'm not actually attractive (lol), and how I don't actually give a fk, which is wrong, but it's all good.
I however think it's one thing to not be attractive, and another to basically fail to allow your brain to operate outside of your own reality.
Any guy who is actually good looking and doesn't stay in their parents house all day knows everything I talked about especially the jealous part.
I also didn't know that for sub 5s looksmaxxing doesn't work, I didn't do my research, my bad on that one.
Im in the same boat, and not complaining at all. In my 30s now, and had a he'll of a ride. Upon discovering the red and black pill 2 years ago,things began to make sense more. Why I have the high sex count and got away with more.
The down side, as I'm sure you already know. It's harder to see women with inexperienced lens, like most men do. The sense of excitement is gone, and rarely look at women as special or worth your time.
Yeah I hate my looks
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man it must be soooooo difficult being handsome and attractive oh the horrorđđđđđđ
I'm average looking and have had those same problems its more about confidence is what ppl are scared off
Being rejected by 1 strong warm approach is easily worse than 50 cold approach rejects imo
Youre supposed to do it for fun
Nah it's not bad. Problem though is that you poison the well, which is far worse imo.
great analysis, never seen such a good date analyst with data to back it up. I'm an engineer and I understood everything about the math you did
Thank you so much for making these man
Only someone with no life experience and no common sense wouldn't know that looks is the only important factor when you cold approach a woman. It really doesn't matter what you say if you are attractive enough
We've been brainwashed by society's lies and are conditioned to think looks don't matter. But in hindsight yes looks being the most important factor in all interactions does seem rather obvious.
@@Krelian4400 that narrative that looks don't matter is their strategy to keep men enslaved and compliant
Wrong. Only about 20% of a womanâs attraction is based on looks. They do like good looks but itâs not what REALLY turned them on. You need to have a penis to base sexual attraction on looks.
Come on, all you have to do is take a cold shower and then approach bro.
A singular cold shower? Oh sweaty, that's rape. Do better x.
Yikes... I'd never have thought about that! Thanks Chad!
@@AsgardTheFatcel with this method Iâve been slaying bro, feel free to buy my course đ€Ł
I think Wheat Waffles has outdone himself with this one. I would probably nominate this video for the best video (at least in the relationships category) on CZcams.
The fact that his arguments are backed up by data (surprisingly) is not even the most helpful aspect of his videos. For me, the most helpful aspect is realizing (pretty much for the first time) that I'm not alone in my struggles in connecting with women - there are hundreds of thousands - perhaps even millions - of other guys going through the same thing. No longer alone!
WW - I salute you, mate, from across the pond - well done!!
Let us not forget that the only difference between being a flirtatious hunk and perverted creeper is your level of attractiveness. Work on yourselves, gents.
It's 80% face and hair
â@@ViatoremDiEfa85% face
The reason not mentioned in the video - how do you know that you will actually want to date her? If the sole criteria is that she's pretty then it's a waste of time, as the probability of you being "soulmates" is very small. With warm approach you know if you actually like the girl's personality.
How does warm approach help to gage personality? it requires dates and gettin to know someone over a period of time to see if the personality of a woman is fitting for you
@@Blvkkise If you have been friends for some time it's possible to observe how she acts, what kind of situations is she involved into, even what people say etc. (F.e at school) (That's what I understand as warm approach)
@@misiekeloo6114 ok so their must be some difference in understanding what "warm approach" is. Getting choosing signals or simply being aware that a woman is interested then triggers the approach but I understand what u mean in context đŻ
@@Blvkkise Oh, okay I didn't know that. Cheers!
@@misiekeloo6114 here's my experience with being friends with girls for some time and one day saying, "Hey, are you interested in more?"
It's often met with "Oh my god, I feel so betrayed, I thought you liked me for me but you were only trying to get in my pants."
Or if they actually do know you're not like that, "I feel like I need to stop seeing you even as friends, because my rejection must be hurting you sooo bad and I don't want you to suffer."
Either way, it's a real pain in the ass. Girls aren't generally any better equipped for this kind of thing than most guys.
if you have to approach u already lost
I banged multiple women this year from cold approach where they gave me ZERO choosing signals. I guess I 'lost' then? Lmao
Another great video man
Thanks for the video, Wheat. Also though, I may not understand some of the lingo/terms you've used. But, regarding one of the benefits of approaching women in night clubs being that "No one's watching," as someone who's over the hill and who's been to nightclubs many times over the past few decades, the number one reason for me not wanting to approach women in nightclubs is that everyone IS watching. Or, if they're not, there are many people around to see you get rejected. Being in a night club is like being in any other social gathering where you approach a woman. The main reason you don't want to get rejected at a club is because you don't want to deal with the embarrassment of everyone seeing you get rejected (or, that's at least my reason, and I'm pretty sure it's the main reason for most people).
The dating scene is brutal, so I like these analyses for pure cold information we are getting. It's based in what we look like, and also rating ourselves. The only thing to remember is to not talk a peep about it and also think through our egos so we don't say something rude, stupid or even incel like. It's very easy to get judged and socially tarnished reputation.
Also, hope you have a good day, work on improvement and learn to love yourself and accept what is happening.
Remember, we don't hate women we hate evil people so lets not be them.
I do agree that the dating scene is brutal, possibly more difficult than itâs ever been, but you can use that as an opportunity to build your personality into the best man you can be. It is possible if youâre willing to do the work.
In all fairness, ANYTIME a man deals with a woman he is at a disadvantage regardless of his number. I think there is a lot of truth in your videos, but I also believe that dating is a numbers game. The more women you approach in all the possible platforms, the better your chance of success. And this will ALWAYS work as long as you don't give up.
It is very true but it is very mentally taxing to constantly be rejected as a male
Bold of you to assume I even go outside to talk to girls in the first place
Glad you are regularly including height in your looks averaging. 5'9, 5'10, 5'11 is average and not a bad thing at all.
I recall an evening talk show (well, it was so long ago, there was only one at that time that people watched, The Johnny Carson Show) and the then most beautiful woman (in the long line of forgotten lists according to magazines) at that time, Jennifer O'Neil, talked about how her dilemma of beauty, how she would notice some guy she found attractive but few would approach her and she just wished they would just come up and introduce themselves. I wonder if this is what started all the PUA books, not to help give all the guys more confidence, but to sell more books. This woman is now 74 and been married 9 times (twice to one guy) and I mention this not to throw shade on her at all, but to underline the Wheat Waffles adage that looks trump everything...every time. Cold approach in theory and practice is so much about sales you can talk about the same thing and not change any of the wording. The opening example of the guy on the street was pathetic...but I write this coming off a week of learning that someone where I work just got himself let go and this discussion of cold approach encouraged me to express this warning. You really need to properly assess your own SMV, circumstances, and risk. He was a short unattractive dude in his forties who had been trying to ask out a newly hired nineteen year old woman. I only know this from a confidential conversation with a shop steward involved in the process and the rumors about the dude no longer being with the company are amusing...because none of them involve s3xual harassment...again, consider the age gap and perceived SMV. Men in the manosphere constantly talk about the delusion of women in their expectations...but men of similar SMV can be just as delusional in their expectations from PUA.
Online dating doesn't work.. cold approaching doesn't work.. Options are running thin.
if you are above 5 you can try Just Be First Theory or Warm approaching
@@gabrielestevam1172 I am not above a 5 lol.
@@gabrielestevam1172 bro how do you do the âjust be firstâ method if youâre no longer in grade school though?!
@@literallyonlyfanz2308 Just cold approach jailbaits
@@harsh3948 :glowie:
I had a huge smile on my face throughout this video because absolutely everything Wheat said is a billion percent true. The depth of his analysis is brilliant. đ đ
Nope
@@io2068 Cope
Chad tries picking up a girl, girl's reaction- Awwww how sweet
Normal guy tries picking up a girl, girl's reaction- Ewww creep
Looks do matter dude . My highschool crush liked me dispite being socially awkward and very nervous.
Re giving out numbers...
I got a call once where a guy asked for . I lived alone so obv nobody by that name lived w me.
What had happened is that some woman had given a random (picked out of air) number to this guy. Could have been an invalid number, happened to be my number.
The guy was so disappointed lol.
same thing happened to me once. Although it was a text. He said "it's X, from the mall..."
Told the guy we've all been there, and that he can do better. lol
this is all good and true, but as I'm sure you've thought about - it doesn't address the core problem. the core problem is people drifting far beyond their attractiveness level whether that be men going too far down or women going too far up. This is all enabled by dating apps and social media. also simps giving away attention/money on a silver platter.
everyone needs to exercise a certain degree of self-restraint and we could start fixing the problem.
people have said if there are leagues. and if people stay in those leagues... a lot of the problems we have today... would be a non issue.
@Xavier Behavier well that's your problem. you're trying to make them happy. don't waste your time
Women are making anywhere from 2 to 10 million dollars a month thanks to the thirst and desperation of simps. The simps see these women buying 5 million dollar mansions in the LA Hills and buying Lamborghinis and being on perpetual vacations and yet the simps keep giving money to these women profiting from their loneliness. There's no hope.
True- I am married but their are some super annoying post-wall Karen's at my gym who think they still got it and guys are checking them out. I don't give them an instant of attention and actually give them a dirty look if they look my way. KNOW your worth men.
It can't be fixed like that. To fix this would take regime change
The only one of your videos I can relate to. No b.s and straight facts đŻ
ok i might not be the guy to say that but in my opinion one key point is that your self esteem should never be dependent on being rejected by someone you don't know.
i mean:
the less personal you take rejection the better u will be and the more confident you will FEEL and seem.
i know it's harder done then said but, the girl will feel you weird if you are too uneased.
Not being completely relax (mostly if she didn't show chosing signal) will be accepted also
(the hard part is i guess the more atrractive you are the easier they will be on u but u see what i mean)
i hope i was clear
This is so painful to watch them doing this !
Your pool of women for warm approach isnt as big as cold approach and most guys don't have lots of warm approach opportunities. Yes cold approach comes with rejection, but you can eventually pair with a similar value partner without the limitation of waiting around for a choosing signal. AND you can do both. Cast a wide net to find the right girl for you, it took me 2 thousand approaches to find my wife but I found her and she's perfect fit for me. I did both cold and warm approaches but mainly cold
2000 lol
@@thedarkestknight8381 man if you do the math , some cities have alot of women you can approach pretty often if you're not a pssy . And date alot of girls until you find the one to have a relationship with. Don't have to sleep with everyone. Great way to find someone who fits your type. But most guys are scared to approach and low value with bad social skills , I'm assuming you're one of them lol
Dude it's not about finding a wife but getting laid
@@smashandbeastmode6116 obviously out of all those approaches i had casual hook ups and plates too lol
@@thedarkestknight8381 If i would spend 30 seconds on each approach it would take 500 hours, if i went out randomly approaching women on the street for 1 hour a day it would almost take me 2 years, it's simply not worth it when you can just buy a hooker
I do a kind of "selected cold approach", around 1 per week. It means that I do not have dedicated sessions of spending 1-2 hours in a public place, with the only intention to speak to as many women as possible , with stupid "opening lines" (how can someone really say those ridiculous "I saw from over there , and I had to come by and say hello, your dress is lovely" ?) . It is embarrassing (not for Chad , but for a 5/10 like me) . What I do is always be aware of the situation, and observe women, in the bus/tram, in the supermarket , in the line of the supermarket , in the park when I run/train etc. So for example I will notice something that can be used for a meaningful start of conversation, the book that a girl is reading in the tram/bus , or a bag she is holding from some event , and I will start talking about it. Of course I use red-flags, and do not even bother to talk to women that have tattoos, or strange colored hair, and I only approach woman that I thing are 5/10 or 6/10, I know that a 7/10 woman will not be interested.
You deserve the nobel peace prize. This is gold material and why men need to stop chasing and start focusing instead in themselves. Let low value women have fun with low value men, A high value woman will come to your life without kids and without much effort. This dating standard decline is positive for most men cause youre being saved from a future liability specially in a divorce from a low value woman. Remember choose wisely once youre at the top cause youll attract lots of low value woman that all they want is your cash and single moms that wouldve rejected you when they didnt have kids.
Exactly. What's the grand prize at the end of all this effort? Maybe I get laid. Maybe a relationship forms. Maybe we get married. Next thing you know we're in our 50s with a marriage full of apathy, a spiteful wife, a great chance of divorce. Sounds great, where do I sign up?
@@Toolwise that's the human dilemma though. It isn't rational but your body needs it regardless. You need love, sex and affection so much that many men sacrifice their entire lives for that pursuit. It's a need and trying to look at it rationally though you're correct about everything is useless. It's like asking why would the monkey fight the other monkey just for that tree if he just stayed in his own tree he'd be happy. Hes just following his biological instincts , same as us.
@@loverofhumanity or you could apply an ounce of human logic and direct that energy to personal endeavors. Just sayin'
@@Toolwise you can't that's the point. Instincts over ride any logic. It's like a fear response and saying "well if you weren't afraid you'd be better able to make the right decisions and moves to fight off the robber". Now, granted your correct these instincts are stronger in some people compared to others but they're there regardless. Also, I do agree with you that women are pointless I'm simply explaining why you can't just rationalize with most guys. It's not a rationale choice just biological.
@@loverofhumanity all I'm saying is humans have the ability to overcome instincts. Countless have and are doing so.
Hitting on women is just about the stupidest thing you can do with your time.
As many people have said men don't exactly have a lot of options especially if you are not exactly the highest desire type
Never tried cold approach and it's mainly because I think my value doesn't come from my SMV. Not exactly looking for a partner, but if I was actively looking, I might consider cold approach still, so long as I knew I was on my game on that day (mainly in terms of style, since I have an outgoing personality).
cold approach can be absolutely devastating when it backfires. learned that enough times to never do it again.
Congrats on 100k đ„
The way to practise cold approach is to start talking to ALL strangers in a light hearted way- guys and girls. You can literally warm up with another guy your age, then move on to girls, then girls you like. It doesnât have to be a hard sell. Just be relaxed and normal!
You rated me a 6/10 & I'm 6'1" with a somewhat decent build.... cold approach is still brutal, I would even argue that online is better
@Joe Taa something is better than nothing
The closest thing to a cold approach that has worked for me is when I was at a party and had mutual friends.
Cold approach is a game and like all games you have to know what your doing. Read the room, don't play your hand too early, remember your not closing deals you are making deals and most importantly know your losses before you make them.
Chadlite here. I did PUA for over 10 years consistently starting with the Mystery method era and ending when Real Social Dynamics was starting to get all high concept.
Anyway, I always had decent success with women but never was able to get women who are above 7/10 in looks no matter how much I practiced my game, no matter how much I worked out (was on anabolic steroids for a while so I was literally shredded with a killer physique). Yet, DESPITE me going out almost 6 nights a week and watching pirated dating material (because fuck whoever pays $1000+ for a PUA course LOL), I was STILL told by the seduction community how I need to "meditate" and "treat the 10s just how you treat a 7." They would NEVER admit that the limiting factor was my looks; it was always something to do with skill level and inner game.
Then, last year, I had some surgery done on my face. I had a Rhinoplasty, some cheekbone filler, and some jaw filler. My face went from Chadlite to Chad. The next time I went out, I pulled my first 8/10 girl. I was shocked. When I posted this info online in the seduction forums, I was told "the cosmetic procedures just gave you more confidence in yourself and that's why you were successful." I went out repeatedly after that and consistently pulled hotter girls than I ever have; my confidence was no different.
My face filler wore off this year and guess what? I'm back to getting, at best, 7/10 quality girls again.
The PUA community is toxic af. They think that you can literally become a god with enough confidence. Sorry, but if you don't have the facial aesthetics to get your looksmatch, you will never get that girl no matter what.
Dude !!! Thank u for sharing ! I agree with u ! I have prob been approached cold/warm/online ⊠all sorts as early as I was a kid ( I Alwyas had boys had crush on me in class ask to marry me when i was so small . N even d kids who had crush on me all turn out to be chads n chased after by girls . It does set Idea đĄ to girls her types should be , cuz u donât go worse but always go for better .
Yeah u need to be more gracious n just shred d PUA things . That stuff will stun yr emotional growth! For example ,,, my father is oldest son of 6, my grandpa đŽđ» died early so my dad took care of mom n all d siblings , chases her career ⊠took care of me evrything . So for me I am USED to be around Mature adults who r Gracious , generous (blue pill đ) , jump in to help, accepting d flaws , make efforts , not spiteful âŠ..
So under the same party đ phase , Mature girls or want to be in good path girls that hold themsleves high standards , will INSTANTLY see thru PUA tricks n be utterly Repulsed by it. I canât tell u how much I was đ€ź in air . D shady n rude things I have witnessed towards my gfs n me.
N 100 đŻ d girls reciprocate to PUA tricks r often girls too naive or not acquiring high standards themsleves . Also PUA focus on predetotial Approach (even disregard girls with BF) , the tricks working when meeting d Wrong đ type , when meeting d âright type â u truely want , will actually back fire ! Cuz PUA is for instant gratification , âd judging â what âcause â âsuccessâ or âfailure â is nothing to do with d GAME but a lot with Girlsâ own standards . There can be 10/10 be Royal , or 2/10 women like to cheat . It will make u feel like âd perfect girl is somewhere I havenât met her yet â. Usually PUA has high body counts , but d 1 that is their dream type , they CANT HOLD onto or lock her down . N they go back rinse đż n repeat đ
ANd why you were not satisfied with the 7/10 girls? Why you did not marry one of them? Why spent money to go from 7/10 looks to 8+/10 looks? The biggest tragedy that PUA has done to you is that they persuaded you that your worth as a man is based on the number AND the looks of the girls you sleep with. Instead of thinking for yourself, and getting rid of the insecurity that "oh, to be a successful man , I have to sleep with 20+ woman, and they have to be all 7/10 or more, when I manage to sleep with at least a 10/10 then I will be a high value man", you are trapped in a stupid cycle and spending your money and your time (by spending hours per week on clod approach). You should have just focused on the most steady girl of those 7/10 that you could date, and make her your wife, and buy now you would have 2+ kids, spreading your above-average genes to the next generation. Of course having the kids is not enough, you should also teach them to have a very good nutrition, watch out for their dental health, be sure that they will reach their genetic potential, maybe they could even become 8/10, if they got into sports, and have a good diet.
If confidence was the key allot of fat guys would have slim beautiful wives.
@@VonGoldfinger yeah i agree ! And back to basic question , what do we see in confidence too ?
What is confidence ?
If a person sees that âagreesion , self sufficient.. defiant , put them on pedestal â vs another think :â able to acknowledge we human r Flawed beings , we can Aknoledge we will make lots mistakes , in order to Tweak n operate better .â To d latter , d first âconfidence â is actually Insecurity.
So a lot of PUA ppl project Confidence,,, to a Actual Confident woman đ©đŒ, she often see that as Insecurity, small minded n utter Turn off .
So I guess the moral of this story is that women are attracted to face fillers.