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In this week's video we mix things up a bit…
I've taken video questions from viewers, and answer everything from:
-3 key things I'd go back and tell my teenage self
-My favourite performers, and
-My top 3 "idols"
I also get into a question on why men lie, and what can be done to avoid it...
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"You cant stop a liar from lying , you can influence his behavior but you cant control it" -
Matthew Hussey
The guy I met over 8 months ago and i thought was an adorable person turned out to be a liar. His words didn't match his action. He even confessed this to me and said he was horrible at relationship and asked to be patience.
I tried so hard to be patience but it seem to get worse with many small lies and it was really upsetting me.
I just finally told him he lied to me from the start and I could no longer be friends any longer with him.
This is disappointing and very sad to me because I really liked him but I can't deal with a liar.
Finding out that someone lied to you simply sucks. But instead of getting into a screaming match, it's helpful to find out why they did it in the first place.
Makes me feel better about not being with a liar anymore. He was always about taking the easy route.
Matt I love the longer format because you can go more in depth with each question. I love the videos as well because you get to connect with the person rather than words on a screen. Thanks for all the hard work. Keep it up!
I enjoy the longer videos! I like a mix of the shorter focused videos but really love the longer ones so much. Thank you Matthew for EVERYTHING!
My 9-year-old daughter (who loves your videos) has just seen the title of this video. She has a perfect answer to "Why do men lie?"
"Because they are tired. When you are tired you go and lie." by Marina.
mboerdijk lmao. cute. Then men are very, very tired all too often. lol
Theodore Ey Usually to protect the person's feelings.
Theodore Ey I think that deception along with dishonesty is a whole other issue. For instance, a person who cheats on someone and orchestrates a deception around their unfaithfulness has bigger issues than someone who lies about, say for instance, their past to protect someone's feelings. I'm not sure if that makes sense? I'm an incredibly honest person by nature, and the only time I've lied in a relationship is when I knew that the honest answer would be something that would deeply hurt the other person. I wasn't completely honest because I knew that they wouldn't be able to handle the truth. And from that instance I've learnt that in a healthy relationship you shouldn't need to cover up any aspects of yourself for the sake of another person's feelings...you should be completely yourself and allow things to take place naturally. If you are completely honest and they can't handle it then that is unfortunately their issue (speaking about your past in this instance...things you can't change.) I hope this makes a bit of sense? :-)
Theodore Ey Oh yes I absolutely agree with you there. Dishonesty in general is wrong. I think the thing which frustrates me most as a woman is how men will often cover up for each other in the whole lying thing, whereas I've never known a woman to cover up for her female friend. Maybe I have a certain level of understanding for someone who lies to protect someone elses feelings, which may come across as less of a selfish act, than someone who lies to gain something with selfish motives. And I'm not saying that men or woman do whichever more. Unfortunately the people in the world are losing their character more and more each day and its very difficult to spot people with genuine integrity these days. Thats why I really enjoy how Matthew Hussey explains how to recognise someone with true integrity. I think this is a debate that has many views in numerous directions. ;-)
Hm… 🤔lol
matthew never fails to impress me with his great eloquence, quick thinking and ever-amazing advice. you're amazing! thank you for always being a pleasure to watch during my tea breaks! :)
I know some women who barely say a true word,it's not just men. I think it comes from wanting to impress somebody. Rather than saying what they think ,they say what they think they're expected to say.
Also, I'm really impressed by the Jamie Cullum answer. I agree; passion is a beautiful thing. Especially when its for something creative because I think creativity is like an extension of the soul.
Laughed so much when you said: "I would sort of associate eating good foods with pain," and then the facial expression you made while saying this! I can relate to the perfect timetable for studying as well, so thank you for that quote on your desktop. You really have an amazing mind (to sum it up shortly ;)). I also really enjoy how you incorporate humor into every situation. I would've loved to talk to you in person and just listen to you. I hope to develop to be as mindful, fun and humoristic as you in the near future.
I love the idea where guys send in videos along with the girls. It really brings in all different kinds of perspectives. Speaking of perspectives... Of course I love when Matthew answers pure relationship questions... But I also really love the addition of more general questions tying it into relationships but also very relative to life in general. I've found that those types of questions are sometimes the most insightful because one can compartmentalize life- everything from relationships, to career, to travel, to family... Whatever... It all connects.
Thank you for your guidance. You have helped me save a lot of frustration, bad reaction to bad behavior, and confusion on how to handle difficult situations or not genuine people. I cant thank you enough
Enjoy the way you continue to change up the format. Videos, tweets and especially your very mature responses to questions. Your insightful answers are very refreshing.
Today is June 23,2018 I ran across one of your videos for the first time yesterday,and it truly was an eye opener. I was looking for a reason why my husband lies,what I heard grabbed me,you stated if you have to keep questioning,is this person the best thing for me? that was me for years,when the answer stared me in the face,thank you for one of the realist answers. I can move forward and not question myself,or be manipulated anymore.
i really like this kind of videos! it feels more personal to the questions we want answered :)
I identified so very much with your last two answers to what you would have told your younger self... Thank you for that clarity!! I enjoyed this format incredibly.
Jamie Cullum's rendition of "Don't Stop the Music" is mind blowing!
Nice to get to know things about you too!!! I appreciate those questions and answers!!! I love the format and I could watch you for hours.........lol!!!
Matthew. . Thank you for this video on insecurities, organizing and why do men lie. I had to pause this several times to write down the saying you keep on your desk top.. it is so me to try and get everything perfect before I start doing what I am supposed to be doing and never getting it done in a timely manner due to the fact I too busy preparing. I just broke up with a guy who constantly lies?? on LITTLE things?? there have been a few big things too.. I could not understand why lie about anything? after listening to your answer it opened my eyes to his reasons for lies.. and I truly knew a year and a half ago this man was not for me.. there were so many red flags and I ignored them? He has constantly lied over the stupidest things, he has cheated right in front of my face and still lied about it? I am so hurt and angry at myself for being so stupid. Thank you again.
Judy Parker
California girl.
I like this type of direct advice because they make an ACTUAL impact on my day to day life and because I usually have the same questions these girls ask you. It looks like you have a lot of experience on dating.
I love your long videos! Especially these.
I love you reasonin on the "why do me lie" have you done any more on it? I recall listening to your "let's never be 'that person' again, which relates quite well. Thanks for your work Matt & team
I prefer the longer format. Another great video! Thank you, Matthew!
Loved this video, Matthew! Great format -- really enjoy hearing you talk at length. You are so sensible -- I appreciate your insights.
I like the longer format. Good to put on while working. Nice to hear what other people are interested in as well.
I have typed your inspirational quote on work on my desktop too! Very motivating.. Thank you
Thank you, Matthew. Spot on on liars! There are so many men who lie, just because they want to get benefits, but they don't think about the person they may be hurting with their lies.
This is great! Love the interactive element and longer format. I really liked your point about having integrity. Personally, I felt some conviction watching this video, like I was getting called out for the stupid crap I do lol.
I liked this format, I prefer longer vids as I tend to put these on in the background while I do other stuff. btw im a guy and I like getting a bit of perspective with just what goes on in a woman's mind as im finding it very hard to find someone worthwhile to date
Darlin, concentrate on the one thing what u want to know.. Focus.
Lol I sometimes wish Matthew was still coaching guys so I could do the spying thing you are :)
only the mind of very enlightened women work as Matthew Hussey suggests...
Aw you're cute
Digging this longer format dude. Nice to see you being active with people in social media. Also, gives people outside the U.S. and UK to interact with you in some form.
I like these videos! Keep em coming!
I love the unscripted version and the video shares. The integrity spiel really hit me spot on. Once again Matt, killed it!
Love the Jamie Cullum recommendation! been listening since you mentioned him. Thanks!
Thank you Matt, key word, someone with "integrity" :-) loved the vid and the history behind your role models.
I really like this format! The longer vids are great :)
I like all forms of your videos & I loved this form as well. Thank you. I find them interesting because I like hearing insight from a male perpective. Love your humor & the way you disect the topics. This past summer I attended one of your seminars in Chicago. Loved it & so did the 2 girls I brought along with me.
love this format! looking folward forwart to the next #AskMatthewHussey video!
Never heard of this Jamie Cullum before. Thank you Matt for sharing! I just checked him out and love his music and his voice! :)
Your awesome. Keep making videos. You guide me through so much.
Loved the format! Yes for more of this! :)
Great advice! I think those are great things to remember through all your live and I especially needed to hear them today, thank you for that Mathew and Jordan for asking the question. I loved the longer format with video questions, it's awesome to be able to interact with other subscribers and the tweets are great for an alternative method.
Your sweater, I want it.
Gabriela Reyerta
I like everything about the video. Do it more, like once a week. I liked the simple questions at the beginning
I loved this video! And i also prefear the longer videos .. :)
keep it going! love this format
Liars are at best just chancers/avoid pain at any cost (i.e. are incredibly weak) - at worst socio/psychopathic in nature.
Absolutely true
This is so true. Lol! Then at the end you say socio/psychopath in nature and I’m like yep I know this all to well I’m loving it. 🤣🤷♀️🤦🏽♀️ Odd thing is that I’m closer to God more then ever through this person and really like his church. But avoid pain at any cost… I find this interesting.
Hey there Matt, you should put Houston TX on your next tour. Happy New Year!
I love this idea i mean i got to know you more & at the same time you answered some of my questions :D
Matthew, you had great advice re "Why Men Lie". I definitely prefer the longer formats because of the longer detail you give. Please continue and don't stop!
LOVE the video questions! Keep doing them!!
I watched this for the title...and, indeed, it was the "small "innocuous"" lies just adding up. I never called him out on it bc I could not prove it from long distance. Some things just didn't make sense, and also there was a pattern. As you said, because he wanted things both ways. Ending it doesn't hurt any less, because I really care(d) for this man. But, in the end it was the "small straw" that finally broke the camel's back.
Hussey! Great content as always! Would you ever share some tips for long term relationships in contrast to "how to get a fresh new guy"? tHAnK YOu!!!
Jamie Cullum went to my secondary school, as did Gabrielle aplin, we learn about them all the time and Jamie's level of passion was incredible, he inspires all of us everyday because he gave up a lot to do what he loves.
Loved this! It is nice to get to know you on more personal level :)
Oh wow. I love Jamie Cullum. I've got an old fan shirt from over a decade ago, when I first went to a concert of his. I kept the ticket as a sort of lucky charm for many years, because the concert was so magical.
Im a fan of longer talks.and podcasts.👍👍 The video title caught my attention so I was more focused on the last question. the tweets seem like a great way to diversify the conversation into🙌 sharing a lot of ideas and you seem more energized but would like to hear more question tweets in a longer video😃😃😃 heck! do them in a podcast Matthew!
I love you videos. The Q & A are great because I believe it is more personal. I also think you could have continued the video a little longer.
WOW!!!!!
Taking the easy route behaviour. I never thought of it that way!!
And yes these are awesome videos!!!
This was great! Thanks heaps Matt :)
I love longer videos and enjoyed this format. I must admit, the title made me skip through the first half though to get to that question.
Thank you so much Matthew for answering the question on "why do men lie?". I have been running into this issue a lot lately and your answer was super helpful. I wish your Chicago show wasn't sold out! Will you ever schedule a tour stop up in Milwaukee or Madison, or in Wisconsin in general?
felt the lies were more important then me or our relationship so I left and never looked back
I liked the video! I love all your videos but this is definitely something worth doing again.😉
All At Sea is my favorite Jamie Cullum song! Also, nice background, Austin, TX!
No kidding! Jamie Cullum is my favourite jazz musician! I'm surprised no one knows about him. His music and performances are fascinating!
When Matthew curses it's so amazing 😂😍
Lol
I actually loved it! Mathew, u handled all questions marvelously! I want to win tickets!!! Better come up with a good question to send u 😉. Seriously though- I love u Mat!
You are awesome matthew, your advise jus so cool .
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Q: Could you make a series on how to tell when a man is lying, AND whether the lie is important enough to break up over?
FYI: Perfect length. We can only retain so much. Camera man so smart (perfect background, and you look sharp always!).
Loved the video!!! :D
As always, thank you Matthew!!! Oh and Jamison! :D
Note to Matthew; yes the format of this video is great, keep them coming :) Note to the guy's comments below; good on you for being smart enough to gain some knowledge on how we thing, I hope you use it for the good, lol. FYI you have one up on most of the men out there.
I agree with Jamie Collum!! He's great, brilliant musician!
Long formats- yes yes yes! More Matthew is nice :) x
Great video! Love your answer about lying!
We are bizarrely similar in our mental approach to processes of life. (An incredibly redundant statement 😀) I always strive to be 100% in everything I do and then I end up getting burnt out and passive. But I also have the mentality that you should always do everything with that drive because it conveys that you care and it's worth something to you. However, I think Ill take your advice to your younger self and don't go full fury force off the bat and expect perfection.
Thanks for a great video!
that's exactly what I do with my schedule. lmfo More perfect as go and take chunks out. All work pays off -- got it!
All I wanted to about was why men lie and thank you for the clarity, I believe you pegged it. They lie so they can have it both ways.
I like every aspect of the video!
How can I set my boundaries about honesty from the beginning of an acquaintance without offending someone? I used to think that honesty was an automatic, foregone conclusion. Now I'm not so sure.
love the videos like this!
Loved it!
Hey Mathew,
can you make a video on how to get over a guy who lied to you and used you as a rebound.
trust me this problem is becoming so common now.
a vid would be good.
thank you so much!
I went through something similar
Well I'm so sorry. I feel you. You will be okay. We all will. My prayers are with you. Just know, that everything happens for a reason and it's good for you that that person is out of your life, because he can't go where you are going next in life since that person will hinder your growth. Take care! Keep smiling. :)
Mitali menezes. My best friend went through the same thing HER BOYFRIEND CHEATED ON HER WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND THEN HER NEXT BOYFRIEND WHO WAS A CHILDHOOD FRIEND HE WAS CONTROLLING AND A MANIPULATOR HE BLOCKED ME MY NUMBER FROM HER PHONE BECAUSE I'M A GUY AND HER BEST FRIEND. AND THEY BROKE UP AND NOW SHE'S BACK WITH THE BOYFRIEND WHO CHEATED ON HER AND NOW HE KEEPS LYING TO HER AND IS HURTING HER AGAIN.
Just had this. Ended yesterday with my boyfriend. He needed to stay in contact with his ex for paperwork. He was alone in the park but the reflecting in sunglasses was a girl next him. I called him. He Wouldnt pick up at that moment for an hour. ( it was long distant) when he picked up he got mad at me. He didnt know how the girl was next to him in the sunglasses. I will never find out the truth.
Please do more videos about lying/ trust/ rebound
Great advice!
Matthew Hussey!!! What are your downfalls/weaknesses in your relationships? Why do you think you haven't found a person yet and do you look up to other "love gurus" for your love problems?
Thank you 💕 Mathew 😘
Yay for Thomas Paine and for continuous effort!
Matt,and others, let me tell you something about insecurity and aging. When you get a bit older and have made something of your life (on your journey) the insecurities are less present. HOWEVER I am now beginning to focus on what things I had done, and sometimes you second guess, and the "would have's" occur. That is the flip side of the insecurities of your youth, simply because you don't have the mileage on your wheels and you are still learning. Now, in the youth of the elder years, we see what we messed up on, and regret can be there. But, if one is not too hard on themselves, we can also see our accomplishments. They should stand alongside and not be ignored. The regrets, hopefully, can be fixed. If they cannot be fixed or amended, they might be learned from. Now I teach them to young folks, hopefully they might listen. That is the role we must play as we get older..
Matthew, as long as it's your beautiful face talking to the camera I will watch the video and thoroughly enjoy it ;)
your smile gets me every single time!!! ;)
Thank you so much man.
engaging format and not too long ;)
I know Jamie Cullum... ^^ He wrote so many of my good morning and good night songs. His work always set a good. :)
Totally agree with Jamie Cullum, love that guy, does some epic performances ! :-)
Yes! Love it! Keep the video responses coming and please, to all the men out there, send in your questions. I'd live to know what burning questions are on your mind.
ooo nooo:( !! This is great ! I wish I sent my video as well! this us so much more personal . keep it up guys !!
I adore Jamie Callum and he is a jazz musician out of place in this day and age and that's why I love his music and his personality.
You are an amazing gift.
Nice format, not boring at all. Of course, you're never boring!
But, I have to say that Jamie Cullum is super known!
Love it!
Keep up with the long videos! Me likey.
I love this video! Recently I was madly in love with someone. He portrayed himself as kind, loving, accepting. Something out of this world. But when I looked up his name on Facebook I found out that he had a wife. Although I don’t know it is the truth, I feel used, manipulated, stabbed in the back and really broken. I don’t know what to do.