Gen Alpha is DOOMED and Nobody is Talking About It!!! (ipad kids, gentle parenting, low test scores)
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- čas přidán 18. 12. 2023
- Gen Alpha is the generation born after year 2010 and people have noticed a major difference in this generation compared to past generations that isn't exactly positive. From their low test scores, rapid aging, short attention span, and so much more...the people are talking!! In this video, we will be discussing why Gen Alpha is doomed!!
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It’s not gentle parenting it’s neglectful parenting.
Parents on both sides forget this: Gentle parenting requires discipline. Neglectful parents claim theyre gentle so they can not raise their kids. And abusive parents that these parents are examples and say thats why gentle parenting doesnt work
Thank you! I hate when people blame gentle parenting. Like babes y’all aren’t parenting at ALL 😢
It's what happens when people who didn't actually want kids had kids. There are a lot of regretful parents out there.
Exactly. If you were actually gentle parenting you would still punish your kid for being bad by giving them related punishments (For example, not hitting your child for accidently breaking a pot and instead make them clean up after themselves and use it as a learning opportunity to teach your kid not to be reckless in the house) and to set boundaries to your kid. Neglectful parents just let their kids do whatever and uses the words 'gentle parenting' as a pass to do so.
I think that term is just used a lot by neglectful parents who do NONE at all so it’s generalized and used in an even ironic way in the title but thanks for spreading the info! More ppl should know ts
I feel like Gen Z has collectively decided after seeing Gen Alpha to severely limit the technology access our future kids will have, so I’m interested to see how that all plays out over time.
I fully believe that our kids will be nowhere near as bad as these kids. We grew up having access to the internet as tweens/teens and know the horrors of the internet when left unchecked. Millennials didn’t have that experience, so they’re ignorant to exactly what they’re letting their children consume. We also grew up with a much better balance of electronics and real life, so we will better know how to implement that same balance with our kids.
As a 28 year old with a 9 and 12 year old that can read/write/function…
I can say I think the difference is 1. No matter how much they have begged they don’t get social media accounts. 2. I’ve never been a parent to give a kid an iPad or screen 3. I’m active in their lives and schooling, I talk to their teachers and help with homework and ask questions. 4. There’s consequences to everything. If you don’t act right you get consequences to that, if you act right you get consequences for acting right - however we are always learning.
I’m so proud of my kids, and I hope one day they understand why I haven’t let them have social media accounts. When I was their age I was online unsupervised, it was way different then, but when I was their age I remember thinking I felt so much older than I was.. and I was on mental health meds at age 9. My kids are kids… they are so happy and I really got to account that to not letting social media pressure weigh on them as well as being active in their life.
I haven’t been a perfect mom, but I hope I’ve set them up with a good foundation. And with all these videos popping up.. it sounds like they are on the right path.
I bet it’s going to branch out into two extremes. We might even call them Gen Alpha and Gen Analog
@@helenacohen2185millennials (born in the 90s) did experienced the internet during late tweens and adolescence though…
The math ain’t mathing ..
While Gen Z knows what to do for their kids, they also need to limit themselves and their own screen time. We should teach ourselves then have kids, and when we have kids, be sure to teach them what we know now. We have to set a good example as well.
I'm of the older half of Gen Z(I'm 24), and my husband and I have made it VERY clear to our family that we are not allowing phones or tablets to be put in front of our child on the regular. We basically want her to be raised the way we were- spending most of the time using imagination, playing with actual toys, and spending tons of time outside. We plan on homeschooling as well.
Children are being failed by society. Education desperately needs to become a priority in our country.
That's the thing, not everyone has the time or money for homeschooling which can make it really hard for these kids to not be failed by society. You could decide not to give your kid access to the internet, but still see that they're getting affected by it because of their friends at school. Even when homeschooled, when they go to socialise with other kids they might be influenced by them and the internet just like they would be at school... so really it feels like a lost cause. But good job putting effort to be a great parent and trying to be included in your child's life, not enough parents have been doing that lately!
I am your age, and I am super scared to send my kids to a school that isn't an online program. I know quite a few people my age who did k-12 through a certified, online program, so I am seriously considering that option.
@@younce-davis952I just think you have to spend time with them, know your child
Make them feel comfortable enough to tell you things they go through
Being strict parents will always make them want to hide things
I have several examples of both sides
I’m 28 and stuck financially unable to even think about marriage or kids so it shocks me that Gen Z has kids now. I feel so stuck in time. It tripped me out to read the word husband because I’m sitting here feeling like I’m not even old enough to be on my own let alone married. But yeah… I’m glad we Zillenials/older Gen Z have a decent hold on the tech addiction and hopefully more morals than these shit parents we’re talking about.
Wrong, if you homeschool they will not get influenced by the internet and as far as other children go...thats why most of us wont be allowing children to stay the night with our kids or our kids to stay the night with other kids unless their parents also do no believe in letting kids have access to the internet etc,as long as you watch every little thing your child does and who they interact with than you have full control over what they are introduced to.@@Spyritic
That sweet ballet instructor had me crying with her. Bless her for caring so much for these babies.
She's bad at her job. I was taking care of kids for 7 years, worked in a hotel kidsclub. I did theatre and dance practice from monday to friday. I had kids age 3- 12. And at times I had 20 kids to teach the dance choreo and make sure nobody falls of the stage. And everyone listened cause I was taught by my coworkers on how to do it.
You have to have the right tone that is strict, not high. Never shout at them cause then you loose their respect.
Also you don't ask them to do things you tell them to.
And make rules for certain words or phrases to not be used during your programs. I had up to 30 kids to teach our ctafting programs and I managed.
I wouldn't listen to that ballet teacher to, she's to insecure, you have to look and sound confident.
I had way worse kids, like a boy interupting my games constantly, using swearwords, talking about SEX (he was 9 btw) and that was a problem when you have small kids there. He just went to hotel with his grandpa and that man said it's normal for kids. I've had to talk to crazy parents and stay calm and proffessional and smile smile smile cause in hotel the guest is king.😂
We had a boy strangeling another kid, or kids that pumched others.... it isn't allways easy to get thouse to listen. But when someone says like your not my mum
I'd say 'I am your dance teacher and if you want to partake dancelessons you are not allowed to say that. "
And to the parents you explain that you are the one who has responsibility of every kid during dance lesson.
@@crochet_constellations Please tell me what she was meant to do. If the PARENTS don't care, what makes you think a ballet teacher will suddenly get to them. They don't listen to ANY authority. Point blank.
@@crochet_constellations Of course knowing how to act to earn respect is important in dealing with kids, some have to learn it, some are born with it. But as a teacher, its not your job to raise kids. Your job is teaching them a skill, giving them knowledge. Yes, some life lessons can be learned in class, some kids are more unruly than others, club-like activities and sports will teach kids a lot. Good teachers help shape a lot of a kid's future, but it all starts at home. I myself am a 22 year old ballet instructor and that girl really reached to me. I too struggle with gaining the children's respect sometimes as my not used to being an authorative figure, but im learning. But even with that, i can DISTINCTLY differentiate between kids acting unruly, running around, talking, screaming because they see me as being easy to step over for lack of a better expression, and kids whose parents havent thought them essential behavioural rules and manners and respect.
Luckily i dont get such kids often, and if i do, there is always a change a few months in. But that only happens because we work with the parents as well. Telling them the issues we see and letting them talk it out is what does it.
She made me so sad! I would have said CLASS IS OVER and calling are the parents to get their kids as I go cry in the bathroom.
@@mankindsbadhabit7546 This
I'm a parent. I'm in my late 30s and my kids are elementary aged. It is HARD to parent right now. I even had a nurse ask me how I get the kids to bed without an iPad because she had a child the same age and she wouldn't go to bed without an iPad. And I was so confused. We just don't give them iPads, we read them a story. She acted like that option had never occurred to her. I have so many bizarre experiences like this.
Then it’s obvious these new parents are lazy and are disconnected nothing new. I think technology is just exposing bad parenting
Crazy right! Library is free and books are free. I have ADHD and dyslexia I am behind have always been behind I'm almost 30 and I don't want my daughter's to struggle like I did in in school. My daughter is 2 and next one due in April ♥️ time to bring back kids being kids and learn through play and read with them and nurture their bodies and minds! ♥️♥️♥️♥️🙌
If a nurse thinks that way, that says a lot about the current crop of “parents.” Idiots.
I’m shocked. Reading a story is so nice. My parents wouldn’t do that “because you know how to read, and you just stay up all night reading if you do.”
I’m an 11 year old gen z and I do have an iPad but I’m not as obsessed as my gen alpha little demon,he is obsessed like he is attracted to it like a fing magnet 🧲 I know how to crochet knit and sew I know how to do a lot of stuff cuz of tutorials on CZcams lol
Im 19. In school, I was *MADE FUN OF* for acting like a preteen, since my parents still raised me like one. Everyone in my class, though, was intensely vain and criticized me for not being “mature”, when I was literally in 8th grade. It’s not just the parents and social media; kids are encouraging it to each other.
It's so silly and sad how people are almost never the "right" age. At first you wanna instantly skip to 21 or smt and then you are already "too old" almost instantly.
I'm 35 and it's wild how so many people way younger than me feel old, like wtf :D
Mammals learn by playing so it would be important to have a long enough childhood that isn't just trying to be an adult.
The most childish behaviour of them all is brigading and bullying people based on their percieved maturity or lack of especially when you're all kids, that includes posturing or trying to prove how mature you are. I'm a random stranger on the internet but I'm glad you were not one of those.
I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEMM
Thats wild.. kids should be able to act like kids and not expected to act mature..
@@Teawisheri’m 19 as well and will often hear my peers and friends discussing how old they feel and how they wanna be young again and it’s baffling lol
The kid singing his ABC's was so wholesome. He will be successful in life and have good character. 🙏🏼
If his peers around him don’t corrupt that wholesomeness. But it’s clear to see his parents are doing a good job at home.
So was the other one singing peaches from Mario
The one singing ABC’s and the one singing peaches from the Mario movie we need more kids in this generation to be like that
I'm Gen Z (2003) and in college, writing a paper on why public school K-12 teachers are quitting en masse. I initially was going to focus on money issues, teachers raising kids instead of parents, and overall being treated with a lack of respect. This video helped broaden my perspective on many more levels of this issue, and how heartbreaking the situation is. People are really hanging on for dear life! And these kids don't even understand how much they're struggling because they don't have a reasonable benchmark to refer to, or creative aspirations because it's being programmed out of them.
You wrote my mind. The lack of benchmark is so disheartening smh
Gen Z - 2002.
I work in education and am simply shocked how many millennials send their students to school & expect the school system to raise their children
also how poorly kids r raised. not even gen alpha, what i (as 20 yo, also 2003 gen z) saw irl from birth years 2008 are where it starts down hill. at local alternative bar i hang out every year we get younger gens that come when they r at start of high school, i talked to people in range from 2000-2010 there, i have friends born from 1993 to 2007, and what i noticed, 04,05,06,07 ones that came after me r chill and very well behaved since day one of coming. then 08 came...and 09 and 2010 kids,(we never had 14-13yos here before) 08--09-10, from first day they came, they were extremly arogant, extremly rude,trash the place, break things and make fun of us older folks there. us who r in our 20s and late teens started calling them cokoliino (baby-toddler food brand name) mafia, cause thats how bad they are. also i wont even begin on gen alpha, i was walkin on street listening to my music minding my own bussines then some 10yos start cussing me out and calling me names and making fun of how i look (this happends several times a week). literally WHERE ARE THE DAMN PARENT WHO IS RAISING THEM. i was chronically online kid since late 2000s but i still have respect for others andi have manners and my parents did gentle parenting. these youngest gen z and gen alpha are somethin else
I graduated with an education degree in 2004. I taught for less than 10 years and I changed careers. I quit for all of the reasons you listed and more and I thankfully hadn't even seen the worst of it. Things were progressively getting worse and I didn't see any hope that they would get any better. There was no support from parents or school administration. Plus, suddenly you actually had to consider that you may be shot and killed doing your job! No amount of money would get me back into a classroom. Not that they will ever pay teachers what they pay other jobs that also require at least a Bachelor's degree.
i got fired for not getting the covid shot (i was 9 months pregnant and did not feel comfortable with no testing on pregnant women), as did many other teachers. don’t forget to add that in your paper
I'm a parent, and my oldest told me he was the best reader in the class. He's 7, and he can read a bit above grade level. I was shocked when his teacher broke it down, and she asked me what I did at home. I told her that we read each day, he reads his own books out loud, I have him write the alphabet in both upper and lowercase and that we write panagrams. We do math throughout the day, like at the store. Being a parent is hard, but we made the choice to have these kids. We can't fail them on an intellectual level, and the fact that so many are is beyond sad. It takes as little as 45 mins to do the bare minimum.
We need more of you
I’m going to take this advice as someone with little cousins (no older than 5) I see weekly. Whenever they come over, I notice that everyone in my house is either on their phones, in their rooms, or ‘babysitting’ by doing the prior with the kids around. No shade to them because most are adults, especially the parents who need a break, but I find myself being the only one who genuinely hangs out with them. We draw, build legos, read books or play hide and seek, and even if the TV is on I’ll sing the nursery rhymes with them and try to be present so they don’t rely more on what’s playing than socializing and having fun. My little cousins are turning into iPad kids (they already have phones and use them a lot of the time on their own) but I’m glad that they’re at the point where if I sneak the phone away and we do something else they don’t fuss. Nowadays, when everyone has settled down after the first minutes of everyone greeting each other (my family and their family) they tend to gravitate towards me, and that honestly keeps me motivated to be present even when I’m very tired. I had barely gotten sleep one time they came over and ran to my room, and even though I just wanted to keep watching CZcams by myself, I found myself playing catch with them from my bed and showing them how to use a fidget spinner because the fact that they genuinely wanted to play with me because it made them happy touched me. Kids just need someone to be there and engage with them, so they know that there are ways to have fun beyond their iPads
This is exactly what I used to do with my mom and teacher at school! I would write and read so well that the teacher made me read my stories and hold presentations on different topics such as religion and history in front of the parents🤭
we need more parents like you
This is completely my vision for my son. He's only 8 months. Almost 9 but it w las mentioned the earlier you read with your kids and the more often, they have a better chance of doing well in school. Unfortunately my husband is far too go with the flow. We both are millennial I guess, 93 and 94. I don't pay a lot of attention to the whole "generational labels" thing but his style of parenting is absolutely more of the typical "iPad" parenting I keep hearing about. It's frustrating and a little troubling for me to try and.imagine how im supposed to ensure my son is responsible, respectful, mindful, etc. When dad is just going through the motions. At this point I just constantly have developmental informational youtube videos in his ear and hoping and praying the information get through that stubborn skull of his. I can't be totally mad with him since I know exactly why and who is responsible for the way he is but it really feels like raising two children rather than one.
I agree with everythinggggg. Parents are becoming extremely lazy with kids because a lot of them are having kids to have babies, not to raise actual people.
Unpopular Opinion: To have a Consistent Bag, without having to work a regular 9 - 5. 😕👎
@@jenesishunter9674??? We get that but how is that relevant?
to be fair, that's not exactly a new phenomenon
@@jenesishunter9674 kids are exoensive and average CS is 430 a month. No one is having kids for this reason, men are just delusional and like to pretend that's whats happening
Underrated comment
“calling home” used to be a very scary thing to kids and it still is to high schooler and such but now with the phone call schools are going to need a new punishment/warning
I remember a study I read maybe 20 years ago about people working with computers, especially coders. They tended to be less social and impatient with others, and had higher tendencies of being anti-social. The theory/conclusions was that because they spent more time interacting with machines than people, they would tend to expect the same types of accurate and rapid interactions or responses from people, just like they did with machines. When that didn't happen, it created a lot of frustrations.
That doesn't rule out a selection bias, though. While technology use may impair social skills, it could be the other way around-- that impaired social skills could lead people to choose jobs in tech (where they will not require those skills).
My ex is a coder and he’s one of the most understanding and kind people I know. We split on mutual terms btw lol. I think that feeding into social norms is a bigger issue than the physical screen themselves. He doesn’t follow any of that. I think if kids solely learned on screens and nothing else things would be so different.
@naomivought9317 my brother is working for a huge tech company and he would literally never even hurt a fly lol.
Well we see what learning and always being in front of a screen does to young minds. Try to take a screen away from an ipad kid and they react like an addict.
I just quit my job as a preschool teacher because of the kids. I have been bit, kicked, spit at, hit, given a black eye. It wasn’t worth it for me to be burnt out at the end of the day for my own son. The way these parents allow their kids to act/speak to people is INSANE.
i work at a preschool as well. i get hurt on a daily basis and the amount of times i hear the f-bomb come out of these children’s mouths a day is ridiculous.
Preschool was an elective my school offered. I can’t say that I blame you for leaving. The constant cursing, fighting, disrespect, and the fact that the parents didn’t see anything wrong with their kids behavior was insane. It’s not worth it.
All our prisons are going to be FULL and new ones building if the parents don’t get and teach some decorum.
School was like this when I went to school in South Central in the 80s and kids were beginning like that in jr high. I knew then I never wanted to go into teaching. My hands are too quick
Also I'm sorry that was your experience. Maybe you can be a private teacher but yeah, your son comes first
The key part of gentle parenting is gentle PARENTING. You must actually parent. Some people say theyre doing gentle parenting whilst really just doing permissive parenting
I can't tell you the ammount of times it infuriates me when i hear these millennial "parents" say "oh yeah i'm doing gentle parenting!" No ma'am/sir. You are not. You're not telling you kid no and why your no is a no.
@@rosy_cookie143 right, like actually an important part of gentle parenting IS telling ur kid no (when they need to be. Another part is considering if the no is just because of an unecessary norm or something else that's not actually a problem). But like telling your kid no is not a bad thing! It's a learning experience! And part of gentle parenting is also TEACHING your kid that 'no' is not a bad thing, that you can discuss, that there is reasoning behind the decisions people hand out. And that yes, sometimes you still might not like or completely agree with that reasoning, but being able to articulate your feelings and your parent being able to make you feel like your thoughts matter, even if they still explain why you can't do that, is invaluable. Just. Ughhhh permissive parenting is damaging!!! I just want to shake some of them and tell them like, yes, it IS super hard work to be a parent and to constantly put that effort in. But you signed up for it. You decided to be a parent. So do that.
This. People seem to misunderstand gentle parenting and enact it badly,gentle parenting is 100% the way to go, but permissive parenting should be avoided entirely.
Exactly. They say that they are doing gentle parenting but the fact is that they’re doing FAILED gentle parenting. My parents did gentle parenting with me and my siblings but we have respect for them and have none of the behavioural problems that gen Alpha has
Shoving an ipad in front of your kids and letting the scumbags on the internet raise them is not parenting. As a parent, you decided to raise children. You committed your life to raising them. So fucking raise them.
The kid singing the peaches song from mario was so cute and innocent 🥹🥹🥹 keep him pure at ALL COST!! 💓💓💓.
My grandparents are from the "greater generation" I always thought they were the silent gen.
One day my son came home& told me that he was mad his teacher was telling him what to do, cuz she's not his parent. I told him, that when he's at school, his teachers are in charge& he needs to listen. It doesn't matter if they aren't your parent. As your parent, I'm telling you that you need to follow directions while in school.
Honestly REAL gentle parenting isn’t that bad, it’s just that people nowadays are disguising neglectful parenting as gentle parenting
It's the excuse they use to not do the parenting they know they should be doing.
Ya, I don’t understand why Gentle parenting is on this list. She probably means permissive parenting or neglectful parenting. Kids shouldn’t have all these issues if more parents were following REAL gentle parenting or authoritative parenting, kids would be better behaved.
Exactly my thoughts. Gentle parenting is supposed to validate emotions to prevent causing trauma on children. However, it’s also supposed to firmly guide children to good behavior and teach them proper behavior. Another important part: the parent is supposed to be the primary example!
Honestly, “parenting” is a very generous term for what ignoramuses raising even more outrageous ignoramuses are doing now…
It's not gentle parenting, or even responsive parenting. It's mostly permissive parenting (which is horrible), paid parenting (which is worse), or fatigue parenting (which takes the cake). Gentle parenting, when properly implemented, yields sensible, disciplined, trained kids. But another problem I'm seeing with people turning to gentle parenting is that they start too late. Obviously, gentle parenting will be more effective on a 0-5 year old than a 6-11 year old. You either start young or you use responsive parenting instead. To be frank, as long as no one is neglecting the emotional and mental needs of their children, I don't see anything wrong with Authoritative parenting either.
The biggest problem is parents giving children unrestricted access to the internet! Lazy parenting is at a all time high. It is very possible to limit a child’s screen time and to monitor it- even if you work full time and have an extremely busy schedule
I can’t speak for all but that’s not the case.
Half the things we did as kids is frowned upon.
When my kids go outside to play people complain about the noise or call the police when kids are outside playing.
It’s not all the millennials kids or Gen alphas fault.
All previous generations are playing a role in this.
literally parental controls exist, watch something before your kids watch it and block it if you don’t like it.
@@DeLaTr0ll😂😂😂😂
Yessss
As a kid who prefers be classified as gen z (I’m 12) with a technology addiction, it is hard for parents who have a full work schedule to limit their kids, my mom is single and works full time, so she has little control over me and my little gen alpha technology addicted little sister. It’s , a problem but it’s not always the parents fault
I’m so scared for my daughters, who I am raising with intention to be smart, creative, independent thinkers. I worry who they will associate with and who will influence them IN THE REAL WORLD
Same. My kid has never had access to the internet at 7 years old. Crafts, reading, going to the park, playing pretend.
@@Love-eg2vfthat’s how i’m going to go about it!!
As an '07 Gen Z, the Gen Alphas that come into my work are always terribly behaved. They're messy, whiny, can't go without screens, demanding of their parents and of ME (cashier), and they've even destroyed things at my work as well. Their parents are almost always millennials, and they just reward the behavior by giving them "shut-up treats" like screen time, whatever desserts we have at my work, and sodas. One time a millennial's kids were literally climbing over the wall that sits in between two tables (it creates a little barrier in the dining room), dumping food onto the booth on the other side, and one kid had made it all the way over the wall and was smooshing the food onto the seat with their shoe. I went and cleaned it up and the mom gave me a dirty look. I didn't say a word to her, or her kids and I didn't give any looks to them. She was simply offended that I was addressing that the bad behavior existed by cleaning up. The reality is that my job is to clean what's dirty, and that table was SUPPOSED to be unoccupied, so I was cleaning it for the next person that was going to use it for eating purposes. Take that crap to the McDonald's playplace.
And I get that kids are going to make messes but to let your kids do ALL THAT in a place meant for eating is just WRONG.
As a millennial mom, I find that I am considered ‘strict’ by other moms because I expect respect from my kids. They will be corrected accordingly… they will be adults one day and I won’t have them acting foolish.
Eh, respect is earned, not automatically given. If you want respect, then you have to earn it. I say this as a 32-year-old.
For example: my "Mom" is a diagnosed narcissist. I don't respect her at all, and I've been completely ignoring her since 2001. I'm never going to respect her or automatically listen to her, and I never have, even when I was 10.
And I was born in 1989.
@@cronkhiteam That is true. They could actually be psychopaths, drug addicts, or child molesters, for example.
Again, RESPECT IS EARNED. If you expect respect, then you earn it. You're not entitled to respect just because you spread your legs.
The mindset of "Everyone is entitled to everything" is new.
@@Hollyucinogenthat’s all you took from it? You do know there are parents who just happen to discipline their kids who don’t treat them like shit right?
@@venusbeenus4675 Disciplining your child is not the same as being strict. If you're disciplining them, then you're trying to teach them a lesson which helps them grow as people. Being strict is not permitting your child to make their own choices based on what YOU want.
@@Hollyucinogen based asf. To many adults think that they want respect without realizing it’s a 2 way street
as a nanny there is a HUGE difference in the cognitive development of my kids that got an ipad at 2, and my kids that watch disney plus less than an hour a day. the lack of ability to play is what i notice most. if you ask an ipad kid to go play outside for thirty minutes they will stand there not knowing what to do and begging for the ipad or for me to come up with what they should play (they’re over kindergarten age they should know how to play outside???!!!)
Lack of play is detrimental for children's development. I really hope parents start taking more of an initiative for their child's creativity, intelligence, and future.
Its honestly heartbreaking!!! I remember being elementary age and spending hours in my backyard running around playing by myself, if not with my sibling. Its disturbing to think kids have so little imagination now they can't even play or make believe without being prompted
@@mimienchanted9339 so true! I was born in 1997 and my parents were busy surviving hard times so I had to basically “raise” myself. Having 0 exposure to technology I could literally spend hours outside on my own, imagining different games and role playing. After that I would draw, read and write stories. So, the parents’ being way too busy is not an excuse to just give their baby an iPad and leave
@@mimienchanted9339honestly my brother is 10 and all he does is watch tik tok at 10 I was OUTSIDE 😩
That’s so sad
I believe its also because theres this trend going on to “break the genrational trauma” and the “trauma” in question is simply disciplining your child.
A lot of gen x/boomer parents did abuse their kids so I'm glad that cycle is getting broken. The issue is millennials as a whole have a very "this or that" or "black or white" view of everything. Nothing in moderation, no combination, nothing. It has to be all or nothing. So they instead of keeping the good parts of how they were raised and undoing the bad, they just did the exact opposite of how they were raised and hoped for the best
it makes me feel better for my future kids seeing the amount of people in the comments that plan on reducing their children’s screen time (by a lot) and even deciding to home school. i was starting to get scared my kids were bound to become socially awkward because i refuse to let my kids have majority of their friends be like the children in this video🤦🏾♀️
I hate that the automatic clapback for people saying that kids listen to inappropriate songs is that we listened to inappropriate songs too when we were there age. While that’s not wrong, we were listening to heavy INNUENDOS and had no idea what we were singing. I didn’t realize what Candy Shop was about until I was like 12. Modern songs are so much more straightforward and graphic which makes it easier for them to make the connection earlier, especially if the parents speak in the same manner.
Thank you!!! The lyrics were subliminal versus how blatant they are today. There was a HUGE difference
Yeah if you compare like lady Gaga or Britney Spears to Ice Spice or Cupcakke they sing about the same things but one is obviously different.
Female artists are an unashamed example of zero class and decorum. There is no condemnation in it and the kids are paying attention.
Parenting problem
@@jinx6946Not just parents, the whole of society is giving the wrong example. Growing up in the 80s and 90s was a whole different story than growing up in the age of smartphones and social media. Even if it could be argued that a lot of the values and rhetoric held by authority figures 30-40 years ago were pure lip service on their part, the fact remains that we didn’t really have the means of unmasking them. Add a complete lack of any believable authority figure in today’s society, celebrities and influencers constantly preaching the normalisation of insane behaviours, gentle slapping counting as child abuse, and greedy tech giants happily taking over child rearing to create lobotomised consumers, and suddenly parenting starts looking like a much harder job than before, specifically for those struggling with their income.
Can we just appreciate the kids who sang normals songs like the ABCs and Peaches 😭
it’s so sad that we have to appreciate these two children though…. Reality is fricked up
The kid singing peaches was so cute 😭
Am I the only one who hates Anti-Gen Alpha videos
@@PrincessMavenKittyDarkholme People aren't being "Anti-Gen Alpha." If kids were just a bit behind, it would be bad to blast them like this, but when it's this bad, people need to call it out.
@@PrincessMavenKittyDarkholmeYeah.
I’m a Gen Z Kid myself (2005 Baby) and we grew up with the rise of social media so we’ve seen all the ups and downs of social media and seen how the platforms grew and thus have seen how these Gen Alpha kids are being raised. As Gen Z kids we know exactly what social media is like and what it can do to such a young mind which I hope will cause a lot of us to be better parents than millennials.
My cousin was born in 2011 and he’s 12 now, my aunt raised him to be a kid. He went out to parks, played outside like a normal kid, and did normal kid things.
yes, my kids are gonna play outside ❤ (2005 baby here too)
@@alexiiconner same here, when I have kids I’m gonna let them have an actual childhood and their Brain isnt consumed by social media, I want them to actually enjoy life and not stress over useless shit that doesn’t really benefit them
Honestly, as a 16 year old right now, I’m even saddened at how quickly my peers and those younger than me are growing up. I’ve been seeing this most with my youngest cousin. She is 11. Just started middle school. All she does is worry about boys, to the point where she’s failing tests. She’s disrespectful to her mom and she cares too much about being grown. I remember on halloween, I invited my friend over, we dressed up and went trick or treating with my even younger cousins (about 8-9) and when we asked why she wasn’t going with us she said… “i’m too old to go trick or treating” SHE SAID THAT TO 16 YEAR OLDS THAT ARE GOING TRICK OR TREATING 😭 I love my auntie and everything but I wish she would crack down on the things my cousin does, instead of rewarding it with makeup n stuff. Once again, I’m 16 and I barely just started wearing concealer, foundation, eyeliner meanwhile she has all of that at 11. It’s so sad, I just want her to enjoy being a kid, I even try to turn on movies from my childhood when she’s around and she gets bored of it and goes on her phone :( Even though me and my parents have some disagreements i’m happy I was raised the way I was, because I still got to be a kid, and i’m happy about that. It really is just crazy like when I was in middle school I was still playing Animal Jam and begging my mom for the newest monster high doll. However I think because this is becoming such a widespread issue, the next generation or later Gen alpha will be better. Sorry for the long comment! This whole topic in general has had me thinking and I wanted to chime in!
You should be even more concerned about the amount of people identifying as transgender
@@ChillingTales12 Ok so? Let ppl be whoever they wanna be.
this is sooo true because tell me why my 8 year old younger cousin is getting make up, expensive jordans, and asking for an iPhone 15. This is just crazy to me!
You’re doing the right thing with your cousin it’s definitely her parents fault I’m in shock 😮
Damn this low-key sounds like me except I’m in the 6th grade, is it really that bad?
I worked as a camp counselor this summer, and I quit only 2 weeks in.
I was screamed it, punched, called slurs, degraded by parents, students, and coworkers. This issue is kids think they can boss people around, because there parents and peers do the same. I spent 20 minutes trying to convince a 7th grader to sit down!!! Aside from that, I was sexually harassed by the male children. I had to report the same child for prompting self harm over 3 times before she got the help she needed. I used to love working with kids, but I’ll never do it again now. This was Traumatic.
I’m concerned about the kids who don’t participate in this kind of behavior, they must feel so isolated in all of that, and I can imagine the peer pressure when it’s so overwhelming even for adults.
@@B_addie yes!!! Well behaved children would act different around other kids. A boy would draw and pick flowers with me when his friends weren’t there, but when they were he would say genuinely disturbing things about me. Very scary, since good kids and changing for the worst!!
Omg its actually insane. I'm a 2010 and don't consider myself a gen alpha its fine if u do. But I was raised to be respectful to everyone, even other kids. Last year I was in a kindergarten class watching them during their lunch break and some of the kids kept putting their hands up my skirt. Like what the hell, you're five years old..
@@mxchikai that’s terrible! Hope your doing okay!
@@B_addie My sister born in 2010 tells me she's seen kids in grades below her and that they're some fucking atention seeking weirdos, literally I mean, ppl neither of us would be friends with, like take some accountability they're the cringiest human beings I've seen, since 2012 kids, everything has been becoming worse
i am an elementary school teacher and it is so scary. i recently had to email parents about their child completing NO work the entire day, even the work we did as a class which all he had to do was copy down. the BARE MINIMUM for neurotypical 4th graders is being able to copy down information.
i emailed his mom because he kept choosing to not complete anything and disrupt the class. his mom didn’t answer my email then told me at conferences that she “thought i was just venting”.
so heartbreaking how little the parents care
my mother is a physics teacher (a brilliant one, for context - she’s been in the game for 30 years and she is one of the leads in the team that puts marks the physics finals for the country) and she teaches 16-19 year olds. she’s been saying for years that every year the new kids get worse and their parents get more entitled . recently she told me how in a parents meeting they wanted her personal phone number to contact her over weekends to help their kids and wanted a group chat on messenger with her so she’s accessible at all times. like girl…
Elder Gen-Z fighting for their childhood back and Younger Gen-Z fighting to be older is so depressing
im stuck in the middle
@@scoobsydooSame
us mid gen z are just scream in torture.
but mostly fighting for our childhood, and learning sh*t we should have always know but don't.
-pop
As a babysitter and camp councilor: I’ve taught kids to play pretend. We need to be more imaginative and normalize being horses or dragons or dinosaurs with each other for entertainment.
@@PrincessMavenKittyDarkholmedon't be contrary just to be contrary. It's hateful and argumentative. And sticking "autistic" or your name doesn't give you free range to be a jerk. I'm disabled and judged if I'm rude. So be NICE!
@@kathymcmc no
@@kathymcmc im not a jerks
@@kathymcmc I just disagree
You get bullied for doing that now
My children know if they misbehave at school, I’m coming there. I will sit in a desk next to my child and ensure they listen. None of them want that so they behave plus we have rules and consequences at home. Period. I respect my kids and my grown children & I are super close but I’m the parent.
As an 8th grader my school got picked where I live to take a test to let the government know how much we learn. The students were randomly picked (about 20 of them) and when I found out my school got picked I already knew it was going to be bad. Lots of kids think they’re gangsters and every class i have there is only about 5 kids that actually do their work. It’s so sad what society has become..
I'm a high school teacher. It's not only the parents, it's educational policy! We're penalized for students failing because it affects data which impacts funding. They basically persecute us if we do not give the students passing marks despite them not performing to state standards. Additionally, No Child Left Behind is a travesty. Social promotion is the norm until high school, in NYC at least. The kids don't take education seriously until they're placed in an environment where they cannot graduate unless they pass a standardized test.
It also makes you wonder how they are passing those standardized tests when their reading level is coming in at middle school level… Either the tests are lying when these kids graduate or the schools are lying. There is no way they have data that proves these kids can barely read and they magically pad standardized tests at a graduate level.
THIS!
Hi, as a psych student (so purely unqualified but with a vested interest) I think were seeing a boom in neurodivergent kids who just don't learn in the traditional ways, and don't flourish in a traditionally academic environment or curriculum/s, because of modern medicine and people having kids at older ages, kids born in the last few generations and now are being born to much older parents and this means the egg and sperm quality is compromised. increasing the chances of those kids having adhd/autism or at least traits that mirror those conditions, this means we are ending up with millions of kids who simply do not do well in these traditional environments and means we need an entire overhaul within our educational systems and support systems
@@leebliss3622are there any studies to support that??
Yup 100% I was looking for a comment like this. It’s so bad. I graduated high school 2 years ago in 2021 and when I did I honestly felt like I didn’t accomplish anything which I still strongly believe. Grading was far too lenient to the point that it essentially incentivized everyone to not try and as a result I stopped trying myself because I thought it doesn’t matter anyways if I’m still going to pass and graduate, and from what I’m hearing from my mom who’s also a teacher, it’s getting a lot worse each year. Parents and the school system is setting these kids up for failure.
This issue has been a long time coming though. I’m a younger millennial who went to middle school between 2005-2008, ages 10-13, and was BRUTALLY bullied by my peers for acting like a child and being a good student. It wasn’t uncommon for kids to be having sex lives and smoke cigarettes or even use harder drugs. I just feel like those same unparented kids who made my life hell in school grew up, had kids themselves and gave them unfettered access to the internet. 💀
PREACH
Relatable. I never understood my peers trying to act like adults so badly yet being so imature at the same time.
I'm now an adult gen z, and I remember this one girl from the same year as me sudenly droping out of school because she got pregnant and had a kid.
WE WERE 12 YEARS OLD.
A PRIMARY SCHOOL DAMMIT!
Exactly, as a millenial who was a good student, I can tell you, all the "promiscuous girls/hoes" and bullies from my high school had kids and gen alpha are the result.
I'm currently a Gen z in high school and the same thing is still happening. You're friends with everyone if you have a "body count " and labeled as boring if not
I'm a sophomore (4th grade high schooler in Argentina) and i always get the feeling that i'm not part of my classmates (i neither want to be part of them because how they are). Sometimes i'm being criticize about how i act like a TEENEGER when i'm literally about to be a 16 year old. They are always wanting to be adults, going to partys, getting drunk, being in drugs, smoke, having sex, betting and they listen to a type of music that is TERRIBLE. Musicians here are always singing about sex and drugs and the kids and teenegers are taking that songs as aspirational to be in life. They dress the same, they talk the same, act the same. You can't go to the beach without hearing that stupid songs everywhere.
This is really enlightening and scary to listen to, thank you for sharing.
I don't have kids and never will, but one of my colleagues can't keep her son from interrupting her work-zoom calls. Like...I'm sorry, kids can and should be taught the word 'no', or ''not right now, mommy's in a video call for work'. Even dogs are better trained. There is absolutely no reason any child who can understand verbal commands to fail this hard at basic respect of authoritiesm
I grew up with an elementary school principal for a step-mother. And she was the best thing that ever happened to me! After 6th grade if I wanted new clothes or a new backpack (as long as my old ones were still usable) I had to earn it over summer break. I had to read “X” amount of books, and work on packets (like math problems, mazes, cross logic problems, English questions, etc. once I was done with my packet and read my books I got a gift card for $100-$500 based on my age and I am 100% doing that with my children. My 8 year old said he wanted to be a CZcamsr as his dream job, I regulated his screen time even more, I’m making sure that my kids are responsible and respectful! Also my oldest has autism, and he’s way more polite and socially responsible than some I see that are his age (11) and neurotypical!! so to see how kids are behaving… it’s literally sickening, these are the peers of my children, I’m so sad for their future…
You're an amazing mother
As a high school teacher, I want parents to remember how much they wanted kids to get back to the classroom, and how hard it was to teach their kids at home and how much they valued teachers during the panoramic...I want them to remember because they're pretending like we don't have a lot of work to do in the class. Also... Why do parents leave their kids to literal devices with no checks? Your kids don't read stories to you? Or read instructions on the ingredient box?
Listen we are struggling out here!
Because regardless of what they say most of these parents do not want to be parents and that’s the real tea. They shame childless women yet the kids they have are neglected mentally and emotionally.
I left my teaching job during the pandemic. Zero regrets. The lack of appreciation was astounding. People actually thought we were doing nothing because we taught from home.
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6yep
Parents are struggling too, especially single parents.
I’m a mom of an almost 3 year old that is thinking about homeschooling and only purchase educational materials for Christmas. He’s semi nonverbal but speaking more everyday. Yes he watching tv but he is not on the tablet and I do free play and try to input teaching him with such toys.
There’s a massive difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting. Parents need to learn that before adopting the method 🤷🏾♀️
Yeah, I’m so tired of permissive parents saying they are practicing gentle parenting. It’s not gentle parenting at all.
@@user-xu2ni1rl1s😂yes they did
neglectful parenting.
I’m ‘06 social media is weird to me. I’m a military brat so when it came to social media I was always told what I post can be used against me and it can affect me from going to college. So I never posted and I avoid being posted, just who I am now, But my dad always raised me to have a healthy fear of most if not all things in life. You should have a healthy sense of fear when it comes to authority cause it will make you really think about your actions and the resulting consequences. Yeah I think the behavioral issues stem from a lack of HEALTHY fear of the consequences of their actions and the lack of care for their future. That’s how I see it 😅. Great video.
one of my coworkers is an 18 year old and a few months ago i asked him when he was going to break. He looked at the clock and said "at 10:00 but it's only 9:11 right now so im good".... he was reading the big hand of the clock on 11 as "9:11" instead of 9:55.. I was genuinely shocked when i asked him what he meant and he looked at the clock again and told me "yeah its 9:11 right now i have an hour until i go to break!". Absolutely blew my mind how he even made it this far in life not knowing how to read a clock.
edit: i just remembered he actually turned 21 this last January because i remember him buying beer in our store a few months ago. Now im just imagining every gen alpha child making it to 21 not knowing basic life skills like reading a clock. Calling that a life skill is even a stretch
My little sister is currently in 7th grade and she's having a tough time with reading comprehension. My mom has been having her read the diary of Anne Frank, and it's surprising to see her struggle with it. The thing is, our other siblings and I read it back in grade 4 without any issues. It's even more surprising considering that she's an honors student. It makes me wonder if the school is starting to lower their academic standards.
1000% especially the US school system, school needs a reform extremely badly it's just trash.
the reason half of these things are problems is because
A) the teachers are overworked and underpaid.
B) they are unfit to teach children and bully them
C) the curriculum is trash and doesn't allow teachers to engage with their students and learn
D) the students parents are trash, and they aren't getting any support for it and thus they are suffering education wise
E) the cost of living crisis combined with the current mental health epidemic is actually really impacting and stressing the f*ck out of students to the point they wanna die.
F) the government just doesn't listen to anyone and that's why we are in this whole issue
it's not gen Alpha's fault, they are literally children.
-pop
I've noticed that the AP and honor students are actually just the kids that don't have extreme behavioral issues. So they remove them to an alternate class just so they can concentrate
The school has been dumbing us down since JFK. Especially in physical fitness and mathematics.
The school is definitely lowering the standards. They're letting anyone pass because it will look bad on their data if they didn't.
There are resources that can help you help her improve. You local library may have programs that can help. ❤
The dance teacher broke my heart, I’ve owned a dance studio since I was 18, I’m now almost 41. And I’ve seen exactly what she’s saying unfold in my own studio and it really is sad. My employees and I have an awful time getting the parents to help us help their dancer by not running around the studio while class is in session, etc and have been told many times: she’s just wild or she’s been cooped up in school all day. So often, we are left feeling like the bad guy by not allowing the 5 year old to do whatever she’d like. It’s disheartening.
Kick them out of the program then; the kids and their parents need to know that refusing to follow instructions results in consequences
@@yageshabazz3456the whole studio will be empty 😂. Welcome to reality. These kids are our future. Hopefully they'll atleast break the outer shields keeping us in this slave illusion of reality where we think we are so special and alone in the universe hiding the true intergalactic alien races that know we exist while we don't know they do.
Deeply concerning 😢
I run my own business and I learnt a hard lesson last year.
"Work for a bad client once, and a great client forever."
@@Fruitcupper wise words for sure, very true.
Mine is tough on my heart because it’s kids. I admit I allow late payments and all sorts of things I shouldn’t because I hate for the kid to not be in dance. 🫤
@@yageshabazz3456 I wish I was able to but usually it’ll work out or they’ll quit. Lol
And I have wonderful dancers and dance parents that usually offset some of the madness. But you are right, I should be more strict
I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant with my daughter and these videos/situations are exactly why I want to homeschool. People don't parent anymore and I don't want her around all of these bad influences or have her education suffer because her classmates can't keep up
Please be careful and diligent! I did online/home school for 4 years, its very easy to get isolated socially.
why is a lady like you subscribed to Rich Piana lmao
Your kid is Gen Beta, they might be so different who knows
I am supplementing with home education but my child will go to school.
@@DanteLikesRock what is that supposed to mean?
Fantastic video. I don’t think enough people know this is currently happening to our children and our future society/generations. It is honestly heartbreaking seeing this entire generation being left to their own devices and seeing teachers struggle trying to help them where they need to be. It’s painful to watch..
As a Gen Z who was born in 2005, seeing these kids singing pound town and other sexy red songs at such a young age made my jaw drop!? I remember when i was around their age the only raunchy song i knew (and didn't even know it was a sexual song until i was much older) was Barbie Girl by Aqua and i loved singing it all the time because i loved playing with my Barbie, monster high and bratz dolls😭
Wait, Barbie Girl was sexual?!?! 🫨
I didn't connect all of the dots until you just said that and I'm in my 30s now lolbs
We had raunchy songs growing up but it was all innuendo and implications, concepts that children don't grasp
Damn, I feel so bad for this generation of kids
U young I’m 99 baby didn’t have a phone til high school first iPhone when it first came out
@@JustMeandGod_2000 baby here and I didn’t have a device until I was in high school, but before then I felt the pressure from seeing other kids around me getting phones (not yet I phones) in elementary school, this was right before it became a requirement in classes and now most k-12 schools require internet access to some extent
I’m a 2005 kid too! (18 atm). I remember being a kid, climbing trees and playing with legos. I love the freedom and exploration that comes with adulthood, but that all came later. It’s like these younger kids are missing out on childhood
@MangoLime1 innuendo and implication is how raunchy songs used to work. And it works great. Once a kid understands what is being sung, they are old enough for it. And I feel innuendo is often hotter because you can insert more of your own tastes into it.
The “no child left behind” thing (aka moving them forward even though they are failing) was implemented for students who have learning disabilities or just simply aren’t exceptional at certain subjects (for example I was good at basically everything except math) but it’s being abused now;because now, kids and parents know that they can fail everything and still get out of their grade level.
Actually what’s crazier is that before that kids reading skills were even worse. As the set of education laws passed during the bush era included science based phonetic reading skills for all kids since they were not reading phonetically before then. A lot of kids didn’t not learn how to read properly and were continuing to read poorly. It was worse and it’s barely gotten better. Education for the masses in the USA has always been terrible.
@@eliana993 lol english and phonetic reading in one sentence? Are you sure that you are talking about the same language?
Because written english is everything but not phonetic.
@@OneWorldGovernment2030-yv3zc Even if dictionaries trying to do that, the language itself still won't be a phonetic language.
In fact, english is well known for being a big mess and not being phonetic at any point of the language.
To me, grading in general is a very flawed way to value the knowledge of anyone, that way you learn to pass a test, not to understand what you are being taught
@@tovarishcheleonora8542hey, spanish speaker here, English is phonetic sometimes but it has so many exceptions that it is very close to not being it at all, the word phonetic is a good example, because we have the letter "f" but the word uses "ph" instead to make the sound, it is very confusing to non speakers
That tracher that started crying for the kids who want to listen to pownd town....broke my heart. This teacher probably has for love and care for these children than their parents. Sad!
I couldnt help but cry at the ballet teacher. Bless her for trying and caring so much. ❤
As a Gen Z parent to a ~2 year old, this whole situation breaks my freaking heart. We did no screen time until my daughter recently got very sick and miserable so we caved and turned the TV on to watch some train videos and sesame street, literally only a month before her 2nd birthday. I always get told how big of a vocabulary she has and how well she can speak and understand the world around her, and I can’t help wonder if it’s because of the lack of screen time. Don’t get me wrong, it is hard to be a mom, I couldn’t imagine doing it with less help than I have. I’m a uni student who just finished my honours thesis, and I work part time, so I get how it would be nice and great to just put the kid in front of a screen and have them busy... I’m exhausted mentally by all the playing when I know I have other shit to do. But I cried from pride/happiness watching my daughter playing pretend with her new Little People toys, because her imagination is just so big and the toy kept her busy for hours. It was so incredible. I’ve never regretted the decision to prioritize physical play and activities and minimize screen time as much as we could. I come from a place of great privilege but it really does seem harmful how much screen time YOUNG babies have these days. Heck, I know I myself as a 24 year old have way too much screen time too.
Similar situation with my son, we almost made it to 2 without screens but I live a 4 hour drive from my family and caved on a trip home because he was getting very distressed in the car in general and I was worried how the drive would go, so I downloaded CZcams kids on my old phone and put parental controls on so only a few things like ms Rachel and some nursery rhyme channels were available for him.
His speech and understanding is amazing, I've been told my many that he'd communication is better than a 3 year olds, he uses 4 and 5 word sentences etc. He also loves to play pretend kitchen, he cooks all sorts and will even go and pretend to feed his baby doll and teddies. I can't say for sure what he'd be like if we stuck him in front of hey bear and ms Rachel when he was a newborn onwards but I'm glad we stuck it out as long as we have. I also think screens can have a place and once they aren't abused then it's ok. For example, if they are sick and you need them to stay in a bed (my son was recently put on oxygen in hospital but was constantly trying to pull it out, so I let him watch the phone) however, using a phone every time someone goes into a restaurant is so lazy and really doesn't do anyone any good long-term.
@@Lisa-ih7fk It is basically the exact same for us. Good for you guys, I’m happy to hear other parents also limiting screen time for babies. Of course screens have their use in certain aspects of life, and they can really be a sanity saver with a sick kiddo or in a real pinch that’s for sure. But I think in general it’s best to limit toddler’s and children in general’s time on screens and also to monitor their content carefully! Now that we’ve introduced the TV to our 2 year old, I’m super picky on what she gets to watch because some stuff like hey bear and cocomelon are just WAY too overstimulating. She loves real-life train videos, sesame street, bear in the big blue house, etc.
Idk. My first had a lot of tv and has an incredible vocabulary, always has. We read to him a lot and never used baby talk etc… I think that plays a huge part. My kids get tv… sometimes yt on MY iPad (they don’t have their own iPads lol) and sometimes (maybe once a week) they get an hour or so of their Nintendo’s… my four year old was delayed with speech. But I raised both my 9yo and 4yo the same… lots of reading to them, lots of talking to them etc. kids just develop differently. Your child will be fine after watching a bit of tv. I took my kids out of school to homeschool and my oldest is thriving… the tech in schools was concerning for me. My kids also just spend hours PLAYING! You’re doing everything right :) prioritising play, letting little one have some chill screen time when ill and needing a rest… it’s fine :) you’re doing great.
@@milkglassfairy7641 I appreciate the reassurance a lot. I think the programs on TV matter a lot too - even just in the little while since my daughters watched bear in the big blue house she’s learned a lot and she loves it, but I still feel guilty every time lol. Your comment is very reassuring to me. Growing up I know I watched plenty of TV as young as when I was a baby and grew up to be fine, but seeing some of the kids these days just scares me, it’s so much more than “just TV” like it was when I was little. I think the major contributor/difference/factor though is reading!!! So many parents don’t read to their kids these days and imo, that’s probably why their kids don’t and can’t read. And also why some kids spend so much time in front of screens, because they don’t know how to read and don’t find enjoyment in it.
It can play both parts knowing the outside world and watching tv bit if u do let her watch some safe shows for 30 mins
As a young Gen Z ( im a 2009 baby), I see this first hand at my school with the kids in the grades below me. It's INSANE what these kids are like, even some of the younger ones in my grade. I feel sort of like an outcast when ever I have to interact with them. Theres such an abrupt cutoff between the Gen Z and Gen Alpha and theres definitely a generational gap, there really is a big difference from our grades to the ones below us. It's scary what's to come.
Thank you so much for the likes its good too see that therea re some like minded people out there like..
I’m gen z as well and I agree. I’ve been working customer service based jobs and I’ve noticed gen alpha acting up and not being disciplined by their parents 🥲
@@justanotherpotato5523 ikr and the parenst think its so funny too.. like its not funny thgat your kid is disrupting a public place or worse.
Also a 2009 baby and it’s like your considered weird if your not caught up on trends or not dressing grow or smoking just acting grow in general
@@Denayja29 seriosuly everyone vapes and its so bad its normalized
@@justanotherpotato5523 I scold those little f-ers when I see them acting bratty in stores lol. They stop real quick. I'm a millennial with no kids and would have no patience for that BS.
My mother always encouraged me to play outside and that kindled a love for the outdoors in me. She would even make a game out of flashcards with math problems on them which led to me knowing basic multiplication and division when I was in first grade. Parents don't really do things like that anymore and it shows. The fact that I, an autistic/bipolar person with childhood trauma was raised for most of my development by a single mother and excelled in school while neurotypical children with "conventional" family dynamics are struggling is mindbogling to me. Many have lives that I wish I had growing up and yet they are squandering theirs.
Thank you so much! As a parent of a 10 year old beautiful little girl, I appreciate you spending so much time putting this together! People need to open their eyes and ears!
For our future to be successful we need more people like you in the world! Save our beautiful babies brains!
I've noticed a difference as well. I was born 1983 and we had cognitive approaches that are non existent now. Even writing in cursive and doing long division expanded your brain in ways that don't exist anymore. So logic and common sense is a rarity now. Everything is a trend now. We gotta make books look cool, paying attention in school, outperforming your classmates look like something to strive for again.
No Child Left Behind was the beginning of the end for education.
How do people sign things if they don't know cursive writing?
@@WilliamScavengerFish they just print their names like regular. I've seen it.
Kids don’t learn cursive anymore??
We do teach long division! I’m trying my best as a math teacher to build in that analytical thinking
I think some people don’t realize that being literate is such a fundamental part of just society in general. Being able to critically evaluate situations and just being able to read between lines is extremely important. I hope that we’re wrong about this next generation though bc I’d hate to live in that world. Ps. I also hv a little cousin born in 2012 and I abhor the thought of calling him a genz person lol.
There’s many people who are of age who don’t have those skills and it baffles me every time I encounter them.
Literacy is necessary for every career path in some way shape or form. It’s how society functions. It’s terrifying to think gen alpha just doesn’t have thst
I am so fortunate I learned reading and writing easily and that my mom taught me how to think critically, because “reading between the lines” for me is extremely unnatural and took a lot of work to do.
No it’s not. A little more than half our population cannot read above a 6th grade reading level. Gen alpha definitely don’t make up half our population. It’s been an issue, it’s just being exposed to the public.
I graduated hs in 2018 and you weren’t even allowed to use your phone at all during class, unless you wanted it taken away. meawhile my sister born in 2009 sends me tiktoks while she’s in class lol
Thank you for your video, all the topics in it really need to be discussed more often. I have something to say about the last part of it.
I'm Gen Z (2006), and when I was in elementary school, other kids bullied me for liking cartoons. Yes, I was bullied by other children for being a child and acting like a child when I was one. It was back in the 2010s, and I'm actually worried for Gen alpha. They are being brought up by social media and influencers, which means that they only see grown ups and children their age who look and act like grown ups. It breaks my heart to know that a whole generation is not allowed to be children or pre-teens. They have to be either babies or adults, nothing in between. The fact that they might get bullied for their 'not adult enough' interests online also makes the situation worse.
If you're Gen Alpha and reading this right now, I want to advise you to allow yourself to be a child. I know that it is hard to do it when it means that you risk being kicked out of society around you. But trust me, it's much better to be yourself and not to be shy of what you're into, instead of lying to yourself and to others.
And if you're an older generation, please do not allow yourself to bully children for being children. Children tend to make mistakes, and pre-teens can make mistakes, too, but it's okay because it's the age to experiment and try to find yourself in your life. Never laugh at them because of this. From my own experience, I can say that it might lead to awful long-term consequences, as I still have issues with self-esteem.
P.S.: English is not my native language, so there might be mistakes, sorry. Wish you a great day!
gentle parenting gets such a bad rep because there are so many people misusing the term when they are actually permissive parenting 🥲 i am a gentle parent. i treat my 2.5 year old daughter with respect, & compassion (because again, she is only 2! she’s still a baby in this big world) and she also has boundaries that we’re working with her on. we don’t let her run our household by any means, & we also don’t give her arbitrary punishments just because we feel like it.
That's not gentle parenting that's good parenting.
Or I am wrong with my perception of it. Gentle parenting to me means no consequences for the children and allowing them to react however they feel at the time.
Disciplining children is for the child, but some parents do it for themselves because they are too busy or lazy to actually teach their kids a lesson. Or they punish out of anger rather then teaching. Discipline should always come with an explanation and actions have consequences.
Thats what discipline is meant for; to protect and teach the child.
@@charissa6648 Authoritative parenting, respectful parenting, or gentle parenting all fall under the same umbrella per se. It’s all about letting our children still be children, feel their emotions & working with them to learn how to regulate themselves. Allowing children to act without consequences or not having any boundaries would be permissive parenting 😊
@@shealynnmichelle2904 I think one problem is also how gentle parenting is taught. I was in an online group with around 10k people, mostly parents. And it was disturbing. F.e. it is taught in these groups that praising a child is emotional abuse and by saying well done, we are abusing them. Because well done means that the child doesn't always do something well. So any parise is forbidden... ( I know there are better ways to praise than saying simply well done, just as a quick example ) That is not a joke. That group also was a bit like a cult. We were not allowed to talk about outside sources, books and articles and we were forbidden to post any links.
The most scary thing about this group was, that people mindlessly agreed. The admins and mods were often scolding members using therapy speech and people were very eager to please them and fawn to pacify them. It was quiet the experience. I left that group. This one had 10K members! If more groups are like that, it's no wonder.
One thing I noticed in your comment, about the difference between boundaries and rules, because I see that mixed up a lot. A boundary is something we do for ourselfs. F.e. I don't accept it if people call me names. That's a boundary. A rule is something we use to control others behaviour. I don't want you to call me names, because it hurts me. That is actually a rule not a boundary. But people confuse this often by saying "respect my boundary" when technically they want you to accept their rules.
Both are important. Boundaries give us self confidence and also help with developing a better sense of self by thinking about what is and is not acceptable for us. And knowing we are going to protect ourselfs if our boundaries are broken.
If you know this already, I'm sorry! Maybe I misread it then. I just see people not understanding the difference between boundaries and rules a lot.
@@shealynnmichelle2904Authoritative? As someone who's read Animal Farm that sounds pretty bad, can you explain what that is?
@@geostorm06 the best way I can explain it is like putting ur foot down u make it clear that ur child did wrong and wrongdoings have consequences
Kids are up against soooooo much these days, brain rot from lockdown, increase in adult content in media, early unfiltered access to technology and SM, lack of healthy role models, unintentional parenting, et al. Its incredibly scary how different their generation is shaping up to be and I foresee many of them struggling and negatively influencing one another.
I'm just going to say it, they won't be bad people. they won't be anything, they are still literally children.
but speaking as one of the eldest iPad kids-
(18-20 YEs that's how old we are now, people don't realise the people they are talking about actually exist as members of society)
we ended up fine.
a bit traumatised, but in the end? fine.
what people kinda forget I think, is that we didn't have this interconnectedness we have now.
if you wanted to talk with someone halfway around the world in the 80s or 70s you had to mail them messages, or use a typewriter or telegram or fax.
now you can send videos instantly!!!
things are just different, but I think half of it is actual fear mongering. and the other half is "oh we are seeing new presentations of child neglect"
because?
all this stuff? NOT NEW! we have studies and research and just everything to back up child neglect f*cks up kids.
and so much of the stuff being said is just child neglect, the cost of living crisis/the housing crisis, the mental health epidemic, and the school system finally becoming unsustainable.
it's just the Great Depression 2.0 I'm telling ya!
but it's just.. half fear mongering, and a rise of child abuse/neglect tbh.
-pop
I like both these comments ^
They’re gonna be fine. Ppl have gone though worse
Not to mention they live off practically nothing but kinder eggs and hot cheetos
What is “unintentional parenting”?
The boy who sang his ABCs instead of a dirty song gave me hope 🥹❤️ What a precious gift to this world.
this is actually terrifying to see happening
Even as a 17 year old I see myself and other people my age struggle with these things. I have been exercising my brain since noticing it. I am extremely worried for these children and my peers. I found your video incredibly informative and interesting :)
They call it gentle parenting, but it isn't gentle parenting at all; it's permissive parenting and it's the other side of the toxic parenting spectrum and its so sad to see
Bro my aunt is too gentle to her children that my cousins are literally treat her so bad and shout at her,my cousin is 8 and she is singing the b word IM 13 and I listen to songs withour cussing words💀💀
It's not gentle parenting, that's called neglectful parenting
@@Mora_tube44I agree my aunt takes care of her sister daughter who’s been transitioning since 12 now 13 and they treat her like garbage and steal money steal her bank cards call her names and say she’s a idiot loser doesn’t go to school gets mad over anything then breaks the stuf she buys him it’s crazy and he thinks he’s cool and lives like a millionaire but only complains and cry
@@Mora_tube44wow, your aunt needs to parent better. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.
I'm a gen Z (15 yro) and I recently worked in afterschool with kids from 1st to 4th grade. I gotta tell you all these kids lack so many basic skills ESPECIALLY mannerisms. The thing that surprises me most though is the way they act super disrespectful to older people even to me, and by saying even to me I mean that when I was their age I looked up to people around my age now. Seeing all this and all the dots connecting (Especially after this masterpiece of a video) I'm honestly frightened. I know i'm "half broken" considering i was introduced to unlimited access to the internet early on and still spending most my days with over 10 hours screentime. But these kids are actually going to be doomed.
My conclusion after watching this video is deleting tiktok from my phone, and from here I will make sure that I enter the world of parenting with ACTUAL gentle parenting, not some "walk all over the parents show" type of situation. Thanks Toni for making me really connect the dots and realize the depth of this huge and on going problem. I don't know if this essay of a comment even made any sense, but mark my words I will not fail my kids to social media like some lazy neglecting parents have.
This stuff (TikTok, the Internet, social media) is like a drug. If you fall back in don’t beat yourself up. Treat it like a drug and your way out like rehab. I don’t k ow what you want to do with your life, but I think there could be a future in counseling or helping Gen Alpha out of this crap.
I agree the looking up to people my age now back then hits hard, when I think of the seniors before me they all seemed smarter and more polite and capable, it’s like every generation is getting worse and it’s sad
Same man. I’m 17 now, and I have no siblins but close cousins and I interact a lot with my friend’s siblins. I’ve tried to get some money as a babysitter but I just can’t. It’s SO HARD to deal with those children. And the kind of parents that pay for this job nowadays are the exact parents that doesn’t care for actually raising children. I can’t play with them like normal kids do!! My closest cousin, the cutest thing when a baby, now he’s 9 but I can’t believe his age, for me it’s not more than 5, just a little smarter. (He also often mistaken for a child of this age cuz he is still small for his age, his side of the family isn’t much tall, and his behavior can’t help either). He’s soooo much spoiled, he gets every expensive toy, treat or game he wants, when he wants, and does not respect anyone, and he knows that i’m way older than him but still one of the “family’s kids” so he is even meanest and rude to me because I can’t stand out, my parents dont let me since it’s my uncle n’ aunt’s job to correct him. (And guess what? They are too gentle,my uncle claims he is tough, but just by the amount of time they let him arguing something surely he’s not enough) He’s too rude for a child his age, still innocent, but mean and rude, and yes, he barely can write in a legible way (i’m from another country and there we learn cursive handwriting, with caligraphy books and everything till the 3rth grade or more till they stop bothering about it!!) Hell. Like, elders bother us Zs but those kids are wayyy worse.
Nah bc I remember I was babysitting an 8 and 7 year old and they literally asked me if I had a boyfriend. Then when I said no they went “idk I think people at your age should have a boyfriend”. Then they started begging me to watch tv even though their parents told me not to let them on screens😭
Honestly that’s so sad to hear, I’m also gen z but I’m 20 years old and joining the workforce has been such a pleasant experience because I don’t deal with that anymore as most of my coworkers are older than me. When I was in school though it was terrible, seeing how gen alpha acts even at restaurants is scary. I see kids stand on the tables, scream, yell, throw food, punch people and all the parents do is give them an I pad and they stop. It’s terrifying to think how this will impact them as they get older as these behaviors only escalate. Even as a gen z my parents would’ve beat my ass if I acted anywhere close to how these kids act nowadays. It’s ridiculous and I’ve decided my kids will not have access to technology for a long time other than basic things like video game consoles (restricted access mind you) and it will be supervised.
Okay but can we take a second to say that the kid singing “Peaches” was so adorable and wholesome 💀
I like the kid "rapping" the ABC's 😂
@@confusedaf1112ikr he ate with that one 🔥
As a 15 year old ballet dancer, and one who has heard so much about what running a dance studio and teaching young children, the teachers, is at their wits end, and I volunteer assist at young classes, I can confirm that what that dancer is saying is true. On my first day assisting, I almost cried. And what does this mean for the future of ballet, I don’t know, and I’m afraid to find out.
as a gen z kid, living with 3 gen alpha siblings, i am doing everything i can to make sure they get at lest some support that they need. they are so obsessed with technology and have no dreams or aspirations at all because gaming consumes their lives. i myself was raised with the internet, and its not pretty to see my younger sibling go through the same mental turmoil i had to go through at such a young age due to the unrestricted access. during covid, I had to school them and missed some of my key learning to do so. I want whats best for them, because at this rate- im incredibly worried that they will go nowhere. this is a PARENTS job, not mine.
I feel you, it’s scary how much is out of our control.
@@Maya-zq8ew yep. if the next generation is ANYTHING like gen alpha (although i hope we would try prevent that) - we. are. screwed,
same, but only 1 2012 gen alpha brother. all he does is scroll on tiktok all day, repeat the stupid sh he hears online, and gets into trouble at school that i know is a bit due to his excessive use of social media. he's on his oculus all day playing gorilla tag and stuff, and literally he's so out of touch its saf
Your parents put too much on you! That is not your job to raise your siblings I’m so sorry
I’m so sorry you have to be a parent when you never asked to be, I know it’s not your responsibility but your siblings are lucky to have you. You can make a difference ❤️
I taught in Japan for several years, came back during the pandemic, and only taught for two school years before I quit teaching in the US. It's awful here-- the students, the parents, the admin, the overuse of tech in classrooms and homes to the detriment of actual learning. All of it. I have a one month old son and only watch stuff like this when he is napping. If we do watch TV in the house, I watch the Japanese news in the mornings to help me keep my level (I do speak Japanese to my baby so Idk, he might turn out bilingual), and my husband and I like to watch Chopped after dinner. That's it these days. When it is my time to watch baby alone (hubby and I switch off to get sleep or work), the TV is off and I am not on social media or watching videos. I hope it will help minimize his exposure. I'm a new Millenial mom, about to turn 35.
READ READ READ to your child!!! Limited or no baby talk. Talk to your child all the time. Driving - identify everything you see (Oh look to your left there’s a red car, blue truck, fast motorcycle, big oak tree, cloudy skies looks like it might rain today, what do you think?, etc). Preparing a meal (what sounds good for dinner today? Mac n cheese, salmon burgers, peas n carrots, etc). I had long hair when mine was a baby and he loved it when I did the metal head banger hair flip. We went to Denny’s restaurant at 3-4am so he learned how to sit up by himself, behave, and use manners with other people at a VERY young age. It all pays off in spades!!! Keep them busy with sports, music lessons, required daily chores + reading, they can take the garbage out (small bag w crumpled paper) as you walk out with them…be the example. Follow thru w EVERYTHING including threats (they need to know the rules and consequences) don’t do the counting to 3 thing. Remind them once the next time it’s consequences (stand in corner a couple of minutes). Don’t lie. (Santa was a rough one. Mine was crushed when I had to tell him I lied about it. But that was the only thing.) If they didn’t do well don’t say they did. Tell them it wasn’t your best and why. Mine appreciated having boundaries, good manners (we were complimented EVERYWHERE we went), lots of love and being able to depend on consistency in everything. Sorry I totally rambled but these things worked for me and my son. I miss him. He’s 31, happily married, working his dream job, $500k savings, paid cash for their $400k house and is just a really great guy who has tons of super close friends, would give you the shirt off his back, confident and respectful. He turned down a full football scholarship to join the military. He chose the toughest job/training and made it thru the first time. He lives 1500 miles away which is hard for me but he’s busy and happy. Oh-he also has no social media presence. Deleted them when he signed up 12 years ago. No doubt that’s a plus at any age. Good luck! Common sense goes a long way! You’ll be great!!!
@@bidencrimefamilymottof-cky953 I am specifically a former English Teacher, so ofc I read to him. He doesn't understand much yet, so I've been reading Walden before bed. You don't have to explain it to me; I have a Master's in education and 10 years in the field!
Keep going and good luck! Kids want to do whatever they see their parents doing, so try to be the person you want them to be
@@stephsteph4503 glad you already know it all. Should be a breeze.
Aaaah one month old😍 so cute, hope you're getting some sleep. I have a toddler and she gets maybe 5 minutes of screen time daily. And I try not to use my phone when she's around. It's totally doable!
i think we tend to forget that parental behaviors are often repeated… the parents letting their kids listen to the music they grew up that way..
as a younger gen z (2009), im so scared for the worlds future- like its so concerning how much technology is affecting people, especially gen alpha. i’ve started observing closer at the people around me and realized that everyone (not just gen alpha) is completely absorbed by their devices (including myself) and it looks really abnormal to see everyone constantly have a screen in front of their eyes and headphones in rather than actually acting like humans. gen alpha is the most affected by this because these kids are being raised on ipads. this is so terrifying.
Technology and quarantine had detrimental effects on younger gen z and gen alpha. I graduated highschool last year and literally everyone in my grade noticed how the freshman and sophomores acted and preformed significantly worse due to the quarantine. Freshmen will always be freshman but I was genuinely shocked by how terrible they were. I even see the effects of technology and the pandemic in myself. Im 19 now and many people my age can’t pass college level classes.
I agree but im 20 and it definitely affected us as well (was 16 when covid started).
same here, and it’s not just their academics that got stunted but also their social skills, never had I met such ballsy freshman, literally trying to bully the seniors 🙃
I'm 20 and graduated last year but even then I noticed it's not just the younger kids, it was the kids my age as well at the time (17 18 19) that couldn't even read at a 3rd grade level while I was over here reading at a college level in 3rd grade.
Omg same. I’m a senior last year when j saw the freshmen I could see a huge difference between under and upperclassmen.
Now imagine the effects on the little kids who were preschool age when the pandemic hit and they completely missed the most crucial time of social development. Those kids have no clue how to interact with other or read faces (because faces were covered with masks for most of their life) they dont know how to make friends and very core information that is the foundation for the rest of their education is missing.
As late Gen Z (12, almost 13) I am disgusted by my own generation. I am putting boundaries on my own screentime and apps because of how fried my brain is from social media and manipulated by influencers. This video makes me want to major in being a teacher just so I can change the future generation.
It's even sad that you have to think about something like that
I wish you the best.
Good for you! 🤍
I'm glad that you are aware that too much screen time can damage our brain and you are taking action on this. Please stay true to yourself, don't fall on acting mature, enjoy your teenage years. I truly wish you the best❤❤❤
To be honest, social media is really not for minors.
On the book bag thing: we don't really have books anymore. I carry a messanger bag because my back can't deal with the shoulder strap. The most i will carry is my journal to remind me of things that are due, a notebook (multiple subjects) , my Chromebook/charger, a water bottle, a pencil case and whatever current school project that's due
First time watching one of your vids. Thank you for the upload and congrats on the progress!
I think gentle parenting has turned into people with unsolved trauma, *reflecting* their trauma off their kids. Because they had such strict parents they try so hard to be the antithesis of it, but they overshoot and completely fail to teach their kids respect. I think they don’t understand that the saying “your kids are not extensions of yourself” also applies to their unhealed inner child. They need to solve that before having kids imo
Damn. That's so True 😖
Gentle parenting is not the same as permissive parenting. Gentle parenting: kid breaks pot by accident-> you don’t yell at your kid, but tell them to clean it up. It’s a good learning experience and kids face consequences. Gentle parenting is about consequences instead of punishment, it’s about learning to differentiate between a wish& a need, it‘s about boundaries-but gentle and in a way that is understandable for the child
That’s not gentle parenting lol… what your describing is a spineless parent do not encourage child abuse and neglect
@@livenitup862so “gentle parenting” should just be called “normal, non-abusive parenting” then.
the thing is thats what ppl were calling it at first but there was a lot of backlash and reject from it which sparked the conversation or what is abuse and a punishments and where do we draw the line. calling it gentle parenting allowed a better understanding. yk when it comes to discipline ppl r very defensive over it
@@Bonaboo
As a high school senior I can see the rift between the two generations. It’s crazy to see that there’s 12 year olds who are acting older than me and I’m turning 18.
Literally and their parents aren’t doing shit about it with they’re permissive parenting
You’re so true, I’m about to be an adult and I get mistaken for 12-14 years old due to these kids acting and dressing so grown.
Litterally! I know I'm only 16 but when I was in 7th grade, the kids were looking much and older doing extremely inappropriate things. I literally could not believe the things my friend was saying at her age! We were both 11, and I was so freaked out and disgusted. This generation is crazy. I'm so glad that I'm doing school online and found Jesus.
@@ordinarytv8073 see I was gonna like your comment until the last bit…
@@Dyslexic.D0ryI did it for you
I’m young Gen Z (15) and my brother is Gen Alpha (9) and while he has his Gen alpha issues, I’m so glad he’s a good student from what I hear. Our parents were both teachers and got us into reading and math fairly early in life and we’ve both been above grade levels since we started school. I’m taking math and English a grade level ahead as well as Spanish and I took French last year. I read at a college level and do math pretty high too. He reads around a seventh or eighth grade level and he does math really well. He’s respectful in class and I feel like if his friends were being disruptive, he’d shut them down. As I mentioned, our parents were both teachers (though they’ve since left the profession and my mom is a stay at home mom and my dad is a historian) but hearing the stories from my mom, who taught fourth grade at the time she quit, was absolutely insane. These kids were acting out in ways I could never imagine.
Those “be your students” videos are always on point. It is universal, I’ve seen all different kinds of schools. It absolutely is generational. That’s been my experience in three different (very different demographics) and it is univetsal
As a '07 teen with a '17 cousin, I am appalled by her behaviour at times. She's barely 7 years old this year and she's twerking, reciting raunchy lyrics, trying to control her friends, and using her parents to her advantage. She also poses really 'sexily' in pictures. For example, arching her back, pouting her lips, and popping her hip out. It's not like my aunt and uncle don't try to discipline her, they do. Really hard, in fact. But she just does not listen. At all.
Throughout years of observing (which was painful af), her behaviour is not only influenced by the internet or the parents. They themselves are encouraging each other to act this way. I would ask her as tests, if she broke something on accident, what would she do. All she said was, "It's okay, I can just ask my mommy to buy a new one". Insane.
She has every gen alpha problem, short attention span, no manners, lack of discipline, and more. Although yes, she will greet people when entering a room, but thats the bare minimum. She can't read, she can't write, she only knows how to watch brain rotting Elsa-gate-esque videos and dance as if she's in a rap music video. Although my uncle and aunt have tried to get her off social media platforms, she always finds a way somehow.
It's heartbreaking, because as her older cousin, I try to set a good example. Purposely reading books in front of her, doing my homework, trying to teach her how to read and write. Whenever I teach her how to read, she gets it first try. But after five minutes and I ask for a reread, it's as if I never taught her how to read at all.
I'm sad, disappointed, and concerned for her and her generation. I love her as my younger cousin, but it just hurts me whenever I see her. I guess I'll just be glad she still gets excited over toys.
Its also the family friendly cartoons on tv are just so crazy and everything they cuss on everything now goodluck keeping cuss words away smh its so hard to teach my son dont say that when everywhere we go someone's talking all loud and cussin 😢
I have a 16 yr old and taught her same way I try my 6 yr old he just ain't having nothing its like he came out womb acting out I don't know what to do im reaching out for help cause it's just ridiculous and his teacher n school are worthless!!! The teacher is on phone all day is what my son says and she don't try and teach him anything never sends homework nothing 🙄
That's one kid out of so many. This ISN'T the norm.
You have a sixteen year old kid?
You talk like you’re really uneducated. No wonder you’re having parental problems.
I can fully understand. I'm an italian millennial and I have a 4 yo nephew (5 in April) that acts dumb like she is 2. Her 1,5 yo little brother (2 in June) seems more intelligent of her, but only because he still does not have her smartphone problem, but symptoms are starting to manifest.
About a year ago I tried to teach her how to draw a flower and after a little attempt, she wasn't good at doing anything but random circles. At first I thought it was my mistake. Maybe I was pretending too much for a 3 yo child. But at the same time, my girlfriend has gotten 1 colored draw of a flower and 1 decoupage of a paper cutted Christmas tree (we put on a frame each one) from her nephew that is literally the same age as mine (her is 1 month younger!). The only difference is that her nephew doesn't have a life that turns around a smartphone. In fact my sister is a millennial and my girlfriend's sister in law is a genZ.
This Christmas I wanted to prove I was wrong and that is my girlfriend's nephew a genius. This time I tried just to teach her how to draw a star. At first she tried and apparently succeeded, but only if I was drawing step by step the star with her. After 15 minutes I just gave up because she became capable of doing anything other than the same circles of the last year. Like her mind entered in save energy mode. I don't know how to explain in other ways. She can't even colour a drawn lined picture, she just scribbles like there is no draw on the paper and she doesn't even understand what she has to do either if you start colouring in front of her.
And all of these are things that my girlfriend's nephew just made 2 years ago.
Every time I visit my parents I can see the gap between these two kids becoming larger and larger. And this only makes me sad for my nephews' future. Because their parents are the first who spend too much time in front of a screen.
Last week my sister signed up my nephew for zoomba lessons. How can I describe how much cringe is to have in our family chat a video of her twerking and waving like she is a fully grown sexually active woman?
I believe a lot of parent get gentle parenting and permissive parenting confused. Where instead of creating healthy boundaries, there are none. The whole concept is to empower your children and you can do so without letting them run rampant. I also think many of todays parents have taken the trauma from their childhood and internalized it to the point, where they don’t want anything to “traumatize” their kids therefor they do whatever. Overall it starts with the parents, hints why the children are suffering greatly.
Not trying to be an ass at all, and maybe it was a typo, but in that last sentence, the word you were looking for is “hence” not “hints”. Hope this helps!
Omg yes! So many people think gentle parenting is just letting kids do anything. It’s more about actually talking to your kids and explaining things not just yelling at them telling them what to do
Also I agree everyone is so afraid to traumatized their kids, which is good but unfortunately trauma in inevitable
The best thing I ever heard about parenting was that it’s not a matter of if you will hurt/traumatize your child but how
Because yeah it will happen but hopefully it’s something small and not huge
@@sunnyjoslynn851 lol its okay, its just a think piece and a typo. So thanks 👍🏾
THIS! Gentle parenting creates emotional intelligent childs!
I know it's so frustrating!
Our roommates have a four year old. They don’t read to him, don’t teach him skills like tying his shoes, they don’t play with him one on one - they talk to him maybe a cumulative ten minutes a day after they get home from work. They just turn on the tv or give him an iPad. It’s so sad. And shocker - he bombed his kindergarten skills assessment. His behavior he’s allowed to exhibit is shocking. Screaming, punching, intentionally breaking things. Zero attempt to curb that behavior. They laugh it off. It’s nuts. The kid doesn’t stand a chance.
I needed to hear this a 90's baby with 3 kids I feel so motivated to do better❤
I’m a Gen Z 2003 babe. I highly disapprove of generation alpha’s over use of iPad time. I’m 20 years old and I got my first iPad when I was 10 and I was disappointed. The mobile apps suck compared to Virtual Online Worlds and online games like club penguin, bearville, pixie hollow, and for educational games what happened the fun of jumpstart. What happened to playing with stuffed animals, dolls, toys. And What happened to imagination.
Sadly the toys are not for kids anymore either.
It’s wild. Im a millennial with no kids. But I started tutoring kids in my neighborhood in 2020. It is astounding how behind they are! One little girl I taught was 10yrs old. Didn’t know what her teacher’s name was. Didn’t know the name of her school. Didn’t know the name of the town we live in! Didn’t know the year she was born! Didn’t know her address.
They sent these elementary age children home with a laptop to do schoolwork for 2yrs. They don’t know WHERE the keys are on the keyboard to type the first word. You cant tell me that parents arent doing kid’s schoolwork. Or they’re just not turning work in, and then just passing them to the next grade.
True Story 😮
That’s sad
No way…. That’s actually scary
this is so bad omg
Where the hell do y’all live?! My kids school work is 10 times harder than anything I ever did at their ages. My first grader is reading chapter books and has vocabulary words like hyperbole and tentative. And don’t get me started on my 10th graders Pre-Calculus work…. That wasn’t even a class offered to me in 10th grade and I was in “advanced” math.
(long rant)
As someone who was born on the bridge of gen z and gen alpha, I’ve seen kids my age or younger at restaurants or clothing stores addicted to iPads/phones and don’t even bother to talk with the other people at the table.
I got an iPad at age 6 (a TERRIBLE age to have one btw) but thank god I didn’t use it preferring to go to my friends houses playing with Barbie dolls and chilling out at the park when light up shoes were all the rage.
At school now, ppl in my school are saying some of the most bizarre sh-t in the English (is it really English?) language. What on earth is “skibidi ohio gyatt rizzler?!” They can’t read, they can’t write, they can’t even do a simple math packet. My art teacher has the short end. All the kids in her class during my period just scream gen alpha words, disrespect her by laughing when she tells her to sit down, etc.
And don’t even get me started on the girls in my school. I ain’t trying to be a “not like other girls” pick me, BUT I SWEAR, I will never EVER be a “Sephora Drunk Elephant Skincare Girl.” WERE IN 7TH GRADE! Sephora is meant for 30+ year olds 😭
I am so sorry on the behalf on my generation, I’m praying we have a decent future.
All of generation alpha hasn’t even been born yet and a lot of people are talking about them being doomed ….great job society
yeah, my alpha kid isn't even 2 yet. he's def not doomed.
As a nanny, I’ve seen it all. I’ve worked with lots of different children very closely and this generation of parents are failures. A lot of these parents mistake permissive/passive parenting for gentle parenting. I also don’t think authoritative parenting is as bad as this gen of parents deem it to be. As a kid raised through authoritative parenting, I turned out just fine
It’s like how people claim they’re “unschooling” while not teaching anything, when unschooling is a specific method of constructing a curriculum, by letting a child’s interests drive the theme, and then developing ways to teach them concepts based on those interests.
Hell no authoritian parenting is fucking awful. Literally would raise sneaky kids and kids just trying to get away with things.
Sorry if this is a dumb question, but you’re a fan account of Saint Avangeline and not the actual singer, correct? I listen to Lilith so your pfp stood out to me
Oh wow it literally is you
I feel like it should be a mixture of both (gentle and authoritative). Its good to let them know their boundaries but kids shouldnt feel like theyre not allowed to show emotion. although this is pretty easily said in text but to actually do it is a lot harder. this is coming from a kid btw haha
As a 7th grader who's pretty unaffected by all of this being raised by decent parents and all, I feel really bad for the kids around me. There are barely any kids in my advanced classes (only around 15-20 in each which is pretty small for my school.) Nobody respects each other anymore. Don't even bother looking at anybody, either, because I almost got jumped by a girl for "looking at her the wrong way" (she also full on bumped into me without any sort of apology)
Adding onto the topic of preteens/teens acting grown nowadays, a lot of us act like this is because of who we see and watch on the internet. Girls my age, including myself unfortunately, cant help but compare ourselves to 17-25 year olds with perfect skin and developed bodies. Personally, bullying and issues with my parents drove me to feel the need to act and look more mature than I am. I really don't like it, I can't actually be myself and enjoy stupid cartoons and stuffed animals. Everybody is watching shows like Euphoria and I'm still watching My little Pony.
I hate being a 7th grader because I can't actually be myself
nooooo, you should be happy.. I'm in highschool, and yeah life sucks so much but you'll be fine. as soon as you realize you ain't gotta act a certain way, you'll be fine. idrk what to say but I just wantchu to know that it's gonna be okay. everyone is going through it, it gonna be okay. everything is gonna be okay in the end cause if it's not, then it's not the end.
It'll get better. 7th to 9th grade was the worst time in my life and by 10th grade things were much better. 7th grade def sux just hang in there.
speaking from experience 7th grade like 90% of the time is the worst grade in middle school. it got better for me and it will for you too! :3c
Girl, My Little Pony was my LIFE until Friendship is Magic ended when I was 16
You are very well spoken! I'm a senior now and remember 7th grade all too well. It really was a tumultuous time. I have two brothers and worked with kids your age and I can't imagine how I would've survived at 12-13, seeing the way middle school students like your peers are acting nowadays. You'll keep meeting people that challenge and frustrate you as you enter high school. It's frustrating to navigate but I've learned to find my own way to manage bad people (which is avoid them lol). In 7th grade I was really into Digimon and Roblox and I chose to indulge in that heavily, even if I was seen as weird or childish for it. It's actually become a conversation starter and how I've found several friends and even a relationship later on in high school. 😅
As for body and confidence, I honestly can't say much for that; social media has influenced me a lot and I struggle with self image deeply. I can however say that with age I've begun to think more critically on why I don't like certain parts of myself and I've been able to cope better with my appearance because of it. Therapy also helped a little bit.
You'll have a long journey ahead of you filled with self-discovery and experiences. Take your time and seek out and hold onto places and people that make you feel safe and content. This goes for online and irl.
Keep bad energy out of your life. Good luck :)
My mother-in-law used to work at an elementary school and she would tell me about the first and second graders that would throw things at her and kick her and cuss her out when she was doing pullouts for testing. It kind of made my blood run cold to hear the kinds of things she was experiencing. My son is in fourth grade and he is constantly complaining about how his classmates won't just sit and be quiet when the teacher asks them to. He says they get yelled at all the time because they WON'T STOP TALKING or goofing off. When I was in elementary school, which was admittedly a long time ago, we got our name written on the board if we were caught speaking while the teacher was speaking or when we were supposed to be doing our work. It was a BIG DEAL to get your name on the board. If you spoke out of turn again, you got a check by your name, and if you did it again, you had to go to the principal's office and have a heart to heart about improving your behavior. I was devastated if my name ever got written on the board. I think that would be a totally foreign concept to most kids today. I don't think they'd care at all if their name was written on the board and might even think it was a funny way to get attention. I feel so old talking like this but the level of rudeness that kids feel comfortable spewing out at adults baffles me. I would NEVER have felt comfortable talking back to my teacher or my friend's parents. And all my friends that are the same age say the same thing so I don't think I'm a weirdo in this. I think we forgotten how to show that we have good manners and to teach kids good manners. I felt like crying when that poor ballet teacher was talking about the 5-year-olds in her class. That poor girl seems so sweet and probably is teaching ballet because she wants to inspire and help these young girls. I think his parents we need to model good behavior ourselves and expect it in others including our children.
shoutout to the little guy who sang his ABCs🤍 damn this was sad
Millennials (myself) included think we’re taking the moral high ground by saying “I’m not gonna deprive my kids of smartphones and video games and iPads like my parents did! I’m not gonna be a hypocrite!” They end up raising their children differently (if not oppositely) than how they were raised out of spite.
True Story 😅
It’s not the millinials, a LOT of gen alpha is the product of gen z
@@Rose-qj6eq bruh 💀. Spot a millennial lol. If u r accusing the genz, then give sm proof.. its not our fault your kids got influenced from us... its your (younger millennial) job to ensure wht your child is watching and doing. It's not our responsibility since they r not OUR kids
@@Rose-qj6eq no
@@Rose-qj6eq Most of us don't have kids yet. 🙃 I'm not saying that we'll be any better at parenting, but don't shift the blame on us for "influencing" YOUR generation's kids when you guys had every right to not give your kids unlimited access to the internet. Your kids shouldn't be watching us on TikTok or Instagram. It's YOUR job to raise your kids, not other people's jobs. This is like when parents in the 2000s blamed millennial celebrities (like Miley Cyrus or Britney Spears) for being a "bad influence" on gen z, even though those parents could've easily taught their kids certain values instead of relying on random teenagers on TV to influence us.
the ballet teachers video also made me cry. this is on the parents. there needs to be some serious laws put in place because this is not okay, and I only can hope that these parents can learn to discipline their children instead of giving up and giving them a phone screen instead.
The ballet school could also have more strict rules over just taking people's money and kids no matter what.
@@StephieGsrEvolutionballet is strict but if you cant behave at some point you get kicked out. You pay for a course, kid needs to focus
Many parents are single and female. Their will be no consequences. Everything is working according to plan.
Block the good fathers from their children to get these results. No one wants to have that conversation.
Crash courses. Parents should attend courses just like medics do or any field of work. We should learn more about parenting maybe even in school
I really love your content and the format! Great video
This is my new fear as a new mom. I’m Gen Z (19) and I want to be a teacher. But i can do whatever I can as a mom, but once my kids go to school, other parents parenting can rub off from their kid to my kid. And I can’t do anything about that.
And it’s even more sad cause I used to be what we call problematic gen alpha now. I didn’t have goals, I always had my phone, I didn’t wanna go to college. But once becoming 18 and living on my own, I realize that I am missing very big fundamental skills.
Wow!! You're 19 and already a mom!? Well Best of luck 🤞
You can actually thank the “No child left behind” law that was enacted back during George W Bush’s 2nd term in the 2000’s. I was only in Elementary school at the time but I do remember the shift on how the school districts and teachers were when it came to teaching and passing students. I was lucky enough to have a parent who was an active reader and science lover, but I do remember being in high school and there were kids who couldn’t read well. And a lot of it had to do with the No Child Left Behind law. Teachers would literally just pass the kids along the grades without any attempt to helping struggling kids. So those millennial kids grow up with little education. So it’s no surprise that a lot of the gen alpha kids have a hard time in school (besides the pandemic and the iPad).
Yep. I can recall as well.
Indeed...
It appears to be many adults out here which find it difficult to decipher how to structure certain words in a sentence, such as "to" and "too" and "threw" and "through"...
Reading some of the social media comments or even texts have been more difficult over time.
I honestly think people are just spelling phonetically instead, or not looking at their spell correction on their phones and leaving the words which show up on the screen.
My kids school work is much harder than anything I did at their age. They also have longer days with very little recess. My 1st grader only has ONE 10 minute recess after lunch. The rest of the day she’s seated at her desk. I remember having 3 play breaks a day. Morning recess, one at lunch, and one in the afternoon. I honestly feel like these days, parents/adults have less patience than our parents did. The inattention is troubling for all ages not just the new generation.
Great point. People been bagging on the kids saying they can't read and I'm always like and quiet as it's kept the parents can't read either 🥹
Really wish she had spoken more on this. I've heard about it in bits online, but I don't live in the US so I'm not too aware
It's not just Gen Alpha. I was a university lecturer until 2015. My students, who are now around 25-35, were generally incapable of critical thought, writing with proper grammar, and it was very obvious to me that they often bought their essays online. We were told to pass these students because if we didn't, it would reflect poorly on the institution. Things have only gone downhill ever since.
Maybe it's not the age, but the place. I am 31, with a masters degree, and everyone around me was able to think critically. If you did poorly, you did not pass, and several actually didn't (we went from 40 students to around 15 in the first few years). While it is true that children now struggle with things like reading a bit, I wouldn't say it's to the point where I would be worried. But I am from Europe, so maybe that's the difference.
It’s the same in the US. At my institution, which is a top college to be transparent, you would fail quickly if you couldn’t get used to academic writing with a minimum of 5+ pages a week . It’s really difficult to not be graduate level here, but I’ve heard horror stories from 2nd-tier public universities
That's such a shame to hear. At my college buying essays online gets students an F.
The professors have programs that can spot most bought Essays and don't have to pass them. They are encouraged to put a stop to it. I'm really sad to hear about schools doing what yours is doing.
@@ericah6546
Any post-secondary education institution sanctioning academic fraud should lose any accreditation it has.
That makes me mad because that tells me these kids cheated their way to success.
Theres people who actually want to earn success
It’s not only the parents, the school board doesn’t help either. I am a substitute teacher in Fl, and most of these kids work are on their tablets, or ipads. there is rarely any one on one teaching. how are they supposed to learn to read by reading a screen? its impossible
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