How (some) Asexuals ...Have Sex 👍🏻

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    CHP 1, What is Asexuality- 03:35
    CHP 2, Sexless intimacy- 05:29
    CHP 3, Sexless Kink- 09:50
    CHP 4, How/why some Asexuals have Sex- 14:25
    CHp 5, CUTE ACE COUPLES- 16:35
    Here are a couple other SUPER info packed vids I have made about the Asexual and Aromantic communities:
    1: • Everything Asexual and...
    2: • Ace and Aro Education ...
    3: • Ace and Aro education....
    Some of the Aces in this video! (If you are in this and weren't linked, DM me on twitter! :))
    Amelia: / @ameliaace
    Evie: / @evielupine
    Milo: / rorydeganrepresent
    Morgan: / jammvlogs
    Danni and partner: / dannivanloon
    Asher and Sade: / the.flower.prince
    Cooper: / kippthekidofficial
    Jay and partner: / @jessicatea
    TJ and Sophia: / @dontworryimfine1859
    Felix: / @felixpan7584
    Some of the WILD videos featured:
    Makeup Prank on Grace: • pulling a super extra ...
    Giant Middle finger video: • SCREW YOU FCC.
    Smashing the gender binary: • These are the CZcamsr...
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  • @HeyThere005
    @HeyThere005  Před 6 lety +2419

    I have a "squish" on everyone in the Ace community b/c they are so nice and smart! Leave a comment with a couple of the ways you show your partner(s) affection, and if you're Ace be sure so say so! THIS VID IS FOR YOU!

    • @olivers.5751
      @olivers.5751 Před 6 lety +13

      Awwwwww thanks Ash♡

    • @yeeclaw5976
      @yeeclaw5976 Před 6 lety +16

      aaa henlo aro ace here !!!
      edit: aa heck meant to ask, do you think youd ever do a more In Depth(tm) video on alterous attraction?

    • @elissa7948
      @elissa7948 Před 6 lety +21

      Ash Hardell thank you! This means so much to me that people appreciate ace people. It just means so much!

    • @sydneyfreeman3461
      @sydneyfreeman3461 Před 6 lety +11

      I lean into the demi side of things, and learning to set boundaries with partners and having ongoing conversations around them has been so empowering. It depends on the partner/ where we are in our relationship.

    • @Scottland89
      @Scottland89 Před 6 lety +16

      Thank you for your continued support to Aces.
      As an Aro-Ace, I don't have or desire a parter so unfortunatly I can't say of ways I show affection to my (non-exsistant) partner ☹ but that is ok as I am happy that way 🙂
      Also just me, or did anyone else think Ash meant monopoly when they were talking about games in bed? Like I knew what they meant but my mind still said "Like monopoly?" 😶🤣

  • @vanessarodriguez6917
    @vanessarodriguez6917 Před 5 lety +439

    "you don't like holding hands?"
    "it's okay."
    "we're learning things. "
    that was cute 😭💕

  • @ahriannamacias7921
    @ahriannamacias7921 Před 6 lety +1960

    People: do you identify as male or female?
    Me: Actually I identify as nipple clamp earrings so....

  • @LeonJones2303
    @LeonJones2303 Před 5 lety +539

    *sees my type of asexuality on the spectrum*
    Wait... Is this what validation feels like?

  • @baysidedaze
    @baysidedaze Před 5 lety +654

    I feel like all of these things are also so important for a non-ace relationship. Sometimes it's just nice to be intimate without being "intimate."

    • @thatsdree1350
      @thatsdree1350 Před 5 lety +13

      Kimberly Boenig you’re absolutely right! The only difference is just that some asexuals don’t engage in sex

    • @carrie637
      @carrie637 Před 4 lety +7

      It is important, I’m bisexual and like being intimate, but not “intimate.”

  • @doddleoddle
    @doddleoddle Před 6 lety +3249

    not being able to tell if it’s trauma related or just me is RELATABLEEEEE
    this vid is amazing palz

    • @notlikeothertrinas
      @notlikeothertrinas Před 6 lety +17

      doddleoddle DODIE HI I LOVE YOU

    • @augustf3231
      @augustf3231 Před 6 lety +8

      doddleoddle aww hi dodes

    • @nvmindem
      @nvmindem Před 6 lety +3

      doddleoddle hey dodie, love youuu

    • @cactojuice
      @cactojuice Před 6 lety +2

      Dodiee

    • @hallwnby
      @hallwnby Před 6 lety +22

      I had this now I realise I acctually am not ace and it’s jus trauma :/

  • @presleyfaith5020
    @presleyfaith5020 Před 5 lety +331

    Bro I actually love ash,, when they said “gAy” i WHEEZED

    • @liiveleaked
      @liiveleaked Před 5 lety +5

      Omg sameeeeee I died when they said that😂

    • @MrGray-zu3hl
      @MrGray-zu3hl Před 4 lety +4

      SAMEEE haha

    • @soulxblugamer
      @soulxblugamer Před 4 lety +6

      I love that people are using the correct prounons😌😌😌

  • @OMGmynameisLILI
    @OMGmynameisLILI Před 5 lety +527

    0:00 intro
    3:35 What is asexuality?
    5:29 Intimacy
    9:50 Kinks
    14:25 Having sex?
    16:28 Cute couples

  • @DavidDiMuzio
    @DavidDiMuzio Před 5 lety +109

    This video is making me feel less weird...

  • @Obi98
    @Obi98 Před 6 lety +1297

    Im a straight male, and have no idea how i got here. But i cant stop watching your Videos. Youre awesome!

    • @notcaaaramels
      @notcaaaramels Před 5 lety +29

      ObiJuanKenobi I’m an 11 year old... WHY AM I HERE?!

    • @buiscutdog9090
      @buiscutdog9090 Před 5 lety +29

      @@notcaaaramels your probably here cause CZcams recommend the video, or maybe your just trying to learn about human interaction or something

    • @RaeDole
      @RaeDole Před 5 lety +19

      Omg your awesome thanks for learning and being accepting

    • @katiepoldek16
      @katiepoldek16 Před 5 lety +7

      Christy Bacon so you can learn about something that's not talked about enough

    • @Jd-ko9lo
      @Jd-ko9lo Před 5 lety +3

      Bro same

  • @MissKariPanda
    @MissKariPanda Před 6 lety +92

    I have found the answer "if you could go back in time, what video would you show your 15 year old self?"

  • @hatched7899
    @hatched7899 Před 5 lety +192

    I wanted to say that I am extremely impressed by the lot of you. So young. So expressive and open. It's amazing to see. I'm an older Ace myself (40ish) and wish that resources and platforms such as CZcams and Ash's channel existed in my younger years. I would love to see a segment/ production/ vlog/video (or whatever 🤷‍♀️)on older asexuals as I feel the beyond-30 crowd is well beyond underrepresented within the asexual community. Not saying that as fact. Simply an observation from within life experience. Would still love to see you tackle the topic, Ash.
    All love and utmost respect 💜👩‍👦‍👦🖤

  • @blake3967
    @blake3967 Před 5 lety +202

    As an asexual aromantic (technically demi) I actually had no idea that sensual attraction was a thing. I've always liked holding hands with my gf, spooning while cuddling, and tickling, but I've never understood that this was a thing. So, yeah, thanks Ash for sharing that

  • @kale0811
    @kale0811 Před 6 lety +393

    IVE SAID THIS BEFORE AND ILL SAY IT AGAIN. ASH HARDELL IS THE MOST ADORABLE HUMAN ON THIS PLANET. that's all.

    • @free_melie
      @free_melie Před 5 lety

      Agreed!!! Ash is so great, so cute I love all Ash's videos!!

  • @clarep228
    @clarep228 Před 6 lety +281

    I really appreciated that sexual assault/trauma was mentioned as something that can complicate/effect how someone identifies. Really amazing to see so many perspectives! Great video

  • @livinthetplife9795
    @livinthetplife9795 Před 5 lety +75

    “Real live asexuals!”
    Me: *raises hand

  • @CECItheMATOS
    @CECItheMATOS Před 5 lety +598

    In Ash video comments I can finally feel comfortable enough to say I am ace.
    I’M ASEXUAL!
    Super liberating.

    • @morgan_c
      @morgan_c Před 5 lety +14

      bug pudding *O O F*

    • @Network126
      @Network126 Před 5 lety +12

      You're missing out. Sex is amazing.

    • @Goblin4Coin
      @Goblin4Coin Před 5 lety +42

      @@Network126 You're missing out! Having relationship beyond sex and free of the worry you're gonna get pregnant or whether or not to have tacos for dinner is so heckin pure

    • @multifandomxseriesx9560
      @multifandomxseriesx9560 Před 5 lety +27

      I'm super proud of you coming out!!

    • @infinitemultiverse520
      @infinitemultiverse520 Před 5 lety +28

      Just an FYI, being asexual isn't a choice. Just like any other orientation. It's not rocket science. Some aces like sex, some don't. Sex isn't the end all be all. People are totally allowed to not be into it.
      How would you like it if people kept shoving something you didn't like in your face 24/7?
      Yeah, it's pretty gross. So please stop, thanks. Our lives litterally do not affect yours. So please mind your own business. Commenting on here just shows how ignorant you really are.
      I'm not ashamed to be who I am. This is my truth.

  • @iederwatwil
    @iederwatwil Před 6 lety +191

    Ash Hardell; educating me about lgbtq+ things since 2014.
    Thanks for that

  • @kaylababcock1974
    @kaylababcock1974 Před 6 lety +262

    Started watching definitely with a closed mind thinking wtf even?? And ended basically with a giant crush on the whole human race. Damnit I love people. Knowing people exist who don't make everything about a means to a sexy end is just such a sigh of relief

    • @missjul8
      @missjul8 Před 6 lety +1

      Humyns kill, hurt, and destroy the planet while doing illogical, selfish things. Don't forget that. No other animal does all that.

  • @panapowow6497
    @panapowow6497 Před 5 lety +44

    I’m an asexual myself and i never knew how to explain this to non ace/aros... thanks for making this video !!!!!!

  • @thewritersscene2072
    @thewritersscene2072 Před 5 lety +41

    Awe, I’m Demi AND THIS IS SO ME. CUDDLES AND HOLDING HANDS ALL DAY

  • @thewarriorcat121
    @thewarriorcat121 Před 6 lety +92

    i'm ace and hearing so much ace positivity in this video and reading it in the comments has made me tear up. thank you ash and all of the people who submitted videos!! ^v^

  • @victoriacheyenne683
    @victoriacheyenne683 Před 6 lety +166

    As someone who is not ace and came into this video not knowing that I didn't even properly understand the definition of asexuality, I feel super educated! Thanks for putting this together in a fun, informative way, Ash!

    • @Mad.E
      @Mad.E Před 6 lety +2

      Victoria Cheyenne hey you, I'm ace and when I came out to my two best friends they seemed kinda hesitant to ask questions and I feel like they maybe still don't really know what asexuality means, so I'm planning to try and explain it to them again and I was wondering if you could maybe tell me what _you_ originally thought asexuality was, because maybe my friends have the same misconception and it might make that conversation easier :)

    • @MargauxNeedler
      @MargauxNeedler Před 6 lety +1

      MadE The simplest way is to first ask them what they think asexuality is 🙂

    • @Mad.E
      @Mad.E Před 6 lety

      Just Me I suppose it is 😄

    • @victoriacheyenne683
      @victoriacheyenne683 Před 6 lety +1

      MadE hey there! Of course. For me i didn’t realize there was a spectrum (which is so silly) and also i misunderstood that libido and sexual attraction are two different things that vary with someone who is ace. Hope that made sense!

    • @Mad.E
      @Mad.E Před 6 lety

      Hey! yes, what you said totally makes sense! One of the things my friends didn't understand was definitely how I could know that I didn't want to have sex without ever having tried it. My response was that they knew that they _did_ want to have sex even before they experienced it for the first time. So similarly to how they knew, I _knew_ .... I'm not sure if they were convinced by that. Does it make sense to you?

  • @charlie2.048
    @charlie2.048 Před 5 lety +19

    The ASL sign for "I love you" should have the thumb out, not folded over the middle two fingers. Because the sign is the combination of fingerspelling "ILY."

  • @myrianfoxy5947
    @myrianfoxy5947 Před 5 lety +130

    I think we all have a lot to learn with asexual couples. They're just perfect! It's like every couple should be like: "we're not together to satisfy our sexual desires, we're together because we love each other". And they don't just say stuff like that, they mean it, and I think that's just amazing. The couples at the end were so heart warming. I had a crappy week and that made me so happy. ♡♡ good day/night to all of the LGBT+ comunity.

    • @hy3na.g1rl
      @hy3na.g1rl Před 5 lety +15

      Uh well for a lot of people the sexual aspects of a relationship are just as important as the romantic and that should not be shamed in any way. If people want to have sex, good for them, that’s cool. If they don’t, that’s lit too. But we don’t need to shame people for what they want out of a relationship

    • @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa790
      @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa790 Před 5 lety +8

      Yeah so what's controversial here is that they are romanticizing romantic asexuals and implying that sexual attraction/desires tarnishes the relationship. This thought comes from a sex-shaming society and from the whole "romance is pure" thing. It's not an entirely bad thought, but it is a bit demeaning.

  • @LunarNagito
    @LunarNagito Před 6 lety +187

    I’m an ace. I am one who is completely unable to do anything sexual with a partner or alone. I actually am scared disgusted and confused by sexual things. I’m a virgin and i feel comfortable that way. Though i do adore hugs cuddles and closed mouth kisses. Being close and feeling safe is what i like.

    • @chelseasmith2603
      @chelseasmith2603 Před 6 lety +8

      Beylan Wimsatt *gasp* are we twins? 😂❤ i thought i was alone :(

    • @bluebird8034
      @bluebird8034 Před 5 lety +6

      I feel the same!

    • @jessicawhite5143
      @jessicawhite5143 Před 5 lety +8

      Jesus, reading this is like reading a bio of myself. Its nice to hear that my feelings are normal and that there are others like me. I don't know where I fit but I'm happy to know I'm not alone 😊

    • @analogstic1972
      @analogstic1972 Před 5 lety +3

      Wait what? This sort of thing is normal for aces? I'm like that and the only person I've dated thus far also feels this way. I assumed I just got really lucky to have meet someone like me in that respect, but I feel a bit better knowing I'm not as alone in this sentiment as I originally thought

    • @KYRUOLIO
      @KYRUOLIO Před 5 lety +3

      WOAH YOUR NOT ALONE THERE

  • @minemoony9314
    @minemoony9314 Před 6 lety +187

    No one edits their videos like you do. They are so pleasing to watch (I’m not even talking about the awesome content) they’re just so aesthetically great! And you’re working a normal job, that’s crazy. You’re probably spending hours on your video editing. Thank you so much for putting in so much work for us! 🌻♥️

    • @akacj7
      @akacj7 Před 6 lety +1

      agreed!!

    • @SpydersByte
      @SpydersByte Před 6 lety

      Ash does some amazing editing, so true.

  • @katiek2615
    @katiek2615 Před 4 lety +15

    Woah, for so long I've struggled with my sexuality, thinking I must be weird or repressed because I find virtually nothing attractive about genitals but love the idea of cuddling and kissing. All the things that were being said just fit, I'm Demi! I only ever had sexual (mostly sensual) feelings for one person, every other kind of attraction is mostly aesthetic. Holy shit this makes so much more sense!!!

  • @salutetherank2105
    @salutetherank2105 Před 4 lety +13

    Heterosexual guy on CZcams:
    CZcams to heterosexual guy: we recommend watching *How (some) Asexuals ... Have Sex*
    Me: hmmmm... interesting *click*

  • @PieOfEpicness
    @PieOfEpicness Před 6 lety +119

    Me: Somewhere on the ace spectrum
    Also me: how are so many people so pretty
    (yes, I know it's called aesthetic attraction, lol)

    • @CakedCrusader9
      @CakedCrusader9 Před 6 lety +7

      Ohhhh aesthetic attraction, that's what that is! I get that too and I was getting confused haha. Thank you for accidentally teaching me a new term :)

    • @Mad.E
      @Mad.E Před 6 lety +5

      I actually learned the terms aesthetic and sensual attraction from Ash and god it helped me so much and made me so happy to finally have words to describe these strong feelings I get about people. Cause like... often enough those attractions of mine seem more intense than my zedsexual friends describe being sexually attracted to people

  • @Hollycloud1
    @Hollycloud1 Před 6 lety +196

    I've been dating my asexual girlfriend for 6 years. Even dating that long I don't know every itty bitty detail about her. But what I do know is that its important that you 👏 respect 👏 all 👏 their 👏 decisions! 👏

    • @Penguinstudios123
      @Penguinstudios123 Před 5 lety +1

      LizzieDlove are you asexual or?

    • @Hollycloud1
      @Hollycloud1 Před 5 lety +4

      Penguinstudios123 Nah, I'm Bisexual. My gf is Asexual.

    • @Penguinstudios123
      @Penguinstudios123 Před 5 lety +4

      LizzieDlove how do you deal with that..? My boyfriend is straight but I’m ace and like.. he’s not dealing very well even tho he said beforehand that it didn’t matter :/

    • @Hollycloud1
      @Hollycloud1 Před 5 lety +4

      Penguinstudios123 I've been with my gf for 5 years now. In the beginning it was a bit frustrating, but for me, the longer I was with her, the more I got used to it. I think it really just depends on what kind of person you are. It's easier for different people.

    • @Penguinstudios123
      @Penguinstudios123 Před 5 lety

      LizzieDlove ok. Thank you. How long would you count as ‘the beginning’?

  • @anniek4681
    @anniek4681 Před 6 lety +96

    Nerdy correction of a mistake in facts, not judging! The person with sign language "I love you" does it wrong. The person puts up the " hardrock devil horns" The tumb needs to be extended because its a sign wich combines the leters I (the pinky) The L ( Indexfinger and thumb in an angle) and the Y ( pinky and tumb). I am a nerd like that. If you give info (how little it may be, please do it correctley) Dont get me wrong, the intention why they did it is very sweet. More people should be attentive like that.

  • @livvyp20
    @livvyp20 Před 5 lety +15

    I saw the title and I was like hmm.... I'm ace spec....*Click* this should be interesting. I was not disappointed.
    Also, "real live aces"

  • @zinja0830
    @zinja0830 Před 6 lety +745

    “Nipple clamps are my gender.” - Ash Hardell, 2018

    • @entranSingie
      @entranSingie Před 6 lety +6

      S. Moore what a mood

    • @Rita-kx3yr
      @Rita-kx3yr Před 6 lety +8

      Honestly I just wanted to have them to make Zoidberg crab noises (🦀 Whoopopopoop )

    • @TheRubberDuck77
      @TheRubberDuck77 Před 6 lety +2

      That part made me LOL.... nipple clamps as earings.... Why did I see that coming?? Lol

    • @carmenitastarxxx2858
      @carmenitastarxxx2858 Před 6 lety +2

      ''great quotes from great people''

    • @ritsukaaoyagi8239
      @ritsukaaoyagi8239 Před 6 lety

      Em Dee you're wrong it is healthy depending on how far you go

  • @erilassila409
    @erilassila409 Před 6 lety +54

    I'm ace and my crush is pan. He has a mostly shaven head, and stroking it is one of the best feelings in the world. He actually likes it when people stroke his head and lets me do it. I love sensual/sensory stuff, like the textures of his skin and clothes, and the hugs he gives me.

    • @erilassila409
      @erilassila409 Před 6 lety +1

      ABCDEFG T if you read my comment, I said he's my crush. As in person I'm in love with but who is not my partner. I'm not in a relationship with him, I'm just in love with him.

  • @JackHarvey_Production
    @JackHarvey_Production Před 3 lety +4

    Ash: I have put together time signatures
    Music nerds: aight this video will be in 6/8 everyone pick up from bar 4

  • @Gladzet
    @Gladzet Před 5 lety +27

    ahh... so this is what it's like to feel understood

  • @siiiriously3226
    @siiiriously3226 Před 6 lety +262

    SO COOL, that you include poly relationships in your language ("partner or partners").. rare. nice. love your content.

    • @Rita-kx3yr
      @Rita-kx3yr Před 6 lety +14

      Ooo I didn't even notice that!
      Good catch! As an ace person in a poly relationship, these sort of little things makes life easier so thank you both!

    • @VeganPirateNinja
      @VeganPirateNinja Před 6 lety +7

      I noticed that too and it made me feel included :))

  • @TranscendingNobody
    @TranscendingNobody Před 6 lety +678

    ummm I was beyond educated with this!!! thank you Ash!!!

  • @jennifergough295
    @jennifergough295 Před 5 lety +317

    Maybe it’s just bc I’m a 43 year old mom (with a bi daughter who I adore) but I’m so confused. It sounds to me like everything your describing is part of any relationship. Engaging in cuddling, sensual acts, etc don’t necessarily lead to sex in any type of relationship. Some of the most intimate moments have nothing to do with the actual act of sex.

    • @kittykittymeowmeow666
      @kittykittymeowmeow666 Před 5 lety +50

      J Bl it is! These people have to complicate EVERYTHING so they can be special. Listening to all of this was obnoxious. They just go round and round trying to make everyday things more complicated so they seem more special then they really are. 🇺🇸💋

    • @isabellaguerra2852
      @isabellaguerra2852 Před 5 lety +66

      Hey there! Everybody is different, and that’s okay! Terminology may get a bit specific, and for some, it may be a bit too much, but you don’t necessarily have to subscribe to it. Mutual respect and care are some of the building blocks of a fulfilling relationship. I appreciate you sharing, and you seem like a great person. I like the terminology, personally, but it’s okay if you don’t!

    • @isabellaguerra2852
      @isabellaguerra2852 Před 5 lety +103

      Kitty Kitty Meow Meow I don’t think it’s necessary to talk down about anybody here. I think we can all get along if we just try be more open to understand each other. Nobody is attacking you. This isn’t a place of judgement, don’t worry.

    • @j_8059
      @j_8059 Před 5 lety +10

      It’s because they’re millennials

    • @isabellaguerra2852
      @isabellaguerra2852 Před 5 lety +24

      Jessica L Astute observational skills. Do you want a cookie?

  • @irislove8831
    @irislove8831 Před 5 lety +37

    I’m not a part of the lgbtq+ community I support it so much🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 but I’m not apart of it and I love watching your videos to understand everything about it thank you so much😘😘 much love

    • @Vendicia
      @Vendicia Před 4 lety +3

      Same here. I'm a boring CIS straight woman but loooove watching these videos to learn more about the variety of people out there; to educate myself somewhat so I am not ignorant to the world around me.

    • @softnsquish
      @softnsquish Před 4 lety +2

      That's great!

  • @Alaska_Grey
    @Alaska_Grey Před 6 lety +130

    Her sign language was wrong! The thumb should be out what she said was rock and roll. Sorry I know sign and it bugs me when people mess it up and say they know what they r saying.

  • @Tessa-ot4fh
    @Tessa-ot4fh Před 6 lety +37

    Who else got really really surprised at the ducky

    • @tarynriver
      @tarynriver Před 6 lety

      Tessa 9002 yaaas I was like woah didn’t expect that 😂😂😂

  • @eyececream5359
    @eyececream5359 Před 5 lety +6

    This video actually helped me figure out I’m on that ace spectrum. I just wanted to thank you thank you so much for this wonderful video and to also tell you you’re amazing!

  • @c.annaobrien9339
    @c.annaobrien9339 Před 5 lety +21

    I've only watched the intro and I'm already a fan!! I'm ace but also panromantic, and a trans girl. :D

  • @nottabear
    @nottabear Před 6 lety +313

    Thank you so much for separating this into chapters. I have ADHD so watching long videos is tough for me so having points that I can stop and continue at is very helpful

    • @elliediy5045
      @elliediy5045 Před 6 lety +10

      Briar Pineault-Massicotte yesss and i always watch on 1.5 speed cause i just cant focus for that long haha (i also check like 5 things during a video lol)

    • @riverflow4888
      @riverflow4888 Před 6 lety +2

      I was just thinking the same thing. ADHD! WOOO!

    • @Shadoegamer
      @Shadoegamer Před 6 lety

      Briar Pineault-Massicotte I wish I could say same but I don’t want to because I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD nor ADD

  • @EvieLupine
    @EvieLupine Před 6 lety +397

    Oh hey its me! Evie! :) Thank you so much for having me be a part of this project, its amazing to see the final project! Popping in in case people have BDSM/ace-spec related Q's!

    • @alexwilliams3562
      @alexwilliams3562 Před 6 lety +26

      Hi, I don't have any questions, just wanted to say I really love how you explained BDSM and it definitely shattered a few of my personal misconceptions around the area. I never really thought about it in any depth beyond "oh, kinky stuff" but I've also never spoken to a single person within the community about it, so I regret assuming that the stereotypes were completely accurate. Keep educating!

    • @daniellejohnson333
      @daniellejohnson333 Před 6 lety +13

      Was so happily surprised to see you in this video!! Made my day!

    • @rayne333
      @rayne333 Před 6 lety +10

      Do you have any suggestions for ace folks who may have also dealt with sexual trauma but are interested in bdsm? What should be discussed beforehand, how to avoid triggers, and how to slowly ease yourself into a scene or specific type of play? Sorry if that’s a lot, just a very curious little vanilla ace over here.

    • @_mels_
      @_mels_ Před 6 lety +10

      A curious kinky demi here. How would one approach the subject of BDSM/kink with the zedsexual person? How to explain that kink doesn't have to lead to sex and you's rather have some snacks and cuddles?

    • @Lyrinou
      @Lyrinou Před 6 lety +11

      Thanks for the bdsm part! Even for zedsexuals, bdsm is not. necessarily about sex. It is SO MUCH MORE. 💜

  • @klararosengren5314
    @klararosengren5314 Před 5 lety +6

    This video was so informative and well made. It shows the you care about this matter and that you put effort into it. I'm also grateful because you managed to make a question I've been dealing with for quite a while SO much easier. I sincerely hope you keep spreading your wonderful aura.

  • @maeduignan5489
    @maeduignan5489 Před 5 lety +16

    Thank you so much for this video, it actually made me cry with happiness and a sense of pride in myself and my sexuality. I am a Bi-Romantic Gray-Ace and sometimes I just feel out of place in this world, but this video really made my day and i feel so much better now. Shout out to all the Gray-Aces out there. We are awesome!! #amazing ❤❤❤💪

  • @AeHreality
    @AeHreality Před 6 lety +26

    I'm going to be sharing the hell out of this video. And thank you Ash for all the attention you've given the Ace community over the years. You've helped me in ways I can never truly express, and for that I can't thank you enough.

  • @neverlookback75
    @neverlookback75 Před 6 lety +163

    18:20, those are actually devil horns related to heavy metal music. My mom was deaf and frequently gave me the "I love you" sign. With the "i love you" sign, the thumb is pointed out as well.

    • @A.J.K87
      @A.J.K87 Před 5 lety +21

      True, but they are not devil horns :) That's what critics outside of metal have made of it. It's more a sign of solidarity, friendship and approval among rock fans.

    • @alicewolfess971
      @alicewolfess971 Před 5 lety +9

      @@A.J.K87 yes but they are called devil horns. Nobody says "hey, for this photo make a sign with your hand that symbolises solidarity, respect and friendship in the metal comunity"

    • @chinzb6292
      @chinzb6292 Před 5 lety +1

      Lyndon Walker-Conley I am glad he is not death. Lol. I think you meant deaf. I don’t mean to say that in a rude way. My sister and I learned sign language because we know many people who are deaf. My mom signs I love you when she is far away or whenever she wants.

    • @xjesusxchristx
      @xjesusxchristx Před 5 lety

      @@alicewolfess971 sorta... Ronnie James Dio was the first to use it, and it was actually from his grandmother, and it's a sign to ward off the evil eye. We do usually refer to them as simply "horns" though.

    • @kimlorton3002
      @kimlorton3002 Před 5 lety

      neverlookback75 I

  • @morgan_c
    @morgan_c Před 5 lety +20

    18:22 *What sign is that? That’s definitely not “I love you”😂*

    • @nolongervisible5850
      @nolongervisible5850 Před 4 lety +2

      That's devil's horns or rock on, lol. ASL for "I love you" is that with the thumb out, so I can see how they could get confused.

  • @sarahteel9320
    @sarahteel9320 Před 5 lety +11

    I couldn’t help but have the Ace hardware theme song playing in my head throughout this entire video

  • @zZizify
    @zZizify Před 6 lety +36

    This video went by soo much faster than I thought it would

  • @peyton07
    @peyton07 Před 6 lety +66

    Wow this is the most thoughtful sponsored video I've ever seen. I loved all of the different voices and experiences represented here. So glad I followed your channel! Guess I'm off to buy something :)

  • @yasamansaadatmand8045
    @yasamansaadatmand8045 Před 2 lety +2

    thank you so much ash. ive been watching you for 5 years now. everytime i have a question about my identity you’re always here to help me see better. i miss you and wish you the best♥️

  • @kyraclark4494
    @kyraclark4494 Před 5 lety +22

    18:20 in ASL I love you actually has the thumb pointing outward. Thumb across the fingers means rock on in metal head. Not trying to be rude or anything just informative

  • @josefski4452
    @josefski4452 Před 6 lety +695

    My favourite game in bed is..........😏
    Scrabble

  • @robertgaymer8147
    @robertgaymer8147 Před 6 lety +33

    So many questions answered and I feel so reassured in my Asexual identity as well as my sexual wants/needs and that they don't necessarily negate each other. Another educational and fantastic video Ash!

  • @eriktucker8630
    @eriktucker8630 Před 5 lety +24

    Love the video SO SO helpful as someone who is a hopeless romantic, bisexual man. So thank you, Ash.
    I’m also a Sign Language interpreter and I think it’s so cute that Jay uses that sign, HOWEVER that actually isn’t the sign for I LOVE YOU. This is the sign 🤟 and this 🤘can mean BULLSHIT or just ROCK-ON anyways thanks again!

  • @lolfunny546
    @lolfunny546 Před 5 lety +23

    Thanks Ash for this incredible asexual video!! Im ace and i feel great after watching this 💕💕💕💕

  • @angharad.9743
    @angharad.9743 Před 6 lety +249

    Omg the chapters I love this, because it’s late right now and I’m gonna fall asleep halfway through this 100 percent. Please continue to put chapters in longer videos

    • @kaidenspry1449
      @kaidenspry1449 Před 5 lety

      It's 4:00 AM here and tomorrow is a school day...I get up at 6:30 AM.... help....

  • @onyxhuddy2373
    @onyxhuddy2373 Před 6 lety +41

    I clicked on this video so fast. I'm so happy to see ace representation. I tickle my boyfriend's back to show him I care about him. We're both not very sexual so we find ways to show love

  • @allier.5987
    @allier.5987 Před 5 lety +9

    Before binge watching some of your videos, I identified as pansexual. This video in particular changed my perspective and I realized that I may be demisexual. Thank you so much for always being so positive. I love you and your content. Also, thanks for being a huge part in me realizing that I should look more into other possibilities:)

  • @girlthatyoyos4155
    @girlthatyoyos4155 Před 3 lety +1

    I really with you said "You can titillate your senses without titillating your titillates"

  • @zekesebetka2537
    @zekesebetka2537 Před 6 lety +79

    I'm Apothisexual and I'm often very uncomfortable even thinking, listening, or talking about sex. However I made myself uncomfortable by watching th is video because I want to learn more if I ever do decide I want a partner. This vid was really helpful!

    • @chae-wolfbun
      @chae-wolfbun Před 6 lety +3

      MBforLife If you don't mind me asking, what is apothisexual?

    • @zekesebetka2537
      @zekesebetka2537 Před 6 lety +11

      Cece [시시] Conard
      I don't mind at all! Apothisexual is when someone is sex repulsed. This means that they most likely will never have sex. For me personally, I find touching and any sexual activity very displeasing to say the least. I hope this helps!

    • @isjitaradalhard7472
      @isjitaradalhard7472 Před 6 lety +1

      MBforLife: Kudos to you. I tried to do the same...but I was already very uncomfortable with the intro, so I didn't manage to get any further than that. (Sorry, Ash, that doesn't mean I don't appreciate your hard work, I really, really do) Maybe I'll try again later.

    • @kaiyodei
      @kaiyodei Před 6 lety

      i keep thinking i can get over that myself by making others uncomfortable. like if I sent you to videos of people putting dildos as large as infants into their butts, and forced you to watch Boku no Pico. then I can be cured

    • @zekesebetka2537
      @zekesebetka2537 Před 6 lety

      ABCDEFG T well I'm not disturbed by masturbation I just don't partake it it. I just don't have any desire to do such things.

  • @kiaraandlukio
    @kiaraandlukio Před 6 lety +42

    I so thought you were kidding when you said the ducky was where things got less vanilla...I should have listened

  • @atlantysw751
    @atlantysw751 Před 5 lety +5

    4:43 I never knew that!! This is actually so helpful!

  • @vyvii3293
    @vyvii3293 Před rokem

    This video is so helpful. Thank you Ash, Evie, Milo and everyone else.

  • @DelsonGirl
    @DelsonGirl Před 6 lety +62

    I'm demi and had no idea about all of the other possible experiences on the ace spectrum. Thanks for the video! :)

  • @sophie-wf1kg
    @sophie-wf1kg Před 6 lety +424

    When Amelia said "I'm an asexual biromantic" I actually cried.
    HELLO REPRESENTATION

  • @rumahbenavari5157
    @rumahbenavari5157 Před 5 lety +1

    Oh my goodness, I loved this video, where was all this openness when I was young. This was just lovely for me to see so many young people just being their selves. Thank you

  • @jenalexander6930
    @jenalexander6930 Před 5 lety

    I really love how accessible your videos are for everyone!

  • @isopod549
    @isopod549 Před 6 lety +27

    I have a bad attention span but I love listening to them talk so I just can’t bring myself to skip over anything 😂

  • @CassySida
    @CassySida Před 6 lety +104

    They saiidd it was a really long video but tbh I was like "oh wait what, it's over??" once it was done

  • @trungry
    @trungry Před 5 lety +4

    Hey, Ash! I am Ace!
    Thank you for sharing Ace voices, stories & perspectives, Ash!!! : )

  • @meabu123
    @meabu123 Před 5 lety +1

    Haven’t been on your channel in a short while, but every time I come here your videos make me so happy. Thank you for always making amazing, educational & inclusive content! ❤️

  • @aliceaikom
    @aliceaikom Před 6 lety +10

    Watching this has made me realise I'm probably asexual and not just malfunctioning, so thank you for making this!

  • @mj1473
    @mj1473 Před 6 lety +37

    20 minute video and still not enough!! All the cute beans in this video filled my heart!

  • @s.3712
    @s.3712 Před 4 lety +3

    I love the idea of being asexual and interested in kink. Thanks for making this video Ash, it helped me to understand a lot of things.

  • @cosmicartsastrologicalserv242

    This was a really cool and highly informative video. I didn't know all this was going on. Thank you for taking the time to educate!

  • @TheJoannaCruz
    @TheJoannaCruz Před 6 lety +40

    Awn, that video is so cute, actually I loved because remembered me that even asexuality is not black in white, exist a infinite spectrum of everything include intimacy, when I have to explain why some acts doesn't mean I'm not ace it's just frustrating. Thanks for the video.

  • @Elias-ik4kx
    @Elias-ik4kx Před 6 lety +32

    I loved getting to be featured in this video and learning more about different ways that asexual people experience sex or what they do in their relationships! It made me feel less alone!

  • @cherrybomb6201
    @cherrybomb6201 Před 5 lety +6

    I'm crying because this gave me relief and ....Just,thank youuuuu

  • @WinLindsay_CushingContent

    I couldn't tell you how many times I have watched this video. It makes me feel so happy!
    Stay safe,
    Win Xx

  • @zoguy6988
    @zoguy6988 Před 6 lety +180

    My bf is ace and I want to get more passionate with our relationship, but I wasn't sure how to please him, without making him uncomfortable. Now I know....
    Now I just need to know how to give massages. :/

    • @jesselambden2242
      @jesselambden2242 Před 5 lety +1

      Zoey Terbick if yoir PARTNER is asexual, they are not male or female. Dont call them a male or female. Say they, them, partner, or something simulaf

    • @jessicasanderson5898
      @jessicasanderson5898 Před 5 lety +55

      Jesse Lambden Asexual isn’t a gender it’s a sexuality, like my boyfriend his straight, and Asexual meaning he doesn’t want any physical sexual activity

    • @snowcrow8784
      @snowcrow8784 Před 5 lety +29

      Jesse Lambden I don’t think that’s how it works...

    • @infinitemultiverse520
      @infinitemultiverse520 Před 5 lety +16

      I think you're thinking of agender, genderless, and/or genderqueer/nonbinary.

    • @caitd8280
      @caitd8280 Před 5 lety +3

      @@jesselambden2242 what are you talking about???!

  • @shaniya_hope
    @shaniya_hope Před 6 lety +111

    This video really makes me feel very valid with my identification with the ace label ☺️ I am a happy bean

  • @JillcantChill
    @JillcantChill Před 4 lety

    You are. I don't even know how to show how much i think this. AMAZING. You are helping me find out more about myself and i love that. Thank you so so so much.

  • @diaryofanegro
    @diaryofanegro Před 5 lety +1

    this is one of the cutest and most sensitive and most informative videos you have ever done and I been subscribed for literally ages

  • @kiralaine2313
    @kiralaine2313 Před 6 lety +58

    I was initially going to talk about my relationship with my partner, but I'm too overwhelmed at how nice this is to come up with proper sentences.
    So just, thank you from an ace who's quite sex repulsed and really happy you made this video.

  • @talynholloway7141
    @talynholloway7141 Před 6 lety +17

    Ash has taught me more this month than my teachers this year

  • @EsmeeAnnamarie
    @EsmeeAnnamarie Před 5 lety

    This was so sweet and informative! I love that you won't shy away from talking about these topics, which can be very private. Keep up the good work!

  • @scooter-kid
    @scooter-kid Před 5 lety +1

    This has really cleared up a lot of stuff for me about both my own sexuality and what is means to be asexual. Thank you for making this, it has helped me a lot.

  • @pewdiepierulesxD
    @pewdiepierulesxD Před 6 lety +59

    thats my gfs music!!! make sure to check her out in the link!!!

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  Před 6 lety +9

      yes yes yes yes ^^^ everyone listen to this comment, the music is great!

  • @berniegertje5358
    @berniegertje5358 Před 6 lety +54

    I feel like allosexual little could learn so much about how to have good sex from asexual people. I think when the emphasis isn't on "the sec" and more on intimacy and great stuff like that, sex is far more natural, consensual, and rewarding.

  • @kaylianderson5531
    @kaylianderson5531 Před 5 lety +1

    This was such a great learning moment for me because I realized I didn’t know that much about the asexual community and how it works. This helped a lot, thankyou!

  • @catyspruill3391
    @catyspruill3391 Před 5 lety

    This was actually really helpful. I have a close friend who’s ace but assumed it meant she didn’t even like physical touch. So thank you for opening my mind!

  • @bronaroni289
    @bronaroni289 Před 6 lety +69

    I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY TIMES I YELLED "YAS" AT THIS VIDEO OUT OF AGREEMENT YEs. I'm asexual, but my boyfriend is not, he's completely zedsexual. Most people would think our relationship wouldn't work very well, but it actually does. We've talked about it a lot, and he completely understands I would prefer a non sexual relationship. I'm okay with things like kissing and cuddling and holding hands and all that. (We're young, so sex wouldn't even really be in the picture for a couple years, but if it was in the future, he understands I wouldn't want to do it.) I'm not completely against having sex for the benefit of my partner, but I do have a medical condition that makes it difficult. But like I appreciate my boyfriend so much like I just love him.

  • @marceloF1
    @marceloF1 Před 6 lety +106

    All the couples are so adorable. This video is highly educational, thank you.

  • @savanah_mikaelson_morgan2595

    13:54 😂😂 “Dust + Feather = Sneeze 😂😂 I don’t know why that was so funny 😂 I loved this video and I love your personality