How to Get a Wife - Bitange Ndemo

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  • čas přidán 18. 12. 2019
  • Prof Bitange Ndemo's father was an authoritarian man who ruled his home with an iron fist. As a young, naive boy, he believed his father was the ideal representation of the head of a home. Growing up, his own experiences with dating and marriage didn't quite go as expected. He humorously shares about meeting his wife and how this has shifted his mindset towards women, love and marriage. #Engage28 #ShiftHappens #EngageAtFive
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Komentáře • 552

  • @ToxicAfricanKing
    @ToxicAfricanKing Před 4 lety +267

    Bitange doesn't even realize how funny he actually is, lol

  • @kiplimolelei4028
    @kiplimolelei4028 Před 4 lety +291

    To all people reading comments... Remember to thank Dr. Ndemo for the fast internet speeds we have in Kenya today...This guy transformed the ICT Sector and most people have no Idea. Thank you Daktari.

    • @reseso7149
      @reseso7149 Před 4 lety +4

      He transformed the sector and hundreds of thousands of Kenyans today ride on his efforts

    • @davemwangi05
      @davemwangi05 Před 4 lety +3

      I had no idea. Is it really him?

    • @kiplimolelei4028
      @kiplimolelei4028 Před 4 lety +2

      @@davemwangi05 Yap...He was PS ICT during Kibaki Era.

    • @davemwangi05
      @davemwangi05 Před 4 lety

      @@kiplimolelei4028 I remember he was in the ICT but how can it be credited to him? I mean, it looks like private industry is the one thriving in the ICT sector, charging us highly for data. At least I heard that in TZ, the country has subsidized for its citizens.

    • @reseso7149
      @reseso7149 Před 4 lety +1

      @@davemwangi05 Yeah

  • @Ijusthavequestions
    @Ijusthavequestions Před 4 lety +67

    Awww he said 30 days to the day they met instead of 30 years because that's probably how it feels like when you get married for the right reasons and to the right person and live the right way. Simply Inspirational.

  • @Janet9093
    @Janet9093 Před 4 lety +130

    Lesson learnt, No need to waste your time dating and courting for 6 years and end up breaking the relationship, better strike with one arrow and nail it within 6 days you are married. Rest will be bestowed by God.

    • @rosemokogi2896
      @rosemokogi2896 Před 4 lety +1

      True.....lol...

    • @harrisonm.mungai2748
      @harrisonm.mungai2748 Před 4 lety +2

      It's never a waste of time.

    • @benedictmwendwa8545
      @benedictmwendwa8545 Před 4 lety +1

      Never try that.

    • @dolo_minolo1812
      @dolo_minolo1812 Před 4 lety +4

      Times have really changed!

    • @vernie7324
      @vernie7324 Před 4 lety +6

      I think that's a serious Kisii thing. I have an aunt who went to USA to get married to someone she'd never met. It was a hook up and they only spoke on phone. It's been 20 years plus and she's happy

  • @myartchronicles8918
    @myartchronicles8918 Před 4 lety +105

    😁😁😁😁😁this man is funnier than all the funniest comedians I have ever known.

    • @Mdalasini
      @Mdalasini Před 4 lety

      Yes all combined, effortlessly

  • @healdaily360
    @healdaily360 Před 4 lety +173

    What a beautifully simple honest earnest sincere warm pressure-free delicious hilarious humorous rib-cracking talk! 😅😅👏

    • @judithouma3715
      @judithouma3715 Před 4 lety

      Beautiful, funny and yet true story of the quickest way to get married! A marriage that has lasted 30 yrs!👏👏👏

  • @beatricethuo5878
    @beatricethuo5878 Před 4 lety +34

    Who knew Bitange Ndemo was funny with a straight face. He still remains among the best leaders i know in Kenya. Beautiful...

  • @anniekamau1537
    @anniekamau1537 Před 4 lety +62

    Ati "I lifted the front wheel up,it refused to come down"
    He is such a funny guy 😅😅😅

    • @samsonmusyoka5396
      @samsonmusyoka5396 Před 4 lety

      🤣🤣....that's the part i will never forget about his story.

  • @SirB1
    @SirB1 Před 4 lety +35

    As a generation are we too serious about relationships from this guy’s talk it sounds easy n straight forward

  • @stanleyoketch8134
    @stanleyoketch8134 Před 4 lety +28

    This is very hilarious. These are men of a golden generation when you just said your truth and keep your peace.

  • @kevinkaruga9991
    @kevinkaruga9991 Před 4 lety +19

    I was thinking of better strategies of finding a wife in 2020 until i came across this

  • @carolinewainaina4426
    @carolinewainaina4426 Před 4 lety +86

    It was such a mistake watching this episode with a face mask on ,
    My skin is almost tearing off.
    Such a good story teller, lesson learned sir

  • @sallysalley316
    @sallysalley316 Před 3 lety +15

    The crowd didn’t disappoint 🔥🔥

  • @19915105
    @19915105 Před 4 lety +47

    Very powerful!! Whenever you introduce a life partner, you must be given a reason why you shouldn’t marry them. 30 years later Bitange still with a lady who could empty 750ml liquor.RELATIVES, SHUT UP! WACHA WAOANE!!

    • @kenada254
      @kenada254 Před rokem +1

      😂😂😂😂😂bad girl, good man

  • @Analyssaify
    @Analyssaify Před 4 lety +11

    Bitange looks younger than I remember!!
    Back to watching...

  • @bettygithua3124
    @bettygithua3124 Před 4 lety +34

    I am impressed that he got his wife within a week. Such a good orator.

    • @petma5551
      @petma5551 Před 4 lety

      Betty Githua can this happen today ?

  • @ladysafari01
    @ladysafari01 Před 4 lety +63

    My parents had a similar story. My dad who had schooled in the U.S. in the 60s went back home to look for a wife with the help of his Uncle. On one of their hunts stopped by a church spotted a young lady in the choir, coincidentally were invited to lunch at her uncles where she resided. Dad's uncle asked her uncle to talk to her. One week later he went to ask her dad to marry her and she left her homestead for Nairobi 2 days later. They married at the P.C Nairobi on arrival, got her passport and visa within the week and off they went to America! All this happened under 3 weeks!

    • @EngageTalk
      @EngageTalk  Před 4 lety +3

      😀😀 that's a great story. I wonder how many other similar stories exist.

    • @SirB1
      @SirB1 Před 4 lety +1

      Blessed & Highly Favored should i do the same n u show up

    • @MagutoKibetTyson
      @MagutoKibetTyson Před 4 lety +4

      Back when people knew what they wanted,

    • @ladysafari01
      @ladysafari01 Před 4 lety +3

      @@SirB1 you would have to ask my husband of 22 years what he thinks about that...

    • @cb8496
      @cb8496 Před 4 lety

      @@MagutoKibetTyson Exactly.

  • @lindanganga71
    @lindanganga71 Před 4 lety +17

    Such honesty! Now that's a real man.. Confident in who He is and knows that he doesn't have to demand respect or authority... A servant leader! Wow! Be blessed Daktari

  • @kinyuathuku7783
    @kinyuathuku7783 Před 4 lety +29

    One of Kenya's best civil servants ever. Patriotic, hardworking and visionary
    How jubilee failed to give this man a job is beyond me

    • @fredrickmropere6380
      @fredrickmropere6380 Před 4 lety +9

      The curse of tribal politics.

    • @Am_YT90
      @Am_YT90 Před 4 lety +13

      Am glad his reputation won't be tainted by their nonsense

    • @benogechi5329
      @benogechi5329 Před 4 lety +3

      Bitange and Matiangi are cousins and they have a connection through Nyachae....He stepped down for matiangi

    • @Muthonie
      @Muthonie Před 3 lety

      I don't think they were focused on finding such persons to serve Kenyans. They had different priorities based on the evidence on the ground

  • @africanqueenmo
    @africanqueenmo Před 4 lety +55

    Ndemo I remember you back in the day in the US. Quite the character still. You have always been decent polite and tough like your dad. I just didnt kmow you were a comic too. Bravo great story and you need to memtor the lost boychildren of Kenya. They cant even open their mouths to say hi yet theyre dying inside. Too scared of rejection. Its about time masculinity was resussitated!😂😂

    • @dianamoraa3486
      @dianamoraa3486 Před 4 lety

      I like .... +254791276831

    • @khamisivictor6079
      @khamisivictor6079 Před 4 lety

      Hi am doing mental program lots of men are battling depression and they can't speak out, I'd been able to open my story how I overcame depression out of rape plz I need support +254704038470

    • @gicherlewis2736
      @gicherlewis2736 Před 4 lety +1

      I feel, to only chose to view the role the boychild plays in this in isolation, to be a rather inaccurate approach. I feel it would be important to appreciate the contextual differences between then and now. Weight we placed on things like love, genuine happiness, morals, virtues, character (among many other meaningful things), has since shifted to 'instant-coffee short-lived' things. Most girls (I use the quantifier most, because I still would like to believe that there are still some who aren't like that) would never look past the fact that you cannot take them out to any of those fancy eateries across the Nairobi Landscape (who's names I will not mention for obvious reasons) for dinner dates. The slightest sighting of 'greener pastures' would mark the beginning of the end for you as a 'boychild'.
      I was dating this lady a while back. I was in my final year at uni, and I somehow felt I was ripe for dating. We dated for around 7 months. And I'd like to believe that period of time I gave it my all. Towards the end, a loved one of hers was involved in a minor accident. During this trying period, I felt compelled to hold her hand and as a matter of urgency, I showed up at the hospital hoping that my visit would give her some sense of strength. She was really nasty. I have never before felt so shattered. A week later she reveals that her and one of her seniors at work....

    • @michaelheery6303
      @michaelheery6303 Před 4 lety

      STUPI KENYA MOTHERS RUIN BOYS as so few fathers bother.

    • @samsonmusyoka5396
      @samsonmusyoka5396 Před 4 lety

      True that👌

  • @french7948
    @french7948 Před 3 lety +22

    "I struggled to understand this because I really wanted to be like my father. I wanted to be in control, to understand everything, that is how men used to be." - This is how men were and it is how we are up to now. It is a daily struggle to not try to control everything.

    • @josephkomu1826
      @josephkomu1826 Před 11 měsíci

      I never knew Bitange was this funny. Every man has a story to tell. Bitange recited his very well, inter twined with some comedy.

  • @fayeistraveling1064
    @fayeistraveling1064 Před 4 lety +9

    I live in the USA. However, when I come to Kenya I always try to come so I can attend any Engage Kenya that is available. This is one of the most uplifting, enlighting and empowering programs there is.

  • @kevinnyaga5046
    @kevinnyaga5046 Před 4 lety +32

    The Best Kenyan Government PS and pure genius

  • @sammungai2307
    @sammungai2307 Před rokem +6

    This episode remains the best to date, the humor in Dr. Ndemo is unmatched.

  • @raphaelonduso7358
    @raphaelonduso7358 Před 4 lety +13

    One of the best if not the best permanent secretaries in the Kibaki era. And thank you Dr. Bitange Ndemo for the fast internet.

  • @joyceaduda5419
    @joyceaduda5419 Před 3 lety +3

    Who has watched Good doctor? Dr Ndemo is the genius Dr with a disorder. His sense of humour😅😅

  • @nyangshe
    @nyangshe Před 4 lety +16

    Isn't this the kind of leadership we want in Kenya? The IT technology set enjoy now is because of this man's restlessness.

  • @WangechiPenninah
    @WangechiPenninah Před 4 lety +16

    I recently meet them and guess what!!!! they go for jogging together. Mrs Bitange looks so amazing at her age love when they communicate beautiful .

  • @code-with-bob
    @code-with-bob Před 4 lety +16

    ...and God saw the relationship, it was beautiful, magical and true... and He rested on the 7th day 👏

  • @dianawangui3698
    @dianawangui3698 Před 4 lety +14

    I never knew Prof was this funny.
    So people got married that fast kitambo.
    2019 Kwa ground vitu ni different.
    Nice and interesting story.

  • @Rixpoet
    @Rixpoet Před 4 lety +45

    What a story, Bitange. Delves into a much needed conversation on masculinity.

    • @Rixpoet
      @Rixpoet Před 4 lety +2

      @@tonym4953 dude. Have a good day.

  • @mohamedukod4361
    @mohamedukod4361 Před 4 lety +11

    Professor was my lecturer at the University of Nairobi.Great educator.

  • @elinestmakori
    @elinestmakori Před 5 měsíci +2

    It's four years ....but this perfect automatic non constructed engineered raw humour still kills the show 😊😊😊 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @hassanadan74
    @hassanadan74 Před 4 lety +6

    Former permanent secretary ministry of information and communication then..great guy

  • @EllaKabami
    @EllaKabami Před 4 lety +12

    Thoroughly enjoyed this. What a fantastic and extremely hilarious story teller he is. Its easy to see why 30 years ago he got a date on day 1. Here's to the next 30 years of laughter, joy and bliss sir. Thank you for sharing your story with us

  • @SamuelMuyaWachira
    @SamuelMuyaWachira Před 3 lety +4

    Prof is always a good narrator. I miss his Entrepreneurship Seminars. That was an epic olskool story

  • @anne-mariekosh5010
    @anne-mariekosh5010 Před 4 lety +13

    A sweet story told with a funny twist. The narrator's calm collected demeanor and almost expressionless face heightens the humor.

  • @jacqueonalo8079
    @jacqueonalo8079 Před 4 lety +15

    Mr. and Mrs. Ndemo, Happy Wedding Anniversary. This is one of the best love stories I have listened too, definitely the most candid. Mr. Ndemo your story telling is perfection with real comedic prowess. Thank you for gifting us with laughter. I am sure even the Kisii will applaud this public display.

  • @nancyakinyi4555
    @nancyakinyi4555 Před 3 lety +8

    This man is hillarious and I am so glad I found this video

  • @faithnjoki1471
    @faithnjoki1471 Před 9 měsíci +1

    How am i only seeing this now?!
    I didn't know he is this hilarious. He was part of the Kibaki administration that i always admired. Unfortunately they don't employ such leaders anymore. I weep for my nation. Fantastic story telling.

  • @aleksanderkoyle4702
    @aleksanderkoyle4702 Před 4 lety +15

    I use to go to class late at UoN school of business but I was the first one to go to his class. It's hard to get such a nice lecturer. Thank you mwalimu!

  • @a.y-tribe3327
    @a.y-tribe3327 Před 4 lety +12

    Wasn't quite sure what to expect, but I was so happy took a chance with this channel... Believe me, I was in stitches... I enjoyed his story so much I had to share..💓💓

  • @gothic807
    @gothic807 Před 4 lety +3

    The father of Kenyas internet Dr. Bitange Ndemo...my inspiration my role model....I thank you man for Kenyans Technology if you would have stayed a bit longer in the minstry we would have been way way far right now...

  • @Borntoshine91
    @Borntoshine91 Před 4 lety +19

    He is such a good orator ..I have never laughed like this

  • @eglinejeptoo9279
    @eglinejeptoo9279 Před 4 lety +29

    Never knew Prof is funny 😀. The naysayers on her drinking 750ml vodka, but that couldn't stop him😁

  • @erastuskalya5940
    @erastuskalya5940 Před 4 lety +5

    More talks from this guy...priss...2020 we want him more

  • @MrMartoem
    @MrMartoem Před 4 lety +5

    I have always admired Dr. Bitange Ndemo, he is a man who truly inspires. He is a great storyteller, and he has wonderful stories. I look forward to meeting him some day.

  • @estherkariuki3975
    @estherkariuki3975 Před 4 lety +5

    oh Dr demo i know you and your beautiful wife,,,down to earth kind earthed people ,,,bless you and happy 30 years anniversary

  • @blessedbea5451
    @blessedbea5451 Před 4 lety +14

    The most hilarious talk ever hes a real gentleman and may God bless your union even more.

  • @CoolkenyanInisrael
    @CoolkenyanInisrael Před 4 lety +6

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 nimecheka so loudly bafu zauma ...he's so funny

  • @lularodgers788
    @lularodgers788 Před 4 lety +5

    We need more stories from this old young man

  • @kari6658
    @kari6658 Před 4 lety +13

    Best video i have watched today. Honest, hilarious and great humility.

  • @haileygrace1169
    @haileygrace1169 Před 4 lety +13

    The bike didn't come down🤣🤣🤣

  • @jameswangari8008
    @jameswangari8008 Před 4 lety +3

    I like the simplicity of prof.

  • @kendiashitiva5984
    @kendiashitiva5984 Před 4 lety +6

    Awesome job Bitange Ndemo, well done Engage.

  • @SirMykalz
    @SirMykalz Před 4 lety +19

    bitange should do stand up comedy, cant stop laughing!!😂😂

  • @zeytunmohammed374
    @zeytunmohammed374 Před 4 lety +8

    Those lines have made my 2019😂😂

  • @motosana1
    @motosana1 Před 4 lety +6

    I read your articles (and met you briefly when you were in govt) - forever humble! I will add HILARIOUS to the list.

  • @susankinyanjui7344
    @susankinyanjui7344 Před 4 lety +12

    Good Story teller...i have laughed so much.Such a beautiful story....Bitange Ndemo Happy 30 Anniversary.

  • @hannahkariuki8531
    @hannahkariuki8531 Před 4 lety +7

    Aaww he is such an orator!! so inspiring Prof.

  • @nicholastoo858
    @nicholastoo858 Před 4 lety +12

    Had no idea that hommie was hilarious 😂

  • @samkimani5426
    @samkimani5426 Před 4 lety +9

    Message delivered in a simple and witty manner. Well done Bwana Bitange

  • @NorahRotich
    @NorahRotich Před 4 lety +18

    Such a good storyteller.
    😂😂 This is beautiful. Thank you for crossing to the other side, our Kalenjin men could be exactly like Kisii’s🤣. I hope those who watch this and have not crossed to the other side to please cross 😂!

  • @vincentwambua9641
    @vincentwambua9641 Před rokem

    Why I'm I watching this 3 years later. Loved it🙌😍

  • @urvangift7747
    @urvangift7747 Před 4 lety +3

    My first time to comment on CZcams
    Nail on my lecturer 💯
    such a simple and smart guy.

  • @sharonsaina5225
    @sharonsaina5225 Před 4 lety +20

    What a way to spend my afternoon. Laughed so hard.

  • @beatricekebwaro4170
    @beatricekebwaro4170 Před 4 lety +5

    Prof. This has left my libs cracked. Many blessed years with your beautiful family

  • @loiceomollo1285
    @loiceomollo1285 Před 4 lety +7

    Humility at its best!!!!

  • @wairimumukuria959
    @wairimumukuria959 Před 4 lety +7

    Living in the present is a gift that keeps on giving.

  • @faithmumbi
    @faithmumbi Před 4 lety +6

    I didn't know your story Mr Bitange Ndemo, Congratulations on sharing it.
    Congratulations for listening to your on gutt feeling, 30 yrs you look kept and at peace.

  • @misswamboh9585
    @misswamboh9585 Před 4 lety +8

    "I lifted the front wheel up...it refused to come down"..dont try this at home😆😅😂

  • @conniekiyalu2894
    @conniekiyalu2894 Před 4 lety +9

    Wah I have rewatched this more than enough times,someone stop me

  • @reubengitau2598
    @reubengitau2598 Před 4 lety +2

    Wow, this is powerful, Bitange Ndemo you are such an inspiration, you have demystified myths.

  • @otienorooneyomondi9576
    @otienorooneyomondi9576 Před 2 lety +2

    The calmness as he tells the story👌

  • @anastasiamainaministries2700

    I didn't know why I loved this guy but now I know he's a noble man keep it up prof.....much respect

  • @neshkemunto2670
    @neshkemunto2670 Před 4 lety +1

    Such a good orator Dr. Bitange

  • @gloriawambui3998
    @gloriawambui3998 Před 2 lety +2

    I can never get tired of this beautiful love story

  • @bonnybonny8337
    @bonnybonny8337 Před 4 lety +6

    More talks from Bitange please. Thank you. I could listen to him all day. Hahaha

  • @sambaza2_254
    @sambaza2_254 Před 4 lety +1

    I've always admired Bitange. Nice talk!

  • @amoskiplangat2893
    @amoskiplangat2893 Před 4 lety +5

    This has to be the funniest engage ever.

  • @memei9024
    @memei9024 Před 4 lety +2

    What a story,Daktari never disappoints always!

  • @ivywainaina759
    @ivywainaina759 Před 4 lety +10

    Such a good and humble orator! :) :)

  • @Holisticgemswellnessculture

    What s beautiful love story and I like his new view of life as opposed to the traditional chauvinistic ways

  • @julianamwangi5677
    @julianamwangi5677 Před 4 lety

    Always refreshing listening to Dr.Bitange

  • @samuelgichuki2826
    @samuelgichuki2826 Před 2 lety

    The humor in this man is on another level... I have never laughed this had... Thank you mzee🙏

  • @alfredouko857
    @alfredouko857 Před 4 lety

    Funny,humble,honest,easy such a good orator!!!!iv laughed the Christmas out of 2019...I'm waiting for 2020...I need that remote!!!I'm dead

  • @phyllisi.340
    @phyllisi.340 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Bitange is soooo funny!😂😂😂. Beautiful story hilariously told. Glad your 'effort' to find a wife finally paid off 😃. May God bless you with many more years together.
    Such a brilliant mind, wish he could make it to the cabinet. Thanks for spearheading the fiber optic project in Kenya! A great milestone..God bless you.

  • @benso2576
    @benso2576 Před 4 lety +4

    That's a sweet and hilarious love story from Bitange....l love it

  • @beewanjira2431
    @beewanjira2431 Před 3 lety

    This is my favourite of all the engage talks

  • @mildredmugambi4766
    @mildredmugambi4766 Před 4 lety

    Thank you Prof. Ndemo for such an authentic and humorous talk!

  • @John-xv1nt
    @John-xv1nt Před 4 lety +1

    Wow, what a story. What a man. Bravo Daktari.

  • @thedivinebandit
    @thedivinebandit Před 4 lety +8

    "It refused to come down." 😂😂😂

  • @frankjomo8555
    @frankjomo8555 Před 4 lety

    my best lecturer ever at university of Nairobi school of business.

  • @JohnOrimbo
    @JohnOrimbo Před 4 lety +3

    I didn't know Pro.Bitange Ndemo is this funny!

  • @wanscal
    @wanscal Před 4 lety +3

    I haven't laughed like this in a very long time. The delivery was so on point, extremely funny but very inspiring.

  • @geoffreymoturi4880
    @geoffreymoturi4880 Před 2 lety +1

    Daktari Bitange Ndemo is the most sincere person ever.

  • @njerigitau8480
    @njerigitau8480 Před 4 lety +3

    This is the funniest 🤣🤣🤣🤣engage talk I've ever listened to. Who knew Prof. Bitange is this. hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @marymwololo9450
    @marymwololo9450 Před rokem +1

    Such a beautifully simple comical narration of love and a journey through reconstruction of stereotype beliefs.

  • @eunicemuthamia9569
    @eunicemuthamia9569 Před 4 lety +2

    Beautiful story, so beautifully and powerfully told!

  • @t.wkangethe4814
    @t.wkangethe4814 Před 4 lety +3

    Dr Bitange looking all young and great 👍.he is a very good storyteller 😂😂 keep inspiring God bless you sir.