My Life, My Wife and Kilimani Mums - Hillary Lisimba

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  • čas přidán 20. 02. 2019
  • When you are young and in love, you'll easily promise to go to the end of the world for the love of your life. You promise to love and support her dreams. You promise that you will do anything to make and keep her happy. What happens when you are called to put your words into action? Are you willing and capable of going the whole hog?
    Hilary promised to support his wife and her dreams and ambitions. When his wife Brenda got a long coveted job outside the country, his commitment to support her was put to the test. How did he fare? Watch the video and find out.
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Komentáře • 662

  • @EngageTalk
    @EngageTalk  Před 5 lety +11

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  • @wasilwasteve195
    @wasilwasteve195 Před 5 lety +601

    Hilary my wife also works away since 2014, we have 2 children who i parent. A boy and a girl. Its the most satisfying thing ever. The sacrifice pays off.
    I have slept in wards as well, i take my daughter to the salon and wait for her to be done her hair. I help with their homework everyday .

    • @shantelkaris5901
      @shantelkaris5901 Před 5 lety +8

      Wow your kids are proud of you, best father

    • @stellahrabach2664
      @stellahrabach2664 Před 5 lety +3

      God bless you

    • @JoyMissAfrica
      @JoyMissAfrica Před 5 lety +13

      I wish my dad took me to the salon when I was young..Its a very loving thing to do,she will never forget even when she is older...

    • @vickywamboi4814
      @vickywamboi4814 Před 5 lety +9

      Good men r still out here

    • @stacywambuli3741
      @stacywambuli3741 Před 5 lety +5

      You are doing great! God bless you!

  • @kheylam
    @kheylam Před 5 lety +234

    I like Kenyan accent, their shows, skin tone, humour. Much love from Namibia 🇳🇦

  • @SuperSoap12345
    @SuperSoap12345 Před 5 lety +80

    I stay with my three kids too. My wife works outside Kenya. Since my first child was in class four. She is now a form one in Lugulu...and still going strong

  • @petito53
    @petito53 Před 5 lety +88

    Three things Hilary...
    1. You're hilarious
    2. God bless You!!!
    3. May you and your wife prosper to the very core.

  • @kymkymarts7822
    @kymkymarts7822 Před 5 lety +57

    I might be the breadwinner in my family, but i always tell my wife she plays the biggest and hardest role in our lives taking care of our boy.

  • @Blurrybianca
    @Blurrybianca Před 5 lety +63

    I appreciate an AFRICAN father and husband who is PRESENT! Yes! Go against that grain, unlearn, learn and relearn. I hope other men are inspired. Good job Hillary.

  • @kirimikajuju
    @kirimikajuju Před 5 lety +113

    Who said all men are the same??? Sending you love and light Hillary💝...keep doing what you do

  • @pauldiaz8335
    @pauldiaz8335 Před 5 lety +68

    I have slept in wards too ...
    gone to school played with dolls
    Had nail polish..not to talk about make up ......its all worth it ...big up

    • @EngageTalk
      @EngageTalk  Před 5 lety

      Bless you. Your daughters are very lucky.

  • @jemmiejemmie2015
    @jemmiejemmie2015 Před 5 lety +231

    Kilimani mums members, this is our own.😂😂😂😂....... This is why i always say, Always be kind to people. U never know what they are going through 😂😂😂😂😂
    The guy is so funny. This are the men our Society needs. Kudos brother Wait .....sister😂😂😂😂

  • @ednahednah5198
    @ednahednah5198 Před 2 lety +14

    And my mum calls again 😂.... A Mother's love is just immeasurable ☺️❤️

  • @TheKecho1
    @TheKecho1 Před 5 lety +30

    Sadly,the patriarchy has also boxed men into roles. Raising your child is part of life...the child is YOURS. Thanks for sharing your story. Men, vulnerability is strength.

  • @gladwellkaruoya2214
    @gladwellkaruoya2214 Před 5 lety +19

    Mlisema men like these wanapatikana wapi...you are strong and you guys are going far...i love this

  • @SW-qw4kn
    @SW-qw4kn Před 5 lety +74

    I love it when people chose to live life and define love in their own terms. Most often when a man has to leave the family and work far/abroad he is simply providing, but when a woman does the same people accuse her of "abandoning" her child. As long as all you do is for the wellbeing of your family, no one should have an issue with that. I am just glad that you made a commitment to support her dream and when the time came, you rose to the occasion. Such integrity is rare.

  • @theafrinado
    @theafrinado Před 5 lety +108

    I love that you and Brenda are defining what marriage is for you and making decisions based on what is right for both of you as opposed to what other people believe you should do.

  • @iankhisa5582
    @iankhisa5582 Před 5 lety +148

    This should have had a warning for viewers to procure insurance covers for our ribs. too Hillariously inspiring

  • @yvonnemogaka6606
    @yvonnemogaka6606 Před 5 lety +49

    I remember how people used to ask what is a man doing in this group. You survived the bashing and became one of the mums especially after explaining your predicament. Kudos Hillary

  • @clickprofileimage
    @clickprofileimage Před 5 lety +99

    This is awesome. The guy is so intelligent not because he's doing chores that are traditionally meant for the woman but because he understands one simple concept - the most important person in the relationship is not you but the other person. Both women and men have got to understand this if we're to make the world a better place.

  • @btsfangirl3087
    @btsfangirl3087 Před 5 lety +49

    Inspirational! Almost always it is women who give up their careers, to stay at home and raise their family, when a man recognises the potential of his wife and is ready to step up and give her a chance to explore, it is absolutely commendable. Life is changing and some situations will need the man to make unconventional choices.

  • @mohmed8286
    @mohmed8286 Před 5 lety +70

    I wish my baby daddy would watch this and learn from it...

  • @nanawonders6078
    @nanawonders6078 Před 5 lety +66

    If only men knew the worth of women, the society would be a better place

    • @luwanysworld7753
      @luwanysworld7753 Před 5 lety +2

      AMEN TO THAT

    • @eventorganizer2548
      @eventorganizer2548 Před 5 lety +6

      Verse vasa

    • @edithkabaki5666
      @edithkabaki5666 Před 5 lety

      i cant add a dime to that.kudos

    • @AlbertMakambi
      @AlbertMakambi Před 5 lety +2

      Men have worth too. Men matter too. The world wouldn't be where is it without men. "Bad" is not a man problem, its a human problem.

    • @qmatics497
      @qmatics497 Před 4 lety

      It should be men actually,the problem we have nowadays women love marketing themselves too without focusing on the core significance of men. So irrational and sad

  • @winskitchen.602
    @winskitchen.602 Před 4 lety +7

    I left my baby at a age of 7 months for green pastures ,I know how it feels,crying day and night when I remember the years back,Glory be to God ,she is big enough now

  • @CoolkenyanInisrael
    @CoolkenyanInisrael Před 5 lety +75

    Hilary u r so hilarious..bravo for being exceptional. Inspiring!

    • @kapuchu16
      @kapuchu16 Před 5 lety

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  • @daisyumutoni8957
    @daisyumutoni8957 Před 5 lety +22

    Now that is true manhood ! I wish there was an option for 1000 likes . Hope there are more guys like you out there 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @keziamweresa5808
    @keziamweresa5808 Před 5 lety +58

    Awesome father. You should try stand up comedy too, very funny guy.

  • @raiseyourfaithwithabby7904
    @raiseyourfaithwithabby7904 Před 5 lety +46

    Hillary your humor stands out, irrespective of the different phases of life you've encountered with your son.
    Thank you for standing our, for giving a fresh breath to African fatherhood. For being present in child care you're force worth reconning.
    Kudos.
    Respect!

    • @nikoyabiblemoments
      @nikoyabiblemoments Před 5 lety

      Thank you for changing the narrative of Parenthood, especially fatherhood

  • @jacobmalova4891
    @jacobmalova4891 Před 5 lety +14

    Hillary...thumps bro ...taking risk, daring to step into the unknown...Hila The MAN! tough times never last but tough pple do!

  • @kathesya
    @kathesya Před 5 lety +101

    Dude i remember you from Kilimani mums :) I had to even go back and search your posts once more. yeah i was one of those supporting mums ;)

    • @zacharygathogo
      @zacharygathogo Před 5 lety

      Hahaha...God bless you 😂

    • @kabenn
      @kabenn Před 5 lety

      Kathesya God bless you. But you are a different woman. I would not expect anything else.

  • @isabelomolo8853
    @isabelomolo8853 Před 5 lety +13

    Powerful ending there......love is knowing that sometimes the most important person in a relationship is not you but the other person

  • @wanjikunganga277
    @wanjikunganga277 Před 5 lety +5

    This guy is one in a million.. Very few would stand up for their spouse

  • @eyereen5672
    @eyereen5672 Před 5 lety +14

    I can relate to that...I too had to leave my child while breast feeding,i can say its the worst feeling a mother can experience..But am glad the sacrifice worth it all..

  • @jemimahmaticha5978
    @jemimahmaticha5978 Před 2 lety +2

    There should be a like button worth 1M likes here.I love his practical humour,how engaging the whole story is and how they sacrificed for their family.
    May the Lord keep them.

  • @asigikeviner5138
    @asigikeviner5138 Před 5 lety +17

    Wow! You actually did the two things she had requested; Taking her as she was And Supporting her Ambitions and Dream. And most important, its not always about you, but the other person in the relationship.

  • @violetngigi3001
    @violetngigi3001 Před 5 lety +40

    Respect! Much Respect and More Grace💖

  • @kezmwaura
    @kezmwaura Před 5 lety +5

    Oh Hillary, you’ve reminded me of my younger days with my dad and me and my siblings he played both roles the best he could,wards, parents day, salon runs, clothes, homework et al ....iam so happy these men still exist and my prayer is for more women to experience this kind of men .You are amazing God bless you and your family

  • @joymuriithiwanjala6193
    @joymuriithiwanjala6193 Před 5 lety +7

    awwwwww HILLARY LISIMBA!!!! How proud am I that I know you!!you are one in a million!

  • @MrBabujinga
    @MrBabujinga Před 5 lety +6

    May I posit...big thanks to your mother...I can clearly tell so easily: you had a great relationship with her(your mum) You can only give this much LOVE if you also received!!

  • @wallacemwangi2795
    @wallacemwangi2795 Před 5 lety +6

    This has to be the best talk of all I have watched.

  • @shiromaina4236
    @shiromaina4236 Před 5 lety +8

    Hillary Lisimba Ambani from 52 weeks Savings Challenge I have really loved the story. You doing great

  • @canyango5457
    @canyango5457 Před 5 lety +7

    True parenting Hilary! there's no manual...we all stumble along as we go. love your boldness and sense of humour and the courage to be unconventional. Stay blessed!

  • @cafaett
    @cafaett Před 5 lety +8

    Such an encouraging piece. I salute you and your wife, Mr. Lisimba. Both of you went against the grain. It takes courage to do life together, and not have the fans 3rd wheeling in your marriage. Shut the noise out and do you. Amazed at what you do for your wife and son.

  • @pasomimucha8677
    @pasomimucha8677 Před 5 lety +27

    This has warmed the cockles of my heart.
    Your storytelling skills are on point, and you're hilarious!
    If only all married people would constantly remind themselves that they are a team, and that each member of the team needs to do what's best for the team. Brenda pursues her dream and it is paying off for the family, you're doing a fantastic parenting job, your child has a good, caring parent and constant contact with his mum... I'd say it's a win win win situation. Kudos, on breaking the stifling molds that previously defined the roles of spouses.

  • @ritaroggs
    @ritaroggs Před rokem +1

    I live in Las vegas Nevada and I work with alot of Filipinos... yur life is exactly like they do. the women work. the me. stay home. theen.pick n drop them to work. the women are the 90% bread winners... so you good! you are not alone. ...n am.proud of you.

  • @nicholaskhainza3329
    @nicholaskhainza3329 Před 5 lety +4

    Mr. Lisimba,people will always talk.Wheather good or bad,but they don't offer a single solution. Thanks for being bold on your decision n standing firm for your love.God bless you.

  • @nyawiraochola5841
    @nyawiraochola5841 Před 5 lety +2

    Changing the narrative! Thank you Hillary, and all other men out there doing this!

  • @modesterongachi
    @modesterongachi Před 5 lety +12

    The Much Awaited! Thank you Hillary😘😘😘😘❤❤❤

  • @zandilentsipho1150
    @zandilentsipho1150 Před 5 lety +7

    Wonderful husband and Father , love that you are changing the narrative , in our culture it is unheard of that a man looks after the baby while a woman pursues a career.

  • @watiri_m
    @watiri_m Před 4 lety +2

    This has been the best speaker of 2019 with a catchy start... Laughed from inception...

  • @lizndegwa4021
    @lizndegwa4021 Před 5 lety +3

    Wooow. This is absolutely fantastic! You are a symbol of strength. We need more men like this. Hands on parenting

  • @deborahbeautiful1802
    @deborahbeautiful1802 Před 5 lety +2

    My Dad was my mum and my dad... Since my mum died at 8 yrs he was the best I applaud you

  • @shirleyodongo6439
    @shirleyodongo6439 Před 5 lety +10

    A dying breed of men...hilarious too! Good job Hillary. Wishing you love and joy in your union.

  • @josephaleto8708
    @josephaleto8708 Před 5 lety +5

    What a dad, I am glad you went against all the odds and made the best decision. God bless you and your family. A great dad you are.sense of humour also on point.

  • @joziebush
    @joziebush Před 5 lety +14

    So proud of you.... Definetely a memorable day! 😄😄😄

  • @mutumakirima8813
    @mutumakirima8813 Před 5 lety +4

    now i know we are many..my dota today is in class 5 and i was left with her wen she was 1yr.its such a wonderful experience.

  • @ladysafari01
    @ladysafari01 Před 5 lety +4

    Wow Hillary and Brenda! Love that you guys did what's best for your family. Thanks for being a supportive spouse Mister.

  • @faithwanga5438
    @faithwanga5438 Před 5 lety +1

    I respect this guy and all who are like him. This clip is amazing

  • @johnjimngugi6053
    @johnjimngugi6053 Před 5 lety +8

    Waaaaaaooooow Mr Hillary congratulations..
    This was a well articulated talk and you have clearly showed us the pains our wives or mothers go through when we the husband chooses to just send money.
    You have always proved to us that long distant marriage works .
    I bet your marriage is working because you fulfilled your promise of letting her achieve her dreams..
    Sometimes in love the most important individual is the other person and not you.
    Wonderful

  • @millionairess9680
    @millionairess9680 Před 5 lety +5

    Love love love, glad you made a decision for your family not society. I’m glad you stepped up as a father, Mother’s are not the only parents. I admire your baldness. To the people who are quick to throw stones jamaneni STOP! May God bless your family

  • @TheKenyangirl0916
    @TheKenyangirl0916 Před 5 lety +1

    Enjoyed every bit of this!!! Thanks for sharing, Hillary! The amount of support and love for your wife is unimaginable. Be blessed.

  • @phanicewangila9335
    @phanicewangila9335 Před 5 lety +2

    That is wonderful, caring Daddy, husband,good inspiration to many people out here,how i wish all men to watch this and learn something from it bravo bro

  • @rahabgithua7378
    @rahabgithua7378 Před 5 lety +4

    So inspiring! God bless the family. Bravo Hillary n keep on keeping on!

  • @carbiedeliux798
    @carbiedeliux798 Před 5 lety +2

    Quite daring and bold! ,which is the true definition of love and partnership ; bold enough to chase dreams,to courageously dive into areas that are out of our comfort zones, to sacrifice for the other and most importantly to break the norms and confines of society. Hillary, you are a great model to your son and to us all.

  • @peterkoreart
    @peterkoreart Před 5 lety +5

    So impressed by your sacrifice, keep on. He who achieves much sacrifices much. As for social media, the mouth speaks from the abundance of the heart, negative people are full of negative experiences and spew it all over.

  • @anitahachieng3073
    @anitahachieng3073 Před 5 lety +1

    This is one of the most beautiful things i've seen in forever.God bless you and all other men breaking social norms.

  • @wereskikate5259
    @wereskikate5259 Před 5 lety

    Wow. Just wow. Its good to see great men and great fathers. Good job hillary. GOD BLESS you

  • @dolphineemali3399
    @dolphineemali3399 Před 5 lety +3

    Bravo Hillary! Beautiful storytelling.

  • @janemwangi1489
    @janemwangi1489 Před 5 lety +3

    I have mad respect for Hilary. Kudos!

  • @zachariasamita3479
    @zachariasamita3479 Před 5 lety +3

    Hillary ... quite inspiring. Very few married couples understand that the true, meaningful and fulfilling love in marriage revolves around what you give or give up for the welfare of your partner than what you get from him or her for your welfare, especially in our contemporary "I, Me and Myself" world. That is a cost very few are prepared to pay in marriage and family. Thanks!

  • @MetienneVlogs
    @MetienneVlogs Před 5 lety +4

    Woow am glad I stumbled on this. Love is sacrifice and no matter the distance and other struggles, it always wins.

  • @yeawhatever6178
    @yeawhatever6178 Před 4 lety +3

    Bless your heart.
    Fathers and husbands that give beyond what the society expects are amazing people. Involved dads specifically give rise to men and women who are self assured and confident.
    If all dads were this involved in their kids lives and husbands this supportive, half of our problems as a society would be gone.

  • @margaretmuniu352
    @margaretmuniu352 Před 5 lety +4

    support group for mothers !!! wooooooow. Congrats man! that was a great piece

  • @maureenwangati6593
    @maureenwangati6593 Před 5 lety +16

    Fantastic yes you did the right thing and kudos to Brenda for trusting you to raise the baby without her. You're one strong man and you even deserve a man bra if they ever design them. You know the ones that have baby bottles with milk in them. I pray your family will have a chance to live in the same country soon because I am in the same long distance marriage and I understand how much you miss your partner. That baby is blessed to have such strong parents he will be an achiever like you both. You're a great role model to society. Yes love is sacrifice and the other person matters more than you. Great quote told with so much humor.

  • @sherylingeoffrey9266
    @sherylingeoffrey9266 Před 5 lety +97

    The name kilimani mums have brot me here

  • @chacho2339
    @chacho2339 Před 5 lety +14

    You are a great ninja, kudos man

  • @florencenjeri1698
    @florencenjeri1698 Před 4 lety +4

    Best true love story.. I have listened to so far. Love can enable one manouvre where you ordinary thinking wouldn't take you.

  • @moniquegin8840
    @moniquegin8840 Před 5 lety +4

    Very inspiring, well done! Your mum raised you well!

  • @gracenjenga9053
    @gracenjenga9053 Před 5 lety +1

    Hillary this is a well articulated talk n very inspiring, marriage has no manual it's just what the 2 of you decide on.. All the best sir

  • @bettykoech6830
    @bettykoech6830 Před 5 lety +5

    Wow!! Thanks for taking such a bold step...I love your finishing about love 😍

  • @yvonnegichamba6845
    @yvonnegichamba6845 Před 5 lety +3

    Wow! Kudos Hillary .. Its very rare to meet a man like you who is selfless enough to let their women chase after their dreams. Most men believe that a woman's job is to always be in the house doing house chores and take care of the kids... Sorry for all the insults you got from kilimani moms but I'm proud of you for not letting them get to you instead you stood tall and faced them. If most men were like you, this generation could've been so far.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾keep it up.

  • @alexmuturi7131
    @alexmuturi7131 Před 5 lety +7

    wow!!! when you stumble on gold......

  • @WamuyuGatheru
    @WamuyuGatheru Před 5 lety +12

    Wow. This was good - Hillary is an adult man. Not a child man who can't survive without a babysitter and housekeeping

    • @BerniceKaranja2014
      @BerniceKaranja2014 Před 3 lety

      This is the comment of the century, I don't know where that idea came from, even our grandfathers and fathers did not need a baby sitter/nanny, what happened? Nowadays it's 24/7 round the clock thing.

  • @jacklineachieng8585
    @jacklineachieng8585 Před 5 lety +10

    You’re a super dad and Husband Hillary, just like my husband too. God bless you and your family always.

    • @21111977o
      @21111977o Před 5 lety

      When i see this kind of reply my heart melts with that kafeeling that come only when a woman other than your mother appreciates you. Bottom line marriage is all about sacrificing for the other person.

  • @faithmanyara9896
    @faithmanyara9896 Před 5 lety +9

    One of the best engage talk I've watched so far.😂😅Still laughing though

  • @fridahbaariu6530
    @fridahbaariu6530 Před 5 lety +2

    Inspiring and true...my dad would take care of us while mum was doing her degree.

  • @SwitsM1
    @SwitsM1 Před 5 lety +1

    Hillary,you are an awesome dad,hubby and man in general.
    Yes,I remember you from Kilimani mums..I must admit many of us were not so kind to you.
    You are a good narrator and hilarious too.
    Wish you and your family well.

  • @swa140
    @swa140 Před 5 lety +1

    Lets just say we have different sizes of hearts. Mine is enough to support my son when she is around. The way that baby disturbs before he catches sleep....i donot even want to imagine how i would it off she she wasnt here. I respect her for her work and thats why i want her here with me. Do your thing if you can.

  • @leonardomolo
    @leonardomolo Před 5 lety +2

    Hillary Lisimba thats a hell of a talk... succes with your child man

  • @gloryolomi7
    @gloryolomi7 Před 5 lety +1

    Your sense of humor is remarkable. God bless your marriage.

  • @stellaoigo8442
    @stellaoigo8442 Před 5 lety +1

    So proud of you Hillary. You are intelligent man

  • @AscendinSoul
    @AscendinSoul Před 5 lety

    Strength and humility...a real man.👏🏾👏🏾

  • @missiesnr441
    @missiesnr441 Před 5 lety

    Am inspired though its difficult raising my own siblings after the death if our mother in Nov last year..you have given me strength to move and see their dreams mature.

  • @lorraineanjili
    @lorraineanjili Před 5 lety +2

    oh wow!! you are very courageous for doing that in this conventional-minded society that we live in. Keep it up, and may your marriage be blessed

  • @samnjoroge
    @samnjoroge Před 5 lety +3

    Nicee, boss thanks for sharing this info, men out there need to hear this. That way they will learn to respect there wives, I myself have been there, was in the maternity when both of my kids were born, witnessed the whole thing and trust me not. It was the greatest experience I have ever had, I've grown to respect my wife/women more. Its fantastic and most men should go through this, trust me, u will never cheat on ur wife.

  • @priscillarkarani6581
    @priscillarkarani6581 Před 5 lety +2

    Hilary, u r a HERO. That's it!

  • @concyoginga6855
    @concyoginga6855 Před 5 lety +3

    Lord I need this kind of love listen to my prayer.
    I wish you well Hillary and Brenda

  • @sheee470
    @sheee470 Před 4 lety +2

    This is an absolutely amazing story. Even a year later.
    God bless your family

  • @nqatha2229
    @nqatha2229 Před 5 lety +1

    Respect to you both for defining your life and following through on the vision. God bless your union

  • @MrBornleader45122
    @MrBornleader45122 Před 5 lety +12

    I’m always amazed when I see an amazing and inspirational video like this and some dumb ass people thumbed down. Are you crazy? What’s wrong with you? This is an amazing and superb video which should not have any negative thumbs. I hope one day I’ll become that kind of father to my kids and supportive to my woman as you are.

  • @rebeccahwanjiru4393
    @rebeccahwanjiru4393 Před 5 lety +1

    Awesome story. Hats off Hillary and Brenda.

  • @cessakinyi
    @cessakinyi Před 5 lety

    Hillary has cracked me up. This is so inspiring. May God bless your family