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I agree with Jonathon. Best sex between two people is better when they are both physically close.
All I have to say is WOW!!!!
You are amazing with this information,although I believe if we dig and search within ourselves we really know what we need to do.
In my case I’m a patterned person….definitely not good!!!
I’m not sure why I continue this behavior…
Help!!!
@@JonathonAslay Avery special man……full of love and caring . ❤️🙏thank you
I thought we were progressing nicely until I got sick. He knew I was flat on my back, sick as a dog, and running a temp for four days. He knows I live alone but he did nothing. He did not ask if I needed him to run an errand, did not drop off chicken soup, and did not even offer a few words of sympathy. I told him we were done because I cannot accept that complete lack of consideration from a partner. He explained that he stayed away because he didn't want to get sick himself. That was just too lame an excuse. All I needed was a little reasonable TLC not a blood transfusion.
You made the right decision! 👏👏👏
He could of left maybe soup for yoU, or some tea & a few healthy items like Elderberry extract, tea & soup! W0hen my exes dad had Covid and thought he was dying I sent 2 different teas & soup packages all he had to do was add water! So sorry that he didn't step up! No excuse he could of avoided close contact with you, & still be considerate of how sick yoU were! Maybe some will disagree? But I believe he could of done something to make you feel he still has respect, & cared for knowing how sick you were! Hopefully you don't have kids they watch & learn from our examples as adults! I hope that you're recovering & feel alot better! Sending wishes for you to not only get better but for you to find a wonderful caring partner! ❤
I recently learned narcissistists dont like sick people
Amen sista good decision he didn’t show up for you in time of need … next !! 🎉
How serious were you two at the beginning of this relationship? Hadn't you been taking care of yourself until then? So what was defined before you were sick?
1- refuses to define the relationship
2- you don't come first, instead their problems (work, ex, children, friends, etc) take precedence
3- barely interested in your life/not a teammate
4- their friends or family don't know about you
5- sporadic communication/marginal perspective
6- avoids sharing how they feel about you as a person
7- refuses to talk about future
Thank you for the list. Very helpful.
I would not be interested in a man that doesn't put his kids first. My kid comes first, before any man and a decent father does the same
@@fionadale1011 Well said. I completely agree with you. While it might be nice at first if the man gave us most of the attention, it's definitely a red flag if he doesn't know how to put his kids first. My kid comes first too before anyone so I'm with you on this 100%!
Thank you. This is such a help. 😊
As a woman, in my experience, the best way to make sure that you aren’t dating a guy that isn’t serious about you is don’t go to bed with him. Just make sure you don’t go anywhere that you can lay down such as a couch or a bedroom. men went to lease analogy is bang on, but make sure they have established plenty of time. A.k.a. hefty down payment. I think most of our LOVELIFE dramas come from the full problem that we go to bed too quickly quickly with strangers and people that we have not truly gotten to know their character or intention
YES. No sex! Someone else can provide THAT.
Exactly
Waiting till marriage
Amen ❤️
I don't agree 100%. Yes true don't go on a first or second date just so you kniw you dont deal woth some serial killer. However though he might be not sleeping with you for long yet be sleeping with his fwb and in the end also concuer you after them 90 days or so and treat both of you as his fwb on a rotation. True is if the guy has values and only wants a monogamy he will sleep on the first date and still commit.
Sometimes we being alone is better then then trying to hard.
Indeed
I love that you keep calling out the players! It seriously helps women to not be confused by them! Thank you!!!
I'm so glad!
You really give great advice. I am a widow. Ive been alone for 2 years. I am not looking for anyone. I dont think there is anyone out there.
I understand how you feel...
So here is the red flag: when your conversations revolve around “working on the relationship” and it’s always you adapting and changing, never him, RUN!!!
So sad... lip service
If he's not coming to see you, he's not even making an effort.
Exactly
Men can compartmentalize, women can't.
Both genders can compartementalize.
My ex husband would not get out of bed to drive me to the doctor when I had covid. That really hurt.
That is horrific
Committment and true love is all in. I will take care of you. Terrible how little these men care.
WOW. That's horrible
People were scared shitless by the horrible liars in the CDC, NIH. If you got covid you would die.
Absolutely true on all. LMAO when he said ”Men are hunting for vagina.” 😂 WORD.
Exactly
I had a boyfriend for two years he was selfish selfish selfish. Only cared about his needs , not a good person at all. I finally dropped him. And I don't miss him at all. 😂😊
There are many narcissists out there,be careful.
Move on and be free! You’ll make yourself happy!🙏❤️🤗💪
Exactly
Is it a sign when he says “ let’s take it easy “
Yea it is and it’s not good. He’s using you.
@@Gigi-wc3kl but he hasn’t gotten anything from me lol
He will be exiting soon
@@Gigi-wc3kl exiting what? He’s in another state lol
I believe that’s the excuse they use to keep you around while they are swiping on other women!
Jonathon I was jumping in my chair when you told this woman in the hot seat the truth. So spot on. We got to love ourselves enough to not accept the BS and move on. Hopefully when she reads the comments she get more clarity. Life is too short. ❤
I don't feel used 1 bit, but there is no sex, a huge advantage. He has never been married & I don't ever want to get married again, so this works for us! We enjoy each other's company. Neither of us has any children & we are a team.
I understand
My biggest beef is selfishness! Everyone I run across wants Lisa the Robot, not Lisa the beautiful woman with a brain. I hate the lying, too. They often claim to be interested in a long-term relationship or even marriage. Yeah,, as soon as they've bedded you, they quit. In fact, I notice little effort compared to guys say 25 years ago. Everyone wants it my way or the highway and should just get a pet! Emotionally immature and entitled people of both genders. They don't love themselves or care about being growers and mature. I hate the games and BS. I believe in growing up, and compromise! I feel like a dinosaur and I'm losing hope.
Yes, and Rob, the robot, too...
I think we as women many times get scared about losing a partner. we end up accepting their bad behavior and staying with them anyway because we figure it’s better than being alone. We all need to make a stand and protect our hearts and our time.
Indeed
I’ve never wasted any man’s time because a man I was in a relationship for nearly 3 years in my 20s was wasting my time. After Ken, I decided not to be like him, and after 2 dates with others, I use to make a determination if they would get along and end it. Since my mid 40s I’ve given up, but not all women waste any man’s time.
So I’m on millionaire match. Had what seemed to be a nice guy like me. We chatted a little then he stated we are not a match because we have too many different answers to these silly questions the site asks. Ok, best of luck to you
3 weeks later he pops back up with a message ‘so have you found the love of your life’. I responded I’m not looking for the love of my life just a man who won’t waste my time. He responds you’re bitter. Good bye. I blocked him
Men are CLUELESS. They are not just ‘winging it’, they are wingless. It seems they expect you to drop everything you’re doing ti answer them. The exchange goes on for a few days then crickets
Not this woman! If he can’t wait for an agreed upon appropriate time to speak live, BLOCK!
You can think what you want, I do not want these spenders drifting in and out of my chat box.
As a man, I've experienced the same from women. It's a human thing... 🙏
I'm a 77 year old woman. My male friend is 55. I'm just not into him. He definitely is all about himself. I really enjoy being alone. You nailed my situation. Thank you.
Sarah, Trust your gut. You know the answer.
So true that dating was always 3 year breaking down process. They don't teach relational skills in school. It's sad. It would have saved a ton of grief and pain.
You’re so right! When a man is not serious he’s all that you explained! Thank you!!❤️
I keep missing your lives! Just watched & I can relate to Sarah's situation. Was doing all the driving to see him. 45 mins away. It's really unfortunate. I don't deserve bread crumbs. I wish I would have left a long time ago. I have to start loving myself. I deserve someone way better than that. Thank you Jonathon!
I understand
I encourage my daughter to watch & learn from positive teachings on you tube. The more aware girls & women are, the healthier their relationships are becoming..self love means knowing what makes you happy & not settling for less or accepting poor treatment
The car metaphor great example. I use it a lot when I talk about relationships how most men trade in their women for a younger, or newer model.
Sometimes a younger looking woman will win and she could be older
I appreciate you. Been with a man for 5 years and he refuses to move in, still live separate and no ring in which he knows I want. He acts like my husband always with me then leaves to go to his house every night. I bring up our future and he gets upset.
He might not want to move into your house. Because to him it would give you the upper hand. It would make him look weak. It would make him look like he could not take care of himself. He may feel that he is not financially capable of being a good husband.
On the other hand, he just might be a jerk that is using you.
I really like this video. It really is an eye opener. In this day and age it is very hard to be single. It is very hard to meet good people. I stay home a lot.
Have to do " abundance dating", rather than settle for abusive "situationship" which is what I've been getting in the last 2 years since breakup with my longterm relationship. At least this way I can just say men are like trains, another one coming in 15 minutes! Next!
Yes
Wish I had found you years ago. Thank you for opening my eyes and giving me better insight into understanding men's view of relationships
Sometimes it's not about accepting crumbs but one people get attached they get addicted to the "chemicals" and all addictions are hard to crack.
I hate that I see the crumbs... it that sometimes it feels like toilet paper stuck on their shoe...
This meant that as long as I stayed mute on relationship issues, all was well, but he would never ever raise any doubts or complaints because as long as I’m in the groove, what’s not to like?
This means that whatever issues I raised were mine alone, and he took to responsibility in working together.
I was in a similar situation about a yr ago.
I ignored it at 1st but and it took a few months.
But it was like you sit over there and as long as you be good.
We can have a good time.
That is what I felt like he was saying in his mind.
I could tell
This is the video I needed!!!
Thank you for preaching to us!!!❤
Sarah, you seem like a beautiful person, don't settle anymore!
Hi Jonathan! I just want to thank you for a video I watched a couple days ago. It was about men that are broken. I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a broken man. I was thinking he would wake up and realize what he had in me. You definitely opened my eyes to what the problem was. I just wish I would have seen the signs and realized this sooner. I guess I was one on the way from here to the moon.
You are so welcome
Sarah you deserve better. Even though you have the answer,it feels so much better when you hear it from us. It’s called support and reaffirmation.
Your Jonathon your penance is a joy 😂
Thank you so much!!
@@JonathonAslay you’re welcome! ✨
Hi! I am new to your channel and I'm finding it very informative and interesting! This particular video hit very close to home.
I just let go of a 'spender' after one year.
Never met any of his friends, or his family. He always had lots of priorities and I felt like I was never one of them.
I made a lot of excuses for him over the year, but I finally realized that it's better to be alone than to be in a relationship that makes you feel like you're not enough.
So thank you for validating my decision ❤️
Thanks for subbing!
I agree Jonathon. I even had that conversation with someone that "I like you" and explained to him that to me it's more important than love. He looked as if he had no idea what that meant.
A rich independent woman does not need a man. And, compromise usually means sacrificing oneself doing what the man wants. Cell phones and the internet, make it easy for folk to compartmentalize their lives, and that goes for men as well as women.
Yes
When my children were young, I told them.......when you meet someone and you think you love them, make sure you LIKE them. Loving someone is easy......but if you don't LIKE someone......it won't stand the test of time.
Exactly
This resonates.
THANK you for your wise words of wisdom. I'm learning so much.
So glad!
I have been single for 22 years now, the last ten by choice. We get too involved too fast and men take advantage. If more of us dragged our feet this wouldn't be happening
But then when I observed the subtleties of my marriage to husband No.2, I realized that as long as we were ticking along without tweaking, or any conversations about issues, all good. But I was always the one with issues in the relationship, always requesting discussions, but he never ever voiced any concern.
I think women respond to love bombing when a man says they’re the best, the smartest, the most beautiful, etc. because they think that such positive input means they want a relationship. WRONG!! They can tell you over and over again how unusual and special you are, but THAT DOES NOT MEAN THEY WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.
Thank you so much for this ❤
I had that happily married, with my deceased husband. I don’t understand how I fell in love with this guy I grew up with with. I rocked him as a baby. Im6 yrs older. Now he’s tall and handsome , has a successful business and drives Indy race cars. Is that my problem?
Yes! Waisting time! I love you’re teaching and caring! You’re wonderful!❤️
Thank you so much!
Yes u r right! Its a tough world no one wants to put in effort at all.
Indeed
One question I ask right up front, from the start. How AVAILABLE
are you? Likely response? Available, for WHAT? This is where one has to be very honest, personally. My answer...be truly, freely, available to even start or want to put in effort, time, into a genuine, full relationship, long term.
With any woman. Whether or not it's me. With any woman. Then listen for what answers you get. In my case, if the guy is already pretty well attached with someone else , me, it's thanks but no thanks. Life is finite, time is precious , I'm not waiting and fussing around with a maybe or perhaps a sort of yes but, no but...yes but.... No buts. Thanks but no thanks. Start from AVAILABILITY.
I like that idea.
Start with availability.
Amen Jonathon keeps calling out the users and spenders.
I'm worth more than crumbs or men that waste my valuable time. Full committment and aligned or I'm out.
The 10 Commandments Of A Secure Functioning Relationship. 👍👍👍
Will do
We love you big brother! ❤️
I find that older people who are divorced aren't interested in relationships. They're done. They're exhausted. They want to be left alone.
Some are.
That is not necessarily true.
Yes, Jonathan, you are correct, liking someone is different than loving someone. I believe loving and liking someone, whether child or adult is the ultimate. That brings true joy. You are the only person I’ve heard or read that have said that. Thank you.❤️
You're welcome 😊
Left in tears because ihave to face the facts. At our ages, I thought we had something very special.
If you love yourself you don’t need crumbs! You are happy in yourself! Go dating instead and have fun. 🤗
Absolutely!!
Moving on is good...Especially if he is just using you
Yes
You are Very Wise, Jonathan❣️
🙏
I've been dating Ed for over 3 months, he was widowed over a year ago. We communicate every day by text. We see each other 2 to 3 times a week. I've met his kids, his sister and other family members and he always makes me feel cherished. I was breadcrumbed for over 11 yrs and this is a wonderful change. We have not said the L word even tho I feel it, I want him to say it first. he had a wonderful marriage of over 36 years so I'm giving as much space as he needs and letting him set the pace ✨💖✨
Thank you so much Jonathan. This was one of the best videos I've seen! All of your videos are helpful, but THIS one was especially! ❤
You're very welcome!
It is very simple you built as you go putting the same effort he is putting first! It is not complicated because time is also an investment as nobody lives forever! Don't waste your time with people that do not care for you the way you want them in the future to care for your children! If he can't die for you he won't for your children. You want a father that will feed, provide, protect and take to the hospital your children. If he can't do it for you he will not do it for them. If he mistreat you he will mistreat them!
Sara, he is absolutely not into you. The fact that nothing has happened in five years is this will go on forever. End it like that because he will hurt you more.
Great session Jonathon and everyone involved. Really found it informative thanks 😊
Glad you enjoyed it
The breadcrumbing thing...my ex HN never bread crumbed me while dating... but the day we get married he stopped opening my car door and started bread crumbing me. I left shortly after that. He didn't have interest in counseling so that was that.
hey !! i'm in argentina too! it's been a roller coaster looking for a well-meaning man.. i feel for you jill
Age doesn't protect us from being used . I hope Sarah got out and lived way better. I got out after a year when i realised he wasn't progressing much . I dont care how many women are "married" around me, i refuse crumbs or cr*p
Some people who have aged know how to not get used. When you don’t take break(s) between relationships is when you don’t get wise on men.
I’ve had some enormous blind spots in relationships. It’s awful! I’m doing my best to accept people for who they are and value myself enough to walk away. And oh yes I will no longer accept crumbs anymore!
Jonathan i know you remember the saying why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. It is better to get to know someone for a long time and in different situations without sex.😊
Yes I do...
i dont
sleep with them straight away-so they cant USE-THE GENUINE ONES STAY
Sarah you are awesome
Don't let this guy use you
You are awesome you deserve so much better Amen
Two years ago I gave my left kidney to a friend. Through the emotional experience we started dating. Now, two years after the kidney donation I feel like I’ve been discarded. I believe he’s having trouble accepting the gift from me and then accepting my heart. My trouble is that he now has time for everyone but me. I know it’s hard for him to see me as a “lover” because I saved his life. I want to be a woman he loves because he loves her and not a person he loves because I saved his life. I know emotionally, from the guilt, it’s hard to look at me. We’ve broken up and I’ve lost my best friend.
I just today started a journal to try to change this love affair. I just wrote on first page. Rejection is Gods protection. It might help me. Now it’s just tears.
Great video! Thanks Jonathan for sharing your message with us; you definitely do it from your ❤. I’m learning so much 🙏
I appreciate that!
Yes, you crack me up too. Sorry I turned it in late. Had oral surgery. I did give a little donation. Thank you for all you do and I'm sorry to hear about your son. I had to send it also passed away of SIDS. God bless you.
Thanks for the right words.. Always felt like that in our relationship but couldn't fathom the clear status of it.
Although it ws tremendously difficult to separate myself from the person I love madly..love is still there but without any obligation..any expectations..I m healing 😊😊
Matt Kahn & Joy Kingsborough
"I'm all in. Through thick or thin, I want us to win."
Hi Jonathon, thanks for the work, your guidance is fantastic and helps so much. Good luck with your search for a harmonious, committed relationship, may you be blessed with happiness, love, and all the sweet things that come with doing this precious work, for yourself and in service to humanity as a whole. Remember that you are Eternally Loved, you always have been, and that this Divine source is in finite. Blessed Be.
Awesome, thank you!
Some women lower their standars such that the men are taking them for granted.
I just ended a 6-year relationship of crumbs...learned so much I was putting up with...ty Jonathon
A long friendship 1st!!! At least 2yrs as friends first ❤ a firm foundation
Who pays during this long friendship?
@@JonathonAslay ?.pays what
@@JonathonAslay what if we just jump in then? Before even developing a relationship. Unwise
@@Pinkcandy777pay for dates or dinners and stuff...
@@JonathonAslay when your 1st building just a friendship that's not dating 😊. Yet.
Thank thank you for sharing your wonderful information.
You are so welcome!
Great video!!! Great information!!! Thank you! 😊
You are so welcome!
You got it right. We spend quality time but it goes no where.my big brothers are all passed away. What do I say to this man I love that we have to break our connections.
Growers are all in threw thick and thin they want to win......
Exactly
Culturally, argentina and south americans and spanish people (like me) are different. So alot of men from the culture find it off putting and emasculating when a woman is "too forward".
Congratulations Maribeth🎉
Indeed
I agree Johnathon that both sexes are accepting of bad behaviour simply because that most of the people out there are broken and not serious about finding a serious relationship. It is extremely difficult to find that person who has it all together. I am not a negative person, but am becoming very disappointed with what I am seeing out there. I can definitely understand why the good people prefer to remain single and not deal with all the crap out there.
Thank you once again Jonathon ❤
If I didn’t get to meet his family…wouldn’t stick around.
The oil/gas job now a web designer sounds very much like the common scam. Extra caution if he says he's from Ireland.
She dated him...
Thank you for the info! My question for your thoughts: I am in a 6 month relationship with a great guy…my conflict is that he is a cigar smoker and drinks more than I am comfortable with. I have shared this with him and he is reluctant to stop… I want to live a healthier lifestyle. In addition, he isn’t very romantic…no flowers yet or little gifts( one of my love languages) he is however a lovely gentleman, caring and always pay when we go out! I am uncertain if we should continue…😊
Have you told him you like and want gifts as it’s your love language?
As far as his habits, until people marry (not just live together), they’re often reluctant to change or give up habits for something that may be temporary.
And most people want someone who can accept them just as they are, and they don’t want to be someone’s “project” or be told to change to make someone happy.
I can see why you're uncertain... maybe make a decision to move on.
Thank you for the reply.
How did you get so wise Jonathon, so many things you say are SPOT ON .
Observing humans for 18 years...
Well, I'm in your dysfunctional category, but also broke, so I can't join your help group, but I sure enjoy listening to you, I'm glad you don't take yourself so serious either, I truly think your one of the good guys. 🙂
Hes serious but still has an ongoing divorce and can't get rid of the baggage...lives with me and I'm not fulfilled..
Thank you Jonathon. Your videos gave me the answer to my question.
I feel so foolish Hopefully I learned from this first experience.
Glad it was helpful!
I use the phrase..."the P in the V" rather than using the full words...lol...learned it from a friend's daughter on the spectrum.😅
I like JA’s wording because it’s blunt and to the point without having to use some code because of embarrassment of one genitalia.
😂😂😂 you're hilarious Jonathan. I need some fairy dust. Lol
Thank you, Jonathan❤
Johnathan you seems like a great person. I I have listened & watched your videos many times. I hope you find a good person. Your profile was great. Good lunch in your search. God Bless.
I appreciate that
Situationship sounds like my marriage.
Talking to my psychiatrist this morning we agreed that our society here 🇦🇺 is fucked. So many people just don’t know how to create healthy interpersonal interactions. Hopeless !! Margaret again
Margaret again?
OOOOUCH! I really needed to hear this today, especially about the breadcrumbing. 😭😭😭