Autistic/Antisocial Woman interview-Cassy
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- čas přidán 11. 06. 2023
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Cassy, an autistic woman with antisocial personality disorder in St. Petersburg, Florida.
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“I’m trying so hard to be empathetic towards everyone I meet; I’m trying so hard to mask my autism, and people aren’t trying to understand me. At all.” - So powerful. What a courageous lady - I hope things are going better for her
This.
I am going and went trough the same thing, minus the sexual harassment in her young age, but now I accepted that I dont need to be extra empathetic
@@ChocolateAutizzyHey, did you receive any funds or assistance after the interview?
felt this!
That was so well said
“I don’t treat people the way I would want to be treated. I treat people the way I think they would want to be treated”
She’s very wise
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@@ChocolateAutizzy you are strong, resilient & drop dead gorgeous. Keep queening 👸🏾
That’s the definition of the “platinum rule”. Side note few people know the so called “golden rule” was in Hindu and Chinese texts since 600-800 BC (BEFORE CHRIST). Mankind has historically misquoted, misinterpreted, regurgitated, misrepresented and plagiarized original philosophy. Believe it or not before people were indoctrinated into this worldwide boner for illogical nonsense that is religion folks actually discussed and debated thought.
@Darkstar so you’re so we shouldn’t consider how we’re treating others as we go through life?
@@darkstar3116Damn you really thought you did something here. Lmao. Keep learning kid
Mark just doesnt listen?? Asking questions she's stated the minute before.
"I want to be in love, I've never been in love"
/5 mins later "have you ever been in love? Do you have kids?"
He clearly isnt engaged in this interview and she deserved more from this!!
Also her age, she just said it 2 min before he asked.
Also if she works, after she said that she is unemployed
I felt so bad when he asked her questions she's already answered.. Mark it's like you're on your phone and dismissing her
These people are PAID volunteers. So that means he knows BS when he hears it. Alot of people looking for money. This girl just needs to do some hard work. Playing the oh me oh me game. Get rid of the doctors and do some damn manual labor!
@@chrisloukota9449 FOH. + take your ableism w| you since you wanna act like an AH void of empathy.
Pay attention, interviewer. You’re asking questions about things she just explained. As an autistic person I find that really annoying, I used to be really quiet because people would find me inappropriate, or they had no patience listening to what I had to say 🥲
She’s so smart, brave and has good self reflection ❤. She’ll be doing great
SBSK did a much better interview with her. Chris listened and paid attention if she seemed uncomfortable and clarified if she forgot a question and cared about what he has to say. Mark on the other hand…he exploits people.
@@ellaelliott4415 I kind if agree. I'm genuinly interested in the people he interviews, and do find that the interviews falls flat on the emotional level. And sometimes he's just stupid like commenting on the perfon's beauty (eurk), But he still gives them a voice and I still appreciate listening to these people' life stories. So i'm 50/50.
I’m a black woman with autism as well, it’s so validating to see people like me represented I don’t see it much. mental health in black communities need to be discussed more!
Love to you and yours.
Why does black have anything to do with anything? Do you really think white people don't have these exact same problems?
We'd all be better off if we were more concerned with people rather than their skin.
Maybe it will be that you can start a channel and talk about it here ❤
@@naelyneurkopfen9741 We’d also be better off with people not speaking on shit that doesn’t concern them. That’s your opinion not mine. Stop invalidating our experiences
This poor girl, so self aware and articulate. I hope she gets the help she wants and I wish her the very best.
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You wish me the best as well?
I’m a woman with a late autism diagnosis. I relate to Cassie so much. Thank you for telling your story and making others feel less alone.
I was severely bullied growing up and I always felt like I didn’t fit in. Even now I still don’t feel like I belong. People are afraid of what they don’t understand. Therefore, you are isolated and depression becomes your best friend. I hope one day for people like Cassy and I the world will become more empathetic.
Yes let’s hope because a lot of these people assume without asking. It makes me mad that they do this.
She’s more articulate and considerate than a lot of ‘normal’ people I know. I hope she succeeds.
I know she will make it. She's already come this far
Self awareness is attainable to anyone who wants to get to know themselves on a deeper level
What’s Considered A Normal Person
@@marceemoss4939 That’s what is meant by the inverted commas. There isn’t. We’re all different.
Autistic people often are.
I pray she does as well. Her kindness comes through. She is more compassionate and considerate than most people without her diagnosis. She reminds me of Temperance Brennan from the show bones. The more she is around loving and kind people she can learn the social queues. I wish we were more understanding and compassionate as a society. No one should be lonely or without love. Thank you for trying to be "normal".
This is one of the best interviews to date. So many women are going through life with adhd and Autsim and haven't had help
You are so correct...a lot of times our parents are present enough to notice
Yup ppl always try to play women / men who's not as they're and it says a lot about them. Stop playing ppl for slow and taking advantage.😂 She's beautiful still and speaks well enough
It's the most frustrating thing ever
It's crazy because the therapists, counselors, and adults would ask what's wrong with me when all I wanted was help and to not be depressed. The trauma on top of being neurodivergent feels like being an alienm
@@jcrawford5674 I feel that 100% and in turn I stopped looking for help.
When she said she will try to be normal until the day she dies….that is in of the most heart breaking things I’ve heard. 😢
As an autistic Masker. Notice how well she communicated her point or emotions with her hands. She may not be able to "read" non verbal communication but because of her mimicking and masking, She does an excellent job of non verbal communication with hand gestures to get her points and feelings across and it is all learnt behaviour. To me she is a QUEEN
the part where she says she spent YEARS asking herself “what’s wrong with me”. i felt that. she is so real, so sweet. not a lot of real ass people like this woman exist. bless her.
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Same here . All my life I hated myself trying to understand what's wrong with me , why I'm so anxious and awkward around people
Why I act like a moron , why I mimic others or why many people tried to molest me , am I transgender and don't know it
I didn't even know what's sarcasm till I was 25
This quote from her made me sad because reality is there is nothing wrong with her at all, there’s something wrong with society and people in general. People are masking themselves literally all the time, she just isn’t pretending to be someone she isn’t like most people.
@@laviellehuff3123 sad thing is that she thinks something is wrong with her too , she tries to be" normal" , meanwhile most of her anxiety and sadness is from this act of trying and desire to be normal
@@ChocolateAutizzy Hii gorgeous, I just want to day that first of all you’re so beautiful! secondly what you said around 35:00 about empathetic people not trying to understand you, I agree. that’s the exact reason I’m here: to learn about unique and interesting people like you! I could listen to you talk all day
She told a story on the SBSK channel. She shared a story of traumatic abuse she'd been through and the therapist got triggered because her daughter went through something similar. Casey did exactly what I would, sat there blankly like, why am I the therapist now? Then the therapist labelled her with Antisocial Personality Disorder. I'm not totally convinced since she seems to care so much about so many people and actually willingly climb uphill against the autism to practice empathy. I'm not a diagnostitian but I think she deserves an unbiased eval
Im a psychotherapist part time and I agree she does not fit the criteria for having ASPD. I have peers that worked in prisons and rehabilitation programs, they have shared symptoms and traits of ASPD, and there is a VAST difference between someone with complex trauma vs someone that has ASPD from early childhood. I am ashamed and angry at that therapist for having countertransference and misdiagnosing her as ASPD. This issue would have been resolved if that same therapist went to her supervisor to consult but she did not. It is a shame and dishonor what people think they can do and get away with. Now this individual has to live with this wrong dx on her record and will face a lot of barriers to get the proper treatment.
Absolutely, I went looking for people on that channel to see how gravely she was mishandled. That was so unprofessional of her and I was so damn angry. Psychology is my discipline with a focus on psychopathology but because I feel too much, im not sitting in that chair for fear of losing it emotionally with beautiful people like her. She's so courageous and deserves an unbiased eval.
Yep. It's not antisocial- it's trauma, detachment from feelings, alexithymia and possibly anhedonia. I have autism and I've detached from my emotions due to trauma in a similar way. It's not that the feelings doesn't exist, it's that they are so detached you can't feel them. There's also an element of not being able to recognize feelings when they are present. For me it was very common to just feel depressed over several days and have no idea why. With time I was able to learn my emotions better, and I'm more able to pick up on when something made me feel down or depressed, but it happens from time to time that I'll just be sad and I have no idea why. There's a lot of work being able to feel feelings again. My tendency is still to go into detachment and suppression when I'm going through stress. Because I had no other way to manage my emotions when I grew up. To prevent meltdowns and strong emotions, I had to detach. And when you do that for 20 years, it's difficult to undo the tendency. The more stressed I am the more stoic I become. I've also noticed it's very difficult for a lot of people (doctors, psychs) to understand how this works, which seems to have been the same experience for her. Psychologists should not take people at face value, so to speak, when they are strongly detached and suppressed. They need to realize there are two processes going on, the inner workings and the rationalizations of the mind. Those two can be very different. The more detached, the more radically different they can be.
I also think it's wrong to be on antidepressants when what you really need is people and social connections. Antideps is just a blunting tool in this instance. I was on them for a while and they greatly exacerbated my anhedonia, which made it easier to detach emotionally. Which is ofc catastrophic when your problem is you need to feel more, not less. The problem is you need to learn how to process those emotions, learn how to manage being in them. The best thing would finding a social group where she is welcome and safe, but ofc in modern society that is very difficult
Yes I am questioning the ASPD diagnosis too. I think she can feel emotions but she has dissociated herself from them to the extreme and I do think DBT and a capable and understanding therapist could help her.
I am very strongly questioning the ASPD diagnosis as well. She talks exactly like I do, to the point where I was like "You seem very familiar in my head and I would be your friend", and I am diagnosed with autism and definitely not ASPD. I am diagnosed with severe PTSD, though.
It seems like autism (definitely) with severe PTSD and complex PTSD that caused a blunted emotional response. I have a blunted response to certain things, like if something actually threatens my life, something that happened more than I'd like, I will seem fine for a while. It goes through this Rube Goldberg Machine in the back of my head before I have a response to the trauma.
Cassie you are not screwed. Find a qualified *psychologist* with extensive experience with personality disorders. You can also tell your therapist first off "I am a difficult case. If you do not have extensive experience in the areas of autism spectrum disorder AND PTSD, then please help me find one." I've had multiple therapists agree they were not qualified and helped me through groups that were specific to therapists on social media to get recommendations.
Do not give any therapist more than six weeks. I worked closely with someone and he noticed that because of my anthropologist's knowledge of human behavior, I generally know in much less time than that. You seem to have a very strong analytical brain, and likely a higher IQ than a lot of the therapists you see. That's also why I mentioned seeing a psychologist as opposed to a regular LCPC or an LCSW. Look for Psy. Ds or PhDs. Trust me on that one!
She could make a ton of money starting a CZcams channel about her life and experience. I would support her.
She has a CZcams channel I wish mark would have promoted it 😢
well what is it@@Maria-qd6gw
What is it?@@Maria-qd6gw
@@Maria-qd6gwwhat’s her CZcams channel?
@@photographyislove19 @CinnamonSpiceCreative
Chocolate Autizzy - czcams.com/channels/_3zpzkO1-EkRvT23-YFddw.html
I feel this so hard. Being autistic and trying to mask or blend in takes a toll on us. It's so draining and there's no where to get relief because you have to mask all the time. So we burnout and melt down often (hopefully when we're home alone)
she is polite and super intelligent despite everything she's dealing with. I truly hope she gets the love, happiness and fulfillment she deserves.
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A lot of autistic people are extremely smart. Not sure what’s up with that. Maybe hyper focus on information? 🤔
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@@sheenabaileyand pattern recognition. some autistic people are incredibly good at picking up on patterns in everything
Antisocial personality disorder is sociopathy. If her diagnosis is accurate (I doubt it - she displays affect that’s uncommon in antisocial personality disorder) then she’s a very dangerous person. These are societies hunters. I think she’s just autistic.
"Try, till the day I die." That hit me. Cassy you're awesome, may peace, health and love increase in your life.
Thanks 😊
This young woman has such a sweet spirit. She just needs to be around people that will validate her, love her, listen to her encourage her and let her know that it is ok to be how and who she is.
Take note: this women is going to change the world with her story! All the pain has a purpose Cassy! 🙏🏼You are Loved! ❤
Dear Cassie, i greatly appreciate your brave honesty. I have a different psychological disability (bi-polar), and was not diagnosed until age 61. Six years later, I’m finally able to be open about my disability. Hearing you share your story makes me feel less alone and more brave.
Honestly her explaining the difference between the way society perceives men and women who lean into their sociopathic tendencies is so spot on and it only means she has been really really paying attention to nuance which makes it really sad because of how hard she needed to work to get to where she is now. Society needs to do better. We should try to understand and empathize with everyone because this woman is trying too hard to understand the world around her.
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Sociopaths are extremely dangerous. Empathy from a million miles away, no closer.
Reading your comment made me think how she would do as a criminal profiler. She pays close attention to details that most would overlook
@@alexisrivas307people her and I would also make great private detectives too lol
@@brendab2946everyone thinks they are something they aren’t. How can you be so sure you’re an open minded person? I used to think that and say it often, but I’ve come to realize I’m not. I just like the idea. I think she was misdiagnosed because most autistics struggle with Alexithymia (inability to feel and identify feelings) but I think she’s on to something when she blames it on her trauma. Professionals admit now that they aren’t sure how to tell apart the autism from the ptsd. It’s because we exhibit our ptsd differently. When we become traumatized we lose touch with our inner self, and because we lack the ability to identify social ques in other people we don’t get the opportunity to learn emotional lessons from the interactions with our family or peers. We end up lost and floating in emptiness, depression, anger, and fear. She clearly has empathy. She just can’t identify her own emotions. She has plenty of fear of hurting others. Sociopaths are a lot less concerned with what others think of them, let alone fear of hurting people. They can feel regret after doing so, often because they are impulsive when violent and don’t think things thru. It’s a core element in the disorder. Autistic people can’t function without thinking threw everything, as you can see in this woman.
I know she is saying that she is weird and has to think about having feelings but what I got out of this interview is that she is so much more introspective than the average person and thoughtful and intentional
Absolutely
We do 💯 she 100 percent accurate cus most people wouldn’t think how we think or process feelings the same. It’s too much to explain or talk about
@@juicegawdzavo194B
as someone with autism, I think most autistic people are very thoughtful on the inside of their brain but they struggle to express their feelings/emotions, and that can lead other to think we are as* holes or a threat to them
As I listen to Cassie express the trauma she has suffered since the age of nine, I am truly amazed how she has made it so far in life? She's an amazing young lady! I pray God heals this gentle soul soon!🙏🙏🌹🌹
She’s so self aware, I’m so amazed, I wish her all the peace and love
"I've never been in love...I'm 30 years old."
*Literally three minutes later*
Mark: "Have you ever been in love? How old are you?"
She is spilling her guts. The least you could do is pay attention.
why autists always offended at the most little shit? LOL
I felt this too. At that point it felt like they’re just preying on her story for content.
@McFlyHighwhat
@@noralavender3798Sounds like he's one of those who hates people with ASPD 😂
@@bloodieddeadman6.1.65 He doesn't hate them, he's just jealous. Even more pathetic. Lol.
she's lovely, she's intelligent, she's beautiful and she understands what empathy actually is. "normal" people that dont have any personality disorders still act cruel because of their own ignorance. People are violent and disgusting for many reasons regardless of their mental health and other issues. It is just awful how horrible people can be and how fast we judge without trying to understand. I wish her the best and hopefully she finds ways to deal with her situation. There are good people out there, situations can change for the better. I hope she sees her qualities as well. Because she certainly has many...
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So true, how infuriated that therapists have given up on her when she is trying so hard to get help. I'm a layperson, but clearly she is repressing feelings and detaching if she is crying in her sleep...Regardless, she deserves some help. Hang in there, Cassie, you are still young. Don't give up, you aren't the problem.
@@thepremierenoelle3362love what you said. You are absolutely right. Others would have become recluse but she isn't. She is so brave
@@ChocolateAutizzyi just feel there is nothing wrong with you, you are a great human being!
This comment is so beautiful & heart touching 2Me...
I’ll proud of her for having the courage to discuss her mental health issues, so many people are unable too.
Ow3- because most ppl with mental health challenges are ridiculed like most here that Mark interviewed.
@@sheilaboland6285 The more people educate themselves on mental health issues the more they can appreciate the struggle people go through in life.
That was my thought too. I also thought she might be surprised how many neurotypical people who have deep abilities to be empathetic and wirh strong social skills are also still lonely and isolated.
The only mental issue she has is being too woke, this whole interview is all cap
I'm actually more than happy to talk about my autism and C-PTSD.. but it tends to make people uncomfortable.
Baby Girl you are not alone❤ SO much of what you've described...wow. intellectualizing feelings...that only changed for me when I had my first child. It almost UNLOCKED something in me. We mask so well! It's sad but it's a testament to our STRENGTH. You're not crazy, you're DIFFERENT. You're strong, beautiful, & smart! Thank you for doing this❤
YOU ARE NOT RANTING! It was cathartic hearing your story and validating in ways I’ve never felt comfortable talking about. Especially the part about males vs females or when ethnicity is factored in
I am obviously not a doctor, but I feel like what they said was antisocial personality disorder could be more like Complex PTSD. I was diagnosed with that and it was like I had to intellectualize everything rather than feel for a while because it was too hard. And I could only feel the hard emotions like depression. What an absolutely incredible human being you are!!
In my opinion, whoever diagnosed her with ASPD is a crank. Autistic people have significant variations in emotional processing. More than half of us have alexithymia, which is a cognitive disconnect from emotions. Add into that the complex PTSD from repeated sexual trauma, and it fits the way she experiences and understand feelings. She doesn’t seem to have a single other feature of ASPD.
Cptsd is too real. You may be quite right. I have Cptsd myself, and the aversion, depersonalization, and occasionally agitated paranoia are all very relatable here.
Spot on! That’s exactly what I think as well!!! This poor woman is misdiagnosed and these therapists are really doing her more harm than good. I hope she gets to look into cptsd and then starts getting constructive help!
I just don't think this woman is antisocial, she wants to be normal, and is empatic. Some mean doctor called her sosiopat, but with more trust in her self she will both give and receive more love in her life, o want her too. Perhaps depressed people are a bit coldhearted too.
Yeah, I'm kinda doubting that diagnosis as well. She should try consulting another psychiatrist, just to make sure.
I'm struggling to be as eloquent as Cassie about this, but the biggest thing I'm taking from this video is how hard she was failed, and it's tragic. Normal is overrated, and she's so self-aware, so intelligent, so honest. These are things that should be prized, not shut down. I hope you find the people that are worthy of you, Cassie!
you should see how women treat & talk about male incels with these same problems. tons of empathy for women with these issues, zero empathy for men with the exact same issues... i find that interesting...
@@asdfdc1946 Well I don't think that's right either. I have a lot of men in my family who are on the spectrum so perhaps I'm more sensitive to it. I do think however, that women can be more cutthroat about it because it's CAN be a safety issue to be around men whom they don't immediately clock, but that's just my theory. Sometimes we sacrifice empathy for feeling safe. I'm not saying it's correct, but I'm saying it's the way of the world, at times.
@@user-ss6jx7on6p "Sometimes we sacrifice empathy for feeling safe." --- some people say women are solipsistic by nature... you basically just admitted to that. women only want & care about the strongest men. they disregard all others. generally speaking, women don't give a single fuck if lots of men are lonely & are committing suicide, have mental issues, are on the spectrum etc. women see those men as weak men & they are to be discarded. thats how women look at it. perhaps not literally, but more subconsciously as women's behavior towards these men tend to bear that out.
Agreed
Agreed! 💯💯💯💯💯
I was surprised that Mark asked about her age and whether she’s ever been in love. She had already mentioned that a couple of minutes before, hasn´t she?
It also bewildered me how clear and emotionless she’s talking about her bullying experiences. I’m also on the spectrum, diagnosed this year and I can relate well to the mentalization of feelings and the “empathy” trap (behaving what I think others would like and still be stamped cold). Nevertheless, I was spared from such harsh traumatic experiences, thus I’m not cut off from my own emotions like her. I hope she finds people who help her having empathy for herself (probably not on CZcams though).
Mark asked few other questions that she had allready told. Wonder why Mark was not listening. Maybe just a bad day?
I’m on the spectrum and I noticed all of the questions he asked that she had already answered also.
@@SamiJuntunen1 She’s not ‘hot’ enough to pay attention to. Sad.
She is autistic with PTSD. She does not have a personality disorder AT ALL. She got the label because as she said, "teachers were annoyed with me." She brings up an excellent point of being unemployed compared to her male counterparts.❤
personality disorders develop because of trauma. you don't know better than her doctor just because you watched a short interview of her.
Her other interview on special books for special kids spoke more about her ASPD. This one didn't go as in depth. I don't think she finds it easy to talk about.
And you know this how exactly?
You are not a psychologist 💀
In another interview she mentioned that when she was talking about her abuse her therapist started crying and because she didn't comfort her therapist her therapist diagnosed her with ASPD. That didn't seem professional or scientific.
This young lady is slipping through the cracks and deserves better. Just because her needs are complex doesn’t mean she should be left to cope alone. I hope she finds the support she needs ❤
I can tell you have 2mill percent absolutely NO idea what it’s like to be in the receiving in of the behavior of someone who with a cluster b personality disorder diagnosis
I hope you never experience it
The support is simple as googling 😂
Nope wrong 😒 derekwfrazier
I call bullshit.Most people have a range of social awkwardness. Why do you think people smoke and drink. I'm glad your folks didn't feed you the autism label.
@@derekwfrazieryou're crass
This is like watching myself talk. This is such an out-of-body experience, sort of, because it's like "Is this an interview I did and don't remember that I did it?" I'm autistic, ADHD and I completely understand where she's coming from. This is legit like watching myself and I am SO happy to see an interview like this because it's ME. I have NEVER seen anyone describe exactly how I feel and think and behave and to see such a thing is actually refreshing. I want to be her friend so bad because I relate like...99.999%. She is me. I am her. We are we 😭
Awww😢
@Chocolate_Femcel Awww no sad face! Only smiles over here. A friend sent me this video and we MAD bonded over it. It's been great 😆
same!!!
Autism is interesting. Every autistic person is different and that in itself is interesting. In boys and men autism is diagnosed earlier this is fact. They say autism is more common in males but is that because the statistic exists and we don’t think of autism right away when considering a girl or woman. I would like to hear more about autism. The few people I know with autism are low functioning. He can’t read and can sort of express how he is feeling. I’m never sure if he is just copying what others have told him what to say. His mom has done him a huge disservice. He was diagnosed as a child but his mom didn’t do as much as she could’ve. The mom didn’t expect much out of him so he never learned how to do things around the house nor did she try teaching him how to read at home. It would be wonderful to hear from more autistic people. Tell us what you think and how you think. How you think as in the thought process. I also heard there is a shady side of the Autism Speaks organization that I will be looking into. If you know anything about this please share that with us.
@alexisrivas307 That is so sad to hear and I feel for him in that regard. Autism Speaks is also very shady and harms the autistic community in so many ways so I definitely suggest doing a deep dive and listening to autistic content creators speak on the subject so you can understand more. It would be very helpful!
It's amazing that you're educating yourself and wanting to learn more and hear from actually autistic people about our experiences and how we live and function and operate and educate yourself on what we our needs and desires are.
If you know one autistic person, you know ONE autistic person. This is something that we always say because autistics are so diverse and the spectrum is rather broad yet we all experience, at the very core, the same set of issues really. Otherwise, if there was no commonality we wouldn't be able to BE autistic. However, even in those commonalities, we are all still vastly different from one another in many different ways just as neurotypical people are and I think that's something that's very important to remember. No two neurotypical people are exactly the same just as no two neurodiverse people are exactly the same.
If you want to talk more, educating about autism, psychology and sociology are all special interests of mine so feel free to look me up on Insta or something.
-Akita
My daughter is 23, and is also High-Masking High-Functioning Autistic with Anti-Social Personality Disorder. She was only diagnosed last year.
We (my family) always knew she was a little "different", but she is so intelligent and well-spoken I attributed the bullying she suffered as coming from jealousy.
So much of what Cassy is saying while telling her own story hits home for us.
I hope and pray Cassy can find true happiness and fulfill her great potental in life.
Just a quick heads-up that folks in autistic community have told me they don't like the use of the term "high functioning", rather prefer high support or low support. Best of luck to you and your daughter! ❤
I’ve watched her interview on SBSK and she has opened my eyes to so much more behind these diagnosis she mentioned. I’ve been through similar situations as her. My son is Autistic and was diagnosed at the age of two. She has motivated me to get an eval for myself…and I am 35. It’s so difficult 😣
I wish her intelligence would have been embraced by the teachers and I’m sorry about the childhood trauma. Cassy you’re a wonderful person. I wish you happiness in the future. You’ll find work and you’ll be great.
I wish her intelligence had been recognized and appreciated, too. I was one of those students who many teachers felt threatened by and tried to squelch, as well. My questions were out of genuine inquisitiveness and not intended to pose a personal challenge. Challenging ideas is a good thing and any good teacher will recognize that. I believe Cassy can find work where she is appreciated, though it has been a lifelong challenge for me. The main thing I learned was to build specialized knowledge and skills that are in short supply and to go where I am needed and appreciated and move on, if not. For example, in the school system, I attended trainings and became an expert in the state standards, expected levels of achievement and scientifically based methods to increase those numbers. Everybody hates thinking about how to teach to the test, including me. Still, I could provide a quick target and the means for classroom teachers to get there and deliver those interventions, so they didn’t have to. If you understand abuse and what constitutes a mandated reporting situation and doesn’t, if you know how to bring in culturally relevant material and not be racist or classist, those personal strengths and experiences help (even if you’re surrounded by people who don’t, you will have better results with at-risk students in poor schools). In human services, I do better with the opioid crisis than with problems where people have time to debate whether the problem is external or internal (the old personal responsibility vs. systemic change political battle). You can work in just about any field, as a person with strong ideas. You just have to be aware of where there is an unsolved, pressing problem and ideas and life experience are greatly needed. Alternately, you can avoid working with social problems, which nearly everyone thinks they have the answers to, and work in an area where either physical labor is needed (if you’re physically healthy and strong enough), or mathematical or scientific formulas simply need to be solved, logically. There are a lot of internet courses available for free, if you just need to build knowledge to test out of academic classes that are missing from your transcript. Whatever you do, don’t go around hoping that people will pick up on your ideas or lamenting when they don’t. Just assume that won’t happen (and, if it does, it’s a bonus). Use your strength of mind to develop knowledge and skills that are in demand and make yourself indispensable. Usually, this involves learning about things and doing work others don’t want to do. From that position, you can lead by example, rather than your employment being dependent on others seeing things your way. You don’t have to go into a field from a place of power. It’s possible to start a job and look for an unfilled niche in the field that you can work/study your way into. Sometimes you have to jump into a field to see what’s being done and what’s needed. In many cases, people who are typically seen as outside the norm do this instinctively, when social acceptance and popularity doesn’t come easily. Sometimes it’s hard to tell, if you’re not good at picking up social cues (I’m not) but if you think you aren’t being well-received, you are probably right. Don’t worry about what others think of you, but do take heed and start looking for something else. What others think tells you more about them and your environment than it does about you. Use it to get a feel for the climate and if it’s not fit for your survival, seek another one or find a shade tree, a place where you can persevere, within it.
I think the intelligence wasn't embraced because she is black NOT because she is female.
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Love your comment @Oneeks. She is clearly intelligent, thoughtful and she's right about wanting to find someone who 'gets her'.
As a black man with ADD born to parents from the caribbean, I genuinely feel for her. I was fortunate enough to have parents that got me diagnosed me when I was young. However, in the black community if you’re seen as different or weird you can quickly become an outcast. I went from masking my symptoms in public to not really socializing or going out at all because of the bullying. I had to read books and watch videos to understand feelings and subtle social cues in body language. It’s like learning to be a person through a PowerPoint. With her being diagnosed at 25, I can only imagine what she went through growing up.
I went through hell dude
@@ChocolateAutizzy I was recently diagnosed at 39! It was a relief to know why I am the way I am and it has helped me to seek understanding and how to live with this.
@@ChocolateAutizzyI feel so connected to you, I grew up at Hungary in a small country village, where mental health wasn’t really cared for too. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32, with C-PTSD at 33, and now I got diagnosed at 34 with Borderline Personality Disorder. I was sexually abused as a child, and as a teenager, grew up with my abusive mother, bullied at school , and had several abusive relationships. Now I’m in a healthy relationship for 6 years, and luckily I got a lots of support where I live now ( I moved to Denmark, in Hungary unfortunately still didn’t change much) , but I’m so hurt, and so broken and angry a lots of times. I feel the grief too, about what I could have been if I got support as a child. I’m not working neither, and I struggle so much with that too. Also my Borderline are judged badly too, at the moment I don’t have much experience with the judgment, because I’m freshly diagnosed, but I know it’s not gonna be an easy ride, that’s sure. I’m very grateful to you for standing up, and talking about your struggles, it’s mean a lot to me. ❤ I want to do the same one day, when I feel strong enough. I want to help others with our problems, because I know there are a lots of little girls, who are still going through struggles and stuff like that, and I don’t want them to feel alone, the way I feel myself.
@@rebeccanewell3449can you explain how you got diagnosed and the processes… in dealing with issues like not getting past certain points in life and socially… wondering how long I’ve had a learned behavior of masking and not being able to let authentic me shine through
@@ChocolateAutizzy it's so tiring isn't it. Constantly needing to try and second guess how people are going to respond to your 'self'. If I may say, your thoughtful responses show a very high level of self-awareness ofwhat you are experiencing/have experienced and it was a real pleasure hear you talking about your life. I really resonated with your response to the question about if you had any advice for others.... when other people ask me for advice on the issues I have experienced in my ADHD/ASD life I usually reply with 'how honest do you want me to be?' because I can't/won't sugar coat it ❤
Cassy i dont know if your going to read this, but thank you for sharing your video on this channel! I am 21 years old, black and female and your experiences describe most of my childhood growing up. I always felt different and often got bullied and misunderstood for many of reasons you mentioned, Keep on being brave and sharing your voice hun, especially for the black community where a lot of these are dismissed as behavior problems 😢💜
*Update- No wonder I resonated so much with this, I received an autism diagnosis 🥺❤️. Thank you Cassy for bringing this to a mainstream audience
I'm so glad to see her have an interview where she can be more up front and deep with her experience. I lived the SBSK interview, but this is incredibly different in the sense that she is able to say things other people in similar situations can really understand and relate ♡
When she said that people aren’t trying to understand her at all. . . Wow, I felt that. Bless her.
Thanks 😊
That's just life in general. Most people don't want to try to understand something that's outside of their "norm".
@@JuliusAhenkora right, it was the way she articulated that feeling that was impactful to me. Even though she may “feel” so different from neurotypical ppl, we ALL feel misunderstood from time to time, and I felt connected to her in the moment she articulated that feeling.
Couldn't agree more. Why is it that neurodivergent people must fit in to a neurotypical world? Where's the give and take?
@@MrsCassieToots probably because most people are neurotypical and unfortunately majority rules
As the mom of an autistic little, I wish I could hug you. You deserved so much better but you still have so much life still ahead of you. Love you and I'm rooting for you girly! ❤
Thanks 😊
I'm a mom of a autistic 6yr old boy and I felt the same way I just want to hug her and give her support ❤ bless her
You might not wanna use the term "little" for your child as that's usually used by adults who engage in fetishistic DDLG.
@@Aromatic.Bleach she might not be referring to a child
By “little” do you mean your child??
We are discovering my 14 year old struggles with a lot of the same issues. Im so grateful we are catching it now and this interview is an amazing resource. Thank you for this interview
What a beautiful human being! I wish only the best for her moving forward. ✨
I totally understand what she describes as being a "know it all." It's crazy how you can be a smart kid and adults look down on you and make you feel bad because you were aware of something they weren't.
Smart (white) girls with IQs over 160 used to just be idealized as brilliant and nerdy. Now (at 63) I learn that went along with autism. I am grateful my whytness kept me safe, and I hope the genius black girls (besides those who made NASA successful) also found some safety while we all accept the fact that brilliance was only ever adorable in white men, and then only if they would sit down and shut up when told to do so.
Simply knowing something and owning your capacity to share it... I will never understand how the ego of a neurotypical can twist this truth into challenging or disrespecting authority
No, not "adults". Teachers. Elementary school teachers are entirely unimpressive people and deserve nothing but contempt.
It literally makes no sense and shows their lack of understanding
My heart goes out for her. What she said about her teaching herself to be empathetic when her brain physically can’t while the neurotypicals who are supposed to be empathetic not showing it, is such an important insight and is so true. I hope she finds her tribe through this video because she deserves it man. God bless her.
Amen
@@michellejohnsen912 thank you
@@ChocolateAutizzyyou're welcome! I have a 10 year old son with autism, adhd and seizures. If I was in the same town as you, I would be your friend. Regarding therapist's, I am "normal " and have never had a truly helpful therapist. Even for marriage counseling, I have had uncaring, "only in it for the money " type therapist's. They aren't honest and don't actually want to help. They want a perpetual client. Anyway, I get my help from the Lord Jesus Christ. The Bible is God's word and is more help than anything else in my life. I would encourage you and anyone else to seek God and find rest in Him. God bless you 🕊
You can't make that observation without having deep feelings. I don't think this woman was diagnosed correctly tbh.
@@PardonMyPresencetf bro you don't need feelings to be observant you just need common sense lol
I think this was one of the most enlightening interviews I’ve watched. Thanks so much for putting yourself out there and sharing your story.
Gosh, she’s so articulate and seems so honest and genuine about all of her experiences. I wish her so much luck in the future, she deserves to have her dreams ❤️
Deep respect for this woman.
Thanks 😊
I love her! She has no clue how well she's able to communicate ❤
It took me 30 years lol
@@ChocolateAutizzy Some people live their whole lives and never achieve your level of swlf awareness. Well done lady🌟💖🏆
@@ChocolateAutizzyI hope you know that you can be or do anything. It may not be easy. Very hard but keep going and you will. With love❤
Right? And she thinks she's rambling.
@@ChocolateAutizzyamazing though. I still can't
Shout out to you sister for embracing your conditions and educating yourself on how to grow.
You are a beauty and articulate and are a catch for the right one that is patient and willing to understand you. Wish you the very best. Stay encouraged!
This was so helpful. I have just been diagnosed at 56. I havent had the words to explain it as well as she has. So this helped me have the right wording.
"I want to be capable of love" That hit hard. Mental health and its complications are difficult. She is an authentically good person. It's very hard to be vulnerable. I wish her peace & healing.
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Yet she very easily and naturally stated she loved her mother. I don't believe that was her masking. She certainly processes things differently but I have very little doubt she's capable of love, even if a slightly different version than neurotypicals are used to. I hope you learn to realize this, Cassy.
only someone capable of love can say that ;)
Id like to as well
I think i saw her on special books for special kids. She’s so inspiring.
Your right I also seen her ❤
You did. I could listen to her speak for hours. ❤️🩹
I as well.
She seems to be masking so much less now, which is wonderful to see.
Yes!
That was an amazing video, keep up the good work. DONT GIVE UP!!!!!
My parents are Trinidadian and I get it. I’ve been gaslit and total I was being unreasonable and acting disrespectful, just for wanting to have boundaries. Some in my family have mental health issues that they just ignore, and it has led to me now struggling with mental health issues, from having to cope with them not wanting to deal with it.
Don’t give, anyone who is reading this and struggling. There is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you don’t see it yet.
And thank you Mark for all your hard work. Your channel @SoftWhiteUnderbelly inspires me to continue to be empathetic to others
You did so well, Cassy! I have autism too and some the things you say, are so well put and I'll keep those words in my mind. Thank you for being an inspiration! ❤
She sounds so much more sane than 98% of the other interviews
She socially awkward not a junkie
She is 100% sane she is just neurodiverse
@@rebeccanewell3449 I'm one too...
I am a 51 year old woman with a son who is autistic and a daughter who has ADHD. I'm just now understanding my own self diagnosis of autism and ADHD. Thank you Marc for showcasing this subject and being an astounding interviewer! You bring out the very best in everyone all the while without judgement !
Facts😂😂😂
Interesting how all of the so called “normal people” throughout her life, were actually the ones with antisocial behaviors. No one can help her because she apparently isn’t the one who needs help. Start by treating the abusive, non- empathetic “normal” people. Then we shall see beautiful souls like hers flourish. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us all.❤
This was my life
It's sort of ironic they bullied her not being normal but they believe that somehow meant they were allowed to physically and verbally assault her by pushing and spitting on her and calling her a stup!d blank
So true ❤
Exactly. She is not broken. She does not need to be fixed. She needs the opportunity to exist in a kinder, more inclusive world.
I’ve never in my whole entire life related to someone the way I related to this Beautiful Woman. THANK YOU FOR SHARING!!!
Wow. Thank you for sharing Cassy. I pray that everything will continue to progress positively in your life and you find the peace you deserve.
She shouldn't have to pay for therapy. There must be some sort of program to help her with those costs. My heart goes out to her so much.
She stated she's unemployed, she should qualify for medicaid.
@@AnnaNicole82or Obama care
Complex personality stuff costs a lot more for a specialist / someone who will take you because it will be years of work.... a friend of mine said a therapist for her cluster B and borderline stuff is a minimum of $4000 a month...
@@christinabrault its like they discard people like this woman as a "defective model that's lots of work " then charge a ton of money
this is part of the reason why we should have universal healthcare because this could be ANYONE, doesn't matter the social status etc...
Nah this is real. Why am I paying for something that I need in order to be a better person for everyone
Thank you for this one. I know EXACTLY what she’s talking about. I’m a 35 year old black woman with autism as well and and I just found out last year - we are completely overlooked. Appreciate you..
Also, I hope she knows she’s doing just fine. We are harmless people and people don’t understand things that are different. I hope she finds her passion and is doing better. I just want to give her a hug because I know exactly how she feels.
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We're not overlooked....we are undiagnosed
I have a question my son was just diagnosed do you think its hereditary ? my mom always wondered if I had add but she never got me checked im 25 now I have a four year old should I get diagnosed too ? and do they give ssd for autism and adhd or just autism
@@MarshaePosh I believe it is. A lot more people have it and just don't know. I know I mimicked people for years but that could have been explained away. Ignorance is half the battle.
What were your first steps in being diagnosed? I'm certain that I have these same traits.
You are so smart and so strong. I’m so sorry for all the hardships and abuse you survived. You’re really amazing and I have faith you will find love and find purpose in life. You have all the tools you need. Seeking help is so brave. I’m rooting for you, dear! 😘 stay strong.
Thank you so much for all the information you have given us! The world needs what you have explained so clearly! I wish you could speak with parents groups, teachers, and therapists. They all need help in understanding. It could make a big difference. Don't give up!
You asked her if she’s ever been in love and her age literally minutes after she already said she’s never felt love at 30. She also mentioned her employment status and the medical student and you questioned her again. Pay more attention.
No kidding... these aren't small details of the interview either
This channel is not for u
I appreciate her sooo much
@@josephbrickson5952 the person who’s interviewing her do not pay attention
She sure seems like a sweetheart to me. It sounds like she works so hard to understand her neurodivergence and to make others feel comfortable around her. I like the way her brain approaches feelings and emotions - she has a good heart, she just also has the challenges of the filters her brain puts on her interactions. Man, I’d totally hang out with her.
Thanks
@@ChocolateAutizzy You are amazing Cassy, Your story will defenetely be heard and people will understand you better, I now understand you and I would really feel comfortable around you. I love you my sister❤
I'm a 36 year old woman and I have only now started to look into getting an autism/adhd diagnosis. And i believe my depression, anxiety, ptsd and other mental issues I have dealt with all my life are as bad as they are because my parents and my doctors failed to spot it when I was younger. Even now when i look back, I clearly had signs showing autism and adhd. But when you have parents who ignore their own problems, you have no chance of getting help. The only problem now though is that it costs so much to get a diagnosis and any professional help and I can't afford it, because i struggle to work because of the issues that arise when you don't get a diagnosis and the proper help you need when you are young. It's frustrating.
You are so smart, it's so awful that u were failed by your school. You are absolutely amazing and so inspiring. Your unique in a wonderful way you should be so proud of yourself for doing this video its so necessary so all of humanity can understand each other and to be kind at all times ❤
This was so educating for me, thank u for sharing your story x
This child has such a beautiful heart and mind. I pray that Cassy finds the joy, love, assistance and acceptance she is so deserving of.
She is a 30 year old woman. Please stop infantilizing full grown women.
Do you know what antisocial personality disorder means? They have very little or no empathy at all and are master manipulators. While it's true that all good people deserve happiness, you should be really careful around people with this disorder.
@@memecki She's a very bright young woman, but these disorders have stunted her emotional growth. She's still quite girlish and it's endearing.
She's so cute, I love her body language and mannerisms. Keep your head up girl, you are very brave and a shining beacon of light, guiding us to the path of acceptance and inclusivity.
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@@ChocolateAutizzy thank you for doing this i feel so seen, heard and validated.
@@ChocolateAutizzy how do you feel about incels like Elliot Rodger and Alek minnasian? People think its their Autism that caused their incel status??? They also went on to become mass murderers.
Yes! We need to re-think so many diagnoses through the lens of trauma.
@@ChocolateAutizzyI just wanna say you’re not alone! and you will find people you can be yourself around. Stay strong one love ✌🏾👽
Thank you Cassy and Mark. I am pushing 60 years old and just starting to learn why I've been so dismissed by people when I'm just being me. There was no diagnosis for people like us when I was coming up - I was just weird and a know it all. Hearing your words helped to put everything into perspective. I think that sexual abuse is a big factor in this condition. Being violated at a young age teaches us that others can be dangerous. We may feel guilty or responsible for the abuse. Something in us must have triggered this person so it is safer to retreat and isolate. We learn that being ourselves might attract unwanted attention. We end up on the sidelines, observing how others successfully navigate life. But it's fake to imitate. Everyone knows it, even us. But in my experience, we have the biggest hearts shielded by a steel wall and a moat. What has worked for me? Volunteering to help animals. You may not be in a position to own a pet but you can volunteer at a shelter. I currently work with abused and neglected horses and they have succeeded in scaling the wall and crossing the moat. My heart explodes when I see an abused horse recover and start to interact again. Animals can be a mirror. Our traumas can be similar. I can't recommend this enough. There is no judgement - on either side so our mutual empathy can blossom. People are too difficult for me but animals fit perfectly.
70 to 93 percent of all communication is nonverbal, so someone who can't read body language is essentially blind. That's so painful.
very well said
I didn't find out about my autism until I was 50. My parents knew and hid it out of shame from everyone. That decision guaranteed that my life would suck. I was severely bullied growing up and it continued throughout my life. The teachers even hated me. They would humiliate me after I got bullied. I was even sent to the principal's office to get swats. I never had a girlfriend and had internalized my unknown autism into self-hate and shame. I am utterly alone. My brain never turns off. Cannabis helps.
your my new friend AU I too from the Hard KNocks CLUB Feel ya
They didn't know what autism was 50 years ago... People don't do these things to you on purpose. It's kinda part of nature I guess. Any individual animal or human that acts differently from the rest is always shunned. And typically they do not find a mate. This isn't just out of cruelty either. It's nature. We look for the healthiest to mate with. Any sort of physical or mental issues means that we are tainted. And our genes are not strong and good enough that should be passed into future generations. I have issues myself. Not sure what. But I have never been normal. And have had a battle instead of a life. But I realize that for what ever reasons I ended up the way I am, I can't blame myself or anyone else. They are going to react to me the way they are supposed to. And I am going to hate them, the way that anyone would who has been cast out of society...
Yep I disagree that men "get better treatment" than women. FIrst, for most of history nobody got a diagnosis because modern medicine has only been around for about 100 years. Autism diagnosis has only been around for about 50 years.
Second, when you look at all the statistics, majority of criminals are men, majority of people sent to jail are men, majority of homeless are men, majority of murder victims are men, and 80% of suicides are men. Women perform much better than men in just about all social metrics.
Stay strong brother
@Ron autism certainly was known about 50 years ago, although not a popular diagnosis. I think a lot of people are very dependent on their parents willingness to challenge schools and medical professions in order to get a diagnosis, as children. Sadly not all professionals are knowledgeable and as we now know females go under diagnosed, as the criteria is still based on data appropriate for males. I would never tell anyone that their experience was incorrect, unless i knew that for sure 100%. If people feel let down they are entitled to feel and express it imho.
As a black man that is high-functioning autistic (or someone with Aspergers), I can't tell you how frustrating it is to deal with people SOCIALLY! People want to pick at me, bully me or make fun of me because I stick out like sore thumb.
And because of how self-aware and emotionally intelligent I am, I always get angry when I try to avoid conflict with other people who lacks and purposefully lacks self-awareness and emotional intelligence because of the simple games I know they're trying to play when they try to mess with me. Like, I know their motives before they even speak.
Also, this woman looks so stunning!
Thank you
I've rarely understood this idea of sticking our like a sore thumb. I assure you it's much more self applied pressure etc than the average person even remotely caring, let alone someone sticking out like a sore thumb. As someone on spectrum the entire way and methods in which you perceive the world is different. So you perceiving that you stick out like a sore thumb, does not mean that's what everyone else perceives. Just do you. Please attempt to escape the self-inflicted 'sticking out'. People will respond to that change, I assure.
I understand ❤️🩹
Stating “High functioning “ is self hate and discrimination. They’ve conditioned you to bully yourself.😪 these words inaccurately describe what it mean to be an autistic individual. it stems from ableist ideology and is harmful to others, regardless of how you’ve been brainwashed by a ableist speciesist society.
@@OogtugQuiet, white
It is EXTREMELY hard to be diagnosed physiologically as a black women. I meet so many women who believe they have ADHD and they have all the symptoms but psychiatrist won't diagnose them. So when Cassy said I wonder where I'd be, she isn't alone!!! I'm sad that she's unemployed and I hope that she can find her way🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I really appreciate both of these videos by the interviewee. Thanks for sharing.
When she talked about people watching to try and understand how “normal” people behave I rly felt that. Growing up I was also outcasted and had no idea what was wrong with me, I tired so hard to follow along but everyone knew there was something wrong with me before I did. I’m still not sure what it is, but therapy is helping! I’m so proud of her
We are the same with this....we are special I believe. ❤️
I'm experiencing the same thing. I feel your pain.
😭 crying inside. I am autistic and relate a lot to what she says. What I see is an extremely intelligent woman who was mistreated emotionally by people and now has ptsd.
For all autistic men and women
@Astro-J if ur trying to villainize this woman u can go fuck off
What kind of human being goes around bullying a autistic individual?
@@Astro-J You realize that "psychopath" does not mean serial killer right?
@@never2muchluther803unfortunately many, many kids.
Thank you for another super interesting video, Mark! If possible, it would be great to see more stories of ladies on the autism spectrum, there's still a lot of research to be done on autism in girls vs. boys. This helps shed more light on it..
I'm also on the spectrum and i relate a lot to the apologising ("Im sorry if what i said is offensive,")... I've done this so much to be on the safe side and pray that this made my side of a conversation friendly nice and acceptable, that I'm struggling to stop overly apologising and im now 32, got diagnosed 4 years ago.. Currently home from my job due to burnout which feels like the build-up of years of masking and draining energy to keep up with the social aspects of life and the stress that I didn't know how to deal with in a healthy manner without being regarded as pathetic.
I used to let people walk over me (not talk back in arguments, just sit silently and take it all in), but this has been turning around in the past period into me getting (irrationally?) very angry or sad. I now feel i have less control over my emotions and am scared to snap. Struggling to find and keep a stable middle-ground to function throughout the day.
It's become harder to find any kind of motivation to leave the house, also on anti dipressants.
I can relate to everything that Cassy is speaking about, absolutely everything, even though I've never been diagnosed with any type of condition. I have my own coping mechanisms that have helped me throughout the years, which have helped because obviously I'm still here to talk about it. Not everyone can do this, very few people can actually help themselves without outside help or medication. It's not easy, but it's not impossible either. Hope things are going great for you Cassy, please stay as sweet and beautiful as you now are! May you continue to blossom and grow!
How can you diagnose someone who is literally isolated and bullied by all the people around her as a sociopath ? Can we not see that in this case, the person isolates herself from society and uses a mask for her own good and not by selfishness or ill intent ?
Who is being manipulative and dishonest here ? Cassy or the people who mistreated and abandoned her for being weird ?
I was bullied too in severe way, sexual abused, severe emotionally abused when I was a child, teenager etc. I became sociopathic, Schizoid. I isolate myself from the people, society as well, I show disregards towards people feelings, I have no empathy, compassion for the people at all. And I have impulsive problems, authority’s problems, rules etc.
I am 35 diagnosed one with Schizoid and ASPD by age 26….Meh, I think sociopathy is genetic condition and trauma, both required. She has autism means she can’t be a sociopath. Sociopaths aren’t autistic from my understanding….Autism can show symptoms of a psychopath, cold, emotionless. But it doesn’t mean they’re one…..I am not even a sociopath. I show traits of a sociopath ….
Exactly, I think it is a misdiagnosis
That’s how narcissists and sociopaths are created.
based on this interview she doesnt present as a sociopath to me, HOWEVER, sociopaths are really good at winning an audience.........
That’s why I say a lot of these diagnoses are some made up bullshit.
As a mother of an autistic child that has issues with socialization this breaks my heart. My baby is only 7 and has tried so hard to fit in with the regular children. He’s very intelligent IQ wise but, he wants so badly to fit in with the kids. He has been brutally bullied the last 2 years of school including being punched, his lunch thrown into the trash and being made fun of. Even sexually assaulted by another student. I absolutely hate how society treats those that are different. This video was so informative and I’m glad you are bringing light to this subject. Cassy keep being you. You are an awesome young woman and I hope things get better for you.
That's terrible re the sexual assault. Sorry to hear this. Has the abuser been caught?? I hope your son is ok now, if you know what I mean.
this made me tear up I’m so sorry
My son had an aid with him through 12 grade. No bullying but no friends either. He went away for college and spent most of his time alone. I want him to be able to have friends, engage at work. So far he doesn't seem to be interested. Autism is so disheartening.
Autism is hard. My daughter is on the spectrum. And I work from home and this year she will be homeschooled.... no need for me to go to prison for hurting someone's bullying child
@natashacalfee3084 With all your son has gone through, have you had the kid that sexually assaulted him arrested? Also have you moved him to another school? If you've done none of these things, you have failed that child.
Processing your feelings takes a very long time, and it can be super frustrating because you just want to be over it. But it drags on and drags you down and it seems like it will never ever end.
Wow. I see so much of my personality traits and experiences in this young woman. I'm grateful that she's sharing her experiences because it's so eye opening for me. I'm in my 40s and not sure how a diagnosis would benefit me at this stage in life, other than affirmation, but I'm happy that we're having these conversations more for younger women and girls. I'm realizing that women can also resort to substance abuse the way she mentioned our male counterparts often do.
Being a woman of color and diagnosed AuADHD in adulthood, this interview is so important and personal to me. She is so brave to do this, thank you Mark for your hard work 🙏
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@@codirennke1109ooooh, I can’t wait to watch later, thank you for sharing that with me, girl ❤ Sending lots of love ❤❤
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When she said “they say we don’t have empathy- but I’m always trying to so hard … but people don’t try to understand me”, fk I felt that to my core!!!
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God bless you for sharing. Keep your head up! The fact that you can open up and explain things in detail says how great of a person you are destined to be great…. Your helping with your story.
I feel so seen by this video that I don’t even know what to think or say. This video feels like I’m watching myself explain the feelings and thoughts that I wish people would give the time to say. I sometimes doubt that i could really have autism it’s only a hunch and I’ve never been formally diagnosed but the way she explained things sounds just like me and how I have been navigating life. I wish someone would have seen the signs in me when I was younger too because there’s so much I want to do but because I have so much unpacked mental health issues I can’t live life as earnestly and wholeheartedly as I desperately wish because I’m always so exhausted by being alive. I’m so thankful I could see this video and know that I wasn’t making things up in my head and that I am not the only person who navigates life this way. I’m so grateful. Watching this feels like future me talking me right now and that feels so strange but comforting
She's extremely well-spoken and has an excellent self-awareness and understanding of herself and others perception too.
That’s how I am too but I realized a lot of it is projecting your negative thoughts onto other people because of you poor self image & in turn it becomes reality since you already have that attitude
Calling an adult "well spoken" is not a compliment.
@@TVInformative Why do you think so? And I disagree with you. Lots of adults struggle with language and grammar due to many reasons such as socioeconomic status, social circle, phyisiological reasons etc.
Knowing how to articulate and communicate ones thoughts in a clear way is definitely impressive to me, and certainly not something to take for granted in adulthood.
@@FlippinFruitFlyI totally agree 👍🏾💯
@@TVInformative I agree!, Being "well-spoken: as an adult is the norm and should be the norm.
I would love to be her friend! She seems so genuine, kind and intentional. Sending support and hugs to you, Cassidy.
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Same 😩
You're a clown LOL, too bad you can't be her friend because she's retarded and has those disorders which means she can't have people around like you clown
Me too
Exact same.
Yes. All of your comment....yes.
What an articulate, well spoken, self aware and gentle woman. I’d love to be her friend. Shes so intelligent and seems like such a genuine woman
What a beautiful soul❤ Intelligent, compassionate, and resilient. I enjoyed this interview. I wish her the best in life!
"The only feelings I feel are the bad ones." 😔 Cassy is so smart and self-aware. I hope for the best for her. This breaks my heart.
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She could be a therapist, and that may help her by helping others
@@ChocolateAutizzy you are not a femcel.. you are beautiful, smart, articulate young woman who had a late start blossoming into the person you are today. We are ALL a work in progress, don't give up cassie ❤ I understand your struggle
Do you think I am self aware?
I have undiagnosed autism and my husband sent this to me, saying how much I talk like her and have such a similar experience to her. This is so comforting for me to watch.
Your husband is awesome
@@foxxie1702 he is!! It meant a lot to me
Do you think it'll help to get diagnosis? Or is it better to just try to stay away from people?
Same thing happened to me. My boyfriend watched documentaries on autism all night and when I came into the room in the morning, he said "I know what you have!" 🥹 he said I talk just like the women he saw and I share their experiences. I also have the same bullying experiences as the woman in this video and never knew why and always wanted to know what it is about me that always led to me being bullied no matter where I went. I told my mum about what my boyfriend said. She said she thought so for decades and that my dad may have it too, and my sister may be on the spectrum as well. She just never dared to tell us her thought and seemed relieved that someone else did. I want to seek diagnosis at some point. I've watched and learned enough to be pretty certain at this point. It's feels freeing but mixed with grief over being misunderstood so many years and I heavily relate to the female-specific struggles. My dad is admired for being a "Sheldon Cooper" type, I've been shut down for being a know-it-all.
Beautiful young woman with a lot of potential..Praying for her and you Mark!!❤
I’ve learned so much from watching this. Thank you for sharing🖤
"People were beating the shit out of me". What I gathered from this enlightening interview is that it's way harder to be a woman with those disorders since it creates traits that are detrimental to women in society while men are admired for it. And I never thought about that before.
Because psychological traits leading to the appearance of indifference, stoicism, or sociopathy and psychopathy individuals is attractive to females on a biological level (read: under evolved) , while those same traits aren't to men, because men have to compete against each other for sex and reproduction.
I wouldn't say 'way harder' because the dynamics are different inherently it hardly makes it comparable
Bingo!
@@DTreatzIt's so interesting and disheartening how much of human behavior is formed around mating and mating opportunities.
I understand this is for the propagation of the species but I'm stating this as someone who is indifferent to the prospect.
Ohhh noo black boys were getting beat up too. I used to make fun of this autistic kid we did not what was wrong with him neither did the teachers. If you are in your 30’s it happened in all areas.
What an amazing and informative interview. She is so articulate, and speaks about her experience with such clarity and insight. I love how she touches so distinctly on how different ASD and ASPD can look in women and girls - we have so much to learn, and hearing from women like this is massively informative. She is amazing. She so wasn't rambling! Thank you for sharing your story, and to Mark for providing the platform.
Thanks
My sentiment exactly. To me, as a female from Amsterdam, Holland, it is unbelieveble that Cassy was not diagnosed earlier in life.
I think she's incredibly intelligent. If someone with this disorder can só clearly explain how it works, and how it feels, they have to be smart and have insight. How that relates to "not feeling" is difficult to understand. For others. If I would meet her and she'd speak to me like this, we would have a lively conversation in no-time.
I wonder if that is true; it seems more to me she feels through a detour.
She has to think longer about what and how, but I think it's still there, in a different way.
And for ****'s sake: STOP the stigmatisation!!!!!
People have brains, that are incredibly complex. We just begun to explore it.
I hate the stupidity, the shallow-ness, the prejudices, the ignorance and I'm very sorry to say: a lot of Americans are very good at that.
Cassy could be reciting my own life story. I wish her the best and I’m happy she shared here
Thank you for speaking up Cassy. You brought up some very good points regarding gender and it's role in social acceptance of sociopathy and autism diagnosis. I'm not diagnosed, but I relate to you in many ways. Throughout the years I've had people say I'm autistic, r*tarded, or even straight-to-my-face say that I'm "incapable of love". I often feel like a robot that is trying to learn what it means to be human but I'm failing miserably, then others see me struggling and take advantage of me. It's so incredibly alienating when all you want is to have a normal, boring life like everyone else with good friends and a partner that cares. You deserve to be loved and I wish you the best.