I can confidently say, as someone who’s uncomfortable using tampons, I have never once been made fun of for using a pad, nor has anyone ever pointed them out to me… am I just lucky?
You aren't alone. No one has ever bothered me about not wearing tampons either. It's not a big deal. I don't think anyone noticed that I wear pads... Even when I was a teenager. I tried a tampon once because I was on the swim team, but it was so uncomfortable that I would just not go to swimming practice the week of my period. My mum was totally cool with that. The only time anyone ever said anything to me was when I started my period and I was wearing white shorts. That was embarrassing.
My mom is in her 60’s and she wore pads up until she stopped having her period. I believe she said she got toxic shock syndrome when wearing a tampon when she was a teenager and never wore again. I personally hate pads but not everyone likes tampons either
I'm uncomfortable using tampons as well, but I was unfortunately made fun of once when I was younger for using pads. The other girls said it was gross and that it was "like wearing a diaper."
@@PotatoChicken-gg1ju it is not like wearing a nappy. I have had to wear nappies before because of a bad period and because of postpartum bleeding. There is a huge difference between wearing a Depends nappy and wearing a pad.
Same like was that her teacher? If it was man I really could never. Even if it was a stranger. I don’t even like talking about it with my mom it’s just straight up weird to me. But if something is going on I do talk with my mom about it and no one else.
My mom was this way. Did not let us get tampons. Only pads growing up. Those were the years of big bulky pads..not like todays that are thinner and so much better. Any who, I finally 'took the leap' when I got my own car and cash and figured out what worked best for me. Now i have a daugther, shes young but Ive already 'walked her down the aisle". Showed her all choices available to her. And am grateful for things like period underwear that is out there now. Like use all 3 if needed.
My mom had toxic shock from tampons and I got sick with them too 🤷 was told I had allergies to it or something but it isn't as "safe" for all as it appears.
@@mktay2067 that’s because you have to switch out the tampons just like you do with the pads after a certain point if you keep the tampons in too long it won’t be a good thing
There's also some stuff that isn't usually in that aisle, like cloth pads. They need rinsed out in the sink and then run through a washing machine, but they absorb so much more and are way more comfortable!! It doesn't feel like wearing a partial diaper the way paper pads do. I don't think all stores carry menstrual cups/rings, either. They also need rinsed out in the sink, but because of that they're reusable for years instead of creating tampon waste. Definitely not recommended for beginners, though.
I’m surprised this is still an issue with today’s parents. I know that even back in the 80s, tampons were for “experienced” women and the “bad” girls because there was a fallacy about tampons and virginity. Feminine hygiene has evolved beyond pads and tampons. There are menstrual cups, menstrual sponges as well as interlabial pads and period panties that aren’t as “obvious” as traditional pads.
@andrewvelonis5940 l just wanted to comment on that, wearing a tampon is fine l guess but girls must just be aware of that, change it regularly etc. I know of a teenager that died due to it
@@andrewvelonis5940It’s definitely still a concern, especially for people who have things like work, school, or sports where they aren’t able to use the bathroom for long periods of time. But also for people who are just generally forgetful or get so into what they’re doing that they lose track of time. But it’s more widely recognized as a concern now I think, or at least it’s more talked about so people know more about it, and they’re able to try and prevent it.
Maybe there are moms concerned with cotton being gmo and sprayed heavily with endocrine disrupters and then that cotton being in direct contact with reproductive organs? I get so tired of this narrative of moms who try to protect their children are overly controlling. Maybe in 20 years when everyone is sterile we won't look like giant controlling asses. I tell my children these things, talk about alternatives and explain that tampons make cramps worse. They can make their own decisions from there since they're all mostly adults now.
My mom was no help for me when I started and it was a subject not to be talked about. Made me feel ashamed. I made sure my kids, both my daughter and son could talk openly about this stuff.
My mother was and is the same way. My daughter is 16 now and my mom still gets weirded out when we talk about having cramps or anything related to our cycles. Even my son is fine with it. I started teaching my daughter before she got her first period. My son is 1.5 yrs older and he wanted to sit with us and ask questions too, so I let him.
That's true. Ya don't have to wear yoga pants every day of your life and certainly not on your period. That sounds like the perfect combo for even more discomfort for the next 7 days.
I remember those days mom said “never introduce anything into your body” meaning tampons and who knows what else… and when dad found out I was on my period he thought I had a miscarriage or an abortion 🤦🏻♀️ why do parents always think the worse I remember my mom arguing with dad that it was my period not an abortion
To be fair, I also come from a Christian conservative family. There definitely are families that are super extreme like this, don't get me wrong, but not all Christian conservative families are that strict and constantly suspicious of their kids. Mine certainly isn't. Really sorry for OP though, that sucks. I also wear pads, of my own volition though, however my mom uses tampons. Sorry. You probably didn't mean for it to come across as stereotyping or anything like that, but I just needed to clear it up... not all Christian conservative families are that strict, and OP having a strict family doesn't mean they're Christian (conservative ≠ Christian, at least not all of the time). Might not even be conservative. Just someone with a strict family, unfortunately. Again, sorry if I'm reading too deep into this... hope things go well for you both ❤️ just wanted to clarify I'm not mad or anything, just kind of tired of my religion's stereotypes because I see a lot of them online lol. Peace
'Could care less' = someone cares bevause they could care less. 'Couldn't/could not care less' = someone doesn't care bevause they could not care less.
The tampon thing is most likely religious. Some cultures believe you are taking away your virginity by using them , something that should be preserved until marriage.
You think this is bad oh no this would be normal try being an 8-year-old getting your period and elementary School having to leave spare clothes for the teachers and each classroom and having a heavy flow so you got to convince the other kids that you somehow sat down in ketchup every time you eat even if you didn't have ketchup that day. the guidance counselor used to drive me home to let me change clothes if I didn't have clothes at school and then drive me back to school so that I would stop missing so many days
@JELLYBEAN I wish I had been in eighth grade it would have made so much more sense no I had to be a freaking 8-year-old I was like what the heck am I bleeding I'm going to die
I'm Italian and I ask, as a mother of a grown up daughter: "What on earth is weird about using tampons?" 😮 A young girl can use them, even if she's still a virgin. They are really comfortable, especially when you have to wear a bath suit, at the seaside or swimming pool...or with a particular dress... there's nothing"kinky " or embarrassing with that kind of item. Just be careful to change them often and, at night, better use pads.
Is it a cultural thing? In Mexico and Malaysia literally no one made fun of me for wearing a pad :/ only white girls would look at me weird if I mentioned I used pads 🙄
Vividly reminding me of how my mother cloaked control as care and "protecting my morals"🙄😒😮💨. Which sounds fine on the surface, but it's basically just a license to shame and castigate.
Idk, but it sounds like she was trying to raise you to uphold the same moral standards that she was raised by ... and BTW, tampons are actually potentially very dangerous, so...
protecting your morals? WTFFF does that mean???? I am soo happy that my mother was never like this , she literally bought me both pads and tampons so I can choose myself and when I was maybe 15 and she found out that I have had a boyfriend for a year, she immediately bought me birth control pills :D never did she shame me for that. seriously mothers who do that are doing more harm than good and your daughter probably starts to hate you and rebels
I had a friend in High School that thought if you used tampons you were no longer a virgin and wouldn’t use one. She was like 16. I felt so bad for her.
A lot of my friends were like that too, and most of us were athletes. So bulky nasty pads that don’t stick well if you’re sweating, while trying to play sports. And one time someone found out I was using tampons and she told my parents because she thought there was no way they’d have allowed it. Luckily my parents knew and didn’t care, but yeah, not a fun time. And then that same girl spread all sorts of rumors about me.
The thing is, when your hymen does break due to intercourse, there’s no mistaking the sensation. It has your full and undivided attention and you can’t comprehend anything else. 🫢
It's cuz girls are walking around wearing tights to high school and to their jobs. I work in a hospital laboratory and some if the women wear tights even though tights and sweatpants aren't allowed. Nobody says anything
I never wear tampons because my grandma almost died because her tampon scratched her insides. And I've heard that it hurts to remove it when it's dried. I'm perfectly content with pads but I understand that not everyone likes the feeling of a pad
I think it only hurts to pull it out when your'e much older like me i am 48 and my period is probably almost over and then theirs menapause. Otherwise i think you should be okay to use them when your'e younger and pull them out easily not fast. Also put them in slowly not fast to. You never want to do anything fast when it comes to your'e personal areas.
🤨 How... how do you scratch your insides??? I can put in a menstrual cup in with 2inch acrylic nails and not scratch myself! Not to dis your grandma but that sounds like bunk so u don't use them. Tampons don't hurt to remove unless you pull them out earlier than recommended but tbh cups are better for your lady bits than either pads or tampons
It’s very possible your grandmother used cardboard applicators instead of the new plastic ones that we have now. I would maybe give the plastic applicators a try. They’re very smooth and it’s not gonna hurt at all. Removing one dry can be a little uncomfortable but it doesn’t hurt it should never hurt.
You could just directly say, "hey mom, I want to get tampons." Even if she says no it starts a conversation about it. You can hear why she feels that way and then be heard on how you feel, rather than awkwardly never talking about it.
The problem is if the person ends up getting toxic shock from the tampons without their parents knowing what’s up. It hit me in less than an hour but thankfully my mom knew I was trying out the tampon life so she acted fast.
EXACTLY. That can be deadly. the lines of communication should be open for safety. Nobody should overstep a parent's relationship or boundaries unless it's an abusive or neglectful relationship. As a parent I need to know what my children r doing so I can educate and protect them❤
@@e-maginne Yeah I tried once or twice a tampon, didn't felt comfortable, was so akward trying to put it it and honestly I might have some at home and let my girl try (when I do have kids) but I don't know even how to put them comfortably, i don't feel fine buying something i know I'll not even be the best to help her 😅 And tampons can be quite dangerous... Pads don't really show a lot,maybe if you're wearing tight underwear and something like leggings . I've always used pads and never felt bad
Yes, my thoughts exactly! Why do people always think it has to do with some weird sex fears????? It is a safety issue! I want my daughters to be used to managing their periods with a pad most of the time and save tampons for only the necessary times. A friend of my mother died when I was a young teen from toxic shock…and she was familiar with using them.
TSS occurs in leaving them in way longer, like 24 hours or more. Even the box says not to use them that long. There are instructions written by the company who has teams of handsomely paid attorneys to keep them out of legal trouble. Read the box. FOLLOW instructions. They're there for a reason.
It's a parent's and possibly the school nurse's or sex educator's duty to discuss this issue, not just stick your head in the sand and forbid your daughter to use them.
Even if it's an other woman I couldn't imagine how awkward that exchange still is. Someone just telling you "Oh you're on your period". That's a little personal. I used to buy my sister's pads for them because they felt awkward about it.
@@kelly1827, It's not something acquaintances discuss in the aisles of a store. The older lady was trying to be supportive, but her approach was a bit abrasive.....until she offered to help the girl buy tampons. I thought we had all outgrown the awkwardness. Ignorance isn't pretty.
I was in my 20 s before I tried tampons. They were life changing for me. You have to believe I made sure my daughter knew she could use whatever she preferred.
I’m 20 and don’t wear tampons maybe like 4 in my lifetime to go swimming. There uncomfortable and I just feel like it never is in properly. I have been made fun for asking for a tampon also not for asking for pads. Like had two girls scoff and throw it at me from across the classroom. So the wingless pads the nurse give you i was cool with 😂
Than you did it wrong, maybe u need a thinner tampon. You are not able to feel it if it sit right. The use of Tampons gave me my freedom back., with pad I felt always soo soo uncomfortable.
Shoutout to mum who made pads just magically appear in my drawer. I really appreciated that as an awkward teen and will definitely do the same (+ tampons/period pants/...) for a possible future child. :)
I like the neatness of tampons but they have never been comfortable for me to wear. Anything by the 'lites' even cause my menstrual cramps to worsen. I have pretty much gone back to pads only using lite tampons during the two days of the heaviest flow as a backup to the pad to avoid an accident. I don't know if the discomfort is common and other women just tolerate it or if I am an oddity but they just don't seem to be all that great to me.
I'm sorry. I first tried them at 12 because I got my period on vacation and my mom didn't want me to miss out on swimming. If you go to school, you could ask the nurse for one, or a friend. You don't have to tell the nurse your mom doesn't want you to have them. Just say your pad keeps leaking and ask if she has a tampon.
@@ladymire your mom probably believed it because your grandmother taught her that, and your grandma was taught that way by generations before her that treated anything related to periods or womanhood as something shameful. I understand you feeling mad about it, but a lot of people from older generations didn't have much information or were socially shamed into not seeking information regarding female health.
This is gonna sound weird but I am generally scared of tampons so when I hit my period I’ll put a pad on and wear some baggy pants and then tie a jacket around my waist
Nobody intelligent will ever make fun of a girl having a period! If they say anything at all, just know that they're immature and uninformed and in that way you're better off than they are. There's nothing weird or taboo about something healthy and natural for a woman's body. Even if kids act stupid about it, no adult will say anything to you negative. At my job people bring in extra boxes of pads and tampons just in case to support their other women coworkers and it's super supportive and amazing. There's a sisterhood in our shared experiences! A healthy body is better than a Barbie body. Never be ashamed of something every woman ever has to experience 💜 and always ask trusted adults questions if you're concerned! I used to be so anxious and frightened about it, I hid it from my parents for years and used toilet paper because I thought what was happening was wrong and "dirty". I wish I had advice then that there's no shame in it. Parents didn't know and I didnt have proper supplies for three years 😳😳. Don't be like me!! I was overreacting about it trust me, then I finally admitted to parents and female friends and everyone was supportive and shared their own experiences and I felt safe and understood 💜💜
It's completely alright to have a fear of them, plus I prefer pads as well. I just think they are easier and that's pretty much exactly what I do. But, most of the time honestly they don't show. Usually only if you are wearing something like leggings so maybe just check after you put pants on!
Same lol. Although you probably won't need to tie a jacket around your waist, first periods can sometimes be light. And don't worry if you get your first period and it doesn't come back for another 6 months. Your body will be trying to get used to it, so your cycles will be messed up. My second period didn't come until about 4 months after my first. So don't panic if your second period doesn't come after another month
My mom said tampons were so unnatural. I asked her if she thought it was natural for me to bleed thru pads onto my clothes and the floor. Every time. She relented, got tampons and prescription painkiller Anaprox.
As a father I will do my best to support my girls on there first time let them try what ever they want and the first time no school for the day we go out get a new pair of comfortable clothes go out get lunch and then get ice cream and candy's with a heating pad and let them rest for the rest of the day
As someone with horrible cramps your daughters will thank you. Thank you for understanding and thank you for helping them and letting them rest instead of forcing them to go to school.
Sadly, there are people that think that tampons affect virginity... Yeah, I know I was surprised too. I was lucky enough. I had an older sister So I was able to use Tampons from the start. I was grateful Because it's horrible being Able to feel yourself bleeding and be in constant fear of an accident.
Here I am the mom that has a whole drawer of every different kind of tampon, pad, and even cups. I didn't want my 2 daughters going through the whole embarrassing thing of asking me.(cause they were embarrassed) I provided it and then asked when I needed to restock which items were their favorites. We found brands we really liked. Found others that we never used again. Some of the best tampons and pads were not name brand. Eventually soft cups ended up being the family favorite.
My best friend in high school died of TSS and she only had her tampon in for four hours. I’m now a mom and when my daughter starts her period I won’t let her have tampons either. There are other safer options like diva cups or soft cups, or period underwear or of course pads. Tampons just aren’t worth the risk.
Yeah I find it interesting that the mom is being shamed for not wanting her daughter to wear them. But I think it’s only for the implied reason. If the mom didn’t want her daughter to wear them for health reasons I don’t think as many people would have an issue with it.
@@Youknowwho910Toxic shock syndrome. It can happen if the tampon stays too long in the body and too much bacteria grow, enter in your uterus and than in your bloodstream. Then, one after an other, your organs stop to function, which can lead you to death. To avoid that, always wear tampons according to your flux and the tampons' absorbancy, and change them on time.
Okay but the U by Kotex pads r so good they absorb so well and they do not irritate you down there i’m allergic to a lot of pads but those and the flex foam pads are the best they do not irritate you at all
So I heard that you're at a much higher risk of TSS in your first year of menstruation, so I made my daughter use pads her first year. After that, she could use whatever she wanted. Maybe don't assume why people do the things they do and butt into other people's private business. This girl isn't being abused.
@@Palettblad or you could keep your nose out of another families business and let parents work with what's best for their families. If you want to "destigmatize" something do it with your own kids.
@@Palettblad 1. If she was being abused, that would be a good reason to intervene, and that's the only reason I mentioned it. I didn't say anyone claimed she was being abused, you made that up. 2. Worrying about my child's *health* is not the same as stigmatizing something. I never at any point stigmatized anything. 3. Mind your own fucking business. You have NO REASON to butt into other people's family business, provided the child isn't being abused (see point 1). 4. Mind your own fucking business. I know, this is here twice. It's because apparently it bears repeating.
Well I'm all for tampons, but if people stopped wearing skin tight leggins in public they wouldn't have to worry about things showing. Modesty is a virtue that i really wish would become popular again.
They're just controlling mothers not wanting anything to penetrate their little baby girls privates, a very odd controlling, and possibly antiquated, religiously motivated thought process. A loving, supportive mother would want their daughters to feel confident and not have to worry about accidents at school all day long, then have them ridiculed. Being a teenager, and being new to periods, is difficult enough without needing the extra worry.
I love how we mark menstruation as the time a person's body is explicitly no longer their own. Not only is their body doing something new that they can't control, but we call them "women" now when no they are still kids or teens, just [likely] impregnable now?? And frankly, restricting their period products just reinforces that their body does not belong to them, while also contributing to shame and other negative feelings. We gotta do better for these kids.
I started using cotton cloths and wow, they are so comfy, they absorb nicely, its a whole new world! I used to be a die hard tampon user, but ive been making healthy natural changes in my life, and cotton cloths are the way to go! And no more spending all that money on disposable, poisonous products
@@melissalaw6634 tried those, couldn't get it in. They probably aren't very comfortable anyway. Everyone has to find what works for them right? I've found what works for me and I'm happy about that. I no longer dread my period like I did when I was using pads. I think anyone who uses pads would find nice soft face cloths a lot comfier than stiff sticky pads, especially at night. Just thought I'd share, most people probably don't even know there's options besides tampons and pads
@@melissalaw6634 Both is honestly great because cups can leak and cloth pads have soft af fabric. Literally makes the garbage experience just slightly better. And they have fun designs.
I don't know how I came across this...BUT... I ended up being the mom that all of my kid's friends came to for this and many other things...proud mom moment ❤️
@@satsumamoontss is something you should be aware of but it is also very rare. As long as you are changing your tampons regularly you should be fine. Parents can teach their children the risk of things while also letting them make their own choices.
A great teacher to go risk TSS in a child? Even adult women still lose limbs and their life from it. It’s also inappropriate to go behind a parents back to help a young child (around 9 to 11 years old) acquire something to try to insert into themselves 😳 Those things don’t just slide in magically
"tampons hold about half the volume of menstrual fluid compared with cups, and therefore need to be changed more frequently. Menstrual cups are made from medical-grade silicone, latex rubber or elastomer, and can hold 10-38ml of fluid. Depending on the heaviness of menstrual flow and the cup itself, menstrual cups need to be emptied every 4-12 hours. One cup can be used for up to ten years"
@@duchessfinao1334the same way you do a tampon. You fold it into a C shape, aim the edge of the cup towards your rectum and insert it like you do a tampon. Once it’s in it’ll open up. You’ll hear a sound that’s kind of like a suction cup on glass. Once you hear that you’ll know it’s in place.
Apart from publicly humiliating me in the shops once, my dad came home from work with a huge shopping bag full of loose (wrapped) tampons of every size imaginable. He was the only one at work with a daughter old enough to need them. They’d been making a metal detector for some company or other and they’d had test control ones and safe ones. Once the machine was up to spec they didn’t need all the clean (no metal in them), still wrapped and perfectly fine to use tampons. I got them. They lasted me for something like 5 years. At the time I was cringing but not any more. It was an awesome perk to get them.
I was not allowed tampons as a younger menstruating woman……I started mine at 9 but by12 really wanted something far less bulky and was told no repeatedly. I still remember the smell, bulk, leakage and embarrassment of having to lug massive pads in my school bag now. When I got my paper round at 14 I chose my own products and was much happier. I wish I had access to a menstruation cup back then as they were essential with a thin pad after I had children. Personal choice and unbiased shopping is really essential.
I remember being still in elementary school I got my first period very quickly So I already knew a lot about it before we started talking about it at school. You have no idea how surprise i was when a teacher told us we couldn't use tampons because we would get cancer🤣🤣🤣
thats stupid..and I can relate on the elementary school thing. My elementary school didn't even have a bin for pads/tampons alone because I was the only elementary schooler ever at their that started my period that young.
If you ever read about toxic shock syndrome you'll be thankful for your moms who want you to wear pads instead. My mom let me wear tampons and I wish she hadn't. After I saw a video about a girl who lost her legs from TSS I never used a tampon again. They are so bad for you.
My mom wouldn't let me wear tampons either. I had to wait like a year and prepare an argument to persuade her to letting me try some. Her reasoning was "you'll forget it's in there". Like any woman forgets she's on her period mid flow.
Who in the world is making fun of someone for wearing pads??? Like every girl who starts their period got treated like a celebrity with bragging rights at my middle school.
My mother, born in 1956, was told that virgins can't use tampons by her mother, who went to nursing school! My grandmother was born in 1917, so I have no idea if the error was caused by prudish-ness or incorrect, out-of-date medical info! My mother never did use tampons, but eventually, I did because a girlfriend taught me about them. It definitely took practice, plus my flow was fairly mild/moderate, so I didn't think they made tampons light enough for my flow. Now, my BC implant eliminates my period, but eventually, I'm gonna go off it (cause I or the husband will be getting permanent sterilization). I'm definitely looking into menstrual cups and cloth pads. All cotton, organic applicator free tampons plus pads are what I used before going on BC. Disposable pads chafe, so I'm glad I've already discovered cloth resuable pads. Plastic applicators felt better than cardboard, but I hated that it was plastic and therefore gonna last for millennia in the landfill. That's why I finally figured out applicator free tampon usage.
That is a pretty big assumption there. I don't let my daughter use tampons because she is extremely forgetful and lacks the maturity and responsibility necessary. Ask your OB next time about some of the tampon horror stories of girls and women forgetting one or more tampons up there and what that is like.
I love my mom, no matter what she would try and make me feel comfortable. When I started my . she said "You can try tampons if you want, I never really liked them, but if you need me to I can get you some!"
I talked to my mom about tampons at this age and she flat out told me the truth about them from her own experience: they leak, they will hurt dealing with them, and since i was younger it'll be uncomfortable when they are inside if they aren't done properly. Now that I'm an adult and have gotten used to them, i hardly ever wear them XD
My mom never taught me anything about pads or periods. We had one afternoon at school where it was discussed with female students only (it was sponsored by a prominent period product brand in Germany) and a couple months after when my periods started, I just started using the pads my mom bought for herself (which were hidden away quite well. I was using tons of toilet paper until I found them) I had no cramps at all the first year I got my periods (by now excruciating pain bc I developed endometriosis which my mother also didn’t know was a thing), but I was also constantly soiling my bed and pj’s with blood because of that, and because I didn’t know anything about pads or how long they last or any other tricks to prevent spillage. I still sometimes wake up in the middle of the night, panicked because I felt a twinge in my lower stomach and might’ve bloodied my bed. Those years I felt extremely lonely with my period problems to the point I was too scared to open pads in public bathrooms when someone else was there too because they might hear. Edit: thanks to all that I’m a master at removing bloodstains because I was too embarrassed to throw bloody laundry into the laundry basket. I just cleaned it in the middle of the night.
@Gray Manning I haven't seen a lot of Mrs M but she def over steps, this is coming from some one in the daughter perspective. I don't always agree with my mother but she usually has reasons and some one that invested in personal stuff all the time is just weird.
My sentiments exactly! Outsiders do not live in my house nor do they know the circumstances of my family or the beliefs of my family. It would be one thing to recommend a product that the daughter could then look into with her mom or maybe even the lady could have a respectful conversation with the mom about not wanting tampons (maybe some myths that have caused the hesitation), but ultimately it should be the decision of the parent. Going against a parent's will behind their back is despicable behavior. I realize there are parents that are abusive and those are extenuating circumstances, but it shouldn't be assumed in every case that parents are abusive as society likes to do these days. If abuse seems possible in a given situation, dig deeper and make a real effort to find more evidence.
Kids Please don’t go against your parents. Other adults have other agendas for your life and DO NOT care about you the way your parents do! Talk things through with your parents and tell them what the other adults have said also. Communication is so important. Love and honor your mum and dad please! ❤
I was talking to my mom. I haven't gotten my yk yet.. and I said, "Am I using pads or tampons, and she yells, " TAMPONS!" But she say pads for bed like MOM 😭
No, but she's right. Pads OR a period disc(can stay in longer than a tampon without the toxic shock risk). You have to make sure you remember to change it within the time frame or its dangerous and a breeding ground for bacteria because of the material.
One of my best friends growing up lived with his dad. They had a drawer with different menstrual products in their guest-bathroom for any female visiting. It made it so much easier as I was early.
I don't do tampons for my girls either, but there are period knickers and cloth pads on the market. I don't even wear tampons myself. I wear period knickers and cloth pads. If you prefer, there are also menstrual cups. Tampons aren't really a good option. Toxic shock syndrome is still a real thing.
I see how the worries of TSS could make a mom nervous about tampons especially if the young girl is forgetful and doesn’t take change them regularly but open communication in a loving way is key… and other moms should not be saying “or your mom said no so I’ll do it”
Well, she’s holding a pack of pads right in front of her. And they aren’t strangers. She’s the girl’s teacher and teachers sometimes double as counselors as well Edit: that being said, i do still think its a super awkward interaction 💀. It would make more sense if the girl had gone up to the teacher herself on purpose after class or gone to the school nurse, but I get it’s just to make a point in the video
Oh god I had the opposite Mum! Back in the day I wanted to go swimming at a hotel when we were on holidays, I was 14 but I had just gotten my period and my Mum told me to try tampons and got like 10 different brands for some reason and then had to help me put it in because I couldn’t! She was making small talk the entire time.. I’m still traumatized from the whole ordeal 😂
I remember seeing a lady in the mall who had her pad hanging out. She was with a whole bunch of friends who didn't tell her that it was there even though ypu could see them looking at it. I ended up going up to her and whispering to her about it. She was so embarrassed. I felt so bad for her.
I can confidently say, as someone who’s uncomfortable using tampons, I have never once been made fun of for using a pad, nor has anyone ever pointed them out to me… am I just lucky?
You aren't alone. No one has ever bothered me about not wearing tampons either. It's not a big deal. I don't think anyone noticed that I wear pads... Even when I was a teenager. I tried a tampon once because I was on the swim team, but it was so uncomfortable that I would just not go to swimming practice the week of my period. My mum was totally cool with that.
The only time anyone ever said anything to me was when I started my period and I was wearing white shorts. That was embarrassing.
My mom is in her 60’s and she wore pads up until she stopped having her period. I believe she said she got toxic shock syndrome when wearing a tampon when she was a teenager and never wore again. I personally hate pads but not everyone likes tampons either
I'm uncomfortable using tampons as well, but I was unfortunately made fun of once when I was younger for using pads. The other girls said it was gross and that it was "like wearing a diaper."
@@PotatoChicken-gg1ju it is not like wearing a nappy. I have had to wear nappies before because of a bad period and because of postpartum bleeding. There is a huge difference between wearing a Depends nappy and wearing a pad.
@megangreene3955 Of course *I* know that, but that's what some girls told me when I was in high school
No but how awkward would this be irl 💀I could never lol
Same like was that her teacher? If it was man I really could never. Even if it was a stranger. I don’t even like talking about it with my mom it’s just straight up weird to me. But if something is going on I do talk with my mom about it and no one else.
Yea I wouldve hid the pad box in my jacket and said what no theit my sisters
If you have watched all her vids you would know that’s her best friends mom mrs.m
@@user-ey8eu7qt7y why?? It's embarrassing for ya?
About as awkward as walking around Walgreens watching a girl setup tripods and keep changing to do this...
My mom was this way. Did not let us get tampons. Only pads growing up. Those were the years of big bulky pads..not like todays that are thinner and so much better. Any who, I finally 'took the leap' when I got my own car and cash and figured out what worked best for me. Now i have a daugther, shes young but Ive already 'walked her down the aisle". Showed her all choices available to her. And am grateful for things like period underwear that is out there now. Like use all 3 if needed.
My mom had toxic shock from tampons and I got sick with them too 🤷 was told I had allergies to it or something but it isn't as "safe" for all as it appears.
@@mktay2067 that’s because you have to switch out the tampons just like you do with the pads after a certain point if you keep the tampons in too long it won’t be a good thing
@@Megz1794yea and some people are more sensitive than others happens a lot actually
There's also some stuff that isn't usually in that aisle, like cloth pads. They need rinsed out in the sink and then run through a washing machine, but they absorb so much more and are way more comfortable!! It doesn't feel like wearing a partial diaper the way paper pads do.
I don't think all stores carry menstrual cups/rings, either. They also need rinsed out in the sink, but because of that they're reusable for years instead of creating tampon waste. Definitely not recommended for beginners, though.
I don’t get it, what’s the rationale?
I’m surprised this is still an issue with today’s parents. I know that even back in the 80s, tampons were for “experienced” women and the “bad” girls because there was a fallacy about tampons and virginity.
Feminine hygiene has evolved beyond pads and tampons. There are menstrual cups, menstrual sponges as well as interlabial pads and period panties that aren’t as “obvious” as traditional pads.
My mother was like this, she didn’t allow me to wear tampons despite me having heavy periods that always bled through my pads.
I recall that in the 1970s toxic shock syndrome was an issue. I don't know if that's still a concern.
@andrewvelonis5940 l just wanted to comment on that, wearing a tampon is fine l guess but girls must just be aware of that, change it regularly etc. I know of a teenager that died due to it
@@andrewvelonis5940It’s definitely still a concern, especially for people who have things like work, school, or sports where they aren’t able to use the bathroom for long periods of time. But also for people who are just generally forgetful or get so into what they’re doing that they lose track of time. But it’s more widely recognized as a concern now I think, or at least it’s more talked about so people know more about it, and they’re able to try and prevent it.
Maybe there are moms concerned with cotton being gmo and sprayed heavily with endocrine disrupters and then that cotton being in direct contact with reproductive organs? I get so tired of this narrative of moms who try to protect their children are overly controlling. Maybe in 20 years when everyone is sterile we won't look like giant controlling asses. I tell my children these things, talk about alternatives and explain that tampons make cramps worse. They can make their own decisions from there since they're all mostly adults now.
This entire channel seems to be, "How to get your teenage daughter to run away from home".
It screams trauma to me like she’s scarred from her childhood and expressing herself whilst trying to educate. Sad at.
@@katerinasemenov9479 she’s probably got an OnlyFans, or is a Jew.
You ever so out of place? Because I do why does CZcams think I’m a middle school girl whose going through changes?
@@TokyoXtreme So according to you those who have ONLYFANS or Jewish girls do this ? What else is in there in your fantasy ?
@@JonSnow-pi6jb long time of noticing patterns occurring and reoccurring, over and over
How did you come up with the “Mrs M” character? Is she based on a real person?
No
@@cocoscustomedits4404 how would u know that
You need to watch the whole series
@@olivia.pud15 she explained all her charcters
@@cocoscustomedits4404 no she didn't I have watched all of her videos
My mom was no help for me when I started and it was a subject not to be talked about. Made me feel ashamed. I made sure my kids, both my daughter and son could talk openly about this stuff.
I did the same thing. My daughter knew everything there is to know because I told her the truth & held nothing back. I refused to treat her poorly!!
My mother was and is the same way. My daughter is 16 now and my mom still gets weirded out when we talk about having cramps or anything related to our cycles. Even my son is fine with it. I started teaching my daughter before she got her first period. My son is 1.5 yrs older and he wanted to sit with us and ask questions too, so I let him.
Fun fact…pads won’t show through your pants if your pants are not skin tight. You have several options.
That's true. Ya don't have to wear yoga pants every day of your life and certainly not on your period. That sounds like the perfect combo for even more discomfort for the next 7 days.
but if you move your legs a lot, even just shifting position while sitting, tight pants help holding the pad in place
and even if you do wear yoga pants or tight pants, looooooooong shirt or hoodie helps.
@@SuperUmizoomi That's true, too. It's inevitable. You're always going to be somewhat uncomfortable during that time.
@@SuperUmizoomiso does underwear lol
This just brought me back to one time in 7th grade when my dad bought me 240 panty liners instead of pads. 😂
i would die😭😭😂
He tried his best in a situation most men would find embarrassing
@ianedwards8215 no because I got my period in 6th grade and he had bought me pads before 😭
My flow could never😂😂
@@rosealpha2054 fr i literally had to tell my dad that he bought the wrong thing 😭
The ultra thin all night pads are the best
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No their probably the best for you only,every women has a differen't flow and some women need differen't size and thick ness of pad's. Just saying.
@@moonbeam8487 they actually come in different sizes and since they're alnight the absorb quite a bit
I am an adult andnever use tampons, and never had any sort of problem.people should stop un-normalizing pads for young girls.
Pads and tampons are both okay, the point is that people should get to choose what’s comfortable for them
No, people need to stop shaming women who choose tampons. That's ridiculous.
@@chiarac3833 no, this video is shaming women who use pads.
@@chiarac3833I've seen women and men shame women who wear pads. I need to wear pads like 2-3 of them because it's heavy and I don't like tampons.
@@laurenecarter246no the girl got bullied for her pad and wants a tampon? It’s not shaming
I remember those days mom said “never introduce anything into your body” meaning tampons and who knows what else… and when dad found out I was on my period he thought I had a miscarriage or an abortion 🤦🏻♀️ why do parents always think the worse I remember my mom arguing with dad that it was my period not an abortion
Oh lord… tell me you come from a conservative “Christian” family without telling me. I feel so sorry for you having to deal with that. 🤦♀️
To be fair, I also come from a Christian conservative family. There definitely are families that are super extreme like this, don't get me wrong, but not all Christian conservative families are that strict and constantly suspicious of their kids. Mine certainly isn't. Really sorry for OP though, that sucks. I also wear pads, of my own volition though, however my mom uses tampons.
Sorry. You probably didn't mean for it to come across as stereotyping or anything like that, but I just needed to clear it up... not all Christian conservative families are that strict, and OP having a strict family doesn't mean they're Christian (conservative ≠ Christian, at least not all of the time). Might not even be conservative. Just someone with a strict family, unfortunately. Again, sorry if I'm reading too deep into this... hope things go well for you both ❤️ just wanted to clarify I'm not mad or anything, just kind of tired of my religion's stereotypes because I see a lot of them online lol. Peace
@@judycroteau482it's alright atleast they came from a caring home, gotta love Christian homes
That's awful and incredibly stupid of your dad and please tell me he was set straight about it..
@@judycroteau482 No need to put christian in quotations. They gotta own up to their bible thumpers
I’ve always appreciated women who thought of me as a daughter And helped me out when my own birth mother could care less.
Her mom bought her really cool teen pads. She should be absolutely grateful. Haha. My mom bought whatever was on sale.
'Could care less' = someone cares bevause they could care less.
'Couldn't/could not care less' = someone doesn't care bevause they could not care less.
@@SKOLAH someone didn’t bring my order
@@captaingalaxy94 she did have a point.... you did communicate the OPPOSITE of what you meant to say.
The tampon thing is most likely religious. Some cultures believe you are taking away your virginity by using them , something that should be preserved until marriage.
Omg there is no way this was a real interaction that would have been INCREDIBLY akward
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not really, that's her best friends mum, I would be more than comfortable to talk about my period with my best friends mum?
@@gillianmccolm657 its still someone else buying tampons for you 😑
You think this is bad oh no this would be normal try being an 8-year-old getting your period and elementary School having to leave spare clothes for the teachers and each classroom and having a heavy flow so you got to convince the other kids that you somehow sat down in ketchup every time you eat even if you didn't have ketchup that day. the guidance counselor used to drive me home to let me change clothes if I didn't have clothes at school and then drive me back to school so that I would stop missing so many days
@JELLYBEAN I wish I had been in eighth grade it would have made so much more sense no I had to be a freaking 8-year-old I was like what the heck am I bleeding I'm going to die
I'm Italian and I ask, as a mother of a grown up daughter: "What on earth is weird about using tampons?" 😮 A young girl can use them, even if she's still a virgin. They are really comfortable, especially when you have to wear a bath suit, at the seaside or swimming pool...or with a particular dress... there's nothing"kinky " or embarrassing with that kind of item. Just be careful to change them often and, at night, better use pads.
problem is in "carefulness"... responsibility
I swear my mum used to buy pads that resembled house bricks back in the day
😂
Wow, I'm thinking about building a house & house bricks ARE expensive, so...🤔
@@TheCatBilbo would have saved you money for sure!🤣
Is it a cultural thing? In Mexico and Malaysia literally no one made fun of me for wearing a pad :/ only white girls would look at me weird if I mentioned I used pads 🙄
What’s malasia, u mean Malaysia?
@@quirkygirl4345 oh sorry, my Spanish keyboard autocorrected to Malaysia in Spanish lolol
Definitely a cultural thing, apparently in America everyone uses tampons and looks down on pads? Where I’m from no one really cares what you use lol
I prefer pads, tampons seem like to much of a hassle to put in and out(and an undying fear of them getting stuck)
@@cgfiresoul5473 i wear pads too, I think tampons would make me cry xD
Store clerk be like: *"Can y'all either buy something or get out?"*
Vividly reminding me of how my mother cloaked control as care and "protecting my morals"🙄😒😮💨. Which sounds fine on the surface, but it's basically just a license to shame and castigate.
Idk, but it sounds like she was trying to raise you to uphold the same moral standards that she was raised by ... and BTW, tampons are actually potentially very dangerous, so...
protecting your morals? WTFFF does that mean???? I am soo happy that my mother was never like this , she literally bought me both pads and tampons so I can choose myself and when I was maybe 15 and she found out that I have had a boyfriend for a year, she immediately bought me birth control pills :D never did she shame me for that. seriously mothers who do that are doing more harm than good and your daughter probably starts to hate you and rebels
I had a friend in High School that thought if you used tampons you were no longer a virgin and wouldn’t use one. She was like 16. I felt so bad for her.
My mom tried to make me believe that tho
A lot of ladys thought that way...
A lot of my friends were like that too, and most of us were athletes. So bulky nasty pads that don’t stick well if you’re sweating, while trying to play sports. And one time someone found out I was using tampons and she told my parents because she thought there was no way they’d have allowed it. Luckily my parents knew and didn’t care, but yeah, not a fun time. And then that same girl spread all sorts of rumors about me.
People still believe this. Smh
The thing is, when your hymen does break due to intercourse, there’s no mistaking the sensation. It has your full and undivided attention and you can’t comprehend anything else. 🫢
I’m confused how the pad would show through your underwear, and pants/skirt/dress… how does one even wear it to make it show????
Well I think it shows through skin tight clothing. I dunno, I aways wear baggy so I don't know much about it.
maybe if people wear yoga pants/leggings/tights
It's cuz girls are walking around wearing tights to high school and to their jobs. I work in a hospital laboratory and some if the women wear tights even though tights and sweatpants aren't allowed. Nobody says anything
@@Liquefaction must be dat azz ayyyy lmaooo
@@STSGuitar16 I'm not complainin 😏
I never wear tampons because my grandma almost died because her tampon scratched her insides. And I've heard that it hurts to remove it when it's dried. I'm perfectly content with pads but I understand that not everyone likes the feeling of a pad
I think it only hurts to pull it out when your'e much older like me i am 48 and my period is probably almost over and then theirs menapause. Otherwise i think you should be okay to use them when your'e younger and pull them out easily not fast. Also put them in slowly not fast to. You never want to do anything fast when it comes to your'e personal areas.
🤨 How... how do you scratch your insides??? I can put in a menstrual cup in with 2inch acrylic nails and not scratch myself!
Not to dis your grandma but that sounds like bunk so u don't use them.
Tampons don't hurt to remove unless you pull them out earlier than recommended but tbh cups are better for your lady bits than either pads or tampons
It’s very possible your grandmother used cardboard applicators instead of the new plastic ones that we have now. I would maybe give the plastic applicators a try. They’re very smooth and it’s not gonna hurt at all. Removing one dry can be a little uncomfortable but it doesn’t hurt it should never hurt.
For me, since my flow is extremely heavy, it never hurts taking out a tampon because it’s usually soaked.
Theres tampons without the plastic hun for virgin girls i still use them as an adult
You really nailed the mom’s dismissive detachment in the face of her kid’s need for real support
She didn't speak up
The mom thought she was helping
You could just directly say, "hey mom, I want to get tampons."
Even if she says no it starts a conversation about it. You can hear why she feels that way and then be heard on how you feel, rather than awkwardly never talking about it.
It’s likely she’s already had the conversation if she knows her mom won’t let her get tampons.
The problem is if the person ends up getting toxic shock from the tampons without their parents knowing what’s up. It hit me in less than an hour but thankfully my mom knew I was trying out the tampon life so she acted fast.
EXACTLY. That can be deadly. the lines of communication should be open for safety. Nobody should overstep a parent's relationship or boundaries unless it's an abusive or neglectful relationship. As a parent I need to know what my children r doing so I can educate and protect them❤
@@e-maginne
Yeah
I tried once or twice a tampon, didn't felt comfortable, was so akward trying to put it it and honestly I might have some at home and let my girl try (when I do have kids) but I don't know even how to put them comfortably, i don't feel fine buying something i know I'll not even be the best to help her 😅
And tampons can be quite dangerous...
Pads don't really show a lot,maybe if you're wearing tight underwear and something like leggings . I've always used pads and never felt bad
Yes, my thoughts exactly! Why do people always think it has to do with some weird sex fears????? It is a safety issue! I want my daughters to be used to managing their periods with a pad most of the time and save tampons for only the necessary times. A friend of my mother died when I was a young teen from toxic shock…and she was familiar with using them.
TSS occurs in leaving them in way longer, like 24 hours or more. Even the box says not to use them that long. There are instructions written by the company who has teams of handsomely paid attorneys to keep them out of legal trouble. Read the box. FOLLOW instructions. They're there for a reason.
It's a parent's and possibly the school nurse's or sex educator's duty to discuss this issue, not just stick your head in the sand and forbid your daughter to use them.
Even if it's an other woman I couldn't imagine how awkward that exchange still is. Someone just telling you "Oh you're on your period". That's a little personal. I used to buy my sister's pads for them because they felt awkward about it.
From a stranger at the store
Also, sometimes we buy pads and stuff BEFORE our period starts??? I always stay crazy stocked up
@@pixiethemixe3615It wasn't a stranger -- they used each other's names
@@kelly1827,
It's not something acquaintances discuss in the aisles of a store.
The older lady was trying to be supportive, but her approach was a bit abrasive.....until she offered to help the girl buy tampons.
I thought we had all outgrown the awkwardness.
Ignorance isn't pretty.
It only feels awkward bc society tends to shame women for natural womanly things, like periods. There is nothing to be shamed about.
“Did ya start your period”
No I’m just walking around carrying a box of pads for fun
I was in my 20 s before I tried tampons. They were life changing for me. You have to believe I made sure my daughter knew she could use whatever she preferred.
Literally teachers are sometimes more easier to talk to then your family members ngl
Yes, I saw most of my teachers more likeable than my parents lol.
i’m an only child. ALWAYS.
YES.
True.🙁
I’m 20 and don’t wear tampons maybe like 4 in my lifetime to go swimming. There uncomfortable and I just feel like it never is in properly. I have been made fun for asking for a tampon also not for asking for pads. Like had two girls scoff and throw it at me from across the classroom. So the wingless pads the nurse give you i was cool with 😂
I tried once or twice to go swimming and I just couldn't, felt so uncomfortable
It's not sitting right if you can feel it ( probably too low). Or you need a smaller size.
Than you did it wrong, maybe u need a thinner tampon. You are not able to feel it if it sit right. The use of Tampons gave me my freedom back., with pad I felt always soo soo uncomfortable.
With some brands I felt the same. But the Playtex sport are good. I don’t feel anything once their in. I recommend trying those
Tampons are so uncomfortable and borderline painful. I will choose a pad any day over a tampon, unless I'm swimming, of course.
Shoutout to mum who made pads just magically appear in my drawer. I really appreciated that as an awkward teen and will definitely do the same (+ tampons/period pants/...) for a possible future child. :)
THIS IS MY MOM, SHE WON'T EVEN LET ME TRY THEM AND DECIDE FOR MYSELF
You must feel so infuriated! That's crazy. I'm so sorry. 😓
My mom was the type who believed it would make me lose my virginity. I believed her too, cuz I was like 13. It makes me mad thinking about it now.
I like the neatness of tampons but they have never been comfortable for me to wear. Anything by the 'lites' even cause my menstrual cramps to worsen. I have pretty much gone back to pads only using lite tampons during the two days of the heaviest flow as a backup to the pad to avoid an accident. I don't know if the discomfort is common and other women just tolerate it or if I am an oddity but they just don't seem to be all that great to me.
I'm sorry. I first tried them at 12 because I got my period on vacation and my mom didn't want me to miss out on swimming. If you go to school, you could ask the nurse for one, or a friend. You don't have to tell the nurse your mom doesn't want you to have them. Just say your pad keeps leaking and ask if she has a tampon.
@@ladymire your mom probably believed it because your grandmother taught her that, and your grandma was taught that way by generations before her that treated anything related to periods or womanhood as something shameful.
I understand you feeling mad about it, but a lot of people from older generations didn't have much information or were socially shamed into not seeking information regarding female health.
This is gonna sound weird but I am generally scared of tampons so when I hit my period I’ll put a pad on and wear some baggy pants and then tie a jacket around my waist
it’s okay to wear pads they do the job better than tampons anyway
Nobody intelligent will ever make fun of a girl having a period! If they say anything at all, just know that they're immature and uninformed and in that way you're better off than they are. There's nothing weird or taboo about something healthy and natural for a woman's body. Even if kids act stupid about it, no adult will say anything to you negative. At my job people bring in extra boxes of pads and tampons just in case to support their other women coworkers and it's super supportive and amazing. There's a sisterhood in our shared experiences! A healthy body is better than a Barbie body. Never be ashamed of something every woman ever has to experience 💜 and always ask trusted adults questions if you're concerned! I used to be so anxious and frightened about it, I hid it from my parents for years and used toilet paper because I thought what was happening was wrong and "dirty". I wish I had advice then that there's no shame in it. Parents didn't know and I didnt have proper supplies for three years 😳😳. Don't be like me!! I was overreacting about it trust me, then I finally admitted to parents and female friends and everyone was supportive and shared their own experiences and I felt safe and understood 💜💜
It's completely alright to have a fear of them, plus I prefer pads as well. I just think they are easier and that's pretty much exactly what I do. But, most of the time honestly they don't show. Usually only if you are wearing something like leggings so maybe just check after you put pants on!
I was scared of tampons for years, took me forever to get used to them and I had to make a thing of it- legit training regiment.
Same lol. Although you probably won't need to tie a jacket around your waist, first periods can sometimes be light. And don't worry if you get your first period and it doesn't come back for another 6 months. Your body will be trying to get used to it, so your cycles will be messed up. My second period didn't come until about 4 months after my first. So don't panic if your second period doesn't come after another month
wow… flash back to my younger years and not being allowed to buy tampons because i “wouldn’t be a virgin anymore” 🤩 i love the south!
Florida be like:
The idea of virginity is STUPID
Wtf.
Virgin just means unmarried person.
I’m a virgin and I won’t put anything up there.
My mom said tampons were so unnatural. I asked her if she thought it was natural for me to bleed thru pads onto my clothes and the floor. Every time. She relented, got tampons and prescription painkiller Anaprox.
This has to be one of the most 'soap opera' interactions I've ever seen.
Why am I, a male, being recommended this through YT shorts
We should form a club or somethin
Lol us men looking through the comments knowing that we don't have to go through any of this
@@williamsweeney5249 I'm happy that I don't have to go through that time of the month lol
Me too bro.
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As a father I will do my best to support my girls on there first time let them try what ever they want and the first time no school for the day we go out get a new pair of comfortable clothes go out get lunch and then get ice cream and candy's with a heating pad and let them rest for the rest of the day
As someone with horrible cramps your daughters will thank you. Thank you for understanding and thank you for helping them and letting them rest instead of forcing them to go to school.
@@annamorse5035 o yeha they need to stay home all good in my books like they are already smart and still young lol
Sadly, there are people that think that tampons affect virginity... Yeah, I know I was surprised too.
I was lucky enough. I had an older sister So I was able to use Tampons from the start. I was grateful Because it's horrible being Able to feel yourself bleeding and be in constant fear of an accident.
My dad thought that...
Here I am the mom that has a whole drawer of every different kind of tampon, pad, and even cups. I didn't want my 2 daughters going through the whole embarrassing thing of asking me.(cause they were embarrassed) I provided it and then asked when I needed to restock which items were their favorites. We found brands we really liked. Found others that we never used again. Some of the best tampons and pads were not name brand. Eventually soft cups ended up being the family favorite.
My best friend in high school died of TSS and she only had her tampon in for four hours. I’m now a mom and when my daughter starts her period I won’t let her have tampons either. There are other safer options like diva cups or soft cups, or period underwear or of course pads. Tampons just aren’t worth the risk.
Yeah I find it interesting that the mom is being shamed for not wanting her daughter to wear them. But I think it’s only for the implied reason. If the mom didn’t want her daughter to wear them for health reasons I don’t think as many people would have an issue with it.
What is tss?
rest in peace so sorry ops
@@Youknowwho910Toxic shock syndrome. It can happen if the tampon stays too long in the body and too much bacteria grow, enter in your uterus and than in your bloodstream. Then, one after an other, your organs stop to function, which can lead you to death. To avoid that, always wear tampons according to your flux and the tampons' absorbancy, and change them on time.
@@e-maginneFor some it is.
Imagine going to the store in multiple outfits to film a TikTok. 😂
Okay but the U by Kotex pads r so good they absorb so well and they do not irritate you down there i’m allergic to a lot of pads but those and the flex foam pads are the best they do not irritate you at all
So I heard that you're at a much higher risk of TSS in your first year of menstruation, so I made my daughter use pads her first year. After that, she could use whatever she wanted.
Maybe don't assume why people do the things they do and butt into other people's private business. This girl isn't being abused.
THANK YOU!!
It feels borderline predatory to go behind a parents back like this when the child isn't even in any danger.
Nobody said she was abused? However periods are stigmatized in our society, people are allowed to wear and try if it works for them.
@@Palettblad or you could keep your nose out of another families business and let parents work with what's best for their families.
If you want to "destigmatize" something do it with your own kids.
@@Palettblad
1. If she was being abused, that would be a good reason to intervene, and that's the only reason I mentioned it. I didn't say anyone claimed she was being abused, you made that up.
2. Worrying about my child's *health* is not the same as stigmatizing something. I never at any point stigmatized anything.
3. Mind your own fucking business. You have NO REASON to butt into other people's family business, provided the child isn't being abused (see point 1).
4. Mind your own fucking business. I know, this is here twice. It's because apparently it bears repeating.
Well I'm all for tampons, but if people stopped wearing skin tight leggins in public they wouldn't have to worry about things showing. Modesty is a virtue that i really wish would become popular again.
These new-age public audition tapes sure are... something.
Omg sooo reminded me of my strict mother , I needed a teacher like that back in high school.🤦
They're just controlling mothers not wanting anything to penetrate their little baby girls privates, a very odd controlling, and possibly antiquated, religiously motivated thought process. A loving, supportive mother would want their daughters to feel confident and not have to worry about accidents at school all day long, then have them ridiculed. Being a teenager, and being new to periods, is difficult enough without needing the extra worry.
Or they want not risk their child having toxic shock syndrome
This defo didn’t happen in London growing up - each to their own was the vibe!
Did for me
I love how we mark menstruation as the time a person's body is explicitly no longer their own. Not only is their body doing something new that they can't control, but we call them "women" now when no they are still kids or teens, just [likely] impregnable now?? And frankly, restricting their period products just reinforces that their body does not belong to them, while also contributing to shame and other negative feelings. We gotta do better for these kids.
I started using cotton cloths and wow, they are so comfy, they absorb nicely, its a whole new world!
I used to be a die hard tampon user, but ive been making healthy natural changes in my life, and cotton cloths are the way to go! And no more spending all that money on disposable, poisonous products
So you bleed on a cloth? 🤮
Or menstrual cups would be best and cleaner.
@@melissalaw6634 tried those, couldn't get it in. They probably aren't very comfortable anyway.
Everyone has to find what works for them right? I've found what works for me and I'm happy about that. I no longer dread my period like I did when I was using pads.
I think anyone who uses pads would find nice soft face cloths a lot comfier than stiff sticky pads, especially at night. Just thought I'd share, most people probably don't even know there's options besides tampons and pads
@@melissalaw6634 Both is honestly great because cups can leak and cloth pads have soft af fabric. Literally makes the garbage experience just slightly better. And they have fun designs.
I don't know how I came across this...BUT... I ended up being the mom that all of my kid's friends came to for this and many other things...proud mom moment ❤️
meanwhile i'd be like-
**tries to hide them behind back** "WHAT- NO- THESE ARE FOR MY NON EXISTANT SISTER WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT"
Yesss A+ parenting
Trying to control your girls body functions for them so they just suffer yeeeeaaaayy
Imagine if she was forced to wear tampons instead. That would literally be rape.
Or maybe theyre trying to avoid the risk of toxic shock syndrome.
A@++++ parenting.
@@satsumamoontss is something you should be aware of but it is also very rare. As long as you are changing your tampons regularly you should be fine. Parents can teach their children the risk of things while also letting them make their own choices.
In the south asia, tampons are really rare. We use pad everytime
Try menstrual cups instead. They are best for the environment and for your health. No waste at all.
What a great teacher of this actually happened!!
A great teacher to go risk TSS in a child? Even adult women still lose limbs and their life from it. It’s also inappropriate to go behind a parents back to help a young child (around 9 to 11 years old) acquire something to try to insert into themselves 😳 Those things don’t just slide in magically
Part 9 plz and can u do it every day instead every other day
Mhm
Maybe it just takes time to figure out what she’s going to do next
"tampons hold about half the volume of menstrual fluid compared with cups, and therefore need to be changed more frequently.
Menstrual cups are made from medical-grade silicone, latex rubber or elastomer, and can hold 10-38ml of fluid.
Depending on the heaviness of menstrual flow and the cup itself, menstrual cups need to be emptied every 4-12 hours.
One cup can be used for up to ten years"
I use adult diapers hahaha and honestly cos they are of shape of briefs, nobody understands
Not sure how to put it in..
@@duchessfinao1334the same way you do a tampon. You fold it into a C shape, aim the edge of the cup towards your rectum and insert it like you do a tampon. Once it’s in it’ll open up. You’ll hear a sound that’s kind of like a suction cup on glass. Once you hear that you’ll know it’s in place.
Not to mention less risk of toxic shock
@@chatgpt4135Look into menstrual underwear, saves waste and money
Apart from publicly humiliating me in the shops once, my dad came home from work with a huge shopping bag full of loose (wrapped) tampons of every size imaginable. He was the only one at work with a daughter old enough to need them. They’d been making a metal detector for some company or other and they’d had test control ones and safe ones. Once the machine was up to spec they didn’t need all the clean (no metal in them), still wrapped and perfectly fine to use tampons. I got them. They lasted me for something like 5 years. At the time I was cringing but not any more. It was an awesome perk to get them.
I was not allowed tampons as a younger menstruating woman……I started mine at 9 but by12 really wanted something far less bulky and was told no repeatedly. I still remember the smell, bulk, leakage and embarrassment of having to lug massive pads in my school bag now.
When I got my paper round at 14 I chose my own products and was much happier. I wish I had access to a menstruation cup back then as they were essential with a thin pad after I had children.
Personal choice and unbiased shopping is really essential.
I remember being still in elementary school I got my first period very quickly So I already knew a lot about it before we started talking about it at school. You have no idea how surprise i was when a teacher told us we couldn't use tampons because we would get cancer🤣🤣🤣
thats stupid..and I can relate on the elementary school thing. My elementary school didn't even have a bin for pads/tampons alone because I was the only elementary schooler ever at their that started my period that young.
Were you both fat?
Im scared of tampons
They won’t hurt you.
@@harleyquinn5774 if you don't know how to insert them they might
If you ever read about toxic shock syndrome you'll be thankful for your moms who want you to wear pads instead. My mom let me wear tampons and I wish she hadn't. After I saw a video about a girl who lost her legs from TSS I never used a tampon again. They are so bad for you.
My mom wouldn't let me wear tampons either. I had to wait like a year and prepare an argument to persuade her to letting me try some. Her reasoning was "you'll forget it's in there". Like any woman forgets she's on her period mid flow.
Honestly, when I’m on my period, all I use is tampons. Unless at night I use a night pad.
Damn this girl had a traumatic experience with her mother and her period. I’ve seen 3 different videos while scrolling.
Moms like that should not be moms. If your daughter has their period they’re old enough to learn about these things
Who in the world is making fun of someone for wearing pads??? Like every girl who starts their period got treated like a celebrity with bragging rights at my middle school.
One thing that I hate though is that most parents actually think that tampons would take your virginity which they don’t
It's actually a small minority who think tampons take your virginity.
My mother, born in 1956, was told that virgins can't use tampons by her mother, who went to nursing school! My grandmother was born in 1917, so I have no idea if the error was caused by prudish-ness or incorrect, out-of-date medical info! My mother never did use tampons, but eventually, I did because a girlfriend taught me about them. It definitely took practice, plus my flow was fairly mild/moderate, so I didn't think they made tampons light enough for my flow. Now, my BC implant eliminates my period, but eventually, I'm gonna go off it (cause I or the husband will be getting permanent sterilization). I'm definitely looking into menstrual cups and cloth pads. All cotton, organic applicator free tampons plus pads are what I used before going on BC. Disposable pads chafe, so I'm glad I've already discovered cloth resuable pads. Plastic applicators felt better than cardboard, but I hated that it was plastic and therefore gonna last for millennia in the landfill. That's why I finally figured out applicator free tampon usage.
That is a pretty big assumption there. I don't let my daughter use tampons because she is extremely forgetful and lacks the maturity and responsibility necessary. Ask your OB next time about some of the tampon horror stories of girls and women forgetting one or more tampons up there and what that is like.
Of course the do, busts the hymen apart. You new?
@@LuvableAF😂 no, it doesn't. Stop believing lies your mom told you.
How can someone be this pretty?!
IKR🤷♀️💖
Ben Hamilton
Imagine
SHE LOOKS LIKE A DAMN MAN
@@pyroflare7774 umm you realise how rude that sounds?
i’m so glad my mum knew how to use bc to avoid periods and told me my options with it, and helped me bring it up to my doctor. so much better.
This is the best video I've seen in my life
I love my mom, no matter what she would try and make me feel comfortable. When I started my . she said "You can try tampons if you want, I never really liked them, but if you need me to I can get you some!"
🙂👍
I talked to my mom about tampons at this age and she flat out told me the truth about them from her own experience: they leak, they will hurt dealing with them, and since i was younger it'll be uncomfortable when they are inside if they aren't done properly. Now that I'm an adult and have gotten used to them, i hardly ever wear them XD
My mom never taught me anything about pads or periods. We had one afternoon at school where it was discussed with female students only (it was sponsored by a prominent period product brand in Germany) and a couple months after when my periods started, I just started using the pads my mom bought for herself (which were hidden away quite well. I was using tons of toilet paper until I found them)
I had no cramps at all the first year I got my periods (by now excruciating pain bc I developed endometriosis which my mother also didn’t know was a thing), but I was also constantly soiling my bed and pj’s with blood because of that, and because I didn’t know anything about pads or how long they last or any other tricks to prevent spillage. I still sometimes wake up in the middle of the night, panicked because I felt a twinge in my lower stomach and might’ve bloodied my bed. Those years I felt extremely lonely with my period problems to the point I was too scared to open pads in public bathrooms when someone else was there too because they might hear.
Edit: thanks to all that I’m a master at removing bloodstains because I was too embarrassed to throw bloody laundry into the laundry basket. I just cleaned it in the middle of the night.
You videos are just amazing
Why is no one talking about how a teacher should never ever override a parent and encourage secrets to be kept??
I'd be mad if someone overstepped into my raising of my daughter as much as Mrs. M does .
@Gray Manning I haven't seen a lot of Mrs M but she def over steps, this is coming from some one in the daughter perspective. I don't always agree with my mother but she usually has reasons and some one that invested in personal stuff all the time is just weird.
@@graymanningThat's your main and only reason?!
Then dont be an asshole parent
My sentiments exactly! Outsiders do not live in my house nor do they know the circumstances of my family or the beliefs of my family. It would be one thing to recommend a product that the daughter could then look into with her mom or maybe even the lady could have a respectful conversation with the mom about not wanting tampons (maybe some myths that have caused the hesitation), but ultimately it should be the decision of the parent. Going against a parent's will behind their back is despicable behavior.
I realize there are parents that are abusive and those are extenuating circumstances, but it shouldn't be assumed in every case that parents are abusive as society likes to do these days. If abuse seems possible in a given situation, dig deeper and make a real effort to find more evidence.
@@dawnmitchell11It's daughter's choice.
The step dad has never been so relieved
Kids Please don’t go against your parents. Other adults have other agendas for your life and DO NOT care about you the way your parents do! Talk things through with your parents and tell them what the other adults have said also. Communication is so important. Love and honor your mum and dad please! ❤
I was talking to my mom. I haven't gotten my yk yet.. and I said, "Am I using pads or tampons, and she yells, " TAMPONS!" But she say pads for bed like MOM 😭
No, but she's right. Pads OR a period disc(can stay in longer than a tampon without the toxic shock risk). You have to make sure you remember to change it within the time frame or its dangerous and a breeding ground for bacteria because of the material.
@@Dino_Mommy lol ik I wear pads and tampons
@@Dino_Mommy she wore a tampon for 24+ hours because she's goofy
I love how everyone talks normally and then the teacher is just full on South Dakota accent
One of my best friends growing up lived with his dad. They had a drawer with different menstrual products in their guest-bathroom for any female visiting. It made it so much easier as I was early.
Yep teachers will happily help with issues like this but usually its within the school setting. Ask for help 😊
I don't do tampons for my girls either, but there are period knickers and cloth pads on the market. I don't even wear tampons myself. I wear period knickers and cloth pads.
If you prefer, there are also menstrual cups. Tampons aren't really a good option. Toxic shock syndrome is still a real thing.
mom said no to tampons for a reason , its all great till your clawing pieces of it out of you😭
Or you go in toxic shock
The teacher everyone needs
As someone who uses tampons my mum always supported me whether I wanted to use pads or tampons. It's you body so use what your comfortable.
OH my goodness this is getting good!!!!! Please post the next part! ASAP!!!!
My anger issues could never with my mom 😂
I see how the worries of TSS could make a mom nervous about tampons especially if the young girl is forgetful and doesn’t take change them regularly but open communication in a loving way is key… and other moms should not be saying “or your mom said no so I’ll do it”
Of all the, the things young women deal with, which products they use during their periods should be THEIR choice.
“Did you start your period “
That’s a normal question to ask a women?
Only if ur being polite, but yeah
Well, she’s holding a pack of pads right in front of her. And they aren’t strangers. She’s the girl’s teacher and teachers sometimes double as counselors as well
Edit: that being said, i do still think its a super awkward interaction 💀. It would make more sense if the girl had gone up to the teacher herself on purpose after class or gone to the school nurse, but I get it’s just to make a point in the video
Periods are normal bro wtf
I could probably make some serious bank off an underground tampon smuggling business.
Teacher crossing boundaries
Oh god I had the opposite Mum! Back in the day I wanted to go swimming at a hotel when we were on holidays, I was 14 but I had just gotten my period and my Mum told me to try tampons and got like 10 different brands for some reason and then had to help me put it in because I couldn’t! She was making small talk the entire time..
I’m still traumatized from the whole ordeal 😂
Part 9 pls
yesssssss
Aye my name is Ava too!!!
I remember seeing a lady in the mall who had her pad hanging out. She was with a whole bunch of friends who didn't tell her that it was there even though ypu could see them looking at it. I ended up going up to her and whispering to her about it. She was so embarrassed. I felt so bad for her.
The mother is a quick change artist.
Very comical, I needed that after the week I'm having