Don't judge MY grief
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You don’t owe anyone an explanation! Everyone deals with these things in their own way & no one has the right to judge you for doing it you’re way! Sending you & your family lots of love x
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100% agree. You do what you need to do . This is your life and your moment Georgina! 💕
Exactly!
Oh dear, dear Georgina! you owe NO ONE an explanation for what you’re going through. It pains me to the core that someone is hurting you even more with an insensitive comment to say the least! You are going through so much right now and maybe this person isn’t following you with sincerity and is just a grump! (to put it mildly.) you are handing and balancing so many activities and feelings with grace and dignity. God bless you! I love you for being such a beautiful person, wishing you the best. ❤️.
very well said. the person who posted that comment is just IGNORANT beyond belief. I think you are a very strong and inspiring woman. you have my full support. ❤
The worst thing about grief (I have found) is that it just randomly hits you just as you think you are OK. I hope you’re alright
So true. X
Yep. I used to get hit in the shower with it. My ex-husband took his own life and I was left to sort out his affairs and household stuff etc. I was judged by his workmates as cold cow etc bc I just got on with it but I cried and cried each night for months! It took years to be in a comfortable place to deal with it.. he died 8 years ago! Nobody knows what somebody else is going through when it comes to grief. I can't even imagine losing a child. She might have been 23 but she was her baby! How can people be mean?
Indeed
My mother died 10 years ago. I dived into my work and after several months I had no energy left. I sat on my sofa for 2,5 years before I got up and was able to say: it’s ok now. Sending you love.
I have personally found your strength and ability to move forward as best you can absolutely mind blowingly inspirational.
To get yourself out of bed every day at this time when the pain must be unreal is a giant achievement in itself, but to then be able to do things for yourself, to smile when you can and to continue to serve the community that enjoys your work is beyond incredible.
You have shown to me that it is possible to live even after such a terribly sad loss and I will remember you and your beautiful strength should unfortunate times of grief face me.
You’re doing amazing ❤️
Thank you ♥️
Some people are just horrid. Grief is different for everyone. And we all deal in different ways. Sounds like this person wanted attention! We know how heartbroken and upset you are. But you are choosing to live! And honor Ellie's memory. More power to you! Sending love and positive vibes. X
Nobody knows what you're going through..You don't owe anyone any explanation...we love you
I was upset listening to this , how dare a horrible person choose to impose on your grief , what was their intention? That’s the only trouble with being in the public domain I suppose, keep making these lovely videos , I love watching you’re bubbly personality you are a lovely lady xx
How dare anyone judge! Of course you are heartbroken and I’m so glad you got to experience happiness again! You will go through the grief cycle in so many ways! Sending so much love to you! You are so strong and brave for sharing your story 💚
Wow, I can’t believe someone had the audacity to say that. Grief is not linear, it hits you at different times in different ways and you don’t owe anyone an explanation but we all appreciate you sharing this loss with us. You have no obligation to share but it’s nice letting us know what’s going on and for making us more aware of epilepsy because it is a condition I feel not a lot know about well. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss and do whatever is you need to do to deal with the grief. Best wishes!❤️
Grief is a very strange thing. My partner died 3 years ago and I almost don't remember the year after, but apparently I was a bit all over the place. You do things as best you can and muddle through as best you're able. For whatever it's worth, in my (limited and egocentric) experience, it's better to try to enjoy what you can. Being miserable doesn't achieve anything. If you are miserable at any one time, fair play and it's good to let yourself feel, but if you're not, then don't force misery. Anyway, that's a long winded way of saying that just keep muddling through and doing the best you can under the circumstances, even if that's just having a shower.
Georgina, you do not have to justify your life and what you have to do to cope, grief is terrifying, 1 day you can face life, another day you can't, you are a fantastic lady and very genuous with your time talking about Ellie, you were fantastic together, you will never forget her and you are still alive and Ellie would want you to carry on, the best thing for you is the fact you have a lot of Ellie you can see, she is singing, you are together doing your vocal coaching, so she will never be out of your sight, and you will be together again, God obviously really wanted Ellie for a reason and you will find out when you also go to Heaven, God Bless you Geogina always.
Normally I would say don’t bother wasting energy on people like this. They just don’t have empathy which too many are lacking. However you’re using your platform to bring awareness to a huge issue and you’re helping soo many other people just by being your honest and vulnerable self. It’s also good to let out frustration in any way. It will get easier and all you can do is take it day by day , hour by hour and sometimes minute by minute. Which is how we all should be living anyhow in the moment as much as we can. ❤️
That’s what I thought. Grief is rarely talked about and we all we have to go through it at some time in our lives. If my video shows people they are not alone then I’ve done a good job x
There's no right way to grieve. You just have to ignore the strange people in the world : )
So sorry you have received negative comments during this difficult time. You are not required to justify your grief process to anyone. Do whatever you need to. Sending you support.
Well said! You have all our support!
This reminds me Kendrick Lamar's line "I grieve different". You are so strong and so brave, I send you love and support.
So what that comment basically said was when you are grieving you are not allowed to smile or be happy, when those things are so important when going through it. Stay strong ❤
Grief is something that is never or can be taught and is different for everyone. We should respect everyone going through their own journey.
Grief is so so hard that nobody should judge how other people grief. Each person is free to grief as best as possible. Crying and hiding is not the way to justify you are sad.
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. You shouldn't have to explain yourself, there is no rule how people should grieve - that person has no right to judge you.
Sometimes I don’t understand people… how could they not be happy that you’re doing better each day?? Grief comes in waves, and there’s nothing wrong to feel good and just live your life
You are inspirational and I hope you blocked this horrible person. Sending you love 💗
People think it’s ok to tell people how they should feel, their parents should be ashamed of themselves.
When my dad committed suicide, I was 18 years old. I had lost my mum 10 years earlier. When I found my dad in the bathroom, I calmly called the services and waited in the other room for them to arrive. I was shortly before my university exams, after the funeral I threw myself into my studies and didn't have time to process it. Every grief is experienced differently. People have asked me why I didn't cry at the funeral. If they only knew how many therapy sessions I cried through a few years after the incident, they wouldn't ask stupid questions. Georgina, you are entitled to grieve and whatever form it takes, it is your personal business. Know that your community and audience supports and cheers you on. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. Take care! ❤️
There was a comment that I heard from a famous medium from america that I thought was sweet. "Everyday that you wake up in the morning, your one day closer to the loved ones that you loved and lost". Live everyday for them, so they can see life through your eyes and remember that they never really left you, you just cant see them through human eyes and they will always be by your side until you meet again on the other side.
Your grief is yours in the same way your relationship with your beautiful daughter was unique to the 2 of you. Some people don't have the depth and sensitivity to understand.
Grief is such a personal experience. I cannot believe that someone would even stoop so low. Shame on them!!! Sending you lots of love and hugs and keep shining your beautiful light with us all Georgina xXx
You grieve how you feel is best for you.
You grieve for as long as it takes.
You do not ever owe anyone an explanation.
13 years I still grieve a loss.
6 months I still grieve a loss.
Sometimes I'm ok, sometimes I vocally grieve, sometimes I silently grieve.
You're an amazing strong lady!
It sounds like that person has never had any major loss in their lives. Lucky for them. Those 5 stages of grief will be all over the place. People go through the stages multiple times and not always in order. It's been almost 20 years since I lost my Mom, and those stages sometimes come out of nowhere. Now that I have my own children, I relive those stages because I miss her not being here and sharing in all the ways she never got to be a grandmother and there for me as a new Mom etc. You grieve however it comes to you and apologize to no one!! We are here to support you, Georgina! Try and ignore the unsympathetic people. In my opinion, that means that they are not very happy people in their own lives. How sad for them.
No one has a right to judge someone else's grief. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I wish you peace.
everyone is being so civil that i'll happily be the one person that says f that guy lol.
Dear Georgina, I am a 23 years old daughter, and I would never want my mum to grief the way this mean comment wants you to do so. You are too strong do not listen to anybody. I love you, we love you, Ellie loves you ♥️
"I live on another Planet " . That's right. You have not explain to anybody your Grief. I suffer by Depression . And i smile.
People grieve in a million different ways- loss can affect people in so many ways and at any time.
How dare ANYBODY judge or even have the gall to comment on how someone else is grieving!!! Infuriating. Good for you for speaking out against this abuse. And it is an abusive comment. You, or anybody else, should not have to justify how you're handling the loss of a loved one, nevermind one of their children, to anybody.
This comment is from someone who has never experienced grief or has spent their life as a devout mourner and didn’t warrant any response! The week after my mum died suddenly I was dragged to a wedding by friends and my sister had what would have been our mum’s first grandchild. Celebrating these occasions didn’t mean we were mourning any less, there are moments of light in the darkness. Grieving is a long journey and there is no textbook process, you just have to do what’s right for you and whatever gets you though. After 7 years I still have the occasional 20-30 seconds of overwhelming sadness that comes out of nowhere but you learn to cope. Sending love and positivity ❤️
Ignore them there's no rules to grief ❤️❤️
Love from the Netherlands ❤❤❤
I find that comment absolutely outrageous. I can clearly see that you love Ellie and want to honor her beautiful life by wanting to inform people about her illness and potentially save other people's lives. Ellie must be proud of you. I love you and your content so much, you're amazing!❤️
The emotions of grief come in so many waves including undeserved guilt. I’m proud Georgina you speaking up for yourself , we won’t tolerate that nasty anonymous insensitive behaviour here. They come for you they have to go through all of us first
And it is a VERY VERY VERY important thing that you said there.
the fact that a person is smiling and laughing does NOT necessarily mean that they are happy or at ease.
there are countless tragedies of people being with friends or family one day, smiling and laughing, and the next day they commit suicide.
Says a ton more about that person, than anyone else - and ignorance comes to mind...🤷♀️😳🙄 You do you, and your grief is - of course - yours to handle, how it's right for you...💞💞💞💞
Georgina, thank you for this video. I lost my mum suddenly in February and as much as my heart is breaking every day and I can't go a second without thinking about her, ironically I've been living life to the fullest this year. I think that has something to do with COVID lifting this year too, but on my social media you would've seen me enjoying life more.
My mom passed in 2019. I still go through all of these too!
people have no right to judge you , grief is a journey that takes different times and different routes , only when you have suffered a pain like yours will they ever get any comprehension of your pain. please dont waste your energy with these people just take care and we are there for you xxx
Grief is very different for everyone, please don’t explain yourself ❤️
Your description of the grief fog and the cyclic nature of the stages of grief and how completely overwhelming it can be is the best description I have heard and can relate to, by far, ever. My prayers and sympathy for your great loss. Much love ❤️
We all grief in different ways and no matter which one it is, the goal is to be happy again. A warm hug from here! 🧡
I am a fellow bereaved mother. There is no such thing as a way to behave. You have to keep going with your child in heart. That person who wrote that should be ashamed.
You have nothing to explain at all! Love to you and your family xxxx
Hi there. I lost my son in January. What you’ve articulated is 100%. You do what you need to cope. There are many ignorant people. I hope they remain ignorant to this particular subject because I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. Love and light Georgina.
What a compassionate response to a very misjudged comment. Sending you love.
I know about this fog. It is horrible and can't be explained. If it was just one thing, like sadness, or anger, there would be something to go on, but it's formless and elusive, paralysing. I have noticed that there are three main types of women: those who need to be left alone to process their pain, those who need to be with others and receive comfort, a listening ear, and those who need to distract themselves. We can all seek all those things at different times, but there are dominant types, I think. I am the third type, for sure and would always seek out situations to take me out of current difficult feelings, not to forget about them but to give me the strength to process them better. I know North Wales very well, having lived there for a large part of my life. It can be very healing to be there and it has been recognised as such over millennia. Moreover, I don't think that letting go of grief means forgetting about those we love. Instead, their colours re-appear through the murkiness of our feelings of loss. I find it very difficult to take in what's happened, so can't even begin to imagine how you feel.
We love you very much. Your response to this shows what a big person you are. Most people rightfully so would be raging and putting the commentator on blast. But you took the high road and turned it into an educating moment. Really appreciate this outlook and you are incredibly strong that you can compartmentalize in as healthy of a way possible and still try and enjoy your life and work, you know that’s what Ellie would want. Much love Georgina 💕
So sorry that you are grieving and have to put up with negative comments. I'm coming to yUK soon. I miss England and hope to take singing lessons with yourself, face to face, if possible. Perhaps we could arrange a Blended Learning program later. Lots of Love martin xxx.
❤❤❤❤❤ do what makes you happy and to cope. Thinking of you ❤❤❤
Sod them. They're idiots. You're doing wonderfully 💙. We are all so proud of you, you're very brave 💙
I'm so sorry ya had to go through this, sweet. That comment was bang out of order! People can honestly be unbelievably rude at times!
You owe no one an explanation, you do what you need to to be able to get out of bed each day. Ignore such ignorance. Sending massive hugs xxx
❤️❤️ no rules at all, I happen to think your way is fantastic ❤️❤️
Grief is very personal, it takes as long as it takes. And those stages can happen in every sequence within every timeframe. My heart goes out to you.
Shame on that person for judging you. Pay no mind to that Georgina and much love to you.
It's just disgusting that anybody feels they have the right to say this to you G. Appalling. I can see you're struggling and Ellie would be so proud of how you're holding up xx
I am so sorry Georgina, you shouldn't have to see those disrespectful & ignorant comments. Biggest hugs. ❤️
Grief is squiggly. Honestly those who comment things like that are beyond me. Keep on keeping on!
Squiggly? I haven’t heard it described like that before.
@@georginavlog I thought the writer’s intention was to suggest that grief can cause the sufferer to be all over the place, and that there is not a strict or predictable pattern that everyone follows.
This is what is meant by squiggly: “Grief rarely (if ever!) follows a linear path. It is more like a squiggly line that goes up and down, backwards and forwards, runs straight and gets tangled up again - sometimes many times over. There are ups and downs. In the midst of emotional times, remind yourself that there is not a ‘correct way’ of how you should be feeling or reacting.”
I’m so sorry you got that judgemental comment that you talk about in the video, it was so insensitive of them. You’re completely right in saying that it’s a personal experience… I don’t know how anyone could judge what another person is going through. I’m very sorry for your loss.
@@georginavlog
Grief hits people differently and no one has the right to say how someone is grieving is wrong. When my Grandmother passed away last year I carried on with work and met friends and carried on as normal until about 5 months later it hit me as if it had happened the day before and had to take time away. Grief never fully leaves you. You accept what has happened but grief is like an emotional roller coaster. Wishing you all the best 💐
Your daughter would be proud of you. She would love you to keep smiling and wanting to get better and better despite the pain. You are a strong and sweet woman, your integrity is admirable. Lots of love from France, we'll always be here to watch your videos.
What an absolutely unnecessary thing to comment. I am pretty sure that the majority of the community who love you, Georgina, were more than happy to see that you were able to enjoy some time away after what you've been through and continue to go through. I see many people comment that they are just leaving a supportive comment because they care about you. We do care how you are doing, Georgina, and most of us are now watching your vlogs to support you and check that you're okay because we love you.
I've just watched. No one should tell you how to feel, how to behave ... I can't even imagine the pain ... All the best wishes for you Georgina ❤️
Ever since you lost your daughter I have followed your channel quite closely I suppose just to make sure you're ok. It's crazy I don't even know you but this breaks my heart. And I often think about you. I'm so glad you have been able to still love and enjoy life. Do you have any other children? Its great to know you have a partner . That's a good support X
"How can you judge?" I'd say more like "How bloody dare you judge?!" Excuse my French!
Queen Victoria grieved Albert for the majority of her life, after he died till she died. Many people grieve in different ways, and each way is valid, yours is just as valid. 💕
You shared a ten minute snippet of 72hrs.
Well done on keeping it together for a ten minute vlog to keep you distracted and working and sharing a nice time you had with your internet family xxxx
You have been such a source of strength to me, my ex partner died the week before your Ellie and her daughter wouldn't allow me to attend her funeral. There was no closure . She was still my best friend. But I've closed it off.
And I send you so much love xxx
(Guilt feels like a stage of grief that is missing)
You're an amazing woman ❤️ my brother died in 2020.. his birthday is on Tuesday.. the pain never goes away, you can only learn to live with it x
Sending my love to you and your family x
hope your ok
Its so horrific. I lost my brother too. Recently. Cant imagine a life without him. And i know what you say is True. I wont stop grieving. I'll learn how to life with the pain😢
Yeah. That reply was spot on. Who in their right mind would write that?
Everyone deals with grief their own way - warm hugs to you, Georgina.
Grief ebbs and flows and is very different for everyone! You don’t need to explain to anyone!!
We all grieve in different ways. There is no right way or wrong way.
My dear god… I’m so sorry. That’s a lifelong loss one that has pain that never dims.
Who on earth is judging u for how u choose to grieve?!!? BLOCK THEM GEORGINA!!!
Block away!!!
Some people just like to criticize without any knowledge or emphathy towards one another 🥺🥺🥺💔💔💔 so sad
Social media is becoming sicker and sicker. People feel entitled to whatever comments they want and they leave them everywhere most of the time unfiltered. My deepest condolences. Your daughter wants you to live and go on, am sure she is happy for you Now
Last year my neighbour died she was in her nineties and had two grown up sons she found out she had cancer and refused treatment .. she felt she was ready to go.. every time i saw her in the block she would say 'hello dear, did i tell you i had cancer? oh its fine im ready to go' she died in her sleep and i went her funeral and it was completely upbeat and they played her favourite track from the seventies.. i love to boogie..i learned so much from her approach she was an inspiration to me and so are you.. to face such pain and still smile and show some optimism despite everything.. that shows strength and love .. i cant imagine what your painful moments must be like but you should be extremely proud of yourself my dear because like my neighbour through your awful pain you have chose to try to be strong and do it your way .. hats off to you and lots of love xx
Love you Georgina 💕
I hate you read their comment. They are miserable, and it was directed to you. I'm so sorry. It's incredibly painful to lose your own child, and no one should have to be subject to seeing a random person critique how you're living dealing with that loss. Much love to you!
You don’t have to justify anything, Regina. Please don’t answer those comments again. They just want to be noticed. Grief in the way you feel you have to. That’s private, personal, painful. I wish you well. Blessings and hugs from Cali.
His comment has been reported. Love and support to you!
Each person deals with grief the best they can, nobody has the right to judge you. You are going through a veeeeery hard situation nobody should have to live, and no one that hasn't experience something like that can even begin to understand what it is like (I myself haven't lost a daughter, so I include myself). You're such a strong person, do whatever feels right and ignore comments like those. Sending all my strength from Spain ❤️
Unfortunately there are people out there that think they have a right to comment on such a sensitive and private matter. I hope you find peace of heart and mind. Sending you lots of love!
Usually I see people getting pressure to “get over it” quickly. I’m a bit surprised that someone was implying you weren’t “sad enough.” Vey rude and I hope that person doesn’t say that to anyone else. You are allowed to experience happiness even while grieving. I’m glad you’re able to have those moments in this time.
Sending love❤️❤️❤️
I lost my most special person, my beloved little brother, when I was 25 and he was 20. Brain haemorrhage, total shock and a grief that is still a part of my every day, 28 years later. All I know is that you simply cannot survive feeling that type of grief the entire time. It suffocates you, drains you of energy and hurts in the most tangible, physical way. The moments when you get some respite, and can smile, laugh and focus on other things are what makes it possible to survive it all. At first those moments are rare, over time they get both more common and longer. Welcome them with gratitude and let NO ONE tell you otherwise. The grief is not there for anyone else to judge or review. The writer of the comment is not just completely ignorant, but also MEAN! Take care! 💕 A-K in 🇸🇪
Grief hits everyone different and Ellie would want you to be happy and to be enjoying life ignore the haters g 💜
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😞💔
That person will regret their comment and learn a valuable lesson.
Ignore the one stupid comment and know how much we all love and appreciate you xx
haters gonna hate. you are a very sweet person and you dont have to prove/explain nothing to nobody. keep strong!
Some people just don't know because they haven't dealt with loss, and I'm glad they haven't, but don't let anyone judge your grief and I'll keep praying for you and your family.
How dare someone comment on your grief! It looks different to everyone. My mother passed 20 years ago and it comes in waves. We love you.
Please… you don’t owe anyone anything. You have survived the worst thing a parent/person can go through. We are with you, my heart aches for you… just know the world wants you to thrive
You don't owe an explanation to even those people close to you Georgina - your grief is personal and nobody can walk a day in your shoes. Just know that you are not on your own - reach out when and if you feel the need..... no one can put a timeframe on grief... yours will hopefully ease with time but it won't ever totally leave you. This is your child and you have the right to grieve in your own way, for as long as you need to. You have a lot of support... that is because you are a genuinely nice person - Take strength from the positive people around you and stay safe. With love and hope to you and your family from Australia. 💝
Grief is stubborn and wild, like an untamed animal. Sometimes you have to let it run itself out.
There is no right way to grieve.
People have no business wondering about other people's grief. Like they dont have enough going on without being judged too.
We all love and adour you. I lost my dad recently and everyday is like a battle. That negative comment needs binning xxx