OP needs to understand that her sister dying isn’t her fault. I know a lot of people say that, but it really wasn’t. It’s horrible that she lost her sister, but her sister wouldn’t want her to blame herself for trying her best. Her sister wouldn’t want her sister to miserable b/c of something that was completely out of her control. I really do OP finds inner peace & accepts that this was completely out of her control.
OP, maybe you're thinking about this backward. Because of you, Mary got to live her best life while she was here on Earth. It sounds like you not only took care of her, but wanted her to have great experiences and be around truly caring people. Covid and quarantine were unprecedented events. You did what you could to prevent her from getting it, but this was a pandemic. You aren't to blame. You loved your sister well and put her first. I wish everyone could have someone like you in their life. The world would be a completely different place!
My brother has the same disability. We know that people with this syndrome have a shorter life because of their health. It's not her fault. She fought so hard for her sister
i almost started crying when i heard that mary died i hope op realizes that marys death was not her fault and that mary wouldn’t want op to kill her self
op is an extraordinary woman and I believe that Mary was very lucky to be with her. I have no words to express my admiration for op, I even have tears in my eyes because of how moved I am by her story. since she was very strong, brave and dedicated to providing the best life for her little sister.
I get where she’s coming from but OP need to understand that Mary’s death wasn’t her fault, and she took care of her the best she could, and although Mary died, OP should still get a happy ending. She gave up her future to take care of her little sister, should get a happy ending and more 😢
You did your best. Mary left this world proud and happy for u and YOU ARE NOT UNDESERVING OF HAPPINESS! No one is.... We all are proud of you.... So go out, meet people, treat yourself right and be happy❤
Mum neglected them period, not.just emotional. I mean her part of the child care payments!? It wasn't her child, she shouldn't have had to care for her sister, I get mum had depression and its hard to deal with but she got better and still didn't do the bare min
I’m looking almost crying at my beautiful almost two months old daughter while hearing this story, and I promised her I will never willingly hurt her. Parenthood will be hard, challenging, and I’ll make mistakes as every parent does, but never willingly, never. I hope I will be a good mother in the future to her. I hope OP is good, that she could overcome the guilt and grief, her sister would want her to be happy, I’m sure.
Unfortunately this was a familiar story I’ve heard before also, it’s not your fault. Her little body of thought so hard I just couldn’t do anymore. That’s how this works sometimes unfortunately I’ve had a couple of friends that passed away from Covid related ventilator stories and it’s not your fault you had the whole world dropped on your head, and you just been trying to muscle through it therapy but on the holiday that Mary loved to do one thing that would’ve made her happy we do the same thing in our house. My son died before Covid but the same thing we find one thing and it helped us get through it, don’t harm yourself
I lost my daughter when she was 4 years old, not a day goes by that I don’t miss her a lot but I know that I need to keep going forward. “You give to your kids what you didn’t get as a kid” is something my mom always said.
Mary lived a full life in the short time she lived! She knew she was deeply loved! Her 💝 gifts 💝 to you are the memories of the time you spent together and her deep love for you💝! You did the best a sister could do for a sister! You had an experience few get in such a deep love! Carry that in your heart along with the joyous memories of your time together!!!
OP, if you see this on CZcams know this! Sorry for your loss. It was not your fault at all. You did what you could for your sister and yourself to get out of that situation. Your sister is in a better place with no pain or discomfort. She is watching over you now. Your mother is not a good person. Sometimes life throws you curve balls and sometimes it will throw you off a cliff. Sometimes it will just difficult. But never let the bad times fun your life. Also it is better to get out your feelings than bottling them up. Bottling feelings up is never a good idea.
Mary wants you to be happy and wants you to live your life. She loves you and would be happy to see you happy. Losing a child is a pain that you cannot describe, it’s a pain that’ll stay in your mind but you need to pick yourself up and allow others to pick you up as well in order to move forward
It is not your fault people with down syndrome sometime have multiple health problems and sometimes ones even doctors don't pick up on so don't blame yourself and it's likely your mother's fault and maybe you should contact your dad's family and tell them what happened and how your mother treated you guys and for your depression I recommend listening to citizen soldier and lo spirit the music helps
Marys passing is not your fault... Mary went out of this world having known the joys of this world. I hope op gets the help and closesure she needs. It's okay to move forward and it's okay to take time.
Op, you did an amazing job with your sister given your age. You took all precautions during covid you could while not putting her into a cleanroom. Dont blame yourself for your sister getting covid, its too contagious to blame yourself. Moving foward. Dont push your friends away(the ones who are rallying around you during this time are true friends, tresure them) and allow yourself time to morn. Itll be painful, and the pain may never go away, but you living on in her memory and living the best life you can is the best way you can honor your sisters life.
I am so very, very, sorry for your loss. This wasn't your fault, you did everything for your little sister as you could. And you did one hell of a selfless job! Being mom, sister, dad all in one. Not many people can or would do that. You're a hell of a woman. Your sister would want you not to blame yourself, she knows it wasn't you that she passed away. She would want you to get the help you need, and learn that non of this was your fault and allow your friends to just sit there in silence and hug you, til you are ready to talk. God, is a perfect example to talk to him about her, when it's Christmas time, do something she loved doing, her birthday the same thing. I wish you well. I love you in Christ.
I feel so bad for OP it's not easy to look after a child who has medical issues and to do it as a child herself is so sad. Her parents should be ashamed of themselves ( I know that eventually the mum did the right thing by giving up custody, but that is the only thing she has done right) But blaming her daughter for the death of her sister is heartbreaking to hear. I hope that OP gets the help she needs to make it through tough time and figures out that she is NOT responsible for her sisters death. Covid is a B1t¢h
Mary would be proud of the woman you became. She is definitely an angel looking after you in heaven now. Never blame yourself for her death. As crass as this sounds, my mom told me that God takes the good ones into his Kingdom. Know and tell yourself that her suffering and pain has ended. She is watching over you now as your personal angel. I bet you she wants you to live your best life. Live the life both of you deserve. Live the life to the fullest for the both of you. Im positive Mary would like you to travel, make new friends, fall in love, experience life both of you wanted and more. She will be there for you in spirit guiding you through your ups and downs. As you journey life.its ok to be sad, to mourn, but don't let it control you. Suicide is never the answer. Live. Live for yourself and live for Mary.
I understand, somewhat, what OP is going through. I lost my little brother suddenly, at age 39. Both of our parents worked full-time and dad was an alcoholic. So i was the one who took care of him, gave him baths, made breakfast every day, checked his homework, walked him to and from the bus stop, made sure he got a snack and anything else that he needed. I also learned how to sign dad's name so I signed all permission slips, field trips, report cards and discipline papers. I was literally his parent until age 15-16 because i moved out when i was 17.
From what I got from this was if the dad never left and the mom actually acted like a parent then the little girl would have a more fighting chance during covid times and may have lived I blame the parents for not stepping up when they needed to, the sibling was more of a parent than they are and if they ever have children in the future they will be the best parent ever
You need to understand you shouldn't live your life and painted suffering that is it what your sister wants for you she wants you to live happily without her. It might be tough. It might be painful, but she want to get through it.
The best thing you can do for Mary is to live your best life. Kids pick up on things and she probably noticed how hard your life was for her. What you should do is to keep her in your heart and pass down this kind of motherly affection onto another kid of your own. This will help you heal.
You did more than any sis would for your sis. So many people were lost from Covid. You tried to safely balance her needs for outings and social times and safety. We all took those gambles during Covid. You can’t blame yourself! That won’t help her to rest. She’d want you to go on with your life, and do things you missed when caring for you. Don’t waste the life you have left, she wouldn’t want that!
Sweetie, get into grief therapy ASAP. I know how much it hurts to lose someone. You are not at fault for any of what happened to Mary. You did your very best and fought so hard for her. Honestly, I believe that she would want you to be happy again when you are ready. After losing my best friend and partner, it took me a while to feel somewhat normal. I also have a wonderful therapist who has helped me a lot. So please get help and don't punish yourself anymore . I'll be keeping you in my prayers.
You are a great sister if your sister would have been alive she would love you to live your life on your terms and have an amazing life. So if u r still grieving plz stop and for Mary sake start the new chapter of your life bcz would like the same.
I have a dog that died. He was really dared to me and I was so sad that everything that I loved dropped and I can relate to you because this dog was the only thing that made me happy and find out that your sister died of Covid is really sad, my dog died of old age, but what made me learn is that people come and go and in the fifth grade one of my teachers left me with which heartbroken me and I couldn’t breathe. I broke down crying when I lost her. It was one of the most saddest moments of my life and ever since I’ve been depressed because thinking that it’s my fault, but she just had to take care of her dad and I’m happy for her.
If it makes you feel better, Mary will always be with you. Her spirit will follow you and comfort you. She knows you tried your best, and that it’s not your fault. You just wanted to make sure that your sister had what was best for her. I support your choices. 💐 For Mary, Rest In Peace
You have so much more than the pain of Mary's death to remember her by. You have all the moments before, the hard moments and the beautiful and even the guilt ridden ones. So so much more than only the ripping pain of her absence. Allow yourself the space to grieve, absolutely, but also allow yourself the grace to move forward. You love your sister and she loves you. She wouldn't want you to be in pain forever. In time, the pain will be further away than the love. Not gone, but also not choking you. You've already done so many hard things and I'm proud of you. Now you need to the hardest thing and forgive yourself so you have the chance to finally be happy.
i am currently crying it is not op's fault i feel awful that she had to go through all that and still lost Mary i really hope she finds some peace Mary would want her to.
When she said “I lost my sister to covid” I was confused and thought “maybe marry had just gotten covid and will be better later, that’s probably what she means” but it was far worse and I feel really sorry for her loss
Contact child protective services in your area. There is a good chance with your mother‘s lack of attachment that they would order her to either counseling or potentially give you custody just because she’s not actively abusive doesn’t mean she’s not abusing your sister. I learned this when I was a lot older. My parents not actively emotionally. Taking care of us did damage to us. It caused us to be abused, it caused me and my sibling to have difficulty self regulating our emotions and with interpersonal relationships as we’ve aged, let’s not forget emotional abuse is still abuse just because she’s not actively hitting your sisterdoes not mean she is not abusing her
I understand how you feel she was your daughter even though you didn't give birth to her it's ok she wants you to live your life for her and for yourself
when i was 8, my Nana's house burnt down. she was mostly okay, but i was little and didn't really understand things yet. i was also already traumatized and she was the only person i loved back then. and i told my mom, that i didn't need anything for my birthday coming up soon, i just wanted Nana to be okay... Mary might not have been on the same level as others, but she knew who you were. she knew all that you did for her, and how much you loved her. she loved you too, immensely. this is a rather overused therapy technique, but i still want to ask... do you think mary would want you to live this way? after you did SO MUCH for her out of love? it is OKAY that you sometimes were overwhelmed or sad about your situation. you were never meant to take on the role of mother to your sister. but you did because you love her. you will need time to heal, maybe a long time. but please understand that, no matter what happens, she will be with you in your heart until the day you go to hopefully find her again. i guarantee she would hug you a million times if she saw you this way. please please seek therapy for grieving. grief is the one thing that nobody can take your pain away. but it will ease with time. it will never go completely away, but i personally like to think of that as them living on within us. i hope you can feel alive again OP.
I would remember Mary and think about how much fun she had. Then I would foster care for a child and treat her like you did mark it might make you feel better that you know that somone gets to live the life you wanted for mary
You did a wonderful thing with your sister by making her as independent as you could by the age that you did that is remarkable and your love for your sister shows through all of it. I’m sorry you guys got a shit bag and a shit bag mom who can’t step up and do what needs to be doneMary didn’t she didn’t Dallas syndrome and her life is always going to be harder but at least she has somebody in her corner and don’t send your aunt back that she doesn’t deserve. The fact that she pit is your sister is her own thing and her own demon to deal with, and she will answer for it one day.
Hey…Ik it’s hard…but don’t blame yourself for your sisters death…and your mother shouldn’t blame you either…she didn’t give Mary an ounce of actual love while you gave her so much. Mary was lucky to have such an amazing older sister, and wouldn’t want u to suffer and instead, get through it the best you can and live for her sake. Even if she’s gone physically, she will always be there for you in spirit and in your heart. Something you could do to get through the pain is making a scrapbook of memories you had with Mary along with other healthy ways of coping with grief. You should also find support in those who care for you and cut your mother out of your life for good, to get closure for both yourself and Mary after all your mother had done. Ik the chances of you seeing this are slim but I want to provide as much help as I can to you. Don’t forget, your sister is always there for u, even if she isn’t there physically, always remember her love for u as an older sister 👭🏻
Hey I know it's been 12 days have passed And you're probably feeling a little better or a lot I don't know but beyond that I promise you that And you will be able to see her again as well in the near future or whatever don't end your life here and now and don't suffer because of What do you think you've done wasn't enough you've gave that girl a lot of hope and happiness you've done everything you could to help her even through the darkest hours Hell even I had experience with losing people and still ain't easy especially for me talking about it but I move on and keep going knowing they're watchand continue on trying to live a good life and still living death is never the answer especially suicide trust me living is better your daughter would absolutely love to see you live your life odd then just die so keep pushing yourself forward and may the burden remain sorry for the home world 3 Reference I'm a space nerd and it does not help me a lot but but still keep pushing on may the force be with you always
Do the greatest bluff of mankind and say “give me custody or I leave I have a secret account (make a secret account and move a believable amount of money over) and will get a apartment in a place where you will never find me”
Listen, I know you said no, but it's not your fault, it's not your fault that what happened happened, Millie is much happy, you know, then you could have given her I'm sorry to say that, but she's in heaven now, she doesn't have to worry about anything else she's happy she's with she is, she doesn't want you to feel sad, she wants you to be happy, I know your heart aches, because she was your sister and you love her, and you tried your best, but some things don't happen, the way we wanted to, all we can do is learn to let go, she loves you, I can tell you that I know you sad but she doesn't want you to be sad
Survivors guilt. Your alive but she isn't and you feel at fault for that. Mary's condition and fragility was not your fault. No answer is going to work well enough so instead.... remember that she loved you, she wouldn't want for you to suffer; so live for her. Do the things she couldn't and love yourself a little more for her sake.
All I'm gonna say is.. the Dad was a selfish dick and I'm disgusted by him doing this to his family by leaving in the first place bc of hearing the news 💙💜
This is going to sound harsh, you seriously need to get off the pity pot. You were a wonderful, loving sister who basically put your life on hold to take care of your little sister. That in itself speaks volumes about your character. Mary would not want you to feel guilty. I know you’re grieving, it’s going to be some while before you stop grieving or you may never really get over Mary’s death. Her death was not your fault. God just called His angel home. You did everything you could to make sure Mary was happy and taken care of. It’s not your fault.
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You are being arrogant. Conceited. Tell us a single reason why Mary's death depended on your behaviour as opposed to blind chance. You're accusing yourself because you are not a goddess and not being one you were incapable of healing her? Covid happened. It has killed millions. It has left behind a chain of pain. Families are still mourning their loved ones lost to something no one could do anything about. Accept your pain and accept you couldn't have done anything to save your sister.
Hey, you’re not playing victim here kid you legitimately and Mary are the victims here. I don’t understand women like your mother who are lucky enough to be able to be mothers who can turn their backs on their kids like that and I’m so sorry that breaks my heart for both of you Personally can somewhat to an extent your mom‘s disappointment with Mary. No one wants to have a child that’s less than perfect but the fact is Mary is here. Mary deserves a decent life. Mary is so so lucky that you’re her sister and you are an amazing human being. You have a lot of strength that women twice your age don’t have hell That Idon’t have and you’re an incredible human being at such a young age to take on I don’t want to say burden, but I don’t have another word of raising a child with special needs. I can’t imagine having to raise a sibling with special-needs I’ve been where you are, but I was a lot younger. My sister is luckily a typical and not autistic like me, but I the autistic sister had to raise her, a burden to raise a kid kid I’m glad you guys have each other though because in reality there is nothing in my life I’ve done that was more rewarding than raising my kids sister that girl is an incredible human being and I’m proud to say that I did that and I know you’re gonna be able to say the same thing when she’s olderI’m proud to say that you’ve done everything you’ve done for the utmost altruistic reason because it’s what she needs. You’re that baby mama not your birth mother you’re her parent. You’re her mom and it’s a hard job being a mom to a sibling but I think you’re gonna be OK kid
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OP needs to understand that her sister dying isn’t her fault. I know a lot of people say that, but it really wasn’t. It’s horrible that she lost her sister, but her sister wouldn’t want her to blame herself for trying her best. Her sister wouldn’t want her sister to miserable b/c of something that was completely out of her control. I really do OP finds inner peace & accepts that this was completely out of her control.
It was not your fault
OP, maybe you're thinking about this backward. Because of you, Mary got to live her best life while she was here on Earth. It sounds like you not only took care of her, but wanted her to have great experiences and be around truly caring people. Covid and quarantine were unprecedented events. You did what you could to prevent her from getting it, but this was a pandemic. You aren't to blame.
You loved your sister well and put her first. I wish everyone could have someone like you in their life. The world would be a completely different place!
OP she doesn't hate you.
My brother has the same disability. We know that people with this syndrome have a shorter life because of their health.
It's not her fault. She fought so hard for her sister
Rip mary
i almost started crying when i heard that mary died i hope op realizes that marys death was not her fault and that mary wouldn’t want op to kill her self
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Spoiler but OH GOD that is horrible
Mary was a strong soul. She loved u and always will. Rip Mary
Yeah plus I think that she taking her life isn't what Mary would have wanted...( sorry if this seems mean)
op is an extraordinary woman and I believe that Mary was very lucky to be with her.
I have no words to express my admiration for op, I even have tears in my eyes because of how moved I am by her story.
since she was very strong, brave and dedicated to providing the best life for her little sister.
Your mom has some gall to blame you for your sis when she barely took care of yall.
I get where she’s coming from but OP need to understand that Mary’s death wasn’t her fault, and she took care of her the best she could, and although Mary died, OP should still get a happy ending. She gave up her future to take care of her little sister, should get a happy ending and more 😢
You did your best. Mary left this world proud and happy for u and YOU ARE NOT UNDESERVING OF HAPPINESS! No one is.... We all are proud of you.... So go out, meet people, treat yourself right and be happy❤
Emotional neglect exists
Mum neglected them period, not.just emotional. I mean her part of the child care payments!? It wasn't her child, she shouldn't have had to care for her sister, I get mum had depression and its hard to deal with but she got better and still didn't do the bare min
I’m looking almost crying at my beautiful almost two months old daughter while hearing this story, and I promised her I will never willingly hurt her.
Parenthood will be hard, challenging, and I’ll make mistakes as every parent does, but never willingly, never.
I hope I will be a good mother in the future to her.
I hope OP is good, that she could overcome the guilt and grief, her sister would want her to be happy, I’m sure.
Unfortunately this was a familiar story I’ve heard before also, it’s not your fault. Her little body of thought so hard I just couldn’t do anymore. That’s how this works sometimes unfortunately I’ve had a couple of friends that passed away from Covid related ventilator stories and it’s not your fault you had the whole world dropped on your head, and you just been trying to muscle through it therapy but on the holiday that Mary loved to do one thing that would’ve made her happy we do the same thing in our house. My son died before Covid but the same thing we find one thing and it helped us get through it, don’t harm yourself
I lost my daughter when she was 4 years old, not a day goes by that I don’t miss her a lot but I know that I need to keep going forward. “You give to your kids what you didn’t get as a kid” is something my mom always said.
Mary lived a full life in the short time she lived! She knew she was deeply loved! Her 💝 gifts 💝 to you are the memories of the time you spent together and her deep love for you💝! You did the best a sister could do for a sister! You had an experience few get in such a deep love! Carry that in your heart along with the joyous memories of your time together!!!
OP, if you see this on CZcams know this! Sorry for your loss.
It was not your fault at all. You did what you could for your sister and yourself to get out of that situation. Your sister is in a better place with no pain or discomfort. She is watching over you now. Your mother is not a good person.
Sometimes life throws you curve balls and sometimes it will throw you off a cliff. Sometimes it will just difficult. But never let the bad times fun your life. Also it is better to get out your feelings than bottling them up. Bottling feelings up is never a good idea.
Mary wants you to be happy and wants you to live your life. She loves you and would be happy to see you happy. Losing a child is a pain that you cannot describe, it’s a pain that’ll stay in your mind but you need to pick yourself up and allow others to pick you up as well in order to move forward
4:33 i literally gasped at the fact she posted YOUR car
Me too. The gall of some people.
It is not your fault people with down syndrome sometime have multiple health problems and sometimes ones even doctors don't pick up on so don't blame yourself and it's likely your mother's fault and maybe you should contact your dad's family and tell them what happened and how your mother treated you guys and for your depression I recommend listening to citizen soldier and lo spirit the music helps
Marys passing is not your fault... Mary went out of this world having known the joys of this world. I hope op gets the help and closesure she needs. It's okay to move forward and it's okay to take time.
Mary’s death was not her fault, and her mother is only blaming her to get her digs in after realizing she was an unfit mother.
That is so sad! 😭 Stay strong! Mary would want you to live life to the fullest. I wish you the best!
Op, you did an amazing job with your sister given your age. You took all precautions during covid you could while not putting her into a cleanroom. Dont blame yourself for your sister getting covid, its too contagious to blame yourself. Moving foward. Dont push your friends away(the ones who are rallying around you during this time are true friends, tresure them) and allow yourself time to morn. Itll be painful, and the pain may never go away, but you living on in her memory and living the best life you can is the best way you can honor your sisters life.
I am so very, very, sorry for your loss. This wasn't your fault, you did everything for your little sister as you could. And you did one hell of a selfless job! Being mom, sister, dad all in one. Not many people can or would do that. You're a hell of a woman. Your sister would want you not to blame yourself, she knows it wasn't you that she passed away. She would want you to get the help you need, and learn that non of this was your fault and allow your friends to just sit there in silence and hug you, til you are ready to talk. God, is a perfect example to talk to him about her, when it's Christmas time, do something she loved doing, her birthday the same thing. I wish you well. I love you in Christ.
I feel so bad for OP it's not easy to look after a child who has medical issues and to do it as a child herself is so sad. Her parents should be ashamed of themselves ( I know that eventually the mum did the right thing by giving up custody, but that is the only thing she has done right) But blaming her daughter for the death of her sister is heartbreaking to hear. I hope that OP gets the help she needs to make it through tough time and figures out that she is NOT responsible for her sisters death. Covid is a B1t¢h
Mary would be proud of the woman you became. She is definitely an angel looking after you in heaven now. Never blame yourself for her death. As crass as this sounds, my mom told me that God takes the good ones into his Kingdom. Know and tell yourself that her suffering and pain has ended. She is watching over you now as your personal angel. I bet you she wants you to live your best life. Live the life both of you deserve. Live the life to the fullest for the both of you. Im positive Mary would like you to travel, make new friends, fall in love, experience life both of you wanted and more. She will be there for you in spirit guiding you through your ups and downs. As you journey life.its ok to be sad, to mourn, but don't let it control you. Suicide is never the answer. Live. Live for yourself and live for Mary.
I understand, somewhat, what OP is going through. I lost my little brother suddenly, at age 39. Both of our parents worked full-time and dad was an alcoholic. So i was the one who took care of him, gave him baths, made breakfast every day, checked his homework, walked him to and from the bus stop, made sure he got a snack and anything else that he needed. I also learned how to sign dad's name so I signed all permission slips, field trips, report cards and discipline papers.
I was literally his parent until age 15-16 because i moved out when i was 17.
From what I got from this was if the dad never left and the mom actually acted like a parent then the little girl would have a more fighting chance during covid times and may have lived
I blame the parents for not stepping up when they needed to, the sibling was more of a parent than they are and if they ever have children in the future they will be the best parent ever
You need to understand you shouldn't live your life and painted suffering that is it what your sister wants for you she wants you to live happily without her. It might be tough. It might be painful, but she want to get through it.
What? She died? OMG. I never saw that coming.
The best thing you can do for Mary is to live your best life. Kids pick up on things and she probably noticed how hard your life was for her. What you should do is to keep her in your heart and pass down this kind of motherly affection onto another kid of your own. This will help you heal.
the ai voice glitched at 6:49 bruh 😭😭😭
It's not Ops fault for Mary's death i hope they know that they were an amazing older sibling
You did more than any sis would for your sis. So many people were lost from Covid. You tried to safely balance her needs for outings and social times and safety. We all took those gambles during Covid. You can’t blame yourself! That won’t help her to rest. She’d want you to go on with your life, and do things you missed when caring for you. Don’t waste the life you have left, she wouldn’t want that!
I hope her friends don't give up on her
No honey everything your mother has done was neglect.
Even tho she died she would want you to live your best life
Sweetie, get into grief therapy ASAP. I know how much it hurts to lose someone. You are not at fault for any of what happened to Mary. You did your very best and fought so hard for her. Honestly, I believe that she would want you to be happy again when you are ready. After losing my best friend and partner, it took me a while to feel somewhat normal. I also have a wonderful therapist who has helped me a lot. So please get help and don't punish yourself anymore . I'll be keeping you in my prayers.
You are a great sister if your sister would have been alive she would love you to live your life on your terms and have an amazing life. So if u r still grieving plz stop and for Mary sake start the new chapter of your life bcz would like the same.
I have a dog that died. He was really dared to me and I was so sad that everything that I loved dropped and I can relate to you because this dog was the only thing that made me happy and find out that your sister died of Covid is really sad, my dog died of old age, but what made me learn is that people come and go and in the fifth grade one of my teachers left me with which heartbroken me and I couldn’t breathe. I broke down crying when I lost her. It was one of the most saddest moments of my life and ever since I’ve been depressed because thinking that it’s my fault, but she just had to take care of her dad and I’m happy for her.
That's why i can never love a person who have a chance of dying because i am emotional weak person
If it makes you feel better, Mary will always be with you. Her spirit will follow you and comfort you. She knows you tried your best, and that it’s not your fault. You just wanted to make sure that your sister had what was best for her. I support your choices.
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For Mary, Rest In Peace
You have so much more than the pain of Mary's death to remember her by. You have all the moments before, the hard moments and the beautiful and even the guilt ridden ones. So so much more than only the ripping pain of her absence.
Allow yourself the space to grieve, absolutely, but also allow yourself the grace to move forward. You love your sister and she loves you. She wouldn't want you to be in pain forever.
In time, the pain will be further away than the love. Not gone, but also not choking you.
You've already done so many hard things and I'm proud of you. Now you need to the hardest thing and forgive yourself so you have the chance to finally be happy.
I feel so sorry I thought this was a happy story I’m literally so close to crying
Mary would want you to be happy, she stayed as long as God permitted her to, and she likely hopes you can move on without
She needs to live her best life for Mary.
It’s gonna be ok!
i am currently crying it is not op's fault i feel awful that she had to go through all that and still lost Mary i really hope she finds some peace Mary would want her to.
RIP mary❤
Everybody say rest in peace Mary in the comments and like this if you think she deserves better
When she said “I lost my sister to covid” I was confused and thought “maybe marry had just gotten covid and will be better later, that’s probably what she means” but it was far worse and I feel really sorry for her loss
Contact child protective services in your area. There is a good chance with your mother‘s lack of attachment that they would order her to either counseling or potentially give you custody just because she’s not actively abusive doesn’t mean she’s not abusing your sister. I learned this when I was a lot older. My parents not actively emotionally. Taking care of us did damage to us. It caused us to be abused, it caused me and my sibling to have difficulty self regulating our emotions and with interpersonal relationships as we’ve aged, let’s not forget emotional abuse is still abuse just because she’s not actively hitting your sisterdoes not mean she is not abusing her
I understand how you feel she was your daughter even though you didn't give birth to her it's ok she wants you to live your life for her and for yourself
My condolences
The story is so heartbreaking. 💔💔💔
My grandma died the same way she did not have covid when she died but it’s what made her body too weak to continue
when i was 8, my Nana's house burnt down. she was mostly okay, but i was little and didn't really understand things yet. i was also already traumatized and she was the only person i loved back then. and i told my mom, that i didn't need anything for my birthday coming up soon, i just wanted Nana to be okay...
Mary might not have been on the same level as others, but she knew who you were. she knew all that you did for her, and how much you loved her. she loved you too, immensely. this is a rather overused therapy technique, but i still want to ask... do you think mary would want you to live this way? after you did SO MUCH for her out of love? it is OKAY that you sometimes were overwhelmed or sad about your situation. you were never meant to take on the role of mother to your sister. but you did because you love her. you will need time to heal, maybe a long time. but please understand that, no matter what happens, she will be with you in your heart until the day you go to hopefully find her again. i guarantee she would hug you a million times if she saw you this way. please please seek therapy for grieving. grief is the one thing that nobody can take your pain away. but it will ease with time. it will never go completely away, but i personally like to think of that as them living on within us. i hope you can feel alive again OP.
I was so happy when she got custody than………………………I’m crying rn
I would remember Mary and think about how much fun she had. Then I would foster care for a child and treat her like you did mark it might make you feel better that you know that somone gets to live the life you wanted for mary
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Bro the ending is just sad
❤❤❤ there is hope in every story❤❤❤
Keep living happily
You did a wonderful thing with your sister by making her as independent as you could by the age that you did that is remarkable and your love for your sister shows through all of it. I’m sorry you guys got a shit bag and a shit bag mom who can’t step up and do what needs to be doneMary didn’t she didn’t Dallas syndrome and her life is always going to be harder but at least she has somebody in her corner and don’t send your aunt back that she doesn’t deserve. The fact that she pit is your sister is her own thing and her own demon to deal with, and she will answer for it one day.
Your mother does not deserve to be called her mom you do it was not your fault rip Mary
You are a great big sister.
Hey…Ik it’s hard…but don’t blame yourself for your sisters death…and your mother shouldn’t blame you either…she didn’t give Mary an ounce of actual love while you gave her so much. Mary was lucky to have such an amazing older sister, and wouldn’t want u to suffer and instead, get through it the best you can and live for her sake. Even if she’s gone physically, she will always be there for you in spirit and in your heart. Something you could do to get through the pain is making a scrapbook of memories you had with Mary along with other healthy ways of coping with grief. You should also find support in those who care for you and cut your mother out of your life for good, to get closure for both yourself and Mary after all your mother had done. Ik the chances of you seeing this are slim but I want to provide as much help as I can to you. Don’t forget, your sister is always there for u, even if she isn’t there physically, always remember her love for u as an older sister 👭🏻
Stop saying so like a snack
Stop saying s like a snack
Hey marry was a nice person wall she lasted and she is in a better place now
Your sister would want you to be happy
I wish you the best i ander stand you
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Noooo 😭😭
You should of taken your mum to court
I love the hear 20020 (I know it’s a typo also rip Mary)
I feel sorry for you😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 That's all I can say right now I'm having a breakdown myself
Mary would’ve wanted you to live her life. She couldn’t don’t give up on yourself if you can’t live for yourself live for her.
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My jaw dropped….
Hey I know it's been 12 days have passed And you're probably feeling a little better or a lot I don't know but beyond that I promise you that And you will be able to see her again as well in the near future or whatever don't end your life here and now and don't suffer because of What do you think you've done wasn't enough you've gave that girl a lot of hope and happiness you've done everything you could to help her even through the darkest hours Hell even I had experience with losing people and still ain't easy especially for me talking about it but I move on and keep going knowing they're watchand continue on trying to live a good life and still living death is never the answer especially suicide trust me living is better your daughter would absolutely love to see you live your life odd then just die so keep pushing yourself forward and may the burden remain sorry for the home world 3 Reference I'm a space nerd and it does not help me a lot but but still keep pushing on may the force be with you always
I have asthma and know too many people with down syndrome I wish I can help
Dude i thoght IT was going to be a good ending and when She said "IT wasent enugh" i thoght She meant that mary wanted outside more rip mary
Do the greatest bluff of mankind and say “give me custody or I leave I have a secret account (make a secret account and move a believable amount of money over) and will get a apartment in a place where you will never find me”
Holy shit… I just finished the story and um… nevermind what I said in the beginning and that very very sad. I am uh gonna to bed now.
Geesh that went south fast. Poor little girl
lol, of course the disabled sibling conveniently dies so the OP can live their life.
My whole family died in the covid when I was 8 years old 😢 😊😊
Listen, I know you said no, but it's not your fault, it's not your fault that what happened happened, Millie is much happy, you know, then you could have given her I'm sorry to say that, but she's in heaven now, she doesn't have to worry about anything else she's happy she's with she is, she doesn't want you to feel sad, she wants you to be happy, I know your heart aches, because she was your sister and you love her, and you tried your best, but some things don't happen, the way we wanted to, all we can do is learn to let go, she loves you, I can tell you that I know you sad but she doesn't want you to be sad
It a sad story but it might be slightly fake but if it’s real, at least she ain’t victimizing
Survivors guilt. Your alive but she isn't and you feel at fault for that. Mary's condition and fragility was not your fault. No answer is going to work well enough so instead.... remember that she loved you, she wouldn't want for you to suffer; so live for her. Do the things she couldn't and love yourself a little more for her sake.
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All I'm gonna say is.. the Dad was a selfish dick and I'm disgusted by him doing this to his family by leaving in the first place bc of hearing the news 💙💜
This is going to sound harsh, you seriously need to get off the pity pot. You were a wonderful, loving sister who basically put your life on hold to take care of your little sister. That in itself speaks volumes about your character. Mary would not want you to feel guilty. I know you’re grieving, it’s going to be some while before you stop grieving or you may never really get over Mary’s death. Her death was not your fault. God just called His angel home. You did everything you could to make sure Mary was happy and taken care of. It’s not your fault.
I'ev been in her shoes and i 'ev lerend to exsiped what happened and iev lened to tren pain in to hope for otheers and to help thoses inneed
and leran to exseided what has happed and to be a becken of hope by jonnig law infores ment or being a docder or
by being somebudy to suport pepole that have a richis ckoze to mack the wolerd a beter place and a toest to the richis son of god
the wolf a an anameil that is a tray soing of honer and respeed and to the ones we love and caer about incleding the ones we lost
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Can somebody not reply to me but say the opposite side of the story cause I wanna hear what you wanna talk about
call your dad
Annoying narration
You are being arrogant. Conceited.
Tell us a single reason why Mary's death depended on your behaviour as opposed to blind chance. You're accusing yourself because you are not a goddess and not being one you were incapable of healing her?
Covid happened. It has killed millions. It has left behind a chain of pain. Families are still mourning their loved ones lost to something no one could do anything about.
Accept your pain and accept you couldn't have done anything to save your sister.
What are you hoping to do out of this comment?
That's not arrogance. That is trauma from years of neglect and abuse.
Hey, you’re not playing victim here kid you legitimately and Mary are the victims here. I don’t understand women like your mother who are lucky enough to be able to be mothers who can turn their backs on their kids like that and I’m so sorry that breaks my heart for both of you Personally can somewhat to an extent your mom‘s disappointment with Mary. No one wants to have a child that’s less than perfect but the fact is Mary is here. Mary deserves a decent life. Mary is so so lucky that you’re her sister and you are an amazing human being. You have a lot of strength that women twice your age don’t have hell That Idon’t have and you’re an incredible human being at such a young age to take on I don’t want to say burden, but I don’t have another word of raising a child with special needs. I can’t imagine having to raise a sibling with special-needs I’ve been where you are, but I was a lot younger. My sister is luckily a typical and not autistic like me, but I the autistic sister had to raise her, a burden to raise a kid kid I’m glad you guys have each other though because in reality there is nothing in my life I’ve done that was more rewarding than raising my kids sister that girl is an incredible human being and I’m proud to say that I did that and I know you’re gonna be able to say the same thing when she’s olderI’m proud to say that you’ve done everything you’ve done for the utmost altruistic reason because it’s what she needs. You’re that baby mama not your birth mother you’re her parent. You’re her mom and it’s a hard job being a mom to a sibling but I think you’re gonna be OK kid