Schizoid Personality Disorder - Fantasy Life

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  • čas přidán 21. 10. 2016
  • I talk a little too fast in this I apologize for that, I also stutter a lot I've noticed. Just talking a little bit about the fantasy involved with most antisocial lifestyles and disorders.

Komentáře • 138

  • @pururin9449
    @pururin9449 Před 6 lety +66

    I spoke to myself a lot as a kid, but i was always careful to internalize it after my sister overheard me discussing the meaning of life and death when I was eight. I've often found myself bored with conversations with other people, they want small talk, gossip, the same boring topics. Some of the most stimulating conversations I've ever had were with myself.

    • @jamesbra4410
      @jamesbra4410 Před 5 lety +16

      Yes sometimes I'll stumble across a piece of important intellectual information or a culmination of ideas and go for hours talking with myself about it. Not like a two-way conversation, but as if I was explaining it to another person that I imagined would be listening.

    • @princessbubblegum3406
      @princessbubblegum3406 Před 5 lety +6

      @@jamesbra4410 i am the exact same. Most of my inner thoughts are me talking to another person in my mind that doesnt respond. I always direct my inner thoughts at my favourite teddy who has now become my best friend and the thing i connect to the most (appart from my mum)

    • @thebloody_blue
      @thebloody_blue Před 4 lety

      that is me

    • @Michelle9299q
      @Michelle9299q Před 4 lety +1

      Most times I feel like I can identify the "type" of person talking to me, and predict the main opinions they have and the words they'll choose to interact. And most time... I'm right.
      People really are as shallow as they look, no one can suprise or excite me anymore. They're just all the same. No real personality is there, just what they copy from everyone else.
      I'm so happy that I'm at least someone, and not just a copy of my surrounding.

    • @Yams-Hams7734
      @Yams-Hams7734 Před 2 lety

      Exactly!

  • @cherylwoyak1909
    @cherylwoyak1909 Před 3 lety +13

    My SPD son talks to himself in his room. I don't question him about it. I respect his privacy on it. Thanks for helping me understand ☺️

  • @mikrobspen
    @mikrobspen Před 7 lety +81

    I talk out loud to myself many hours per day. Occasionally I have been caught when I didn't think anyone was around. A little embarrassing but it is kind of funny too.

    • @SuperPrettyPink101
      @SuperPrettyPink101 Před 7 lety +10

      Aloof Ness It's so embarrassing. I was talking to myself in the shower and my mum asked me about it. I said I was singing because that's a more normal thing to do. She doesn't need to know I was having a conversation/sword fight with myself playing three different roles and pretending to swing my sword at my imaginary foe 😂 It feels so normal and natural to have these daydreams until you imagine having to explain it to someone. 😓

    • @somecharactersnotallowed1319
      @somecharactersnotallowed1319 Před 7 lety +6

      I do this sometimes. Like currently im lookin for a job and i find myself talking outloud to myself as if im having a conversation with a friend/family about how i just got this amazing job/ what i do for a living..... i know its strange, but especially if ive had a few cups of coffee prior it just feels right. Its not voices in my head, its like im socializing... with myself... im fucked up

    • @thenarcissistsscapegoat5091
      @thenarcissistsscapegoat5091 Před 6 lety +5

      I cannot function without talking to myself. I tell myself the next step I am about to do all day long. It keeps me organized and focused even if I do sound crazy to the neighbours.

    • @Drpermer
      @Drpermer Před 5 lety +4

      Get a broken bluetooth headset. Seriously, I wear mine all the time just to keep people from starring at me with constantly talking to "others".

    • @georgesonm1774
      @georgesonm1774 Před rokem

      haha rel

  • @Em_Elizabeth
    @Em_Elizabeth Před 6 lety +22

    "I know a place where no one's lost./I know a place where no one cries./Crying at all is not allowed./ Not in my castle on a cloud."

  • @yourdarkness999
    @yourdarkness999 Před 7 lety +56

    you just perfectly explained something i've been doing since i was 11. it graduated into something i relied on when i was 14 or 15. it took alot out of me to let it go at 18. because i was afraid of it taking over and me going crazy. i didnt want what was in my head to become real in a sense that i didnt know it really wasnt. even now a year later i still have trouble going in and out of it.
    but you just explained it perfectly, and this is giving me hope that i can explain this to a therapist and get Help about it.

    • @MyMProductions3
      @MyMProductions3 Před 7 lety +1

      exact same timeline with mdd. It became really bad at age 11 and then I became reliant on it at 12/13 and it has completely overtook my life up until this year where it is no longer as bad even though i still am in my head alot but it is progressivley getting better I feel.

    • @sravasaksitam
      @sravasaksitam Před 6 měsíci

      im almost the same, im 18 and i recently realized these fantasies are lowkey negatively affecting my life and im tryna stop doing this shit. also its just such a bizarre thing to do for a literal grown man, even when i was ten i knew i shouldve grown out of it years before

  • @ziganda26
    @ziganda26 Před 7 lety +34

    I find I daydream or fantasize an awful lot but the thing is when I'm in that fantasy it seems so real and sometimes the fantasies are quite violent in nature which disturbs me a lot.

    • @nathanh.8511
      @nathanh.8511 Před 7 lety +10

      ziganda26 Sometimes I fantasize about the people around me dying and myself being the only survivor. I don't exactly want them to happen, but I think I just prepare myself mentally in a way, or something.

    • @IceTrey98c
      @IceTrey98c Před 7 lety +1

      ziganda26 depression took away all fantasizations from me haha i can barely think for myself

    • @karemsaied1754
      @karemsaied1754 Před 3 lety

      @@nathanh.8511
      Sir there is a name for this and its called stoicism

  • @mikrobspen
    @mikrobspen Před 7 lety +107

    "Antisocial" is associated with criminality when talked about in a psychological context. Maybe "asocial" would be a better descriptor for schizoids.

    • @kaythompson1636
      @kaythompson1636 Před 7 lety +2

      Aloof Ness you are absolutely right, but he starts talking in the context of being much younger/a child. Children don't have vocabulary and insight based on psychology. It makes sense here that that is how he would describe his demeanour =)

    • @carolina9938
      @carolina9938 Před 7 lety +5

      Antisocial Personality Disorders not always is associated with criminality. Some of those people turn out to be people in power and with brilliant minds. But yeah at least 70% are probably associated with criminality.

    • @devScion7340
      @devScion7340 Před 7 lety +1

      pumpkin my best friend is anti social. he's Muslim so he doesn't commit crime or drink or have risky sex with multiple girls. He just is a major hypocrite and has very few friends other than me because he pisses a lot of people off

    • @caseysalinger
      @caseysalinger Před 7 lety +5

      I used to use the term 'antisocial' before my psychologist pointed out that I actually meant 'introverted' since 'antisocial' in psychology terms has more to do with being sociopathic than being non-social. It's a commonly used misnomer outside of psychology since people often see it as meaning the opposite of 'social'.

    • @kathrinjohnson2582
      @kathrinjohnson2582 Před 5 lety

      That's a common mistake. Idk why on earth they call it asocial. It should be called nonsocial or unsocial .maybe even dissocial .No one uses a to mean opposite except in clinical dialog.

  • @LMTaylor_
    @LMTaylor_ Před 5 lety +5

    Thank u for being so honest. You are truly a breath of fresh air.

  • @lori4942
    @lori4942 Před 7 lety +14

    hey, thank you for sharing your story. I don't have SPD- but I think a lot of what you said is nevertheless relatable on a human level. You seem very alone, and lacking real human connections, and this is how many people feel- regardless how it is labeled and how we cope with it. What shines through in your account is a certain direct view of reality- this is very relatable. What you have developed is a certain coping mechanism that is unique to your "disorder"- others will develop different mechanisms, but the underlying struggle is real for a lot of people: to develop connections with the world that actually feel like something. You might feel alone in how you process your struggle, but believe me you are not alone in general in having such a struggle. Peace to you, all the best & thank you for putting yourself out there.

    • @sweetgirly8489
      @sweetgirly8489 Před 5 lety +2

      Amen, Lori. I am not a schizoid, but I can completely relate to the way they view life and I am not just some empty-headed clueless normal human. Not at all.

  • @drop_messages6226
    @drop_messages6226 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I grew up in a poor and dysfunctional household. I was usually left on my own as a kid, and my favorite thing to do on the weekends was to go to the library. I could hang out there all day. I could get on the computers and surf the internet (this was the mid 1990s, go internet explorer) or read books. I created this fantasy in my head that I was this intellectual type of person and that being a "scholar" was my true calling.
    I took this fantasy to the next level and I became very focused on school, as in I took it way seriously. In a way, I adopted school as a kind of surrogate "family". I even avoided social situations, because I was afraid it would get in the way of my true calling, my adopted family of school and book learning. ( in other words, there was nothing going on at home, was always on my own, so I saw school as a comforting place, kind of like how a relationship or a boy/girl friend can represent a comfortable place / person, but for me, it was school).
    Then I became an adult. I had no real interest in getting a job, I was still in the fantasy world of being a "scholar" and just figured I would fall into a job at some point. I went into debt getting degrees I never used. I lived in this fantasy world some 20 years or so. Eventually I settled into a trade and now I have a proper job.
    But yeah, it is easy to escape into a fantasy world. it beats a depressing reality.

  • @pooyah666
    @pooyah666 Před 6 lety +35

    Here's a poem about the "mask" you keep bringing up
    We Wear the Mask
    WE wear the mask that grins and lies,
    It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes,-
    This debt we pay to human guile;
    With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,
    And mouth with myriad subtleties.
    Why should the world be over-wise,
    In counting all our tears and sighs?
    Nay, let them only see us, while
    We wear the mask.
    We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries
    To thee from tortured souls arise.
    We sing, but oh the clay is vile
    Beneath our feet, and long the mile;
    But let the world dream otherwise,
    We wear the mask!
    Paul Laurence Dunbar (1872-1906)

    • @fixatroll5406
      @fixatroll5406 Před 5 lety

      Wow!!!
      That was something!!! Perfectly appropriate!!!
      Thanks Mr.!!!!!
      66 is a curious number?????

  • @laurabeigh283
    @laurabeigh283 Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing. It helps me a lot to hear that there are other people out there like my boyfriend. I wish you the best and I hope you’re doing well.

  • @xea_xea
    @xea_xea Před 4 lety +4

    This feels so close to home. I daydream a lot (before I didn't even called it that, I just immersed into fantasies all the time without thinking about it). Also I always missed my stop while being on a bus/subway haha. My parents told me I had imaginary friends with very weird names when I was little and that I talked very loud with them (but I don't remember it lol). As a kid/teenager I always had problems connecting with my peers, I didn't understand them at all. Same goes with my family members. Now my imagination is so vivid I need some time to come to my senses after the fantasy. It's somewhat good cause I really enjoy drawing and it helps, but I started to notice that when I think something through and imagine, it feels like it's already happen, you know. So I lose interest in creating it since I already saw it.

    My experience with SPD is somewhat different from yours, I had pretty bad depression my whole life (it stabilized just a couple of years ago) and a lot of negative emotions in general, I even tried to end my life because I didn't get anything and anyone. But finding your chanel really helped me to understand that it's normal to be different and not wanting to socialize or not being able to express emotions like other people do. I agree that the word "disorder" is not necessary.

  • @Drpermer
    @Drpermer Před 5 lety

    Thank you for this video! I'm sorry you have been down this road, but it's nice to meet a fellow traveler. People that haven't experience what we have, can never understand. I learned I was adopted very young as well. I suffered from anxiety, depression, constantly fantasizing and talking to imaginary people. I was, and still am, very antisocial. My dad was always verbally, psychologically, and sometimes physically abusive. I can remember many times thinking that my new family hates me, and that hate must have been the reason my first family got rid of me.

  • @fixatroll5406
    @fixatroll5406 Před 5 lety +1

    I talk to myself out loud and sometimes act out spontaneously. My grown family make jokes about it and so do I Before I retired I had a very responsible saftey sensitive job and I really liked it and became very good at it. So after a while even my team got to naking jokes about my eccentricities and we all had a good time except my supervisors. They were the ones, not all of course, that were suffering. Hilarious to this day. I ended up witth the strangest team but were we hot. No other crews could even come close. Upper management loved us and would look over their glaases when others complained about us to them. Man! That was fun.
    So maybe you are luckier than you imagine. If it is not hurting yourself or anyone else then don't sweat it. I feel that it is the worries that causes the issues. Good video soldier. You are very brave and considerate. You would fit in on my team very well. Thanks for you being you!!!!

  • @Skeletonsmate
    @Skeletonsmate Před 6 lety +1

    Hey man. Thanks for posting these. I've suspected for a while now that my dad has this condition. He always does the body language thing when he's fantasizing about a conversation in his head haha

  • @jessicajones4756
    @jessicajones4756 Před 5 lety +2

    I didn't realise until I watched this. Thank you.

  • @thatquietasianguy9582
    @thatquietasianguy9582 Před 4 lety +3

    This is amazing it’s like you read my fantasy life
    On my opinion fantasy life is like a big goosebumps and big nostalgic and big big hype and happiness

  • @maskedidentity2498
    @maskedidentity2498 Před 3 lety +5

    The fantasy thing is probably the link to schizophrenia. People say schizoid PD is associated with schizophrenia and you are at risk for developing SPD when your relatives have schizophrenia.
    Now, higher and more lively fantasy indulgence is associated with opennes to experience, which is also correlated with delusions and creativity.

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 3 lety +3

      When I was younger I actually thought I might be schizophrenic, because I was aware of the difference but didn't really understand anything. Partly what got me researching things. I have a few family members (not blood, as I was adopted) that struggle with it.

    • @maskedidentity2498
      @maskedidentity2498 Před 3 lety

      @@StuffandStuff That's interesting. Do you have depersonalisation as a sub symptom of dissociation?

  • @NoNoNoMeansNo
    @NoNoNoMeansNo Před 4 lety +4

    I've noticed you haven't been here in a long time, I hope your doing ok.
    Would really love to see you back here again or even on social media somewhere.
    Take care, and hope you are still breathing.

  • @linak429
    @linak429 Před 3 lety +5

    There are many different psychologists out there. The are some who know SPD and there are some who have experience treating it, too. SPD is rare enough that one wouldn't expect to see it in a depressed kid during the first session, but once they know your diagnosis, they can usually get it together and start treating you. SPD is actually a bit more treatable than other personality disorders because schizoids are able to intellectualize it enough that they don't let their emotions get in their way of finding treatment.

  • @carolina9938
    @carolina9938 Před 7 lety +36

    I relate a lot with what you said. The thing is that I don't really feel anything but when I'm 100% alone and I'm writing or reading, which seems to be the only thing I actually enjoy doing, I don't feel so... nothing. It's really hard to explain. I just feel some what happy, but still not as happy. Do you think this is normal?

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety +15

      +pumpkin Absolutely. I think word you're looking for os "comfortable" no? I'm the same way. Even if I'm not doing anything, as long as I'm in my room alone, I'm completely fine.

    • @breno855
      @breno855 Před 2 lety

      Have you put anything out? I'd like to know more about the experience of other schizoids do you have any way of contact?

    • @laurabeigh283
      @laurabeigh283 Před rokem

      I believe my ex bf felt the same.

  • @Bar_Bar27
    @Bar_Bar27 Před 5 lety +12

    I was an only child for 18 years to a single mother. I guess this is why I feel so messed up 😄

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 5 lety +5

      Yeah, I know there's a big women's movement going on but both parties are important to a child's development.

    • @princessbubblegum3406
      @princessbubblegum3406 Před 5 lety

      Same. And my mum is pretty mentally ill so that doesnt help either :/

  • @grimming4886
    @grimming4886 Před rokem +1

    This was super interesting to me. I don't remember my childhood and i really don't know what my fantasies were like back then or if it was a big part of my life. I'm in a haze so much. It's like I don't even remember what I was thinking about.

  • @Mags_thatsme
    @Mags_thatsme Před 4 lety +2

    just found this video (i am very late lol) and you perfectly describe my life. talking to myself full on conversations and hand gestures i've been doing that since i was very little and still today i'm 18 now almost 19 and i made friends with fake people (imaginary) and fictional characters from cartoons i watch alot. i'm not sure if autism plays any part in it for me because i was recently diagnosed with aspergers this year, and diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia 2 years ago.

  • @TomDavidMcCauley
    @TomDavidMcCauley Před 3 lety +1

    Whoa I had that same compulsive daydreaming thing. It waxed and waned for a while. Eventually it went away, probably after graduating college. Then, years later, when I went to grad school and had a summer of not having a job for the first time in 10 years, I had a relapse into a fantasy life around being a baseball player. It was almost constantly in the back of my mind. I started going to the batting cages a lot, watching baseball documentaries and ESPN, etc. I even started writing out imaginary stats for a while. Eventually it went away shortly after the semester started. I guess that’s what happens if I don’t have some external obligation to structure my days.

  • @greeneyesthatsatisfy
    @greeneyesthatsatisfy Před 6 měsíci

    Just coming across your content now as I’m trying to find a way to understand and relate to a close friend. Hope you are well!

  • @ShadowDeity1983
    @ShadowDeity1983 Před 6 lety +1

    all of this sounds completely "normal" to me now that i accepted myself and started meeting others with the same personality. its fun to turn this into a strength in life. escaping my fantasy is what i call "adulting". i tried just being myself at work and people really think i'm 99% depressed. i'm just deep in thought about an idea or how to improve my work performance. i would appreciate the concerns if they were genuine. i do have my cheery/bubbly attitude but on my time, not when i'm "required" to. feels too fake. i could work 24 hours a day physically but i'm mentally DONE in 4hrs from just so much insult on my intelligence and injustice towards others i see around me. yes the world isnt always a walk in the park, but once i'm on my own headspace, i'm golden! so the conflict is, being myself, my true self which i love, in every aspect of life VS social 'norms", expected behaviors etc etc. cause seems like "being myself" is a sure way to get fired. no matter the level of professionalism, common courtesies, respect of authority mentors and policies, even going out of the way to just learn how to improve and train to be a better employee is NOT ENOUGH! nope, am i wrong for not putting on that face cause i have for over 20 years and i just WONT anymore. too exhausting. life is pretty damned simple to me. if you can go to bed knowing you did your best and wake up with the desire to improve you are GOOD! THAT'S IT! i had to simplify it to make sense of everything. ok i've ranted, gone off track, and confessed all in one. thank you for the video. was very inspiring.

  • @thzzzt
    @thzzzt Před 5 lety +3

    Off topic, but I've never seen video processing like this. It looks like every frame is a pencil drawing. Very cool.

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 5 lety +1

      Thank you! It was just a cheap free affect I downloaded from some random site, don't even remember how I got it. It may have even been one of the included ones in my camera. (I was using the Note 5 to record this)

  • @takke9830
    @takke9830 Před 2 měsíci

    I relate to this so much! It‘s almost scary!

  • @ZedWONG
    @ZedWONG Před 5 lety +6

    I had a fantasy that my mom was an alien (right after I watched the film men in black) and I held that thought during a certain period of my childhood. Lol

  • @iancurtiswishlist4996
    @iancurtiswishlist4996 Před 5 lety +5

    so are your conversations with yourself a pretty standard example of schizoid fantasy? because i definitely do this just as you described and get caught doing it sometimes. But i’ve been asked by doctors/therapists if i have detailed fantasies and in my head i was thinking like they meant some whimsical fantasy world where everything looks different and behaves different so i’d respond by saying no. It’s frustrating because i know there are so many questions i know i’ve answered wrong because of things like getting hung up on the meaning of words and the people asking the questions never elaborate on what they mean.

  • @sophiefilo16
    @sophiefilo16 Před 7 lety +16

    I guess we have the same kinds of fantasies (detailed conversations, events, etc). Except, I don't talk out loud...wouldn't want anyone to hear me... :P
    Oh, and mine's started at age 10. I've noticed that many Schizoids develop their fantasies around the age of 10-12, so I'm thinking that puberty and/or brain development may have something to do with it...

    • @alexanderjurjens
      @alexanderjurjens Před 7 lety +2

      It was much earlier with me, age 3-4.

    • @TheSinndogg
      @TheSinndogg Před 7 lety

      Yeah, I found the fantasy thing started very early. Definitely by 7-8 years of age.
      I didn't start talking to myself until about 23-24 though, even though the elaborate fantasy world thing got old a while back. Now most of my "fantasies" are just one-sided talks about interesting stuff, often not even with a specific conversation partner in mind.

  • @Scott-ll9rb
    @Scott-ll9rb Před měsícem

    Thanks mate!

  • @devScion7340
    @devScion7340 Před 7 lety +6

    I was a big dragon ball z fan when I was younger around my pre teens. like I was obsessed with it. I used to fantasize about becoming a super saiyan and me and my friend would play some dbz music and enact scenes from dba and act like we were powering up. lol and fight each other. it was so weird looking at it 7 years later, I cringe thinking I was like that.

    • @Kytreeswerving
      @Kytreeswerving Před 5 lety +1

      i used to say the same thing but no look at where dragonball z or anime is. there's a whole lot of kids screaming in their basement waiting for their hair to turn blonde and their eyes green.

  • @NoNoNoMeansNo
    @NoNoNoMeansNo Před 4 lety +2

    I had that fear of the dark for years up until recently, I was put on meds a year ago and its recently made the fear go away.
    I was going to stop taking them because they have killed my artistic energy but I also don't want the fear again.
    A choice must be made.
    I still have that "day dream" thing still, mostly all day.
    I do fell a tat stupid for being in my mind all the time, but I'm safer in there than I am on the outside, so fuck the stupid feeling I get lol

  • @gaslight.mp3
    @gaslight.mp3 Před 2 lety +2

    I've never related to anything more in my life, whenever my family wasn't home id just pace around the kitchen for hours talking to myself about situations that haven't even happened yet. I thought this was normal for so long lmao

  • @DoNColey456
    @DoNColey456 Před 5 lety +1

    my childhood was good till my pops went to prison. then my mom went into her own depression. sent me place to place. we were bonded but never really bonded. this helped me gain spd. I see people like objects moreso but i try to respect them and instead of social i play cordial and take the safe dry response in social settings

  • @snoowbrigade
    @snoowbrigade Před 4 měsíci

    I generally don't feel human, like it's almost like being at the zoo watching people plan parties or gatherings or being affectionate towards a significant other. I sometimes get uneasy feeling like I am somewhere I am not supposed to be, like the people around me are going to notice I am not human and hurt me.
    Probalbly one of the worst feelings I've ever had was once when I was talking to my brother and he made a joke and we both started laughing but I caught myself in the middle of laughing not feeling anything and I had to continue laughing otherwise it would be weird but I couldn't help but feel like i was fooling him.

  • @Kyavata
    @Kyavata Před 4 lety +1

    Oudepensky once suggested most people aren't actually conscious, they only think they are, because they've been socialized to believe so. Others have said similar, that the vast majority of people don't even exhibit free will, but are simply moved about by the whims of whatever is destined to appeal to them.
    That's not enough for my mind; it makes me lonely. So I combine people's "2D" traits and create more realistic 3D people in my mind. In my fantasy world, I can interact with real people, unlike here where I can generally know everything about a person by observing them for five minutes.
    As for myself, it's extensively mapped out, and I have my own gods and goddesses, nations and histories which correlates to various times and experiences in my life and the characters I played during those times. I am my own empire.
    The DSM mentions "flat affect," but all I see are flat people...all asleep. It seems to me that because my emotions don't show, I'm "wrong," but those emotions are there, just not where you are...I have to compress them into characters to interact with you.
    I'm not locked in my fantasy, but it's the only place I can fully express myself. I don't know how I got there originally, but I admit it's proven hard to get back.

  • @auroradijana7915
    @auroradijana7915 Před 4 lety

    Does any SPD fantasize about atention or it's NPD thing, i read somewhere they can have MDD as well? Also can you conclude about your feelings based of your fantasy world?

  • @Em_Elizabeth
    @Em_Elizabeth Před 6 lety +8

    Laying your clothes out for the next day isn't wierd. My mom taught me to do that as a kid and I still do it. X-)

  • @skkuzz
    @skkuzz Před 7 lety +2

    I Relate to every video about spd that you have posted. I belive I have it but have never talked to a professional about it. do you suggest I do?

    • @madalaine4992
      @madalaine4992 Před 7 lety +1

      skkuzz I would definitely recommend you look up the diagnosis criteria (not online tests, the dsm if free online and there are many websites specifically containing the the diagnosis criteria + the things doctors look for) and see if that applies to you, then check out a doctor. But! Don't immediately go for szpd, do a lot of research (look into social anxiety, mood disorder and avpd as well)

  • @CryptoIncursion
    @CryptoIncursion Před 3 lety +1

    My depression is also the result of losing my tonsils at a young age. LMAO
    But my imagination is also going strong as an adult. Daydreams of different kinds of success, the same way I did since I was young. The only time I would talk and react to myself though is when I was lacking sleep. But I was never adopted, so I can only imagine.

  • @sophiefilo16
    @sophiefilo16 Před 7 lety +14

    Wow, only 8 views, AND first comment? I'm early as hell!
    Feels kind of...empty...

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety +2

      +Sophie Filo lol. I suppose thats a good thing!

    • @sophiefilo16
      @sophiefilo16 Před 7 lety

      Stuff and Stuff
      I never before realized just how creepy your profile pic is until it popped up on my phone...

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety +1

      +Sophie Filo I'm sorry haha. I probably shoukd change that at some point.

    • @michaelhayes1895
      @michaelhayes1895 Před 7 lety

      Stuff and Stuff.

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety +1

      Yeah, couldn't think of a name for the channel.

  • @kathrinjohnson2582
    @kathrinjohnson2582 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much for sharing! 💗 may I ask how you where diagnosed with this? I agree totally that counselors are useless at best, so I wonder how did you find out about this?

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 4 lety

      I was just wondering if it was a "thing" so I went in. They just kind of helped me give it a name. I say "they" because there were a good 3 brain people I talked to.

    • @kathrinjohnson2582
      @kathrinjohnson2582 Před 4 lety

      @@StuffandStuff oh ok. Thanks. I have a lot of similarities to all 3 cluster A disorders and I have been trying to educate me self the best I can. Your videos are very helpful to me.I hope to see more of them soon. 🙂

  • @DoNColey456
    @DoNColey456 Před 5 lety +1

    i feel u

  • @shaskins15
    @shaskins15 Před 5 měsíci

    I never realized this about myself.

  • @chaosrein9261
    @chaosrein9261 Před 5 lety +3

    Do people with Schizoid also experience high fantasy and interactive dreams?

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 4 lety +3

      I actually made a video talking about just that. Short answer: YES. Both awake, and sleeping.

  • @danieladams8085
    @danieladams8085 Před 4 lety

    I don't think I've experienced that side of the fantasy thing. Or have and just don't remember

  • @Chillibe
    @Chillibe Před 7 lety +7

    I always saw demons in the shadows, for me they were like gods. And when I told others about them, they became distant.

    • @kaythompson1636
      @kaythompson1636 Před 7 lety +2

      dalladeien Did they become distant when you told people about them because they weren't "yours" anymore? Like they were something for you and you alone?

  • @DjCosmicRush
    @DjCosmicRush Před 7 lety +8

    The reason our emotions are like this is because we do not share the mentality of the mean. The population mean. The IQ mean. Etc.
    We cannot express thoughts and emotions without carefully designing our language in a way that does not offend people, and we over-predict that people are more hostile and defensive, unreasonable.

    • @christinas.4342
      @christinas.4342 Před 7 lety

      Being a sensitive withdrawn misunderstood snowflake is trendy right now, isn't it

    • @jamesbra4410
      @jamesbra4410 Před 5 lety

      Yes and their only reaction is to take advantage of you most of the time.

    • @hemprope4326
      @hemprope4326 Před 4 lety

      @@christinas.4342 fuck off

  • @frankkrischick3906
    @frankkrischick3906 Před 4 lety

    yup me too selfconversations but most of the time i talk to jesus but whenever i get cought when i talk with myself or jesus in publik places i feel that pain of embarrasment.
    As if the devil has send a spy on me to make fun out of me , offcoarse this is in my head,but what if all this thoughts that i have are actually real ? that there is a comfortable spiritual world where we can savely interact ?
    That is why it is so hard to come down when you forget reality around you and get cought in the act of selfconversations and i feel then so angry and totured at the same time that i just want to yel out.
    You know i type whatever i feel.and i have the trust in myself that this is exacly a born truth .We all create worlds fitting in our way.but schitzooid people like you and me don't want to fake anymore We came out of the closet.
    We want to feel comfortable on who we are without any masking.
    I can even dare to say : when do people take off their own mask ?
    Like as if this is a reversed thinking that is even more true.We think that we are outsiders but we are more aware of ourselves then others.
    A blessing in disguise mate.

  • @alexanderjurjens
    @alexanderjurjens Před 7 lety +1

    It is really not about lack of expression or lack of understanding of feelings and needs. it is about a lack of access. I am literally not feeling them strongly unless I am psychotic.

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety +2

      +Alexander Jurjens I think its different for everybody. I'm the same way about only feeling them strongly when I'm worked up about something

    • @alexanderjurjens
      @alexanderjurjens Před 7 lety +4

      I am not so sure. I mean, on the outside it does of course look like a lack of expression, but that is only a conclusion derived from observation and not so much from the inner world of a schizoid.

  • @ssk6698
    @ssk6698 Před 7 lety

    dude i knew about this spd thing wtf it relates to me in every way i thought it was just normal or a stage of life or something do u suggest anything to get past it ?

    • @hundimbuero
      @hundimbuero Před 7 lety +1

      Do you want to get past it? I can fully relate to the SPD, but wouldn't declare it as an disorder for myself. I watch people how they act in life and realize how there is no connection between me and most people (at least a few I trust). Are you comfortable with the way you are?

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety +1

      +Light 夜 神月 I'm completely fine with the way I am. I don't really care one way or the other.

  • @zqsplatmaster915
    @zqsplatmaster915 Před 5 lety +2

    7:50 me too. Ive been schizoid for as long as i can remember.

    • @wedsadun341
      @wedsadun341 Před 5 lety +1

      malefactor how life is going with you. My daughter was diagnosed with it yesterday and I do not how I can understand her

  • @drincmusic2769
    @drincmusic2769 Před 6 lety

    Sometimes I feel like having a girlfriend would help, but then I remember how every simulation in my head goes. I always expect the worst.

  • @laurabeigh283
    @laurabeigh283 Před rokem +1

    My ex bf has entertained detailed porn fantasies and has done so for years. He prefers that to any type of intimacy with a real woman.

  • @drincmusic2769
    @drincmusic2769 Před 6 lety

    Like when you imagine killing someone, and when you're stabbing them, you arm make some jerky motions. mainly a way to cope with not wanting to get into a fight and be sued for your entire life's earnings, but you're still pissed off.

  • @richardgomez1151
    @richardgomez1151 Před 3 lety

    This is 100% me man .

  • @MartinSalgado
    @MartinSalgado Před 7 lety +1

    hello friend I'm from México, I want to ask if you are taking any medication and if so how are you doing with it?

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 7 lety

      +Martin Alonso Hi there! I'm not taking any medications, the only ones that can really be prescribed to me are depression meds. I'm not depressed so those wouldn't really do anything for me.

  • @chamade166
    @chamade166 Před 7 lety +8

    The word "disorder" is out of place IMO. It's a different personality type.

    • @zachery1christopher
      @zachery1christopher Před 4 lety +2

      It is a disorder in the sense that it can cause disfunction in certain social and work settings.

    • @josephmills871
      @josephmills871 Před 4 lety +7

      There are different personality types. And the. There are personality disorders.
      They’re distinguished by the way they affect your life. A disorder is typically something that affects your life drastically. For instance your really personality isn’t going to determine your ability to find a partner, spend time with your family and friends, have friends, go to work, find a job you enjoy, enjoy things, etc.
      A personality disorder is going to inhibit your capacity to do all of those things. It’s out of order. It’s not normal. You’re supposed to be able to relate to people, make friends, spend time with your friends and family, have a valuable relationship, express emotions, enjoy your life.
      Not being able to do those things is not normal because that’s literally everything 🤷‍♂️ there’s nothing else. Not enjoying life is not normal and it’s not just a personality type. People with personality disorders also test across the spectrum on personality tests.
      It’s not like one single personality type is exclusively schizoidal.

  • @pandaparad0x
    @pandaparad0x Před 3 měsíci

    u layed your clothes out for the next day too omfg "i was a weird kid" no no you"re just used to telling others that (cuz same)

  • @GamesCooky
    @GamesCooky Před 3 lety +3

    Do you mean antisocial, or asocial?
    Asocial is defined as a general lack of interest for social relationships.
    However antisocial is someone who is unwilling or unable to associate in a normal and friendly way with other people. This means they typically have a hostile view on other people.
    Antisocial doesn't mean what most people think. Antisocial essentially means anti-society. Someone that doesn't have much respect for morals, social norms or rules.

    • @StuffandStuff
      @StuffandStuff  Před 3 lety +1

      Both. I would have to re-watch the video to remember the context. There's definitely a general lack of interest but also we'd have to acknowledge the hostile views on people in general. A lot of times with people who developed SPD due to environmental reasons probably lean more towards Antisocial tendencies whereas people who developed SPD naturally probably more Asocial. But I think that you could find traits of both if you're going by book definitions.

    • @ghenulo
      @ghenulo Před 8 měsíci

      I know. I learned the difference in high school. It really irritates me when people in a schizoid Facebook group share memes about being antisocial and thus immune to drama, when they clearly don't mean antisocial.
      Though, I don't refer to "other people", because I'm not human.

    • @GamesCooky
      @GamesCooky Před 8 měsíci

      @@ghenulo You're not human?
      What are you then?

  • @richardtrujillotorres
    @richardtrujillotorres Před 7 lety +1

    Show me some love.

  • @sadjadKa
    @sadjadKa Před 5 lety +3

    you are beautiful, don't do the filter

  • @someonelikeyou9268
    @someonelikeyou9268 Před 5 lety

    Why don't you make a video with regular recording it annoying to me please I also interested in knowing about schizoid.

  • @gerardhodnett7322
    @gerardhodnett7322 Před 6 lety +2

    Therapists speak verbatum...useless sessions that I ve had..more than I can count---5-6 different therapists---hours of blah,blah ,blah---getting the"answers"before listening to the grass roots issues....

  • @sravasaksitam
    @sravasaksitam Před 6 měsíci

    we're all just little weirdos

  • @Fantonia
    @Fantonia Před 4 lety

    The reason why some many people feel like they don't feel nothing or need to be alone but then are being bothered by this loneliness, is because you have a bigger separation from your Intuition, from who you really are!
    The way to remedy, to get better is partly by meditating. This is not a disease! This is just a wake up call for evolution and expansion of your soul!
    When you feel ready to leave behind loneliness, awkward situations that you feel you are in, start searching answers to your questions!
    All this imagining, fantasies they are not a bad thing! This can even be guidance from you Inner Being, from your Intuition! Don't let doctors or psychologists ( I am one too,but with a different view) make you believe that this is all you are and that this cannot get better. You are sooooo intelligent! You have the capability in believing that there is a higher power guiding you, me, everyone.
    Why do you think this cosmos is still in place? Why is it that the Sun is perfectly moving in it's orbit for eons?
    I suggest those of you, who want to get better, start searching for what you believe in. Either it's God or the Universe or Buddha or whatever. Believe that there is order in this universe and this SPD is not here in your life so that you make peace that this is all you can be in this life. You can be anyone you desire to be! You can get in touch with your feelings!
    I reccomend Abraham Hicks videos on mental illnes or search what quantum reality shifting is. The thing is you can change your outlook on life! You can be happy!
    If you think I can help in any way, write me. My bf has SPD,so I know what it's like. And I searched for so long to help him make this get better.
    I hope this helped you get curious enough to expand your life!
    Take care! Much love!

  • @danieladams8085
    @danieladams8085 Před 4 lety +1

    Howdi

  • @yurizafurizaki5574
    @yurizafurizaki5574 Před rokem +1

    I don't think i have fantasy. It's all plain, bland, nothing. Like a total robot.

  • @Dawnseeker2000
    @Dawnseeker2000 Před 5 lety +1

    Asocial, not antisocial... 🙃