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⤷ how old are you?
21 years old :)
⤷ where are you from?
southampton, hampshire, uk 📍
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canon g7x mark ii, canon M50 mark ii, and iPhone 13 pro
⤷ what is Ro short for? / how do you say it?
my name is Roisin (Róisín) and it's pronounced Ro-Sheen, but i shorten it to Ro
I'm autistic and I totally relate to the part where you talk about the "feeling like things aren't real'. Anxiety over all that needs to get done gets so high, that everything just disconnects. Loved the video as always ❤
I’m the same as well I think It’s called derealisation? Not sure tho aha
also autistic - came to look for this comment
I’m also autistic it can be so fcking exhausting :’)
This comment section makes me feel so very seen. Depersonalization continues to trigger my agoraphobia and panic attacks, it’s so SO good to know I’m not alone. I’ve been dealing with this for 6 years now, I’m so ready to live my life. I’m so proud of you Ro ❤
Task paralysis and derealization are so valid. I have autism and tend to struggle with derealization when I’m emotionally overwhelmed, and my partner who has ADHD struggles with task paralysis SO often. I tend to body double for him, and he knows good grounding methods for me. Figuring out what support helps is definitely a process but you are absolutely not alone in those symptoms.
the day after big events, especially concerts, is always sooo hard bc so much happened the day before and it’s exhausting. the big sensory/social/crowded experiences, even positive ones, are incredibly draining and i have to give myself the space to be a mess about it the next day
yes !!!! i feel this so hard
What does she have PTSD from??? Where has she explained? When did it happen?@@RoMitchell
The way Ro is helping so many people and warming so many people’s hearts by being so honest and an amazing role model for recovery from trauma and PTSD❤
What does she have PTSD from??? Where has she explained? When did it happen?
My favorite part was watching you drink hot chocolate with lots of spray topping & spray it in your mouth in such a beautiful kidlike way. As you push to heal your PTSD I’m still marveling at the healing you’ve already done. That you gave yourself this beautiful food freedom & you got to have that moment with your family - laughing over hot chocolates - like you always wanted to. You did it Ro. It’s a privilege to see you feeling so free & happy with food, family & friends. Keep going girl. Go get your life - and thank you for the countless ways your healing is healing others - including me. You’ve changed me. I’m so much healthier and happier since I started following you.
After my first panic attack I felt like I wasn’t real, nothing around me was real, & like I was in a dream. Everything felt like a dream like state, exactly how you feel when your dreaming. I learnt it’s called derealisation & disassociation, it’s a protective mechanism that our brain or body does when we feel anxious. I know how you feel. I felt like needed to wake up…but I was already awake. It’s a weird strange feeling. I still experience it now sometimes when I feel anxious, panicky or just mentally off.
it’s so comforting to read this as i had a very similar experience. i had a massive panic attack during october 2022, and it was the most petrifying thing i have ever experienced. i thought i was dying. the night after the panic attack i was in my room, i casually looked around, and everything all of a sudden felt fake and dream-like. i was walking around and it felt like i was floating. after this, i didn’t sleep properly for weeks because i made myself ill convincing myself that i had died that night, and that this was the reason for the derealisation. for the rest of the year it was very extreme. i started experiencing depersonalisation at the same time, and literally couldn’t recognise myself in the mirror. everything and everyone 24/7 never felt real. i also struggle really, really badly with anxiety and agoraphobia (fear of leaving my house) which made things so much more worse, especially when it came to going outside. i barely remember anything from the end of that year, especially social events, and the times i do remember, i couldn’t enjoy them because they felt like a dream to me. i have had so much therapy since, which has helped loads, but it never really goes away, especially when just like you, i feel anxious or on edge for whatever reason. i have learnt to deal with it and accept that it’s just my brains way of protecting me and keeping me safe from that traumatic fight or flight experience. i’m really sorry you have to deal with this, but i wish you well!! all the best🫶.
@@cocoooo222 yes it’s a horrible experience, I quite often feel floaty & swayey in my head….do you feel like that? Like it will just hit me out of the blue but I always feel like that when I feel on edge or nervous. I developed Agoraphobia to, if it wasn’t for my kids with picking them up from school everyday I would never leave the house except to take the bins out.
I wish you all the best to, it’s a tough thing to go through 🙏🏻💕
@@LisaVenning111 i do!! it’s a very weird feeling. i try to go on walks every other day after college, and due to the agoraphobia, i feel anxious, and then out of nowhere i get that floaty, dream-like feeling. it catches you off guard. genuinely wish u well 🫶!
You inspire me everyday to keep going with recovery
You are so inspiring and I’m so grateful that you share your story
thank you so so much ❤️ keep going, there is a beautiful life waiting for you xxxx
I am starting ed recovery tomorrow, I got all medical tests done and have a consultation for a partial hospital place. I'm so scared but can I just say you and you alone have been my rock and my ground in my recovery. I started journaling using your journaling video and have been watching through your recovery advice and q and as so much. I also have ptsd, anxiety, and feel sooo similar to you. I am only 15 but starting recovery now I hope to be in a better place. I aspire to be someone like you someday Ro. ❤️
I struggle with “not feeling real” all the time. I discovered it as Depersonalization/ Derealization, which is a symptom of many different mental disorders. And it often gets really triggered for me when faced with serious life events & overwhelm from tasks. Thank you for being open and sharing. I am with you sister.
Best time of the week! Thank you for how much help you have given me and everyone else. I spent a year in hospital and your content was the only glimmer of hope to me. Im so grateful to have found you and to see you flourish! Live your best life girlboss!
sending so much love your way!! thank you 🤍
I have ADHD and I 100% relate to the part where you describe the overwhelm and anxiety over all the things you know you “should” be doing but can’t and the feeling that you’re not real and everything around you is not real. Us ADHDers call that ADHD paralysis because our brain is just buzzing with all the tasks that need to be done but you can’t figure out where to start or how to start and you can’t just filter your thoughts one at a time so you just sit there either dissociating or doom scrolling on your phone because you feel like you physically can’t move your body to get started on anything.
I love how real and transparent u are with us, thx for being so real and kind❤
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Ive struggled with dissociation for months on end in 2022 and still experience a level of it often. It gets better, I love my life now and to anyone reading, you can do it❤❤❤ disocciation is talked about way too little, but so many people experience it. My biggest tip would be to accept it as your friend, not an enemy❤️❤️
I'm constantly feeling derealization and dissociation. Constantly, for years. How I manage to do stuff is thinking that I'm going to do the thing WITH anxiety. WITH dissociation. WITH derealization. Obviously it helps that I'm so painfully rational person and can kind of ignore feeling like dying while doing things. Also I think a lot that "what if I just do this? What if I just do it still." and also knowing that no one knows you're feeling unreal and everything is feeling unreal. I just talk to the human looking dolls (=humans), I just wave at the unreal bus. No one knows I feel like this and in reality everything is normal and I can act like usual even when it feels so absurd to do so.
Honestly suffering from Anxiety more often than not for me at least feels like you are alone because it is so hard to describe what you are feeling watching Ro is very relatable and also a big help that I am not the only person suffering with this and while i wouldn't say it is nice because no one I think wants to feel like this it is so helpful to remember you aren't alone
You're so brave ❤
I'm autistic and I experience similar. I get so overwhelmed when too much is going on. That was A LOT for one day. I'd be crying after too. Proud of you❤
You described the overwhelmed, dysregulated stat at 11:34 so well! I always get weird looks when I say I don’t feel “real” 😅 But it is definitely PTSD related for me: overwhelm can send you into decompensation so quickly and that’s why we dissociate to protect us further from retraumatisation… so I am really proud of you for choosing to take care of yourself instead until you feel ready to try again🥰 All the best Ro!
Literally been waiting for this all weekend. Thanks for keeping it real as always ❤
We are so proud of you Ro!!
i relate so much with being overwhelmed by challenges or just a lot of activities. i get overwhelmed by everything and it can be hard, especially when dealing with a condition too. i get the exact same thing as u mentioned that when even the slightest thing goes wrong, it just further makes me anxious and sort of feels like demotivating. but im learning to accept thats just how i am and right now challenges feel so overwhelming but they wont be forever. proud of u for how far uve come ❤
Ro, I really relate to all the things you say when you talk about your c-ptsd. Thank you for sharing, you are so brave and you should be very proud of yourself. We all love you
I watch ro's videos all the time and they're so comforting and uplifting ❤ just wanna give this girl a hug
Thank you for being the human you are and be so willing to share so much of your life on the internet. Truly helpful ❤
Hi ro! Please take things easy 💕 we are all here for you! Also you are absolutely glowing ❤️
Ro video Sundays are the best time of my week ❤
Bless you, Ro. Sending you a massive hug.
SO proud of you as always! (omggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg that puppy)
I'm a new subscriber and I lovewhen I see you upload. You're a very special lady and I'm grateful for you ❤
I find it so incredibly impressive and inspiring how you keep facing your fears and anxiety despite of how hard it must be. You are so brave and strong and are helping so many people. Thank you for sharing your story
you cannot imagine how thankful i am for this !! i am going trough a hard time right now and feel like i am relapsing in kind of way but your videos always help me and make me feel calm
Just woke up after having a horrible evening and an anxious night❤Your Videos give me so much comfort 🥰
You're doing so well! Good for you for acknowledging you needed a break before exposure therapy - setting yourself up for success! I can totally relate to trying to do things before thinking about them too much AND needing self-care after doing hard things. Thank you for sharing your journey! You're such a positive influence in my recovery! ❤
You're doing so well achieving all these things you wouldn't have done before. Also, you have the most beautiful eyes. ❤
I'm so proud of how far you've come and how open you are about your mental health. kind of random but I would love to see a makeup tutorial bc your makeup always looks gorg
Well done Ro, I'm proud of you!🎉
The little moments like your pup wagging their tail to the high heavens & your partner blow torching the marshmallow on your hot chocolate
I'm so proud of you ❤
This was very comforting to watch, thank you so much for sharing!
As someone with social anxiety,I find I feel like like life or things aren’t real.
As some one that get on the bus alone a lot and have done it for like 15 years of my life but some days I find it so hard to get on a bus sometimes , but the trick is to know when you are not ready and not making yourself do it xx
I personally find it helps my anxiety to have earphones in on the bus and listening to any of my favourite songs at the time (obviously it doesn’t help everyone but just a thing I find helps)
You are the prettiest, Ro! Hope you keep doing well 🫶🏻
I check CZcams every single day to see if you post. You are literally the only reason I have CZcams! You have changed my life in ways I didn’t know were possible. You are the reason I recovered from anorexia and I am forever grateful, ro.
hi ro, hope you're having a beautiful day as you deserve! i just wanted to let you know that you're helping me in ways that no specialist ever did. you're teaching me my value. you're a constant support in overcoming my demons. thank you a million times for being you and having chosen to help other people: you're a real treasure, hope you know this. ily so so much, sending all my love & a giant hug. keep going!! i infinitely believe in u and know you can definitely do it.
I cant do anything when i have a scary task planned later in the day. I end up doing nothing, and being so anxious its like I've floated away. If i have a choice I'll always schedule anything for early morning, so i have to force myself out of bed and barely have the time to work myself up about it
Hi Ro I want to say thank you for your videos, I love them sm. As a girly further down in my recovery journey, (only meeting with my therapist once a week) it is really helpful to see someone in a similar spot as no one else really understands how it is especially once you're "weight restored" and still fighting the thoughts every day. So thank u again love
You should be so proud of yourself ! Your feelings are very real and valid, I would feel vulnerable and anxious being on a bus by myself in s'ton, without having gone through what you have ❤
You will forever be my biggest inspiration
Ro, I feel you resp. your struggles so, so much!!!.... and I wish you all strength and luck for all these brutal challenges "normal" people can´t imagine....
You are so SO strong we love you so so much, YOU GOT THISSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!
We have DID (previously called multiple personalities) and its so nice to hear you being honest about your trauma recovery journey, makes us feel less alone
Thank you for existing Ro! Much love always to you and everyone here ❤
Ikr
this was perfect timing! i struggle with school sm and last week was really tough and this was a nice pick me up before facing next week ❤️
totally get it, i didn’t love school!! remember to take it a day at a time, this period of your life will be over before you know it 🖤
Yes, I know exactly how you feel about anxiety and feeling like things are not real and like you’re not really there. I have that feeling soooooo often. I thought that was just me. I never found a way to word it too. It is really hard to describe.
i am so so so proud of you ro! it´s amazing to see how far you´ve come, you are such an inspiration !
thank you 🤍✨
This video was so so helpful I loved it and I am so proud of your recovery journey you are so brave. ❤❤❤
so glad it was helpful!! and thank you :)🫶🏻
You have helped me so much with my eating, I watching your videos over and over so I have someone to eat with haha 😅
you have no idea how happy seeing your vids posted makes me! thank you
all my loveeee !! ✨⭐️✨
i could comment so many meaningful things because you are wonderful Ro and so, so brave but i just wanted to say that the aero mint chocolate slays
As soon as you posted I smile lit up on my face. 😍
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I just love your hair
as soon as i saw the louvisa i knew it was southampton☺️love u
The not feeling real is usually the freeze response(fight, flight, freeze). When it happens to me, I say ("left foot, right foot, breathe") and pick one small task to do. It seems to help
thank you:)🌷
Happy Sunday
1:37 immediately thought of this moment when i saw the mash. look at her growing⭐️💓
Can't believe it's 6 weeks till Christmas can't wait for the Christmas vlogs. ❤
omg ME TOOOO
Your hair looks so beautiful, Ro!!! ❤
thank youuuu 🥹 need it curled again hahaha
4:26 I want a meme format from that posed smile. It spoke to me in a deeper level.
You are brave, strong and amazing ❤. Feeling Unreal is really scary. Lots of love from Sara
I completely relate to the not feeling real. It’s called depersonalization/derealization. I have it right now and it’s just horrible, I literally can not leave my house and I just have to lay in bed for days until it goes away.
Thank you So much for making this video as I suffer from Anorexia with binge purge subtype and BPD So Obviously I can relate to Exactly how you feel with Anxiety 😥 and usually if I can get out of a situation then I usually cancel the appointment as it's just too much to bear Lovely 🥰 Xx
I also deal with dissociative symptoms (due to c-ptsd), and I think what you're experiencing *may* be depersonalisation / derealisation. I struggle with derealisation on and off. I of course cannot say for sure that this is what you're experiencing, but it may be something helpful to check out / read on.
I have struggled with (probable) derealisation for the past 4 years & it SUCKSS. my advice would be when it’s bad to not look in the mirror, if I look at myself for too long it really sets me off. have a relaxed day as best you can, lots of distraction & things that make you happy :)
Dissociation is a real thing ❤ a friend of mine has it too and she is also battling anxiety disorder and panic attacks.
You're doing so well with the social/outside exposure therapy!! I think you're incredibly wise and an amazing, inspiring person. Keep it up Ro, we love you! Also can't wait to see the photoshoot stuff and find out what it's for :D
thank you so much!! and me tooo i can’t wait to share ⭐️✨
HI. I am autistic and really everything you are talking about resonates with me. Maybe look into it. Sending lots of love!
I’ve felt like nothings real for about 2 years straight now and it’s freaking me out that it never seems to stop - my therapist doesn’t really know what I’m talking about there and I’m just scared that that feeling of derealisation will never go away :(
Do you mean that you get so anxious that you disassociate and then come back to reality once whatever you you were anxious about has passed, because if so that happens to me frequently but I don’t know if it’s related to my PTSD or my autism or both maybe. Life is stressful and scary when you’re trying to be someone you’re not in order to prevent people from questioning you about how you’re feeling because it’s too hard to explain or to go there. I’m pretty sure past you can relate to this, but I’m doing exposure therapy of sorts with my therapist tomorrow by cooking and eating with her because I’m in a spiral of restriction at the moment and I never cook in front of people or eat in front of anyone other than my family and really close friends so it could be interesting. Recovery is really hard.
‘You can do hard things’
Hey Ro! Just wanted you to know that you have helped me so much with my disordered eating recovery
ahh i’m so happy to hear that, i hope you’re doing well 🥰🫶🏻
@@RoMitchell I am doing better, thank you
I've been dealing with derealization for so many years now, I honestly sometimes have a hard time remembering what it's like to not feel derealized, but it was comforting to hear from you and so many other people in the comments that they feel it too❤ I hope one day we can all feel solidly real again lol, sending love
ps THE PUPPY IS SO CUTE😭
Show us your skin care routine your skin look gorgeous
i told my therapist about that and she said i should probably find a therapist who specializes in it because she doesn't know much about it (depersonalization) because she was an ed therapist but now it's stressing me out to find someone like that lol like i have to deal with insurance and all of that. but yeah living alone i struggled with it so much because i felt like time wasn't passing at all, except it was, and i wasn't even me in my body i was just like a speck of dust
i work in southampton (westquay) so i get it !!! ❤
"You deserve mash in your life" 🥔❤🥔❤
I think i may get something similar to things not feeling real. And i wonder if for me it's to do with having already thought through so many possible sscenarios, the reality almost feels less real than the ones I've already experienced in my head.
you saved my life
thank you
sending love ❤️
you are wonderful
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Hi everyone
I’ve been depressed for 5 years now and finally started therapy on Wednesday. I’m kinda proud of myself but I feel really lost in the time between the sessions. Anyone got any advice? Xx
my main advice would be to journal & do consistent self care in between sessions - try and keep a routine if you can :) idk if you’ve heard of time blocking but it can really help you get through the day & take things hour by hour x
@@RoMitchell thank you Ro, it’s just felt a bit odd this week after the appointment it feels like I should feel better because I’ve had therapy which I know is stupid because it’s only been one session so far. Thank you for the advice xx
Bee LOVES dairy😂
Does anyone else try cold showers? They help my anxiety a lot. I also use mindfulness meditation from the book 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels.
I’m just curious if your Ed was related to whatever trauma you experienced that has caused your anxiety/agoraphobia.
Been feeling really alone and suicidal this week. Haven’t really been in contact with people in my life because I don’t want to burden my friends with my bad thoughts. It’s really painful 😔😔😔 Also Ro know it’s okay if you don’t do what you set out to do each day. You are amazing xx
You keep going. Set little tiny goals each day and try with all your might to do them. Routine as boring as it is can help with depression. You said Ro is amazing.. Well I think you are for being here. Don't give up xx
dear ro i would really appreciate it i you would read my comment actually my sister is anorexic she lost 20kg and the problem is she doesn't want to eat she does want to recover though she is a student and has a very important exam coming up so she said she doesn't want to focus on recovery for the time being we all tried speaking with her my parents are super worried about her too would you be so kind as to advice me of how should i persuade her 💖
Hiii, I'm not Ro but I'm also recovering rom anorexia and I think I can help
I know I talk too much but about the exam, All is less important than mental helth, physical health and recovery. Food is life, no food, no life. I start with anorexia because so many things and one of these thing were addiction to study, academic validation and so much anxiety bacause that so I'm very conscientious with this issue
I literally hate the bus so much too. I used to use it to get to work until one day the bus driver yelled at me for wearing headphones. I walk now lmao
i also don't feel real sometimes
life is hard ro
It is called Neuro Diverse... ND, Not Autiie or NT ... you are somewhere in the middle which is great as you can transend worlds. Im Autie (Autistic) with a ED LoL annnndddd adhd , so your commentary is so nice. Helps find a calm place
I mean NO harm when I say this but does anyone else feel like she looks slightly ill again?😅 hope she’s good
@@aahfg22she isnt. Literally stop commenting this weird stuff. Its disgusting
What’s quasi?
eyebrows go crazy