To be a Good Dancer, Don't Give a F**k | Amrita Hepi | TEDxYouth@Sydney
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- čas přidán 17. 07. 2016
- Amrita encourages people to be confident and comfortable in their body. The shame associated with our bodies is a result of the gaze that is imposed on it. It’s important to be vulnerable and committed to your actions with conviction and not give a f**ck what other people think of you.
Amrita Hepi is a professional dancer/dance maker, writer and activist; a Bundjulung and Ngapuhi woman interested in movement as manifested by all bodies and reimagining / creating the greatness that will be WOC first nations futures. Her work and practice sits in the nexus between pop culture and contemporary dance with a focus on intersectionality
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
This is so relatable I feel like I want quit dance because of all of the negative things people say, people put you down when you dance for the stupidest of things. I am just a kid but teachers still judge me cause I am not the best but I always feel like people are looking at me in a strange way but recently I have started to open up. This speech really helped I will go dance and put all of my heart into my dance. Thanks
@@ZackMorrisMyHero I'm interested in what she has to say. I watched this video because working in the dance industry for a little while crushed my passion. Her comment made me remember falling in love with dance because it felt like an escape from all of life's frustrations.
@@ZackMorrisMyHero I'm sorry people put you down so often. It must be difficult for you. Do you think putting others down because of that is a kind solution?
Please clarify how your comment is different from 'whining about it on CZcams'.
@@blaa2323 you handled this well bc I was about to say lol. This child loves to dance, leave her be. Lets all just dance and forget the haters😇😇😇
Awww that’s amazing! I hope u are strong than ever!💜✨ you are amazing the way u are! Pls stay strong 🌼⭐️✨ I’m. 3 yrs late but UwU 💕💕💕
I know thisbisb3 years later but Don’t quit keep going
I love that not only did she talk about not being ashamed about what you look like when you dance, but not being ashamed of what you look like to others in general.
She's so expressive, and you really just get caught up in her words and the feelings from experience that she puts into her words
Juste Logix why is no one talking about remembering how to begin
Being a person with serious social anxiety and a self loathing mindset, I find this hard to apply to my everyday. I want to be confident and I love to dance but I get so concerned with others that I lose that love. I image dancing in front of people but falter because I image embarrassing myself even when no one is there. It’s hard and yeah it’s though to get over especially when your self consciousness has been with you long term but every so often I get a day where I feel like Beyoncé and I strut and just feel myself and I see that I’m one step closer to being confident.
Thank you for listening to my Ted talk
Red Sky wow i’m literally exactly the same but i’ve never heard of anyone else who is like me. Like whenever i’m dacing alone i still imagine that people are watching me and can’t get the confidence to dance. I actually quit taking classes for a while because of my anxiety and self hate. I’ve now decided to try and get back into class and my class is starting next week and i’m so nervous. But yeah i don’t know if you’ll see this as i’m a bit late but it feels great to know i’m not alone .
siiri Know that I’m here supporting you. Even though I don’t know you doesn’t limit my range of support. It’s not easy to overcome social anxiety or anxiety in general (no one said it was in the first place right? ;)) but letting it get to us and prevent us from doing what we want is the real challenge. So I’m with you in the struggle and know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! ♥️
Red Sky oh thank you so much!!😭😭Your comment actually made me cry. I hope the best for you too!❤️
siiri I’m so glad I made you feel supported and welcomed and just happy (even though you cried) You deserve the best and good luck to you too! ♥️
Ec_ Bench me too!! I was in dance for a long time and I can tell I’m a good dancer, others say I am too but it’s still hard to be confident in it because I’ll think that I’m not as good as I think sometimes, or that people are just saying that to be nice lol. Also when I’m dancing on my own and try something that I wouldn’t do in front of others, I still get embarrassed like I would if people are there.
I use to be a shy person and I would get so much anxiety just by being in public but since I started dancing I realised that I’m totally a more confident person.
sameee
I looked up “how to dance good” this popped up, she started with acknowledgements, and now I have to find out more about this person!
Yess
I remember being afraid to dance in front of people, I danced in middle school, in front of people. I was made fun of the next day, I remember it in the 8th period math class. I remember being told I did "white girl dancing". I didn't understand, I knew that was a bad thing, it hurt me.
I remember trying to stick up for my friend, I remember being presented a cracked mirror. I remember being told that it cracked because I looked at it, I remember crying.
I remember not sticking up for my friend when the class laughed at him. And he was fine, he got up so easily, and I admired his ability to call out when the class was mean or being wrong. And even when they all laughed at him, he didn't care.
I am in a dance class, my sophomore year. It's only a semester, I joined on impulse. And it's made me feel better as a person.
I'm joining the dance team. I don't know how to do the splits yet, but I'll learn in time for tryouts. I'll dance in front of the school my junior year, because I worked hard for it.
I've been ignoring dance for years and years. I've been told other girls have more experience. But it doesn't matter, I was born to dance, but born afraid.
I know it's meant to be, and I know fate will let it happen if I work hard. I know it as I shed tears over even making a comment on a video. I know it because I care about dancing enough to cry.
I remember the scorn, but I also remember going to a Spanish dance. We had finished our placement testing in Spanish. I am a white girl, I didn't know a thing about the dances. I danced, I had a good time, others joined. Some asked for my hand to dance, they taught me their dances. Some laughed and had a good time dancing in my area, so I'm glad I could be a dancer that night.
That night when I was brave, and I will honor those and dance for tryouts. I will become a dancer, no matter if I have to work and make my own money to be on their team. I don't care, as long as I can dance things will be okay.
I will prove my tenacity, my resilience, and my passion.
Noelle Bell Your story is so beautiful, keep dancing and speaking your truth. I’m sorry those people made you feel small, but you definitely are anything but. Keep going! 💖 You’re doing so good.
What an amazing story. I have similar story. Ive never danced before and I took a dance class at my school because I didn’t wanna do PE (lol) They split the class into groups and each group made their own choreography, and then you could teach your choreography to the other groups if you wanted to. I learned this one group’s choreography (and that group was AMAZING) and they just pointed and laughed at me, and said that I couldn’t dance. My love for dance grew over time, and their mockery was one of the factors that helped fuel my process. Fast forward 3-4 years later I am now the class favorite, and I’m not just saying that trying to be arrogant. During the dance showcases my teacher would assign me to do duets with actual professional dancers that actually have a large social media following. She would give me solo opportunities (that I never took because I dont see myself as ready for it yet) Eventually, the I befriended the group of people that laughed at me and had a small performance with 3 of them at our last showcase our senior year. After that, I auditioned for a dance ream with 100 other people and I was one of the few that made it on the team. We got second place at a recent hip hop competition and Im sure theres more to come. I feel weird saying “im a good dancer” because I dont really see myself as one. But everyone I meet tells me that I am. When I go to other countries, other dance studios, other schools, other competitions, and generally everywhere I’ve ever had an opportunity to just dance for fun strangers would always come up to me and compliment me and they would all say the same thing. Some people would even say things like “Oh my god I’ll never dance like you why should I even try” but they don’t know how bad I was when I first started and how much I’ve been bullied. I don’t know why I’m writing so much sorry Ill stop 😂 writing this was a good release lol.
Noelle Bell mine comes from my family, I have a lot of brothers and they would make fun of me wether I start dancing or singing lmao, I would like to start but now I feel very shy
I have tryouts coming up to in 13 days
Thank you so much
I‘m scared that people might come at me and say negative things so I actually try to keep my passion a secret...
Omg i thought i was the only yesss
I also doing the same
@@dashiiiii2942 no girl put your self out there u can do this ❤
Dance is such a beautiful expression... One time I was crying to my teacher because I felt so bad and insecure about my dancing skills. I will never forget when he said "Then stop dancing". I stared at him in utter confusion. Then he said something along the lines of "You can't stop dancing, right? Even if you'd want to. You HAVE to dance"
you live in a movie or something? lmao
@@mrosskne 🤨
So real 😅 even when you feel self conscious, there's no choice but to keep going
It is sad, that this video hasn’t gotten million views😭 This is such an important message!
I love how she sucks all the shame out of movement/dance. I love the line you can be as loud or as minute as you want. Dance is such a beautiful form of self expression. By far my favorite ted talk on dance.
Thank you for sharing. I am an Irish-Catholic, 67-year-old woman, and I am performing today at a local Raks Sharki Show. My music choice is "Candlelight" by the Maccabeats, a celebration of Hannukah. This video gives me courage and confidence.
I’ve never taken a dance class and I took one this year at age 18. I quit because I hated seeing myself in the mirror. I’m not overweight but the other girls were all thinner than me and so I quit. I regret it a lot and want to join again...
You should, i believe in you and you should allow yourself to believe in yourself too, believe me it's never really about appearance in my opinion it's about reaching and do what you love and believe in:D
Moon Fish i hope you will join a class again, i really do believe in you. I’m also really scared i’m going to take my first class ever next week
you should join but before you do free dance get comfortable with the way you move and form the experience this made me a better dancer if you don't know what it is its were you turn on music and just dance alone
Do itttt! I believe in u! Let’s not have regrets 💜💜
00:23 begins by acknowledging the traditional owners of the land ( and all first nations people)
00:31 begins by acknowledging my elders, your elders, past present and future
00:43 begins by acknowledging Bellon (and his wife Barangaroo)
1:13 also begins by thanking her ancestors ( the Nabu in the Bunjelon)
2:00 BEFORE WE BEGIN
savages*
@@mrosskne wth dude...
I’ve always been obsessed with dancing but I was always so shy. I didn’t want to be embarrassed with my stuff movements. But I faced my fears by dancing in public and at parties. Turns out I’m a really good dancer lol. Get out your shell and feel the grove, yourself will thank you.
As a 14 years old here is my story - i always have loved dance as a kid , i still remember telling my parents that i wana become choreographer . I use to dance on Bollywood songs . As I grew up more , dance was some how supressed somewhere in me because of how down society use to look at some one who wanted to become dancer , then in year 2018 i lost my mom who was kinda support system to me because she was the only one who supported my skills .Now this was the point where i started to see true colours of others, was kinda scattered from inside and forget about dance . Later during covid i found out k pop and realised my dance skills back when was 12 i started working on it i found out my self stuck because i some how knew it that i am already 12 and not that great but then i worked on myself and still working, i have never been to dance classes but i know that's not gonna stop me 🥹 i have no idea what life holds for me but i am surely gonna use all my sources
you have all my wishes bro
@@SonuSharma-ch9mh thanks ❤️
I had the pleasure to talk to Amrita at VIVID Sydney. I love her authenticity and fierceness. This is what I picture a passionate dancer to look and sound like! Strong and willing to stand up for others. Her message in this video is beautiful and I hope many will join and move their bodies without shame or fear of judgement from this day forward 🙏💛
Whenever you want to dance just move your body without feeling the need to give a f**k.
Let me begin BY STARTING
I relate to this on so many levels
I started dancing at about 8 and I’m currently 12, all of the people I danced with have been dancing since they were 2-4 and they’re amazing, I tried so hard to catch up with them I would practice everyday for at least 2 hours and I’m proud of where I am because I think I’m at the same level as them.
But since they were all friends from really young none of them want me in their group, and I don’t understand why, they have sleepovers, parties and hangouts without me. My only friend there was a girl that left last year, and now I have no one to talk to or laugh with. I feel like everyday I’m being put down because of something I love.
Dance your big heart out and remember why you do it! The right friends will come😇😇😇
Friends eventually come my friend, trust your gut
Honey friends dont last forever, you'll eventually meet a real one. When they're out having a sleep over u can be practicing dancing to be better. You don't need them! :)
Better days ahead
oh my god her ENERGY!!!!!!!!!!!!
I danced for 8+ years, I've done solos on stage, Ive done crew performances, Ive done a lot on stage. Sadly when I was 16 I quit, I was fed up with the bullying and the hate (Now that I am older I understand they were jealous.). I now only dance in my house privately. It's made me feel restrained. I've been drug addicted and now clean, And all in search for what dance made me feel the exhilarating, Meditation styled feeling you get when dancing. Nothing compares. Except maybe motorcycling.
I love everything she said. I have severe social anxiety pretty bad and I love to dance,but find it so hard to do it infront of people unless I've been drinking at a club.
I even make dance videos almost everyday, then look at them and end up deleting them instead of posting because I don't like and feel like i would get bad comments or a negative response. I especially have a hard time posting more feminine dances even though I enjoy both feminine and masculine dancing.
I'm hoping to be able to overcome this in the future. I may try watching this video everyday to get me out of my shell and my comfort zone and just go for it.
Thanks.
And thank you to all the comments with similar or relatable stories.
Im a kid and who i was, was a child who danced without a care in the world now im a kid who is scared of what people think. Whenever i try to dance alone i feel pathetic embarrassed that im doing this i have breakdowns because of this and this budged me a little. Thank you.
We need more dance teachers like her😭❤️
My mom ask me why I dance every day . dance is how I release stress ,when I feel like giving up I dance theirs not one day that I look in the mirror and dance I dance because it makes me happy others don't get it but to me its different
I start dancing this year in March and now it's September and my movement was still so bad and my move not so clear but now I understand the reason why it's done. It's done because I feel shame . But now I promise you I do dance with feel not with shame. Thank for you speech it's open my close eyes
You made me cry in a good way!! This lecture summed up the experience I've lived for the last decade. You are wonder4ful !!! Thank you again for sharing. You are really changing lives and I appreciate it to the core
As a pole dancer, this means the world to me. Thank you for your words.
love it!!! 😍😍😍
Loved it*
Dear God, let me have this confidence in my spirit and body. So mote it be😇😇😇
This is so inspiring. I’m trying to learn how to move with my body to the music again. I need to listen to the song my soul sings more. I love this video so much, thank you for what you do!! ❤️ You radiate the kind of authenticity that I strive to. 💖
I have a spring show at my school coming up and Im dancing with my dance class in it, I have terrible stage fright mainly because im worried of what other people will think as well as my ex is going to be there which makes me feel even more scared and worried. I’m also afraid I will mess up the moves and everything but after watching this I think im ready to go out there, my dream is to become a dancer whether im famous or not I just want to dance and honestly I know to be able to do that I have to get over my fear of being in front of a crowd
This truly gave me more confidence and I think that before I preform I will watch this for motivation.
Im still nervous but I know I can do this
I love dancing and I know I can do it if I have more confidence, I am beautiful when dancing and I know I can do this
Thank you sm for this and for anyone else remember to not worry what others think, they may have an opinion about you or whatever but only you know yourself they don’t know you the way you know yourself
You got this!💙❤️💜
Loved it, truely true, moving and beautiful!
This was so insightful. Thank you so much.
This is one of my favorite talk 💖👏👏
Loved this video queen continue to soar and you gave me confirmation on becoming a better dancer I truly appreciate you I danced most of my life but my parents couldn’t put me in a dancing school I’m making 37 years old and now I wanna embrace that and becoming an actress thanks once again and remember everything will be judged but it’s up to you to keep going
I have been in love with dance since i can remember.. dance was the thing that gave me confidence in myself..
Taking a break from it have changed everything.. i want to get back to it but...
Tmrw i have a chance to get back on stage and have some fun.. even though i know i shouldnt care abt what people might think.. that thought just consumes me each and everytime i try to get away from it.
I am sure that i am gonna rock it once i get on stage..
Luckily i have grown in a space where they always supported me..
Gonna try my best tmrw and have fun.
I'm glad I watched this video ❣️ I can't relate more . Loved it (the msg) by a coolest dancer I've ever known, I hope next time I dance I don't glance back at ppl who r looking at me I just hope I'll have fun at that time while dancing. Ty amrita for such lovely words♥️ wish the best 4 u.
It's sad that people tend to judge others. A singer is judged. A dancer is judged. A presenter is judged. An employee is judged. People don't accept as they are. People compare...think standards... ohhhhhh.
I really wanna start dancing but I hate my body, I'm slightly over weight and I have very low confidence but I really love dancing alone. I wanna look good to others and I feel like my current state won't look good when I move and it pushes the idea away and out of my head
We are in the same situation,I'm going to audition in a few hours and I'm very scared and nervous because I feel like I'm going to embarrass myself,but there's nothing bad at trying so go get it!I believe in you!
same here hihihi. Im have also a healthy body LOL. But I just dance, I do not mind my body now. Actually I still post dance cover on CZcams even though I already gained some weight. SO FIGHTING To ALL OF US! DANCE SHAMELESSLY AND ENJIY IT!
I clicked this video to watch it for a few seconds…a few seconds turned into 10 minutes.
Beautifully put🌹
Why am I crying 💖
I love this.
Thank you!
❤
I am like that with my appearance, I love singing and dancing but not confident about myself.
I thought that I should stop dancing and singing. Just been on and off.
Now I am going to start again.
Never give up! Keep going! You got it!
Beautiful 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
Its is such a nice video why it doesn't get too much attention
Brilliant!!!
Motivated mindset dancers are proud of her
I want to start dancing but I’m a pretty shy kid😭😭🥺😭
I used to be shy too! VERY SHY and I would get so much anxiety too just by being in public but since I started dancing Ididn't realized that I become much more confident. So just start nd enjoy the process! Dont think too much Youve got it!
So true omg
Thank you
Personification is why she said words have power. They actually don’t.
She’s cool
I can’t dance, if anything I love to sway, twirl, twist, move and twirl my hands, I’m very expressive with my dancing, yet I don’t know much about rhythm and can be off with tone or unless I am really in the mood. Because I don’t know how to dance and don’t really dance, even on my free time, and because of that, I started to hate dancing. I don’t actually hate it, I’m just scared of it because I know I can’t do it. But this beautiful lady with her amazing speech and story has inspired me to let me be me, let my authentic self come out and just have fun with it, which is one thing I keep forgetting. Someone else I follow, Freya Haley, also dances very expressively and that’s when I learned that was also dancing and she’s a very spiritual person, so am I. I want to love myself enough and connect with my inner soul and do these things without being scared of them, I want to live my life. I want to be happy, and maybe this is the start of that....
I love the motivation in the video I don't dance but I have a dance team called BFU Rising Stars
Wow ❤️
Love you
Hi, i'm Minasha Please and i'm your freestyle dance teacher.
this is 🔥
When you are dancing you should be dancing your dance and not someone elses.
So true!! ❤️
I danced for 15 years and I quit once I started college because I’ve never been built like a dancer let alone a ballerina which is what I was for so long. Now i don’t know if i can ever go back
hermoso
Si :)
Not handsome she is beautiful cause she is girl
@@blinkarmyforever493 girls can be handsome two 🤷🏿♀️
❤️❤️❤️
My prom is tomorrow and I can never loosen up! I need to hear this
Hope you danced your heart out that night
@@kolio__ I did! Thank you!
❤
9:22
Damnnnnn
I subscribed
Dance battle coming up, and it’ll be my first time not just watching. Anxiety kept me on the outside of the cypher for years, watching, enticed but chained to the anxiety and fears i let overcome me. Off and on jumping in the cypher, and overly criticizing myself instead of enjoying. Overly judging my videos instead of enjoying. Somewhat needing outer approval. But i dont. The next time the dance floor entices me, I commit to movement.
I’m so late seeing this but I hope you had a blast ❤️❤️
You got itttt🔥🔥🔥🔥
You can be as loud and and big as you want
Take risk , put yourself in little uncomfort
Commit to yor action
Omg a real Moana 😍✨
I am really scared of my dancing abilities cause my teachers say that I dont know how to dance I felt like just I wanna quite now I dont want to improve myself just end now I was having the passion of dancing from my childhood but I never got time to give it a try like other teens do at their childhood I really feel shameful at my school when I see my friends dancing better than me and loves dancing but I too love but not able to do it properly I am now 14 with no skills and also my teachers even make fun of me because I am not good at anything.
All comments are too long that made me lazy.
Same Hahaahhaa
I dance coz I like the party life and the oil booze helps deal with sprained ankles in the mornin
Based
2:34 did she just troll the whole audience?? lol that laughter is jst suggestive of that.
No fear over here
I wanna dance
Ive always wanted to but my parents cant afford it. I know most people would recommend yt but I learn better in groups
@@coraliesampeur9264 omg same!?
@@coraliesampeur9264 I would love to dance I auditioned and got into a prefoming arts school for free which means I need to dance now and my teachers tell me to go lessons but I can't 😭
@@Ruegiddinsxxx omg but that's so great tho!!! You must super talented
@@Ruegiddinsxxx
Is there anything as such online? I also want to do group dancing.
♥There is a new TED talk about Twerk: The Healing power of Twerk. It has research involved, worth it to check it out!
1:30 hello my name is...
2:30,
I remember my 7 year old niece dancing and recording it on tick tok, copying steps from "item song" from Bollywood. She dances very well with no training. And her mom shared video on social media and it looked uncomfortable and inappropriate even to me. Idk it's just society has labelled some things as sexualized.
What's the thing she wearing on neck?
You don't have any right to enter a nation illegally.
This presentation could've been 30 seconds.
Yeah I'm one of those people who judge, but It's so cringe to me when a teens or a little girls start to twerk and dance s!xually I just can't help it.
I’ve never rolled my eyes so hard in my entire life. Jesus Christ the victimhood is strong in this one.
Then why’d you watch it 💀
@@reigndroplet How was I suppose to know from the title this b*tch was gonna pull the victim card dummy?
i don't care about ancertors. I'm leaving bye
I mean…. I guess you aren’t her target audience 🤷🏿♀️
Useless talk... and super offensive...
How…?